TO CHANGE ---Charles darwin SYMPTOMS OF WINNING TEAM Band of boy’s atmosphere Ability to pass the ball Live in present planning for future Carrying every one along – backing under performance A can do approach Being attentive to 1% things Common shared vision Strong personal goals yet subordinate to team goals Focusing on competition not internal difference Non negotiable work ethic Bring in new people and ideas to prevent staleness SYMPTOMS OF LOSING TEAMS 1. Bureaucratic delaying decision 2. Egos- internal competition, groupism 3. Getting credit more important than getting the job done 4. Lack of focus 5. Not enough back plans 6. The same few people perform no new people or ideas. 7. Too many or too few processes 8. Crab mentality 9. Blaming others or the environment for failure 10. Weighed down by past failures WHO IS A GOOD LEADER? 1. Makes the team add up to more than the sum of the parts 2. Has vision and communicates to inspire 3. Manages team climate 4. Is trusted and respected 5. Backs the team at all times 6. Is approachable and under stands their team empowers the team, creates more leaders 7. Takes them to places where they have never been before 8. Is open flexible, hones and hearaholic 9. I positive and optimistic

10. Is courageous in decision making always works in the interest of the

team 11. Is secure willing to surround him self with people better than him self 12. Can accept responsibility and gives credit
WHAT ASSERTIVENESS IS…. AND IS NOT Some of us have been told that we need to be more assertive, but yet wonder if that is really something that we want for ourselves. Do I really want to become a person who is tough all the time, who pushes others around to get my own way? The problem is often due to a misunderstanding of the term ‘assertiveness’. There is a tendency to confuse assertiveness with aggressiveness – a quality that is not desirable in healthy relationships. This article should help to clarify the difference between assertive, aggressive and passive behavior. ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOUR Assertiveness involves directly telling someone what you want or would prefer in such a way as to appear neither threatening nor punishing, nor in putting down the other person. It is about standing up for your rights but not at the cost of violating the rights of others. It also involves being able to express what you want without experiencing undue anxiety while doing so. It does not involve being ‘totally honest’ about one’s feelings. Assertive behavior is  Expressing your ideas clearly, but not by hitting out at others∙  Making decisions - even if your decision is not to make a decision!∙  Being clear about your point and not changing your mind if you do not want to∙  Listening to the other person’s point of view∙  Having self- respect and respect for other people∙  Feeling equal with others∙  Expressing feelings honestly and with care∙  Being able to reach workable solutions to difficulties AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOUR Aggressiveness also involves an expression of feelings and opinions but in a way which punishes, threatens, or puts down the other person. The aim is to get your own way no matter what. If we win and get what we want it probably leaves someone else with bad feelings that they have lost. this could have a negative impact on future transactions with that person. Another possible consequence of behaving aggressively is that we might feel guilty later.

Aggressive behavior is       Not listening- you think the other person is a fool∙ Getting your own point across even if it means crushing others.∙ Getting people to do things they don’t want to do∙ Being loud and violent∙ Interrupting others∙ Being the winner at all costs

There is also indirect aggressive behavior which can be:      Quiet and appear inoffensive∙ Manipulating or trickling people∙ Being silent∙ Using sarcasm∙ Putting people down, making them feel small and silly

PASSIVE BEHAVIOUR Non-assertiveness involves hoping that you will get what you want but leaving it to chance or to another person to magically realize that you want it. Passive behavior is Keeping quiet for fear of upsetting people∙ Saying yes when you want to say no∙ Not expressing your feelings∙ Frequently apologizing∙ Inwardly burning with anger and frustration∙ Being unsure about your ideas and what you want∙ Accepting things you do not like or agree with∙ Avoiding conflict, so doing what other people want / do not want you to do∙ Appearing indecisive

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