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Section 1: inner Game
1. Your Best self 1.1 1.2 1.3 1.4 Inner Game Change Your life NoW!!!!!!! Q & A on Wings and Cutting old friends Do You Bring Value or take it???? 1 2 13 17 21 26 27 30 34 36 39 40 41 44 47 48 58 60
2. oNe speCIAl GIrl 2.1 2.2 2.3 2.4 oneitis?? Q & A on love Girl Has a Boyfriend, But I Know she likes Me “I Don’t Chase......I replace.”
3. NeWBIes 3.1 to the New Guys! 3.2 Dates: lunch, Dinner, Drinks 3.3 the prescription to Move out of the lJBf Zone 4. opeNING 4.1 Approach Anxiety 4.2 Q & A on Approach Anxiety 4.3 opening Mixed Groups (Guys and Girls)
Section 2: outer Game
5. teAsING & role plAYs 5.1 Q & A: How Can I Make Girls laugh? 5.2 How to flirt with Women, the Art of push/pull 63 64 66 I
6. tAKeAWAYs & sNls 6.1 takeaways for sNls 6.2 same Niglt lay simple pointers 7. 9’s & 10’s 7.1 How Do I Date Hotter Girls? “proximity is power.” 7.2 Braddock and Mr. M (10 Game Audio) 7.3 Dating tip: Become successful with Women by Modeling 8. pHoNe AND text 8.1 8.2 8.3 8.4 text Game text Game Basics by Braddock and savoy text Game: Making the Number solid the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game
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9. ColleGe GAMe 9.1 College Game Videos 9.2 Q & A on College and social Circle Game 9.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to get you laid)
Section 3: LifeStyLe
10. soCIAl CIrCle MAsterY & ColD ApproACH 10.1 10.2 10.3 10.4 When to pull the trigger in Your social Circle Golden rule of Building a New social Circle... social Circle Mastery Interview Audio social Circle Vs. Cold Approach...let’s Just Hug it out 136 137 143 145 146
1 too ‘routine Dependent’ sticking point 13. frIeNDs W/ BeNefIts 11.2 soldier of fortune! III .1 poppin my Colla partna NYC lay report 13. lAY reports 13.11.1 Creating Friends w/ Benefits 149 150 153 154 156 157 163 12. stICKING poINts 12.
relaxing .setting realistic Goals .4 do you Bring value or take it???? .What it really Means to Have a Wing .covered in thiS chapter: 1.1 inner Game .2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! .Being in the Moment 1.Value and its “Identity” 1 .the self Concept .When to find New friends 1.stop Bullshitting Yourself & others 1.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends .
by eckhart tolle Inner Game: If you develop your inner game then you can’t be stopped! Develop good inner game and the outer game will come at double the rate. and selfdeception. by eckhart tolle realization of Being.1. but I picked these two because I think they are most important.1 inner Game http://www. I have literally stacks of notebooks full of notes I have taken on each book. the difference in the success they enjoy is enormous.. Inner game has many components. This is how much confidence you truly feel for a given skill set. Winner’s edge: What is this? People who dominate any field are only a “hair” better than everyone else.theattractionforums. 2 . Here are a few of the books I have read several times trying to really understand this and internalize it.com/braddock/61181-braddocks-inner-game. However. I’m going to try and make this post as short as I can and keep it geared toward pickup. psycho Cybernetics..” Not wish you could or hope to believe or pretend to believe. I will try to offer some of the key concepts that have resonated with me. by Brian tracy the power of Now. Making small changes here and there can change your game DrAstICAllY! self Concept: Simple definition - “How much you truly believe that you are capable of doing something. However. My notes below are merely the tip of the iceberg. I highly suggest you do not use this post as a substitute for reading these books cover to cover. some helpful books on these topics. You don’t have to become Mystery or style to enjoy great success. being in the moment. by eckhart tolle living the liberated life. by Maltz the psychology of Achievement. with self-deception being third.html the self Concept and Being in the Moment: I’ve been reading quite a few books lately on the self concept. they have had a big impact on my life and game.
He believes on a deep level he can build a house. because he has never done it before. If we move our concept up or down we will act consistent with this new self concept. income.etc. once you play it enough times you could beat that level with your eyes closed. and the women we deserve. You will just keep playing it until you understand what every button on the controller does without you even having to think about it. “My self concept is high”. “My self concept is low. but you know if you play that game and that level enough times you will eventually get the hang of it. He literally believed he was going to make every shot. so. I said you have a self concept for eVerYtHING you do!!!!!!! Do you look in the mirror and feel like shit about “who you are” when you first buy a video game and you keep dying on the first level? No.. what kind of woman you deserve. What does this mean? remember. then it is crucial that we change our self concept in that area.1. we will start to be more consistent with that. You have a self concept for everything in your life (dress.. You won’t get depressed and want to crawl into bed or go read every book on that game. we will be consistent with that weak self image. If we switched these two and asked MJ to build a house. the converse is also true. playing soccer. You have an overall self concept and it is made up of all your individual self concepts. It is impossible to act inconsistent with our self image. It is impossible to act in a manner inconsistent with one of your self concepts.1 inner Game example: Bushing my teeth. 3 . he would most likely have a low self concept in the area of carpentry. hanging a picture on the wall. A carpenter’s is just as high with carpentry. how do we create a better self concept?? first. guess what. we must stop letting any one of our self concepts control how we feel about our overall self concept (specifically. Your self concept is low in relation to that game.” Your overall self concept will determine your success in life. brushing your teeth. but if we want to get better at something. or about how good we are at pickup. so. if we have a weak self concept about the women we deserve. our self concept in relation to women). Want to get better at anything? then you Must CHANGe your self concept in that area.) examples: Michael Jordan’s self concept in basketball was extremely high. If we develop a strong self concept about our ability to attract women. how you drive.
I will give you a million dollars if you beat level one. You didn’t attach too much meaning to that game. would you take that bet???? of course. would you have taken the bet??? Noooo. Generally speaking. then your self concept would grow at a very slow rate. We never feel uneasy doing something that we are good at. All the positive affirmations in the world will not trick our subconscious mind into believing that we can truly complete the task at a high level. Example: (Public Speaking). can you see that you just dialed up that one self concept in that area of your life? Now. and the fastest way is by treating the skill set we want as a process and not attaching our identity to it. I remember when I first started driving. this knowledge should empower you with women and dating. However. for about 3 months I felt anxiety every time I got behind the wheel.1 inner Game However. you are able to grow rapidly. right? Do you ever feel uneasy brushing your teeth? What about driving your car? Were you always good at these tasks? Did you ever feel uneasy about driving your car? I did.1. during the process of growing your self concept in regards to that game. If you look at this on a time line from when you got the video game until you could play it with your eyes closed. but if you don’t I’m going to blow your head off. for A fACt that we can change our self concept simply by becoming more competent and skilled in the area we are deficient in. this one skill set DOES NOT define your overall self concept and it does not affect your other self concepts. the uneasiness went away. and you can beat level one with your eyes closed. your self concept is higher now than when you first purchased that game. When we are doing something that we think we are not good at. when we know we have not 4 . therefore. ·We have a scientific formula to change our self concept! Not just some abstract “you can do it affirmation. Your self concept tells you. How can you measure it? When you first played that game.” Based on the previous statement. you never let your low self concept affect your overall self concept. there are 3 occasions that cause us to feel a sense of uneasiness: 1. if I had said. we know. as my self concept grew. If you cried every time you lost and turned the game off and didn’t play it for two weeks. this is a sound bet. I had a jeep with a stick shift. After you have played that game for 3 months.
doing an amazing demo on command for this guy. I will do amazing demos for the students on bootcamp. 3. will only further trigger your mind to remind you where your true self concept is. then I will likely lock up and perform poorly. How do we combat the 3 above in relation to pickup? 1. example: You hit every shot in basketball practice when nobody is there to watch. train your mind to control your body’s emotional responses to outside stimulus. I could give millions of examples for this in any genre of life from work to pickup. It’s the same shot you couldn’t miss during practice. if not quieted. but we are putting unnecessary importance on the outcome. I read your blog. You just learn to use your mind to quiet them to a level where your logical brain is running the show and not your emotional brain. but saying.” when you truly know you can’t. We build up how important the game is for our future that we make it impossible to just be in that moment like we are in practice. When we are doing things that we have had a failed experience with. But. example 2: When I’m not thinking about the past or the future and I’m really in the moment. if a student says. lead our logical brain to accept the idea that things are bigger than they are. 2... the goal is the same height and the ball has the same amount of air in it. “I can do this.1. I personally think this is the most important one. especially in relation to pickup. You develop a self concept based on one or more bad experiences without allowing enough time for the self concept to align with the idea that you can eventually master the task or skill set. We might talk it into believing we can get by.1 inner Game put in the work to obtain the skill. first we must quiet our mind and put things where they really belong. but you are attributing meaning to the people in the stands and the trophy you may win. “You’re Braddock.e. these emotional responses. this doesn’t mean you try to not feel emotions at all. example: (Girl told you to fuck off on an approach). but you can’t even hit the rim when the stadium is full and it’s the championship game. I. When we are doing something we know we can do. I can’t wait to watch you in field tonight!” If I attribute a new found importance on a future outcome I cannot control or predict. 5 .
and most importantly. made him seem like a God amongst mere mortals. Michael Jordan was capable of quieting all of that and even using that as a reason to get real calm inside while everyone around him was being deeply affected by these factors. collected. MJ was physically talented. Yes. Just like in practice. each time your emotions are taking your mind a little further away from the cool. the energy of the crowd. cool. in the championship game. on the contrary. in-themoment state of being. “Why are we having these feelings? Why are we feeling so nervous? this must be important. I’m willing to bet that he feels those jittery nervous feelings just like the rest of us. I would argue this was necessary but not sufficient to play at the level he played so consistently. butterflies. dealing with the excitement of being on tV. You are aware that if you have a bad practice it doesn’t really matter and that nobody was in the stands to see you perform poorly. but the difference is his ability to use his logical mind to calm the inner emotional storm and quickly get back to the self concept that he enjoys in practice.1 inner Game Why? In basketball practice. collected. I would say that he has the ability to control his mind and emotions allowing him to access his highest basketball self concept more readily than any other who has ever played the game. let’s think this out.” You just shoot. I. and a loss could send those commercials to another. the pressure of a big game. You are not thinking about what will happen good or bad if you make or miss “this one shot. Because there is no emotional response. Our logical brain says. You stay calm. you don’t get butter flies in your stomach and your throat doesn’t clench up because you are not attributing any long term meaning to that event. However. dealing with what the media will write and say. you use your logic. take Michael Jordan in a championship game. I agree. in the moment state you enjoyed in practice. Now. What if we have a bad game? What will this mean in the future? What will all these people think about me?” You then get an even deeper emotional reaction from your body. calm. dealing with the awareness that a win could mean millions of dollars in endorsements. 6 . your logical mind stays in control. people say he gets up for big games better than anyone who has ever played the game. the noise. you stay in the moment.E.1. controlled. No doubt. would do a number on most people’s emotions and nervous system. his ability to get there from the tip off while others most likely didn’t get there until the second half. But in nerd speech. You are now not playing basketball with the same self concept that you enjoy in practice because that self concept was based on shooting basketballs in a calm. and the perceived importance placed on a desired outcome act to stimulate an emotional response that causes us to get butterflies. He was getting really quiet inside so he could get to that place where all that was forgotten and nothing mattered but the moment. this jittery nervous state is creating a new negative self concept.
this is a slippery slope to kill the current moment and a whole bunch of future moments. If I am incapable. and that him wanting to see them or not doesn’t change the level of importance I need to attach to them. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. My self image in regards to game is relatively high. You could walk up.1. so. I think about it from then until that night. and walk back to your car no problem. every time I’m on bootcamp. I can’t wait to see you in field tonight. at that time I’m in it. but I’ll tie it in to my example from above. “Braddock I love your blog. Why? You have the skill set required to handle that situation and you don’t attribute more meaning to it than necessary. quiet it down to a dull roar. and I have developed competence with my skill set through thousands of approaches. and my logical mind races to find answers for that strange emotion I’m feeling.1 inner Game How does this apply to pickup? I think by now it’s probably obvious. I will quickly be back on track to enjoying my original self concept before his statement and our super hero Braddock is back to kicking the world in half. hand her the check. You don’t have an emotional response to the idea of completing this task. I have learned to control my mind instead of my mind controlling me.”. does that mean that I’m really not as good as I say and believe I am? Wow. All I can do is control the moment I’m in. once I do this. “a statement”. However. It often answers these questions with bad answers. or decide to attribute a bunch of meaning to his statement. I. then the emotion will manifest in a way that will alter my self concept for that night.e. As soon as he says it. and possibly. my self concept is high when I walk into a venue to pickup girls. I’m attracting the failure that I predicted because that is all I will focus on from the time he makes his statement until I fail miserably allll night long during the demos. Your self image tells you that you can complete that task with ease. if a student says. “What if we do bad demos in front of him. without any extraneous factors. and compartmentalize the students statement as just. we better do well tonight. I have acquired a vast knowledge base and I have mastered being in the moment. then my logical mind will quickly get back to its natural state by realizing that I can’t predict how the demos are going to turn out tonight or any night. will he be disappointed? If he’s disappointed. However. Can you see how this applies to all levels of pickup? If I said I wanted you to take a publishers Clearing House check to a hot girl. if I choose to control that emotion. maybe the weekend. 7 . my body is going to have an immediate emotional response to that. smile.” As you can see. I hope I don’t get blown out in front of him. ultimately. choose not to control the emotion. so your logical mind stays in control and you don’t run 30 “what if” scenarios through your head that would stir emotions to change your self concept. you wouldn’t have much of an emotional response to that.
judgmental 8 . so as you read this input your self concept here. I’m glad she dumped me because look how good I am getting at this. You feel like all your study of pickup ebooks and DVD’s on game are finally paying off. You can’t hit the door fast enough. you see that he has brought his loud. asshole. but now that this is all coming together. each of the three girls reopens you and tries to get your attention. The first set you open goes ridiculously well. the three girls get even more interested. However. one of your hot friends from college happens to be at the same bar and sees that these girls are all over you. that’s been bothering me forever. a whole host of external factors are introduced that can either increase your self concept or drastically diminish it based on what level of meaning and importance you attach to them. she runs over and hugs you.1 inner Game Now when we take the scenario of going to a venue with the goal of talking to women. these factors have no real meaning or value and can only affect your self concept If You let tHeM!!! let’s look at two very different outcomes to two situations that are in all actuality the same. so you leave the house with your self concept and then what happens? All kinds of factors come flying at you from night to night to help increase or decrease your self concept. Your self concept moves up and you are feeling a new high.) ok. You can’t wait to go out tomorrow for an even more plentiful bounty. friday night. You are in the moment and you feel like you can’t be stopped! You feel like you could open a set with Brad pitt in it and walk away with the girl.1. You can’t even remember what you opened them with and they all responded well to you. over the course of the night. Your friend calls and says he is at your house to pick you up. I’m actually glad that my ex girlfriend dumped me. You open every good set in the venue for no strategic reason other than that you feel good inside and it just feels right. and take home your old friend. she falls asleep. You get several numbers.” (Whether you are leaving the house with a low or super high self concept is unimportant in regards to the point I’m trying to make here. You lay awake still riding a high. All three of the girls in the set want you bad. when you got in your friend’s car. You are still excited about last night and you can’t wait to get to the venue so you can build on the night before.” saturday night you are going to go to the exact same venue as the night before. You know you can have your pick. “Wow. you leave the house with your “pickup self concept. make out with the best of the 3 set. You stare at the ceiling thinking. The girls won’t leave you alone. I haven’t felt this good in forever. After banging her like a screen door on a battleship.
You don’t want to open poorly in front of him. maybe last night was a fluke and “most” girls really don’t respond to me like that. You open and sure enough you get blown out!!! Now. You already started attaching meaning to his judgments and thoughts. While you open these 3 sets. that guy saw me get blown out and he is giving me that judgmental smirk like he thinks he’s better than me. you half blame him for putting you in a bad state. it was the first set of the night. you shouldn’t give a shit. but part of you questions yourself and says. but as you walk around. because you know how judgmental he is and you can already feel him judging you if you get blown out of a set. “Maybe he’s right. You have been so focused on what that guy will think that you have just been running a movie screen in your head the last 2 hours of you getting blown out and this random asshole friend judging you over and over and over.1. You hit the venue and you do 4 laps around the place and hit the bathroom twice instead of just being in the moment and opening because you aren’t feeling it like you were last night. sure enough he’s a loud. Your self concept was so high last night.” You give him no satisfaction with your facial expressions or body language . You half ass open 3 more sets. you have an emotional response and you get out of the moment. I mean.” self concept takes another dip. In your mind. You immediately spin around hoping he didn’t see. your self concept takes a slight dip. And. you can’t help but wonder. your mind is back in the past rehashing your first blow out wondering what you did wrong with those girls and you are still pondering if the asshole friend knows something about you that you should feel insecure about. as soon as you see this guy. resulting in me questioning my self concept. (truth is. 9 . Is he a judgmental asshole or does he see something in me that I’ve never noticed? He’s right to judge me. but you walk up NoWHere NeAr in the moment. You wouldn’t have even noticed him because you were in the moment). I hate him. you feel it inside your stomach and you won’t stop thinking about it. You finally decide to do a set even though you aren’t feeling it.” You spin around to find your friend and. Damn it! You instantly feel your confidence sag a little. “Maybe it’s not that I’m letting this guy stir my emotions. judgmental asshole in the car and you worry what he’ll say if you get blown out in front of him tonight. “Damn.1 inner Game friend from work to go out with you guys. You left the house and you were really feeling it. last night you wouldn’t have cared what this asshole thought.
You see a girl you used to date at the same venue and she is flirting with a guy you assume is no doubt better than you in every way possible. you are using the same openers and material that you used last night. and now your chest hurts worse than ever before...1 inner Game sooo. the girls in these next 3 sets feel a strange incongruence when you walk up. would your night have been completely different? Would I have had a shit night instead? Awww.this is where the men are separated from the boys.. Were you right to feel all of those feelings or is that just being delusional from a bunch of random luck? No. or your face. and then gives some asshole a big hug and a deep kiss. what the hell???? Your self concept is high on friday! Is it real? Yes.. they know you have an agenda and they can feel that you subtly are hoping they give you their approval. You were allowing your true self concept to drive the bus because no external factors got in its way or pushed it down. it wasn’t luck. You question if all this game shit you’ve read is even real.1. In the car ride home.. those who have great inner game can feel this high regardless of the momentum or lack thereof created by the first set. and you spend an hour pondering how you could have such an amazing night last night and such a horrible night tonight. and wonder if you should have married your ex girlfriend.. Her self concept takes a spike up and she gives you some weak ass wave and a half smile. had that first set gone poorly. you thought you were completely over her. You stare longingly and just a split second longer tonight than you would have if you bumped into her last night when you owned the venue! she sees and feels your needy stare. they can feel it.. You hate him more. the asshole friend. Your voice. lay in bed. so. but they aren’t having it. Now you have decided that this is solID proof that you are bad with women and that last night was undoubtedly a fluke. You are trying to be funny and interesting. or the last 3 blowouts. “I’ve had both of those nights Braddock . last night. 10 . All 3 sets blow you out worse than the patriot’s did the Chargers in week 3. his negative judgmental mindsets. asshole friend asks you several condescending questions about why those girls were so rude to you. Your self concept takes another dip. You grab your friend and his dick friend and head home. You finally get home. but you internalize some of the horse shit coming out of his mouth as truth. Now. or something about you betrays your funny jokes and interesting stories and sheds light on a guy who is strangely not in the moment.
when you open your first set and his judgments mean nothing to you. never opened countless sets. and BAM. CoMpletelY in that moment. not what you wish it was. sometimes. Horrible or great at that video game. When you are playing video games. and the stars to line up just perfectly every night or you are not going to have a good night. His self concept in regards to pickup is still low. aka (being in the moment). but it carries Zero negative momentum into the next set. then you will stay in the moment and your self concept will maintain a constant level all night. because we allow our self concept to go up and down sooo much from day to day based on a bunch of meaning we attach to external factors and our complete lack of being in the moment. Being in the moment. you are completely in the moment. He has never done the reading. does this mean you will never get blown out? Does it mean that you will get every girl? Noooo!! Don’t confuse self concept and being in the moment as the same thing. You know your inner game has reached a high level when you could go 0 for 10 or 10 for 10 in any given night and your self concept is unchanged. and not some bullshit affirmation of. “I think I can. then we get in a good state. He only has half of the puzzle. they do feed each other. our true self concept shines through and we have a great night. but they are two very different things. Now. good or bad. this is a scary place to be.” It’s what you truly believe it to be at any given moment.1 inner Game The external meaning you are attributing to how your first set goes is determining your entire night. 11 . It can make our game look way worse than it really is. the sun. randomly because a bunch of factors went right or we randomly didn’t attach a bunch of meaning to these outside factors... but ONLY in the car. but that does not mean he can pickup girls in a bar. it’s hard for us to measure our true self concept in regards to pickup. When the asshole friend in the car annoys you.. (I stand corrected. Gandhi is most likely in the moment at all times. Gandhi stone cold pimpin! lol) Being in the moment allows you to truly increase your self concept in an area. once you learn to be in the moment.1. when you leave that set and he gives you a dick head look. and never developed a skill set. and it annoys you oNlY while your eyes are on his face. you have an honest measuring stick of your self concept in regards to that video game. allows you to see where your actual self concept is. because you need the moon. remember that your self concept is defined as what you truly believe your skill set is in any given area.
and stop attributing it to a lack of knowledge. if you have children who act up. Not necessarily that he has read more pickup books than you. this means that he spends more time operating in the moment and that he has a high self concept in pickup. Your fearless leader. continue to beat them until moral improves. I would like to thank all my guests.1 inner Game However. When you hear that someone has “good game”.1. there are soooo many other facets that can help your inner game . Braddock 12 . ok. remember. that’s all the time we have for today. this message has been brought to you by the number 4 and the letter l. but if you can ever master these two. until next time. this up and down creates confusion over time espeCIAllY when we have more bad nights than good nights. I. they are in the moment and have cultivated a skill set.e. once we learn to correlate that usually “a bad night” was more about us not being in the moment. then you will see a drastic change in your life. then our game reaches new heights. naturals.
I remembered that these were issues that had once plagued me and really held me back for a long.” By setting goals like the ones above. you will be burnt out. then I suck. opened 5 for 10 and got 3 phone numbers and one of them was a 10? Wouldn’t that have been a damn good night?! 13 .” this kind of goal setting fucks you hard!!!!!!! the goals are not realistic. so. 1. or “My friend started reading this when I did. It’s really fun to watch a guy progress. Go out with specific goals for the week. you have measurable. you don’t allow yourself room to grow. attainable. and no matter how great the outcome. relax! If you make pickup so important that you feel like every set is the super Bowl. “Why am I not learning this? How come it’s so hard for me? Maybe. really cool guy. long time. x transition. there were a couple of things that I learned this weekend that I want to share. look how good he’s doing. If I do most of these things then I will know that I was successful on the night. I need to go home and read pickup for 6 hours per day instead of 5 hours per day. As a student opens his mind and works through a sticking point. I felt like my game exploded and I had more fun going out and learning pickup.1. unhappy. you don’t allow yourself to build momentum from the small successes. you also learn a shitload about yourself. once I dealt with them. What if you fucked an 8. After just a few weeks of going out with that kind of pressure following you.2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! http://www. If I don’t do at least as good as he does. realistic goals for the night. “I want to have sex with a 10 and I want to go 10 for 10 with my sets and get 10 phone numbers”. I love one on one’s because. and feel like there is something wrong with you. saying.theattractionforums.com/braddock/49480-change-your-life-now. then that’s exactly how each one will feel.html Had a one on one in Dallas this weekend. it will only be a matter of time before you will no longer enjoy going out. What you need to do is refocus your mind. it’s like seeing a new person. I just suck at this. Maybe. (Example: “I am going out for the next two weeks and I will use x opener. and to break through insecurities and sticking points that have been like chains holding him down. x cold read and I will try to isolate at least one girl in every set and I will try to bounce at least one girl around the club and get into deep comfort with her. x story. After working with this student and he told me what was bothering him. while you are really helping someone get their game solid. after just a few weeks of going out.” HAHA!! Bullshit! Reading more will not fix this issue.
you would not be down on yourself because your friend went 5 for 5 that day. same applies here. now make me laugh at how shitty they are. Books that I thought were shit when I first started this mean a lot to me now. than 60 hours worth of reading. If you think you are going to read for 6 months. they either look gun shy. buying every product ever made and then one day you will compile the master routine that will allow you to walk into a venue and rattle off this phantom sequence and BAM! girl’s clothes will just start fallling off. or you are scared shitless of facing the inevitable rejection associated with risking your ego and putting it on the line. the reading really won’t make that much sense or even help that much until you have been in the field and been in the exact situation the author is talking about. or you have read way too much of this shit and your brain goes haywire in set trying to remember every fucking routine you ever read! 14 . see how ridiculous that kind of thinking is? I used to do that all the time. never actually getting on one. Why read all of this shit if you aren’t going to use it??? I’m not trying to be mean. “friendly conversation” or if he is making progress toward getting the girl. but you will learn more in 1 set in the field. the same reason I didn’t. yet telling everyone how great they are?!?! Why would you do that!??? even if you don’t brag and correct others. DON’T BE LIKE tHAt!!!! What a fucking waste of time and life. set. or they think they are much farther along in set than they really are. mistaken. you are still dying inside knowing that you should be doing more. when you go out that night. INCluDING Me. and they would likely kick your fucking ass. sadly.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! Not if you are putting bullshit restrictions on how you measure your own success. ever play sports? If you went 2 for 5 in baseball with a double and a bloop single to win the game. You could read for the next 7 years about how to play tennis and then go play someone who had read nothing but took a 30 min lesson. You still only half believe it’s real or you are scared shitless of it not being real. then. I can watch a guy in set and tell you if he is in a. know all the routines by heart. or make tons of rookie mistakes. makes. and love to correct the instructors and other students on what they “think you should do” in said situation. You do need to do your homework. Learn in the field: I know everyone says this. but damn this is by far the biggest mistake everyone. 2. but you struck out 3 times. Being an arm chair QB is like reading about how fun roller coasters are. and books and lines that I thought would be amazing in the field. lol. they know all the theory. It’s so easy to peg the guys on bootcamp who have read everything but haven’t done much field time. I’m trying to make a point.1. these guys have all the advice in the world and a million stories that nobody can confirm. after set. I know why they don’t do it. usually better than I do. In fact. you are sadly.
1. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help. this is a marathon. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. because you will have a point of reference. Go out and do the dirty work. 15 . use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. second. Just worry about your progress. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say.. I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay. pay the price. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate. they will find a way to tear you down a little. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others. they will be full of advice that is horrible. set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. not a sprint. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. If you are shitty at pickup. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus. soooo. so. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started.. what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week. stop talking about it with them. fYI. and two. stop doing it. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field. Nobody gives a shit for one.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! You are talking about me. If you do great. My point is this: you are your own best compass.. they haven’t all gone well. Make it fun.” When you can say that. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing.
trample the weak and hurdle the dead. So. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. If only I this or that. looking back. I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. I would like to do that. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had. I promise. read 20% go out 80%. His life wasn’t always the shit. but go create your own stories and experiences. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. “Well. I just needed a kick in the ass. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean. I mean I love my mom and I want to really. -Have the mental frame that. -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! After I did a bunch of sets. PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious. Braddock . look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say.” -fuck excuses. I don’t have a good wing. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck.1. -B 16 . -of the time you allot to pickup.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field.000 approaches don’t count. steal the knowledge. really bad! But. “The first 2. fuCK tHAt.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom.
they would never have understood. realize that going out alone isn’t as bad you think it is. “they’re here somewhere. “I don’t know man.theattractionforums. I am a 21 year old who goes to a small college in Baltimore that is crawling with hippies and weirdos. but he won’t say anything to get the girls that are interested in him either. It’s really not a political thing.” fuck all that! Just mysteriously become a fucking pimp and when they ask how you do it. I thought you said it worked? Why do you ask them those fucked up questions about your friend’s ex girlfriend? that’s stupid. Here are a couple of questions I received and here are my answers. As a matter of fact. What should I do? “ Question 2: “Do you think I should cut out my old friends and get new ones?” first off. No one over 21 is interested in going out to the bars.com/braddock/61176-q-wings-cutting-old-friends. there is no quick fix to your wing problem. Just be yourself.html I hope someone finds this useful. I think the best wings are not the guys with great game. “let’s see it man. I also suggest you don’t tell those in your closest circle unless you know you can trust them. My favorite wing goes out with me all the time and I get laid every night and he almost never does.” that literally made me laugh. they will accidentally fuck you more than a normal dude. I do well when I hit the bar with a wing. 17 . the best wing for me is a decent looking guy who won’t say anything to fuck it up. girls just like me I guess. If anyone asks where your friends are just say. every time you go out they will be like. I hate hippies! especially hippy girls. However.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends http://www. just say.” lololol The truth is. I thought you read that shit. It was extremely hard for me to find friends who were down with this when I first started. Keep this in mind too. Question 1: “I’m in a sticky situation. I tried finding wings on the forums and they are scarce too.” they usually don’t even ask. but I’m apprehensive about going out alone. until you do find a decent wing. But.1. he never fucks it up for me either. lolololol “hippies and weirdo’s. I know exactly what you’re going through. My closest friends are kinda naturals and I didn’t even want to tell them I was reading this sort of stuff. it’s just that they always stink and never seem to be hot.
I’d much rather meet a guy who is already going. then why would you cut them out of your life just because they have no game???????? that’s ridiculous. I don’t count on them for shit as far as pickup. Most importantly. I’m genuinely having fun. somewhere for me to go when I’m not in set.) I guess the biggest point I’m trying to make here is that the whole “wing “ thing is not that big of a deal like everyone says it is. or whatever excuse we often make. deeply care about you. You are likely to meet a wing on accident at the bar.1. Don’t let not having a wing keep you from developing the lifestyle and game you want. often times you will end up cutting previously close friends out of your life after you have been in the community for a while. What I do is go out with my wing or a group of cool guys and I merely use them as a home base between sets. he never fucks up my game. tHIs Is Not BeCAuse tHeY DoN’t HAVe GAMe!!!! 18 . 2 guys gaming hard across each other never really works out). If you have a great set of friends who are supportive. but if I bring girls to him he will talk to them and not freak them out or bore them. but just keep going out and meeting people. the only good thing about having a wing is when he is a motivated mother fucker that holds you accountable and makes you go out: a guy who won’t let you pussy out and say you are tired or this bar. is dead. they are fucking horrible! lol But they give me social proof and I actually like the guys so even if I’m not running game. (Having people you can genuinely have fun with is ten times more powerful for your game than having a guy who is willing to go open sets. Nooooooo!!!! When guys say that on here I think it creates great confusion. just because you have 2 guys excited about gaming and both guys bring it in every set. over trying to talk some mother fucker into getting off the couch. I think if you will read the posts from instructors or guys with a vast amount of experience. this is totally different. Answer to Question 2: Notice that in answering question one I did not say ditch all your old friends and get new ones who are good at pickup.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends He doesn’t approach really. A new guy trying to learn all this shit is often the worst wing . because they are trying to run game at the same time you are and it just comes across really weird (not because his game is bad or good. I know it sucks. you will read posts on cutting people out of your life who you come to realize are toxic. and who make your quality of life better.
stop talking about it with them. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends You are talking about me. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. they will be full of advice that is horrible. not a sprint. second. because you will have a point of reference. they will find a way to tear you down a little.1. they haven’t all gone well. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help. stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing. Go out and do the dirty work. Nobody gives a shit for one. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night. this is a marathon. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field. I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay. soooo. pay the price. set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started. stop doing it. what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus. Just worry about your progress. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. fYI. If you are shitty at pickup. use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. Make it fun. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. My point is this: you are your own best compass.” When you can say that.. 19 . and two.. If you do great. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate.. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters. so.
trample the weak and hurdle the dead. PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday. I mean I love my mom and I want to really. -Have the mental frame that. I promise. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean.1. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say. really bad! But. I don’t have a good wing. “Well. I just needed a kick in the ass. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. “The first 2.000 approaches don’t count. but go create your own stories and experiences.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom. fuck that.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. steal the knowledge. -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing. -B 20 . -of the time you allot to pickup. I would like to do that.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends After I did a bunch of sets. If only I this or that. So. read 20% go out 80%. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action. look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field. I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. His life wasn’t always the shit.” -fuck excuses. looking back. Braddock .
.. Dahunter and I taught our class and it went really well. No offense if you are one. she’s an l.. This weekend was a blast. I talked to the guy the day after and he said we changed his life!!! that’s the best feeling ever. I’m not. Nice to know people. at night.theattractionforums.4 do you Bring value or take it???? http://www.A. “Back then they didn’t want me. people don’t talk to “you” they talk to the club promoter that they need something from. I love flying out of L. He said when he got home he went out that night and had like 5 make outs and could have slept with several girls. I personally can identify with the feeling of contempt that this can create. it applies to most people.. and I’m sure I could write this about a million different subjects. because you see a side of people you never knew existed. “I don’t mean to go on a rant here but. she made one call and we were in.html this is from my blog. The first night we went to one of the best clubs in L. If you ever want to see how quickly the human mind can resort to it’s darker recesses.. It’s unreal how big this city is. but if I sound like I’m complaining.com/braddock/61179-do-you-bring-value-take. As Dennis Miller used to say...A.A. because they have the same feeling a celebrity has at times. It’s like that line out of that song by Mike Jones…..” 21 . they think you are cool because of what you can do for them. they all on me.A. I don’t completely blame promoters for acting like dicks.. they don’t think you are cool because of your intrinsic value as a human being.. It was cool to watch. 10. now I’m hot... Wednesday and thursday.1. so all of the club promoters kiss her ass. just study the club promoters outside of an exclusive club in l. It was a grind going for 5 days straight.. I know a girl who is kind of a socialite out there and she hooked us up. He picked up the info really quick and was kicking ass by the second night.” I’m on the plane heading home.
However. so you don’t have to be the vampire quite as often or if life forces you to be the vampire. no solid relationships in his life. they ask for something without bringing any value to you in return. for 3 hours per night they are GOD!!! They decide whether you get to play in that club or not. they really think that gate keeper role they play a couple nights per week is who they really are at their core!!!!! lolololol this same asshole may have no education. Don’t assume that because you have something that people want or need that it makes you better than others. I think you should try to set up as many of these situations in your life as possible. 22 . or just say no. and then if you can’t give them that value. Don’t get me wrong. the best way to handle these situations is to not attach much. I’m willing to bet that those guys have little to no value outside of that venue and only have this limited value even here on specific nights. everyone wants what they control and everyone pretends to like them in order to obtain access. if you ever find yourself in a short lived or situational setting where you are the value holder. they will move on to the next body to suck blood from without so much as a thanks and when you need help they are nowhere to be found. If you have value to exchange then you aren’t the one constantly begging or desperately fighting for the scraps that fall off the table of those that do retain the value that you desire. because they do make life easier and they seem to attract more and more opportunities just like this. However. you have brought so much value in the past that you are not seen as a desperate value leech. the club promoters that I met this weekend seemed to really buy into their own bullshit. live paycheck to paycheck. if any. identity value to either of these roles and work toward always bringing value in as many relationships as you can. and sleep on his friends couch. but because he controls a list 3 nights a week. he has attached a deep sense of self to that one piece of value he controls.4 do you Bring value or take it???? People can have no cooth when they need something and have no idea how desperate and selfish they look. they shut off the fake smile and the charm and move on to the next person they think can help them meet their needs. but they do not make you better intrinsically than others.1. what I found hilarious is how much they seemed to really believe that they are somebody. However. I think a healthy person looks at this for what it is. We are all the vampire at times and we are all the leverage holder at times. don’t let it go to your head. these vampires like you right now. but the second that your one piece of leverage is gone or they have extracted all the value they can from you.
But being picked to join a frat during rush week is not a title that you earned and it’s not a value that should help you flesh out your core identity. Does he walk around treating everyone like he is better than them???? I hope not. I have mad respect for Michael Jordan and might even talk to him a little different than I would most people because I would be excited to meet him. but sadly I assume he does. this does not mean that you should treat people like shit or with disrespect either. I personally don’t think you should give people any more respect than they’ve earned. they attached a deep identity meaning to the fucking letters on the outside of the door of the house!!! lololol How fucking retarded. drink tons of beer. I was in a frat for a while in college and I remember it being split in half.1. if you’ve ever given a girl more respect than she’s earned than you know how this can blow up in your face! But.4 do you Bring value or take it???? I always wonder if people like him walk around in their normal life acting like they are better than people. they would talk differently to people who weren’t in a certain frat and treat them like shit and they would suck the dicks of guys in certain frats that they considered cool!!!!???? I can understand you having more or less respect for this company or that company or that team or this team or this athlete or that athlete or this doctor or that doctor because of the work they put into earning that title. even titles you earn mean little to nothing in regard to how you should value yourself and definitely not how you should treat others. and network for later in life. 23 .a great place to meet a ton of friends. It’s merely a group you belong to where the people in the group enjoy you and you enjoy them. have parties with tons of girls. the other half of the guys were complete dick suckers who thought they were cool because they were in that frat. If you joined a certain frat so you could jerk yourself off and tell yourself and each other how cool you are and how much better your frat is than that one than you are fucking up bad!!! Hell. Half the guys were cool as fuck and saw the frat for what it was . this doesn’t mean you should go around kissing people’s ass or even going all Dale Carnegie on them. If I met John stockton……not so much.
With them. It’s not who they are at their core.4 do you Bring value or take it???? the frat boy who is delusional about how cool he is because of what frat he is in. then that was me. learn how to use it to help you meet other ends. my identity and core values are unchanged. The main point here is this. It will be your frat. they buy into their own bullshit. 24 . With or without them. I thought if I had a hot girlfriend then that’s “who I was” or if I was a great athlete or if I hung out with certain people.1. My internal value and identity are maintained at all cost. use it to create great connections in your life that you couldn’t acquire otherwise. the company you keep can make or break your life. I want them because they are all tools to help me develop a fun and interesting lifestyle that I would want. then women. that’s all bullshit. it’s just a tool. Crush the social leeches that use you as a win for them/loss for you and find the people who are willing to make a value trade with you. use it to help you obtain shitloads of win win situations in your life. But if you don’t know that. and great relationships. this is why rockstars and celebrities end up killing themselves. use it as such. but they also should not be what you draw your core value from. At their core they know they are just people and that at the end of the day all that shit is just a hat they wear. bla bla bla. this lesson has taken me years to learn and I learned it the hard way. but not because they will create an identity that I desperately cling to no matter what. then money. or if I made this group of people happy or if my parents liked what I was doing. are equally disgusting to me. No. Not because it doesn’t matter who you surround yourself with. then cars. tons of options with women. my life is closer aligned to what I want my life to look like. Don’t attach internal meanings to external values. but if I couldn’t have them for any number of reasons then I’m still me. then you just will constantly be trying to fill a bucket with a massive fucking hole in it. I personally want tons of money. It’s merely a value that you have obtained and a great one at that. like I said though. I’m not saying all these things are bad. high status. if you ever find yourself in a position like the club promoter just realize that it’s merely a tool. and the club promoter who thinks he is God. they have attached all their internal meaning to this star they have become. Attaching an identity meaning to random sources of value sets you on a slippery slope to an addiction you can never satisfy.
Alright. possessions.e. or people trophies I. but not to define me.” Do all this shit because you really just want it in your life. I want it for me. enough Gandhi shit from me for one day……… sha boy…………………Braddock 25 .4 do you Bring value or take it???? Go become the baddest mother fucker you can. Go at it like you will fucking die in 6 months. but don’t attach your entire identity to external events. “I have this girl on my arm so now I’m somebody. Be and do everything you ever wanted to do.1.
covered in thiS chapter:
2.1 oneitis?? - fuCK oNeItIs - How to Get over Her - The Benefit of Moving on
2.2 Q & a on Love - the Chemical Additiction - the Dumper Vs. the Dumpee 2.3 Girl has a Boyfriend, But i Know She Likes me - What Would Murder Her Attraction - the right Way to play it 2.4 “i don’t chase......i replace.” - the Abundance Mentality
http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/61174-oneitus.html Jazz flute is for sissy fairy boys and so is oneitis. I’ve had a lot of people emailing me recently asking how to get over a oneitis. Here is a post that I made a while back that I think is useful.
losing a girl feels worse than a kick in the fucking nuts. You would do anything to leave this site and just have her back and all your pain would go away! Yeaaaaaahh! listen man, I know this doesn’t help now and it will only help if you’re the kind of guy who takes massive action in the face of crippling pain. But, I’m telling you I was dating a fucking amazingly hot, cool, smart girl. she dumped me. I thought I was going to fucking die!!! bla bla bla right? Worse year of my life. Guess what though man.... I know this is cliché, but I’m glad we are done. Yeah, I still miss her at times, but fucking shit, look where I’ve come! If I had her back now, I’d be the same guy. I’ve pushed myself to new heights in so many areas of my life. If you get back with that “perfect” girl, your pain will leave for a while, but when you’re old someday, you will wonder what life would have been like if you would have fucking let go and became who you are about to be. she was, and is, holding you back. let it sting only for a few moments per day. she is controlling your ass and she doesn’t even want to be. Bitch slap the fuck out of yourself and decide that only you will control your happiness. You enjoyed that girl, you miss her, you are sad at times, but you wouldn’t change a fucking thing. Get tHere GoD DAMN It!!!!! Don’t lay in this shitty feeling. I’ve been there. I almost lost my job over it. I almost didn’t go to law school over it. What a fucking joke. take full responsibility for who you are and don’t look back. In 1 year, if you put in the work, you will laugh at this girl. listen man, I know it hurts, I spent an entire year suffering over a girl. lost weight, neglected my life, and burned a full YeAr of my short life hurting over a fucking girl!! WHAt?!?!?!? 27
understand that there are literally BIllIoNs of GIrls. the guy you will be in a year is not the guy that this hoe rejected, but oNlY if you take proper action. Don’t let that fool you though. Don’t change and become better for this girl. Do It for You!!!! I know. You hurt and you only want to know what will make you feel better in this moment. take the pain, recover and move forward. tHere Are BIGGer AND Better tHINGs out tHere! But, but, Braddock I love her!!! she’s different, you don’t’ understand!!!!” every guy on this site has said that weak shit. You don’t find this site on accident. No Goddamn it, step up to the fucking plate and tell yourself No fuCKING More! this bitch better enjoy today, cause it’s the last day I will giver her my power and allow her to choose how I will feel about myself and life. I will better myself everyday and one day I will reflect on this and realize that she was a cool chick and I hope she is happy. I have taken myself to a new level and it’s all for the better that she dumped me, cause at my new level I would have had to dump her. respect yourself and allow her no more real estate in your head and let’s start moving to positive things. the work will be hard and you will have highs and lows. Decide that you are going to better yourself a little today. A little every day and all of a sudden you will look up and you won’t recognize who you are. You won’t need this bitch’s validation. You will be battle hardened and you will love the new you. right now that is hard to believe. fine. Don’t believe me, just trust me. every day when you wake up and your fucking chest hurts, just close your eyes and say, “today might be tough, but I’m going to take at least one step toward making myself a better person than I was yesterday.” Do this for a full fucking year and you won’t even remember who you were. the alternative is to wallow in your bullshit and piss and moan and wish things were different. “only if you had her back your life would be perfect. If only you had her back, your grades would be good. If only you had her back, you would work out and get the body you’ve always wanted.” BullsHIt! Accept who you are and kill that weak mother fucker. tell yourself you are sad about her, but that something has to die for something new to grow. I miss her, but it had to happen for the new me to become a reality.
1 oneitis?? step up hommie! It hurts. But what you choose to do right now will determine who you are for the rest of your life. Best. Braddock 29 .2. take the pain and push through it. step up to this challenge and take it head on like a fucking man. there is no other option. the only way through hell is straight through it. It hurts so goddamn bad! I know it does.
com/braddock/82719-q-love.theattractionforums.2 Q & a on Love http://www.2.html I get a lot of emails about this and I also get a lot of emails asking me how to get an old girlfriend to like you again. Question: “Does anyone know how love works chemically?” 30 .
it seems that the scientific definition of love would be “chemical addiction. If every memory has a different peptide tied to it.” More specifically. Does anyone have a friend who still talks about his high school football days and he graduated 5 years ago? 31 . then this explains why it’s so hard to move on after a breakup and why it’s so hard to experience change. this is why when you burn your hand on a stove at 4 years old. you may know this is a stupid thing to do. love is an addiction to the peptides you have created and associated to a specific person.2 Q & a on Love answer: Based on my reading and study of the brain. It has evolved to put this peptide footprint on all of your memories to protect you. On a logical level. Why would your body do this to you? Why would it put you through this? It’s actually just doing its job. every experience (good or bad).2. It makes you sad because you instantly think of that moment when you felt so good and then your body is thrown back to the present moment of realizing that you don’t have access to her and the feelings (peptides) she gave you. In any relationship (good or bad). every memory is painful because it is a reminder that you are no longer getting those chemicals. that feeling (peptide rush) is a nice safety mechanism to keep you from making that same mistake over and over. this is why you might feel sad when you hear a song that you and your old girlfriend used to listen to when you were at your happiest point in your relationship. email her. this is why you might hear a song that you haven’t heard since high school and you immediately smile and have a flash back of riding in a car with all of your old high school buddies. If the pull is strong enough (the addiction). your brain will fire off a batch of peptides that will make the experience of the relationship feel in a way that both parties become accustomed to. It wants you to remember to move toward pleasure and away from pain. but if the hurt/addiction is strong enough. you will feel compelled to call her. you will get a feeling (peptide rush) of anxiety or fear when you look at/go near a stove for the rest of your life. both of their bodies will become so used to feeling this way that they will feel discomfort and pain at even the idea of not having those chemicals (Ie. When they do break up. every person you meet. in an attempt to get those feelings (peptide rush/your fix). After feeling this way for a long time. you will act despite the fact that you know it’s a stupid move. or drive by her house. and to every memory you have. It turns out that our brain is hardwired to attach a specific emotional footprint to everything. breaking up). this reminder comes in the form of pain.
arguing. He will give you all kinds of excuses and rationalizations for why he needs the drug. so. If the feeling you shared with that girl created a peptide cocktail that felt so good it made you euphoric. never do? even though the feelings are long gone and they now hate each other.No.that’s simply the physical form of the true reason…. He had likely been playing football for years and then all of a sudden. 32 . they can walk away with little or no pain. watch ESPN 15 hours per day. but it’s like telling a crack addict he needs to quit. but at the end of the day their addiction pulls them back together so they can get their fix. He is an addict. the source of his good feeling (peptide rush). even if you were telling your friends a week ago that she annoyed you and that you kind of wanted to shop around. cheating. the dumpee is crushed because someone has taken their drugs when they were still highly addicted. etc….2 Q & a on Love Why is he doing this? Because if he was good at football then he likely has a very good feeling (peptide rush) attached to any memory of football. It is also likely that nothing in his life has given him an equivalent rush since. If that drug is ripped from you when you aren’t ready. they can’t leave because it means an end to the source of the most powerful drug (peptides) their bodies have ever experienced. the dumper slowly broke their addiction over time by weaning themselves of the other person until they are no longer addicted.” All this is bullshit. and even watches his old high school films because it gives him a small fix of those old peptides that used to make him feel so good. he graduates and football. once this happens.2. Why is the dumper usually ok and the dumpee always crushed? It’s just like the football player example from above. I must have made a huge mistake. He is still going through the withdrawals (just like a drug addict). then you are ingesting a very powerful drug. the dumpee is CrusHeD not because of the fairy tale bullshit reasons we all hear in love songs and movies…. He will think that she must have been the greatest woman on the planet. Can you see how this plays out in the same way when a relationship ends and why some relationships that loGICAllY should end. then you will suffer from the exACt symptoms of a drug addict who is suffering from the withdrawal pains the first couple of weeks when they’re in rehab. what he does now is constantly talk about it. that is the talk of a logical man who is getting his fix. is ripped from him. He will mistake this feeling for love for her. “If I feel this bad. back. their logical mind tries to pull them away through fighting. The pain can be so bad that you will do ANYTHING to get your fix (her). Take his fix away and you have a mumbling drug addict scrambling around feigning for a hit.
these people are addicted to having a relationship. game. They will just keep finding a new person who fits the bill close enough to give them the peptides their bodies crave. Mr. they will dump one and replace them with one similar and get the same feeling (peptide rush).” ever have a friend who CoNstANtlY has to have a girlfriend? Instead of becoming addicted to one person. This is because they haven’t hit pause long enough to get over their current addiction. every girl or guy they date is almost exactly the same and they may even bitch about not being able to find a good guy or girl.2. and how it affects us. -Braddock 33 . in our new Inner Game seminar. M and I go into great detail on the role of peptides and addiction in many areas of life. If they never break this cycle they will literally replay the same bad relationship over and over and over with new people for the rest of their lives.2 Q & a on Love this is also why so many men and women will “relationship hop.
she fucking loVes this guy. so the question is. 1) she has a bf in that same working environment. answer: It would take me 3 hours to write “how exactly to progress things along. they are. but enjoys banging you. then the worst thing you can do is push or act in any way as if you are emotionally not getting enough from her. i knew a girl frm a working enviroment. but now.pushing for a relationship with her. i have a good problem to share here. everything is usual and fine for a few months and becoz this work for me is a temporal work.” but instead of that. but sometimes. then i made a date with her on the phone. things started to heat up.html originally posted by massive Hey guys. i give a shit. i full close her on the 2nd time she was here. i wont be hangin around for long. jus like how we were in a working environment. i seeded stuffs from my home that she HAS to see. so during the last month of my work there. up til a point. when we first met. We don’t like to think girls are like that.3 Girl has a Boyfriend. we were normal. Maybe you are right. so we resume back on msn.2. Maybe that’s not the case. obviously she isnt satisfied/happy with her bf but there is something still lingering on between them that is causing her to still be with him. I’ll tell you what will MurDer tHIs!!! . she is getting to have her cake and eat it too. we wanted to meet and she comes to my place. right now.theattractionforums. for all you know. i didnt give a shit then. got blown away if i remember correctly coz that was a few months back. 34 . i had ran thru EPM there then. she told me frm in the early stages of our conversation. how i can find out this and move things further between me and her. But i Know She Likes me http://www. It’s possible that things are rocky and that she is just working out the final death throws of that relationship. lets hear your inputs.com/braddock/108183-girl-has-boyfriend-but-i-know-she-likesme-braddock. and i knew about this all along. we had long conversations on msn. If that is the case.
. then you start hooking up with a new girl and you are getting to have that fun and free feeling with her. much less the guy on the side. “look. she pulls the rug out from under you and says. In summary: Be cool.. I just got out of a relationship. As loNG As she didn’t get too emotional too fast. value changes focal points. Make her escalate the situation.. girls are emotional creatures. However. I’m having fun. she is having a hard time giving her BoYfrIeND all she has. but you had dated her so long that it was hard to walk away. and when she does. and just straight up made me feel better and have more fun than the other girl I was dating. feel needy and insecure and reach hard emotionally and make you feel like she likes you soooooo much! then when you reciprocate hard and fast. Instead. remember. then all of a sudden she feels your distance and starts getting all needy and pushy and kills the whole point of hooking up with her. Don’t let her know exactly how much you like her. But i Know She Likes me Have you ever been in her shoes? You were done with one girl. Be spontaneous and fun.2. but you didn’t. I think I just need to be single and figure some things out. as we all know. she may even dump this guy. I found myself being drawn to the other girl.(Yes eVeN If Your CHest Is BurNING AND You HAVe to puNCH A WAll After You Drop Her off) Man up. over time. you are acting like we are dating. laid back.3 Girl has a Boyfriend. calmly go with it while still making her wonder if she’s got you. I just got out of an emotionally draining relationship. the few girls who have been able to slowly hook me in these situations are the ones that stayed cool. fuck the shit out of her. -Braddock 35 . I might have liked you if we would have kept this up and you would have flipped the script and pulled back on me once you knew I liked you.” (translation: I liked fucking you. and you are stressing me the fuck out).
i replace” http://www...html 36 .theattractionforums..com/braddock/87246-i-dont-chase-i-replace...4 “i don’t chase.2.
4 “i don’t chase. it was just a glimpse into his inner game and how his mind operates.. our friend was coming from a really weak place mentally..i replace” It’s been a while since I’ve shared any of the wisdom imparted on by one of my friends and mentors from college I call. every girl that comes along. what would you do if you were in my situation?” the Godfather: “I don’t chase man.. then you know we have an entire model for running slow burn game) but. He kept asking us for strategies and bullshit tactics for how he could get her to come around. M and I. I remember one time we were talking with one of our friends who was being a complete pussy around this girl he wanted. In no way am I saying you shouldn’t pursue a woman or give up on a girl who is giving you the run around (if you have ever taken social Circle Mastery with Mr. He went on and on and the Godfather just stared at him and said nothing the entire conversation. 37 . strangely. I replace. he would never feel much turmoil over a girl that was giving him the runaround. this shift in mindset would have been the exact recipe to get the girl to stop being so distant. he would develop a mini crush on and get messed up inside. If he would come from a place of abundance (either through actually dating a lot of women) or simply by accepting and believing that there are always plenty more. finally our friend who was being a pussy looked at the Godfather and said: Weak sauce: “Hey man... It was fucking disgusting! My friend was talking to me and the Godfather and kept rambling on and on about how she treated him like shit and how frustrated he was. He had no other girls (which is no big deal) but even worse. he believed he couldn’t get another one. I couldn’t help but laugh. the Godfather wasn’t trying to be rude. texting her all the time.2. and would drop anything he was doing to hang out with her if she called him. our buddy was calling her all the time. the Godfather.” even though my friend was hurting. the underlying theme is always that of abundance.
2. “You need water. stop BeING A pussY!!!! As Wayne Dyer says.4 “i don’t chase.i replace” It’s ok to “want” a girl.. If you ever lost a woman during a relationship it is likely because you started to “need” her instead of “want” her. but the second you “need” her. air.” -Braddock over and out 38 .. this abundance mentality should never end... and food... “I don’t chase... I fucking replace.” so start internalizing the mentality.you don’t need any individual’s love or approval. you are fucked.
dinner.1 to the new Guys! .covered in thiS chapter: 3.long fuses 3. drinks .3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone .short fuses .What types of Girls Are You Working With? .Medium fuses .2 dates: Lunch.learning Game the right Way 3.What Would Murder Her Attraction 39 .
read. once your inner game is super solid then your outer game will explode. read. It can change your life with women and make your life better all around. -Braddock 40 . you play that bitch some more! learn a little piece at a time and only try to add a piece at a time. A lot of guys on here write a bunch of bullshit to sound cool. make sure that you spend 80% of that time going out and actually doing approaches. Don’t read every post on here and believe it as if it was written by the hand of God. but they have never actually done it. once you’ve been on here a while and you’ve done a bunch of approaches. they are not super heroes.com/braddock/61184-new-guys. you will be able to quickly determine which posts are valuable and which ones are written by a guy that has probably never done a single approach. Work on your inner game an equal amount that you work on your outer game. even the best of the best on here are just guys.3. Whatever amount of time you plan on allotting to pickup whether that is 1 hour per week or 20 hours. and then. Most guys get on here and read.html Quick advice I wish someone would have told me when I began: Don’t try to learn it all at once. You play that bitch until your fingers hurt. Don’t do that!!!! You don’t get good at playing the guitar by reading about the guitar.theattractionforums. Good luck! stick with it.1 to the new Guys! http://www.
Sometimes from a logistics point of view lunch makes sence as most girls have nothing set up with BF or friends so they will agree to come out with you more often. outing. The reason I ask is b/c I have this new girl HB 9( she upped her dressing) at work and I have done some kino .theattractionforums.3. so I know girls will go out for lunch to get fucked) Drinks are good as the girls know they dont have to sit with you for long if things dont go well. will engage her again tomorrow (kinda of mini freeze so she knows im not desperate and preserve value) I am wondering should I ask her our for lunch and build comfort & value and then ask her out for drinks on friday or just go for drinks ? Thanks 41 . Dinner: I usually dont do dinner unless if the girl is from my social circle . The question I struggle with is ask a girl out for drinks only for the first time .com/braddock/108163-dates-braddock-lunch-dinner-drinks. value at first meeting and then asked her to come to a bday party. drinks http://www. dinner. no sexual escalation at lunch unless you can have lunch sex ( my work wife does it . so you can build comfort and attraction.2 dates: Lunch.html originally posted by samirnyc View post Hi Guys I just want to hear different opinion about the first date or meeting if you do day game . she did not show up so I ignored her on tuesday and was cool to her today.
Long fuse: Girl that rarely replies. one time she is cool. With a short fuse you have the option of going to get a drink. she wants to hang out. etc.3.. medium fuse: This is the category I find most girls in. she allows you to go sexual. “You guys should meet us at x. she likely would never answer your call or text again. it would be ridiculous to invite her straight to your house. the next time she is cold or distant. A drink is a “maybe” but it might still be too much pressure. All your jokes hit. I always say play lazy man’s game and get the most done with the least amount of effort. With a long fuse. With a short fuse. With a medium fuse I would go for the drink or a group meet up.. Short fuse: Girl that wants you really bad... and only push for the meet up every 4th or 5th time I make contact.. it goes something like. What I do with these girls is patiently and persistently text or call them a few times a week oNlY. However. drinks answer: I usually go based on investment and I use the same dynamite stick idea as I use in my phone and text game book. the times I do make contact and extend an invite. she’s on and off the grid. she plays along with all your jokes. It would probably make her uncomfortable if you invited her straight over to your house to hang out. “What are you doing? Wanna come over and watch a movie?” skip the middle man and invite her straight to your house. she initiates fairly often..” 42 . a real date.2 dates: Lunch. picture each woman you meet as a stick of dynamite with a different fuse length. dinner.pretty much anything is on the table. I usually just say. dinner.
dinner.3.2 dates: Lunch. the idea is to burn long fuses down to short fuses. -Braddock 43 . drinks this takes the pressure off of her and leaves her the option of meeting up under laid back conditions.
start to slowly treat her differently. come back and change the frame. move on. Allow her brain to lose some of the associations she has toward you.. html start with this. but don’t laugh at what she says unless it’s truly funny. so go for it. If I want a girl she may or may not date me.. the reason you need to get away from her for a while is because it’s hard to change the frame from friend to sexual. Make fun of her plight and never feel sorry for her on this kind of shit.. You must realize that you can’t go at her afraid to lose. When you do spend time with her. you are most likely not calibrated to do that without her knowing what you are trying to do. listen only mockingly. I don’t know how you act around her. then just stay in friend mode. If you push the envelope with her you are running the risk of losing her for good.theattractionforums. As you get better you will fall into friend mode less and less. Don’t be a shoulder to cry on. But. Just go game other girls and get more women in your life. to try and physically escalate her at this point will feel weird 44 . If you can’t handle that. do’s: After you have spent some time away from her. then. Don’t play therapist. but be willing to lose this girl.com/braddock/63998-braddocks-prescription-move-out-ljbf-zone. girl that I think is cool. pivot. If she talks to you about other guys. You obviously like her. Do talk to other girls while trying to get out of friend mode.. at least you can feel better inside knowing you took your best shot. It’s going backwards. it’s strategic. see if this is an isolated situation or see if this is a reoccurring theme... but realize this alone won’t guarantee anything. but not attracted to. Win her? Great! she says no thanks? fine. spend less time with her for a while.3. At least she’ll be around??? fuCK tHAt!!! slowly go for it. Don’t set out to make her jealous. Now. if I make a friend that’s a girl. practice staying out of friend mode with new girls. but she will not slot me in friend mode.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone http://www. get away from her so she can’t affect you emotionally. fat girl with tons of hot friends.
3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone to you and her.. Being reactive is not attractive. but you will start alllll over in attraction and run all the phases properly this time. You won’t actually say the words from above. think long term not short term. 45 . then you have no use for her. fuck that. but doesn’t need her.” fuck the “how can I get her” mentality. when a guy falls into friend mode. you won’t run an opener. you will just look like you are trying to do something. but make yourself scarce. If she doesn’t want you in the same way. No. even if you’re dying to see her. usually.. You don’t have to escalate hard and fast. Come back in a few months with a different frame in mind. the Short term prescription: Get the fuck away from her for a while. but you must kino or it’s off to the friend zone again. he started off in comfort instead of attraction and/or he didn’t escalate kino at all. But. soooo.. Next time you see her you can send mixed signals and set a new tone for kino escalation. the always there for her “buddy” is no more. time away will help remedy this. You want her in a way that does not include shopping or hearing about her boy problems.3. You seeing her after time has passed allows you to do several things. Go get a few other women in your life. spend more and more time thinking about other girls and less putting this girl on a pedestal in your mind. Don’t avoid her. you will convey them.. but may not change it. Becoming a more attractive guy overall and needing her less and less will help you become more attractive to her. You are going to read Magic Bullets if you haven’t and start all over with this girl. if you try to do that tomorrow without time passing. You need to reemerge as a sexual guy who wants her. think I want to become more attractive to women in general. stop trying to be the perfect guy for “her.
-Braddock 46 . Realize. right anyway. “I can’t risk that.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone Hope this helps. if you say. realize and be ok with the idea that you may lose her for good. But. I think this will work itself out over time if you stick with learning all of this stuff. there is no quick fix or line for your situation. When she does. take some time away and then come back and pull the trigger!!!! You can do it man! Good luck. and eventually. then. so.” just realize that you have already lost her to some other guy although she hasn’t found him yet.3. he will expect her to remove you more and more as her friend and you won’t want to be there to watch her happily with Mr. you are going to have to do what I said above. come back and pull the fucking trigger.
the Approach “Brain” .Your War Against fear .What to say and When to say it - The Benefit of Opening Guys .How to Build rapport with them 47 .2 Q & a on approach anxiety .AA remedies 4.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) .Developing the Approach Habit: right Action over emotion .covered in thiS chapter: 4.steps to overcome AA 4.1 approach antxiety .
1 approach anxiety http://www.4.com/braddock/106069-approach-anxiety-braddock.theattractionforums.html 48 .
You are feeling nervous for a whole host of reasons. then a real pitcher. no big deal. you can move to the pitching machine. but you can manage it. The first woman you approach essentially feels like it’s the big game. the weekend forces the guys to get mass exposure like they’ve never experienced. you get to start off on a tee with no one watching. would he feel anxiety? of course.1 approach anxiety your War against fear some of the worst feelings in my life have come when I have chosen to avoid something I wanted out of fear. Knowing that I logically wanted something and then didn’t go for it because I succumb to a bunch of emotional rationalizations that are 95% bullshit. is killer. it simply requires you to develop a new habit. and took him a bar. which I will explore in great detail later in this article. In baseball. these guys are not super human. who never gets nervous in the batter’s box. on bootcamp. If I took the most calm. and those who feel it the least are the ones who have done the most approaches. If I took the best dating coach in the world who says he has zero approach anxiety and threw him in the batter’s box against a major league pitcher who throws 100mph. you will always feel something when you approach. They have faced that fear so many times that it has lost its hold. they have just desensitized themselves to the pain through repetition and carry a mindset focused on long term gratification over short term gratification. collected major league baseball player. you are doing something you have very few reference experiences in.4. realize that everyone feels approach anxiety. You can do all of this in the off season with no one watching. you don’t get to slowly graduate up to the World Series. sure. but mainly because. By the time the season rolls around. would he feel anxiety? of course. 49 . once you have that down you can start hitting soft toss. we almost always cure 85%-90% of a guy’s approach anxiety by the end of the weekend. If you mess that up. No one is watching and no one is judging you. You must cultivate the habit of right action over emotion. you are ready. In pickup. cool. once you have that down. develop the habit of right action over emotion If you really want your approach anxiety to go away. and forced him to approach a beautiful woman he didn’t know.
Brian tracy. By removing those factors. If you only ride that roller coaster once or twice a month. the fastest way to ensure that you have approach anxiety for the rest of your life is to only do one or two approaches every now and then. at our core. then you will surely feel the rush with the same intensity as you did the very first time you ever road it. We need to constantly face and overcome our fears to build up the kind of courage that will enable us to deal with the inevitable ups and downs of life unafraid. far beyond all else. let’s look at a few that you can remove: 1.” While there are infinite things we could be afraid of. several factors are within your control. some of them are unavoidable and in regards to those. we are crippled with the fear of rejection. especially early in the learning process. It is a cancer that can literally hold you in a self-imposed prison keeping you from taking the necessary action required to meet a specific goal. there are several factors in regards to approach anxiety that make this fear of rejection heightened.4. My favorite self help guru. If you wanted to help a friend get over the fear of riding roller coasters would you have him read 300 books and spend 5 years on a psychologist’s couch. approaching in front of old friends We all know that failure is unavoidable in any new endeavor and that the lion share of failure takes place at the beginning of learning something new. the fear of rejection is the most damaging because it can literally be crippling. “Fortunately. you need to man the fuck up. or would you put his ass on a roller coaster again and again? Just like any other habit you want to create in your life. remove the road blocks in your mind that are holding you back. this is done through repetition. and fear of failure. remember. the habit of courage can be learned just as any other habit is learned. you would eventually lose the ability to get a rush from riding it. usually. says. we reduce the level of anxiety to a manageable level. there are certain factors that predispose us to heightened levels of fear or anxiety. through repetition.1 approach anxiety If you rode a roller coaster 500 times in a row. this means that your fear of rejection is not 50 . However.
by simply removing them on the nights I wanted to work on this stuff I was able to fight just one demon that night: my crippling approach anxiety . especially in the beginning. “the MpfC springs into action whenever we direct our attention inward and think about ourselves or outward and think about others. get rejected quite a bit when you approach women.4. We all thrive when we deal with people who we feel understand us. this retarded my growth on a massive level. approaching in a Local venue I’ve spent the last 2 years of my life studying every book I could get my hands on that had to do with the brain and how it works. You have a well-defined role within that circle. it’s very helpful when attempting something new and stressful. By going out with them and wrestling two demons at once. Go out with the one or two guys who you are most relaxed around and don’t feel like you would be judged. When I was first learning this stuff. or watch our friends and family experience their own ups and downs. As we interact with colleagues.” The medial prefrontal cortex fires up not only when we actually experience an event. and you don’t want to be ridiculed behind your back. having insight into the feelings of others enables us to understand what they value. respond well to us. 2. compete with opponents. and aren’t judging us. and to predict their future behavior. As ridiculous as that frame of mind might be. Dr. You don’t want the role in your group to change. the last thing you need is extra pressure from your friends. to offer appropriate support or gain competitive advantage. While this is less important in most situations. What can make this even worse is the fact that you are trying to learn this in front of old friends who have never seen you behave in this new way. how they feel about us. once you are over your approach anxiety you can start chasing girls in front of those guys and it won’t be such a big deal. An area of our brain that this drastically affects is the medial prefrontal cortex (MpfC). don’t go out with the guys who add to your stress. but also when 51 .1 approach anxiety completely unfounded. and to get rejected in front of them could create a level of social pressure from them that you are not sure you are willing to accept. remedy: Knowing that you are trying something new and scary. I was paralyzed and did nothing. you don’t want to be openly ridiculed by them. one thing that I see consistently in the books I’ve read on neurobiology is the brain is a horrible multi tasker. You will. on the nights when you are going out to work on this stuff. in fact. richard restak says. especially in high stress situations. I couldn’t go out with my older brother and his friends because I couldn’t stand the thought of looking bad in front of them.
what if she or one of her friends sees me get blown out? that asshole I knew in college is in here. You become more and more self conscious every time you lose your place in your speech and the MpfC fires off more concentrated and much more often. You will oscillate between: full attention on your speech --> What they are thinking about me? --> full attention on your speech --> What are they thinking about me? …. You feel disoriented and anxious as a result. the more we are concerned with what the other person thinks about us. What if I use a line and she’s heared it before? she’ll tell everyone in here. this explains why you feel like you are naked on stage when you are in your local bar trying to approach.” Now your MpfC is scanning the room at lightning speed trying to assess the feelings of everyone 52 . this is essentially like driving drunk. If you are scared of public speaking and you are speaking to a group of important clients. The fear of rejection and failure kicks in and fires off your MPFC. you are obviously pulled away from your speech and you lose focus. he’ll probably say something smart ass to me. scanning to assess how they ‘might’ feel or what they ‘might’ be thinking. your MpfC will be doing back flips trying to assess how they feel about you..4. It also fires off when we think about putting ourselves in the shoes of another person looking back at us. the more our MpfC will fire off. Your mind can’t keep up with all the inputs and it’s almost impossible to focus. Now all of a sudden you decide to approach either these groups of people or approach strangers in front of these people.over and over etc… each time this happens. You are in a bar full of people you either know. or have seen multiple times. you are so concerned with what the crowd is thinking that you can’t even talk. “What if it goes wrong? I’ll never be able to show my face in here again.1 approach anxiety we ‘think’ about experiencing an event. This means that our attention gets scattered and fractionated like crazy in high stress situations. kind of know. Before you know it. What if I get blown out and she knows someone I know? My ex girlfriend is in here. Now you can’t stop thinking about what all these people in the bar who you kind of know are thinking about you. If I get blown out in front of him.
but it will feel more like public access channel 13 at 3am. 2 hours. What really happens is that you read an insane amount of information and NeVer digest any of it. When I was learning this stuff and approach anxiety was my number one concern I would drive to cities 1 hour. You will be more apt to keep your composure and stay in the moment. but not with such ferocity.1 approach anxiety in the room. this kind of thinking is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. What this causes is the death of action and the birth of a guy who reads for months and never actually approaches. because of approach anxiety. you will still feel the pressure and your MpfC will still scan the room. i don’t know what to say this is a pretty common. What kind of fool goes up to a woman and says. remedy: DoN’t prACtICe IN tHese plACes!!!!!! It’s that simple. and then stands there like a moron?” that’s actually a fair point. You may still feel like you are on tV. I know I felt the same way when I was learning this stuff. you can slowly test the waters in the places that gave you the most pain. You might be thinking. instead of HBo on sunday night at 9pm. “Any idiot can have the balls to go over there and make a fool of himself. You begin to think that you should read and study pickup ebooks and memorize every possible routine and funny line. 3. sometimes even 4 hours away so I could practice in a place where I didn’t feel like I was on national television. eventually. Yes. Your mind never hardwires any of the concepts and you become a master of theory and you actually get worse with women instead of better. your local bar won’t seem that daunting and you will have little or no trouble approaching a woman in these venues. hi.4. then at some undetermined time in the future. You now feel like you have 50 video cameras on you and the thought of approaching feels about as scary as pulling your cock out on national tV. you plan to start approaching. 53 . If I’m going to go over there. sadly. yet avoidable. thinking like this can cause more long term damage than you can imagine. I want to at least have something to say. once you get comfortable with your approach anxiety in these places. I don’t want to be like that.
While the lines and routines are extremely powerful. Advanced concepts mean nothing if your brain 54 . approaching the next girl makes you even more nervous. bad or good interactions. will help you connect the dots between each piece of new information you acquire. When. If you can’t open then there is no reason to be reading about the newest qualification technique or sexual frame to have. so. You are so nervous because you haven’t approached in a long time and when you finally do. You need to start with small amounts of knowledge. pick one or two things to open with and one or two things to transition with. You become over stuffed with random knowledge. You read and assume. this makes you feel anxiety and frustration. You feel guilty inside because you feel like you should be really good considering you know theory better than any dating coach on the planet and you wonder how it is possible with all that reading. the act of actually approaching and interacting with women. because each experience seems to validate that you are completely lost. but you have no idea what to do with it or what order it should go in.000 miles begins with a single step. they are worthless in bulk. Approach anxiety is the first one on that list. You build false constructs in your mind of what the author really means and you create some weird mutation of reality.” take one piece of information and go out and master it before moving on to the next. remedy: As the age-old saying goes. When you just read all the time or talk pickup all the time.1 approach anxiety reading without practical application through real world experience causes you to develop major gaps in your learning. digest those. “A journey of 1. and if. and really master them before moving on to the next piece. you simply play a guessing game in your head. you ever do decide to take action. stick with them until your approach anxiety drops to a reasonable level and you feel like you have those down.4. Give up on the idea that you need to have the perfect thing to say before you approach a woman. your brain locks up and gives you massive approach anxiety because you have all this information in your head. it goes either horribly bad or just ok. you still can’t think of anything to say. Change your mission. take the 1.000 things there are to learn in game and learn them one at a time. Your approach anxiety will go away in direct proportion to the amount of women you approach and your ability to master one step at a time. stick with these 2 things for a while.
Give yourself a break and tackle this one thing first.1 approach anxiety and body are engulfed with crippling anxiety. no matter how short or long. Yes. they will make things worse because your brain will feel clogged. You don’t need to memorize 300 lines to talk to an old friend. please. the recipe: to defeat your approach anxiety. your brain will allow you more access to the creative side of your brain. realize that there is no reason why you can’t just walk up. The first week you do this. you need to expose yourself to gradual increasing doses of social pressure. and the opposite end of that spectrum might be smacking a girl on the ass. the women won’t care and it will take tons of pressure off of you. in time you will obviously need to stay longer. you will become bored just approaching and walking off. You do not have to stand there like an idiot for an hour having an awkward conversation. it’s like going to the gym for your brain. Keep doing the same one until the anxiety it gives you is either manageable or non-existent. the more your brain will calm down and begin picking up conversational reference experiences. the more times you expose yourself to these situations. every time you approach and start a conversation. you are just working on beating approach anxiety. right? As you become more and more relaxed with this process. once you hit that threshold. you may run out of things to say after 5 seconds! However. Also. the more material you can add if you like. but for now. Between those two polarities you can expose yourself to gradual increases. transition. as your mind calms down in these highpressure situations. trust me when I say that you will never memorize 300 routines and be able to go out to a bar and use them. Go out and give yourself mini missions. If anything. open. right? 55 . and then politely eject. Memorizing 300 routines is Not a remedy for approach anxiety or a recipe to get laid. move on to the next thing on your list that gives you an increased dose of social pressure. After numerous approaches over several weekends. You might get nervous on the first few of each night.4. the more calm and the more internalized your openers and transitions become. It’s not about memorizing more lines. but most of them will feel like nothing. You will literally build conversational muscles. you just relax and talk to one another. the lowest form of this may simply be talking to a clothing store clerk. you can begin to stay longer and longer. it’s about being calm in those situations so you can access what you already know. please.
If you are not careful. If you are not used to dating very many women or you are new to cold approach. they assume that the woman sees some deep internal character flaw in them that must be true. then most/all women must not like them. At the end of the day. then getting over the fear of rejection can feel daunting. Many guys take it personally. this is the path that will lead you to dating those women by giving you the positive reference experience 56 . they will be relegated to dating the women that come on to them or they will have to build a dynasty of a social circle and hope it creates enough gravity to draw women to them based on their lifestyle and social alliances. it is not the least bit uncommon to have below average women look at you like you have a dick growing out of your forehead when you approach. because you may be used to beautiful women in your old social circles being all over you or even nervous to talk to you. You can only pump yourself up for so long and keep telling yourself that it will be ok or that “It’s not you. the absolute ideal state is indifference. you are not too worried about what they are thinking and you have little or no concern about what the room is thinking. you write out clearly defined. While you may not be getting laid or getting the women you want for that time. especially in the first 6 to 9 months. even if you are a guy who is lucky enough to have been extremely successful with women in your social circles. This one single factor is enough to keep most guys on the sidelines their entire lives.” This is why it’s so crucial that. i’m not interested in you”: The fear of rejection can be a heavy feeling when you first start out.4. When you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance. this can create some deep seeded inner game issues that are hard to unwind. Because of this fear/pain. you are still hitting those small goals. You can gain a ton of confidence by hitting small goal after small goal. putting yourself in these gradual-increasing levels of social pressure will help you reach indifference much faster. it is successful reference experiences that breed confidence. You will hear “no” from beautiful women and from women you wouldn’t even consider dating anyway. Your goal should be to get it to a manageable level. facing the harsh reality of “no. this can be a mind trip. you will have to get used to hearing “no” in cold approach. and realistic goals. this is the feeling you have when you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance. it’s them. measurable. these small goals slowly give birth to bigger and bigger goals.1 approach anxiety You will never completely eradicate your approach anxiety and that should not be your goal. In the sloppy world of cold approach. They assume that if several women reject them.
so. would you get your feelings hurt and become deflated if you weren’t a millionaire tomorrow? 3 months from now? 6 months from now? of course not. step back and draw up a realistic 6 month game plan where you can have success. If you are new and you have MAssIVe approach anxiety…. just step up and make it happen!! -Braddock 57 .1 approach anxiety you need to build durable confidence. You would set up a game plan and a business strategy full of subsidiary goals all leading to the attainment of the big goal. If you wanted to become a millionaire. stop beating yourself up with ridiculous goals and stop feeling bad when you don’t have some epic sexual conquest or get 5 phone numbers. You can do this.stop MAKING Your GoAl to Get lAID!!!!!!!! ready for some real talk??? you are not likely to consistently get laid or get an extremely hot girlfriend through cold approach for several months or longer if you are at the stage where you still suffer from severe approach anxiety.4. Do the same with your dating life. a million dollars.
html Question: What are the steps a guy can follow to go from not really approaching ANY women to approaching at least 1 woman per day with no fear of rejection.? answer: He needs to first set realistic goals.e.com/braddock/93683-q-approach-anxiety.theattractionforums. once that is under control. i. When you are first starting out and you are just trying to get over your fear of rejection.” I would go in with the mindset of accomplishing one mission: • “I’m going to go open her and transition with a cold read and then eject. “excuse me. I would give myself fun “mini missions.2 Q & a on approach anxiety http://www. if i had to start all over from scratch.” I would keep doing these types of things until I could do them with little or no anxiety. I would just make the mini missions a little harder each time. If a guy has never done a single approach.4. i would say: first just start with baby steps. do you know which way sunset Blvd is?” “Hi.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and tease her about something and get her laughing. 58 .. Do not approach hoping for a phone number. and i could give myself a little advice. then eject. once I got comfortable with that. and then eject.. and his measure of success on any one approach is either getting a phone number or getting laid.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and try to ask her one qualifying question before I eject. can you tell me what time it is?” etc… I would do this until my mind calmed down in these situations before I tried to graduate up to the more advanced and lengthy conversations. then he is setting himself up for long term failure. don’t approach with any outcome in mind.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and high five her for something random. I would tell myself to go out and just open girls with information gathering questions and then eject.
I would give myself a “there’s no way out rule” where I wasn’t allowed to eject until she either walked off or until I had her phone number. they have a learning strategy called. In the army. and more specifically. walk. It is what it is.” this is the proper way to attack any new endeavor. can’t identify with running because it has zero reference points to link too. don’t waste another second on it. “crawl. Their mind. As a result. it locks up and fires off the emotion of fear and anxiety. they need to accept that rejection is part of the process and that we all go through it. their self concept. Accept it and move on. that would be a great place to start. even once you reach mastery. and pickup is no different. jog. Guys get locked up because they are trying to run when they can’t even crawl. run. Maybe.2 Q & a on approach anxiety once I felt like I could do them with ease. Don’t dwell on it and don’t try to understand why. “Why do I have to lift weights and eat right to have a good body?” -Braddock 59 . When you give it the mission of “crawl” the self concept can conceptualize that mission. It’s like asking. I would create fun new rules.4.
then I would Not go direct right away. You can usually tell if they are dating just by watching how they interact with one another. I would either open the girl and introduce myself to the guys if and 60 . What’s the best way to open mixed sets? Do you just run any normal opener (e. Long Distance Relationship.com/braddock/103560-opening-mixed-groups-guys-girls. If you are getting approach invitations and the guys look like pussies.4. then I would just go direct on the girl and the guys will usually melt away. you have a couple of options. there are too many girls to try to mess with that and it’s a quick way to get in a fight. but I never do it on a girl that looks like she is truly dating a guy. I’ve done this a bunch of times and never had an altercation. only when the guys are standing around her and she looks bored.g. When actually opening mixed sets.html originally posted by tornadopuA Hey guys. “you turn everyone around her into spectators. Drunk I love yous. If I can tell they are dating. If you don’t have approach invitations/or the guys look like normal to tougher guys.” It’s pretty awesome when you can make this hit. As tim from rsD would say. 2. etc.theattractionforums. Is kissing cheating. I always watch for a little while to learn the group dynamic. I move on. Tornado answer: 1. If they are holding hands or overly comfortable with simple touching. It’s pretty risky and you better make sure the guys around her aren’t meat head guys that get pissed easy. you can usually tell.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) http://www. A. B.) on the guys then ask how everyone know each other and then move on to talk with the girls or do you do some small talk with the guys (on what subjects?) for like 2-3 minutes and then ask him to introduce you to the rest of the group? Thanks.
You weren’t flirting with her technically. 61 . Just talk to him as if he is an old friend. Just be polite as if you are meeting a stranger on a plane. In that case. pussy orbiter guys will answer the same question with. how do you guys know each other?” You can tell pretty quickly after asking this what the score is. C. but it’s actually quite useful for getting you out of potentially dangerous situations and quite powerful for quickly making friends and getting introductions to really hot girls.” which may sound silly. He’ll act like a dick and try to dismiss you and the woman will start to act more dismissive to you as well. “this is my girlfriend” even though it’s clearly not. I won’t ask this until I think the girl is somewhat attracted to me or if I can tell the guy is getting mad. You are just a chatty guy who happened to start a conversation with his girlfriend. When a guy like this says that. If you act like you are doing something wrong then the guy will smell the fear and blow you out. and say.4. sometimes. Now. just ignore him and continue going after her. and don’t act like you did something wrong. You can open the guy. Meet the rest of his group if he is a warm guy. “You didn’t tell me this is your boyfriend? How long have you guys been dating?” If she likes you she will almost always clarify the situation and make it awkward for the guy. If it’s legitimately his girlfriend then don’t just run off. Put his mind at ease by talking to him and getting to know him a little bit. Don’t be a dick and don’t act like you are doing something wrong. Don’t kiss his ass either. Be warm to him just long enough to get his respect and then move back to the girl. find a natural place to excuse yourself and move on. If he’s not.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) when they tried to come in. I usually smile and turn to her. the key question that everyone knows you must ask if you don’t know is: “so. Most people in the community dismiss the art of “Guy Game. that looks weird.
I make a statement about how he better quit staring at my girlfriend and I point to the fattest. let me introduce you.” -Braddock 62 . Calabrese says that guys are easy..whatever he says. pussy.”Are you friends with Brian Hawkins? I swear I met you at one of his parties.. and beer.. I make a statement about how hot the girls are in there.. woman in the place. then I’ll say. “I’m kinda talking to that sara girl and that blond over there is dating my cousin. has the best “Guy Game” I’ve ever seen..4. which one are you dating?” He’ll. Calabrese. I don’t ever open them with a traditional opener. “You guys celebrating something tonight or what?” He’ll say. I’ll say. It’s too transparent.bla bla bla..3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) one of our instructors. is that your girlfriend?” or. I usually ask them if x local sports team won that night. oldest. but that blond right there is single and she is a slut... because there are only 3 things you need to talk to them about to build rapport: sports. because if a guy did that to me I would laugh in his face and quickly dismiss him. then I might say. “that girl right there is really cute. then (assuming you built a decent rapport) break down the entire group dynamics for you and often times introduce you to girls. “Did you graduate from oklahoma? You look really familiar?” or.. I just have a 2 to 3 minute conversation about random shit and then I say. “these girls are really cute. or. that’s it. sometimes. just to get him laughing. He opens guys quite a bit and almost always ends up meeting one of the guy’s girl buddies..” then.
local Vs.Creating the right push to pull ratio .How push/pull Works .the Breakdown 63 . Global themes 5.2 how to flirt with Women: the art of push/pull - The Definition of Push/Pull .covered in thiS chapter: 5.Why Jokes Hit and Why they Don’t .1 Q & a: how can i make Girls Laugh? .
. and have seen at least the top movies. What I figured out is that I was trying to pull them into humor that required too much insider info for a newcomer.1 Q and a: how can i make girls laugh? http://www. then they will get these jokes. think of it like this. I’m just kidding..then. You guys build joke after joke off of themes that have been running for years.any ideas on how to break that barrier? What makes me funny is heavy doses of cheap booze and even cheaper women. In cold approach. but its really hard to just get into that same mindset with a stranger. you have “local” and “global” themes. You’ve seen the same movies.. A girl coming into your preexisting social circle will laugh at jokes she doesn’t quite get to feel accepted or because she can tell everyone else is responding to you well. have internet... been on the same trips.. since all members know each member very well. This is what usually manifests with your buddies. 64 . “Global” themes are themes that everyone can get and that need zero prior knowledge for them to be understood. you don’t get that luxury. because it probably actually ties in several “local” themes that have been long running. maybe. you know specific quirks and character traits of each member of the group. I also noticed that women found my jokes much funnier once I dropped in that I had a 13 inch cock. Cracking my boys up and girls in my social circle . watch some tV..same jokes on girls in cold approach and a God damn tumble weed would roll through the room and you could hear crickets chirp..com/braddock/126791-q-how-can-i-make-girls-laugh..5. In humor. As long as they have been on the planet.. a joke about one of those member’s quirks will get a laugh out of everyone.. I had this same problem.html originally posted by barney stintson: so i can crack an endless amount of jokes and teases when i’m with my close friends. local themes are themes that are funny only if you have been in that exact situation or had that exact very specific experience.theattractionforums. A one liner from a favorite movie will have the group cracking up.
. they can get used to you. but it obviously risks them not getting it and making you feel like your cock is hanging out in 2* weather. this can happen really fast.5. see your style of humor.. -Braddock 65 . but by starting with these.. Jumping in with the “local” jokes is doable.1 Q & a: how can i make Girls Laugh? these jokes are often less funny. and then you can start building “local” jokes with them as the interaction progresses. you can open them up to the idea that you are funny. Introduce a “global” theme and if they laugh. or. Just tell them you have a 13 inch cock that you want to put in or around their mouth. start introducing “local” themes to add spice and conspiracy between the two of you.
how to flirt with Women: the art of push/pull
http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/111917-braddock-how-flirt-women-art-push-pull. html In my years of being a Dating Coach it’s become apparent that the most important and easiest way to flirt with women is to use what is called push/pull. Basic Definition: “Saying something nice and dove tailing it with something mean or saying something mean and dove tailing it with something nice.” On a more advanced level of flirting, using push/pull is the art of using both your physical touch/ facial expressions and your words in unison. this could mean that you tease her about something or playfully call her out on something, yet while doing so, you are smiling, you pull her in and hug her just before she gets mad to show her you are kidding. the guys I know who are the best with women when it comes to flirting, building attraction in the first encounter, building attraction in social circle settings, or maintaining a fun relationship are masters of push/pull. to truly master push/pull you must learn to calibrate to the woman. each woman has her own default push/pull blueprint. some girls‘ blueprint is that they respond best when the ratio is 5 pushes to every 1 pull. With these types of women, they will quickly get bored with a guy who tries to compliment “pull” too often. even with these women, the pull must appear at some point or she will give up, lose interest, and assume you are just a jerk. Other girls’ default blueprint is just the opposite. If you want to properly flirt with these women, you will be best off giving light compliments “pulling” maybe 5 times for every one tease “push.” However, even though each woman has her own default blueprint for when she first meets new guys, this blueprint can quickly change relative to your value. that same woman who would have felt massive attraction to a 5 pushes to 1 pull ratio, will not be receptive to a low value guy attempting such a ratio. However, the woman who responds better to 5 pulls and 1 push and would normally get upset if an average guy teased her too much, will have no problem being teased hard by a guy who she considers extremely high value in her social circle, or by a celebrity.
How to Flirt with Women: The Art of Push/Pull
Basic example of push/pull: the push: (underlined) the pull: (Bold) I meet a girl, we are flirting, but 10 minutes in I find out she is from Texas. Since I’m originally from oklahoma, there is a natural reason for immediate push/pull. Braddock: “Damn, you’re from texas. (faking disappointment with face and body language) this sucks, you’re really cute and i was just starting to like you, but now I have to break up with you. I’m going to need my CD’s back and my letter jacket. Now that I know you are from texas, I don’t feel so bad about cheating on you. But, you were amazing in bed. this makes me sad.” (pretend to walk away, then come back smiling. she drops her jaw and playfully punches me in the arm. i pull her in, hug her and kiss her on the cheek). Breakdown of the above: the push? (underlined) Any point in the above where I’m saying something mean, pretend to break up with her, pretend to be disappointed, or fake walking away. Go out and practice pushing as hard as you can without pissing girls off. the sweet spot is when she is almost mad, but you can tell she likes that you have the balls to push her buttons, yet the social savvy to release the tension by intermittently complimenting or physically being warm by “pulling.” Go out for a week and mess this up. I give you permission to piss some girls off. this is the only way you will know what the boundary is with this stuff. the more she likes you and the more attracted she is, the harder you can push. this is how you build deep layers of attraction with women. the farther you can successfully take things with the teasing “pushing”, the better it will feel for her when you do release the tension by being warm verbally or physically, “pulling.” the pull? (Bold) Any point in the above where I compliment her, smile, or physically escalate. When you are trying to flirt with women, don’t kill the sexual tension by over pulling.
How to Flirt with Women: The Art of Push/Pull
Most guys will say, “Just kidding” when the girl wasn’t even mad. save comments like “just kidding” for when you truly piss her off and even then, use it sparingly. Also, don’t kill sexual tension by playfully pushing, but laughing at your own joke too early in an attempt to break the tension, hoping she will ‘be ok with it.’ Have some balls and be ok with creating some tension. this tension is what makes the compliments, “the pull”, actually feel really good. No tension + pulling = no attraction and no secondary gain of the pull feeling good. pulling with no attraction is simply validating her, not causing a connection. Go out and practice complimenting. range them and see what happens. Notice the difference when you give light compliments after several teases. Notice that it doesn’t kill the tension, but actually allows you to push it farther. then try over complimenting too early and being way too nice and notice how it kills the sexual tension and makes it even harder to push the next time. Would you guys like more articles like this? Comment below and let me know. -Braddock
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the more you just sound like a chump who is jaded by women. • Takeaways are best used by acting through your own intentions.pssst). o You can fake takeaways. she likes the jousting and every time you do a takeaway she submits more and more on a sub communication level and eventually she is chasing you and escalating you physically and sometimes logistically.. takeaways are a push in nature.1 takeaways for SnLs remember.. 71 . we are getting a divorce. some girls hate that. the harder the takeaways can be. you need to be fucking possessed. • The less power you have. • The best way to qualify what you are is to disqualify what you ARE NOT.” • The more she likes you. she will eventually give up or get defensive. Change up the push/pull ratio and find her blueprint. but calmly submissive (yes. • Here you will do takeaways to punish resistance. o some girls will need 100. earliest form of takeaways: • Role Play takeaways: o that’s it.6. • The less she likes you. o this post is a gross generalization. so go 3 pushes to every 1 pull. stolen from Dog Whisper pssst. o try them out and see how she responds and calibrate accordingly. • To get 10’s on a same night or to get 10’s you will usually need takeaways. As TD would say. so go 3 pulls to every 1 push. remember how push/pull works. every woman has a different blueprint and therefore responds to different things. o some girls will need Zero takeaways. “to same night lay a 10. o A perfect balance is when the girl is frustrated.. Some girls like a dick. but the more you do the less they will hit. • You have to be fucking fearless when you do takeaways. the lighter the takeaways must be. If you are all push.
passionate sex.. even though I think you are fucking hot. let’s go to the bar….“ • Running from your feelings: o I need to get away from you. • She says something you don’t like: o Go silent. 72 . o Girls like you are bad for me. o fuck this.. o I fucking hate girls like you. we aren’t having sex.” • “Your friend is starting to piss me off…I think I’m out of here. pulling stage takeaways: • “You know what. o You are fired. 3 months of crazy. o You and I would end up hating each other after about 2 months. o You have been eliminated.I know how this story ends. I always end up dating girls like you.6. o I can’t keep talking to you. girls like you are bad for me. o Give short answers and talk to everyone else (make her feel the burn). if you stick around I’m going to do bad things to you and I promised myself when I saw you. o Ignore her.ok this is date 2…” o This would be all fights and make up sex. ok.” Beat Her to the punch takeaways: • You are a player aren’t you? • Just so you know. we are breaking up. and a horrible breakup. o (Dubbsy style): “How many dates before I can get in your pants…at least 3 I’m guessing. but if that’s all you think I want from you after talking to you all night then fuck this….1 takeaways for SnLs o that’s it. You need to run along…. so this is date one. o Being almost annoyed by her presence. takeaways In Comfort: • Admitting your sexual desires: o “I think you better go. I like you. fights every day. I would just be your friend.I’m out.
” o Girl: “You can’t come in. I didn’t know you were x. no wait. if that’s true.don’t come. If you don’t trust me….” • “If you don’t want to be with me then stay here with your friends. then tonight is a waste of time.. if you think that’s all I want. You know I like you. no wait…. fuck it. I want you to come.” • “Go with your friends.” o “I had no idea you were this judgmental.” • “I want to go. I do.6.” o “look. -Braddock 73 . either come or don’t. then fuck this.” suck it. I’m not having sex with you.1 takeaways for SnLs logistic takeaways: • “Look. but I’m not going to beg you to. I’m fucking out.” o You: “You know what. if you have to listen to your friends then go. but I’m not into one night stands.” (organizing principle: “I thought you were awesome.” • “I know this sounds weird.”) • Reversals o “I didn’t think you were like this.” takeaways In seduction : • “Promise me this won’t be a one night stand.
her threshold might only be met by a guy who looks like Brad pitt. it would almost be impossible. the moon. the sun. and the stars would have to align for someone to have sex with her that night.6. and she has to be feeling xYZ feelings etc etc etc. some guys go super sexual verbally and escalate really fast.theattractionforums. her friends couldn’t know about it. remember.2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. If the right guy came along at the right time. she wouldn’t have sex. the thought of having sex on the same night for some women might be so taboo that no matter how turned on.. some women will literally go their entire life and never have sex with a guy the same night she met him because her threshold is so high.com/braddock/103638-same-night-lay-simple-pointers. 74 . some guys are all about building massive comfort. but because so many strange variables would have to be covered. but for now here are a few pointers that should help… SnL threshold: Any girl can turn into a sNl. tyler D used to say that it’s all about finding her blueprint.. attracted. there are so many things that go into having good same night game and there are so many different styles you can take. runs perfect game. some guys are all about sexual framing.. and other guys are all about building huge amounts of sexual tension through push/pull until the girl basically pulls them into the bedroom (my personal favorite). even the sweetest girl or most high value woman in the world “could” have a same night lay. If one of those things was off. every girl has a different blueprint that may take one or several of the things mentioned below. the problem is that each woman has a different threshold for what it would take to have sex with a guy the same night. some women’s threshold is so high that it’s impossible for almost anyone on the planet to get there in one night. here are a few things that will help you have more consistent success.. logistically. Not because she’s “so moral”. http://www. it could happen.. these are just generalities. Maybe one day I will have time to write extensively on same night lay game.html If you are a guy that is oNlY looking for same night lays. and comfortable with the guy she was. it had to be the perfect location.
Ie “You know I’m not going to have sex with you. in most cases. Who did she come with? Who drove? How far away does she live? etc. Most girls aren’t like this.neXt Set! If you are obsessed with sNls then you will want to screen any girl out that has a moderate to high threshold. I’m just making the case for some women so you don’t beat yourself up every time a woman won’t go home with you.6. terrible logistics will override attraction and she will end up not going home with you. what I’m talking about are things that are obvious red flags that “most of the time” spell an extremely high threshold that will put the brakes on the same night lay later that night.. So….2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. you need to get good at reading girls thresholds.MoVe oN!! • Bad Logistics: If she lives 45 minutes away and she is with a carload of friends. the point is that if you are obsessed with same night lays. she may logistically follow you around the club and would stand there all night long but won’t let you make even the most basic of escalation…. I’m talking about the woman who will barely let you hold her hand. then. I suggest you move on. I’m not talking about listening to what she says exactly…. screen for girls that have a medium to low same night threshold. right?” We all know what she can say often times betrays what she really feels.. etc… If several of these questions get shit answers…. if she gives major resistance to any of the below….. No.find out logistics early. (All these assume you understand calibration and assume you have massive attraction) • She flinches multiple times at the idea of bouncing: Most women will give token resistance to bouncing back to your place. • She flinches when you escalate: I’m not talking about a girl who doesn’t want to look like a slut in front of her friends.. who wants to drive her back 45 minutes away in the morning? Besides that. but a woman with a high SNL threshold will flinch hard every time you even hint at bouncing no matter how attracted she is. even if you could pull this girl..MoVe oN!!!! 75 .
• She flinches when you joke sexually: Once again I’m not talking about when you don’t have attraction and you are trying to talk sexual like a horny 7th grader. then I’m moving on.2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. most of your mom’s fall in the “low sNl threshold..” -Braddock 76 . sexual teasing.If I can’t put her in at least a semi sexual state.. sexual qualification etc. but for you advanced guys it should make sense. sexual frames. obviously. same night lays are much more complex than this.…. remember. I’m talking about when you know she is interested and she just won’t bite on any kind of sexual role play.” My mom would of course be in the “high sNl threshold. and these are generalities.6.
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how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power.”
how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power”
one of my favorite quotes and the foundational pillars of social Circle Mastery is, “proximity is power.” At the end of the day, you guys wouldn’t be doing this if you didn’t want hotter women in your life. If it was just sex or quantity, then, you could just take down a drunk bar pig every night. However, at the end of the day, I got into all of this to date/bang hotter women. (GoD Help Me If ANYoNe oN Here WrItes tHe GAYest sAYING of All tIMe, “But BrADDoCK ...A Hot GIrl Is relAtIVe. WHAt’s Hot to You MAY Be uGlY to Me.”) fuCK You!!!!! ok, moving on. What I have discovered is that at the end of the day, the guys who date the Hottest women Are Not NeCessArIlY the guys with the best game....No. they are the guys with “enough” game... but superior proximity. they are the guys who have consistent close proximity to beautiful women. I know some of my boys back in oklahoma who have some of the best game I’ve ever seen....who AreN’t dating beautiful women consistently. When they come visit me in lA, they smash it. they are like kids in a candy store. However, in Oklahoma, they are fighting for one of the three hot girls in the club or social circle and the margin for error is insanely small. on the other end of the spectrum, I have buddies in lA who have very average game, but they have access to beautiful women through their social circle, and as a result, they are consistently dating hot women. Guys are always asking me, “How do I get hotter women?” they think I’m going to give them some trick line or inner game shift that will set them free and unleash their inner cocksman. they are usually disappointed by my answers...
.4.000 times... A girl in this club thinks she’s a 15...10 times and not have to be so pushy and desperate.” this is why sCM is so important. I’m great on 6’s and 7’s.. “Become friends with a few club promoters. when you snag the one hot girl out of the shit venue after going there 3.... “figure out where there is a large gathering of hot girls.... “fall into friend mode with at least 3 hot girls who have hot friends. If you normally go 3 for 10 in any club regardless of quality.social club.we all do when we only go to shit bars with one hot girl in them and we can feel that we have one shot and it must be a homerun)....class. wouldn’t you rather go 3 for 10 in a room full of super hot women? I would.10 girls. classic inner Game issues Stemming from this: “I get shaky around hot women..and 1 hot girl. so things can happen more organically? I do. “stop beating yourself up wondering why you can’t pull the one 10 out of that shit local bar near your house where there are 300 dudes.. true 10’s. Consistently? No.” (Guess what.hobby. Guys develop major inner game issues over this very simple distinction.. If you pull her..” (Yeah. I can’t be myself.” 3. you’re 81 . coupled with game and a few lucky logistical breaks.. it’s less a measure of skill and more random luck. because in that room she is. Do you want to make things easy on yourself so you can see her 3..” 2. because she is so hard to replace.” 4.get access to all those clubs that won’t let you in.. Do you get a special blue ribbon if you can? No. you are still greatly increasing your odds if you are in a room full of beautiful women. “When I get a hot girl I can’t walk away from her no matter how bad the relationship is. even if you are limited to cold approach because you don’t have time to build a social circle. Create a lifestyle where you are naturally in the path of hot women all the time.7..1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” 1..5.and join that.. Can you sniper off a 10 in a shit venue? Yes.
get blown out by hot girls. You need to have some skill. -Braddock 82 .. (Not “pickup guys.you probably just need less than you think.. Your body will calm down and you will start to feel less stressed about any one girl. you will get used to being around hot girls.” just normal guys who get it and understand this naturally. How to penetrate these places and social circles? that’s a whole post in itself.7. and surrounding yourself with a team of cool guys who get it.1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” going to feel a complete lack of abundance). It starts with getting your lifestyle together. getting involved. :D ok. next caller.) Am I saying you don’t need good game? of course not. You will warm up on hot girls. When you build a social circle full of hot girls and you start penetrating the hottest clubs in your area... and land some of those hot girls.
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theattractionforums. movies. we learn these behaviors at such a young age. the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree with most people.7. he probably taught you to be impatient and bitter toward women in general. If your dad was a weak guy who was just happy to have ‘a’ wife. you’ll likely find yourself dominating women in relationships.com/braddock/116314-dating-tip-become-successful-womenmodeling. We must be careful about the lessons we internalize and hold as fact. We tend to be identical to one or a combination of our parents’ belief systems in regards to love and relationships. you’ll likely find yourself in similar relationships. and caring relationship? Were you raised by parents who fought all the time and were basically roommates? these models have a profound effect on you and will continue to play out in your own life if you are not aware of them and you don’t change them. then through watching our friends. Maybe your dad cheated on 84 . “that guy is a natural”. they are now autopilot responses.html modeling the most common way we learn our dating habits is through modeling the behaviors of others. etc… When you hear someone say. If your dad was overbearing and dominated women in an unhealthy way. It starts with modeling our parents when we are children. confident guy? Were you raised by a single mom who was overly religious and guarded? Were you raised by parents who had a healthy. then you were probably taught to put women on a pedestal and accept any and all behavior to please her. what they really mean is. he had some great modeling as a child. you probably learned that deep meaningful relationships with women are unrealistic and you learned to stay distant and guarded. loving. If your dad was a wimp who got pushed around by your mom. who did you accidentally model? Was your dad a smooth. We do them automatically and have a blind spot to how they might be holding us back.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling http://www. If your dad was a distant father who cheated on your mom but was loving and charismatic to the rest of the family. sadly. these blind spots could rear their head in multiple arenas depending on who you modeled. When you think back to your childhood. If your dad married the wrong woman or was cheated on. modeling family Just because someone we love and look up to did something a certain way doesn’t make it the best/ right way.
” I couldn’t agree more. because that’s what you modeled. some of those great tactics that cause deep levels of attraction can be taken too far and cause a toxic relationship where it’s nothing but fights and jealousy. healthy relationship. thought patterns. but this in no way makes them qualified to be a mentor in relationship management. 85 . The relationship becomes a constant power struggle where the primary tools of expressing love are jealousy. unless you have seen someone you consider successful in a loving. you follow his relationship/dating advice dogmatically because you can’t stand the idea of letting him down. then. We’ve all heard the saying. when you have a son. so you went the polar opposite.7. modeling friends I think picking a healthy peer group is one of the most important decisions of your life. and unhealthy boundary function. some of the most charismatic friends I’ve ever had who could attract the hottest women and sleep with any girl they wanted were absolutely terrible at keeping an amazing woman or having a healthy relationship. if you are modeling this. or even great at attracting women. you can expect to end up in the same relationship prison. We often assume success in one area of life must mean success in all areas of life. withdrawal. It’s not about connecting and dating their equal. be careful about modeling their behaviors. you do the same thing to him unknowingly. I have mentors who are great at attracting beautiful women. You have vowed to never hurt a woman and you’ve taken it so far that you feel guilty if you even tease a woman or shoot her straight. a good person. You’ll follow his advice even at the risk of marrying the wrong woman and having an unsatisfying relationship for years just so you don’t disappoint him. However. great at business.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling your mom and you saw how hurt your mom was. despite this. “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. it’s about dominating a woman and making sure she knows who has the power. Maybe you have a father who you look up to as if he is a superhero and he is amazing in most areas of his life but has a terrible relationship with your mother. and actions. Just because a friend is a good friend. Well. doesn’t mean you should model how he handles relationships.
and crush. Model specific behaviors. Don’t necessarily model someone’s life. overall character. I remember after one of my girlfriends dumped me there was about a year and a half where I hated women. they are extremely smart and interesting. sleep with. Does it sound like it’s coming from a good place…. and because I was still good enough to sleep with women despite being jaded. Be careful about accepting any dating advice as fact and be leery of modeling the thoughts and opinions just because a guy says he’s a dating coach. Be very careful about this or you could find yourself running around a club wearing a top hat and 12 inch platform shoes. and the damage I probably caused in their lives and relationships. 86 .7. unfortunately. I’d spew my hate about women to all my friends and look for any shred of evidence I could find to validate my dark views toward them.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling even worse is modeling the unhealthy friend who is jaded by women. I saw them as users of men. fake. have deep issues. it was a horribly unhealthy model for my friends to follow. Because I’m a charismatic guy. every woman in the tri-state area. are not as good with women as they say they are. I just genuinely despised them. and write tons of blog posts and articles that are half truths at best. modeling Gurus one of the biggest mistakes you can make is modeling the wrong dating coach. these are the charismatic guys who speak from such a place of authority it can be easy to get sucked into their reality and believe what they say and think. but because they are either bad with women or were hurt by a woman. and. I’d joke negative about women. manipulative. often times. over hype how good they are with women. disloyal.we all do this. take the time to read numerous posts from that particular dating coach and try to read between the lines and figure out where he’s coming from. this industry is full of weird guys who hate women. I did it…. it probably is. and overall proactive thought patterns. I still feel guilty about the things I accidentally taught the guys around me. jump on any opportunity to help my friends find reasons to dump their girlfriends. my friends couldn’t help but model my behavior.a healthy place? Is it coming from a confident guy who is sharing what works or is he constantly trying to prove himself to an unknown audience? Does it sound like a guy trying to get validation from men by bragging? Is he writing to impress or teach? Does what he say sound WAY too good to be true? If so. I was one of these guys for a while. and was on a search and destroy mission to find. they spew their negative beliefs onto anyone who is willing to listen.
you are modeling a really unhealthy guy and modeling 1/2 truths that aren’t even real. don’t model the guy who is constantly in a long term relationship. “You have shit in your teeth.000 one night stands. If you meet a guy who is great with women.7. 87 . you will be setting yourself up to attract the same kind of women. they make it sound like they are going out and pulling super models in the bathroom every night. you will find yourself frustrated and might even feel bad about yourself wondering why you can’t get the same results. Model someone who is getting the results you want. Make sure whoever you model is getting the results you want. things like “negging” have caused huge problems for guys all over the world. A lot of guys give no context for the things they teach or the things they tell you to say. If you want a relationship. If you want 1. Worse than anything. that doesn’t mean you can’t steal a page out of each guy’s playbook. but you’ll want to put your main focus of modeling on people who are getting the result you want. so good guys end up getting blown out by girls and coming across really creepy. Make sure the guy you are modeling is healthy or you will ultimately pay the price. but all the girls he dates are damaged unhealthy women. there are guys all over going up to girls and saying rude comments like. Going to a bootcamp and watching guys who are amazing with women is priceless. if you are modeling the mindsets of some of these guys. some of the guys I’ve met through this don’t need to be giving advice to anyone and could use a bump in the dosage of their psych meds. don’t model the guy who bangs 4 girls per week but hasn’t had a real relationship in his life. they don’t tell you that they do those rarely and the girl usually is average looking at best. Guys will over hype things like bathroom pulls and other things that sound exciting on paper. Who should you model? Modeling the right dating coach or natural can be extremely helpful.” The idea of negging is fine if it is explained properly. but it’s not.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Another big problem I have with the community is many of the guys who teach this are not qualified to teach and those that are often write about and teach things that happen 1 out of 100 times instead of teaching about what happens 99 out of 100 times. Hearing the mindsets and beliefs of guys who are fantastic with women can really set a good course for your dating life especially if you don’t have anyone who is good to model. If you read this and try to model it.
Be careful when you model someone that you don’t try to become that person. Never try to become the person you are modeling. What if you are forced to be around bad models? You’re not forCeD to be around anyone. You choose who you spend your time with and can choose to go through the pain of clipping bad friends and finding new healthy social circles. if they have a terribly unhealthy relationship. 88 . that’s ok. I do have family members who I love. He would use the exact jokes I would normally say and had pretty much copied the way I dressed. I couldn’t get any light to grow. It’s ok to tell people you want them to mentor you. and avoiding certain topics with them. I had a friend in college who tried really hard to do what I was doing and it got strange at times. It annoyed me. surrounding yourself with healthy people will help you think. Don’t let unhealthy people pave the way for your thoughts. It creates a weird dynamic if you go out with a guy and you can tell he’s trying to be you. When you go out with these guys. they would get so much attention that I would almost feel worse about myself when I would try to keep up. but you have to keep your identity and be your own person. You have to guard your inner game like it’s fort Knox. etc… It was not flattering. use it as an opportunity to learn. joked. came off weird to our friends. spend some time going out with these guys and spend some time going out with guys more on your level so you can grow as well. but they were so good that I felt like the little tree that was surrounded by trees so big. and behave. What I’ve done with these people is never give them a platform to taint my thoughts or accidentally corrupt me with the bad models they demonstrate. but it was well worth it in the long run. stop asking bad models for advice. Also. I NeVer discuss my relationships with them and will only discuss theirs if they are asking for advice. more healthily. for example. I’ve done it 3 or 4 times in my life. I’ve had friends who were drastically better than me in the past.7. But. Also. just because a guy is a good model to learn from. carbon copies of him. but are not the best models in certain areas whom I do spend time with.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling model behaviors and thoughts…don’t try to Be that person. stop letting them give you advice. doesn’t mean he’s a good guy to continuously go out with. this means changing the subject. not compete. and it creeped out the girls that knew him before he started doing it. A lot of guys who were trying to model Mystery became weird. It was hard. don’t tell people you are modeling them. spoke.
• Model the behavior and thoughts. sex. dating coaches.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Summary • I personally feel one of the keys to success with attracting women and having a healthy dating life is being able to model certain attributes from different people who are successful in specific areas. love. Also write down how modeling certain friends‘ beliefs have affected your dating life. and healthy. I only know about 5 people like this and they are amazing people. happy. DVDs. they are blowing up and extremely successful. 2. surrounding yourself with good models will allow you to pick up the positive attributes of who they are through osmosis. Write down how your beliefs might be identical or opposite to either of them. Mr. and attraction. You now have a choice to be different and pick new models that are proactive to the goals and dating life you want. M and I call these kinds of people guys who are going supernova. or books. were transferred to you. Now find models that align with what you are looking for in the form of natural friends. in all the important areas of life. You can’t help but be affected by the people you spend the most time with.7. but simply what you’ve learned. Develop a sense of awareness: take inventory of how your parents’ beliefs about dating. 3. audios. action Step: 1. There are those few anomalies who have the entire package. • Healthy models are key but at minimum. Reflect: Write down how this modeling has affected your dating life. not the man in most areas. we must have the awareness to recognize a bad model so we don’t blindly follow the same path. Hit reset: Become aware that this way of moving through the world isn’t necessarily you. -Braddock 89 .
covered in thiS chapter: 8. Maintaining or Build Comfort .Damage Control 90 .Braddock’s style of texts .3. the other side of the Bridge . Maintaining or Build Attraction . Increasing the frequency and Intensity of Communication .“pinging” text Messages .4. re-initiating Mutual Contact .2.1.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy .text Message examples 8.1 text Game .5.
3 text Game: making the number Solid .4 the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game .What to text Her 8.How to solidify a Number...tonight! .sample Chapter 91 .covered in this chapter: 8.
. It all depends on your personality and your goals. but it’s such a hard thing to teach just by writing about it.8.. but I think seeing this will be really helpful. I go for more friends with benefits when I’m back home... eventually. I want to show you what one night stand text game looks like. 92 . I’m typing up more and more of my text message game and I will try to post more of them by category in the future. day two style text game. so. I don’t want a girlfriend and I’m kinda bored with just one night stands unless I’m traveling. and friends with benefits text game looks like.1 text Game http://www.. but I will try to in the future.html I will try to do a better write up on my text game rules sometime. I don’t have time to type up each category right now.. relationship text game looks like.. Anyway. Keep in mind that my style is just one of many. hope this helps.com/braddock/61180-text-game-braddock..theattractionforums.. Decide what you want..
but we have spent time together. then feel free to keep writing her long funny messages. I’ve also noticed some girls that only respond when I respond with delayed. but it does happen. then you look like you really want her bad.. ran great attraction. I use lots of call back humor. but once again the above Must be calibrated. then it is a helpful tool to set you apart from the other 10 guys she is talking to. then you would be sruprised how sexual things can get over text before you even sleep with them. never talked to on the phone. if they are. this can change. 93 .. and you have nothing better to do. then texts are a great way for me to “ping” her and keep the attraction alive until the next time we meet. If a girl and I have already had sex. As you spend more and more time with any one girl. qualification. or.1 text Game I like to keep my texts fun and light. I feel it really keeps them off guard and on their toes with you. You must learn to understand where you are with each girl. Not to confuse you even more. and comfort game. some girls love to joke rough and like when I’m kind of a dick to them in a joking way. I’ve also had girls that it was super on with at a bar. then they can get pretty sexual. How do you do this? Go get lots of phone numbers and try different things. I have slept with many girls that I met one time for 20 minutes in a bar.8. and it only happens because I’ve practiced my ass off at text game. Just because it worked on one girl doesn’t mean it will work on the next. short texts that sub communicate that maybe I’m too busy for them or maybe I’m not sure if I’m interested. I like to mix it up and send both long. you can build compliance momentum and the same girl who acted disgusted by a sexually charged joke may send you texts that would make a porn star blush!!! some girls love to write long texts to me and love when I write them long texts back. but I think. Certain girls will respond more to certain types of humor and certain levels of comfort. If we’ve already had sex. If you try to be super funny in every message and write a 4 page message eVerY tIMe. fuck it up and lose girls. If you sexually frame them when you meet. If things are going great and she is writing you 4 page messages back every time. funny messages where I reply almost immediately some times. other girls respond more when I show a somewhat sweeter side and respond negatively to rough or sexual jokes. some girls would stop talking to you if you sent them several messages like this. However. they don’t have to be fun and amazing every time. and then be short and business like where I take a while to reply other times. but until then. this isn’t how it usually goes. if we haven’t had sex yet. and only texted until they came over and we had sex.. and then fucked it up texting. and slowly lost her until she hardly replied... Crucial point to getting good at text game . Just like with everything else in game you must calibrate it.
Get a journal.. When we met. By simply starting it with “What up sara? bla bla bla” or threading her name in there somewhere.. but keep it up as long as it’s fun. she had a camo skirt on so I was calling her rambo all night.kkshh.. or start a word document and save your best stuff. Copy? over…. Hence the army theme throughout this text. DoN’t use this exact message!!!! this only works for me because it’s congruent with the guy she met and the guy she has hung out with. You will know when you need to start slow or when you can jump in and be more sexual.kkshh. it’s crucial that somewhere in the message. she will feel it was personal. Another key point I’ve added recently and it’s really seemed to help is sending a mass text message to like 30 girls. repeat: the crypts are raiding the liquor store.. Nip/tuck in t-minus 5 min…. then she won’t feel anything towards you when she reads it.1 text Game It happens. because I think it’s a crucial tool for any guy running cold approach game. it just means you need to work on it. Here is an example of how I ping with a girl between meet ups. it’s not a reflection of you. Don’t let it get you down. I could write a novel on text game rules. When you send these kinds of messages. she will assume you sent it to tons of people. Don’t keep it going forever. If it looks like a mass text message. Just something random and funny that doesn’t really ask them anything and doesn’t ask for much back. text to Lauren: Braddock: “echo 1 this is Bravo Company…kksssh. I use call back humor and stay in a theme for a little while. I actually have a structure that I use and I teach at my bootcamps.” 94 . It’s just a small thing that I’ll do that just kind of forces them to think about me and not forget that I’m around. If you don’t have a sense of humor like mine then this message would come across as strange.8. I repeat: mother bird is in her nest…. I’m considering posting it. You will start to see a pattern that takes place and you will start to see different patterns in girls. you put their first name.
” Braddock: “Cute? More than cute. tonight bc I have other engagements to tend to …such as studying for exams and preparing for my interview tomorrow morning…I’m counting on you to take notes and provide a detailed summary of the nights events.. think you can handle that?” Braddock: “echo 1 this is Alpha 1. Divide & conquer all tasks this week.8. But he is oh so cute.” Braddock: “roger that lima Bravo. Delta foxtrot has tivo ready & waiting for mission. Hoo-rah! lauren: “Bla Bla Bla…. He’s a virgin like your boyfriend!!! shall I hook you up???!!! lp: “Hahaha!!” lp: “I dumped him you jerk! Are you going to sara’s Bday party?” 95 .” text with me and Lp: Braddock: “How are things with you and the virgin? Is the sex mind blowing?” lp: “shut up jerk. Don’t let Charlie see this message…self destruct in 5 secs. that’s a 10-28 (loud & clear).” lauren: “Bla Bla Bla…. report by land line after your tasks are completed b/c romeo Delta wants a full debriefing of enemy engagements.1 text Game lauren: “Bravo company this is echo one and I’m pickin up what you’re putting down but unfortunately I won’t be privy to such luxuries’ as nip tuck. Zulu acknowledges message & will return to headquarters w/assignment completed. tango x ray will be in service. that last transmission was inaccurate. Nip/tuck in t minus 50 minutes. you are so mean! Braddock : (sent pic of parents new puppy) lp: “Do you really think that’s going to make me like you more? Nice try. He’s cute as a damn button.
Can I study at your house?” Braddock: “Is …. but we’ll try. the safety word this week will be fire engine.” lp: “You are so full of shit. “Study at your house. but I don’t know if I’m good enough for you to name an exact time that you will orgasm. If we don’t hang out by sunday I’m deleting your number.damn it!” lp: “lolol You are sooo weird!! Where do you come up with that stuff?” Braddock: “Are you being a bitch to me because I’m black? God I hate texas girls. You guys have to bring cookies… And GoD Help You If tHeY Are CHoColAte CHIp or peANut 96 . no. so closed minded. but I’m not into toilet humor ……….” lp: “shut up I’m coming at 7!” Braddock: “I’m a human dynamo in bed.” Braddock: “so many 3some jokes going through my mind. but I’m going to have to get drunk to scrape that tattoo of your number and pic off my ass…. then I guess I’ll delete it now. sorry.or something.” lp: “Well you never call me.” Braddock : “Why cause I love Jesus? You could learn a lot from him. supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is just not working out for me. I have to floss my cat’s teeth……. It’s not that it’s too long. lp: “lolol that’s not what I meant! sara said she wants to come too.It’s 1945 they want your views on not calling boys back when your done with them.. I’m getting another call….” code for group sex? I’m gonna go with no.8. it just reminds me of my ex wife.see! let’s hang out sunday. Maybe another time. I have 3 test Monday!” Braddock: “You never call me”……. fine..” lp: “lol….1 text Game Braddock: “unless it’s a bible study….Hey lp.
Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles……….8. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field. I’m getting carpel tunnel.” lauren: “lololol….oatmeal raisin.. I would call them a 6. Just a start.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth.. etc…. 97 . I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat.fine.” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies. I’d call you later. but just slightly. I would make out with her.. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls.oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break. I just don’t know what to say.” Braddock: “ok.” LP: “haha…. sugar.” text with alexis: she is in medical school. but she would never meet mom. if I was drunk.” lp: “lol…. my thumbs are starting to hurt. Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl…. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are. You told me you loved them when we met.. so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday.well I guess it worked.1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism….
Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles……….oatmeal raisin.1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism…. I would call them a 6. if I was drunk.oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are. sugar. but she would never meet mom. etc….fine. 98 .8.” lp: “lol…. I’d call you later. You told me you loved them when we met. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth..” Braddock: “ok.well I guess it worked. but just slightly. my thumbs are starting to hurt.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls. I would make out with her. Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl…. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field.” lauren: “lololol…. Just a start.” text with alexis: she is in medical school.” LP: “haha….” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies.. so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday.. I’m getting carpel tunnel. I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat. I just don’t know what to say..
you gotta be the only person who would reference Highlander in a text message. Need a 96 for an A in the class!!! (few hours later)…… Braddock: “How did your test go?” Alexis: “About to go take it! After my work out…” Braddock: “Good luck. Where u been hiding jerk face!? thought a lion ate ur arm! Braddock: “I know I know….” Alexis: “And who has u on lock?” 2 hours later…. ur a weirdo : p” Braddock: “Ha. I’m a man amongst boys. trample the weak and hurdle the dead!” Alexis: “lol…. You took my virginity.I’ve been on lock down the last few weeks.. as they say in the movie Highlander. “there can be only one!!!” Alexis: “HAHA….You are crazy! I’m putting that as my myspace quote!” Braddock: “Do you want me to text you the answers for your test?” 99 . Don’t fuck with me on movie trivia….” Alexis: “I’ll keep that in mind. I have a Chem test 2day.1 text Game Alexis: “Did you find a new love bunny in LA or what!? Did we really break up? Braddock: “We will NeVer break up. What are you up to?” Alexis: “pray for me. Kick some ass. Braddock: “Just been crazy busy with work….8.
8. Alexis: “When are u going to actually come hang out instead of working out ur thumbs all day?” Braddock: “Dude.” And he’s gonna make us leave the door open and the lights on the whole time you are here……” Alexis: “Well. I believe her breasts are actually buttons. you’re one of the nerdiest girls I know…. Do you wear a pocket protector?” Alexis: “Heck yeah I do!!! everyday in my scrubs…. You are so mean!!!!!!” Braddock: “Mooohaha.. that’s why I like you.” Alexis: “Do u wear a fanny pack?” Braddock: “Does Howdy Doody have wooden balls?!? Hell yeah I do. “Go ask your dad.” Alexis: “You are so weird! My dad use to say.1 text Game Alexis: “they convinskate phones…It’s in the testing center….” Alexis: “lol….you jerk! I really am smart.Your genius must be limited to Chem.” lol…. “Does raggedy Anne have cotton boobs!” Braddock: “the answer to your dads question is “no. My parents are out of town this weekend.she’s gonna say.. It’s Italian leather with Braddock in rhinestones.And im a genius anyways…thanks tho babe.” Braddock: “hmmm… “convinskate..” later that night…. we gotta ask my mom…….” 100 .” that’s actually an urban legend.” Braddock: “I know. tell them ur going to one of your buddy’s houses and then just come stay with me. It’s custom made. It’s a dual pocket 2 zipper comfort fit.
How can we be together if you are gonna lie to me all the time?” bla bla bla. have a great day tomorrow...”(she then messaged me on myspace) Braddock: “sending me messages on myspace? I thought you went to bed.1 text Game Braddock: “Nice thinking. Good night.8... -B 101 .” later later that night…… Alexis: “I’m going to bet.
our overall system is explained in savoy’s book. for a technology audience. but it never seemed to turn into a date? A while back. the president of love systems.8. she genuinely would “go out” with you “sometime”… …but it doesn’t always turn out that way. we wanted to follow these up with something focused on text messaging. this is a bad way to get a woman’s phone number). and in our interview download on phone game. At that moment.theattractionforums. Here’s what we’ll be covering in this article: Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? text message bridges re-initiate mutual contact Increase the frequency and intensity of communication Maintain or build attraction Maintain or build comfort the other side of the bridge Damage control further context Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? let’s say you see a very attractive woman at a restaurant waiting for her friends. using our techniques.html have you ever met someone great. to see her “sometime” all you have to do is be more interesting than doing 102 .2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy http://www.com/braddock/68199-text-game-basics-braddock-savoy. attract her. and then get her phone number so you can “go out sometime”. wrote an article and did a podcast for this site to introduce what we do .what we call dating science. as we’ve discussed in Magic Bullets. Nick savoy. you approach her. gotten her phone number. Going out “sometime” is different from going out thursday night (which is why. Magic Bullets. This article will give a simplified overview of how to use text messages to go from the first time you meet someone to going on a date.
hobbies. even if she did. you need to be more interesting than anything else she could be doing. her commitment to seeing you again can be pretty fragile. most desirable women rarely have “nothing else to do”. If she doesn’t know you that well. but she doesn’t have time to go on 9 dates this week. You don’t know what mood she’ll be in when you call or what she’ll be doing.8. Why are you asking her out if you didn’t meet for very long? Are you desperate? Are you a player? *timing. However. work.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy nothing. or relaxing at home. even if she has no reason to think that you wouldn’t. You lose value and emotional momentum (both of these concepts are explained in Magic Bullets but should be understandable in context) with every unreturned voicemail. that’s why we created the “bridging” technique . she can agree to that. And. other men did too. She likes all of the attention and flirting. for her to go on a date. in order to lead to a more intimate situation the same day or to a date that won’t fall through (depending on the situation and your preferences). There are many possible reasons for this - some will apply to some women and some situations more than others: *safety concerns. the best way to deal with this is to make as strong of an impression as possible in your first meeting.if you noticed her. if she has nothing else to do. many desirable women would still hesitate to answer your call. Most of what we teach on our bootcamps revolves around this. After meeting you just one time. so. *fear of social awkwardness. especially if she doesn’t know you that well or you don’t know people in common. even if she was attracted to you when you first met.like in the above example when her friends are about to arrive and take her to dinner. *Analysis. memories and emotions dissipate. Naturally. she might actually see you. that’s a pretty low standard. or any other man she met that night . she may wonder if the two of you will really “click”. like friends.to get from a situation where a woman might have a low commitment to meeting up again to where the 103 . But sometimes you can’t do this . and if you don’t get a hold of each other soon. not being sure can be enough for some women to avoid a date that might be awkward or uncomfortable.
text message bridges Without further ado. Maintain or build attraction 4. re-initiate mutual contact 2. None of us are rich. spending time alone. the more important these bridging techniques. Text message bridging has five major components: 1. we will often still use bridging techniques because A) sometimes we might err and think a woman is more committed or less flaky than she turns out to be B) they won’t hurt. the lower her commitment. she would likely be highly-committed to seeing you again. or supermodels. If you meet someone you really want. you can usually just go ahead and call. second. and sexy woman who attracts powerful. wherever she goes. what might be overkill when meeting the type of woman who might be attracted to you anyway can be crucially important when meeting a stunning.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy two of you are on a date. so. if you’d been introduced to her by a mutual friend and spent a few sober hours really getting to know each other. If instead of meeting this woman at a restaurant. you can get most women to answer the phone and make plans. and making plans to see each other.8. they are important for a couple of reasons. often. and successful men. Maintain or build comfort 5. the other side of the bridge 104 . intelligent. let’s get into the meat of the system. Increase the frequency and intensity of communication 3. In such situations. However. it can be worth doing the work to increase your odds for “likely” to “near certain”. they are unnecessary since with good game. fun. kissing. some of these techniques may seem like overkill. asking each other every question under the sun. many of us got involved in dating science because we wanted to date women who would normally be “out of our league”. Almost all of our instructors are formerly bootcamp students. However.
the best way to do this is to use callback humor. 48 hours at the most. a banker. And. it takes far less commitment on her part to return a text message than it does to answer the phone or return a call. if she’s not free. You don’t have to worry about her mood or her schedule when you text. she’ll read it when she is. but everyone reads their text messages. so. generalities. people sometimes don’t answer their phones or listen to their voicemails. Braddock recently met Katie. let’s get together for a “snuggle” session AsAp! -Braddock” If you’re stuck. texts don’t require much commitment. Advanced men will deliberately “seed” the initial conversation with opportunities for callback humor. So his first text drew on this: “Katie the banker! Don’t stay out too late. use a text message to re-initiate contact instead of a phone call. Braddock followed up with: “Nice meeting you Julie. Your first text is crucial. this is especially important with younger women with a more intense social schedule who meet a lot of people. they agreed that they both hate clinginess and the words “cuddle” and “snuggle”. Send your first message within 24 hours of meeting her. Callback humor involves recalling topics. This ensures that she remembers as much as possible from your first meeting and that the good emotions she feels toward you don’t dissipate. ideas.8. She has to respond and it has to point the two of you in the right direction. you’ll need to be fresh!! : ) -Braddock “ Another night.” 105 . for example. send something simple like “Nice to meet you [name]. then A) plan to introduce subjects for callback humor next time and B) for now. you have to be up early to foreclose on that orphanage of blind kids. -[Your name]. they talked about relationships and pet peeves. social or geographic stereotypes relating to your original conversation that you can twist into a joke. re-initiate mutual contact After you meet a woman.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy 1. Braddock met Julie. Have a good night. Among other things. During the initial meeting he teased her about her supposedly evil corporate ways.
these all come later in the conversation. (of course. If you don’t. Keep any questions light. for example: 106 . 2.8. Don’t try to build comfort. usually this will happen if you do something that assumes a higher commitment level than she actually has. Chi town . beach volleyball today?” “Did you know a blue whales tongue weighs as much as an elephant!? that’s ridiculous… Gotta love animal planet during the lunch break…” stay away from things that can end a conversation or lose her attraction for you. right now it’s just about getting on the map. It avoids the “who is this?” text message response. Don’t try to get her to meet up in the first text message.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy Always sign your name on the first text. oAp readers should know by now to program your name and number into her phone when you get hers. or build attraction. Take things one step at a time. increase frequency and intensity After the first exchange of text messages. and don’t ask too many boring “yes” or “no” questions. we can see some examples of good early text messages: “How did your project turn out? Did they give you a raise or at least give you a small army of interns to boss around?” “Just saw the news. it’s not like she’s blowing you off. Keep the conversation moving forward by making statements instead of asking questions as much as possible. which costs emotional momentum. and simple that if she didn’t answer. Going through Braddock’s sent items folder on his phone. Message her and get her to reply.20! let me guess. stop now and get Magic Bullets or the interview on phone game. Now communication has been established and you can go from there. Questions put her on the spot and repeated questions risk putting her in defensive “interview mode” which isn’t exciting or attractive. your goal is to build her commitment level to meeting up with you again by increasing the frequency and intensity of your messaging.
Status. day. not logically.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy rushing to make plans: “I’m so glad we met! I’ve never met a girl like you. Wealth. and you can use texts to bring her attraction levels back up to the level where you first met and you can maintain it there. In Magic Bullets we identify and explain the eight most universal “attraction switches” . some of them might seem silly. through text messaging. Pre-selection. and Challenging). because most of what people have been taught about social dynamics is wrong. I would love to see you when you get home.8. she was attracted to you when you met. some good elements to include are: *role plays *random childish jokes *light sexual teasing or misinterpretation *funny or teasing pet names *Invoking commonalities you found when you met (this also builds comfort. You can’t build a ton of attraction in text messages but you can build some. Human attraction does not work the way it does on tV or in movies. But that’s a general guide. 3. and lounges interacting with the most beautiful women there.” or even “I hope your trip to Chicago was great!!! I want to hear all about it.things that most women will be attracted to (Health. and actually practicing what they preach. restaurants. so. so stay open-minded and let your only judge be how well these techniques work in the real world. no matter how unusual it seems on paper. but 107 . not a specific plan for an individual woman. Building attraction presumably. contain wit or humor. coffee shops. We use what works. Social Intuition. after day. clubs. coming up) We can’t cover all of these in detail in this article (and it’s not an exhaustive list anyway). Attraction is built emotionally. parks. but this dissipates over time. Do you have plans friday when you get home?” When you read sample text messages in this article. use your knowledge of her and her personality to calibrate her. and are flirty without making her uncomfortable. even so-called experts are not in bars. Confidence. Much of dating science is counter-intuitive. it’s best done with light-hearted messages that assume a level of familiarity. Humor.
don’t always reply quickly. When Braddock met Claire. this is actually easier since building comfort is as much about what you don’t do as what you do. you need to maintain. body language. he found out that she was from san Diego.wait!!! Now I remember the Christmas movie. 4. attraction.” Katie: “Who is tiny tim?” Braddock : “Wow…. 108 . Building comfort In addition to maintaining. Don’t always send long replies. You can’t technically see her face. back to work. trying to thread a bunch of information that you assume will make her like you more.” Braddock : “they let retards play with people’s money!?!? Hmmm…. But be careful with this one. and don’t ruin a good situation by playing too many games. role playing is a powerful technique. often has the opposite effect. and building. tiny tim threw me off.missed the scrooge reference?!? Minus 3 cool points…. and build. returning to example of Katie the Banker. so. comfort. sometimes the attraction or humor comes from the back-and-forth. talk to you later brat. I’m kind of a big deal” made her laugh and boosted her attraction. Not fair.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy let’s go through a couple of examples. Varying how and when you reply helps build value and scarcity. It will make her feel like she has to earn you. You know this could be tim’s last Christmas……. and don’t always be funny. Don’t try to impress her through text messages. Anchorman. we can see this attraction-building conversation: Braddock: “Are you stealing pennies from the elderly or telling tiny tim’s dad that he has to work an extra shift.8. even a silly text message like “I’m ron Burgundy. Among other things. : ) [or suitable nickname…this one worked here because she was young and already acknowledged she can be a bit of a brat sometimes]” You still want to be unpredictable and challenging enough to keep her interested. It’s not just one-liners either. or hear her voice tonality to truly know how she is reacting to this. What bank do you work at again? ok. they talked about the movie.” Katie: “ohhhhh….
Be real. As long as your conversation is going well.” Most women would think this is creepy and that the man is reaching too hard to try to find commonalities. a woman will be more comfortable if you seem to be at least a little bit of a challenge.8. *responding negatively when she shows low commitment. If you become angry or needy. but avoid early texts that are overly sweet. stay away from a text like: “I just walked past the most beautiful rose garden.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy In general. fun text messages that add to her day without making her feel pressured create comfort. Even. *Implying that she is much more committed than she actually is. light. (unsolicited I might add) that their 3rd grader made the honor role. and don’t try to trade kindness for her approval or affection. this affects attraction as well. this might make her uncomfortable. Always stay positive and unaffected. “did you get home safe?” won’t help you unless it’s in a context in which you would ask that of any close friend. just act like a positive. who feels it necessary to smugly inform me. some of the things that break her comfort with you include: *trying to make plans with her too early. that kills comfort. some women may be interested but still don’t always reply or will still send short responses. *Being too predictable. is getting a body slam followed by the people’s elbow! How’s your day?” 109 . this might make her feel pressured and on the spot. especially early on. A woman wants a man who is centered and not dependent on her approval or putting her on a pedestal. right? Hope you are having a wonderful day. just get a sense of the general pattern: “Next coworker. or overly nice.there’s nothing special about them in themselves. Generally. You had a rose pattern on your skirt last saturday. non-threatening environment in her life. Don’t react to low commitment behavior by apologizing for making jokes and/or asking what you did wrong. It reminded me of you. If you always respond to her messages right away and are clearly trying too hard. Here are a couple of examples . Assuming some familiarity is great. time and communication will build and maintain comfort for you.
you can test her commitment level without too much risk by using a technique we call “baiting”.. she doesn’t have to be alone or invest a lot to make these kinds of plans happen. And if she doesn’t end up coming out. The bait is usually a non-specific or low-pressure text about the two of you meeting up.you just invited her and her friends to something you were (in theory) doing anyway and for all she knows. If not. let’s get together next week. remember.real gains happen in person. the object is to get her out so we have a chance to connect with her.” “[random content]”. the classic formula is “you guys should meet us out”.in that slot so the whole text isn’t the invitation. In the meantime. With experience and intuition. you invited 110 .” “[random content]”. that poor thing was hideous. We’re trying to get her on a date. the other side of the bridge obviously. The [random content] means that you have something . you’re not going to get very far just by sending low-commitment texts back and forth. and the nonspecific invitation can be tacked onto the end: “[random content]”. and you’re not improving things very quickly in text.” If her commitment is lower than usual. you can start baiting with lower-intensity plans.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy “What’s up crazy? [or suitable nickname] Just saw a guy walking an english bulldog like you said you wanted. you don’t really lose any ground with her . if we don’t hang out soon then I’m going to start cheating on you.anything . If she is interested..8. tell your interns to pencil me in for next week or I’m putting “single” back up on facebook. she’ll respond. you haven’t lost any ground and can keep working from where you are. we’re not trying to make a woman fall in love over text message . It’s like touching a woman’s arm in conversation. you’ll start to see patterns and know when the moment is ripe. What are you thinking?!” [obviously this was to someone who said she had an english bulldog] 5. Here are some examples of non-specific invitations. Any of the examples of good text messages that we’ve already seen would make good [random content] here. and they’re more likely to actually take place especially with a woman with a very busy social schedule and lots of male attention.
stop the bleeding. Here are some more examples: “We are going to be at x bar. Do not text from the mindset of: “I need to correct my mistake. Never text her asking if you 111 . stop sending her messages. it’s really hard to turn them around. If it was a minor mistake. send her something light in a few days and pretend like it never happened. if it’s not working.” damage control some situations are harder than others and sometimes you will feel like you’re not getting anywhere. then. you and your friends should stop by. Baits should never be overly specific or imply a rejection if she doesn’t say yes or come out. once things start going downhill. if you choose to accept it. Would you like to come? It’s going to be fun.” think back to a time when a woman chased you when you weren’t giving her any encouragement and how you lost attraction for her.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy lots of friends. These would be some bad examples: “What are you doing later?” “Hey sara. Your mission. we are going to be at x bar friday night. is to show up between the hours of 11pm and 2am. even “good” texts at this point just come across as try-hard or supplicative. but it’s not necessary.” “sara! x bar friday night! Be there or we are breaking up and I’m not taking you back this time… …I’m signing the divorce papers and fighting for full custody” You can still use [random content] to lead in to these. then just stop texting her for a day or two and give her time to forget about it.” “sara. How are you? I’m going to x bar saturday with some friends.8. this message will self destruct in 30 sec!!! Hope to see you there…. Some men who feel a situation slipping through their fingers will make the fatal mistake of trying to reel her back by texting more and/or longer texts. In general.
with an analysis of each. don’t force the issue. wait longer before re-initiating. and things to say or do in virtually any situation.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy messed up. further context This (very brief and simplified) summary will hopefully give some idea on how more phone numbers can be turned into dates and also give you a taste of how dating science can work . or try too hard to be funny. or apologize assuming you did something wrong if you didn’t. some women just don’t like texting. The Love Systems Routines Manual - hundreds of specific stories. We wanted to close by listing a few good resources for further reading: Magic Bullets . -Braddock 112 . games. If it was a major mistake. or say “just kidding” incessantly. just call her.8. these are word-for-word the things we actually use when meeting women. openers. In such situations.by Nick savoy. Hope this helps.
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the more edgy I would be. talk to the woman just long enough to pique her interest. Wait a minute or two.8. tonight. then. Don’t tell her of course.3 text Game: making the number Solid Let me give you something awesome you can start doing tonight to help you reduce flaky numbers and cut your workload in half. I would keep it slightly teasing and flirtatious. but it wasn’t that on yet. put your phone back in your pocket. What should I do? :) -Braddock” 114 . the woman won’t question it. I won’t get into why this causes flakes right now. ask her for the phone number. What do you send her? this will depend on how far along you are with that particular woman. and keep talking to her. remember. one of the biggest mistakes guys make is that they treat the phone number like it’s a hostage and they are a Navy seal trying to extract it. the more physical we have been with one another. this is a sure fire way to guarantee you have a flaky number at best. Getting her on a date or getting her to come to your house is the only goal that really matters. She probably won’t even answer calls or return your texts. take your phone out as if you are checking the time or you just received a text message. stay there. just keep talking. Example: (Light flirting) (The woman was wearing a blue dress and at some point in the conversation she told me she was from san Diego) Braddock: “This cute girl from San Diego in a sexy blue dress won’t stop flirting with me. I just want to give you a way around it. they come in. and move on right after typing it in their phone. then. send her a text message. If it was flirty. just put your phone back in your pocket and keep talking. the goal of phone and text game is simply to get her comfortable enough to meet you again. The Phone and Text Game book covers this in great detail. after you take a woman’s phone number. but they are simply bonus points. there are a million things you “can” do with the phone.
By the time you guys leave the venue you will have a text chain of 5 maybe even 10 texts already rolling. it’s a continuation of the text message chain from the night before. the next day when you go to text her it’s not just some mystery number. this is such a powerful tool.8. you two are having a normal conversation verbally. try it out tonight. Now. and then text her out the blue from a number she doesn’t recognize. When she notices that it’s you. she is 100 times more likely to respond to you then some guy who took her number. she will almost always smile and text you back.3 text Game: making the number Solid she’s going to check her phone expecting it to be from someone else. -B 115 . walked off right after. but flirting with each other and role playing through text all while you are standing within 2 feet of each other.
that is one of the main aims (if not tHe main aim) of phone and text Game . tHAt is what I call super HIGH leVel AttrACtIoN.4 the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game http://www.com/braddock/126263-ultimate-guide-phone-text-game. You literally can cause someone to be addicted to you through phone and text. Imagine having the super hot girl that you want sitting there. tHAt is what you call addiction. phone and text Game can cause a person not only to become more attracted to you. well. but you can get a glimpse of what it takes from the free chapter. until she texted you back.. she was the only thing that you could think about.. It’s like you were paralyzed. the best thing is that you can do this to her. which took us a year to write. so..you weren’t sure whether to call.. that’s how powerful phone and text Game can be if you know how to use it. the full path to attaining this sort of “addiction” is what Braddock and I cover indepth in the glorious 150+ pages in the ultimate Guide to phone And text Game Book.html used properly. You may have even texted her twice.. whether to text of whether to just do nothing and wait for her reply! the point is that she was taking up your thoughts to the point of distraction... but also become addicted to you.. free CHApter of tHe ultIMAte GuIDe to pHoNe AND text GAMe 116 .8. In worse case scenarios. so here you go. or three times.to literally get her addicted to you. or called her. What do I mean by “addicted”? think about it .have you ever texted a girl and not heard back from her? How did it make you feel? You checked your phone frequently waiting for her text message.theattractionforums. to make matters worse . her lack of reply literally drove you crazy. unable to think of anything except. you.
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” shake her hand and then walk away with your value intact. I always used situational openers or functional openers. I would go for her phone number right there. I’m Braddock. I gotta run. you are better off than if you tried to game too hard when 121 . Question: “What sort of openers would you use in a regular college setting (I. Normal openers can. if you feel any discomfort on her part or if you feel that it would be pushing it to go for the number or date. Braddock: “thanks. but it was nice meeting you. then just back off and say. However. In that case. but if you ever get caught by the wrong girl it has potential to do irreversible damage to your social status in the eyes of that girl and any girl in her social circle.” which is crucial in a small fish bowl setting such as a college campus..9. Walking on campus: Braddock: “Do you know where the Nielson Hall is?” Girls studying in the library: Braddock: “Do you know what time this place closes?” Girls standing somewhere: Braddock: “You look really familiar. and will work.E. they aren’t sexy. but they ensure that you won’t be called out for “gaming. Did we have class together last semester?” then I would transition into normal conversation and/or tease her lightly..2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. even if she doesn’t remember you the next time she sees you. walking across campus first few days and see a hot girl)?” answer: on a true cold approach in a college setting. remember you will likely see her again either on campus or out at a party or bar so don’t try too push things to fast or too far unless you get the vibe that she is really into you.
It obviously doesn’t take 6 times for you to remember someone you just met.” Getting sticky is an old advertising term used to describe a crucial phase where a product must be seen multiple times by consumers in order for them to remember what it is and what it does just by hearing the name. it’s the proper move if you sense that attempting to ask for her number or a date would be too much. but it might take 6 times for you to see them and greet them as a person you now see as a card carrying member of your social circle. If she likes you and you are ejecting because you are scared to ask for her number. Because you will never see her again. that’s a different post. Does it sound like I’m telling you to pussy out and not close? that’s not exactly what I’m saying. mathematically. If you had high situational value when you met. this is especially true for people that meet you when you are unavoidably in a low or neutral value situation. then. However. you are better off to push the encounter as far as possible even if your value is not optimal.. who gives a shit if you cause irreversible damage with one random set? You will never see them again so it does not matter. resource. Why would I recommend that you merely open and then eject without pushing for the number? that goes against everything you’ve learned through cold approach. regardless of outcome. they say that consumers need to be exposed to a product in one form or another at least 6 times before it will be remembered. her mind will not focus any mental energy on you. the timing wasn’t right and she rejects you. M and I call this tactic. that blow out cannot have long term effects on your overall social status. If you met in a situation where you were of low or neutral value then you may need to meet a few times or she will have to hear about you several times before you are even on her radar. this is why cold approach is so tough. If you fail to be seen in such a light.9. You have an extremely small window of time to prove that you are a high value.. obviously. “Getting sticky. 122 . Mr. tactically ejecting is not a cop out. It can be hard to recover from a true cold approach rejection in social circle game. You remember people who are of substantial value or of potential value. she will likely remember you and welcome you as part of her social circle almost immediately. It is essentially a waste of your time to not see if you can get her number or bounce her that night because you will most likely never see her again.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. scarce. In our social Circle Mastery seminar. well. the less real or potential value perceived by that girl will determine how long the sticky phase will last.
you can wait it out and escape witthout losing value and live to fight another day when your value is optimal. situationally. or it’s a girl that you don’t have much time or value to work with. this means she sees you in an environment where her eyes can see that you are a high value guy.. You can build your value over time. It’s covered in great detail in our seminar.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. to an outside eye it looks like maybe you could have those girls. and strike at the perfect moment. all smoke and mirrors. girl buddies running up and hugging you. meaning she now knows who you are and would at minimum say hi if she saw you out or on campus. your value is low in one situation..” Braddock: “Hmm. It means seeing you with girls. this means it doesn’t even have to be real.. and you have high situational value. and usually is. situational value can be. I. then just use the first encounter to “get sticky” and get on her radar. It could literally be girls hugging you that like you as a friend whom you have no chance in hell with. smith’s politics of south America class last semester?” Her: “No. were you in Dr. Braddock:”You look really familiar. this means she sees you as one of the cool guys in a high value group of guys and/or she sees cool/hot girls respond positively to you.e.Are you sure because you look like that girl who cheated off me all the time? I meant to tell you that I didn’t appreciate that.. If there is a high probability that she will see you again. You can always turn up the heat later when the timing is perfect. social circle game is much easier and it is much different. if you are cold approaching on campus and it’s a cold set. I’m not going to detail how to game once you are in the social circle in this post. If.. However.” Her: “Haha.” that means.. then you can build your value and comfort over multiple encounters instead of going for the cold approach mindset of “home run or strikeout. example of how to become sticky through cold approach.” 123 .Nope wasn’t me. this doesn’t mean she needs to see you making out with girls.9. I’m a journalism major. talking to girls. I want this to focus on opening and becoming sticky.... When you are sticky..
I’ll see you around..” ok.” Her: “Katie. and go do at least one approach before you come back!!!! Hope this helps.9. london is sick! Hope to see some of you guys at the seminar this weekend. stop reading posts. what’s your name by the way? I’m Braddock.. Braddock: “that’s Cool. Alright. I’m sure I’ll see you around.” Her: “Nice to meet you too.” (take two steps away) “oh shit.” Braddock: “Nice to meet you Katie. -Braddock 124 . Bye. sorry about that.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. turn your computer off.
html Mr.theattractionforums. 1. Logistics…. but it’s easily worth it. M and I are doing a bootcamp March 13-15 in Cancun Get a hotel where the action is….3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) http://www.com/braddock/89055-spring-break-game-braddocks-definitiveguide-guaranteed-get-you-laid. there are usually 1 or 2 125 .9. this may or may not cost you a little more cash..
My roommate and I once slept in our car!! As far as logistics are concerned. It’s harder to convince girl’s friends to let her leave and stay at another hotel with a stranger.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) hotels that are where all the action is and where most of the hot girls will be staying. we met 3 really hot girls and had to smuggle them past gate security by hiding them under blankets in the back seat!! If we had been staying at the hotel where everyone was staying. but getting her to go up an elevator 3 floors in a hotel you are both staying is much easier. you both are naturally going to have to end up back there. If you make any mistakes or if the 126 . It’s worth calling around to figure out which hotels these are. we would not have had to take such extreme measures. like I was in college. you may find that your hotel room is a logistical nightmare. 2. but what’s even worse is that most hotels now require each guest to wear a special wristband specific to that hotel and don’t allow non guests into the hotel. After going out. so. from there you only have to move her to your room or a place where the two of you can be alone. and you can’t afford to stay in one of the hotels where all the action is. However. It could be so expensive that only old people are staying there. then you will likely have exactly one shot to meet and attract her. Don’t assume that just because you are staying at the most expensive hotel on the beach that you will be in the heart of the action. mini Social circles staying in a hotel where all the women are puts you at a great advantage when it comes to maximizing your chances with the hottest women. You don’t have to try and convince her to ditch her friends or to come back to some hotel far from where she is staying.9. it is nice when you meet women who are staying in the same hotel room as you because the hotel pulls for you. You can still have a good time even if you have to stay in a terrible room. on one of my most epic spring break adventures. If you are broke as a joke. classy woman back to the roach Motel. It’s hard to bring a hot. you can pull the hottest woman in the world and not get her into your room unless you have a rope ladder and ninja smoke. I can’t tell you how many beautiful women I lost on spring break because they couldn’t get into our hotel or we couldn’t get into theirs. you can still have a blast on spring break. If you are not staying in the same hotel as a woman. It’s hard enough to pull girls on spring break with a good or bad hotel.
Knowing that you are going to see the women over and over allows you to run a much slower and more natural style of game. you don’t have to be the stranger trying to open. If you aren’t staying where you will see her over and over. ride to the club together. A woman you meet on Monday may be cold as ice when you first meet. You will swim with them at the hotel. You should run a much slower and more limited attraction game during the down time at the hotel. but 127 . they can get attraction and get the woman extremely attracted through dancing. this means that you must have great game or get lucky. and short banter. You can share a van to the club and ride back (this is how the hotel pulls for you). You want to see her again and again. Most guys will have a hard time pulling girls on spring break because the clubs are so loud that it is very hard to qualify and build comfort. to drinking. just be aware that most women on spring break are going to have so much stimulation from the beach. By simply staying in the right hotel.9. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take numbers. so. but by Friday she may be all over you. that trying to run standard text and phone game will be like trying to squeeze blood from a turnip. pre party before going out. then you will only get one shot to get her. because you have qualified her and built some comfort during the day. Doing this gives you a HuGe advantage over the competition. touch.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) timing was just off. party at the club together. You should focus more on working your qualification and comfort game. You already know each other so the woman is much less likely to flake later that night when you try to pull. to guys hitting on them. play volleyball. then you will not get another chance to attract her. hang out on the beach. Girls are extremely flaky on spring break so you don’t want to have to rely on phone game. and ride home with them from the club. then you will see the same women multiple times each day over the course of the week. You will have a group of girls at the club that you already know. this allows you to slowly cultivate relationships with tons of women and strike when the timing is perfect. the women will already know you. if you are staying in a hotel with tons of women. and then turning up your attraction game at night when everyone goes out. on the other hand. you will be able to crack into multiple groups of women and you will get far more work done with less effort. You can meet an extremely beautiful woman and grind her down slowly over the week.
your margin for error with 9’s and 10’s is already lower in general. on spring break. blowouts don’t matter. While same night lays can and will happen with 9’s and 10’s on spring break. use this to your advantage. that you will inevitably lose some sets. If you try to have a deep low energy conversation. When it comes to 9 and 10 game . and high energy. you will have much more success when those women are staying in your hotel. It’s easy to get same night lays with skanky drunk girls or even 7’s. In a low key bar or club back home. 128 .9. Working the room is a must. let’s forget the mini social circles for now and let’s talk about how to game within the club assuming you don’t have the luxury of creating a mini social circle. because social proof will not be a powerful tool in your arsenal. Your best bet is to go direct or situational. but even more so on spring break. and the sheer volume of people creates a situation where you can work the entire room and rarely see the same girl twice. because if you open enough sets you will find one that hits. because the mob is so big. but doing it trying to slowly build social proof is a joke. It’s bad. burning through sets at a high rate could ruin your social proof. the entire room would see you getting blown out multiple times and they would lose attraction for you. The clubs are so big. This is good and bad. it is by no means consistent. but you will need to quickly get into a topic that is fun. the size of the clubs. spring break is all about cutting lose and being crazy. people don’t have much time to observe any one person for long. It’s good. As we all know.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) when they go to pull the woman she locks up because he is still a stranger. Don’t feel bad if you burn through as many sets as you must. loud. opening: You can go indirect if you are lucky enough to find a quiet portion of the club. coupled with the high energy. you will likely lose the set. Just go direct or situational and open until you find one that hits. Gaming in the clubs… ok. the clubs are so big. but to get the really hot girls on spring break you will have better luck grinding them down over the course of a week instead of trying to poach them off at a night club in one hit.
With every set you open. do you know what time the bible study starts tonight?” attraction Game within the clubs…. but I had to meet you…I’m Braddock.” Situational opener examples: Braddock : “I’m sorry. this is done through teasing. everyone there is in party mode and they did not go to spring break looking to find their next boyfriend. If you are looking to hook up on spring break then it’s important to realize that it is a waste of time to talk to even the hottest woman on the planet if she is staying 20 miles down the beach and she drove the rental car so all her friends could drink. but you are really sexy. philosophical. I’m Braddock.” Braddock : “I’m not sure what to say to you.Next set!!!!!! remember that spring break is slightly different than normal club situations. role plays. deep. you need to find out the logistics of your target. I’m not really into short girls. If a set has several bad logistical components. I’m not really into tall girls..” Braddock : (to a short girl) “Hi. I’m Braddock. what’s your name?” Braddock : “How do you expect me not to hit on you when you look like this?” Braddock : “You are really cute.” Braddock : “I don’t think I’ve met you yet. Anything that takes a lot of attention or effort on the woman’s 129 .” Braddock : “excuse me. that style of game will not get you far on spring break. guy.9.. dancing. Don’t make the mistake of being the serious.” Braddock : (to a tall girl) “Hi. Your main emphasis should be on keeping things playful and physical.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) direct opener examples: Braddock : “You are cute/hot.. there’s actually no drinking in here.. In most venues it will be much too loud and crazy to hold a woman’s attention if you try to slow things down and get deep. Are there 10 girls staying in one room? Is she staying in fort Knox of a hotel? Are her friends extremely bitchy and judgmental? find out logistics early in set and viscously cut sets with bad logistics.” Braddock : “I’m sorry. but you are sexy as hell. and leading.. there’s actually no dancing in here. Avoid attempting to run deep comfort until you get her back to the hotel or at least until you can get her somewhere quiet like a walk on the beach.
Just move her to the center of the mob and grind away). these places are usually so fucking loud that dancing is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. so you can game them later at night when the vibe is right. will likely result in you losing her attention. don’t game. for one.9. especially early in set. you need to move her as much as possible. But at your hotel.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) part. At the end of the night you are asking the woman to go home with a complete stranger to a hotel room she has never been to. your work is cut in half. that is asking a lot in and of itself. of your attraction game without having to say all that much. If there is an open beach at your hotel with tons of people and most of them are not staying at your hotel. Dancing can go all the way to make out or even farther without so much as one word being spoken. You won’t have to have a fancy opener. so you will need to get more done with less. and you have attraction. then by all means game away. these clubs are so loud that it can be extremely hard to hold a woman’s attention for very long using a long routine stack. Dancing can eat up a ton of time while moving the set forward physically. she will feel much more comfortable running around with you all night than some new stranger who is trying to game her through cold approach. there will be built in familiarity and comfort. However. 130 . When you see her at a club later that night. Don’t run around your hotel burning down every set. in the middle of the night. then she will be much more comfortable and relaxed when you bring up the idea of going back to your hotel. if not all. if you have been moving her around the club all night long. and it does most. but it will make your life much easier. Gaming at your hotel: Mingle. then she is slowly getting used to the idea of following your lead. it does all of your kino escalation for you. of course you don’t ‘have’ to dance and you can have success without it. If she is comfortable following your lead all night. try to mingle and get on girls’ radar. use the dance floor… The dance floor is the quickest way to escalate things physically (even if you can’t dance. If they remember you that night. once you have the girl’s attention. this limits your attraction game.
. get to know them for a few minutes and then move on (unless it is going extremely well.. 131 . As a matter of fact. “cool.. there is the potential of hitting the ‘pre-selection’ attraction switch. You only have a week. the daytime is the time to get on tons of girls‘ radar so you can open them with ease later in the night. they will be much easier to open and merge into your group. they will see you as much safer.9. If you already have women. Yes. but I’m not even worried about that. Don’t worry if they talk to other guys. there will be so many drunk assholes hitting on women that they can become kind of guarded. so be it.. we need two more girls for our team.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) think of your hotel as a mini social circle. open a woman. just like in normal life. really use this time during the day. naturally. I think that is where we are going. so you will know a bunch of people at night. but still slower than cold approach. that is not your prime directive of meeting them and having them around. having a group of girls simply standing with your group will make it easier to open other girls. “Hey. all day. Don’t waste your day ‘just’ being drunk and passing out. you say. You guys want to catch a cab over together?” If they say yes.wash rinse repeat. play volleyball and use it as your opener. you guys down to play?” During the day you don’t need to take sets from meet to sex. Just look for girls that will hang around with you. they don’t have to be super hot. pre-existing girls always put new girls at ease. although this would obviously be preferred. If you hit it off well with a girl or group of girls from your hotel. Whatever club they say. I want you to use these women to help other women open easier. Good day game/Scm hybrid game makes your nights easier. I highly suggest that you get involved in as many day activities that allow you to be social. then invite them over to pre-party in your room at 8 or 9. don’t be afraid to encourage it. If something happens with these girls romantically over the course of the week. introduce her and her friends to your friends. However. I highly suggest that you use fun or functional openers. Quickly find a small group of girls to befriend. then of course escalate just like normal game). so we are going to push faster than normal. ask them what club they are going to that night. utilize the daytime to make your nights easier.
if she sees you talking to other girls. over the course of the night. examples of things to make your room fun: • Keg • Music • Beer pong • Flip cup • Beer bong When they come over. or. she will try to hang out with you all week. If she is way into you and you hook up. some of her girls won’t like your buddies in that way. dismiss her. spring break is all about hooking up ‘now or never’. If you are the kind of guy that is used to running Day 2 style of game and deep comfort game you may find yourself frustrated on spring break. tHIs Is sprING BreAK!!!! she is not your girlfriend. essentially cock blocking you from meeting other girls. The women are flaky and spring break is not logistically set up for dates.9. some. don’t push hard to game them or couple up. and while you are heading to the club. or their group. she will act offended if you ignore her. hooking up with girls in your hotel… Make sure that if the girl is staying in your hotel you don’t sleep with her if she seems like the clingy type you aren’t sure you will want to be seen with all week. is going to break off and meet other guys. let this happen organically.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) this means you should have music and a few drinks in your room so they will want to stay and will want to pre-party there next time. WHo CAres??!! Don’t make them or any of their friends uncomfortable by acting jealous. utilize the fact that these girls are going with you and use it to your advantage. 132 . Set the right frames… pre frames (things said well before you get her in the bedroom) spring break is not a place where you are likely to meet your next girlfriend or future wife. it is quite common to get lMr (last minute resistance ) if you do not set the proper frames. you will need to set certain frames the night you hook up with her and the morning after. Do to the fact that you are hooking up with women you’ve known for only a short period of time. this means.
Don’t make out with her and run around the beach holding hands. It sucks we only have a week together. Just be flirty and playful. Just act exactly like you did the day before.” • “You know what I like about you? You seem like you’re really open minded. but I can already tell you are too much of a nice girl for me. you are leaving those on. I like that. so. the key is the timing. don’t act weird.” pre frame by challenging her Sexually: • “You are really sexy and really cool.” • “It’s a good thing you don’t live in Los Angeles…. You also want to wait to set these frames when you have the girl in isolation (away from her friends). You will find that you can create a situation where you have a stage five clinger following you around all week wondering why you are talking to other girls and not spending your entire spring break with her.we would have sex like 5 times a day. right?” • “We could never date. you are definitely a total prude. It would last exactly 2 months and be nothing but fights and makeup sex.” • “We can’t hang out.9. but I bet you are horrible in bed. this ends in a makeout.” • “Oh. but I can tell you are a bad kisser. When you see her the next day.” • “I love those shoes…if we end up having sex. then you will run into another problem that needs remedy. but it is a good idea to introduce at least some sexual dialogue.” • “You’re really hot. If 133 . you still have those weird 1950’s views on boys and sex. examples of pre frames: • “This is so weird that we met like this. If you introduce it before you have solid attraction. Most people are so judgmental and uptight. I usually do it in mini isolation (meaning that I do it just out of earshot of her friends).” • “You’re from the south? Ok.” • “You are really sexy. You don’t need to be overly sexual or pushy. it will destroy the set. you’re from the Midwest? So.” post frames: on the other hand if your same night lay game is tight.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) What frames Should you Set? You want to set frames that imply sexual intent.
I told her that I’m from oklahoma and that we don’t even kiss girls until the second date. the feelings you feel for each other. M.9. You may or may not hook up with her again on the trip anyway. or how glad you are that you met. focus on “how fucking attracted you are to her” and “how much she turns you on. Don’t let things get too serious or awkward. but the fastest way to guarantee that you don’t is to turn into a clingy boyfriend. As a matter of fact. The truth is that you should just avoid the women that you think will be stage five clingers. What frames can you set post sex to help reduce stage 5 clinger? To avoid any hard feelings or creating a stage five clinger. this girl tried to seduce me last night. was uncomfortably touchy feely.” 134 . If you try to sniper a girl right in front of her it might cause problems. example in Action: Braddock : “Mr. and was talking all smooth. Most women on spring break don’t give a shit!!!! they are there for the same reason you are. Do Not treat a woman that you hooked up with on spring break like she is your new girlfriend.” Keep things light/silly/playful after sex. there will often be other people in the room (your friends or hers). M .3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) you are just being social in general then she won’t notice that you are actively gaming other girls. but if you are just talking to everyone. but she insisted that I take my clothes off. I was in the corner minding my own business and this girl comes up to me and basically forces me to drink alcoholic beverages. most women are just as likely to get weirded out by a guy acting clingy. I will often say something like this to lighten the mood of the awkwardness of being naked in a stranger’s hotel room the next morning. When you wake up. she will assume you are just a social guy.” Girl: “lol…Whatever!!” Braddock: “Mr. thank God I’m a moral rock. you know how shy I am in bars and clubs. focus on the fact that “This was hot” and don’t place an emphasis on the connection you made.
If you keep things light and fun. Mr. don’t let her paint me with an unfair brush. don’t you think it’s only fair that she buys us breakfast as payment for tricking a sweet. she will stay light and fun.” It’s all about keeping things silly and light. innocent oklahoma boy?????” Mr.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) Girl: “hahaha…. M (said in silly Australian accent): “Yeah.. he came and talked to me!!!” Braddock: “Mr. AVoID Deep!!! Good luck on your spring break adventure. .9.Whatever. M. You know I’m saving my virginity until marriage. If you take things deep. she will go deep. You must steer the ship. I mean I’m going to have to hold him and explain to him that you aren’t going to marry him. As a matter of fact. I think that is more than fair.Braddock 135 . M.
the recipe for Compliance 10. farming 136 .rules to live by 10.respect first.4 Social circle vs.How College Game & DHV stories relate to sC Game .social Circle Mastery Audio parts 1-7 10.A strange paradox ..Let’s Just hug it out .Knowing When to pull .covered in thiS chapter: 10.. cold approach.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle . popularity second .Hunting Vs.3 Social circle mastery interview audio .2 Golden rule of Building a new Social circle .
http://www.html Question: “In my social circle how do I know when to start pouring on the attraction material or when to wait?” answer: social Circle attraction doesn’t begin until compliance begins.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle.. 137 .com/braddock/93788-when-pull-trigger-your-social-circle.10..theattractionforums.
but if it doesn’t.. you can create an awkward situation that isn’t going away anytime soon. these guys treat their social circle like it’s a night club and basically cold approach and game every girl in their circle. one thing you will notice in social circle settings is that pouring on the attraction material too early can have major repercussions.. If it hits. he would say. Consequently.. “Getting laid is probably 70% about getting compliance. I also noticed that the 138 .10.great.e. In this article I will show you why that % is even higher in social circle game. Most guys either try to pull the trigger way too early or way too late. they have a problem getting attraction because the women of the group see them as try hard and low value. I can remember spending a great deal of time in all three of these categories before figuring out how to find a balance that was effective. on the other end of the spectrum are the guys who try to pull the trigger far too early. overly pushy gamey guy).” I couldn’t agree more. I noticed that in cold approach “fortune favors the bold” but in social circle game this mentality often did more harm than good. Guys who pull the trigger with women way too late have a hard time getting attraction and asserting themselves in their group. compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Compliance Defined: “A disposition or tendency to yield to the will of others.” When I used to help the Don on his bootcamps... friend zone). and are now the guys who are attempting to pull the trigger WAY too early (I.e.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. the third type of guy is the one who used to pull the trigger way too late (I. a Strange paradox…. on the other hand. I quickly noticed that social circle game was much more about timing and patience. found pickup literature.. they make the situation very uncomfortable and come across as gamey or sleazy. they often find themselves in the friend zone.
10. jumping to defend or have their back without concern for the validity of their argument.. the women would have been deeply offended and turned off. We use this knowledge as a blueprint to determine the nature of each individual relationship in our life…. they would say and do things around women that if anyone else in the group would have tried.. but when these guys did it. we get a more static look at how people will behave on a consistent level. being more accommodating or forgiving of insurrections from them than you would from most people. When we first meet. “ok. You might even create rationalizations that paint just average behavior or even poor behavior in a positive light (I. if they like us etc… time remedies this because as time passes. I can make those kinds of jokes 139 . the recipe for compliance: let’s think about how social circles or social encounters for that matter.e. Over time. work. people become more relaxed and more compliant as a result of any one and usually a combination of these 3 things: 1. guys in my social circle who were getting laid consistently by the hottest girls were some of the boldest guys I’d ever met. so you are much more likely to bend on something with them that you wouldn’t necessarily bend on with someone you considered lower value. the women liked them even more. strengths.. be bold….. You are hardwired biologically to do so). high value: Communicating with someone you consider being a high value member of the group. if we should trust/like them. You want their acceptance and you want them to align with you. over time. time: the more time we spend with people. 2. you will naturally start to see what people’s boundaries are. laughing at an average joke way harder than it deserved.. their weakness. (Don’t say you don’t do this….everyone does this to some degree or another. unspoken roles will be defined for each member of the group and as these roles are accepted...1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle.anyone else confused? What a strange paradox. the less guarded we are and the more we relax around them. peer pressure. so.but don’t be bold…but do!?!?!?!??. stability and comfort are born within the group. Hanging out with someone 1 time is not a very strong measure of how people are going to treat you consistently. but hanging out 20 times will give you a pretty good idea. and what makes them feel good or bad. we are out of sync with people and we are not sure what their intentions are.
but they upset sam. When you first met you were likely fairly formal and both of you were holding your cards pretty close to your chest. 3. you begin to figure out each other’s boundaries and you both begin to open up. the more connected you feel to that person. this person treats me like x. When we have someone we feel extremely close to and consider part of our group. you can tease him. “How do all of these help me know when to pull the trigger?” to illustrate the above. You didn’t know him that well and you didn’t know his boundaries. but Jenny gets really upset. Shared experiences: Have you ever noticed that we have a tendency to let our family members get away with saying and doing things to us that we would never allow a stranger to do or say? You likely have an archive the size of the library of Congress full of memories and feelings associated with each family member. He can ask you to do something within reason and you can ask him to do something within reason. His or her behavior is most consistently like x. you may flash multiple good and bad memories and experience a wide range of feelings in a split second. so my mind is not alarmed when he does something out of the ordinary now and then.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. 140 . When you look at a picture of a family member. but might have been if a stranger tried them. As time passes.10. around Billy. If you enjoy your time with each other and your time spent with him makes you feel good emotions. the more experiences (good.. I’m not worried about him saying or doing any one thing. we are going to bend a lot more and let things slide that aren’t that big of a deal. We let them slide because we have tons of shared experiences and time spent together that proves that ‘most’ of the time.. then you will see him as high value to you. or neutral) you have with someone. over time we will become far more compliant to them than to a stranger or to someone within the group we do not feel good around.” or… “sara laughs hard when I playfully tease her. As this happens. bad. He can tease you. this likely explains why soldiers or athletes that endure hardship together report feeling like brothers or family. and as a result. and as you hang out more and more. think back to the time when you had met one of your closest guy friends. each of you becomes more and more compliant to one another.” If someone treats us well consistently and makes us feel good when we are around them.
..as compliance increases... You aren’t going to tease him as rough and you wouldn’t ask him for a favor and you would not be too excited about him asking for a sizable favor from you. oNlY IN HIs social circle because he has more time.. go back and re-read the above and replace guy with girl. Now.... shared experiences..10. but now they laugh. Could that same guy go to any club in America and yell at a random hot stranger and she would break her conversation and walk to him?.... ever notice you can joke rougher and get away with snide and edgy comments with women in your social circle? Could you have said those things to those women when you first met? Of course not.. Chalk this up to time + shared experience + value = increase in compliance... As you spend time with a woman in your social circle and you share experiences.. hoping it hits. you are essentially running cold approach game.. your attraction game can increase. He can get her to do more with less effort.. so when do you really turn up the attraction game???? Well.no. regardless of how good things were going with you and her? How did he pull her away from you? Is it because he’s “so alpha”.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. Have you ever been the new guy at a house party and you were flirting with a woman and it was going pretty well and then a guy from her inner social circle yells from across the room for her to come over and join them. and she does.. What about a guy friend you met 2 days ago? You are basically back to square one with the new guy. each of you open up more and each of you are more likely to loosen up your boundaries toward each other. and value increases. shared experiences.. and value with that woman than you do and as a result. He can pull off this magical feat. it should be obvious by now.. Is it because he’s got some quantum game.no..no. but the answer is.. Here lIes Your WINDoW to esCAlAte!!!!! time + Shared experience + value = compliance As time. Before then.so does compliance.he has more compliance from her than you do. 141 ......
So remember… compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Mr. It just means increase the frequency and intensity of your attraction game as compliance increases.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. M and I cover this in great detail in our social Circle Mastery seminar ... What if compliance decreases for some reason? let’s say she starts dating someone or for whatever reason you can sense that you have lost some compliance since last time you hung out... this could go back and forth tons of times before it finally hits.10. then the frequency and intensity of your attraction game should decrease. We’ll be right back after this commercial break from our sponsors.. -Braddock 142 . this does not mean stay in friend mode until compliance is high and this does not mean you should not run attraction game until compliance is high....Well.
M and I. When you get good. fuck. http://www. this goes back to the old David D quote of. but the truth is you are only digging a deeper hole. people must earn your praise. Don’t give people any more respect than they earn.. Just be real and act out of your own intentions regardless of what the group says or does without being too rigid either way..html In our social Circle Mastery seminar. but are nowhere near acquiring a power broker seat within their social circle. Go for respect first and popularity second. but for now. few of the things I think of when I think of respect. not by words... It’s easy to gain popularity.. turn into a 10 page post someday. strong Boundaries 2. this applies with guys and girls.” (We’ve all messed this one up). Your praise is as rare as Gold. “trying to trade status for acceptance and approval. Honesty at all cost. Mr. this does not mean become the lame try hard guy who tries to play leader either. 6.Golden rule of Building a new Social circle.. Respect first. you go for both at the same time. You are never jealous... 3. I’m sure there are many more. shine by actions. 4. call this the “Golden rule” for starting a new tree. It’s brutal to earn back the respect that you gave away up front. and the most.com/braddock/82236-golden-rule-building-new-social-circle.. popularity second. that will get you the opposite of respect just as fast. (fuck what everyone thinks) 5.theattractionforums. 1. simply remember the golden rule of building a new social circle. this could and may. 8. I know lots of guys who are popular. Abundance mentality (With everything) 7. You can easily gain respect without trying to be the leader. Guys in the power broker seats date the hottest. women in any given social circle. (see number 6) 143 . You don’t hand it out unless people truly deserve it. sometimes you may try to appease an asshole of the group or try to ‘go along to get along’ by doing what you think is popular. Authentic at all cost.
people with high and low value characteristics. every time I have broken this law.. but it means a lot when you do. wear your arm floaties.. You just consider them people. Never lean or leak emotionally on other people. you would never withhold laughter. 16. 18. but don’t need other’s validation.etc) 14.Golden Rule of Building a New Social Circle.e. Apologize rarely. You like.. Also.. but you don’t get close to just anyone. values. 17. or bend the truth in the face of value. people who are not self reliant are disgusting!) this does not mean you can’t ask favors or advice. (No courtesy laughs) Yet. sense of humor.” -Deleanor roosevelt (I. (read this one 100 times. “Be courteous to all. Has no problem teasing or qualifying people of high value. Negative. this means you are not emotionally fragile and need others approval to know you are ok.. people who make excuses. Most important. It’s hard to get “in” with you. yet expect you to respect theirs. 12. favorite David D quote. Your time is precious. only laugh if something is truly funny. Keep your secrets... don’t ask advice from anyone who isn’t living the life you want to live...” Have a good holiday weekend! If you are going to the lake. Why would you share them with people who don’t matter? 13. Don’t ask advice from the weak.” -George Washington 15. You are nice to everyone.. Better yet.) 19. 9. -Braddock 144 .learn to say “No” a lot. 20. and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. I’ve hated them for it. True friendship is a plant of slow growth.. 11. (May be the quickest way to lose respect. they have to earn it. I’ve hated myself for it!!! Anytime someone breaks this law around me. but intimate with few. “Don’t spend major time with minor people. Never change your beliefs. because you don’t consider them higher value. Don’t let people disrespect your time. and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation. be ok hearing “No. 10.
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. I’m a little jealous. I couldn’t remember how long I was expected to speak so I prepared about 5 hours of content..... In social Circle Mastery we define buzz as having people talk about you when you aren’t around. I teach guys that in college game and in Social Circle Mastery you are much better DHV’ing by first. I would probably be the baby daddy of like 30 kids. that is the worst place to try and develop one. but not limited to. Jesus! on second thought...4 Social circle vs. 5 hours of college game. and amoging guys for no reason.. AlWAYs trying to control the frame.10. I spent most of my speech trying to hit the highlights of what I wish someone would have told me when I started college. It’s impossible not to feed off of that when you are speaking.. I wish I would have found this stuff when I was a freshman in college... hmm. I think the worst thing that a young guy can do on a college campus is run around trying to emulate what he learned in The Game.. At Love Systems. but to ditch all the lame old guard community dogma including. I also spent a fair amount time trying to MurDer the sacred cows of classic pickup dogma.. (I love The Game it changed my life) but trying to develop a super hero pickup persona has it’s time and place. but a college campus is not one of them.com/braddock/74455-social-circle-vs-cold-approach-lets-just-hugout.. getting your sub communications under control. I spoke for about an hour on college game.. peacocking. cold approach. This trumps any weak DHV story you might develop. having 300 DHV stories. by letting other people observe you in multiple high value situations. They have a lot of energy and they are fired up to learn this stuff.html 21 and under convention. I just got back from speaking at the 21 and under convention. Several of the principles Mr. and second.. I like speaking to the younger guys. As a matter of fact.Let’s Just hug it out http://www. future product? I love speaking about college game because it’s definitely my bag.. the ultimate DHV is creating a ‘Buzz’ about you.maybe it’s better that I didn’t. 146 .theattractionforums. we advise college guys and anyone gaming within the confines of a small social circle to learn the basic structure outlined in savoy’s book. M and I developed for our social Circle Mastery seminar were born out of my college experience. opening every set. Magic Bullets.
I promise not to hit on any of his 5’s or 6’s.. But in social circle or college game. It’s not even the second or third best option. hunting vs farming: the evolution of Society I like to think of cold approach as hunting and social circle game as farming.4 Social circle vs. you run a high risk of looking insecure. you have to tell DHV stories in order to convey your personality in 30 minutes or less.Let’s Just hug it out dhv stories: In the words of Chris rock.10.’ therefore. “You ain’t got to lie to kick it. then social circle game is not possible for you. 147 ..” Awww. I have spent the last few years of my life mastering it. Don’t care.but. I actually love cold approach. I’m telling you from first hand experience if you want the hottest girls in your social circle..but. live in a major city and don’t frequent the same venues. If that is the case. and deep comfort are the be all end all of game! He’s the self proclaimed best ever!” Yuck. I have this friend and he tells the best stories and girls love him and and and he says cold approach. Why do you knock it so hard? You are hurting my feelings and making my friend upset. or are not in college it may be the only means of meeting women you have... like a braggart. Ask him for pictures of these girls... cold approach. Braddock. frame setting.” DHV stories were developed for cold approach because you have one shot at making it happen because you don’t have weeks or months to develop ‘Buzz. If you have access to a stable of hot girls you are going to see on a semi regular basis. running fast paced cold approach game is the Worst option. ruN soCIAl CIrCle GAMe!!!!!!! fuck your friend.Braddock you teach cold approach. I understand. “But.. If you travel. or like you are lying if you constantly look for places where you can slide in a DHV stories. I have mastered both because I think cold approach is a blast but I have realized that it doesn’t have to be a way of life. this is why cold approach is such an art form and why it is so tough. “But but but. tell your friend I’m sorry.. I would never try to convince someone not to learn it..
10... You have a harvest of crops growing. leArN BotH!!!!!!!!! -Braddock 148 . but in a progressive society it slowly becomes more of a sport or a right of passage and less and less of a means for survival. sometimes. When you are hunting you have to kill something every time you are hungry.. when you are ready to harvest. best trophy animal of the herd. When you could be spending that time laying inroads for access to bigger better hunting ground..Let’s Just hug it out hunting: It is a necessary skill all men should posses. You may have to take what you can get because you don’t know when you will eat next...4 Social circle vs.. Basically.. it’s the biggest.. you aren’t even thinking on those terms because you are starving! farming: When you farm you do a lot of work up front followed by intermittent maintenance. you come back and pick the best crops and throw away the weaker crops.. and sometimes it’s the disease ridden runt. then. cold approach. omnivore: When you combine the two. but you can go hunting for fun to see if you can find the trophy of the herd. this is true power. every time you go out and don’t kill something you become hungrier and hungrier.
1 Creating Friends w/ Benefits .covered in thiS chapter: 11.An example of How to set-up a friends w/ Benefits Scenario 149 .
she came back in for a moment that turned into lying on the floor together. a one night stand. She said that she can’t have sex with a friend only.com/braddock/103563-creating-friends-benefits-my-responsered. a friend came over to pick something up at my place.” 150 . but I’m also not looking for a relationship right now. We ended up going for a walk. Avoid saying anything that builds too much comfort. It was supposed to be quick. that some people scare me. (simply smile to acknowledge it. I am pretty low on sleep. but don’t get into a logical conversation) I like to say less and keep the tension on them! Whether you want friends with benefits. but sandwich this with some nice cognitive dissonance by saying. or a girlfriend. I usually just smile and/or escalate and ignore it. As she finally put her shoes on to leave.theattractionforums. 2. I have the pernicious question in my head: “I hope that she is not thinking we are in a committed relationship. she said that she likes me more than a friend.11. she has just openly started chasing you. so this may come out all fumbled. “I don’t sleep with people who are just friends either”. By not letting her know what you think either way. “I don’t sleep around or with someone unless they are more than friends. how they date and are on track to get married and get babies and that wasn’t for me. I usually don’t get into a big dialogue when girls say this.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response In Red) http://www. you create a powerful unresolved tension inside her. leaving them hanging just a little after they put themselves out there is powerful. Validate her by saying.” Could you give me a quick check on what you think and suggestion on how to proceed.html originally posted by Cowboy1: Okay. If you feel she is a girl who would get super clingy then there are a few things you could do: 1. I am not sure that it helped make sure that we are not going to have a committed relationship. Last night. Though. I tried setting expectations later by bringing up. Afterward.
rather than following societies model... took a nap.’ She kind of nodded. This. We ended up screwing until sunrise. However. During and just after sex.. It’s not a deal breaker. but you are doing stuff that I only do with girlfriends/girls I’ve slept with numerous times and know the score. I avoid saying anything about how I feel to a girl I just want to sleep with. they don’t get their feelings hurt or have misguided expectations since I don’t verbalize much.etc. and I build the necessary comfort by making them laugh and have fun. Don’t stand there waiting as if you two are negotiating a million dollar contract 4. 151 ... I gave her the spiel of ‘letting things naturally develop. Not bad. but they don’t know for sure if I do. while very fun.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) 3.. She had some first experiences. 5.. this way. “Get the fuck out.” this allows her to leave with self esteem nice and high. “Baby”. I didn’t hear the rebellious. Keep it physical and “MAYBe” about how cool she is... It all depends on the girl and the situation. set it for 8am (whatever time) and tell her that you have to get up and go to work in the morning/help a friend move/overthrow a small countries government. We ended up washing each other in the shower and had breakfast in the afternoon. be careful what you say. Don’t say shit like.. we make our own rules..”you’re so special”. Just before you have sex.. but keeps her from lingering and doing relationship type stuff.. After you say something heavy like that. like her first vibrator...”I’m so glad we met... I say shit like this sometimes..Keep it about how attracted to her you are.11. is not something I would do the first time I had sex with a girl I just wanted to be my fuck buddy. they like me and wonder/wish I like them.just a logical reason for her to get the fuck out without you having to say.. but not bad. every girl has a slightly different blueprint of what she will feel ok with before having sex/becoming a friend with benefits. ask her to hand you the alarm clock next to the bed. Don’t say that and wait for a response. Every two people form their own kinds of relationship..”. keep escalating like a mother fucker. say it as if it’s a good thing and simply a statement of fact. A little long winded for this situation. and then some more..
. Girls play the same game.. I can push him toward a relationship. I can’t stand girls who do that. I am touching both pretty affectionately. but will have a hard time combating that and will passively accept it (if said right). HAHAHAHAHAHAHA You are my hero!!! When we all three hang out. I think that is so fucking sexy. Do you think that in her mind we are a couple now? No. what is the responsible. Just after sex . because he did all these things. then. Also. but you’re not like that.” It’s much like qualification. slightly smooth way to handle expectations? She is cute and all.. I am not looking for a committed relationship at this point. Situation check and pointers please! 152 . please fuck both of them and write an awesome 3some field report. Yet.say. “Yes.11. You keep getting the girl to comply to smaller and smaller things and the next thing she knows she is sleeping with you.. If so. Though. and her room mate is my ex-girlfriend.. I wanted to be safe. it will be harder and harder to say no.. We were already holding hands before.if I keep this up and keep getting him to accept these types of things. Setting expectations for the relationship/situation is perhaps the thing that I am struggling with the most. You:”You know what I think is so fucking hot about you?” Her: “What?” You: “Most girls get all weird and clingy after you have sex and they try to push you into a relationship. I hold hands with more girls. and she was pretty persistent about bareback.. but in her mind she may be thinking.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) Oh. they get you to comply on small things and then the next thing you know you are at Bed Bath and Beyond picking out decorations for the bathroom you share with your new girlfriend.” she will be frustrated inside. Oh.
covered in thiS chapter: 12.the “Good” and “Bad” About routines 153 .How to Get over using routines .1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point .
and the more advanced concepts will start to slowly 154 . I’m signed up for Mr. but they are almost worthless and definitely come across weird when they are used as the steak of the conversation.... html originally posted by eagle1977 Hey guys. Go in with the mind set for the first week you are just going to try to be funny and make the girls laugh and get them being playful (that’s it). (totally psyched!) and would love to get some suggestions to work on this before the bootcamp. it won’t allow you to use routines and it will keep you from asking boring questions. I think we all go through a phase where we run around trying to use 300 routines. What you learn is that routines are strong when they are used as the salt and pepper. Down the road (in a week or two).. be playful. you need to work on how to extend conversations without having to memorize anything.. Work for a few months at becoming a strong conversationalist who can keep conversations going.I feel like I’m at a sticking point where I’m too dependent on ‘routines’. only keep the conversation going by making statements. you can start adding teeth to this to build attraction.M bootcamp in Washington.com/braddock/103566-too-routine-dependent-sticking-point... DC in Sept. as I don’t want to keep up bad habits for another 2 months. “so where are you from?” You have to say.12. Another thing I did when I was trying to get good is something I read in a Juggler post. He said to go out for a few nights and don’t ask any questions.” or. “You seem like an lA girl. who can make a woman laugh.. so instead of saying.theattractionforums.Thanks! Go out for a week and don’t use any routines (at least consciously). either way.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point http://www. but for now. you will have to introduce new topics yourself.I open/transition fine but immediatly after I kinda just feel like I’m going through a manual in my head of attraction routines and sometimes it’s working and sometimes (with hotter girls) it’s just falling flat.
-Braddock 155 . I also teach trigger words on my bootcamps and we do several exercises to reduce the emphasis of routines for these same reasons. routines are nice because they can get you a repeatable response while you are learning and help you see what good conversation feels like. if you think you will ever memorize 399 routines. and every conversation is so different. and you will take a girl home. say them all in a row.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point happen on their own. they are also powerful in certain situations. because they can steer an already good conversation sexual or whatever you need. However. in that you say many of the same things in every set.12. it would be impossible to create a routine stack that works in every situation. then you are crazy. What you will notice as you get better at things like trigger words and the things I mentioned above. your responses will be delayed as you try to remember which one to say. but it will be born out of what you have naturally developed as opposed to going to a bar with 20 routines you have to memorize and figure out where to plug them in. you will find yourself doing “routines” technically. You will go insane trying to memorize them all.
covered in thiS chapter: 13. Wild’ .2 Soldier of fortune! .‘Man Vs.A set with satan .How the set turned Around .elements that Made the set explode 13.taming the Beast and Claiming the prize 156 .1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report .
I used to be one. ooops! she turned and looked at me slowly from head to toe. M and sheriff were in town early. I opened the target and not the obstacle. it’s not very often that someone blows me away with their game or with something they can teach me to add to my game.com/braddock/61183-lr-poppin-my-colla-partna-nyc-lay-report. it’s sick”. html NYC was a fucking blast. you’ve got to see Mr.theattractionforums. Ha! the student and I went to a really cool club that his friend got us into. Negative people fucking suck donkey dick to work with and in life in general. those are my favorite guys to work with. We opened a few sets and then I saw a 2 set at the bar I wanted to open. We went to several venues and even though NYC was kinda slow because it was a thursday. one of those “I didn’t know they stacked shit that high” looks. It was really late so Mr. our hero knows the remedy for such bitchy behavior is social proof. I had talked to my one on one several times on the phone and he seemed really cool and really excited to learn. great energy and outlook on life.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report http://www. that Mr. sheriff ended up getting a BJ from some girl he met in the elevator on his way to bed. Dahunter called me after he met him in lA and told me how amazing this guy was. I open a few sets get locked in and have them touching me and grabbing me. Also. I knew this guy must be the real deal. M closed a playboy playmate and that just talking to the guy helps make your game better. M and sheriff went home and went to bed. Back to reopen satan! Braddock : “excuse me satan……” 157 .13. “Holy shit dude. He’s a cool dude and really fun. Graduated from Harvard. They don’t expect you to fix them and they don’t hate life. they decided to go out with my one on one and I just for fun. some social proof. I was excited about NYC because I was going to get to hang with sheriff. off to go get that. fine. so. Now that I’m not. for him to be like. How unexpected. I said sweeeet! sign me up! since Mr. I can’t stand being around them. so. the student did really well and we had a blast.A. at this level. M. he still did well. Also. I can learn something from anyone I meet. I was excited to meet Mr. but I have to admit. Dahunter gets laid like a fucking rockstar and has some of the best game I’ve ever seen. M in action. lived and traveled the world. We had a blast. Well kinda. Dahunter said in l. she didn’t even answer my question and she turned back to her friend! lolol this kind of behavior only excites our hero. sheriff is great at watching someone in set and telling them what they can change to take their game to the next level. He was a really interesting guy. I flew out early on Thursday and once again they fucked up my flight.
If other girls like you then you must be cool. But. twice. Don’t get mad and don’t try to act like it’s overly funny. I don’t look at her. Hi. More social proof!!!! Now it’s time to own the room. I open multiple sets and merge them and bounce around from girl to girl and get locked in where satan can see me.” Braddock : “look I don’t know what all the attitude was earlier.13. so get over the whole this guy wants me thing. You wouldn’t get mad and yell and you wouldn’t try to look cool by laughing in her face. I could tell this girl was attracted or I would have moved on as well.” our hero bends over grabs her ID and hands it to her. can you play nice or is that how you always are?” (social proof was key for all of this.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report Satan: Cutting me off before I could even finish my sentence: “Fuck off. Just handle that bullshit like you would if a five year old was talking to you. I know you have lots of options and you can tell I have lots of options. hey nice to meet you too. you’re kinda fiery.” satan: “I’m sara. (sIDe Note: Most of the time when a girl blows you out that hard just move on. You would just smile and not care. It’s crucial during these shit tests that you remain unaffected by their shit responses. but you don’t need the bar front with me. I’m Braddock. Her eyeing me and staying in proximity also let me know that there was a chance at salvaging it. smiles and walks away.” 158 . You didn’t look like the normal NYC bar fly so I wanted to meet you. Braddock : “let’s start over. so. satan: “I’m sorry I was rude. that’s all the IoIs you’re going to get from a hot girl that has blown you out hard. I’ve just had a bad day and we’ve had some weird guys hit on us tonight. your moment to strike for the third time is when she breaks off from her friends. she has to stay congruent in front of her friends to the bitch she was earlier. But. but I can feel her eyes on me. take a hint.” Braddock: “I was just going to tell you that you dropped your ID on the floor. As I see her coming out of the bathroom I catch her before she gets back to her friends.) she goes to the bathroom by herself and she cuts her eyes at me as she is walking.
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Braddock: “I forgive you, let’s hug it out.” satan: (hugs and laughs) Braddock : “Wow you have normal teeth!?” satan: “lol What?” Braddock : “After the way you acted earlier I assumed you had fangs.” satan: “lol shut up jerk!” Braddock: (handing her my phone) “Here I think this is for you, it’s satan, he said he wants his job back.” satan: “Now you are being mean.” Braddock: “You deserve it. You embarrassed me in front of my other wives earlier. Did you see me crying? You’re lucky I stopped them, they were going to kick your ass.” satan: “oh, you mean all those sluts around you? Yeah I could have taken them.” Braddock : “Would you have used your pitch fork or just shot fire out of your eyes?“ satan: “lol, quit calling me satan.” Braddock : “Yeah you’re probably right, I knew all that shit was just a big front. You’re still evil, but not like I thought. You’re more like the margarine of evil. You’re the diet evil.” satan: “You are funny.” Bla bla bla for another 20 min. Kino through the roof at this point. she is still kinda being a bitch at times, but I know it’s on.
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I tell her I’m leaving because I’m starving (I use this to pull almost everytime, which is usually true, but I never actually get something to eat, which is good and bad lol.) satan: “Wait, let me grab my friend and I’ll go with you.” she grabs her Asian friend and we get a cab. We drop her friend off and she gives the cab driver a “non food address”. It’s like 4 am at this point and the cab driver drops us off about a block from her house. As we are walking toward her apt building she starts with the lMr. I am a beast at destroying lMr for a couple of reasons, especially on bootcamp. I really have no fear of walking away, and because I’m literally leaving in 2 days, I don’t have time for any bullshit. there literally is, no tomorrow. the sexual tension was about to explode between us, because there were so many shit tests and so much drama leading up to this moment that it was ridiculous. However, this kind of state pumping leads to amazing sex if it happens, but it can also lead to lMr if you don’t properly build fear of loss into the set once you pass attraction. I usually thread this during comfort. that way she has invested so much time into the interaction with you that the fear of loss actually means something. If you do it too early then she just lets you go even if she was attracted. You don’t have to be in deep comfort, just enough comfort to where she feels invested in the encounter enough to where she doesn’t want you to leave. so we get to her door and…… satan: “I’m sorry, you can’t come up, I know we will end up having sex.” Braddock: “Wow, of course I want to have sex with you eventually, but I actually just wanted to hang out and get to know you better. I wasn’t worried about what might or might not happen. But, you know what, fuck this shit, I’m not going to let you disrespect me and act like I’m just another guy who wants to fuck you. I could have fucked any girl in that bar tonight, why would I waste my time on the girl who was least likely to have sex with me unless I actually wanted to get to know her?” (Don’t give her time to answer.) “fuck this I’m out.” (start heading down the street trying to hail a taxi.)
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satan: sprinting after me, “Wait, wait!” Braddock: Never breaking stride, never looking back at her, and even shrugging her off when she grabs my arm. “Nope, fuck this I’m going home. What a waste of my fucking time.” satan: “No, wait. I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it like that. please wait. Don’t be like this.” Braddock: “look, I know you like me, but I don’t like all the little bullshit games. I’m only here for 3 days. I don’t have time for all the junior high shit. I obviously like you too. We can either go up to your place and hang out, or I’m going back to my hotel. But if you are going to be all judgmental and bitchy about everything then I don’t want to get to know you. You’ve kinda killed the mood for me and I think it would be better if I just went home.” satan: “No, no, don’t be like that. I do like you, please come up. I didn’t mean it like that. I’m not judgmental at all. I promise! I just didn’t want you to forget I said all that.” she was all over me at this point again. And trying to drag me upstairs. I thought she was going to cry! I lightened the mood a little, but still kept the sexual tension. Braddock: “Hmm… look if you want to go upstairs and watch a movie or something that’s cool, but it better be pG-13 and you better keep you damn hands off me. satan: smiles, she liked that she had worked and won me over. “shut up jerk, let’s go.” We get up to her apartment and she awkwardly fumbles through a few DVD’s and I just grab her and throw her against the wall and start making out with her and then pull her back to her bedroom. I can honestly say it was some of the best sex I have ever had. And one of the greatest turnarounds I’ve ever had. once I got her to her room, the “non judgmental“ frame was set so hard and she had worked so hard to get me that there was no way in hell she was going to stop. moral of the story: There are a few tactics I employed in this set that made it go from flammable to fucking explosive! However, these tactics are not for the faint of heart.
Hell. explosive: Aggressive takeaways during comfort making it look and feel like she lost me.Braddock 162 . . and you can count on losing a lot more sets. this stuff is not always necessary. If the set is naturally leading to sex.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report running my style of one night stand game has its drawbacks. Adding drama to the set. most go like that. then just let it happen. so don’t always use them. Your fearless leader. this situation needed some extreme push/pull and she had to feel the fear of loss or the bitch shield would never have come down. (thank you sinn). social proofed the room. flammable: Cocky funny. It’s totally different than the game I run back home on girls I plan on seeing again. this situation in NYC was a little different. unreactive to her bitchy blowouts. where emotions reach extreme highs. this girl was hot as hell and a complete bitch.13. threading frames that you expect her to live up to or she knows you will walk. I have a million stories where it reached a point where I knew sex was going to happen and I just shut the fuck up and waited until we were alone.
and that I had nothing but friendly.. she became more and more of an agitated troll. the sooner you realize that all of Braddock’s writings will someday be chiseled at the feet of large statue’s erected in my honor.13. “You’re gonna make a really nice friend.. I jumped on the grenade. Despite all this.. here you go. on the second night. but her hatred would soon spew forth. one thing that I’ve found is that it is hard to wing with new guys even if you both have super tight game. This particular troll was an extremely hateful one. he had this hot ass girl (who he eventually fucked). because if the instructors were around each other more it would be like fishing with fucking dynamite when we were in set together.. once Dahunter had his girl locked up.2 Soldier of fortune! http://www. We wing very well together too.then.. I walked her troll friend back down to the wharf and helped her crawl back under the bridge before the sun came up.. the sooner you will stop being a lazy fuck and read my posts! Anyway. which sucks. He gets the same results I get with half the effort... with fake tits and a perfect body crawling all over him. 163 . Dahunter: After winging Dahunter. However. fuck you!!! If you were too nice to just come right out and say that my posts are too long. anti-cock block conversation in my pants for her.A. I adjusted the aim on my scope and started aiming for a girl that didn’t have horns and a tail…. I am reposting a lay report that was deeply imbedded in my savoy. as the reality of the situation set in that Dahunter had every intention of banging her friend.. Bootcamp post. once your noble hero Braddock saw that Dahunter’s fake titted girl was stuck to him like glue. (her fat friend). l. she started off nice enough... leading to this glorious narrative. they are also rumored to be allergic to clothes that fit and low calorie snacks after midnight).theattractionforums. When I said.. and too lazy to read my blog.. If you were too lazy to read the whole thing. you are wise to bite your fucking tongue. as long as I could. or too nice to tell me that my posts are too long. but he runs a much slower set and he gets great reactions.” the troll became noticeably frustrated and confused.. Most troll friends I enjoy chatting with being as they are usually funnier and smarter than their hot friend. You aren’t around each other enough to have tons of inside jokes built up and you aren’t good at reading the other guys game to see how he is trying to push it. She caught a few live fish with her mouth and talons and then she settled into her cave. (trolls are allergic to sunlight.. I’m going to try to slow my game down. our game is very similar in that both of us are very sexual and kino big time. I felt like Dahunter and I winged for each other extremely well.com/braddock/61182-lr-braddock-soldier-fortune.html thanks to an overwhelming amount of email requests from the platinum members who subscribe to Braddock’s blog that are too fucking lazy..
she knows I am done entertaining her.” Braddock : “oh.(pause so she can wheeze an catch her breath to finish the sentence)…. Braddock feels this stereotype originated thanks to fairytales aimed at America’s youth containing anti-troll rhetoric). I’m not attracted to that many black girls but..” (troll sticks out her scale covered talon and shakes hands with the HB Asian. I’ve already answered. that was rude of me. you are the cutest black girl I’ve met tonight.13.” trolls are actually quite smart despite common misconception. help us out real quick. I mean.. he’s the…. then. like a snake but much deeper.. but doesn’t want to. this is my friend. (your hero isn’t out to hurt feelings. You think he’s safe or should I go rescue him? I mean. you’re Asian?” (back turn) 164 .. Although the troll has become spiteful.. Braddock : “Yeah so anyway. and by natural. you asshole. My boy is over there with her friend and I’m worried about him.. Braddock : “Hey. (Braddock cuts off this awkward display of troll anger and bad body languages the troll out of the conversation).” HB Asian: “ha ha!” about to say something when she is cut off by. I’m Vietnamese. troll.” HB Asian: HAHAHA “I’m not black. however the people’s champ harbors no bad feelings about using the troll as a pawn to make conversation with a fairer maiden). one that came and talked to my friend. then I included the hot Asian girl in on our conversation.” Braddock : “oh. a short window between the troll’s wheezing and hissing. “Whatever. “Her questions three.. I waited for a natural break in our conversation. even if the troll becomes hateful. she looks pretty tough. troll: (loud troll hissing. there is something about you. she is not dumb.2 Soldier of fortune! The Tale of Braddock: Soldier of Fortune! I moved the troll mentioned in the above to a place by the bar near a hot Asian girl I had my eye on earlier in the night.
I don’t know do a spin for me.... you do dress sexy. this just won’t ever work out. but I have a rape whistle.” (Kino is pretty heavy at this point and she obviously works out or has only a mild case of bulimia. just because you’re good at Karate doesn’t mean that you get to wear the pants in this relationship. so who cares. I do have 5 other wives and I don’t really need another one and you can’t drive for shit but. HB Asian: “HAHAHA!” Braddock : “But Asian’s can’t drive for shit.” HB Asian: “You are out of control. hmmmm.13. so there is no way we could get married.2 Soldier of fortune! HB Asian: (arm grab.” Braddock: “that’s a bold statement. Well.” HB Asian: “HAHAHA You are a fucking smart ass! Why does everyone say that about Asians!? And did you say you can’t marry me? Where did that come from and why would that matter?” Braddock : “Well. I bet I’m cuter than all your wives. but you’re probably one of those girls whose ass looks hot in clothes. 165 . Who are you anyway? Braddock : “I’m the one asking the questions around here sucka! look. Asian’s are always weird kissers. so. spins me around) “What was that all about?” Braddock : “Asians can’t drive for shit. you do look good in this outfit.” HB Asian: “see. got it?” HB Asian: “HAHAHA! oMG. You may know karate. so I would have to ride in the front all the time to grab the wheel and make sure you didn’t miss turns and stuff and I think we both know guys that ride in the passenger seat with their wives are pussies. but it’s actually not firm at all and who cares anyway. and you have a good smile.” Braddock : “You know what. I make all of my other wives drive me to and from wherever I need to go and I like to ride in the back because it makes me feel powerful.
this kind of dialogue goes on for another 30 min or so. get your God damn ass off my hand.2 Soldier of fortune! because her body was badass). are stuck up and snobby. I know girls like you.. I’m starving.”(bla bla bla ..” HB Asian: “Ahh. whatever Jackie Chan. Next thing you know you’re going to try to put your hand under my bra. ok? Me and my friends just come to dance and we like to look good. Most girls I’ve met in l.... You’re fun to talk to.. well guess what.” HB Asian: “You are such a jerk! I love it.. Just because I get all dressed up and have my makeup looking so good. but you can’t even keep your hands to yourself in a public place like this and I can’t find my rape 166 . I would normally slap a guy for half the shit you said tonight.13. I know you want me! You are crazy! What?” Braddock: “I may let you flirt a lot and get kinda handsy like you are doing.. rough.” HB Asian: “HAHAHA.. quit trying to charm me because you didn’t think that I heard the bartender yell last call. I would invite you along if I thought I would feel safe with you in the back. I think I’m out of here.. I bet you’re such a little player.” HB Asian: “HAHAHAHA..” Braddock: “Bla bla.A. doesn’t mean I come to the club looking for sex. and this shirt makes my tits look huge... Braddock: “Damn.oMG whatever.” (places Braddock’s rugged.. I do ballades! feel this. Haha! that does kinda sound silly when I hear someone else say it. HB Asian: “Bullshit! I have a personal trainer and I work out four days a week.Me and my girlfriends have said that soooo many times. I don’t know how you get away with talking to me like that. but if I don’t get something to eat then I’m going to wilt. you are fun to talk to. Braddock: “Hey. but I’m not going to let you take my virginity..see!” Braddock: “Ha. tons of push/pull and tons of kino and kino takeaways for arbitrary reasons that make no sense logically. man-hand on her ass). however effective)..You are out of control. I like you because you’re just stuck up..
she tells him an address. Maybe the taxi driver will let you ride in the front.” Braddock: “Now you’re getting it.. Alright.. I pull her onto her bed and we start making out..exactly! You are such a jerk. I keep stopping mid makeout to ask the taxi driver random lame questions.. she knows I’m doing it to fuck with her and I can tell it’s turning her on. It was nice meeting you. she keeps pulling me in to makeout with her. When she comes back I pretend to be asleep.13. Hmmm. I’m out Jackie Chan. We stop for a minute so she can change. and you’re from the midwest.. you should be kissing my ass.” HB Asian: “HAHAHA!! Who are you? You are such a fucking smart ass! I want to punch you and makeout with you at the same time. I’m from l.” HB Asian: “Hahaha. your bed is so comfortable.2 Soldier of fortune! whistle. you’re just gonna leave like that?” Braddock: “What do you mean? I’m tired and I’m starving!” HB Asian: “I thought you wanted me to go?” Braddock: “God! You are such a high maintenance lA girl! (me mocking her in a pouty girls voice as I grab her hand and pull her toward the exit) “I know you already asked me once.” (enter the taxi. she lays next to me on her bed and kisses me on the cheek and lightly shakes me to wake me up). Are you sure you don’t mind sleeping on the couch? I would give you a pillow...I’m a big deal. We get to her apartment building and she leads me in to the elevator by the hand. but I really do feel most comfortable with both of them.. I don’t question it or mention food again. We go in her apartment and go straight to her room. Braddock: “Wow.” HB Asian: “Wait.” 167 .” HB Asian: “Ha! there you go with the girl riding in the front with you getting chauffeured in the back. but I want you to beg me to come.A. We make out in the back off and on..
backed up. she gave me a ride back to my Hotel. -B 168 .13. His story had a much more interesting twist than mine did.. I had push pulled her so many times up to that point that there was zero lMr.The troll that I thought I had secured under the bridge must have escaped. Afterwards. many of the same characters were involved.. We traded stories about the night before. Go read his blog to find out all the details. I teased her all the way there about how she was doing nothing to shatter the bad Asian driver stereotype. I Walked in the hotel room and saw Dahunter passed out.. but here’s a snack. and grabbed him despite the troll’s hissings!!!! He then went back and showed the fake titted hottie his thug passion.they went to drive off. And.. His game is really tight. I fucked her in her bed that night and once again in her shower the next morning. (My bad)...2 Soldier of fortune! I just laughed and started making out with her. because she almost fucked him over. slammed on the brakes..
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