18 Things I Wish Someone Told Me When I Was 18

This morning I was reading a book at my favorite beach-side coffee shop when an 18-year-old kid sat down next to me and said, “That’s a great read, ain’t it?” So we started chatting. He told me he was getting ready to graduate from high school in a couple of weeks and then immediately starting his college career in the fall. “But I have no clue what I want to do with my life,” he said. “Right now I’m just going with the flow.” And then, with eager, honest eyes, he began asking me one question after the next: • • • • • “What do you do for a living?” “When and how did you decide what you wanted to do?” “Why did you do this? Why didn’t you do that?” “Is there anything you wish you had done differently?” Etc, etc, etc…

I answered his questions as best as I could, and tried to give decent advice with the time I had. And after a half-hour conversation, he thanked me and we parted ways. But on the walk home I realized the conversation I had with him was actually quite nostalgic for me. He reminded me of me ten years ago. So I started thinking about his questions again, and I began imagining all of the things I wish someone had told me when I was 18. Then I took it a step further and thought about all the things I would love to tell myself if I could travel back in time to give my 18-year-old self some advice about life. So after a few cups of coffee and a couple hours of deliberation, here are 18 things I wish someone told me when I was 18: 1. Commit yourself to making lots of mistakes. – Mistakes teach you important lessons. The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re too scared to make a mistake. So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself. In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win. Remember, if you never act, you will never know for sure, and you will be left standing in the same spot forever. 2. Find hard work you love doing. – If I could offer my 18-year-old self some real career advice, I’d tell myself not to base my career choice on other people’s ideas, goals and recommendations. I’d tell myself not to pick a major because it’s popular, or statistically creates graduates who make the most money. I’d tell myself that the right career choice is based on one key point: Finding hard work you love doing. As long as you remain true to yourself, and follow your own interests and values, you can find success through passion. Perhaps more importantly, you won’t wake up several years later working in a career field you despise, wondering “How the heck am I going to do this for the next 30 years?” So if you catch yourself working hard and loving every minute of it, don’t stop. You’re on to something big. Because hard work ain’t hard when you concentrate on your passions. 3. Invest time, energy and money in yourself every day. – When you invest in yourself, you can never lose, and over time you will change the trajectory of your life. You are simply the product of what you know. The more time, energy and money you spend acquiring pertinent

knowledge, the more control you have over your life. 4. Explore new ideas and opportunities often. – Your natural human fears of failure and embarrassment will sometimes stop you from trying new things. But you must rise above these fears, for your life’s story is simply the culmination many small, unique experiences. And the more unique experiences you have, the more interesting your story gets. So seek as many new life experiences as possible and be sure to share them with the people you care about. Not doing so is not living. 5. When sharpening your career skills, focus more on less. – Think in terms of Karate: A black belt seems far more impressive than a brown belt. But does a brown belt really seem any more impressive than a red belt? Probably not to most people. Remember that society elevates experts high onto a pedestal. Hard work matters, but not if it’s scattered in diverse directions. So narrow your focus on learning fewer career related skills and master them all. 6. People are not mind readers. Tell them what you’re thinking. – People will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. That cute girl you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessed it; she hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given her the time of day either. In life, you have to communicate with others. And often, you have to open your vocal chords and speak the first words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simple as that. 7. Make swift decisions and take immediate action. – Either you’re going to take action and seize new opportunities, or someone else will first. You can’t change anything or make any sort of progress by sitting back and thinking about it. Remember, there’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it. Knowledge is basically useless without action. 8. Accept and embrace change. – However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. So embrace change, and realize that change happens for a reason. It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. 9. Don’t worry too much about what other people think about you. – For the most part, what other people think and say about you doesn’t matter. When I was 18, I let the opinions of my high school and early college peers influence my decisions. And, at times, they steered me away from ideas and goals I strongly believed in. I realize now, ten years later, that this was a foolish way to live, especially when I consider that nearly all of these people whose opinions I cared so much about are no longer a part of my life. Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, first date, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way. What they think and say about you isn’t important. What is important is how you feel about yourself. 10. Always be honest with yourself and others. – Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, and peace of mind is priceless. Period. 11. Talk to lots of people in college and early on in your career. – Bosses. Colleagues. Professors. Classmates. Social club members. Other students outside of your major or social circle. Teaching assistants. Career advisors. College deans. Friends of friends. Everyone! Why? Professional networking. I have worked for three employers since I graduated from college (I left my first two employers by choice on good terms), but I only interviewed with the first employer. The other two employers offered me a job before I even had a formal interview, based strictly on the recommendation of a hiring manager (someone I had networked with over the years). When employers look to fill a position, the first thing they do is ask the people they know and trust if they know someone who would do well in the position. If you start building your professional network early, you’ll be set. Over time, you’ll continue talking to new people you meet through your current network and your network’s reach and the associated

and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it. Sit alone in silence for at least ten minutes every day. laugh when you can. minors. Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies. and you can focus on mapping out the next logical. apologize when you should. Ask lots of questions. you can reach deep within yourself. 17. Do not spend to impress others. some of us were born to be or do whatever it is. Regardless of what you decide to do in your lifetime. not a wasteful one. and dream. You better be born to do it! Don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams and desires. and let go of what you can’t change. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Enjoy the ride. a reputation for consistent excellence. – The average person is usually astonished when they see a physically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness. and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. – You must follow your heart. reflect. guiding. With quiet. – The greatest ‘adventure’ is the ability to inquire. plan. Be who you were born to be. it’s not so much what you say that counts. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. Excel at what you do. to ask questions. you have to give. 14. you can hear your thoughts. and from the intuition and deep wisdom inside yourself. Be respectful of others and make them feel good. But above all. Live below your means. the simple act of asking the right questions is the answer. Exploit the resources you do have access to. specifically. 15. and be who you were born to be. These answers will never surface if you never ask the right questions. . Supporting. so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music. – Live a comfortable life. Always live well below your means. Some of us were born to be entrepreneurs – to create growth and opportunity where others saw rubbish. Creative and productive thinking flourish in solitude and silence. yet amazing. How could someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy? The answer rests in how they use the resources they do have. you better feel it in every fiber of your being. – There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t going to do it right. So respect your elders. Answers come from other people. Thus. and everyone in between. Life is short. it’ how you make people feel. – In life and business. productive step in your life. the search is more significant than the answers. 12. Some of us were born to be musicians – to communicate intricate thoughts and rousing feelings with the strings of a guitar. Develop a reputation for yourself. Some of us were born to be poets – to touch people’s hearts with exquisite prose. And still. 16. from the universe of knowledge and history. Do not live life trying to fool yourself into thinking wealth is measured in material objects. Manage your money wisely so your money does not manage you. 13. that moves you. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see. Sometimes in the process of inquiry. 18.opportunities will continue to snowball for the duration of your career. – Use this time to think. In order to get.

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9. Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? – It may open up your mind to new passions and goals. Your kind gesture will not go unnoticed. Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals? – If the answer is no. get your laundry done. 10. failures and standout events that are slowly scripting our life’s story. It doesn’t matter how old you are. you should learn something new every week. Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘Thank You’? – Take time each week to thank the people who have helped you. 3. 12. 8. What are my top 3 goals for the next 3 years? – You’ll never make any progress in life if you don’t setup realistic goals for yourself. 14. What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? – The idea here is to learn from your struggles and better equip yourself for future encounters. 2. What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? – The answer can act as a . What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? – Set reminders in your calendar. 15. Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? – Physical clutter. this question will also shine light on other noteworthy tasks. 1. If you help them.20 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Sunday At the cusp of new beginnings many of us take time to reflect on our lives by looking back over the past and ahead into the future. What’s the next step for each goal? – Knowing the next step is the key to accomplishing the whole. consider scheduling them first thing Monday morning. 7. What was last week’s biggest time sink? – Steer clear of this in the future. 16. 4. reflection is the key to progression. goals and desires. 6. For any 2-minute or less tasks. fill the car with gas… organize yourself. something needs to change. 11. 13. they will remember you when you need help. How can I help someone else this coming week? – The easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. This process of self reflection helps maintain a conscious awareness of where we’ve been and where we intend to go. What did I learn last week? – If you have trouble answering this question. If you would like to maximize the benefits of self reflection. mental clutter… eliminate the unnecessary so the necessary may shine bright. These questions should be reviewed every Sunday morning or sometime during the weekend when you have some quiet time to think. I have 20 questions for you. it’s time for a change. Nevertheless. 5. or simple pastimes worth revisiting. What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? – Pencil in a time to get these things done. We ponder the successes. Setup physical barriers against distractions if you have to. Always keep an open line of communication to those around you. What opportunities are still on the table? – If it’s still available and you want it. Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? – Regular communication can solve problems before they fester. and should be treated as such. What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? – Reflecting on your accomplishments is a healthy way to raise self confidence and contentment. What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? – Everything else is secondary. 17. Remember. It’s also an effective way to track your progress. make a concrete plan to go after it this week. It is pertinent to the organization and preservation of our dreams.

If I knew I only had one week to live. If nothing exists. It’s all about taking baby steps. schedule something to look forward to. Spend more time with the people you care about. and something you should never lose sight of. Take 30 minutes every Sunday and give yourself the gift of self reflection. What are my fears? – Consciously address your fears each week and slowly work on resolving them. 18.great source of motivation. It has worked wonders for me. . 20. and I am confident it will do the same for you. What am I most grateful for? – It’s a smart way to keep things in perspective. 19. who would I spend my time with? – Another helpful reminder… Life is short.

We all have different talents and skill sets. How could someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy? The answer rests in how they use the resources they do have. This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives. Exploit the Resources You DO Have Access To – The average person is usually astonished when they see a physically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness. People may take an active role in their local city council. thought provoking novel. . It is important to mindfully reflect on the good while striving diligently to correct the bad. Even if the story was captivating up until the ending. find refuge in religious faith. A continuous general awareness of your daily successes can have a noticeably positive affect on your overall emotional happiness. Create Happy Endings Whenever Possible – The power of endings is quite remarkable. 2. If this achievement is based exclusively on your own personal ability to get the job done. The happiest people I know share 7 very obvious habits. Think about reading a fairly well written. -Abraham Lincoln 1. the experience creates happiness. Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.The 7 Habits of Highly Happy People Highly happy people all share happy habits. They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness. the happier a person will be. or find passion in their careers. If the ending is happy. but there must be a healthy balance in the allocation of personal awareness. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see. and create happy endings in your life whenever possible. Reflect on the Good – Quite often people concentrate too much of their attention on negative outcomes and leave no time to positively reflect on their successes. The state of completion always creates a sense of achievement. Use Personal Strengths to Get Things Done – Everyone possesses unique personal strengths. 5. so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music. would you still be happy recommending the novel to a friend? People always remember the ending. and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it. 6. Share Time with Friends and Family – A happy life is a life shared with friends and family. Now imagine the ending totally sucks. It’s natural for a person to want to correct undesirable circumstances and focus closely on doing so. 4. In each case the physiological outcome is the same. the best things in life are free. They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times. Emotional happiness comes naturally to those who use their strengths to get things done. It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love. the physiological rewards are priceless. The end of any experience has a profound impact on a person’s overall perception of the experience as a whole. Be a Part of Something You Believe In – This could be anything. They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in. 3. 7. If you’re looking to expand your general happiness you may consider adopting these habits in your own life. Always tie loose ends. leave things on a good note. Savor the Natural Joy of Simple Pleasures – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. The stronger the personal relationships are and the higher the frequency of interaction. Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life. join a social club supporting causes they believe in. It’s as simple as that.

Tend a small garden and eat your own produce. photography. etc. Everyday is a day of opportunity. Do something everyday that excites you. 14. socialize. Get involved in your community. film. Live it. Express your creativity in art. 9. 18. 4. 7. no matter how small. Life is too short not to make the best and the most of everything that comes your way everyday. 33. Stop tip-toeing around like a little pipsqueak. Watch the sunrise at least once a week. . music. Be creative. 20. 17. 27. Try something completely new every chance you get. Take notice of the simple joys life has to offer. 13. Dedicate yourself to discovering solutions in the face of problems. Study for a degree that intrigues you or take a few classes in your field of interest.Sasha Azevedo 1. and socialize! 32.77 Keys to Living Well Before You Die Time flies. 5. 21. 24. Settle on a reasonable long-term goal and do 3 things everyday that bring you closer to your goal. . 12. Avoid TV. Seek it. Analyze their habits and duplicate them. Read classic novels. 26. Learn a new joke everyday and tell it to someone else. Surround yourself with positive people who share goals similar to your own. 3. Study the people you admire. Help others when you’re able. Learn one simple skill every week. but haven’t yet had the guts to do. Ask your spouse or best friend to be your business partner and get something fun started on the side. 31. 10. 8. Be aware of your surroundings. 29. Buy happiness with a smile. Socialize. 16. 19. Make new friends. 6. Organize a monthly game of poker (or any game) with your best friends. Life is what you make of it. 11. Build something from the ground up. Visit friends and family you haven’t seen in years. Have incredible sex at least once a week. Spend a few quiet minutes alone each day… think. Find it. 30. Think it. 2. Talk to perfect strangers. Throw a quarterly blowout party at your place. 34. 28. Pull the trigger on doing something you’ve been thinking about for a long time. Walk or jog a mile every morning. Watch the sunset at least once a week. 25. Follow them through to fruition. 23. Travel somewhere you’ve never been with someone you’ll never forget. Listen to a variety of music on a regular basis. 15. Get in shape . Invite all your favorite people and let them bring someone along. 22. Engage yourself in a meaningful hobby. Own your ideas.

66. 55. Leave work at work. 36. Go after as many life experiences as time permits.35. Be efficient while giving your mind a rest: Write stuff down. Educate yourself every chance you get. Do one thing at a time… and do it well. Eat at least one meal a day with family or friends. Ask for help. 46. 45. 71. It’s less stressful and far safer. Lighten up. Life is short. 39. Learn to get things done effectively. 69. not the current road block. 63. Set 3 priorities each morning and accomplish them by nightfall. Don’t be scared to bounce around until you find a job you enjoy doing. Practice self-sufficiency. 47. Relax. Maintain your focus on the outcome. Spend less than you make. 60. Use time-saving tricks and properly manage your time. Be a friend every chance you get. Simplify. Laugh. 58. find a new one. Surprise her. 49. the more opportunities you will receive. 62. 44. 59. Once you attain it. 77. 56. 64. Organize yourself and your living space. 41. 61. 76. Do more. Challenge yourself. Rise earlier. You only live once. It truly is a remarkable experience. Move beyond your mistakes immediately. Stop being so serious. Learn to say no. Shit happens. 48. nobody can take it away from you. Sleep well. 38. 70. 73. Stop driving like a maniac. Be spontaneous. 40. Never dwell on the negatives. 51. . 75. Stop wasting time on non-essential chores. It will save you precious time. Doing so will save you time and grief. Be romantic. 42. Focus on the positives. There’s a big different between being scared and being prepared. 50. 37. Perfect is the enemy of good. Always keep your promises. Always keep your eye on the prize. Avoid the common cold. 43. Take on the world when your mind is fresh. 68. 72. Remain approachable to others. Simplify. Be a jack of all trades and a master of few. You’ll never get what you don’t ask for. Simplify. Enjoy your food. Don’t take the easy road to mediocrity. Shoot for living the good life. Be slower. Eat slower. Play hard. Always be prepared. The more people you meet. 52. 74. 54. 57. Spend more time outdoors entwined in Mother Nature. Stop worrying about what you don’t have and start enjoying what you do have. 53. Get into the habit of realizing that it is never too late. Be compassionate. Make a continuous habit of realigning your habits with the things that make you happy. Explore the world around you. If you hate your job. Own less. Wash your hands before eating. Live it up! 65. 67. Learn to surf… and surf. Always ask questions.

Marry your best friend. steady awareness. 13. 4. and interest. Time heals all wounds… regardless of how you feel right now. 5. 26. Carelessness is the root of failure 19. Most of the time what you are looking for is right in front of you. 17. 2. crying. Hesitation is the product of fear. Taking ownership of failure builds the foundation for success. . Motivation comes in short bursts. Sometimes thinking about your life and sorting out what you have learned is just as important as tackling a new venture. 10. Bad things do happen to good people. 8. The greatest truths in life are uncovered with simple. 25. Take lots of pictures. Stepping outside of your comfort zone will put things into perspective from an angle you can’t grasp now. Greed will bury even the lucky eventually. 9. Uncertainty is caused by a lack of knowledge. 16. Someday you’ll be really glad you did. Paving your own road is intelligent only if nobody has gone exactly where you are going. 6. 22. Love has nothing to do with looks. Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence. 7. 12. First impressions are completely worthless 50% of the time.26 Life Lessons Learned by Age 26 Here is a list of 26 life lessons I have learned thus far at the age of 26. joy and anger… All are a vital. People deserve a second chance. but not a third. If you never act. I pass this list on to you with the simple hope that it makes you think. but everything to do with time. Purposely ignoring the obvious is like walking backwards toward the enemy. Act while it’s hot. 15. trust. you will never know for sure. Your health is your life. 21. so act on chance when given the opportunity. Laughing. 14. 23. 1. Money makes life easier only when the money is yours free and clear. All make us human. Chance is a gift. 18. 20. 11. Your actions now create memories you will reminisce and talk about in your elder years. 3. 24. Personal glory lasts forever. Being an adult can be fun when you are acting like a child.

the search is more significant than the answers. During difficult times. attempt it NOW! 4. You are what you eat. Supporting. Sometimes in the process of inquiry. others don’t. 8. and from the intuition and deep wisdom inside yourself. 7. Time is of the essence. “Yes. Answers come from other people. from the universe of knowledge and history. Drew. take 30 minute brisk walks. I am honored by his decision to contribute to our blog. Life gives and takes away. be committed to resolving problems. In his own words. then listen even more. guiding. Shakespeare’s character Hamlet tells us that “nothing is good or bad as thinking makes it so”. try this inquiry from the author Byron Katie: What is the “story” that is going on in my mind at this moment? Is it true? How do I know that it is true? What is the situation like with this story? What would my life be like at this point without this story? . Achievements are the result of preparation. You are born and you will die. rather than have events controlling you. 5. but also lighten up and ride the waves of impermanence. appreciate it. Don’t waste the time in between. 1. 3.What I Know at 64 that I Didn’t Know at 24 This is a guest post written by my father. appreciated or attempted? Do it. Dear”. Experiment with your own body chemistry. Join a health club with a swimming pool. He is a wise man. Read Getting Things Done by David Allen. Use a time management system to control events. then listen some more. 2. you have to give. Occasionally state in a quiet. and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. or at any point to gain clarity with your own mind and emotional state. Include the full range of cardiovascular. 6. TO ASK QUESTIONS. When you can’t get to the health club. 10. Don’t try to offer brainy solutions. The greatest “adventure” is the ability to INQUIRE. As a problem solver. Read about nutrition – certain foods agree with you. 9. breathe and be in the moment. Physical exercise is important at any age to reduce stress and optimize well being. here are 10 life lessons he has learned over the last 40 years. muscle building and stretching –yoga. The French have an aphorism that you don’t appreciate something until you don’t have it anymore. Key to a Happy Marriage: Listen to the story. In 40 years from now what is it that you will regret not having accomplished. respectful tone the words. What is a monster problem today will be a forgotten thought in the future. In order to get. I try to avoid coffee and sugar.

I’ve met successful businessmen who have been divorced 3 times and happily married men who can’t seem to find a job they like. instead of sound experience. Emotional Decisions are Usually Bad Decisions – Decisions driven by heavy emotion are typically misguided reactions rather than proactive judgments. It gives . But when we get overly consumed in our busy routines. 3. I’ve come to except the fact that it actually pushes me in the right direction. 4. 5. however. Also. and rapid career progression. Bad Feedback Can Be Better than Good Feedback – Even though I hate getting bad feedback. we must be ready to step outside of our comfort zone. do yourself a favor. In the working world. Learn to Cook – This could easily save you thousands of dollars every single year. they lacked the initiative and commitment necessary for success. don’t be a pack-rat. It is imperative that we take educated chances in our lives. Laziness will always overshadow talent. frequent hustle. It only makes matters worst. There are certainly people who handled it better than I did. If it makes sense to do so. There is a Difference between a List of Goals and a Wish List – Most people understand that goals are desired outcomes that we must work to attain. Make sure your hydrate yourself. Just because someone is successful in one part of their life. You’ll feel better and you’ll be healthier. These reactions are decisions made with a minimal amount of thought.In college it’s easy to hold such a narrow focus on your social life and your classes that everything else in life flies right over your head. Talent Does Not Equal Success – I’ve seen talented people fail. but Also Be Realistic – I’ve experienced so many intelligent people (myself included) get overly passionate about something before fully evaluating the big picture. There Are Different Levels of Intellect – Overall intelligence isn’t just about IQ. Passion without realistic direction leads to frustration and failure. Keep Up with Current Events . These first few years in the “real world” have been filled with crash-course life lessons. but I also know quite a few folks who are still struggling with the changeover. the simple act of drinking water skips our minds. 6. so plan for it. 9. 1. I know. Everyone is Multidimensional and so are Our Successes – I’ve met wealthy people who seem unhappy and happy people who are underpaid. 8. As I progress I try to keep track of what works and what does not. I’ve been part of the “real world” for a few years now. I’m constantly in the process of analyzing both my successes and my failures in order to properly realign my future actions with my goals. Below you will find a list of 20 life lessons I’ve learned in the “real world” thus far. 2. Relocation is the Pits – Moving all of your belongings from one place to another is usually a more intense endeavor than originally imagined.Here in the Real World: 20 Lessons for Life Well. 11. I’ve met some extremely intelligent people who are complete social and emotional morons. Eating out is expensive. 12. Sometimes our feelings are based on impulse. 10. 7. Fear Will Only Hold You Back – The most effective means are not always the most comforting. does not necessarily mean they are universally successful. not knowing who Ben Bernanke is or why North Korea is in the news so often can lead you into some horribly embarrassing dialogues. Always consult your better judgment. Be Passionate. This process takes time. Why? Because even though they had the talent. Drinking Water is Important – It’s a simple concept. Yet it’s amazing how many people I’ve met that lack the necessary drive and just sit there waiting for a miracle to move them forward. and learn to limit the number of meals you eat out. My transition from college into the 9 to 5 workforce was fairly smooth. eating in is cheap… nuff said! Learn to cook.

Get the Important Things Done First – This certainly isn’t ground breaking advice. you’ll end up getting what you don’t want. Sometimes they can help you evaluate circumstances far better than any third-party reference. colleagues and acquaintances say. you must never ignore your own instincts. .me the ability to improve myself. but before the project is complete the motivation wears off. When it does. If you ignore what you don’t want and put all your attention on what you do want. they don’t just disappear.Consciously think before you act. Sooner rather than later it becomes apparent that the problem only gets worst. Problems Don’t Just Disappear – Almost everyone I know has fallen victim to the fallout of avoiding a problem. yet so many of us fail to get enough sleep on a regular basis. 18. Identify What You Don’t Want – It’s important to understand that the things we don’t want are just as important as the things we do want. Even though it is important to listen to what your friends. but eventually the headline will read “failure”. only those who properly address the issue have the capability to succeed in the long term. Not everyone who seems trustworthy actually is. the project is never completed. Thus. Get Enough Sleep – This should seem like common sense. It’s easy to take ownership of success. Let your mind tackle the important tasks while it’s rested. When the decision is made to act. money and creativity. Utilize Your Instincts – Not everything is what is seems. But Finish What You Start – I’ve seen countless people (myself included) get a sudden burst of motivation and start a project. 16. there are multiple solutions to keep you inline with your goals. Motivation Fluctuates. 15. 20. Understand that your levels of motivation will fluctuate. For instance. 14. It usually amounts to a complete waste of time. Learning to accept change is vital to our happiness and general success. even when the outcome is negative. Problems must be addressed. 17. You will not be productive if you are exhausted… that’s the bottom line. 19. if you don’t want to have kids but you do want to have sex. Flexibility for Change is Vital – Most of us are comfortable where we are even though the whole universe is constantly changing around us. but you must still finish what you start. but it is a simple principle that works wonders. Excessive good feedback just allows me sit put and feel accomplished (which isn’t always a bad thing ). then the rest of the day basically is yours to enjoy. always take full ownership of your actions. Take Ownership of Your Actions . 13.

3. “To touch others’ lives. When I graduated I was selected from over 1. I’m nowhere near where I envision myself to be in the future. Have the right mindset. Follow your passion. and other things that are important to you as you pursue your best life. life will indeed suck. getting results. Here are my top 30 ways to live a life of excellence: 1. Is that what you want? 4. Create a life handbook. No one can stop you if you have the right mindset. – A life handbook is a concept I created where you have a book to write your life purpose. 2. goals. In the last year and a half I also founded my training school where I coach and train others to achieve excellence.000 applicants to enter a Fortune 100 company . – The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts. I’ve always been passionate about living a life of excellence. – Our physical life started when we were born. 5. I quit my regular job to pursue my real passion.an honorary roll awarded only to top students . Discover your purpose. While I’ve made some accomplishments. I have determined that excellence itself is a way of life. I started The Personal Excellence Blog to share my best advice to achieve excellence in life. That being said. help them achieve their highest potential and live their best lives. Setting goals.30 Ways To Live A Life Of Excellence 30 Ways To Live A Life Of Excellence was written by Celestine. overcoming challenges. So a year and a half ago. the paths will open up in front of you. Our real life starts when we discover our purpose. but I firmly believe that where there’s a will. I slowly carved my niche in this area and established myself and my expertise. – To do what you love is truly the only way to live. what would you like? What are your biggest goals and dreams? Set them.these make living so rich and worthwhile. All of us are going to die one day. Our potential is limitless. Despite having no experience in the personal development industry.in every academic year I was there. and loving it. What is your purpose? What is your mission statement for your life? Mine is. values. However. Set your goals. dreams. Learn more about my life handbook and how to create yours. it wasn’t my passion. When I was in college I was on the Dean’s List . 6. Don’t just pursue as a hobby. mottos. Create your bucket list. Life has never been more rewarding. – If you can have whatever you want. plans. Today I’m pursuing my passion as a career. If you don’t set any goals. What are all the things you want to do/see/say/experience before you die? . Then when I quit to pursue my passion a year and a half ago. not a destination. I didn’t use to be a personal development blogger or a coach. I was a marketing major and I was working in brand management as a career. I started my life handbook in 2007 and it has been my #1 tool to living my life to the fullest. – A bucket list is a list of things to do before you die. if you are set to live your best life. If you think life sucks. and it’s up to us to tap into it. The life I’m living today is a result of goals I set in the past.one of the top 100 companies in the world recognized by Fortune. it’s safe to say that you’ll be running in place for the foreseeable future. turn it into your career.” This one statement gives me clarity and focus on what to do. there’s a way. On the other hand. There’s always room for personal growth. from my daily plans to my long-term goals. Maybe it’s all the ‘good triumphing over evil’ RPGs I’ve played since young. celebrating the victories .

Planning doesn’t have to be long and tedious. badminton and swimming are some of my favorite sports. These make exercising a lot more fun. you can unlock your potential and achieve so much more. 12. I know I used to have that. Nurture those whom you love. I never thought much about waking up early until a couple of years ago. I immediately saw the benefits of being a vegan and stayed the course ever since. 14. beliefs. – They say the sky is the limit. I created my bucket list last year with over 100 things. Some of us might even have estranged family relationships. – Do you know you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with? Your attitudes. it can just be a 30 second process. – Many of us only have functional relationships with our family. – You have dreams and big visions. Stop worrying so much. Also read: 9 Timeless Nutrition Tips for Any Age 16. I probably would never have succeeded. While I tried it out as just a 30-day trial. going skydiving. Frisbee. it’s time to get rid of them. Here’s a list of 101 Things To Do Before You Die for ideas on what to put in your bucket list. You’ll be amazed at the effects they’ll have on you. Today I’m much closer to my parents than I was in the past. – The majority of our fears exist only in our head.a sense that you can control your own future. and there are people who have likely been there and done that. I disagree. The fluttering of your . living your dreams. my days have been incredible. Surround yourself with positive people. then I realized it was foolish. That’s all. Plan your days. maybe it’s time you do. Our parents went through a lot of hardship by bringing us up. review this list before you do anything else. I was then able to focus my energy on people and things that make me happy. – A healthy diet just-starts a life of excellence. Release your limits. Get mentors. Eat a healthy diet. 10. I had several negative friends in the past. try other sports to spice it up your workouts. 18. 7. among countless others. 8. I feel more productive. It’s something you have to try yourself to know the difference. Get closer with your parents. We are our own limits. 15. My past experiences have taught me that all you need to have in order to succeed is to have a sense of self-belief . Get them to mentor you. rather than acquiring that belief after I achieved it. I’m more eager to work to keep the momentum going. then I just reduced contact. – Aside from a regular gym routine. 9. – I used to wake up late every day. Let go of negative friendships. – The magical feeling of love. Get rid of them and spend the energy on something productive. and no one’s ever going to share a connection to us the way they do. What are you limiting yourself from doing? Stop holding yourself back. What’s in your daily diet? Junk? Fast food? Fried food? Or healthy. falling in love. It’s then about releasing our limits so we can live our best lives. think about a few small things that you want to accomplish tomorrow and write them down. With a mentor. and every day I accomplish what’s on it and add new things I want to do. Exercise regularly. 17. Go out and get what you want. Instead of wasting time and energy resisting them. Think about the people who inspire you and spend more time with them. nutritious food? Fruits? Vegetables? I’ve been a vegan since 2008 and have been loving it. like 9-10am. After I switched to waking early at 5am. If I didn’t think I could do it. – Do you plan your days? Did you wake up today knowing what you are supposed to do today? If not. I get more done. Getting rid might be too harsh for some. It’ll definitely cut down the learning curve and ease your journey. When you wake up the next morning. 11. Every night. – If you have friends who discourage you and pull you down. Believe in yourself. Wake up early. – The majority of the times I’ve been able to achieve something is because I started out believing I could do it. 13.It can be seeing the world. and I’m grateful for that. accomplishments and success are a function of the people you spend time around. so distancing is a good alternative.

You’ll be surprised at the lessons they will teach you and the new opportunities they will inject into your life. – Show love and kindness to all the people around you. Coach someone. but they will notice and appreciate your kindness. – To forgive is to let go of a prisoner and to realize that the prisoner all along was you. 23. Meet new people. To love is to be human. Forgive those who hurt you. It’s not surprising then that most knowledgeable people are also very well-read. You’ll find new. 19. TV wastes lots and lots of time. It’ll be an enlightening experience for both of you. – Why stop watching TV? The bulk of content on TV is consciousness lowering. 21. Learn to see and appreciate what’s there instead. . It’s impossible to live a life of excellence without sharing quality time with those whom you love. Focus your energy on how you can address those problems instead. – Do you like overly critical people? I’m sure you don’t. Be sure to read: Top 10 Reasons You Should Stop Watching TV and 40 Positive Effects of a TV Free Week. Check out 40 Modern Nonfiction Books Everyone Should Read and 30 Books Everyone Should Read Before Their 30th Birthday. many are largely sensationalized and biased as well. I quit regular TV watching almost 5 years ago and never looked back. Is there someone who can benefit from your help? Offer to coach them for free. Don’t be trapped by dogma. – Routines stagnate us. New experiences help us grow and they make life interesting. Let it go. Execute the good feedback and follow your vision.heart. 25. Respect everyone. Be compassionate. Keep a journal to self-reflect. So let’s be less critical. 28. appreciate more. Try it out for 21-days and see how you feel. 24. Follow your heart. 26. Enrich your mind great books. They may not react in a kind way immediately. Listening is okay. – Don’t feel compelled to follow others all the time. 20 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Sunday and check out the new site Thought Questions. – There’s no better way to learn than to teach others. Don’t fall into the trap of operating on everyone’s whim. try 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind. The internal smile you get when you think of those who you care for most. – Books contain concentrated volumes of wisdom. I get very invigorated whenever I’m doing something new. Stop obsessing over the news. I recently wrote an article on my blog called 10 Reasons To Stop Watching TV and found out a good number of my readers dropped TV in their lives as well. 29. – It takes more muscles to frown than to smile. such as talking to a stranger. shame and hate. but doing what everyone wants is simply unhealthy. 27. They are a dread to be around. But it doesn’t help us grow. 20. Stop watching TV. 22. Don’t stare so hard at what’s missing. guilt. If you are not sure where to start with. murders and wars out there. So let’s smile more often. wonderful things entering your life once you do. – I had a paper journal for several years. – A lot of news today resonates with fear. You don’t need to watch the news every day for an hour to know that there are car accidents. It can be a whole new activity or just a small experience. we get a lot more clarity about ourselves. Try something new. Pave your own path. TV ads motivate you spend more money frivolously. 30. Depending on your news source. I could go on forever. Smile more. TV has been proven by research to be linked with lower life satisfaction. – Most humans have a habit of stagnating in a small circle of friends. but after I started The Personal Excellence Blog I use the blog as my journal. Criticize less. By having a place to freely let out our thoughts and ponder over them. Make an effort to try something new every week. Get out there and meet new people. Don’t hold on to past hatred.

Face your fears. 13. Tomorrow is today’s result. 34. . 36. Use a planner. 17. 22. Teach others to help you. Manage your time. 10. simple. 12. 38. Keep it fun. Batch process similar tasks. Focus more on less. Plan. Learn from others. 21. 32. 24. 4. Delete the unnecessary.Productivity Advice in 5 Words or Less I’m an advocate of productivity and simplicity. Read the manual. 27. Learn productive shortcuts. Establish and maintain strong relationships. Love what you do. 5. 20. 1. 39. 9. 16. 30. Get enough sleep. 3. Work on goals every day. Be early. Disconnect yourself from distractions. Handle small tasks immediately. Clear clutter. 18. 6. Organize your space. Be productive while you wait. Do important things first. 29. 26. 25. Learn from your failures. Take notes. 23. One thing at a time. Allocate and maximize your resources. Use the right tools. Break complex goals into tasks. Solve problems. 14. So today I figured I’d hit two birds with one stone and give you the best productivity advice possible in five words or less. 28. Automate tasks and reminders. but not too much. 35. Spend time with your family. After all. 7. straightforward advice is often the best advice. Celebrate your successes. 19. Define realistic goals. Trust your gut instincts. 40. 37. 31. and I assume most readers of this blog are as well. Take care of your health. Find and follow efficient patterns. Delegate. Start now. 11. 33. 15. 8. 2.

Over-deliver on your promises. 65. Reflect on your progress. 63. Take your own advice. Small steps add up fast. Follow your values. Done is better than perfect. Be positive. Never cheat. 42. Keep track of important milestones. 49. 53. Live below your means. 52. 58. 82. Always do your best. 60. Quality over quantity. 67. 47. Be meaningful. 70. Set deadlines. Challenge yourself. 74. Ask questions. Follow and speak the truth. Make your own decisions. 69. Time trumps money. Communicate clearly. 76. 80. . Try something new. 62.” Spend minutes to save hours. Validate your assumptions. Learn to say. 68. Adapt to change. Do the hard stuff first. speak less. 75. 86. Follow the 80-20 rule. “No. Don’t settle. 51. 89. Be yourself. 56. 45. 54. 83. 44. Reuse and recycle what works. Treat everyone with respect. 72. Pay it forward. 46. 66. 73. 84. Patience is a virtue. Lead by example. 81. Learn skills few people know. 85. Find people with similar goals. 48. Act when opportunities arise. Be open to new ideas. 78. 79. Never give up on yourself. Disregard negative people. Urgent is not always important. 55. 64. 43. Continuously educate yourself. 59. Ask yourself: “Why do this?” Don’t worry about the uncontrollable. Identify and strengthen your weaknesses. Provide tangible value. 61. 71.41. 87. Stay flexible. 77. 57. 88. Listen more. Think. 50.

Smile. 94. Finish what you start. 98. Use your imagination.90. Perform tasks with multiple positives. Keep it simple. 93. Your thoughts create your reality. 99. Slow and steady. Excel at what you do. 97. 100. Visualize your success. Be here now. 101. Complaining just wastes time. . 96. View things from different angles. 92. Please expand on this list by adding your own advice in five words or less in the comments section below. 91. 95.

They have no plan. greatest wall that has ever been built. long-term vision. 3. but you just can’t seem to achieve them. and this usually causes us to feel frustrated and annoyed. Review your progress regularly.’ You don’t try to build a wall. It’s tried and true. We as humans have a tendency to try to bite off more than we can chew. And then they worked hard and took a series of logical. There are three big reasons why people fail to achieve their goals: 1. 2. You will need to get this step right to ensure that you are not wasting your efforts on goals that you do not truly want to achieve.” You say. Do you think Steve Jobs and Bill gates were just lucky. You can climb the ladder as fast as you want. right? Well.How To Achieve Your Goals ‘How To Achieve Your Goals’ was written by Vincent. it’s foolish to attempt to conquer the world in a day. baddest. They never set achievable goals to begin with. You’re frustrated. -Will Smith How To Achieve Your Goals Over the years I have achieved many of my personal goals. They never take any sort of logical action. and I assure you. . it can help you achieve your goals as well. Because we only have a finite amount of time. Let’s go through them one at a time. Strategize and plan. You don’t set out and say. Take action. They didn’t just ‘think it. And in all cases this is the methodology I used. or did they have a plan? You better believe they had a plan – a long. actionable steps to achieve them. “I’m going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid. There are four basic steps: • • • • Set achievable goals. Set Achievable Goals When you are climbing the ladder. “I’m going to build the biggest. why is it so hard? Do only a few lucky people get to achieve their goals? No… It’s all about creating a logical plan and executing it.’ They ‘did it.” You do this every single day. but it’s going to be a giant waste of your time if you get to the top and realize you’re leaning against the wrong wall. ensure that you are leaning against the right wall. and soon you have a wall. author of Health Money Success. So you have some goals.

A visualization board is basically a large bulletin board filled with clear images of what you want to achieve. lose weight. Position the board right next to your work area so you can see it while you work toward your goals. Whether you complete them or not makes a big difference in whether or not you will succeed. Double Your Productivity. If you find it hard to generate the small daily tasks or an actionable plan that will bring you closer to your goals. But does that sound logical or achievable? Not to me it doesn’t. find a few success stories online of people that have achieved that goal and stick it up on the board. search online. C) Form a small mastermind group. This will ensure that you will not give up halfway though and fall backwards on your rear end. Be sure to meet with your mastermind group at least once a week. this group is a vital entity to your success.Yeah. You get the idea. B) Create a visualization board.000 and join the public speaking club all at the same time. The group can consist of any amount of people (at least 2). And make sure you truly understand why you want these things. and Achieve All Your Goals . Otherwise you’ll just lose interest. – For most of us. This will help you maintain consistency in taking action even when laziness gets the best of you. B and C help you to sustain the desire and motivation to achieve your goals. And believe me. basketball player. – Bullet points A. you could set goals to be the best guitar player. – Without reminders. or purchase a book on goal setting. Every morning. This added visual stimulation can help invoke powerful emotions that will constantly drive your motivation. our mind sees the world in images and we remember images more clearly compared to text and numbers. be financially savvy. visible areas around your house. office. If you want to lose weight and get back down a few pants sizes. you will likely forget about your goals and become easily distracted by other stimuli. but the important thing is that everyone in the group must share similar goals. earn $10. football player. – A mastermind group is your support group. Try to create three small actionable tasks each morning and complete them before you go to sleep. actionable plan that you can follow every day until you actually do achieve your goals. brainstorm for tasks that will help to bring you closer to your goals and write them down. A mastermind group helps to hold all its members accountable. seek out a mentor. etc. If you want your blog to start making a thousand dollars a month. Here are three books I highly recommend: • Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time • Focal Point: A Proven System to Simplify Your Life. D) Create a daily action plan with actionable tasks. How can you excel at anything when you are juggling everything? So the first key is to figure out a few (1 to 3) things that you truly want. So print them out 10. 20 or 30 times and paste them up in the most prominent. Strategize and Plan Here are the basic strategies you will need to employ to keep your motivation burning and your progress on track: A) Paste up your goals where you can see them every day. But you also need a real. It doesn’t help much when you are trying to lose 30 lbs and other members in the group have goals of setting up their own company. Make them a priority and fit them into your schedule. put an old photo of yourself up on the board.

Obsessing over long-term results just creates stress. keep the short-term tasks in mind instead of obsessing over the long-term end result. It is far easier to think on a short-term taskrelated basis. they make a slight adjustment to correct it. I’ll be sure to follow-up. I hope this article helps. It seems that people are often frustrated that they can’t stick to their goals and achieve the results they want in life. we have the tendency to take more action so we can see more positive results. How? It’s quite simple. successfully achieving any goal hinges on the simple act of making a decision to absorb yourself fully in the process of getting things done – actually taking action. Review Your Progress Regularly An airplane goes slightly off its set course 70 to 80 percent of the time during an average flight. the results will take care of themselves. And defining a deadline also gives you something to look forward to. I would love to hear some feedback from you in the comments section below. In addition. E) Set a deadline. Just take your daily action plan that we created above and DO IT! More than anything. monitoring your progress will also likely motivate you to try even harder. Reviewing your goals regularly will help you to check your progress to determine if any adjustments are required. don’t obsess about completing the book (long-term results oriented). Parting Words This article was inspired by one of the comments I recently received over on my blog.• Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity Breaking down your goals will help you avoid the feeling of being overwhelmed. Every time they go off course. When you are creating your action plan. A long-term goal without a deadline will not instill any sense of urgency in you. . Cheers. but the pilots always manage to land it in the exact location they intended. – You will also need to set a deadline for your goal. For instance. Whenever we see positive results. just focus on writing a page or two a day (short-term task-related) and soon you will have your book completed. Take Action This step doesn’t need a long explanation. And as long as you complete your tasks. if you want to write a book.

and little or no productivity. Reward yourself by removing a single item from the bag that was the most difficult for you to throw away. Significant transformation can. buy a smaller bottle. How do you feel? Comfortable? Disturbed? Shocked? If you felt anything other than comfortable. tired. weigh yourself. If you drink one bottle of whiskey per week. and will. and find other foods to add to your grocery list for the same reasons (Hint: protein. Most ruts are caused by a lack of self-care – for example. then our habits make us. However. If you drink a case of beer each week. Make it your goal to gradually incorporate all of these tips into your life over the course of the next month. insufficient sleep. magnesium. stressed out. One month – 30 days. By rut. and unhealthy. little to no exercise. a good plan. rummage through your refrigerator and kitchen pantry and throw away anything that lists ‘high fructose corn syrup’ as an ingredient. It’s hard to be motivated or productive when you’re constantly buzzed or hung-over. salmon fillets. -Charles C. I’ve been there several times. omega-3 fatty acids. Do your own research as to why I selected these foods. canned tuna. whole wheat bread.How To Save You From Yourself This guest post was written by Jacob Inman. • Get Naked and Face Reality – Remove all of your clothing. chips. Below are some helpful tips to get you started. • Schedule a Long-Overdue Visit – When was the last time you saw your family physician? . While you’re at it. eggs. This would include most packaged and processed foods such as cookies. and then stand naked in front of a full-length mirror for 30 seconds. and three fruits of your choice. poor moods. author of Revive Your Life. • Take Out the Trash – While holding a large garbage bag. Misery is. If you drink one glass of wine every night of the week. cut your consumption down to two six-packs. Put your clothing back on and take the next two minutes to think about what you’ve just witnessed. I mean a somewhat extended period of time flooded with low motivation. raisins. and vitamins). and the resolve to take immediate action. so I know that rediscovering productivity and finding the motivation to delve into anything even remotely challenging can seem nearly impossible. sub-par nutrition. grab a pencil and paper and begin making a new grocery list that includes the following items: oatmeal. sodas. negative thinking patterns. a choice. • Put the Bottle Down – Cut your alcohol consumption by 50 percent. • Gather the Necessary Supplies – Now that you’re close to being out of food. etc. fresh baby spinach. Take one bite and throw the rest back in the garbage bag. First we make our habits. chopped walnuts. etc. we must eventually come to our senses and realize that there’s no point in going through life feeling unmotivated. whole grains. crackers. throw away items that contain ‘partially hydrogenated’ anything. skinless chicken breasts. unprocessed cheese. should provide plenty of time for you to turn your life around. move on to the next step. A rut like this can be extremely difficult to get out of. Escaping the bounds of a deeply-grooved rut requires nothing more than some willpower. raw almonds. four vegetables of your choice. occur in a relatively short period of time if you take action now and remain diligently focused on digging yourself out of the hole you’ve created. drink one glass every other night instead. zero personal reflection. after all. Noble It’s not unusual for intelligent people to get themselves stuck in a deep rut in life.

and stay away from full-length mirrors. Better yet. mentally. Here are some titles to consider: The Power of Less . The almonds provide a great source of magnesium. increase the time from five to ten minutes.• • • • • • • Call your doctor and schedule a full physical examination. Look Beyond Yourself – Pray or meditate once a day for at least five minutes. Nuke it for two minutes. After 30 days have passed. Take every piece of advice that he or she gives you as the gospel and ask at least three specific questions related to your health. Eat and get energized. . this will cut the time you watch television in half. Research any prescriptions that are written for you so that you understand what you are being asked to take and why. How to Win Friends and Influence People . Also. Take the stairs at the office instead of the elevator. expand your horizons by allowing your companion to select the location and entertainment for the night. By following the other suggestions above. Remember. Just get up and get moving! Recharge Your Mind and Body – Get at least seven hours of quality sleep per night this month. Refrain from talking about yourself and instead ask questions that show your appreciation and interest in the person you’re with. a handful of raisins. and a touch maple syrup or honey. The Power of Now. Take the dog for a walk. eat a handful of almonds and a piece of fruit. It’s likely that your rut will be replaced with a well-paved path leading to better health and a stronger sense of well-being. This time. Renew and Reconnect – Plan an enjoyable night out with either a friend or your significant other at least twice this month. misery is a choice. take time to reflect on how you feel physically. Walk to a co-worker’s desk instead of sending him an email. a necessary mineral proven to calm your nerves and reduce fatigue. Expend Some Energy – Make a valid attempt to incorporate more physical activity into your daily routine. and spiritually. These small nutritional snacks provide boosts of energy that will prevent you from slumping over your desk in a near-comatose state each afternoon. Re-Fuel with Premium More Often – Each day between breakfast. If this seems to calm your mind.it really doesn’t take that long. Stimulate Your Brain with New Insights – Buy or borrow two insightful personal development books that contain at least 150 pages each. keep your clothes on while the nurse weighs you. Spend 20 minutes. By default. Watch your productivity soar! Fuel the Machine First – Make time to eat breakfast every day . Your daily habits can be either a host for misery or a host for happiness and positive change. You just might learn something new. and replenish lost energy. two times per week performing some type of enjoyable physical activity. engage in a “media fast” whereby you unplug the television and internet for an entire month. Sleep is one of the most powerful ways to rejuvenate the mind and body. Commit to finishing both books in 30 days by reading during your regularly scheduled television time. Place one half heaping cup of oatmeal and one cup of water in a microwave-safe bowl. The choice is yours to make. a handful of chopped walnuts. lunch and dinner. increase creativity. Add a dash of cinnamon. restful sleep should come naturally.