A GUIDE TO RECONSTRUCTING YOU

YOU’RE NEXT CAREER IN 7 DAYS -Frank P. Magliochetti-

Remaking Yourself and Competing in the New Economy It is true the “New Economy” has changed most everything for all of us. Whether you are 20 something or 70 something; as it relates to your current job, future job, job prospects, retirement and how you prepare for the future, it has been turned up side down. The process of finding a job in your chosen field use to be predictable. You would scan newspapers, cold call human resources, network and call recruiters. Things changed a bit when the internet blossomed, the shift went from paper to the paperless internet. A further shift took place with the advent of social networks/ media, the ability to network exponentially changed everything overnight. You are able to reach millions of people by just a key stroke. You can stick a video of yourself and your accolades on the internet for all to see you in your glory.

Never before has the ability to get you noticed and in front of millions as it is today. So what went wrong? Why aren’t you employed? Why have you been unemployed for longer than you have ever in your life? The economy stupid! Unemployment has reached record levels amongst the entire employment spectrum. Newly minted graduates to 50 something’s are pounding their computers in frustration. Recently I viewed a news documentary on the state of unemployment in this country. I watched a senior middle manager who had been displaced for 18 months earlier from the company he had worked for 19 years delivering pizza for Domino’s. When asked what brought him to this, he stated two things, Necessity and Dignity. His family was running out of money, he had no job prospects and he couldn’t spend another day at home facing his family. The guilt was eating him alive! This book is not an end all guide, it is meant to ignite your inner voice to say to you I have the courage within me to remake myself in today’s economic world by applying 10 key principles starting today. By taking the time to go through each of these principles, you will come to a point where you have discovered the next chapter in your life. This guide is not filled with personal anecdotes, or stories of people achieving success. It’s NOT a feel good guide. You do not have the time to read about other people’s success. It is a journey you must take to get to the other side of the nightmare of being unemployed or in my mind, you will see it is a blessing in disguise. I am not going to give you Vince Lombardi speeches, or Tony Robbins breaking board messages. Both of these have their place just not in my guide. If you want to truly remake yourself for the new economy and find a job, career, placement, etcetera, whatever you want to call going to work and getting paid for it and being happy doing it you MUST go to work today on yourself and follow this guide to becoming the new you in this new economy. In preparing to begin please have a notebook, pencil, calculator, computer with internet access and a full length mirror. Once you have these items and you are in a quiet place with your mind prepared to work openly and honestly you are set to begin. Enjoy the journey of rediscovering who you are and what you are meant to do right now in your life.

1. Rediscovering You

I want you to go now to a full length mirror (clothing optional) and stare at yourself from your feet to the top of your head. There is no time limit, just stare. Let your mind wander without any compass, just stare and let your thoughts flow in and out of your consciousness. After a while focus on your face, look deeply into your eyes still allowing your thoughts to wander. Notice all the little intricacies of your face. Take note of the lines, freckles, scares, the proportions of your ears, nose, eyes, chin, and cheeks. Now begin to focus your thoughts on important moments of your past, starting as early as you can remember. As you look into your own eyes see those moments as if they were happening today. Whatever created who you are now see them happening in your own eyes as you stare into the mirror. Ponder those moments. How did you feel when these events were happening? After you have exhausted this exercise get a pen and a pad of paper. I want you to write down the moments you recounted as you looked into your eyes moments earlier. This could be emotional. Guess what? It should be! Once you have written them all down, go back and put them in distinct categories. An example of categories could be times spent with Mom or Dad, sporting events, success’s, failures, family vacations, getting a new pet or bike, you get the idea. While doing this if other moments pop into your mind include them in your list. Once completed take the time to ponder this list. Think about why you chose this moment to remember, what feelings does it bring about, how does it relate to the other moments you remembered while staring in the mirror? Do not be judgmental just let your feelings happen. Inevitably most people will remember moments focused in six general areas; family, friends, failure, success’s, elation and despair. Get up and go to the mirror again, look deeply into your eyes viewing your inner soul, enjoy the moment with yourself and rejoice in the life that is distinctly yours. Take special note on how your mind will wander then fix on a moment in your life, good, bad or indifferent log what you are feeling in your memory and go back later and think about why you feel that way about that remembrance. Let your guard down, as they say, let it all happen, just be a bystander. You will be surprised at what things your mind brings forward. This is all about you and who you were and who you are now. It is your life you’re bringing forth, it is powerful stuff. You may be overcome by emotion, let it happen. Try to remember it all a jot it down when you feel you are finished. Now sit quietly and allow yourself time to process the results of the exercise you just went through. If you allowed yourself to be open to the exercise and put forth concerted effort to get the most out of it you should

be sitting their tired, drained and contemplative. You just explored the highlights of your life as you remembered them, from your point of view, with your biases you have rediscovered YOU. Now with this information let’s move to CREATING the NEXT YOU so you can construct a new chapter in your life your journey.

2. Your Future: The Mind: Friend or Foe

Ponder for a moment the idea the Future is made up, it’s all make believe. The future is what you decide it to be in your mind. You can decide it will be difficult, filled with fear, jubilation, success, suffering, love, peace, harmony you get the point. So if it is all made up anyway and you are taking the time to think about the future and what it holds why not make up the most exciting, the best possible, most successful , in fact, make up the very best future possible for yourself!! It’s your mind, it’s your time, it’s your future. Take a moment now and write on a piece of paper the aspects of the best future you want for yourself. Start with tomorrow and chart your future for the next 6 months, 1 year, 5 years and 10 years. Pick and develop your own personal destination. You are your very own Captain, you set the course, and you prepare what’s needed to take the journey. It’s your very own make believe future. Right? Yes it is! Have the courage to dream and act upon your dreams. It is well documented, what you put in your mind as truth (belief) will become fact. In theory you become what you think. Why not think high? I am sure you have been acquainted with individuals who remind you of Eor, poor me, the sky is falling, I should have, if I could have, if I only thought of, and on and on it goes. Now think about the people you have meet who are dreamers, who act on their dreams and do not allow negative thoughts to creep into their self-established plan or future. Think about the words that emanate from their mouth. It’s more about why not then it’s impossible. I am sure you have read books that speak to positive versus negative thoughts. What I am suggesting is quite different; I want you to establish in your mind your future. Not just a broad picture, a detailed description of how you see the smallest details of your future. Write it down and read it daily. Believe in it as if it were going to happen and ACT on it as if it were happening. Reinforce you belief in your planned future by leaving notes in places you see every day. Your mind will catalog all these items of reinforcement and begin to create the future you have imagined. I want for you your best future, start today, grab your pen and start creating.

3. What’s in your Personal Safe

When is the last time you have taken an inventory of the skill sets you have acquired over your life time? The skills you have unconsciously accumulated and haven’t taken notice could be as a group quite valuable today. We tend to lose sight of what we learn on a daily basis. We get put into situations which cause us to adapt and learn. I don’t necessarily mean just the skills we have obtained in our work life. I am intending you get to know and understand all of the skills you have learned in and outside of work. It could be you were part of a capital campaign for your house of worship or you helped your grade school child set up a school bank to teach the children about money and commerce, it could be your roll as a big brother to an inner city teen ager. Consider all of your activities as you begin to take inventory of your skills. Begin to think about this before you put pen to paper. As you go about today keep the idea of a skill set inventory in the front of your thoughts throughout the day. At the end of today as you are winding down take some quiet time and begin to list your skills and where you learned them and how you use them now if at all. Once you feel you have compiled a thorough list begin to group the skills in categories which are similar. An example of this could be activities such as, big brother, social worker, car pool driver, etc. Therefore a skill set category could be; good listening skills. Another example could be; College Class President, baseball captain, capital campaign manager, hence a skill category could be leadership or organizer. The point here is to list what you have done inside and outside of your work life and pull out the skills you have accumulated and to group them in categories. The result will be a half dozen or so categories depicting what is in your personal safe. Now comes the fun part, I want you to order the categories 1 to how many categories you have, giving the number one to the category you enjoy most doing and then number two and so forth until you are finished numbering the categories. As you look at the top 3 categories you will most likely see congruence in the skills underlying the categories. It’s important to recognize as you take your step in this new economy you position yourself in the area you most enjoy. This exercise has precisely identified for you the skills you have and the skills you most enjoy utilizing on a daily basis. Later you will learn how to carve a place out for yourself doing what you enjoy and what you are terrific at.

4. List it and they will Come

You have spent an entire life making lists, Right? Let me suggest to you the list I am going to have you create could prove to be your most important one to date. Fold a piece of paper in half vertically. On the left hand

side I want you to list everyone and I mean everyone you have come into contact with since as long back as you remember. When I say everyone I mean Joe the butcher at your local grocer, your banker, your college history professor, head hunters, friends, friends of friends, people you have worked with and worked for, I hope you understand at this point, this is a comprehensive list! On the right side of the paper list how you know this person and how they are connected to you. Now begin researching each person. Go to the internet and get updated on what they are doing today, yesterday, there affiliations, and there network (LinkedIn). An example could be you have on your list Dan Spankle, your college chemistry teacher. You google Professor Dan and find out he is still at UCLA and see a picture of him shaking hands with a CEO of a prominent Biotech Company. This CEO has just selected Professor Dan to his company’s advisory board. Make a note of this under Professor Dan. This may come in handy later when we discuss how you take the big step in remaking yourself in this new economy. This project will amass for you a comprehensive universe of your personal network. You will discover amazing things amongst this group of people. You will be surprised and shocked at what people you have come in contact with are doing now, what they were involved in and who they have in their network. This exercise will bring out many feelings as you go through it. Resist making any judgments of those you are researching or making comparisons between you and them. This is not meant to make you feel good or bad it is solely a research project which I promise will prove to be one of the important tools in your tool chest as you build yourself for the New Economy. You may have started to do something like this already before reading my guide. You now are saying, hey wait a minute, you want me to go back as far as I can remember and list everyone who I remember and then do a current day research project on each of them! This will take forever!! I don’t have the time, I need to jump start my life, my career, my bank account!! Just like the movie, Field of Dreams, everyone looked at Kevin Costners character like he was CRAZY. I need you to look crazy for a bit. Please do this project and they will also come.

5. PUT YOUR HANDS UP NOW!!

When you read this what came to mind? I give up? I surrender? Faithful Gratitude? A call to Prayer? Expression of Joy? A friend of mine, Bears Kaufman from the Option Institute rescued me from my own minds self-destruction wrote about this topic of “one action-many interpretations”. He states, “Why does this matter? Because our interpretations, our first responses internally, tell us much about ourselves, our beliefs and our

general attitude toward our lives. Hands Up! Excited? Terrified? Imagine a universe so benevolent it gives each of us challenges we can handle (even if we deny those challenges or our own capabilities). Imagine the universe is so abundant that it only gives us what appear to be “easy” gifts but (even if we deny those challenges or our own capabilities). Imagine a universe so benevolent it gives each of us challenges we can handle (even if we deny those challenges or our own capabilities). Imagine the universe is so abundant that it not only gives us what appear to be “easy” gifts but, additionally, ones which encourage us to grow. Challenges. Gifts. Difficulties. Troubles. Blessings. Loss. We get to call it! And how we call it becomes our experience of life. What about thinking of something you always called difficult and putting it into the blessing category? How about moving one or two of those troubles into the gift category? Am I serious? You bet! It’s one step at a time, one transfer at a time...and then you start to pave a path in a new direction...for errified? Imagine a universe so benevolent it gives each of us challenges we can handle (even if we deny those challenges or our own capabilities). Imagine the universe is so abundant that it not only gives us what appear to be “easy” gifts but, additionally, ones which encourage us to grow. Challenges. Gifts. Difficulties. Troubles. Blessings. Loss. We get to call it! And how we call it becomes our experience of life. What about thinking of something you always called difficult and putting it into the blessing category? How about moving one or two of those troubles into the gift category? Am I serious? You bet! It’s one step at a time, one transfer at a time...and then you start to pave a path in a new direction...for a new life.”errified? Imagine a universe so benevolent it gives each of us challenges we can handle (even if we deny those challenges or our own capabilities). Imagine the universe is so abundant that it not only gives us what appear to be “easy” gifts but, additionally, ones which encourage us to grow. Challenges. Gifts. Difficulties. Troubles. Blessings. Loss. We get to call it! And how we call it becomes our experience of life. What about thinking of something you always called difficult and putting it into the blessing category? How about moving one or two of those troubles into the gift category? Am I serious? You bet! It’s one step at a time, one transfer at a time...and then you start to pave a path in a new direction...for a new life.”, additionally, ones that gives us encouragement to grow. Challenges. Gifts. Troubles. Difficulties. Blessings. We get to call it! How we call it becomes our experience of life. What about thinking of what you called difficulty and put it into the category of Blessing. How about moving one or two of those troubles and putting them into the gift category. Am I serious? You bet! It’s one step at a time, it’s one transfer at a time. You start to pave a new path in a new

direction….for a new life” Bears hit on a very important aspect of your journey. How do you view your life’s experience? What category do you put items into? Fear? Confusion? Disappointment? Anxiety? Blessing? Gift? WOW? In order for you to embrace all aspects of your plan for you, you must see the world or better, create the world in your mind which is built on confidence, fearlessness, joy, and happiness. You must see yesterday, today and tomorrow as a gift and a blessing. This is not always easy, however, it is simple to do and you can do it in a moment. You have to be the one who sees the world through a lens of opportunity and forgiveness versus a world filled with destructive distractions and resentments. Bottom Line: The path you have decided to journey down can be filled with delight, enlightenment, new adventures, self-discovery or frankly, a huge waste of time. Everyone has a bird sitting on each of their shoulders, one who wants for you greatness, he sees in you all of the goodness, creativeness, determination, passion, wonder, forgiveness, etcetera and on the other shoulder sits the bird who whispers ugliness, self-doubt, resentment, fear, insecurities, the why not’s versus the whys. You know these two birds don’t you. Here is what I want you to do tonight before you go to bed. I want you, in your imagination; fill two tiny containers of water and put one on each shoulder. Before placing the water on the shoulder where the self-doubting bird stands put a teaspoon of lemon flavored arsenic in it. Yes tonight when you go to bed you will KILL forever that nasty little bird who has been limiting every part of your life. When you awake you will have only one bird sitting happily on your shoulder encouraging you to live your BEST LIFE. Every once in a while you will be visited by a relative of that ugly bird that you killed. When this happens you will now be acutely aware of his presence. Once you are aware he has arrived just simply whisper to him I have some nice lemon water for you!! Please don’t be self limiting in a limitless life.

6. LOOKING FOR A JOB? CLOSE THE GUIDE! I’M FINISHED WITH YOU.
Alright, so you’re still reading, great! It’s time to speak about PASSION. What is passion anyhow? Passion is the ability to function with extreme emotion. When you are passionate you always have your destination in sight and you are not distracted by obstacles. Because you love what you are pursuing, things like rejection and setbacks will not hinder you in your pursuit.

What is it that you’re passionate about? Anyone can find a job eventually and get paid for it. Mostly, when you have a job you talk about it as work. I have to go to work today, tomorrow, tonight, this weekend. Damn, I have work tomorrow. I have to leave soon I have work waiting for me. Work is synonymous with labor. Ouch, just saying it seems to hurt! Isn’t it time to do what you love to do every day? I love it when people say I never had a job to go to everyday. I am doing what I love to do. I hate leaving to go home I love what I’m doing. What is it you love to do? What is it that you’re passionate about? Let’s find out. Go to a group of friends, family members and others who you consider close to you. Now ask them, when you are with me what are the things we do that bring a smile to my face, that gets me excited, that bring overt joy to my face? The people around you will let you know for sure. Now take this input and ask yourself the question you asked them. Identify areas of congruency in what they said and what you feel. You may know right off the bat. No need to ask anyone. You may say “I always wanted to make the greatest pies ever.” You love to bake, you love creating, you love making people indulge in delicious pleasures and most of all, you are passionate about baking pies. Then why wouldn’t you spend the rest of your life doing what you are passionate about. If you have not killed that bird on your shoulder yet, then now is the time to KILL him!! So you are looking at your circumstances and saying, forget it I need a job now! I have bills and kids to feed. Now is not the time to chase my passion. STOP! Go back and read section 2 again now.

7. Magic! Gratitude and Giving Thanks

There is an amazing book recently written by Rhonda Byrne titled; The Magic. Do not wait, go buy it today and start reading it today. It is an amazing 28 day journey of giving thanks and blessings for what we have received and what we plan on receiving. The bottom line: as the Good Book states: Ask with an open and clean heart and thy shall receive the Blessings one desires from the Lord.

8. PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

You are now ready to put the last 7 days of work to use in establishing your new role in the world of making money. You have looked deep into

the recesses of your heart and mind where you have not traveled in quite some time. You have discovered and rediscovered things about yourself in which you forgot and learned for the very first time. You have identified how your very own mind will attack your own motivation; how it will sabotage you from progressing and will put a big yield sign up to prevent you from chasing your dreams. You have discovered how to identify and deal with this self-destructive behavior when it raises its ugly head. You took a whole day identifying what skills you possess, what productive traits you have amassed over your lifetime, behaviors in which you enjoy doing and which bring you happiness, you have made lists of everyone you can remember who has touched your life and have researched where they are now and what they are doing now, you have decided to create the world in your mind which is built on confidence, fearlessness, joy, and happiness, remember we spent a full day deciding what is it that you’re passionate about. IMPORTANT: Anyone can find a job eventually and get paid for it. Mostly, when you have a job you talk about it as work. I have to go to work today, tomorrow, tonight, this weekend. Damn, I have work tomorrow. I have to leave soon I have work waiting for me. Work is synonymous with labor. Ouch, just saying it seems to hurt! Isn’t it time to do what you love to do every day? I love it when people say I never had a job to go to everyday. I am doing what I love to do. I hate leaving to go home I love what I’m doing. What is it you love to do? What is it that you’re passionate about? Just two days ago you spend considerable time on this subject. You queried friends, co-workers, family and others on what they noticed that emblazoned passion with you. If you do not know now why you were put on this earth and how you were supposed to spend the majority of your waking hours doing then re do day 6!! Ok, you made it through the 7 day personal journey and you discovered what you will be happy and productive doing for the rest of your career. So how do you take the first step? Always the toughest is the first step, however, recall your physics class in high school, it’s much easier to keep an object in motion than to start an object in motion. So get started! Go to the list of everyone you have researched in your personal data base and isolate the ones who are directly involved in or with the area you want to pursue. Contact them directly, get a meeting with them and explain the journey you just went through and how you ended up at the meeting with them. Have the courage to ASK THEM FOR HELP. By human nature, people want to help others. Take advantage of others peoples human instinct to help. Be very clear, state, I need your help in getting an assignment in doing what I love to do and this is how you can help me. Stay focused and

confident. If you read the book The Magic, you know this will work out for you and it will happen the way you want it to. You will see once you have taken the first step and begin having meetings the law of inertia will take hold. Meetings will lead to further meetings, introductions will take place and then more meetings will take place. IMPORTANT: Be prepared for each meeting! What does this mean? Always know what your objective is for each meeting you attend and it is well defined. Make sure the person or people in which your meeting with understand before hand your objective and always and I mean always close for the business. What do I mean? I mean ask for what you want! I want an internship at an advertising agency that your friend owns please call him for me and ask him to take my call, I want a loan to open up a pastry shop and your brother is a loan officer at CitiBank can you please call him and make an introduction, I want to teach a lecture at your Alma Mater in which you are a large benefactor, please call Dr. Smith the head of the English department and arrange a call between her and I, I want your help in calling your friend who manages company xyz and ask him to meet with me to discuss opportunities in his Human Resource department. This activity requires you to step out of your comfort zone and take charge of your life, of your actions, and what does this mean? Risk! For some it’s an ugly scary word. Remember the two kinds of birds that each will sit on your shoulder? Always keep that special lemon water handy for the times they start chirping in your ear negativity. Risk is your friend, embrace it, understand it, prepare for it and then attack it with energy, confidence, perseverance, and a well thought out plan of action to succeed. Go back to Day 1. Bring an understanding to your mind that You have rediscovered and certainly discovered how wonderful, how imaginative, how resourceful, how successful you have been up to this point and you have learned from all of the opportunities you had which didn’t turn out as you expected. You have meticulously reviewed and canvased your life, your heart, your soul and mind up to this point and have without any doubt have a better understanding of who you are today than you have ever had in any time before today. You have put the work in over the last 7 days to come to this very point where you know what you want, you are prepared to go get it, I want you now to ask for it on a piece of paper (write down exactly what you want, I want to have my own Inn on Ogunquit Beach, Maine) and tape it to the

mirror you look into every morning when you wake up. Every morning this is a reminder of what you want for yourself. You have all the tools now to develop your plan to achieve what you want for your career in this current and future socio-economic environment. It is now up to you to take the first step in your total pursuit of happiness. Use this guide as needed and revisit it on the occasion you find yourself stuck or slowing down. Above all, never lose sight of your final destination!

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