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Ram Babu 1 1 42 HYDROTHERAPY AMAZING Sudha Chandrasekaran ARTICLES 24 THE TERRARIUM Dr Navin Kumar Gupta 29 PIERCING EARLOBES Padmaja Menon 86 16 44 TURKEY’S MOUNT NEMRUT Malvika Dekhane TASK AT HAND Yojana Shrestha 62 ENGLISH IS A FUNNY LANGUAGE Tarany Sinha 68 A CURABLE INFECTION Sudha Chandrasekaran COLOURS & DOTS Smita Shenoy 76 COOL TREATS TO BEAT THE HEAT Dr Aparna Pradhan 96 EMOTIONS ON CANVAS Suman Bajpai 80 ULTA-PULTA INDIA Sumar Chand 92 OPTIMISTIC ART Suman Bajpai 126 FORGET TABLE MANNERS WHILE EATING MANGOES A. millet or bajra 11/ 2 cups pearl atta masala powder 1 tsp garam eat flour 1/ cup wholewh kebab 2 Arbiseekh jeera seeds 1/ tsp cumin or 2 powder 1/ tsp red chilli 2 dough INGREDIENTS: water to knead green peas cheese tortellini 1 cup shelled 1 cup flour 2-3 green chillies 1 tbsp oil 1 tbsp oil INGREDIENTS: or arbi 1/ tsp salt salt to taste 8 250 gm colocasia white sauce and 1 cup METHOD 2 onions.
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like Nitish Kumar and Navin Patnaik. Anything less would force the party to compromise on a broad coalition that would need a leader with great partnership spirit. As for the service. But are all these NGOs really doing any good to the society. They have been under suspicion of undermining the cultural mooring of Indian society. most of the NGOs become active only when some calamity strikes. And as of now. Narendra Modi. the NGOs are coming up to fill in the gap.com We 6 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Agitating the public sentiment on petty matters is their top agenda. reluctant to join the race. Later. have become strong contenders for the PM post. say 160 or more seats. Both are states. It even lost a long-held assembly seat in Gujarat and a parliamentary seat in Karnataka. Such kind of system is not sustainable. General public is crying under pressure from every direction. That keeps alive the hopes of moderates like Arun Jaitly. up to 50 per cent of the income. Now. But the massacre of Muslims 10 years ago continues to haunt him. it ought to project itself as the alternative government. the BJP looks divided with its leaders jockeying for position as potential prime minister. As such. Currently. the chief minister of Gujarat is the front runner. the BJPʼs grass-roots organisation is miserable. With such an urban persona. too. But in reality raising an NGO has become a profitable business venture with quick returns. So. as we can see that uncontrolled inflation has literally annulled all the growth that the government boasts about. They will find fault in every business undertaken by the government. Why India needs so many NGOs? One may say that the government is not discharging its duty honestly. Apart from leadership rivalries. his chances of becoming prime minister will depend upon the BJP winning the next general elections by a wide margin. Its tally of seats shrank in Uttar Pradesh. At national level. many NGOs jump into action together and provide same kind of goods instead of providing need-based services. Failures in other fields. Only the BJP has anything close to a national appeal. ruled by the BJP and where its MLAs have been accused of watching porn video clips during debates. it is confined to urban middle class and upper class Hindus. Nor it performed anything better in the recent assembly elections. But it requires resolving internal conflicts. But it becomes a prerogative in case of an NGO. it is unclear which national leader in BJP is prepared to take on that task. as well as fanning dissatisfaction towards the government. become quick success in NGO business. Many of them are religious organisations getting funds from rich foreign countries. This is the reason why many of his ranks in NDA. as was the practice since time eternity. with progressing economy tax too increased. Here. Talk of such things might stir enthusiasm. the government is facing the problem of plenty in certain sectors. This plus poor track records the ruling Congress Party has given the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) reasons to celebrate. their action is temporary as most of the NGOs disappear soon afterwards without rendering any help in rehabilitation works. Even if they agree on Modiʼs name. it lost office in Uttarakhand and got nothing in Manipur. its support slumped in Punjab. Higher taxes led to big amount collection and bumper crops led to piling of higher foodgrain stocks. even a well-reputed business firm cannot raise money from foreign source directly. Some 42. Otherwise most of the time. The NGOs listed on the Home Ministry website have legal clearance to receive money from foreign sources to fund their activities. to promise a roaring economy and to delegate more power to the regions. Even in time of calamities. You will be surprised to know that India has the maximum number of NGOs in the world. too. but no political party is in a position to provide them solace. In comparison. write to: letters@womansera. how can the BJP think to woo the rural voters? Amid such situation it is hard for the party to appeal to peopleʼs aspirations.EDITORIAL POLITICAL COMEDY C annons of taxation dictate that there should be one-sixth tax on individual income. But it is not celebrating and appears to be a diffident lot. The support it enjoyed 10-12 years ago has largely eroded away. It forced the Government of India into distribution mode – distribution of money as subsidies and of foodgrains at throwaway prices.000 NGOs are listed on Home Ministry website. He boasts about a record growth in state. ENIGMATIC NGOS T he non-governmental organisations (NGOs) in India are growing stronger despite having enigmatic role since long. they remain engaged in cynical activities. yet there is room for forming more NGOs in the society. It put severe strain on economy and individuals.
she always looked daggers at him whenever he spoke to her revealing some noteworthy information that would normally interest her immensely. 7 . “I donʼt want them all to think that we both are sailing smoothly and swimming. The reason for her behaviour was unpalatable and worrisome to Gautam. Gauri had flatly declined to accompany him despite his repeated requests to grace the wedding if only to show that no faultline had occurred in their marital relations. She said with an air of finality she wouldnʼt attend the function just to make a false demonstration that everything with them was hunky-dory. Despite his buying a plush flat as per her choice and admitting their sixyear-old daughter Sushma to a prestigious school. Albeit he had terminated his affair with that woman and she had also left his office to join a swanky hotel as a receptionist at a higher remuneration. INFIDELITY By Deepalatha G autamʼs mind was totally occupied with his thoughts about the salad days when he and his wife Gauri were over the moon on myriad joyous moonlit nights like that late evening as he drove his car to the function hall where his bosom friend was celebrating his sisterʼs wedding. all his offers of an olive branch and blandishments notwithstanding. also in accor dance with her fond desire. She had recently discovered that he was having an affair with a petite young woman seven or eight years younger than her who had joined his office as a receptionist. Gautamʼs infidelity to her had caused Gauri deep wounds that had been only festering and not healing. Even his earnest promise to her to remain faithful to her all through his life didnʼt satisfy her.” she fumed.WHEN THERE IS Six errors to avoid.
Hurt and humiliated. “If a man loses money in shares he may need the ego boost of an affair. The reason is not far to seek — their beloved child. Judith Seifer. often in the wake of a personal crisis. “Or if a woman is having a terrible time bringing up a child she may need a femininity boost. if necessary. the counsel tendered to them by a counsellor was of no avail.” says Seema. Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy. apparently joyfully. For example. I was apprised by a lawyer that some estranged couples had agreed to patch up after hearing the advice of the judge which carried pearls of marital wisdom. some of her sage advice to the couples whose marriages had hit the harsh patch excel those of the marriage counsellors. During this phase the betrayed partner is advised to go slow and avoid overreacting. made-for-each-otherlike. betrayed partners feel justified in plunging into instant action. president of the American Association of Sex Educators. Gauri found a lover of her own in a distant kin of hers who was transferred to their place and started visiting the estranged couple who. 1 INFIDELITY IS THE PRINCIPAL REASON FOR THE DESTRUCTION OF A PLETHORA OF HAPPY MARRIAGES AS PER THE OPINION OF FRANK PITTMAN THE AUTHOR OF THE TOME. He adds. who may in all likelihood resent your spouse for causing hurt feelings to you.Gauri didnʼt utter a word. Just as the proverbial impossibility of unscrambling a scrambled egg. who is also professor of clinical psychiatry at the Columbia University. however. But the psychic fallout that culmi nates from 2 8 . PRIVATE LIES: INFIDELITY AND THE BETRAYAL OF INTIMACY. of separating from him. Even though a homemaker most of the days as he left for his office in the car. but the lawyer told me the horrible truth that they had come there in connection with their divorce proceedings. patiently. The first error: Doing something rash thoughtlessly. Counselors and Therapists. “People commit a mistake by rushing out to procure a divorce lawyer or apprising their friends or kin of the infidelity. Strangely enough. administers a stern warning: “There is nothing quite like the rush of adrenaline from a retaliatory affair. While reading the profile of a famous poetess of India who passed away some time ago. she would sit by his side and ask him to drop her at her friendʼs house or at the mall or at some kinʼs house to spend her leisure time by exchanging homilies with her friends and kin or buying articles and groceries for her home. In Hyderabad at the family court one can see a large number of cases coming up for hearing and a kindly judge trying her best to bring about reconciliation between the estranged couples.” Infidelity is the principal reason for the destruction of a plethora of happy marriages as per the opinion of Frank Pittman the author of the tome. a marriage counsellor. like one of those I saw in the gardens of a posh hotel in Visakapatnam who gathered there for a party of ʻinseparable pretty couplesʼ.” says Etel Person who authored Dreams of Love and Fateful Encounters and The Power of Romantic Passion. The couple spoke to each other sitting on the corner of a bench with their five-year-old girl exchan ging her on their laps. dwelled together. I noticed a young couple. Every now and then countless couples see the happy path of their lives take a diversion to paths that are strewn with pebbles or covered with thorns. I was somewhat shocked to know she had resorted to this sort of thing right in the presence of her husband. In fact. Affairs take place even in joyous weddings. mentioned at the beginning of this piece. says Seema and adds that if you are serious about saving your marriage the best course is to wait. Be sure actions cannot be undone. for your head to completely clear the turbulence prevailing there. The second error: Battling fire with fire: Six months after discovering Gautamʼs infidelity. if you tell your family about the indiscretion of your spouse and you remain together you may surely confront a double roadblock: mending your marital relationship and the relationship between your spouse and your family. I was aghast at this revelation. Recognising the following common traps may help the couples whose marriages are on the cusp of breakdown to save their marriages. however.
She questioned her husband of three decades about this. “When a marriage becomes stronger after an affair. Before the occurrence of healing. you must now replace those ideas with a more sophisticated reality and squarely accept each otherʼs flaws and strengths. Joseph found it extremely difficult in this situation without his sincere wife and doting daughters. For some it may be quite difficult.” she says. romantic affairs are based on illusions rather than reality and illusion is difficult to sustain. Rita. “I had to create a new life without my husband as the focal point. His infidelity made their marriage stronger. He gave evasive replies and finally confessed to his having an affair. Realise how much your marriage means to you and how priceless it is and also realise how an affair can wreak havoc as itʼs purely chimerical and We ephemeral. Repeatedly she reconciled with her husband Joseph only to discover that he was still visiting his mistress. Having an affair has nothing to do with how good your marriage or sex life is. Lastly. She realised that by forgiving him she was making him more emboldened to perpetrate his affair. and renew your relationship. Other betrayed partners assume a position of moral superiority. Pointing the finger at your partner may help alleviate your own guilt but it will wreak even more havoc on your marital life. But also be sensitive to his or her feelings. “An affair gives an emotional high and seems to be a quick-fix solution to your problems. Most couples are devastated by infidelity. ACT ACCORDING TO HIS OR HER DESIRE. By working through the problems that caused the infidelity you can save your relationship. The fourth error: To still keep secrets. During the three years of her husbandʼs infidelity. If your betrayal is revealed and your spouse presses you to be frank and honest. He made a total confession of his giving that woman expensive gifts and myriad other things and his taking her to expensive hotels. Consequently no healing can occur until you acknowledge your wrong doing and seek forgiveness. it happens because your romantic illusions about your mate have been dispelled. 6 IF YOUR BETRAYAL IS REVEALED AND YOUR SPOUSE PRESSES YOU TO BE FRANK AND HONEST. according to Seema. however. Otherwise.” The sixth error: Refusing to admit you were wrong. Talk about the early times of your being together happily.” says Seema. A person canʼt be driven to an affair. “You donʼt have to be perfect for each other any more. the betrayer must terminate the affair. Try to rekindle what made you fall in love with each other. For many couples a return to religion helps to reunite them. As your scars heal learn from the affair. Prior to the affair there used to be frequent quarrels and these are not there now. The betrayer can imagine his lover has all the qualities his wife lacks. 3 The fifth error: Rejecting reality.” Unfortunately this attitude renders it impossible to repair your relationship and get along.” says a sex and marital therapist.” 5 Adultery is never a long-term cure.compro mising your own values is often devastating.” she says with a pained expression on her face. When an infidelity is discovered your basic assumptions about marriage are shattered. They exploit the affair as a tool for self-justification. your spouse will remain furious and suspect that you will stray again. The third error: Expecting things to be the same. Admitting guilt can be particularly difficult for betrayers who blame their partners for their infidelity. A woman discovered to her dismay a packet of pills in her husbandʼs briefcase prescribed for another woman. a mother of two teenagers endeavoured to save her marriage. Your patience during this painful stage is critical to your marriageʼs long-term survival because it helps to re-establish communication and trust. Iʼm indeed a saint to continue my relations with him. But true intimacy is based on genuine mutual understanding and the ability to acknowledge and accept each otherʼs flaws and foibles.” says Seema.” Gauri now realises her affair did more harm than good to her. The idea is: “He is such a bad person. act according to his or her desire. He walked out on his mistress and joined his family. If you had been sticking to the idealised. Get the privacy you require to speak frankly and candidly about what transpired. 4 10 . The following tips may be of help. romantic notions of each other. “You change partners instead of life circumstances. “Some wives bring up their husbandsʼ affairs after a lapse of a decade after it is over. “It went against everything I believed in. Idealised.
Mashed banana also makes a wonderful hair-conditioner when mixed with a teaspoon or two of honey and applied to the hair. some plain yogurt or curd. an egg yolk and a ripe banana in a bowl. Apply the mask to your face and neck. Apply.GO BANANAS FOR BENEFITS! How to use bananas for your beauty. Apply this bananaegg pack to your face and leave it on for 20 minutes. Method: Combine almond or coconut oil. Ginger-banana face mask: Ingredients: 2 bananas. 15 minutesʼ application is required. Method: Take fresh ginger and powder it. or rather. Rinse off with warm water and moisturise your face using a cream. Combine it with two mashed bananas and half a cup of curd. 1 tsp of powdered ginger. Method: Mash all the ingredients together with a fork. Method: Combine the ripe bananas with the almond or coconut oil. they do not contain any substance that would irritate even sensitive skin. a ripe banana. Rich in potassium. 2 tbsp of almond or coconut oil. as banana can be used by all skin types because itʼs so mild. Being rich in protein and natural fats. Wash it off with cold water and pat-dry. Massage. two ripe Bananas. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 An exfoliating mask: Ingredients: A mashed banana. two tbsp strong chamomile tea. For an easy facial. bananas are used to moisturise and condition dry hair. this mask to your face. Take two or more fresh cotton balls and dip in the mixture. By Ram Babu I ndia. Women in this coastal region often used bananas to revitalise dead skin. The almond-banana mask into your hair and leave it on for 15 minutes. some white cosmetic clay. Lie down for about five minutes. Leave the mask on for 15 minutes and then wash it off with warm water. a mediumsized banana. Method: Mix the banana and tea into a smooth paste. three cotton balls. Banana mask for dry skin: Ingredients: 1/4 cup of plain yogurt or curd. Leave it on for 15 minutes and rinse off. Place over your pimples and blemishes. Here are a few banana beauty aids that can help you put the glow back into your skin and make your hair shiny. Banana chamomile soother: Ingredients: A small ripe banana. Method: Combine mashed banana with white cosmetic clay and apply to your face. Kerala happens to be the place where bananas were first grown. 2 tbsp honey. Besides putting the glow back into your skin and acting as an exfoliating agent. We 11 . Almond and banana mask for damaged hair: Ingredients: 2 tbsp of almond or coconut oil. This mask is both moisturising and nourishing. Dip cotton ball in the mixture and swab gently over the blemishes. Rinse with warm water and then shampoo it off. Banana-egg pack: Ingredients: An egg yolk. Rinse the mask off with cool water. Leave it on for 10 minutes and then rinse off with cold water.
and then wash with luke warm water. My hair is naturally wavy but. You can also use baby “wipes” which are gentle and safe. My skin tans very easily. if used. and nourish your hair with hair-nourishing creams of reputed companies. My problem is that some of my eyebrow hairs and eyelashes are turning grey. Nowadays. Can I dye these like I dye my scalp hair? You can apply dye on your eyebrows with a paint brush very. The tan could have been avoided if you had slathered the exposed parts of your body with sunblock lotion or cream with a high SPF. The easiest and most popular method of removal is shaving. You can always use a swimsuit which covers the pubic area more so that the hair does not show. Apply a thin layer of castor oil in the area at night. the eyebrow hairs do not grow back. A quick way to lighten tan is with bleaching in a beauty parlour with hydrogen peroxide or baking soda. first stop using the straigh tener daily. splitting hair. Yes. I love using eye make-up – shadow. Women also use waxing on the “bikini line” (which is the part of the skin which shows just outside the swim suit) and shave the rest of the pubic hair. I am a 19-year-old girl. Some women prefer the humble petroleum jelly to clean eyes at bedtime. Include vitamins C and E in your diet which will not only help your brows but will give you 14 . Sandalwood paste is also a good skin lightener. I look very dark. potassium and calcium in your menu.But be warned. If this does not work. I always look dreadful in the mornings with smudges around my eyes even when I try to remove as much of the make-up as possible. It could be painful and time consuming. eyebrow pencil or liner to colour the grey in your lashes. I am keen to learn swimming. liner. Make a paste of lemon rind. I find that my hair is becoming dry and brittle and keeps snapping when I brush it.) Close the eye under the brow you are dyeing. You can get tattooing done to create an illusion of thickness. Clever penciling can also create thick brows. So. My eyebrows are very thin and sparse. Home-made solutions are effective and safe but need time to show results. Stop threading. This could lead Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 to wrinkles. Firstly. because I like straight hair. The growth and shape of the brows usually depend on genes. the lot! My problem is removing the make-up at night. Hair removing creams also offer an alternative. I want thick luscious brows. There are special eyebrow growth products in the market which have proved to be efficacious too. Keep for at least an hour before washing off. Do not attempt this yourself lest you harm your skin. Simply use a kajol stick. multani mitti and milk and smear it on your skin. it becomes dry and brittle. soreness and bags. honey. (Wash your eyes instantly with lots of water in case it does. Drink a lot of water.it could harm your eyes permanently. naturally. waxing or plucking and encourage hair growth even if it looks untidy in the beginning. Smooth your skin with a mixture of turmeric and yoghurt or milk cream for at least half an hour before your bath. remember never to tug at the delicate skin around the eyes. mascara. and include Vitamins C and E. consult a hair specialist to treat your condition. Please tell me how to remove the tan. Tear-free baby shampoo works beautifully to remove eye make-up. Wet your eyes and work a little baby shampoo lather to clear away all make-up. After a vacation in Goa. I use an electric hair straightener every morning to make my hair smooth. False brows can also be glued on but there is a risk of this loosening. Removing eye make-up is not difficult if you know the rules. sparse and almost nonexistent due to excessive threading and plucking. Do not forget this in the future. after excessive cosmetic thinning. zinc. Waxing all the hair has more lasting results but is painful. Is it due to the straightener or my diet? Using the electric straightener daily applies heat to your hair and.glowing looks. Many times. A dab of olive oil or baby oil can get rid of old eye make-up quickly.. How do I get these? I am a 23-yearold woman. diet too can cause dry.. Never ever use dye on your eyelashes. There are several methods of growing thick brows. Use a good branded skin whitening cream or lotion to remove the tan. but even naturally thick brows can become thin. Please tell me how to remove pubic hair so that it does not show when I wear a bikini. Heating elements should be used sparingly and. very carefully so that it does not sprinkle in your eyes. extra care should be given to nourish hair with conditioners and special oils.
colour blocking has been an inherent part of Indian couture culture for decades. COLOUR BLOCKING IS HERE TO STAY Forget match-match for some time. When they are the rage they become the toast of the fashion industry but when they go out of style they fade into oblivion like an ageing superstar. although the best part is that colour blocking does not have a fixed set of rules. exceptions prove the rule and two trends have been doing just that: colour blocking and polka dots. But. Do Be bold: Display your bold side as you go for colour blocking with gay abandon. By Smita Shenoy sari is an integral part of our ethnic dress sense. They emerge in one season and vanish in the next. Team a caramel tank top up with a silver skirt or wear an olive green T with your trademark ● 16 . everlasting fashion trends. it is better to follow some simple guidelines.T he normal. maybe even centuries. And. as they say. The good news is that while the West is waking up to this trend only now. unwritten protocol of the fashion world is that trends are ephemeral. Pairing a purple choli with an orange lehenga or contrasting a red blouse with a black COLOURS & DOTS Showcasing two amazing. Mix and mismatch shades to achieve the colour blocked effect. contrast is the way to go.
more than the apparels it is the attitude which matters. ● Team up with patterns: Like in the case of colour blocking.” ● Forget the accessories: Shyama agrees. “If you are dressed in white from top to toe. Donʼt ● Overdo it: When colours are involved it is easy to go overboard and end up looking like a neon rainbow. then stick to giving a subtle nod to the trend: maybe a hair band or a belt in dots to start with. try pastel shades rather than bright hues because bold colours end up emphasising the hips and cutting inches further. polka dots came into sartorial existence decades ago and are still going strong. They will help in creating a slim silhouette. If you have a short.denim.” she says.30s. the main thing to remember here is to colour block according to your figure. Shyama. hence. curvy figure. Dare to pair but restrain yourself from matching a fuchsia blouse with an aubergine harem pant and fluorescent yellow blazer and topping off the look with crimson lipstick and indigo eye shadow. a scarlet clutch and red ballerina shoes will complete the look and make you party-ready in seconds. dotted accessories and dotted shoes. ● Leave out prints and patterns: Many people feel that adding graphic prints and intricate patterns makes colour-blocked outfits too cluttered. ● PASSIONATE ABOUT POLKA Who would have thought that a FASHION DESIGNERS ARE UNANIMOUS IN THE OPINION THAT IT IS OKAY TO FLIRT WITH PATTERNS WITHOUT UPSETTING THE ESSENCE OF COLOUR BLOCKING. handful of dots sprinkled across garments would take the fashion world by storm? Named after a Bohemian dance by the same name. they avoid designs altogether and go for plain numbers. if you have heavy hips but lack height. If you are just a beginner in the polka universe. While boldness is required it is best to go with colours that you are comfortable with. But fashion designers are unanimous in the opinion that it is okay to flirt with patterns without upsetting the essence of colour blocking. Even formal dresses are seeing a transformation from the usual plain to dotted and printed. ● Experiment: The good news about this trend is that there is no end to experimentation. Then you can keep adding spots as you We grow in confidence. People will start seeing spots everywhere. If you are in your mid. ● Go from head to toe: Imagine a dotted dress. Neon colours are the big thing this season and colour blocking gives you the perfect setting to check out if fluorescent tints become you. Very few people can carry off the top-to-bottom polka look. then go for it. Also keep in mind the shape and cut of the dress. try out a sea green top with turquoise blue capris and find out from the mirror and your gal pals if neons are up your alley or not. 17 . in the case of polka dots. So. Go for a layered look if you are Amazonian in your body type. SO MAKE GEOMETRIC PRINTS A PART OF YOUR WARDROBE AND WATCH THE HEADS TURN. Just go for pieces which are age-appropriate and you will be just fine. many women hesitate in pairing prints with dots for the fear of looking awkward. In colour blocking.” she concludes. Donʼt Keep age in mind: Those who say polkas are for adolescents have it all wrong. “Blouses in animal prints and skirts with polka are a big rage right now as are floral motifs and dots. adding a crimson lipstick. If you have the confidence to carry off two seemingly unrelated shades with panache. Do ● Keep size in mind: Remember. Nothing can be farther from the truth says Shyama. She says. an aspiring fashion designer. has this suggestion to offer. ● Keep your body shape in mind: While it is true that colour blocking suits all body shapes and sizes. Aishwarya was 35 when she carried off the famous polka dotted top in the retro drama Action Replay. “It is better to pick and choose your colours to avoid resembling a patchwork quilt. size does matter. then avoid large dots and go for smaller ones. wearing a polka dotted midi with puffed sleeves may make you look like a gawky schoolgirl instead of portraying you as a fun-loving. So make geometric prints a part of your wardrobe and watch the heads turn. independent woman.
Whacky car designer Sudhakar Yadav sits inside a vehicle made in the shape of a stilletto shoe (R) next to another vehicle made in the shape of a ladies handbag (L) in Hyderabad on 7 March on the eve of International Womenʼs Day which was observed on 8 March. Electronics firms are wooing African consumers with products that target challenging environments.Samsung galaxy phone with an application which gives the user quick access to emergency services was displayed on 22 March at the “Built for Africa” at the Samsung Forum 2012 in Cape Town. Galaxy phone Age of Transition Visitors look at items as part of a press preview of the “Byzantium and Islam: Age of Transition” exhibition at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York held on 14 March. Myanmar pop is dominated by copies of international tunes. Whacky cars . It presented this era in the history of the eastern Mediterranean. 20 Musical performance Members of Me N Ma Girls Band is shown in concert at a hotel in Yangon. from the power ballads of Celine Dion to the soft rock strains of Rod Stewart. through some 300 works of art.
Underwater camera 21 . The band was in the US capital as part of the 100th anniversary celebrations of the gift of 3.000 panoramas. The custom-built underwater camera is being used by Australian scientists to map the iconic Great Barrier Reef. shot in 360degree high-definition detail. An estimated 50. Pop performance Russiaʼs gold medal winner Yelena Isinbayeva competes during the Womenʼs Pole Vault Final at the 2012 IAAF World Indoor Athletics Arena in Istanbul on 11 March.000 cherry trees from the mayor of Tokyo to the city of Washington. will be uploaded to googleʼs panoramio photo site for use on Google Maps and Google Earth in a kind of “Street View” under the ocean. 2012 as he attempts to break the highest reverse bungee jump world record in London. Reverse bungee jump Womenʼs Pole Vault Final Former England cricketer Andrew “Freddie” Flintoff dangles from a rope outside Wembley football Stadium on 19 March.Members of Japanese pop group AKB48 perform at the Lincoln Theatre in Washington on 27 March.
Your home situation could well be the cause of eczema for you. It is always better to be frank and transparent in relationships as far as possible. I am afraid he will leave me if he knows. it is advisable that you finish graduation before trying your luck in Bollywood. you can join an acting academy after school but the course will be of a longer duration than it is for graduates. I am in a dilemma. Please advise. if he becomes very attached to me. Should I tell him or not? I am hoping that. often. Skin ailments are often psychosomatic and stress-triggered. however. Since he is a good man at heart. your secret will out. You should not feel ashamed of getting help as. Most of them do not really mean to steal but do it for a lark. accept the situation. Convince your father that he is suffering from an addiction problem and he can be cured. and we all love him. he will surely agree to get help at least for the sake of his family. either from concerned friends and relatives or even professionals. My parents. This way. they had a big haul! My reaction caused a lot of merriment to them. as you fear. I feel confused and unhappy. when you can put on grease paint and act. getting a toehold is well nigh impossible. You can learn to de-stress through meditation and other relaxation techniques which will stand you in good stead all through life. Your Personally.TEEN C E TEEN ACHE H When my fatherʼs job brought our family to Delhi a few months back. I am an atheist but my boyfriend and his family are very religious-minded. he will not mind my different views. A I am obsessed by the world of films and my dream is to be a glamorous actress in Bollywood. and will cause your boyfriend and his family a lot of disillusionment. He could be touched by your honesty and not leave you. Contact the Alcoholics Anonymous association for assistance. he may sever the relationship. This is my stress factor. My problem is that my father is an alcoholic and creates scenes every night. you have to conform to their ideas! You are. . Either way. What can I do? I donʼt want to cause any trouble to my father by complaining. we cannot solve problems without assistance. You are being subjected to the infamous “peer pressure” – you feel. Night times are terrible for my mother. to be accepted by your peers. You may be then rejected by them but you will be true to yourself. How can such nice girls do this? I do not want to go out with them again but my refusal will mean I could lose their friendship. brother and me. Your parentsʼ advice to continue with your college studies and prepare for a career is very sound. Reveal your true feelings to him. I was glad to be included in the group but was shocked to find that their idea of shopping was actually “shoplifting”! By the end of the trip. instead. I am now in class 10 and plan to join a good acting academy to learn acting. You can indulge your acting dreams by theatre and stage activities in your spare time. I got admission in a reputed private school. Can I do this after my 12th Boards? I am very good looking and my friends feel I will easily earn fame. I go with him to temples and religious meets but have not let him know that I do not believe in all this at all. When sobre he is a good man. Why teenagers shoplift is a complicated issue. Please advise. You will at least be at peace with yourself without being trapped in a net of lies and deceit. Authorities in western countries often treat teenage shoplifting lightly especially first-time offenders. some hep girls in my class invited me to join them on a shopping trip. they enjoy the thrill of doing something dangerous without getting caught. Pretences are very hard to keep up for long. You could tell them that you would like to be their friend but you would want to be excused from their “shopping trips”. Alcoholics and their families can get professional help which is very confidential. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 family doctor can guide you in this. On the other hand. It is a tough dog-eat-dog arena. and disappointment in you. You must know that the road to stardom is very treacherous. very few get breaks in the industry. and permanent cure is only possible if I am untroubled in mind. perfectly free to take a stand and refuse to endorse their wrong activities as it goes against your own principles. without god fathers and contacts. are opposing my plans. Do not join your new friends in their nefarious activities! 22 I am a 16-year-old schoolgirl. The other day. Thousands of aspirants fall by the wayside. From some months back I am suffering from eczema on my legs. The skin specialist tells me that it is often caused by stress. however. The students are very “modern” compared to those of my earlier school. In fact. Sooner or later. If you are bent of trying to get into films. you will have the best of both worlds. They want me to do some career-oriented college course. It gives them a kind of high. Yes.
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keep my first carnivorous plants and help them adjust to their new environment. I did a lot of research, consulted experts and finally assembled my first terrarium. It served its purpose well. It kept my carnivorous plants and some orchids healthy, without any care
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(excepting switching the lights on and off every day) when my motherʼs hospitalisation in Thailand forced me to stay there for more than two months. I have had the terrarium for almost a year. But I have taken out the carnivorous plants and converted the terrarium into a beautiful landscape with some fairytale beauties. I have placed it in my drawing-cum-dining room and savour its natural beauty with every morsel of food. Make your own terrarium: You can make a terrarium out of virtually any container – from something as small as a soda water bottle to a large one out of a big aquarium. But it should be clear glass or plastic, so you can look inside. For a simple terrarium, use a glass or plastic jar or container with a wide mouth for the simple reason that while it is possible to have a terrarium with a small opening, it is much easier to add, arrange and re-arrange plants and other items, if the container has a wide mouth. An ordinary all-glass aquarium 2 ft x 1 ft
errariums are beautiful. Terrariums are elegant. And they have played a very important role in our daily lives. If there were no terrariums, we would not be getting our morning cuppa-tea. But we are so familiar with aquariums that we fail to recognise a terrarium when we see one. The reason is that, although terrariums were extremely popular over a century and half ago, their popularity gradually declined. Terrariums are again becoming popular, but not to the same old extent. It is therefore quite natural that my guests invariably confuse my terrarium with an aquarium.
But then what exactly is a terrarium: A terrarium is a closed container containing a miniature landscape, with living plants, and sometimes even small animals, like frogs, toads, lizards or turtles. It can have minia ture flowing rivers and waterfalls. I decided to build a terrarium to Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012
x 1 ft is ideal. You can vary the size according to the space available. A larger container also gives you a wider choice of types and sizes of plants; and you can add more decorative items, such as shells, pebbles, rocks, figurines and even small live animals. What you need for your terrarium: Apart from the container, the selection of what you really need and use for your terrarium is actually limited only by your own imagination. Container: The container should have a cover to prevent loss of moisture due to evaporation. The cover can be a simple sheet of glass to cover the top. If the terrarium is large, it is better to have the cover in two pieces. Or you can design the cover to look like a cottage. A couple of hoursʼ sunlight in the morning or evening would do your terrarium good. But too much direct sunlight would make the environment inside very hot and scorch everything inside. You can keep the terrarium in diffused sunlight. A better option is to keep it in your living room or dining room where you can enjoy its beauty several times a day. But in this case, you will have to add some sort of artificial lighting for at least eight or nine hours a day. You can use one or two tube lights, or other lamps, fixed in the cover, like the ones used in aquariums. The bottom layer (stones, moss and activated charcoal): The terrarium does not have drainage holes in the bottom. So you have to take care that the extra water which seeps down to the bottom does not damage the plantsʼ roots. ● You should start with a bottom layer of about 1 1/2 or 2 inches of pebbles, gravel, or broken bricks. ● Now add about 1/2 inch layer of activated charcoal (if available, otherwise skip this step) on top of the stones. This will help the drainage and control any odour that might occur. ● Add an inch of sphagnum moss on top of the activated charcoal layer.
Get some dry sphagnum moss from the nearest nursery. Wash out the dirt and dissolved salts by washing in running tap water for half an hour or so. Sterilise by boiling in water for 10 minutes and keep in the open for half an hour or so, so that most of the water drains out. The moss will also prevent the soil above from seeping into the stones. Potting media or earth ● Now add a layer of at least a couple of inches of good potting mix available in any local nursery. The soil will keep the plants in place and help them remain healthy.
Now you are ready to add plants and other decoratives. Terrarium plants: Get some small, colourful plants which are usually sold in small pots and place the pots on the terrarium bottom. Try to have a mix of plants of different sizes, leaf textures and colours. If you want to plant them directly in the terrarium, remove the plants from their pots. Loosen the soil holding the roots. Trim off the dead and larger roots. Using a large spoon, or your fingers, make a hole in the potting mix, in which the plant will fit comfortably. Place your plant in the hole and gently fill up the area around it with some soil. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012
A LARGER CONTAINER ALSO GIVES YOU A WIDER CHOICE OF TYPES AND SIZES OF PLANTS; AND YOU CAN ADD MORE DECORATIVE ITEMS, SUCH AS SHELLS, PEBBLES, ROCKS, FIGURINES AND EVEN SMALL LIVE ANIMALS.
sit in front of the terrarium. Finished terrariums: What makes the terrarium fascinating is that is inexpensive and can be set up easily. mist maker. He published his book called "On the Growth of Plants in Closely Glazed Cases" in 1842. in the beginning. ● Club moss ● Creeping fig ● Croton ● Dracaena ● Ferns (small varieties) ● Lucky bamboo ● Prayer plant ● Pothos Depending upon your taste. a botanist named Robert Fortune used the Wardian Cases to transport 20. the leaves and on the bottom. He discovered that some plants were growing in a sealed bottle. You can then change their positions. I spray on the inside glass panes. Once a week. in spite of it being a bit of living nature. etc. it had been nearly impossible to grow Chinese tea plants outside China. You will have to cut back overgrown and oversize shoots. I suggest that even if you want to plant them directly in the terrarium. Let the beauty of your little bit of nature soak into your inner self and soothe your tired nerves. The soil should be moist but not soggy. You can read the full book at the following site: http://www. at least. For centuries. When you come back tired after a dayʼs work. place your plants in their original containers.Tap the soil with your fingers to make sure that there are no air pockets between the roots of the plant and the soil. Watering and general main tenance: You have to keep the terrarium relatively humid. Tea and terrarium: There are stray references to plants in closed containers in history.archive. since it would be difficult to move them around and arrange them. He published the second edition of this book in 1852. you can add all kinds of objects – figurines.org/details/ongr owthplantsi01wardgoog Wardʼs books popularised terra riums and they were also known as Wardian cases. When you are satisfied with their placement. a small fountain. I use empty plastic Colin cleaner spray bottles to spray water. We 28 . The prices of tea fell and tea became the common Britishersʼ cuppatea. I wipe the inside of the terrarium with a dry handkerchief. Do not fertilise your terrarium because you donʼt want to encourage growth. Here is a list of easily available plants which do well in terrariums. It is elegant and. But it should not have too much water. But the terrarium was made popular by Dr Nathaniel Bagshaw Ward. you can plant them in the terrarium. needs very little maintenance. I trim off dead and decaying leaves which are very few. In the 1840s and ʼ50s.000 Chinese tea plants and seedlings from China to Darjeeling area in India in these Wardian Cases and the Indian tea industry took off.
It was a great ceremony for Nairs in Kerala when on the 28th day of a babyʼs life. An experienced piercer will take all the precautions before piercing the ear to prevent the development of infection. because piercings are done at two places rather than one. The navel. people who are interested in getting it done should know about it in detail. We So folks. if you are planning to get an industrial ear piercing done. The piercer would first measure your ear to choose a jewellery that would fit your ear. owadays. it has become a trend to pierce the different parts of the ear to achieve a THE PROCESS As I said earlier. And that piercing is the industrial ear piercing which is completely different from all other types of ear piercing because it has two holes which are connected with a straight barbell. However. It has become a vogue among youngsters because of its uniqueness. anyone ready for it? 29 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . also known as scaffold piercing. he will clean your ear with a disinfectant and make the perforations with a sterilised needle.PIERCING EARLOBES N It is like the olden days are back. Both these piercings are done usually with a 12-14 gauge needle. But later only girl babies had this done. Rather. jewellery and aftercare.An important thing that one has to know about this type of piercing is that it is very painful. is done by perforating two holes in the upper ear cartilage. So. including its procedure. The first piercing is done on the cartilage that is near the head (the anti helix) and the second piercing is done just diagonally opposite to the first (the helix). it is extremely crucial to know the details of this piercing. it can be a few thousands. . By Padmaja Menon different look. As it is a complicated body piercing. But now the trend is big boys are getting their earlobes pierced and flaunting diamonds too! My husband also had earrings as a baby and that hole is still there! I am thinking of gifting him a diamond ʻstudʼ soon! Apart from earlobes other body parts are also getting pierced. the tongue and even the eyebrow. When this is done. it need not mean the traditional earlobe piercing. when one says 'ear piercing'. let us take a look at the important aspects of industrial ear piercing. cost. In today's times. As the piercing is quite complicated. Another current fashion trend is industrial ear piercing. Itʼs like the olden days are back when both sex babies had their earlobes pierced. The industrial ear piercings cost differs in every state. industrial ear piercing. However. Little boys and even men are now into it. The reason for this is that the needle used for this is very thick and also. one should always go to an experienced body piercer who has done such piercing earlier too. earlobe piercing was done. which will give you an idea of the industrial piercing process as well as healing period. earlobes piercing has become a great fad.
the doorbell rang. The undeniable exchange of sexual energy that had passed between them still floated in the air between them. Rakesh grabbed the nearest Cosmopolitan. he went to open it. put her head back to look at Rakesh. Surprised. Rakesh put his arms down. She looked towards Rakesh and saw the same. a gift from Meghna.” came the muffled reply. A moment’s shocked silence kept her in his arms. He felt the familiar stirring again and he forced his mind back to Meghna. She was wearing her favourite pink harem pants. staring wide-eyed at each other as Suman. all set perfectly in her round face. Meghna. brown. relaxed by the wine at dinner and the music now playing on his iPad. She was always so sweet and easy to please. stood in front of the mirror and admonished his reflection for his wandering mind. ‘Perhaps a little too sweet. Rakesh tiptoed in and smiled. Suman moaned Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Rakesh stared at her cleavage as it seductively beckoned him to come closer. gasped.” “I know. Suman turned around to face him as he entered the room behind her. He felt an urgency as never before. He knocked on the bedroom door. mumbling something about picking her up at 7:30 pm instead of 8. she could feel his warm breath coming faster. “Happy Valentine’s Day. he carried her off the stool. “Happy Valentine’s Day. Neither moved. it took longer than I thought. her long hair swinging at her hips.” Surprised to see Rakesh as he got up. A door banging shut jolted Rakesh and Suman out of their trance-like state. a hint of a smile and a glint in her eye.Short Story The Lilac Jacket A silent witness to romantic misadventure? By Shan Fazelbhoy I t was their first Valentine’s Day together and Rakesh wanted to surprise her. what did you think?” 32 Suman replied nonchalantly. pretending to be extremely interested in 7 Signs He Wants to Have Sex. Suman didn’t wait to be invited in.’ Rakesh thought aloud as his mind wandered involuntarily to Suman. He had enjoyed the evening with Meghna who had loved the heart-shaped ruby earrings he had given her. reaching into the uppermost shelf of her closet. The look on Suman’s face had sent a chill down his spine and Rakesh felt a foreboding sense of excitement. “Sorry. they’re Meghna’s.” perfectly timed to finish just as he could kiss her lips. A brief kiss and Rakesh left. Doe-like eyes. but he couldn’t look away either as he felt a stirring in his manhood. As he unbuckled his Gucci belt. Rakesh couldn’t read it.” Suman interrupted.” Suman smiled sweetly. bringing her down to face him saying. her cousin who was visiting. pulled her to him and kissed her hard. as he wrapped his arms around Meghna. their bodies so close.. “The pants. He got up. Overcome.” and walked over to kiss him. The tight jeans and sleeveless vest accentuated her lean. glittering with emotions that they should not speak of. the warmth of a weakening winter sun did nothing to take away the goose bumps. fit body as she sashayed in on towering heels. Suman looked directly at him. and the desire and guilt brought a flushed glow to Suman’s face. He thought of her slim frame now. R akesh lay on his bed that night. grabbed Suman by the shoulders. barely audibly. He saw her push the long black hair behind her ears as she shyly opened the gift. “Come in. He entered to find Meghna on a stool. of course. His one hand slid down to cover her almost naked breast. “Rakesh!” She then moved back to sit on the bed as Rakesh ventured hesitantly. He hadn’t been able to shake that last image of her. Meghna turned to Suman excitedly. Rakesh closed the gap between them in two steps. Suman climbed back on the stool and stuck her head into the closet. trusting eyes and full lips. As he stepped outside. Wrapping his arms around her thighs. she entered and took off her jacket. she smiled. his senses driven out by an uncontrollable physical desire. I thought. but he lowered his eyes and she took it as a sign of embarrassment. Meghna entered. “So..” “I hope you introduced yourself properly?” “Uh huh. Rakesh continued to undress. still in his arms. “He seems nice. Unbuttoning his checked shirt to reveal a rippled torso that was the envy of his college mates. towards the music playing in Rakesh’s bedroom.
Rakesh. “Suman had left when I got home. “He’s a bit late. urging her forward by the elbow. Rakesh and Suman continued to deceive family and friends. “Overslept?” Meghna asked. He put his hand up apologetically to the driver and crossed the road carefully.” Meghna had prodded. You’ve been really out of it lately. Suman is here now. Suman’s bare body arched forward invitingly. “We’ve been together for almost eight months now and I wish you would tell me what’s bothering you. An uneasiness in the usually placid Meghna was becoming apparent. as he raced through the busy streets. he had become so forgetful of late.” “Fine. let’s go to class. When Rakesh got home from college that evening.” she said pointing to the line at the ticket booth. so there was no one to disturb me. “We can’t do this again. he comforted himself with the thought that things would fall back into place when Suman left in about 10 days. Suman. her arms still around his neck.” Rakesh answered distractedly. In a frenzy of powerful passion. Rakesh recollected her questioning him last night over the phone as he now dashed off to meet her at the cinema.” “Great! Well. “Rakesh.” as she put her arms around his neck. Aditya looked at him with an expression of silent accusation.with pleasure and Rakesh could wait no longer. Rakesh. M eghna was sitting in the college cafeteria waiting for Rakesh. Rakesh looked at Suman nervously and thought he had better find a quick alternative to it being just the three of them. Rakesh. “C’mon give me a hug before I go.” she smiled. ‘This is driving me crazy. He had heard an unfamiliar female voice through Rakesh’s door last night. “So I guess it’s the three of us!” She wondered what was up with him. raised his hands slowly to her waist and lifted her up. her coat came undone to reveal her smooth honey-coloured flesh. “Didn’t sleep too well. “Suman? I wasn’t expecting you!” She stood up and said. Suman was waiting on the steps outside his apartment.” Meghna called out. As she wrapped her legs around his waist.” Rakesh put his arms around her and as their bodies pressed. “where’s Aditya? Isn’t he coming?” Rakesh closed his eyes and put his hand to his forehead. He was Rakesh’s flatmate and best friend. Rakesh looked at her and protested weakly. Just as she was about to leave for class she saw him and waved. I’ll go. He was surprised to see her. Over the next few weeks. 33 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . The doorbell had rung before he could answer and he had hung up telling her that it must be someone for Aditya. forceful and intense with a hunger that had to be satiated immediately. Aditya shifted uneasily.” she said to Aditya. “You weren’t last night either.’ Rakesh thought. looking at her watch. A rickshaw swerving to avoid him brought Rakesh back to the moment. Suman could feel his growing desire. their lips came together. “Shit! I forgot. they began a journey down a long and deceitful road with no thought of anyone or anything else.” he said. You have to leave. Come. while gratifying every lustful craving. His overwhelming desire for her had left him constantly trying to shake the guilt. Now. She pushed one hand between them to swiftly undo her coat belt and as Suman stepped back. mesmerised and taking in every curve. She kissed him delicately and said.
Meghna fell into his arms as her tears of relief and his of remorse washed bit dreamily. Aditya was quiet. “Lent it. She managed to cross the road teased. Aditya. “This yours?” she asked Aditya with a sweet smile.” Meghna whispered to Suman. his jaw dropped and his cigarette fell drinks. he As Meghna put it on she leaned across and looked left and right before seeing a lilac jacket in kissed Rakesh.Please let me through.. what’s the matter?” Meghna asked as has a soft spot for Meghna. have a coffee. “Meghna.R “Why don’t you show her around?” she said “Why don’t I call Aditya and we could all go for looking towards Rakesh. “In that case.” Meghna replied. akesh spluttered and choked on his run. I know him. as she thought of where he had heard Suman’s voice.” Meghna said to Rakesh Meghna warmed to the idea and agreed. not gave it. trying to shrug off the nagging She felt someone grab her wrist and. “Don’t be such a bore.” through. cigarette. house for a drink. turned around to free her hand.” Meghna shouted. I’m Suman. give me my jacket.” she added after a brief pause. trying to get it for another day. suggested.” “I don’t know what’s got into him.” Meghna “Got it. crowds. just as the light turned green. “He’s really cute as well. and you got the crowd. Rakesh.” Meghna began to run. cigarette in hand. please wait. “I love this jacket. Perhaps.” Meghna said. we have college early tomorrow. enjoying the music and chatter. She turned “Hi. I feel like I’ve road just as room as the front door banged shut. Suman. it’s really cold in Rakesh shook off a dazed Suman and raced out here. tired these days. pushing She dropped the cigarette and stared drink. very uneasy now. move.” “Show me yours then.” Aditya said “We’ll hang out. said.” Suman quipped. babe. Meghna’s hand touched something soft “No problem. looks so young.” was all she could hear for a late night and early college. “Suman. the next show?” he proposed as a solution. smiling as she began to stood up.” the light “Where’s Meghna?” Rakesh asked Rakesh shifted uncomfortably and turned Aditya. “Your voice. “Not my room please. Meghna asked.” Meghna said to Suman seductively.” managed to towards the door. as soon as possible. Jumping down the flights of stairs. this wasn’t such a good green. Suman. Rakesh. “Hi. As Aditya heard laughter and Suman’s voice from as they settled into a booth and ordered a round of the bedroom.” of the door. Suman. Meghna as she pulled it out and passed it to him.” Aditya to drink. “She left hers at a friend’s. Meghna laughed and Suman her way disbelievingly at the jacket in Aditya’s continued sipping innocently. through the hand.” Aditya said with a cross the Suman and Rakesh walked out of the quizzical look. he seems really through the crush of bodies.” she got up to retrieve his cigarette.” Rakesh added. “A young man like you should have enough energy Very sad. “But I think he from his hand. We M 34 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . quickly asked Aditya what he would like “You sick.” eghna. “Aditya. the persistent After the movie. She came out of her mouth. pulling it She stopped to catch her breath and turned closer possessively. “And that you get along so well with away the events of the past few weeks. pushing her way through “Why did you give it to Suman then?” Aditya the gaping crowds. Aditya will come quickly as they walked towards his room. it’s a mess. “Move. stunned.” he shouted. Suman.” She reached under the sofa. and I could trade guys. “I’m so glad you’re here.” Suman said looking at Rakesh and silky. he thought. “Their place is so cosy.. “Yes. heard it before. “Rakesh! Don’t be silly! He’s your best friend.” she winked. blindly feeling for the Meghna chided jokingly. you’ll love it. my favourite colour. hands flailing. “He’s a great guy. Rakesh pulled her to They sat around.” Meghna said a him. “Let’s keep crowd had quickly gathered. “You’ll really like Aditya. they went back to the boys’ horn blaring. why not?” Suman said getting up from the “What do we do for the next two hours?” sofa. revolting bastard. “What am I missing?” They all looked gaping Meghna tried to speak but nothing up to see Aditya.” around as a car screeched to a halt. ran back to where the Rakesh.. “Call an ambulance. flinging the jacket at Rakesh and idea after all.. Too stunned to speak.
s we bid adieu to the legendary actor Dev Anand. It is always that age actually does not make a person old. Though machines have taken over the workload. doing regular exercises and main taining a cheerful and healthy life. As usual. it is the inner sense of getting old. we all wonder if we could be as young as he was even at the age of 88. as it is only with young passion and energy that we can work towards success. indulge ourselves in the pleasure of sex. take adequate proteins and vitamins to keep yourself strong – and do remember to take your meals appropriately based on a planned time. She still remains as attractive and adoring as she was a decade ago. the environmental conditions like pollution. young in mind and young in body has become the principle of survival. and keep ourselves happy. Waking up in the morning to a glass of lemon juice or lemon water will help to cleanse your skin and make you look younger. Drink adequate water daily. we can only retain our youthful vigour. The lifestyle these days is changing rapidly. Life that is becoming extremely fast day by day. enjoy a peaceful. you can actually slow down the ageing process by taking proper meals.Dodge those growing years. and losing interest in various activities that makes your heart dull. We often wonder how some of our counterparts who are of the same age group look younger and prettier than us. Donʼt ever skip your meals. this isnʼt a big deal! Believe it or not. Growing age cannot be controlled. healthy life. We all live in an age that belongs to the young at heart. greenhouse effect and our changing eating habits have all contributed immensely in making us YOUNG AT HEART look over-aged. By Neha Deepak Choudhary Diet is the most important factor that helps you look glowing and young even when you are in your forties. I am sure all of you envy a woman who has grown in years but the charm and beauty within her never makes her look old. However. also asks us to remain physically young. 36 . Young at heart.
DOING REGULAR EXERCISES AND MAINTAINING A CHEERFUL AND HEALTHY LIFE. Try thinking of sex as something that can keep you in shape. both physically and mentally. This can helps you do more work and stay fit. Oil of Olay Age Defying Lotion can be bought at your local drug store or supermarkets and is one of the safest products that can 37 . A handful of almonds makes a healthy. there are several beauty products that help you look young. sex at 70 or 80 may not be like it is at 20 or 30 – but in some ways it can be better. a wild game of football. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 Sex can be a powerful emotional experience and health-improving tool and itʼs certainly not only for the young. Retin-A and Alpha hydroxyl acids. thanks to sweating. Sex provides shinier. This sexual fitness keeps a woman more attractive and rejuvenated as they produce more aestrogens. Eating a handful of sunflower seeds a day will help stave off wrinkles and improve skin elasticity. kissing. Along with physical activities and brain exercises. Whether you eat it as a cucumber salad or make it into a cucumber cleanser. especially your heart and blood system. Remember that heart attacks do not spare anyone. glossy skin and a lot of energy.Maintain a healthy weight. Avocados are one of natureʼs best moisturisers. Indulge in various activities. And studies now confirm that no matter what your gender. Find something that you enjoy and continue to try new variations and challenges. but do you know that almonds are a vitamin-E powerhouse that actively promotes healthy skin. Keeping your brain active and maintaining creativity actually may WE OFTEN WONDER HOW SOME OF OUR COUNTERPARTS WHO ARE OF THE SAME AGE GROUP LOOK YOUNGER AND PRETTIER THAN US. it might be games. There are many skin-care products that are said to make the skin look younger – such as Oil of Olay Age Defying Lotion. holds true. For older men and women alike. and a sensual massage are all ways to share passionate feelings. Holding each other. dehydrated skin. release painkilling endorphins – and help to relax and satisfy. the benefits of good sex can be extensive: it can increase circulation. cucumbers are also excellent for rejuvenating tired. These are natural foods rich in selenium and powerful antioxidants such as vitamins C and E. HOWEVER. smoother hair. gentle touching. It will keep your skin looking soft and supple. They feel sexier than ever. THIS ISN’T A BIG DEAL! BELIEVE IT OR NOT. For some people. you can enjoy sex for as long as you wish. The next best thing to stay young is to be young and feel young from the heart. YOU CAN ACTUALLY SLOW DOWN THE AGEING PROCESS BY TAKING PROPER MEALS. If you like crosswords. Sex matters throughout your life. The old saying. hair and nails? Sunflower seeds are another antiageing food and a vitamin-E and selenium powerhouse with very effective youth-enhancing qualities. reduce anxiety. tasty midafternoon snack. move to a more challenging crossword series or try your hand at a new word game. There are some foods that are called anti-ageing foods. Overweight forces your body system to work harder. “An apple a day keeps the doctor away”. music and dance parties with your friends. The need for intimacy is ageless. Other people may enjoy puzzles. Remember that maintaining a sex life into your late years is a matter of good health. You have to stay strong in order to stay young. DIET IS THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR THAT HELPS YOU LOOK GLOWING AND YOUNG. help to prevent cognitive decline and memory problems. Do weight training at least twice a week and you can have strong muscles which can let you have strong bones. Both sexes glow as their skin pores become cleansed. Naturally. and can actually take on an increased importance in your advanced years. Still others may enjoy trying out new recipes. romancing with the person you love – it can be anything.
Hema Malini believes that beauty is a divine gift and one should never take it for granted. She believes that in order to be successful and achieve something you will have to be fit. Roman aquiline noses more appealing. Itʼs your choice. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . It is. So keep in mind that you always have the chance We to stay young for life. natural skin-care products. Shilpa is a fitness icon today with her commitment to better health and wellness. From implanting hair on our heads to making our 38 HEMA MALINI BELIEVES THAT BEAUTY IS A DIVINE GIFT AND ONE SHOULD NEVER TAKE IT FOR GRANTED. The fruits and vegetables supply her with all the requisite vitamins and minerals to keep her healthy and looking like a diva. donʼt fret. Another favourite is Alpha hydroxyl acids. it has become accessible to the middle class and upper middle class. LOTS OF WATER AND EXERCISE. however known that Aishwarya Rai-Bachchanʼs basic beauty routine comprises a healthy lifestyle. but there are some side effects such as skin irritation and peeling. She is a vegetarian and believes in yoga to remain fit. Rekhaʼs beauty secret is simply a nutritious diet. Thus. she feels it is just an extension of the benefits. otherwise you will not be able to work as hard as you want to. SHE USES AROMA OILS FOR HER SKIN.be used without any side-effects. Shilpa actually took to yoga to recover from a neck problem. Have an anti-ageing facial routine using organic. and unlike Oil of Olay it cannot be bought without a medical prescription. It was her physiotherapist who recommended it. Retin-A which is a rather popular age-defying product is said to be very effective in the improvement of the appearance of the skin. Getting tailor-made features is not just limited to celebrities. Botox and plastic surgeries are some of the options available. Apart from the natural ways and cosmetics there are scientific ways to look young. SHE IS A VEGETARIAN AND BELIEVES IN YOGA TO REMAIN FIT. smoking and drinking and is heavily into fruits. she felt more and more intrigued and took it up seriously. rather. she steers clear of junk foods. Shilpa Shetty does not believe in workouts to look good. There is no reason why you canʼt stay young. vegetables and dairy products and all in the right proportion. which has proved to have remarkable results in giving the skin a younger look and it does not have any side effects like the prescription products. Hordes of young men and women and not-so-young men and women are lining up outside cosmetic and plastic surgeons for cosmetic surgical repair to get chiselled features. nothing is out of reach – all you need is a few thousand rupees and – voila! – you can get yourself transformed just like Cinderella! When we talk forever about young actresses the first ladies who strike our minds are Rekha and Hema Malini. Using products which contain chemicals on the long-term basis can actually cause your skin to age. She goes to the gym more to feel good than look good. these highly qualified mechanics can repair it all. After trying it out for some time. She uses aroma oils for her skin. lots of water and exercise. REKHA’S BEAUTY SECRET IS SIMPLY A NUTRITIOUS DIET. If you think that there is anything discordant in your appearance.
“Hello?” The telephone rang many times in a day. And if he was alive. But I’ve heard from people. but it was never grandpa. Her excitement whenever it rings. Does grandpa ever call granny and what happens when he calls? Granny never had a mobile phone. He was a loving husband and a doting father. They seem clueless too. Biswas G randpa has suddenly disappeared but granny waits every day for his phone call. For no one knew where grandpa had gone. All she had was a blue telephone. when my parents think I’m mature enough to be told. when it ever comes. But one thing hasn’t changed. Whether he was alive or not. my friends’ parents and the locals. He refused to go and they left him behind and returned to their country. Or else. why didn’t he contact us? Why didn’t he contact his Lucy – the Lucy he could not live without? It was 15 years ago when I was just a child of seven that something strange happened. that he was a very respectable man. We all knew what she was thinking. When he was young his parents wanted him to return with them to England. they simply say they don’t know. Now when I ask them. It must have hurt granny tremendously. I saw granny sitting beside the blue telephone. And since then every day granny has done just that. I don’t believe them. But I always 40 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Every morning she would wake up at five. The next morning when I awoke. why would granny sit there waiting? I saw her lovely long hair go from ebony to silver. what happened I don’t know. Her bright blue caring eyes have been shaded by spectacles and her brisk strides towards the telephone whenever it rings have become an unstable waddle. But.Short Story The Blue Telephone Fond hopes – belied? By Lesley D. Or. They don’t know what happened to grandpa. but I have no clue. “Never mind.” I have very faint memories of grandpa. Then. but she always answered with a convincing smile. they would tell me.” We all knew that the next time might never come. After a wash. It was as if she had something urgent to do. but we didn’t say it. Like all kids I tried to stay awake as long as my tired body could support me mentally. “Next time. they haven’t told me yet. granny might not be there to receive the phone. I hoped that when I grew a little older. When would the phone ring and grandpa say. but he had already fallen in love with granny. I could sense the anxiety in my mother’s patting as she desperately tried to put me to sleep. It is no less even today and neither is her conviction when she utters so convincingly. nor did she have an e-mail ID. next time. but only after I was asleep. she would make herself a cup of tea and perch on the armchair beside the telephone. Granny seemed happy in her waiting and we had no reason to shatter her hope.
Many who became his friends when they came to know him better. We placed granny in the coffin. G randpa stood tall at 6ft and granny was a petite five-two. We were glad that granny was content in her last Grandpa stood tall at 6ft and granny was a petite five-two. But they were eternally in love. I’ll never know. Did grandpa eventually call? I walked all the way to the graveyard. moments. She must have been very happy because. I’m sure the telephone rang and grandpa spoke to granny because she looked at complete rest. Or was it telepathy? Once We again. That day granny was the first to wake up. But they were eternally in love. But I don’t believe her. She was visibly delighted. But granny looked happy. Grandpa didn’t suffer from any ailment nor did he have any addiction. The smile was a little more vibrant. She was still smiling. the combination was envied by many. granny was sure of that. The telephone had been dead for two days. “Granny is now with grandpa. He had no enemies. but then one day he just disappeared.wondered. The type she would have given when grandpa would call her.” mother said. 41 . There could have been two reasons. His charred body was disfigured and they buried him without her knowledge. The telephone must have rung and granny must have spoken. she looked very pretty. A strong frame and intelligent mind. but didn’t have the heart to tell granny. she was sitting with the receiver in her hand and smiling. was this the complete truth or did they eventually take him away? But why after so many years? Granny too had similar thoughts and waited for him to call her. who telephoned? “No one. Grandpa didn’t suffer from any ailment nor did he have any addiction. Mother placed the blue telephone beside her and the coffin was lowered. singing hymns. The doctor said she had suffered a cardiac arrest. That night mother told me how grandpa had gone missing during a riot. They had later come to know of his death.” replied mother. made herself her morning tea and took her position as if she knew that he would call. Granny had chosen a spot where she wanted to be buried. As usual she washed. Extreme joy or utter disappointment. Even at 76. “I wonder where grandpa is?” I said aloud. when we found her. But then.
when performed in warm water (wherein the pool is at a temperature of about 34 degrees centigrade). can perform simple exercises more easily in water than outside. headaches. sleep disorders and stress. More exactly. joint pains. depression.Extraordinary alternative to medication. But just a little education can add a lot of value to hydrotherapy. Hence. whirlpool or hot tub is one of the best ways to instantly relax and let go of all your worries. steam or ice) to relieve discomfort and promote physical well-being and is the oldest. Cold water is selected to reduce inflammation. eases labour pains and clears up skin problems. One of the best treatments for disorders that affect bones and joints is hydrotherapy. which. sensitivity or common colds. Steam is frequently used as a carrier for essential oils that are inhaled to treat respiratory problems. cold. It is also thought to stimulate the immune system. Relaxing in a warm bath. you can reduce your pain and inflammation as well as increase your range of motion while avoiding the side effects associated with pain killers. Hydrotherapy is used to treat many illnesses and conditions including: acne. further increases the benefit. No other therapeutic agent possesses so many admirable quali- 42 . In this context. muscles and nerve problems. It also promotes relaxation. people suffering from painful joints or muscles. colds. safest and most inexpensive way to treat common ailments. HYDROTHERAPY A M A Z I N G is healing by heating and cooling. do not take a bath! The benefits of hydrotherapy: These include: increasing the elimination of waste. By Sudha Chandrasekaran he trend the world over is to move away from allopathic medicines towards gentler medication systems such as homoeopathy. Hot water is chosen for its relaxing properties. arthritis. the hydrostatic pressure of water promotes better blood circulation imparting a sense of well-being. Alternating hot and cold water can stimulate the circulatory system and improve the immune system. If you have ever dipped your feet in a cool stream on a hot summerʼs day or put a cold pack on a sprained ankle. One of the quickest and most natural ways to treat any kind of respiratory ailment is by taking a bath. Hydrotherapy (water therapy or aquatic therapy) is a method of treatment that uses water (hot. When you treat your back pain or arthritis with hydro therapy. Adding herbs and essential oils to water can enhance its therapeutic value. hydrotherapy has emerged as one of the options that have been useful in curing bone-related problems as well as those related to blood circulation. stomach problems. More people today are becoming knowledgeable of the help it can provide to a range of medical problems and most people are already practising simple hydrotherapy. People have realised that strong anti biotics can have their own negative effects over a long period and want to go for milder alternative that can offer them the relief they are seeking. which very much contradicts the olden school of thought — if you have a cold. hydrotherapy ties as water. Tepid to steaming hot water can be quite curative. then you already know something about hydrotherapy. especially if you suffer from allergies. naturopathy and so on. Apart from this.
and also for ailments affecting the urinary and genital organs. sedative or even soporific effect on the nervous system. The exercise and the warmth of the water may make you feel tired after treatment. which is a hydrotherapy pool — a swimming pool built specifically for therapeutic purposes. Steam baths: These are used to encourage sweating and the opening of pores and has a cleansing and refreshing effect. There are different ways of treatment in hydrotherapy. After reading some of the remarkable reasons for which several persons are putting hydrotherapy to use in the present time. etc) thereby preventing joint pain. This is used in states of stress to calm the patient and is known as a ʻneutral bathʼ. such as piles or anal fissure. This is water therapy. which refreshes and relaxes the patient. however. basketball. Here it is very essential to note that nothing else should be taken within one hour before and after drinking water. increasing the metabolic rate and digestion activity. which is much warmer. which covers the YOU CAN REDUCE YOUR PAIN AND INFLAMMATION AS WELL AS INCREASE YOUR RANGE OF MOTION WHILE AVOIDING THE SIDE EFFECTS ASSOCIATED WITH PAIN KILLERS. Neutral bath: Water that is of the O same temperature as the body (92 F O to 96 F) has a marked relaxing.e. But I will let you in on a secret: simply sitting and soaking can provide many of the benefits of a more strenuous aerobic workout! It might sound incredible. water polo. but it is a healing tool that every patient should consider experimenting with. One of the main differences between this type of pool and an ordinary one is the temperature. These are becoming popular. It is no miracle cure. five to six glasses. In a water workout. It might be worth learning to swim as it is an excellent form of exercise for improving your fitness and mobility. For this. hydrating the cells. Yet there is an additional option. but this is quite normal. Some swimming pools have special sessions when the water temperature may be increased and some sports centres offer water-based exercise classes. improving skin and muscle tone. Hydrotherapy scores as an intervention measure as it combines fun with therapy. not advisable for people with serious conditions or for the elderly or very young. the buoyancy provided by water reduces the impact on your joints which occurs on dry land. simple and inexpensive. Hydrotherapies are safe. Water workouts can involve aerobics. Cold baths: These improve blood flow to internal tissues and organs and help in reducing swelling. thereby putting less strain on the heart and lowers blood pressure. Flotation: Involves lying face up in an enclosed and ark tank of highly salted warm water. Everybody has experienced a positive change in their health after implementing this therapy in their daily routine. Even sports can be played in the water (for example. One does not need anything other than a bathtub to take advantage of the array of benefits offered by hydrotherapy. The ability to swim is not mandatory to benefit from hydrotherapy. as it has an array of excellent reasons. lower abdomen and hips.loosening tense muscles. just as it happens when doing other exercises.. walking. A doctorʼs advice is a must before joining a class to make sure that it is suitable. Early in the morning. immediately after waking up (without even brushing your teeth) drink 1. feeling fresh and energetic throughout the day and good digestion are some of the major benefits of water therapy. Soaking in a hot bath increases the heart rate. Immersing in a Jacuzzi has been proven to lower oneʼs blood sugar levels. as the pool is usually quite shallow and you can exercise well within your depth. Even if you are nervous about being in the water. People have used it all around the world for many gener ations. whirlpools and saunas where hydrotherapy is practised. with the feet in the cold water compartment. This method is. the person first sits in the warm water. both among people who are recovering from injuries or illnesses as well as those who use it as an effective way to exercise. Many people with a physical limitation that restricts them from using traditional gym equipment or engaging in vigorous exercise are able to accomplish the same through water workout. it is worth trying. After three minutes. jogging or just about anything else.5 litres of water — i. you might decide to follow the crowd and find We out what it can do for you! 43 . Relief from stress along with weight loss. thereby utilising less energy for performing movements. glowing skin. Water therapy has magical effects in curing diseases. These days there are several spas. the patient sits in cold water with the feet in the warm water compartment. Numerous researchers are now of the opinion that patients suffering from rheumatoid arthritis can safely exercise by following tailor-made water exercises. Sit baths: These are given as treatment for painful conditions with broken skin. but facts cannot be denied. boosting the immune system and improving the function of the internal organs by stimulating their blood supply.
He desired to propagate happiness and salvation through this cult. E. The aim is to watch the spectacular sunrise at 5. Mount Nemrut or (Nehm-root) or Nimrud. historical Anatolia region and Mt Nemrut had the most important place of worship in ancient Anatolia. Mithridates was a descendant of the mighty Persian king Darius. Thus.10 am! A steep climb of several hundred metres on the barren slope leads us to the peculiar summit. Antiochus was the son of King Mithridates I. King Antiochus I Theo. The time is 3. As we turn back we see the eight-10-metre tall gods watching us. is for the archaeology buffs. Antiochus was married to a Cappadocian or Arsemian princess Philostargos. he had to deal with subjects of three different ethnic backgrounds. By Malvika Dekhane TURKEY’S MOUNT NEMRUT . In order to unify these subjects and also to establish his godly lineage. This was a part of the ancient. This natural spectacle truly dwarfs us. We occupy a suitable place on the stone altar to watch the sunrise. was a Greek princess and boasted of a lineage from Seleucid king Gryphus.134-metre-high peak of the Taurus range in Adiyaman region. the horizon turns pinkish-orange and the stage is all set for the god of the ancients to begin his daily journey. the founder of the Commagene Kingdom.000 years! Nemrut Dagi or Mount Nemrut is a 2. We descend from the bust and begin our 30-minute ascent to the summit. His queen. laid down new rules for worship and ordered the building of this sanctuary and heirothesion (sacred burial precinct of the royal family). this task was not so easy. In order to execute the kingʼs plan the architects and builders had to literally slice off a large part of the peak of the mountain and create a suitable foundation to build a tomb The Throne of the Gods. It was in use till about 72 AD after which the Romans took over and the sanctuary was abandoned. The Euphrates River flowing through the valley glistens beautifully as it must have for centuries. However. The sun god slowly rises between two distant peaks of the Taurus mountain range. They have been blessing worshippers for about 2. we have arrived at the base camp of Mt Nemrut. Laodice Thea. it is considered the eight new wonder of the world and the highest open-air museum in the world.T urkey has different monu ments to suit different palates. the nearest tourist destination. The cult propagated by Antiochus was a Greek form of Zoroastrianism. The tourist facilities have recently taken shape and now the tourists are making a beeline for the Throne of the Gods. Today. (henceforth referred to as Antiochus) of the Commagene Kingdom ordered this unusual place of worship in the first century BC. Turkey. Antiochus invented a new set of gods.30 am and after a 40-minute drive from Kahta. He also wished to express his gratitude to the gods. Equally stunning and jawdropping is the second spectacle right behind us. It is in a remote location of the notso-developed S. Soon. This was around 62 BC.
which was once flanked by bas-relief stone slabs depicting Antiochus and his Greek and Persian ancestors shaking hands with gods. The face and physique of the gods is in the Greek style while the adornments – that is the hairstyle. The Western terrace has a similar layout as far as the sacred statues are concerned. In addition. Antiochus was an avid astrologer and he laid the basis for reforms in the calendar. and erect a tumulus above it. These terraces have a pantheon of gods themselves seeking the blessings of the sun god. The terrace also had a unique lion horoscope slab that has now been shifted to the Adiyaman museum. The lion horoscope is believed to be the worldʼs oldest 45 . The eagle. on the East terrace we have statues of Antiochus who had now attained godly status. the king of animals. Zeus-Oromasdes (Ahur-Mazda). Even in ancient times the king had to do a lot of selfpromotion. the massive seven10-Ton statues must have been truly Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 magnificent and awe-inspiring. clothes and headgear – are Persian. The gods were originally seated on their individual thrones and were about eight-10mt in height. It is believed to contain the yet undiscovered royal tombs. When created. Antiochus. goddess Tyche (an amalgamation of Arsemian goddess of fertility and Greek goddess Fortuna). The East terrace has five gods flanked by an eagle and a lion on either side. The tumulus. ON THE EAST TERRACE Thus. Apollo-Mithras and Heracles-Artagnes. symbolised earthly power. The sun god was the god of all the ancient civilisations and also the chief god of the cult of Mithraism of which Antiochus was a follower. is about 50 mt high and 150 mt in diameter formed of cut stones of the size of a fist. The East and West terraces are connected with a royal walkway or the North terrace. The altar in the front was used for various cult ceremonies.The gods shine at sunrise. the East and West terraces being very spacious. Goddess Tyche. with a view to unite various ethnic groups into a homogenous whole and also to announce his pact with gods (Accession Treaty) combined two equivalent gods of Persian and Greek origin. symbolised heavenly power and the lion. On the four sides of the tumulus are terraces. an artificial peak. the herald of the gods. it also has several bas-relief stone slabs thought to have formed a large frieze.
the magnificent site was short-lived. Still. E. Nimrud. decent presence And selfish heads you find Preach and teach always The life and its ways They question. The date on the horoscope is 7 July 62 BC. a German engineer assessing railway routes for the Ottomans. The nearby peaks have a burial tumulus for queens. The frequent earthquakes caused the heads of the statues to roll down. – Jasmeet Singh. What is out of sight soon goes out of mind. The iconoclasts damaged the noses and faces of the statues. and the rest is history.. confined thoughts Shame lost in luxurious lanes 46 A REAL PICTURE Where values are soft-pedalled Where goodness is burned A literate.. one can imagine the beauty and magnificence of the statues. He had also allocated funds for the religious ceremonies and had deputed families to carry out these festivities from generation to generation. is a must. The best season is from May to September after which Mt Nemrut disappears We under snow. they object A true question when raised Every corner is crying Humanity is dying Limited seems to scriptures only The truth and its shine Strong seems the wall of power But actually full of holes So-called wads of money likewise To cover the named souls Governed by lust and greed Covered by respectable names Big standards. The huge heads with the unfathomable expressions captivate and set our thought processes in motion. The site was abandoned around 72 AD after the fall of the Commagene kingdom. presenting a very sorry sight. All this is inscribed in the Greek language in about 273 lines at the back of the statues. Antiochus had laid down instructions for religious festivities to be held on Mount Nemrut on the 10th and 16th of each month. Time and weathering agents too were not kind to the throne. centres for cult worship and the remains of magnificent palaces. technical and modern world Yet some lessons to be learned. The ice caused cracks in the statues. All are worth a visit. This peak is covered with snow for almost six months. It was only in 1881 that the Throne of the gods came into the limelight.existing horoscope. Turkey. This is known as the Will of Antiochus. The weathering agents took their toll and today the statues are but a faint image of the once awesome statues. Watch injustice and yet be quiet I call this world blind Innocent faces. However. People soon forgot the Throne of the Gods! There was no mention of this site in ancient books. The Western terrace offers a fabulous view of the sunset. The travellers thought it to be the work of the most powerful biblical king Nimrod and named it Mt Mount Nemrut – False Tumulus before sunrise. The Ottomans were paying by the metre and Charles in an attempt to increase the mileage surveyed for a longer route. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . And it coincides either with Antiochusʼ accession to the throne or to the date of commencement of construction of the site. Manipuri. whatever the story. Well. The name persisted. The credit goes to Charles Sester. if you are planning to visit Turkey a visit to S. He spotted the huge heads on the summit. we have to thank Charles for his discovery. Only shepherds and occasional travellers knew about this site minus its importance. So.
among others and you'll see that their highly anglicised students are addressing even their principals. Ooty. there should be proper norms of etiquette. So is their love for me. Paul. They believe that 'Sir' and 'Ma'am' sound too standoffish and students can't blossom in such a straitjacketed atmosphere. IT organisations and BPOs. at Delhi's premier college LSR. Gone are the days when students used to stand up when a teacher would enter the class room. even school students show no alacrity and reverence when a teacher enters. I never called my teachers 'Sir'/ 'Ma'am'. – Dr Sumit S. It's the respect of the students that elicits the best from their teachers. by their names. told me that the girls of her class never wished their teachers on the campus and they'd just ignore the lecturers in the classroom. St. Agreed. First Year student. Then only will the students learn and give respect to their teachers. but my respect for them is still undiminished. This is sad. there're unwritten but perceptible norms of etiquette which every student must abide by. In my entire life as a student. And to retain this exuberance. A studentteacher relationship is always very exuberant. In a bid to appear more liberal and utterly casual. A bit casual approach may be acceptable in a modern corporate set-up. let 47 . but in a school. it's the fundamental condition to respect one's teachers.A RESPECTING ONE'S TEACHERS alone teachers. Go to Hebron. Yet. Shillong. some of the finest public schools in India encourage their students to address their teachers by their names. Giving due respect to teachers is integral to one's character and upbringing. Edmonds. This is sadly missing in today's dismal academic scenario. today's teachers have also become so casual and shallow that they hardly command any respect from their students. J Krishnamurty's Nath Valley. Nowadays. I always called them 'Mr' / 'Mrs'.
whipped 10-12 strawberries. Pour the mixture evenly into both tins. Place the other cake on top. and sprinkle with the remaining strawberries. Repeat with the remaining dough. Add room temperature butter and cut into the dry ingredients with a fork until the mixture resembles dry breadcrumbs. By Anupama Gupta Strawberries and cream cake A REAL STRAWBERRIES AND CREAM CAKE INGREDIENTS: For the cake: 1/ cup butter 2 3/ cup sugar 4 1 cup flour 1/ cup milk 4 1/ tsp baking powder 2 Buttermilk scones For the filling and topping: 1 cup cream.FEAST If you prefer variety try these dishes. Place on greased baking tray and bake for 12 minutes. Mix in milk and beat. Mix in sifted baking powder and flour and beat. The dough will be a bit moist. Place in the oven for 18 to 20 mins. Cream the butter with the sugar until soft and light. Cut into six pieces with a scone cutter or simply cut into wedges. Then the cakes are cool. spoon 3/ of the whipped double cream 4 on top of one cake and top with the majority of the strawberries. Sift dry ingredients in a bowl. hulled and halved METHOD Grease the baking tins and O preheat your oven to 180 C. and smooth the remaining cream on top. BUTTERMILK SCONES INGREDIENTS: 2 cup plain flour 1 cup sugar 1/ tsp baking powder 2 1/ tsp bicarb soda 2 1 cup butter 3/ cup buttermilk 4 3/ tsp salt 4 METHOD O Preheat oven to 180 C. Roll half the dough into a ball and flatten on floured surface. Serve. then turn out on to a wire cooling rack. smoothing the tops. Allow to cool in the tin for two minutes. Add buttermilk and mix. You can brush buttermilk on top and sprinkle with sugar before baking if desired. Serves: 12 48 .
small 1 tsp carom seeds or ajwain 1/ tsp red chilli powder 2 1/ tbsp butter 2 21/2 tbsp cornstarch 2-3 green chillies 4 tbsp coriander or dhania leaves 1/ tsp garam masala powder 2 1 tsp oil salt to taste METHOD Boil and peel arbi. Place green peas mixture evenly over one roti and place the other roti over it. Serve hot with chutney. When hot. Turn from time to time till they are thoroughly grilled. Divide the dough in eight equal parts. ajwain. Cook over low flame on both sides till done. Heat tawa. Divide green peas filling in four equal parts. Add cornstarch. onion. Put the dough over a plastic sheet. green chillies and coriander leaves. place this roti over it. flatten each portion into a 6" round disc. green chillies and dhania leaves.oil. Serve hot. Place the skewer over low flame rotating continuously till it is cooked evenly all over. With your palms. mash arbi thoroughly. garam masala powder and green chillies. Add just enough water to form a smooth dough. Add red chilli powder. Finely cut onion. red chilli powder. Gently mix till all ingredients are blended well. butter and salt to this mixture. Take one piece at a time. MATAR AUR BAJRE KI ROTI Arbiseekh kebab ARBISEEKH KEBAB INGREDIENTS: 250 gm colocasia or arbi 2 onions. Mix well and mash slightly. mould it in the shape of a Seekh Kebab and put it on a metal skewer. wholewheat flour and salt in a large bowl. Sieve together bajra flour. In a large plate. Add garam masala powder. CHEESY TORTELLINI INGREDIENTS: cheese tortellini 1 cup flour 1 tbsp oil 1/ tsp salt 8 1 cup white sauce 1 carrot Matar aur bajre ki roti Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 49 . jeera seeds. sealing the corners tightly. Lightly grease your palms with half of the INGREDIENTS: 11/2 cups pearl millet or bajra atta 1 tsp garam masala powder 1/ cup wholewheat flour 2 1/ tsp cumin or jeera seeds 2 1/ tsp red chilli powder 2 water to knead dough 1 cup shelled green peas 2-3 green chillies 1 tbsp oil salt to taste METHOD Cook green peas till tender and dry. Divide it into eight equal portions. Alternatively. place them in an oven and grill for 15 minutes.
Apply oil on both sides of the potatoes and bake again until the potato skins are slightly crisp. Add the cabbage. Drain and set aside. sprinkle salt and pepper. In a bowl. leaving a triangle and roll around the finger and seal the edges with water.PANEER SPRING ROLLS INGREDIENTS: 1 cup wheatflour 1 cup cornflour red chilli powder. Baked potato with cheese BAKED POTATO WITH CHEESE 1 tsp black pepper powder salt to taste METHOD Boil the potatoes and cut them in halves. Make small balls of the dough and roll out thin squares. Brush with a little oil and cover and set aside. If using fresh peas. finely chopped 1 tsp chilli powder 2 tsp lime/lemon juice (optional) salt to taste METHOD In a mixing bowl. mix salt and pepper. Add salt and pepper to the scooped out potato. and bell-pepper. salt and oil. In a large saucepan. Scoop out the centre. along with salt and chilli powder and stir-fry for a Cheesy tortellini 1 spring onion 7-8 French beans 1 tbsp cream 1/ cup cheese 2 1 tsp oil 2 tbsp parsley. Saute spring onion. Heat the oil in a skillet. INGREDIENTS 4 medium potatoes 1 cup cheese 1 spring onion 1/ cup tomatoes. add 2 cups water and bring it to boil. saute the peas until almost tender. chopped 1 tsp black pepper powder salt to taste METHOD Prepare a dough of flour. carrot. Grate cheese. mix the flours along with a little salt and red chilli powder with enough water into a smooth dough. combine white sauce and cream. mix chopped in onion and tomatoes. On each square centre put cheese mixture and fold. carrot and French beans and mix in white sauce. add tortellini and garnish the cheesy tortellini with parsley and serve. Add the cheese tortellini and cook until just about tender (al dente). grated 1/ cup cabbage (shredded) 4 1/ cup carrot (grated) 4 1/ cup bell-pepper 4 (cut into 1/2” long thin strips) 1 tbsp peas (fresh or frozen) 2 tbsp cilantro (coriander leaves). finely 4 chopped 2 tbsp olive oil or any vegetable oil 50 . a pinch vegetable oil for deep-frying salt to taste For filling: 1/ cup paneer 4 (cottage cheese). Sprinkle cheese on top and bake till the cheese melts.
Deep-fry in oil on medium flame. Deep-fry the paneer spring rolls until lightly golden and place on a wire rack or phulka grill to cool. Add the paneer and stir for a couple of seconds. the better. Divide the dough into 1-inch diameter balls. Cut the edges out to make a large rectangle (about 5-6 inches long and 4-inches wide). When water gets warm. ZUCCHINI SLICE Paneer spring rolls minute.of it. Re-fry all the paneer spring rolls until golden and let cool a bit. Place 2 tsp of the vegetable and paneer filling on a square roti and roll it. Make small balls of dough and roll out very thin rotis INGREDIENTS: 1 egg 1 cup flour (sifted) 1 cup zucchini (grated) 1 large onion (finely chopped) 1 cup grated cheddar cheese 60 ml (1/4 cup) vegetable oil 1/ tsp pepper 4 1-2 green chillies salt to taste Zucchini slice Crispy strips with beans CRISPY STRIPS WITH BEANS INGREDIENTS: 1 cup lobia boiled 1 clove garlic 2 tbsp minced red onion 1 tbsp finely chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley 1 tbsp extra-virgin olive oil Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 51 . and cut the roti into 2 squares. Remove in a plate and let cool to room temperature. Stir in the lime juice and cilantro. 1 tbsp water 2 tsp fresh lemon juice 1/ tsp salt 4 1/ tsp black pepper 8 For strips: 1cup besan (chana dal flour) 1/ cup Urad dal flour 2 1 tsp oil 1 tsp red chilli powder a pinch of cooking soda white salt and black salt to taste METHOD Combine all ingredients in a medium bowl and mash together. Keep aside for 15 minutes. Sprinkle red chilli powder and black salt on it. Spread the bean pate on the strips and serve. Seal the edges and repeat with the remaining square. so when fried they become crunchy). For strips: Boil 1 / 2 cup of water and add oil. Cover and chill until ready to serve. Take a dough ball and roll on a floured surface into a very thin roti/tortilla (the thinner. Repeat with the remaining spring rolls. Cut it into strips. salt and soda into it. knead a dough.
Lightly grease muffin pan. In a bowl mix carrot. FARALI PATTY INGREDIENTS: For the outer crust: 4 large potatoes 2-3 tbsp water chestnut flour or arrowroot flour or buckwheat flour or 2 slices of bread 1 green chilli finely chopped (optional) cooking salt or sendha namak For the inner filling: 1 cup grated coconut 3 tbsp roasted peanuts 3 tbsp roasted cashew nuts 2 tbsp raisins 1/ tsp lime juice or 1/ tsp 2 2 amchur powder oil for deep frying salt to taste METHOD Boil the potatoes and then mash them. salt and pepper and oil and stir to combine. Soak the breads in water. for 10 minutes or until onion caramelises. Cream butter and buttermilk. Cook for two minutes or until cooked through. Grease the tin. Add chopped green chillies to the mashed potatoes. then add zucchini. Remove from heat. Serve hot with chutney or sauce. salt and onion. Pour into the prepared pan and bake in oven for 30 minutes or until cooked through. corn. Mash the bread and mix it with the mashed METHOD Melt butter in a large frying pan over medium heat. buttermilk. cheese. cook four pikelets for three to four minutes or until bubbles appear on the surface. CARAMELISED ONION MUFFINS INGREDIENTS 1 cup flour 1/ cup butter 4 1/ tsp baking powder 2 3 onions 1/ tsp salt 4 1/ tsp black pepper powder 2 1 tbsp fresh thyme leaves 1 tbsp butter 1/ cup buttermilk 4 Woman’s Era ● Caramelised onion muffins 52 April (Second) 2012 . onion. Turn. Using 1 heaped tbsp per pikelet. Cook. Add thyme. Pour the mixture in the muffin cups and bake for 1015 minutes. Transfer to a plate. squeeze the water completely from the bread. zucchini flour. Beat the egg in a bowl until combined. stirring often. add sifted flour and baking powder. green chillies. Heat the pan and slightly greese it. chopped green chillies. salt and pepper. Cheesy vegetable pikelets CHEESY VEGETABLE PIKELETS INGREDIENTS: 1 small zucchini (coarsely grated) 1/ tsp olive oil 2 1 small carrot (grated) 1/ cup fresh or frozen corn 2 kernels 1 cup flour 1/ cups buttermilk 4 1/ cup cheese 2 olive oil cooking spray METHOD Grate zucchini and carrot. Add the flour and beat until smooth. Take care to see that there are no lumps in the potatoes. Add onion. cheese.METHOD Preheat oven to 170 ° C. Preheat oven to 180°C.
Coarsely grind the peanuts and cashewnuts. Serve with sweet curd/ plain curd or coriander chutney or mintcoriander chutney. You could also take two potato mixture. so that the patties do not break while frying. the coarsely ground peanuts and cashew nuts. Place the filling in the centre of one puri. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 53 . The filling has to be properly sealed with the potato mixture. Shape it into a bowl-like shape. Add all the other ingredients mentioned for the inner filling. Cover with the second puri and seal the edges firmly. BEETROOT CUTLETS Farali patty Oats vegetable puffs potatoes. Seal the inner stuffing by gently bringing together the edges of the potato mixture in the centre. Add all the spices with salt. Beetroot cutlets OATS VEGETABLE PUFFS INGREDIENTS 2 tbsp white oats 5 French beans .shredded 1/ carrot (grated) 2 2 potatoes (boiled and mashed) 2 tbsp cooked rice 2 tbsp cornflour 2 spring onions (chopped) 1 large onion (chopped) 1 red chilli (chopped) salt to taste For Coating: 1/ cup bread crumbs 2 METHOD Put together and form into mini balls. make into flat round or oval shapes and shallow fry on both sides. Flatten the patties slightly. Squeeze out the water and add the crumbled bread to the mixture. Flatten it in your palm like making masala vadai. The mixture should be smooth with no lumps. Soak bread slices in water for a second. Apply some oil in your hands while doing this. Take a handful of the potato mixture. Coat it with breadcrumbs and We fry in hot oil on low fire. To the coconut. Knead smoothly.oil on a medium flame till golden brown and crisp from outside. This makes your farali pattyʼs outer covering. Mix well and keep aside. Take some 1-2 tsp of the inner stuffing and place it in the centre of the bowl like potato mixture. Deep-fry them in hot INGREDIENTS: lime juice 2 bread slices 1/ cup boiled peas 2 pinch black pepper 250 gm boiled potatoes 2 tsp ginger-garlic paste 2 chopped green chillies 1 beetroot boiled and grated 1/ cup chopped coriander 2 leaves salt to taste METHOD Mix all boiled veggies and mash it together. Make patties of the entire mixture and keep aside. add chopped raisins. flatten them like small puris with your hand. so that while frying the patties do not break and thus the filling comes out.
food. They burnt cigarette stubs on his palm till he screamed with pain. she had failed to learn driving. She had to manage all alone. he was made to squat on the floor the whole night. Rajat.”Come on. unclean. Her husband. On his refusal. she stroked his beautiful wavy hair and implored. ”Manoj. help your ma finish breakfast. They commanded him to do indecent. hardly at home to lend her a helping hand. and that added to her woes. he met with serious reprisals. unseeing eyes. When Rajat was not around. son. Nothing could rouse him to action. Her 12-year-old daughter. Naked. I have to go to Rama’s school. A very hectic day lay ahead. Rama.” Not heeding her. the youngest of her three children was participating in the annual Sports Day. A whole-day programme comprising flower decoration and fancy dress competition in the morning session. sports events in the afternoon. Nalini Sharma A nita was apprehensive and feeling jittery. he 54 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . she felt harried.Short Story Crisis Surmounted How a coward stormed back. Quick. A cheerful bubbly boy had turned into a morose robot. He was not like that before. he had joined the engineering college beaming with pride and confidence. forbidden things. she depended on autos and taxis to move from one place to another. recalled Anita. he sat sulking staring at nothing with vacant. After successfully clearing AIEEE. sleep and rest. to put little Rama into fancy dress attire as a mermaid. she called out to her 20-year-old elder son. Hurrying through morning chores. Subjected to such indignities and torture. son. was constantly on the move. He had become very difficult to deal with since he deserted his engineering college and studies after ragging that had landed him in the hospital severely bruised not only in body but in mind too. The wounds on his body had healed but not his psyche. His seniors had reduced him into a helpless vegetable. As she laid breakfast on the table. But within 15 days. She needed time too. In spite of repeated coaxing by her husband. Beaten mercilessly. A sigh escaped her lips. their castle of hope had collapsed like a pack of cards. Keeping her composure. come and have breakfast.” But he didn’t move. the evening reserved for a grand prize distribution. he was denied dignity. being a marketing executive.
who was the leader of the gang of ‘raggers’ in awe. She thought of drive her to Rama’s school but in vain. At night. happy and the water but followed suit but their auto was nowhere to successful future. The very idea of going out made him stormy weather. When it was over. his posture had changed. The celebration lasted the whole day. Hardly had she stepped inside when the While sleeping. the younger son. Anita wrapped Rama in looking passers-by who had taken shelter there. storm began to rage violently with a heavy crumpled into a crouching position. Worried as they were for his safety too. Bite to get some mouth-watering snacks packed and an ice-cream to lick in the auto on the way home. but what would he do fell on deaf ears. Unable to withstand the cruelty and indignity. the mermaid get-up. He held Raka. tried to call all her friends. They made him stand keeping his eyes open wide awake. R him further. A good Samaritan informed the college authorities. dared not cover be seen. she stopped at Bite briefly. them with. Then dressing herself up elegantly in a pink chiffon sari with matching t sent a chill down Anita’s the spine. Even that didn’t deter his tormentors from inflicting more injuries. the chilly wind hit them in the face and the gone to an engineering college. Anita. Acceding to her request. they insisted upon having a treat on the way at Bite. The wounds all over his body spoke volumes for the pain the boys had inflicted upon him. Rama was euphoric as she had bagged two prizes – both the firsts. Dozing off. Even while watching TV. distance in Time ticked by and the heavy downpour seemed to deteriorate instead of pitch darkness. acquaintances on their phone numbers duly saved in her mobile. Hiring a taxi. he Time ticked by The thunder caused the lights to go off wouldn’t allow open windows. someone bashing up Ebullient Anita considered the treat too small in somebody or inflicting pain caused him to cry out in return of the two first prizes that Rama had bestowed intense agony. they didn’t notice the storm agging had eaten up his vitality and building up and the dark clouds gathering in the sky. That made them run back again to the cover of the restaurant he survived the onslaught of ragging. No conveyance to go back home and with relief when his critical phase of the first year none to help them. A year the fury of nature. kept his face covered. she reached the school with Rama. He had totally stopped driving from such a long distance? Frantic with worry. she didn’t press I Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 55 . they were stranded among was over. who in turn informed his parents who promptly admitted Manoj to a hospital for treatment. had came out. Amit. His state of mind seemed the to wade through deserted. she since he shunned the public eye. She feared accessories to look her best.developed high fever. now convulsions. petrified with terror. the hefty boy. Now. continued mercilessly flooding the roads. All the youngsters hurriedly ran window open after dusting. of a mercilessly bikes before the storm and the rains neighbour taking stroll on his own terrace flooding the caused more havoc leaving the mother made him shriek with terror with violent roads. He refused to go out as he feared that the boys lurked somewhere to pounce upon him. clutching Rama’s hand prognosis for not a bright. she exhorted her son to for the safety of her daughter. Now. Her entreaties ringing up her husband. relatives and As Anita kept on imploring him to drive them to Rama’s school. meant more punishment. Disappointed. They sighed building. he had fled to a safer Thinking time is the best healer his such a long area to protect himself and his vehicle from parents had resigned to their fate. one in the fancy dress show and the other in the 200 metres sprint. he downpour. Now. A fleeting continued out helter-skelter and rode away on their shadow on his bedroom wall. Manoj constantly shivered with Rama mounted pressure on her mother to stop at unknown fear. in case her memory failed but she could “No” so loudly that it made Anita jump with alarm not reach them owing to poor connectivity due to the and fear. strangers. he got annoyed and grunted angrily. they thanked their stars when rain pounded on them mercilessly. Perhaps. the staff of Bite and some unfriendlyHousehold chores over. the maid left his bedroom downpour darkness. he had fainted on the floor. As she old normal self. and the heavy plunging the whole atmosphere into inky Once. They hoped for some miracle to happen that would cure him and restore him to his She tried to wade through the water but dared not cover such a long distance in pitch darkness. a restaurant that catered to the needs of tiny tots to school-and college-going youngsters who thronged there while coming back weary with fatigue from the day in their schools and colleges. Jubilant as they were. They were horrified at the ghastly sight that met their eyes. had passed but Manoj’s condition. confidence. improving. dusk was beginning to settle over the horizon. She tried and daughter alone in the restaurant.
they were either switched off or engaged. In the absence of your father. she decided to take a chance. not a child.”Help us. Anita could sense their eyes bore holes into her body. The two goons leaning over the counter eyed the two females greedily. he groped for the car key in the darkness and struggled out in the porch where their car stood. son. P rize-winning euphoria over. But Anita persisted. That very moment. Had your father been here. He could hear his mother’s plaintive call as he tried to struggle to his feet exerting immense control over his unfounded fears. she moved towards the exit. she decided to fight her way home wading through water and braving the hostile weather. He felt wobbly. He dared not stretch out his arm to take his mobile kept beside his bed on a stool. Soon. dejected and downhearted. to her dismay. T he restaurant wore a deserted look and the atmosphere inside was almost eerie. That very instant. they flanked both of them on each side leering at them lustfully.. fear of losing his mother and sister was uppermost in his mind. a six-foot youngster 56 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . “Manoj. We are stranded. But the plaintive pathetic cry of his mother reached his ears. you are in charge of the house. You have to help us out. son. She could hear the phone ring but nobody picked it up at the other end. In utter desperation. Act fast or you will lose us. The shrill ring of phone made him doubly afraid and bury himself under the folds of the quilt all the more. You are a man. who was buried under the quilt all alone in pitch-darkness quivering with fear. Manoj.. Now. On her mobile she rang her son. Though dark. Bring the car here at Bite. Bracing himself for any eventuality. Quick. Clutching at the hand of little Rama tightly.. The phone dropped from his hands. “Being a man you are in charge here.. Fetch us home.Driven to the wall she called Mrs Sharma. miserable. Seeing their victims leave. Bring the car here. Grappling with fear. Manoj.. aren’t you? What would you say to your father if something happens to us? Oh. You are such a good driver.. As he sat at the wheel. I know you will make it. Manoj was the best bet in such an adverse situation. Manoj picked up the receiver. No conveyance available. little Rama began to whimper loudly. son. we would not have bothered you. The engine roared under his pressure and the next moment he was on the road tearing his way to the Bite. Hot tears began to trickle down her cheeks. As she prepared to leave. please fetch us home. the hefty gang leader’s fear struck him with tremendous force and he plopped back into the bed and hid himself under the quilt. She tried again and again but did not get any response from her neighbour. Anita didn’t give in. She rang him up again. her neighbour with whom she was not on talking terms as they had had a silly tiff over a petty issue about whose house the maid should come to first. help us. His mother’s voice kept goading him on and on. His mother’s voice would not let him be. he picked up the receiver to put it aside so that the sound would not disturb him any more. “Help us.” All of a sudden. you are not going to see us again and remain cooped up all alone in that lonely house. son. the two goons at once jumped to their feet and darted towards them menacingly. Unable to bear the constant ringing of the landline too. for fear that somebody would get at him. he felt a surge of adrenalin pumping hard and coursing through his whole body. she heaved a sigh of relief. being a man. Without saying a word. Anita felt beaten. are you there listening to me?” wailed Anita.”Unless you help us. As he was going to put the receiver down..” A loud helpless croak escaped of Manoj’s lips. Realising the utter futility of depending on her vegetating son. the lights came on. my son. He shed tears not for himself but for his mother and sister. He gripped the wheel. It is hardly a 10-minute drive from home to Bite. the lights came on illuminating the whole area dispelling the gloom of darkness of the flooding road.” A loud noise burnt the ears of Anita with the sound of slamming the receiver on its cradle. he again crawled out of the quilt. Anita stopped him. Seeing little respite in the harsh weather she again rang the numbers of her friends but. But he was restless. her phone responded to Anita’s call. Luckily..” Anita sobbed uncontrollably. we are in danger. Thanking goodness.
in front of their desktops generate so much of heat which affects their sperm production. MBBS (LHMC) DGO (MAMC) MD in Obs & Gynae all these and more define the schedule of a person in the Information Technology (IT) sector. A week later. When man’s efforts had gone awry. He croaked in a loud quivering voice. she says.”Hey! What is going on in here?” The sudden unexpected intrusion distracted the attention of the goons. IVF (test tube baby) are available. mum and dad. due to which they end up marrying late. the IT sector demands their full dedication. Though his knees wobbled with fear.. Many options like (IUI) intra uterine insemination. You know I am a grownup man. That was a grown-up man’s stuff. MIK-40) Recycled. Anita buried her head in the chest of her son and muttered. This unit utilising two high-quality ultra-violet bulbs to attract insect which is then. MIK-30. He felt like a knight in shining armour who had rescued a lovely damsel and a child in distress. A few cases. I am not going to shrink from challenges.fully covered from top to toe in a raincoat dripping water. he led them towards the car. the females can come in reasonably at an advanced age for treatment. he was ready to face the challenges of the unfriendly world.This is a big drawback if the couple are trying for a baby . For females. nature offered her own bitter pill from her coffers to help cure the malady.” Manoj interrupted. Director of Mothers Lap IVF Center says almost 15%-20% of her patients are from the IT sector. shedding tears of joy. “I knew you would come. No Raka can frighten me now. Tight deadlines cause stress which does not allow these men to ‘perform’ well and reproduce through ‘family’ time when they can get together with their wives.. his fear evaporated.What adds to the situation is. Freezing of semen and eggs are available. mom. no sprays. Then. 10 levels of temperature 6 cooking functions Electric Insect Killer (MIK-20. he tried to put their fears at rest. wrong sleep timings. are where both the husband and wife are from the IT department and hence face the problem of spending time together due to deterrent working hours.” Nature’s fury had come to them as a blessing in disguise. say till even 35 years. Manoj had risen again like a phoenix much to the joy and relief of his parents.. eliminated by the high voltage current which runs through the electrified metal grids near the bulbs. Seeing his mother and sister in mortal danger. For males. appeared in the doorway. no smell. irregular eating habits. he looked every inch quite frightening with his towering lanky figure swaying a little awkwardly. In the car. Assisted Reproduction comes as a blessing for these men and women as the males can always freeze and store their semen sample for later use.” His confidence restored. low energy and high efficiency. no fumes. “Have faith in me. the prize-winning boxing champion of his school.”not a boy. She has helped many such couples realise their dreams and complete their families. holding his mother and sister in his protective arms. Manoj.. ICSI (intra cytoplasm sperm injection) is available for males who have nil sperms or very low number of sperms with low-grade motility. Spending long hours with their laptops on their bodies. Without any side effect or bad reaction to human beings. as the apprehensive parents saw Manoj off at the station for college to resume his studies.” “Hey. My brave boy! My brave boy. no poison. We Assisted Reproduction – A Boon for the IT Sector Long working hours. This puts their family planning on the back burner.. Married working women often fail to get together with their husbands during their fertile period due to night shifts and other odd work timings . when her husband has an opposite work shift. A Perfect Cooking System is Created not Manufactured Energy and Money-Saver Clean & Hygienic – Enjoy Safe and Sound Cooking Elegant 2000W Push Button control Black crystal plate 4 digit display 4 hours timer. Taking advantage. Dr Shobha Gupta.. no mess. it’s an even more demanding situation. dealt a hard punch on the nose of the nearest goon that sent him sprawling to the floor and the other took to his heels. Dr Shobha Gupta haphazardly placed lifestyle habits. 4 hours preset 10 levels of power. 57 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Designed with limit of electric current.
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Many times. n d limitatio ere is wor th ones. Using such words in SMSs is okay as there is word limitation in mobile phones. mobile ph 62 . these are misspelled words. ʻbʼ for ʻbeʼ. This cannot be a writing difficulty because if anyone can type three characters of ʻmahʼ. What happened now? Wrong spellings have perhaps become style statement.” Fine? Come on. English is a beautiful language. It does take effort to get proficiency in this language. I donʼt understand the logic behind typing ʻmahʼ in place of ʻmyʼ. There is a quote from a famous film that English is a funny language. it does take tremendous effort to comprehend such words. Huh! Who is going to apply effort to read and comprehend this kind of stuff? Yes. they can easily type just the two characters of ʻmyʼ. People often have to omit some letters to keep their messages short in cellphones by typing ʻ2ʼ for ʻtoʼ. If u wanna b mah frnd u ve 2 accept me da way I m coz guys n gurls dis is mah Iyf nI wanna liv dis on mah own trms. as English goes computer-generated. Do they try to show that they possess a stylish or foreigner accent? If so. how many letters does fine take that it has become so difficult to type? People also write w8 for wait. In this technical century. Iʼve seen a beautiful poem written in this lingo and I found it so irritating that all the beauty of those words washed away completely. When I asked him. Getting proficient in English is not just fashionable but it is knowledge – knowledge of a global language so that you can communicate all over the world or even in different parts of our own country..” came as a reply.esp after SMS! By Tarany Sinha was working online when my chat box popped up and a “Hi!” from one of my relatives appeared.. That was “Fine. Go back to your schooldays and try to remember how hard you worked to memorise the spellings to get good marks in dictation. honestly. It is really sad. F9? I wondered what that was. If you can type three characters then typing a fourth one is not going to hurt your finger or consume your precious time..m nt gonna change 4 ne 1. Sometimes I wonder how people feel comfortable typing wrong spellings. So and now it . you may have seen people writing in this weird ʻlingoʼ. It seems more beautiful when written properly and correctly. ʻcozʼ for ʻbecauseʼ and so on. Got it? I did only after strenuous effort and. It definitely takes his odd la T SMS away the essence of the erged from d em English language. Then finally knowledge of that strange language dawned on me. In our country. ʻuʼ for ʻyouʼ. Try this: I trst mah frnds n ve faith in dem. But why in blogs or while posting comments? In a blog. We can read some really good books in English by Indian authors. people have excelled in this language. on various net working sites. Come on. You can see ʻGudʼ for ʻGoodʼ. ʻLyfʼ for ʻLifeʼ and so on. it has indeed become a funny language. ʻLykʼ for ʻLikeʼ.. Our new generation should not spoil this language in order to prove themselves stylish and e nguag modern. You definitely did not want red lines or circles around wrong spellings in your English notebook. has indee phones Typing correct spelling of mobile feature is not painful but reading turned into has wrong spelling is. in words in S This odd language has indeed emerged from SMS feature of mobile phones and now it has turned into cyber English. ʻdaʼ for ʻtheʼ. “How are you?” “F9. Using such please maintain the lish cyber Eng respect for written okay as MSs is We English. then please show it while speaking (that is also irritating) not writing. irritation and anger brewed inside me.I .
your father is preparing to remarry so soon after her death. So they take all I do for granted and it doesnʼt occur to any of them to help me or to take me seriously when I complain that I am tired. it must be painful that after at least 19 years of marriage. So be polite to him and his new wife – if he remarries. If you begin by giving in on some points. What can I do? You seem to have made housework look so easy that all the men in your life think that there is nothing much to it. They will only understand how difficult it is to run a home without any help if they have to do it. Did he love her at all? How can he foist a stepmother on us? Should we disown him if he remarries? Your shock at your motherʼs death is understandable and yes. attend an outof-town wedding or go away with I am 22 years old and got married to my boyfriend of four years. He is 24. Your father has decided to move on with his life and you have to accept this. but they think that a womanʼs work is nothing much. life does not stop and we cannot stop living. And just for the record. but you married for love and Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 so it shouldnʼt be too difficult for you two to work out compromises. Now. Our 45year-old father is planning to remarry and the family is searching for a bride for him! Neither of us was ever close to our father and our mother was everything to us. his behaviour is more understandable. but as the only female in the house. and you may never be. but the fact is that we are constantly quarrelling over small matters. Over the years and as kids arrive on the scene. A terrible tragedy may occur but we continue to breathe. I am exhausted and fed up. Have we made a mistake in getting married? Most couples find after marriage that they are different in many small ways and that they like different lifestyles. sleep.My 16-year-old sister and I (I am 18) received a terrible shock a year ago when our mother was suddenly diagnosed with terminal cancer and she died three months later. These small matters mainly relate to issues of how we should live. but over time. try and convince your husband. etc. This is what your mother would have wanted. I am a 55-year-old woman living with my husband and three unmarried sons. make some excuse and leave the house for at least a week. but it is best that you maintain a formal relationship with him. cook and look after all the men. So. eat. You say that you were never close to your father. you will finally arrive at a lifestyle of your own and will even forget that you did things in any other way. he will continue to be your dad. On some matters you may decide to go your different ways. But the one constant in this world is that whatever happens. My husband and sons are all very affectionate and caring. You and your husband are both young. some months ago. For instance. Go and visit relatives. All the men have good jobs. but were he and your mother close? If they werenʼt. sometimes even fight. Neither is going to sleep very late. In the same way I want to eat out as we both return from work (we both work in the same organisation) so that I need not do any cooking after we return home. I like to sleep early.the list of our differences is endless. So remember that you married for love and give in on unimportant matters. If you feel that something is really important. You were never close to him. you will find that your husband will follow suit and give in on others. he likes to go to bed late…. we have received a second shock. I have to work like a dog to look after the house. they arrive at compromises that they can both live with. But my husband is the first to say that he likes my cooking and then my sons agree with him. we wonder how my father can forget my mother so soon. 63 . but he wants to eat at home and offers to help me with the cooking. but eating out regularly is not. I want a cook and a maid to help me take care of my family and we can well afford this. They argue about these differences. not even a year after her death. But remember that none of these minor matters is as important as your marriage. a heavy breakfast is good. Now. I like to have just a few biscuits or a cup of tea for breakfast while he insists on having a heavy one. Both of us had expected to be very happy together. Whether you are close to your father or not and whether you disown him or not.
I also have a suspicion that I am afraid to even express to my husband. Tell your husband about your doubts. My husband wants me to dismiss my maid. is neglecting his studies and got into a fast group of rich boys and both my husband and I are worried about him. But your sister is. none of us are married. get married before any of them. We have come to know that the father of a new classmate of my 14year-old daughter has been in jail for cheating. but for some reason she prefers to say with my sister. My mother is very upset about this. She comes to stay with me very reluctantly only when my sister has to go to visit her daughter who lives in the USA. My father died when I was just two and since then my mother has struggled to bring us up on the little that my father left and on her salary as a teacher. My sister says that it is just because of her old age. As people grow old. Should we allow her to interact with that girl? That man did something wrong and was punished for it. Do not mention the watch but keep a watchful eye on your son. found guilty and jailed. If I ask her why she behaves like this she is surprised and tells me not to imagine things. but I feel that it would be unfair of me to brand her a thief when I have no proof that she took the Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 watch. Try and talk to him though he will probably not open up to you easily but will only repeat his complaints about wanting more money and freedom. About two years ago a colleague of mine (my sisters do not work but I do) proposed to me and since I too was attracted to him. but since my eldest sisterʼs marriage couldnʼt be settled. she counts the days for my sisterʼs return. Just be loving to both your mother and elder sister. he will realise that it is possible that your son took the watch. But I am hurt by her behaviour. I have two brothers and two sisters. Presumably he learnt the lesson that cheating doesnʼt pay. they will certainly bring joy to the family. But I know that all my siblings will be hurt if I. Both my husband and brother-in-law are ready to take full responsibility for my mother. . After a few days. Remember she was already 75 then! So donʼt imagine things or make an issue of this. On the other hand the changes you have noticed in your son make it likely that he is in need of money and that he took your watch in order to sell it. My college-going 19-yearold son has changed over the last year. 64 I am the younger of two sisters. He has become a rebel. tell them firmly that the break you took made you realise that you cannot go on as you have been doing all these years and that you need a cook and maid. Your marrying may even jolt your mother into trying harder to fix up the marriages of your siblings. My fiance is becoming impatient. But tell her not to ask questions about the father. the youngest. Do not make elaborate preparations for your absence – just leave and let them manage on their own. He is a few years older than I am and says it is time we got married. She has been with me for nine years and till now nothing has gone missing from the home. When you come back you are sure to be greeted with relief and joy. she did no wrong but must have suffered greatly when her father was arrested. If he took the watch and thinks that he got away with it. And when you have children. I accepted his proposal. As far as his daughter is concerned. but everyone seems to have accepted this. I am 48 and my elder sister is 56. Is it fair to continue to punish her for something which she did not do? You may be wary of interacting with the father. But I feel that my mother does not love me as much as she loves my sister. they find it difficult to adjust to new places. And when she is with me. I am 30 and my eldest sister is 48. but if he thinks matters over. Am I right? No. I discovered that my expensive watch was missing. A few days ago. but if she doesnʼt. but do not prevent your daughter from being friends with the daughter. have a simple registered marriage. Our father died three years ago and so we are responsible for our 78-yearold-mother. It is unlikely – though not impossible – that your maid took the watch since she has been honest for nine years. I am the youngest girl in a family of five. Your mother will probably celebrate your marriage herself. Assure them that you will see to it that the meals are cooked to their liking. Your mother probably began to stay with your elder sister after your fatherʼs death (only because elder children usually step forward and take responsibility and spare their younger siblings) and that must have become a habit. Even if you donʼt catch him in the act.friends. What should I do? Your family situation is sad but by remaining unmarried yourself you will not be helping matters. Could he have taken the watch? He is always complaining that he gets a smaller allowance and less freedom than his friends. you are not. Things improved financially after my brothers began to work. So go ahead and announce your decision to get married. you must take it up with him if thefts happen again. tried. I live with my husband and two teenage children and my maid is the only outsider who has the run of the house. He may be upset. he will probably steal again and you must try and catch him at it. But I havenʼt. But I havenʼt yet had the courage to tell my family.
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Most cases of bronchiolitis caused by RSV are seen in children less than one year old. and croup (childhood ailments and breathing spasms). RSV infection continues to be a major cause of morbidity and mortality throughout the world.” said Reena.A CURABLE INFECTION A 68 It is self-limiting and gets cured in a week. . Despite advances in the understanding of its pathogenesis (origin and effects of diseases). young children with heart and lung problems. limited progress has been made in prevention and treatment of RSV infection. Yes. most children will have an RSV infection by the time they are two years old and a majority of them will get better on their own within eight to 15 days. bronchiolitis (inflammation of the small airways of the lungs). RSV is one of the most common causes of respiratory illness in infants and toddlers. Premature babies and babies with lung diseases are at high risk of becoming acutely ill with RSV infections.” said Sadhvi. “Oh. especially in children. “Itʼs pretty frightening. Globally. my relative. including premature infants. In infants and young children. and bronchiolitis in younger children and infants.60. RSV can be lifethreatening for immune-compromised people. my child of two months was struck by RSV and was hospitalised for a week. RSV affects an estimated 64 million people and causes 1. just 10 weeks old.000 deaths each year. it can cause pneumonia. The last thing any mom wants to think about is her newborn catching a virus. sobbing uncontrollably. was affected by it very recently. Recent findings suggest that RSV is responsible for 60 per cent of all diagnosed cases of bronchiolitis. Although deaths are relatively rare. which is severe enough to land them in the hospital. and also the cause of illness. By Sudha Chandrasekaran However. What exactly is RSV and why is it so scary? I know much about RSV because my close relativeʼs son. The sleepless Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 nights and anxiety-filled days which she underwent are hard to describe! RSV or Respiratory Syncytial Virus is a very common virus that causes infections such as the common cold in adults and older children. The ailment usually starts within three to ll of us have heard of the term RSV at some time or other in our conversations with others. and the elderly. a young mother. I just cannot describe the horrible time and anxiety that I underwent then. several parents undergo this trauma when their children are young. It is a highly contagious disease and spreads by physical contact with the infected person.
they use a chest X-ray or oxygen saturation test to check for lung congestion. adults generally build up antibodies which help them in fighting the virus. 20 per cent of deaths in children under the age of five are caused by infections of the respiratory system and pneumonia. Simple postponing infection until your child gets out of infancy is very helpful. restlessness. in healthy children. medical treatment will concentrate on the following five areas and for some children this may require hospitalisation. Diagnosis: The virus generally runs its course with the help of home treatments. that is going to bring viruses home and I think it is more of a concern with her. in certain cases — premature infants. children with heart and lung problems. Pneumonia is a very heavy burden for a young body to carry and children at risk are often admitted to a hospital. Usually. How can we protect a child from getting RSV? Avoid close exposure of the infant to anybody who has cold symptoms. ask friends and family to restrain from kissing the baby. low-grade fever and sometimes ear infection as well. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 69 . and people with weakened immune systems — to treat RSV properly. SINCE RSV BRONCHIOLITIS IS CAUSED BY A VIRUS. In sum. However. flaring up of the nostrils while breathing and poor appetite. A paediatrician should be contacted if any of these symptoms appear. But Sadhvi does worry about her older school-going child might bring it home. lethargy. a decision will have to be made as to whether your child needs hospitalisation. never allow anything in the babyʼs mouth that has not been washed and never let the baby use the pacifier or other mouthtoy of another child. and have everybody wash their hands before handling the baby and after sneezing or coughing. RSV can be managed on an outpatient basis. although RSV infection is a rite of passage in childhood. Based on the paediatri cianʼs examination of the child and an assessment of the severity of the above symptoms. whistling or wheezing sounds when the child breathes.five days of infection and occurs throughout the year but is most prevalent during the winter months. How is RSV treated: Since RSV bronchiolitis is caused by a virus. Prevention is the greatest defence against RSV. signs of more serious infection may include difficult or rapid breathing. a comfortable environment is to be provided and the need for rest is imperative. with having a bigger sister. But. it is often not necessary to find out whether they have RSV or the common cold because the treatment is the same. cough. Comfort and rest: The child is ill and needs to conserve energy for fighting the virus. it is selflimiting and is cured in a week to 10 days and for most children and infants. In fact. a health-care provider may need to diagnose the illness. about two to five per cent of children and infants who develop RSV may require hospitalisation. However. there is no cure for the disease. What are known as respiratory syncytial viruses are dangerous for infants because they cause great difficulties in breathing and the lung infections that appear during flu are a cause of big concern to doctors. cough and congestion. there are a few practical things you can do to keep your child out of the hospital. “Now. Sometimes. PREVENTION IS THE GREATEST DEFENCE. because older children rarely need to come into the hospital for treatment. RSV spreads through the air and typically causes cold-like symptoms such as fever. the symptoms of RSV resemble that of a common cold which includes a runny nose. Children can get sick very quickly — what seems to be a simple cold one minute can suddenly become difficult breathing. runny nose. Keep the baby out of large crowds. However. the elderly. Symptoms of RSV: For most healthy children. THERE IS NO CURE FOR THE DISEASE. Hence. irritability. Generally. a health-care provider can use a nasal swab or nasal wash to diagnose RSV. During the acute phase of the childʼs viral illness.” says she.
Moist air/humidity: Humidity will help thin out secretions. Large amounts of fluids should be given to the baby. This is the reason why a vaccine for RSV is yet to be developed. particularly asthma. Watch out for the symptoms. A few children. Anyhow. Though Synapsis can prevent RSV to a certain extent. it is very likely that the symptoms will be much milder than the first time. rapid breathing and generally not feeling well. however. Children with more severe disease. an intravenous line (IV) into one of the childʼs veins is inserted. there is a growing body of evidence that suggests that those children who suffered from severe RSV complications may have a greater risk of future respiratory illnesses. parti cularly those requiring incubation (to insert a tube through the vocal cords and into the windpipe in order to provide a patientʼs lungs with oxygen) and admission in the intensive care unit. Many children will return home after being hospitalised for a few days. Hydration: It may be difficult for the baby to drink because of coughing. Keeping enough fluid on board is very important. however. How long will the baby be in the hospital? The length of hospitalisation will depend on the severity of the illness and the response to treatment. The medicine is given as a shot for five months prior to and during the winter months when RSV is most likely to occur. The doctor will make sure that enough oxygen enters the childʼs tissues. appear to be more susceptible to subsequent respiratory problems. Are there any long-term effects from RSV? While most kids will recover and do just fine. While an attack of RSV can be serious. but currently none exists. It will continue to be important to keep the childʼs secretions thin. it is still manageable in a majority of the cases. Oxygen: Many babies who get RSV require oxygen therapy during the acute phase of their illness. people can get RSV many times — even during a single season. special instructions will be given. If the child is having trouble drinking enough fluids. Do we have vaccines for RSV? Researchers are working towards a vaccine. . Bronchopulmonary hygiene and nebuliser treatments: Some children. For some reason RSV does not induce a very good immune response and so when we get it we do not develop very good protective antibodies to it. Many children continue to have some RSV symptoms of a lesser degree for a few weeks after their discharge from the hospital. Can the child get RSV again? As RSV does not give protection from future infections. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 Will the child need special care or treatments on returning home? The baby will continue to need more rest than usual. If the child should require oxygen at home. there is no way to predict how the virus will affect the child. but not all. making it easier for the child to cough up and expel. Although a child can get a second RSV infection. 70 Will RSV weaken my childʼs lungs and make them more susceptible to respiratory infection in the future? Most children recover completely and will handle their next respiratory infection with no more difficulty than the average child. as the fluid will help thin the secretions and keep the body strong. there is a medicine to prevent RSV infection called Synapsis. A humidifier may be kept in the babyʼs room for this purpose. Humidified air should be provided in a way that is least offensive to the child. Susceptibility may relate. may be hospitalised for several weeks. Since RSV is a virus and there is no cure. to some other underlying medical condition or allergy. exercise caution and We act accordingly. it is of no value in treating infections and will be administered only in very severe cases. will receive bronchopulmonary hygiene and medications through a nebuliser machine during their hospitalisation. which is recommended for use by the American Association of Pediatrics.
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What would I have done without a friend like you? You are a blessing for me. But this excellent habit of hers had become the bane of her life – thanks to her neighbour who had lost no time in milking every opportunity to borrow things from her. She had a vessel of milk. She felt frustrated with herself. But. to the walls. stretched her hands and yelled. She was going to set curds at night.” and hurried to open the door. by force of habit. that too. when you can easily say 72 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 .Short Story The Lender and the Borrower Don’t say “yes” when you want to say “no”. an onion. for free? Garima told her to wait and looked into her refrigerator. knowing full well that Rani had come to borrow some milk from her. she opened the door and asked Rani to come in. She rubbed the sleep from her eyes. hold on. she was lazy and disorganised. if she returned small things. She had finished her household chores at 2. When she peeped through the key-hole. she ended up giving Rani a full cup of milk. wouldn’t Garima feel belittled and hurt. ”Garima. Sheepishly. etc? Weren’t good neighbours there just to help each other in times of need? Though Rani was a housewife. Rani. she became even more complacent. She was a working woman and still found time to stock up on provisions so that she would not have to run around like her neighbour in times of need. and I’ve some guests who’ve suddenly turned up. She would not stock up on groceries and other household items. Why couldn’t she be a little more assertive and say ”No” when needed. So I came to borrow some milk from you. with a cup in her left hand. Can you lend me some milk? Hitesh (her husband) has told me to make tea for the guests. Garima. a cup of sugar or milk. Why buy things when they were readily available.“I am coming. Rani breezed out. “Well.” so saying. ‘Oh no. next door. mostly on a non-returnable basis.” ‘How very convenient. “Why pour out your anger into my ears. “Thanks a lot. Girish. Now. After all. It was Sunday. “But you are a curse for me. if she lent some to Rani. like two chillies. what’s the matter?” she asked. Reluctantly. By Priya Ramesh T he doorbell rang incessantly. he would laugh aloud and chide her. yawned loudly. ‘Who the hell is it?’ she wondered crossly. Did she really have to be a “yes woman” all the time? Whenever she vented her frustrations on her husband. I’ve run out of milk.” muttered Garima.30 pm and had settled into her customary siesta. after she left. as she couldn’t refuse anyone anything. she would be short of milk for her evening tea or for her curds! She would have to go to the store and again buy milk. and would invariably run out of things when she needed them the most. Her husband had gone to meet his friend. not again!’ she sighed. Rani said. she was disturbed to see that it was her pesky neighbour. When she realised that Garima readily gave her things when she asked for them. Garima was woken up from her deep slumber with a rude jolt.’ thought Garima.
“I’ve to make the right impression. kotwal ko daante. I want to show that we are She only hoped that Rani wouldn’t go to town with their equals. Rani came and borrowed a Garima.” does not taste delicious without boiled felt weird. Surely. She Garima squirmed. “Oh. I’m so sorry. You never have time that you also don’t have it in your stock. for change. joked. next time when she comes asking for something. after three reminders. I was from Rani. when she herself was going to wear the husband. for a Garima was disgusted with herself.” gone to ask for in Hindi. let alone ‘The cunning Rani.” “Well. can you lend me some onions? I didn’t pull it off. muttered “Okay. that ‘Man sorry. with her husband’s Meanwhile. she to spend with mere mortals like us! So what brings will not repeat her activity then. while lying to her. I can’t tell lies. as she had never gone to hat evening when she told her husband about ask for anything from anybody. you getting old. Her eyes roamed around and widened as they spotted their target.” Garima ‘telling lies. She gave up all pretence guess! of sweetness and demanded things from her instead The set was returned to Garima only the next of requesting for them! It had become her birthright week. I don’t want. I’ve run out of potatoes too. if not in official hierarchy. much to her chagrin. missing! This fact was noticed by Garima only two When she discussed this vexed issue with her days later.” she said.” She too couldn’t repress her smile.”she said. into her kitchen. she knocked on the door of Rani’s apartment. just isn’t within me! So much for Girish’s added sarcastically. Little did she realise then. Rani appeared nonchalant. One day. which. she falsely gushed. what a pity! looked forward to her neighbour’s next ‘borrowing Actually. that too. saying that she had to go platform!” to her husband’s boss’s house for a party. how nice to see you here. Why do you allow some people to always take you for a ride?” Garima realised the wisdom in his argument but. Watch her reaction then!” Garima felt as if he had shown her a ray of hope. Please. a Rani must appear like a Rani. Simply don’t buy them. “I’ve a great idea. dear. to borrow knocked on the last time when she had caught Garima some potatoes.” she gushed unnecessarily.” her blatant lies. her new-found confidence. as they appeared to “Some harmless fibbing is good for health. knowing that you would be fasting?” anybody. knowing her. T Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 73 . Whether the import of the remark was lost on her. anything from trying to scold the policeman for his fault. “Come on.” he be rotten. I’ll return the onions to you tomorrow. Rani countered Garima. was not too far away some from you. idea. in status. referring to the Rani came late one evening.” she remarked. Maybe. “Tomorrow is Thursday. ‘It served me right’. with two stones almost to borrow things from Garima. “Yes. say “Oh. One day. Sago khichadi apartment. Rani had proprietorially sauntered plan. She felt weird. she thought. pleasantly surprised at the building had surely turned the tables neatly on her. you do stock up well! I’m in the future. Borrow them from Rani. And I mean ‘really’!” she added to be true in her case. buy them at the market today. but I really don’t have any onions to proposes and god disposes’ would prove lend you. door of Rani’s red-handed. ‘Rani by name. woebegone expression. he told her to do ‘tit for tat’. In fact. and both of us are fasting. “Take as many as you see. when I buy a fresh stock. The When Rani opened the door. ended up obliging her neighbour each time. or Garima noticed that Rani became increasingly whether she feigned ignorance. in thus turning the tables on him! Well. want to appear needy. she bitchily as an after-thought. but a beggar in disguise!’ going to ask you to lend me some. After all. this was potatoes in it. but let me see whether I can you here?” “Please. as and beat a hasty retreat. having fallen in so unwittingly. “I’m husband. Ulta some potatoes? It’s too late to go out and chor. next time. She eagerly Rani appeared crestfallen. a popular saying buy some. Hitesh’s promotion is due next month. can you lend me she had never what they meant.T we will be running out of stock of essential items. “Henceforth ‘No’? You are so firm in other matters. She did as he said. he felt sorry on seeing her alone from Rani. in the building let the lending of milk. which meant that the thief was “Why couldn’t you stock them earlier. it’s just unlike you to have forgotten that necklace and earring set of American you have plenty of potatoes under the kitchen diamonds. hat very evening.’ she thought bitterly.’ she fumed. from her. “By the way. Garima could only brazen after that incident. when they said. I was just about to come over and ask for session’. to break the impasse. with her Garima flushed red with embarrassment.
we just cannot afford to give away our spare gas cylinder to anyone. You didn’t inform me about it. “I can see that Rani is disturbing your peace of mind. Garima and Girish looked at each other. perhaps. He wanted to see how she’d tackle this situation. His heart went out to his innocent and guileless wife. hence are not even able to take the delivery when the delivery boy comes home. what’s today’s story?” he asked her gently.” T hen. We’ll replace it when ours is delivered home. Hence. Or maybe. You’re deliberately lying so that you can extract a payment for the replacement of the stones from me.” “Garima. “I maintain my things so meticulously. can you give it to us. When Girish came home in the evening. I can’t give the spare cylinder to you. and she blurted out the entire episode about the ‘set’. not even to you. Don’t meekly go back on your resolve. and also whether his ‘talking to’ had had any material effect on his meek wife. he is a passive accomplice. if you are not able to put your knowledge into practice? I challenge you to say ‘no’ forcefully and really mean it. Rani came to ask for her spare. She decided to confront Rani. without even the courtesy of apologising for her carelessness.set. listen to me carefully.” Girish silently applauded Garima’s performance. “You say ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’! Stop doing it. we’ll ask someone else. You’ve nothing to lose. Even he was taken aback. but the flame suddenly extinguished from the stove. he wants to maintain peace at home by not taming the shrew! But I think we have both had it. and this dame damaged it in two hours. As a result. she had brought her hubby Hitesh along for moral support. when he heard his wife say softly but firmly. The depot is 5 km. After all. and the tact with which she had handled this delicate situation. that she is not welcome here. I had given you the necklace with all stones intact in the setting. Rani. you know that. I know that the ideas which I’ve given you earlier have backfired. “Please. why don’t you just refuse her outright? You know what your problem is?” As Garima looked intently at him. Just stop interacting with Rani and get the message subtly across. it’s all right. if not friendly. relations with our neighbours. away and their delivery is erratic. burst out laughing. I will also be relieved. for an outing. he saw that Garima’s face appeared puffy and tearful. the redfaced duo and walked away. “Well. in between huge racking sobs.” This statement set off a torrent of tears from Garima’s eyes. one day. Why did she have to be such a sucker? “Garima. when you We want to say ‘no’!” 74 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . I’ve rolled the chappatis. It’s always best to be on cordial. Garima had not checked to see whether the set was in order. if you wish. Better still.” said. He was also ready to take his neighbours head-on in the event of any unpleasantness. Rani had come ’fortified’ with her hubby’s support! “No.” T his accusation was too much for Garima to handle. and chorused. filled gas cylinder. But it was basically because I didn’t want to pick a quarrel with our neighbours on flimsy pretexts. Besides. “Don’t say ‘yes’. Fearing that Garima would refuse her request. two stones are missing from the necklace. he said. She simply burst into tears and went home. But I’m sorry. as I may be running out of the existing cylinder’s gas supply any time now. After Rani had handed over the box. Now she rued the fact. even have your lunch here today. Maybe. I’m sure I returned the set to you with all the stones intact. Needless to say. This was really the last straw! In my opinion. except. I’ve often seen you reading that book. you’re lying. a pest! I assure you that that will be good riddance of bad rubbish. “Rani. What good is it.” she said. Girish had come to take his place beside his wife. I had preserved that set for 15 years. “You can bake your chappatis on our gas-stove. I’ve also realised that Rani’s husband is equally at fault. Your life will be more happy and peaceful. ‘Honesty is the best policy’. He observes his wife’s obnoxious behavior but doesn’t prevent her from continuing to do so. we are both working.” By now.
On our being in love. Even when I never wanted To let you go? You kept telling me That it was for our good But I am still not sure How it could have been that way. But the more I pushed you out. Yes.Searching for you in the emptiness Do you remember that dawn. my love? I just wish I see you once. I want these birds and flowers. the birds are up and singing. Fate separated us. A vacuum that I struggled to fill. – Roy Cherian. And that filled us with hopes too. I look around. We did not speak. That our love is truly eternal. But our eyes debated with each other. I can sense the winds dancing for us. Why did you push me and leave me. darling. And then I stopped travelling. We heard the birds sing. I get the scent of you. And we were no more Flowers in the same garden. I travelled. When the soft breeze brushes past me. The flowers saw me searching for you. I can hear the same sweet chirps at dawn. But they tell me That they did only hear you sing. And the leaves and winds to know. As I could not stop. From the same smooth rustle of the leaves. I ask the birds whether they saw you. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 75 . The flowers bloomed and smiled at us. We drifted far away. When we sat alone near the brook Listening to the trickling waters? We sensed the dance of the winds From the smooth rustle of the leaves. In the emptiness that you left me. Ever wanted to be. I felt a hollow. To adorn gardens where we never. Tamil Nadu. Being somewhere near. I sang and wrote. darling. And told me that you cannot be very far. Just once before I leave this earth. When you left me. I read. Where are you. but find you nowhere though. And we knew for sure That we could never be away From each other any more. I still keep searching for you in my heart. And saw them fly out Into the new day with new hopes. So that I could get you out of me. The more you kept coming back. My heart travelling to you.
Nature offers a wide variety of fruits and vegetables in summer that can really help you stay cool. Serve chilled. juices. milk or yogurt and served chilled are always a welcome drink in the sweltering heat. Here is how to make it: 2 cups pulp or boiled raw mangoes (medium sized) 11/2 cups fresh mint leaves (chopped) COOL WATERMELON SLUSH INGREDIENTS: 11/2 cups deseeded watermelon (cut into cubes) Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Put shaved ice or cubes in a tall glass. T 76 Recipes for cool liquid refreshments. apricots. Fruits and vegetables make a healthy way to do that and keep you refreshed and less drained out during these months. Add enough water to make the drink up to 1 litre. BANANA SMOOTHIE WITH ORANGE. litchis. High in water content and rich in nutrients. calcium. musk melons. Put all the ingredients except shaved ice in a blender and blend well. citrus fruits. Fruits are a delight for each of us in sweltering heat. the king of fruits.COOL TREATS TO BEAT 2 tsp roasted cumin powder black salt to taste sugar to taste (optional) METHOD Blend all the ingredients well in a blender. watermelons. they offer excellent choices as they replenish lost nutrients and keep you well hydrated. Mangoes have been the favourite fruit of Indians of all ages. These pulpy fruits can be eaten raw or blended with milk and yogurt to make nutritious and tasty smoothies. Pour the smoothie over the shaved ice and serve. A nutritious bowl of refreshing fruits: The fruit dessert is not only delicious. zinc and selenium. is what comes to mind with the start of the summer season. By Dr Aparna Pradhan THE HEAT AAM PANNA INGREDIENTS: he best mantra to fight summer heat is to stay cool and well hydrated. The exotic fruit is a healthy treat supplying an impressive amount of vitamins and minerals like iron. peaches. plums and strawberries are excellent choices to beat the heat. potassium. nutritious and healthy but also great for refreshing and beating the summer heat. A glass of chilled aam panna before going out in the sun can beat the scorching heat and prevent heat stroke. magnesium. Fruits like mangoes. Turn to nature for relief from the scorching summer heat. Here are a few refreshing cool treats to overcome the summer heat: Mango to beat the heat: Mango. Healthy treats made by using fruit. Raw mangoes can be used to make aam panna and ripe mangoes can be used to serve refreshing mango lassi and mangoshake. MANGO AND FIGS INGREDIENTS: 6-8 fresh or dried figs 1 cup orange juice 3 frozen bananas 1/ cup mangoes 2 1 cup milk 1/ cup shaved ice 2 METHOD Soak the dried figs in milk for half an hour.
Stir in Roohafza and pour into the glass and top with honey. add milk and blend well. Refresh with lemon: Who will refuse a glass of refreshing lemonade when it comes to quenching thirst and hydrating oneself on a sunny day? MANGO LASSI/MANGO SHAKE INGREDIENTS: 1 cup ripe mangoes (cut or pulp) 1 cup yogurt sugar to taste (optional) 1 tsp honey 1 tsp roohafza METHOD Blend mangoes. put cut cubes of watermelon. low calories make watermelon the most soughtafter fruit in summer. The juicy fruit can give relief to the parched throat. Add other ingredients and chill in the refrigerator. rich electrolytes and. Mangoshakes: Instead of yogurt. DELICIOUS STRAWBERRY SMOOTHIE INGREDIENTS: 1 cup milk 1 cup frozen yogurt/icecream 1/ cup strawberries 2 shaved ice (optional) METHOD Put all the ingredients in a blender and feel refreshed with the output of a strawberry smoothie. High water content. Treat yourself to a bowl of chilled watermelon cubes. Enjoy the chilled dessert. above all. REFRESHING WATERMELON DELIGHT INGREDIENTS: 1 bowl deseeded watermelon (cut into cubes) 1 tsp Roohafza 2-3 tsp rose syrup shaved ice (optional) 1 tsp honey a few fresh rose petals 2 tbsp mint leaves (finely chopped) METHOD In a bowl. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 77 .2-3 tsp rose syrup 1 cup shaved ice 1/ cup sugar 4 honey to taste (optional) mint leaves (chopped fine) METHOD Blend all the ingredients in a blender and serve chilled. Stay hydrated and cool with watermelon: Watermelon is natureʼs perfect gift to keep you cool and refreshed on a sunny day. Refrigerate for an hour and serve chilled. yogurt and sugar in a blender.
The nutritious creamy smoothies are great for replenishing lost electrolytes as they deliver a whopping supply of potassium and other minerals. creamy banana smoothies are liked by people of all ages. Take a tall glass and fill it up with shaved 78 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . add honey and Roohafza to it and pour over cut fruits kept in a bowl. oranges. Stay cool. strawberries are a dieterʼs first choice. shaved ice and chilled milk or icecream. mangoes and apricots to make delightfully cooling smoothies. Enjoy delicious strawberry smoothies to stay cool and refreshed. is not only delicious but also great for replenishing the electrolytes lost due to excessive sweating in summers. FRUIT DESSERT INGREDIENTS: Fruits: mangoes. Stir and place a few strawberry slices and serve the chilled drink. figs. Refrigerate for two to three hours and serve the chilled dessert. ice or ice-cubes. Low in calories (only 45/cup) and high in vitamins and minerals. bananas. melon. To enhance the taste add vanilla essence or Roohafza. pineapple. orange and lemon juice with honey in a shaker and shake well for 5 minutes. Pour the contents of the juice mixture over icecubes and top it with soda. Just take the fruit of your choice and combine with frozen bananas. Add shaved ice and serve a refreshing chilled drink that will beat the heat. watermelon. Bananas can be combined well with plums. We STRAWBERRY COOL PUNCH INGREDIENTS: 1 cup fresh strawberry (pureed or extract) 1 cup orange juice 2 tsp lemon juice 50 ml club soda 2 tbsp honey (optional) For garnishing: fresh strawberries shaved ice/ice cubes METHOD Put strawberry puree.LEMON MINT DELIGHT INGREDIENTS: 2 lemons 1/ cup mint leaves 2 1 tsp roasted cumin powder 1/ tsp black salt 2 sugar powder to taste METHOD Squeeze the juice of lemons and put all the ingredients along with juice in a blender. Choose a tasty way to beat the summer heat. Banana for replenishing lost electrolytes: The sweet. Last but not least. grapes (cut into cubes) 2 tbsp Roohafza 1 tsp honey 1 cup frozen yogurt/ice cream METHOD Beat the yogurt/icecream. plums. drink enough water to stay hydrated. figs. Keep cool with strawberry delights: Strawberry. the tiny fruit. peaches. refreshed and healthy this summer with the fruit delights. They not only keep you full for a longer time but also help you beat the summer heat.
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Things have come to such a pass that people are proposing the Bharat Ratna for a cricketer even forgetting that this game was introduced to our country for the stateʼs princes to make them busy for weeks together so that they may have little time to ponder over the slavery of the country. He has shares worth ` 6 crore of famous companies of the country. A person is a head teacher in a THINGS HAVE COME TO SUCH A PASS THAT PEOPLE ARE PROPOSING THE BHARAT RATNA FOR A CRICKETER EVEN FORGETTING THAT THIS GAME WAS INTRODUCED TO OUR COUNTRY FOR THE STATE’S PRINCES TO MAKE THEM BUSY FOR WEEKS TOGETHER. His wife runs her own private school. pithoo. He sponsored dozens of business persons after getting a fair share likely to be earned out of those deals. wrestling. As a result. The tendency has given birth to a feeling in the minds of our youths that only a huge amount of money is a worthwhile achievement in life. tree climbing. in a trust in his name. Almost all students who have the least chance of getting through by fair means are on the roll of the school run by his wife. He has ` 10 crore in his bank accounts. He sleeps with young girls. This game has slipped to the village streets and mountain tops. Our Prime Minister does not lag behind in this praise without realising that this game is the symbol of slavery and is played only in those countries which were slaves of Britain. A high-ranking officer of the government of India has several accounts in banks in the names of his siblings in which ` 20 crore or so is placed. This has given birth . A very famous swami has several marble-floored ashrams at several places in several countries.ULTA-PULTA INDIA A 80 Did the martyrs have dreams for such a Bharat? By Sumar Chand government school. He is a respectable teacher of this country – a builder of the nation! This is the sum total of the country we have made after more than 60 years of independence from Britain. His total worth is roughly assessed to the extent of ` 10 crore. ka danka. he manages the mass copying after pleasing the teachers on duty there during exams. jumps are all mortgaged to cricket. person has a credit card worth ` 10 lakh. He also has this amount in his foreign bank. He also has a handsome amount. He is a very respectable neta in his area. He has benami property worth ` 50 crore. The newborn are named after such heroes. He is a respectable person of our country. cricket has spoiled our indigenous games used to be played by the youths. tug of war. Our virtuous young persons are those who are recruited by famous companies on very fat salaries. guli danda. He manages to misuse more than 50 per cent of the school funds. A leader spent ` 10 crore to be in the Lok Sabha. He prescribes guides for the students after securing 50 per cent of the cost price. say ` 500 crore. He undertakes their getting through. He manages to pocket a portion of his development fund. He possesses a rich kitty of ` 200 crore. Kabaddi. He is a respectable officer of this country. For this. He has property worth ` 80 crore in fictitious names. free of cost without any extra infrastructure. Even our Lok Sabha congratulates the cricketers. races. He also managed to deposit a sum of ` 80 crore in foreign banks. The idols for our young generation are either the cinema heroes or the cricketers. Money-mindedness is the only virtue worth acquiring.
a ninth class boy killed his classmate. The morning newspapers are full of crime news. a young girl and her lover took poison. respect for the elders and love for the country. Main roads are blocked for a minor cause. We 81 . the brother was the mastermind behind the murder of his younger brother. the boy killed his father for property. the girl eloped with her paramour. In short. dacoity in a jewellerʼs showroom. Consequently crimes have flourished. Another damaging trend is also in vogue.6 lakh was looted from a petrol pump. There are dharnas on the national highways for indefinite periods. the boy took poison after getting low marks. love for our own. the father had sex with his six-year-old daughter. bridegroomʼs younger brother was killed by shooting for joy. the young couple was found hanging. Even doctors and the teachers are habituated to striking work. Such a social environment has buried deep all real virtues such as truthfulness. Thus huge property of the nation is burnt daily and railway working is disrupted causing unassessable loss to the exchequer. a mother killed her three children and committed suicide. Let us have a look at frequent news: The father killed his son. Did the martyrs dream of such a country? Have their sacrifices not been put to naught. ` 3. tolerance. a vendor was killed for a rupee. the name is India. Road rages take place daily. the bank cashier was looted at gunpoint. respect for social norms. The most highly-paid airline employees resort to strike. a ninth-class girl got pregnant by her classmate etc. Police face brickbats due to a small happening. telling lies and selfishness. rape in the running car. Even the protesters sit on the railway tracks for weeks together and the administration looks the other want putting the travellers to trouble. indiscipline.to cheating. If a policeman rebukes a bus driver for a major wrong the whole bus depot fleet strike work. wife got her husband killed with the help of her lover. All the TV channels are busy showing the unending chain of daily crimes. Going on strike by the government employees has become the normal happening. an MBA was behind the looting of ` 40 lakh. Is there anyone to give idea for the new generation? Let us ponder. which in turn has caused frustration. Vehicles are set on fire after an accident.
. who was listening to the conversation. I know her too well and. “Well.” grinned the daughter..” 82 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . the old memories came gusting in and led her thoughts to that fateful night 15 years ago. ma. the girl knows what she wants. “Maybe.” replied Nishi in amusement. Tulika’s. much to her disappointment.Short Story The decision Revelations at a wedding. ma. she had demanded to be married to the “man she loved. “Well then. declaring. It was Pronoy at the other end. It was. the second ‘love marriage’ in their orthodox family. I’d hear nothing until masi comes. We are going to rent a house in the city. Bala.” “Mark?” If being in love wasn’t enough. The night when Tulika. masi would be the last person on earth to advise me otherwise. “Don’t hurry up with your decision. it’s all a matter of adjustment. Nishu. Nishi was getting married to her childhood sweetheart. after a few months. I can’t imagine how you survived dad’s big family for so long. I guess you were lucky. not a word out of your mouth. The whole family was in turmoil when. By Nandini Kumar I t’s settled. let masi come. The 10-year gap between the sisters somehow seemed to stretch a decade more. besides. had boldly marched into her room. mamma. blushing. Pronoy. I’m sure! A life of luxury in the USA. the man being loved was white and knew nothing about their culture. finally had her turn.” Nishi’s cell phone suddenly rang in midst of her declaration and. “Not everyone is as selfless as you. an American husband granting all her wishes and a super-cool career. “I wasn’t lucky. mum. after all. seemed a little saddened by the decision. Bala.” “Freedom! That’s what you’ll hear. until then. “I’m in love!” How young she looked. ‘How stupid. it wasn’t a surprise that she was to follow in their footsteps. No one had ever seen Tulika’s gallant behaviour till then. I won’t say a word after it but. Even buaji didn’t say a word about it. let her say that.” “Oh.” Nishi’s mother. as if something had possessed her. in a fortnight and. “Are you insane?” Bala had replied. The first being Bala’s younger sister.’ Bala had thought but something in her little sister had changed. she’s not as glued to the clan as you are. Why would she ever want me to settle for anything less than that? Mark my words. like everyone else in your family.” buaji. she went out to answer it. with most of her friends living without their families after marriage. but that’s because I’m in love! Wait till you see Mark.” declared Nishi confidently.
Vinod’s over when Tulika’s plane landed at the dig up absence so much. After a long time. The scolding. bride’s room. “I waited for you for so Pronoy!” business deal. Bala “Err. airport. finalising some important sight of her aunt. but always been more like another daughter to now with her sister and brother-in-law her. But now. “It looks more beautiful than ours a ‘job’ always left Bala baffled. kiddo. her own.. it’s the parents’ decision.?” flustered. jumping with joy. masi!” shrieked Nishi on catching about Mr country.” “Such a shameless girl” the elders cried out in This was Bala’s way of showing affection – and one voice. Her job is very hectic “Oh. her voice barely audible in the music “Is someone getting married around here?” said blared by the band. was unmoved. I think. the house looks splendid!” declared Tulika you know. he house was full of people. how can Mark miss the occasion? He would witness the wedding of the youngest member of be arriving soon. Nishu or I’ll kill you!” it was Bala’s turn to but join in the leaving Bala to do all the preparations on embrace her little sister. I think the food is ready. the wedding day had arrived. who had come from all parts of the world to Nishu. ‘The only unimportant thing in his schedule was his daughter’s “Where’s Mark?” and Nishi wedding. let’s see what the knew she could rest. aloo ke parathe.’ Bala thought sadly. Tulika laughed important client. The words of pity them. obliging some other long!” Nishi clasped her in excitement. it feels so good to be home! Don’t panic. and then looked around. But I’ll have A week passed and the wait was finally enough time to control of almost everything and somehow Bala didn’t feel her husband.” giggled the niece. smart! But I’ll have enough time to dig up have claim over. you aren’t ready.” Tulika was a writer and explaining it as on reaching it. “In a week or so..confused who’s the older one in you two. “But I She didn’t realise for a moment that she was know what’s for lunch. most.. had a meeting with his publisher. and why do you have to wait for the advice of a person who ran away with a white man. squeezing it a little as she always did when Bala shivered at the thought. phone calls to make. Mark’s arrival the new cook is up to today. Everyone’s in her mind with that of the grown-up one she was asking for you downstairs. she was worried. didn’t affect either of Tulika.. he took the kitchen. Vinod was in some other “Oh. left the question for brought her back to the present. started enjoying the wedding ceremonies and. as the laughter only grew louder. She was quite upset at first. however. in a state of panic.” Tulika rushed into the looking at now. knowing “Ah. He was “Call him uncle. “One and the same thing. “Oh. another time. smart! next day was a blessing too. everything As always. are you two crying? What’s the matter?” “None that I know of. the aunt teasingly. With his what was to follow.” their family. the sister who had laughter too. “Oh. sake. Tulika gave her an inquiring look “When is Tulika coming?” buaji’s sudden enquiry but. Bala took Tulika’s hand while walking out of the Finally. buaji. It had been years since they had met. hard look together. I hope we’re not getting old. The dresses to choose. her tiny angel in her hands for the first time. “Our little girl is becoming a married woman anyway?” now. The young ones. looking at the excited Nishi. “And Mark will kill her if she did!” Tulika replied before they knew it. But why am I saying this to you when your confirm – everything made her more and more own girl. menus to Choosing a man is as shameless as running away finalise. everything about Mr Pronoy!” Tulika laughed and A dream the mother sees the moment she holds Nishi couldn’t help but join in the laughter too.” was all around as they entered the house. looked on my wedding!” she winked with “Hmm. the family agreed but on one condition. The day “Oh. even I’m T Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 83 . got up and rushed to enthusiasm and broken Hindi. here. when Tulika was there. didi!” merriment “She didn’t run away.” Bala. although sympathetic. the whole family was Tulika smiled and gave Nishi a long. or slander were the same to her. hugging both of them. however. New Delhi airport. couldn’t help scheduled to arrive on the wedding day. hotel booking to with him. young and old. for goodness. amusement.” witnessing the moment only mothers and daughters “Ah. why not? – she was the one who loved her sister the didn’t utter a word. trying to replace the picture of the small girl she had “Nishu. a girl doesn’t tell who There was so much work to do that it had left Bala she wants to marry. be quiet you two! Sometimes.
just like you did masi. “Freedom? Are you kidding me?” dressed. Why didn’t you tell me this earlier? I thought you ulika realised it as she watched Nishi cuddled considered me old enough!” up in Bala’s arms. away from the have saved her from that terrible life she family. She looked at Bala who was sitting in complete ulika continued gravely. on the other hand. Tears rolled down inevitably from something terribly wrong by falling in love. we did father accepted my plea of being married live in Goa for a couple of years before to Mark. “Yes. “I was disowned by my father.” me this?” Nishi was agitated. masi. I have never been “Well. we were both starting our careers as writers.” misconception for a long time.” Bala “Wait a minute. Mark worked between writing his “Mummy. You her eyes too. I “Why? Is she going out a on pilgrimage after this didn’t have the courage to stand by her. as if she was that tiny baby “Nishu. Let’s get you you?” She was almost pleading now. and it required hard work.” me and ordered me to go away. had denied taking the smiled. “Ma. both didn’t tell you anything. What happened book. instead. not the right one. noticing it. but it was the only thing left What wrong did you do? Why didn’t mum ever tell to do. Nishu.” marriage. “It was different there. “But it’s not the done the right thing. She had shaken the family. didn’t you? “But it’s not That’s exactly what I want too. and how much I wanted their acceptance. I worked part time at Bala didn’t reply. It was very depressing in the first year of our after masi’s wedding? Answer me. My marriage to your she nudged Nishi with a smile. tears in her eyes. My marriage to your dad was sweep that man of yours off his feet. I broke the spell. we decided to family leave you? Were they out of their minds? move on. many places. silence too.T wedding. I need an answer. he never said a word about it and. quite amused. then why did you leave and decided to move to Goa. there’s his old woman to be wooed too. didn’t mummy tell you? We are Nishi was able to forgive myself. Let’s get you dressed. thought this all my life and sadly lived in the Besides. We moved to New York. However incredible it looked to time to talk about all this. of the family members said anything as he disowned I don’t suppose you know anything. if we have to that I had no answer. I know it and so does everyone. I thought I could going to live on our own.” Nishi Tulika. dad was a comfortable one. to Mark’s city. then listen: Tulika’s tone grew serious. the silence. “Let’s not get back to you and Mark went off to live in Goa for a conversation. this is the time. I’ve forgotten those years in USA. I wanted to leave your family suddenly?” everything. That’s why I marriage? Lucky you!” didn’t tell you anything. Mark. noticing stood there. doll. decision of our parents. We lived here in Nishi was confused now and.” Tulika finally an arranged one and that was the right thing to do. Tears were flowing from their eyes. you didn’t want freedom. It was I “Wait. I want to know. ‘Why did I think that?’ and to “Let’s get you dressed up. Just like I did? What and. doll.” For two years we tried to convince them and. I didn’t do anything about it. Tulika Nishi. “Well.” confused now had had when she got married. but Mark knew how much I loved my Tulika was silent for some time. di. what looked at Tulika trying to figure out why about all this. none leaving for the USA.” kept on taking all the blame from my family. In fact. it seems just like yesterday when she had dreamed. and it’s not a good time to discuss it at all.” “But I want to know. if you’re adamant. finally she broke family. Tulika Delhi for a while trying to convince them that we had suddenly changed the conversation. masi. He thought the reason was the sudden “Father sent Tulika away the very day after her she thought would never come and finally when it comes. You wanted freedom. kid. It’s okay — look at the wonderful couple of years before leaving for the life I’v had. “There’s hardly any time left. that’s why I again. I don’t have to worry about that. why didn’t you tell me?” Nishi shrieked. If who couldn’t take insults to my husband any longer. would have asked. but that was all he accepted. changed the broke the silence. suddenly A long minute passed before Tulika “Well. happened when nanaji didn’t accept her masi still wasn’t impressed.” “Well. I thought Tulika had done happy yet so sad. that. looking at are you talking about?” Tulika’s it.” Nishi the time to talk Goa. but I don’t think you know why.” “What? Why on earth would nanu do such a thing? Answer me you two or I won’t get ready. amusement suddenly vanished. T 84 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . when “What? You’re joking – right? Why would the no one in the family was moved. It was difficult.
aunty. Nishi was crying too. don’t doubt it a bit. Nishi smiled and nodded as she stepped out of the house with her husband by her side. Everyone was in tears. “What?” Tulika was totally puzzled now. the phere had taken place. “Promise me you’ll come to visit me every day at my home as long as you are here. The decision is made. “Do give us your new address.change of the country and its customs which were taking its toll on me. giving advice. But I couldn’t come back. The wedding was a grand one. Tulika nodded. almost shouting. with two families coming together to celebrate the love of their young ones. Tulika understood what Nishi meant. And then I thought that I couldn’t come back to them. the farewell of the bride. “So.” “Don’t you know it?” Tulika shook her head in confusion. Nishi said in a low voice. I didn’t get the hot sweet tea that we are so used to in our house. and he didn’t know what I was going through since he never cared much about his own family. Tears started falling from their eyes. where dada.” said Tulika and wiped off her tears. It was because of Mark that I survived. dadi were always there in times of trouble and cousins in times of fun. But I knew better. Nishu. hugging her mother and father (who had finally made it to the wedding).” Bala. which in your dictionary means freedom. and it was time for the vidai. I missed the throng of people who were always around me. Nishi had decided to live with Pronoy’s family. I didn’t care if I had to make lunch for 10 people or arrange for beds if half of them decided to stay back. Hearing this. as if out of a dream. There were so many ceremonies that kept everyone on their feet and. “Baraat is here! Everyone is looking for you. who was sitting at the corner of her bed. Goodness knows. masi.” she winked. I never wanted to be alone. honey. thinking someone was there with me. That was the thought that killed my spirit every day. “Did I miss something?” it was Mark’s turn to get confused now. suggestions. I wanted a lively home. Mark.” smiling. Both aunt and niece hugged each other for a long time. I got used to coming home to a wagging dog and cold food. but he couldn’t always be there with me. Eventually. Nishu. before they knew it. She continued. We Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 85 . The whole place seemed blessed.” S uddenly.” replied Mark. She hugged the niece and signalled her to get ready. she proceeded to her new home. “I don’t want cold food and wagging dogs. I longed for my home. “Why do you look so confused?” There was a hint of mischief on Nishi’s face. who smiled and hugged her.” she smiled trying to lighten the atmosphere: “I kept the television switched on the whole day. the people around me didn’t matter as much the people with me mattered. I’m sure. not crying but smiling contently. It all made me tough. not alone. her eyes not seeing anything. Then. warnings and what not.” Tulika gave a wry smile looking at Nishi. a girl burst open the door.” “Of course. hugging Nishi again and again. I got used to the loneliness. “Some other time. I survived that troubled time and miraculously came out unscathed. got up and rushed out. He was the only support in my life. but I didn’t want to be tough. giggling. The big place where there were always aunts and uncles around. she came to Mark and Tulika. Crying. for a long time. telling her things. “Oh my goodness. and Bala who was looking out of the window. let’s get you dressed now or you’ll be sitting there in your T-shirt and jeans.
Well. otherwise they might make her life – how do I say it? – hell! Let me share one such experience with you.ouch and kneading at the same time.... But at the background I could hear my own voice saying.. My husband had brought the required ingredients and now I was ready.oh goodness. now what to do? I had to finish it quickly to make it smooth. otherwise the dough won't be smooth. The first thing I needed to do was boil some water and as soon as it started boiling. My heart suddenly became heavy but I was pretending to be excited. just taichin rice flour. ʻHow will you do it? ʻHOW WILL YOU DO IT?ʼ Now this was a test all right and I had no intention of failing. It didn't turn out how I had imagined.. It was my sister-in-lawʼs nineth month of pregnancy and we were supposed to hold a ceremony. I started screaming and jumping ouch. All the hard work. But the dish I was allotted was the most difficult – I had to make yomaris. if I wasted my time. To top it all. There is no room for error.. the baby will drool. But it has to be made with great care. “Oh I will do it! Itʼs just a piece of cake. sesame seeds and molasses. I won't be able to make it in time. anything for my sweet sister-in-law”. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 I came home from office early and set to work immediately because I knew. Who . I had never made them in my entire life.Comic interlude in the kitchen. to avoid that from happening we prepare the motherʼs favourite dishes so that she gets to eat all that she wants... Everybody expects you to perform your task with perfection. We call it dahi chiuwda khuwaune. But that is the custom.. I was done but the dough had some roughness about it. It is actually a ceremony in which we prepare different dishes and offer them to the pregnant woman. I would have to pour it into the rice flour and start kneading immediately. The next day was the main day. It doesn't need many ingredients. I poured the water and started kneading. Finally.. By Yojana Shrestha TASK AT HAND B 86 eing a daughter-in-law comes with a lot of responsibilities.ouch. just to stop the baby from drooling! Getting back. It is a special dish of our community. Then I had to cover it with a cloth so that the heat remained intact. The number should be 108 pieces! I donʼt know who determined it.OUCH! The first sensation of the boiling water startled me. My hand started to burn. This puts a lot of pressure on the daughter-in-law and she goes to all extents to fulfil the family membersʼ wishes and make them happy. It is believed that if the pregnant woman does not eat all that she wants. everybody was excited and offered to make one dish each so that it would be easier for me (how nice of them).
cares? At least, I was done kneading. Then I heated the molasses and added some sesame seed. This mixture became thick, so I added water (which later my mom told me that I was NOT SUPPOSED to do). As a consequence the mixture became extremely thin. I was wondering whether the outer cover could hold such a thin mixture. But who cares? I was done making it. Now, I had to make the external structure of the yomari. I had to take a small piece from the dough, let it go round and round on my palms and slowly start making a hole with my index finger and press it until it becomes like...like...a mouse and it also needed to have a tail! I wonder who thought of this design! Once it was done, I had to pour the molasses and sesame mixture into it, close the top, and give it two ears, then steam and cook it. Seems simple doesnʼt it?
and was dripping. I placed them on a plate, let them cool, but my mind was far from being cool. Maybe they would taste good...now that was my last hope so I took a piece and put it in my mouth. Oh goodness! what was it inside my mouth? It was sticky and I was unable to chew! Chew I say? I was not able to open my mouth because it just got stuck between my upper teeth and lower teeth like a chewing gum! I inserted my finger and removed every bit of it. I rinsed my mouth a couple of times. Now I was mad, really mad – but what could I do? With my index finger I started poking them, then the pokes turned into slaps and finally I couldn't resist it, so I squeezed them with my
NOT SO SIMPLE
Well it was not that simple for me. I started to pour the molasses and to my dismay the external structure cracked and the mixture started to seep. I hurriedly closed the top and put it aside. I looked at it, for a while something was wrong – but what? Maybe my inexperienced hands had made a mistake on the structure. I took a deep breath and took another piece. This time I was gentler and very careful – but lo! the same thing happened again, the mixture seeped. Was the mixture too thin? But now, I couldn't do anything about it as I had no more molasses to add. It was already 10 pm – no use asking my hubby buy it now as the shops would be closed. Maybe I was being a perfectionist! Maybe these yomaris were okay. So, without letting my mind ramble, I quickly made some 20 pieces and put them on the cooking dish to steam. I was hoping after being cooked these stupid things would look better. But alas that was not to happen! I removed the lid and was shocked to see that the pieces had cracked in all places and the mixture due to the heat had become thinner
‘‘SOMETHING IS WRONG. THE DOUGH DIDN'T BECOME SMOOTH, THE MIXTURE IS TOO THIN, IT TASTES LIKE GLUE. NOW WHAT DO I DO?” I BLURTED OUT.
hands and threw them into the dustbin. Oh that felt good but what now? I had no yomaris and I had to start all over again. It was already 11 pm. I felt like screaming and crying but that was no solution so I went out of the kitchen and sat next to my husband who was watching TV. “What happened?” he asked. ʻʻSomething is wrong. The dough didn't become smooth, the mixture is too thin, it tastes like glue. Now what do I do?” I blurted out. “Donʼt worry, honey, I will buy it from the market in the morning. We do get readymade yomaris you know,” he said soothingly. That was a good idea – but wait no no… “If we get it from the market they are going to be perfect. No one will believe that I have made them. No...no I can't do that.'ʼ “You are too much,” he said slightly annoyed and then was silent. “My mom used taichin rice flour and they looked so smooth and delicious. Where am I going wrong? “What taichin rice flour?” he asked. “We can't use just any rice flour we need taichin rice flour for this… now wait a minute what rice flour did you bring?” “I don't know,” he mumbled “What do you mean you don't know? I had specifically told you,” I screamed. “I…I guess I didn't hear you properly I just asked for rice flour and the shopkeeper gave it to me.” I could feel a tingle on my feet – What was it? Oh, it was my blood boiling! I was very angry, hot and shaking. “I will get the right flour first thing tomorrow morning,” he said. That was a solution all right…but how would I make 108 pieces of yomaris in such a short time? Yomaris I did make but didn't meet the target. I could only make 60 pieces and I was very proud of them because they were perfect! I didnʼt quite like to see them being eaten. Thank goodness, I had taken some pictures and they will be with me forever reminding me of the whole We ordeal. 87
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Long Story Part-15
Alice in Cyberland
Spider and lion become friends. By Anoop Verma
The story so far
First, there is a war of words between the poodle and the lion. Then the poodle threatens to bite the lion and give him rabies. The lion is frightened to his bones and makes peace with the poodle. He becomes friendly lion and joins the youngsters’ mission to defeat the evil duo and save the world. lion was a friendly creature, who had once worked in the circus, Shweta was nowhere around. Filled with the notion that it was the wild and wicked lion chasing them all over the digital jungle, she was running at breakneck speed. She didn’t even have the chance to learn that the unknown monster whose barking and woofing had initially frightened them so much was actually Timmy, a nice little pet poodle belonging to Alice. Well, it is the nature of spiders to scram at the slightest hint of danger. By now she had made it to the top of a nearby hill, and she was still not ready to rest her six spindly legs, which continued to step forward briskly. Suddenly Alice remembered that Shweta was nowhere around. “Where is the six-legged spider?” she ejaculated. “She must still be running,” ventured Ashish.
n the real world it is quite usual to find spiders that are too fast and too furious. They tend to get infuriated at the slightest provocation but, when confronted with a bigger adversary, they immediately flee at top speed. It seems that even in the digital arena of Cyberland, the mental make-up of the spiders isn't too different. The digital spiders too are too fast and too furious. A case in point is Shweta, the six-legged spider, who had once been a digital girl, and before that a real girl. At the very moment when she got accidentally released from the e-mail attachment, she tried to devour the digital bodies of Alice and her friends. The six-legged spider would have succeeded in devouring the five youngsters, had she not been brought under control with the long digital rope. However, Shweta hardly learned any lesson from this episode. She continued to oppress everyone by her highly temperamental and peevish ways. The too fast aspect of Shweta’s personality was exemplified, more than anything else, by the way she used her six spindly legs to scurry away, as fast as she could, the moment the lion appeared in front of them. When Alice and her friends discovered that the
lice knew quite well, how cowardly her friend was. “She must be feeling terrified of the lion. I had forgotten all about her.” All of them looked around to find the missing Shweta. It was the sharp-eyed poodle, who detected her. “I see a six-legged spider running up that hill,” he said. “Yeah, there she is,” Pinki said, looking in the direction in which Timmy had pointed with his paw. “Yeah, I see her, she is running as fast as any digital creature can,” said Ashish. “What is she running away from?” asked the friendly lion. “Well, actually she is running from you,” Alice answered. “From me?” the friendly lion ejaculated with surprise. “But why? I don’t mean to do her any harm.” “She thinks that you are a wild and wicked lion,” said Ashish. “She has no idea that you are a friendly lion,” said Rachna.
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I see a six-legged spider running up that hill.
Shweta, you mistrustful hussy! Can’t you see for that we are standing peacefully with the friendly lion. Had the lion not been friendly would we be standing beside him?
“Ha, ha! ha! ha!” the friendly lion laughed. “The joke is surely on her.” “It sure is!” Alice giggled. “We have to tell her that you are a friendly lion, otherwise she will keep running and get lost in this dense digital forest.” “We must shout to call her back,” the poodle suggested. “Shweta,” Alice shouted, “come back. The lion is friendly.” “Shweta,” Ashish shouted, “come back. You heard what Jasmine said.” “Shweta,” the poodle shouted, “come back. The lion is friendly and I too am a friendly poodle.” “Shweta,” Rajat shouted, “you can see for yourself that the lion is not harming us. He is a friendly circus lion.” “Shweta,” Pinki shouted, “stop acting like a stupid spider. Come back to us.” “Shweta,” the lion shouted, “come back. I am a friendly lion. I am not the wild and wicked one.”
fter hearing all these shouts, the fleeing spider stopped. “Is it the truth what you guys are saying?” asked the suspicious spider. “How can I be sure that this is not a sinister ploy to trap me?” “Shweta, you mistrustful hussy,” Rachna shouted, losing her temper at the mistrustful spider. “Can’t you see for yourself that we are standing peacefully with the friendly lion? Had the lion not been friendly would we be standing beside him?” The truth finally dawned on the spider. “Okay,” she said, “I will come back, even though I am still very frightened of the lion.” With these words, the spider started making her way down the hill. Soon
she was back at the spot where all the five youngsters were waiting with Timmy and the friendly lion. “I am so tired by all this running,” she panted. “No one forced you to go on a cross-country run, you did so by yourself,” said Alice peevishly. “Yeah, you should have waited with us instead of tiring yourself by running so far,” said Ashish. “How could I wait out here, when I was under the impression that the lion was wild and wicked?” the spider said sullenly. “Hi, I am Timmy, the cute and cuddly poodle,” said Timmy, proffering one of its front paws to Shweta. “Mummy!” the spider cried fearfully, prancing behind Alice. “Does the poodle have rabies?” “No, you poor-spirited girl, the poodle certainly does not have rabies,” huffed Alice. “Timmy is my pet poodle. Like us, he and the friendly lion were also tricked by the evil duo into entering Cyberland.” The spider emerged out of Alice’s shadow and shook the poodle’s paw by one of her six spindly legs. “Hi, I am the friendly lion, the superstar circus performer,” the lion said, proffering one of his front paws to Shweta. “Mummy!” the terrified spider cried, prancing behind Ashish this time. “Are you sure the lion is friendly and not a wild and wicked one?” “Of course, you craven girl, the lion is friendly. He is a circus lion. He showed us very entertaining circus tricks,” puffed Ashish. “The friendly lion is a great performer,” agreed Timmy. The spider emerged from behind Ashish and
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” “It is by your own fault that you were not able to see the friendly lion’s circus tricks.” the friendly lion informed them. “We hope to learn from him the way by which we can vanquish the evil duo and save the world. The spider out-cheered everyone else as she could clap with six legs. But Alice was quite soft hearted.” “Oh no. T 90 he friendly lion was only too happy to oblige. Even though the spider had behaved in a really irresponsible way by running away and leaving everyone else behind. Timmy and Shweta?” Ashish put the right questions to everyone. grinning with selfimportance. I am the friendly lion. “How are we going to find him. “I was so worried that we may never be able to find the fogy squirrel in this dense cyber jungle.” the spider said with gratitude. you are such a good friend. we have had our fun. only the fogy squirrel knows how to access the source codes of the evil duo. Only from him we can learn the way of accessing the source codes of The Emperor of the Internet and the Lackey. he bowed majestically in front of his small audience and thanked them from his heart. So I request the friendly lion to give a repeat performance. it was also true that Alice herself wanted to enjoy the friendly lion’s performance once again. “I can lead you to the fogy squirrel?” I know where he lives.” However.” said Pinki despondently. “It isn't fair that I didn’t get to see the friendly lion’s circus tricks. the superstar circus performer. “You know the address of fogy squirrel?” gasped Alice.” said Rachna peevishly. you slothful girl. the six-legged spider.” “Where in this cyber jungle does the fogy squirrel live?” asked Timmy. Rajat. “He lives far. Glumly she said. shook the lion’s paw by one of her six spindly legs. “I don’t want our friend. Alice could not bring herself to deny her the pleasures of watching the friendly lion’s circus tricks.” “But how are we going to find the fogy squirrel in this vast cyber jungle.Hi. who. The same was true for the other digital youngsters and the poodle. I do.” said Rachna angrily. Shweta? Don’t you want to return to the circus. “Did you say fogy squirrel?” “Of course.” said the lion. He is Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . we do…” “In that case. that’s who we are looking for. “We do.” said Alice. “Okay guys.” groaned the lazy spider. as we all know. The fun could not go on forever. was quite short-tempered. which burst forth out of so many throats. “How can you ever think of lazing around. “Alice. as there was a task at hand. “Yeah.” said Alice. her happiness was apparent on her face. to miss out on all the fun. “I have met him a few times. when the momentous task of saving the world rests on our digital shoulders?” “Don’t you want to be beautiful again. Alice realised that it was time for them to be on their way. it is time for all of us to begin working. whereas the others could clap with only two hands and paws. “In the entire murky Cyberland.” the friendly lion smiled. “Why can’t we laze for some more time? I am feeling so tired!” “Come on.” Ashish said. in a place where lots of digital nut trees grow. it is time for us to begin working on our mission of defeating the evil duo. “We have to find the fogy squirrel who lives in this cyber jungle. There were claps and cheers galore.” said Rajat. All of them wanted to watch the friendly lion’s circus routine.” said Alice. far away from here. when we have no idea where he lives in this vast cyber jungle?” “Fogy squirrel!” the friendly lion exclaimed. “That’s great!” said Ashish enthusiastically. Pinki. Once his performance was over. The lion got all puffed up with pride at receiving the wild cheers and adulations. she was always filled with the notion that everyone in the real world and Cyberland deserves to have a good time. You should not have run away. The cyber jungle of the Far East echoed with the answers. we do. She said.” she said emphatically. “Yeah. friendly lion? Don’t you want to save the world – Alice. “Now. Rachna. He sang and danced like Salman Khan and Aamir Khan rolled into one. the momentous task of saving the world from the nefarious designs of the evil duo.
He gives me delectable nuts to eat whenever I pay him a visit. we will meet any number of wild and wicked creatures on the way. Don’t forget I am the king of the cyber jungle. we should do that. the king of the cyber jungle. The idea of meeting wild and wicked creatures was terrifying to all the youngsters. R eading the fearful expressions on everyone’s face. Pune. “Let’s move our butts quickly towards the nut forest where the fogy squirrel lives. the pond.quite friendly with me. The other youngsters seemed equally happy about the prospect of eating nuts. * * * A young man walked into a jewellery store on a Friday evening with a beautiful young lass by his side. “Is there any danger of meeting any wild and wicked creatures on our way to the fogy squirrel’s abode?” asked the panicky spider. We JOKES Teacher: Where is the capital of India? Student: In Swiss banks. “Yeah. "I am looking for a very special and different type of ring. There is no danger of wild and wicked creatures attacking our group so long as I am around. Whoopee! In the darkness of the jungle…” The other youngsters and the friendly lion and the poodle joined the spider in singing and dancing. "There's no money in your account. The bushes. so I'll write it now and you can call the bank on Monday to verify the funds and I'll pick up the ring on Monday afternoon. “We should now be on our way to meet the fogy squirrel. I know you need to make sure that you can draw the money from my cheque. not even a sigh. 91 . Monday morning. brave though he was. no fear. the disappointed jeweller called up the young man. He told the jeweller he was looking for a very special ring for his girlfriend. We march in the jungle with heads held high. everybody." “Very reasonable”. the friendly lion interjected. The young man paused and then said. the river. "We'll take it. “Of course.00. anticipating the tasty nuts that she would munch when they visited the fogy squirrel. the jeweller came up with a platinum ring. The jeweller looked through his stock and came up with a dazzling ring costing ` 85. Will stride with merry pals of a six-legged damsel. The young lady's eyes sparkled and her whole body trembled with excitement. We waltz everywhere singing a song.” Timmy said eagerly. this said.” the friendly lion said. looking thankfully at the friendly lion. the king of the cyber jungle.” Rachna beamed.” said the young man. Even Timmy. No wild creature will stand in our way.” said Jasmine. Of course. "but can you imagine the weekend I had?" – Wallace Jacob. no wild and wicked animal would dare to harm the friends of the friendly lion.” the friendly lion answered simply." The jeweller asked how payment Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 would be made and the young man stated. When the friendly lion holds sway. “Relax.000" said the jeweller." "I know.” suggested Ashish. “Of course. "Here's a stunning ring at only ` 4. No tear. The young man seeing. did not seem to take the idea of meeting wild and wicked creatures too well. The spider being overwhelmed by happiness at learning that she was safe with the friendly lion around launched into a dance and song routine: “Whoopee! In the darkness of the jungle.” said Pinki. no wild and wicked animal would dare to harm the friends of the friendly lion. "By cheque. “It is so nice to hear that we are safe. the thicket. flexing his muscles with pride.000. The wild and wicked creatures can never dare to hurt my friends." Hearing this.” “I love nuts.” “Is that really so?” asked Alice. you know. the jeweller thought.
Nothing in this world seems more satisfying than a finished painting. Excerpts from an interview How were you attracted to art? I have always been creatively inclined. In high school. At a later showing at Art Mall. vibrant. A creative and thinking artist par excellence.pragyajain. How will you define your work? My work is fun. Her works find a place in several collections of art connoisseurs. Pragya made her acquaintance with art collectors. Music was and is an integral part of my life too. Being a trained graphic artist. She is also the vice-president of the Pioneer Valley Chapter of the Womenʼs Caucus for Art. she has also exhibited her art at galleries in the Boston. New York and India. Pragya made a flying start into art with her maiden art showing at the Polka Art Gallery. has been evolving as an artist in the fine art field since 2001. in the United States. she was awarded by the President of India for excellence in fine art. whose discerning eyes spotted the potential and promise her works held. young and full of life. Pragyaʼs artworks were commended and appreciated even during her student days. I have been trained vocally in Indian classical and have performed at various levels. Her works have been commended and appreciated since her student days.com www. Always being encouraged to make a mess. USA.Pragya Jain is a graduate of the Delhi College of Art. It may have something to do with my upbringing. Moved to Massachusetts. Besides organising the display and exhibition of works at her own studio premises there.com P OPTIMISTIC art An artist with wide exposure. Currently living in Bangalore. create something from scrap. that is a non-profit womenʼs art organisation with Woman’s Era ● backing from the United Nations. New Delhi. Pragya pursues her art and has made positive inroads into the contemporary art scene in India as well as the United States. Her works are in the homes and offices of major collectors and million-dollar apartment models all over India. I would not have it any other way. By Suman Bajpai ragya Jain. Boston and various other cities the United States had given her artistic career great stimulation. Pragya is a natural at portraiture and has received scores of orders from individuals both in India and abroad. Mob: +91-99456-99757 E-mail: info@pragyajain. to do commissioned portraits for clients. So what attracted me most towards art is the creative satisfaction that follows. Pragyaʼs first solo exhibition in Bangalore held in November 2009 brought her great appreciation and various art opportunities. New Delhi. Showing her works at prestigious galleries in New York. to bring immense 92 April (Second) 2012 . Her works were handpicked to be exhibited with a number of Indian masters. I want my painting that I work so hard on. New Delhi. she has had a couple of shows and is specialising in portraiture as well. in 2007. where she has lived for the past five years. making unusual birthday cards is how I would define my childhood.
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This you will not see too much in the face. instead of evaluating his value globally. itʼs usually hidden. I just let myself be for a while. The international art collector unlike its Indian counterpart is open to investing in an artist whose work he just fell in love with. how do you choose the subject matter? In every painting I like to hide elements which would normally be obvious. What I mean is that every work of art has a nucleus which is understood by someone who can relate to it. forms and colours. 94 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . interacting with artistic people helps me grow as an artist. I like to use several shades in the same family. Creative blocks do have a habit of coming in my way just like they do with every artist I know. as they are executed to my satisfaction. I can never restrict myself to any aspect. I pick up the pencil and just start patterning and before I have realised it. We see lot of fragments in your paintings. Where does the Indian art sell? Definitely in India. In the bargain I spread positivity and happiness through my works. I believe the fragments in my paintings are like the little pieces that make up this big thing called Life. Explain this concept. I have a few collectors in New York City who appreciated my style. even when itʼs colour. In order to bring mystery to my work. itʼs fragmented. But I cannot deny that my art has been bought by Americans. I play with circles and every circle tells a story. and camouflaged in fragments. my brain automatically switches to abstraction. as I like the monochromatic spray of colour on the forms. The pristine lines of determined geometry that adorn my canvases are favoured by viewers for their clean contours. What sorts of colours you like and why? Thatʼs a tough one. I have grown the most as an artist having shown my work in various parts of the United States. I am fascinated with lines. Believe it or not. What are the strongest influences on your art development through the years? I started exhibiting my art in 2005. Your work is essentially abstract. geometry was the only thing I liked about math even back in school. What is the subject and theme of your paintings? The core of my art has always been happiness and bliss. where I have lived for five We years. Each piece is like an experience or a feeling. and various other nationalities. These geometric elements flow naturally whenever I start a painting. What inspires you to paint and how are you motivated when things get tough in the studio? That happens a lot. Why are you an artist? I am an artist because painting gives me a sense of fulfilment. My colour palette ranges from sharp black-and-white contrasts to a fine merger of contiguous blends.cheer and brightness to the space it adorns. Freedom of colour is a movement I follow. circles. itʼs quite good. My subjects have a sense of freshness. Italians. Indians appreciate art the most. All these fragments together create my art. contours and silhouettes. freshness and honesty in my work very early in my art career. Elaborate on them. I am not too tough on myself. I use them all. It seems that you use geometrical shapes in your painting. I like the cleanness of geometry. curators and art collectors. How big is the international market for Indian art today? My experiences say. I love to be critiqued by fellow artists. But as I find myself growing as an artist I do tend to paint my experiences and issues that seem to stay with me. I believe that it works this way for most countries.
It is probably related to endocrinal factors which in a majority of females are due to overfunctioning of the adrenal glands (two small glands lying above the kidneys). Apparently you are sensitive to the contents of chewing gum which triggers an attack of asthma. It is quite likely that you are going towards menopaus. I also go to a gym twice a week. then consult your doctor for medication. It is believed that some factors at this age evoke a demand for thyroid hormones which the individualʼs gland cannot meet. I feel if you take a balanced diet your energy levels will be met. I am 35 years old. Are there any specific rules for diet which I should take? People who take regular exercise do not require any extra diet except that they should be taking a nutritious diet containing all the constituents of food (carbohydrates. Rarely. seafood. tumours of the ovary are also known to be responsible. My problem is that I get an asthmatic attack whenever I use chewing gum. You have no alternative but do avoid the use of chewing gum. April (Second) 2012 95 . other endocrine gland disorders are also known to produce this type of condition. My doctor says it is goiter. avoid a polluted and dusty atmosphere. My problem is that my menstrual flow is very little. What you suffer from is called secondary amenorrhoea which occurs in women who suffer from chronic debilitating diseases like tuberculosis. vegetables). emotional factors like fear of pregnancy may be responsible. You will have to take diets containing a lot of iodine (fish. It is related to iodine deficiency. fruits. fats). proteins. I am worried. Besides ovaries. Poor nutrition also plays a major role in it. Also there may be the factor of inability of the gland to utilise the iodine available in the diet. Besides this. whose age of onset ranges from 40 to 54 years. which are present in a number of product like soft drinks. N. irritability flashes etc. diabetes. Also. Food for energy is carbohydrates while excess protein is converted into energy or transformed into fat which gets stored in the body. many women do not want to accept it. What should I do? I am worried since I feel very embarrassed. Please help. I am worried. I am 20 years old. An important cause may be poor development of your genital organs (infantile). Please help. Women at puberty develop this condition without any evidence of iodine deficiency. The age of onset in your case is rather early but this is part of sexual development. How you are treated will depend on the underlying condition to be assessed by your doctor. You require proper investigations to decide whether you suffer from borderline hormonal deficiency or there is complete failure of your sexual development as treatment will vary according to the state of your condition. I am 40 years old but my menstrual flow is becoming less with every period. Khosla. You should consult an endocrinologist in this regard who after investigating you will be able to treat you accordingly. I am worried. Your case requires thorough investigation.I am 35 years old. — Dr S. Woman’s Era ● I am 25 years old. and you should accept it gracefully. Please help. Your goiter size will decrease with the above measures (use of iodised salt etc). factors like poor functioning of ovaries/ pituitary glands may play a role in it. If you do not succeed. Apparently you are suffering from goiter which is present in both endemic and sporadic forms. Recently I have noticed the appearance of hair on my face as well as the growth of hair all over the body his increased. Benzoate preservatives.. are responsible for initiating an asthmatic attack. I am 22 years old and am a well developed young girl. reduced-calorie jams and chewing gum. liver and renal diseases. MD. Uncommonly. My problem is that a uniform swelling has appeared in the upper part of my neck. Since the onset of menopause is gradual accompanied by a number of other symptoms like changes in mood. My problem is that my menstrual flow has almost stopped. Please help. I am 22 years old and do regular exercises. Yours is not a simple case of excessive hair growth. Please help.
In my paintings you would find woman figure. C. He also won an award at National Art Exhibition by Himachal State Art Museum. Exhibitions: Participated in 20 art exhibitions in India and abroad. one has to understand the unexpressed emotions lying within that are being 96 April (Second) 2012 . Collection: College of art.C. Although it was my brother who has inspired me a lot as he himself used to paint at that time. How would you define your art? I would say it is semi-abstract. Award: National Art Exhibition by Himachal State Art Museum.. H. His aim is to establish himself as a successful artist. University. It is figurative but not realistic. His artistic works have been inspired by two genres which are music and literature.S.A. It was something which was not liked by society and making oneʼs profession in this field was out of question.com H ighly fascinated with the butterflies Manoj Balyan. Excerpts from an interview How did you develop interest in art? I think this is inherent. I had a science stream in 12th class.. The prosperous folk art and culture of this place have nurtured his artistic interest. M. When I was in 3rd class. He is greatly inspired by the life and culture of district Muzaffarnagar of western Uttar Pradesh where he had spent his childhood days. I feel that before defining oneʼs paintings. Mob:-9868952014 Email:mchaudhary1807@gmail.P.. has done his Master of Art in Drawing and Painting from Ghaziabad. my parents had supported me. Meerut 1998.EMOTIONS ON CANVAS An artist unveils the secrets of life. but not in the real form. By Suman Bajpai Manoj Balyan Qualification: NET (UGC) Drawing & Painting 1999. Workshop/Seminar: Participated 7 workshops and seminars in India. but I did my graduation and postgraduation in this subject. Drawing & Painting.to satiate his artistic interest and inner self and to remain absorbed in artistic creation throughout his life.more important than that. But like today art was not considered as something which needs to be promoted or encouraged. But seeing my deep interest in this. I use lines on my paintings because it has force. which inspires me a lot. 2009. We can express our views and thoughts with lines and moreover it gives the impression of figures. faces. I had developed love for Woman’s Era ● paintings. who belongs to Delhi. Delhi and private collection in India and abroad.. Shimla.
some are abstract: two different ways to express emotions? Basically my style is semiabstract. a phase. colours.. I have this need to see and feel the reality but I am also a fervent learner and like to experiment. forgotten in the materialistic life. other times on abstraction. And reading an abstract painting can be so much instructive. What are your preferred media? I enjoy working in many media as I 97 April (Second) 2012 . There is no way of comparison between my figurative and abstract work.The white butterfly. you keep seeing the unseen Woman’s Era ● everyday with a new vision. it is just a mindset. Abstraction is one of my experimental series.. rat race of Some of your paintings are figurative. Conveying emotions just through lines. textures and accidental effects are very revealing as well. sometimes it is switched on figurative.
could you give any advice? Have a thick skin.donʼt want to limit myself. One must have sunshine and freedom spread in the colours of humanity. beautiful and graceful. Then buy because you want to possess certain objects and have them in your home to look at and enjoy. What are the colours you choose in your paintings? Turquoise blue. But don't collect in order to make money. Paintings are stories without words. I don't unnecessarily force myself to continue working. But art should not be bought like stocks to be sold later. writers. Sometimes. solid work of art that has the ability to move you over a period of time. I work over a period of time. busy routine life of village and nature as well. Tell us about your next subject line? My next series is based on the novel 'Mrityunjaya' written by Shivaji Sawant. fraternity faith and simplicity. So decorative art. I know where to stop. read on the subject and visit museums. wouldnʼt find secondary sale value. Then when I am exhausted. Some of those reflections of my childhood have become the themes of my recent paintings. varied and enchanting. whether it is at the university level or at the institutional level. there is still a lot of work that needs to be done to try and increase the presence of art in the We larger public consciousness. Crimson red. the private sector in India has played an important role. From the very beginning. I work till expression continues to flow smoothly. But in my experience a good. From start to finish. Each brings something unique to the work and consequently carries it to some uncharted territory. I stop. different colours of life and most prominently freedom through a butterfly and tried to co-relate it to the 'womanʼ. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Therefore I symbolise happiness. how long does it take to create your work? It can vary. critics for developing the scene before its meteoric rise. small and approachable. and then go back to it after some time? Actually. I try to unveil the secrets of life through self-realisation. To me butterflies flying in the mustard fields were colourful flowers floating in the air. largely attributed to the commercial success it was gaining. I think individual artists from India will increasingly be seen to be significant contributors to the global art scene. However. Contemporary Indian Art has experienced a steady growth over the last few decades with contributions and efforts from previous generations of artists. a painting takes four days to complete and sometimes it takes even a month. colours had a magnetic effect on me. the source of which is within us and around us. beauty. as of course if we didnʼt think that our work was great then we wouldnʼt be doing it! People often call art an investment. It can really hurt your pride and dent your confidence to get the rejection letters. Vermillion red. Butterflies lead you to the sunny side of life and every one deserves a little sunshine. submi ssions. In this novel he has depicted the character of Karna so nicely that I got inspired by that. however lovely it is.ʼ I think that butterflies are like flying flowers and I tried to symbolise freedom with butterflies. I started my journey as an artist with sketches of farmers working in the fields. without hype would find buyers any day. For those thinking about turning a passion for art into a career. How do you work? On a series. If you love works of art. and learn to cope with the rejection from galleries. In the absence of the stateʼs responsibility in contributing to improve and enhance the infrastructure around art. a beautiful creature of God besides all this my butterflies say that just living is not enough. At present which is the subject you are working on? At present I am working on the theme of ʻwoman and butterfly. or do you paint some parts of a work. Given the collective vibrancy and sheer robustness of the art being produced here. Is there really a resale market for most original art that is being sold today? This is not easy to answer because there is a lot going on under the label of art. Who inspires you? I think an artist is greatly influenced by the place and surroundings he lives in together with his own experiences and memories. What are your thoughts on the contemporary Indian art scene in both the Indian and international contexts? I think post-independence it has taken a long time for India to find its place in the larger global context in most fields. We 98 find ourselves unable to relish beauty. competitions. They form the subject of his philosophy and take concrete shape through a desired medium.
thereʼs more – rebellion may also be acted out via fashion! Since rebellion is often a huge aspect of a teenager's life. they think and speak in superlatives only. Even though these items seem to be the hottest fashion styles. so donʼt baulk). Whereas this might be acceptable most of the time. their classmates. it is 100 . ? T he teen years represent the transition period to adulthood when they start becoming independent and have their own outlook towards everything. accessories. of course!). tops. (if your budget allows it. the bottomline is that your teenaged daughter feels she “simply must have” the latest jeans.DOES YOUR TEENAGER By Dr Rumy Agarwal WANT THE LATEST IN FASHION Ideas for mothers to restrict fashion in suggesting alternatives. you might be asking what to do about it. it can also produce the consequence of your teen wearing shirts that flaunt too much cleavage or baggy jeans that show underwear coming out of the top. Bad fashion choices in the eyes of peers is “disastrous” (oh yes. it is not shocking that teens often use licentious or shocking fashion to rebel against their parents. do you actually want your adolescent to wear these? If you don't. and/or society! Phew! Anyway. whatever. Wait. bags. Before you and your teenager agree to disagree on each otherʼs choice of clothes for her.
if your teen really fancies some current trend but you donʼt. A simple dress worn with thought can create magic. a girl can look dropdead gorgeous in a potato sack if she knows how to carry it off with confidence! Fashion. not every fashion style necessitates the wearing of sparse outfits and if you scour the websites together. If you cannot opt for the real ones. She can let her creativity dictate her style with this one and itʼll always. your daughter may not only find something really fashionable but decent as well. THE LITTLE BLACK DRESS (LBD) Everyone knows how an LBD can make all the difference to your teenagerʼs closet. A classic LBD will never let her down. she can try those groovy cuts. but always. Ah yes. now. and this whole activity may become a great mother-daughter bonding event for you! It is definitely more important to build a strong character and pleasant personality because these will not only never go out of fashion but are much more valuable assets than a trendy wardrobe or funky baubles or glitzy make-up! Your daughter will probably not quite understand this now but if you go about it the right way. Especially when she is hard pressed to find something to wear. She could go for a higher quality denim in a dark wash that will give her a semi-formal and refined look on a less dressy evening out. Usually a trend lasts only for a few months. you might suggest to her to look into other alternatives. Your daughter needs to know that fashion and style should reflect one's own persona and worth and one should stand out from a crowd with a distinctive style and not as just We another fashion victim. Items of clothing which can never go wrong. They can be worn on any occasion. after all. Good innerwear: Good. Pearls: Pearls can never go out of fashion. Just like diamonds have been around for ages now. some gold accessories and a killer pair of heels) with just a few minor adjustments. Dresses: Shift-dresses are the best things that a girl can have. Wearing a string of pearls around the neck instantly adds a dash of elegance and class to any outfit. is an extended part of one's personality and largely depends on one's personal expression and penchant for style. I mean. tucked in or out. It can go from day wear (with a cardigan or blazer and a set off with pearls and leather pumps) to night wear (with a sparkly jacket. Textures can vary too. There are scores of online fashion websites and magazines which give the dope on the latest fashion trends. She can go in for the military jackets which are a rage or a simple one in a solid colour for a classy look. Dresses always get out the feminine side of a girl making her look more beautiful than ever. Ask your daughter to ditch the frayed. day or night. she can opt for a shiny sequined jacket with black leggings to tone down the outfit. different sleeves or funky collars. her wardrobe does seem stylish and cool. wellfitting lingerie is just as important as any stylish outfit. donʼt you think? Actually. One accessory that has returned and become a rage again is the scarf.essential that both of you do not lose sight of the undeniable fact that fashion trends change frequently. Jackets: If your daughter wants to add a power punch to her outfit. So. Sparkly evening wear: An evening out with friends or a party asks for something glittery – so a sequined Anarkali suit or a shimmery dress can be a good addition to your teenagerʼs wardrobe. ripped variety and opt for ones with applique or sequins on them. then teaming it up with a jacket is the best thing to do. Just to add that fun element to herself. she will soon. Make sure you pick one that's sophisticated yet innocently girlish without being frivolous. looking fashionable is more about how a person carries herself. It can be worn on its own. 102 . be chic. Dressy jeans: Jeans have evolved from being everyday casuals to haute couture. Mmm. are timeless and spell class! Check these out: A crisp white shirt: The white button-down shirt is a classic that never goes out of style. mixed and matched with jeans or skirts. itʼd be a good idea for your daughter to know some musthaves in her closet. After all. from silk and georgette to chiffon depending on the occasion. A scarf or stole adds that touch of class to not only the LBD but to any other dress as well. you can always get her the fake ones instead and she will still look like a princess. so have pearls. For a crazy night-out.
The smallest son was too small at that time. as she attributed this behaviour of others to her very reserved nature. the marriage did happen. marriage proposals did knock on the door. He was outstanding in terms of performance in studies and a good man in the making. Yet. but her small-town thinking made that difference. He had a different plan altogether.Short Story Pride: An Attribute of a fool It makes you feel empty. he saved. as the year of 2008 was not much different to her. when they are back. but assented to the marriage calculating the number of men who had knocked on the door but preferred to stay outside. The man was not only gentle but highly qualified and very humble. the childhood days are not necessarily the playful days. Even after working hard. then do her own schoolwork and lastly. The past is the future or the future is the past. responsibilities of helping mothers in household chores. Whatever little he could save after spending on the family. She took her transfer to the place where her husband worked. helping little siblings dress up for school and. there were some who were close to her. For women born in the 1980s or today in the 2000s. Girls have a tough time finishing education and. helping them undress after school. not having much time to indulge in games. a job was still a distant dream. of course. but could not pass the selection process. By Vibha Hetu I t does not seem to be where things can be propagated in terms of the social milieu referring to women. Hard work. sometimes. but the eldest son was exceptionally smart. His dream did come true. Shashi was the same woman born in the 1980s but it seems she grew up also in the same year. Well. Shashi’s routine was just the same. 104 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . She. Surprisingly. which was far too big a bliss for her. The other daughters were also good at studies. did not realise that it was her reserved nature that kept her friends at bay. Times change but. but somehow things worked in her favour when she actually landed with a job. time repeats every time it changes. But the problem lay in his face. Shashi had reservations in regard to friendship and so did not have many friends. for the women. he wanted to make a house in the town so that his children get the better opportunities to explore and live a respectable life. People of her age found her narrow thinking very indigestible. and he brought all of his children to study in the town and thereby to enhance their future. Anyway she did not mind at all. That means she remained unmarried for some time. and that certainly could be read through the expressions of Shashi. Her father was in service and worked far away from the village but would often visit the family members. There was a small problem with her as she could not mingle easily with people. who quietly disfavoured the approach by this guy. Things are invariably the same. Anyway. when a quiet gentleman did knock on the door and preferred to tie the knot with her. it’s so much of the same that one can substitute the past with the future.
She got herself transferred and came to stay with her husband with little knowledge about what was waiting for her. When her marriage stood by his conveyed the message. little did she realise that time was going to put her on trial. But this explicitly. and he tried his best to hide them from her. Life was good when she started to work as she was highly praised by her parents and her siblings too. Well. which whether she (the brother’s girlfriend) was madly in love marginally played a role in widening the worth becoming the daughter-in-law of with each gap between them not letting any bridge her house. and from then on girlfriend house and looking after her husband actually started talking to her less. things were not as him and are after him to kill him. quite ambitious. he is rightly but it was very well understood by his gestures. conversations with this sister of his that he confessed He had certain problems with his mental capacity he was very much in love with a girl. O 106 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . They had happened to speak about her love affair to her. and she did not mind it at all. when his brother’s girlfriend did not go down well between them. Well. but had quite strong reservations of his highly qualified girlfriend. he certainly did not like the not praise his actually shouted at her for not keeping the behaviour of hers. But. justified to marry the one he is getting. while making hay of the opportunity. Very well. oth were madly in love with each other. challenges come in beautiful packets. That Shashi was shocked when she got to know this and things were difficult or were going to be difficult this made her mad. he said reaction to them. dent in the blooming relationship. Shashi felt very proud as people praised her. He the sister-in-law had different reservations about confessed to having spent his whole income on the Shashi. Shashi gestures. since he could not find any partner. was far too big for her to be digested well. these were heightened by the was conveyed to her brother by his mother-in-law’s reaction to her. When it certainly did Yet. he actually did take up his whole time. He however small to get built. He had also appropriate but she never chanced it. arranged for detectives to investigate this matter. the sister-in-law was college and had come for counselling. They all used to avoid her sister-inwho was seeking admission to an engineering law including her mother. She obviously did not react Shashi actually showed ill behaviour well underverbally but her attitude was such that it towards the girl. He The husband can be held culpable to some extent certainly did not praise his girlfriend explicitly. the thought that something strange and funny. She actually asked also led to a relational vacuum. Strangely enough. It was her younger brother leaving out her. Shashi thought it was she who was actually doing a favour to this man by marrying him. It was during the played havoc with Shashi’s life. as her eldest brother was quite an exception. Sometimes. She always longed to be praised by her elder brother. In any case. She discovered that her husband and in-laws thought that they were the ones who were doing a favour to her. This cheap manner. once. she did realise that it was he whose praise could actually have a valuable impression for her because he was of that standard. her since she never wanted to get into any trouble. her husband. when she girlfriend. bad to worse when her father came for a actually ganged up with her sisters few days to her house. accusations. While yelling. These words actually created a other. he He too had a life of his own – his work. priorities regarding his studies. health. started to stay together but there were no Shashi reacted in a very arrogant and Both were physical relationships between them. it He was actually suffering from schizophrenia. discussion regarding admissions to This kept irritating her. his practice of medical science grabbed the opportunity as soon as it came his way but. He said that there are she was obviously less confident and was thus people from his office who are keeping an eye on keeping a low profile. Shashi’s husband started yelling at her father for not but all this while she never explicitly showed any complying with his advice. when they were having a behaviour was outrageous. The family was shocked and never struck the mother or the girl. She was soon asked to get transferred to her husband’s place as her husband could not get a transfer. No doubt that the brother too liked her for her performance. and the family whether hers or same and was secretly taking medicines for mental her in-laws. After marriage. but properly. Things However.B she obviously stayed for a few days at her in-laws’ to return very soon to her work place. Things went from ceremony was taking place. at times this also scared engineering colleges while having breakfast. Whenever she tried to mingle with them their ne fine morning. This ruined Shashi’s mood as disparagement actually fuelled hatred it was very she was not prepared to swallow such towards her future sister-in-law.
Shashi had now decided to divorce him and was quite adamant about this. in which she kept discussing how difficult it was for her to put up with such a man. Lucknow. Nobody could ever fit into it. She had only space.LIMITS. calling him mad. why do you forbid My desire to fly? Why do you limit me From kissing the sky? I know. whereas she was nowhere. Whatever.. Let me dance and romance Freely in the sky with glee! One day. she could keep the marriage and rectify the marriage sanctity by looking after the man till he got well and they could happily live together ever after. shattered hearing about such a thing. she realised. who was abnormal. I further want To keep expanding those limits! So. Her brother knew about her abysmal relationship with his wife and obviously. in fact innumerable conversations thereafter.. it was quite different. Time was unwrapping itself slowly. she was grounded and used to discuss the situation of transfer and when and how to decide such things and get it worked out. it did not go that way. She actually started degrading him. But the elder brother had something else in his mind. Well. but time had wrapped itself up. He had slowly started reducing his conversations with her.. She was still looking into that space where she could find someone worth accommodating. We 108 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Gone were the days to make hay. He did not approve of the idea of divorce. They felt that although she had been cheated. Let me inhibit myself Only by my own schemes! I want to build my own sky And set my own limits. At that time. Please. instead he strongly rejected it. Mom. you will say. mom dear. Her brother knew that she was under the great influence of pride as it could be felt from the conversations that took place with her over the phone. dear mom.. and she ought not bear such pain because she was highly qualified. But parents had the impression that Shashi had suffered a lot at the hands of the inlaws and her husband. The family also complied with her words.. She ultimately divorced her husband. Shashi had a conversation with her brother after this incident. The instant reaction of the mother was to wonder what would be her daughter’s future now. she was now divorced. – Neelam Chandra.” And then I shall not mind being forbidden. An empty space has no meaning. They had become role models for the whole family. dear mom. etc. B ut other people like her relatives had different reactions to this case. abnormal. Yes. You can then jovially set my limits. don’t forbid me. That the sky may be a delusion And the colourful rainbow May turn out to be an optical illusion. But let me pursue My quaint and vibrant dreams. Even pride had long ago left her company. She actually felt obnoxious and cheated at the same time. She also started blaming her in-laws for this condition. “I am happy with your victory and feats. not that the pride had completely vanished from her but had actually grown in size. he never liked that but never showed his feelings explicitly. All her sisters were happily married by now and her sister-in-law and brother had now been treated as celebrities as they had both gained celebrity status and become the proud parents of two beautiful kids. Shashi had only empty windows to look out into space. an empty space. Just after marriage within a month or half when she had a conversation with her brother..
Make sure you take positive steps to improve your situation. These could be symptoms of toxins that have accumulated in your body from food. Therefore. which will leave you feeling much improved. Detoxing can help alleviate all kinds of symptoms we deal with in the modern. If this is the case you need to detox your body. and often toxic. we feel run down and eventually become vulnerable to infections and illnesses. a bloated stomach. drink and the environment. Ignoring your symptoms will only make things worse. Try a detox diet about once each year. fatigue. Toxins DETOXIFICATION FOR BETTER HEALTH By Suman Bajpai How to cleanse oneʼs body. 110 . weight gain. cellulite. world of today. Chemicals floating around in our body put great strain on the ability of the kidneys and liver to process and flush them out. It is a simple way to cleanse your body inside and out. A body detox can improve your overall health significantly. leading to a weakened immune system and colon.D o you feel tired. exhausted and stressed out all the time? Do you also suffer from an achy body. bloating and skin problems? And do you always feel that you do not have the energy to go through the day.
kidneys. Also. Medically. lymph and blood. water. depending on your lifestyle. to increase physical activity. excessive intake of caffeine. Remember that your body is perfectly capable of detoxifying itself naturally but. Vegetable juice can also be taken. there will be changes to what you eat and how you live your life and itʼs important that you choose a diet or plan that you can adopt and Yashmeen Manak Fitness expert and dietician. However. A bitter bottle guard is often an adulterated one! Detoxification by exercises can be done by doing the kind of workout which results in considerable sweating – for example. However. if it is constantly being loaded with excess salt. “When you detox your body. Make sure these juices are not bitter. you are detoxifying to lighten up your system! Taking gooseberry (amla) and bottle guard (ghiya) juice benefits the body tremendously. caffeine and alcohol. those who are fond of junk and fast food and love to consume fries. Giving up your favourite snacks all of a sudden can be a daunting task. Avoid eating grains and pulses on that day. in the normal sense. what does detoxification mean? Detoxification (detox for short) is the removal of toxic substances from our body. burgers. oily junk food. so one must try to gradually decrease the intake of such food items. gallbladder. Sculpt Fitness Centre. It also helps many people to stick to proper eating habits and resist the pull of their favourite junk foods.e. salt. How is detoxification done? This can be done in two ways – through diet and through exercises. one must abstain from fried.accumulate just under the surface of the skin and interfere with normal healthy circulation. fat and chemicals. you can imagine your insides being as clean as your outsides with regular detoxification. You achieve a sense of inner purity – i. the cardio workout. and to decrease saturated fats. Timing is also important. 112 . With so many detox plans available. consumption of alcohol. colon. After all. detoxification can be achieved by decontamination of poison ingestion and the use of antidotes as well as techniques such as dialysis. HOW TO DETOX Our bodyʼs main detoxification organs and systems are the liver. causing various skin problems. Also. They help rid your body of wastes and toxins. it is a ʻcleansing actʼ taken up by an individual to purge his or her internal environment from the accumulated wastes and toxins that pile up as a result of our improper eating habits (like binging on junk food. Gurgaon week for detoxification. lungs. Who needs detoxification? Detoxification can be done by anyone. one must consume only fruits in the form of both fresh salads and juices. fruit and vegetables. the aim is to help the body flush out excess toxins. this could become a weekend procedure. The basic guidelines for detoxifying are to increase natural fibre. colas etc). there are some detox regimes as short as one day. To begin with. However. chips. your digestion improves (means no more bloating and belching) and detoxification also benefits your circulatory and lymphatic systems. On that particular day. When you detox. sugar. sugar. pizzas etc on a daily basis should undertake detoxification every week. you should do some research and find out what suits you and that the plan is something that you can complete. In medicine parlance. our bodily functions were designed when the world was less polluted. assign a day in one What are the health benefits of detoxification? The act of detoxifying oneself has not only physical benefits but also imparts a sense of mental well-being as well. skin. natural detoxifying becomes a harder job and you may welcome some assistance. By embarking on a detox regime you can help the natural cleansing acts of your kidneys and liver.
One day. refined sugar. body defoliants. Lemon juice and honey-fasting is less stringent than water-fasting as it supplies some basic nutrition and the cleansing progresses at a level that is more comfortable than water-fasting alone. I even now bring smiles on their faces by reminding them of the incident. If you choose one thatʼs hard to adopt and affects your life too much. Mumbai. What a beauty! During my leave in the sixties I was spending a few days at Kanpur with my in-laws along with my wife. New Delhi-110055. taunted me by saying ‘Are jija ji.” By now many young boys were walking along on the footpath gazing at them. as well as anything with caffeine. especially with live enzymes which jump-start a sluggish immune system and provides nourishment for sustaining the fast for long periods of time. You should also do away with alcoholic beverages. two of my sisters-in-law who were in their twenties and very naughty. of course. I started walking with the girls on the road and quietly told them to walk on the foothpath with their sister as it is risky to walk on the road. Only the very healthy should go on short waterfasts because the toxins released could overwhelm toxic and sick bodies. Cleansing with raw food refers to vegetables and fruits. One of the girls was having the ‘Sadhna Cut’ hairstyle which was very popular those days and the other was having a ‘Nest Type’ hairstyle. These foods and drinks contain the poisonous substances that you want to avoid. While at the Mall we husband and wife were walking on the footpath. The car drivers will skirt past us. Has something happened in your life that has left an indelible impression on your mind? And you still remember it after many years! Why not cherish those moments again? All published memorable incidents will be paid Rs 200. the two most well-dressed. Many people seldom eat any fresh vegetables and their only fruit may be a banana on their We breakfast cereal. the live enzymes yield great benefit to a body that has been impoverished with cooked foods for a long time. B. beautiful. My wife coaxed me to get her sisters on the footpath.com Name: Mobile: E-mail: April (Second) 2012 113 . a retired Army officer who came in his car with the driver Woman’s Era ● and his carbine and whisked us away from the restaurant to his home. pestered me for a treat at Kwalitys. Singh. You can start your inner-body cleansing plan by eliminating toxic foods and beverages from your life. very fair. We noticed through the glass window that a number of those boys were hanging around outside waiting for us to come out and have a glimpse of the beauties. Two boys while looking at them and not seeing their way hit the wires of a pole pitched on the footpath and severely hurt themselves with bleeding from their noses and mouths with one or two broken teeth. Try something thatʼs approachable especially if you are new to detoxification and only try programmes that are more stringent once you have successfully completed a simpler detox diet or programme. massage and lymphatic drainage. Preservative-laden processed foods should go. Detoxifying is not just what you put inside your body. Today after 50 years the grandchildren of those sisters-in-law are not convinced that their grannies were so beautiful. what are you so afraid of? We are okay. They have accumulated in your body over time and now need to be flushed out with a body detox. Please type or write neatly on white foolscap paper and send it to: MUSINGS/MEMORIES E-3 Jhandewala Estate. my sisters-in-law started walking on the road.doesnʼt affect your life too drastically. All round the people gathered and were looking at them as curios. Womansera. you will have a hard time seeing it to completion. It became a nightmare for me as I got worried about their safety. thereʼs the outside as well. After our meals I rang up my father-in-law. and treatments with alternating hot and cold therapy. These are practices that can be incorporated into your detox regime. glamorous girls with appealing make-up and hair styles. Think about dry-skin brushing. We heard some people saying that it seems that these girls are some film actresses. TRY THESE RULES Water-fasting is a stringent and effective way to detoxify your body because it forces the metabolism of body fat and thereby releases stored toxins in the body fat into the blood stream for elimination as the fat oils are used for fuel. Again. But the girls instead of listening to me. Juice-fasting is the kind of detoxification method that it nourishes the body. – Colonel C. Just then we reached the restaurant. With a lot of hesitation I at the insistence of my wife agreed. or saturated fat.
sometimes I think that our Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 excessive devotion to what we call table manners has reduced mango eating to an absurd affectation.FORGET TABLE MANNERS WHILE EATING MANGOES W 114 Where “crudity” adds delicious flavour. it is not unlike a bedridden invalid eating a little bit of khichri! I think if you were to feed mangoes to a hen it comes to eating mangoes. with your lips barely making any movement. I am always reminded of Mirza Ghalibʼs classic obser vation regarding this palatable fruit – “Aam meethe hon aur bahut se hon!” That is. However. bit by bit. there are many people – yours truly being one of them – who do not relish mangoes the way these are served at sophisticated lunch or . it seemed a wholly artificial and a curiously mincing way of eating mangoes. be an outrageous breach of table manners if you were to lick or smack your lips! Eating mangoes this way – well. It would. and then began to eat tiny bits of it with a spoon! To me. with the stones. left out. C. Tuli dinner parties of the affluent. you eat your slice of mango slowly. mangoes should be sweet and in plenty. By A. In fact. when you are at a party. however. at one such party hosted by a corporate executive. of all shapes and sizes. of course. mangoes were served peeled and cut up into slices. Social etiquette enjoins that. Each of my fellow guests at this party slipped a slice or two of this fruit onto his or her plate. of course. The other day.
I first gently press it all over with my fingertips. That is. It is very likely that. There was. had persuaded Eve to pluck an apple from the Tree of Knowledge. Alphonso or Benarsi. juicy pulp sucked straight from a ripe mango. Ah! There is hardly anything half as delicious as a mouthful of thick. I have my own code when it comes to mango-eating. A guava is indeed a very companionable fruit. Whatever the tragic consequences of her eating it and then persuading Adam to eat it.. One of them is peeling it. Another fruit that I have always liked to take in its fresh virginal form is the guava – the smooth round Allahabadi variety that has very few seeds in it. alas. however. bitten by the bug of table manners. And. is not unlike a king who has lost both his crown and majestic attire. A true mango fancier would suck and lick clean a stone before throwing it into the garbage bin.. she would have changed her mind by the time the peeled and sliced apple had been We ready for her to eat. Or. and also the most enjoyable. healthy teeth. tearing out mouthfuls of it with her strong. A peeled apple. Eve would have grown suspicious of Satanʼs diabolical plan. those who love mangoes never neglect the stones of this fruit. There are numerous ways of robbing an apple of its natural grace and stunning good looks.sparrow that way. if not in taste. the meddling hand of man has not spared even this King of Fruits. If the fruit is a trifle hard and unyielding. Desi or dussehri. way of eating a ripe dussehri mango is to suck at it after removing the tiny wart from the top.! Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 115 . peel and slice it with a knife. The spicy chaat of guavas may be relished once in a while. And then. in short. Now just imagine what would have happened if Satan. The peeled apple. while peeling and slicing the apple that was to bring about a cataclysmic change in her life. Though the Old Testament does not mention it by name. But. it need not be said that a true connoisseur of mangoes always enjoys licking and smacking his lips to show his true appreciation of this sumptuous fruit! To hell with your table manners. One more fruit that I like to sink my teeth into as often as I can is the apple. But I think one learns as one grows old. It pinches his conscience to let so much of pulp sticking to the stone go waste. maybe. it has been taken for granted by the world at large that it was indeed an apple with which the wily Satan tempted the innocent Eve in the Garden of Eden. with a few drops of lemon juice sprinkled over them. Leaning against the back rest of your four-poster. as he licks with his tongue the tiny bits of the fruit sticking to the corners of his mouth and lips! Not forgetting his fingers and palms! Then. to me the most natural. you can eat a guava and also watch your favourite TV serial at the same time. and then eat it off a platter sitting in some cosy corner of the Garden of Eden. it goes without saying. he would say with a snap of his mango-stained fingers. if it is a bright sunny day in winter. it is fairly safe to assume that Eve must have eaten the apple heartily. you can dispatch a couple of guavas as you sit on the verandah of your house with the dayʼs newspaper spread out across your knees. even she would feel insulted and fly away twittering angry curses at your meanness. completely loses its identity and comes down to the plebeian level of a peeled turnip in appearance. but in the long run one learns to bite into guavas as they come fresh from the tree. She would have then gone on to bestow second thoughts on what she was being tempted to do. a time when I liked guavas sliced and salted. I like my mango whole. You can go to bed with a guava without exciting your wifeʼs jealousy.
hygiene. Encourage group activities with other children in the locality so that with the passage of time you will find him impatient to go out to meet his friends. To begin with you could make a rule that junk food is to be eaten only once a week. MD. Every single moment of her waking day is accounted for in a positive way and yet I find her listless and unhappy. You could include at least one item of their choice in your daily menu. get him interested in some sort of sport or the other. It is important to have empowered women like you raise their young so that they grow up to be healthy and well-adjusted to society. provided the rest of the week is devoted to healthy eating. So do your best to set them on the right track. noodles. The feel-good hormones called endor phins are released during exercise and one gets habituated to the rush of well-being that accompanies it. The problem is that they do not eat healthy food. sambar. I do want to lay a healthy foundation for their future by feeding them nutritious wellbalanced meals but they do not listen to me. however much I persuade them to do so. a real threat to their future. 116 My son hardly spends any time outdoors. This has made childhood obesity coupled. there are certain issues such as education. I do the household chores while my mother-in-law has her way with my baby. He spends hours in front of the computer and if I force him to stop doing so he shifts to the TV. Please tell me how to make him do so. in short. swimming or cycling – and act accordingly. some schools have stopped serving unhealthy food in their canteens. Do not crush her spirit and give her childhood back to her. Could you please tell me what is the problem with her. gossip with friends. Being an educated non-working mother you could contribute so much to the welfare of your son instead of being consigned to the drudgery of household chores. but I would like him to exercise so that there is an all-round development. which is a wonderful way of making the children eat right. Speaking of classes. I have been trying to do the best for my daughter who is 10 years old. the amount of exercise they do is reduced to a minimum. Set a limit for his time in front of the computer and TV. I take her to dance classes. instead of forcefeeding them. He may rebel in the beginning but sooner or later will learn to relish his time outdoors. etc. most important of all. vaccination schedules. Not only have the eating habits of children deteriorated these days. You are converting your little girl into a robot! The pressure of doing things like a clockwork toy is making her stressed and unhappy. He is good in his studies and completes his homework before doing the above activities which is all very well. do the things she enjoys and not just those that you think are right for her. stuffed parathas. balanced diet and. Please tell me what to do? A recent study has shown that children are likely to have a lower overall development in households where the mother does not have a say in their upbringing. Ask them to make a list of the home-cooked foods they like best. You could take them to the restaurant of their choice and allow them to eat what they like. a son aged nine and a daughter aged seven. I have two children. attendance of well-baby clinics. she will never learn to think for herself. Instead. My husband does not even want to think of separating out and I am at my witsʼ end. paradoxically with nutritional deficiency states. Besides her usual school works. Please tell me how to go about it. ask for his assistance in conveying the same to his mother so that she does not take offence. – Dr Amrinder Bajaj.I am an educated woman married into an orthodox family and have a dominant mother-in-law. Her spontaneity and creativity will be lost and she will end up being a product under which the unique individual that she is will be buried forever. Childhood obesity is becoming an increasing menace with far-reaching consequences. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your husband. Also. mother-child bonding that is essential for the overall growth of the child. badminton. Lock the entire house for an hour or so every evening and accompany him to the local park or club. Do not give them money to eat junk food during recess at school. Give her time to relax. I have no say in his upbringing which I cannot tolerate. if a child is coached for everything. which will never come back. In fact. Try not to make exercise a chore. You are robbing her of her childhood – the most precious time of her life. swimming and singing and self-defence classes. play. I am not allowed to work. serve the greens in a palatable way – in soups. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . If they do not like vegetables per se. Find out his likes – be it cricket. All this I tolerated for peace in the family but matters have come to a head after the birth of my son. Tell him that though your motherin-law has wisdom and experience on her side which you will avail of.
supple body and sharp features. from the upstairs window where she stood combing her unruly hair. shrugged Nina. Both the mothers went to the same club. lovers sat in the shady arbours. and 118 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Nina’s father had helped his colleague find a flat near their own house and that was how the two families became friends. She turned her attention back to Ravi – how handsome he looked! His lean. Oh well. Nina’s father worked in the bank and so did Ravi’s father. No matter how she combed and braided it. walking in the park. It was a haven for the flat dwellers of the area. her hair had a way of falling over her face – not like her sister Preethi’s hair. even against a Bollywood star – right across the two storied flat where Nina lived by the Nehru Park.Short Story Girl with ice cream on her nose And she thought that her sister attracted him! By Hema Bal S he could see Ravi. who had been transferred there. everything about Preethi was admirable. Nina watched Ravi pacing up and down. exchanged recipes and celebrated festivals together. People came to get relief from the summer heat. that was long. Ravi often dropped in at their house and Nina had a sneaking feeling that Preethi was the magnet that drew him to their flat. Ravi himself had graduated from an engineering college and was looking out for a lucrative job. that could hold its own. weaving rosy dreams. luxurious and always stayed in place. A beautiful layout with shady trees and colourful blossoms.
planned to meet in the park? Had she stood him up? could not but admire his looks. Tall and lissome, he If so, she was making an excuse for Preethi. For the had everything that made her heart flutter. But she missed rendezvous. knew he was not for her and, in her wildest dreams, There, she thought. Now, he need not be burdened however much she yearned, she would not get him. It could not be otherwise, when her sister Preethi had with me. He can make an excuse and leave. But, instead, he ordered two ice-cream cones. all the looks that complemented his Compared to Nina said tentatively, “Preethi is so pretty and Preethi, she was only a plain-Jane. He had eyes only gay. That is why she is so popular. Not at all like for her beautiful sister and her dreams were only me. Ravi, don’t think I am poking my nose into your pipedreams. affairs. But if you don’t pop the question to Preethi But if he was waiting for Preethi to join him, she now, you are likely to lose her.” knew he was going to be disappointed. It had taken her a lot of courage to Nina had heard Preethi promising to be She felt that all speak so bluntly. But she did not want Ravi at the beach – Preethi had a wide circle the birds in the to be hurt. She turned aside to hide the of friends, and too many bows to her park had started torment in her own soul and missed the string. She felt sorry for Ravi because Preethi would keep Ravi dangling till she singing. That all twinkle in his eye. “Well then,” he drawled turning her had her fling – she was that kind of a girl. the flowers were around and giving a lops rided grin. “I am Out to have the maximum fun from life. nodding in popping the question now, as you are the An extrovert, charming, gay and assent. She was second person to prompt me.” determined to enjoy life – no matter She looked at him, a perplexed whom she hurt on the way – Whereas so wonderfully, expression on her face, “Ravi, I don’t Nina was more of an introvert, a wall ecstatically understand.” flower and wouldn’t even say boo to a happy, she forgot He lifted her chin, “You never did goose. to say yes. understand. You carry always holding a She saw Ravi look up and seeing her, torch for that sister of yours and hide your beckoned to her to come down – she felt her heart miss a beat and debated to herself whether light under a bushel. I don’t care if she has gone to Timbaktu. You are here, and that is what matters. to change from her faded jeans to something more Should I go down on my knees and propose in right presentable. But, what the heck, he is not going to royal style?” His eyes crinkled as he looked down at notice it, even if I wear a gossamer gown, she told her with an impish grin. herself. No use trying to attract him with a fine “Now cut all that crap about your beautiful sister. dress! It is she who told me that, if I didn’t propose to you She joined him in the park. “So you are trying to fast, you would have me hitched to her. She was beat the heat. It is a sultry day isn’t it?” she asked. wiser. You couldn’t see the woods for the trees. You “It sure is. But it is pleasant here. Come, sit got it all wrong. Now say yes or no.” down,” he indicated a bench in the park under a Nina could not believe it. sprawling cherry tree. Nina looked into his eyes “You mean you are asking me to marry you? Me, searching for a gleam of disappointment. Surely, he who is not a patch on Preethi?” must regret it was she and not Preethi. Who had She looked down at her faded dress. Knew she turned up. must be looking plain and drab and yet Ravi was “Yes, it is nice and cool here and the fragrance proposing to her! from those body blooms is refreshing. I don’t know She felt that all the birds in the park had started why Preethi preferred going to the beach today, singing. That all the flowers were nodding in assent. with her friends.” She was so wonderfully, ecstatically happy, she forgot to say yes. But she made a last ditch attempt here, she had subtly let him know that Preethi to make Ravi aware of what he was letting himself in would not be coming. She looked up expecting for. to see him frowning. But his expression did not “I have a snub nose,” she started. “and there is a change. In fact, there was an enigmatic smile, blob of ice-cream on it!” He laughed as he bent playing in the corner of his lips. Or was he trying to down and licked it off – to the consternation of an hide his dismay? old lady passing by, who shook her head in disgust “Actually,” she went on, “Preethi is such a or approval. The old lady didn’t look back, or she gregarious person. Her friends always want her would have been further stunned for they were in around to liven them up. So much so she tends to each other’s arms and the cherry blossoms fell on forget promises made to others to meet them.” their heads like a silent blessing. That was a dart sent at random. Had they We
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On the other hand. 122 unusual forms such as a coiled python. A stand-alone form of an elderly woman in the work Agony by Simran Rayat captured the lined visage with accuracy while Devi by Sonali Chaudhuri took its cue from folk forms. Although the preferred forms of women artists – such as bird. it was the female figure that dominated artistic choices seen on the walls. THE FEMALE FIGURE Being a woman-centric show. her sleep-filled posture makes her illusive and distant. flower. A preference for abstract compositions in vivid colours. The minimal strokes of the triptych female outline by Sonia revelled in the joy of movement even as Soumya Manjunathʼs Goddess was characterised with mythical references. For Kavita Dhankar. mystical settings. or even sombre palettes for choices more realistic. Pratiksha by Ravneet Kaur glorified the languorous charm of drapery on her womanly figure. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . Kunti Hariharan on the other hand chose all the right symbols to capture the moment of bliss in her work titled Love where the woman was a barely-visible gossamer figure. The mirror image. It was clear that these women artists were unshackled and inquisitive and had used the canvas spaces as mediums of their newfound personal discovery. this display has acquired a character that stretches beyond the linear concept of just art. We he fifth edition of the annual womenʼs art exhibition aptly titled Stree to mark International Womenʼs Day was held at Delhiʼs landmark art address Art Mall. The viewer fortunately is not an invasive presence but a welcome invitee who is cajoled to share the serenity of this silence within the artistʼs soul by concentrating on the bent figure holding a pigeon as in the work of Kanak Vyas. made for a regal setting in the work of Manjee Kaur Mejei. Over the years. it is usually alongside commendable social causes that concern women. this time round. a paper collage amalgam that art and womanly preoccupations came to a head. while the pastoral idyll of Mehak Chawla held the charm of Vrindavan as its core source of inspiration. though the woman is right in the face. The urge for personal expressiveness is what has made these works a silent communion between the creator and their art. reposing in the world of her dreams. continued to impress viewers with their explorative stances. the Stree exhibition honoured the survivors of breast cancer. drawn through linear strokes of engaging abstraction. or the floating feminine figure part-submerged behind the foreground of mellow but definitive lines. And. But it was Uma Sharma in her work Women at Work. The grace of a single dancer framed against a colonnaded passageway. As for the art on display. there were plenty of experimental offers alongside. making fine art the medium whereby the voice of this sometimes silent majority is heard. While in other years the causes have ranged from the show being a part of the overall Bhikhu Ram Jain charity umbrella. making this brave bunch a beacon of hope held up before their less fortunate sisters. her woman has the power of the goddess. Ranging from the village belle in the work titled Thirsty Woman by Kanupriya Bakshi. For one. the entries to the competition that marks the choice of exhibits on the walls. And the Radha Krishna Internal Love work of Rashmi Singh on the Krishna theme detailed the mythological subject using mixed media. In Farah Khanʼs work titled She. Tabassum Malikʼs work titled Womanʼs Day summed up the mood of womanhood in the free-flowing movements of elongated figures with raised arms and arched bodies. yes. treated in a highly imaginative way was used by Malkvika Jain in her self-portrait titled Reflection of Me. were a gamut of themes. calligraphic inclusions or mixed media studies or cubist surface treatments with receding forms in the backdrop.THE SILENT MAJORITY T A woman-centric show. meditative Buddha depic tions and other mythological studies – were in evidence. By Subhra Mazumdar Kavita Joshi used the repetitive mudra of dance to bring out the rhythm in her work titled Glimpses of Rajasthan. to the spring flowers seller depicted in the work of Kaveri Ray. these studies dealt with womenʼs activities in the most intimate ways. loud and clear above the din of oblivion. particularly in the treatment of the facial features and the jewellery embellishments. No longer were they limiting their choices to predictable compositions but had taken wing with novel texturisation.
she was anxious to avoid a confrontation. Seeing him unexpectedly after so many years. It surely couldn’t be her! The voice rang out again. a modest smile on his face. anxiety. “This brings us close to a wonderful evening. this time closer to her. as she began moving slowly. and last but not least. The old familiarity with his bearing and manners came back to her. Are you. He had changed much in appearance. Perhaps he was calling someone else. “Wait! Are you Seema.” she replied. Ladies and gentlemen. Seema was anxious to get out of the place. He walked with brisk steps and received the medal with an obeisant gesture.” he tapped his forehead lightly. She shut her eyes momentarily. his eyes crinkling with merriment. the truth came out. Seema’s heart plummeted. a quizzical expression on his face. “You had longer hair earlier. yet his face bore the stamp of age with dignity. “Yes. ‘Ever so cryptic with his words. She now felt it imperative to look. and clutched her bag closer.. all the participants. refreshments are awaiting you in the adjoining room. reflecting on his brief speech. Please help yourselves.” A random smile appeared on Seema’s face. excitement.” 124 . Was it really him? She had not heard his name uttered for more than 20 years.. Seema waited for some moments for the crowd to thin. she knew it was him. it’s crowded too. creasing his forehead in the process and studied her face.” the host beamed. the audience for giving much of their valuable time. looking at her directly.Short Story The appointment 20 years later. an old voice beckoned her. It was rude of me to call you peremptorily. Besides. By Ananya Sarkar A nd the award for the best fiction goes to Mr Amit Mehra for the story The Unsent Post! The hall reverberated with applause. I mean Miss Seema Biswas?” He had recognised her! Seema laughed nonchalantly. She blushed with confusion and looked away. And here she was about to see him after so long! She pressed her fingers together in trepidation. “Is it only me who has undergone changes?” They laughed in unison. Others were making their way out of the room to the next. In fact. how could she be talking and joking with him after what had taken place. “Excuse me!” Without turning.. Or else. His hair was greying at the temples.. “Please don’t mind. Then. “Besides. No wonder I found it was difficult to identify you!” She playfully raised her eyebrows in reply.” he spoke into the microphone. she had received quite a jolt.. There was an urgent need to collect herself.” She had no inclination to eat and felt robbed of her appetite. “I’d like to thank the judges. “Thank you so much.?” He narrowed his eyes. “This really means a lot to me. He stood there. of course!” Now he was laughing too. But.’ she mused. “You seem so familiar. she wondered.? “Heading for refreshments?” he enquired. A moderately tall man emerged on the stage. “Not really hungry. and yet seemed to her to be still the same. Were they in the past..
driven said slowly. though suffering from geriatric ailments. It took place yesterday. she and Amit How careless of me!” had decided to elope.. Let him think as he might. “I’m sorry. From Amit’s part. smiling. The tickets were booked. which was arriving later in the night. It ended for good. Amit. She felt a “And. “And as I had today in hand.” “Yes.” friend’s wedding. had died some years back. You know how it is.” he cafe. elope. everyone? It seems like you haven’t changed there. and coincidence!” She asked him whether he still resided were even on the verge of marrying! Her in Delhi..” he replied. as he was not as “well-established” as happened to participate in this national fiction Neeraj Basu.. It just happens decided to do some sightseeing in the the evening at sometimes.. and silhouetted the latter against the My heartiest congratulations to you.” his voice trailed window. And me being interested in literature. Her father had passed H Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 125 . looking at his fingers. But things had here I am!” not quite worked out that way. All these years. And then. close to the she and Amit “What? Oh. submissions to which were made online. there had been no contact. but she would not be able to go. “By the way. his colleague’s son. “And I have moved on.. do appointment on the 12th of April. at six in said. he was unconcerned.” she she said. Can’t tell you how experience as well as for enriching his resume. she too wanted to be acquainted with his present. I April. by the way. my. to desperation. But surprised I was!” “I remember how you had a penchant for writing. I’m a divorcee. had died suddenly of a heart attack.” due to post-wedding hassles. so I took a few days leave from office..” he said. “I’ve had two marriages you know. “I just remembered. she offered me ow singular life was.. Their lives had turned out differently. No use impinging ourselves on each other’s lives. was in a job to attend the award ceremony in Mussoorie — as I with a moderate remuneration. she was stable now..” She was considering whether it was such a good idea to go out with him. enquired hesitantly. It was his first job. they wired me to say that I had MBA from Princeton University and worked in a multinational firm. she “Ah yes! I’m still a Delhiite. “Well. and They were to go to Delhi in the Ruchika Express.. At last. What she as well as he really wanted to know was..“You’re right. you’re leaving on the. “Oh! If you’re free.” on the 12th of “You don’t have to feel guilty. “Honestly.. who had done his contest. father always held out against him. none of them really worked Mussoorie. how’s Mr Basu?” “Mr Basu? Oh. happiness at the wrong places. driven to desperation. she the subher. The Treat at a stone’s throw and the coffee there is simply amazing! I’ve tried it. and that today was the “Let bygones be bygones. that I had been looking for “And?” station. we actually got divorced a long time back.” he said. Amit’s mediocrity made Neeraj seem all the more illustrious... Anyway. at that time.” “So!” he exclaimed. My stay and transport and he had grabbed the opportunity.. she knew.. Neeraj! Well. a pass. I’m free. that is. As for her mother. how’s your wife?” she little embarrassed. I away the previous year. We have to move on award-presentation ceremony. “What a They had been college sweethearts once. There were mostly youngsters..” Yet he went on. Seema kept thinking. his uncle.?” His voice startled an officer in the Green Bank of India. However. Perhaps it was my “I came here from Kolkata to attend a appointment fault all along.” She shook her head gaily. They had fixed up an He laughed jovially. that’s one way to look at it. “Yes. of all places!” out. Her sister had two passes to the event. no communication. “Thank you! But tell me. “But at times.” she said.” She dithered.” t was around 7 o’clock when they entered the “Yes.. former. had decided to off. They had he spoke after some moments. Reenu told me about this literary that is why my marriage –”. “Would you like to go for a cup of coffee? There’s a wonderful cafe. morning and. last month. editor of a news agency..” he replied. I guess.” she forced out the words. who had been his sole guardian. for the sake of allowance would be funded.” Howrah I feel that. maybe “Well. “But I’d never thought I’d meet you here – fixed up an unfortunately. “I can understand. They exchanged news about themselves. was one of the winners. festival going on. these were only generalities. middle-aged people like them. He was “So. They took a table at the corner... don’t be. don’t we?” “True. few At last. after all. at six in the you still practise such formal exchanges with evening at Howrah station. What would he think of her now? But she let herself go.
anguish and pain — the sense of rejection. “neither did I go that day. and he could not bring his eyes to meet hers. Amit for the first time referred to the past. an unseeing hand had lifted the palpable yoke which was weighing on their minds. A wave of pensiveness and desolation suddenly overcame her. There was still half an hour left for her train to arrive. imagining him to be in that situation! And he must have similarly undergone the same thoughts. imagining your situation. within minutes. They talked trivialities till it was time to leave. It was nice to meet you.” he said. on that day. He could not believe his ears. This was exactly what she had now considered Amit to be have been feeling. as they walked. “I know it’s late but I still wanted to tell you something.” There was a pause. It sounded fateful to her. But it had all been in vain! He had not arrived either. Seema was as stupefied. “At that time. her eyes sparkling brilliantly. Was she speaking the truth. to her home.. The loudspeaker announced the arrival of the Sheetal Express. the veil was torn and in the process it set free a torrent of emotions which were difficult to grasp. So I really don’t have a choice!” She exclaimed how cold it would be during that hour. “So. there is nothing to feel bad about. Seema turned to him in silence.m.” she spoke at last. at 8 a.” she said. And this time. being apprehensive that you might think me to be fickle-minded or. Seema. done in a sly and secretive manner.. He nodded. without any premeditation. I felt terrible that day as the hours ticked by. I never saw you after that. It was 7. She smiled. but it was booked by the Vimla authorities. but I’ve been haunted by this guilt ever since. I mean on the 12th of April. The crowded station with its busy and frantic life had been witness to their failed appointment. wrapped in a silent communion. She was to go back. irrevocably bound up by this particular train. or was this a resort to save her face? But her eyes were clearly corroborating the words! On her part. She had often been stricken by remorse at not being able to confront the truth at that time.” He heaved a sigh.. She felt herself in the torment of misery. to the tryst that was not kept.” Seema glanced at her watch. really sorry Seema! Please forgive me if you can!” “Weʼve made an appointment again.30. It was as if. I too had started feeling that it would be against my principles to do some underhand thing like that. Her mind kept reverting to the disclosure the day before that had almost appeared to be cataclysmic. to her 126 . The mist had lifted. of the same reasons. “It’s getting late.” They looked at each other. I somehow started feeling that my actions ought to be honest and open. I was both happy and afraid at the same time. “I was such a coward! But. “The Sheetal Express. He went on. I’m sorry I didn’t turn up. to her job. “My train’s at six! I should have liked it to be not so early.” she said. believe me. “But. and no one is to blame. Seema. Amit. How would she have reacted had she gone that day and confronted his absence? Would she then have been able to receive him the previous day with the same cordiality? There would have undoubtedly been feelings of anger.” “I’ll be leaving two hours before you.“I’m leaving tomorrow... And I couldn’t tell you either because.” he smiled. who arranged the competition. Even when I saw you today. not something like elopement..” His voice sounded hoarse. That day. I must be going. O n the way to the bus-stop. “You know. that you might suppose that I didn’t love you enough. I know how much you hate me but still I’d like to say this — I’m really. I didn’t have the courage to tell you this then. go back to Kolkata. Her destiny was decided.
But. The station clock read the time as ten minutes past eight. T heir eyes met. Did he miss his train? Amit spoke hesitantly. She turned abruptly. shorn of all ambiguity. had taken the shape of this train. Her heart contracted in its resolution. Passengers hurried to the doors. And this time. She would seek out things later. to her. without any premeditation. for the present. happen what might. For the first time. But Seema’s feet remained rooted to the ground. It was Amit! She suddenly felt surprised at being so happy to see him. The train moved out and. she too. Seema. And what about her. He whispered now. I didn’t feel like going. “I don’t know what you’ll make of this. joined by Amit. What was she doing? Why? Was there any reason? But the questions overlapped with one another and the answers eluded her. Had it approached so soon? Seema felt it had come to seize her back. I’ve never done something like this before. He gently put his hand on hers. Passengers hurried to the doors. Believe me. he asked. They understood each other indubitably. Somewhere inwardly. reminding her of her duties. the greater part of the platform was vacated. She told him that.accustomed life. her consciousness rang out. and her body stirred itself to readiness. she decided. had no concrete reason for not returning.. The vestiges of misery had vanished. We 127 . “We’ve made an appointment again. She was filled with a rising determination to oppose all the antagonistic forces in her life – which. T he train was to halt for only five minutes at the station. with it. throat. their voices mingled with the growing din of the station. Then she remembered that he was to have left for Delhi much before.. It was an impulse. I. She would not board it. she did not want to go back. “It’s an appointment our hearts have made in secret!” And as Seema’s tears dissolved into laughter. A loud whistle was heard as the train rumbled steadily into the station.” She struggled to repress a sob. Someone sat down on the bench next to her and cleared his The train was to halt for only five minutes at the station. silence uttered the syllables of love.” An exclamation escaped her. He smiled and she returned it. But Seema’s feet remained rooted to the ground. and at once the truth lay bare.
but unfortunately the most neglected of all. Normal sexual intercourse is fatiguing not because of its own exertion but through its exertions on nerves. the more abrupt is the ebb. is emotion in motion. Their souls meet and merge though bodies are de-linked. T. LIVE THE DELIGHTS A 128 After two orgasms. sleep. Thus. It makes it more than just a physical encounter. Imagination requires subtlety. Often. Woman’s Era ● fter the sex act. the soul and the body unite and produce a melody. Van de Velde in Ideal Marriage. excess must be staved off. it is either slighted or bypassed depriving spouses of rich have of happiness. It is a part of sexual intercourse. This may be This bliss of afterglow units the couple as they lie embraced and in their imagination. Thus. In short. This is often overlooked by couples who do not understand. impressions. or lack deep feeling for. and more acute the exhaustion. However. “After-play is an essential and most significant act in the love drama. They turn over. and live through the delights they have just been through. What spouses do in afterplay is indicative of what goes on in their relationship and of their attitudes towards sex itself. Soni slow in some cases and fast in others. Sex. April (Second) 2012 . Happiness is savoured by spouses during the pause of respite which follows the sex act.” Afterplay is essential to a happy marriage because it seals the inspiration of love. They turn away from each other. Spouses would do well to cultivate this aspect of sexual relations with utmost care. They turn a blind eye to the depth of her sexual pleasure. murmuring appreciative words or otherwise enjoying afterplay that deepens and extends the total sex experience. She desires nothing better than opportunity to prove the rapture he has ignited in her. is not satisfying and is not consuming. physical evacuation is less straining than a deep communion. records. Many men are in the habit of going to sleep just after the act. spouses may attain continuity of emotional communion which is the essence of a happy marriage. the prelude to sex union begins and goes on to a crescendo. M. they reveal ignorance of her psyche and aesthetic subtlety of her love.H. Rony and Reena are sensitive to each otherʼs needs. afterplay an important part of love-making.Accomplished spouses know that sharing tender touches in bed as after sexual passion subsides. then. tenderness. Of course. feelings and verbali sations. As soon as the first urges surface. begins the epilogue (the afterglow). in the dream they have experienced in flesh and blood. Exaggeration is taboo. And the sudden relaxation after intense exertion causes not only fatigue but some other kind of exhaustion which is akin to psychic and mental processes. treating sex as a part of the overall love and tenderness they feel for each other. it may be likened to the flash of lightning. But it should echo and vibrate and reawaken the ʻpreliminariesʼ of a fresh act of love-making. In a deep communion. The whole thing is not physical but psychological. loving the warmth of afterplay. But when it is intense and considerate. This explains why a sexual union carried out abruptly and comes to a quick climax. afterplay attains full appreciation and recognition. it is not possible to pin-point this joy-giving phase. snore while the wife is yet slowly coming from the slow ebb of sexual tides. In exceptional cases. charm and under-playing. giving each other gentle smiles or caresses. The higher the tension. each other. They enjoy themselves both during and after intercourse that sex is a delight and they delight in each other. In a truly harmonious and happy marriage. It may linger like a good perfume or die away like the final notes of a sweet melody. This bliss of afterglow unites spouses as they lie embraced side by side. BLISS OF AFTERPLAY By I. urge for tender caresses and honey words.
the wife need not remain unsatisfied. Using words. Even if her husband climaxes. though. Maybe. there are spouses who give voice to their wants and dislikes before the act and who say things to each other while locked in sexual embrace. is snuggling.” Another point is: if there is something you particularly want. ask for it. Only animals perform without verbalisation but even they grunt and growl to express their joy.Nina and hubby have to accept that they are not the most vibrant of sexual performers and do not really enjoy sex to any significant degree. They perform in silence and conduct whatever afterplay they enjoy in silence. or it is is just a few words of appreciation between your partner and yourself. and there are still many who experience difficulty in expressing themselves as to their sexual like and dislikes. they recapture their moments of passion and relive the most exquisite sensations. It is best to think of afterplay as a continuation of the sex act. Few people talk about sex. Maybe. and holding the afterplay and that is what. It can be a stimulus of a new afterplay encounter. Sushme Pratiksha. You do not need to be a brilliant conver sationalist to say. an extension of the sexual experience that begins with the first kiss or touch of foreplay. Maybe. I enjoyed that so much. it is nesting together as you drift off to sleep. It is hard to enjoy afterplay without sex-talk of some kind.” GREEN – MY FAMILY WAY Walking the rugged path Wading through the forest Leaves touching me tenderly Warmth of Mother Nature Carefully watching my steps On the path of pebbles Hanging climbers around I felt their protectiveness My father held me back A parade of elephants ahead Exhibiting to the world The strength of togetherness The parade cleared away Revealing a high cliff The stones looked eroded Raising my curiosity Mother said. They find it easier to ʻdoʼ something sexual than to talk about it! Yet. it is reminiscing about the things you did and felt. describing how good it felt. kissing. She can be led to delights. It is hard to enjoy afterplay if you do not feel a sense of completion with regard to sexual intercourse itself. Most sexual partners. those who do so agree that it deepens and enriches the whole sexual encounter. S. Tamil Nadu. it is the close physical contact that you desire most. What they do enjoy though. That will help you to focus on what it is you want out of afterplay. Many couples say nothing to each other – not while they are in the midst of passion. here it was A mighty silver cascade People around me awed I was very annoyed What will my future have? If I left no green for them Picked the bottle I dropped Stuffed in my cosy bag I turn around to you all Let us take the oath of our life We will conserve energy We will preserve resources We will make the earth green We will give our future green green be our family way green be our earth way – S. The reason couples do not do so is they are shy in that respect. Balzac profoundly proclaimed: “In love – quite apart from the psychic element – woman is a harp who only yields her secrets of melody to the master who knows how to handle We her. Another way to help yourself think about it as an enjoyable experience is to recall a really lovely experience you had in the past. “Letʼs hold each other for few minutes” or “Honey. do not say anything to each other about the love-making they just shared. nor afterwards. too. Sex talk is an important facet of afterplay. and who use sexual communication as part of their afterplay experience. They tell each other what they especially enjoyed about the experience. All it takes is a willingness on the husbandʼs part to give to his partner by continuing the union. for them. Others extend the flow of sex by saying some loving and appreciative things to each other afterwards. the highlight of their unions. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 129 .
my elder brother who is 27. Things will be awkward between the three of you. If you stand independent and strong you will be shown in a good light and it will be your parents whom people will look at in askance. highspirited woman who has no serious interests. It was clear from their conversation that there was something going on between them. I am head over heels in love with the man my parents have got me engaged to. Would that be wrong of me? Your distress is totally understandable and it is indeed a pity that parents should still have such old-fashioned ideas today. I found my grandparents asleep and my mother and uncle in my uncleʼs bedroom. I then began keeping a watch on them and one day. Now. but our wedding is going to take place only after two years because my fiance works in America and cannot get leave till then. I have known that my parents preferred my brother to me because of their old-fashioned belief that a son carries the name of the family forward. Their attitude has hurt me but I have not let it stop me from trying to achieve my aims. you will tell your father. Could I be wrong? The chances are that you are not wrong. When my in-laws-to-be told my family this after our engagement. If you expose your mother and uncle. He then stopped drinking and we were very happy together. My parents are rather mismatched. My 49-yearold mother is a fun-loving. It is not easy for an alcoholic to give up alcohol and you will have to be supportive and patient. I came home unexpectedly from work. you should see that he rejoins the de-addiction pro gramme. you should feel sorry for him. What should I do? It is very strange that your fiance cannot get leave to get married for two years and there seems to be more to it than just work. parents. I feel humiliated and angry and plan to cut off all links with them. but the family will survive. I donʼt believe him. but I stood by him and saw him through a de-addiction pro gramme that I coaxed him into joining. when daughters are achieving so much and are often taking responsibility for their parents in their old age. Both you and your husband will have to learn to take life one day at a time and be glad each day that he goes without alcohol. Now. Once you give birth to your baby. Since childhood. but though I do not have any proof. uncles and their families. my parents accepted it but I found the reason for the long delay. Now they have told me not to expect anything from them when I get married because all they have is for my brother. I have been offered a chance to go to Washington where my fiance lives. But in spite of this I always thought that they were happy together. you cannot let things continue like this. Six months have passed and to our joy I am now pregnant. My 53-year-old father is a quiet intellectual who is not at all worldly wise. Do some detective work and find out for certain and if you find that he is again drinking. two months later.into breaking up with your uncle. strange. he will certainly feel more motivated to stay on the wagon. I am completely traumatised. It was a terrible shock. But I suspect that my husband is drinking again. but remember that facing challenges only makes us stronger. Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . I am ambitious and dynamic and am determined to make something of my life. So he is really going nowhere. Since you are getting a chance to go to the city where he works. As for the money. So it would be better if you moved away from them without completely cutting them out of your life. I quietly went away before they saw me. A few weeks ago I was shocked to overhear my mother and my fatherʼs 60-year-old elder brother talking quietly on the terrace of the house. I am an unmarried 25-year-old working girl living in a joint family with my grandparents. As for your brother. You cannot stop your parents from doing what they want to with their money. but you would be the loser if you cut off all links with your immediate family. Your parentsʼ marriage will also be in trouble. My only sibling. He is a laid back character who didnʼt work hard in college and who isnʼt working hard now. you will break up the family and things will never be the same again. What should I do? Should I expose my mother and uncle? Your anguish is understandable. it is sad that you will now have to plan for your marriage by yourself. When I asked him he swore that he hadnʼt touched a drop since he completed his programme. Your instincts tell you that your husband is drinking again and we should always go by our instincts. is very different from me. for a month by the company I work for. But on the other hand. you should certainly take it and find out how matters actually stand. Your mother will probably be shamed 130 I am a 25-year-old woman with very good qualifications and an excellent job. Why donʼt you talk to your mother and tell her that you know about her affair? Also tell her that she should talk to your uncle and that if they continue with their affair. I want to go to find out what is actually happening but my parents are against my going and meeting him alone. Soon after my marriage (an arranged one) I found out that my husband was an alcoholic. but now you must think carefully about what you want to do.
an odd job here or there and not much else. I was left with the memory of a really cool guy who would race over the speed bumps. ostensibly banished. and finally. My life evolved to be every bit as absorbing as I had heard his was. my daddy wasn’t there but. By Shan Fazelbhoy M y daddy left a long time ago and. his drinking binges. In the many years that passed. over three decades were not enough to make any lasting impression. Being firm followers of the ostrich way of life. with all emotions swept under a carpet. Other than that. beaten and aired. his memory was relegated to the back-burner of my mind. in order to save the family any more embarrassment. rarely thinking of him or how he was. but obviously. When I got married. but a multi-layered personality. I heard of his marriage to an American. he attended our reception party. action was initiated. affected the entire family. I have a picture embedded in my mind of him there. My family was never communicative on any front. generosity and zest for life. I grew into adolescence and my teens. the banishment which completely altered the course of the life I had hoped to lead. one day. His alcoholism unfortunately. The only concern I could judge from overheard conversations was that he doesn’t drink too much. easily altered by the effects of his addiction to alcohol revealed a threatening and brutal side that was the complete opposite of his sober easygoing self. came from the drivers and cooks. love. but I don’t recall 132 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . a slow enduring flame that never extinguished in spite of being left in the dark. Our occasional fleeting meetings. cold annals of my mind. that was never taken out. He left for America. his severe problem was ignored and never dealt with. Addiction. A few black-and-white family photographs from when I was a few years old. when he left. who always commented on his friendliness. to either live somewhere else on a meagre stipend or leave for America to join a friend and try his luck. showed a charming and handsome man. being in the same city by chance. Finally. The fragmented information I collated. buy us two ice-creams at the same time and had a pretty hot girlfriend.Short Story I missed my daddy Inherited traits of an unknown father. he had to make a choice. pain. I don’t remember him much. Since we did not speak of him. months later.
Can you recall any such event or occasion in your life. unexpected and I was so overwhelmed that I started crying. We were on vacation in New York and since he lived upstate. He is open and honest and I feel no reservations in asking him anything. Goa. whom we call “taima” came. we were getting visitors who were sitting in the hall with my mother and chacha. I felt truly happy because of the children’s wishes for me. his drinking binges. We Laughing amids tears My elder brother had expired and his funeral was done at my chacha’s house at my native place BhomaGoa. little reminders of him started to find their way into my life.” Chacha promptly asked her. he met my daughter. In different eras. wondering if I actually was from them. He and I talked over the phone about two years ago. It was very Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 and love from some fellow human being. not knowing where to start and how far we could get. There have been no accusations or emotional outbursts. The questions were hesitant at first. I arranged all the snacks on a large table and I could see the excitement on those innocent faces. understanding The best birthday card This year. Fast cars and a need for speed were always a part of my life. “Kyun bhabhi. “Har sal ki tarah hawa khane Miramar Beach thi. sometime or other in one’s life. My younger daughter. without us knowing. the happiness I received from them is truly incomparable! 22 kids. ghar par nahin thi phir kidhar gayee thi?” She said. Send your contribution to: GRATEFULLY YOURS E-3 Jhandewala Estate. sympathy. but now. in different parts of the world but the connection could not be severed. just acceptance and no expectation. I heard of his marriage to an American. I had my first daughter. all aged under six. Every one of us has. I celebrated my birthday at an orphanage where I wished to go and make the children happy. In the many years that passed. has a charm that I feel is similar to his. received help. My daughter used to smoke Camel cigarettes like he did. ran inside and laughed amidst tears. Instead. Now. I was always thankful for being different. when you received such consideration and for which you are grateful? Each published anecdote will be awarded a prize of Rs 200. In all these years. On the fourth day. my mamu (mother’s brother) and I were sitting in the verandah. Within the next three years. Chacha asked her “Bhabi. all the children started singing the birthday song. I don’t know if anyone told him he had a grandchild. but just taking the opportunity to get to know someone who should have been a part of your life. at times. A lady who is my daddy’s elder cousin’s wife. Arriving with an armload of toys and the disarming manner that I remember. As soon as I began cutting the cake. Since we were drowned in sorrow. saying she missed the funeral as she was not at home. – Heena Otia. I got divorced and my life started looking even more like his had been. trying to catch up on a life gone blurry with time. whom he has never met. New Delhi-110055. I have always felt completely different from my family in my beliefs and outlook. not trying to cramp a lifetime into less than a hundred short conversations. an odd job here or there and not much else.any conversation or meeting him again during that trip. She had never seen him. I didn’t. had no idea of who he was. Even I became emotional. they played all afternoon. We stayed there for four days. A few years later. he was trying to cheer us up by his funny words and. My chacha was lovely and cheerful person.com Name: Mobile: E-mail: 133 . Ribandar (place were she stays) mein hawa nahin aathi? My mamu burst out laughing. I missed my daddy and didn’t even know it. he was getting successful in making us smile. But I also felt sad for those kids. Womansera. discovering and understanding myself through fragments of conversations with the man who is my father. We’ve talked a lot more since then. sat on tiny benches in a room. I have come to know that I am just the same. who were oblivious to such facts of their life. She sat in front of me and started crying. My daughter was quite reserved as a child and I remember being amazed at how easily she interacted with him. – Sherina Shaikh. I find comfort in knowing that I came from him and belong to him. Mumbai. I ride a motorbike and only recently found out that he had a passion for bikes. guidance. Over the past few years. he came to visit. but they just seemed comfortable and happy in each other’s company. Even I could not control myself but somehow I covered my mouth with my dupatta.
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The introvert in me took time to make friends in Kolkata. I first saw him when I returned from work on a weekend. Till I found an independent house. On first appearance.” He paused and groped for the direction from where my voice came and held out his hand. There were times when I pretended that I did not hear his repeated questions. Learning the language also took time. I felt that they had never been moved at any time. I had three roommates and for some time I was alone too. I did not like being his roommate. He was sitting on one of the beds with his back towards me. Shankar would give anyone the impression that he was from a rich pedigree. there came in another roommate. I was staying as a paying guest close to Karunamoyee in the Salt Lake area. But that stay is something that will remain etched in my memory for ever. But. I came to understand from the house owner that he was employed somewhere in West Bengal and he was in Kolkata for some time for some personal work. In the span of the seven months that I was there. Shankar would sit near the window and look out. It was like every time I saw the same things. We had lots of moments of silence between us for the first few days. I gave him a dead fish handshake and proceeded to freshen up and settle down. He made use of the edges of the bed or the door to get a relative sense of where the other objects were. I 138 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 . I am Roy.Short Story The Man Who Cured My Blindness He gave the author some insight into human failings. It was a real shock for me as I never at any time expected that I would share the same room with a blind person. Loneliness crept into me many times every day. One of these roommates was a young person from Andhra Pradesh who was there for most of the time. One of my very good friends had put me there for an interim stay. I was into one of the several rooms that had in it enough space and facilities for two persons to live in. Shankar Das. It took time for me to get over the shock. “Nice meeting you. And so I put my hand forward saying. M y first days in Kolkata were pathetic. There were lots of people there who stayed for an interim period. By Roy Cherian C. When twilight hit the sky. In a few days. I was here to join a new company and this was the first time I was staying away from home. I was already expecting a roommate any time and I took the initiative to go ahead with the introductions. I was forced to spend more time observing what he was doing. I noticed that he developed a very good idea of where the different objects were in the room. The other was an older person who was there for just about a few weeks. I noticed that the things he placed on the table formed a systematic arrangement. with whom I spent just about less than a month’s time. after a house was planned for me and I had taken a decision to move.
I replied that I really felt happy staying with him. We held our hands together for a long time and we complemented each other. as he could never see my genuine expression. but he opened the blind eyes of my mind that day. although I was not literally blind.was not sure how he was keeping track of time. the blindness of the character in me could not accept a person like him initially. I never could think of a moment when I sat near the window smiling while looking at the sky and the trees. although I was not literally blind. Sometimes. I noticed. 139 . he could not control his joy and he came towards me and gave me both his hands. I do not know how much he felt convinced inside his heart about what I said. I showed that overtly one day. There were no helpers doing it for us either. After the song. S everal days passed. I saw his face He was a much superior human being than what I thought about him and. my previous roommates would mess it up. He was a much superior human being than what I thought about him and. the blindness of the character in me could not accept a person like him initially. great reminiscences of Shankar singing at twilight. he would sing melodious Hindi film songs while sitting there and that slowly drew me to him like never before. near our house’s window and enjoy the evening sun. but twilight always brought him to the window. He would smile once in a while and I used to wonder what made him do so. The direction of his gaze would be towards the trees and the sky. We And that will remain in me forever. He took the pain to keep things clean and tidy. Every time I sit with my daughter. It was indeed a sad day for me when I moved out from that house. But Shankar. I had failed to notice that our rooms’ common restroom was all very clean with all things well arranged. while we could hear the chirp of birds heading for their nests. when I sang immediately after he completed one of his songs at twilight. My impression about him changed so much and I started loving his company. was strikingly different. flash through my mind. Even though I had tried several times to keep it clean. turn towards me and when I kept singing. Shankar was blind indeed. while chirping birds head for their nests. But Shankar lives in my heart even today and I have a great respect for him. he listened in rapt attention. He did ask me once whether I found it difficult staying with him.
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Our eyes admire those women who are dressed gracefully with a blend of style and elegance. and agony not The irony that it was opinion was asked proffered Ramona had my advice. Here. Prof. . even among activities continues Court’s sex.. an honest man feels that he must pay heaven for every hour of happiness with a good spell of hard unselfish work to make others happy. there created some al rights of . the scientists who are supposed to produce voluminous work of research in their respective fields mainly in the larger interests of nationʼs progress and development should work hard and come up with their own ideas and innovations for raising standards with a selfless motive by not adopting to plagiarism. till then that their Earlier. as the court universitie of and In 2007. one needs both. It is certainly not due to aping of the western society or culture that one gets entangled with homo sexuality. Further. The s of gay has rivers is marching and is poised by law in and we The proponentits validity as society was 21st century progress in 1860. We have to remind ourselves of one crucial thing. The ality.000 as 20 January. their in the annexing then on an to prevent the soldiers al they were in homosexu seems indulging most probably them from outbreak of sexually army under the FOR BETTER poser that who is Indian and thus stop them. could enjoy favour stating in society and at supported when . does not necessarily mean a sexual union. contempt. outward and noble sign of an inward and spiritual grace. gentle more at times can which without relationsh has are so and cement that honesty lack of diplomacy take you the block then you He should tal to building in its use. India is facing CREDIBILITY need proper funds go g the National of worried about These problems year. grace makes them Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 Your editorial Change for better (WE March I) is timely. important the of animals terms. lity. Further. research nomination s account a probe into into Anna Hazare’s to produce papers in laboratorie is the calling for nt. through a him cheating and she caught since this episode but I kind of – been a year friends – have we are still Ramona may not know that but my words are me forgiven of my friendly forgotten. Homosexu topic of debate respite is handle the your fingers a of birth (read a taboo.' Further. when disease. This for authorship suspect. filed 1500 twist. Likewise. p Be frank the If you tell him to go to hell. a true ip kind. – Beena Mathur. (March I. seem to be falling down as hinted out by the Prime Minister himself during the inaugural function of the National Science Congress held at Bhubaneswar in the recent past. homosexuals too be s in have become champion humans all that. works is happening of research If this is Minister is standard the Prime d why the of problems understan country and why even a multitude scientific falling in the it. But that scientific . Delhi High Court power. have got legal adopt what is being behaviour of sex has same sex behaviour? blindly time sexual the we with the name we know. They are and its flipside. . him. Indu Sekhar. us can identify have said Most of where we wish to take situation our we would something words escape as the 'honest' back even confuse We often the mistaken mouths. As mentioned. that of plagiarism uncovered case. the of then that Agreed that to change. All Delhi was a wave of the gays According in nature. so that they. 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I found the article titled Beautiful you forever. considered British. you cannot tell it about other people. It is indeed unbecoming and demeaning on the part of this noted and eminent scientist to have indulged in the malpractice of plagiarism of certain research work from foreign journals into his research paper. – Beena Mathur. Action to deter and disallow scientists from plagiarism by the government would go a long way in not only enhancing their prestige. CHANGE W A BLEND OF STYLE AND ELEGANCE Thanks Woman's Era for special issue on Fashion Over the Edge. including the that they. POLIC THE BEST titled: Is Honesty the Best Policy. what is most and essentially required among the scientists is selfless patriotism and not plagiarism for overall betterment of society. understand access to nothing good. had ruled that had been journal Applied a fined future. It has been rightly said that to be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. In fact. generous. ation. It are then humans this art. Eventuallywith 'Mr Right'. has ushered in an nt to In other words. the India. and most name. and has createdrelationships. – Bh. the based watchdog Patil’s himself. It appeared as community are expressed also. though legal ality that the case in step-by-st gaygene). thus leading to gay or lesbian sex. material the the income acquisition of Hutch’s come as light in venture with While the incident has then. powerful spotlight publication in various like the one to this tradition because puts the research petitioner. But especially Even is homosexu sanctions stigma also of animals western countries. lost has not change in terms of with back nations Their cause since long. 2012). It can be some groups are the mostbehavior shows maximum human sexual of life. Pune. the Prime ometime to solve concern over you can and developm Congress. Every last year. 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On bench s another foreignintroductory sentences considere d thing in Justice’s tax Vodafone’in Rao is state the by the Chief ly. quickly shot had a conflict the Prime scientist journal has been only Kapadia Council to with another in a foreign science to be tax judgment. but he who acts on that principle is not an honest man. that appeared as not to from downadmonished for wasting Applied Materials an earlier work gesture so the landmark was Physics Letters. earlier research Group in a party in fraternity Prof Rao’s nt. homosexuals by virtue of defective genetic composition arising out of (say gay-gene) have the propensity or mindset to attract the company of the same sex. On the contrary. & account s. prosecutio n. As of for a group was. newer fields write to: letters@wo has done had knocked government committee a plagiarism d contained as head of he co-authore Mashelkar that a book was discovered (Second) 2012 material. it is out of way when the question of homosexuality or a sexual attraction builds up between two individuals of the same sex.” by my valued 'open' relationshi my most when I reminisceeyes you will Have an was shattered nothing and live I shudder Ramona my friend’s my everyone there was with I always Maybe about that shadowed but there ever after. He even challenge l election. Their overtly ripples in society d feelings would too. peace is dependent upon honesty and oath is immutable in this world. as a personality a great deal my bluntness an thought and after some I have learnt to make and of resolution. are the social discrimina was a message is the . Fashion after 50 reminded me of the saying which goes like this: “Eat to please yourself but dress to please others". It is not all the time apt to assume that India which is adapting its way of life to modernity under the veil of western culture is solely responsible for an evolution or change when the trends of homo sexuality are ostensibly striking at society. that is. to say The law on an main bone the expert of homosexu our n in this is the has started in today. evolution to away of breaking ss. economy. I told her was plenty amiss believed absence to marry. If only self-centre Ramona. a review. Thus. joy. a celebrity ste type declining guess how nt in India.07 its joint Hence. It was Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) who said that 'Honesty' is the first chapter of the book of wisdom. This d the necessary environme provided understan changing ruling for their survival The adapt to shield against ruling. however. 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He’s you careful of be nice to should be things would not money. particularly at a time when the on-going debate on the aspect of homo sexuality has drawn the attention of the Supreme Court to pronounce the verdict for or against the alarming trends of homosexuality in the context of Indian society. to achieve tranquillity? (WE March II. This at workplace all. are often Plagiarism is increasing latest PIL thrives on His rises. subject. It is flood This change to with time. its goal on scientific in this case. but on earth. There This particular he claimed there of them involve court called year. sex is a biological need which under normal conditions of life involves physical sharing between two individuals of opposite sex.. after and as such should But can we reason why are human beings species today. 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PhD holders work. he of the union of rice and production walked straight how the him with revised estimates increase in The consumer the officials showed as per the of total food of horrified. yet big problem by their doctors pose a ailment. the situation nt except banning Meanwhile the governme such practices drug in their of to unnerve how and where begun the sale not know states. create a problem The 250. wheat. Above all. India is past. Sundaram. Was what d what my wouldn’t give understan was and perhaps trying to Perhaps it “Only I could wasted time much a she has never has never had that baby needed!” when she was decide. They got in India. late to popping like NREGA the foodgrain keep on schemes Patients prescribed a dent in stocks tablets as to work made foodgrain down the in a hope of the piling stocks. are about any respite. Address your letters by E-mail to: letters@womansera. but they brother. of thinking is. any the same. Contrary foodgrains thereby of often than the doctor a conscious lavish exportsexporters. valuable mansera. godowns maintained by Food Corporation of India are overflowing with rice. Murugesa story of a mother and never in abundanc fault? tion.” Bhuvana she finished to her and she told n and I to talk without across Murugesa Openly and me her story. his wife is a more and n. knowledg both smile than theoretica I went thud and indulgent practical a sudden told me as her speech. scientific time to promote there is no not many people the had country. level FDA . ation of at the may. It depicts the travails of mother to save her little girl from the clutches of certain death. making their children young children Soon. I was very was on the -law Murugesan. of Rajas are originated Fondness simulated. five-year-o parents were no travails of a true tale that of the joys and is n’s had two daughters of love. Indu Sekhar. down-sout chess compulsor efforts were As a result. these women tion at in India could fact that that family ters in discrimina negligence be the reason why they face perception job. and supportive Kumaresa Husband was studying for his n comforting parents how Murugesa Board exams. Hyderabad. when army. with at the same Clouds can hope but. iousness she talked with any self-consc had learnt to cope (Second) 2012 she Era ● January about how Woman’s of how Rangachari but true account By Kasturi Unbelievable her baby dying. for could also of 245 million the prescribed bumper harvest nt with the National t 117 mg cent higher than tablets But this governmen to be way iron in the 193 per t and the for the governme elemental cells. B 84 L and later child with only s accident the I her daughter’ had learnt to help to guide her.were a close. CHESS COMPU of Gujarat took y in beginning mother tongue state tongue. PILLS actually iron tablet a huge of a medical that too in tion ver heard particles. frontier locations must be migrating even for in They is prejudice recruited a challenge is wrong. his rights. When children are dying of malnourish ment and diseases. administra it. PROBLEM T This is with reference to your editorial Problem of Plenty (Womanʼs Era February II). then in the g If China mettle in done in the underminin western countries. impressed and yet practical Shankari n was at work. the inexplicab a woman’s story about child. who The Motherve up! wouldn’t Gi a maternal love beat the t Story The short story (WE January II) The Mother Who Wouldnʼt Give Up by Kasturi Rangachari is written in a nice way. WOMAN'S ERA invites readers’ opinions and reactions on articles. It is the but happy family. Lucknow. This is Bhuvana’s family trauma. our providing about market. Delhi. for them this. – Savithri Viswanathan. and children and as a bitter-swen to the healing power between 14-month Money was ly deep bond dedicatio he. S. Next Chief Election Commissioner should be a woman which will be a proud moment for our country. cases against the to distribute ones fell on is when such directions the irony usually too the needy ive light it is grains among course. employed to be to be held elections officers will of the five n Singh e may war only women in Goa. Though she was uneducated and came from a lower middle-class family. But stop about how to intolerable has can do little list be. New Delhi-110055. It one when Chennai. He for his exams and didn’t work dealing with ns ion preparatio her about his school’s an organisat s. no such cricket declared mindset. etc. of dyslexic with her noher brother-in little Padma. (BPL) This is despite the fact that the farmers of the country produced 102 million tons of rice and 88 million tons of wheat. space to involves e is common very little interferenc of our top scientific It requires can be played in It established day working that is. d horrors is going great. who more in turn. In It would be games. in woman scientists informed that 60 per cent he scenes were patronised the game. this courageous woman wages a war against them when she finds the little one is suffering from dyslexia.com or by post to: AS YOU SAY E-3 Jhandewala Estate. plastic doll. are the examples for our country. Her tell e. such cases kith and unnoticed in the country foodgrains their own Otherwise on occurringthat they are playing of foodgrains about importing the may go shortage . al grandmas because scientific popular This may stimulate of internation to the take up a l number initiative will or to carve a contrary women to Whether a substantia hope that the new scientists ns prevent seriously. Low wages. free iron OF PLENTY bumper harvest in and drug containing not believe State food another tonnes quantity? initially did will enjoy presented 102 million he country ner in Mumbai ed consumer and with an estimated of wheat projected nt.the country. fake muster rolls. well known. Chennai. or manipulate eyes of the EC. Bhuvana was the audience by telling and had a dyslexic on a mat s for the vegetable she herself chopping his daughter. the situation Medical them the ask: will prescribe by man may in the market? generally grain prices are introduced happen. short stories and features published in Woman’s Era. Perhaps Congress that chess In the sameshowed concern war-like may know of in which number Prime Minister chaturang as declining in India about the in the country. – Om Prakash Srivastava. descend on in woman dealing is a totally without can suddenly an electrician n.co also! number of from all concerned e and at every write to: letters@wo mental exercise a limited scientific we produce be encouraged everywher to curriculum brains need of out of hour. one given even Manmoha in Bhubanes the decision.basically a genetic trait or handicap that one cannot overcome. a social stigma and an undermining social status deriding homosexuals in our society will always remain. lived together. West Bengal. Its like which does respective authority the coming resulted in had to store Only a central or licencing in last year s in huge inactivity the drug controller take action food-grain Court’s can rotting of Supreme rer. odds against with her dyslexia A WONDERFUL MOTHER The prize is awarded to: Bh. He the ease in near to this. us ce compulsio very hard for women and work culture. which is Testing that the astonishin revealed which is for the year. – Bh. play also. Hyderabad. pastures. this research English. with the food drug which lly. This drugs being . What realise medicines nt to think exchange vision rers will never foreign m We governme in is the proper prove manufactu of the people.. “There was turned. found Parliamen of plenty content of lack of red blood the states. happened. faced out of 2000 Very shocking. the fifth decade force to reckon beginning. But authority Even the manufactu surplus food quantities. her strength of character was wonderful. result of significant production presence level of Also. process Minister Dr Congress electoral the EC has will of scientific supervise of its decision. breather. reasons like in duties and that we are of them began been doing and developme in stranger their time to election officers had research in Asia.com Name: Mobile: E-mail: E G IN SCIENC n of Prime INDIA TRAILIN with the observatio at 99th made agree This refers to the editorial (January II) R titled Only Woman Please I do not agree with the views of Election Commission because when the President of our country is a woman. followed atmosphere where than half here only ed the growth an a torture waste more can learn science initiative has strangulat schools.A is woman. women National Science China in terms are the to In favour women will not picnic trailing even nt.co be lacking spending may write to: letters@wo with the life t seems to ent that governmen managem This makes one feel about foodgrains can feed all. Indu Sekhar. But compulsor into their to in mother ecently the game of chess translated Nadu. are taught as we continued the h state Tamil y in ever made. One command of English. the evidence. and improper vigilance these food items are eaten by the rats or found unfit for consumption. leader of the Opposition. Cultivation need of the (Second) 2012 ent is the temperam Era ● January Woman’s EDITORIA L WOMEN PLEASE E WOMEN ON TOP . come with her common and he on to remainwhen one is ife doesn’t that will inspire depended met her husband story – one cannot be suddenly clear away time. for Of undo the and food deaf ears. It Kumaresa et tale his younger -old Padma. chief ministers of Tamil Nadu. China and India their states. though in medicine state warehousstill tied up in debate Such a negligence clearly an is t are the beneficiary state governmen manufacturing expensive offence. the credits given to big corporates are treated as nonperforming assets. Goa is comparativ UP. Both simultaneously threatened devote all countries unlike men almost and can be two largest while China on Goa beaches weak and soft But today. In ill-effect of and aware not. however smart and wealthy one turns. labelled quantity. and anaemia permissible limits. The best letter will be given a prize of Rs 500. root of it are getting their capabilities is becoming tougher states. She listened. political Chess is investmen Apart from day-tovery little in works. for all and of great ironies. countries in search time. it should y of our medicos is Theoretica tempt the rers. It is a tale of woman who e. Shankari and everything as a nightmare and She ld life. But holders about shocking is the was Citing a survey severe Royalties women PhD more d for the game games. by afternoon n took a break from I was intrigued appear sisterMurugesa She didn’t talk to his began to Bhuvana.are honest. are taken arms of factured by Laboratori the stocks different ensure that based Galpha es. and she about his studies and highly educatedany talked first then for in-law. Womansera. which were the in night also. Scientific of our little mansera. due to negligence. beneficial a country (Second) 2012 is indeed Era ● February that India Woman’s EDITORIA L ILL THAT MAKE E LET THERE BE INCLUSIVE GROWTH U. talents. learning schools. According to the recent survey. style of teaching help highly standard and with a 12th was playing sleeping to cope with She began Shankari that Padma was dyslexic children. Later she instincts and things and how promises sense and filled in details. in scientists. unproduct come to damage.place. as a estimated to a magnet. of Indian In modern Such kind of to the western the against women. Instead of bowing to the so-called fate or Karma. The UPA government may claim that its flagship project NREGA and Mahatma Gandhi National Rural Employment Guarantee Act are intended to reduce the percentage of poverty-stricken people. starts off . it representa n from the manufactu d in the But looking at the central prices will some medical commissio rers are establishe be more ministers that food consumers has to the handsome manufactu common consumer seems unlikely may allow how novice or she must future giving ministers endue such a scenario. After annual day on her face. chairperson of 146 Woman’s Era ● April (Second) 2012 W a ONLY recently taken n (EC) has the assembly to lection Commissio in view of According decision strange in five states. This ends the wife of Kumaresa unexpecte huvana was and her husband. began to more learning disabilitie programm e appeared l. towards progress are almost ely journeys of 20th century. Let take chess is ters but performan brains to Clearly. institutions culture in day and limitation. wherein you brought out authoritatively the problem of poverty amidst plenty of food stocks.P. She defied many doctorsʼ suggestions and believed in the wonderful bond between a mother and her child. pending in could stocks to or Security Bill are manu offload existing with a wider coverage. the FDA and in the a record wheat the tablets in were clinging stands at than the target of rice and contained 2011-12 iron tablets higher of the Solufer-XTiron tablets gly grains during tonnes. more than 35 per cent of the population in India live below the poverty line. doctors of greener community women election boat. if es. It is unemploye not produce modern times. level. tried of misformul and the profits to forcing the kin.42 million tonnes fixed Food laboratory free iron particles. chess. common rs definitely recover from Here. In spite of a ruling in favour of homosexuality which will be made by the Supreme Court to relieve the proponents. Their remark shows a low thinking. who at the inefficienclevel. are a few corrupt practices by which the caucus of officials/police/local politicians employ to make these schemes a farce. Meira Kumar Lok Sabha Adhyaksha and Sushma Swaraj. a states like the in the has become had been doing in the scientific and tougher sail through the Thus in it women prevailing that lakhs state for officers to limping as condition from the fact are ‘safer’ Manipur need men Miserable be judged a clear-cut Punjab. energy in he has the suit and an elitist game of their of live in colonial after too. commissiowhen a Thane-bas left both stunned tonnes 2011-12 was governme 88 million into his office of However. with. it great nated society immediate attention the young man-domi more grandmas as chess is a niche in a the situation demandsnot just enough that improve. ed unable to These tablets Pradesh of the central the above the implement out Himachal The bill. But are unemploye and nawabs chess like other d. crops. She anyway! I met Bhuvana nt training she a governme parents time to waste started when speaker at s for The nightmare of her home with counsellor terrace camp for children. all other some fruitful like a fresh that gained good them to do has come a game to expect t.
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