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Section 1: inner Game
1. Your Best self 1.1 1.2 1.3 1.4 Inner Game Change Your life NoW!!!!!!! Q & A on Wings and Cutting old friends Do You Bring Value or take it???? 1 2 13 17 21 26 27 30 34 36 39 40 41 44 47 48 58 60

2. oNe speCIAl GIrl 2.1 2.2 2.3 2.4 oneitis?? Q & A on love Girl Has a Boyfriend, But I Know she likes Me “I Don’t Chase......I replace.”

3. NeWBIes 3.1 to the New Guys! 3.2 Dates: lunch, Dinner, Drinks 3.3 the prescription to Move out of the lJBf Zone 4. opeNING 4.1 Approach Anxiety 4.2 Q & A on Approach Anxiety 4.3 opening Mixed Groups (Guys and Girls)

Section 2: outer Game
5. teAsING & role plAYs 5.1 Q & A: How Can I Make Girls laugh? 5.2 How to flirt with Women, the Art of push/pull 63 64 66 I

6. tAKeAWAYs & sNls 6.1 takeaways for sNls 6.2 same Niglt lay simple pointers 7. 9’s & 10’s 7.1 How Do I Date Hotter Girls? “proximity is power.” 7.2 Braddock and Mr. M (10 Game Audio) 7.3 Dating tip: Become successful with Women by Modeling 8. pHoNe AND text 8.1 8.2 8.3 8.4 text Game text Game Basics by Braddock and savoy text Game: Making the Number solid the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game

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9. ColleGe GAMe 9.1 College Game Videos 9.2 Q & A on College and social Circle Game 9.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to get you laid)

Section 3: LifeStyLe
10. soCIAl CIrCle MAsterY & ColD ApproACH 10.1 10.2 10.3 10.4 When to pull the trigger in Your social Circle Golden rule of Building a New social Circle... social Circle Mastery Interview Audio social Circle Vs. Cold Approach...let’s Just Hug it out 136 137 143 145 146

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lAY reports 13.2 soldier of fortune! III . stICKING poINts 12.1 too ‘routine Dependent’ sticking point 13.11. frIeNDs W/ BeNefIts 11.1 poppin my Colla partna NYC lay report 13.1 Creating Friends w/ Benefits 149 150 153 154 156 157 163 12.

setting realistic Goals .Being in the Moment 1.2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! .3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends .4 do you Bring value or take it???? .the self Concept .stop Bullshitting Yourself & others 1.Value and its “Identity” 1 .relaxing .What it really Means to Have a Wing .covered in thiS chapter: 1.When to find New friends 1.1 inner Game .

1 inner Game http://www. This is how much confidence you truly feel for a given skill set. psycho Cybernetics.com/braddock/61181-braddocks-inner-game. Winner’s edge: What is this? People who dominate any field are only a “hair” better than everyone else.. I highly suggest you do not use this post as a substitute for reading these books cover to cover. I’m going to try and make this post as short as I can and keep it geared toward pickup. You don’t have to become Mystery or style to enjoy great success. by Brian tracy the power of Now.” Not wish you could or hope to believe or pretend to believe. by eckhart tolle living the liberated life. the difference in the success they enjoy is enormous. My notes below are merely the tip of the iceberg. being in the moment. with self-deception being third. by eckhart tolle realization of Being. Making small changes here and there can change your game DrAstICAllY! self Concept: Simple definition - “How much you truly believe that you are capable of doing something.1. However. Here are a few of the books I have read several times trying to really understand this and internalize it. some helpful books on these topics. I have literally stacks of notebooks full of notes I have taken on each book.theattractionforums.html the self Concept and Being in the Moment: I’ve been reading quite a few books lately on the self concept. and selfdeception. but I picked these two because I think they are most important. by Maltz the psychology of Achievement. 2 . I will try to offer some of the key concepts that have resonated with me.. they have had a big impact on my life and game. However. Inner game has many components. by eckhart tolle Inner Game: If you develop your inner game then you can’t be stopped! Develop good inner game and the outer game will come at double the rate.

” Your overall self concept will determine your success in life. what kind of woman you deserve. we will start to be more consistent with that. if we have a weak self concept about the women we deserve.. What does this mean? remember. how you drive. then it is crucial that we change our self concept in that area. If we move our concept up or down we will act consistent with this new self concept. 3 . brushing your teeth. because he has never done it before. He believes on a deep level he can build a house.. “My self concept is low. but if we want to get better at something. hanging a picture on the wall. he would most likely have a low self concept in the area of carpentry.1.etc. It is impossible to act in a manner inconsistent with one of your self concepts. guess what. You have an overall self concept and it is made up of all your individual self concepts. You have a self concept for everything in your life (dress. how do we create a better self concept?? first. we must stop letting any one of our self concepts control how we feel about our overall self concept (specifically. income. Want to get better at anything? then you Must CHANGe your self concept in that area. once you play it enough times you could beat that level with your eyes closed. so. we will be consistent with that weak self image. playing soccer. It is impossible to act inconsistent with our self image. If we switched these two and asked MJ to build a house. our self concept in relation to women). If we develop a strong self concept about our ability to attract women. I said you have a self concept for eVerYtHING you do!!!!!!! Do you look in the mirror and feel like shit about “who you are” when you first buy a video game and you keep dying on the first level? No. so. “My self concept is high”. and the women we deserve. Your self concept is low in relation to that game. or about how good we are at pickup. You will just keep playing it until you understand what every button on the controller does without you even having to think about it. He literally believed he was going to make every shot.) examples: Michael Jordan’s self concept in basketball was extremely high. the converse is also true.1 inner Game example: Bushing my teeth. You won’t get depressed and want to crawl into bed or go read every book on that game. but you know if you play that game and that level enough times you will eventually get the hang of it. A carpenter’s is just as high with carpentry.

right? Do you ever feel uneasy brushing your teeth? What about driving your car? Were you always good at these tasks? Did you ever feel uneasy about driving your car? I did. this knowledge should empower you with women and dating.1 inner Game However. However. therefore. I will give you a million dollars if you beat level one. for about 3 months I felt anxiety every time I got behind the wheel. All the positive affirmations in the world will not trick our subconscious mind into believing that we can truly complete the task at a high level. we know. then your self concept would grow at a very slow rate. during the process of growing your self concept in regards to that game. as my self concept grew.1. When we are doing something that we think we are not good at. if I had said. Your self concept tells you. when we know we have not 4 . would you take that bet???? of course. this one skill set DOES NOT define your overall self concept and it does not affect your other self concepts. If you look at this on a time line from when you got the video game until you could play it with your eyes closed. I had a jeep with a stick shift. I remember when I first started driving. Example: (Public Speaking). and you can beat level one with your eyes closed. for A fACt that we can change our self concept simply by becoming more competent and skilled in the area we are deficient in. If you cried every time you lost and turned the game off and didn’t play it for two weeks. there are 3 occasions that cause us to feel a sense of uneasiness: 1. ·We have a scientific formula to change our self concept! Not just some abstract “you can do it affirmation. and the fastest way is by treating the skill set we want as a process and not attaching our identity to it. You didn’t attach too much meaning to that game. After you have played that game for 3 months. you are able to grow rapidly. but if you don’t I’m going to blow your head off. you never let your low self concept affect your overall self concept. your self concept is higher now than when you first purchased that game. would you have taken the bet??? Noooo. How can you measure it? When you first played that game. Generally speaking. the uneasiness went away. can you see that you just dialed up that one self concept in that area of your life? Now. We never feel uneasy doing something that we are good at. this is a sound bet.” Based on the previous statement.

example 2: When I’m not thinking about the past or the future and I’m really in the moment. “You’re Braddock. example: You hit every shot in basketball practice when nobody is there to watch. but we are putting unnecessary importance on the outcome. I. then I will likely lock up and perform poorly. We build up how important the game is for our future that we make it impossible to just be in that moment like we are in practice. but saying. 3. You just learn to use your mind to quiet them to a level where your logical brain is running the show and not your emotional brain. When we are doing something we know we can do. example: (Girl told you to fuck off on an approach). if not quieted. How do we combat the 3 above in relation to pickup? 1. When we are doing things that we have had a failed experience with. But. will only further trigger your mind to remind you where your true self concept is.. but you can’t even hit the rim when the stadium is full and it’s the championship game. I could give millions of examples for this in any genre of life from work to pickup. We might talk it into believing we can get by.e. but you are attributing meaning to the people in the stands and the trophy you may win. “I can do this. I read your blog. doing an amazing demo on command for this guy. first we must quiet our mind and put things where they really belong. these emotional responses. train your mind to control your body’s emotional responses to outside stimulus. I will do amazing demos for the students on bootcamp. You develop a self concept based on one or more bad experiences without allowing enough time for the self concept to align with the idea that you can eventually master the task or skill set. I can’t wait to watch you in field tonight!” If I attribute a new found importance on a future outcome I cannot control or predict. 2. especially in relation to pickup.” when you truly know you can’t. It’s the same shot you couldn’t miss during practice. lead our logical brain to accept the idea that things are bigger than they are. 5 . if a student says. this doesn’t mean you try to not feel emotions at all. I personally think this is the most important one. the goal is the same height and the ball has the same amount of air in it..1.1 inner Game put in the work to obtain the skill.

people say he gets up for big games better than anyone who has ever played the game. on the contrary. dealing with what the media will write and say. Now. his ability to get there from the tip off while others most likely didn’t get there until the second half. controlled. Michael Jordan was capable of quieting all of that and even using that as a reason to get real calm inside while everyone around him was being deeply affected by these factors. take Michael Jordan in a championship game.1 inner Game Why? In basketball practice. calm. you don’t get butter flies in your stomach and your throat doesn’t clench up because you are not attributing any long term meaning to that event. “Why are we having these feelings? Why are we feeling so nervous? this must be important. Our logical brain says. No doubt. He was getting really quiet inside so he could get to that place where all that was forgotten and nothing mattered but the moment. the pressure of a big game. each time your emotions are taking your mind a little further away from the cool. You are aware that if you have a bad practice it doesn’t really matter and that nobody was in the stands to see you perform poorly.E. in-themoment state of being. 6 . the noise. this jittery nervous state is creating a new negative self concept. What if we have a bad game? What will this mean in the future? What will all these people think about me?” You then get an even deeper emotional reaction from your body. You are not thinking about what will happen good or bad if you make or miss “this one shot. You are now not playing basketball with the same self concept that you enjoy in practice because that self concept was based on shooting basketballs in a calm. Because there is no emotional response. you use your logic. butterflies. I’m willing to bet that he feels those jittery nervous feelings just like the rest of us. and most importantly.” You just shoot. You stay calm. I agree. I would say that he has the ability to control his mind and emotions allowing him to access his highest basketball self concept more readily than any other who has ever played the game. I would argue this was necessary but not sufficient to play at the level he played so consistently. and the perceived importance placed on a desired outcome act to stimulate an emotional response that causes us to get butterflies. However. MJ was physically talented. dealing with the awareness that a win could mean millions of dollars in endorsements. Just like in practice. let’s think this out. you stay in the moment. the energy of the crowd. I. Yes. dealing with the excitement of being on tV.1. made him seem like a God amongst mere mortals. collected. in the moment state you enjoyed in practice. cool. in the championship game. your logical mind stays in control. collected. But in nerd speech. and a loss could send those commercials to another. but the difference is his ability to use his logical mind to calm the inner emotional storm and quickly get back to the self concept that he enjoys in practice. would do a number on most people’s emotions and nervous system.

maybe the weekend. so your logical mind stays in control and you don’t run 30 “what if” scenarios through your head that would stir emotions to change your self concept.1 inner Game How does this apply to pickup? I think by now it’s probably obvious. every time I’m on bootcamp. so. ultimately. I think about it from then until that night. “a statement”. As soon as he says it. and possibly. if I choose to control that emotion. 7 . However. does that mean that I’m really not as good as I say and believe I am? Wow. Your self image tells you that you can complete that task with ease. I. hand her the check. then my logical mind will quickly get back to its natural state by realizing that I can’t predict how the demos are going to turn out tonight or any night. I’m attracting the failure that I predicted because that is all I will focus on from the time he makes his statement until I fail miserably allll night long during the demos. this is a slippery slope to kill the current moment and a whole bunch of future moments. However. “What if we do bad demos in front of him. If I am incapable. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. will he be disappointed? If he’s disappointed. You don’t have an emotional response to the idea of completing this task. I can’t wait to see you in field tonight. I hope I don’t get blown out in front of him. quiet it down to a dull roar.e. my body is going to have an immediate emotional response to that. Why? You have the skill set required to handle that situation and you don’t attribute more meaning to it than necessary. once I do this. You could walk up. you wouldn’t have much of an emotional response to that. if a student says. then the emotion will manifest in a way that will alter my self concept for that night. “Braddock I love your blog. and walk back to your car no problem. I have acquired a vast knowledge base and I have mastered being in the moment.1. I will quickly be back on track to enjoying my original self concept before his statement and our super hero Braddock is back to kicking the world in half. and compartmentalize the students statement as just. and that him wanting to see them or not doesn’t change the level of importance I need to attach to them. It often answers these questions with bad answers. and my logical mind races to find answers for that strange emotion I’m feeling.” As you can see.”. My self image in regards to game is relatively high. choose not to control the emotion. smile. without any extraneous factors. All I can do is control the moment I’m in. we better do well tonight. or decide to attribute a bunch of meaning to his statement. and I have developed competence with my skill set through thousands of approaches. my self concept is high when I walk into a venue to pickup girls. at that time I’m in it. I have learned to control my mind instead of my mind controlling me. but I’ll tie it in to my example from above. Can you see how this applies to all levels of pickup? If I said I wanted you to take a publishers Clearing House check to a hot girl.

you leave the house with your “pickup self concept. You get several numbers.) ok. these factors have no real meaning or value and can only affect your self concept If You let tHeM!!! let’s look at two very different outcomes to two situations that are in all actuality the same. You can’t wait to go out tomorrow for an even more plentiful bounty. You can’t even remember what you opened them with and they all responded well to you. You open every good set in the venue for no strategic reason other than that you feel good inside and it just feels right.1 inner Game Now when we take the scenario of going to a venue with the goal of talking to women. You lay awake still riding a high. asshole. friday night. All three of the girls in the set want you bad. but now that this is all coming together. Your friend calls and says he is at your house to pick you up. After banging her like a screen door on a battleship. The first set you open goes ridiculously well. the three girls get even more interested. and take home your old friend. make out with the best of the 3 set. that’s been bothering me forever. The girls won’t leave you alone. when you got in your friend’s car. I haven’t felt this good in forever. one of your hot friends from college happens to be at the same bar and sees that these girls are all over you. Your self concept moves up and you are feeling a new high. you see that he has brought his loud. You are in the moment and you feel like you can’t be stopped! You feel like you could open a set with Brad pitt in it and walk away with the girl. so you leave the house with your self concept and then what happens? All kinds of factors come flying at you from night to night to help increase or decrease your self concept. You know you can have your pick. so as you read this input your self concept here. judgmental 8 . each of the three girls reopens you and tries to get your attention.” saturday night you are going to go to the exact same venue as the night before. I’m actually glad that my ex girlfriend dumped me. You stare at the ceiling thinking. a whole host of external factors are introduced that can either increase your self concept or drastically diminish it based on what level of meaning and importance you attach to them. You can’t hit the door fast enough. she runs over and hugs you.” (Whether you are leaving the house with a low or super high self concept is unimportant in regards to the point I’m trying to make here. However. I’m glad she dumped me because look how good I am getting at this.1. she falls asleep. You feel like all your study of pickup ebooks and DVD’s on game are finally paying off. over the course of the night. “Wow. You are still excited about last night and you can’t wait to get to the venue so you can build on the night before.

” You spin around to find your friend and. your self concept takes a slight dip. because you know how judgmental he is and you can already feel him judging you if you get blown out of a set. it was the first set of the night. You already started attaching meaning to his judgments and thoughts. (truth is. You finally decide to do a set even though you aren’t feeling it. you shouldn’t give a shit. you have an emotional response and you get out of the moment. but as you walk around. “Maybe it’s not that I’m letting this guy stir my emotions. but part of you questions yourself and says. In your mind. you feel it inside your stomach and you won’t stop thinking about it. maybe last night was a fluke and “most” girls really don’t respond to me like that. You immediately spin around hoping he didn’t see. You half ass open 3 more sets. “Damn. You don’t want to open poorly in front of him. last night you wouldn’t have cared what this asshole thought. You hit the venue and you do 4 laps around the place and hit the bathroom twice instead of just being in the moment and opening because you aren’t feeling it like you were last night. 9 . resulting in me questioning my self concept. Damn it! You instantly feel your confidence sag a little. I hate him. you half blame him for putting you in a bad state. You wouldn’t have even noticed him because you were in the moment). your mind is back in the past rehashing your first blow out wondering what you did wrong with those girls and you are still pondering if the asshole friend knows something about you that you should feel insecure about. “Maybe he’s right. sure enough he’s a loud. I mean. Is he a judgmental asshole or does he see something in me that I’ve never noticed? He’s right to judge me. You left the house and you were really feeling it.1 inner Game friend from work to go out with you guys. And.” self concept takes another dip.1. as soon as you see this guy. Your self concept was so high last night. While you open these 3 sets. you can’t help but wonder.” You give him no satisfaction with your facial expressions or body language . judgmental asshole in the car and you worry what he’ll say if you get blown out in front of him tonight. You open and sure enough you get blown out!!! Now. that guy saw me get blown out and he is giving me that judgmental smirk like he thinks he’s better than me. but you walk up NoWHere NeAr in the moment. You have been so focused on what that guy will think that you have just been running a movie screen in your head the last 2 hours of you getting blown out and this random asshole friend judging you over and over and over.

last night. or the last 3 blowouts. “I’ve had both of those nights Braddock . Now. lay in bed. In the car ride home.. You stare longingly and just a split second longer tonight than you would have if you bumped into her last night when you owned the venue! she sees and feels your needy stare. they can feel it. You see a girl you used to date at the same venue and she is flirting with a guy you assume is no doubt better than you in every way possible. those who have great inner game can feel this high regardless of the momentum or lack thereof created by the first set. and now your chest hurts worse than ever before. You finally get home. asshole friend asks you several condescending questions about why those girls were so rude to you. they know you have an agenda and they can feel that you subtly are hoping they give you their approval.. All 3 sets blow you out worse than the patriot’s did the Chargers in week 3.1.. the asshole friend. You hate him more. would your night have been completely different? Would I have had a shit night instead? Awww. and then gives some asshole a big hug and a deep kiss. you thought you were completely over her.. his negative judgmental mindsets. Her self concept takes a spike up and she gives you some weak ass wave and a half smile. Were you right to feel all of those feelings or is that just being delusional from a bunch of random luck? No. or your face.. but they aren’t having it. or something about you betrays your funny jokes and interesting stories and sheds light on a guy who is strangely not in the moment.. and wonder if you should have married your ex girlfriend.. You grab your friend and his dick friend and head home. it wasn’t luck. what the hell???? Your self concept is high on friday! Is it real? Yes. but you internalize some of the horse shit coming out of his mouth as truth. so. you are using the same openers and material that you used last night. Your voice. You were allowing your true self concept to drive the bus because no external factors got in its way or pushed it down. and you spend an hour pondering how you could have such an amazing night last night and such a horrible night tonight. Now you have decided that this is solID proof that you are bad with women and that last night was undoubtedly a fluke. had that first set gone poorly. the girls in these next 3 sets feel a strange incongruence when you walk up.1 inner Game sooo. Your self concept takes another dip. 10 . You are trying to be funny and interesting.this is where the men are separated from the boys. You question if all this game shit you’ve read is even real.

When the asshole friend in the car annoys you. when you leave that set and he gives you a dick head look. it’s hard for us to measure our true self concept in regards to pickup. He only has half of the puzzle.. and never developed a skill set. 11 . not what you wish it was. because you need the moon. randomly because a bunch of factors went right or we randomly didn’t attach a bunch of meaning to these outside factors. the sun. but they are two very different things. but ONLY in the car. Now. Gandhi stone cold pimpin! lol) Being in the moment allows you to truly increase your self concept in an area. sometimes. allows you to see where your actual self concept is. aka (being in the moment).1 inner Game The external meaning you are attributing to how your first set goes is determining your entire night. remember that your self concept is defined as what you truly believe your skill set is in any given area. and it annoys you oNlY while your eyes are on his face. you are completely in the moment. and not some bullshit affirmation of.. because we allow our self concept to go up and down sooo much from day to day based on a bunch of meaning we attach to external factors and our complete lack of being in the moment.” It’s what you truly believe it to be at any given moment. Horrible or great at that video game. never opened countless sets.1. Being in the moment. and BAM. our true self concept shines through and we have a great night. When you are playing video games. this is a scary place to be. CoMpletelY in that moment.. then you will stay in the moment and your self concept will maintain a constant level all night. Gandhi is most likely in the moment at all times. they do feed each other. (I stand corrected. He has never done the reading. His self concept in regards to pickup is still low. but that does not mean he can pickup girls in a bar. It can make our game look way worse than it really is. then we get in a good state. good or bad. does this mean you will never get blown out? Does it mean that you will get every girl? Noooo!! Don’t confuse self concept and being in the moment as the same thing. and the stars to line up just perfectly every night or you are not going to have a good night. when you open your first set and his judgments mean nothing to you. once you learn to be in the moment. you have an honest measuring stick of your self concept in regards to that video game. but it carries Zero negative momentum into the next set. You know your inner game has reached a high level when you could go 0 for 10 or 10 for 10 in any given night and your self concept is unchanged. “I think I can.

naturals. this means that he spends more time operating in the moment and that he has a high self concept in pickup. if you have children who act up.e. this up and down creates confusion over time espeCIAllY when we have more bad nights than good nights. then our game reaches new heights. I.1 inner Game However. When you hear that someone has “good game”. there are soooo many other facets that can help your inner game . once we learn to correlate that usually “a bad night” was more about us not being in the moment. but if you can ever master these two. I would like to thank all my guests. this message has been brought to you by the number 4 and the letter l. ok.1. Your fearless leader. that’s all the time we have for today. remember. continue to beat them until moral improves. then you will see a drastic change in your life. and stop attributing it to a lack of knowledge. Braddock 12 . Not necessarily that he has read more pickup books than you. until next time. they are in the moment and have cultivated a skill set.

html Had a one on one in Dallas this weekend. Go out with specific goals for the week. then that’s exactly how each one will feel.” this kind of goal setting fucks you hard!!!!!!! the goals are not realistic.” HAHA!! Bullshit! Reading more will not fix this issue. I just suck at this. or “My friend started reading this when I did. you don’t allow yourself to build momentum from the small successes. opened 5 for 10 and got 3 phone numbers and one of them was a 10? Wouldn’t that have been a damn good night?! 13 . look how good he’s doing. it’s like seeing a new person. you don’t allow yourself room to grow. I love one on one’s because. really cool guy. so. and feel like there is something wrong with you. you will be burnt out. relax! If you make pickup so important that you feel like every set is the super Bowl.com/braddock/49480-change-your-life-now. there were a couple of things that I learned this weekend that I want to share. If I do most of these things then I will know that I was successful on the night. “Why am I not learning this? How come it’s so hard for me? Maybe. saying. What you need to do is refocus your mind. then I suck. and no matter how great the outcome. (Example: “I am going out for the next two weeks and I will use x opener.theattractionforums. I need to go home and read pickup for 6 hours per day instead of 5 hours per day. If I don’t do at least as good as he does. while you are really helping someone get their game solid. Maybe.1. unhappy. “I want to have sex with a 10 and I want to go 10 for 10 with my sets and get 10 phone numbers”. I felt like my game exploded and I had more fun going out and learning pickup. It’s really fun to watch a guy progress. you also learn a shitload about yourself. What if you fucked an 8. After just a few weeks of going out with that kind of pressure following you. once I dealt with them. x transition. it will only be a matter of time before you will no longer enjoy going out. after just a few weeks of going out. long time. As a student opens his mind and works through a sticking point.2 change your Life noW!!!!!!! http://www. attainable. After working with this student and he told me what was bothering him. 1.” By setting goals like the ones above. realistic goals for the night. you have measurable. x cold read and I will try to isolate at least one girl in every set and I will try to bounce at least one girl around the club and get into deep comfort with her. x story. I remembered that these were issues that had once plagued me and really held me back for a long. and to break through insecurities and sticking points that have been like chains holding him down.

you are still dying inside knowing that you should be doing more. You could read for the next 7 years about how to play tennis and then go play someone who had read nothing but took a 30 min lesson. they know all the theory. you would not be down on yourself because your friend went 5 for 5 that day. ever play sports? If you went 2 for 5 in baseball with a double and a bloop single to win the game. they either look gun shy. Why read all of this shit if you aren’t going to use it??? I’m not trying to be mean. or you have read way too much of this shit and your brain goes haywire in set trying to remember every fucking routine you ever read! 14 . Being an arm chair QB is like reading about how fun roller coasters are. after set. mistaken. I can watch a guy in set and tell you if he is in a. or they think they are much farther along in set than they really are. but you struck out 3 times. buying every product ever made and then one day you will compile the master routine that will allow you to walk into a venue and rattle off this phantom sequence and BAM! girl’s clothes will just start fallling off. the reading really won’t make that much sense or even help that much until you have been in the field and been in the exact situation the author is talking about. same applies here. Learn in the field: I know everyone says this. I know why they don’t do it. know all the routines by heart. or you are scared shitless of facing the inevitable rejection associated with risking your ego and putting it on the line. you are sadly. In fact. lol. You do need to do your homework. sadly. never actually getting on one. If you think you are going to read for 6 months. but you will learn more in 1 set in the field. but damn this is by far the biggest mistake everyone. 2. Books that I thought were shit when I first started this mean a lot to me now. yet telling everyone how great they are?!?! Why would you do that!??? even if you don’t brag and correct others.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! Not if you are putting bullshit restrictions on how you measure your own success. usually better than I do. these guys have all the advice in the world and a million stories that nobody can confirm. It’s so easy to peg the guys on bootcamp who have read everything but haven’t done much field time. set.1. and they would likely kick your fucking ass. when you go out that night. or make tons of rookie mistakes. and love to correct the instructors and other students on what they “think you should do” in said situation. than 60 hours worth of reading. then. I’m trying to make a point. You still only half believe it’s real or you are scared shitless of it not being real. see how ridiculous that kind of thinking is? I used to do that all the time. makes. now make me laugh at how shitty they are. INCluDING Me. DON’T BE LIKE tHAt!!!! What a fucking waste of time and life. “friendly conversation” or if he is making progress toward getting the girl. and books and lines that I thought would be amazing in the field. the same reason I didn’t.

If you are shitty at pickup. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others. If you do great. fYI. 15 . I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay. Make it fun. Nobody gives a shit for one. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started. they will find a way to tear you down a little.” When you can say that. My point is this: you are your own best compass.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! You are talking about me. stop talking about it with them.. not a sprint. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets. so. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters. use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate.1. and two.. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say. stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. stop doing it. because you will have a point of reference. set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night. Just worry about your progress. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls.. this is a marathon. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. second. what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. they will be full of advice that is horrible. soooo. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. pay the price. Go out and do the dirty work. they haven’t all gone well. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true.

Braddock . If only I this or that.2 change your Life now!!!!!!! After I did a bunch of sets. looking back.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. read 20% go out 80%. I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. steal the knowledge. really bad! But. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean. I would like to do that. I just needed a kick in the ass. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome. trample the weak and hurdle the dead. -Have the mental frame that. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say. “The first 2.000 approaches don’t count. -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing. but go create your own stories and experiences. His life wasn’t always the shit. look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again.1. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action. I promise. fuCK tHAt. So.” -fuck excuses.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom. I don’t have a good wing. -B 16 . I mean I love my mom and I want to really. PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field. -of the time you allot to pickup. “Well.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck.

it’s just that they always stink and never seem to be hot.” that literally made me laugh.” fuck all that! Just mysteriously become a fucking pimp and when they ask how you do it.theattractionforums. the best wing for me is a decent looking guy who won’t say anything to fuck it up. My favorite wing goes out with me all the time and I get laid every night and he almost never does. It was extremely hard for me to find friends who were down with this when I first started. However. As a matter of fact. Keep this in mind too. But. Question 1: “I’m in a sticky situation. I thought you read that shit. Just be yourself. I do well when I hit the bar with a wing.com/braddock/61176-q-wings-cutting-old-friends.1. there is no quick fix to your wing problem. every time you go out they will be like. they would never have understood. 17 . girls just like me I guess.html I hope someone finds this useful. but he won’t say anything to get the girls that are interested in him either. I also suggest you don’t tell those in your closest circle unless you know you can trust them. until you do find a decent wing. I tried finding wings on the forums and they are scarce too. they will accidentally fuck you more than a normal dude. but I’m apprehensive about going out alone. I know exactly what you’re going through. I am a 21 year old who goes to a small college in Baltimore that is crawling with hippies and weirdos. realize that going out alone isn’t as bad you think it is.” lololol The truth is. he never fucks it up for me either. “I don’t know man. lolololol “hippies and weirdo’s. “they’re here somewhere. No one over 21 is interested in going out to the bars. Here are a couple of questions I received and here are my answers. I thought you said it worked? Why do you ask them those fucked up questions about your friend’s ex girlfriend? that’s stupid. What should I do? “ Question 2: “Do you think I should cut out my old friends and get new ones?” first off. just say.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends http://www. “let’s see it man. It’s really not a political thing. I hate hippies! especially hippy girls. My closest friends are kinda naturals and I didn’t even want to tell them I was reading this sort of stuff.” they usually don’t even ask. I think the best wings are not the guys with great game. If anyone asks where your friends are just say.

If you have a great set of friends who are supportive. tHIs Is Not BeCAuse tHeY DoN’t HAVe GAMe!!!! 18 . 2 guys gaming hard across each other never really works out). but just keep going out and meeting people. I think if you will read the posts from instructors or guys with a vast amount of experience. I’m genuinely having fun. somewhere for me to go when I’m not in set.) I guess the biggest point I’m trying to make here is that the whole “wing “ thing is not that big of a deal like everyone says it is. Answer to Question 2: Notice that in answering question one I did not say ditch all your old friends and get new ones who are good at pickup. he never fucks up my game. just because you have 2 guys excited about gaming and both guys bring it in every set. you will read posts on cutting people out of your life who you come to realize are toxic. I don’t count on them for shit as far as pickup. Most importantly. often times you will end up cutting previously close friends out of your life after you have been in the community for a while. A new guy trying to learn all this shit is often the worst wing . You are likely to meet a wing on accident at the bar. Nooooooo!!!! When guys say that on here I think it creates great confusion. but if I bring girls to him he will talk to them and not freak them out or bore them. over trying to talk some mother fucker into getting off the couch. is dead. Don’t let not having a wing keep you from developing the lifestyle and game you want. deeply care about you. they are fucking horrible! lol But they give me social proof and I actually like the guys so even if I’m not running game. because they are trying to run game at the same time you are and it just comes across really weird (not because his game is bad or good. and who make your quality of life better. the only good thing about having a wing is when he is a motivated mother fucker that holds you accountable and makes you go out: a guy who won’t let you pussy out and say you are tired or this bar. (Having people you can genuinely have fun with is ten times more powerful for your game than having a guy who is willing to go open sets.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends He doesn’t approach really. I know it sucks. then why would you cut them out of your life just because they have no game???????? that’s ridiculous. What I do is go out with my wing or a group of cool guys and I merely use them as a home base between sets.1. or whatever excuse we often make. this is totally different. I’d much rather meet a guy who is already going.

what do I do Braddock??? set realistic goals!!! Go out a realistic amount every week. they will be full of advice that is horrible. they probably know you are lying and just aren’t calling you out on it to avoid an awkward intervention over something stupid. I thought some of the stuff I read sounded really fucking gay. It will all make so much more sense and you will be able to go apply the material at a much faster rate. you won’t have to take everything they say as fact! I remember when I first started. but I had to take it as fact in my head because they were supposedly gurus.. Add just one piece of material every couple of weeks and only add a piece after you have done x number of sets. find your own center and go get your hands dirty in the field. then go back and grab those pickup books and start reading. soooo. so. pay the price. But they don’t talk shit when you aren’t around. Going out 3 times per week doesn’t really count as 3 times if you only opened 2 sets each night. use theMysteryMethod forums to discuss this shit. and two. they haven’t all gone well. 19 . stop doing it.” When you can say that. My point is this: you are your own best compass. stop worrying about how good or bad your friends are doing.1. Go out and do the dirty work. second.. Make it fun.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends You are talking about me. “Wow! I’ve done a shitload of approaches. they will find a way to tear you down a little. stop giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. but I have honestly done a ridiculous amount of approaches. stop bullshitting others and more importantly stop bullshitting yourself!!! I have friends who lie about how many girls they’ve fucked in order to impress others.. Once you have done that to the point where you feel like you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say. only take advice from those who have been in the trenches and earned their stripes. not a sprint. because you will have a point of reference. but do it in small chunks while realizing that not any one set matters. stop talking about it with your friends good or bad! Your friends will not be much help. Donald trump doesn’t ask me how to buy real estate and I don’t read his book hoping for advice on how to pickup girls. this is a marathon. If you are shitty at pickup. set small goals that add up to equal your big goals. If you do great. fYI. stop talking about it with them. Just worry about your progress. Nobody gives a shit for one. Nothing makes me laugh harder than when one of my friends gives me or someone else in my circle advice on how to pickup girls when they haven’t put in the time to even know if what they are saying is true.

PUT THE FUCKING BOOKS DOWN AND GO OUT!!! STOP READING tHIs post AND Go out!!!!! I’m serious. -Don’t beat yourself up over rejections from girls that you’ll never see again. fuck that. If I said go open 20 sets or I’ll blow your mom’s fucking head off!!!! Would you say. I don’t have a good wing. I had no idea what was what until I had extensive time in field. “The first 2. look back in a few months and I think you will be surprised at how much closer you are to reaching some of the larger goals. but you won’t open 20 in a week to develop the lifestyle you fucking want and deserve????????? None of this is meant to be mean.” How can it be the super bowl if you still have 1. If only I this or that. His life wasn’t always the shit. -of the time you allot to pickup. they are just things you are choosing not to overcome. the only difference between a guy with a bad ass lifestyle and a guy with a boring one is action. I promise. steal the knowledge.” fuck no! You would open 20 sets in 10 min to save your mom. really bad! But. looking back. “Well. -Have the mental frame that. -B 20 . I just know how bad my girl situation was at one time. -stop bitching about other people!!! “If only I had a wing. I mean I love my mom and I want to really.” -fuck excuses. trample the weak and hurdle the dead. So. I would like to do that.1. I could look at material and tell what was really useful and what was just some shit that a nerd threw together to make a quick buck. I just needed a kick in the ass.3 Q and a on Wings and cutting old friends After I did a bunch of sets.000 approaches don’t count. life is not lived on the computer reading about how someone else is leading the life you wish you had.999 approaches to go before it even matters?!?! -set small goals you can reach and journal everyday. because you don’t want your goal bad enough. Braddock . but go create your own stories and experiences. read 20% go out 80%.

Wednesday and thursday. now I’m hot. No offense if you are one.. I don’t completely blame promoters for acting like dicks.. they think you are cool because of what you can do for them. “Back then they didn’t want me. she made one call and we were in. “I don’t mean to go on a rant here but.. It’s unreal how big this city is.. It was a grind going for 5 days straight.1.” 21 .A. just study the club promoters outside of an exclusive club in l.theattractionforums. It was cool to watch. I personally can identify with the feeling of contempt that this can create.A. As Dennis Miller used to say.” I’m on the plane heading home.A.. I talked to the guy the day after and he said we changed his life!!! that’s the best feeling ever. because they have the same feeling a celebrity has at times... I know a girl who is kind of a socialite out there and she hooked us up.. they don’t think you are cool because of your intrinsic value as a human being. Nice to know people. He said when he got home he went out that night and had like 5 make outs and could have slept with several girls.4 do you Bring value or take it???? http://www. and I’m sure I could write this about a million different subjects. they all on me. It’s like that line out of that song by Mike Jones…. I’m not. The first night we went to one of the best clubs in L.. she’s an l.com/braddock/61179-do-you-bring-value-take. people don’t talk to “you” they talk to the club promoter that they need something from. He picked up the info really quick and was kicking ass by the second night.html this is from my blog.. 10. Dahunter and I taught our class and it went really well. so all of the club promoters kiss her ass. it applies to most people. I love flying out of L... If you ever want to see how quickly the human mind can resort to it’s darker recesses. but if I sound like I’m complaining. at night. This weekend was a blast.A. because you see a side of people you never knew existed..

If you have value to exchange then you aren’t the one constantly begging or desperately fighting for the scraps that fall off the table of those that do retain the value that you desire. the club promoters that I met this weekend seemed to really buy into their own bullshit. they shut off the fake smile and the charm and move on to the next person they think can help them meet their needs. However. so you don’t have to be the vampire quite as often or if life forces you to be the vampire. identity value to either of these roles and work toward always bringing value in as many relationships as you can. he has attached a deep sense of self to that one piece of value he controls. these vampires like you right now. if you ever find yourself in a short lived or situational setting where you are the value holder. or just say no. everyone wants what they control and everyone pretends to like them in order to obtain access. However. if any. because they do make life easier and they seem to attract more and more opportunities just like this. live paycheck to paycheck. what I found hilarious is how much they seemed to really believe that they are somebody. they will move on to the next body to suck blood from without so much as a thanks and when you need help they are nowhere to be found. Don’t get me wrong. you have brought so much value in the past that you are not seen as a desperate value leech. I think a healthy person looks at this for what it is. they ask for something without bringing any value to you in return. but they do not make you better intrinsically than others. don’t let it go to your head. We are all the vampire at times and we are all the leverage holder at times.4 do you Bring value or take it???? People can have no cooth when they need something and have no idea how desperate and selfish they look. but the second that your one piece of leverage is gone or they have extracted all the value they can from you. I think you should try to set up as many of these situations in your life as possible. Don’t assume that because you have something that people want or need that it makes you better than others. they really think that gate keeper role they play a couple nights per week is who they really are at their core!!!!! lolololol this same asshole may have no education. no solid relationships in his life. for 3 hours per night they are GOD!!! They decide whether you get to play in that club or not. but because he controls a list 3 nights a week. and sleep on his friends couch. However.1. I’m willing to bet that those guys have little to no value outside of that venue and only have this limited value even here on specific nights. and then if you can’t give them that value. 22 . the best way to handle these situations is to not attach much.

Does he walk around treating everyone like he is better than them???? I hope not. have parties with tons of girls.1. they would talk differently to people who weren’t in a certain frat and treat them like shit and they would suck the dicks of guys in certain frats that they considered cool!!!!???? I can understand you having more or less respect for this company or that company or that team or this team or this athlete or that athlete or this doctor or that doctor because of the work they put into earning that title. this doesn’t mean you should go around kissing people’s ass or even going all Dale Carnegie on them. I have mad respect for Michael Jordan and might even talk to him a little different than I would most people because I would be excited to meet him. drink tons of beer. this does not mean that you should treat people like shit or with disrespect either. Half the guys were cool as fuck and saw the frat for what it was . I was in a frat for a while in college and I remember it being split in half. the other half of the guys were complete dick suckers who thought they were cool because they were in that frat.4 do you Bring value or take it???? I always wonder if people like him walk around in their normal life acting like they are better than people. I personally don’t think you should give people any more respect than they’ve earned. It’s merely a group you belong to where the people in the group enjoy you and you enjoy them. if you’ve ever given a girl more respect than she’s earned than you know how this can blow up in your face! But.a great place to meet a ton of friends. they attached a deep identity meaning to the fucking letters on the outside of the door of the house!!! lololol How fucking retarded. but sadly I assume he does. But being picked to join a frat during rush week is not a title that you earned and it’s not a value that should help you flesh out your core identity. If I met John stockton……not so much. and network for later in life. even titles you earn mean little to nothing in regard to how you should value yourself and definitely not how you should treat others. 23 . If you joined a certain frat so you could jerk yourself off and tell yourself and each other how cool you are and how much better your frat is than that one than you are fucking up bad!!! Hell.

My internal value and identity are maintained at all cost. this is why rockstars and celebrities end up killing themselves. use it as such. I thought if I had a hot girlfriend then that’s “who I was” or if I was a great athlete or if I hung out with certain people. It’s merely a value that you have obtained and a great one at that. like I said though. are equally disgusting to me. The main point here is this. tons of options with women. With or without them. No. this lesson has taken me years to learn and I learned it the hard way. or if I made this group of people happy or if my parents liked what I was doing. With them. and the club promoter who thinks he is God. it’s just a tool. but not because they will create an identity that I desperately cling to no matter what. the company you keep can make or break your life. then money. Crush the social leeches that use you as a win for them/loss for you and find the people who are willing to make a value trade with you. but they also should not be what you draw your core value from. I want them because they are all tools to help me develop a fun and interesting lifestyle that I would want. use it to create great connections in your life that you couldn’t acquire otherwise. I personally want tons of money. then that was me. Don’t attach internal meanings to external values. they buy into their own bullshit.4 do you Bring value or take it???? the frat boy who is delusional about how cool he is because of what frat he is in. 24 .1. if you ever find yourself in a position like the club promoter just realize that it’s merely a tool. they have attached all their internal meaning to this star they have become. But if you don’t know that. my life is closer aligned to what I want my life to look like. It’s not who they are at their core. bla bla bla. Not because it doesn’t matter who you surround yourself with. but if I couldn’t have them for any number of reasons then I’m still me. It will be your frat. then you just will constantly be trying to fill a bucket with a massive fucking hole in it. I’m not saying all these things are bad. learn how to use it to help you meet other ends. and great relationships. then cars. Attaching an identity meaning to random sources of value sets you on a slippery slope to an addiction you can never satisfy. my identity and core values are unchanged. that’s all bullshit. high status. use it to help you obtain shitloads of win win situations in your life. At their core they know they are just people and that at the end of the day all that shit is just a hat they wear. then women.

but not to define me. or people trophies I.1. Be and do everything you ever wanted to do. enough Gandhi shit from me for one day……… sha boy…………………Braddock 25 . “I have this girl on my arm so now I’m somebody. but don’t attach your entire identity to external events. I want it for me. Alright. possessions. Go at it like you will fucking die in 6 months.4 do you Bring value or take it???? Go become the baddest mother fucker you can.” Do all this shit because you really just want it in your life.e.

covered in thiS chapter:
2.1 oneitis?? - fuCK oNeItIs - How to Get over Her - The Benefit of Moving on

2.2 Q & a on Love - the Chemical Additiction - the Dumper Vs. the Dumpee 2.3 Girl has a Boyfriend, But i Know She Likes me - What Would Murder Her Attraction - the right Way to play it 2.4 “i don’t chase......i replace.” - the Abundance Mentality

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http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/61174-oneitus.html Jazz flute is for sissy fairy boys and so is oneitis. I’ve had a lot of people emailing me recently asking how to get over a oneitis. Here is a post that I made a while back that I think is useful.

fucK oneitiS
losing a girl feels worse than a kick in the fucking nuts. You would do anything to leave this site and just have her back and all your pain would go away! Yeaaaaaahh! listen man, I know this doesn’t help now and it will only help if you’re the kind of guy who takes massive action in the face of crippling pain. But, I’m telling you I was dating a fucking amazingly hot, cool, smart girl. she dumped me. I thought I was going to fucking die!!! bla bla bla right? Worse year of my life. Guess what though man.... I know this is cliché, but I’m glad we are done. Yeah, I still miss her at times, but fucking shit, look where I’ve come! If I had her back now, I’d be the same guy. I’ve pushed myself to new heights in so many areas of my life. If you get back with that “perfect” girl, your pain will leave for a while, but when you’re old someday, you will wonder what life would have been like if you would have fucking let go and became who you are about to be. she was, and is, holding you back. let it sting only for a few moments per day. she is controlling your ass and she doesn’t even want to be. Bitch slap the fuck out of yourself and decide that only you will control your happiness. You enjoyed that girl, you miss her, you are sad at times, but you wouldn’t change a fucking thing. Get tHere GoD DAMN It!!!!! Don’t lay in this shitty feeling. I’ve been there. I almost lost my job over it. I almost didn’t go to law school over it. What a fucking joke. take full responsibility for who you are and don’t look back. In 1 year, if you put in the work, you will laugh at this girl. listen man, I know it hurts, I spent an entire year suffering over a girl. lost weight, neglected my life, and burned a full YeAr of my short life hurting over a fucking girl!! WHAt?!?!?!? 27

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understand that there are literally BIllIoNs of GIrls. the guy you will be in a year is not the guy that this hoe rejected, but oNlY if you take proper action. Don’t let that fool you though. Don’t change and become better for this girl. Do It for You!!!! I know. You hurt and you only want to know what will make you feel better in this moment. take the pain, recover and move forward. tHere Are BIGGer AND Better tHINGs out tHere! But, but, Braddock I love her!!! she’s different, you don’t’ understand!!!!” every guy on this site has said that weak shit. You don’t find this site on accident. No Goddamn it, step up to the fucking plate and tell yourself No fuCKING More! this bitch better enjoy today, cause it’s the last day I will giver her my power and allow her to choose how I will feel about myself and life. I will better myself everyday and one day I will reflect on this and realize that she was a cool chick and I hope she is happy. I have taken myself to a new level and it’s all for the better that she dumped me, cause at my new level I would have had to dump her. respect yourself and allow her no more real estate in your head and let’s start moving to positive things. the work will be hard and you will have highs and lows. Decide that you are going to better yourself a little today. A little every day and all of a sudden you will look up and you won’t recognize who you are. You won’t need this bitch’s validation. You will be battle hardened and you will love the new you. right now that is hard to believe. fine. Don’t believe me, just trust me. every day when you wake up and your fucking chest hurts, just close your eyes and say, “today might be tough, but I’m going to take at least one step toward making myself a better person than I was yesterday.” Do this for a full fucking year and you won’t even remember who you were. the alternative is to wallow in your bullshit and piss and moan and wish things were different. “only if you had her back your life would be perfect. If only you had her back, your grades would be good. If only you had her back, you would work out and get the body you’ve always wanted.” BullsHIt! Accept who you are and kill that weak mother fucker. tell yourself you are sad about her, but that something has to die for something new to grow. I miss her, but it had to happen for the new me to become a reality.

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there is no other option. But what you choose to do right now will determine who you are for the rest of your life. It hurts so goddamn bad! I know it does. take the pain and push through it. Braddock 29 .1 oneitis?? step up hommie! It hurts. step up to this challenge and take it head on like a fucking man. the only way through hell is straight through it.2. Best.

Question: “Does anyone know how love works chemically?” 30 .html I get a lot of emails about this and I also get a lot of emails asking me how to get an old girlfriend to like you again.com/braddock/82719-q-love.theattractionforums.2.2 Q & a on Love http://www.

It turns out that our brain is hardwired to attach a specific emotional footprint to everything. It makes you sad because you instantly think of that moment when you felt so good and then your body is thrown back to the present moment of realizing that you don’t have access to her and the feelings (peptides) she gave you.2. If the pull is strong enough (the addiction). or drive by her house. After feeling this way for a long time. breaking up). It has evolved to put this peptide footprint on all of your memories to protect you. In any relationship (good or bad). but if the hurt/addiction is strong enough. every experience (good or bad). in an attempt to get those feelings (peptide rush/your fix). and to every memory you have. that feeling (peptide rush) is a nice safety mechanism to keep you from making that same mistake over and over. email her. you may know this is a stupid thing to do. then this explains why it’s so hard to move on after a breakup and why it’s so hard to experience change.2 Q & a on Love answer: Based on my reading and study of the brain.” More specifically. It wants you to remember to move toward pleasure and away from pain. it seems that the scientific definition of love would be “chemical addiction. you will get a feeling (peptide rush) of anxiety or fear when you look at/go near a stove for the rest of your life. When they do break up. this is why you might feel sad when you hear a song that you and your old girlfriend used to listen to when you were at your happiest point in your relationship. love is an addiction to the peptides you have created and associated to a specific person. you will act despite the fact that you know it’s a stupid move. every memory is painful because it is a reminder that you are no longer getting those chemicals. your brain will fire off a batch of peptides that will make the experience of the relationship feel in a way that both parties become accustomed to. every person you meet. you will feel compelled to call her. Why would your body do this to you? Why would it put you through this? It’s actually just doing its job. Does anyone have a friend who still talks about his high school football days and he graduated 5 years ago? 31 . If every memory has a different peptide tied to it. this reminder comes in the form of pain. this is why you might hear a song that you haven’t heard since high school and you immediately smile and have a flash back of riding in a car with all of your old high school buddies. both of their bodies will become so used to feeling this way that they will feel discomfort and pain at even the idea of not having those chemicals (Ie. this is why when you burn your hand on a stove at 4 years old. On a logical level.

Take his fix away and you have a mumbling drug addict scrambling around feigning for a hit. the dumpee is CrusHeD not because of the fairy tale bullshit reasons we all hear in love songs and movies….that’s simply the physical form of the true reason…. back. cheating. He will mistake this feeling for love for her. he graduates and football. The pain can be so bad that you will do ANYTHING to get your fix (her). then you will suffer from the exACt symptoms of a drug addict who is suffering from the withdrawal pains the first couple of weeks when they’re in rehab. Can you see how this plays out in the same way when a relationship ends and why some relationships that loGICAllY should end. they can walk away with little or no pain. their logical mind tries to pull them away through fighting. He will give you all kinds of excuses and rationalizations for why he needs the drug.2. It is also likely that nothing in his life has given him an equivalent rush since. If the feeling you shared with that girl created a peptide cocktail that felt so good it made you euphoric. what he does now is constantly talk about it. He will think that she must have been the greatest woman on the planet. He had likely been playing football for years and then all of a sudden.” All this is bullshit. watch ESPN 15 hours per day. “If I feel this bad. never do? even though the feelings are long gone and they now hate each other. etc…. I must have made a huge mistake.2 Q & a on Love Why is he doing this? Because if he was good at football then he likely has a very good feeling (peptide rush) attached to any memory of football. is ripped from him. that is the talk of a logical man who is getting his fix. but it’s like telling a crack addict he needs to quit. the dumpee is crushed because someone has taken their drugs when they were still highly addicted. even if you were telling your friends a week ago that she annoyed you and that you kind of wanted to shop around. He is still going through the withdrawals (just like a drug addict). 32 . so. If that drug is ripped from you when you aren’t ready. but at the end of the day their addiction pulls them back together so they can get their fix. arguing. Why is the dumper usually ok and the dumpee always crushed? It’s just like the football player example from above.No. they can’t leave because it means an end to the source of the most powerful drug (peptides) their bodies have ever experienced. and even watches his old high school films because it gives him a small fix of those old peptides that used to make him feel so good. the dumper slowly broke their addiction over time by weaning themselves of the other person until they are no longer addicted. once this happens. the source of his good feeling (peptide rush). He is an addict. then you are ingesting a very powerful drug.

in our new Inner Game seminar.2 Q & a on Love this is also why so many men and women will “relationship hop. and how it affects us. game. -Braddock 33 . they will dump one and replace them with one similar and get the same feeling (peptide rush). If they never break this cycle they will literally replay the same bad relationship over and over and over with new people for the rest of their lives. every girl or guy they date is almost exactly the same and they may even bitch about not being able to find a good guy or girl. these people are addicted to having a relationship. Mr. M and I go into great detail on the role of peptides and addiction in many areas of life. They will just keep finding a new person who fits the bill close enough to give them the peptides their bodies crave.2. This is because they haven’t hit pause long enough to get over their current addiction.” ever have a friend who CoNstANtlY has to have a girlfriend? Instead of becoming addicted to one person.

they are. It’s possible that things are rocky and that she is just working out the final death throws of that relationship. so during the last month of my work there.” but instead of that. jus like how we were in a working environment. everything is usual and fine for a few months and becoz this work for me is a temporal work. for all you know. but sometimes. she told me frm in the early stages of our conversation.pushing for a relationship with her. so we resume back on msn. right now. i give a shit. I’ll tell you what will MurDer tHIs!!! . Maybe that’s not the case. then the worst thing you can do is push or act in any way as if you are emotionally not getting enough from her. If that is the case. i had ran thru EPM there then. she is getting to have her cake and eat it too. Maybe you are right. answer: It would take me 3 hours to write “how exactly to progress things along. but now.2. i seeded stuffs from my home that she HAS to see. how i can find out this and move things further between me and her. so the question is.theattractionforums. things started to heat up. up til a point. then i made a date with her on the phone. we were normal. But i Know She Likes me http://www. when we first met. we had long conversations on msn. We don’t like to think girls are like that. got blown away if i remember correctly coz that was a few months back. i knew a girl frm a working enviroment.com/braddock/108183-girl-has-boyfriend-but-i-know-she-likesme-braddock. i have a good problem to share here.html originally posted by massive Hey guys. she fucking loVes this guy. i full close her on the 2nd time she was here. we wanted to meet and she comes to my place. i didnt give a shit then. 1) she has a bf in that same working environment.3 Girl has a Boyfriend. but enjoys banging you. 34 . i wont be hangin around for long. lets hear your inputs. and i knew about this all along. obviously she isnt satisfied/happy with her bf but there is something still lingering on between them that is causing her to still be with him.

remember. I found myself being drawn to the other girl. “look.(Yes eVeN If Your CHest Is BurNING AND You HAVe to puNCH A WAll After You Drop Her off) Man up. calmly go with it while still making her wonder if she’s got you. I just got out of an emotionally draining relationship. I might have liked you if we would have kept this up and you would have flipped the script and pulled back on me once you knew I liked you.. but you didn’t. girls are emotional creatures. laid back. feel needy and insecure and reach hard emotionally and make you feel like she likes you soooooo much! then when you reciprocate hard and fast.” (translation: I liked fucking you. you are acting like we are dating.2. the few girls who have been able to slowly hook me in these situations are the ones that stayed cool. as we all know. I just got out of a relationship. but you had dated her so long that it was hard to walk away. Instead.. and just straight up made me feel better and have more fun than the other girl I was dating. and you are stressing me the fuck out). over time. -Braddock 35 . In summary: Be cool. I’m having fun. Make her escalate the situation. Be spontaneous and fun. But i Know She Likes me Have you ever been in her shoes? You were done with one girl. Don’t let her know exactly how much you like her.3 Girl has a Boyfriend. much less the guy on the side. she is having a hard time giving her BoYfrIeND all she has. However. then you start hooking up with a new girl and you are getting to have that fun and free feeling with her. she pulls the rug out from under you and says. value changes focal points. she may even dump this guy. and when she does. then all of a sudden she feels your distance and starts getting all needy and pushy and kills the whole point of hooking up with her.. fuck the shit out of her. I think I just need to be single and figure some things out. As loNG As she didn’t get too emotional too fast.

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finally our friend who was being a pussy looked at the Godfather and said: Weak sauce: “Hey man. He went on and on and the Godfather just stared at him and said nothing the entire conversation. strangely.i replace” It’s been a while since I’ve shared any of the wisdom imparted on by one of my friends and mentors from college I call. every girl that comes along. I remember one time we were talking with one of our friends who was being a complete pussy around this girl he wanted.. It was fucking disgusting! My friend was talking to me and the Godfather and kept rambling on and on about how she treated him like shit and how frustrated he was.. texting her all the time. our buddy was calling her all the time. the Godfather wasn’t trying to be rude. the underlying theme is always that of abundance. the Godfather.4 “i don’t chase.. it was just a glimpse into his inner game and how his mind operates. If he would come from a place of abundance (either through actually dating a lot of women) or simply by accepting and believing that there are always plenty more.2. this shift in mindset would have been the exact recipe to get the girl to stop being so distant. he would develop a mini crush on and get messed up inside.” even though my friend was hurting. I couldn’t help but laugh. M and I. he believed he couldn’t get another one. In no way am I saying you shouldn’t pursue a woman or give up on a girl who is giving you the run around (if you have ever taken social Circle Mastery with Mr. He kept asking us for strategies and bullshit tactics for how he could get her to come around... our friend was coming from a really weak place mentally. I replace. what would you do if you were in my situation?” the Godfather: “I don’t chase man. He had no other girls (which is no big deal) but even worse. and would drop anything he was doing to hang out with her if she called him. 37 . he would never feel much turmoil over a girl that was giving him the runaround. then you know we have an entire model for running slow burn game) but.

I fucking replace. “You need water.4 “i don’t chase.. but the second you “need” her.. If you ever lost a woman during a relationship it is likely because you started to “need” her instead of “want” her. you are fucked.” so start internalizing the mentality.2. this abundance mentality should never end.you don’t need any individual’s love or approval.. stop BeING A pussY!!!! As Wayne Dyer says...... “I don’t chase. air.i replace” It’s ok to “want” a girl. and food.” -Braddock over and out 38 .

dinner.What Would Murder Her Attraction 39 .3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone .Medium fuses . drinks .1 to the new Guys! .long fuses 3.short fuses .What types of Girls Are You Working With? .learning Game the right Way 3.covered in thiS chapter: 3.2 dates: Lunch.

once you’ve been on here a while and you’ve done a bunch of approaches.theattractionforums. It can change your life with women and make your life better all around. -Braddock 40 . they are not super heroes. once your inner game is super solid then your outer game will explode.html Quick advice I wish someone would have told me when I began: Don’t try to learn it all at once. Don’t read every post on here and believe it as if it was written by the hand of God. Whatever amount of time you plan on allotting to pickup whether that is 1 hour per week or 20 hours.1 to the new Guys! http://www. Most guys get on here and read. Don’t do that!!!! You don’t get good at playing the guitar by reading about the guitar. you will be able to quickly determine which posts are valuable and which ones are written by a guy that has probably never done a single approach. read. read. but they have never actually done it. Work on your inner game an equal amount that you work on your outer game. you play that bitch some more! learn a little piece at a time and only try to add a piece at a time. even the best of the best on here are just guys. You play that bitch until your fingers hurt. make sure that you spend 80% of that time going out and actually doing approaches. A lot of guys on here write a bunch of bullshit to sound cool. and then.com/braddock/61184-new-guys. Good luck! stick with it.3.

html originally posted by samirnyc View post Hi Guys I just want to hear different opinion about the first date or meeting if you do day game . drinks http://www. The question I struggle with is ask a girl out for drinks only for the first time .2 dates: Lunch. she did not show up so I ignored her on tuesday and was cool to her today. Dinner: I usually dont do dinner unless if the girl is from my social circle .3. no sexual escalation at lunch unless you can have lunch sex ( my work wife does it . so I know girls will go out for lunch to get fucked) Drinks are good as the girls know they dont have to sit with you for long if things dont go well. value at first meeting and then asked her to come to a bday party.com/braddock/108163-dates-braddock-lunch-dinner-drinks. Sometimes from a logistics point of view lunch makes sence as most girls have nothing set up with BF or friends so they will agree to come out with you more often. dinner. so you can build comfort and attraction. outing. will engage her again tomorrow (kinda of mini freeze so she knows im not desperate and preserve value) I am wondering should I ask her our for lunch and build comfort & value and then ask her out for drinks on friday or just go for drinks ? Thanks 41 .theattractionforums. The reason I ask is b/c I have this new girl HB 9( she upped her dressing) at work and I have done some kino .

All your jokes hit. she plays along with all your jokes. it would be ridiculous to invite her straight to your house. medium fuse: This is the category I find most girls in. With a medium fuse I would go for the drink or a group meet up. she likely would never answer your call or text again. Long fuse: Girl that rarely replies. one time she is cool. she’s on and off the grid. the next time she is cold or distant. A drink is a “maybe” but it might still be too much pressure. “You guys should meet us at x. I always say play lazy man’s game and get the most done with the least amount of effort. I usually just say. the times I do make contact and extend an invite. dinner... dinner. What I do with these girls is patiently and persistently text or call them a few times a week oNlY. she wants to hang out. It would probably make her uncomfortable if you invited her straight over to your house to hang out. “What are you doing? Wanna come over and watch a movie?” skip the middle man and invite her straight to your house. she allows you to go sexual.. etc. picture each woman you meet as a stick of dynamite with a different fuse length. a real date. However.. drinks answer: I usually go based on investment and I use the same dynamite stick idea as I use in my phone and text game book.2 dates: Lunch. Short fuse: Girl that wants you really bad. and only push for the meet up every 4th or 5th time I make contact. With a short fuse. With a short fuse you have the option of going to get a drink. it goes something like.. she initiates fairly often..” 42 . With a long fuse.3.pretty much anything is on the table.

-Braddock 43 . drinks this takes the pressure off of her and leaves her the option of meeting up under laid back conditions.3.2 dates: Lunch. dinner. the idea is to burn long fuses down to short fuses.

As you get better you will fall into friend mode less and less. listen only mockingly.. girl that I think is cool. At least she’ll be around??? fuCK tHAt!!! slowly go for it. fat girl with tons of hot friends. then. If you push the envelope with her you are running the risk of losing her for good.3. I don’t know how you act around her. Don’t be a shoulder to cry on. at least you can feel better inside knowing you took your best shot. the reason you need to get away from her for a while is because it’s hard to change the frame from friend to sexual. If I want a girl she may or may not date me. Do talk to other girls while trying to get out of friend mode. practice staying out of friend mode with new girls. move on. pivot. html start with this.. come back and change the frame. It’s going backwards. But. Don’t set out to make her jealous. so go for it. Don’t play therapist. If she talks to you about other guys. Make fun of her plight and never feel sorry for her on this kind of shit. When you do spend time with her. If you can’t handle that. get away from her so she can’t affect you emotionally. see if this is an isolated situation or see if this is a reoccurring theme. but not attracted to.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone http://www. do’s: After you have spent some time away from her. but she will not slot me in friend mode.theattractionforums. but be willing to lose this girl. Allow her brain to lose some of the associations she has toward you. Now. Win her? Great! she says no thanks? fine.. then just stay in friend mode. to try and physically escalate her at this point will feel weird 44 . it’s strategic. but realize this alone won’t guarantee anything. You obviously like her.. if I make a friend that’s a girl.. Just go game other girls and get more women in your life. start to slowly treat her differently.com/braddock/63998-braddocks-prescription-move-out-ljbf-zone. spend less time with her for a while. you are most likely not calibrated to do that without her knowing what you are trying to do. but don’t laugh at what she says unless it’s truly funny.. You must realize that you can’t go at her afraid to lose.

you won’t run an opener.. fuck that. You need to reemerge as a sexual guy who wants her. think long term not short term. the always there for her “buddy” is no more. You don’t have to escalate hard and fast. but you will start alllll over in attraction and run all the phases properly this time. but doesn’t need her. usually. he started off in comfort instead of attraction and/or he didn’t escalate kino at all. when a guy falls into friend mode. soooo. but may not change it. the Short term prescription: Get the fuck away from her for a while. Being reactive is not attractive. You are going to read Magic Bullets if you haven’t and start all over with this girl. time away will help remedy this. think I want to become more attractive to women in general. you will just look like you are trying to do something.3.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone to you and her. But. stop trying to be the perfect guy for “her. Go get a few other women in your life.. Don’t avoid her. if you try to do that tomorrow without time passing. Next time you see her you can send mixed signals and set a new tone for kino escalation. You won’t actually say the words from above. No. then you have no use for her. spend more and more time thinking about other girls and less putting this girl on a pedestal in your mind. but make yourself scarce.” fuck the “how can I get her” mentality. 45 .. Becoming a more attractive guy overall and needing her less and less will help you become more attractive to her. even if you’re dying to see her. If she doesn’t want you in the same way. Come back in a few months with a different frame in mind. but you must kino or it’s off to the friend zone again. You want her in a way that does not include shopping or hearing about her boy problems.. you will convey them. You seeing her after time has passed allows you to do several things.

and eventually. then. you are going to have to do what I said above. right anyway. But. if you say. When she does. Realize. realize and be ok with the idea that you may lose her for good. there is no quick fix or line for your situation.3. so.3 the prescription to move out of the LJBf Zone Hope this helps. take some time away and then come back and pull the trigger!!!! You can do it man! Good luck. I think this will work itself out over time if you stick with learning all of this stuff. -Braddock 46 . he will expect her to remove you more and more as her friend and you won’t want to be there to watch her happily with Mr. come back and pull the fucking trigger.” just realize that you have already lost her to some other guy although she hasn’t found him yet. “I can’t risk that.

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The first woman you approach essentially feels like it’s the big game. would he feel anxiety? of course. they have just desensitized themselves to the pain through repetition and carry a mindset focused on long term gratification over short term gratification. realize that everyone feels approach anxiety. 49 . it simply requires you to develop a new habit. these guys are not super human. sure. You must cultivate the habit of right action over emotion. No one is watching and no one is judging you. who never gets nervous in the batter’s box. on bootcamp. You are feeling nervous for a whole host of reasons. develop the habit of right action over emotion If you really want your approach anxiety to go away. once you have that down you can start hitting soft toss. you can move to the pitching machine. If I took the best dating coach in the world who says he has zero approach anxiety and threw him in the batter’s box against a major league pitcher who throws 100mph. is killer. If I took the most calm. If you mess that up. By the time the season rolls around. you get to start off on a tee with no one watching. you are ready.1 approach anxiety your War against fear some of the worst feelings in my life have come when I have chosen to avoid something I wanted out of fear. and those who feel it the least are the ones who have done the most approaches. cool. but mainly because. the weekend forces the guys to get mass exposure like they’ve never experienced. you are doing something you have very few reference experiences in. you don’t get to slowly graduate up to the World Series. then a real pitcher. Knowing that I logically wanted something and then didn’t go for it because I succumb to a bunch of emotional rationalizations that are 95% bullshit. In pickup. once you have that down. collected major league baseball player. and took him a bar. but you can manage it. You can do all of this in the off season with no one watching. In baseball. which I will explore in great detail later in this article. They have faced that fear so many times that it has lost its hold.4. and forced him to approach a beautiful woman he didn’t know. you will always feel something when you approach. no big deal. would he feel anxiety? of course. we almost always cure 85%-90% of a guy’s approach anxiety by the end of the weekend.

the fear of rejection is the most damaging because it can literally be crippling. approaching in front of old friends We all know that failure is unavoidable in any new endeavor and that the lion share of failure takes place at the beginning of learning something new. My favorite self help guru. If you only ride that roller coaster once or twice a month. says. or would you put his ass on a roller coaster again and again? Just like any other habit you want to create in your life. remember. especially early in the learning process.4. through repetition. and fear of failure. However. “Fortunately. far beyond all else. By removing those factors. let’s look at a few that you can remove: 1. then you will surely feel the rush with the same intensity as you did the very first time you ever road it. several factors are within your control. there are certain factors that predispose us to heightened levels of fear or anxiety. we are crippled with the fear of rejection. the habit of courage can be learned just as any other habit is learned. the fastest way to ensure that you have approach anxiety for the rest of your life is to only do one or two approaches every now and then. If you wanted to help a friend get over the fear of riding roller coasters would you have him read 300 books and spend 5 years on a psychologist’s couch. some of them are unavoidable and in regards to those. It is a cancer that can literally hold you in a self-imposed prison keeping you from taking the necessary action required to meet a specific goal. remove the road blocks in your mind that are holding you back. there are several factors in regards to approach anxiety that make this fear of rejection heightened.” While there are infinite things we could be afraid of. this is done through repetition. at our core.1 approach anxiety If you rode a roller coaster 500 times in a row. usually. Brian tracy. you need to man the fuck up. we reduce the level of anxiety to a manageable level. this means that your fear of rejection is not 50 . We need to constantly face and overcome our fears to build up the kind of courage that will enable us to deal with the inevitable ups and downs of life unafraid. you would eventually lose the ability to get a rush from riding it.

or watch our friends and family experience their own ups and downs.1 approach anxiety completely unfounded. richard restak says. As we interact with colleagues. once you are over your approach anxiety you can start chasing girls in front of those guys and it won’t be such a big deal. get rejected quite a bit when you approach women. remedy: Knowing that you are trying something new and scary. having insight into the feelings of others enables us to understand what they value. especially in high stress situations. to offer appropriate support or gain competitive advantage. approaching in a Local venue I’ve spent the last 2 years of my life studying every book I could get my hands on that had to do with the brain and how it works. and aren’t judging us. You don’t want the role in your group to change. one thing that I see consistently in the books I’ve read on neurobiology is the brain is a horrible multi tasker. Dr. this retarded my growth on a massive level. Go out with the one or two guys who you are most relaxed around and don’t feel like you would be judged. and to predict their future behavior. how they feel about us. When I was first learning this stuff.4. As ridiculous as that frame of mind might be. by simply removing them on the nights I wanted to work on this stuff I was able to fight just one demon that night: my crippling approach anxiety . and to get rejected in front of them could create a level of social pressure from them that you are not sure you are willing to accept. on the nights when you are going out to work on this stuff. What can make this even worse is the fact that you are trying to learn this in front of old friends who have never seen you behave in this new way. You will. it’s very helpful when attempting something new and stressful. I couldn’t go out with my older brother and his friends because I couldn’t stand the thought of looking bad in front of them. you don’t want to be openly ridiculed by them. don’t go out with the guys who add to your stress. “the MpfC springs into action whenever we direct our attention inward and think about ourselves or outward and think about others. An area of our brain that this drastically affects is the medial prefrontal cortex (MpfC). We all thrive when we deal with people who we feel understand us. I was paralyzed and did nothing. compete with opponents. While this is less important in most situations.” The medial prefrontal cortex fires up not only when we actually experience an event. By going out with them and wrestling two demons at once. respond well to us. You have a well-defined role within that circle. but also when 51 . 2. the last thing you need is extra pressure from your friends. and you don’t want to be ridiculed behind your back. in fact. especially in the beginning.

This means that our attention gets scattered and fractionated like crazy in high stress situations. your MpfC will be doing back flips trying to assess how they feel about you.1 approach anxiety we ‘think’ about experiencing an event. you are obviously pulled away from your speech and you lose focus. Your mind can’t keep up with all the inputs and it’s almost impossible to focus. you are so concerned with what the crowd is thinking that you can’t even talk. kind of know. What if I get blown out and she knows someone I know? My ex girlfriend is in here. You become more and more self conscious every time you lose your place in your speech and the MpfC fires off more concentrated and much more often. What if I use a line and she’s heared it before? she’ll tell everyone in here. scanning to assess how they ‘might’ feel or what they ‘might’ be thinking. he’ll probably say something smart ass to me. You feel disoriented and anxious as a result. If I get blown out in front of him. You are in a bar full of people you either know. the more we are concerned with what the other person thinks about us. “What if it goes wrong? I’ll never be able to show my face in here again. Now all of a sudden you decide to approach either these groups of people or approach strangers in front of these people. Before you know it. Now you can’t stop thinking about what all these people in the bar who you kind of know are thinking about you. the more our MpfC will fire off.4.” Now your MpfC is scanning the room at lightning speed trying to assess the feelings of everyone 52 . or have seen multiple times. It also fires off when we think about putting ourselves in the shoes of another person looking back at us. what if she or one of her friends sees me get blown out? that asshole I knew in college is in here.. You will oscillate between: full attention on your speech --> What they are thinking about me? --> full attention on your speech --> What are they thinking about me? …. The fear of rejection and failure kicks in and fires off your MPFC.over and over etc… each time this happens. this explains why you feel like you are naked on stage when you are in your local bar trying to approach. If you are scared of public speaking and you are speaking to a group of important clients. this is essentially like driving drunk.

hi. You may still feel like you are on tV.4. because of approach anxiety. but not with such ferocity. instead of HBo on sunday night at 9pm. then at some undetermined time in the future. you will still feel the pressure and your MpfC will still scan the room. you plan to start approaching. 3. When I was learning this stuff and approach anxiety was my number one concern I would drive to cities 1 hour. What this causes is the death of action and the birth of a guy who reads for months and never actually approaches. you can slowly test the waters in the places that gave you the most pain. this kind of thinking is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. If I’m going to go over there. i don’t know what to say this is a pretty common. eventually. remedy: DoN’t prACtICe IN tHese plACes!!!!!! It’s that simple. What kind of fool goes up to a woman and says. sometimes even 4 hours away so I could practice in a place where I didn’t feel like I was on national television. You will be more apt to keep your composure and stay in the moment. You now feel like you have 50 video cameras on you and the thought of approaching feels about as scary as pulling your cock out on national tV.1 approach anxiety in the room. yet avoidable. I don’t want to be like that. “Any idiot can have the balls to go over there and make a fool of himself. I know I felt the same way when I was learning this stuff. I want to at least have something to say. You begin to think that you should read and study pickup ebooks and memorize every possible routine and funny line. 53 . but it will feel more like public access channel 13 at 3am. your local bar won’t seem that daunting and you will have little or no trouble approaching a woman in these venues. and then stands there like a moron?” that’s actually a fair point. thinking like this can cause more long term damage than you can imagine. once you get comfortable with your approach anxiety in these places. What really happens is that you read an insane amount of information and NeVer digest any of it. Yes. You might be thinking. 2 hours. Your mind never hardwires any of the concepts and you become a master of theory and you actually get worse with women instead of better. sadly.

and if. You read and assume. bad or good interactions. and really master them before moving on to the next piece. While the lines and routines are extremely powerful. stick with them until your approach anxiety drops to a reasonable level and you feel like you have those down.000 things there are to learn in game and learn them one at a time. your brain locks up and gives you massive approach anxiety because you have all this information in your head. If you can’t open then there is no reason to be reading about the newest qualification technique or sexual frame to have. will help you connect the dots between each piece of new information you acquire. Advanced concepts mean nothing if your brain 54 . Change your mission. Approach anxiety is the first one on that list. pick one or two things to open with and one or two things to transition with. You become over stuffed with random knowledge. Give up on the idea that you need to have the perfect thing to say before you approach a woman.1 approach anxiety reading without practical application through real world experience causes you to develop major gaps in your learning. You build false constructs in your mind of what the author really means and you create some weird mutation of reality.000 miles begins with a single step. You need to start with small amounts of knowledge. you simply play a guessing game in your head. because each experience seems to validate that you are completely lost. “A journey of 1. When you just read all the time or talk pickup all the time. take the 1.4. When.” take one piece of information and go out and master it before moving on to the next. You are so nervous because you haven’t approached in a long time and when you finally do. the act of actually approaching and interacting with women. but you have no idea what to do with it or what order it should go in. this makes you feel anxiety and frustration. you ever do decide to take action. you still can’t think of anything to say. so. it goes either horribly bad or just ok. remedy: As the age-old saying goes. approaching the next girl makes you even more nervous. digest those. they are worthless in bulk. You feel guilty inside because you feel like you should be really good considering you know theory better than any dating coach on the planet and you wonder how it is possible with all that reading. stick with these 2 things for a while. Your approach anxiety will go away in direct proportion to the amount of women you approach and your ability to master one step at a time.

please. you are just working on beating approach anxiety.4. once you hit that threshold. open. Give yourself a break and tackle this one thing first. you will become bored just approaching and walking off. the recipe: to defeat your approach anxiety. trust me when I say that you will never memorize 300 routines and be able to go out to a bar and use them. it’s about being calm in those situations so you can access what you already know. move on to the next thing on your list that gives you an increased dose of social pressure. realize that there is no reason why you can’t just walk up. you can begin to stay longer and longer. the more times you expose yourself to these situations. Between those two polarities you can expose yourself to gradual increases. they will make things worse because your brain will feel clogged. After numerous approaches over several weekends. and the opposite end of that spectrum might be smacking a girl on the ass. you may run out of things to say after 5 seconds! However. right? As you become more and more relaxed with this process. You will literally build conversational muscles. If anything. It’s not about memorizing more lines. the women won’t care and it will take tons of pressure off of you. but most of them will feel like nothing. You do not have to stand there like an idiot for an hour having an awkward conversation. the lowest form of this may simply be talking to a clothing store clerk. Keep doing the same one until the anxiety it gives you is either manageable or non-existent. The first week you do this. Yes.1 approach anxiety and body are engulfed with crippling anxiety. in time you will obviously need to stay longer. the more material you can add if you like. please. it’s like going to the gym for your brain. transition. Memorizing 300 routines is Not a remedy for approach anxiety or a recipe to get laid. Go out and give yourself mini missions. your brain will allow you more access to the creative side of your brain. you just relax and talk to one another. every time you approach and start a conversation. You don’t need to memorize 300 lines to talk to an old friend. the more calm and the more internalized your openers and transitions become. You might get nervous on the first few of each night. Also. right? 55 . as your mind calms down in these highpressure situations. and then politely eject. but for now. you need to expose yourself to gradual increasing doses of social pressure. no matter how short or long. the more your brain will calm down and begin picking up conversational reference experiences.

At the end of the day. this can create some deep seeded inner game issues that are hard to unwind. Many guys take it personally.1 approach anxiety You will never completely eradicate your approach anxiety and that should not be your goal. this can be a mind trip. If you are not used to dating very many women or you are new to cold approach. this is the path that will lead you to dating those women by giving you the positive reference experience 56 . this is the feeling you have when you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance. facing the harsh reality of “no. When you are talking to a friend or an acquaintance. They assume that if several women reject them. Because of this fear/pain. then most/all women must not like them. it’s them. they assume that the woman sees some deep internal character flaw in them that must be true. then getting over the fear of rejection can feel daunting. This one single factor is enough to keep most guys on the sidelines their entire lives. you write out clearly defined. you are still hitting those small goals. i’m not interested in you”: The fear of rejection can be a heavy feeling when you first start out. they will be relegated to dating the women that come on to them or they will have to build a dynasty of a social circle and hope it creates enough gravity to draw women to them based on their lifestyle and social alliances. You can only pump yourself up for so long and keep telling yourself that it will be ok or that “It’s not you. You will hear “no” from beautiful women and from women you wouldn’t even consider dating anyway. especially in the first 6 to 9 months. you will have to get used to hearing “no” in cold approach. putting yourself in these gradual-increasing levels of social pressure will help you reach indifference much faster. these small goals slowly give birth to bigger and bigger goals. In the sloppy world of cold approach. the absolute ideal state is indifference. You can gain a ton of confidence by hitting small goal after small goal.” This is why it’s so crucial that. it is successful reference experiences that breed confidence. Your goal should be to get it to a manageable level. measurable. and realistic goals. even if you are a guy who is lucky enough to have been extremely successful with women in your social circles. If you are not careful. it is not the least bit uncommon to have below average women look at you like you have a dick growing out of your forehead when you approach. While you may not be getting laid or getting the women you want for that time. you are not too worried about what they are thinking and you have little or no concern about what the room is thinking. because you may be used to beautiful women in your old social circles being all over you or even nervous to talk to you.4.

stop MAKING Your GoAl to Get lAID!!!!!!!! ready for some real talk??? you are not likely to consistently get laid or get an extremely hot girlfriend through cold approach for several months or longer if you are at the stage where you still suffer from severe approach anxiety. Do the same with your dating life. You would set up a game plan and a business strategy full of subsidiary goals all leading to the attainment of the big goal. step back and draw up a realistic 6 month game plan where you can have success. so. stop beating yourself up with ridiculous goals and stop feeling bad when you don’t have some epic sexual conquest or get 5 phone numbers. You can do this. a million dollars. just step up and make it happen!! -Braddock 57 .4. If you are new and you have MAssIVe approach anxiety…. would you get your feelings hurt and become deflated if you weren’t a millionaire tomorrow? 3 months from now? 6 months from now? of course not.1 approach anxiety you need to build durable confidence. If you wanted to become a millionaire.

When you are first starting out and you are just trying to get over your fear of rejection. I would just make the mini missions a little harder each time.. 58 .” I would keep doing these types of things until I could do them with little or no anxiety. do you know which way sunset Blvd is?” “Hi.4. and i could give myself a little advice. i would say: first just start with baby steps.” I would go in with the mindset of accomplishing one mission: • “I’m going to go open her and transition with a cold read and then eject. “excuse me.html Question: What are the steps a guy can follow to go from not really approaching ANY women to approaching at least 1 woman per day with no fear of rejection.? answer: He needs to first set realistic goals. can you tell me what time it is?” etc… I would do this until my mind calmed down in these situations before I tried to graduate up to the more advanced and lengthy conversations. and his measure of success on any one approach is either getting a phone number or getting laid. once I got comfortable with that. once that is under control.theattractionforums. then eject.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and try to ask her one qualifying question before I eject. I would give myself fun “mini missions.. then he is setting himself up for long term failure. I would tell myself to go out and just open girls with information gathering questions and then eject.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and high five her for something random. Do not approach hoping for a phone number. if i had to start all over from scratch.e. If a guy has never done a single approach. and then eject.” • “I’m going to go open a girl and tease her about something and get her laughing.com/braddock/93683-q-approach-anxiety. i. don’t approach with any outcome in mind.2 Q & a on approach anxiety http://www.

run. In the army. It’s like asking. their self concept. and pickup is no different. walk. Don’t dwell on it and don’t try to understand why. even once you reach mastery. Maybe. It is what it is. that would be a great place to start. I would give myself a “there’s no way out rule” where I wasn’t allowed to eject until she either walked off or until I had her phone number.” this is the proper way to attack any new endeavor. “crawl. they need to accept that rejection is part of the process and that we all go through it. and more specifically. jog. don’t waste another second on it. Guys get locked up because they are trying to run when they can’t even crawl. they have a learning strategy called. Their mind. “Why do I have to lift weights and eat right to have a good body?” -Braddock 59 . it locks up and fires off the emotion of fear and anxiety. As a result. can’t identify with running because it has zero reference points to link too. I would create fun new rules. When you give it the mission of “crawl” the self concept can conceptualize that mission.4. Accept it and move on.2 Q & a on approach anxiety once I felt like I could do them with ease.

com/braddock/103560-opening-mixed-groups-guys-girls. If you are getting approach invitations and the guys look like pussies.4. I move on. What’s the best way to open mixed sets? Do you just run any normal opener (e. I always watch for a little while to learn the group dynamic. I’ve done this a bunch of times and never had an altercation.html originally posted by tornadopuA Hey guys. I would either open the girl and introduce myself to the guys if and 60 . you have a couple of options. As tim from rsD would say. A.3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) http://www.) on the guys then ask how everyone know each other and then move on to talk with the girls or do you do some small talk with the guys (on what subjects?) for like 2-3 minutes and then ask him to introduce you to the rest of the group? Thanks. Is kissing cheating. then I would Not go direct right away. but I never do it on a girl that looks like she is truly dating a guy. If they are holding hands or overly comfortable with simple touching. Tornado answer: 1. etc. 2. only when the guys are standing around her and she looks bored.theattractionforums. If I can tell they are dating. B. Long Distance Relationship.” It’s pretty awesome when you can make this hit. you can usually tell. “you turn everyone around her into spectators.g. Drunk I love yous. If you don’t have approach invitations/or the guys look like normal to tougher guys. there are too many girls to try to mess with that and it’s a quick way to get in a fight. When actually opening mixed sets. It’s pretty risky and you better make sure the guys around her aren’t meat head guys that get pissed easy. then I would just go direct on the girl and the guys will usually melt away. You can usually tell if they are dating just by watching how they interact with one another.

3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) when they tried to come in. If he’s not. and don’t act like you did something wrong. and say. Be warm to him just long enough to get his respect and then move back to the girl. I usually smile and turn to her. the key question that everyone knows you must ask if you don’t know is: “so. In that case. When a guy like this says that. Most people in the community dismiss the art of “Guy Game. He’ll act like a dick and try to dismiss you and the woman will start to act more dismissive to you as well. Meet the rest of his group if he is a warm guy. Just be polite as if you are meeting a stranger on a plane. I won’t ask this until I think the girl is somewhat attracted to me or if I can tell the guy is getting mad. “You didn’t tell me this is your boyfriend? How long have you guys been dating?” If she likes you she will almost always clarify the situation and make it awkward for the guy. just ignore him and continue going after her. Now. C. You weren’t flirting with her technically. pussy orbiter guys will answer the same question with. You are just a chatty guy who happened to start a conversation with his girlfriend. If it’s legitimately his girlfriend then don’t just run off.4. but it’s actually quite useful for getting you out of potentially dangerous situations and quite powerful for quickly making friends and getting introductions to really hot girls. Don’t be a dick and don’t act like you are doing something wrong. “this is my girlfriend” even though it’s clearly not. Just talk to him as if he is an old friend. Don’t kiss his ass either. find a natural place to excuse yourself and move on. If you act like you are doing something wrong then the guy will smell the fear and blow you out. sometimes.” which may sound silly. You can open the guy. Put his mind at ease by talking to him and getting to know him a little bit. 61 . that looks weird. how do you guys know each other?” You can tell pretty quickly after asking this what the score is.

“these girls are really cute..3 opening mixed Groups (Guys and Girls) one of our instructors. then I’ll say...” -Braddock 62 . “I’m kinda talking to that sara girl and that blond over there is dating my cousin. “Did you graduate from oklahoma? You look really familiar?” or. I’ll say. I don’t ever open them with a traditional opener.. which one are you dating?” He’ll.bla bla bla.. is that your girlfriend?” or. or. Calabrese.. Calabrese says that guys are easy. woman in the place.”Are you friends with Brian Hawkins? I swear I met you at one of his parties. “that girl right there is really cute. because there are only 3 things you need to talk to them about to build rapport: sports... sometimes. let me introduce you. and beer. It’s too transparent. then I might say. just to get him laughing. He opens guys quite a bit and almost always ends up meeting one of the guy’s girl buddies.. I just have a 2 to 3 minute conversation about random shit and then I say. oldest. that’s it. because if a guy did that to me I would laugh in his face and quickly dismiss him.4.. pussy. “You guys celebrating something tonight or what?” He’ll say. then (assuming you built a decent rapport) break down the entire group dynamics for you and often times introduce you to girls. I make a statement about how hot the girls are in there. has the best “Guy Game” I’ve ever seen. I make a statement about how he better quit staring at my girlfriend and I point to the fattest. but that blond right there is single and she is a slut.” then. I usually ask them if x local sports team won that night.whatever he says.

covered in thiS chapter: 5.local Vs.2 how to flirt with Women: the art of push/pull - The Definition of Push/Pull .Why Jokes Hit and Why they Don’t .1 Q & a: how can i make Girls Laugh? .How push/pull Works .Creating the right push to pull ratio .the Breakdown 63 . Global themes 5.

A girl coming into your preexisting social circle will laugh at jokes she doesn’t quite get to feel accepted or because she can tell everyone else is responding to you well..html originally posted by barney stintson: so i can crack an endless amount of jokes and teases when i’m with my close friends.any ideas on how to break that barrier? What makes me funny is heavy doses of cheap booze and even cheaper women. a joke about one of those member’s quirks will get a laugh out of everyone.then.. you don’t get that luxury. think of it like this. What I figured out is that I was trying to pull them into humor that required too much insider info for a newcomer. You guys build joke after joke off of themes that have been running for years. In humor. I also noticed that women found my jokes much funnier once I dropped in that I had a 13 inch cock.. A one liner from a favorite movie will have the group cracking up.. As long as they have been on the planet. and have seen at least the top movies.same jokes on girls in cold approach and a God damn tumble weed would roll through the room and you could hear crickets chirp. In cold approach.. maybe. This is what usually manifests with your buddies. you have “local” and “global” themes. “Global” themes are themes that everyone can get and that need zero prior knowledge for them to be understood.com/braddock/126791-q-how-can-i-make-girls-laugh. I’m just kidding.. but its really hard to just get into that same mindset with a stranger.. local themes are themes that are funny only if you have been in that exact situation or had that exact very specific experience. have internet.. 64 . you know specific quirks and character traits of each member of the group. You’ve seen the same movies.5.. since all members know each member very well. Cracking my boys up and girls in my social circle .. I had this same problem. been on the same trips. watch some tV.theattractionforums.1 Q and a: how can i make girls laugh? http://www.. because it probably actually ties in several “local” themes that have been long running. then they will get these jokes.

5.. or. Just tell them you have a 13 inch cock that you want to put in or around their mouth.1 Q & a: how can i make Girls Laugh? these jokes are often less funny. but by starting with these.. and then you can start building “local” jokes with them as the interaction progresses. Jumping in with the “local” jokes is doable. start introducing “local” themes to add spice and conspiracy between the two of you. but it obviously risks them not getting it and making you feel like your cock is hanging out in 2* weather. they can get used to you.. you can open them up to the idea that you are funny. see your style of humor. -Braddock 65 . Introduce a “global” theme and if they laugh. this can happen really fast.

how to flirt with Women: the art of push/pull
http://www.theattractionforums.com/braddock/111917-braddock-how-flirt-women-art-push-pull. html In my years of being a Dating Coach it’s become apparent that the most important and easiest way to flirt with women is to use what is called push/pull. Basic Definition: “Saying something nice and dove tailing it with something mean or saying something mean and dove tailing it with something nice.” On a more advanced level of flirting, using push/pull is the art of using both your physical touch/ facial expressions and your words in unison. this could mean that you tease her about something or playfully call her out on something, yet while doing so, you are smiling, you pull her in and hug her just before she gets mad to show her you are kidding. the guys I know who are the best with women when it comes to flirting, building attraction in the first encounter, building attraction in social circle settings, or maintaining a fun relationship are masters of push/pull. to truly master push/pull you must learn to calibrate to the woman. each woman has her own default push/pull blueprint. some girls‘ blueprint is that they respond best when the ratio is 5 pushes to every 1 pull. With these types of women, they will quickly get bored with a guy who tries to compliment “pull” too often. even with these women, the pull must appear at some point or she will give up, lose interest, and assume you are just a jerk. Other girls’ default blueprint is just the opposite. If you want to properly flirt with these women, you will be best off giving light compliments “pulling” maybe 5 times for every one tease “push.” However, even though each woman has her own default blueprint for when she first meets new guys, this blueprint can quickly change relative to your value. that same woman who would have felt massive attraction to a 5 pushes to 1 pull ratio, will not be receptive to a low value guy attempting such a ratio. However, the woman who responds better to 5 pulls and 1 push and would normally get upset if an average guy teased her too much, will have no problem being teased hard by a guy who she considers extremely high value in her social circle, or by a celebrity.

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Basic example of push/pull: the push: (underlined) the pull: (Bold) I meet a girl, we are flirting, but 10 minutes in I find out she is from Texas. Since I’m originally from oklahoma, there is a natural reason for immediate push/pull. Braddock: “Damn, you’re from texas. (faking disappointment with face and body language) this sucks, you’re really cute and i was just starting to like you, but now I have to break up with you. I’m going to need my CD’s back and my letter jacket. Now that I know you are from texas, I don’t feel so bad about cheating on you. But, you were amazing in bed. this makes me sad.” (pretend to walk away, then come back smiling. she drops her jaw and playfully punches me in the arm. i pull her in, hug her and kiss her on the cheek). Breakdown of the above: the push? (underlined) Any point in the above where I’m saying something mean, pretend to break up with her, pretend to be disappointed, or fake walking away. Go out and practice pushing as hard as you can without pissing girls off. the sweet spot is when she is almost mad, but you can tell she likes that you have the balls to push her buttons, yet the social savvy to release the tension by intermittently complimenting or physically being warm by “pulling.” Go out for a week and mess this up. I give you permission to piss some girls off. this is the only way you will know what the boundary is with this stuff. the more she likes you and the more attracted she is, the harder you can push. this is how you build deep layers of attraction with women. the farther you can successfully take things with the teasing “pushing”, the better it will feel for her when you do release the tension by being warm verbally or physically, “pulling.” the pull? (Bold) Any point in the above where I compliment her, smile, or physically escalate. When you are trying to flirt with women, don’t kill the sexual tension by over pulling.

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Most guys will say, “Just kidding” when the girl wasn’t even mad. save comments like “just kidding” for when you truly piss her off and even then, use it sparingly. Also, don’t kill sexual tension by playfully pushing, but laughing at your own joke too early in an attempt to break the tension, hoping she will ‘be ok with it.’ Have some balls and be ok with creating some tension. this tension is what makes the compliments, “the pull”, actually feel really good. No tension + pulling = no attraction and no secondary gain of the pull feeling good. pulling with no attraction is simply validating her, not causing a connection. Go out and practice complimenting. range them and see what happens. Notice the difference when you give light compliments after several teases. Notice that it doesn’t kill the tension, but actually allows you to push it farther. then try over complimenting too early and being way too nice and notice how it kills the sexual tension and makes it even harder to push the next time. Would you guys like more articles like this? Comment below and let me know. -Braddock

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so go 3 pulls to every 1 push. some girls hate that.. • The less she likes you. the more you just sound like a chump who is jaded by women. “to same night lay a 10. o some girls will need Zero takeaways. • Here you will do takeaways to punish resistance. every woman has a different blueprint and therefore responds to different things. o try them out and see how she responds and calibrate accordingly.pssst)..” • The more she likes you. If you are all push. • The best way to qualify what you are is to disqualify what you ARE NOT.. she likes the jousting and every time you do a takeaway she submits more and more on a sub communication level and eventually she is chasing you and escalating you physically and sometimes logistically.6.1 takeaways for SnLs remember. o this post is a gross generalization. earliest form of takeaways: • Role Play takeaways: o that’s it. As TD would say. o You can fake takeaways. the harder the takeaways can be. you need to be fucking possessed. • The less power you have. stolen from Dog Whisper pssst. but calmly submissive (yes. Some girls like a dick. 71 . Change up the push/pull ratio and find her blueprint. o A perfect balance is when the girl is frustrated. remember how push/pull works. we are getting a divorce. so go 3 pushes to every 1 pull. o some girls will need 100. takeaways are a push in nature. • You have to be fucking fearless when you do takeaways. • Takeaways are best used by acting through your own intentions. but the more you do the less they will hit. she will eventually give up or get defensive. • To get 10’s on a same night or to get 10’s you will usually need takeaways. the lighter the takeaways must be.

I would just be your friend..1 takeaways for SnLs o that’s it. takeaways In Comfort: • Admitting your sexual desires: o “I think you better go. o You have been eliminated. o Give short answers and talk to everyone else (make her feel the burn). so this is date one. but if that’s all you think I want from you after talking to you all night then fuck this….” • “Your friend is starting to piss me off…I think I’m out of here.I know how this story ends. You need to run along…. 3 months of crazy. o I can’t keep talking to you. and a horrible breakup. we are breaking up. if you stick around I’m going to do bad things to you and I promised myself when I saw you. • She says something you don’t like: o Go silent. we aren’t having sex. o (Dubbsy style): “How many dates before I can get in your pants…at least 3 I’m guessing. o Ignore her. o Being almost annoyed by her presence. I always end up dating girls like you. o I fucking hate girls like you. I like you. ok.ok this is date 2…” o This would be all fights and make up sex.“ • Running from your feelings: o I need to get away from you. pulling stage takeaways: • “You know what. o You and I would end up hating each other after about 2 months. o You are fired. o fuck this.. passionate sex.” Beat Her to the punch takeaways: • You are a player aren’t you? • Just so you know. even though I think you are fucking hot. let’s go to the bar…. 72 . o Girls like you are bad for me.I’m out.6. girls like you are bad for me. fights every day.

if you think that’s all I want.. then tonight is a waste of time. I didn’t know you were x. I’m fucking out. fuck it.” o You: “You know what. You know I like you. I’m not having sex with you.don’t come. but I’m not into one night stands. no wait…. but I’m not going to beg you to. I want you to come.” • “I know this sounds weird. if that’s true. no wait.6.” o “look. either come or don’t.” • “Go with your friends.” o “I had no idea you were this judgmental.” • “I want to go.”) • Reversals o “I didn’t think you were like this.” takeaways In seduction : • “Promise me this won’t be a one night stand.” o Girl: “You can’t come in.1 takeaways for SnLs logistic takeaways: • “Look. then fuck this. if you have to listen to your friends then go.” • “If you don’t want to be with me then stay here with your friends.” (organizing principle: “I thought you were awesome. If you don’t trust me…. I do. -Braddock 73 .” suck it.

.6. the moon. and the stars would have to align for someone to have sex with her that night. runs perfect game. http://www. attracted. her friends couldn’t know about it. every girl has a different blueprint that may take one or several of the things mentioned below. the thought of having sex on the same night for some women might be so taboo that no matter how turned on... some women’s threshold is so high that it’s impossible for almost anyone on the planet to get there in one night. the problem is that each woman has a different threshold for what it would take to have sex with a guy the same night. 74 .2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. and comfortable with the guy she was. she wouldn’t have sex.. her threshold might only be met by a guy who looks like Brad pitt.. it had to be the perfect location. these are just generalities.html If you are a guy that is oNlY looking for same night lays. it would almost be impossible. it could happen.com/braddock/103638-same-night-lay-simple-pointers. some women will literally go their entire life and never have sex with a guy the same night she met him because her threshold is so high. If the right guy came along at the right time. remember. If one of those things was off. and other guys are all about building huge amounts of sexual tension through push/pull until the girl basically pulls them into the bedroom (my personal favorite). Maybe one day I will have time to write extensively on same night lay game. even the sweetest girl or most high value woman in the world “could” have a same night lay. some guys are all about building massive comfort. but for now here are a few pointers that should help… SnL threshold: Any girl can turn into a sNl. there are so many things that go into having good same night game and there are so many different styles you can take. and she has to be feeling xYZ feelings etc etc etc. the sun. logistically. some guys go super sexual verbally and escalate really fast. some guys are all about sexual framing. tyler D used to say that it’s all about finding her blueprint. Not because she’s “so moral”.theattractionforums. here are a few things that will help you have more consistent success. but because so many strange variables would have to be covered.

• She flinches when you escalate: I’m not talking about a girl who doesn’t want to look like a slut in front of her friends. the point is that if you are obsessed with same night lays. I’m talking about the woman who will barely let you hold her hand.find out logistics early.2 Same night Lay Simple pointers. screen for girls that have a medium to low same night threshold. I’m just making the case for some women so you don’t beat yourself up every time a woman won’t go home with you. Most girls aren’t like this. then. No. but a woman with a high SNL threshold will flinch hard every time you even hint at bouncing no matter how attracted she is. if she gives major resistance to any of the below….. what I’m talking about are things that are obvious red flags that “most of the time” spell an extremely high threshold that will put the brakes on the same night lay later that night. terrible logistics will override attraction and she will end up not going home with you.MoVe oN!! • Bad Logistics: If she lives 45 minutes away and she is with a carload of friends. she may logistically follow you around the club and would stand there all night long but won’t let you make even the most basic of escalation…. Who did she come with? Who drove? How far away does she live? etc.. (All these assume you understand calibration and assume you have massive attraction) • She flinches multiple times at the idea of bouncing: Most women will give token resistance to bouncing back to your place. I’m not talking about listening to what she says exactly….MoVe oN!!!! 75 . etc… If several of these questions get shit answers….. even if you could pull this girl.. in most cases. So…. you need to get good at reading girls thresholds. I suggest you move on.neXt Set! If you are obsessed with sNls then you will want to screen any girl out that has a moderate to high threshold. who wants to drive her back 45 minutes away in the morning? Besides that.Ie “You know I’m not going to have sex with you..6. right?” We all know what she can say often times betrays what she really feels.

most of your mom’s fall in the “low sNl threshold. and these are generalities. I’m talking about when you know she is interested and she just won’t bite on any kind of sexual role play.. sexual frames. then I’m moving on. • She flinches when you joke sexually: Once again I’m not talking about when you don’t have attraction and you are trying to talk sexual like a horny 7th grader.” -Braddock 76 . remember. sexual qualification etc. same night lays are much more complex than this. obviously.6.….” My mom would of course be in the “high sNl threshold. sexual teasing.If I can’t put her in at least a semi sexual state. but for you advanced guys it should make sense.2 Same night Lay Simple pointers..

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one of my favorite quotes and the foundational pillars of social Circle Mastery is, “proximity is power.” At the end of the day, you guys wouldn’t be doing this if you didn’t want hotter women in your life. If it was just sex or quantity, then, you could just take down a drunk bar pig every night. However, at the end of the day, I got into all of this to date/bang hotter women. (GoD Help Me If ANYoNe oN Here WrItes tHe GAYest sAYING of All tIMe, “But BrADDoCK ...A Hot GIrl Is relAtIVe. WHAt’s Hot to You MAY Be uGlY to Me.”) fuCK You!!!!! ok, moving on. What I have discovered is that at the end of the day, the guys who date the Hottest women Are Not NeCessArIlY the guys with the best game....No. they are the guys with “enough” game... but superior proximity. they are the guys who have consistent close proximity to beautiful women. I know some of my boys back in oklahoma who have some of the best game I’ve ever seen....who AreN’t dating beautiful women consistently. When they come visit me in lA, they smash it. they are like kids in a candy store. However, in Oklahoma, they are fighting for one of the three hot girls in the club or social circle and the margin for error is insanely small. on the other end of the spectrum, I have buddies in lA who have very average game, but they have access to beautiful women through their social circle, and as a result, they are consistently dating hot women. Guys are always asking me, “How do I get hotter women?” they think I’m going to give them some trick line or inner game shift that will set them free and unleash their inner cocksman. they are usually disappointed by my answers...

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” 3....and 1 hot girl..000 times. I can’t be myself. “figure out where there is a large gathering of hot girls.. true 10’s.10 girls. you are still greatly increasing your odds if you are in a room full of beautiful women.. wouldn’t you rather go 3 for 10 in a room full of super hot women? I would.social club. Do you want to make things easy on yourself so you can see her 3. Consistently? No... because she is so hard to replace.” (Guess what...” this is why sCM is so important.” 4. Guys develop major inner game issues over this very simple distinction. “stop beating yourself up wondering why you can’t pull the one 10 out of that shit local bar near your house where there are 300 dudes. “fall into friend mode with at least 3 hot girls who have hot friends..get access to all those clubs that won’t let you in. “Become friends with a few club promoters... I’m great on 6’s and 7’s. you’re 81 . If you pull her. A girl in this club thinks she’s a 15. because in that room she is. so things can happen more organically? I do... even if you are limited to cold approach because you don’t have time to build a social circle. “When I get a hot girl I can’t walk away from her no matter how bad the relationship is.1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” 1. it’s less a measure of skill and more random luck..we all do when we only go to shit bars with one hot girl in them and we can feel that we have one shot and it must be a homerun)..and join that.10 times and not have to be so pushy and desperate. If you normally go 3 for 10 in any club regardless of quality.4... Can you sniper off a 10 in a shit venue? Yes.class.” (Yeah. Do you get a special blue ribbon if you can? No. Create a lifestyle where you are naturally in the path of hot women all the time.....” 2.7. classic inner Game issues Stemming from this: “I get shaky around hot women.. when you snag the one hot girl out of the shit venue after going there 3.hobby. coupled with game and a few lucky logistical breaks.5..

you probably just need less than you think. You need to have some skill.. get blown out by hot girls. and surrounding yourself with a team of cool guys who get it.. It starts with getting your lifestyle together. -Braddock 82 ..1 how do i date hotter Girls? “proximity is power” going to feel a complete lack of abundance). you will get used to being around hot girls. How to penetrate these places and social circles? that’s a whole post in itself. :D ok. (Not “pickup guys. You will warm up on hot girls.) Am I saying you don’t need good game? of course not.” just normal guys who get it and understand this naturally.. getting involved. and land some of those hot girls.7. Your body will calm down and you will start to feel less stressed about any one girl. When you build a social circle full of hot girls and you start penetrating the hottest clubs in your area. next caller.

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It starts with modeling our parents when we are children. If your dad was a weak guy who was just happy to have ‘a’ wife. the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree with most people. you’ll likely find yourself in similar relationships. then through watching our friends. you probably learned that deep meaningful relationships with women are unrealistic and you learned to stay distant and guarded. confident guy? Were you raised by a single mom who was overly religious and guarded? Were you raised by parents who had a healthy. If your dad was overbearing and dominated women in an unhealthy way. what they really mean is. movies. sadly. you’ll likely find yourself dominating women in relationships.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling http://www. who did you accidentally model? Was your dad a smooth. If your dad was a wimp who got pushed around by your mom. these blind spots could rear their head in multiple arenas depending on who you modeled.html modeling the most common way we learn our dating habits is through modeling the behaviors of others. Maybe your dad cheated on 84 . “that guy is a natural”.theattractionforums. then you were probably taught to put women on a pedestal and accept any and all behavior to please her. he had some great modeling as a child. modeling family Just because someone we love and look up to did something a certain way doesn’t make it the best/ right way. etc… When you hear someone say. If your dad was a distant father who cheated on your mom but was loving and charismatic to the rest of the family. he probably taught you to be impatient and bitter toward women in general. we learn these behaviors at such a young age.com/braddock/116314-dating-tip-become-successful-womenmodeling. If your dad married the wrong woman or was cheated on. loving. We do them automatically and have a blind spot to how they might be holding us back.7. and caring relationship? Were you raised by parents who fought all the time and were basically roommates? these models have a profound effect on you and will continue to play out in your own life if you are not aware of them and you don’t change them. We tend to be identical to one or a combination of our parents’ belief systems in regards to love and relationships. When you think back to your childhood. they are now autopilot responses. We must be careful about the lessons we internalize and hold as fact.

when you have a son. and actions. modeling friends I think picking a healthy peer group is one of the most important decisions of your life. Maybe you have a father who you look up to as if he is a superhero and he is amazing in most areas of his life but has a terrible relationship with your mother. and unhealthy boundary function. thought patterns. I have mentors who are great at attracting beautiful women. a good person. some of the most charismatic friends I’ve ever had who could attract the hottest women and sleep with any girl they wanted were absolutely terrible at keeping an amazing woman or having a healthy relationship. However. if you are modeling this. you follow his relationship/dating advice dogmatically because you can’t stand the idea of letting him down. You have vowed to never hurt a woman and you’ve taken it so far that you feel guilty if you even tease a woman or shoot her straight. but this in no way makes them qualified to be a mentor in relationship management. or even great at attracting women. doesn’t mean you should model how he handles relationships. withdrawal. healthy relationship. Just because a friend is a good friend. The relationship becomes a constant power struggle where the primary tools of expressing love are jealousy. You’ll follow his advice even at the risk of marrying the wrong woman and having an unsatisfying relationship for years just so you don’t disappoint him. We often assume success in one area of life must mean success in all areas of life. great at business.7. despite this.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling your mom and you saw how hurt your mom was. 85 . Well. We’ve all heard the saying. so you went the polar opposite. some of those great tactics that cause deep levels of attraction can be taken too far and cause a toxic relationship where it’s nothing but fights and jealousy. you can expect to end up in the same relationship prison. “You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. be careful about modeling their behaviors. because that’s what you modeled. it’s about dominating a woman and making sure she knows who has the power. unless you have seen someone you consider successful in a loving. then.” I couldn’t agree more. It’s not about connecting and dating their equal. you do the same thing to him unknowingly.

overall character. and was on a search and destroy mission to find. and the damage I probably caused in their lives and relationships. every woman in the tri-state area. Be careful about accepting any dating advice as fact and be leery of modeling the thoughts and opinions just because a guy says he’s a dating coach. 86 . they are extremely smart and interesting. unfortunately. I did it….7. I remember after one of my girlfriends dumped me there was about a year and a half where I hated women. jump on any opportunity to help my friends find reasons to dump their girlfriends. it probably is.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling even worse is modeling the unhealthy friend who is jaded by women. it was a horribly unhealthy model for my friends to follow. are not as good with women as they say they are. often times. Be very careful about this or you could find yourself running around a club wearing a top hat and 12 inch platform shoes. I’d joke negative about women. over hype how good they are with women. manipulative. and because I was still good enough to sleep with women despite being jaded. and write tons of blog posts and articles that are half truths at best. disloyal. I’d spew my hate about women to all my friends and look for any shred of evidence I could find to validate my dark views toward them. I saw them as users of men.we all do this. Model specific behaviors. Don’t necessarily model someone’s life. take the time to read numerous posts from that particular dating coach and try to read between the lines and figure out where he’s coming from. and. they spew their negative beliefs onto anyone who is willing to listen.a healthy place? Is it coming from a confident guy who is sharing what works or is he constantly trying to prove himself to an unknown audience? Does it sound like a guy trying to get validation from men by bragging? Is he writing to impress or teach? Does what he say sound WAY too good to be true? If so. my friends couldn’t help but model my behavior. have deep issues. and overall proactive thought patterns. these are the charismatic guys who speak from such a place of authority it can be easy to get sucked into their reality and believe what they say and think. Does it sound like it’s coming from a good place…. and crush. sleep with. I was one of these guys for a while. modeling Gurus one of the biggest mistakes you can make is modeling the wrong dating coach. but because they are either bad with women or were hurt by a woman. Because I’m a charismatic guy. fake. I just genuinely despised them. I still feel guilty about the things I accidentally taught the guys around me. this industry is full of weird guys who hate women.

but all the girls he dates are damaged unhealthy women. Who should you model? Modeling the right dating coach or natural can be extremely helpful.” The idea of negging is fine if it is explained properly. A lot of guys give no context for the things they teach or the things they tell you to say. If you meet a guy who is great with women. If you read this and try to model it. they don’t tell you that they do those rarely and the girl usually is average looking at best. Make sure the guy you are modeling is healthy or you will ultimately pay the price. don’t model the guy who bangs 4 girls per week but hasn’t had a real relationship in his life. if you are modeling the mindsets of some of these guys. Worse than anything. Make sure whoever you model is getting the results you want. “You have shit in your teeth. so good guys end up getting blown out by girls and coming across really creepy. If you want a relationship.7. you are modeling a really unhealthy guy and modeling 1/2 truths that aren’t even real. If you want 1. 87 . Model someone who is getting the results you want. there are guys all over going up to girls and saying rude comments like. don’t model the guy who is constantly in a long term relationship. things like “negging” have caused huge problems for guys all over the world. that doesn’t mean you can’t steal a page out of each guy’s playbook. they make it sound like they are going out and pulling super models in the bathroom every night.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Another big problem I have with the community is many of the guys who teach this are not qualified to teach and those that are often write about and teach things that happen 1 out of 100 times instead of teaching about what happens 99 out of 100 times. you will be setting yourself up to attract the same kind of women. Hearing the mindsets and beliefs of guys who are fantastic with women can really set a good course for your dating life especially if you don’t have anyone who is good to model. Guys will over hype things like bathroom pulls and other things that sound exciting on paper. you will find yourself frustrated and might even feel bad about yourself wondering why you can’t get the same results. but it’s not. Going to a bootcamp and watching guys who are amazing with women is priceless. but you’ll want to put your main focus of modeling on people who are getting the result you want.000 one night stands. some of the guys I’ve met through this don’t need to be giving advice to anyone and could use a bump in the dosage of their psych meds.

surrounding yourself with healthy people will help you think. but it was well worth it in the long run. and avoiding certain topics with them. You choose who you spend your time with and can choose to go through the pain of clipping bad friends and finding new healthy social circles. if they have a terribly unhealthy relationship. that’s ok. Be careful when you model someone that you don’t try to become that person.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling model behaviors and thoughts…don’t try to Be that person. I’ve had friends who were drastically better than me in the past. I’ve done it 3 or 4 times in my life. It annoyed me. But. Don’t let unhealthy people pave the way for your thoughts. not compete. and it creeped out the girls that knew him before he started doing it. spoke. Also. but they were so good that I felt like the little tree that was surrounded by trees so big. Also. but you have to keep your identity and be your own person. Never try to become the person you are modeling. etc… It was not flattering. spend some time going out with these guys and spend some time going out with guys more on your level so you can grow as well. joked. for example. You have to guard your inner game like it’s fort Knox. just because a guy is a good model to learn from. carbon copies of him. It’s ok to tell people you want them to mentor you. A lot of guys who were trying to model Mystery became weird. I NeVer discuss my relationships with them and will only discuss theirs if they are asking for advice. When you go out with these guys. stop asking bad models for advice. He would use the exact jokes I would normally say and had pretty much copied the way I dressed. they would get so much attention that I would almost feel worse about myself when I would try to keep up. stop letting them give you advice. doesn’t mean he’s a good guy to continuously go out with. came off weird to our friends. What if you are forced to be around bad models? You’re not forCeD to be around anyone.7. It creates a weird dynamic if you go out with a guy and you can tell he’s trying to be you. don’t tell people you are modeling them. and behave. 88 . more healthily. I had a friend in college who tried really hard to do what I was doing and it got strange at times. It was hard. use it as an opportunity to learn. but are not the best models in certain areas whom I do spend time with. What I’ve done with these people is never give them a platform to taint my thoughts or accidentally corrupt me with the bad models they demonstrate. I do have family members who I love. this means changing the subject. I couldn’t get any light to grow.

surrounding yourself with good models will allow you to pick up the positive attributes of who they are through osmosis. • Healthy models are key but at minimum. were transferred to you. You now have a choice to be different and pick new models that are proactive to the goals and dating life you want. 3. DVDs. sex. 2. or books. and attraction. audios. not the man in most areas. Mr. but simply what you’ve learned. Develop a sense of awareness: take inventory of how your parents’ beliefs about dating.7. in all the important areas of life. happy. Now find models that align with what you are looking for in the form of natural friends. and healthy. I only know about 5 people like this and they are amazing people. There are those few anomalies who have the entire package. -Braddock 89 . dating coaches. Write down how your beliefs might be identical or opposite to either of them. Also write down how modeling certain friends‘ beliefs have affected your dating life. action Step: 1. they are blowing up and extremely successful. Reflect: Write down how this modeling has affected your dating life. we must have the awareness to recognize a bad model so we don’t blindly follow the same path. Hit reset: Become aware that this way of moving through the world isn’t necessarily you. M and I call these kinds of people guys who are going supernova. You can’t help but be affected by the people you spend the most time with. • Model the behavior and thoughts.3 dating tip: Become Successful with Women by modeling Summary • I personally feel one of the keys to success with attracting women and having a healthy dating life is being able to model certain attributes from different people who are successful in specific areas. love.

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tonight! .3 text Game: making the number Solid .sample Chapter 91 .covered in this chapter: 8...What to text Her 8.How to solidify a Number.4 the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game .

but I think seeing this will be really helpful. eventually.theattractionforums.. It all depends on your personality and your goals..com/braddock/61180-text-game-braddock.html I will try to do a better write up on my text game rules sometime. Keep in mind that my style is just one of many... relationship text game looks like.... I don’t want a girlfriend and I’m kinda bored with just one night stands unless I’m traveling. and friends with benefits text game looks like. day two style text game. Anyway. I’m typing up more and more of my text message game and I will try to post more of them by category in the future. but it’s such a hard thing to teach just by writing about it. but I will try to in the future.. Decide what you want.. I want to show you what one night stand text game looks like. 92 .1 text Game http://www. I go for more friends with benefits when I’m back home. so. hope this helps..8. I don’t have time to type up each category right now.

qualification. I have slept with many girls that I met one time for 20 minutes in a bar. you can build compliance momentum and the same girl who acted disgusted by a sexually charged joke may send you texts that would make a porn star blush!!! some girls love to write long texts to me and love when I write them long texts back.1 text Game I like to keep my texts fun and light. then feel free to keep writing her long funny messages. Just because it worked on one girl doesn’t mean it will work on the next. You must learn to understand where you are with each girl. As you spend more and more time with any one girl. I like to mix it up and send both long. and then fucked it up texting. then they can get pretty sexual. then you would be sruprised how sexual things can get over text before you even sleep with them. if we haven’t had sex yet. Crucial point to getting good at text game . and only texted until they came over and we had sex.8. However. then texts are a great way for me to “ping” her and keep the attraction alive until the next time we meet. Just like with everything else in game you must calibrate it. this can change. Certain girls will respond more to certain types of humor and certain levels of comfort. I feel it really keeps them off guard and on their toes with you. I’ve also had girls that it was super on with at a bar. funny messages where I reply almost immediately some times.. If we’ve already had sex. some girls love to joke rough and like when I’m kind of a dick to them in a joking way. but I think. other girls respond more when I show a somewhat sweeter side and respond negatively to rough or sexual jokes. then you look like you really want her bad.. I use lots of call back humor. they don’t have to be fun and amazing every time. I’ve also noticed some girls that only respond when I respond with delayed. but it does happen. and then be short and business like where I take a while to reply other times. but until then. then it is a helpful tool to set you apart from the other 10 guys she is talking to. but once again the above Must be calibrated. If you try to be super funny in every message and write a 4 page message eVerY tIMe.. and comfort game. ran great attraction. or. How do you do this? Go get lots of phone numbers and try different things. and slowly lost her until she hardly replied. but we have spent time together. 93 . Not to confuse you even more. If you sexually frame them when you meet. some girls would stop talking to you if you sent them several messages like this. If things are going great and she is writing you 4 page messages back every time. If a girl and I have already had sex... never talked to on the phone. if they are. and you have nothing better to do. and it only happens because I’ve practiced my ass off at text game. this isn’t how it usually goes. fuck it up and lose girls. short texts that sub communicate that maybe I’m too busy for them or maybe I’m not sure if I’m interested.

Nip/tuck in t-minus 5 min…. it just means you need to work on it. I use call back humor and stay in a theme for a little while. Don’t keep it going forever. When you send these kinds of messages. It’s just a small thing that I’ll do that just kind of forces them to think about me and not forget that I’m around. she will assume you sent it to tons of people.. Just something random and funny that doesn’t really ask them anything and doesn’t ask for much back. she had a camo skirt on so I was calling her rambo all night. or start a word document and save your best stuff. I’m considering posting it.8. then she won’t feel anything towards you when she reads it. she will feel it was personal.1 text Game It happens. You will know when you need to start slow or when you can jump in and be more sexual. text to Lauren: Braddock: “echo 1 this is Bravo Company…kksssh. You will start to see a pattern that takes place and you will start to see different patterns in girls.. Don’t let it get you down. I actually have a structure that I use and I teach at my bootcamps. When we met. Here is an example of how I ping with a girl between meet ups. you put their first name. it’s not a reflection of you. By simply starting it with “What up sara? bla bla bla” or threading her name in there somewhere. it’s crucial that somewhere in the message. but keep it up as long as it’s fun.” 94 . Copy? over…. Get a journal. repeat: the crypts are raiding the liquor store. I repeat: mother bird is in her nest….. DoN’t use this exact message!!!! this only works for me because it’s congruent with the guy she met and the guy she has hung out with.kkshh. Hence the army theme throughout this text.. I could write a novel on text game rules. If you don’t have a sense of humor like mine then this message would come across as strange. Another key point I’ve added recently and it’s really seemed to help is sending a mass text message to like 30 girls. because I think it’s a crucial tool for any guy running cold approach game.kkshh. If it looks like a mass text message.

think you can handle that?” Braddock: “echo 1 this is Alpha 1. report by land line after your tasks are completed b/c romeo Delta wants a full debriefing of enemy engagements.1 text Game lauren: “Bravo company this is echo one and I’m pickin up what you’re putting down but unfortunately I won’t be privy to such luxuries’ as nip tuck. But he is oh so cute.8. Don’t let Charlie see this message…self destruct in 5 secs. Zulu acknowledges message & will return to headquarters w/assignment completed. Delta foxtrot has tivo ready & waiting for mission. Divide & conquer all tasks this week..” Braddock: “roger that lima Bravo. that last transmission was inaccurate.” text with me and Lp: Braddock: “How are things with you and the virgin? Is the sex mind blowing?” lp: “shut up jerk.” lauren: “Bla Bla Bla….” Braddock: “Cute? More than cute. tonight bc I have other engagements to tend to …such as studying for exams and preparing for my interview tomorrow morning…I’m counting on you to take notes and provide a detailed summary of the nights events. He’s a virgin like your boyfriend!!! shall I hook you up???!!! lp: “Hahaha!!” lp: “I dumped him you jerk! Are you going to sara’s Bday party?” 95 . Hoo-rah! lauren: “Bla Bla Bla…. tango x ray will be in service. you are so mean! Braddock : (sent pic of parents new puppy) lp: “Do you really think that’s going to make me like you more? Nice try. Nip/tuck in t minus 50 minutes. that’s a 10-28 (loud & clear). He’s cute as a damn button.

it just reminds me of my ex wife.” Braddock: “so many 3some jokes going through my mind.It’s 1945 they want your views on not calling boys back when your done with them. Can I study at your house?” Braddock: “Is …. If we don’t hang out by sunday I’m deleting your number. but I’m going to have to get drunk to scrape that tattoo of your number and pic off my ass…. lp: “lolol that’s not what I meant! sara said she wants to come too. but I’m not into toilet humor ………. supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is just not working out for me. but we’ll try.” lp: “shut up I’m coming at 7!” Braddock: “I’m a human dynamo in bed.damn it!” lp: “lolol You are sooo weird!! Where do you come up with that stuff?” Braddock: “Are you being a bitch to me because I’m black? God I hate texas girls.” lp: “lol…. I have to floss my cat’s teeth…….8. Maybe another time.” Braddock : “Why cause I love Jesus? You could learn a lot from him. no. but I don’t know if I’m good enough for you to name an exact time that you will orgasm. It’s not that it’s too long.” lp: “Well you never call me.Hey lp. sorry. You guys have to bring cookies… And GoD Help You If tHeY Are CHoColAte CHIp or peANut 96 . so closed minded.see! let’s hang out sunday. then I guess I’ll delete it now.” code for group sex? I’m gonna go with no. “Study at your house... fine. the safety word this week will be fire engine.or something.1 text Game Braddock: “unless it’s a bible study…. I have 3 test Monday!” Braddock: “You never call me”……. I’m getting another call….” lp: “You are so full of shit.

97 . I just don’t know what to say.” text with alexis: she is in medical school.1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism….oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break.” Braddock: “ok. Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl…. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are..” lp: “lol….” LP: “haha…. I’d call you later. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth. You told me you loved them when we met. etc…. I would call them a 6. my thumbs are starting to hurt. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls.” lauren: “lololol….. so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth. Just a start. if I was drunk.oatmeal raisin. but just slightly.well I guess it worked. sugar. I would make out with her.fine..” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies.. I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat.8. Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles………. I’m getting carpel tunnel. but she would never meet mom.

so I’ll just hide behind my text messages until I see you sunday. but just slightly. so I use lots of humor about her being a nurse instead of a doctor or just any joke I can think of about med school or the medical field.oatmeal raisin. I’d call you later. I’ll put them in the mailbox…see you sunday brat.” lauren: “lololol…..well I guess it worked.. You told me you loved them when we met. but my throat clinches up and I get all nervous on the phone with girls.” Braddock: “I was drunk and just trying to get you to bake me cookies.” Braddock: “ok. I would make out with her. probably shouldn’t mention cankles and bad teeth. but she would never meet mom. I’m getting carpel tunnel.” LP: “haha…. Well that and the fact that you have crooked teeth and cankles………. etc…. Just a start. sugar. my thumbs are starting to hurt. 98 . I just don’t know what to say.” lp: “HAHAHA!!!!! Cankles!!! I don’t think sooo and you know I have perfect teeth. Do you like snicker doodle?” Braddock: “If snicker doodle cookies were a girl….” lp: “lol…. Do we actually have to hang out or can you just drop the cookies off on the porch?” lp: “HAHAHA…just tell them how pretty they are. I would call them a 6.8.fine..1 text Game Butter!!! I hate chocolate chip cookies and peanut butter cookies slightly more than terrorism…..” text with alexis: she is in medical school. if I was drunk.oMG!!!! Who are you? What kind do you like?” Braddock: “Who am I? 2 weeks of marriage and 5 kids and you still don’t know me? that’s exactly why I need this break.

Don’t fuck with me on movie trivia…. trample the weak and hurdle the dead!” Alexis: “lol…. ur a weirdo : p” Braddock: “Ha. Where u been hiding jerk face!? thought a lion ate ur arm! Braddock: “I know I know….1 text Game Alexis: “Did you find a new love bunny in LA or what!? Did we really break up? Braddock: “We will NeVer break up.” Alexis: “And who has u on lock?” 2 hours later…. as they say in the movie Highlander. Braddock: “Just been crazy busy with work….I’ve been on lock down the last few weeks. You took my virginity. “there can be only one!!!” Alexis: “HAHA….. I’m a man amongst boys. What are you up to?” Alexis: “pray for me.you gotta be the only person who would reference Highlander in a text message.” Alexis: “I’ll keep that in mind. Kick some ass. Need a 96 for an A in the class!!! (few hours later)…… Braddock: “How did your test go?” Alexis: “About to go take it! After my work out…” Braddock: “Good luck. I have a Chem test 2day.8.You are crazy! I’m putting that as my myspace quote!” Braddock: “Do you want me to text you the answers for your test?” 99 .

tell them ur going to one of your buddy’s houses and then just come stay with me.” Alexis: “You are so weird! My dad use to say.” And he’s gonna make us leave the door open and the lights on the whole time you are here……” Alexis: “Well. “Does raggedy Anne have cotton boobs!” Braddock: “the answer to your dads question is “no.” later that night…. “Go ask your dad.” Braddock: “I know.8.” 100 .she’s gonna say.” lol….” Alexis: “lol….” that’s actually an urban legend. It’s a dual pocket 2 zipper comfort fit.1 text Game Alexis: “they convinskate phones…It’s in the testing center…. you’re one of the nerdiest girls I know…. It’s Italian leather with Braddock in rhinestones.” Braddock: “hmmm… “convinskate. My parents are out of town this weekend. Alexis: “When are u going to actually come hang out instead of working out ur thumbs all day?” Braddock: “Dude..And im a genius anyways…thanks tho babe. that’s why I like you.Your genius must be limited to Chem. Do you wear a pocket protector?” Alexis: “Heck yeah I do!!! everyday in my scrubs….you jerk! I really am smart. It’s custom made.” Alexis: “Do u wear a fanny pack?” Braddock: “Does Howdy Doody have wooden balls?!? Hell yeah I do.. we gotta ask my mom……. I believe her breasts are actually buttons.. You are so mean!!!!!!” Braddock: “Mooohaha.

-B 101 .8...” later later that night…… Alexis: “I’m going to bet.”(she then messaged me on myspace) Braddock: “sending me messages on myspace? I thought you went to bed.1 text Game Braddock: “Nice thinking. Good night... have a great day tomorrow. How can we be together if you are gonna lie to me all the time?” bla bla bla.

she genuinely would “go out” with you “sometime”… …but it doesn’t always turn out that way.8. but it never seemed to turn into a date? A while back. wrote an article and did a podcast for this site to introduce what we do . Here’s what we’ll be covering in this article: Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? text message bridges re-initiate mutual contact Increase the frequency and intensity of communication Maintain or build attraction Maintain or build comfort the other side of the bridge Damage control further context Why don’t some phone numbers lead to dates? let’s say you see a very attractive woman at a restaurant waiting for her friends.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy http://www. and then get her phone number so you can “go out sometime”. Magic Bullets. as we’ve discussed in Magic Bullets.com/braddock/68199-text-game-basics-braddock-savoy. using our techniques. our overall system is explained in savoy’s book. Nick savoy. you approach her. this is a bad way to get a woman’s phone number). we wanted to follow these up with something focused on text messaging. Going out “sometime” is different from going out thursday night (which is why. and in our interview download on phone game. This article will give a simplified overview of how to use text messages to go from the first time you meet someone to going on a date.theattractionforums. for a technology audience. to see her “sometime” all you have to do is be more interesting than doing 102 . gotten her phone number. the president of love systems.html have you ever met someone great.what we call dating science. At that moment. attract her.

Why are you asking her out if you didn’t meet for very long? Are you desperate? Are you a player? *timing. you need to be more interesting than anything else she could be doing. If she doesn’t know you that well. And. many desirable women would still hesitate to answer your call. for her to go on a date. memories and emotions dissipate. She likes all of the attention and flirting. like friends. she can agree to that. or any other man she met that night .to get from a situation where a woman might have a low commitment to meeting up again to where the 103 . even if she did. Naturally. even if she has no reason to think that you wouldn’t. other men did too. work. especially if she doesn’t know you that well or you don’t know people in common. but she doesn’t have time to go on 9 dates this week. in order to lead to a more intimate situation the same day or to a date that won’t fall through (depending on the situation and your preferences).2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy nothing. You don’t know what mood she’ll be in when you call or what she’ll be doing.8. However. But sometimes you can’t do this . most desirable women rarely have “nothing else to do”. hobbies. the best way to deal with this is to make as strong of an impression as possible in your first meeting. if she has nothing else to do. she might actually see you. and if you don’t get a hold of each other soon. There are many possible reasons for this - some will apply to some women and some situations more than others: *safety concerns. so. not being sure can be enough for some women to avoid a date that might be awkward or uncomfortable. that’s a pretty low standard. *Analysis. Most of what we teach on our bootcamps revolves around this. that’s why we created the “bridging” technique . even if she was attracted to you when you first met.like in the above example when her friends are about to arrive and take her to dinner. she may wonder if the two of you will really “click”. You lose value and emotional momentum (both of these concepts are explained in Magic Bullets but should be understandable in context) with every unreturned voicemail. *fear of social awkwardness. After meeting you just one time.if you noticed her. her commitment to seeing you again can be pretty fragile. or relaxing at home.

you can get most women to answer the phone and make plans. the other side of the bridge 104 . asking each other every question under the sun. If you meet someone you really want. it can be worth doing the work to increase your odds for “likely” to “near certain”. if you’d been introduced to her by a mutual friend and spent a few sober hours really getting to know each other. the more important these bridging techniques. spending time alone. intelligent. However. If instead of meeting this woman at a restaurant. let’s get into the meat of the system. and making plans to see each other. kissing. Maintain or build attraction 4. Increase the frequency and intensity of communication 3. often.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy two of you are on a date. Text message bridging has five major components: 1. some of these techniques may seem like overkill. Maintain or build comfort 5. you can usually just go ahead and call.8. she would likely be highly-committed to seeing you again. they are unnecessary since with good game. None of us are rich. second. the lower her commitment. so. what might be overkill when meeting the type of woman who might be attracted to you anyway can be crucially important when meeting a stunning. In such situations. text message bridges Without further ado. However. many of us got involved in dating science because we wanted to date women who would normally be “out of our league”. or supermodels. re-initiate mutual contact 2. we will often still use bridging techniques because A) sometimes we might err and think a woman is more committed or less flaky than she turns out to be B) they won’t hurt. and successful men. Almost all of our instructors are formerly bootcamp students. fun. and sexy woman who attracts powerful. they are important for a couple of reasons. wherever she goes.

Your first text is crucial. So his first text drew on this: “Katie the banker! Don’t stay out too late. use a text message to re-initiate contact instead of a phone call. social or geographic stereotypes relating to your original conversation that you can twist into a joke. ideas. Advanced men will deliberately “seed” the initial conversation with opportunities for callback humor. they agreed that they both hate clinginess and the words “cuddle” and “snuggle”. she’ll read it when she is. She has to respond and it has to point the two of you in the right direction. generalities. this is especially important with younger women with a more intense social schedule who meet a lot of people. then A) plan to introduce subjects for callback humor next time and B) for now. you have to be up early to foreclose on that orphanage of blind kids. You don’t have to worry about her mood or her schedule when you text. they talked about relationships and pet peeves. people sometimes don’t answer their phones or listen to their voicemails. Callback humor involves recalling topics. Send your first message within 24 hours of meeting her.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy 1.8. the best way to do this is to use callback humor. so. 48 hours at the most. Have a good night. re-initiate mutual contact After you meet a woman. -[Your name].” 105 . for example. Braddock recently met Katie. During the initial meeting he teased her about her supposedly evil corporate ways. This ensures that she remembers as much as possible from your first meeting and that the good emotions she feels toward you don’t dissipate. but everyone reads their text messages. texts don’t require much commitment. you’ll need to be fresh!! : ) -Braddock “ Another night. if she’s not free. Braddock met Julie. a banker. Among other things. And. send something simple like “Nice to meet you [name]. let’s get together for a “snuggle” session AsAp! -Braddock” If you’re stuck. it takes far less commitment on her part to return a text message than it does to answer the phone or return a call. Braddock followed up with: “Nice meeting you Julie.

Chi town . which costs emotional momentum.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy Always sign your name on the first text. Take things one step at a time. Questions put her on the spot and repeated questions risk putting her in defensive “interview mode” which isn’t exciting or attractive. and simple that if she didn’t answer. Don’t try to get her to meet up in the first text message. for example: 106 . 2. If you don’t. Keep any questions light. (of course.8. your goal is to build her commitment level to meeting up with you again by increasing the frequency and intensity of your messaging. Don’t try to build comfort. usually this will happen if you do something that assumes a higher commitment level than she actually has.20! let me guess. Message her and get her to reply. right now it’s just about getting on the map. these all come later in the conversation. It avoids the “who is this?” text message response. Keep the conversation moving forward by making statements instead of asking questions as much as possible. increase frequency and intensity After the first exchange of text messages. or build attraction. Going through Braddock’s sent items folder on his phone. beach volleyball today?” “Did you know a blue whales tongue weighs as much as an elephant!? that’s ridiculous… Gotta love animal planet during the lunch break…” stay away from things that can end a conversation or lose her attraction for you. Now communication has been established and you can go from there. we can see some examples of good early text messages: “How did your project turn out? Did they give you a raise or at least give you a small army of interns to boss around?” “Just saw the news. it’s not like she’s blowing you off. oAp readers should know by now to program your name and number into her phone when you get hers. and don’t ask too many boring “yes” or “no” questions. stop now and get Magic Bullets or the interview on phone game.

Humor. Status. and Challenging). not a specific plan for an individual woman. because most of what people have been taught about social dynamics is wrong. and are flirty without making her uncomfortable. I would love to see you when you get home.things that most women will be attracted to (Health. so stay open-minded and let your only judge be how well these techniques work in the real world. Confidence.8. Human attraction does not work the way it does on tV or in movies. clubs. contain wit or humor. In Magic Bullets we identify and explain the eight most universal “attraction switches” . not logically. 3. after day. Pre-selection. but this dissipates over time. You can’t build a ton of attraction in text messages but you can build some. restaurants. Attraction is built emotionally. Do you have plans friday when you get home?” When you read sample text messages in this article. some of them might seem silly. use your knowledge of her and her personality to calibrate her. and lounges interacting with the most beautiful women there. it’s best done with light-hearted messages that assume a level of familiarity. Building attraction presumably. she was attracted to you when you met. But that’s a general guide. coming up) We can’t cover all of these in detail in this article (and it’s not an exhaustive list anyway). through text messaging.” or even “I hope your trip to Chicago was great!!! I want to hear all about it. parks. some good elements to include are: *role plays *random childish jokes *light sexual teasing or misinterpretation *funny or teasing pet names *Invoking commonalities you found when you met (this also builds comfort. no matter how unusual it seems on paper. so. and actually practicing what they preach. Much of dating science is counter-intuitive. but 107 . We use what works. even so-called experts are not in bars.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy rushing to make plans: “I’m so glad we met! I’ve never met a girl like you. coffee shops. Wealth. and you can use texts to bring her attraction levels back up to the level where you first met and you can maintain it there. Social Intuition. day.

It’s not just one-liners either. Don’t always send long replies. : ) [or suitable nickname…this one worked here because she was young and already acknowledged she can be a bit of a brat sometimes]” You still want to be unpredictable and challenging enough to keep her interested. You can’t technically see her face. tiny tim threw me off. What bank do you work at again? ok. attraction. It will make her feel like she has to earn you.wait!!! Now I remember the Christmas movie. he found out that she was from san Diego. back to work. Building comfort In addition to maintaining. and don’t ruin a good situation by playing too many games. even a silly text message like “I’m ron Burgundy.missed the scrooge reference?!? Minus 3 cool points…. trying to thread a bunch of information that you assume will make her like you more.” Braddock : “they let retards play with people’s money!?!? Hmmm…. When Braddock met Claire. we can see this attraction-building conversation: Braddock: “Are you stealing pennies from the elderly or telling tiny tim’s dad that he has to work an extra shift. sometimes the attraction or humor comes from the back-and-forth. don’t always reply quickly. Varying how and when you reply helps build value and scarcity. and build. 4. this is actually easier since building comfort is as much about what you don’t do as what you do. Anchorman. Not fair. returning to example of Katie the Banker.” Katie: “Who is tiny tim?” Braddock : “Wow…. But be careful with this one. you need to maintain. and building. so.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy let’s go through a couple of examples. I’m kind of a big deal” made her laugh and boosted her attraction. and don’t always be funny. they talked about the movie. body language.8. talk to you later brat. You know this could be tim’s last Christmas……. Don’t try to impress her through text messages. 108 . role playing is a powerful technique. or hear her voice tonality to truly know how she is reacting to this. Among other things.” Katie: “ohhhhh…. comfort. often has the opposite effect.

who feels it necessary to smugly inform me. As long as your conversation is going well. You had a rose pattern on your skirt last saturday. some of the things that break her comfort with you include: *trying to make plans with her too early.” Most women would think this is creepy and that the man is reaching too hard to try to find commonalities. or overly nice. this might make her uncomfortable. “did you get home safe?” won’t help you unless it’s in a context in which you would ask that of any close friend. *Being too predictable. Even. A woman wants a man who is centered and not dependent on her approval or putting her on a pedestal. this affects attraction as well.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy In general. is getting a body slam followed by the people’s elbow! How’s your day?” 109 .there’s nothing special about them in themselves. just get a sense of the general pattern: “Next coworker. this might make her feel pressured and on the spot. light. some women may be interested but still don’t always reply or will still send short responses. Always stay positive and unaffected. Assuming some familiarity is great. stay away from a text like: “I just walked past the most beautiful rose garden. If you always respond to her messages right away and are clearly trying too hard. that kills comfort. It reminded me of you. Be real. Don’t react to low commitment behavior by apologizing for making jokes and/or asking what you did wrong. a woman will be more comfortable if you seem to be at least a little bit of a challenge. and don’t try to trade kindness for her approval or affection. If you become angry or needy. right? Hope you are having a wonderful day. but avoid early texts that are overly sweet. time and communication will build and maintain comfort for you. fun text messages that add to her day without making her feel pressured create comfort. just act like a positive. non-threatening environment in her life. *responding negatively when she shows low commitment.8. (unsolicited I might add) that their 3rd grader made the honor role. Generally. Here are a couple of examples . especially early on. *Implying that she is much more committed than she actually is.

” “[random content]”. remember. you can test her commitment level without too much risk by using a technique we call “baiting”..8.. let’s get together next week. tell your interns to pencil me in for next week or I’m putting “single” back up on facebook. and you’re not improving things very quickly in text. you haven’t lost any ground and can keep working from where you are. If not. the object is to get her out so we have a chance to connect with her. What are you thinking?!” [obviously this was to someone who said she had an english bulldog] 5. and the nonspecific invitation can be tacked onto the end: “[random content]”.” “[random content]”. we’re not trying to make a woman fall in love over text message . If she is interested. And if she doesn’t end up coming out. We’re trying to get her on a date.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy “What’s up crazy? [or suitable nickname] Just saw a guy walking an english bulldog like you said you wanted. you can start baiting with lower-intensity plans. you invited 110 . that poor thing was hideous. The [random content] means that you have something . she doesn’t have to be alone or invest a lot to make these kinds of plans happen.you just invited her and her friends to something you were (in theory) doing anyway and for all she knows.real gains happen in person. It’s like touching a woman’s arm in conversation. you’ll start to see patterns and know when the moment is ripe.anything . you don’t really lose any ground with her . and they’re more likely to actually take place especially with a woman with a very busy social schedule and lots of male attention. she’ll respond.in that slot so the whole text isn’t the invitation. With experience and intuition. if we don’t hang out soon then I’m going to start cheating on you. you’re not going to get very far just by sending low-commitment texts back and forth.” If her commitment is lower than usual. the classic formula is “you guys should meet us out”. the other side of the bridge obviously. Any of the examples of good text messages that we’ve already seen would make good [random content] here. In the meantime. The bait is usually a non-specific or low-pressure text about the two of you meeting up. Here are some examples of non-specific invitations.

Would you like to come? It’s going to be fun.” “sara! x bar friday night! Be there or we are breaking up and I’m not taking you back this time… …I’m signing the divorce papers and fighting for full custody” You can still use [random content] to lead in to these. if it’s not working. Baits should never be overly specific or imply a rejection if she doesn’t say yes or come out.” damage control some situations are harder than others and sometimes you will feel like you’re not getting anywhere.” think back to a time when a woman chased you when you weren’t giving her any encouragement and how you lost attraction for her. even “good” texts at this point just come across as try-hard or supplicative. you and your friends should stop by. Some men who feel a situation slipping through their fingers will make the fatal mistake of trying to reel her back by texting more and/or longer texts. but it’s not necessary. we are going to be at x bar friday night. send her something light in a few days and pretend like it never happened. Your mission. Do not text from the mindset of: “I need to correct my mistake. then just stop texting her for a day or two and give her time to forget about it. this message will self destruct in 30 sec!!! Hope to see you there…. stop sending her messages. How are you? I’m going to x bar saturday with some friends. it’s really hard to turn them around. In general. Here are some more examples: “We are going to be at x bar.8. once things start going downhill. These would be some bad examples: “What are you doing later?” “Hey sara. Never text her asking if you 111 . If it was a minor mistake.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy lots of friends. is to show up between the hours of 11pm and 2am. stop the bleeding. then.” “sara. if you choose to accept it.

just call her.2 text Game Basics by Braddock and Savoy messed up. don’t force the issue. some women just don’t like texting. If it was a major mistake. with an analysis of each.8. In such situations.by Nick savoy. or say “just kidding” incessantly. wait longer before re-initiating. and things to say or do in virtually any situation. games. these are word-for-word the things we actually use when meeting women. -Braddock 112 . openers. further context This (very brief and simplified) summary will hopefully give some idea on how more phone numbers can be turned into dates and also give you a taste of how dating science can work . or apologize assuming you did something wrong if you didn’t. The Love Systems Routines Manual - hundreds of specific stories. or try too hard to be funny. We wanted to close by listing a few good resources for further reading: Magic Bullets . Hope this helps.

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the more physical we have been with one another. The Phone and Text Game book covers this in great detail. What do you send her? this will depend on how far along you are with that particular woman. there are a million things you “can” do with the phone.3 text Game: making the number Solid Let me give you something awesome you can start doing tonight to help you reduce flaky numbers and cut your workload in half. Don’t tell her of course. I won’t get into why this causes flakes right now. this is a sure fire way to guarantee you have a flaky number at best. She probably won’t even answer calls or return your texts. remember. What should I do? :) -Braddock” 114 . then. ask her for the phone number. but it wasn’t that on yet. talk to the woman just long enough to pique her interest. put your phone back in your pocket. the more edgy I would be. I just want to give you a way around it. Wait a minute or two. then. send her a text message. take your phone out as if you are checking the time or you just received a text message. If it was flirty. Getting her on a date or getting her to come to your house is the only goal that really matters. tonight. the woman won’t question it. just put your phone back in your pocket and keep talking. and keep talking to her. Example: (Light flirting) (The woman was wearing a blue dress and at some point in the conversation she told me she was from san Diego) Braddock: “This cute girl from San Diego in a sexy blue dress won’t stop flirting with me. and move on right after typing it in their phone. after you take a woman’s phone number. the goal of phone and text game is simply to get her comfortable enough to meet you again. just keep talking. one of the biggest mistakes guys make is that they treat the phone number like it’s a hostage and they are a Navy seal trying to extract it. they come in. stay there.8. but they are simply bonus points. I would keep it slightly teasing and flirtatious.

8. -B 115 . you two are having a normal conversation verbally.3 text Game: making the number Solid she’s going to check her phone expecting it to be from someone else. When she notices that it’s you. and then text her out the blue from a number she doesn’t recognize. By the time you guys leave the venue you will have a text chain of 5 maybe even 10 texts already rolling. it’s a continuation of the text message chain from the night before. try it out tonight. walked off right after. she is 100 times more likely to respond to you then some guy who took her number. Now. she will almost always smile and text you back. but flirting with each other and role playing through text all while you are standing within 2 feet of each other. this is such a powerful tool. the next day when you go to text her it’s not just some mystery number.

What do I mean by “addicted”? think about it . phone and text Game can cause a person not only to become more attracted to you.. the full path to attaining this sort of “addiction” is what Braddock and I cover indepth in the glorious 150+ pages in the ultimate Guide to phone And text Game Book. but you can get a glimpse of what it takes from the free chapter. that is one of the main aims (if not tHe main aim) of phone and text Game . unable to think of anything except. which took us a year to write. well.to literally get her addicted to you. In worse case scenarios.. you. until she texted you back. the best thing is that you can do this to her. It’s like you were paralyzed.you weren’t sure whether to call. to make matters worse ..theattractionforums. so here you go.8.html used properly. or three times. or called her. whether to text of whether to just do nothing and wait for her reply! the point is that she was taking up your thoughts to the point of distraction.. so.com/braddock/126263-ultimate-guide-phone-text-game.4 the ultimate Guide to phone and text Game http://www.. her lack of reply literally drove you crazy.. that’s how powerful phone and text Game can be if you know how to use it..have you ever texted a girl and not heard back from her? How did it make you feel? You checked your phone frequently waiting for her text message. You may have even texted her twice. You literally can cause someone to be addicted to you through phone and text. free CHApter of tHe ultIMAte GuIDe to pHoNe AND text GAMe 116 . Imagine having the super hot girl that you want sitting there. but also become addicted to you.. she was the only thing that you could think about. tHAt is what I call super HIGH leVel AttrACtIoN. tHAt is what you call addiction.

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if you feel any discomfort on her part or if you feel that it would be pushing it to go for the number or date. remember you will likely see her again either on campus or out at a party or bar so don’t try too push things to fast or too far unless you get the vibe that she is really into you. walking across campus first few days and see a hot girl)?” answer: on a true cold approach in a college setting. then just back off and say. However.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. Braddock: “thanks. but if you ever get caught by the wrong girl it has potential to do irreversible damage to your social status in the eyes of that girl and any girl in her social circle.” shake her hand and then walk away with your value intact.. Question: “What sort of openers would you use in a regular college setting (I. I’m Braddock. In that case.. but it was nice meeting you. and will work. you are better off than if you tried to game too hard when 121 . even if she doesn’t remember you the next time she sees you. I always used situational openers or functional openers. they aren’t sexy. I gotta run.9. I would go for her phone number right there.E. Did we have class together last semester?” then I would transition into normal conversation and/or tease her lightly. but they ensure that you won’t be called out for “gaming. Normal openers can. Walking on campus: Braddock: “Do you know where the Nielson Hall is?” Girls studying in the library: Braddock: “Do you know what time this place closes?” Girls standing somewhere: Braddock: “You look really familiar.” which is crucial in a small fish bowl setting such as a college campus.

It can be hard to recover from a true cold approach rejection in social circle game. it’s the proper move if you sense that attempting to ask for her number or a date would be too much. “Getting sticky.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. If you had high situational value when you met. this is why cold approach is so tough. It obviously doesn’t take 6 times for you to remember someone you just met. that’s a different post. the timing wasn’t right and she rejects you. obviously. but it might take 6 times for you to see them and greet them as a person you now see as a card carrying member of your social circle.” Getting sticky is an old advertising term used to describe a crucial phase where a product must be seen multiple times by consumers in order for them to remember what it is and what it does just by hearing the name. 122 . Mr. she will likely remember you and welcome you as part of her social circle almost immediately. mathematically. you are better off to push the encounter as far as possible even if your value is not optimal. regardless of outcome. Why would I recommend that you merely open and then eject without pushing for the number? that goes against everything you’ve learned through cold approach. You remember people who are of substantial value or of potential value. Because you will never see her again. In our social Circle Mastery seminar.. You have an extremely small window of time to prove that you are a high value. tactically ejecting is not a cop out. that blow out cannot have long term effects on your overall social status. It is essentially a waste of your time to not see if you can get her number or bounce her that night because you will most likely never see her again. who gives a shit if you cause irreversible damage with one random set? You will never see them again so it does not matter. her mind will not focus any mental energy on you. If you met in a situation where you were of low or neutral value then you may need to meet a few times or she will have to hear about you several times before you are even on her radar. they say that consumers need to be exposed to a product in one form or another at least 6 times before it will be remembered. then. the less real or potential value perceived by that girl will determine how long the sticky phase will last. scarce. M and I call this tactic. well. If she likes you and you are ejecting because you are scared to ask for her number.9.. If you fail to be seen in such a light. However. this is especially true for people that meet you when you are unavoidably in a low or neutral value situation. Does it sound like I’m telling you to pussy out and not close? that’s not exactly what I’m saying. resource.

talking to girls. this doesn’t mean she needs to see you making out with girls. If. I. situationally.” that means.. You can always turn up the heat later when the timing is perfect. or it’s a girl that you don’t have much time or value to work with. It could literally be girls hugging you that like you as a friend whom you have no chance in hell with.. to an outside eye it looks like maybe you could have those girls.” Braddock: “Hmm.Nope wasn’t me.. this means she sees you as one of the cool guys in a high value group of guys and/or she sees cool/hot girls respond positively to you. then you can build your value and comfort over multiple encounters instead of going for the cold approach mindset of “home run or strikeout. You can build your value over time. you can wait it out and escape witthout losing value and live to fight another day when your value is optimal. your value is low in one situation. I’m not going to detail how to game once you are in the social circle in this post. If there is a high probability that she will see you again.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game. I’m a journalism major. were you in Dr. situational value can be.. and usually is. meaning she now knows who you are and would at minimum say hi if she saw you out or on campus. social circle game is much easier and it is much different. I want this to focus on opening and becoming sticky. and strike at the perfect moment..” Her: “Haha. It means seeing you with girls.. smith’s politics of south America class last semester?” Her: “No. Braddock:”You look really familiar.9..” 123 . and you have high situational value. this means it doesn’t even have to be real. However. It’s covered in great detail in our seminar. When you are sticky. example of how to become sticky through cold approach. all smoke and mirrors. this means she sees you in an environment where her eyes can see that you are a high value guy.. if you are cold approaching on campus and it’s a cold set.e.. girl buddies running up and hugging you.Are you sure because you look like that girl who cheated off me all the time? I meant to tell you that I didn’t appreciate that.. then just use the first encounter to “get sticky” and get on her radar.

sorry about that. I’m sure I’ll see you around..” Her: “Nice to meet you too. and go do at least one approach before you come back!!!! Hope this helps.” Braddock: “Nice to meet you Katie. Bye.9. I’ll see you around. -Braddock 124 . london is sick! Hope to see some of you guys at the seminar this weekend.” ok. what’s your name by the way? I’m Braddock.2 Q & a on college and Social circle Game.. Alright. turn your computer off. stop reading posts.” (take two steps away) “oh shit.” Her: “Katie. Braddock: “that’s Cool.

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9. from there you only have to move her to your room or a place where the two of you can be alone. Don’t assume that just because you are staying at the most expensive hotel on the beach that you will be in the heart of the action. After going out. you can pull the hottest woman in the world and not get her into your room unless you have a rope ladder and ninja smoke. It’s harder to convince girl’s friends to let her leave and stay at another hotel with a stranger. so. It could be so expensive that only old people are staying there. If you are not staying in the same hotel as a woman. and you can’t afford to stay in one of the hotels where all the action is. but getting her to go up an elevator 3 floors in a hotel you are both staying is much easier. but what’s even worse is that most hotels now require each guest to wear a special wristband specific to that hotel and don’t allow non guests into the hotel.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) hotels that are where all the action is and where most of the hot girls will be staying. I can’t tell you how many beautiful women I lost on spring break because they couldn’t get into our hotel or we couldn’t get into theirs. My roommate and I once slept in our car!! As far as logistics are concerned. then you will likely have exactly one shot to meet and attract her. it is nice when you meet women who are staying in the same hotel room as you because the hotel pulls for you. classy woman back to the roach Motel. However. You can still have a good time even if you have to stay in a terrible room. It’s hard enough to pull girls on spring break with a good or bad hotel. like I was in college. If you make any mistakes or if the 126 . You don’t have to try and convince her to ditch her friends or to come back to some hotel far from where she is staying. you may find that your hotel room is a logistical nightmare. mini Social circles staying in a hotel where all the women are puts you at a great advantage when it comes to maximizing your chances with the hottest women. on one of my most epic spring break adventures. you can still have a blast on spring break. 2. It’s worth calling around to figure out which hotels these are. It’s hard to bring a hot. If you are broke as a joke. we would not have had to take such extreme measures. you both are naturally going to have to end up back there. we met 3 really hot girls and had to smuggle them past gate security by hiding them under blankets in the back seat!! If we had been staying at the hotel where everyone was staying.

You can share a van to the club and ride back (this is how the hotel pulls for you). You want to see her again and again. You can meet an extremely beautiful woman and grind her down slowly over the week. If you aren’t staying where you will see her over and over. then you will only get one shot to get her. touch. Knowing that you are going to see the women over and over allows you to run a much slower and more natural style of game. this means that you must have great game or get lucky. because you have qualified her and built some comfort during the day. but by Friday she may be all over you. on the other hand. You will swim with them at the hotel. just be aware that most women on spring break are going to have so much stimulation from the beach. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take numbers. By simply staying in the right hotel. Girls are extremely flaky on spring break so you don’t want to have to rely on phone game. You should run a much slower and more limited attraction game during the down time at the hotel. that trying to run standard text and phone game will be like trying to squeeze blood from a turnip. if you are staying in a hotel with tons of women. so. You will have a group of girls at the club that you already know. party at the club together. you don’t have to be the stranger trying to open. to guys hitting on them. you will be able to crack into multiple groups of women and you will get far more work done with less effort. and short banter. to drinking. ride to the club together. then you will not get another chance to attract her. You should focus more on working your qualification and comfort game. pre party before going out. the women will already know you. they can get attraction and get the woman extremely attracted through dancing. play volleyball. then you will see the same women multiple times each day over the course of the week.9. Doing this gives you a HuGe advantage over the competition. You already know each other so the woman is much less likely to flake later that night when you try to pull.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) timing was just off. this allows you to slowly cultivate relationships with tons of women and strike when the timing is perfect. and ride home with them from the club. and then turning up your attraction game at night when everyone goes out. hang out on the beach. but 127 . Most guys will have a hard time pulling girls on spring break because the clubs are so loud that it is very hard to qualify and build comfort. A woman you meet on Monday may be cold as ice when you first meet.

Gaming in the clubs… ok. but to get the really hot girls on spring break you will have better luck grinding them down over the course of a week instead of trying to poach them off at a night club in one hit. on spring break. you will likely lose the set. it is by no means consistent. Don’t feel bad if you burn through as many sets as you must. It’s bad. use this to your advantage. blowouts don’t matter. the clubs are so big. and the sheer volume of people creates a situation where you can work the entire room and rarely see the same girl twice. 128 . and high energy. the size of the clubs. loud. In a low key bar or club back home. Working the room is a must.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) when they go to pull the woman she locks up because he is still a stranger. you will have much more success when those women are staying in your hotel. spring break is all about cutting lose and being crazy. but even more so on spring break. Your best bet is to go direct or situational. coupled with the high energy. because the mob is so big. opening: You can go indirect if you are lucky enough to find a quiet portion of the club. It’s good.9. but doing it trying to slowly build social proof is a joke. people don’t have much time to observe any one person for long. It’s easy to get same night lays with skanky drunk girls or even 7’s. When it comes to 9 and 10 game . the entire room would see you getting blown out multiple times and they would lose attraction for you. let’s forget the mini social circles for now and let’s talk about how to game within the club assuming you don’t have the luxury of creating a mini social circle. burning through sets at a high rate could ruin your social proof. The clubs are so big. This is good and bad. that you will inevitably lose some sets. because if you open enough sets you will find one that hits. but you will need to quickly get into a topic that is fun. As we all know. because social proof will not be a powerful tool in your arsenal. If you try to have a deep low energy conversation. your margin for error with 9’s and 10’s is already lower in general. While same night lays can and will happen with 9’s and 10’s on spring break. Just go direct or situational and open until you find one that hits.

I’m Braddock. Anything that takes a lot of attention or effort on the woman’s 129 . this is done through teasing.9. Avoid attempting to run deep comfort until you get her back to the hotel or at least until you can get her somewhere quiet like a walk on the beach.” Braddock : “I don’t think I’ve met you yet. deep. guy. but you are really sexy. I’m not really into tall girls.” Braddock : “I’m not sure what to say to you. I’m Braddock.” Braddock : “I’m sorry. do you know what time the bible study starts tonight?” attraction Game within the clubs…. everyone there is in party mode and they did not go to spring break looking to find their next boyfriend.” Braddock : “excuse me. but I had to meet you…I’m Braddock..” Situational opener examples: Braddock : “I’m sorry.” Braddock : (to a tall girl) “Hi. dancing.Next set!!!!!! remember that spring break is slightly different than normal club situations. there’s actually no drinking in here. I’m not really into short girls. Are there 10 girls staying in one room? Is she staying in fort Knox of a hotel? Are her friends extremely bitchy and judgmental? find out logistics early in set and viscously cut sets with bad logistics. you need to find out the logistics of your target.” Braddock : (to a short girl) “Hi.. philosophical. If you are looking to hook up on spring break then it’s important to realize that it is a waste of time to talk to even the hottest woman on the planet if she is staying 20 miles down the beach and she drove the rental car so all her friends could drink... and leading.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) direct opener examples: Braddock : “You are cute/hot. With every set you open. what’s your name?” Braddock : “How do you expect me not to hit on you when you look like this?” Braddock : “You are really cute. but you are sexy as hell. In most venues it will be much too loud and crazy to hold a woman’s attention if you try to slow things down and get deep. Your main emphasis should be on keeping things playful and physical. If a set has several bad logistical components. there’s actually no dancing in here.. Don’t make the mistake of being the serious. role plays. that style of game will not get you far on spring break.

of your attraction game without having to say all that much. try to mingle and get on girls’ radar. If there is an open beach at your hotel with tons of people and most of them are not staying at your hotel. it does all of your kino escalation for you. Dancing can eat up a ton of time while moving the set forward physically. But at your hotel. so you will need to get more done with less. she will feel much more comfortable running around with you all night than some new stranger who is trying to game her through cold approach. your work is cut in half. once you have the girl’s attention. in the middle of the night. At the end of the night you are asking the woman to go home with a complete stranger to a hotel room she has never been to. If they remember you that night. then she will be much more comfortable and relaxed when you bring up the idea of going back to your hotel. don’t game. if you have been moving her around the club all night long. and it does most. but it will make your life much easier. Dancing can go all the way to make out or even farther without so much as one word being spoken. Just move her to the center of the mob and grind away). especially early in set. use the dance floor… The dance floor is the quickest way to escalate things physically (even if you can’t dance. there will be built in familiarity and comfort. You won’t have to have a fancy opener. then she is slowly getting used to the idea of following your lead. When you see her at a club later that night. so you can game them later at night when the vibe is right. 130 . Don’t run around your hotel burning down every set. of course you don’t ‘have’ to dance and you can have success without it.9. If she is comfortable following your lead all night. for one. will likely result in you losing her attention. this limits your attraction game. these clubs are so loud that it can be extremely hard to hold a woman’s attention for very long using a long routine stack. if not all.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) part. you need to move her as much as possible. these places are usually so fucking loud that dancing is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. However. and you have attraction. then by all means game away. that is asking a lot in and of itself. Gaming at your hotel: Mingle.

don’t be afraid to encourage it. I highly suggest that you get involved in as many day activities that allow you to be social. Good day game/Scm hybrid game makes your nights easier. However. If you hit it off well with a girl or group of girls from your hotel. You guys want to catch a cab over together?” If they say yes. there is the potential of hitting the ‘pre-selection’ attraction switch. you say. having a group of girls simply standing with your group will make it easier to open other girls. get to know them for a few minutes and then move on (unless it is going extremely well. that is not your prime directive of meeting them and having them around. the daytime is the time to get on tons of girls‘ radar so you can open them with ease later in the night. play volleyball and use it as your opener. I want you to use these women to help other women open easier. ask them what club they are going to that night.. so we are going to push faster than normal. I think that is where we are going. As a matter of fact. we need two more girls for our team. Whatever club they say.. Just look for girls that will hang around with you. If something happens with these girls romantically over the course of the week. but I’m not even worried about that.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) think of your hotel as a mini social circle. I highly suggest that you use fun or functional openers. “Hey. but still slower than cold approach. they don’t have to be super hot. Don’t worry if they talk to other guys. so be it. really use this time during the day. 131 . pre-existing girls always put new girls at ease. just like in normal life. “cool. open a woman. they will see you as much safer. Quickly find a small group of girls to befriend. all day. so you will know a bunch of people at night. introduce her and her friends to your friends. although this would obviously be preferred. there will be so many drunk assholes hitting on women that they can become kind of guarded. You only have a week.9. then of course escalate just like normal game)... then invite them over to pre-party in your room at 8 or 9. Don’t waste your day ‘just’ being drunk and passing out. naturally. Yes. you guys down to play?” During the day you don’t need to take sets from meet to sex. If you already have women. utilize the daytime to make your nights easier.wash rinse repeat. they will be much easier to open and merge into your group.

Set the right frames… pre frames (things said well before you get her in the bedroom) spring break is not a place where you are likely to meet your next girlfriend or future wife. it is quite common to get lMr (last minute resistance ) if you do not set the proper frames. utilize the fact that these girls are going with you and use it to your advantage. Do to the fact that you are hooking up with women you’ve known for only a short period of time. spring break is all about hooking up ‘now or never’. and while you are heading to the club. she will try to hang out with you all week. dismiss her. she will act offended if you ignore her. some. let this happen organically. don’t push hard to game them or couple up. The women are flaky and spring break is not logistically set up for dates. If she is way into you and you hook up.9. 132 . hooking up with girls in your hotel… Make sure that if the girl is staying in your hotel you don’t sleep with her if she seems like the clingy type you aren’t sure you will want to be seen with all week. over the course of the night. If you are the kind of guy that is used to running Day 2 style of game and deep comfort game you may find yourself frustrated on spring break. this means. you will need to set certain frames the night you hook up with her and the morning after. examples of things to make your room fun: • Keg • Music • Beer pong • Flip cup • Beer bong When they come over. or their group. or.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) this means you should have music and a few drinks in your room so they will want to stay and will want to pre-party there next time. WHo CAres??!! Don’t make them or any of their friends uncomfortable by acting jealous. tHIs Is sprING BreAK!!!! she is not your girlfriend. is going to break off and meet other guys. if she sees you talking to other girls. essentially cock blocking you from meeting other girls. some of her girls won’t like your buddies in that way.

right?” • “We could never date. examples of pre frames: • “This is so weird that we met like this. Just be flirty and playful. you are definitely a total prude. you still have those weird 1950’s views on boys and sex. but I bet you are horrible in bed. but I can already tell you are too much of a nice girl for me. but it is a good idea to introduce at least some sexual dialogue.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) What frames Should you Set? You want to set frames that imply sexual intent.9.” • “You are really sexy. you are leaving those on. You also want to wait to set these frames when you have the girl in isolation (away from her friends). It would last exactly 2 months and be nothing but fights and makeup sex. so. you’re from the Midwest? So. Don’t make out with her and run around the beach holding hands. When you see her the next day. You don’t need to be overly sexual or pushy. It sucks we only have a week together. You will find that you can create a situation where you have a stage five clinger following you around all week wondering why you are talking to other girls and not spending your entire spring break with her.” • “You’re from the south? Ok. I like that.” • “I love those shoes…if we end up having sex.” • “You’re really hot. this ends in a makeout.” pre frame by challenging her Sexually: • “You are really sexy and really cool. Most people are so judgmental and uptight. the key is the timing. then you will run into another problem that needs remedy.” • “We can’t hang out.we would have sex like 5 times a day.” • “It’s a good thing you don’t live in Los Angeles…. but I can tell you are a bad kisser. If you introduce it before you have solid attraction. If 133 . Just act exactly like you did the day before.” • “Oh.” • “You know what I like about you? You seem like you’re really open minded. don’t act weird.” post frames: on the other hand if your same night lay game is tight. it will destroy the set. I usually do it in mini isolation (meaning that I do it just out of earshot of her friends).

M . but if you are just talking to everyone. When you wake up. M. most women are just as likely to get weirded out by a guy acting clingy. this girl tried to seduce me last night. thank God I’m a moral rock. there will often be other people in the room (your friends or hers). As a matter of fact. she will assume you are just a social guy.” Girl: “lol…Whatever!!” Braddock: “Mr. but she insisted that I take my clothes off.9. I was in the corner minding my own business and this girl comes up to me and basically forces me to drink alcoholic beverages. If you try to sniper a girl right in front of her it might cause problems. or how glad you are that you met. focus on “how fucking attracted you are to her” and “how much she turns you on. You may or may not hook up with her again on the trip anyway. I told her that I’m from oklahoma and that we don’t even kiss girls until the second date. the feelings you feel for each other. Most women on spring break don’t give a shit!!!! they are there for the same reason you are. focus on the fact that “This was hot” and don’t place an emphasis on the connection you made. What frames can you set post sex to help reduce stage 5 clinger? To avoid any hard feelings or creating a stage five clinger. Do Not treat a woman that you hooked up with on spring break like she is your new girlfriend.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) you are just being social in general then she won’t notice that you are actively gaming other girls. and was talking all smooth.” 134 .” Keep things light/silly/playful after sex. you know how shy I am in bars and clubs. but the fastest way to guarantee that you don’t is to turn into a clingy boyfriend. Don’t let things get too serious or awkward. The truth is that you should just avoid the women that you think will be stage five clingers. example in Action: Braddock : “Mr. I will often say something like this to lighten the mood of the awkwardness of being naked in a stranger’s hotel room the next morning. was uncomfortably touchy feely.

I think that is more than fair. You know I’m saving my virginity until marriage. she will go deep. As a matter of fact. don’t you think it’s only fair that she buys us breakfast as payment for tricking a sweet. innocent oklahoma boy?????” Mr. M (said in silly Australian accent): “Yeah.Whatever.Braddock 135 . You must steer the ship. M. If you take things deep.. she will stay light and fun.” It’s all about keeping things silly and light. M. AVoID Deep!!! Good luck on your spring break adventure. If you keep things light and fun.3 Spring Break Game: The Definitive Guide (Guaranteed to Get You Laid) Girl: “hahaha…. Mr.9. . I mean I’m going to have to hold him and explain to him that you aren’t going to marry him. he came and talked to me!!!” Braddock: “Mr. don’t let her paint me with an unfair brush.

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http://www.com/braddock/93788-when-pull-trigger-your-social-circle.10.html Question: “In my social circle how do I know when to start pouring on the attraction material or when to wait?” answer: social Circle attraction doesn’t begin until compliance begins.theattractionforums.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle.. 137 ..

I noticed that in cold approach “fortune favors the bold” but in social circle game this mentality often did more harm than good.. they often find themselves in the friend zone. the third type of guy is the one who used to pull the trigger way too late (I.e. on the other end of the spectrum are the guys who try to pull the trigger far too early. a Strange paradox…. If it hits. Most guys either try to pull the trigger way too early or way too late.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. he would say. In this article I will show you why that % is even higher in social circle game...” When I used to help the Don on his bootcamps..but if it doesn’t. and are now the guys who are attempting to pull the trigger WAY too early (I. on the other hand. I also noticed that the 138 .. they make the situation very uncomfortable and come across as gamey or sleazy..e. “Getting laid is probably 70% about getting compliance. Consequently. these guys treat their social circle like it’s a night club and basically cold approach and game every girl in their circle. one thing you will notice in social circle settings is that pouring on the attraction material too early can have major repercussions. I can remember spending a great deal of time in all three of these categories before figuring out how to find a balance that was effective. Guys who pull the trigger with women way too late have a hard time getting attraction and asserting themselves in their group. overly pushy gamey guy). you can create an awkward situation that isn’t going away anytime soon. they have a problem getting attraction because the women of the group see them as try hard and low value. found pickup literature.great. friend zone). I quickly noticed that social circle game was much more about timing and patience.10. compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Compliance Defined: “A disposition or tendency to yield to the will of others.” I couldn’t agree more.

their weakness. I can make those kinds of jokes 139 . you will naturally start to see what people’s boundaries are. guys in my social circle who were getting laid consistently by the hottest girls were some of the boldest guys I’d ever met. (Don’t say you don’t do this…. laughing at an average joke way harder than it deserved. peer pressure. stability and comfort are born within the group..e. the women would have been deeply offended and turned off. Over time. We use this knowledge as a blueprint to determine the nature of each individual relationship in our life…. You might even create rationalizations that paint just average behavior or even poor behavior in a positive light (I. but when these guys did it. being more accommodating or forgiving of insurrections from them than you would from most people. When we first meet. jumping to defend or have their back without concern for the validity of their argument.everyone does this to some degree or another.. so you are much more likely to bend on something with them that you wouldn’t necessarily bend on with someone you considered lower value.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. unspoken roles will be defined for each member of the group and as these roles are accepted. the less guarded we are and the more we relax around them. but hanging out 20 times will give you a pretty good idea. the recipe for compliance: let’s think about how social circles or social encounters for that matter. if they like us etc… time remedies this because as time passes..but don’t be bold…but do!?!?!?!??. over time.10. 2. time: the more time we spend with people. if we should trust/like them. You want their acceptance and you want them to align with you. they would say and do things around women that if anyone else in the group would have tried.. “ok... be bold…. Hanging out with someone 1 time is not a very strong measure of how people are going to treat you consistently.. You are hardwired biologically to do so). we are out of sync with people and we are not sure what their intentions are. so. strengths. high value: Communicating with someone you consider being a high value member of the group. we get a more static look at how people will behave on a consistent level. people become more relaxed and more compliant as a result of any one and usually a combination of these 3 things: 1.anyone else confused? What a strange paradox. the women liked them even more. and what makes them feel good or bad. work.

this likely explains why soldiers or athletes that endure hardship together report feeling like brothers or family. You didn’t know him that well and you didn’t know his boundaries. When you first met you were likely fairly formal and both of you were holding your cards pretty close to your chest. He can ask you to do something within reason and you can ask him to do something within reason. but Jenny gets really upset. As this happens. 140 . but might have been if a stranger tried them. then you will see him as high value to you. you begin to figure out each other’s boundaries and you both begin to open up. If you enjoy your time with each other and your time spent with him makes you feel good emotions. When we have someone we feel extremely close to and consider part of our group. each of you becomes more and more compliant to one another.10. Shared experiences: Have you ever noticed that we have a tendency to let our family members get away with saying and doing things to us that we would never allow a stranger to do or say? You likely have an archive the size of the library of Congress full of memories and feelings associated with each family member. the more connected you feel to that person. you can tease him. over time we will become far more compliant to them than to a stranger or to someone within the group we do not feel good around. As time passes.” If someone treats us well consistently and makes us feel good when we are around them. He can tease you. “How do all of these help me know when to pull the trigger?” to illustrate the above. or neutral) you have with someone. this person treats me like x. around Billy. but they upset sam. I’m not worried about him saying or doing any one thing. the more experiences (good. bad. you may flash multiple good and bad memories and experience a wide range of feelings in a split second. His or her behavior is most consistently like x..1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. so my mind is not alarmed when he does something out of the ordinary now and then. When you look at a picture of a family member. and as a result. think back to the time when you had met one of your closest guy friends..” or… “sara laughs hard when I playfully tease her. 3. and as you hang out more and more. we are going to bend a lot more and let things slide that aren’t that big of a deal. We let them slide because we have tons of shared experiences and time spent together that proves that ‘most’ of the time.

. You aren’t going to tease him as rough and you wouldn’t ask him for a favor and you would not be too excited about him asking for a sizable favor from you. As you spend time with a woman in your social circle and you share experiences... but the answer is. He can get her to do more with less effort. Now.. your attraction game can increase...as compliance increases.. you are essentially running cold approach game.. Here lIes Your WINDoW to esCAlAte!!!!! time + Shared experience + value = compliance As time. and value with that woman than you do and as a result.. He can pull off this magical feat.. go back and re-read the above and replace guy with girl...... oNlY IN HIs social circle because he has more time. each of you open up more and each of you are more likely to loosen up your boundaries toward each other. and value increases.. Have you ever been the new guy at a house party and you were flirting with a woman and it was going pretty well and then a guy from her inner social circle yells from across the room for her to come over and join them. ever notice you can joke rougher and get away with snide and edgy comments with women in your social circle? Could you have said those things to those women when you first met? Of course not..1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. it should be obvious by now..10. so when do you really turn up the attraction game???? Well..so does compliance... Chalk this up to time + shared experience + value = increase in compliance..no.no..he has more compliance from her than you do.no. 141 . Is it because he’s got some quantum game.. Before then.. but now they laugh. hoping it hits. Could that same guy go to any club in America and yell at a random hot stranger and she would break her conversation and walk to him?... and she does. shared experiences.. shared experiences. regardless of how good things were going with you and her? How did he pull her away from you? Is it because he’s “so alpha”. What about a guy friend you met 2 days ago? You are basically back to square one with the new guy.

We’ll be right back after this commercial break from our sponsors. this does not mean stay in friend mode until compliance is high and this does not mean you should not run attraction game until compliance is high. then the frequency and intensity of your attraction game should decrease.1 When to pull the trigger in your Social circle. What if compliance decreases for some reason? let’s say she starts dating someone or for whatever reason you can sense that you have lost some compliance since last time you hung out. It just means increase the frequency and intensity of your attraction game as compliance increases.10.. this could go back and forth tons of times before it finally hits. M and I cover this in great detail in our social Circle Mastery seminar . So remember… compliance increases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game increases compliance decreases = frequency and Intensity of my attraction game decreases Mr.Well... -Braddock 142 ......

strong Boundaries 2. shine by actions. http://www. Mr. 6. you go for both at the same time. “trying to trade status for acceptance and approval. Abundance mentality (With everything) 7. Don’t give people any more respect than they earn. but for now. few of the things I think of when I think of respect. people must earn your praise.Golden rule of Building a new Social circle. call this the “Golden rule” for starting a new tree.. Authentic at all cost. Honesty at all cost. but are nowhere near acquiring a power broker seat within their social circle..” (We’ve all messed this one up). but the truth is you are only digging a deeper hole. turn into a 10 page post someday. Respect first. this goes back to the old David D quote of. You are never jealous. and the most. M and I.com/braddock/82236-golden-rule-building-new-social-circle. 8. It’s brutal to earn back the respect that you gave away up front. not by words. this does not mean become the lame try hard guy who tries to play leader either. 3. women in any given social circle. that will get you the opposite of respect just as fast. this applies with guys and girls. (fuck what everyone thinks) 5.. Go for respect first and popularity second. popularity second. Guys in the power broker seats date the hottest. 1. (see number 6) 143 ... sometimes you may try to appease an asshole of the group or try to ‘go along to get along’ by doing what you think is popular.. You don’t hand it out unless people truly deserve it.. You can easily gain respect without trying to be the leader. I’m sure there are many more. When you get good.theattractionforums... Your praise is as rare as Gold. It’s easy to gain popularity.html In our social Circle Mastery seminar. simply remember the golden rule of building a new social circle. fuck. this could and may. Just be real and act out of your own intentions regardless of what the group says or does without being too rigid either way. I know lots of guys who are popular. 4.

It’s hard to get “in” with you.) 19.. wear your arm floaties. 16. favorite David D quote. Don’t let people disrespect your time. or bend the truth in the face of value. only laugh if something is truly funny. (No courtesy laughs) Yet. You like.Golden Rule of Building a New Social Circle... people who make excuses. be ok hearing “No. sense of humor. you would never withhold laughter. Better yet.e. 20. Also.. Apologize rarely.. they have to earn it. “Don’t spend major time with minor people. “Be courteous to all.etc) 14. Keep your secrets. every time I have broken this law. don’t ask advice from anyone who isn’t living the life you want to live. 11. Don’t ask advice from the weak. -Braddock 144 . but intimate with few. but you don’t get close to just anyone. I’ve hated myself for it!!! Anytime someone breaks this law around me. yet expect you to respect theirs. Your time is precious.. Never change your beliefs.. 9. Negative. Why would you share them with people who don’t matter? 13. (May be the quickest way to lose respect. Never lean or leak emotionally on other people. but it means a lot when you do. (read this one 100 times. You are nice to everyone. True friendship is a plant of slow growth. 17. Has no problem teasing or qualifying people of high value. and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.. but don’t need other’s validation. 18. this means you are not emotionally fragile and need others approval to know you are ok. Most important..” Have a good holiday weekend! If you are going to the lake. You just consider them people.learn to say “No” a lot. because you don’t consider them higher value. 10. and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. people who are not self reliant are disgusting!) this does not mean you can’t ask favors or advice. values. 12. I’ve hated them for it. people with high and low value characteristics.” -Deleanor roosevelt (I..” -George Washington 15..

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I couldn’t remember how long I was expected to speak so I prepared about 5 hours of content.. I’m a little jealous. peacocking. M and I developed for our social Circle Mastery seminar were born out of my college experience.theattractionforums. Jesus! on second thought.. cold approach. It’s impossible not to feed off of that when you are speaking.maybe it’s better that I didn’t. and amoging guys for no reason.. I like speaking to the younger guys... having 300 DHV stories. They have a lot of energy and they are fired up to learn this stuff. At Love Systems. In social Circle Mastery we define buzz as having people talk about you when you aren’t around. by letting other people observe you in multiple high value situations.10. getting your sub communications under control. future product? I love speaking about college game because it’s definitely my bag.... I also spent a fair amount time trying to MurDer the sacred cows of classic pickup dogma.. opening every set.. Several of the principles Mr. AlWAYs trying to control the frame. I would probably be the baby daddy of like 30 kids.Let’s Just hug it out http://www. I wish I would have found this stuff when I was a freshman in college... I think the worst thing that a young guy can do on a college campus is run around trying to emulate what he learned in The Game. This trumps any weak DHV story you might develop...com/braddock/74455-social-circle-vs-cold-approach-lets-just-hugout. but not limited to. As a matter of fact.. I spent most of my speech trying to hit the highlights of what I wish someone would have told me when I started college. Magic Bullets. I spoke for about an hour on college game. 146 . I teach guys that in college game and in Social Circle Mastery you are much better DHV’ing by first. and second.4 Social circle vs. hmm. the ultimate DHV is creating a ‘Buzz’ about you.. (I love The Game it changed my life) but trying to develop a super hero pickup persona has it’s time and place. I just got back from speaking at the 21 and under convention. but a college campus is not one of them. we advise college guys and anyone gaming within the confines of a small social circle to learn the basic structure outlined in savoy’s book. 5 hours of college game. but to ditch all the lame old guard community dogma including. that is the worst place to try and develop one.html 21 and under convention..

10. “But but but. I actually love cold approach. “But. If that is the case. you run a high risk of looking insecure.but.. Ask him for pictures of these girls.. Why do you knock it so hard? You are hurting my feelings and making my friend upset. But in social circle or college game. tell your friend I’m sorry. I have this friend and he tells the best stories and girls love him and and and he says cold approach. 147 . If you travel..but.” DHV stories were developed for cold approach because you have one shot at making it happen because you don’t have weeks or months to develop ‘Buzz.Braddock you teach cold approach..Let’s Just hug it out dhv stories: In the words of Chris rock. you have to tell DHV stories in order to convey your personality in 30 minutes or less.. I understand..” Awww. or are not in college it may be the only means of meeting women you have.’ therefore. I have mastered both because I think cold approach is a blast but I have realized that it doesn’t have to be a way of life.. hunting vs farming: the evolution of Society I like to think of cold approach as hunting and social circle game as farming. I’m telling you from first hand experience if you want the hottest girls in your social circle. Don’t care.4 Social circle vs. I would never try to convince someone not to learn it. If you have access to a stable of hot girls you are going to see on a semi regular basis. I have spent the last few years of my life mastering it.. running fast paced cold approach game is the Worst option. ruN soCIAl CIrCle GAMe!!!!!!! fuck your friend. like a braggart. live in a major city and don’t frequent the same venues. cold approach. or like you are lying if you constantly look for places where you can slide in a DHV stories. and deep comfort are the be all end all of game! He’s the self proclaimed best ever!” Yuck. “You ain’t got to lie to kick it.. this is why cold approach is such an art form and why it is so tough. then social circle game is not possible for you. frame setting. Braddock. I promise not to hit on any of his 5’s or 6’s.. It’s not even the second or third best option.

10.. when you are ready to harvest. it’s the biggest. sometimes.. omnivore: When you combine the two.. this is true power. you aren’t even thinking on those terms because you are starving! farming: When you farm you do a lot of work up front followed by intermittent maintenance. You have a harvest of crops growing. When you could be spending that time laying inroads for access to bigger better hunting ground. but you can go hunting for fun to see if you can find the trophy of the herd. leArN BotH!!!!!!!!! -Braddock 148 .Let’s Just hug it out hunting: It is a necessary skill all men should posses... When you are hunting you have to kill something every time you are hungry. then.. best trophy animal of the herd.. Basically.4 Social circle vs. You may have to take what you can get because you don’t know when you will eat next. but in a progressive society it slowly becomes more of a sport or a right of passage and less and less of a means for survival... and sometimes it’s the disease ridden runt. every time you go out and don’t kill something you become hungrier and hungrier. you come back and pick the best crops and throw away the weaker crops. cold approach..

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I have the pernicious question in my head: “I hope that she is not thinking we are in a committed relationship. but sandwich this with some nice cognitive dissonance by saying. I am pretty low on sleep. leaving them hanging just a little after they put themselves out there is powerful. how they date and are on track to get married and get babies and that wasn’t for me. Last night. It was supposed to be quick. As she finally put her shoes on to leave. but I’m also not looking for a relationship right now. I usually don’t get into a big dialogue when girls say this. but don’t get into a logical conversation) I like to say less and keep the tension on them! Whether you want friends with benefits.theattractionforums.com/braddock/103563-creating-friends-benefits-my-responsered. 2. I am not sure that it helped make sure that we are not going to have a committed relationship. Though. so this may come out all fumbled. a one night stand.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response In Red) http://www. or a girlfriend. a friend came over to pick something up at my place. Afterward. Avoid saying anything that builds too much comfort. We ended up going for a walk. “I don’t sleep with people who are just friends either”. she said that she likes me more than a friend. Validate her by saying. (simply smile to acknowledge it. she came back in for a moment that turned into lying on the floor together.11. I usually just smile and/or escalate and ignore it. “I don’t sleep around or with someone unless they are more than friends. that some people scare me. By not letting her know what you think either way. I tried setting expectations later by bringing up. If you feel she is a girl who would get super clingy then there are a few things you could do: 1.” 150 . She said that she can’t have sex with a friend only. you create a powerful unresolved tension inside her.” Could you give me a quick check on what you think and suggestion on how to proceed. she has just openly started chasing you.html originally posted by Cowboy1: Okay.

Not bad. be careful what you say. I say shit like this sometimes. We ended up screwing until sunrise.just a logical reason for her to get the fuck out without you having to say. rather than following societies model.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) 3. keep escalating like a mother fucker..” this allows her to leave with self esteem nice and high.. However... they don’t get their feelings hurt or have misguided expectations since I don’t verbalize much. they like me and wonder/wish I like them. Every two people form their own kinds of relationship. During and just after sex.”you’re so special”. 151 . I avoid saying anything about how I feel to a girl I just want to sleep with..11.. “Get the fuck out.. We ended up washing each other in the shower and had breakfast in the afternoon. ask her to hand you the alarm clock next to the bed. but keeps her from lingering and doing relationship type stuff. This. like her first vibrator... 5... She had some first experiences. Don’t stand there waiting as if you two are negotiating a million dollar contract 4. we make our own rules. I didn’t hear the rebellious. and then some more. It all depends on the girl and the situation.. but they don’t know for sure if I do. I gave her the spiel of ‘letting things naturally develop.”. It’s not a deal breaker. and I build the necessary comfort by making them laugh and have fun.”I’m so glad we met. Keep it physical and “MAYBe” about how cool she is. Just before you have sex.. “Baby”.’ She kind of nodded. is not something I would do the first time I had sex with a girl I just wanted to be my fuck buddy. this way... say it as if it’s a good thing and simply a statement of fact.etc. After you say something heavy like that. set it for 8am (whatever time) and tell her that you have to get up and go to work in the morning/help a friend move/overthrow a small countries government.. while very fun.. Don’t say that and wait for a response. A little long winded for this situation.. Don’t say shit like. but not bad. every girl has a slightly different blueprint of what she will feel ok with before having sex/becoming a friend with benefits.. took a nap.Keep it about how attracted to her you are.. but you are doing stuff that I only do with girlfriends/girls I’ve slept with numerous times and know the score..

Just after sex . but will have a hard time combating that and will passively accept it (if said right)... Girls play the same game.” It’s much like qualification. and her room mate is my ex-girlfriend.1 Creating Friends with Benefits (My Response in Red) Oh. they get you to comply on small things and then the next thing you know you are at Bed Bath and Beyond picking out decorations for the bathroom you share with your new girlfriend. it will be harder and harder to say no. but in her mind she may be thinking. because he did all these things. but you’re not like that. I am touching both pretty affectionately. Situation check and pointers please! 152 .11.. Setting expectations for the relationship/situation is perhaps the thing that I am struggling with the most. and she was pretty persistent about bareback.. Also. slightly smooth way to handle expectations? She is cute and all. I hold hands with more girls. I can push him toward a relationship. I am not looking for a committed relationship at this point. I wanted to be safe. please fuck both of them and write an awesome 3some field report.. I think that is so fucking sexy. Though. You:”You know what I think is so fucking hot about you?” Her: “What?” You: “Most girls get all weird and clingy after you have sex and they try to push you into a relationship..” she will be frustrated inside. Oh. You keep getting the girl to comply to smaller and smaller things and the next thing she knows she is sleeping with you. then. We were already holding hands before. what is the responsible.if I keep this up and keep getting him to accept these types of things.say. “Yes.. If so. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA You are my hero!!! When we all three hang out. I can’t stand girls who do that. Yet. Do you think that in her mind we are a couple now? No.

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you need to work on how to extend conversations without having to memorize anything..com/braddock/103566-too-routine-dependent-sticking-point.. who can make a woman laugh.. He said to go out for a few nights and don’t ask any questions. “You seem like an lA girl. and the more advanced concepts will start to slowly 154 .12.” or. Down the road (in a week or two).Thanks! Go out for a week and don’t use any routines (at least consciously). Work for a few months at becoming a strong conversationalist who can keep conversations going. I think we all go through a phase where we run around trying to use 300 routines. you can start adding teeth to this to build attraction. What you learn is that routines are strong when they are used as the salt and pepper. “so where are you from?” You have to say.. DC in Sept. either way. I’m signed up for Mr. Go in with the mind set for the first week you are just going to try to be funny and make the girls laugh and get them being playful (that’s it). but they are almost worthless and definitely come across weird when they are used as the steak of the conversation.. but for now. html originally posted by eagle1977 Hey guys.. so instead of saying.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point http://www.I feel like I’m at a sticking point where I’m too dependent on ‘routines’..M bootcamp in Washington.I open/transition fine but immediatly after I kinda just feel like I’m going through a manual in my head of attraction routines and sometimes it’s working and sometimes (with hotter girls) it’s just falling flat. as I don’t want to keep up bad habits for another 2 months. be playful. it won’t allow you to use routines and it will keep you from asking boring questions. only keep the conversation going by making statements. (totally psyched!) and would love to get some suggestions to work on this before the bootcamp. you will have to introduce new topics yourself. Another thing I did when I was trying to get good is something I read in a Juggler post.theattractionforums..

if you think you will ever memorize 399 routines.1 too ‘routine dependent’ Sticking point happen on their own. say them all in a row. and every conversation is so different. because they can steer an already good conversation sexual or whatever you need. You will go insane trying to memorize them all. then you are crazy. your responses will be delayed as you try to remember which one to say. it would be impossible to create a routine stack that works in every situation. -Braddock 155 . routines are nice because they can get you a repeatable response while you are learning and help you see what good conversation feels like. What you will notice as you get better at things like trigger words and the things I mentioned above. I also teach trigger words on my bootcamps and we do several exercises to reduce the emphasis of routines for these same reasons. they are also powerful in certain situations. However. but it will be born out of what you have naturally developed as opposed to going to a bar with 20 routines you have to memorize and figure out where to plug them in. you will find yourself doing “routines” technically. in that you say many of the same things in every set. and you will take a girl home.12.

‘Man Vs. Wild’ .How the set turned Around .2 Soldier of fortune! .1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report .covered in thiS chapter: 13.taming the Beast and Claiming the prize 156 .elements that Made the set explode 13.A set with satan .

sheriff is great at watching someone in set and telling them what they can change to take their game to the next level. html NYC was a fucking blast. Negative people fucking suck donkey dick to work with and in life in general. Back to reopen satan! Braddock : “excuse me satan……” 157 .A.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report http://www. M. our hero knows the remedy for such bitchy behavior is social proof. I said sweeeet! sign me up! since Mr. How unexpected. I used to be one. the student did really well and we had a blast. fine. great energy and outlook on life. I knew this guy must be the real deal.13. I can’t stand being around them. We had a blast. I opened the target and not the obstacle. He was a really interesting guy. it’s sick”. Dahunter said in l. They don’t expect you to fix them and they don’t hate life. those are my favorite guys to work with. Well kinda. but I have to admit. M in action. He’s a cool dude and really fun. she didn’t even answer my question and she turned back to her friend! lolol this kind of behavior only excites our hero. It was really late so Mr. “Holy shit dude. I was excited about NYC because I was going to get to hang with sheriff. sheriff ended up getting a BJ from some girl he met in the elevator on his way to bed. lived and traveled the world. Also. I can learn something from anyone I meet. M and sheriff went home and went to bed.theattractionforums. that Mr. for him to be like. some social proof.com/braddock/61183-lr-poppin-my-colla-partna-nyc-lay-report. I flew out early on Thursday and once again they fucked up my flight. We opened a few sets and then I saw a 2 set at the bar I wanted to open. I had talked to my one on one several times on the phone and he seemed really cool and really excited to learn. so. at this level. they decided to go out with my one on one and I just for fun. you’ve got to see Mr. M closed a playboy playmate and that just talking to the guy helps make your game better. Dahunter called me after he met him in lA and told me how amazing this guy was. ooops! she turned and looked at me slowly from head to toe. Dahunter gets laid like a fucking rockstar and has some of the best game I’ve ever seen. Ha! the student and I went to a really cool club that his friend got us into. he still did well. I open a few sets get locked in and have them touching me and grabbing me. off to go get that. it’s not very often that someone blows me away with their game or with something they can teach me to add to my game. We went to several venues and even though NYC was kinda slow because it was a thursday. I was excited to meet Mr. Graduated from Harvard. one of those “I didn’t know they stacked shit that high” looks. Now that I’m not. Also. M and sheriff were in town early. so.

Just handle that bullshit like you would if a five year old was talking to you. but I can feel her eyes on me. so. It’s crucial during these shit tests that you remain unaffected by their shit responses.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report Satan: Cutting me off before I could even finish my sentence: “Fuck off. so get over the whole this guy wants me thing. I open multiple sets and merge them and bounce around from girl to girl and get locked in where satan can see me. You wouldn’t get mad and yell and you wouldn’t try to look cool by laughing in her face. Hi. smiles and walks away. I know you have lots of options and you can tell I have lots of options. Don’t get mad and don’t try to act like it’s overly funny. she has to stay congruent in front of her friends to the bitch she was earlier. You didn’t look like the normal NYC bar fly so I wanted to meet you. (sIDe Note: Most of the time when a girl blows you out that hard just move on.13. your moment to strike for the third time is when she breaks off from her friends. I’ve just had a bad day and we’ve had some weird guys hit on us tonight. but you don’t need the bar front with me. I could tell this girl was attracted or I would have moved on as well. Braddock : “let’s start over. hey nice to meet you too. But. I don’t look at her. You would just smile and not care.” our hero bends over grabs her ID and hands it to her. Her eyeing me and staying in proximity also let me know that there was a chance at salvaging it.” Braddock : “look I don’t know what all the attitude was earlier. twice. If other girls like you then you must be cool.” satan: “I’m sara.” 158 . I’m Braddock. As I see her coming out of the bathroom I catch her before she gets back to her friends.” Braddock: “I was just going to tell you that you dropped your ID on the floor. take a hint.) she goes to the bathroom by herself and she cuts her eyes at me as she is walking. can you play nice or is that how you always are?” (social proof was key for all of this. More social proof!!!! Now it’s time to own the room. that’s all the IoIs you’re going to get from a hot girl that has blown you out hard. you’re kinda fiery. satan: “I’m sorry I was rude. But.

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I tell her I’m leaving because I’m starving (I use this to pull almost everytime, which is usually true, but I never actually get something to eat, which is good and bad lol.) satan: “Wait, let me grab my friend and I’ll go with you.” she grabs her Asian friend and we get a cab. We drop her friend off and she gives the cab driver a “non food address”. It’s like 4 am at this point and the cab driver drops us off about a block from her house. As we are walking toward her apt building she starts with the lMr. I am a beast at destroying lMr for a couple of reasons, especially on bootcamp. I really have no fear of walking away, and because I’m literally leaving in 2 days, I don’t have time for any bullshit. there literally is, no tomorrow. the sexual tension was about to explode between us, because there were so many shit tests and so much drama leading up to this moment that it was ridiculous. However, this kind of state pumping leads to amazing sex if it happens, but it can also lead to lMr if you don’t properly build fear of loss into the set once you pass attraction. I usually thread this during comfort. that way she has invested so much time into the interaction with you that the fear of loss actually means something. If you do it too early then she just lets you go even if she was attracted. You don’t have to be in deep comfort, just enough comfort to where she feels invested in the encounter enough to where she doesn’t want you to leave. so we get to her door and…… satan: “I’m sorry, you can’t come up, I know we will end up having sex.” Braddock: “Wow, of course I want to have sex with you eventually, but I actually just wanted to hang out and get to know you better. I wasn’t worried about what might or might not happen. But, you know what, fuck this shit, I’m not going to let you disrespect me and act like I’m just another guy who wants to fuck you. I could have fucked any girl in that bar tonight, why would I waste my time on the girl who was least likely to have sex with me unless I actually wanted to get to know her?” (Don’t give her time to answer.) “fuck this I’m out.” (start heading down the street trying to hail a taxi.)

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satan: sprinting after me, “Wait, wait!” Braddock: Never breaking stride, never looking back at her, and even shrugging her off when she grabs my arm. “Nope, fuck this I’m going home. What a waste of my fucking time.” satan: “No, wait. I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it like that. please wait. Don’t be like this.” Braddock: “look, I know you like me, but I don’t like all the little bullshit games. I’m only here for 3 days. I don’t have time for all the junior high shit. I obviously like you too. We can either go up to your place and hang out, or I’m going back to my hotel. But if you are going to be all judgmental and bitchy about everything then I don’t want to get to know you. You’ve kinda killed the mood for me and I think it would be better if I just went home.” satan: “No, no, don’t be like that. I do like you, please come up. I didn’t mean it like that. I’m not judgmental at all. I promise! I just didn’t want you to forget I said all that.” she was all over me at this point again. And trying to drag me upstairs. I thought she was going to cry! I lightened the mood a little, but still kept the sexual tension. Braddock: “Hmm… look if you want to go upstairs and watch a movie or something that’s cool, but it better be pG-13 and you better keep you damn hands off me. satan: smiles, she liked that she had worked and won me over. “shut up jerk, let’s go.” We get up to her apartment and she awkwardly fumbles through a few DVD’s and I just grab her and throw her against the wall and start making out with her and then pull her back to her bedroom. I can honestly say it was some of the best sex I have ever had. And one of the greatest turnarounds I’ve ever had. once I got her to her room, the “non judgmental“ frame was set so hard and she had worked so hard to get me that there was no way in hell she was going to stop. moral of the story: There are a few tactics I employed in this set that made it go from flammable to fucking explosive! However, these tactics are not for the faint of heart.

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. It’s totally different than the game I run back home on girls I plan on seeing again. then just let it happen. flammable: Cocky funny.Braddock 162 . Your fearless leader. most go like that. (thank you sinn). unreactive to her bitchy blowouts. social proofed the room. and you can count on losing a lot more sets. threading frames that you expect her to live up to or she knows you will walk. I have a million stories where it reached a point where I knew sex was going to happen and I just shut the fuck up and waited until we were alone. this stuff is not always necessary. this situation in NYC was a little different. this situation needed some extreme push/pull and she had to feel the fear of loss or the bitch shield would never have come down. so don’t always use them. where emotions reach extreme highs. this girl was hot as hell and a complete bitch. explosive: Aggressive takeaways during comfort making it look and feel like she lost me.13. If the set is naturally leading to sex.1 poppin my colla partna nyc Lay report running my style of one night stand game has its drawbacks. Hell. Adding drama to the set.

. I walked her troll friend back down to the wharf and helped her crawl back under the bridge before the sun came up. the sooner you will stop being a lazy fuck and read my posts! Anyway. because if the instructors were around each other more it would be like fishing with fucking dynamite when we were in set together. fuck you!!! If you were too nice to just come right out and say that my posts are too long.. but her hatred would soon spew forth. and that I had nothing but friendly. she started off nice enough. he had this hot ass girl (who he eventually fucked). Most troll friends I enjoy chatting with being as they are usually funnier and smarter than their hot friend.. one thing that I’ve found is that it is hard to wing with new guys even if you both have super tight game. as the reality of the situation set in that Dahunter had every intention of banging her friend. This particular troll was an extremely hateful one.. She caught a few live fish with her mouth and talons and then she settled into her cave. Dahunter: After winging Dahunter. once your noble hero Braddock saw that Dahunter’s fake titted girl was stuck to him like glue. our game is very similar in that both of us are very sexual and kino big time. as long as I could. once Dahunter had his girl locked up.theattractionforums. Bootcamp post. (trolls are allergic to sunlight. (her fat friend). When I said. I adjusted the aim on my scope and started aiming for a girl that didn’t have horns and a tail…. I’m going to try to slow my game down. they are also rumored to be allergic to clothes that fit and low calorie snacks after midnight). I am reposting a lay report that was deeply imbedded in my savoy. leading to this glorious narrative. He gets the same results I get with half the effort.then. the sooner you realize that all of Braddock’s writings will someday be chiseled at the feet of large statue’s erected in my honor. and too lazy to read my blog.. I felt like Dahunter and I winged for each other extremely well... with fake tits and a perfect body crawling all over him. she became more and more of an agitated troll..13. but he runs a much slower set and he gets great reactions. or too nice to tell me that my posts are too long. We wing very well together too.. anti-cock block conversation in my pants for her. You aren’t around each other enough to have tons of inside jokes built up and you aren’t good at reading the other guys game to see how he is trying to push it.com/braddock/61182-lr-braddock-soldier-fortune. Despite all this.” the troll became noticeably frustrated and confused. If you were too lazy to read the whole thing. I jumped on the grenade.. on the second night... you are wise to bite your fucking tongue. However.A. which sucks... “You’re gonna make a really nice friend.. l..2 Soldier of fortune! http://www. 163 .html thanks to an overwhelming amount of email requests from the platinum members who subscribe to Braddock’s blog that are too fucking lazy. here you go.

Braddock feels this stereotype originated thanks to fairytales aimed at America’s youth containing anti-troll rhetoric). he’s the…. then. however the people’s champ harbors no bad feelings about using the troll as a pawn to make conversation with a fairer maiden). (your hero isn’t out to hurt feelings. “Whatever. Braddock : “Hey.. one that came and talked to my friend.” (troll sticks out her scale covered talon and shakes hands with the HB Asian.” trolls are actually quite smart despite common misconception. help us out real quick.. she knows I am done entertaining her.. You think he’s safe or should I go rescue him? I mean.2 Soldier of fortune! The Tale of Braddock: Soldier of Fortune! I moved the troll mentioned in the above to a place by the bar near a hot Asian girl I had my eye on earlier in the night. she looks pretty tough.” HB Asian: “ha ha!” about to say something when she is cut off by. you are the cutest black girl I’ve met tonight. I’m Vietnamese. there is something about you.(pause so she can wheeze an catch her breath to finish the sentence)…. that was rude of me. troll: (loud troll hissing. then I included the hot Asian girl in on our conversation.” Braddock : “oh. but doesn’t want to.. and by natural. she is not dumb. a short window between the troll’s wheezing and hissing.” Braddock : “oh. you asshole. I waited for a natural break in our conversation. Although the troll has become spiteful. Braddock : “Yeah so anyway.. I’m not attracted to that many black girls but. even if the troll becomes hateful.13. like a snake but much deeper.. (Braddock cuts off this awkward display of troll anger and bad body languages the troll out of the conversation). I mean. you’re Asian?” (back turn) 164 . My boy is over there with her friend and I’m worried about him. I’ve already answered.” HB Asian: HAHAHA “I’m not black.. this is my friend. “Her questions three. troll.

You may know karate. so who cares.. Who are you anyway? Braddock : “I’m the one asking the questions around here sucka! look. you do look good in this outfit.” HB Asian: “see. spins me around) “What was that all about?” Braddock : “Asians can’t drive for shit. HB Asian: “HAHAHA!” Braddock : “But Asian’s can’t drive for shit. I bet I’m cuter than all your wives.” Braddock : “You know what. I don’t know do a spin for me. I do have 5 other wives and I don’t really need another one and you can’t drive for shit but. hmmmm.” Braddock: “that’s a bold statement. but you’re probably one of those girls whose ass looks hot in clothes.. but I have a rape whistle. and you have a good smile. 165 .. got it?” HB Asian: “HAHAHA! oMG. so I would have to ride in the front all the time to grab the wheel and make sure you didn’t miss turns and stuff and I think we both know guys that ride in the passenger seat with their wives are pussies. so there is no way we could get married. I make all of my other wives drive me to and from wherever I need to go and I like to ride in the back because it makes me feel powerful.13. Asian’s are always weird kissers.” (Kino is pretty heavy at this point and she obviously works out or has only a mild case of bulimia.” HB Asian: “HAHAHA You are a fucking smart ass! Why does everyone say that about Asians!? And did you say you can’t marry me? Where did that come from and why would that matter?” Braddock : “Well.2 Soldier of fortune! HB Asian: (arm grab. you do dress sexy. but it’s actually not firm at all and who cares anyway. so.” HB Asian: “You are out of control. Well. this just won’t ever work out. just because you’re good at Karate doesn’t mean that you get to wear the pants in this relationship.

well guess what.” HB Asian: “HAHAHAHA.. Haha! that does kinda sound silly when I hear someone else say it. Just because I get all dressed up and have my makeup looking so good..” Braddock: “Bla bla. whatever Jackie Chan. quit trying to charm me because you didn’t think that I heard the bartender yell last call. Next thing you know you’re going to try to put your hand under my bra. Most girls I’ve met in l. I know you want me! You are crazy! What?” Braddock: “I may let you flirt a lot and get kinda handsy like you are doing. but if I don’t get something to eat then I’m going to wilt.. I do ballades! feel this.13.”(bla bla bla .see!” Braddock: “Ha. but I’m not going to let you take my virginity. are stuck up and snobby... but you can’t even keep your hands to yourself in a public place like this and I can’t find my rape 166 . get your God damn ass off my hand. ok? Me and my friends just come to dance and we like to look good. I know girls like you. I’m starving.You are out of control. I bet you’re such a little player. and this shirt makes my tits look huge. I think I’m out of here.” HB Asian: “You are such a jerk! I love it. Braddock: “Damn. I like you because you’re just stuck up.2 Soldier of fortune! because her body was badass). however effective)..” HB Asian: “Ahh.” HB Asian: “HAHAHA.. this kind of dialogue goes on for another 30 min or so.Me and my girlfriends have said that soooo many times... I would invite you along if I thought I would feel safe with you in the back.. you are fun to talk to. HB Asian: “Bullshit! I have a personal trainer and I work out four days a week... doesn’t mean I come to the club looking for sex. tons of push/pull and tons of kino and kino takeaways for arbitrary reasons that make no sense logically. I don’t know how you get away with talking to me like that.A..oMG whatever. You’re fun to talk to.” (places Braddock’s rugged... Braddock: “Hey.. I would normally slap a guy for half the shit you said tonight.. man-hand on her ass). rough.

” 167 .2 Soldier of fortune! whistle. she knows I’m doing it to fuck with her and I can tell it’s turning her on. Braddock: “Wow.. I pull her onto her bed and we start making out. but I really do feel most comfortable with both of them. We stop for a minute so she can change.I’m a big deal. I’m from l.” (enter the taxi.. Maybe the taxi driver will let you ride in the front.” HB Asian: “HAHAHA!! Who are you? You are such a fucking smart ass! I want to punch you and makeout with you at the same time. I keep stopping mid makeout to ask the taxi driver random lame questions....” Braddock: “Now you’re getting it. she lays next to me on her bed and kisses me on the cheek and lightly shakes me to wake me up). I don’t question it or mention food again. We get to her apartment building and she leads me in to the elevator by the hand.. she tells him an address. and you’re from the midwest. I’m out Jackie Chan. Hmmm.A.. Alright.. Are you sure you don’t mind sleeping on the couch? I would give you a pillow. you should be kissing my ass.13.” HB Asian: “Wait.” HB Asian: “Ha! there you go with the girl riding in the front with you getting chauffeured in the back. your bed is so comfortable. you’re just gonna leave like that?” Braddock: “What do you mean? I’m tired and I’m starving!” HB Asian: “I thought you wanted me to go?” Braddock: “God! You are such a high maintenance lA girl! (me mocking her in a pouty girls voice as I grab her hand and pull her toward the exit) “I know you already asked me once.exactly! You are such a jerk. It was nice meeting you.. When she comes back I pretend to be asleep. but I want you to beg me to come. We make out in the back off and on. she keeps pulling me in to makeout with her.” HB Asian: “Hahaha. We go in her apartment and go straight to her room.

they went to drive off. And. backed up. because she almost fucked him over. but here’s a snack.. I had push pulled her so many times up to that point that there was zero lMr. I Walked in the hotel room and saw Dahunter passed out. I fucked her in her bed that night and once again in her shower the next morning. slammed on the brakes. (My bad).The troll that I thought I had secured under the bridge must have escaped.. many of the same characters were involved. We traded stories about the night before. Go read his blog to find out all the details. -B 168 . and grabbed him despite the troll’s hissings!!!! He then went back and showed the fake titted hottie his thug passion. His story had a much more interesting twist than mine did.2 Soldier of fortune! I just laughed and started making out with her...13. I teased her all the way there about how she was doing nothing to shatter the bad Asian driver stereotype... Afterwards. she gave me a ride back to my Hotel.. His game is really tight.

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