Monier Williams, in his "A Sanskrit-English Dictionary", published in 1872 by Oxford University Press gives the meaning of vivaha (marriage) as vi-vaaha - to conduct home, to take as wife. Marriage is referred to as a specific 'samskara', Vivaha, is the word used for the marriage rituals, Vaha meaning to carry. That is to say, it goes on for ever, a permanent bond that should go on for next seven births. In all the religions, marriage is a celebration for the whole family and there are rituals and mantras, associated with that. But there are no celebration for divorce and separation. World over, everybody aspires to have a permanent relationship to bring up the family. Marriage is a social institution. "It is a union of persons of different gender to fulfill their 'personal desires' and to have progeny, with social acceptability. A marriage is a legal, physical and moral union of husband and wife to establish a family. The ritual of marriage gives public acknowledgment with the blessings of well wishers. Marriage has a religious orientation where all the family members rejoice.

In a typical Hindu marriage, bride and bride-groom take an oaths before the sacred fire to the effect that their hearts are united and they have become permanent companions. "In the matters of living (dharma), in financial matters, in fulfilling the

mutual love. to conduct religious duties properly as per time-schedule). understanding and faith).. Let the third step be for money (wealth and means of living)..... In all the religions. he says. lifespan. monkeys and human ... Mangala means for good). Let the second step be for strength (physical. wedlock is highly respected and recognised... The bridegroom takes certain oaths called Ubhaya Vrata at the beginning on marriage to assure. son and house".. wife..desires and in spiritual progress.. Unlike in the song. mental and spiritual). While tying Mangalya. like getting soaked in rain. All most of the mammals . Saptapadi symbolizes the journey of life husband and wife travel hand in hand. like in the song 'Angelo' by the group 'Brotherhood of Man'..... healthy). Any temporary relationship is shunned upon. climbing of trees and harboring suspicion. Mainly a Hindu marriage consists of Kanayadana (expression of intension of marriage). I will not move away from you".... Mangalya dharana (wearing of a gold ornament called Mangalya. he will not do anything hazardous . for my life. Panigrahana (holding hand) and Saptapadi (going round the holly fire. There is a subhashita in Sanskrit.. Let the fourth step be for fulfillment of desires (knowledge. This article is intended for matching horoscopes for marriage an everlasting and perpetual arrangement and NOT for 'living-in' relationships which do not have sanction in any religion..... Section 437 regards marriage as complete and irrevocable when the 7th step of Saptapadi is complete.elephants. seven times). hand in hand but share their happiness with their families! Let the first step be for food (household or family). Let the fifth step be for children (responsible. The Hindu Marriage Act. This is the mantra used in the process of Kanyadana. respect. to enjoy life in respective seasons.. they do not run away.. Let the sixth step be for ritu (time. Let you live happily for a hundred years". "It is fortune (anubandha) or misfortune (rina) that brings husband.. Let the seventh step be for friendship (loyalty and companionship). happiness. "I tie this Mangalya in the thread.

So. indeed). A new girl who enters the family is not merely a wife but she also plays the role of daughter-in-law. Any marriage . Marriage does not guarantee a 100% security but it is far more better than in 'living in' relationships. they received divorce certificates. In marriage. health and well being are threatened. it is easy to get separated in US. called love-proposals are made by young fellows to each other. ideology to create a new world order or for wealth do not survive. Background. a registered marriage or a marriage solemnized by a rationalist. cast. Divorce does not bring happiness. defects and diseases running in the family.remarried husband. Both of them felt sorry.. though they don't read Abhignan Shakuntala or Romeo & Juliet! But. There is only one type . It is worthy to be slow and patient in marriage and also in divorce. as she was engaged to another person! They know not the sanctity of marriage. Through analysis of horoscopes. a man married and moved with his wife to US. but the ones with love. After some time. young generation has great sense of love. the marriage fell apart. After a week the husband called on the girl. education. the parties should not be selfcentered but should think of other members of the family. profession. physical features. it casts doubts on human relation. sisterin-law etc. It is not wise to jump to conclusions by what one comes across in self-appraisals. In three months. desire to set up families than a casual relationship.. the desire is to be husband and wife for ever. on the 4th day after divorce they married in a religious ashram (a reputed.. character. I abhor divorces for flimsy reasons. financial status. they know how to throw an acid bulb.. which lacks human concern for each other. without much thought.. Marriages based on fascination (misjudged as great love). everybody's interest should be respected. The principle is that earth tatwa girl will be happy with another air . None of the divorced people I have met. the parents make elaborate enquiries about family background. The girl declined to go with her marrieddivorced.and that certainly brings it an arranged marriage. the chart is made in sayana system. to make arrangement to return to US. Maharshi Manu has mentioned about single women and separated women but he does not classify types of divorces.beings and some birds of course. adoptability and mutual concern will go on forever. had married just for fun but wanted to live in marriage forever. When a marriage proposal is made. a marriage with religious rituals. Nobody is perfect and hence no marriage is absolute success. Matching in Western Astrology is done using sun-sign. Many people in India as well as the Western World seek astrologer's guidance. I do not mean the man or woman should remain within marriage. As far as possible. religion or geographical area do not matter. where one lives under constant fear that the person may go away. Manu smruthi catalogues various types of marriages including rakshasa vivaha (abducting the girl for marriage).. or divorce. these days. This is where the astrologer comes into picture. when the boy was in India for some reason. These days. Yet. favourably disposed in matrimonial columns and sites.. The girl came back to India. one will know what future holds for them. when their life. In a metro city. sympathy.

say soft ware) is used to make both the charts of boy and girl. person born in Gregorian year of 1990 belongs to Horse year. Marrying a rat (1984) would prove to be disastrous. trines. tiger etc. marriage can be agreed. A example ready reckoner is here. The matching is done with reference to animal behaviour. one client told me. Nine padas of stars go into a rasi. He will make individual analysis of both charts before he pronounces his judgment. my western counterpart should develop more tools based on Indian system. I do not go with all the jargon of astrology but. you should start matching right after Part-I of this article or open another "Vedic Research Institute for matching.. If that number is more than 18. In Chinese astrology. The reckoner is prepared considering various concepts in both girl's and boy's chart.tatwa boy. we too have list of 'paniki raadu' (not workable) stars. we will come across deviations and exceptions. we know what to eat and what to throw away. I think. I spend lot of time on matching charts. You can verity the accuracy of given data using any on-line soft ware and ensure that same ayanamsha (or. till you read all the articles in the series. angles etc. We will also explore why some marriages. There are delicious fruits as well as poisonous ones. Some 30 years ago. many short cuts and several deaf and dumb rules. married life will be most successful. I do not skip through the charts. Honestly. like Moola. Like general matching of a Western astrologer. one need to know the stars of the boy and girl. This is similar to bhoota koota matching where tatwas (elements) of rasi or stars are considered. For example. though other panchangas give slightly variable values. you will find a number where the star and pada of the girl and the boy will intersect. should be more inquisitive. If he/she marries a person born in Tiger year (1986 ) or Dog year (1982). judged as getting 30/38 marks miserably failed. similar to Hindu sixty year cycle beginning with Prabhava. Most of the Indian astrologers use a ready reckoner. Even now. my client wanted! Indian astrologers. This is similar to yoni koota in Hindu astrology. There is a subtle difference between a Western and Indian astrologer. Before consulting the reckoner. we have a cycle of 12 years. . A wise Western astrologer further examines mutual positions of significators of marriage whether they are in squares. instead of quoting a nadi dosha. but his expert 'guru' simply examines the charts for few seconds. I do not intend. Only fire and water are not matched. We do not eat all of a mango. Matching is done from girl's star and not from boy's star. if we know the star pada.. kuja dosha and a list of 'always bad' stars of girls. named after certain animals like rat. more elaborate in examining the charts. As we proceed further. a kuja dosha or a kalasarpa yoga. one should make sure that the star stated by the party is correct. ox." Hold on. In the mean time. so we can know the rasi of the person. As the matching is considered between stars and rasis. I have not learnt the lesson. In these tables. I base my arguments on valuable dictums.

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