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Once upon a time, there were three little pigs. I know this story very well. Because when I was a kid, there were no Plants vs. Zombies and Angry Birds. We had no iPad or iPod or iPhone—so to occupy our time… we had fairy tales. The three little pigs left their town in search of their fortunes. Before they left, they bid farewell from their respective mothers. And all three mothers said to their boys, calling them endearing names. One mother said, “Little Lechon, always put a towel on your back when you perspire.” The second mother said, “LittleLiempo, always drink your vitamins.” And the third mother said, “Little Longganisa, always read your Bible.” The three little pigs bought their plane tickets online, rode their budget airline, and when they landed, they texted their mothers, “Landed. Mwah.” They liked the town they were in and decided to build their respective homes there. The first little pig wanted things quickly and easily. He built his house made of straw. In no time, it was built, and he went inside, sat on a chair, and played Temple Run in his iPad. The second pig built his house made of sticks. It took him a little bit longer, but it was still easy and quick, and he too went inside his house to playScrabble online with his friends from Canada. The third pig took the longest time and the most effort, because he wanted something that would last for a long time. So he built his house made of stones. While the other two pigs were already snoring inside their homes, sleeping under their cozy blankets, the third pig was still sweating outside, working on his house night and day, carefully and slowly building his stone house, one brick at a time. Finally, when it was finished, the little pig went inside, knelt down to say his night prayer, and collapsed in bed to sleep.
no. the house crashed down. The Stone House Didn’t Fall At All . And that day.Suddenly. And because of the wolves’ bad breath. peeked through the window and saw a little pig sleeping inside—and they said. they were still hungry. they saw a little pig sleeping inside— and they said. “Then we’ll huff and we’ll puff and blow your house down!” And the two wolves blew—and it took a little bit longer— about twenty seconds—but the stick house crashed down as well. the pig died of air poisoning. and in two seconds flat. not by the hair of my chinny chin chin. “No. That was when they saw a stick house. “Lechon!” So the two wolves knocked on the door of the straw house and said. and when they peeked through the window. “No. the second pig died of chemical warfare. And because of the wolves’ bad breath. let us in!” The pig answered. no. And the wolves ate Liempo that day.” The wolves answered. very hungry…. little pig. no.” The wolves answered. not by the hair of my chinny chin chin. let us in!” The first pig answered. “Little pig. “Liempo!” They knocked on the door of the stick house and said. “Little pig. no. the wolves ate Lechon. The Stick House Falls In 20 Seconds But the two big bad wolves were so big. The Straw House Falls In 2 Seconds They saw a straw house. little pig. two big bad wolves appeared. “Then we’ll huff and we’ll puff and blow your house down!” And the wolves blew.
my God in whom I trust. “Then we’ll huff and we’ll puff and blow your house down!” And the wolves blew. and blew. Though I walk through the valley of darkness. And the third pig stepped out of his stone house and sang. I fear no evil for God is with me.But the wolves’ stomachs were so massive. The stone house was like a rock. become a blackhole. says to the Lord. “I can do all things through Christ. Do you know that even planets and stars die? I didn’t know how stars die. standing solid as ever. Protect Your Relationships From The Two Wolves Haven’t you noticed? Everything dies. “No. That was when they saw a stone house.” And that day. “How do stars die?” Without a second to think. he said. they still had room for more. not by the Name of the King of kings!” He then prayed Psalm 91 and Psalm 23. “Longganisa!” They knocked on the door of the stone house and said. and when they peeked through the window. no. no. so I turned to my 12-year old son and asked him. my stronghold. in their extreme exhaustion. Organizations die. “Little pig. “A star can explode as a supernova. the two wolves had an asthma attack—their heart gave way—and both of them dropped dead on the spot. little pig. People die. and blew—and after blowing for 20 minutes straight—nothing happened. We die. Suddenly. ‘my refuge. or it shrinks into a . I can move the mountains if you are the strength of my life…. “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High and abides in the shade of the Almighty. Institutions die. they saw a little pig sleeping inside—and they said. let us in!” The pig answered. the little pig had wolf steaks for dinner.’” The wolves answered.
it will collapse with a mighty crash.) But before that. The two wolves are Temptation and Trial.white dwarf star and finally into a black dwarf star. That rock is none other than Jesus.” (It’s creepy. I sometimes feel my kids are more intelligent than me now. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house. But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish. Some collapse quickly and some stand forever. The Bible says that anything built on God’s Word will last forever. except for one thing. (More on this later.) Everything comes to an end. eternal. The Wolf Of Temptation . or memorizing the Word but obeying the Word. or your sibling-to-sibling relationship. If you want your relationships to flourish. Jesus said. or your parent-child relationship. (Matthew 7:24-27) Today. old fashioned values. your relationships have to be built on timeless. Here’s my big message for you today: Enduring relationships are built on enduring values. Imagine ALL your relationships (your marriage. Just like in the story of the Three Little Pigs above. let me first explain two wolves that can eat up your relationships. relationships are like houses. But not just listening. like a person who builds a house on sand. or your friendships) built on rock. I’ll teach you how to build your relationships on rock. Some are weak and some are strong. What kind of relationships do you have? There are three types of relationships. I’ll teach you how to build your relationships that will last forever (all the way to Heaven). or reading. 1.
Here’s what I found helpful: When I’m faced with sexual temptation. “In all my married life. my father told me something I’ll never forget. loyalty. (Yikes!) All of a sudden. And you’ll be able to start afresh. stealing. In the eyes of God. I want you to be faithful to your wife forever. When you get married. I’m married and I have two boys. Sins such as selfishness. selflessness. He said. I too want to have the credibility to tell my sons. jealousy. you’re a new person now.” His words are etched deeply in my heart. my children are always watching me. Relationships flourish ONLY when it’s built on the enduring. Not only his words. They may not be there physically. I imagine my two small boys standing behind me. I’ve never cheated on her. Once. Mom and Dad celebrated 62 years of happy marriage. lying. patience. The Bible says that as far as the east is from the west. humility. eternal. the sexual temptation doesn’t look very appealing anymore. And I want to have the same personal integrity my father had. and she told me that I could do whatever I wanted to do with her. But I turned her down. relationships are destroyed by sin. greed. there was this woman in the office who liked me a lot. I’m so happy that I’ve never cheated on your mother. I’ve remained faithful to your mother. lust… Think about it. In all my married life. timeless. but his example. . “I’ve always been faithful to your mother. So don’t let your past define your future. honesty. Bring your sins to God.Bottomline. Because in truth. but spiritually. temper. hatred. Before my father went to Heaven. so far does God take your sins away from you. You’ll be able to rebuild your integrity. Today. envy. and old-fashioned values such as trust. And I want you to do the same…” And even if you have failed in the past—God forgives you. unforgiveness. Today. forgiveness… When I was twenty-five years old.
During the wedding. so far apart that a six-by-six truck can pass between them.they’re not married! But if you see a man and a woman in a restaurant seated separately. All relationships are built on trust. After the wedding. you get an engagement ring. “Before the wedding. Have you noticed? Your kids won’t do what you tell them to do. In a restaurant. Whatever I do. Here’s the second wolf… 2. bad breath to bad breath—and beneath the table cloth. but the spiritual cord between parent and child will never be cut. The Wolf Of Trials My married friend said. you get suffering.” Most marriages don’t break up because of adultery. but because of adversity. they won’t even notice? And nothing else exists except each other? You can be sure. nose to nose. and the man is looking at the ceiling counting the light bulbs and wondering . you get a wedding ring. The umbilical cord was cut at birth. If you’re not trustworthy. they’re playing footsies together—and even if nuclear warheads fall on their right and left. and the woman is fiddling with her cellphone. will affect them. forehead to forehead. do you know who are engaged couples and who are married couples? Just look at how close they are physically. When there are no problems. there can be NO relationship. no matter how secret. Your kids will do what they see you do. It doesn’t matter if the relationship is a marriage or a parent-child relationship or a friendship or an entrepreneur-customer relationship. If you see the guy and the gal joined together—hand to hand. it’s easy to have a happy relationship. if you have no integrity.they’re watching.
my angers. demanding kids.how much the electric bill the restaurant is paying… you can be sure. I’ll see all the trials around me. I see the trials. Why? Because of the wolf of trials. But if I walk by faith. Tip: The Only Way To Survive Trials Is To Trust The Bible says. Relationships Based On Charm Why do people love certain people? Most relationships are based on charm or attraction. Because I walk by faith. It’s easy for unmarried couples to stay sweet. Frankly. Which brings me to my next point… Three Types Of Relationships There are three types of relationships in this world. because I’ll be merely passing onto my family and friends my worries. I have peace no matter what storm is going around me.they’re married. · · · “I love you because you’re beautiful!” “I like you because you’re sexy…” “I want you because you’re rich. I’ll have very troubled relationships. They’re not yet burdened by the daily problems of monthly bills. yes. walk by faith. 1. I’ll go insane. Without that inner peace in my soul. not by sight. my fears… How do you withstand the two wolves of Temptation and Trial? By building your relationships on rock. but I also see a God who is at work behind those trials. and pesky in-laws.” . If I walk by sight.
And falling in love requires no decision. So when you’re “attracted” or have a “crush” or “infatuated” or “in love”. Ready. Ooops!”) When you fall. attraction is fake. you’re not in love with the person. two. The person will make mistakes. these relationships won’t last. And you fall. that’s why I like being with you…” “I like hanging out with you because I feel alive when I’m with you…” “I love you because you complete me…” In other words. But from experience. Three reasons… Why Relationships Based On Charm FAILS First.” The “straw house” in the story above symbolizes relationships that are based on charm. “I’ll decide to fall right now. Why? Love is always a decision. Third. the relationship isn’t born out of decision. The person will grow old. Beauty doesn’t last. the photograph won’t. So it’s counterfeit love. Because there’s a big difference between the person and the person’s photograph. (I have yet to meet someone who says. Sexiness doesn’t last. It just happens. . because the reason of the relationship doesn’t last. you’re in love with a photograph of the person in your mind. You’re not really attracted to the person himself. one. They’re based on attraction. three…. That’s why Scott Peck says that “Falling in love” is never real love. You get dizzy. the photograph won’t. the photograph won’t. You stumble. Personality doesn’t last. The person will have bad days. you don’t decide to fall. “I like you because you’re so likable. Wealth doesn’t last… Second.· · · “Your personality is so appealing. You trip. You’re simply attracted to your projection of that person.
Timeless. Relationships Based On Convenience The “stick house” in the story symbolizes relationships based on convenience. It’s give and take. Here’s the second type of relationship… 2. we leave. I love you because I’m a loving person. “I want to be in a relationship with you because you’re useful to me.” It’s a mutually beneficial arrangement. A relationship based on character says. Faithfulness. People ask me all the time. Sacrifice. Fans are fickle. People in these relationships say.” . but even this “working relationship” falls when the winds of trials and temptations blow on it as well. Stuff happens. “Do you get affected by all the attention you get? You’re like a celebrity! You’re got thousands of fans. old fashioned values. Selflessness. “I love you not only because you’re likeable or you’re useful.” My answer: I’d rather have one friend than a thousand fans. We meet 50/50. They love an image of me in their minds. Either I change or you change. Loyalty. they leave. eternal. The stick house takes a bit longer to build compared to the straw house. I scratch your back” transaction. And the big bad wolf eats up the relationship. Humility. Life changes. Because fans don’t love me. 3.This is the same as having fans. It’s a “You scratch my back. So what if these changes mean that you’re no longer useful to me? The moment convenience doesn’t work. Relationships Are Based On Character The “stone house” symbolizes relationships based on character. Once I do something that doesn’t agree with that image. Forgiveness. They come and they go.
“I love you because you’re so kind. so generous… I love you because you’re such a wonderful person…” But here’s a fact of life: You won’t be lovable and wonderful 24 hours a day. “I love you. It’s not based on what you did or what you do. read carefully. Why? Personally. that’s God’s message to you.” Friend. The Cross I read a beautiful article by Jenn Giroux. but I’d rather hear these words… “I love you because I’m a loving person. That’s just who I am. I will always love you no matter what happens.) In our present wedding ceremony. Let me backtrack a bit to the start of the ceremony.” And both of them kiss Jesus in a crucifix. And a powerful expression of these old fashioned values is a beautiful twist in their wedding ritual. You may want to include this for your wedding rites. Same thing if you hear these words. “You may kiss the bride.Next time someone tells you. If it was. we’d be in big trouble.000 people). “You may kiss the cross. God loves you not based on charm. Will that person still love you during your off days? It’s not very flattering. God’s Love is an eternal love. or on convenience. not one single divorce has been recorded. but on His character. the priest says at the end of the rites. .” But in the town of SirokiBrijeg. If he says… “because you’re lovable…” you’ll feel flattered. I believe it’s because the “old fashioned” values are still part of their life and culture. (If you’re wedding is near. the priest says. She said that in the small town of Siroki-Brijeg in Croatia (Population: 13.” ask why.
That daily family prayer says that Jesus is the center of their family life. Yes. my wife is my cross. When they are in trouble. They will kiss the cross. they kneel at the foot of the cross. but ride along with my imagination. when your spouse is 63 years old. (Obviously. The first thing the priest does is to bless it. glorious cross. he would do something terrible against you…” . tsk. they won’t kiss each other. “Tsk. Yes. When they are blessed.) After reading your palm. Around it. You’re looking for a cross. I want to remain committed. they sing their gratitude around Jesus. Because she has brought me closer to God and enlarged my capacity to love. my wife is my cross. 24 years from now. the fortune-teller said. they look at His kindness. Because loving her isn’t convenient. tsk. they already carry a crucifix. My beautiful. The newly wed couple will then bring home the crucifix and set it on the family altar. they will establish daily family prayer. and His selflessness as an example of what they should do. they are holding on the cross—with the priest’s stole draped on top of their hands (Note: the stole is the long piece of cloth around the priest’s neck) After the vows are said. you’re not looking for an ideal partner. If I wanted to remain comfortable.When the bride and groom enter the church. His forgiveness. But I don’t want to remain comfortable. Eternal Love I heard a preacher share this important insight… Imagine if you went to a fortune teller. I don’t approve of this. And as the man and the woman say their vows. When they are fighting. When you marry someone. I should have remained single. lovely.
you’ll do something terrible!” “What? How do you know?” “A fortune teller told me!” Here’s my point. His love doesn’t depend on your character but on His character. He’s committed. He’s decided to love you. He enters the house in a good mood and says. Imagine your husband coming home at the end of his workday. If we knew that people would do bad things against us tomorrow. Flash News: God knows the future like the back of His hand. Get out of here!” God isn’t like that. past. present. “24 years from now. . “Hi Sweetheart!” And you say. Because God IS Love. I thank God that His love doesn’t depend on what we do. “Thirty-eight years from now. But He still loves you today! God doesn’t tell you. or future. He knows the failures you’ll be doing in the future—but He has decided to love you. “I hate you. you’ll blow it. “What’s gotten into you? What have I done?” You tell him. when you hit 68.So you go home very angry. Get out of my house. you creep!” He’s taken aback. we’d treat them in a different way today. He knows every sin you’ll commit for the rest of your life. You’ll fail me. His love for you will never change.
May your dreams come true. Bo Sanchez .
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