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Section 1: inner Game
1. Your Best self 1.1 1.2 1.3 1.4 Inner Game Change Your life NoW!!!!!!! Q & A on Wings and Cutting old friends Do You Bring Value or take it???? 1 2 13 17 21 26 27 30 34 36 39 40 41 44 47 48 58 60

2. oNe speCIAl GIrl 2.1 2.2 2.3 2.4 oneitis?? Q & A on love Girl Has a Boyfriend, But I Know she likes Me “I Don’t Chase......I replace.”

3. NeWBIes 3.1 to the New Guys! 3.2 Dates: lunch, Dinner, Drinks 3.3 the prescription to Move out of the lJBf Zone 4. opeNING 4.1 Approach Anxiety 4.2 Q & A on Approach Anxiety 4.3 opening Mixed Groups (Guys and Girls)

Section 2: outer Game
5. teAsING & role plAYs 5.1 Q & A: How Can I Make Girls laugh? 5.2 How to flirt with Women, the Art of push/pull 63 64 66 I

6. tAKeAWAYs & sNls 6.1 takeaways for sNls 6.2 same Niglt lay simple pointers 7. 9’s & 10’s 7.1 How Do I Date Hotter Girls? “proximity is power.” 7.2 Braddock and Mr. M (10 Game Audio) 7.3 Dating tip: Become successful with Women by Modeling 8. pHoNe AND text 8.1 8.2 8.3 8.4 text Game text Game Basics by Braddock and savoy text Game: Making the Number solid the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game

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9. ColleGe GAMe 9.1 College Game Videos 9.2 Q & A on College and social Circle Game 9.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to get you laid)

Section 3: LifeStyLe
10. soCIAl CIrCle MAsterY & ColD ApproACH 10.1 10.2 10.3 10.4 When to pull the trigger in Your social Circle Golden rule of Building a New social Circle... social Circle Mastery Interview Audio social Circle Vs. Cold Approach...let’s Just Hug it out 136 137 143 145 146

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1 poppin my Colla partna NYC lay report 13.2 soldier of fortune! III . frIeNDs W/ BeNefIts 11. lAY reports 13. stICKING poINts 12.11.1 too ‘routine Dependent’ sticking point 13.1 Creating Friends w/ Benefits 149 150 153 154 156 157 163 12.

setting realistic Goals .relaxing .stop Bullshitting Yourself & others 1.Being in the Moment 1.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends .When to find New friends 1.1 inner Game .4 do you Bring value or take it???? .2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! .the self Concept .covered in thiS chapter: 1.What it really Means to Have a Wing .Value and its “Identity” 1 .

by eckhart tolle realization of Being. This is how much confidence you truly feel for a given skill set. by eckhart tolle living the liberated life. being in the moment. by Maltz the psychology of Achievement. I will try to offer some of the key concepts that have resonated with me.” Not wish you could or hope to believe or pretend to believe. psycho Cybernetics. 2 .. I’m going to try and make this post as short as I can and keep it geared toward pickup.html the self Concept and Being in the Moment: I’ve been reading quite a few books lately on the self concept. but I picked these two because I think they are most important. and selfdeception. they have had a big impact on my life and game.theattractionforums. Here are a few of the books I have read several times trying to really understand this and internalize it.1. My notes below are merely the tip of the iceberg. Inner game has many components. Making small changes here and there can change your game DrAstICAllY! self Concept: Simple definition - “How much you truly believe that you are capable of doing something.. by Brian tracy the power of Now. You don’t have to become Mystery or style to enjoy great success. Winner’s edge: What is this? People who dominate any field are only a “hair” better than everyone else. some helpful books on these topics. However. I have literally stacks of notebooks full of notes I have taken on each book.1 inner Game http://www.com/braddock/61181-braddocks-inner-game. I highly suggest you do not use this post as a substitute for reading these books cover to cover. the difference in the success they enjoy is enormous. by eckhart tolle Inner Game: If you develop your inner game then you can’t be stopped! Develop good inner game and the outer game will come at double the rate. However. with self-deception being third.

Your self concept is low in relation to that game. then it is crucial that we change our self concept in that area. guess what. the converse is also true.1. and the women we deserve. because he has never done it before. You have a self concept for everything in your life (dress.. but if we want to get better at something. Want to get better at anything? then you Must CHANGe your self concept in that area. what kind of woman you deserve. income. It is impossible to act inconsistent with our self image. I said you have a self concept for eVerYtHING you do!!!!!!! Do you look in the mirror and feel like shit about “who you are” when you first buy a video game and you keep dying on the first level? No. if we have a weak self concept about the women we deserve.etc. our self concept in relation to women). You will just keep playing it until you understand what every button on the controller does without you even having to think about it. You have an overall self concept and it is made up of all your individual self concepts. how do we create a better self concept?? first. If we switched these two and asked MJ to build a house. playing soccer. If we develop a strong self concept about our ability to attract women.” Your overall self concept will determine your success in life. we will start to be more consistent with that. we must stop letting any one of our self concepts control how we feel about our overall self concept (specifically.) examples: Michael Jordan’s self concept in basketball was extremely high. “My self concept is high”. how you drive. What does this mean? remember. hanging a picture on the wall. so. so. If we move our concept up or down we will act consistent with this new self concept. He believes on a deep level he can build a house. “My self concept is low. once you play it enough times you could beat that level with your eyes closed. or about how good we are at pickup. brushing your teeth.1 inner Game example: Bushing my teeth. we will be consistent with that weak self image. he would most likely have a low self concept in the area of carpentry.. A carpenter’s is just as high with carpentry. but you know if you play that game and that level enough times you will eventually get the hang of it. He literally believed he was going to make every shot. It is impossible to act in a manner inconsistent with one of your self concepts. 3 . You won’t get depressed and want to crawl into bed or go read every book on that game.

when we know we have not 4 . I had a jeep with a stick shift. this knowledge should empower you with women and dating. How can you measure it? When you first played that game. we know. I remember when I first started driving. would you have taken the bet??? Noooo.” Based on the previous statement. this is a sound bet. the uneasiness went away. this one skill set DOES NOT define your overall self concept and it does not affect your other self concepts. You didn’t attach too much meaning to that game. We never feel uneasy doing something that we are good at.1. All the positive affirmations in the world will not trick our subconscious mind into believing that we can truly complete the task at a high level. then your self concept would grow at a very slow rate. I will give you a million dollars if you beat level one. Your self concept tells you. as my self concept grew. right? Do you ever feel uneasy brushing your teeth? What about driving your car? Were you always good at these tasks? Did you ever feel uneasy about driving your car? I did.1 inner Game However. After you have played that game for 3 months. your self concept is higher now than when you first purchased that game. for about 3 months I felt anxiety every time I got behind the wheel. you are able to grow rapidly. If you look at this on a time line from when you got the video game until you could play it with your eyes closed. would you take that bet???? of course. ·We have a scientific formula to change our self concept! Not just some abstract “you can do it affirmation. When we are doing something that we think we are not good at. and the fastest way is by treating the skill set we want as a process and not attaching our identity to it. Generally speaking. there are 3 occasions that cause us to feel a sense of uneasiness: 1. and you can beat level one with your eyes closed. but if you don’t I’m going to blow your head off. Example: (Public Speaking). can you see that you just dialed up that one self concept in that area of your life? Now. during the process of growing your self concept in regards to that game. If you cried every time you lost and turned the game off and didn’t play it for two weeks. you never let your low self concept affect your overall self concept. for A fACt that we can change our self concept simply by becoming more competent and skilled in the area we are deficient in. if I had said. therefore. However.

the goal is the same height and the ball has the same amount of air in it. these emotional responses.1. You just learn to use your mind to quiet them to a level where your logical brain is running the show and not your emotional brain. We build up how important the game is for our future that we make it impossible to just be in that moment like we are in practice. We might talk it into believing we can get by. I can’t wait to watch you in field tonight!” If I attribute a new found importance on a future outcome I cannot control or predict. lead our logical brain to accept the idea that things are bigger than they are. I read your blog. especially in relation to pickup. I personally think this is the most important one. but saying. When we are doing things that we have had a failed experience with.1 inner Game put in the work to obtain the skill. then I will likely lock up and perform poorly. if not quieted.e. 3. 2. It’s the same shot you couldn’t miss during practice. will only further trigger your mind to remind you where your true self concept is. When we are doing something we know we can do. train your mind to control your body’s emotional responses to outside stimulus. example: (Girl told you to fuck off on an approach). How do we combat the 3 above in relation to pickup? 1. 5 . “You’re Braddock.. “I can do this. example 2: When I’m not thinking about the past or the future and I’m really in the moment. but you are attributing meaning to the people in the stands and the trophy you may win.” when you truly know you can’t. I could give millions of examples for this in any genre of life from work to pickup. You develop a self concept based on one or more bad experiences without allowing enough time for the self concept to align with the idea that you can eventually master the task or skill set. doing an amazing demo on command for this guy. but we are putting unnecessary importance on the outcome. I will do amazing demos for the students on bootcamp. if a student says. first we must quiet our mind and put things where they really belong.. example: You hit every shot in basketball practice when nobody is there to watch. but you can’t even hit the rim when the stadium is full and it’s the championship game. this doesn’t mean you try to not feel emotions at all. I. But.

would do a number on most people’s emotions and nervous system. calm. You are now not playing basketball with the same self concept that you enjoy in practice because that self concept was based on shooting basketballs in a calm. He was getting really quiet inside so he could get to that place where all that was forgotten and nothing mattered but the moment. collected. Now.1 inner Game Why? In basketball practice. “Why are we having these feelings? Why are we feeling so nervous? this must be important. this jittery nervous state is creating a new negative self concept. MJ was physically talented. dealing with the excitement of being on tV. Just like in practice. in the championship game. I’m willing to bet that he feels those jittery nervous feelings just like the rest of us. in-themoment state of being. I would argue this was necessary but not sufficient to play at the level he played so consistently. You stay calm. collected. No doubt. cool. Because there is no emotional response. your logical mind stays in control. on the contrary. Our logical brain says.” You just shoot. Michael Jordan was capable of quieting all of that and even using that as a reason to get real calm inside while everyone around him was being deeply affected by these factors. the pressure of a big game. and the perceived importance placed on a desired outcome act to stimulate an emotional response that causes us to get butterflies. the noise.E. the energy of the crowd. take Michael Jordan in a championship game. controlled. in the moment state you enjoyed in practice. You are not thinking about what will happen good or bad if you make or miss “this one shot.1. dealing with what the media will write and say. each time your emotions are taking your mind a little further away from the cool. and most importantly. 6 . Yes. people say he gets up for big games better than anyone who has ever played the game. you don’t get butter flies in your stomach and your throat doesn’t clench up because you are not attributing any long term meaning to that event. let’s think this out. However. I agree. dealing with the awareness that a win could mean millions of dollars in endorsements. I would say that he has the ability to control his mind and emotions allowing him to access his highest basketball self concept more readily than any other who has ever played the game. his ability to get there from the tip off while others most likely didn’t get there until the second half. but the difference is his ability to use his logical mind to calm the inner emotional storm and quickly get back to the self concept that he enjoys in practice. you stay in the moment. butterflies. you use your logic. But in nerd speech. You are aware that if you have a bad practice it doesn’t really matter and that nobody was in the stands to see you perform poorly. I. What if we have a bad game? What will this mean in the future? What will all these people think about me?” You then get an even deeper emotional reaction from your body. and a loss could send those commercials to another. made him seem like a God amongst mere mortals.

if I choose to control that emotion. and walk back to your car no problem. this is a slippery slope to kill the current moment and a whole bunch of future moments. Why? You have the skill set required to handle that situation and you don’t attribute more meaning to it than necessary. does that mean that I’m really not as good as I say and believe I am? Wow. my self concept is high when I walk into a venue to pickup girls. I can’t wait to see you in field tonight. I. we better do well tonight. at that time I’m in it. However. I’m attracting the failure that I predicted because that is all I will focus on from the time he makes his statement until I fail miserably allll night long during the demos. You don’t have an emotional response to the idea of completing this task. and compartmentalize the students statement as just. hand her the check. and possibly. I will quickly be back on track to enjoying my original self concept before his statement and our super hero Braddock is back to kicking the world in half. every time I’m on bootcamp. It often answers these questions with bad answers. and I have developed competence with my skill set through thousands of approaches. I have learned to control my mind instead of my mind controlling me. You could walk up. “a statement”. choose not to control the emotion.1. will he be disappointed? If he’s disappointed. I have acquired a vast knowledge base and I have mastered being in the moment. Can you see how this applies to all levels of pickup? If I said I wanted you to take a publishers Clearing House check to a hot girl. but I’ll tie it in to my example from above. my body is going to have an immediate emotional response to that.” As you can see.e. if a student says. once I do this. then my logical mind will quickly get back to its natural state by realizing that I can’t predict how the demos are going to turn out tonight or any night. If I am incapable.”. I hope I don’t get blown out in front of him. so. you wouldn’t have much of an emotional response to that. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. or decide to attribute a bunch of meaning to his statement. without any extraneous factors. 7 .1 inner Game How does this apply to pickup? I think by now it’s probably obvious. Your self image tells you that you can complete that task with ease. “What if we do bad demos in front of him. quiet it down to a dull roar. However. so your logical mind stays in control and you don’t run 30 “what if” scenarios through your head that would stir emotions to change your self concept. “Braddock I love your blog. maybe the weekend. smile. then the emotion will manifest in a way that will alter my self concept for that night. As soon as he says it. All I can do is control the moment I’m in. and that him wanting to see them or not doesn’t change the level of importance I need to attach to them. ultimately. My self image in regards to game is relatively high. I think about it from then until that night. and my logical mind races to find answers for that strange emotion I’m feeling.

these factors have no real meaning or value and can only affect your self concept If You let tHeM!!! let’s look at two very different outcomes to two situations that are in all actuality the same. You open every good set in the venue for no strategic reason other than that you feel good inside and it just feels right. so you leave the house with your self concept and then what happens? All kinds of factors come flying at you from night to night to help increase or decrease your self concept. I’m glad she dumped me because look how good I am getting at this. You are still excited about last night and you can’t wait to get to the venue so you can build on the night before. you leave the house with your “pickup self concept. You can’t hit the door fast enough. You can’t even remember what you opened them with and they all responded well to you. asshole. You are in the moment and you feel like you can’t be stopped! You feel like you could open a set with Brad pitt in it and walk away with the girl. After banging her like a screen door on a battleship. that’s been bothering me forever. you see that he has brought his loud. You stare at the ceiling thinking. judgmental 8 . Your friend calls and says he is at your house to pick you up.1 inner Game Now when we take the scenario of going to a venue with the goal of talking to women. I’m actually glad that my ex girlfriend dumped me. “Wow.” saturday night you are going to go to the exact same venue as the night before. when you got in your friend’s car. and take home your old friend. make out with the best of the 3 set. You feel like all your study of pickup ebooks and DVD’s on game are finally paying off. over the course of the night. You get several numbers. a whole host of external factors are introduced that can either increase your self concept or drastically diminish it based on what level of meaning and importance you attach to them. but now that this is all coming together. each of the three girls reopens you and tries to get your attention. However. the three girls get even more interested. All three of the girls in the set want you bad.) ok.1. so as you read this input your self concept here. The first set you open goes ridiculously well. Your self concept moves up and you are feeling a new high. she runs over and hugs you. I haven’t felt this good in forever. You can’t wait to go out tomorrow for an even more plentiful bounty. The girls won’t leave you alone. one of your hot friends from college happens to be at the same bar and sees that these girls are all over you. friday night.” (Whether you are leaving the house with a low or super high self concept is unimportant in regards to the point I’m trying to make here. You know you can have your pick. You lay awake still riding a high. she falls asleep.

because you know how judgmental he is and you can already feel him judging you if you get blown out of a set.1 inner Game friend from work to go out with you guys. you have an emotional response and you get out of the moment. And. maybe last night was a fluke and “most” girls really don’t respond to me like that. While you open these 3 sets. sure enough he’s a loud. I mean. In your mind. you shouldn’t give a shit. You immediately spin around hoping he didn’t see.” self concept takes another dip. Damn it! You instantly feel your confidence sag a little. you can’t help but wonder. last night you wouldn’t have cared what this asshole thought. as soon as you see this guy. but as you walk around. 9 .1. but part of you questions yourself and says. “Damn. “Maybe it’s not that I’m letting this guy stir my emotions.” You give him no satisfaction with your facial expressions or body language . You hit the venue and you do 4 laps around the place and hit the bathroom twice instead of just being in the moment and opening because you aren’t feeling it like you were last night. your mind is back in the past rehashing your first blow out wondering what you did wrong with those girls and you are still pondering if the asshole friend knows something about you that you should feel insecure about. you feel it inside your stomach and you won’t stop thinking about it. You don’t want to open poorly in front of him. you half blame him for putting you in a bad state. (truth is. You already started attaching meaning to his judgments and thoughts. Is he a judgmental asshole or does he see something in me that I’ve never noticed? He’s right to judge me. You finally decide to do a set even though you aren’t feeling it. You open and sure enough you get blown out!!! Now. Your self concept was so high last night. but you walk up NoWHere NeAr in the moment. “Maybe he’s right. You wouldn’t have even noticed him because you were in the moment). that guy saw me get blown out and he is giving me that judgmental smirk like he thinks he’s better than me. judgmental asshole in the car and you worry what he’ll say if you get blown out in front of him tonight. it was the first set of the night.” You spin around to find your friend and. resulting in me questioning my self concept. You have been so focused on what that guy will think that you have just been running a movie screen in your head the last 2 hours of you getting blown out and this random asshole friend judging you over and over and over. I hate him. your self concept takes a slight dip. You half ass open 3 more sets. You left the house and you were really feeling it.

You were allowing your true self concept to drive the bus because no external factors got in its way or pushed it down. You hate him more. lay in bed. his negative judgmental mindsets. You finally get home. All 3 sets blow you out worse than the patriot’s did the Chargers in week 3. last night. and then gives some asshole a big hug and a deep kiss. Her self concept takes a spike up and she gives you some weak ass wave and a half smile. Your self concept takes another dip.this is where the men are separated from the boys. you thought you were completely over her. You stare longingly and just a split second longer tonight than you would have if you bumped into her last night when you owned the venue! she sees and feels your needy stare. they know you have an agenda and they can feel that you subtly are hoping they give you their approval. but you internalize some of the horse shit coming out of his mouth as truth. so... Now you have decided that this is solID proof that you are bad with women and that last night was undoubtedly a fluke. but they aren’t having it. Were you right to feel all of those feelings or is that just being delusional from a bunch of random luck? No.1... “I’ve had both of those nights Braddock . had that first set gone poorly. what the hell???? Your self concept is high on friday! Is it real? Yes. they can feel it. would your night have been completely different? Would I have had a shit night instead? Awww. or the last 3 blowouts. asshole friend asks you several condescending questions about why those girls were so rude to you. You see a girl you used to date at the same venue and she is flirting with a guy you assume is no doubt better than you in every way possible. 10 . and now your chest hurts worse than ever before. and wonder if you should have married your ex girlfriend.. You are trying to be funny and interesting. the girls in these next 3 sets feel a strange incongruence when you walk up.1 inner Game sooo. Now. In the car ride home. and you spend an hour pondering how you could have such an amazing night last night and such a horrible night tonight.. You question if all this game shit you’ve read is even real. You grab your friend and his dick friend and head home. Your voice.. or your face. those who have great inner game can feel this high regardless of the momentum or lack thereof created by the first set. you are using the same openers and material that you used last night. or something about you betrays your funny jokes and interesting stories and sheds light on a guy who is strangely not in the moment. it wasn’t luck. the asshole friend.

but it carries Zero negative momentum into the next set. they do feed each other. and it annoys you oNlY while your eyes are on his face. the sun. because you need the moon. Gandhi stone cold pimpin! lol) Being in the moment allows you to truly increase your self concept in an area. allows you to see where your actual self concept is.1 inner Game The external meaning you are attributing to how your first set goes is determining your entire night. (I stand corrected. Being in the moment. when you leave that set and he gives you a dick head look. He only has half of the puzzle. but that does not mean he can pickup girls in a bar. you have an honest measuring stick of your self concept in regards to that video game. it’s hard for us to measure our true self concept in regards to pickup. but ONLY in the car.1. but they are two very different things. He has never done the reading. and never developed a skill set. aka (being in the moment).. Horrible or great at that video game. once you learn to be in the moment. this is a scary place to be. Now. “I think I can. When the asshole friend in the car annoys you. because we allow our self concept to go up and down sooo much from day to day based on a bunch of meaning we attach to external factors and our complete lack of being in the moment. when you open your first set and his judgments mean nothing to you. Gandhi is most likely in the moment at all times. It can make our game look way worse than it really is. and the stars to line up just perfectly every night or you are not going to have a good night. our true self concept shines through and we have a great night. and BAM. His self concept in regards to pickup is still low. randomly because a bunch of factors went right or we randomly didn’t attach a bunch of meaning to these outside factors. When you are playing video games. then we get in a good state. not what you wish it was. does this mean you will never get blown out? Does it mean that you will get every girl? Noooo!! Don’t confuse self concept and being in the moment as the same thing. remember that your self concept is defined as what you truly believe your skill set is in any given area. never opened countless sets. and not some bullshit affirmation of. 11 .. good or bad.” It’s what you truly believe it to be at any given moment.. CoMpletelY in that moment. then you will stay in the moment and your self concept will maintain a constant level all night. You know your inner game has reached a high level when you could go 0 for 10 or 10 for 10 in any given night and your self concept is unchanged. sometimes. you are completely in the moment.

until next time. then our game reaches new heights. if you have children who act up. and stop attributing it to a lack of knowledge. they are in the moment and have cultivated a skill set. this means that he spends more time operating in the moment and that he has a high self concept in pickup. Your fearless leader.e. continue to beat them until moral improves. naturals. this up and down creates confusion over time espeCIAllY when we have more bad nights than good nights. but if you can ever master these two. I would like to thank all my guests. remember. Braddock 12 . once we learn to correlate that usually “a bad night” was more about us not being in the moment. there are soooo many other facets that can help your inner game . When you hear that someone has “good game”. ok. that’s all the time we have for today. this message has been brought to you by the number 4 and the letter l. then you will see a drastic change in your life.1. Not necessarily that he has read more pickup books than you. I.1 inner Game However.

long time.” this kind of goal setting fucks you hard!!!!!!! the goals are not realistic. while you are really helping someone get their game solid. you don’t allow yourself to build momentum from the small successes.theattractionforums. If I do most of these things then I will know that I was successful on the night. it’s like seeing a new person. x transition. If I don’t do at least as good as he does. I need to go home and read pickup for 6 hours per day instead of 5 hours per day. realistic goals for the night. Go out with specific goals for the week. I felt like my game exploded and I had more fun going out and learning pickup. so. unhappy.html Had a one on one in Dallas this weekend.2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! http://www. once I dealt with them. and no matter how great the outcome. there were a couple of things that I learned this weekend that I want to share.1. you have measurable. and feel like there is something wrong with you. you will be burnt out. After just a few weeks of going out with that kind of pressure following you. I remembered that these were issues that had once plagued me and really held me back for a long. it will only be a matter of time before you will no longer enjoy going out. after just a few weeks of going out. saying. attainable. relax! If you make pickup so important that you feel like every set is the super Bowl. you also learn a shitload about yourself. What if you fucked an 8. Maybe. (Example: “I am going out for the next two weeks and I will use x opener. 1. x cold read and I will try to isolate at least one girl in every set and I will try to bounce at least one girl around the club and get into deep comfort with her. As a student opens his mind and works through a sticking point. opened 5 for 10 and got 3 phone numbers and one of them was a 10? Wouldn’t that have been a damn good night?! 13 . x story. “I want to have sex with a 10 and I want to go 10 for 10 with my sets and get 10 phone numbers”. “Why am I not learning this? How come it’s so hard for me? Maybe. then I suck. really cool guy. you don’t allow yourself room to grow.com/braddock/49480-change-your-life-now.” By setting goals like the ones above. It’s really fun to watch a guy progress. After working with this student and he told me what was bothering him. then that’s exactly how each one will feel. look how good he’s doing.” HAHA!! Bullshit! Reading more will not fix this issue. I just suck at this. and to break through insecurities and sticking points that have been like chains holding him down. I love one on one’s because. What you need to do is refocus your mind. or “My friend started reading this when I did.

sadly. buying every product ever made and then one day you will compile the master routine that will allow you to walk into a venue and rattle off this phantom sequence and BAM! girl’s clothes will just start fallling off. but you will learn more in 1 set in the field. Learn in the field: I know everyone says this. and books and lines that I thought would be amazing in the field. you would not be down on yourself because your friend went 5 for 5 that day. set. ever play sports? If you went 2 for 5 in baseball with a double and a bloop single to win the game. but you struck out 3 times.1. I’m trying to make a point. and love to correct the instructors and other students on what they “think you should do” in said situation. yet telling everyone how great they are?!?! Why would you do that!??? even if you don’t brag and correct others. 2. now make me laugh at how shitty they are. makes. or you have read way too much of this shit and your brain goes haywire in set trying to remember every fucking routine you ever read! 14 . you are still dying inside knowing that you should be doing more. or they think they are much farther along in set than they really are. Why read all of this shit if you aren’t going to use it??? I’m not trying to be mean. they know all the theory. You could read for the next 7 years about how to play tennis and then go play someone who had read nothing but took a 30 min lesson. than 60 hours worth of reading. Being an arm chair QB is like reading about how fun roller coasters are. If you think you are going to read for 6 months. Books that I thought were shit when I first started this mean a lot to me now. then. mistaken. they either look gun shy. “friendly conversation” or if he is making progress toward getting the girl. INCluDING Me. It’s so easy to peg the guys on bootcamp who have read everything but haven’t done much field time. these guys have all the advice in the world and a million stories that nobody can confirm. In fact. I know why they don’t do it.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! Not if you are putting bullshit restrictions on how you measure your own success. know all the routines by heart. usually better than I do. or make tons of rookie mistakes. You do need to do your homework. when you go out that night. the reading really won’t make that much sense or even help that much until you have been in the field and been in the exact situation the author is talking about. lol. and they would likely kick your fucking ass. never actually getting on one. I can watch a guy in set and tell you if he is in a. DON’T BE LIKE tHAt!!!! What a fucking waste of time and life. you are sadly. the same reason I didn’t. after set. same applies here. You still only half believe it’s real or you are scared shitless of it not being real. or you are scared shitless of facing the inevitable rejection associated with risking your ego and putting it on the line. see how ridiculous that kind of thinking is? I used to do that all the time. but damn this is by far the biggest mistake everyone.

” When you can say that. stop doing it. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. If you are shitty at pickup. they will be full of advice that is horrible. use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help..1. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say. Go out and do the dirty work.. pay the price. stop talking about it with them. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. Just worry about your progress. they will find a way to tear you down a little. so. and two. If you do great. fYI. because you will have a point of reference. they haven’t all gone well. second. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls. stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing. what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week. I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets. My point is this: you are your own best compass. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others. 15 .2 change your Life now!!!!!!! You are talking about me. set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started. this is a marathon. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate. Nobody gives a shit for one. not a sprint. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus. soooo. Make it fun. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night.. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters.

PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious. I just needed a kick in the ass. read 20% go out 80%. fuCK tHAt.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday. Braddock . “The first 2. -Have the mental frame that.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. If only I this or that. I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. -of the time you allot to pickup. I would like to do that. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. “Well. -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! After I did a bunch of sets. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again. I promise. I mean I love my mom and I want to really. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field.000 approaches don’t count. His life wasn’t always the shit. steal the knowledge. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean. -B 16 . I don’t have a good wing.” -fuck excuses. but go create your own stories and experiences. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome. really bad! But.1. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had. trample the weak and hurdle the dead. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say. So.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom. looking back. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck.

If anyone asks where your friends are just say. What should I do? “ Question 2: “Do you think I should cut out my old friends and get new ones?” first off. But.” they usually don’t even ask. I also suggest you don’t tell those in your closest circle unless you know you can trust them. As a matter of fact. My closest friends are kinda naturals and I didn’t even want to tell them I was reading this sort of stuff.” that literally made me laugh. I do well when I hit the bar with a wing. I know exactly what you’re going through. lolololol “hippies and weirdo’s. Question 1: “I’m in a sticky situation. Here are a couple of questions I received and here are my answers.” lololol The truth is. 17 . I hate hippies! especially hippy girls.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends http://www. Just be yourself.html I hope someone finds this useful. it’s just that they always stink and never seem to be hot. I thought you read that shit. “let’s see it man. they would never have understood. No one over 21 is interested in going out to the bars. there is no quick fix to your wing problem.theattractionforums. but he won’t say anything to get the girls that are interested in him either.1. until you do find a decent wing. every time you go out they will be like. just say. It’s really not a political thing. I tried finding wings on the forums and they are scarce too. but I’m apprehensive about going out alone.” fuck all that! Just mysteriously become a fucking pimp and when they ask how you do it. the best wing for me is a decent looking guy who won’t say anything to fuck it up. “I don’t know man. “they’re here somewhere.com/braddock/61176-q-wings-cutting-old-friends. they will accidentally fuck you more than a normal dude. I think the best wings are not the guys with great game. It was extremely hard for me to find friends who were down with this when I first started. realize that going out alone isn’t as bad you think it is. I am a 21 year old who goes to a small college in Baltimore that is crawling with hippies and weirdos. girls just like me I guess. Keep this in mind too. However. I thought you said it worked? Why do you ask them those fucked up questions about your friend’s ex girlfriend? that’s stupid. he never fucks it up for me either. My favorite wing goes out with me all the time and I get laid every night and he almost never does.

I’m genuinely having fun. I don’t count on them for shit as far as pickup. 2 guys gaming hard across each other never really works out). tHIs Is Not BeCAuse tHeY DoN’t HAVe GAMe!!!! 18 . just because you have 2 guys excited about gaming and both guys bring it in every set. you will read posts on cutting people out of your life who you come to realize are toxic. Don’t let not having a wing keep you from developing the lifestyle and game you want. this is totally different. over trying to talk some mother fucker into getting off the couch. then why would you cut them out of your life just because they have no game???????? that’s ridiculous.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends He doesn’t approach really. Answer to Question 2: Notice that in answering question one I did not say ditch all your old friends and get new ones who are good at pickup. and who make your quality of life better. somewhere for me to go when I’m not in set. deeply care about you. What I do is go out with my wing or a group of cool guys and I merely use them as a home base between sets. he never fucks up my game. is dead. A new guy trying to learn all this shit is often the worst wing . Most importantly. If you have a great set of friends who are supportive. (Having people you can genuinely have fun with is ten times more powerful for your game than having a guy who is willing to go open sets. but if I bring girls to him he will talk to them and not freak them out or bore them.) I guess the biggest point I’m trying to make here is that the whole “wing “ thing is not that big of a deal like everyone says it is. but just keep going out and meeting people. often times you will end up cutting previously close friends out of your life after you have been in the community for a while. because they are trying to run game at the same time you are and it just comes across really weird (not because his game is bad or good. You are likely to meet a wing on accident at the bar. I’d much rather meet a guy who is already going. Nooooooo!!!! When guys say that on here I think it creates great confusion. the only good thing about having a wing is when he is a motivated mother fucker that holds you accountable and makes you go out: a guy who won’t let you pussy out and say you are tired or this bar. they are fucking horrible! lol But they give me social proof and I actually like the guys so even if I’m not running game. I think if you will read the posts from instructors or guys with a vast amount of experience. I know it sucks.1. or whatever excuse we often make.

Go out and do the dirty work. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate. If you do great.. If you are shitty at pickup. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. stop doing it.1.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends You are talking about me.. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started. this is a marathon. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls. stop talking about it with them. so. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night..” When you can say that. second. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters. and two. Nobody gives a shit for one. Just worry about your progress. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. pay the price. they will be full of advice that is horrible. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true. they will find a way to tear you down a little. Make it fun. because you will have a point of reference. My point is this: you are your own best compass. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets. what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. not a sprint. use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. soooo. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help. they haven’t all gone well. I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay. 19 . set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. fYI. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing.

000 approaches don’t count. “Well. “The first 2. really bad! But. If only I this or that. look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. His life wasn’t always the shit. looking back. So. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action. but go create your own stories and experiences. fuck that. -Have the mental frame that. steal the knowledge. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean. PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious.1. read 20% go out 80%.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. I don’t have a good wing. I mean I love my mom and I want to really. Braddock . -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing. I promise.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends After I did a bunch of sets. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say. I just needed a kick in the ass. I would like to do that. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again. -of the time you allot to pickup. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field. -B 20 .” -fuck excuses. I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. trample the weak and hurdle the dead.

and I’m sure I could write this about a million different subjects. I’m not. people don’t talk to “you” they talk to the club promoter that they need something from. but if I sound like I’m complaining. I personally can identify with the feeling of contempt that this can create. “I don’t mean to go on a rant here but.A. it applies to most people.. Dahunter and I taught our class and it went really well. It’s unreal how big this city is.. I love flying out of L. they think you are cool because of what you can do for them. I talked to the guy the day after and he said we changed his life!!! that’s the best feeling ever.1. because you see a side of people you never knew existed... I know a girl who is kind of a socialite out there and she hooked us up.” 21 . 10. This weekend was a blast.A..theattractionforums. I don’t completely blame promoters for acting like dicks. It’s like that line out of that song by Mike Jones…. so all of the club promoters kiss her ass. The first night we went to one of the best clubs in L. It was cool to watch. just study the club promoters outside of an exclusive club in l. she’s an l... He picked up the info really quick and was kicking ass by the second night. If you ever want to see how quickly the human mind can resort to it’s darker recesses. Nice to know people.” I’m on the plane heading home.html this is from my blog. at night. No offense if you are one. they all on me. they don’t think you are cool because of your intrinsic value as a human being..4 do you Bring value or take it???? http://www.com/braddock/61179-do-you-bring-value-take. “Back then they didn’t want me. Wednesday and thursday.A. she made one call and we were in.A.... He said when he got home he went out that night and had like 5 make outs and could have slept with several girls. because they have the same feeling a celebrity has at times. As Dennis Miller used to say.. It was a grind going for 5 days straight. now I’m hot..

the best way to handle these situations is to not attach much. what I found hilarious is how much they seemed to really believe that they are somebody. so you don’t have to be the vampire quite as often or if life forces you to be the vampire. don’t let it go to your head. 22 . I’m willing to bet that those guys have little to no value outside of that venue and only have this limited value even here on specific nights. However. you have brought so much value in the past that you are not seen as a desperate value leech. for 3 hours per night they are GOD!!! They decide whether you get to play in that club or not. However. everyone wants what they control and everyone pretends to like them in order to obtain access. they will move on to the next body to suck blood from without so much as a thanks and when you need help they are nowhere to be found. if you ever find yourself in a short lived or situational setting where you are the value holder. Don’t get me wrong. they shut off the fake smile and the charm and move on to the next person they think can help them meet their needs. they really think that gate keeper role they play a couple nights per week is who they really are at their core!!!!! lolololol this same asshole may have no education. if any. Don’t assume that because you have something that people want or need that it makes you better than others. I think a healthy person looks at this for what it is. no solid relationships in his life. identity value to either of these roles and work toward always bringing value in as many relationships as you can. and then if you can’t give them that value. because they do make life easier and they seem to attract more and more opportunities just like this. he has attached a deep sense of self to that one piece of value he controls. but because he controls a list 3 nights a week.4 do you Bring value or take it???? People can have no cooth when they need something and have no idea how desperate and selfish they look. but the second that your one piece of leverage is gone or they have extracted all the value they can from you. and sleep on his friends couch. However. they ask for something without bringing any value to you in return. or just say no. but they do not make you better intrinsically than others. I think you should try to set up as many of these situations in your life as possible.1. If you have value to exchange then you aren’t the one constantly begging or desperately fighting for the scraps that fall off the table of those that do retain the value that you desire. live paycheck to paycheck. We are all the vampire at times and we are all the leverage holder at times. these vampires like you right now. the club promoters that I met this weekend seemed to really buy into their own bullshit.

1. and network for later in life. but sadly I assume he does. 23 . Does he walk around treating everyone like he is better than them???? I hope not. the other half of the guys were complete dick suckers who thought they were cool because they were in that frat. this doesn’t mean you should go around kissing people’s ass or even going all Dale Carnegie on them. If I met John stockton……not so much. Half the guys were cool as fuck and saw the frat for what it was . they attached a deep identity meaning to the fucking letters on the outside of the door of the house!!! lololol How fucking retarded.4 do you Bring value or take it???? I always wonder if people like him walk around in their normal life acting like they are better than people. I personally don’t think you should give people any more respect than they’ve earned. I have mad respect for Michael Jordan and might even talk to him a little different than I would most people because I would be excited to meet him. If you joined a certain frat so you could jerk yourself off and tell yourself and each other how cool you are and how much better your frat is than that one than you are fucking up bad!!! Hell. this does not mean that you should treat people like shit or with disrespect either. drink tons of beer. But being picked to join a frat during rush week is not a title that you earned and it’s not a value that should help you flesh out your core identity. if you’ve ever given a girl more respect than she’s earned than you know how this can blow up in your face! But. even titles you earn mean little to nothing in regard to how you should value yourself and definitely not how you should treat others. It’s merely a group you belong to where the people in the group enjoy you and you enjoy them. they would talk differently to people who weren’t in a certain frat and treat them like shit and they would suck the dicks of guys in certain frats that they considered cool!!!!???? I can understand you having more or less respect for this company or that company or that team or this team or this athlete or that athlete or this doctor or that doctor because of the work they put into earning that title. have parties with tons of girls. I was in a frat for a while in college and I remember it being split in half.a great place to meet a ton of friends.

they buy into their own bullshit. my identity and core values are unchanged. bla bla bla. I’m not saying all these things are bad. my life is closer aligned to what I want my life to look like. use it to help you obtain shitloads of win win situations in your life. tons of options with women. It’s merely a value that you have obtained and a great one at that. The main point here is this. or if I made this group of people happy or if my parents liked what I was doing. this lesson has taken me years to learn and I learned it the hard way. Not because it doesn’t matter who you surround yourself with. Attaching an identity meaning to random sources of value sets you on a slippery slope to an addiction you can never satisfy. the company you keep can make or break your life. No. My internal value and identity are maintained at all cost. use it as such. this is why rockstars and celebrities end up killing themselves. But if you don’t know that. are equally disgusting to me. but if I couldn’t have them for any number of reasons then I’m still me. and great relationships. At their core they know they are just people and that at the end of the day all that shit is just a hat they wear. I thought if I had a hot girlfriend then that’s “who I was” or if I was a great athlete or if I hung out with certain people. if you ever find yourself in a position like the club promoter just realize that it’s merely a tool. Don’t attach internal meanings to external values. learn how to use it to help you meet other ends. like I said though. It will be your frat.4 do you Bring value or take it???? the frat boy who is delusional about how cool he is because of what frat he is in. I personally want tons of money. but not because they will create an identity that I desperately cling to no matter what. It’s not who they are at their core. then you just will constantly be trying to fill a bucket with a massive fucking hole in it. that’s all bullshit. but they also should not be what you draw your core value from. 24 .1. With or without them. then money. I want them because they are all tools to help me develop a fun and interesting lifestyle that I would want. it’s just a tool. high status. then cars. and the club promoter who thinks he is God. they have attached all their internal meaning to this star they have become. With them. then women. then that was me. Crush the social leeches that use you as a win for them/loss for you and find the people who are willing to make a value trade with you. use it to create great connections in your life that you couldn’t acquire otherwise.

1.4 do you Bring value or take it???? Go become the baddest mother fucker you can. Go at it like you will fucking die in 6 months. enough Gandhi shit from me for one day……… sha boy…………………Braddock 25 . possessions.” Do all this shit because you really just want it in your life. Alright. “I have this girl on my arm so now I’m somebody.e. Be and do everything you ever wanted to do. or people trophies I. I want it for me. but not to define me. but don’t attach your entire identity to external events.

covered in thiS chapter:
2.1 oneitis?? - fuCK oNeItIs - How to Get over Her - The Benefit of Moving on

2.2 Q & a on Love - the Chemical Additiction - the Dumper Vs. the Dumpee 2.3 Girl has a Boyfriend, But i Know She Likes me - What Would Murder Her Attraction - the right Way to play it 2.4 “i don’t chase......i replace.” - the Abundance Mentality

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http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/61174-oneitus.html Jazz flute is for sissy fairy boys and so is oneitis. I’ve had a lot of people emailing me recently asking how to get over a oneitis. Here is a post that I made a while back that I think is useful.

fucK oneitiS
losing a girl feels worse than a kick in the fucking nuts. You would do anything to leave this site and just have her back and all your pain would go away! Yeaaaaaahh! listen man, I know this doesn’t help now and it will only help if you’re the kind of guy who takes massive action in the face of crippling pain. But, I’m telling you I was dating a fucking amazingly hot, cool, smart girl. she dumped me. I thought I was going to fucking die!!! bla bla bla right? Worse year of my life. Guess what though man.... I know this is cliché, but I’m glad we are done. Yeah, I still miss her at times, but fucking shit, look where I’ve come! If I had her back now, I’d be the same guy. I’ve pushed myself to new heights in so many areas of my life. If you get back with that “perfect” girl, your pain will leave for a while, but when you’re old someday, you will wonder what life would have been like if you would have fucking let go and became who you are about to be. she was, and is, holding you back. let it sting only for a few moments per day. she is controlling your ass and she doesn’t even want to be. Bitch slap the fuck out of yourself and decide that only you will control your happiness. You enjoyed that girl, you miss her, you are sad at times, but you wouldn’t change a fucking thing. Get tHere GoD DAMN It!!!!! Don’t lay in this shitty feeling. I’ve been there. I almost lost my job over it. I almost didn’t go to law school over it. What a fucking joke. take full responsibility for who you are and don’t look back. In 1 year, if you put in the work, you will laugh at this girl. listen man, I know it hurts, I spent an entire year suffering over a girl. lost weight, neglected my life, and burned a full YeAr of my short life hurting over a fucking girl!! WHAt?!?!?!? 27

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understand that there are literally BIllIoNs of GIrls. the guy you will be in a year is not the guy that this hoe rejected, but oNlY if you take proper action. Don’t let that fool you though. Don’t change and become better for this girl. Do It for You!!!! I know. You hurt and you only want to know what will make you feel better in this moment. take the pain, recover and move forward. tHere Are BIGGer AND Better tHINGs out tHere! But, but, Braddock I love her!!! she’s different, you don’t’ understand!!!!” every guy on this site has said that weak shit. You don’t find this site on accident. No Goddamn it, step up to the fucking plate and tell yourself No fuCKING More! this bitch better enjoy today, cause it’s the last day I will giver her my power and allow her to choose how I will feel about myself and life. I will better myself everyday and one day I will reflect on this and realize that she was a cool chick and I hope she is happy. I have taken myself to a new level and it’s all for the better that she dumped me, cause at my new level I would have had to dump her. respect yourself and allow her no more real estate in your head and let’s start moving to positive things. the work will be hard and you will have highs and lows. Decide that you are going to better yourself a little today. A little every day and all of a sudden you will look up and you won’t recognize who you are. You won’t need this bitch’s validation. You will be battle hardened and you will love the new you. right now that is hard to believe. fine. Don’t believe me, just trust me. every day when you wake up and your fucking chest hurts, just close your eyes and say, “today might be tough, but I’m going to take at least one step toward making myself a better person than I was yesterday.” Do this for a full fucking year and you won’t even remember who you were. the alternative is to wallow in your bullshit and piss and moan and wish things were different. “only if you had her back your life would be perfect. If only you had her back, your grades would be good. If only you had her back, you would work out and get the body you’ve always wanted.” BullsHIt! Accept who you are and kill that weak mother fucker. tell yourself you are sad about her, but that something has to die for something new to grow. I miss her, but it had to happen for the new me to become a reality.

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take the pain and push through it. the only way through hell is straight through it. Braddock 29 . It hurts so goddamn bad! I know it does. Best.2. step up to this challenge and take it head on like a fucking man.1 oneitis?? step up hommie! It hurts. there is no other option. But what you choose to do right now will determine who you are for the rest of your life.

Question: “Does anyone know how love works chemically?” 30 .com/braddock/82719-q-love.2 Q & a on Love http://www.2.theattractionforums.html I get a lot of emails about this and I also get a lot of emails asking me how to get an old girlfriend to like you again.

Why would your body do this to you? Why would it put you through this? It’s actually just doing its job. every memory is painful because it is a reminder that you are no longer getting those chemicals. then this explains why it’s so hard to move on after a breakup and why it’s so hard to experience change. When they do break up. this is why you might hear a song that you haven’t heard since high school and you immediately smile and have a flash back of riding in a car with all of your old high school buddies. love is an addiction to the peptides you have created and associated to a specific person. If every memory has a different peptide tied to it. this reminder comes in the form of pain.” More specifically. email her. both of their bodies will become so used to feeling this way that they will feel discomfort and pain at even the idea of not having those chemicals (Ie. breaking up). and to every memory you have. you will act despite the fact that you know it’s a stupid move. If the pull is strong enough (the addiction). It makes you sad because you instantly think of that moment when you felt so good and then your body is thrown back to the present moment of realizing that you don’t have access to her and the feelings (peptides) she gave you. On a logical level. Does anyone have a friend who still talks about his high school football days and he graduated 5 years ago? 31 . that feeling (peptide rush) is a nice safety mechanism to keep you from making that same mistake over and over.2. It turns out that our brain is hardwired to attach a specific emotional footprint to everything. in an attempt to get those feelings (peptide rush/your fix). it seems that the scientific definition of love would be “chemical addiction. After feeling this way for a long time. every person you meet. or drive by her house. It has evolved to put this peptide footprint on all of your memories to protect you. you will feel compelled to call her. It wants you to remember to move toward pleasure and away from pain. In any relationship (good or bad). every experience (good or bad). this is why you might feel sad when you hear a song that you and your old girlfriend used to listen to when you were at your happiest point in your relationship. you may know this is a stupid thing to do. but if the hurt/addiction is strong enough. your brain will fire off a batch of peptides that will make the experience of the relationship feel in a way that both parties become accustomed to.2 Q & a on Love answer: Based on my reading and study of the brain. this is why when you burn your hand on a stove at 4 years old. you will get a feeling (peptide rush) of anxiety or fear when you look at/go near a stove for the rest of your life.

32 . He will give you all kinds of excuses and rationalizations for why he needs the drug.No. He will think that she must have been the greatest woman on the planet. It is also likely that nothing in his life has given him an equivalent rush since. etc….” All this is bullshit. that is the talk of a logical man who is getting his fix. back. is ripped from him. The pain can be so bad that you will do ANYTHING to get your fix (her). and even watches his old high school films because it gives him a small fix of those old peptides that used to make him feel so good. Why is the dumper usually ok and the dumpee always crushed? It’s just like the football player example from above. He is an addict. never do? even though the feelings are long gone and they now hate each other. the dumpee is crushed because someone has taken their drugs when they were still highly addicted. He is still going through the withdrawals (just like a drug addict). the dumper slowly broke their addiction over time by weaning themselves of the other person until they are no longer addicted. cheating. “If I feel this bad. he graduates and football. Can you see how this plays out in the same way when a relationship ends and why some relationships that loGICAllY should end. what he does now is constantly talk about it. I must have made a huge mistake. He had likely been playing football for years and then all of a sudden. their logical mind tries to pull them away through fighting. but it’s like telling a crack addict he needs to quit. He will mistake this feeling for love for her. If that drug is ripped from you when you aren’t ready. then you are ingesting a very powerful drug. the source of his good feeling (peptide rush). they can walk away with little or no pain.that’s simply the physical form of the true reason…. they can’t leave because it means an end to the source of the most powerful drug (peptides) their bodies have ever experienced. arguing. the dumpee is CrusHeD not because of the fairy tale bullshit reasons we all hear in love songs and movies…. but at the end of the day their addiction pulls them back together so they can get their fix. once this happens. Take his fix away and you have a mumbling drug addict scrambling around feigning for a hit.2. even if you were telling your friends a week ago that she annoyed you and that you kind of wanted to shop around. so. then you will suffer from the exACt symptoms of a drug addict who is suffering from the withdrawal pains the first couple of weeks when they’re in rehab.2 Q & a on Love Why is he doing this? Because if he was good at football then he likely has a very good feeling (peptide rush) attached to any memory of football. If the feeling you shared with that girl created a peptide cocktail that felt so good it made you euphoric. watch ESPN 15 hours per day.

every girl or guy they date is almost exactly the same and they may even bitch about not being able to find a good guy or girl. They will just keep finding a new person who fits the bill close enough to give them the peptides their bodies crave.2.2 Q & a on Love this is also why so many men and women will “relationship hop. -Braddock 33 . game. Mr. This is because they haven’t hit pause long enough to get over their current addiction. and how it affects us.” ever have a friend who CoNstANtlY has to have a girlfriend? Instead of becoming addicted to one person. in our new Inner Game seminar. If they never break this cycle they will literally replay the same bad relationship over and over and over with new people for the rest of their lives. M and I go into great detail on the role of peptides and addiction in many areas of life. these people are addicted to having a relationship. they will dump one and replace them with one similar and get the same feeling (peptide rush).

she is getting to have her cake and eat it too. so the question is. It’s possible that things are rocky and that she is just working out the final death throws of that relationship. we were normal. i give a shit. i seeded stuffs from my home that she HAS to see. If that is the case. lets hear your inputs. she told me frm in the early stages of our conversation. but enjoys banging you. Maybe that’s not the case. Maybe you are right. i have a good problem to share here. how i can find out this and move things further between me and her. i didnt give a shit then. jus like how we were in a working environment. and i knew about this all along. obviously she isnt satisfied/happy with her bf but there is something still lingering on between them that is causing her to still be with him. they are. 34 . when we first met. but now. so we resume back on msn.3 Girl has a Boyfriend. everything is usual and fine for a few months and becoz this work for me is a temporal work. then i made a date with her on the phone. answer: It would take me 3 hours to write “how exactly to progress things along. We don’t like to think girls are like that.com/braddock/108183-girl-has-boyfriend-but-i-know-she-likesme-braddock. right now. i had ran thru EPM there then. i knew a girl frm a working enviroment. then the worst thing you can do is push or act in any way as if you are emotionally not getting enough from her. i full close her on the 2nd time she was here. but sometimes. things started to heat up.theattractionforums. I’ll tell you what will MurDer tHIs!!! .2. got blown away if i remember correctly coz that was a few months back.” but instead of that. i wont be hangin around for long. so during the last month of my work there. for all you know. we had long conversations on msn.pushing for a relationship with her. up til a point. But i Know She Likes me http://www. 1) she has a bf in that same working environment. she fucking loVes this guy.html originally posted by massive Hey guys. we wanted to meet and she comes to my place.

laid back... but you had dated her so long that it was hard to walk away. and just straight up made me feel better and have more fun than the other girl I was dating. calmly go with it while still making her wonder if she’s got you. and when she does. she may even dump this guy. the few girls who have been able to slowly hook me in these situations are the ones that stayed cool.3 Girl has a Boyfriend. she pulls the rug out from under you and says. I might have liked you if we would have kept this up and you would have flipped the script and pulled back on me once you knew I liked you. I just got out of an emotionally draining relationship. As loNG As she didn’t get too emotional too fast. fuck the shit out of her. Make her escalate the situation.” (translation: I liked fucking you. but you didn’t. you are acting like we are dating. value changes focal points. I think I just need to be single and figure some things out. I found myself being drawn to the other girl. But i Know She Likes me Have you ever been in her shoes? You were done with one girl. feel needy and insecure and reach hard emotionally and make you feel like she likes you soooooo much! then when you reciprocate hard and fast. I just got out of a relationship. -Braddock 35 . girls are emotional creatures. Instead..2. and you are stressing me the fuck out). then you start hooking up with a new girl and you are getting to have that fun and free feeling with her.(Yes eVeN If Your CHest Is BurNING AND You HAVe to puNCH A WAll After You Drop Her off) Man up. Be spontaneous and fun. then all of a sudden she feels your distance and starts getting all needy and pushy and kills the whole point of hooking up with her. “look. I’m having fun. Don’t let her know exactly how much you like her. as we all know. much less the guy on the side. However. she is having a hard time giving her BoYfrIeND all she has. In summary: Be cool. over time. remember.

.4 “i don’t chase.com/braddock/87246-i-dont-chase-i-replace....theattractionforums..i replace” http://www.2.html 36 .

texting her all the time. it was just a glimpse into his inner game and how his mind operates.2. 37 . If he would come from a place of abundance (either through actually dating a lot of women) or simply by accepting and believing that there are always plenty more..4 “i don’t chase.. this shift in mindset would have been the exact recipe to get the girl to stop being so distant. It was fucking disgusting! My friend was talking to me and the Godfather and kept rambling on and on about how she treated him like shit and how frustrated he was.. the Godfather wasn’t trying to be rude. He had no other girls (which is no big deal) but even worse.. He kept asking us for strategies and bullshit tactics for how he could get her to come around. I replace. our buddy was calling her all the time. he believed he couldn’t get another one. In no way am I saying you shouldn’t pursue a woman or give up on a girl who is giving you the run around (if you have ever taken social Circle Mastery with Mr. strangely. I couldn’t help but laugh. every girl that comes along. then you know we have an entire model for running slow burn game) but.” even though my friend was hurting. He went on and on and the Godfather just stared at him and said nothing the entire conversation. what would you do if you were in my situation?” the Godfather: “I don’t chase man. our friend was coming from a really weak place mentally. I remember one time we were talking with one of our friends who was being a complete pussy around this girl he wanted. finally our friend who was being a pussy looked at the Godfather and said: Weak sauce: “Hey man.i replace” It’s been a while since I’ve shared any of the wisdom imparted on by one of my friends and mentors from college I call. he would develop a mini crush on and get messed up inside.. and would drop anything he was doing to hang out with her if she called him. the underlying theme is always that of abundance. he would never feel much turmoil over a girl that was giving him the runaround. M and I. the Godfather.

this abundance mentality should never end.you don’t need any individual’s love or approval. I fucking replace. you are fucked. and food. “You need water.” so start internalizing the mentality.....4 “i don’t chase.i replace” It’s ok to “want” a girl. If you ever lost a woman during a relationship it is likely because you started to “need” her instead of “want” her. but the second you “need” her.. stop BeING A pussY!!!! As Wayne Dyer says. “I don’t chase.2.” -Braddock over and out 38 .... air.

long fuses 3. dinner.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone .learning Game the right Way 3.covered in thiS chapter: 3.2 dates: Lunch.What types of Girls Are You Working With? .What Would Murder Her Attraction 39 .short fuses .Medium fuses . drinks .1 to the new Guys! .

Most guys get on here and read. -Braddock 40 . You play that bitch until your fingers hurt. you play that bitch some more! learn a little piece at a time and only try to add a piece at a time. Don’t do that!!!! You don’t get good at playing the guitar by reading about the guitar.com/braddock/61184-new-guys. but they have never actually done it.1 to the new Guys! http://www. It can change your life with women and make your life better all around. read. and then.html Quick advice I wish someone would have told me when I began: Don’t try to learn it all at once. make sure that you spend 80% of that time going out and actually doing approaches. read. A lot of guys on here write a bunch of bullshit to sound cool. Whatever amount of time you plan on allotting to pickup whether that is 1 hour per week or 20 hours. they are not super heroes. Work on your inner game an equal amount that you work on your outer game. Don’t read every post on here and believe it as if it was written by the hand of God. you will be able to quickly determine which posts are valuable and which ones are written by a guy that has probably never done a single approach.3.theattractionforums. once you’ve been on here a while and you’ve done a bunch of approaches. Good luck! stick with it. once your inner game is super solid then your outer game will explode. even the best of the best on here are just guys.

so I know girls will go out for lunch to get fucked) Drinks are good as the girls know they dont have to sit with you for long if things dont go well. will engage her again tomorrow (kinda of mini freeze so she knows im not desperate and preserve value) I am wondering should I ask her our for lunch and build comfort & value and then ask her out for drinks on friday or just go for drinks ? Thanks 41 . no sexual escalation at lunch unless you can have lunch sex ( my work wife does it .3. The question I struggle with is ask a girl out for drinks only for the first time . The reason I ask is b/c I have this new girl HB 9( she upped her dressing) at work and I have done some kino . Dinner: I usually dont do dinner unless if the girl is from my social circle . value at first meeting and then asked her to come to a bday party. dinner. she did not show up so I ignored her on tuesday and was cool to her today. Sometimes from a logistics point of view lunch makes sence as most girls have nothing set up with BF or friends so they will agree to come out with you more often. drinks http://www.2 dates: Lunch.html originally posted by samirnyc View post Hi Guys I just want to hear different opinion about the first date or meeting if you do day game .theattractionforums. so you can build comfort and attraction.com/braddock/108163-dates-braddock-lunch-dinner-drinks. outing.

3.. medium fuse: This is the category I find most girls in. It would probably make her uncomfortable if you invited her straight over to your house to hang out. drinks answer: I usually go based on investment and I use the same dynamite stick idea as I use in my phone and text game book. Long fuse: Girl that rarely replies. However. “You guys should meet us at x. she initiates fairly often. All your jokes hit. the next time she is cold or distant. a real date. it goes something like. Short fuse: Girl that wants you really bad. With a medium fuse I would go for the drink or a group meet up. the times I do make contact and extend an invite. dinner.. What I do with these girls is patiently and persistently text or call them a few times a week oNlY.” 42 . With a short fuse you have the option of going to get a drink. one time she is cool. she allows you to go sexual. I always say play lazy man’s game and get the most done with the least amount of effort. she plays along with all your jokes.. and only push for the meet up every 4th or 5th time I make contact. she likely would never answer your call or text again. With a long fuse. A drink is a “maybe” but it might still be too much pressure. she’s on and off the grid. etc. it would be ridiculous to invite her straight to your house.pretty much anything is on the table.2 dates: Lunch. I usually just say. she wants to hang out.. picture each woman you meet as a stick of dynamite with a different fuse length. “What are you doing? Wanna come over and watch a movie?” skip the middle man and invite her straight to your house. With a short fuse.. dinner..

drinks this takes the pressure off of her and leaves her the option of meeting up under laid back conditions. -Braddock 43 .3. the idea is to burn long fuses down to short fuses. dinner.2 dates: Lunch.

Now. start to slowly treat her differently. Allow her brain to lose some of the associations she has toward you. Don’t play therapist. Win her? Great! she says no thanks? fine. Make fun of her plight and never feel sorry for her on this kind of shit. move on. girl that I think is cool. but not attracted to. If you push the envelope with her you are running the risk of losing her for good. Don’t set out to make her jealous. so go for it. Just go game other girls and get more women in your life. then. do’s: After you have spent some time away from her.. If she talks to you about other guys. It’s going backwards. then just stay in friend mode.3. html start with this.. If you can’t handle that. come back and change the frame. if I make a friend that’s a girl. practice staying out of friend mode with new girls. At least she’ll be around??? fuCK tHAt!!! slowly go for it.. If I want a girl she may or may not date me. at least you can feel better inside knowing you took your best shot. to try and physically escalate her at this point will feel weird 44 . see if this is an isolated situation or see if this is a reoccurring theme. you are most likely not calibrated to do that without her knowing what you are trying to do. fat girl with tons of hot friends. You obviously like her. When you do spend time with her. it’s strategic.theattractionforums.. but she will not slot me in friend mode.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone http://www. Do talk to other girls while trying to get out of friend mode.com/braddock/63998-braddocks-prescription-move-out-ljbf-zone. Don’t be a shoulder to cry on.. the reason you need to get away from her for a while is because it’s hard to change the frame from friend to sexual. spend less time with her for a while. but realize this alone won’t guarantee anything. get away from her so she can’t affect you emotionally.. I don’t know how you act around her. but don’t laugh at what she says unless it’s truly funny. As you get better you will fall into friend mode less and less. listen only mockingly. You must realize that you can’t go at her afraid to lose. but be willing to lose this girl. But. pivot.

. if you try to do that tomorrow without time passing. You need to reemerge as a sexual guy who wants her. you won’t run an opener. but you will start alllll over in attraction and run all the phases properly this time. the always there for her “buddy” is no more. Go get a few other women in your life. you will convey them. the Short term prescription: Get the fuck away from her for a while. you will just look like you are trying to do something. You won’t actually say the words from above.. even if you’re dying to see her. but doesn’t need her.. but may not change it. Come back in a few months with a different frame in mind. spend more and more time thinking about other girls and less putting this girl on a pedestal in your mind. 45 . Next time you see her you can send mixed signals and set a new tone for kino escalation. think long term not short term. think I want to become more attractive to women in general. he started off in comfort instead of attraction and/or he didn’t escalate kino at all. You don’t have to escalate hard and fast. then you have no use for her. You are going to read Magic Bullets if you haven’t and start all over with this girl. You seeing her after time has passed allows you to do several things. Being reactive is not attractive. Becoming a more attractive guy overall and needing her less and less will help you become more attractive to her. fuck that. but make yourself scarce. usually. stop trying to be the perfect guy for “her. Don’t avoid her. If she doesn’t want you in the same way. No. time away will help remedy this.. but you must kino or it’s off to the friend zone again. when a guy falls into friend mode.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone to you and her. soooo.3.” fuck the “how can I get her” mentality. You want her in a way that does not include shopping or hearing about her boy problems. But.

realize and be ok with the idea that you may lose her for good. and eventually. Realize. you are going to have to do what I said above. there is no quick fix or line for your situation. “I can’t risk that. When she does. take some time away and then come back and pull the trigger!!!! You can do it man! Good luck.” just realize that you have already lost her to some other guy although she hasn’t found him yet. so.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone Hope this helps. if you say. then. right anyway. -Braddock 46 . But. I think this will work itself out over time if you stick with learning all of this stuff. he will expect her to remove you more and more as her friend and you won’t want to be there to watch her happily with Mr.3. come back and pull the fucking trigger.

Your War Against fear .What to say and When to say it - The Benefit of Opening Guys .the Approach “Brain” .Developing the Approach Habit: right Action over emotion .steps to overcome AA 4.covered in thiS chapter: 4.2 Q & a on approach anxiety .1 approach antxiety .3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) .How to Build rapport with them 47 .AA remedies 4.

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realize that everyone feels approach anxiety.1 approach anxiety your War against fear some of the worst feelings in my life have come when I have chosen to avoid something I wanted out of fear. you get to start off on a tee with no one watching. You must cultivate the habit of right action over emotion. once you have that down you can start hitting soft toss. If you mess that up. By the time the season rolls around. on bootcamp. you are doing something you have very few reference experiences in. You can do all of this in the off season with no one watching. You are feeling nervous for a whole host of reasons. you don’t get to slowly graduate up to the World Series. no big deal. you will always feel something when you approach. you are ready. which I will explore in great detail later in this article. these guys are not super human. sure. would he feel anxiety? of course. who never gets nervous in the batter’s box. and forced him to approach a beautiful woman he didn’t know. collected major league baseball player. but mainly because. once you have that down. If I took the best dating coach in the world who says he has zero approach anxiety and threw him in the batter’s box against a major league pitcher who throws 100mph. If I took the most calm. they have just desensitized themselves to the pain through repetition and carry a mindset focused on long term gratification over short term gratification. No one is watching and no one is judging you. Knowing that I logically wanted something and then didn’t go for it because I succumb to a bunch of emotional rationalizations that are 95% bullshit. then a real pitcher. you can move to the pitching machine. the weekend forces the guys to get mass exposure like they’ve never experienced. develop the habit of right action over emotion If you really want your approach anxiety to go away.4. In pickup. and those who feel it the least are the ones who have done the most approaches. The first woman you approach essentially feels like it’s the big game. we almost always cure 85%-90% of a guy’s approach anxiety by the end of the weekend. but you can manage it. In baseball. it simply requires you to develop a new habit. is killer. cool. They have faced that fear so many times that it has lost its hold. 49 . and took him a bar. would he feel anxiety? of course.

there are certain factors that predispose us to heightened levels of fear or anxiety.” While there are infinite things we could be afraid of. says. far beyond all else. some of them are unavoidable and in regards to those. It is a cancer that can literally hold you in a self-imposed prison keeping you from taking the necessary action required to meet a specific goal. My favorite self help guru. this means that your fear of rejection is not 50 . then you will surely feel the rush with the same intensity as you did the very first time you ever road it. If you only ride that roller coaster once or twice a month. Brian tracy. especially early in the learning process. the habit of courage can be learned just as any other habit is learned. this is done through repetition. “Fortunately. at our core. remove the road blocks in your mind that are holding you back. you would eventually lose the ability to get a rush from riding it. several factors are within your control. through repetition. If you wanted to help a friend get over the fear of riding roller coasters would you have him read 300 books and spend 5 years on a psychologist’s couch. we are crippled with the fear of rejection. We need to constantly face and overcome our fears to build up the kind of courage that will enable us to deal with the inevitable ups and downs of life unafraid. remember. However. the fear of rejection is the most damaging because it can literally be crippling. we reduce the level of anxiety to a manageable level. there are several factors in regards to approach anxiety that make this fear of rejection heightened. and fear of failure. usually. By removing those factors. approaching in front of old friends We all know that failure is unavoidable in any new endeavor and that the lion share of failure takes place at the beginning of learning something new. you need to man the fuck up. the fastest way to ensure that you have approach anxiety for the rest of your life is to only do one or two approaches every now and then.4.1 approach anxiety If you rode a roller coaster 500 times in a row. let’s look at a few that you can remove: 1. or would you put his ass on a roller coaster again and again? Just like any other habit you want to create in your life.

how they feel about us. in fact.4. one thing that I see consistently in the books I’ve read on neurobiology is the brain is a horrible multi tasker. get rejected quite a bit when you approach women.1 approach anxiety completely unfounded. compete with opponents. What can make this even worse is the fact that you are trying to learn this in front of old friends who have never seen you behave in this new way. the last thing you need is extra pressure from your friends. As we interact with colleagues.” The medial prefrontal cortex fires up not only when we actually experience an event. and you don’t want to be ridiculed behind your back. You will. especially in high stress situations. You don’t want the role in your group to change. approaching in a Local venue I’ve spent the last 2 years of my life studying every book I could get my hands on that had to do with the brain and how it works. don’t go out with the guys who add to your stress. you don’t want to be openly ridiculed by them. by simply removing them on the nights I wanted to work on this stuff I was able to fight just one demon that night: my crippling approach anxiety . richard restak says. 2. to offer appropriate support or gain competitive advantage. By going out with them and wrestling two demons at once. and to get rejected in front of them could create a level of social pressure from them that you are not sure you are willing to accept. it’s very helpful when attempting something new and stressful. or watch our friends and family experience their own ups and downs. I was paralyzed and did nothing. especially in the beginning. An area of our brain that this drastically affects is the medial prefrontal cortex (MpfC). this retarded my growth on a massive level. When I was first learning this stuff. having insight into the feelings of others enables us to understand what they value. respond well to us. Dr. “the MpfC springs into action whenever we direct our attention inward and think about ourselves or outward and think about others. Go out with the one or two guys who you are most relaxed around and don’t feel like you would be judged. We all thrive when we deal with people who we feel understand us. I couldn’t go out with my older brother and his friends because I couldn’t stand the thought of looking bad in front of them. remedy: Knowing that you are trying something new and scary. and to predict their future behavior. As ridiculous as that frame of mind might be. once you are over your approach anxiety you can start chasing girls in front of those guys and it won’t be such a big deal. but also when 51 . You have a well-defined role within that circle. on the nights when you are going out to work on this stuff. While this is less important in most situations. and aren’t judging us.

This means that our attention gets scattered and fractionated like crazy in high stress situations. What if I use a line and she’s heared it before? she’ll tell everyone in here. Before you know it. kind of know. The fear of rejection and failure kicks in and fires off your MPFC. or have seen multiple times.1 approach anxiety we ‘think’ about experiencing an event. you are so concerned with what the crowd is thinking that you can’t even talk. this is essentially like driving drunk.4. “What if it goes wrong? I’ll never be able to show my face in here again. Now you can’t stop thinking about what all these people in the bar who you kind of know are thinking about you.” Now your MpfC is scanning the room at lightning speed trying to assess the feelings of everyone 52 . It also fires off when we think about putting ourselves in the shoes of another person looking back at us. If I get blown out in front of him. You become more and more self conscious every time you lose your place in your speech and the MpfC fires off more concentrated and much more often. You feel disoriented and anxious as a result. he’ll probably say something smart ass to me. What if I get blown out and she knows someone I know? My ex girlfriend is in here. You are in a bar full of people you either know. you are obviously pulled away from your speech and you lose focus. this explains why you feel like you are naked on stage when you are in your local bar trying to approach. You will oscillate between: full attention on your speech --> What they are thinking about me? --> full attention on your speech --> What are they thinking about me? …. scanning to assess how they ‘might’ feel or what they ‘might’ be thinking.. the more we are concerned with what the other person thinks about us. your MpfC will be doing back flips trying to assess how they feel about you. what if she or one of her friends sees me get blown out? that asshole I knew in college is in here. the more our MpfC will fire off. If you are scared of public speaking and you are speaking to a group of important clients.over and over etc… each time this happens. Now all of a sudden you decide to approach either these groups of people or approach strangers in front of these people. Your mind can’t keep up with all the inputs and it’s almost impossible to focus.

What this causes is the death of action and the birth of a guy who reads for months and never actually approaches. When I was learning this stuff and approach anxiety was my number one concern I would drive to cities 1 hour. 2 hours. You will be more apt to keep your composure and stay in the moment. Your mind never hardwires any of the concepts and you become a master of theory and you actually get worse with women instead of better. What kind of fool goes up to a woman and says. 3. this kind of thinking is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. but it will feel more like public access channel 13 at 3am. thinking like this can cause more long term damage than you can imagine. i don’t know what to say this is a pretty common. You now feel like you have 50 video cameras on you and the thought of approaching feels about as scary as pulling your cock out on national tV. then at some undetermined time in the future. You may still feel like you are on tV. but not with such ferocity. you can slowly test the waters in the places that gave you the most pain. If I’m going to go over there. I want to at least have something to say. because of approach anxiety. You begin to think that you should read and study pickup ebooks and memorize every possible routine and funny line. and then stands there like a moron?” that’s actually a fair point. Yes. you will still feel the pressure and your MpfC will still scan the room. you plan to start approaching. sometimes even 4 hours away so I could practice in a place where I didn’t feel like I was on national television. hi. What really happens is that you read an insane amount of information and NeVer digest any of it. sadly. instead of HBo on sunday night at 9pm. once you get comfortable with your approach anxiety in these places.1 approach anxiety in the room.4. I don’t want to be like that. You might be thinking. 53 . “Any idiot can have the balls to go over there and make a fool of himself. your local bar won’t seem that daunting and you will have little or no trouble approaching a woman in these venues. eventually. yet avoidable. remedy: DoN’t prACtICe IN tHese plACes!!!!!! It’s that simple. I know I felt the same way when I was learning this stuff.

but you have no idea what to do with it or what order it should go in. the act of actually approaching and interacting with women. If you can’t open then there is no reason to be reading about the newest qualification technique or sexual frame to have. and if. When you just read all the time or talk pickup all the time. digest those. While the lines and routines are extremely powerful.000 miles begins with a single step. you still can’t think of anything to say. “A journey of 1.000 things there are to learn in game and learn them one at a time. You feel guilty inside because you feel like you should be really good considering you know theory better than any dating coach on the planet and you wonder how it is possible with all that reading. bad or good interactions. remedy: As the age-old saying goes. because each experience seems to validate that you are completely lost. you simply play a guessing game in your head. this makes you feel anxiety and frustration.1 approach anxiety reading without practical application through real world experience causes you to develop major gaps in your learning. so. take the 1. Approach anxiety is the first one on that list. and really master them before moving on to the next piece. You become over stuffed with random knowledge. stick with them until your approach anxiety drops to a reasonable level and you feel like you have those down. You need to start with small amounts of knowledge. Change your mission. approaching the next girl makes you even more nervous. Give up on the idea that you need to have the perfect thing to say before you approach a woman. Your approach anxiety will go away in direct proportion to the amount of women you approach and your ability to master one step at a time. they are worthless in bulk. You read and assume. will help you connect the dots between each piece of new information you acquire. stick with these 2 things for a while. your brain locks up and gives you massive approach anxiety because you have all this information in your head. pick one or two things to open with and one or two things to transition with. Advanced concepts mean nothing if your brain 54 . you ever do decide to take action. You build false constructs in your mind of what the author really means and you create some weird mutation of reality. it goes either horribly bad or just ok.4. You are so nervous because you haven’t approached in a long time and when you finally do. When.” take one piece of information and go out and master it before moving on to the next.

you may run out of things to say after 5 seconds! However. the more calm and the more internalized your openers and transitions become. it’s like going to the gym for your brain. You do not have to stand there like an idiot for an hour having an awkward conversation. transition. You don’t need to memorize 300 lines to talk to an old friend. Also. in time you will obviously need to stay longer. every time you approach and start a conversation. Yes. right? 55 . but most of them will feel like nothing. Between those two polarities you can expose yourself to gradual increases. the more material you can add if you like. please. You will literally build conversational muscles. no matter how short or long. but for now. once you hit that threshold. please. the women won’t care and it will take tons of pressure off of you.4. Give yourself a break and tackle this one thing first. The first week you do this. If anything. the lowest form of this may simply be talking to a clothing store clerk. the recipe: to defeat your approach anxiety. Keep doing the same one until the anxiety it gives you is either manageable or non-existent. open. right? As you become more and more relaxed with this process. it’s about being calm in those situations so you can access what you already know. trust me when I say that you will never memorize 300 routines and be able to go out to a bar and use them. Memorizing 300 routines is Not a remedy for approach anxiety or a recipe to get laid. You might get nervous on the first few of each night. realize that there is no reason why you can’t just walk up. the more times you expose yourself to these situations. they will make things worse because your brain will feel clogged. you just relax and talk to one another. your brain will allow you more access to the creative side of your brain. move on to the next thing on your list that gives you an increased dose of social pressure. Go out and give yourself mini missions. you need to expose yourself to gradual increasing doses of social pressure. It’s not about memorizing more lines. and the opposite end of that spectrum might be smacking a girl on the ass. you will become bored just approaching and walking off. you are just working on beating approach anxiety. and then politely eject. you can begin to stay longer and longer.1 approach anxiety and body are engulfed with crippling anxiety. as your mind calms down in these highpressure situations. After numerous approaches over several weekends. the more your brain will calm down and begin picking up conversational reference experiences.

Because of this fear/pain. If you are not careful. i’m not interested in you”: The fear of rejection can be a heavy feeling when you first start out. they will be relegated to dating the women that come on to them or they will have to build a dynasty of a social circle and hope it creates enough gravity to draw women to them based on their lifestyle and social alliances. and realistic goals. this can create some deep seeded inner game issues that are hard to unwind. it’s them. even if you are a guy who is lucky enough to have been extremely successful with women in your social circles. putting yourself in these gradual-increasing levels of social pressure will help you reach indifference much faster. You can only pump yourself up for so long and keep telling yourself that it will be ok or that “It’s not you. then getting over the fear of rejection can feel daunting. you are not too worried about what they are thinking and you have little or no concern about what the room is thinking.4. This one single factor is enough to keep most guys on the sidelines their entire lives. At the end of the day. You will hear “no” from beautiful women and from women you wouldn’t even consider dating anyway. If you are not used to dating very many women or you are new to cold approach. you are still hitting those small goals. it is successful reference experiences that breed confidence. facing the harsh reality of “no. this is the feeling you have when you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance. They assume that if several women reject them. you write out clearly defined. measurable. Many guys take it personally. You can gain a ton of confidence by hitting small goal after small goal. these small goals slowly give birth to bigger and bigger goals. the absolute ideal state is indifference. In the sloppy world of cold approach. you will have to get used to hearing “no” in cold approach. this is the path that will lead you to dating those women by giving you the positive reference experience 56 .1 approach anxiety You will never completely eradicate your approach anxiety and that should not be your goal. because you may be used to beautiful women in your old social circles being all over you or even nervous to talk to you. this can be a mind trip. Your goal should be to get it to a manageable level. When you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance. then most/all women must not like them. While you may not be getting laid or getting the women you want for that time. it is not the least bit uncommon to have below average women look at you like you have a dick growing out of your forehead when you approach.” This is why it’s so crucial that. they assume that the woman sees some deep internal character flaw in them that must be true. especially in the first 6 to 9 months.

stop MAKING Your GoAl to Get lAID!!!!!!!! ready for some real talk??? you are not likely to consistently get laid or get an extremely hot girlfriend through cold approach for several months or longer if you are at the stage where you still suffer from severe approach anxiety. so. just step up and make it happen!! -Braddock 57 . If you are new and you have MAssIVe approach anxiety…. would you get your feelings hurt and become deflated if you weren’t a millionaire tomorrow? 3 months from now? 6 months from now? of course not. You can do this.4.1 approach anxiety you need to build durable confidence. If you wanted to become a millionaire. You would set up a game plan and a business strategy full of subsidiary goals all leading to the attainment of the big goal. Do the same with your dating life. a million dollars. stop beating yourself up with ridiculous goals and stop feeling bad when you don’t have some epic sexual conquest or get 5 phone numbers. step back and draw up a realistic 6 month game plan where you can have success.

” • “I’m going to go open a girl and tease her about something and get her laughing.” I would go in with the mindset of accomplishing one mission: • “I’m going to go open her and transition with a cold read and then eject. i. then he is setting himself up for long term failure.e. then eject.theattractionforums.com/braddock/93683-q-approach-anxiety. “excuse me. don’t approach with any outcome in mind.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and high five her for something random. I would just make the mini missions a little harder each time.? answer: He needs to first set realistic goals.html Question: What are the steps a guy can follow to go from not really approaching ANY women to approaching at least 1 woman per day with no fear of rejection..” I would keep doing these types of things until I could do them with little or no anxiety. once I got comfortable with that. do you know which way sunset Blvd is?” “Hi. I would tell myself to go out and just open girls with information gathering questions and then eject.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and try to ask her one qualifying question before I eject. I would give myself fun “mini missions. once that is under control. if i had to start all over from scratch. and then eject. If a guy has never done a single approach. and i could give myself a little advice. When you are first starting out and you are just trying to get over your fear of rejection. Do not approach hoping for a phone number.4.2 Q & a on approach anxiety http://www. i would say: first just start with baby steps. and his measure of success on any one approach is either getting a phone number or getting laid.. 58 . can you tell me what time it is?” etc… I would do this until my mind calmed down in these situations before I tried to graduate up to the more advanced and lengthy conversations.

It is what it is. Maybe. I would give myself a “there’s no way out rule” where I wasn’t allowed to eject until she either walked off or until I had her phone number. Their mind. run. don’t waste another second on it. it locks up and fires off the emotion of fear and anxiety. even once you reach mastery. “crawl. jog. they have a learning strategy called. As a result. I would create fun new rules. walk. and more specifically. Accept it and move on. “Why do I have to lift weights and eat right to have a good body?” -Braddock 59 . and pickup is no different. they need to accept that rejection is part of the process and that we all go through it. can’t identify with running because it has zero reference points to link too.” this is the proper way to attack any new endeavor.4.2 Q & a on approach anxiety once I felt like I could do them with ease. It’s like asking. their self concept. Guys get locked up because they are trying to run when they can’t even crawl. When you give it the mission of “crawl” the self concept can conceptualize that mission. In the army. that would be a great place to start. Don’t dwell on it and don’t try to understand why.

When actually opening mixed sets. 2. I always watch for a little while to learn the group dynamic.theattractionforums. I’ve done this a bunch of times and never had an altercation. B. there are too many girls to try to mess with that and it’s a quick way to get in a fight. Long Distance Relationship. I move on. then I would Not go direct right away. Drunk I love yous. If they are holding hands or overly comfortable with simple touching.” It’s pretty awesome when you can make this hit.) on the guys then ask how everyone know each other and then move on to talk with the girls or do you do some small talk with the guys (on what subjects?) for like 2-3 minutes and then ask him to introduce you to the rest of the group? Thanks. If you don’t have approach invitations/or the guys look like normal to tougher guys. then I would just go direct on the girl and the guys will usually melt away. you have a couple of options. If you are getting approach invitations and the guys look like pussies. you can usually tell. As tim from rsD would say. You can usually tell if they are dating just by watching how they interact with one another. It’s pretty risky and you better make sure the guys around her aren’t meat head guys that get pissed easy. I would either open the girl and introduce myself to the guys if and 60 . If I can tell they are dating. “you turn everyone around her into spectators. but I never do it on a girl that looks like she is truly dating a guy. A. Tornado answer: 1.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) http://www.g. What’s the best way to open mixed sets? Do you just run any normal opener (e.html originally posted by tornadopuA Hey guys. Is kissing cheating. etc.com/braddock/103560-opening-mixed-groups-guys-girls.4. only when the guys are standing around her and she looks bored.

sometimes. He’ll act like a dick and try to dismiss you and the woman will start to act more dismissive to you as well. 61 . that looks weird. “You didn’t tell me this is your boyfriend? How long have you guys been dating?” If she likes you she will almost always clarify the situation and make it awkward for the guy. If he’s not. C. pussy orbiter guys will answer the same question with. In that case. the key question that everyone knows you must ask if you don’t know is: “so. but it’s actually quite useful for getting you out of potentially dangerous situations and quite powerful for quickly making friends and getting introductions to really hot girls. Don’t be a dick and don’t act like you are doing something wrong. Just be polite as if you are meeting a stranger on a plane.4. Just talk to him as if he is an old friend. find a natural place to excuse yourself and move on. Meet the rest of his group if he is a warm guy. how do you guys know each other?” You can tell pretty quickly after asking this what the score is. You are just a chatty guy who happened to start a conversation with his girlfriend. and say. I usually smile and turn to her. Put his mind at ease by talking to him and getting to know him a little bit.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) when they tried to come in. just ignore him and continue going after her. Most people in the community dismiss the art of “Guy Game. You weren’t flirting with her technically. You can open the guy. and don’t act like you did something wrong. Be warm to him just long enough to get his respect and then move back to the girl. “this is my girlfriend” even though it’s clearly not. If it’s legitimately his girlfriend then don’t just run off. Now. I won’t ask this until I think the girl is somewhat attracted to me or if I can tell the guy is getting mad. Don’t kiss his ass either. When a guy like this says that. If you act like you are doing something wrong then the guy will smell the fear and blow you out.” which may sound silly.

4... that’s it. sometimes. “that girl right there is really cute. I just have a 2 to 3 minute conversation about random shit and then I say. “I’m kinda talking to that sara girl and that blond over there is dating my cousin.”Are you friends with Brian Hawkins? I swear I met you at one of his parties.whatever he says.....” -Braddock 62 . “You guys celebrating something tonight or what?” He’ll say. “these girls are really cute.. Calabrese says that guys are easy. It’s too transparent.. Calabrese. because there are only 3 things you need to talk to them about to build rapport: sports.. then I might say. then I’ll say. I make a statement about how hot the girls are in there. woman in the place. because if a guy did that to me I would laugh in his face and quickly dismiss him. I don’t ever open them with a traditional opener.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) one of our instructors. I’ll say. has the best “Guy Game” I’ve ever seen. which one are you dating?” He’ll. oldest. “Did you graduate from oklahoma? You look really familiar?” or. just to get him laughing. let me introduce you. He opens guys quite a bit and almost always ends up meeting one of the guy’s girl buddies. I usually ask them if x local sports team won that night. but that blond right there is single and she is a slut. and beer. I make a statement about how he better quit staring at my girlfriend and I point to the fattest. is that your girlfriend?” or. or. pussy.. then (assuming you built a decent rapport) break down the entire group dynamics for you and often times introduce you to girls.” then.bla bla bla.

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Cracking my boys up and girls in my social circle . I’m just kidding.. and have seen at least the top movies.theattractionforums..5.. 64 . you know specific quirks and character traits of each member of the group. In humor. local themes are themes that are funny only if you have been in that exact situation or had that exact very specific experience. you don’t get that luxury.then.any ideas on how to break that barrier? What makes me funny is heavy doses of cheap booze and even cheaper women.html originally posted by barney stintson: so i can crack an endless amount of jokes and teases when i’m with my close friends. As long as they have been on the planet. This is what usually manifests with your buddies.same jokes on girls in cold approach and a God damn tumble weed would roll through the room and you could hear crickets chirp.. A girl coming into your preexisting social circle will laugh at jokes she doesn’t quite get to feel accepted or because she can tell everyone else is responding to you well. been on the same trips.1 Q and a: how can i make girls laugh? http://www.. watch some tV.. What I figured out is that I was trying to pull them into humor that required too much insider info for a newcomer. a joke about one of those member’s quirks will get a laugh out of everyone. but its really hard to just get into that same mindset with a stranger. “Global” themes are themes that everyone can get and that need zero prior knowledge for them to be understood.. You’ve seen the same movies. maybe. since all members know each member very well. I also noticed that women found my jokes much funnier once I dropped in that I had a 13 inch cock.com/braddock/126791-q-how-can-i-make-girls-laugh. think of it like this. A one liner from a favorite movie will have the group cracking up. you have “local” and “global” themes.. because it probably actually ties in several “local” themes that have been long running.. In cold approach.. You guys build joke after joke off of themes that have been running for years.. then they will get these jokes. have internet. I had this same problem.

. or.. Introduce a “global” theme and if they laugh. but by starting with these. -Braddock 65 .5. see your style of humor.1 Q & a: how can i make Girls Laugh? these jokes are often less funny. Just tell them you have a 13 inch cock that you want to put in or around their mouth. they can get used to you. start introducing “local” themes to add spice and conspiracy between the two of you.. but it obviously risks them not getting it and making you feel like your cock is hanging out in 2* weather. and then you can start building “local” jokes with them as the interaction progresses. Jumping in with the “local” jokes is doable. this can happen really fast. you can open them up to the idea that you are funny.

how to flirt with Women: the art of push/pull
http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/111917-braddock-how-flirt-women-art-push-pull. html In my years of being a Dating Coach it’s become apparent that the most important and easiest way to flirt with women is to use what is called push/pull. Basic Definition: “Saying something nice and dove tailing it with something mean or saying something mean and dove tailing it with something nice.” On a more advanced level of flirting, using push/pull is the art of using both your physical touch/ facial expressions and your words in unison. this could mean that you tease her about something or playfully call her out on something, yet while doing so, you are smiling, you pull her in and hug her just before she gets mad to show her you are kidding. the guys I know who are the best with women when it comes to flirting, building attraction in the first encounter, building attraction in social circle settings, or maintaining a fun relationship are masters of push/pull. to truly master push/pull you must learn to calibrate to the woman. each woman has her own default push/pull blueprint. some girls‘ blueprint is that they respond best when the ratio is 5 pushes to every 1 pull. With these types of women, they will quickly get bored with a guy who tries to compliment “pull” too often. even with these women, the pull must appear at some point or she will give up, lose interest, and assume you are just a jerk. Other girls’ default blueprint is just the opposite. If you want to properly flirt with these women, you will be best off giving light compliments “pulling” maybe 5 times for every one tease “push.” However, even though each woman has her own default blueprint for when she first meets new guys, this blueprint can quickly change relative to your value. that same woman who would have felt massive attraction to a 5 pushes to 1 pull ratio, will not be receptive to a low value guy attempting such a ratio. However, the woman who responds better to 5 pulls and 1 push and would normally get upset if an average guy teased her too much, will have no problem being teased hard by a guy who she considers extremely high value in her social circle, or by a celebrity.

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Basic example of push/pull: the push: (underlined) the pull: (Bold) I meet a girl, we are flirting, but 10 minutes in I find out she is from Texas. Since I’m originally from oklahoma, there is a natural reason for immediate push/pull. Braddock: “Damn, you’re from texas. (faking disappointment with face and body language) this sucks, you’re really cute and i was just starting to like you, but now I have to break up with you. I’m going to need my CD’s back and my letter jacket. Now that I know you are from texas, I don’t feel so bad about cheating on you. But, you were amazing in bed. this makes me sad.” (pretend to walk away, then come back smiling. she drops her jaw and playfully punches me in the arm. i pull her in, hug her and kiss her on the cheek). Breakdown of the above: the push? (underlined) Any point in the above where I’m saying something mean, pretend to break up with her, pretend to be disappointed, or fake walking away. Go out and practice pushing as hard as you can without pissing girls off. the sweet spot is when she is almost mad, but you can tell she likes that you have the balls to push her buttons, yet the social savvy to release the tension by intermittently complimenting or physically being warm by “pulling.” Go out for a week and mess this up. I give you permission to piss some girls off. this is the only way you will know what the boundary is with this stuff. the more she likes you and the more attracted she is, the harder you can push. this is how you build deep layers of attraction with women. the farther you can successfully take things with the teasing “pushing”, the better it will feel for her when you do release the tension by being warm verbally or physically, “pulling.” the pull? (Bold) Any point in the above where I compliment her, smile, or physically escalate. When you are trying to flirt with women, don’t kill the sexual tension by over pulling.

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Most guys will say, “Just kidding” when the girl wasn’t even mad. save comments like “just kidding” for when you truly piss her off and even then, use it sparingly. Also, don’t kill sexual tension by playfully pushing, but laughing at your own joke too early in an attempt to break the tension, hoping she will ‘be ok with it.’ Have some balls and be ok with creating some tension. this tension is what makes the compliments, “the pull”, actually feel really good. No tension + pulling = no attraction and no secondary gain of the pull feeling good. pulling with no attraction is simply validating her, not causing a connection. Go out and practice complimenting. range them and see what happens. Notice the difference when you give light compliments after several teases. Notice that it doesn’t kill the tension, but actually allows you to push it farther. then try over complimenting too early and being way too nice and notice how it kills the sexual tension and makes it even harder to push the next time. Would you guys like more articles like this? Comment below and let me know. -Braddock

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o some girls will need Zero takeaways. • Takeaways are best used by acting through your own intentions. If you are all push. every woman has a different blueprint and therefore responds to different things.. takeaways are a push in nature. she will eventually give up or get defensive.1 takeaways for SnLs remember.. • The less she likes you. the lighter the takeaways must be. so go 3 pulls to every 1 push. we are getting a divorce.pssst). but calmly submissive (yes. • The best way to qualify what you are is to disqualify what you ARE NOT. the harder the takeaways can be. Change up the push/pull ratio and find her blueprint. earliest form of takeaways: • Role Play takeaways: o that’s it. • You have to be fucking fearless when you do takeaways.6. the more you just sound like a chump who is jaded by women. she likes the jousting and every time you do a takeaway she submits more and more on a sub communication level and eventually she is chasing you and escalating you physically and sometimes logistically. o some girls will need 100..” • The more she likes you. As TD would say. remember how push/pull works. o You can fake takeaways. o A perfect balance is when the girl is frustrated. so go 3 pushes to every 1 pull. o try them out and see how she responds and calibrate accordingly. Some girls like a dick. 71 . o this post is a gross generalization. you need to be fucking possessed. • The less power you have. • To get 10’s on a same night or to get 10’s you will usually need takeaways. • Here you will do takeaways to punish resistance. “to same night lay a 10. some girls hate that. but the more you do the less they will hit. stolen from Dog Whisper pssst.

I always end up dating girls like you. 3 months of crazy.ok this is date 2…” o This would be all fights and make up sex. takeaways In Comfort: • Admitting your sexual desires: o “I think you better go.” Beat Her to the punch takeaways: • You are a player aren’t you? • Just so you know. o Girls like you are bad for me. let’s go to the bar…. girls like you are bad for me. You need to run along….I’m out. o You have been eliminated. o You and I would end up hating each other after about 2 months.6. pulling stage takeaways: • “You know what. so this is date one. we are breaking up. fights every day.. o Ignore her. o Give short answers and talk to everyone else (make her feel the burn). 72 . o (Dubbsy style): “How many dates before I can get in your pants…at least 3 I’m guessing. o You are fired.“ • Running from your feelings: o I need to get away from you. ok. we aren’t having sex. if you stick around I’m going to do bad things to you and I promised myself when I saw you. I like you. and a horrible breakup. I would just be your friend..” • “Your friend is starting to piss me off…I think I’m out of here. passionate sex. o I can’t keep talking to you. o Being almost annoyed by her presence. o fuck this. but if that’s all you think I want from you after talking to you all night then fuck this…. even though I think you are fucking hot. o I fucking hate girls like you.1 takeaways for SnLs o that’s it. • She says something you don’t like: o Go silent.I know how this story ends.

I didn’t know you were x. fuck it.” o “I had no idea you were this judgmental.” o “look.” • “If you don’t want to be with me then stay here with your friends.” o Girl: “You can’t come in.” • “I want to go. either come or don’t.” o You: “You know what. -Braddock 73 .” (organizing principle: “I thought you were awesome.6. if you have to listen to your friends then go.” • “Go with your friends.”) • Reversals o “I didn’t think you were like this. then fuck this. if that’s true.” suck it. I want you to come. then tonight is a waste of time. I do.. but I’m not going to beg you to. I’m fucking out.” • “I know this sounds weird. no wait…. but I’m not into one night stands. I’m not having sex with you. If you don’t trust me….” takeaways In seduction : • “Promise me this won’t be a one night stand.1 takeaways for SnLs logistic takeaways: • “Look.don’t come. if you think that’s all I want. no wait. You know I like you.

some guys are all about building massive comfort.. but because so many strange variables would have to be covered. her friends couldn’t know about it. these are just generalities. remember. it had to be the perfect location.2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. 74 . it would almost be impossible..6. Maybe one day I will have time to write extensively on same night lay game.. there are so many things that go into having good same night game and there are so many different styles you can take. but for now here are a few pointers that should help… SnL threshold: Any girl can turn into a sNl. If one of those things was off. tyler D used to say that it’s all about finding her blueprint. logistically. even the sweetest girl or most high value woman in the world “could” have a same night lay. the problem is that each woman has a different threshold for what it would take to have sex with a guy the same night. she wouldn’t have sex.theattractionforums. the moon.. Not because she’s “so moral”.. and comfortable with the guy she was. some guys are all about sexual framing. runs perfect game. it could happen. the thought of having sex on the same night for some women might be so taboo that no matter how turned on. her threshold might only be met by a guy who looks like Brad pitt. and other guys are all about building huge amounts of sexual tension through push/pull until the girl basically pulls them into the bedroom (my personal favorite). every girl has a different blueprint that may take one or several of the things mentioned below. some women will literally go their entire life and never have sex with a guy the same night she met him because her threshold is so high.html If you are a guy that is oNlY looking for same night lays. and the stars would have to align for someone to have sex with her that night. If the right guy came along at the right time. attracted. http://www. some women’s threshold is so high that it’s impossible for almost anyone on the planet to get there in one night. and she has to be feeling xYZ feelings etc etc etc. the sun. here are a few things that will help you have more consistent success. some guys go super sexual verbally and escalate really fast.com/braddock/103638-same-night-lay-simple-pointers.

what I’m talking about are things that are obvious red flags that “most of the time” spell an extremely high threshold that will put the brakes on the same night lay later that night. even if you could pull this girl.6. but a woman with a high SNL threshold will flinch hard every time you even hint at bouncing no matter how attracted she is.. who wants to drive her back 45 minutes away in the morning? Besides that.Ie “You know I’m not going to have sex with you. the point is that if you are obsessed with same night lays.. So…. I’m not talking about listening to what she says exactly…. if she gives major resistance to any of the below…. terrible logistics will override attraction and she will end up not going home with you. • She flinches when you escalate: I’m not talking about a girl who doesn’t want to look like a slut in front of her friends. Most girls aren’t like this. I’m just making the case for some women so you don’t beat yourself up every time a woman won’t go home with you. screen for girls that have a medium to low same night threshold. then. Who did she come with? Who drove? How far away does she live? etc.MoVe oN!!!! 75 .. right?” We all know what she can say often times betrays what she really feels. No. I’m talking about the woman who will barely let you hold her hand. (All these assume you understand calibration and assume you have massive attraction) • She flinches multiple times at the idea of bouncing: Most women will give token resistance to bouncing back to your place. she may logistically follow you around the club and would stand there all night long but won’t let you make even the most basic of escalation….2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. I suggest you move on.. in most cases. you need to get good at reading girls thresholds.MoVe oN!! • Bad Logistics: If she lives 45 minutes away and she is with a carload of friends.find out logistics early. etc… If several of these questions get shit answers…..neXt Set! If you are obsessed with sNls then you will want to screen any girl out that has a moderate to high threshold.

• She flinches when you joke sexually: Once again I’m not talking about when you don’t have attraction and you are trying to talk sexual like a horny 7th grader. sexual frames.” My mom would of course be in the “high sNl threshold. remember. but for you advanced guys it should make sense. I’m talking about when you know she is interested and she just won’t bite on any kind of sexual role play.. then I’m moving on.….2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. most of your mom’s fall in the “low sNl threshold. sexual teasing. and these are generalities.. sexual qualification etc.6. same night lays are much more complex than this. obviously.” -Braddock 76 .If I can’t put her in at least a semi sexual state.

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one of my favorite quotes and the foundational pillars of social Circle Mastery is, “proximity is power.” At the end of the day, you guys wouldn’t be doing this if you didn’t want hotter women in your life. If it was just sex or quantity, then, you could just take down a drunk bar pig every night. However, at the end of the day, I got into all of this to date/bang hotter women. (GoD Help Me If ANYoNe oN Here WrItes tHe GAYest sAYING of All tIMe, “But BrADDoCK ...A Hot GIrl Is relAtIVe. WHAt’s Hot to You MAY Be uGlY to Me.”) fuCK You!!!!! ok, moving on. What I have discovered is that at the end of the day, the guys who date the Hottest women Are Not NeCessArIlY the guys with the best game....No. they are the guys with “enough” game... but superior proximity. they are the guys who have consistent close proximity to beautiful women. I know some of my boys back in oklahoma who have some of the best game I’ve ever seen....who AreN’t dating beautiful women consistently. When they come visit me in lA, they smash it. they are like kids in a candy store. However, in Oklahoma, they are fighting for one of the three hot girls in the club or social circle and the margin for error is insanely small. on the other end of the spectrum, I have buddies in lA who have very average game, but they have access to beautiful women through their social circle, and as a result, they are consistently dating hot women. Guys are always asking me, “How do I get hotter women?” they think I’m going to give them some trick line or inner game shift that will set them free and unleash their inner cocksman. they are usually disappointed by my answers...

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” (Guess what.” (Yeah. Do you want to make things easy on yourself so you can see her 3. when you snag the one hot girl out of the shit venue after going there 3. “When I get a hot girl I can’t walk away from her no matter how bad the relationship is..class. wouldn’t you rather go 3 for 10 in a room full of super hot women? I would.. it’s less a measure of skill and more random luck.5... classic inner Game issues Stemming from this: “I get shaky around hot women..get access to all those clubs that won’t let you in.. If you pull her.10 girls. If you normally go 3 for 10 in any club regardless of quality.000 times.4... so things can happen more organically? I do.we all do when we only go to shit bars with one hot girl in them and we can feel that we have one shot and it must be a homerun)...” this is why sCM is so important.1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” 1.social club. Consistently? No. because she is so hard to replace... Do you get a special blue ribbon if you can? No..and join that.” 2.and 1 hot girl.. you are still greatly increasing your odds if you are in a room full of beautiful women. “figure out where there is a large gathering of hot girls. I can’t be myself.” 4.... you’re 81 . “stop beating yourself up wondering why you can’t pull the one 10 out of that shit local bar near your house where there are 300 dudes. Can you sniper off a 10 in a shit venue? Yes. true 10’s. because in that room she is. I’m great on 6’s and 7’s. even if you are limited to cold approach because you don’t have time to build a social circle. Guys develop major inner game issues over this very simple distinction.10 times and not have to be so pushy and desperate. A girl in this club thinks she’s a 15..” 3. coupled with game and a few lucky logistical breaks.hobby. “Become friends with a few club promoters.... “fall into friend mode with at least 3 hot girls who have hot friends...7... Create a lifestyle where you are naturally in the path of hot women all the time.

When you build a social circle full of hot girls and you start penetrating the hottest clubs in your area.” just normal guys who get it and understand this naturally.) Am I saying you don’t need good game? of course not.1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” going to feel a complete lack of abundance). You will warm up on hot girls. and land some of those hot girls.. and surrounding yourself with a team of cool guys who get it. :D ok. you will get used to being around hot girls.7. It starts with getting your lifestyle together.. getting involved. You need to have some skill. How to penetrate these places and social circles? that’s a whole post in itself... get blown out by hot girls.you probably just need less than you think. next caller. Your body will calm down and you will start to feel less stressed about any one girl. (Not “pickup guys. -Braddock 82 .

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It starts with modeling our parents when we are children. he probably taught you to be impatient and bitter toward women in general. these blind spots could rear their head in multiple arenas depending on who you modeled. We tend to be identical to one or a combination of our parents’ belief systems in regards to love and relationships. sadly. modeling family Just because someone we love and look up to did something a certain way doesn’t make it the best/ right way. and caring relationship? Were you raised by parents who fought all the time and were basically roommates? these models have a profound effect on you and will continue to play out in your own life if you are not aware of them and you don’t change them. We do them automatically and have a blind spot to how they might be holding us back. the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree with most people. we learn these behaviors at such a young age. you’ll likely find yourself dominating women in relationships. Maybe your dad cheated on 84 .7. If your dad was a weak guy who was just happy to have ‘a’ wife. If your dad was overbearing and dominated women in an unhealthy way. If your dad married the wrong woman or was cheated on. We must be careful about the lessons we internalize and hold as fact. you probably learned that deep meaningful relationships with women are unrealistic and you learned to stay distant and guarded. confident guy? Were you raised by a single mom who was overly religious and guarded? Were you raised by parents who had a healthy. If your dad was a distant father who cheated on your mom but was loving and charismatic to the rest of the family. When you think back to your childhood. what they really mean is.html modeling the most common way we learn our dating habits is through modeling the behaviors of others.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling http://www. who did you accidentally model? Was your dad a smooth. loving. then you were probably taught to put women on a pedestal and accept any and all behavior to please her. movies. he had some great modeling as a child.com/braddock/116314-dating-tip-become-successful-womenmodeling. you’ll likely find yourself in similar relationships. If your dad was a wimp who got pushed around by your mom. “that guy is a natural”. etc… When you hear someone say. they are now autopilot responses.theattractionforums. then through watching our friends.

because that’s what you modeled. It’s not about connecting and dating their equal.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling your mom and you saw how hurt your mom was. and actions. and unhealthy boundary function. You’ll follow his advice even at the risk of marrying the wrong woman and having an unsatisfying relationship for years just so you don’t disappoint him. great at business. We’ve all heard the saying. be careful about modeling their behaviors. a good person. The relationship becomes a constant power struggle where the primary tools of expressing love are jealousy.7. However. We often assume success in one area of life must mean success in all areas of life. or even great at attracting women. Just because a friend is a good friend. “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. if you are modeling this.” I couldn’t agree more. some of those great tactics that cause deep levels of attraction can be taken too far and cause a toxic relationship where it’s nothing but fights and jealousy. some of the most charismatic friends I’ve ever had who could attract the hottest women and sleep with any girl they wanted were absolutely terrible at keeping an amazing woman or having a healthy relationship. withdrawal. healthy relationship. 85 . when you have a son. then. it’s about dominating a woman and making sure she knows who has the power. but this in no way makes them qualified to be a mentor in relationship management. doesn’t mean you should model how he handles relationships. despite this. you follow his relationship/dating advice dogmatically because you can’t stand the idea of letting him down. thought patterns. Maybe you have a father who you look up to as if he is a superhero and he is amazing in most areas of his life but has a terrible relationship with your mother. I have mentors who are great at attracting beautiful women. Well. modeling friends I think picking a healthy peer group is one of the most important decisions of your life. you do the same thing to him unknowingly. unless you have seen someone you consider successful in a loving. so you went the polar opposite. You have vowed to never hurt a woman and you’ve taken it so far that you feel guilty if you even tease a woman or shoot her straight. you can expect to end up in the same relationship prison.

modeling Gurus one of the biggest mistakes you can make is modeling the wrong dating coach. Model specific behaviors. have deep issues. my friends couldn’t help but model my behavior. I’d joke negative about women. unfortunately. they spew their negative beliefs onto anyone who is willing to listen. take the time to read numerous posts from that particular dating coach and try to read between the lines and figure out where he’s coming from. Be very careful about this or you could find yourself running around a club wearing a top hat and 12 inch platform shoes. and was on a search and destroy mission to find. over hype how good they are with women. sleep with. often times. manipulative. these are the charismatic guys who speak from such a place of authority it can be easy to get sucked into their reality and believe what they say and think. and write tons of blog posts and articles that are half truths at best. overall character. are not as good with women as they say they are. fake. and.a healthy place? Is it coming from a confident guy who is sharing what works or is he constantly trying to prove himself to an unknown audience? Does it sound like a guy trying to get validation from men by bragging? Is he writing to impress or teach? Does what he say sound WAY too good to be true? If so. and crush. Does it sound like it’s coming from a good place…. every woman in the tri-state area. but because they are either bad with women or were hurt by a woman. they are extremely smart and interesting. I just genuinely despised them. and the damage I probably caused in their lives and relationships. and overall proactive thought patterns. 86 . Because I’m a charismatic guy. Be careful about accepting any dating advice as fact and be leery of modeling the thoughts and opinions just because a guy says he’s a dating coach. jump on any opportunity to help my friends find reasons to dump their girlfriends. it was a horribly unhealthy model for my friends to follow. it probably is. I remember after one of my girlfriends dumped me there was about a year and a half where I hated women. I still feel guilty about the things I accidentally taught the guys around me.we all do this. I saw them as users of men. disloyal. Don’t necessarily model someone’s life. I was one of these guys for a while.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling even worse is modeling the unhealthy friend who is jaded by women.7. this industry is full of weird guys who hate women. I did it…. and because I was still good enough to sleep with women despite being jaded. I’d spew my hate about women to all my friends and look for any shred of evidence I could find to validate my dark views toward them.

Guys will over hype things like bathroom pulls and other things that sound exciting on paper. that doesn’t mean you can’t steal a page out of each guy’s playbook. Going to a bootcamp and watching guys who are amazing with women is priceless. don’t model the guy who bangs 4 girls per week but hasn’t had a real relationship in his life. so good guys end up getting blown out by girls and coming across really creepy. Hearing the mindsets and beliefs of guys who are fantastic with women can really set a good course for your dating life especially if you don’t have anyone who is good to model. Who should you model? Modeling the right dating coach or natural can be extremely helpful. 87 . Worse than anything. but all the girls he dates are damaged unhealthy women. they don’t tell you that they do those rarely and the girl usually is average looking at best. Make sure whoever you model is getting the results you want. If you want 1. don’t model the guy who is constantly in a long term relationship. A lot of guys give no context for the things they teach or the things they tell you to say. some of the guys I’ve met through this don’t need to be giving advice to anyone and could use a bump in the dosage of their psych meds. If you meet a guy who is great with women. if you are modeling the mindsets of some of these guys. Make sure the guy you are modeling is healthy or you will ultimately pay the price. you will be setting yourself up to attract the same kind of women. but it’s not. Model someone who is getting the results you want.7.000 one night stands. there are guys all over going up to girls and saying rude comments like. If you read this and try to model it.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Another big problem I have with the community is many of the guys who teach this are not qualified to teach and those that are often write about and teach things that happen 1 out of 100 times instead of teaching about what happens 99 out of 100 times. you are modeling a really unhealthy guy and modeling 1/2 truths that aren’t even real. you will find yourself frustrated and might even feel bad about yourself wondering why you can’t get the same results. things like “negging” have caused huge problems for guys all over the world. “You have shit in your teeth. If you want a relationship.” The idea of negging is fine if it is explained properly. but you’ll want to put your main focus of modeling on people who are getting the result you want. they make it sound like they are going out and pulling super models in the bathroom every night.

but they were so good that I felt like the little tree that was surrounded by trees so big. He would use the exact jokes I would normally say and had pretty much copied the way I dressed. use it as an opportunity to learn. What if you are forced to be around bad models? You’re not forCeD to be around anyone. more healthily. stop letting them give you advice. and behave. I couldn’t get any light to grow. this means changing the subject. I do have family members who I love. Also. not compete. I had a friend in college who tried really hard to do what I was doing and it got strange at times. for example. stop asking bad models for advice. I NeVer discuss my relationships with them and will only discuss theirs if they are asking for advice.7. but it was well worth it in the long run. spend some time going out with these guys and spend some time going out with guys more on your level so you can grow as well. they would get so much attention that I would almost feel worse about myself when I would try to keep up. It’s ok to tell people you want them to mentor you. that’s ok. just because a guy is a good model to learn from. joked. What I’ve done with these people is never give them a platform to taint my thoughts or accidentally corrupt me with the bad models they demonstrate. spoke. It creates a weird dynamic if you go out with a guy and you can tell he’s trying to be you. I’ve done it 3 or 4 times in my life. You have to guard your inner game like it’s fort Knox. But. When you go out with these guys.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling model behaviors and thoughts…don’t try to Be that person. Never try to become the person you are modeling. if they have a terribly unhealthy relationship. It was hard. 88 . carbon copies of him. don’t tell people you are modeling them. etc… It was not flattering. but you have to keep your identity and be your own person. Don’t let unhealthy people pave the way for your thoughts. It annoyed me. I’ve had friends who were drastically better than me in the past. surrounding yourself with healthy people will help you think. doesn’t mean he’s a good guy to continuously go out with. A lot of guys who were trying to model Mystery became weird. came off weird to our friends. Also. Be careful when you model someone that you don’t try to become that person. and avoiding certain topics with them. You choose who you spend your time with and can choose to go through the pain of clipping bad friends and finding new healthy social circles. and it creeped out the girls that knew him before he started doing it. but are not the best models in certain areas whom I do spend time with.

Hit reset: Become aware that this way of moving through the world isn’t necessarily you. Write down how your beliefs might be identical or opposite to either of them. I only know about 5 people like this and they are amazing people. DVDs. • Healthy models are key but at minimum. Now find models that align with what you are looking for in the form of natural friends. in all the important areas of life. Mr. were transferred to you. Reflect: Write down how this modeling has affected your dating life. audios.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Summary • I personally feel one of the keys to success with attracting women and having a healthy dating life is being able to model certain attributes from different people who are successful in specific areas. happy. sex. and healthy. You now have a choice to be different and pick new models that are proactive to the goals and dating life you want. they are blowing up and extremely successful. 2. not the man in most areas. • Model the behavior and thoughts. 3. surrounding yourself with good models will allow you to pick up the positive attributes of who they are through osmosis. Develop a sense of awareness: take inventory of how your parents’ beliefs about dating. but simply what you’ve learned. There are those few anomalies who have the entire package. or books. action Step: 1. dating coaches. Also write down how modeling certain friends‘ beliefs have affected your dating life. and attraction. love. M and I call these kinds of people guys who are going supernova. You can’t help but be affected by the people you spend the most time with.7. we must have the awareness to recognize a bad model so we don’t blindly follow the same path. -Braddock 89 .

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but I will try to in the future. I want to show you what one night stand text game looks like..1 text Game http://www..com/braddock/61180-text-game-braddock. I don’t have time to type up each category right now.8...html I will try to do a better write up on my text game rules sometime. eventually. It all depends on your personality and your goals. I don’t want a girlfriend and I’m kinda bored with just one night stands unless I’m traveling. so. hope this helps. but I think seeing this will be really helpful. Decide what you want.. I’m typing up more and more of my text message game and I will try to post more of them by category in the future. and friends with benefits text game looks like.. 92 . but it’s such a hard thing to teach just by writing about it.. Anyway.. Keep in mind that my style is just one of many. I go for more friends with benefits when I’m back home. day two style text game. relationship text game looks like.theattractionforums...

funny messages where I reply almost immediately some times. Certain girls will respond more to certain types of humor and certain levels of comfort. some girls would stop talking to you if you sent them several messages like this. never talked to on the phone. Just like with everything else in game you must calibrate it. then feel free to keep writing her long funny messages. I’ve also had girls that it was super on with at a bar. but we have spent time together. then you would be sruprised how sexual things can get over text before you even sleep with them. If a girl and I have already had sex. If we’ve already had sex. short texts that sub communicate that maybe I’m too busy for them or maybe I’m not sure if I’m interested. Crucial point to getting good at text game . qualification. ran great attraction. but once again the above Must be calibrated. and slowly lost her until she hardly replied. If you sexually frame them when you meet. and comfort game. How do you do this? Go get lots of phone numbers and try different things.1 text Game I like to keep my texts fun and light.. and then be short and business like where I take a while to reply other times. if we haven’t had sex yet. As you spend more and more time with any one girl. Just because it worked on one girl doesn’t mean it will work on the next. then you look like you really want her bad. they don’t have to be fun and amazing every time. but until then. However.. this can change.. if they are. If things are going great and she is writing you 4 page messages back every time. some girls love to joke rough and like when I’m kind of a dick to them in a joking way. You must learn to understand where you are with each girl. you can build compliance momentum and the same girl who acted disgusted by a sexually charged joke may send you texts that would make a porn star blush!!! some girls love to write long texts to me and love when I write them long texts back. Not to confuse you even more. I use lots of call back humor. I’ve also noticed some girls that only respond when I respond with delayed.. but it does happen. I feel it really keeps them off guard and on their toes with you. 93 . other girls respond more when I show a somewhat sweeter side and respond negatively to rough or sexual jokes. this isn’t how it usually goes. I have slept with many girls that I met one time for 20 minutes in a bar. then they can get pretty sexual.8. but I think. I like to mix it up and send both long. or.. then texts are a great way for me to “ping” her and keep the attraction alive until the next time we meet. and then fucked it up texting. and you have nothing better to do. and only texted until they came over and we had sex. If you try to be super funny in every message and write a 4 page message eVerY tIMe. fuck it up and lose girls. then it is a helpful tool to set you apart from the other 10 guys she is talking to. and it only happens because I’ve practiced my ass off at text game.

because I think it’s a crucial tool for any guy running cold approach game. Don’t let it get you down. I could write a novel on text game rules. I repeat: mother bird is in her nest…. repeat: the crypts are raiding the liquor store. Here is an example of how I ping with a girl between meet ups.1 text Game It happens.. When you send these kinds of messages.. I’m considering posting it. You will start to see a pattern that takes place and you will start to see different patterns in girls.kkshh. Get a journal. You will know when you need to start slow or when you can jump in and be more sexual. It’s just a small thing that I’ll do that just kind of forces them to think about me and not forget that I’m around. Copy? over…. If it looks like a mass text message. you put their first name. When we met.kkshh. it’s not a reflection of you. she will assume you sent it to tons of people.. it’s crucial that somewhere in the message. it just means you need to work on it. Don’t keep it going forever.8. By simply starting it with “What up sara? bla bla bla” or threading her name in there somewhere. I use call back humor and stay in a theme for a little while. DoN’t use this exact message!!!! this only works for me because it’s congruent with the guy she met and the guy she has hung out with. I actually have a structure that I use and I teach at my bootcamps. but keep it up as long as it’s fun. If you don’t have a sense of humor like mine then this message would come across as strange. or start a word document and save your best stuff.. she had a camo skirt on so I was calling her rambo all night. text to Lauren: Braddock: “echo 1 this is Bravo Company…kksssh. she will feel it was personal. Another key point I’ve added recently and it’s really seemed to help is sending a mass text message to like 30 girls. then she won’t feel anything towards you when she reads it. Nip/tuck in t-minus 5 min…. Hence the army theme throughout this text.” 94 . Just something random and funny that doesn’t really ask them anything and doesn’t ask for much back.

” lauren: “Bla Bla Bla…. Delta foxtrot has tivo ready & waiting for mission. you are so mean! Braddock : (sent pic of parents new puppy) lp: “Do you really think that’s going to make me like you more? Nice try. Zulu acknowledges message & will return to headquarters w/assignment completed. report by land line after your tasks are completed b/c romeo Delta wants a full debriefing of enemy engagements.” text with me and Lp: Braddock: “How are things with you and the virgin? Is the sex mind blowing?” lp: “shut up jerk. tonight bc I have other engagements to tend to …such as studying for exams and preparing for my interview tomorrow morning…I’m counting on you to take notes and provide a detailed summary of the nights events.. that’s a 10-28 (loud & clear). Hoo-rah! lauren: “Bla Bla Bla….” Braddock: “Cute? More than cute. think you can handle that?” Braddock: “echo 1 this is Alpha 1. that last transmission was inaccurate.1 text Game lauren: “Bravo company this is echo one and I’m pickin up what you’re putting down but unfortunately I won’t be privy to such luxuries’ as nip tuck. tango x ray will be in service.8. He’s cute as a damn button. Don’t let Charlie see this message…self destruct in 5 secs. Divide & conquer all tasks this week. Nip/tuck in t minus 50 minutes. He’s a virgin like your boyfriend!!! shall I hook you up???!!! lp: “Hahaha!!” lp: “I dumped him you jerk! Are you going to sara’s Bday party?” 95 . But he is oh so cute.” Braddock: “roger that lima Bravo.

lp: “lolol that’s not what I meant! sara said she wants to come too. I’m getting another call….damn it!” lp: “lolol You are sooo weird!! Where do you come up with that stuff?” Braddock: “Are you being a bitch to me because I’m black? God I hate texas girls.or something. Maybe another time.” lp: “You are so full of shit. “Study at your house. You guys have to bring cookies… And GoD Help You If tHeY Are CHoColAte CHIp or peANut 96 .” lp: “lol….It’s 1945 they want your views on not calling boys back when your done with them. sorry.” code for group sex? I’m gonna go with no. no. Can I study at your house?” Braddock: “Is ….1 text Game Braddock: “unless it’s a bible study….” Braddock : “Why cause I love Jesus? You could learn a lot from him. It’s not that it’s too long. I have 3 test Monday!” Braddock: “You never call me”……. but I don’t know if I’m good enough for you to name an exact time that you will orgasm. but I’m going to have to get drunk to scrape that tattoo of your number and pic off my ass….” Braddock: “so many 3some jokes going through my mind. the safety word this week will be fire engine.” lp: “Well you never call me. it just reminds me of my ex wife. but I’m not into toilet humor ……….see! let’s hang out sunday. I have to floss my cat’s teeth……. so closed minded. then I guess I’ll delete it now.” lp: “shut up I’m coming at 7!” Braddock: “I’m a human dynamo in bed.Hey lp... If we don’t hang out by sunday I’m deleting your number. but we’ll try. supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is just not working out for me. fine.8.

I just don’t know what to say.oatmeal raisin. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth.8. I’d call you later. Just a start.” text with alexis: she is in medical school. 97 .oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break.” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies. so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday. I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat... Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl…. etc…. You told me you loved them when we met.fine. I would make out with her. but just slightly. sugar.” lauren: “lololol…..” lp: “lol…. but she would never meet mom. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls.. if I was drunk.well I guess it worked.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth.” Braddock: “ok.” LP: “haha….1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism…. I’m getting carpel tunnel. Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles………. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are. I would call them a 6. my thumbs are starting to hurt.

” lp: “lol….” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies. I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat. Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles……….. Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl….. I would call them a 6. if I was drunk. I just don’t know what to say. 98 .. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are.” text with alexis: she is in medical school. I would make out with her. I’d call you later.oatmeal raisin. Just a start.fine. so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday..1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism…. but just slightly. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth. I’m getting carpel tunnel.” LP: “haha….” lauren: “lololol…. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field.oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break. sugar. etc….well I guess it worked. but she would never meet mom. You told me you loved them when we met.” Braddock: “ok.8. my thumbs are starting to hurt.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth.

” Alexis: “I’ll keep that in mind. I have a Chem test 2day. Where u been hiding jerk face!? thought a lion ate ur arm! Braddock: “I know I know….8. You took my virginity. Don’t fuck with me on movie trivia…..you gotta be the only person who would reference Highlander in a text message. Braddock: “Just been crazy busy with work…. as they say in the movie Highlander.You are crazy! I’m putting that as my myspace quote!” Braddock: “Do you want me to text you the answers for your test?” 99 . Need a 96 for an A in the class!!! (few hours later)…… Braddock: “How did your test go?” Alexis: “About to go take it! After my work out…” Braddock: “Good luck.1 text Game Alexis: “Did you find a new love bunny in LA or what!? Did we really break up? Braddock: “We will NeVer break up. “there can be only one!!!” Alexis: “HAHA….I’ve been on lock down the last few weeks. I’m a man amongst boys. Kick some ass. trample the weak and hurdle the dead!” Alexis: “lol…. ur a weirdo : p” Braddock: “Ha. What are you up to?” Alexis: “pray for me.” Alexis: “And who has u on lock?” 2 hours later….

you’re one of the nerdiest girls I know…. My parents are out of town this weekend. It’s a dual pocket 2 zipper comfort fit.” that’s actually an urban legend. “Does raggedy Anne have cotton boobs!” Braddock: “the answer to your dads question is “no..” Alexis: “Do u wear a fanny pack?” Braddock: “Does Howdy Doody have wooden balls?!? Hell yeah I do. You are so mean!!!!!!” Braddock: “Mooohaha.” Alexis: “You are so weird! My dad use to say. tell them ur going to one of your buddy’s houses and then just come stay with me. Alexis: “When are u going to actually come hang out instead of working out ur thumbs all day?” Braddock: “Dude.” Braddock: “I know.1 text Game Alexis: “they convinskate phones…It’s in the testing center…. It’s Italian leather with Braddock in rhinestones.” Alexis: “lol….you jerk! I really am smart..” later that night….And im a genius anyways…thanks tho babe. It’s custom made.8.” And he’s gonna make us leave the door open and the lights on the whole time you are here……” Alexis: “Well. “Go ask your dad.she’s gonna say..” Braddock: “hmmm… “convinskate.” 100 . we gotta ask my mom…….Your genius must be limited to Chem. Do you wear a pocket protector?” Alexis: “Heck yeah I do!!! everyday in my scrubs…. that’s why I like you.” lol…. I believe her breasts are actually buttons.

” later later that night…… Alexis: “I’m going to bet.1 text Game Braddock: “Nice thinking.8. Good night..”(she then messaged me on myspace) Braddock: “sending me messages on myspace? I thought you went to bed.. -B 101 ... have a great day tomorrow. How can we be together if you are gonna lie to me all the time?” bla bla bla.

you approach her. as we’ve discussed in Magic Bullets. This article will give a simplified overview of how to use text messages to go from the first time you meet someone to going on a date. our overall system is explained in savoy’s book. to see her “sometime” all you have to do is be more interesting than doing 102 . she genuinely would “go out” with you “sometime”… …but it doesn’t always turn out that way. this is a bad way to get a woman’s phone number). using our techniques.8. and in our interview download on phone game. Going out “sometime” is different from going out thursday night (which is why.what we call dating science. attract her. but it never seemed to turn into a date? A while back. and then get her phone number so you can “go out sometime”. the president of love systems. At that moment.com/braddock/68199-text-game-basics-braddock-savoy. Nick savoy.theattractionforums. Here’s what we’ll be covering in this article: Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? text message bridges re-initiate mutual contact Increase the frequency and intensity of communication Maintain or build attraction Maintain or build comfort the other side of the bridge Damage control further context Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? let’s say you see a very attractive woman at a restaurant waiting for her friends. Magic Bullets. we wanted to follow these up with something focused on text messaging. for a technology audience.html have you ever met someone great.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy http://www. gotten her phone number. wrote an article and did a podcast for this site to introduce what we do .

Most of what we teach on our bootcamps revolves around this. she can agree to that.to get from a situation where a woman might have a low commitment to meeting up again to where the 103 . she may wonder if the two of you will really “click”. even if she was attracted to you when you first met. other men did too. memories and emotions dissipate. Why are you asking her out if you didn’t meet for very long? Are you desperate? Are you a player? *timing. hobbies. You don’t know what mood she’ll be in when you call or what she’ll be doing. she might actually see you. If she doesn’t know you that well. even if she did. or relaxing at home.8. However. *fear of social awkwardness. *Analysis.like in the above example when her friends are about to arrive and take her to dinner. but she doesn’t have time to go on 9 dates this week. or any other man she met that night .if you noticed her.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy nothing. She likes all of the attention and flirting. work. But sometimes you can’t do this . not being sure can be enough for some women to avoid a date that might be awkward or uncomfortable. There are many possible reasons for this - some will apply to some women and some situations more than others: *safety concerns. most desirable women rarely have “nothing else to do”. And. you need to be more interesting than anything else she could be doing. and if you don’t get a hold of each other soon. even if she has no reason to think that you wouldn’t. if she has nothing else to do. that’s why we created the “bridging” technique . that’s a pretty low standard. After meeting you just one time. You lose value and emotional momentum (both of these concepts are explained in Magic Bullets but should be understandable in context) with every unreturned voicemail. the best way to deal with this is to make as strong of an impression as possible in your first meeting. so. Naturally. many desirable women would still hesitate to answer your call. in order to lead to a more intimate situation the same day or to a date that won’t fall through (depending on the situation and your preferences). like friends. especially if she doesn’t know you that well or you don’t know people in common. for her to go on a date. her commitment to seeing you again can be pretty fragile.

kissing. so.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy two of you are on a date. or supermodels. wherever she goes. she would likely be highly-committed to seeing you again. However. they are important for a couple of reasons. In such situations. often. and successful men. None of us are rich. the other side of the bridge 104 . If instead of meeting this woman at a restaurant. you can usually just go ahead and call. it can be worth doing the work to increase your odds for “likely” to “near certain”. Maintain or build comfort 5. However. intelligent. fun. what might be overkill when meeting the type of woman who might be attracted to you anyway can be crucially important when meeting a stunning. we will often still use bridging techniques because A) sometimes we might err and think a woman is more committed or less flaky than she turns out to be B) they won’t hurt. you can get most women to answer the phone and make plans. let’s get into the meat of the system. and sexy woman who attracts powerful. they are unnecessary since with good game.8. spending time alone. the lower her commitment. Text message bridging has five major components: 1. Increase the frequency and intensity of communication 3. the more important these bridging techniques. If you meet someone you really want. asking each other every question under the sun. second. re-initiate mutual contact 2. if you’d been introduced to her by a mutual friend and spent a few sober hours really getting to know each other. many of us got involved in dating science because we wanted to date women who would normally be “out of our league”. Almost all of our instructors are formerly bootcamp students. text message bridges Without further ado. some of these techniques may seem like overkill. Maintain or build attraction 4. and making plans to see each other.

a banker. you’ll need to be fresh!! : ) -Braddock “ Another night. so.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy 1. ideas. And. Have a good night. Advanced men will deliberately “seed” the initial conversation with opportunities for callback humor. Braddock followed up with: “Nice meeting you Julie. send something simple like “Nice to meet you [name].” 105 . use a text message to re-initiate contact instead of a phone call. they talked about relationships and pet peeves. Your first text is crucial. She has to respond and it has to point the two of you in the right direction. Send your first message within 24 hours of meeting her. it takes far less commitment on her part to return a text message than it does to answer the phone or return a call. This ensures that she remembers as much as possible from your first meeting and that the good emotions she feels toward you don’t dissipate. texts don’t require much commitment. generalities. social or geographic stereotypes relating to your original conversation that you can twist into a joke. for example. she’ll read it when she is. this is especially important with younger women with a more intense social schedule who meet a lot of people. they agreed that they both hate clinginess and the words “cuddle” and “snuggle”. the best way to do this is to use callback humor. people sometimes don’t answer their phones or listen to their voicemails. but everyone reads their text messages. let’s get together for a “snuggle” session AsAp! -Braddock” If you’re stuck. Callback humor involves recalling topics. you have to be up early to foreclose on that orphanage of blind kids. Braddock met Julie. 48 hours at the most. re-initiate mutual contact After you meet a woman.8. You don’t have to worry about her mood or her schedule when you text. Among other things. if she’s not free. -[Your name]. Braddock recently met Katie. So his first text drew on this: “Katie the banker! Don’t stay out too late. then A) plan to introduce subjects for callback humor next time and B) for now. During the initial meeting he teased her about her supposedly evil corporate ways.

(of course. Chi town .2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy Always sign your name on the first text. It avoids the “who is this?” text message response. stop now and get Magic Bullets or the interview on phone game. we can see some examples of good early text messages: “How did your project turn out? Did they give you a raise or at least give you a small army of interns to boss around?” “Just saw the news. Questions put her on the spot and repeated questions risk putting her in defensive “interview mode” which isn’t exciting or attractive. increase frequency and intensity After the first exchange of text messages. these all come later in the conversation. beach volleyball today?” “Did you know a blue whales tongue weighs as much as an elephant!? that’s ridiculous… Gotta love animal planet during the lunch break…” stay away from things that can end a conversation or lose her attraction for you. Don’t try to get her to meet up in the first text message. Keep any questions light. Don’t try to build comfort. your goal is to build her commitment level to meeting up with you again by increasing the frequency and intensity of your messaging. or build attraction. Now communication has been established and you can go from there. and don’t ask too many boring “yes” or “no” questions. oAp readers should know by now to program your name and number into her phone when you get hers. and simple that if she didn’t answer.8. Keep the conversation moving forward by making statements instead of asking questions as much as possible. Message her and get her to reply. which costs emotional momentum. Take things one step at a time. Going through Braddock’s sent items folder on his phone. If you don’t. for example: 106 . 2. usually this will happen if you do something that assumes a higher commitment level than she actually has. it’s not like she’s blowing you off. right now it’s just about getting on the map.20! let me guess.

Human attraction does not work the way it does on tV or in movies. clubs. some of them might seem silly. and actually practicing what they preach.” or even “I hope your trip to Chicago was great!!! I want to hear all about it. but this dissipates over time. some good elements to include are: *role plays *random childish jokes *light sexual teasing or misinterpretation *funny or teasing pet names *Invoking commonalities you found when you met (this also builds comfort. because most of what people have been taught about social dynamics is wrong. We use what works.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy rushing to make plans: “I’m so glad we met! I’ve never met a girl like you. contain wit or humor. Humor. and are flirty without making her uncomfortable. parks. Attraction is built emotionally. it’s best done with light-hearted messages that assume a level of familiarity.8. Pre-selection. so. and Challenging). but 107 . In Magic Bullets we identify and explain the eight most universal “attraction switches” . not logically. But that’s a general guide.things that most women will be attracted to (Health. Status. 3. and lounges interacting with the most beautiful women there. Do you have plans friday when you get home?” When you read sample text messages in this article. Social Intuition. Wealth. and you can use texts to bring her attraction levels back up to the level where you first met and you can maintain it there. no matter how unusual it seems on paper. restaurants. she was attracted to you when you met. through text messaging. coming up) We can’t cover all of these in detail in this article (and it’s not an exhaustive list anyway). Building attraction presumably. after day. I would love to see you when you get home. You can’t build a ton of attraction in text messages but you can build some. Confidence. not a specific plan for an individual woman. Much of dating science is counter-intuitive. even so-called experts are not in bars. day. so stay open-minded and let your only judge be how well these techniques work in the real world. use your knowledge of her and her personality to calibrate her. coffee shops.

What bank do you work at again? ok. I’m kind of a big deal” made her laugh and boosted her attraction. he found out that she was from san Diego. this is actually easier since building comfort is as much about what you don’t do as what you do. role playing is a powerful technique. It will make her feel like she has to earn you.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy let’s go through a couple of examples. 4. don’t always reply quickly.8. we can see this attraction-building conversation: Braddock: “Are you stealing pennies from the elderly or telling tiny tim’s dad that he has to work an extra shift.” Katie: “Who is tiny tim?” Braddock : “Wow…. and build. back to work. Don’t always send long replies. and don’t always be funny. returning to example of Katie the Banker. they talked about the movie. even a silly text message like “I’m ron Burgundy. trying to thread a bunch of information that you assume will make her like you more. sometimes the attraction or humor comes from the back-and-forth.” Katie: “ohhhhh…. tiny tim threw me off. You know this could be tim’s last Christmas……. It’s not just one-liners either.missed the scrooge reference?!? Minus 3 cool points…. Among other things. comfort. You can’t technically see her face. Building comfort In addition to maintaining. 108 . and don’t ruin a good situation by playing too many games. Varying how and when you reply helps build value and scarcity. talk to you later brat. Not fair. so. and building. you need to maintain. But be careful with this one. Anchorman. Don’t try to impress her through text messages. attraction.” Braddock : “they let retards play with people’s money!?!? Hmmm…. often has the opposite effect. body language. or hear her voice tonality to truly know how she is reacting to this.wait!!! Now I remember the Christmas movie. : ) [or suitable nickname…this one worked here because she was young and already acknowledged she can be a bit of a brat sometimes]” You still want to be unpredictable and challenging enough to keep her interested. When Braddock met Claire.

You had a rose pattern on your skirt last saturday. Don’t react to low commitment behavior by apologizing for making jokes and/or asking what you did wrong. *Being too predictable. If you always respond to her messages right away and are clearly trying too hard. non-threatening environment in her life. this might make her uncomfortable. time and communication will build and maintain comfort for you. this affects attraction as well. that kills comfort. Even. just act like a positive. especially early on.8.there’s nothing special about them in themselves. If you become angry or needy. fun text messages that add to her day without making her feel pressured create comfort. As long as your conversation is going well. some of the things that break her comfort with you include: *trying to make plans with her too early. just get a sense of the general pattern: “Next coworker. who feels it necessary to smugly inform me. Here are a couple of examples . is getting a body slam followed by the people’s elbow! How’s your day?” 109 . a woman will be more comfortable if you seem to be at least a little bit of a challenge.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy In general. Assuming some familiarity is great. some women may be interested but still don’t always reply or will still send short responses. (unsolicited I might add) that their 3rd grader made the honor role. Always stay positive and unaffected. light. *responding negatively when she shows low commitment. but avoid early texts that are overly sweet. Be real. Generally. stay away from a text like: “I just walked past the most beautiful rose garden. *Implying that she is much more committed than she actually is. this might make her feel pressured and on the spot. or overly nice. and don’t try to trade kindness for her approval or affection.” Most women would think this is creepy and that the man is reaching too hard to try to find commonalities. A woman wants a man who is centered and not dependent on her approval or putting her on a pedestal. It reminded me of you. right? Hope you are having a wonderful day. “did you get home safe?” won’t help you unless it’s in a context in which you would ask that of any close friend.

anything . the object is to get her out so we have a chance to connect with her.you just invited her and her friends to something you were (in theory) doing anyway and for all she knows.. we’re not trying to make a woman fall in love over text message . you haven’t lost any ground and can keep working from where you are. Any of the examples of good text messages that we’ve already seen would make good [random content] here.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy “What’s up crazy? [or suitable nickname] Just saw a guy walking an english bulldog like you said you wanted. she doesn’t have to be alone or invest a lot to make these kinds of plans happen. you invited 110 . the other side of the bridge obviously. tell your interns to pencil me in for next week or I’m putting “single” back up on facebook.real gains happen in person. you’ll start to see patterns and know when the moment is ripe.. you don’t really lose any ground with her . In the meantime. The bait is usually a non-specific or low-pressure text about the two of you meeting up. and they’re more likely to actually take place especially with a woman with a very busy social schedule and lots of male attention.8.” “[random content]”. If she is interested. let’s get together next week. that poor thing was hideous. Here are some examples of non-specific invitations. you can test her commitment level without too much risk by using a technique we call “baiting”. the classic formula is “you guys should meet us out”. And if she doesn’t end up coming out. It’s like touching a woman’s arm in conversation.in that slot so the whole text isn’t the invitation. if we don’t hang out soon then I’m going to start cheating on you. We’re trying to get her on a date. you’re not going to get very far just by sending low-commitment texts back and forth.” “[random content]”. With experience and intuition. she’ll respond. remember. If not. you can start baiting with lower-intensity plans. What are you thinking?!” [obviously this was to someone who said she had an english bulldog] 5.” If her commitment is lower than usual. and you’re not improving things very quickly in text. The [random content] means that you have something . and the nonspecific invitation can be tacked onto the end: “[random content]”.

then. once things start going downhill. stop the bleeding. Never text her asking if you 111 . Baits should never be overly specific or imply a rejection if she doesn’t say yes or come out. Your mission. send her something light in a few days and pretend like it never happened. but it’s not necessary. we are going to be at x bar friday night. even “good” texts at this point just come across as try-hard or supplicative. In general.” damage control some situations are harder than others and sometimes you will feel like you’re not getting anywhere. this message will self destruct in 30 sec!!! Hope to see you there…. it’s really hard to turn them around. is to show up between the hours of 11pm and 2am. then just stop texting her for a day or two and give her time to forget about it.” “sara.” “sara! x bar friday night! Be there or we are breaking up and I’m not taking you back this time… …I’m signing the divorce papers and fighting for full custody” You can still use [random content] to lead in to these. stop sending her messages. you and your friends should stop by.8.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy lots of friends. Would you like to come? It’s going to be fun. These would be some bad examples: “What are you doing later?” “Hey sara. Do not text from the mindset of: “I need to correct my mistake. How are you? I’m going to x bar saturday with some friends.” think back to a time when a woman chased you when you weren’t giving her any encouragement and how you lost attraction for her. Some men who feel a situation slipping through their fingers will make the fatal mistake of trying to reel her back by texting more and/or longer texts. if it’s not working. if you choose to accept it. Here are some more examples: “We are going to be at x bar. If it was a minor mistake.

these are word-for-word the things we actually use when meeting women. Hope this helps. openers. and things to say or do in virtually any situation. or say “just kidding” incessantly. The Love Systems Routines Manual - hundreds of specific stories. don’t force the issue. with an analysis of each. wait longer before re-initiating. We wanted to close by listing a few good resources for further reading: Magic Bullets .by Nick savoy.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy messed up. games. further context This (very brief and simplified) summary will hopefully give some idea on how more phone numbers can be turned into dates and also give you a taste of how dating science can work . just call her. If it was a major mistake. or apologize assuming you did something wrong if you didn’t. some women just don’t like texting. or try too hard to be funny. -Braddock 112 .8. In such situations.

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I won’t get into why this causes flakes right now. take your phone out as if you are checking the time or you just received a text message. The Phone and Text Game book covers this in great detail. after you take a woman’s phone number. the goal of phone and text game is simply to get her comfortable enough to meet you again. remember. then. If it was flirty.8. just put your phone back in your pocket and keep talking.3 text Game: making the number Solid Let me give you something awesome you can start doing tonight to help you reduce flaky numbers and cut your workload in half. She probably won’t even answer calls or return your texts. just keep talking. What do you send her? this will depend on how far along you are with that particular woman. the more physical we have been with one another. then. the woman won’t question it. put your phone back in your pocket. ask her for the phone number. talk to the woman just long enough to pique her interest. I would keep it slightly teasing and flirtatious. send her a text message. there are a million things you “can” do with the phone. but they are simply bonus points. stay there. they come in. and move on right after typing it in their phone. and keep talking to her. Don’t tell her of course. Getting her on a date or getting her to come to your house is the only goal that really matters. one of the biggest mistakes guys make is that they treat the phone number like it’s a hostage and they are a Navy seal trying to extract it. this is a sure fire way to guarantee you have a flaky number at best. but it wasn’t that on yet. Wait a minute or two. Example: (Light flirting) (The woman was wearing a blue dress and at some point in the conversation she told me she was from san Diego) Braddock: “This cute girl from San Diego in a sexy blue dress won’t stop flirting with me. I just want to give you a way around it. tonight. What should I do? :) -Braddock” 114 . the more edgy I would be.

you two are having a normal conversation verbally. she is 100 times more likely to respond to you then some guy who took her number. and then text her out the blue from a number she doesn’t recognize. -B 115 .8. it’s a continuation of the text message chain from the night before. Now.3 text Game: making the number Solid she’s going to check her phone expecting it to be from someone else. this is such a powerful tool. try it out tonight. walked off right after. When she notices that it’s you. the next day when you go to text her it’s not just some mystery number. but flirting with each other and role playing through text all while you are standing within 2 feet of each other. she will almost always smile and text you back. By the time you guys leave the venue you will have a text chain of 5 maybe even 10 texts already rolling.

tHAt is what I call super HIGH leVel AttrACtIoN.to literally get her addicted to you. the full path to attaining this sort of “addiction” is what Braddock and I cover indepth in the glorious 150+ pages in the ultimate Guide to phone And text Game Book. but also become addicted to you. or three times.have you ever texted a girl and not heard back from her? How did it make you feel? You checked your phone frequently waiting for her text message. unable to think of anything except. but you can get a glimpse of what it takes from the free chapter. to make matters worse .. In worse case scenarios.8.com/braddock/126263-ultimate-guide-phone-text-game.. free CHApter of tHe ultIMAte GuIDe to pHoNe AND text GAMe 116 .. tHAt is what you call addiction. she was the only thing that you could think about.. that is one of the main aims (if not tHe main aim) of phone and text Game . the best thing is that you can do this to her..html used properly. You may have even texted her twice. so. Imagine having the super hot girl that you want sitting there. It’s like you were paralyzed. or called her. well. until she texted you back.. which took us a year to write.. that’s how powerful phone and text Game can be if you know how to use it. phone and text Game can cause a person not only to become more attracted to you. What do I mean by “addicted”? think about it . you. whether to text of whether to just do nothing and wait for her reply! the point is that she was taking up your thoughts to the point of distraction.you weren’t sure whether to call. so here you go.4 the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game http://www. her lack of reply literally drove you crazy.theattractionforums. You literally can cause someone to be addicted to you through phone and text..

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even if she doesn’t remember you the next time she sees you.E.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. you are better off than if you tried to game too hard when 121 . Normal openers can.. Braddock: “thanks. they aren’t sexy. remember you will likely see her again either on campus or out at a party or bar so don’t try too push things to fast or too far unless you get the vibe that she is really into you. but they ensure that you won’t be called out for “gaming. but it was nice meeting you. I gotta run. and will work. I’m Braddock. Question: “What sort of openers would you use in a regular college setting (I. I always used situational openers or functional openers. Did we have class together last semester?” then I would transition into normal conversation and/or tease her lightly.” which is crucial in a small fish bowl setting such as a college campus. However. then just back off and say. In that case.” shake her hand and then walk away with your value intact. Walking on campus: Braddock: “Do you know where the Nielson Hall is?” Girls studying in the library: Braddock: “Do you know what time this place closes?” Girls standing somewhere: Braddock: “You look really familiar. walking across campus first few days and see a hot girl)?” answer: on a true cold approach in a college setting. if you feel any discomfort on her part or if you feel that it would be pushing it to go for the number or date. but if you ever get caught by the wrong girl it has potential to do irreversible damage to your social status in the eyes of that girl and any girl in her social circle.9.. I would go for her phone number right there.

In our social Circle Mastery seminar. who gives a shit if you cause irreversible damage with one random set? You will never see them again so it does not matter.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. It obviously doesn’t take 6 times for you to remember someone you just met. You remember people who are of substantial value or of potential value. However. You have an extremely small window of time to prove that you are a high value. but it might take 6 times for you to see them and greet them as a person you now see as a card carrying member of your social circle. scarce. It can be hard to recover from a true cold approach rejection in social circle game. her mind will not focus any mental energy on you. Mr. obviously. she will likely remember you and welcome you as part of her social circle almost immediately..9. mathematically. tactically ejecting is not a cop out. well. Because you will never see her again. If she likes you and you are ejecting because you are scared to ask for her number. If you met in a situation where you were of low or neutral value then you may need to meet a few times or she will have to hear about you several times before you are even on her radar. you are better off to push the encounter as far as possible even if your value is not optimal. it’s the proper move if you sense that attempting to ask for her number or a date would be too much.. the less real or potential value perceived by that girl will determine how long the sticky phase will last. 122 . then. If you had high situational value when you met. the timing wasn’t right and she rejects you. this is why cold approach is so tough. Does it sound like I’m telling you to pussy out and not close? that’s not exactly what I’m saying.” Getting sticky is an old advertising term used to describe a crucial phase where a product must be seen multiple times by consumers in order for them to remember what it is and what it does just by hearing the name. resource. regardless of outcome. It is essentially a waste of your time to not see if you can get her number or bounce her that night because you will most likely never see her again. that blow out cannot have long term effects on your overall social status. M and I call this tactic. Why would I recommend that you merely open and then eject without pushing for the number? that goes against everything you’ve learned through cold approach. this is especially true for people that meet you when you are unavoidably in a low or neutral value situation. that’s a different post. If you fail to be seen in such a light. “Getting sticky. they say that consumers need to be exposed to a product in one form or another at least 6 times before it will be remembered.

meaning she now knows who you are and would at minimum say hi if she saw you out or on campus.” Her: “Haha.” 123 . and you have high situational value. situationally. this means it doesn’t even have to be real.” Braddock: “Hmm. You can always turn up the heat later when the timing is perfect. Braddock:”You look really familiar. However.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. I’m a journalism major...” that means.Nope wasn’t me. You can build your value over time. girl buddies running up and hugging you. you can wait it out and escape witthout losing value and live to fight another day when your value is optimal. to an outside eye it looks like maybe you could have those girls. this doesn’t mean she needs to see you making out with girls. this means she sees you as one of the cool guys in a high value group of guys and/or she sees cool/hot girls respond positively to you. then just use the first encounter to “get sticky” and get on her radar. It’s covered in great detail in our seminar. or it’s a girl that you don’t have much time or value to work with.. this means she sees you in an environment where her eyes can see that you are a high value guy.. It could literally be girls hugging you that like you as a friend whom you have no chance in hell with. I’m not going to detail how to game once you are in the social circle in this post. all smoke and mirrors.Are you sure because you look like that girl who cheated off me all the time? I meant to tell you that I didn’t appreciate that. situational value can be.. example of how to become sticky through cold approach. were you in Dr. talking to girls.e. smith’s politics of south America class last semester?” Her: “No. I.. and strike at the perfect moment. If.. and usually is. When you are sticky. social circle game is much easier and it is much different.. your value is low in one situation.9. I want this to focus on opening and becoming sticky. If there is a high probability that she will see you again... It means seeing you with girls. if you are cold approaching on campus and it’s a cold set. then you can build your value and comfort over multiple encounters instead of going for the cold approach mindset of “home run or strikeout.

london is sick! Hope to see some of you guys at the seminar this weekend. Braddock: “that’s Cool.” Her: “Nice to meet you too. stop reading posts. Alright..” ok. and go do at least one approach before you come back!!!! Hope this helps..” Her: “Katie. I’m sure I’ll see you around. -Braddock 124 . Bye. I’ll see you around. turn your computer off. what’s your name by the way? I’m Braddock.9. sorry about that.” (take two steps away) “oh shit.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game.” Braddock: “Nice to meet you Katie.

com/braddock/89055-spring-break-game-braddocks-definitiveguide-guaranteed-get-you-laid. there are usually 1 or 2 125 .3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) http://www. M and I are doing a bootcamp March 13-15 in Cancun Get a hotel where the action is….9. 1. Logistics….html Mr. this may or may not cost you a little more cash.theattractionforums.. but it’s easily worth it.

However. It’s hard to bring a hot. If you make any mistakes or if the 126 . You can still have a good time even if you have to stay in a terrible room. mini Social circles staying in a hotel where all the women are puts you at a great advantage when it comes to maximizing your chances with the hottest women. It’s worth calling around to figure out which hotels these are. If you are not staying in the same hotel as a woman. 2. If you are broke as a joke. I can’t tell you how many beautiful women I lost on spring break because they couldn’t get into our hotel or we couldn’t get into theirs.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) hotels that are where all the action is and where most of the hot girls will be staying. My roommate and I once slept in our car!! As far as logistics are concerned. then you will likely have exactly one shot to meet and attract her. we would not have had to take such extreme measures. but getting her to go up an elevator 3 floors in a hotel you are both staying is much easier. it is nice when you meet women who are staying in the same hotel room as you because the hotel pulls for you. we met 3 really hot girls and had to smuggle them past gate security by hiding them under blankets in the back seat!! If we had been staying at the hotel where everyone was staying. and you can’t afford to stay in one of the hotels where all the action is. you can pull the hottest woman in the world and not get her into your room unless you have a rope ladder and ninja smoke. you both are naturally going to have to end up back there. Don’t assume that just because you are staying at the most expensive hotel on the beach that you will be in the heart of the action. like I was in college. You don’t have to try and convince her to ditch her friends or to come back to some hotel far from where she is staying. you may find that your hotel room is a logistical nightmare. It’s harder to convince girl’s friends to let her leave and stay at another hotel with a stranger. so. but what’s even worse is that most hotels now require each guest to wear a special wristband specific to that hotel and don’t allow non guests into the hotel. you can still have a blast on spring break. classy woman back to the roach Motel. After going out. from there you only have to move her to your room or a place where the two of you can be alone.9. It’s hard enough to pull girls on spring break with a good or bad hotel. on one of my most epic spring break adventures. It could be so expensive that only old people are staying there.

this means that you must have great game or get lucky. to drinking. play volleyball. By simply staying in the right hotel. You should run a much slower and more limited attraction game during the down time at the hotel. You will swim with them at the hotel. on the other hand. pre party before going out. so. You will have a group of girls at the club that you already know. You can meet an extremely beautiful woman and grind her down slowly over the week. you will be able to crack into multiple groups of women and you will get far more work done with less effort. then you will see the same women multiple times each day over the course of the week. but 127 . Girls are extremely flaky on spring break so you don’t want to have to rely on phone game. If you aren’t staying where you will see her over and over. because you have qualified her and built some comfort during the day. You want to see her again and again. they can get attraction and get the woman extremely attracted through dancing. You should focus more on working your qualification and comfort game. You can share a van to the club and ride back (this is how the hotel pulls for you). A woman you meet on Monday may be cold as ice when you first meet. and then turning up your attraction game at night when everyone goes out. Most guys will have a hard time pulling girls on spring break because the clubs are so loud that it is very hard to qualify and build comfort. to guys hitting on them. that trying to run standard text and phone game will be like trying to squeeze blood from a turnip. Doing this gives you a HuGe advantage over the competition. Knowing that you are going to see the women over and over allows you to run a much slower and more natural style of game.9. then you will only get one shot to get her. you don’t have to be the stranger trying to open. if you are staying in a hotel with tons of women. and short banter. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take numbers. touch. the women will already know you. party at the club together. hang out on the beach. You already know each other so the woman is much less likely to flake later that night when you try to pull. this allows you to slowly cultivate relationships with tons of women and strike when the timing is perfect. but by Friday she may be all over you. just be aware that most women on spring break are going to have so much stimulation from the beach. ride to the club together. then you will not get another chance to attract her.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) timing was just off. and ride home with them from the club.

Just go direct or situational and open until you find one that hits. If you try to have a deep low energy conversation. Don’t feel bad if you burn through as many sets as you must. Working the room is a must. use this to your advantage.9. you will likely lose the set. but you will need to quickly get into a topic that is fun. because social proof will not be a powerful tool in your arsenal. and the sheer volume of people creates a situation where you can work the entire room and rarely see the same girl twice. the size of the clubs. but even more so on spring break. Your best bet is to go direct or situational. people don’t have much time to observe any one person for long. because the mob is so big. The clubs are so big. As we all know. blowouts don’t matter. This is good and bad. It’s easy to get same night lays with skanky drunk girls or even 7’s. it is by no means consistent. While same night lays can and will happen with 9’s and 10’s on spring break. your margin for error with 9’s and 10’s is already lower in general. It’s good. let’s forget the mini social circles for now and let’s talk about how to game within the club assuming you don’t have the luxury of creating a mini social circle. In a low key bar or club back home. because if you open enough sets you will find one that hits. you will have much more success when those women are staying in your hotel. but to get the really hot girls on spring break you will have better luck grinding them down over the course of a week instead of trying to poach them off at a night club in one hit. on spring break. and high energy.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) when they go to pull the woman she locks up because he is still a stranger. spring break is all about cutting lose and being crazy. but doing it trying to slowly build social proof is a joke. It’s bad. loud. When it comes to 9 and 10 game . the entire room would see you getting blown out multiple times and they would lose attraction for you. the clubs are so big. burning through sets at a high rate could ruin your social proof. opening: You can go indirect if you are lucky enough to find a quiet portion of the club. coupled with the high energy. that you will inevitably lose some sets. Gaming in the clubs… ok. 128 .

everyone there is in party mode and they did not go to spring break looking to find their next boyfriend. With every set you open.” Braddock : “excuse me. this is done through teasing.” Braddock : “I’m sorry. but you are really sexy. guy. If a set has several bad logistical components. Don’t make the mistake of being the serious. In most venues it will be much too loud and crazy to hold a woman’s attention if you try to slow things down and get deep. If you are looking to hook up on spring break then it’s important to realize that it is a waste of time to talk to even the hottest woman on the planet if she is staying 20 miles down the beach and she drove the rental car so all her friends could drink.. Are there 10 girls staying in one room? Is she staying in fort Knox of a hotel? Are her friends extremely bitchy and judgmental? find out logistics early in set and viscously cut sets with bad logistics.” Braddock : (to a tall girl) “Hi.” Braddock : “I’m not sure what to say to you. dancing. that style of game will not get you far on spring break.Next set!!!!!! remember that spring break is slightly different than normal club situations. I’m not really into short girls. I’m not really into tall girls. but I had to meet you…I’m Braddock. you need to find out the logistics of your target.. there’s actually no dancing in here..” Braddock : (to a short girl) “Hi. I’m Braddock. Anything that takes a lot of attention or effort on the woman’s 129 . deep. role plays.” Situational opener examples: Braddock : “I’m sorry. Avoid attempting to run deep comfort until you get her back to the hotel or at least until you can get her somewhere quiet like a walk on the beach. do you know what time the bible study starts tonight?” attraction Game within the clubs…..9. what’s your name?” Braddock : “How do you expect me not to hit on you when you look like this?” Braddock : “You are really cute. Your main emphasis should be on keeping things playful and physical. philosophical. and leading. I’m Braddock..” Braddock : “I don’t think I’ve met you yet.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) direct opener examples: Braddock : “You are cute/hot. there’s actually no drinking in here. but you are sexy as hell.

in the middle of the night. these clubs are so loud that it can be extremely hard to hold a woman’s attention for very long using a long routine stack. and it does most. you need to move her as much as possible. Dancing can eat up a ton of time while moving the set forward physically. it does all of your kino escalation for you. she will feel much more comfortable running around with you all night than some new stranger who is trying to game her through cold approach. Gaming at your hotel: Mingle.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) part. If there is an open beach at your hotel with tons of people and most of them are not staying at your hotel. there will be built in familiarity and comfort. of course you don’t ‘have’ to dance and you can have success without it. if not all. Just move her to the center of the mob and grind away). If she is comfortable following your lead all night. However. try to mingle and get on girls’ radar. if you have been moving her around the club all night long. then she is slowly getting used to the idea of following your lead.9. Don’t run around your hotel burning down every set. once you have the girl’s attention. If they remember you that night. so you can game them later at night when the vibe is right. then by all means game away. will likely result in you losing her attention. Dancing can go all the way to make out or even farther without so much as one word being spoken. and you have attraction. 130 . your work is cut in half. At the end of the night you are asking the woman to go home with a complete stranger to a hotel room she has never been to. When you see her at a club later that night. then she will be much more comfortable and relaxed when you bring up the idea of going back to your hotel. for one. But at your hotel. but it will make your life much easier. so you will need to get more done with less. especially early in set. You won’t have to have a fancy opener. that is asking a lot in and of itself. this limits your attraction game. of your attraction game without having to say all that much. these places are usually so fucking loud that dancing is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. use the dance floor… The dance floor is the quickest way to escalate things physically (even if you can’t dance. don’t game.

really use this time during the day. Don’t worry if they talk to other guys. we need two more girls for our team. there is the potential of hitting the ‘pre-selection’ attraction switch. Good day game/Scm hybrid game makes your nights easier.. play volleyball and use it as your opener. they will be much easier to open and merge into your group. Don’t waste your day ‘just’ being drunk and passing out. that is not your prime directive of meeting them and having them around. ask them what club they are going to that night. the daytime is the time to get on tons of girls‘ radar so you can open them with ease later in the night.. Yes. but I’m not even worried about that. so be it. although this would obviously be preferred. utilize the daytime to make your nights easier. they don’t have to be super hot. I think that is where we are going.9. You guys want to catch a cab over together?” If they say yes. “cool. You only have a week.. I want you to use these women to help other women open easier. so we are going to push faster than normal. get to know them for a few minutes and then move on (unless it is going extremely well. introduce her and her friends to your friends. As a matter of fact. pre-existing girls always put new girls at ease. Just look for girls that will hang around with you. then of course escalate just like normal game). Whatever club they say. so you will know a bunch of people at night. I highly suggest that you get involved in as many day activities that allow you to be social.wash rinse repeat. all day. they will see you as much safer.. I highly suggest that you use fun or functional openers. having a group of girls simply standing with your group will make it easier to open other girls. If something happens with these girls romantically over the course of the week. you say. you guys down to play?” During the day you don’t need to take sets from meet to sex. If you hit it off well with a girl or group of girls from your hotel. Quickly find a small group of girls to befriend. If you already have women. but still slower than cold approach. don’t be afraid to encourage it. open a woman. just like in normal life. “Hey. there will be so many drunk assholes hitting on women that they can become kind of guarded.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) think of your hotel as a mini social circle. naturally. 131 . then invite them over to pre-party in your room at 8 or 9. However.

Set the right frames… pre frames (things said well before you get her in the bedroom) spring break is not a place where you are likely to meet your next girlfriend or future wife.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) this means you should have music and a few drinks in your room so they will want to stay and will want to pre-party there next time. 132 . spring break is all about hooking up ‘now or never’. is going to break off and meet other guys. tHIs Is sprING BreAK!!!! she is not your girlfriend. utilize the fact that these girls are going with you and use it to your advantage. don’t push hard to game them or couple up. or their group. or. she will act offended if you ignore her. If you are the kind of guy that is used to running Day 2 style of game and deep comfort game you may find yourself frustrated on spring break. let this happen organically. dismiss her. essentially cock blocking you from meeting other girls. examples of things to make your room fun: • Keg • Music • Beer pong • Flip cup • Beer bong When they come over. The women are flaky and spring break is not logistically set up for dates. this means.9. it is quite common to get lMr (last minute resistance ) if you do not set the proper frames. over the course of the night. if she sees you talking to other girls. you will need to set certain frames the night you hook up with her and the morning after. and while you are heading to the club. If she is way into you and you hook up. Do to the fact that you are hooking up with women you’ve known for only a short period of time. WHo CAres??!! Don’t make them or any of their friends uncomfortable by acting jealous. some. hooking up with girls in your hotel… Make sure that if the girl is staying in your hotel you don’t sleep with her if she seems like the clingy type you aren’t sure you will want to be seen with all week. some of her girls won’t like your buddies in that way. she will try to hang out with you all week.

but I can tell you are a bad kisser.” post frames: on the other hand if your same night lay game is tight. don’t act weird.” • “It’s a good thing you don’t live in Los Angeles….” • “You know what I like about you? You seem like you’re really open minded. then you will run into another problem that needs remedy. examples of pre frames: • “This is so weird that we met like this. You also want to wait to set these frames when you have the girl in isolation (away from her friends). you’re from the Midwest? So.” • “I love those shoes…if we end up having sex.” • “You’re from the south? Ok. so.9. this ends in a makeout. I like that. It sucks we only have a week together. It would last exactly 2 months and be nothing but fights and makeup sex. you are leaving those on. it will destroy the set. Just act exactly like you did the day before. If 133 . but it is a good idea to introduce at least some sexual dialogue. Just be flirty and playful. Don’t make out with her and run around the beach holding hands.” • “We can’t hang out. but I bet you are horrible in bed. Most people are so judgmental and uptight. I usually do it in mini isolation (meaning that I do it just out of earshot of her friends). you still have those weird 1950’s views on boys and sex.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) What frames Should you Set? You want to set frames that imply sexual intent.” • “You’re really hot. You will find that you can create a situation where you have a stage five clinger following you around all week wondering why you are talking to other girls and not spending your entire spring break with her. the key is the timing. You don’t need to be overly sexual or pushy.” • “You are really sexy.we would have sex like 5 times a day.” • “Oh. When you see her the next day. you are definitely a total prude.” pre frame by challenging her Sexually: • “You are really sexy and really cool. but I can already tell you are too much of a nice girl for me. If you introduce it before you have solid attraction. right?” • “We could never date.

If you try to sniper a girl right in front of her it might cause problems. most women are just as likely to get weirded out by a guy acting clingy. this girl tried to seduce me last night. there will often be other people in the room (your friends or hers). You may or may not hook up with her again on the trip anyway. focus on the fact that “This was hot” and don’t place an emphasis on the connection you made. Do Not treat a woman that you hooked up with on spring break like she is your new girlfriend. she will assume you are just a social guy. example in Action: Braddock : “Mr. but she insisted that I take my clothes off. but if you are just talking to everyone. What frames can you set post sex to help reduce stage 5 clinger? To avoid any hard feelings or creating a stage five clinger. When you wake up. The truth is that you should just avoid the women that you think will be stage five clingers. and was talking all smooth. was uncomfortably touchy feely. Most women on spring break don’t give a shit!!!! they are there for the same reason you are.” Keep things light/silly/playful after sex. thank God I’m a moral rock.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) you are just being social in general then she won’t notice that you are actively gaming other girls. the feelings you feel for each other. but the fastest way to guarantee that you don’t is to turn into a clingy boyfriend. M . focus on “how fucking attracted you are to her” and “how much she turns you on. I told her that I’m from oklahoma and that we don’t even kiss girls until the second date. I will often say something like this to lighten the mood of the awkwardness of being naked in a stranger’s hotel room the next morning. Don’t let things get too serious or awkward. M. you know how shy I am in bars and clubs. As a matter of fact.” Girl: “lol…Whatever!!” Braddock: “Mr.9. or how glad you are that you met.” 134 . I was in the corner minding my own business and this girl comes up to me and basically forces me to drink alcoholic beverages.

Whatever. If you keep things light and fun. As a matter of fact. innocent oklahoma boy?????” Mr. M. Mr. AVoID Deep!!! Good luck on your spring break adventure. don’t you think it’s only fair that she buys us breakfast as payment for tricking a sweet. You know I’m saving my virginity until marriage. she will stay light and fun.” It’s all about keeping things silly and light. . If you take things deep. I mean I’m going to have to hold him and explain to him that you aren’t going to marry him. don’t let her paint me with an unfair brush. she will go deep. M. I think that is more than fair. M (said in silly Australian accent): “Yeah. he came and talked to me!!!” Braddock: “Mr.9. You must steer the ship..Braddock 135 .3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) Girl: “hahaha….

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1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle..10. 137 .theattractionforums..html Question: “In my social circle how do I know when to start pouring on the attraction material or when to wait?” answer: social Circle attraction doesn’t begin until compliance begins. http://www.com/braddock/93788-when-pull-trigger-your-social-circle.

. In this article I will show you why that % is even higher in social circle game. a Strange paradox…. overly pushy gamey guy).e. Consequently. one thing you will notice in social circle settings is that pouring on the attraction material too early can have major repercussions. I can remember spending a great deal of time in all three of these categories before figuring out how to find a balance that was effective. they often find themselves in the friend zone. you can create an awkward situation that isn’t going away anytime soon... I quickly noticed that social circle game was much more about timing and patience...but if it doesn’t. on the other hand..10.e. friend zone). the third type of guy is the one who used to pull the trigger way too late (I. he would say. they make the situation very uncomfortable and come across as gamey or sleazy. and are now the guys who are attempting to pull the trigger WAY too early (I. on the other end of the spectrum are the guys who try to pull the trigger far too early.” I couldn’t agree more. compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Compliance Defined: “A disposition or tendency to yield to the will of others. these guys treat their social circle like it’s a night club and basically cold approach and game every girl in their circle.great.” When I used to help the Don on his bootcamps. Guys who pull the trigger with women way too late have a hard time getting attraction and asserting themselves in their group. “Getting laid is probably 70% about getting compliance. If it hits. I noticed that in cold approach “fortune favors the bold” but in social circle game this mentality often did more harm than good. Most guys either try to pull the trigger way too early or way too late.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. found pickup literature. they have a problem getting attraction because the women of the group see them as try hard and low value. I also noticed that the 138 .

but when these guys did it. their weakness. Over time.e. stability and comfort are born within the group. the women would have been deeply offended and turned off.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. we are out of sync with people and we are not sure what their intentions are. they would say and do things around women that if anyone else in the group would have tried. if we should trust/like them. unspoken roles will be defined for each member of the group and as these roles are accepted. You want their acceptance and you want them to align with you.everyone does this to some degree or another. we get a more static look at how people will behave on a consistent level. guys in my social circle who were getting laid consistently by the hottest girls were some of the boldest guys I’d ever met. time: the more time we spend with people..10. over time. be bold…. being more accommodating or forgiving of insurrections from them than you would from most people.. high value: Communicating with someone you consider being a high value member of the group.. jumping to defend or have their back without concern for the validity of their argument. You might even create rationalizations that paint just average behavior or even poor behavior in a positive light (I. the less guarded we are and the more we relax around them. you will naturally start to see what people’s boundaries are. if they like us etc… time remedies this because as time passes.anyone else confused? What a strange paradox. so you are much more likely to bend on something with them that you wouldn’t necessarily bend on with someone you considered lower value. but hanging out 20 times will give you a pretty good idea. people become more relaxed and more compliant as a result of any one and usually a combination of these 3 things: 1. and what makes them feel good or bad. We use this knowledge as a blueprint to determine the nature of each individual relationship in our life…. work. You are hardwired biologically to do so)... 2. the women liked them even more. Hanging out with someone 1 time is not a very strong measure of how people are going to treat you consistently. strengths.. so.but don’t be bold…but do!?!?!?!??. (Don’t say you don’t do this…. peer pressure. When we first meet. the recipe for compliance: let’s think about how social circles or social encounters for that matter. laughing at an average joke way harder than it deserved.. I can make those kinds of jokes 139 . “ok.

think back to the time when you had met one of your closest guy friends.” or… “sara laughs hard when I playfully tease her.10. then you will see him as high value to you. When you first met you were likely fairly formal and both of you were holding your cards pretty close to your chest. and as a result. We let them slide because we have tons of shared experiences and time spent together that proves that ‘most’ of the time. but might have been if a stranger tried them. As time passes. we are going to bend a lot more and let things slide that aren’t that big of a deal. I’m not worried about him saying or doing any one thing. Shared experiences: Have you ever noticed that we have a tendency to let our family members get away with saying and doing things to us that we would never allow a stranger to do or say? You likely have an archive the size of the library of Congress full of memories and feelings associated with each family member.. around Billy. When we have someone we feel extremely close to and consider part of our group. so my mind is not alarmed when he does something out of the ordinary now and then. and as you hang out more and more. or neutral) you have with someone. each of you becomes more and more compliant to one another. you may flash multiple good and bad memories and experience a wide range of feelings in a split second. but they upset sam. You didn’t know him that well and you didn’t know his boundaries. this person treats me like x. 3. His or her behavior is most consistently like x. this likely explains why soldiers or athletes that endure hardship together report feeling like brothers or family. If you enjoy your time with each other and your time spent with him makes you feel good emotions. He can ask you to do something within reason and you can ask him to do something within reason. As this happens.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. bad. He can tease you. you can tease him. the more connected you feel to that person. over time we will become far more compliant to them than to a stranger or to someone within the group we do not feel good around. but Jenny gets really upset. When you look at a picture of a family member.. you begin to figure out each other’s boundaries and you both begin to open up. 140 .” If someone treats us well consistently and makes us feel good when we are around them. “How do all of these help me know when to pull the trigger?” to illustrate the above. the more experiences (good.

but the answer is.no. oNlY IN HIs social circle because he has more time..10. What about a guy friend you met 2 days ago? You are basically back to square one with the new guy..so does compliance. your attraction game can increase.. Could that same guy go to any club in America and yell at a random hot stranger and she would break her conversation and walk to him?. it should be obvious by now... go back and re-read the above and replace guy with girl. Chalk this up to time + shared experience + value = increase in compliance.as compliance increases.no.. you are essentially running cold approach game. Have you ever been the new guy at a house party and you were flirting with a woman and it was going pretty well and then a guy from her inner social circle yells from across the room for her to come over and join them.. regardless of how good things were going with you and her? How did he pull her away from you? Is it because he’s “so alpha”. You aren’t going to tease him as rough and you wouldn’t ask him for a favor and you would not be too excited about him asking for a sizable favor from you.. Now. shared experiences. and value increases.no... Before then. but now they laugh....1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle... Here lIes Your WINDoW to esCAlAte!!!!! time + Shared experience + value = compliance As time.. He can pull off this magical feat..he has more compliance from her than you do. and she does. He can get her to do more with less effort. and value with that woman than you do and as a result..... ever notice you can joke rougher and get away with snide and edgy comments with women in your social circle? Could you have said those things to those women when you first met? Of course not. shared experiences... As you spend time with a woman in your social circle and you share experiences.. Is it because he’s got some quantum game. 141 . each of you open up more and each of you are more likely to loosen up your boundaries toward each other. hoping it hits..... so when do you really turn up the attraction game???? Well.

It just means increase the frequency and intensity of your attraction game as compliance increases.. this could go back and forth tons of times before it finally hits....10.. What if compliance decreases for some reason? let’s say she starts dating someone or for whatever reason you can sense that you have lost some compliance since last time you hung out.. -Braddock 142 .1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. We’ll be right back after this commercial break from our sponsors.. this does not mean stay in friend mode until compliance is high and this does not mean you should not run attraction game until compliance is high. M and I cover this in great detail in our social Circle Mastery seminar .Well. So remember… compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Mr.. then the frequency and intensity of your attraction game should decrease.

You can easily gain respect without trying to be the leader.html In our social Circle Mastery seminar. Just be real and act out of your own intentions regardless of what the group says or does without being too rigid either way. (fuck what everyone thinks) 5. that will get you the opposite of respect just as fast. (see number 6) 143 . Guys in the power broker seats date the hottest. Abundance mentality (With everything) 7. shine by actions. 4. fuck.Golden rule of Building a new Social circle. When you get good. 1. this does not mean become the lame try hard guy who tries to play leader either. You don’t hand it out unless people truly deserve it. It’s easy to gain popularity.. but the truth is you are only digging a deeper hole. It’s brutal to earn back the respect that you gave away up front. Authentic at all cost. but for now. popularity second. call this the “Golden rule” for starting a new tree. this goes back to the old David D quote of. turn into a 10 page post someday. Honesty at all cost. 6. I know lots of guys who are popular. Your praise is as rare as Gold. 8. I’m sure there are many more. http://www. Go for respect first and popularity second. not by words. “trying to trade status for acceptance and approval.. women in any given social circle.... this applies with guys and girls. M and I. You are never jealous. but are nowhere near acquiring a power broker seat within their social circle.theattractionforums. this could and may. Mr. Respect first. sometimes you may try to appease an asshole of the group or try to ‘go along to get along’ by doing what you think is popular. 3. you go for both at the same time. Don’t give people any more respect than they earn. few of the things I think of when I think of respect. people must earn your praise. simply remember the golden rule of building a new social circle..com/braddock/82236-golden-rule-building-new-social-circle. strong Boundaries 2.” (We’ve all messed this one up).. and the most...

10. and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.. 16. 20. Most important. or bend the truth in the face of value.etc) 14.learn to say “No” a lot. Your time is precious. because you don’t consider them higher value. you would never withhold laughter. yet expect you to respect theirs. they have to earn it. favorite David D quote. people who make excuses. Better yet. people with high and low value characteristics. Don’t let people disrespect your time.. (May be the quickest way to lose respect.. It’s hard to get “in” with you.Golden Rule of Building a New Social Circle.. Keep your secrets. wear your arm floaties. people who are not self reliant are disgusting!) this does not mean you can’t ask favors or advice. 17. every time I have broken this law. don’t ask advice from anyone who isn’t living the life you want to live. (No courtesy laughs) Yet. be ok hearing “No. but you don’t get close to just anyone. Apologize rarely.” -Deleanor roosevelt (I. True friendship is a plant of slow growth. sense of humor. -Braddock 144 . but don’t need other’s validation. Has no problem teasing or qualifying people of high value. values.. Never change your beliefs.. 11. Negative. only laugh if something is truly funny.” Have a good holiday weekend! If you are going to the lake. Why would you share them with people who don’t matter? 13. You are nice to everyone. “Don’t spend major time with minor people. (read this one 100 times.... and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. Don’t ask advice from the weak. 9. “Be courteous to all.) 19. Also. You just consider them people. this means you are not emotionally fragile and need others approval to know you are ok. You like. but intimate with few.e.. but it means a lot when you do. I’ve hated them for it. Never lean or leak emotionally on other people.” -George Washington 15. I’ve hated myself for it!!! Anytime someone breaks this law around me. 12. 18..

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future product? I love speaking about college game because it’s definitely my bag. It’s impossible not to feed off of that when you are speaking. having 300 DHV stories. I spoke for about an hour on college game.Let’s Just hug it out http://www. I like speaking to the younger guys... They have a lot of energy and they are fired up to learn this stuff..theattractionforums. I wish I would have found this stuff when I was a freshman in college.. but a college campus is not one of them. getting your sub communications under control. peacocking. Several of the principles Mr. Jesus! on second thought.. but to ditch all the lame old guard community dogma including. Magic Bullets. I would probably be the baby daddy of like 30 kids.10. As a matter of fact. 146 .4 Social circle vs. In social Circle Mastery we define buzz as having people talk about you when you aren’t around.. (I love The Game it changed my life) but trying to develop a super hero pickup persona has it’s time and place. I couldn’t remember how long I was expected to speak so I prepared about 5 hours of content. I spent most of my speech trying to hit the highlights of what I wish someone would have told me when I started college.com/braddock/74455-social-circle-vs-cold-approach-lets-just-hugout. M and I developed for our social Circle Mastery seminar were born out of my college experience.. and amoging guys for no reason. I just got back from speaking at the 21 and under convention.. I teach guys that in college game and in Social Circle Mastery you are much better DHV’ing by first. we advise college guys and anyone gaming within the confines of a small social circle to learn the basic structure outlined in savoy’s book.. I also spent a fair amount time trying to MurDer the sacred cows of classic pickup dogma.... and second. opening every set. At Love Systems.maybe it’s better that I didn’t. hmm. This trumps any weak DHV story you might develop. 5 hours of college game.. AlWAYs trying to control the frame. I’m a little jealous. but not limited to. I think the worst thing that a young guy can do on a college campus is run around trying to emulate what he learned in The Game... the ultimate DHV is creating a ‘Buzz’ about you.html 21 and under convention. cold approach.. by letting other people observe you in multiple high value situations. that is the worst place to try and develop one..

Braddock.. I would never try to convince someone not to learn it. If you have access to a stable of hot girls you are going to see on a semi regular basis.but. I promise not to hit on any of his 5’s or 6’s. Ask him for pictures of these girls. I’m telling you from first hand experience if you want the hottest girls in your social circle. It’s not even the second or third best option.Let’s Just hug it out dhv stories: In the words of Chris rock. live in a major city and don’t frequent the same venues. running fast paced cold approach game is the Worst option.. I have this friend and he tells the best stories and girls love him and and and he says cold approach..10. or like you are lying if you constantly look for places where you can slide in a DHV stories. cold approach. this is why cold approach is such an art form and why it is so tough. 147 ... hunting vs farming: the evolution of Society I like to think of cold approach as hunting and social circle game as farming.. I have mastered both because I think cold approach is a blast but I have realized that it doesn’t have to be a way of life. you run a high risk of looking insecure.’ therefore. “You ain’t got to lie to kick it. “But. or are not in college it may be the only means of meeting women you have.” Awww. Why do you knock it so hard? You are hurting my feelings and making my friend upset. then social circle game is not possible for you. ruN soCIAl CIrCle GAMe!!!!!!! fuck your friend.. Don’t care.but.. frame setting. tell your friend I’m sorry. you have to tell DHV stories in order to convey your personality in 30 minutes or less.” DHV stories were developed for cold approach because you have one shot at making it happen because you don’t have weeks or months to develop ‘Buzz. “But but but. I understand.. But in social circle or college game.Braddock you teach cold approach.. I have spent the last few years of my life mastering it. and deep comfort are the be all end all of game! He’s the self proclaimed best ever!” Yuck. If you travel. If that is the case. I actually love cold approach.4 Social circle vs. like a braggart.

.. best trophy animal of the herd.10. but you can go hunting for fun to see if you can find the trophy of the herd... You may have to take what you can get because you don’t know when you will eat next... every time you go out and don’t kill something you become hungrier and hungrier. sometimes. when you are ready to harvest. cold approach. When you could be spending that time laying inroads for access to bigger better hunting ground. Basically. and sometimes it’s the disease ridden runt. omnivore: When you combine the two... then... but in a progressive society it slowly becomes more of a sport or a right of passage and less and less of a means for survival. it’s the biggest.Let’s Just hug it out hunting: It is a necessary skill all men should posses. you aren’t even thinking on those terms because you are starving! farming: When you farm you do a lot of work up front followed by intermittent maintenance. When you are hunting you have to kill something every time you are hungry. you come back and pick the best crops and throw away the weaker crops. You have a harvest of crops growing.4 Social circle vs. leArN BotH!!!!!!!!! -Braddock 148 . this is true power.

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(simply smile to acknowledge it. As she finally put her shoes on to leave. I usually just smile and/or escalate and ignore it. By not letting her know what you think either way. If you feel she is a girl who would get super clingy then there are a few things you could do: 1. 2. “I don’t sleep around or with someone unless they are more than friends.theattractionforums. I have the pernicious question in my head: “I hope that she is not thinking we are in a committed relationship. We ended up going for a walk. Last night. Though.11. but I’m also not looking for a relationship right now. how they date and are on track to get married and get babies and that wasn’t for me. Afterward. so this may come out all fumbled. It was supposed to be quick. a friend came over to pick something up at my place. that some people scare me. I am not sure that it helped make sure that we are not going to have a committed relationship. she said that she likes me more than a friend. she came back in for a moment that turned into lying on the floor together. she has just openly started chasing you. leaving them hanging just a little after they put themselves out there is powerful. Avoid saying anything that builds too much comfort.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response In Red) http://www. I usually don’t get into a big dialogue when girls say this. but don’t get into a logical conversation) I like to say less and keep the tension on them! Whether you want friends with benefits. you create a powerful unresolved tension inside her. Validate her by saying. or a girlfriend.” Could you give me a quick check on what you think and suggestion on how to proceed. “I don’t sleep with people who are just friends either”.” 150 . I am pretty low on sleep. I tried setting expectations later by bringing up. but sandwich this with some nice cognitive dissonance by saying.html originally posted by Cowboy1: Okay. a one night stand. She said that she can’t have sex with a friend only.com/braddock/103563-creating-friends-benefits-my-responsered.

. Don’t say shit like... It all depends on the girl and the situation. and then some more. but they don’t know for sure if I do. I avoid saying anything about how I feel to a girl I just want to sleep with.etc. they don’t get their feelings hurt or have misguided expectations since I don’t verbalize much.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) 3. took a nap.just a logical reason for her to get the fuck out without you having to say. and I build the necessary comfort by making them laugh and have fun. 5. Keep it physical and “MAYBe” about how cool she is.’ She kind of nodded. but keeps her from lingering and doing relationship type stuff. We ended up screwing until sunrise... set it for 8am (whatever time) and tell her that you have to get up and go to work in the morning/help a friend move/overthrow a small countries government. but not bad. is not something I would do the first time I had sex with a girl I just wanted to be my fuck buddy..11. they like me and wonder/wish I like them. During and just after sex. After you say something heavy like that. say it as if it’s a good thing and simply a statement of fact. Not bad.. be careful what you say. every girl has a slightly different blueprint of what she will feel ok with before having sex/becoming a friend with benefits. while very fun.. keep escalating like a mother fucker... It’s not a deal breaker. this way.”I’m so glad we met.”. rather than following societies model. “Get the fuck out.” this allows her to leave with self esteem nice and high. ask her to hand you the alarm clock next to the bed. but you are doing stuff that I only do with girlfriends/girls I’ve slept with numerous times and know the score.. Every two people form their own kinds of relationship.. Just before you have sex.Keep it about how attracted to her you are.. 151 . I gave her the spiel of ‘letting things naturally develop.. We ended up washing each other in the shower and had breakfast in the afternoon. like her first vibrator. we make our own rules. “Baby”. I didn’t hear the rebellious. However.”you’re so special”. This. Don’t say that and wait for a response.. Don’t stand there waiting as if you two are negotiating a million dollar contract 4.... She had some first experiences. I say shit like this sometimes.... A little long winded for this situation.

. but you’re not like that.say. please fuck both of them and write an awesome 3some field report. Situation check and pointers please! 152 . what is the responsible. I think that is so fucking sexy. Just after sex . Also. Do you think that in her mind we are a couple now? No. Oh. We were already holding hands before. because he did all these things. Setting expectations for the relationship/situation is perhaps the thing that I am struggling with the most.if I keep this up and keep getting him to accept these types of things... Girls play the same game.. I can’t stand girls who do that. Yet. but will have a hard time combating that and will passively accept it (if said right). I am not looking for a committed relationship at this point. I am touching both pretty affectionately.” It’s much like qualification. I hold hands with more girls. I wanted to be safe. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA You are my hero!!! When we all three hang out.. You:”You know what I think is so fucking hot about you?” Her: “What?” You: “Most girls get all weird and clingy after you have sex and they try to push you into a relationship. You keep getting the girl to comply to smaller and smaller things and the next thing she knows she is sleeping with you.11. it will be harder and harder to say no. but in her mind she may be thinking.. they get you to comply on small things and then the next thing you know you are at Bed Bath and Beyond picking out decorations for the bathroom you share with your new girlfriend.. slightly smooth way to handle expectations? She is cute and all. Though. I can push him toward a relationship.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) Oh.” she will be frustrated inside. then. and her room mate is my ex-girlfriend. “Yes. If so. and she was pretty persistent about bareback.

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. either way.com/braddock/103566-too-routine-dependent-sticking-point. you need to work on how to extend conversations without having to memorize anything.12. you will have to introduce new topics yourself. Down the road (in a week or two). but they are almost worthless and definitely come across weird when they are used as the steak of the conversation. He said to go out for a few nights and don’t ask any questions.” or. What you learn is that routines are strong when they are used as the salt and pepper. “so where are you from?” You have to say. Work for a few months at becoming a strong conversationalist who can keep conversations going. only keep the conversation going by making statements.theattractionforums. and the more advanced concepts will start to slowly 154 . but for now. so instead of saying.Thanks! Go out for a week and don’t use any routines (at least consciously). “You seem like an lA girl.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point http://www. (totally psyched!) and would love to get some suggestions to work on this before the bootcamp. as I don’t want to keep up bad habits for another 2 months..I open/transition fine but immediatly after I kinda just feel like I’m going through a manual in my head of attraction routines and sometimes it’s working and sometimes (with hotter girls) it’s just falling flat.. who can make a woman laugh...I feel like I’m at a sticking point where I’m too dependent on ‘routines’.M bootcamp in Washington.. you can start adding teeth to this to build attraction. I think we all go through a phase where we run around trying to use 300 routines.. Go in with the mind set for the first week you are just going to try to be funny and make the girls laugh and get them being playful (that’s it). be playful. Another thing I did when I was trying to get good is something I read in a Juggler post.. I’m signed up for Mr. it won’t allow you to use routines and it will keep you from asking boring questions. DC in Sept. html originally posted by eagle1977 Hey guys.

in that you say many of the same things in every set. they are also powerful in certain situations. I also teach trigger words on my bootcamps and we do several exercises to reduce the emphasis of routines for these same reasons. You will go insane trying to memorize them all. and every conversation is so different. However. if you think you will ever memorize 399 routines. then you are crazy. your responses will be delayed as you try to remember which one to say. What you will notice as you get better at things like trigger words and the things I mentioned above.12. because they can steer an already good conversation sexual or whatever you need. but it will be born out of what you have naturally developed as opposed to going to a bar with 20 routines you have to memorize and figure out where to plug them in. and you will take a girl home. it would be impossible to create a routine stack that works in every situation. say them all in a row. -Braddock 155 . you will find yourself doing “routines” technically. routines are nice because they can get you a repeatable response while you are learning and help you see what good conversation feels like.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point happen on their own.

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He’s a cool dude and really fun. Also. html NYC was a fucking blast.A. Graduated from Harvard. I had talked to my one on one several times on the phone and he seemed really cool and really excited to learn. they decided to go out with my one on one and I just for fun. so. Negative people fucking suck donkey dick to work with and in life in general. M closed a playboy playmate and that just talking to the guy helps make your game better. for him to be like. It was really late so Mr. so. I used to be one. some social proof. Back to reopen satan! Braddock : “excuse me satan……” 157 . I opened the target and not the obstacle. Dahunter said in l. I was excited to meet Mr. I open a few sets get locked in and have them touching me and grabbing me. that Mr. she didn’t even answer my question and she turned back to her friend! lolol this kind of behavior only excites our hero. We had a blast. it’s sick”.theattractionforums. at this level. I knew this guy must be the real deal. it’s not very often that someone blows me away with their game or with something they can teach me to add to my game. ooops! she turned and looked at me slowly from head to toe. M and sheriff went home and went to bed. I can learn something from anyone I meet. our hero knows the remedy for such bitchy behavior is social proof. M. I said sweeeet! sign me up! since Mr. sheriff ended up getting a BJ from some girl he met in the elevator on his way to bed. off to go get that. those are my favorite guys to work with. great energy and outlook on life. Ha! the student and I went to a really cool club that his friend got us into. We went to several venues and even though NYC was kinda slow because it was a thursday. you’ve got to see Mr. one of those “I didn’t know they stacked shit that high” looks. “Holy shit dude. but I have to admit.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report http://www. He was a really interesting guy. Now that I’m not.com/braddock/61183-lr-poppin-my-colla-partna-nyc-lay-report. he still did well. I flew out early on Thursday and once again they fucked up my flight. I was excited about NYC because I was going to get to hang with sheriff. How unexpected. Dahunter gets laid like a fucking rockstar and has some of the best game I’ve ever seen. fine. They don’t expect you to fix them and they don’t hate life. I can’t stand being around them. lived and traveled the world. Well kinda. M in action. We opened a few sets and then I saw a 2 set at the bar I wanted to open. Dahunter called me after he met him in lA and told me how amazing this guy was.13. M and sheriff were in town early. sheriff is great at watching someone in set and telling them what they can change to take their game to the next level. Also. the student did really well and we had a blast.

You would just smile and not care. she has to stay congruent in front of her friends to the bitch she was earlier. As I see her coming out of the bathroom I catch her before she gets back to her friends.” our hero bends over grabs her ID and hands it to her. but you don’t need the bar front with me. smiles and walks away. Don’t get mad and don’t try to act like it’s overly funny. I’ve just had a bad day and we’ve had some weird guys hit on us tonight. I could tell this girl was attracted or I would have moved on as well.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report Satan: Cutting me off before I could even finish my sentence: “Fuck off. I know you have lots of options and you can tell I have lots of options. But. Just handle that bullshit like you would if a five year old was talking to you. Hi. hey nice to meet you too. take a hint. you’re kinda fiery. I’m Braddock. your moment to strike for the third time is when she breaks off from her friends.” Braddock: “I was just going to tell you that you dropped your ID on the floor. More social proof!!!! Now it’s time to own the room. Her eyeing me and staying in proximity also let me know that there was a chance at salvaging it.” satan: “I’m sara. satan: “I’m sorry I was rude. so.” Braddock : “look I don’t know what all the attitude was earlier. I don’t look at her.13.) she goes to the bathroom by herself and she cuts her eyes at me as she is walking. that’s all the IoIs you’re going to get from a hot girl that has blown you out hard. (sIDe Note: Most of the time when a girl blows you out that hard just move on. twice. You didn’t look like the normal NYC bar fly so I wanted to meet you. If other girls like you then you must be cool. so get over the whole this guy wants me thing. can you play nice or is that how you always are?” (social proof was key for all of this.” 158 . But. It’s crucial during these shit tests that you remain unaffected by their shit responses. but I can feel her eyes on me. You wouldn’t get mad and yell and you wouldn’t try to look cool by laughing in her face. I open multiple sets and merge them and bounce around from girl to girl and get locked in where satan can see me. Braddock : “let’s start over.

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I tell her I’m leaving because I’m starving (I use this to pull almost everytime, which is usually true, but I never actually get something to eat, which is good and bad lol.) satan: “Wait, let me grab my friend and I’ll go with you.” she grabs her Asian friend and we get a cab. We drop her friend off and she gives the cab driver a “non food address”. It’s like 4 am at this point and the cab driver drops us off about a block from her house. As we are walking toward her apt building she starts with the lMr. I am a beast at destroying lMr for a couple of reasons, especially on bootcamp. I really have no fear of walking away, and because I’m literally leaving in 2 days, I don’t have time for any bullshit. there literally is, no tomorrow. the sexual tension was about to explode between us, because there were so many shit tests and so much drama leading up to this moment that it was ridiculous. However, this kind of state pumping leads to amazing sex if it happens, but it can also lead to lMr if you don’t properly build fear of loss into the set once you pass attraction. I usually thread this during comfort. that way she has invested so much time into the interaction with you that the fear of loss actually means something. If you do it too early then she just lets you go even if she was attracted. You don’t have to be in deep comfort, just enough comfort to where she feels invested in the encounter enough to where she doesn’t want you to leave. so we get to her door and…… satan: “I’m sorry, you can’t come up, I know we will end up having sex.” Braddock: “Wow, of course I want to have sex with you eventually, but I actually just wanted to hang out and get to know you better. I wasn’t worried about what might or might not happen. But, you know what, fuck this shit, I’m not going to let you disrespect me and act like I’m just another guy who wants to fuck you. I could have fucked any girl in that bar tonight, why would I waste my time on the girl who was least likely to have sex with me unless I actually wanted to get to know her?” (Don’t give her time to answer.) “fuck this I’m out.” (start heading down the street trying to hail a taxi.)

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satan: sprinting after me, “Wait, wait!” Braddock: Never breaking stride, never looking back at her, and even shrugging her off when she grabs my arm. “Nope, fuck this I’m going home. What a waste of my fucking time.” satan: “No, wait. I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it like that. please wait. Don’t be like this.” Braddock: “look, I know you like me, but I don’t like all the little bullshit games. I’m only here for 3 days. I don’t have time for all the junior high shit. I obviously like you too. We can either go up to your place and hang out, or I’m going back to my hotel. But if you are going to be all judgmental and bitchy about everything then I don’t want to get to know you. You’ve kinda killed the mood for me and I think it would be better if I just went home.” satan: “No, no, don’t be like that. I do like you, please come up. I didn’t mean it like that. I’m not judgmental at all. I promise! I just didn’t want you to forget I said all that.” she was all over me at this point again. And trying to drag me upstairs. I thought she was going to cry! I lightened the mood a little, but still kept the sexual tension. Braddock: “Hmm… look if you want to go upstairs and watch a movie or something that’s cool, but it better be pG-13 and you better keep you damn hands off me. satan: smiles, she liked that she had worked and won me over. “shut up jerk, let’s go.” We get up to her apartment and she awkwardly fumbles through a few DVD’s and I just grab her and throw her against the wall and start making out with her and then pull her back to her bedroom. I can honestly say it was some of the best sex I have ever had. And one of the greatest turnarounds I’ve ever had. once I got her to her room, the “non judgmental“ frame was set so hard and she had worked so hard to get me that there was no way in hell she was going to stop. moral of the story: There are a few tactics I employed in this set that made it go from flammable to fucking explosive! However, these tactics are not for the faint of heart.

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where emotions reach extreme highs. unreactive to her bitchy blowouts. flammable: Cocky funny. and you can count on losing a lot more sets. Hell. threading frames that you expect her to live up to or she knows you will walk. Adding drama to the set. then just let it happen. It’s totally different than the game I run back home on girls I plan on seeing again. I have a million stories where it reached a point where I knew sex was going to happen and I just shut the fuck up and waited until we were alone. . this stuff is not always necessary. If the set is naturally leading to sex. (thank you sinn). social proofed the room. most go like that. this girl was hot as hell and a complete bitch.Braddock 162 . Your fearless leader. this situation needed some extreme push/pull and she had to feel the fear of loss or the bitch shield would never have come down. explosive: Aggressive takeaways during comfort making it look and feel like she lost me.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report running my style of one night stand game has its drawbacks. so don’t always use them. this situation in NYC was a little different.13.

. she became more and more of an agitated troll. anti-cock block conversation in my pants for her. as long as I could. fuck you!!! If you were too nice to just come right out and say that my posts are too long. However.A. but her hatred would soon spew forth.html thanks to an overwhelming amount of email requests from the platinum members who subscribe to Braddock’s blog that are too fucking lazy.. one thing that I’ve found is that it is hard to wing with new guys even if you both have super tight game. She caught a few live fish with her mouth and talons and then she settled into her cave.. When I said. Dahunter: After winging Dahunter.... I’m going to try to slow my game down....13. (trolls are allergic to sunlight. the sooner you will stop being a lazy fuck and read my posts! Anyway..2 Soldier of fortune! http://www. We wing very well together too. Despite all this. This particular troll was an extremely hateful one. I felt like Dahunter and I winged for each other extremely well. as the reality of the situation set in that Dahunter had every intention of banging her friend. If you were too lazy to read the whole thing. l. you are wise to bite your fucking tongue..com/braddock/61182-lr-braddock-soldier-fortune. but he runs a much slower set and he gets great reactions. I walked her troll friend back down to the wharf and helped her crawl back under the bridge before the sun came up. she started off nice enough. (her fat friend). on the second night. or too nice to tell me that my posts are too long.” the troll became noticeably frustrated and confused.theattractionforums.. here you go. our game is very similar in that both of us are very sexual and kino big time. which sucks. I am reposting a lay report that was deeply imbedded in my savoy. with fake tits and a perfect body crawling all over him. they are also rumored to be allergic to clothes that fit and low calorie snacks after midnight). He gets the same results I get with half the effort.... Most troll friends I enjoy chatting with being as they are usually funnier and smarter than their hot friend. Bootcamp post. I jumped on the grenade. I adjusted the aim on my scope and started aiming for a girl that didn’t have horns and a tail…. “You’re gonna make a really nice friend.. the sooner you realize that all of Braddock’s writings will someday be chiseled at the feet of large statue’s erected in my honor. once Dahunter had his girl locked up. because if the instructors were around each other more it would be like fishing with fucking dynamite when we were in set together.then. and that I had nothing but friendly. leading to this glorious narrative. he had this hot ass girl (who he eventually fucked). 163 . and too lazy to read my blog. once your noble hero Braddock saw that Dahunter’s fake titted girl was stuck to him like glue. You aren’t around each other enough to have tons of inside jokes built up and you aren’t good at reading the other guys game to see how he is trying to push it.

” HB Asian: “ha ha!” about to say something when she is cut off by. there is something about you.2 Soldier of fortune! The Tale of Braddock: Soldier of Fortune! I moved the troll mentioned in the above to a place by the bar near a hot Asian girl I had my eye on earlier in the night. (Braddock cuts off this awkward display of troll anger and bad body languages the troll out of the conversation). My boy is over there with her friend and I’m worried about him. troll: (loud troll hissing. Braddock : “Yeah so anyway.” (troll sticks out her scale covered talon and shakes hands with the HB Asian. she looks pretty tough. this is my friend. (your hero isn’t out to hurt feelings.. Braddock : “Hey.(pause so she can wheeze an catch her breath to finish the sentence)…. Although the troll has become spiteful. he’s the…. but doesn’t want to... I’m Vietnamese. like a snake but much deeper. and by natural. even if the troll becomes hateful. one that came and talked to my friend. a short window between the troll’s wheezing and hissing. help us out real quick. that was rude of me. you asshole.13. I waited for a natural break in our conversation. she is not dumb. then I included the hot Asian girl in on our conversation.” trolls are actually quite smart despite common misconception. you’re Asian?” (back turn) 164 . I’ve already answered. You think he’s safe or should I go rescue him? I mean.” HB Asian: HAHAHA “I’m not black... “Her questions three.. you are the cutest black girl I’ve met tonight. however the people’s champ harbors no bad feelings about using the troll as a pawn to make conversation with a fairer maiden). I mean. “Whatever.” Braddock : “oh. I’m not attracted to that many black girls but.. troll.” Braddock : “oh. she knows I am done entertaining her. then. Braddock feels this stereotype originated thanks to fairytales aimed at America’s youth containing anti-troll rhetoric).

” HB Asian: “see. you do look good in this outfit.13.. Well. this just won’t ever work out. 165 .. just because you’re good at Karate doesn’t mean that you get to wear the pants in this relationship. and you have a good smile.” HB Asian: “HAHAHA You are a fucking smart ass! Why does everyone say that about Asians!? And did you say you can’t marry me? Where did that come from and why would that matter?” Braddock : “Well. Who are you anyway? Braddock : “I’m the one asking the questions around here sucka! look. so I would have to ride in the front all the time to grab the wheel and make sure you didn’t miss turns and stuff and I think we both know guys that ride in the passenger seat with their wives are pussies. so there is no way we could get married.” Braddock: “that’s a bold statement. You may know karate.2 Soldier of fortune! HB Asian: (arm grab. hmmmm. I do have 5 other wives and I don’t really need another one and you can’t drive for shit but. got it?” HB Asian: “HAHAHA! oMG.” (Kino is pretty heavy at this point and she obviously works out or has only a mild case of bulimia. so. Asian’s are always weird kissers. I don’t know do a spin for me. you do dress sexy. but it’s actually not firm at all and who cares anyway.” HB Asian: “You are out of control. but I have a rape whistle. so who cares. spins me around) “What was that all about?” Braddock : “Asians can’t drive for shit. I make all of my other wives drive me to and from wherever I need to go and I like to ride in the back because it makes me feel powerful.” Braddock : “You know what. HB Asian: “HAHAHA!” Braddock : “But Asian’s can’t drive for shit. but you’re probably one of those girls whose ass looks hot in clothes. I bet I’m cuter than all your wives..

are stuck up and snobby. well guess what.13. I know you want me! You are crazy! What?” Braddock: “I may let you flirt a lot and get kinda handsy like you are doing. You’re fun to talk to. I think I’m out of here..2 Soldier of fortune! because her body was badass). I don’t know how you get away with talking to me like that. this kind of dialogue goes on for another 30 min or so.. I bet you’re such a little player.” HB Asian: “Ahh.”(bla bla bla .. but you can’t even keep your hands to yourself in a public place like this and I can’t find my rape 166 . whatever Jackie Chan.. but I’m not going to let you take my virginity.” (places Braddock’s rugged. Next thing you know you’re going to try to put your hand under my bra. HB Asian: “Bullshit! I have a personal trainer and I work out four days a week. but if I don’t get something to eat then I’m going to wilt.Me and my girlfriends have said that soooo many times. I do ballades! feel this. Most girls I’ve met in l.” HB Asian: “You are such a jerk! I love it.. tons of push/pull and tons of kino and kino takeaways for arbitrary reasons that make no sense logically. Haha! that does kinda sound silly when I hear someone else say it.see!” Braddock: “Ha.. I would normally slap a guy for half the shit you said tonight... I know girls like you. ok? Me and my friends just come to dance and we like to look good. and this shirt makes my tits look huge.. quit trying to charm me because you didn’t think that I heard the bartender yell last call.. man-hand on her ass)...You are out of control. rough.A. Braddock: “Hey. you are fun to talk to. however effective).” HB Asian: “HAHAHA... I like you because you’re just stuck up...oMG whatever. doesn’t mean I come to the club looking for sex. Just because I get all dressed up and have my makeup looking so good. I’m starving.. get your God damn ass off my hand.” Braddock: “Bla bla. Braddock: “Damn.” HB Asian: “HAHAHAHA. I would invite you along if I thought I would feel safe with you in the back.

When she comes back I pretend to be asleep. It was nice meeting you... your bed is so comfortable. I keep stopping mid makeout to ask the taxi driver random lame questions.2 Soldier of fortune! whistle..” Braddock: “Now you’re getting it. Are you sure you don’t mind sleeping on the couch? I would give you a pillow..” HB Asian: “HAHAHA!! Who are you? You are such a fucking smart ass! I want to punch you and makeout with you at the same time. We go in her apartment and go straight to her room..” HB Asian: “Hahaha. you should be kissing my ass. I pull her onto her bed and we start making out. I’m from l. We make out in the back off and on... she tells him an address. she keeps pulling me in to makeout with her.A.exactly! You are such a jerk.” HB Asian: “Wait. Hmmm. Maybe the taxi driver will let you ride in the front.I’m a big deal. but I really do feel most comfortable with both of them.. Braddock: “Wow. and you’re from the midwest. but I want you to beg me to come. I don’t question it or mention food again. We get to her apartment building and she leads me in to the elevator by the hand. I’m out Jackie Chan.” (enter the taxi. you’re just gonna leave like that?” Braddock: “What do you mean? I’m tired and I’m starving!” HB Asian: “I thought you wanted me to go?” Braddock: “God! You are such a high maintenance lA girl! (me mocking her in a pouty girls voice as I grab her hand and pull her toward the exit) “I know you already asked me once.” 167 .13. she knows I’m doing it to fuck with her and I can tell it’s turning her on.. she lays next to me on her bed and kisses me on the cheek and lightly shakes me to wake me up). Alright.” HB Asian: “Ha! there you go with the girl riding in the front with you getting chauffeured in the back. We stop for a minute so she can change.

and grabbed him despite the troll’s hissings!!!! He then went back and showed the fake titted hottie his thug passion.. backed up. We traded stories about the night before. -B 168 . I Walked in the hotel room and saw Dahunter passed out.13... she gave me a ride back to my Hotel. (My bad). because she almost fucked him over. Afterwards.2 Soldier of fortune! I just laughed and started making out with her.. And.. Go read his blog to find out all the details. His game is really tight.they went to drive off. slammed on the brakes. I teased her all the way there about how she was doing nothing to shatter the bad Asian driver stereotype.. I had push pulled her so many times up to that point that there was zero lMr.The troll that I thought I had secured under the bridge must have escaped.. many of the same characters were involved. His story had a much more interesting twist than mine did. but here’s a snack. I fucked her in her bed that night and once again in her shower the next morning.

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