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life. and how to have one.
february 12, 2009
Can’t buy me love
but you can come close
with our gift-giving
It’s all in the mix
create the perfect
playlist for that special








February 12, 2009
Volume 6, Issue 20 [ ]
17 STAGE PRESENCE: blast to the
past with Big Stack Daddy
6 CONTACT: perfect music mixes
7 GREAT DATE/STANK DATE: Bengals and politics
11 WESCOE WIT: ‘Oh, I meant fsh tacos’
12 NOTICE: raise the roof
16 THIS WEEKEND: watch where you ‘roll’
22 REVIEWS: spend your money on Milk
Clockwise from top right: photo
illustration by Alex Bonham-Carter;
contributed photo; photo illustration
by Jerry Wang
Photo by Chance Dibben








February 12, 2009
table of contents
Cover photo by Ryan Waggoner




February 12, 2009
Editor Matt Hirschfeld
Associate editor Jessica Sain-Baird
Designers Erica Birkman, Lauren
Contact Elliot Kort, Stephanie
Health Sachiko Miyakawa, Megan
Manual Becka Cremer, Katherine
Mulder, Adam Schoof
Notice Madeline Hyden, Ross Stewart,
Zach White
Play Kelly Breckunitch, Tanner Grubbs,
Kristopher McDonald
Contributors Drew Anderson, Mark
Arehart, Alicia Banister, Taylor Brown,
Chance Dibben, Mia Iverson, Carly
Halvorson, Daniel Nordstrom, Meghan
Nuckolls, Tom Powers, Abigail Olcese,
Brieun Scott, Kelci Shipley, Amanda
Sorell, Derek Zarda
Creative consultant Carol
Contact us
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1435 Jayhawk Blvd.
Lawrence, KS 66045
thursday, feb 12
The 25th Annual Putnam
County Spelling Bee
The Lied Center, 7:30 p.m.,
$20/students, all ages
Beat Pirates
with the Gleaners
The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $3, 21+
The Delta Spirit/Other
The Jackpot Music Hall, 10
p.m., $8, 21+/$10, 18 to 20
Cyrus D and Godzilla
The Eighth Street Tap Room,
10 p.m., $3, 21+
Dark Castle/Stull
The Replay Lounge, 10 p.m.,
$2, 21+
Neon Dance Party
The Bottleneck, 10 p.m.,
prices vary, 18+
The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $6, 21+
Badfsh—A Tribute To
The Granada, 8 p.m., $14
advanced/$16 door, all ages
Murder by Death/The
Builders & The Butch-
ers/Fake Problems
The Bottleneck, 8 p.m., $12,
Oh! Mr. Valentine’s Day
with Cowboy Indian
Bear/Suzannah Jo-
hannes/The Volunteers
The Jackpot Music Hall, 10
p.m., $5, 21+/$7, 18 to 20
Ebony and Ivory’s
Friday the Thirteenth!
The Eighth Street Tap Room,
10 p.m., $3, 21+
Fresh Fridays
with DJ Proof
Fatso’s, 10 p.m., $3, 21+
Monta at Odds/Larkin
The Record Bar, 10 p.m., $7,
friday, feb 13
The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $6, 21+
Cross Canadian
The Granada, 8 p.m., $25,
all ages
Cicada Rhythm Valen-
tine’s Bash with
The Jackpot Music Hall, 10
p.m. $10, 18+
Family Groove Co./
The Bottleneck, 10 p.m., $7,
Candlepants and Gloria
Vanderbilt’s Valen-
tine’s Dance
The Eighth Street Tap Room,
10 p.m., $5, 21+
A Sonic Douche Valen-
tine’s Cuddle Party
The Replay Lounge, 10 p.m.,
$3, 21+
The ACBs/C.E.S. Cru/
Bayno/Brandon Draper
The Record Bar, 10 p.m., $7,
saturday, feb 14 monday, feb 16
Frank Caliendo
The Uptown Theater, 6:30
p.m., $39.75, all ages
Maze Featuring
Frankie Beverly and
Keith Sweat
Municipal Auditorium, 7:30
p.m., $45 to $55, all ages
The Love Hang Over
The Record Bar, 8 p.m.,
$7, 21+
Disco Biscuits
Liberty Hall, 8 p.m., all ages
The Coppelia Project:
A Clown Ballet in
Three Acts
La Esquina, 8 p.m., $10,
all ages
This Frontier Needs
Heroes/Hunters and
The Eighth Street Tap
Room, 10 p.m., $3, 21+
Smackdown Trivia
and Karaoke
The Bottleneck, 8 p.m.,
$5, 18+
William Inge Theatre, 7:30
p.m., $10 to $12, all ages
SRS Orlando Ruiz,
Swarthout Recital Hall, 7: 30
p.m., free, all ages
DJs Joc Max and Miles
The Phoenix Jazz Club, 8
p.m., free, 21+
Clay Cumbie/Roots &
The Bottleneck, 9 p.m., 18+
Dollar Bowling
Royal Crest Bowling Lanes, 9
p.m., $1, all ages
DJ Just
The Record Bar, 10 p.m.,
free, 21+
tuesday, feb 17
Kansas City Electronic
Music Alliance presents “I
See You”
La Esquina, 7 p.m., $5, all ages
sunday, feb 15
The Jazzhaus
926 1/2 Massachusetts St.
Lawrence, KS
The Jackpot Music Hall
943 Massachusetts St.
Lawrence, KS
The Eighth Street Tap
801 New Hampshire St.
Lawrence, KS
The Replay Lounge
946 Massachusetts St.
Lawrence, KS
The Lied Center
1600 Stewart Drive
Lawrence, KS
The Bottleneck
737 New Hampshire St.
Lawrence, KS
editor’s note
I can pinpoint the
conception of my
anal retentiveness.
My parents had fnally
budged and bought a
desktop computer. It
was nothing fancy, but it fueled my obsession
with making mix CDs.
From late grade school to late middle
school, I made mix cassette tapes. I recorded
whatever popular jams happened to be play-
ing on the radio when I was near my stereo.
Sometimes, I would even hold my dad’s old
tape recorder to a TV’s speakers to record the
music from music videos. I had a pretty stel-
lar collection of tapes by the time that desktop
entered my life.
The tapes, though, were spoiled with miss-
ing beginnings, cut off endings and fuzzy record-
ing qualities. I quickly adapted to burning CDs
instead, and I now had play counts, numbered
tracks and 80 minutes to make the mixes of my
dreams. My mix CD collection would put those
Now That’s What I Call Music! CDs to shame.
My musical taste hadn’t changed much since
the mix tape days (whatever was on the radio
and pleasing to the ears was good enough for
me), so I just downloaded the music on the
computer rather than waiting for the radio to
play a song I liked.
Each of my orderly CDs would have put an
expression of awe on even Martha Stewart’s
mug. The CDs were all 18 tracks and no art-
ist was repeated on each CD. They were num-
bered and I had a typed listing for each disk. I
made sure I had a backup of each CD, just in
case. If someone listed off any song from the
CDs, I could name which disk it was on (and
usually even the track number).
I know now that I had all my mixes wrong.
I mashed together songs in favor of orderliness
rather than fow. I had pop next to rock with
hip hop thrown somewhere in the mix. Elliot’s
story on page 6 explains what makes a good
mix of music, from fow to format, for a signif-
cant other or for yourself.
My frst vehicle, a bare bones truck, had only
a cassette player and a radio. I dug through my
middle school memorabilia and pulled out those
tapes. I may have been jamming to fve-year-old
tunes for most of my high school years in that
truck, but never had I been more thankful for a
piece of outdated technology.
— Matt Hirschfeld, editor
John Lomas
The Eldridge Hotel, 7 p.m.,
all ages
Peking Acrobats
Voodoo Lounge, 8 p.m., $25 to
$35, all ages
Felt-A-Palooza Talent
The Bottleneck, 9 p.m. $5, 18+
That Acoustic Jam
The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., $2, 21+
The Record Bar, 10 p.m., $10,
wednesday, feb 18
Tuesday Nite Swing
Kansas Union, 8 p.m., free,
all ages
Brody Buster Band
The Jackpot Music Hall, 10
p.m., $5, 21+/$7, 18 to 20
The Aural Exciter
The Record Bar, 10 p.m.,
free, 21+
Ah, Valentine’s Day: a day dedicated to shar-
ing love with a signifcant other. But whether
it’s a new relationship or a more comfortable
one, the right Valentine’s Day gift is crucial for
lovers at every stage of their relationship. In-
stead of winging it this Valentine’s Day, choose
a gift that can accurately refect your current
relationship standing.
With emotions running high for this Febru-
ary 14 holiday, lovebirds are saying that fnding
the perfect gift is their biggest concern.
According to Business Wire, nearly four
out of 10 people reassess their romantic re-
lationships between the end of December and
Valentine’s Day. It’s a period that’s been called
“National Break-up Season.”
To help with this stressful task of gift buy-
ing, here’s a guide to choosing a Valentine’s gift
for every relationship stage.
One to two months:
Butterflies and starry-eyed
Everything is fun and fresh going into Val-
entine’s Day at this stage. Expectations are not
high, so no diamonds to buy or vacations to
plan. Traditional gifts are welcomed, such as
chocolates, picture frames and fowers. Go get
dinner or just get dessert. The key is to show
you appreciate the other person.
Katie Loyd, 2008 graduate from Lawrence,
met her boyfriend, Alex Rock, three and a half
years ago. For their frst Valentine’s Day, she
says, they went to dinner at The Eldridge, 701
Massachusetts Street, and gave each other pic-
ture frames.
“It was really laid back and there was no
pressure,” Loyd says. “It shouldn’t be for your
frst Valentine’s Day together.”
Going out to dinner is an easy way to
generate conversation, allowing you to get to
know the other person better, and in turn, feel
more comfortable with him or her.
The Eldridge restaurant, The Jayhawker, fea-
tures a Valentine’s Day menu, and fower bou-
quets are offered so you can kill two birds with
one stone. If dinner is not in your plans, but
fowers are, Prairie Patches, 821 Massachusetts
Street, offers fowers and chocolates at a col-
lege student-friendly price.
Cinda Garrison, owner of Prairie Patches,
says college students tend to be quite conser-
vative and unsure about Valentine’s Day gifts.
“Guys come in saying they just met a girl
and have no idea,” Garrison says. “They tend
to be safe and just get fowers.”
Going the traditional route at this stage is
a timeless way to let the other person know
you’re into them.
Three to six months:
Goin’ steady
The heat is turned up in this stage. Valen-
tine’s Day gifts at this level should refect what
you and your partner know about each other.
Show you have been listening and buy gifts
that spark personal interest in the other per-
son, such as cooking items, music, movies or
outdoor wear.
Sunfower Outdoor & Bike Shop, 802 Mas-
sachusetts Street, has gifts from $10 water
bottles to $165 North Face jackets for you or
your outdoor-loving partner. Store employee
Andrew Stark says the store has received a lot
of special orders for Valentine’s Day.
“College kids come in before Valentine’s
Day and say to their boyfriend or girlfriend,
‘What do you want?’” Stark
For those who do know
what they want, hinting before
Valentine’s Day only makes the
gift-buying process that much
easier for your partner.
Loyd and Rock, for their
second Valentine’s Day, say
they made the mistake of not
getting personal gifts for each
other and instead stayed at a
bed and breakfaStreet
“I do not recommend it,”
Loyd says. “I would have rath-
er done something we knew
we would both like.”
Six months to one year:
Hip huggers
At this point, you’re a defnite item. You
probably do everything together, so now it’ s
time to give gifts that come from the heart.
Personalized jewelry, or mini get-away trips
are gifts that help show your commitment to
the relationship.
Getting your love high quality jewelry is
good for this stage in your relationship, but
make sure the cost and type of jewelry is ap-
propriate to where you both think you are in
your relationship.
Prairie Patches sells Silpada jewelry on an
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Your Valentine’s Day
By Stephanie Schneider
Perfect gifts for every stage in your relationship
Photo illustrations by Alex Bonham-Carter
Throwing a wrench into the relationship: Valentine’s gifting
is an important way to show the proper respect for one
another in a relationship. Sometimes, a poorly chosen gift
can lead to serious relationship damage or upset feelings.
picks for presents
Need to know for Valentine’s Day
With the big day upon us, editor of, Judy Dutton, turned to restaurant
reviews and surveys from 1,500 people to help lovers decide what to do for Valentine’s Day.
Valentine’s Day survey results
Valentine’s Day popularity
26 percent: fans of the holiday
39 percent: just all right
20 percent: should be abolished
16 percent: shrug it off as just another day
Dining price
People tend to spend an average of about
$100 per person, but couples under 35
spend the least amount, at about $92
What to drink?
51 percent: wine
24 percent: champagne
How far ahead to make reservations
43 percent: three or more weeks in advance
30 percent: one or two weeks ahead of time
3 percent: the day before
7 percent: take the chance of being a walk-in
What makes a romantic atmosphere?
64 percent: quiet atmosphere
53 percent: soft lighting
37 percent: a beautiful view
Who to bring?
13 percent: someone they just met
74 percent: three or more dates
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individual basis in the price range of $17 to just
more than $100, says Garrison, Prairie Patches
“It’s a great quality, and the pieces are beau-
tiful,” Garrison says. “Very reasonable, but some
of the bigger pieces are more expensive.”
For the non-jewelry-type lovers, a mini-va-
cation is always fun for Valentine’s Day if you’re
lucky enough to have a few extra bucks. Head
to a concert or go stay on the Plaza in down-
town Kansas City, Missouri.
For Loyd and Rock’s third Valentine’s Day,
they made the trip up to Minnesota to see Ka-
tie’s favorite band, The Fray, play.
“It’s so much fun to get away for Valen-
tine’s Day,” Loyd says. “The concert was a little
cheesy, but so fun.”
One to two years:
Even though you’ve made it to this stage
in your relationship and the expectations are
higher, there is no need to forget the fun in it.
So relax, no one is expecting a ring … yet.
For this level of commitment, you want to
give a gift that truly captures the love in your
relationship. You have done everything else, so
how about relaxing together with a couples’
massage? Or maybe a night with just the two
of you in a fancy hotel?
Loyds fourth Valentine’s Day with Rock
is following the same theme this year. “We
moved to NYC, so dinner is not an option. Val-
entine’s Day in NYC is a circus,” Loyd says.
Instead, Loyd and Rock have decided to
spend the day together getting couples’ mas-
sages, then ordering sushi and having wine at
their apartment. JP
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Photo illustration by Alex Bonham-Carter
From Valentine’s Day to Doomsday: Don’t cause a fght
on your special day by buying an off-the-mark gift for
your signifcant other.
How We
ary 5, 2007. Thirteen days later, Matty left for
Italy for fve months.
Their overseas relationship succeeded, and
the chance of a blind date paid off.
This love is not blind.
— Stephanie Schneider
Being set up on a blind date can be un-
predictable and unsuccessful. For Matty Price,
though, it marked the frst day of the rest of
her college dating life.
Matty, Chicago native and a junior at the
time, was asked to accompany her friend to
a fraternity date party, and without hesitation,
she responded, “I refuse.” After some quality
Facebook time and persuasion, Matty agreed
to be Brian Tagg’s blind date to his November
30, 2007, Christmas date party.
Brian, Overland Park native and sopho-
more at the time, says he was nervous about
the blind date because she was older, “but I
fgured I would never talk to her, or see her
again,” he says. The date party was an over-
all success both Matty and Brian say, and it
led to Matty returning the favor and asking
Brian to her sorority date party the following
Though they had been to many organized
functions together, their frst actual date was
at Jefferson’s, where Brian started the night off
right by spilling his full glass of water on Matty.
After about a month of casual dating, Brian
and Matty decided to make it offcial on Janu-
with Carly Halvorson and Elliot Kort
Have relationship questions or need some advice?
*Bitch and Moan is not to be considered as a substitute
for professional help.
My boyfriend is abroad. A few weeks
ago, I went to a bachelor party for a guy
friend of mine and we ended up at a
strip club. A friend of mine paid for a lap
dance from a female dancer for me. And
when my boyfriend found out, he flipped.
He knows I’d never cheat on him and that
I like only guys, but he still freaked out.
If anything, what should I have done dif-
Eva, junior
Carly: Nothing. Seriously. You didn’t do any-
thing wrong. What was his argument? Was he
mad about the lap dance or that you went to a
bachelor party? Actually, it doesn’t even matter.
If your boyfriend knows that you’re faithful and
only attracted to guys, then he has no reason
to fip out. Unfortunately, reason and being ra-
tional aren’t things at play here. Your boyfriend
is probably jealous that you’re out having fun
while he’s so far away. He is also probably un-
comfortable with the idea of you going out with
a bunch of guys. This can cause anyone to fip
out normally—being abroad exacerbates the
situation. I hope that your boyfriend has since
apologized, citing the reasons I just mentioned
as why he got upset. If he hasn’t, you deserve an
apology. You were honest with him about what
you did, you didn’t cheat on him, and you’re not
letting his being abroad stop you from living
your life. What more could he ask for?
Elliot: Eva, I’m guessing your fella’s just jeal-
ous. Maybe he wishes he could’ve been there
with you. Maybe he just doesn’t like the idea
of anyone grinding anywhere near you except
him. Whatever the reason, I think you should
at least recognize the situation you put him in.
No matter your sexual orientation, going to a
strip club and letting someone (and a scantily
clad someone at that) into your personal space
is a very intimate experience. Even if he knows
you wouldn’t run off with [insert incredibly
clichéd stripper name here], just knowing you
let someone else be near you in that way may
have been enough of a betrayal for him. Am I
saying you did something wrong? No. Am I say-
ing you’ve inherently broken some sacred oath
of relationships? No. What you should’ve done
differently is what you didn’t seem to do. You
didn’t look at this from his perspective or con-
sider what he’d think or feel. And, to be clear, I
would hold him to the very same had the roles
been reversed.
My roommate recently started hook-
ing up regularly with one of our friends.
From the start, I knew it was a bad idea.
I had talked to her previously about this
guy she had dated who blew her off and
completely played with her emotions.
She said she wanted a good guy, and
then started messing around with my
roommate—who I knew was bad news.
Out of optimism, I let it go, but then he
cheated on her with an ex. She found out,
got pissed, but a few days later was back
on his arm. What’s the deal?
Matt, sophomore
Carly: Honestly, who knows? Common sense
would dictate that your friend leave the guy
and fnd someone who gives her what she
needs. However, as mentioned above, we’re not
always rational beings. I understand that your
friend got upset when she found out that your
roommate hooked up with an ex. She’s not in
a relationship with your roommate, though, so
there’s not a commitment to not sleep with
other people. Is there a mutual understanding
that they’ll be exclusive or are they working
off of conficting assumptions? If your friend
and your roommate want to continue this ar-
rangement, they need to set some boundaries.
Just to note: It sounds like you did your part by
warning her in the beginning. You can only pre-
vent people from making mistakes for so long.
Your friend obviously has a deeper connection
to your roommate than you can battle against,
so don’t worry too much about it.
Elliot: OK, Matt. Time for some brutal honesty.
The deal is simple: people can be stupid, weak
and impulsive. Clearly your friend cares more
about having someone than having someone
who respects her. People can be so starved
for attention and affection that they’ll go run-
ning back to someone (like your roommate)
who deliberately disrespected them in the frst
place, just because that person will give them
some momentary attention. But that’s not
really why you wrote us with a question. You
wrote because clearly this upsets you in some
way. Either you feel something for this friend
or just object to jerks like your roommate on
principle. Whatever the case may be, trust me
when I say that you don’t want to get involved.
You might think that once you give either par-
ty a piece of your mind that the situation will
get better. It won’t. If you bring it up with your
friend, she’ll feel like you’re telling her what to
do. If you mention it to your roommate, you’re
in for an incredibly awkward living situation.
Contributed photos
Take a chance on me: Matty Price and Brian Tagg met
on a blind date after a few repeated requests for a date.
February 12, 2009
By Elliot Kort
Tunes to make
How to make the perfect music mix for that special someone
You’re at a stalemate. You know you like
her and you’re pretty sure she likes you. Or,
you know he likes you but you’re not sure
how to proceed. Flowers? Too much. A card?
Too impersonal. And so you arrive at the age-
old vehicle of so many declarations of affec-
tion: the mix tape.
Odd as it might seem, fnding the person
to make the tape can be one of the hardest
parts of the process. For Mark Roseberry, as-
sistant manager at Kief ’s Downtown Music,
832 Massachusetts Street, making a mix tape
for a person was the initial plunge into an
eventual relationship. “I never made a tape for
someone that I didn’t want to be a girlfriend,”
he says.
Just reaching that threshold can take a lot,
he says. By the time you start dreaming up lists
of songs to communicate how you feel about
that special someone, you want to be conf-
dent in your decision. But then what?
Choosing your format
The second important decision any mixers
have to make is how they should channel their
creativity. “I fnd it amusing and meaningful
that they’re still referred to as mix tapes,” says
Roberta Freund-Schwartz, associate profes-
sor of musicology. She has a point. From mak-
ing an actual mix cassette tape to whipping up
a mix CD to publishing an iMix playlist on the
iTunes music store, audiophiles have more op-
tions than ever before. And with the cassette
technology being phased out, tapes are more
expensive than ever.
Also, your choice of format may say a lot
about you as a music fan. Building a mix from
taping from vinyl to a cassette means you
appreciate old school rock and roll, while e-
mailing someone a collection of mp3s could
communicate that you don’t get hung up on
possessing a huge, physical collection.
Follow the rules
From opening the mix with an attention
getter to avoiding repeats of artists on one
tape, Ian Hrabe believes in the rules. Hrabe,
Olathe senior and music director for KJHK,
says he spent most of his teens and all of his
early 20s trying to perfect his tape-making
Every time he decides to make a mix, he
flters through his voluminous vinyl collec-
tion and starts selecting albums with standout
songs he hopes will speak to his audience of
one. He’s a sucker for lyrics, he says, and is
acutely focused on making sure the words
match his thoughts.
“‘First of all, you’re using someone else’s
poetry to express how you feel,’” Hrabe says,
quoting the music-centric flm High Fidelity.
And not only do people need to fnd songs
that speak for them, they also have to fnd
songs that express their overall taste. That
way, when recipients react to any given tape,
they’re responding to their feelings but also to
their overall identity as a music fan.
“If they didn’t like my taste, then they’d
have to like me for me,” says Roseberry, assis-
tant manager at Kief ’s Downtown Music.
Then, after making sure your choices
speak for you as well as about you, make ad-
ditions that you know the person is going to
like. It’s just as much about them as it is about
you, Hrabe says. Be sure to build and decrease
tempo methodically.
Another aspect that Matt Falkenstein, Law-
rence senior, likes to keep in mind is retain-
ing subtlety. If he’s trying to implant romantic
ideas in the ears of his audience, he doesn’t
bust out overt classics, such as Marvin Gaye’s
“Let’s Get it On.”
The personal touch
Once you have your track list and your
chosen format ready to go, one part that’s a
must is to add a personal touch. Roseberry
would record his voice over instrumental
breaks on his mixes and make them sound
like radio broadcasts. Hrabe designs new al-
bum artwork for every mix he makes.
Freund-Schwartz has gone so far as to re-
cord bits of dialogue off a television in hopes of
referencing an inside joke. For the recipients,
going the extra mile means everything. JP
Graphic by Drew Stearns
Music to your honey’s ears: Finding the right mix of songs and choosing the right format for a mix of music can be
diffcult, especially when making the mix for a signifcant other.
them swoon
Six simple tips to
creating a successful
music mix
Suggestions from Mark Roseberry, Ian
Hrabe and Roberta Freund-Schwartz
1. Don’t start your mix with a song that
opens its respective album.
2. Try to avoid repeating artists. If you
must, set a track at each end of the mix to
bookend it properly.
3. Unless you know a person’s taste very
well, try to limit your selections to one era
or genre.
4. Be very mindful of a mix’s fow. Jumping
from an acoustic ballad to a heavy metal
shredfest won’t do anything but jar your
5. If you’re going to include a person’s
favorite artist in your mix, try to fnd an ob-
scure or rare track that they haven’t heard.
6. Take the time to do it right and with a
personal feel.
A trip to the Paul Brown Stadium would be
more than an experience for Aaron Emrich. It’s
the place of his dream job—working for the
Cincinnati Bengals.
Brooke Badzin
and Aaron, both se-
niors, had been dat-
ing about two years
when she decided
to make his dream
a reality. Brooke, of
Leawood, surprised
Aaron, Wichita na-
tive, with fake tickets
at their anniversary
dinner in Novem-
ber to the Bengals
game on December
28, 2008, against the
Kansas City Chiefs.
Once she had gotten the real tickets, she few
both of them to Cincinnati, Ohio, for a two-
day trip.
“He was in complete shock,” Brooke says.
Taking your friends’ advice sometimes
isn’t the best idea when considering asking
someone out on a date. Shea Steacker, senior,
learned this the hard way.
Shea was back in his home state, Minnesota,
and at his favorite restaurant, Ichiban, when he
noticed the cute hostess named Bailey. With
hesitation, Shea walked up to her to ask her
out on a date, but froze and left the restaurant
with his friends instead.
“My friends made fun of me for being a
wimp,” Shea says. “So we pulled back up to the
restaurant and I hopped out.”
Shea says he got back into the restaurant and
asked her out on a date, and to his surprise,
she gladly accepted the offer. The two met the
next day at Starbucks, where the shock then
settled in.
“She turned out to be a crazy liberal, tree-
hugger type, who was gorgeous,” Shea says.
The frst half an hour was enjoyable for Shea,
but then for the next two and a half hours,
he says she wouldn’t stop talking about politics
Sitting in the sixth row, at the 30-yard line,
Aaron remained in awe.
Aaron is a sports management major and
sports fanatic, so
this anniversary
present was more
than he could
have asked for.
Aside from hav-
ing a great time at
the game, Brooke
says they went out
in Mount Adams,
Cincinnati, and
ate at two great
sushi and seafood
“It’s the best
date both of us
have ever had,”
Brooke says. “We had a great time and abso-
lutely loved the city of Cincinnati.”
— Stephanie Schneider
and world policies. Ouch.
“It was just too much for a frst date,” Shea
After the date, Bailey kept calling Shea de-
spite the fact that he would never answer.
Shea says she assumed he enjoyed the po-
litical debate between them as much as he did.
But in debates, a loser always emerges.
— Stephanie Schneider
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Brooke Badzin surprised her boyfriend, Aaron Emrich, with a
trip to Cincinnati to see his favorite team, the Bengals, play.
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It has to be the Beatles. Prob-
ably ‘She Said She Said.’ It’s the
perfect melody. The hook is
amazing. I could hear it for-
ever and not get tired of it.
I read a lot of The Hitchhiker’s
Guide to the Galaxy in sixth
grade. That’s as far back as I
can remember.
I’m unreasonably excited and
worried about the Watch-
men movie. The idea of Dr.
Manhattan being portrayed
just perturbs.
It’s got to be the name people
give me when I’ve had too
much to drink: Mean Melin.
It was Chevy Chase as Gerald
Ford. He shot JFK on accident.
If you were
forced to listen to
only one song for
the rest of your
life, which would
you choose?
What was your
favorite book
read to you as a
Who’s your
favorite super
What would your
secret service
codename be?
Who shot John F.
Kennedy Jr.?
Eric Melin
Drummer of Ultimate Fake-
book and the Dead Girls
Nicole Tichenor
St. Louis senior
‘How to Disappear Com-
pletely’ by Radiohead. There
are so many nuances. You hear
something new every time
you listen.
All of the Berenstain Bears
books. I love the illustrations.
Heath Ledger’s Joker. He’s
the most brilliant super villain
ever. Either him or President
Lee Harvey Oswald. I’m not a
conspiracy theorist.
— Elliot Kort
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Catty chit chat: Inconsiderate actions, such as talking on a cell phone at an unnecessary volume, shows bad manners and a lack
of respect for other people.
Grocery shopping is a peaceful time for me.
I get much pleasure from leisurely strolling up
and down the aisles, planning my meals for the
week and looking for bargains. The other day I
was just about to crack the case of crunchy vs.
smooth when I hear Beyoncé’s “Single Ladies”
blare from a girl’s cell phone in the next aisle.
I spent the rest of my shopping outing hear-
ing about who made out with whom at The
Wheel, why she needed to lose 10 pounds, and
whether her boyfriend’s chest hair was sexy.
Technology has given us the ability to share
our lives with the general public. From cell
phone conversations to blogs to Facebook sta-
tus updates, personal information fows across
lines of communication faster than you can say,
“TMI.” No information is sacred anymore, and
worse, a set of rules to follow that explain the
rights and wrongs of technology use aren’t set
in stone.
A lot has changed since Emily Post frst
wrote her book on etiquette in 1922, but
manners still remain a stronghold in modern
society. With technology thrown into the mix,
manners are more necessary than ever. Here’s
Mind your millennial
‘p’s and ‘q’s
Technology use is no excuse to let your social graces slide
an updated guide to handling everyday situa-
tions with the utmost tact and consideration.
Keep your voice down. Vans Copple
is sick of all the screaming. The Salt Lake City
junior says there’s nothing worse than some-
one talking obnoxiously loudly on his or her
cell phone.
“There is only an inch of space between the
phone and mouth. Why is it necessary to yell?
It’s called volume control; all phones have it,”
she says.
Vibrate is not silent. Turn your phone
on silent or turn it off if you don’t want it to
be heard.
Do not answer texts or calls when
you’re with someone. Nick Harbert,
Wichita sophomore, says he hates it when
friends talk, text or check Facebook when
they’re together.
“Once, OK, maybe you had an important
phone call or something, twice you are getting
on my nerves, but by the third time I just want
to smash your phone,” he says.
Avoid using your cell phone in the
bathroom. Erin Wolfram, certifed etiquette
specialist, says that it’s rude to the other peo-
ple in the bathroom and to the person on the
other line.
Respond accordingly. If someone calls
you, call them back—do not text them. Re-
spond in the same format that was used to
contact you.
Absolutely never use your phone
in the following places: elevators, res-
taurants, libraries, cemeteries, places of wor-
ship, wedding ceremonies and receptions.

Greet and Degreet. What is rude in
real life is also rude on the Web. Not saying
hello, goodbye or thank you in e-mail is just as
rude as doing it to a person’s face.
Always begin an e-mail with “Hello” or
“Dear” and always sign off with “Sincerely,”
“Best” or “Regards.” Avoid writing in short
fragments to avoid sounding angry, says Patsy
Rowe, author of Business Etiquette: Achieving a
competitive edge in business.
Use subject lines effectively,
especially in a business setting. Brief-
ly say what the e-mail contains in
the subject line so the recipient can
judge its importance.
Be aware of tone. Rowe says
that without a voice, face or body
language to convey your message,
the recipient has only your words
to go on, which is why the tone of
e-mail can be easily misunderstood.
Geoff Folker, Kansas City, Missouri,
graduate student, says that regard-
less of how accustomed we get to
technology as a means of communi-
cation, no amount of emoticons can
replace a genuine smile, frown or
look of indifference.
Keep it timely. Always respond
quickly to an e-mail. If the message re-
quires a response, send a quick reply
right when you open the e-mail and
respond more fully when you have
time, just so the sender isn’t waiting
on you. Reply to all business e-mails within a
half-day and social e-mails within 24 hours.
On the job
Always send a hand-written thank
you note after an interview.
Rowe says that even if you don’t get the job,
you’ll still be remembered by your thoughtful
gesture. An e-mail is an acceptable backup.
Sell yourself, don’t talk about
yourself. Kalem Kopf, Lawrence senior and
president of the Society of Human Resource
Management, says he often sees students get
personal in job interviews or cover letters. He
says that it’s important to focus on explaining
what you can do for them, not just what you
can do.
Dining Etiquette
Dos and Don’ts
Courtesy of Excuse Me, But I was Next … by Peg-
gy Post, the great-granddaughter of Emily Post.
— Don’t lean back on the hind legs of
your chair
— Order drinks accordingly. If the rest
of the table is drinking iced tea,
tequila shots may be inappropriate
— Don’t use a toothpick at the table.
— Don’t eat anything that has dropped
on the foor, regardless of the
fve-second rule
— Don’t take a drink when food is still
in your mouth (unless you are
— Don’t rearrange the cutlery if you are
— Don’t lick your knife or fork
— Don’t leave personal items on the
table, including purses and phones
— Always be grateful. Thank the host
at the end of the meal and follow
up with a phone call or e-mail
February 12, 2009
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February 12, 2009
How to properly
use chopsticks
1. Hold the upper chopstick with the
index fnger, the middle fnger, and the
2. Put the other chopstick between the
bottom of the thumb and the tip of the
ring fnger.
3. Move the upper chopstick only when
you pick up food.
“I’ve seen students go off on tangents about
how much they love KU basketball without
mentioning anything about the program they’re
applying for,” he says.
Stay off personal e-mail and Face-
book while at work.
Recognize the generation gap.
There’s a good chance that the people you will
work for will be from a generation where for-
mal manners and professionalism were valued
more highly than they are today. Remember
that before you throw “lol” into e-mail.
Good manners and etiquette essentially
come down to awareness. It’s easy to get
wrapped up in text messaging or e-mailing, but
recognizing the needs of those around you is
the frst step in courtesy.
Patsy Rowe says good manners contribute
to well roundedness and it takes more than
being “good on paper” to achieve success.
“I feel that some young people have the
idea that their professional learning, their edu-
cational qualifcations alone, will carry them
through life without understanding there has
to be a balance. Their personal and interper-
sonal skills have to be honed. The combination
of charm, style and good manners is a pretty
hard one to bear, and the good news is, all
three can be learned,” she says. JP
Virginia-based duo The Clipse (Gene and
Terrence Thornton) hooked up with Marc
Ecko’s Complex Magazine to commemorate
the December launch of their new clothing
line, Play Clothes, by releasing Road To Till The
Casket Drops, a free, downloadable prelude to
their upcoming LP (Till The Casket Drops).
The mixtape goes hard from the get go, with
Pusha T spitting the mixtape’s most memorable
punch line: “It’s the hood’s Obama, shoveling
McCain/Out the project window the drama’s
insane/The rap game’s upside down like David
Blaine/You fans is Times Squared for follow-
ing them lames.” The true highlight of Road To
Till The Casket Drops are tracks fve through
seven where the duo’s cold, raspy fows mesh
perfectly over minimalist production, most no-
tably on “Pop Champagne.” “Numb It Down”
marked the frst time that Lupe Fiasco has al-
lowed another artist to use the rights to one
of his beats, and The Clipse didn’t take that op-
portunity for granted.
Pusha T begins the bass heavy track: “Feel
this, I’m fearless, now hear this/Tackled it after
Lupe killed it/Push Ton the last son of Mildred/
Stumbled upon the rock like a pilgrim.”
BUMP It On The
BoulEvard The Clipse:
Road To Till The Casket Drops
The tape rounds out with The Clipse solidi-
fying their swag on “S.L.U.” and “Swing Ya Rag”
and shouting out every known drug dealer in
Virginia on “Feds Taking Pictures.” Running just
under 37 minutes, The Clipse have just enough
time to prove why they have earned the title
of being hip-hop’s cocaine kings.
— Tom Powers
The Clipse has released Road To Till The Casket
Drops to celebrate the release of their clothing line.
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[an alternative for the
relentless weekend kegger]
By Ross Stewart
A man and a guitar bring an otherwise busy
room to a standstill. People say rock and roll is
dead. I say the kegger is dead—well maybe not
dead, but damn boring.
No beer pong here. No Guitar Hero. No
red solo cups. No (celebrated) binge drinking.
Just a small house. About 80 people. Lots of
music. No set structure. No fuss. Something
Photo by Ryan Waggoner
Subtle swooning: Christopher
Luxem,Topeka senior, sings and
plays guitar while Leonor Correia
of Portugal looks on at the Wonka
House on January 18.

Photo by Ryan Waggoner
Christopher Luxem,Topeka senior,
performs at the Wonka House
on January 18. Luxem, who has
lived at the house since August
2007, says his main motivation for
hosting musicians was “to make a
space available for performance in
Lawrence for people I knew that
would be traveling through, or other
people that I would meet while
living here could play at.”
What I experienced is referred to as a
Wonka House party, held at the home of
Christopher Luxem, Topeka senior, and Kent
Szlauderbach, Wichita sophomore. The party
gets its name from the physical build of their
house.The house is a straight shot.You can see
from one end to the other, and as you walk
through, the ceiling slopes and—over the span
of four rooms—drops three feet. No two
door frames are alike—there are fve differ-
ent kinds of wood paneling—it’s got that Willy
Wonka feel.
The party gives people the space for a night
to listen to and play live music.The event has no
structure and everyone is welcome to play, in-
cluding the audience members who are supplied
with various auxiliary percussion such as shakers
and tambourines, which lie about the house.
“There’s no reason that we all can’t work
together and achieve this mass countercul-
ture,” Luxem says. “A counterculture that
celebrates life, celebrates experiencing our
senses and enjoying ourselves through music
and visual experience.”
When I entered the party, the house was
vacant enough to actually walk around in it.
About a dozen people were already there,
but within an hour and a half, at about 10:30
p.m., close to 80 people packed in the two-
bedroom house. No one was collecting money
at the door, and the traveling musicians earned
gas money by passing around a hat after a set.
Even after the house flled up, it was so qui-
et you could hear the appliances in the kitchen.
The sets performed were at a comfortable lis-
tening level. In the background one could hear
the slow hum of the fridge and the sink run-
ning in a bathroom two rooms over. It was
packed, but intimate.
I watched four different performers’ sets
spanning acoustic folk to full band pop. Every
set involved a give-and-take with the audience.
Performers opened their occasionally clenched
eyes making eye contact with the audience—
made some of them blush, made some of them
sing along. There wasn’t a feeling of, “I’m here
to entertain you.” It was a feeling of, “Oh, you
like this too?”
“It’s much more, ‘Here’s my music. Let’s
have a night,’” says Andrew Frederick, Shaw-
nee junior, and singer and drummer for Fred-
erick and the Six Angry Telephones.“We’ll have
a night and we will remember the night. We
have many passing nights in the Wonka House,
I guess you’d say.”
It’s less of a concert to the audience and
more of an event, a happening; something par-
ticipatory that pulls you in. It’s not that under-
ground. It’s not that weird. It’s just people hav-
ing a good time.
01. Have guests leave their shoes
at the door.
02. Provide percussion to pass
around: shakers, tambourines,
hand drums or wood blocks.
03. Put away valuables and the
fne china.
04. Decorate with Christmas
lights to set the mood. As
Christopher Luxem,Topeka senior,
says, “Add some twinkle lights and
then you’ve got a party going.”
05. Invite enough people who
want to perform so that there
isn’t an awkward lull in the fow of
the evening.
See page 14 for more photos from this
party, and view an audio slideshow with
this story at
things to remember
when throwing a
{ counterkegger }
The excitement of playing a house show
comes with the setting: the house. Houses
are already intimate in nature: They are places
people eat, sleep and live. People naturally feel
at ease in a home, so when a performer plays
a house, an air of ease surrounds the perfor-
mance. People come to the house to hear
them perform, not just to drink.
That doesn’t mean that the fridge did not
see its fair share of six packs, but that the
overall concern of the night was keeping the
music going; moments of silence for applause
were the only non-music flled points of the
evening. This crowd didn’t frown on drinking.
Those who participate in this movement aren’t
against keggers or other parties.The perform-
ers visibly enjoyed that. They fed themselves
on it, the energy and pulsing of the moment.
“God, I’d rather play somewhere that’s nice,
that lends a nice glow to people’s faces that
look like they’re having fun rather than super
drunk,” Frederick says. “It’s fantastic.”
People were still drinking and enjoying
themselves, but there was a communal feeling
to the event. Performers met and talked to the
audience after sets.They then became a part of
the audience for other’s sets, which entailed ei-
ther listening intently, dancing or playing along
in the audience.They got silly, but it wasn’t the
kind of silly one sees at a kegger. It was the
kind of silly that you see in a preschooler. Ex-
cited. Uninhibited. Fun.
The performers explained how they got
involved in playing shows like the one at the
Wonka House. I had imagined this intricate
social web that included an online presence.
Turns out that they’re all just friends in one
way or another. They’ve met either playing at
events or through hosting them. I poked and
prodded the hosts on how others could get
involved and know when these are happening.
The answer was simple: Instead of going out
and searching for these parties, people should
just make them for themselves.
“If you get a strong enough sense of com-
munity about Lawrence then places will start
popping up and you can start going to all these
great places. It just seems like a no brainer. Just
do it,” says Szlauderbach, Wonka House resi-
The next time you’re looking for fun, you
could look to your friends to provide it. Ev-
eryone knows someone who plays guitar.
Have them over, invite some friends and make
it a night. If you’re worried about not having
a name for your house party like the Wonka
House, Luxem gives some good advice: “If you
want your house to be called something, give
it a name.” JP
Photo by Ryan Waggoner
Mellow out, dude:Tyler Gregory, Lawrence resident, performs “Ain’t No Sunshine” for a crowd at the Wonka House on January 18.
A wide range of musical acts and welcoming atmosphere drew a crowd of around 80 to the house that evening.
13 February 12, 2009
February 12, 2009
Photo by Ryan
Tyler Gregory,
resident, and Todd
Spreer of Kansas
City, Missouri,
perform at the
Wonka House.
Gregory says he
is a regular at the
Wonka House,
playing under
the name “Tyler
Gregory and the
Blue Shuffe.”
Photo by Ryan Waggoner
Leonor Correia of Portugal, and Carey Scott, Hoxie senior, listen as
Bobby Sauder, 2008 graduate, sings along with one of the many
musical acts at the Wonka House.
Christopher Luxem,
Topeka senior, says he
usually books the musicians
for Wonka House shows
through friends of friends,
or “through my past friends
who I’ve gone and traveled
to their cities and played
shows in their apartments
or their houses.”
Photo by Ryan Waggoner
The crowd at the Wonka House listens to Luxem perform. Luxem says he
hopes guests at his house shows would “be immersed within a musical
experience as opposed to just being a spectator to a certain experience.”
Photo by Ryan Waggoner
Jamie Lacore, Topeka junior, watches performers at the Wonka House.
Photo by Ryan Waggoner
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Brian Bass was flling up his car with gas
and was watching the numbers steadily grow.
He came up with an idea for a carpooling
website after his patience hit the limit.
Bass created, which is a
website that connects people with similar
commutes with each other. However, instead
of making a website with ads for carpooling,
he decided to make it more friendly.
“We’re more of a social network,” Bass says.
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Therefore, you won’t have to wonder who
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If you are looking for an environment where
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Carpooling saves money in this stagnant
economy because you are sharing costs with
others. If it makes economic sense for you
to give up some of your fexibility in order
to save some cash, then you should consider
Wei Wu, assistant professor of psychology,
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She says it saves her money, cuts greenhouse
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A nail technician
Sitting on her couch in Lawrence, 23-year-
old Cathy Dinh laughs at comedian Anjelah
Johnson’s stand-up bit called “nail salon” on
“Hon-nee, why you don’t lie-ke? Pedicure
it make look na-i. It so sexy. It better for you,”
says Johnson, imitating a nail technician with a
thick “Asian” accent.
The bit highlights the stereotype of nail
salon customers not understanding the short
and grammatically incorrect speech of nail
technicians with an accent.
“At frst I was so offended by it,” Dinh
says when it ends, “but then I was like, ‘It’s so
Dinh is a nail technician in Lawrence, but
she doesn’t ft the stereotype. Although she
has the dark almond eyes that refect her her-
itage and is fuent in Vietnamese, she is also
fuent in English. She is from Dodge City and
goes to college in Lenexa.
She currently works at Salon Di Marco, but
her experience with the stereotype comes
from her years working at Nail Citi. Most Nail
Citi employees speak Vietnamese, so that is
how they naturally talk to one another. Dinh
understands the paranoia customers can have
that the workers are talking about them. In re-
ality, she says the co-workers just tease each
Former coworker and friend of Dinh, Matt
Truong, says the boss of Nail Citi discourages
workers from talking in Vietnamese. Truong
says that the ideal customers are those who
feel comfortable and act like themselves. That,
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James Bond has strayed from his gambling
roots in his recent flm, Casino Royale. Bond
plays Texas Hold ‘em, which is a variation of
poker. Ian Fleming, the creator of James Bond,
though, devoted almost an entire chapter to
explaining the rules of baccarat in his Casino
Royale novel.
Baccarat is not diffcult. You play it like you
would blackjack, but the number you are hop-
ing for is nine. You get two cards with an op-
tion for a third. Face cards and tens are worth
zero, and aces are worth one; all other cards
are worth their numerical value.
For example, an ace and an eight
would equal nine, just as a nine
and a queen would equal nine.
There are three major varia-
tions of baccarat: Punto Banco,
Chemin de Fer and Baccarat
Banque. Bond plays Chemin de
Fer. In this variation, there is a
set of rules for how you must
play your cards. If you have an
eight or a nine in the frst two
cards you draw, then you turn
them up. This is called a “natu-
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someone else has a higher natu-
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card. You can choose to stand or not to stand
on a fve, but if you have four and below then
you must draw another card.
Casinos may have house rules, so you should
ask the croupier, or dealer, about them before
you start gambling.
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Four teams, including the Black-Eye Susans, the Dreadnought
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the sport is addictive for players and fans.
“It’s pure intensity from the start,” Hagedorn says. “After the
frst time you watch it, usually you are hooked.”
Knockouts jammer Shawn Frazier (a.k.a. Bomb Pop) says the
bumps and bruises these women stomach during competition
motivates them.
“Last year, during a bout, I got drilled from the side by a block-
er and few in the air,” Frazier says, “I landed on my knee bad and
sparks few. Everyone thought it was pretty sweet. I jumped up to
get a piece of that girl.”
Advance tickets for the event are $13 or you can purchase
tickets at the door for $16. Doors open at 6 p.m.
with the frst bout of the evening beginning at 7
— Kristopher McDonald
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Staggering to the stage, Big Stack Daddy’s
eclectic band of characters makes you won-
der: What kind of music am I in for?
The two original mem-
bers of the group, Byron
James, 53, and Michael Paull,
47, have been playing to-
gether for nearly six years
under the moniker Big Stack
Just three months ago,
the pair decided to expand
the group, hoping to appeal
to a younger audience.
Peter Longofono, Topeka
junior, and Colby Earleywine,
25, auditioned and made the
cut after a few minutes of
groveling to with the elder
statesmen of the group,
James jokingly says.
“The truth is they at-
tracted chicks in from the
college to watch us,” James
says, “and Peter knows plen-
ty of attractive girls.”
All jokes aside, the two
young musicians made the
cut based on their ability,
Paull says.
“Peter and Colby are
both very talented and were
exactly what we were looking for,” Paull says.
“They just ft for us.”
After the taking time to gel, the group
has begun to venture out into the Lawrence
music scene, playing at the Jazzhaus and the
Replay Lounge recently.
James and Paull say the change has been
positive for the group and everyone seems
to be meshing well.
However, ask the group to describe its
music and everyone has a diffcult time.
Big Stack Daddy
Photos by Kristopher McDonald
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“My favorite Valentine’s Day had to have been when I was in Florence
last year. We drank a bottle of wine as we crossed the Arno River on
our way to a friend’s apartment. Our professors even came.
It was incredible.”
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[ what is your best or worst
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“My best was probably when I had dinner at the Plaza and a carriage
ride afterwards.”
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“My worst Valentine’s Day was when my mom got me a present.”
Ben Antes, Overland Park junior
“My best was when my boyfriend baked cookies for me at his house.
We had been broken up a couple months before that and he asked me
out again. We have been together for a little over four years now.”
Brianne Burlin, Stilwell freshman
“As an insensitive male, most of my Valentine’s Day experiences have
been bland.”
Mike Conner, Shawnee graduate student
“My most memorable would have to be when my boyfriend took me
out to dinner. I dumped him on the car ride home.”
Alex Surface, Kansas City, Missouri, freshman
“My worst Valentine’s Day was last year’s. My boyfriend of four years
broke up with me on that very day. I’ve hated Valentine’s Day since I’ve
been little, but I have to say I hate it even more now.”
Allie Tyner, Council Grove sophomore
Out About
— Tanner Grubbs
“Singer/songwriter-style rock and roll,”
Paull says.
“Lyrical electric,” Earleywine says.
“And a little jazz,” Longofono adds.
While they try to fgure it out, Big Stack
Daddy will also keep trying to “perpetuate the
myth” with their onstage antics, Longofono
— Kristopher McDonald
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BOOK: Lisa Genova, Still Alice
Words such as “heartbreaking” and
“haunting” come to mind after reading Lisa
Genova’s debut novel Still Alice. Thoughts
about who I was, what makes me me, and
what it would be like to lose it all followed
me for days.
When respected Harvard professor Al-
ice Howland begins forgetting things, she
thinks it’s the onset of menopause. But after
consulting her physician, she is devastated
with her diagnosis: early-onset Alzheimer’s.
Experiencing the memory-stealing disease
through the intelligent and practiced mind
of a renowned psychology professor, read-
ers can expect a pleasant change of point of
view from the usual caregiver’s perspective.
However, don’t expect to learn much about
the schematics of Alzheimer’s itself. Even
though Alice is married to a biologist, the
science of what’s happening to her is barely
skimmed in comparison to the focus on her
emotional and situational dilemmas.
As Alice wrestles with handling the dif-
fculties of her dementia, Genova explores
the relationships we choose with lovers,
family and our careers. The unexpected
ending might satisfy some and upset others.
Either way, the story spotlights the struggle
of those living with this still-mysterious dis-
ease. Though the dialogue is lumbering, Still
Alice is a thought provoking pioneer in the
unexplored land of fction narrated some-
one affected by Alzheimer’s.
— Meghan Nuckolls
In celebrating the life of Harvey Milk—
the frst openly gay elected offcial to hold
a major political offce—the flmmakers
behind Milk portray a real man who cared
about real issues without glamorization.
Sean Penn’s Harvey Milk is centrally lo-
cated in the gay rights movement of the
1970s; not so much a leader but a projec-
tion of a moving force that grows as Milk
and his team gain more and more ground
at a time when homosexuality socially reg-
istered as deviancy.
For such a lyrical flm, Milk strangely
lacks intimacy to its titular character. We
are given scenes between Harvey’s inner
circle and pillow talk between his lovers,
but these scenes never develop much
about him; rather they serve to reinforce
the role he plays in the movement. Di-
rector Gus Van Sant shoots Milk from a
distance, giving the viewer an odd mix of
detachment and fascination.
This may have been a goal writer Dustin
Lance Black and director Van Sant had in
mind when constructing the movie—to
put Milk’s message of acceptance at the
forefront—but this lets the flm slip into
biopic tropes and character sketches.
However, as a portrait of a person in
context, Milk succeeds. Sean Penn again
proves himself as one of the United State’s
best living actors and the supporting cast
delivers excellent performances. Van Sant’s
use of archival footage deepens the movies
sense of place and time, which let Milk’s
actions resonate more in a flm that is cul-
turally relevant.
— Chance Dibben
MUSIC: The Fray, The Fray
It’s been nearly four years since The
Fray indulged fans with its mellow, cin-
ematic sounds. Now the band is back with
its self-entitled sophomore album in hopes
of intriguing fans once more.
The Fray swooned, courted and wedged
its way into the hearts of music lovers
with songs such as “How to Save a Life”
and “Over My Head.” The Fray’s attempt
to bring the same melodious sounds that
were frst produced is now a disappoint-
Almost each track starts off with the
tuneful sounds of the piano, with the ex-
ception of “Syndicate” and “Absolute.”
Later the rich timbre of lead singer, Isaac
Slade, fows through, followed by the guitar
and drums. The Fray aims for a more dra-
matic sound, but fails to pull it off with the
repetitive, dreary tunes.
In the frst single, “You Found Me,” the
group’s attempt to swoon fans was thwart-
ed by the not-so-poetic lyrics of fnding
“God on the corner of First and Amistad/
where the West was all but won.” In “Hap-
piness,” the lead vocalist makes an unpleas-
ant sound by slurring the words for more
than a minute while the chorus and instru-
ment tune out each other. Ballads, such as
“Ungodly Hour” and “Never Say Never,”
drag on as dull and repetitive.
Overall, The Fray does not produce the
hit-making songs such as on the frst album.
The album is dull and lacks originality, fall-
ing into the endless category of temporary
music with lack of variety. In the words of
The Fray in “Never Say Never”: “Pull it to-
gether again.”
— Brieun Scott
This is not an action movie. Push is the
marriage of X-Men and Heroes set in gritty
Hong Kong gone bad. You have the watch-
ers (fortune tellers), the stitch (a healer),
the movers (telekinesis), the pushers (plant
thoughts in your head) and a set of angry,
screaming Chinese brothers who can cause
a brain to bleed. The intent of the movie is
another issue. It seems a select few in the
world have the previously mentioned abili-
ties. The U.S. government wants to round
them up, inject them with a catalytic-type
drug to make their abilities stronger, and
create an army. The only problem is that
each person they inject with this drug dies
seconds after the injection. Kira, played by
Camilla Belle, is the one exception. Agitated,
she steals the drug and escapes from the
In comes teen rebel Cassie Holmes—a
watcher. Played by Dakota Fanning, Cassie is
a no-nonsense kind of girl who can see her
impending doom. She teams up with Nick
Gant (Chris Evans), a mover, to take down
those responsible for the drug in order to
alter the future into a better tomorrow. The
enemy, played expertly by Djimon Hounsou,
in turn wants to take the drug back to U.S.
Between gritty Hong Kong, the differ-
ent abilities and the constant switching of
loyalties, Push tries to be something it is
not. It is not The Matrix as it tries to be,
and the only action comes at random mo-
ments that often prove unnecessary. The
one good thing I can say about this movie
is that Fanning is no longer a child. With
this movie, she transitions beautifully into
the world of teenage angst.
— Mia Iverson
Milk is playing at Liberty Hall, 644 Massachusetts Street. Push is playing at Hollywood Theatres 14, 6200 Sixth Avenue in Topeka.
When I’m not sure who I am, I change my hair
By Becka Cremer
I fought the tears threatening to stream
down my face as I sat in a cold metal fold-
ing chair in the front row of seventh-graders
in my middle school’s gym. Our parents and
siblings flled the bleachers for the end of the
year awards assembly. My vice principal—a
bald man who was a stickler for rules—had
just fnished yelling at me. He said I was a dis-
grace to Trailridge Middle School. I was an em-
barrassment. He was so disappointed in me.
I could see his point: I had straight “A”s and
had placed in multiple math competitions and
science fairs, but I had dyed my hair purple.
That day, my mom stood up for me. She—
all 5-feet-2-inches of her—asked the principal
to step into the girls’ locker room where her
yells echoed off the cinder block walls and
into the hallway outside. I heard her ask him
to compare me with the half-naked girl sitting
next to me in the front row in the gym. Wasn’t
her strapless mini-dress more offensive than
my purple hair? Weren’t the piercings that
decorated another girl’s face more embar-
rassing for the school? Shouldn’t my awards
and honors eclipse my hair color?
I spent the next year alternately smiling and
sobbing in the principal’s offce. I made honor
roll. I dyed my hair green. I scored particularly
well on a standardized test. My hair was pink.
Community service award. Purple streaks. Sci-
ence fair medal. Blue.
Most of my peers knew me as the girl with
the colored hair—not as the overachiever—
and that was how I defned myself, too. It was
typical teenager stuff: striving to fnd an iden-
tity, blah, blah, blah.
And then, in ninth grade, when my hair
was fried to hell and crunchy platinum blonde,
I had it shaved off. My stylist even used her
dad’s nose hair clippers to carve a butterfy
design in the back. The new hairstyle made me
hard to miss, but also very hard to see.
When I think about my frst few years of
high school, they’re divided into neat little
chunks, defned by hairstyles: blonde, red,
striped, spiked, crimped, short, shorter, short-
est and, my personal favorite, white with pink
and purple streaks. Sure, I joined a few clubs
and was involved in some activities—and I was
still on the honor roll—but those things were
a minor part of who I was and how I expe-
rienced high school. I had my gimmick. I was
the hair.
During my junior year, I reverted to my
natural hair color—mousey brown—and a ba-
sic bob. I had let my guard down long enough
for people to see past the hair long enough
to become my friends. Once they saw beyond
the hair, it didn’t matter as much. It was too
late to hide behind it.
I had thought I was fnished with Manic
Panic hair dye and unusual hairstyles, but last
year, as my relationship with my best friend
was falling apart, I dropped more than $600
on six extra inches of hair—fusion ex-
tensions. For 11 months and 11
days, I had hair that reached past
my shoulders. The upkeep ended
up costing me more than $2,000,
but I didn’t care. I could wear it
in a ponytail; I curled it; I even
bought makeup and new clothes
to match it. And it made me feel
better about the failure of one
of my most important relation-
But I had started doing it
again. I let my hair defne who
I was.
For the frst part of those
11 months, I loved it. I loved
running my fngers through
my long, blonde locks. I loved
the comments I got
each time some-
one new noticed
how quickly my hair
had “grown.” I loved
answering questions,
especially “Is that your
hair?” (Yes. It’s mine. I
paid for it.)
But then I had a hair
epiphany. In the 11 months
that I had had extensions, I
had allowed myself to live like a
different person—a person I wasn’t
sure I liked very much. I went from be-
ing a glass-of-wine-with-dinner girl to drink-
ing more than my fair share at townie house
parties and at concerts of bands I hated. In
11 months, my relative age went from 42 to
about 19, and far too many of my decisions
were based on what other people thought.
The new hair and the new personality
masked the hole that the end of a friendship
had left in my life, but they didn’t fll it. When
I realized I had been us-
ing my hair

(again) to distract me from loneliness, I knew
the extensions had to go.
So in September 2008, my sister and I took
pliers and scissors to my hair. We carefully
pulled out each of the 10-inch, white blonde
extensions and cut my hair to a reasonable
length. We’re slowly darkening the color back
to what I’ve always considered mousey but my
sister insists is “chocolate.”
And I’m going to try to remember what
my mom told my vice principal when
I was in seventh grade: I am
more than my hair.
Go fgure. Hair
grows, and so
do I. JP
Graphic by Catherine Coquillette
February 12, 2009
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