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I am proud of both you and your younger sister. You are both so amazing. I just wanted to take time to explain to you why I have been so tough on you two. It is a tough world out there. I think even more so on women than men. Men are faced with fierce competition from the time they are young boys. They face it in sports, group pecking orders. They face it in trying to attract young ladies. They face it in trying to get the job they need to become the bread winner for their family they hope to raise. Men are given very little slack from other men or misandristic women. Oh, sure there are those here and there that give into boys who are willing to play the game with them. But for the most part men are given a major opportunity to grow though most squander it resorting to fight or flight instead of dealing with it and challenging themselves. Yes, I know that girls do have a tough time and tough competition. But, I find that it is in a different vein than boys. Boys strive to be the best at what they are interested in whereas young ladies strive to be the most popular, to be the most liked and with it the competition is of a more backstabbing type. It is more of fitting in and not standing out too much. It is more of going with the flow and being accepted. I’m not trying to simplify things and I know that things are more dynamic than this description but I want to get to the point and this is my basic understanding at the same time. I know that the emphasis on a young girl looking her best is intense. There are a myriad of shows and magazines that say so. I have tried diligently to steer you in a completely different direction. You are a very breathtaking young lady. I’m not just saying that because I am your father. It is true and I know that it is true. All too often the emphasis on a woman is her looks. Top earning women are mostly models of all types. Very few are so because of their abilities. Who can blame you? There is so much emphasis on looks. Looks are cheap and shallow. I wanted you to develop your mind. I know that it was tough because everywhere you look all you see is looks. Girls can’t help it with such a box being forced on them by society. Cosmopolitan is one such box builder. It teaches women how to be a perfect squeak toy for their men and in turn to use sex as a tool to control their man. They guarantee you that if you develop your charms and especially buy the products they are pushing, you will be in control of your man no matter how rich and powerful he is and he won’t trade you in for two twenties when you turn forty. This is just plain sad. First of all, a relationship such as marriage is not about control; it is about commitment. Second of all, I didn’t raise you to be a piece of ass. Sorry about my bluntness, but you know me, I believe in speaking my mind. You are not a commodity to be traded and bargained for; you are a thinking and breathing person with dreams, ambitions, hopes, and fears. Besides if being a squeak toy is your only attribute, how long do you think that a man that shallow, that immature, that wrapped in his own pleasure will go without finding someone who does it better?
She has challenged me over the years and I have challenged her. You will be able to find yourself so . You are wrong. she found out early that it did not work. nothing to challenge them to develop their argument or minds. We just talk it out more with open minds and work it out without yelling and screaming. These are all just growing pains and we have learned a lot over the years. is because God wants us to challenge ourselves because only through challenging yourself are you able to grow. we could talk. Men do it to get what they want. Most can’t help it. That is what I loved about your mom. Don’t be easy. and someday. and in college. I told you over and over that if you could think of a better reason why I should let you that you could do what you want. I was so tough so that you would be able to develop your mind and see through this bullshit. They aim it this way because most women control the buying habits of the family and their man’s decisions and again it is a lot of being a squeak toy for their husbands. Take the tougher challenge. Anyone can run away. Most women are incapable of growth because they are so used to people giving into them. I was lucky when I did. I know that you saw us fighting a lot growing up. She could have easily run away. and the poor carry the major costs by fighting and dying for their profit margins. You will run into many new experiences at school. I think that is why adultery and killing are part of the Ten Commandments. Parents do it so that their little princess won’t hate them. They are so used to people telling them what they want to hear or giving into them. it is up to me to get her to understand my viewpoint and she does the same to me. It is why when I would tell you no in the past I told you that no is not an absolute. She was brave enough to challenge herself to grow. I’m sure that you have noticed that the arguments became fewer and further between. in the military. A lot of times in the beginning I won but she started to teach and challenge me. But she is of a rare caliber. It wasn’t easy to find a gem like your mom. Yet.I want you to reach your dreams and the only way to do that was to be tough on you because this brings me to the part I think that makes it really hard on women. It is not up to me to bully your mom into agreeing with me. I do wish that you weren’t going away so far. It is easy. grow. I’ve seen it a million times especially in high school. the government flips the financial bill. They wouldn’t be so quick to jump into a war if they had to fight or pay for it themselves. I was challenging you and your siblings how to think and use your mind. Anyone can destroy. That is why the plutocracy is so willing to send troops into areas they want to control. The rest of the commandments are to challenge you to grow to be able to do the right thing. at the same time I am glad that you are. Even commercials are so condescending and patronizing of women. As we grew older we found out that we didn’t need all of the fussing and feuding. It is amazing how interested a man will seem to be in something that is so mundane just because a pretty girl is talking about it. She had to resort to argument and debate. She has never once used her womanly charms to influence me. you may just surprise yourself. There is nothing to challenge them to think beyond the box. Other girls do it because of wanting to be accepted. Anyone would because it is so easy to do that.
and to grow with you. It is possible to have a rewarding and wonderful relationship but you will never get it from someone who is bossy. That is my greatest desire for you. I want you to bring that degree home and if you have to or feel compelled to bring home some guy. He is just into your looks and is looking to nail you. If he doesn’t like a song you like ask him why and gauge him according to his answer. condescending. patronizing. I guess what I am saying is that a relationship is not a business. they are too immature. A relationship is not a master and servant. I have challenged you because I want you to reach for the sky. It is possible for you as well. I have done this because I love you more than anything and you have been a very good student. An abusive and bossy person is not a challenge. is he looking at you or your body? You want to find a man with the same or similar interests but doesn’t readily agree with everything you say. No two people like all of the same songs. learn to ask the right questions. But how do you find a man of such qualities. I want you to come home in one piece. One of the best ways is if the guy agrees with you on everything. If you are a squeak toy to get what you want is prostitution. Say something you know is wrong and off the wall and see how he reacts then you will have an idea of the truth of the young man. they are too egotistic. he is not going to continue to challenge you. I want him to be a good one for you. to break out of the box. Your mom and I have done what we have done because of willingness to truly commit to each other with open minds and challenge ourselves. safe. If it is because it is cool is not a good enough answer. Ask yourself. and to be able to break away from the herd. to help you to challenge yourself. they are to be left. Now go and make us and yourself very proud. Now there is the possibility that because he has the same interests he may agree with a lot you say. It is a commitment between two people to work with each other through thick and thin as equals. there are some things I am better at than your mother and vice versa. to find a mate who will challenge you. Even in this increasingly homogenous world where you find the same stores and same music there are still the small differences to enjoy and learn from. and happy. I thought that I would try to give you some pointers on finding a man who will continue to give you the opportunity to grow and develop to a person who is far better than you are now. to not be afraid to challenge yourself. I want you to reach your goals and aim even further. gives into you on every issue. But chances are very high that you will receive a multitude of offers from young men. Test them. besides you coming home in one piece. she teaches me and I teach her but we complement each other with our weaknesses and strengths.much better that far from the nest. You need to team up with someone who will challenge you to grow. I want you to be truly happy. goes out of his way to tell you what you want to hear. Yes. . I was so hard on you because I wanted you to learn to think. Any man has the potential to do that but only a handful are mature enough to do that.