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Games and Violence Essay It is already common knowledge that violent games cause violence in people.

This fact is not even doubted by the majority of people. Every other person says that the reason lies in games being too close to reality. The opinion that games make violent actions normal for the player and therefore make the player pitiless can be often heard. In this case the game is the cause of violence and the act of violence by itself is a consequence. And can real-life violence exist in the reality of a game? Is the transfer of the definition of “violence” with all its peculiarities from one world to another justified only according to the external similarity of these two worlds? Games originally are entertainment. Contemporary games are very realistic and for this reason they are a source of great experience for the player and develop the imagination. Games are entertainment and even more then that. In addition, the statistics of the New York University lead by Green and Bavelier claim that the player preferring active games get an improvement of some types of brain activity, related to processing of visual information. In particular, game players cope with problems of simultaneously tracking several moving objects at the average level of 30% better then people who do not play active computer video games. The “gaming” violent experience may not be the cause of violent behavior in reality. None of the playing experience will become the priority in making important decisions concerning problems in real life. A game is an abstraction. A player gets abstract tasks and acts according to abstract rules. Games are also the possibility to be however a person wants to be and to rest from the outside world for some time. But what if a person gets so much excited with the game scenes that he becomes violent in reality? Then, it proves that the games cause people to become violent. Let us stop for a moment right at this point. Those who do not participate in this type of activity usually make the conclusion of presence of violence in the game-world. Nobody will ever hear this kind of statement from those who play, from those who know the rules of the game and understand that it is just a virtual world. A psychologically healthy person will never confuse or connect these two different worlds. A game is a virtual world with visual images very similar to human. These images represent by themselves nothing but simple playing obstacles. A game may potentially give the opportunity to “destroy the obstacles” that may not be destroyed according to the rules but it is more about personal choice whether to do it or not. This leads us to the conclusion that violence is not a consequence but the cause. People who are originally prone to violence may get irritated by games and perform violence in the “real world”. But in this case violence in games is a simple justification of the violent nature of the player.

Boys acquire the ability to react and recognize violence against women owing to the education and knowledge they get they and it is a strong presupposition to not being aggressive. too. evaluate and be able to identify a problem and solve it. Sometimes school-education becomes the only source of showing children the ways of recognizing the responding to violence and if the process of education is harmonious and professionally then it empowers all children and particularly boys to become active participants and not just observers of violence-prevention. including boys.Preventing violence against women Essay “During her lifetime one out of two women will be beaten by a man who loves her!” Leonore Loeb Adler 1. 2. critical thinking skills. Violence definition and K-12 education If we take violence against women and children as the criterion to identify children from adverse families and as something school-education tries to reduce such behavior to its minimum. they become very sensitive to violence in terms of copying it. The term ”violence” is ordinarily used to define aggression and acts of abuse that eventually cause damage to private property. the one that is very common nowadays causes a lot of troubles nowadays for too many people and especially women get serious. or emotional type of abuse. verbal. irretrievable injuries that changes do harm to their physical possibilities in everyday vital activities. it is necessary to identify the term “violence” itself. One of the most spread acts of violence against women is domestic violence. rape and others. empathy training – all of these are obtained through the process of education and are an essential part of a becoming a multi-sided developed personality. animals and even people. Violence against women is a synonymy of any act of discrimination and physical abuse aimed to hurt a girl or a woman. If the family’s interpersonal relations are characterized by high rate of violence. The process of socialization of children through age appropriate K-12 in all the skills listed above put school-boys in the group that are less likely to be violent to women and minimize the values and beliefs that boys form according to their male entitlement. sexual. As children learn everything connected with aggression and violence and how to deal with it they become “armed” and do not get lost in situations that require active actions in order to recognize or respond to any type of violence against women be it a physical. Social skills. tend to copy the behavior of adults and their parent in the first place.Introduction Education has always played an integral part in the lives of every single child in the country and in the world. This is not surprising as it is education that gives children the knowledge to think. Nevertheless school is just one of the factors influencing boys and the other one is family. Violence is a manifestation of a behavior with a destructive orientation. One of the major characteristics of such a personality is the ability to solve all the conflicts without any aggression and especially without violence. As all the children. school non-violent education may fail to succeed. Random domestic violence. problem solving skills. . Violence to women does truly damage the society’s “morality” and is the example of a primitive gender based conflict based on the notion that women are men’s “private property”.

films constantly give the weak child’s mind new patterns of aggressiveness and violence. This education implies working with children from five to 18 years old. Teaching non-violent behavior The K-12 education in terms of preventing violence against women is very much needed by the society because the contemporary exposure of children to violence id immense and have never been as available as now. If children feel that they are needed and expected at school. Sometimes children do experience violence themselves or grow up in the atmosphere of threat or in a neighborhood that constantly provides examples of inability to self-control and to stop the conflict peacefully. The K-12 education if conducted properly is an excellent precondition to educate boys not to be passive in the women-oriented violent acts but to have enough information in order to stop them. 2004). While thinking only about the fact that exposure to violence causes boys to be violent in future. So basically saying. Good teachers protect children from violence and make sure their development is healthy and they learn what true beauty and virtue is. Besides the fact that K-12 classroom instruction works to meet individual student’s needs as the classrooms often include children with different level of abilities. it also provides skills that are designed to teach the student to be successful in his environment. love and true devotion to children is a guarantee of preventing violent manifestations in the lives of these children. At the age of 18 young men start their proceeding life.The abbreviation K-12 is used for the designation for the primary and secondary education in North America. The K-12 education is based on the notion that every child is unique and needs a differentiated approach. At the beginning the child’s mind is a “Tabula Rasa”. It is common knowledge that . Mutual understanding makes the child learn constructive way of conflict solving and also learn how to control himself and not to express his anger in any destructive way. They start looking for a couple and thinking about their future wives. as it becomes a “filter” for violence in general and violence against women in particular. to be loving and non-aggressive. As children spend most of their time in school it become the very place to motive them not to be aggressive and violent against girls and women. or “Kay through twelve” is a shortening for “kindergarten through twelfth grade” education. teachers and parent should not forget that love is the tool to teach the child to be understanding and patient. the violent behavior against women performed by men is simply an imprint that a man got when he was a boy. The basic reasons children in general and boys in particular can be so easily influenced by violent behavior is because such behavior as it has been mentioned before is actually learned. and this is the whole period when the children learn all the values and believes that will define their future life. so it is essential to make sure they do truly know how to control their anger and not let it transform into violent behavior against women. The brain starts making critical connections in the period of childhood but in reality these connections are not truly “critical” as they are taken a priori. on which teachers and family with their hand draw the picture of the child’s future behavior and personality. K-12. The education from Kindergarten through the twelfth grade that is based on acceptance. Television. a clean board. The reason that the personality of the teachers nowadays is valued more than their knowledge in the course they teaching is because the values and behavior examples delivered to children in the sensitive period outweigh some gaps in the course. video and computer games. Children start taking all of these as a “normal” fact and see nothing bad in behaving in the same way for the only thing they do – is the simply copy what they see. if they feel safe expressing their thoughts and know that they are respected and never humiliated they will never humiliate anybody themselves and will have less problems dealing with a stress (Mullender. 3. The age from 5 to 18 is an exceptional period for education.

The majority of teachers are women and the most important person for a child – mother. If a little boy is constantly exposed to his father beating his mother he is a potential abuser for every woman in his life (Widom & Maxfield. If a boy learns to be aggressive from Kindergarten till his senior year in High School the probability that he will not be violent to women is very low. The situation becomes even worse if a little boy is abused himself. So here it is necessary to face two major facts: the two most important factors influencing the boy’s violent orientation are school and family. 1989). 2003). for anger is the major feeling such “abusive” children experience. 4. This is about the possibility to prevent violence against women when men are little boys are seek for love just as any girl does (Kimmel & Michael. They treat other people the same as they were treated themselves. The true reason is that men used to be boys and these little boys did not have anybody to love and understand them neither at home nor at school. 2001). According to the information not known at wide public but collected by the Federal bureau of investigation – out of all the domestic violence acts – 95 percent are violent behavior manifestations against women. too. Male violence against women is a desire to feel complete control over a human being that for ages has been seen as a “weak gender”. In case mother fails to teach her son solve the conflicts constructively and the teacher fails to develop his problem solving skills – aggression against women is very probable to occur. All of these . The men who were abused in their childhood or were victims of family and school neglect most commonly commit violent criminal behavior. According to Bancroft there nine types of abusive men which can use different styles starting with a strictly verbal abuser and ending with a physical batterer (Bancroft. 2003). They did not have anybody to teach him or her how to control their anger. sexual assault. They are angry with the people who are so indifferent to them and they become sure nobody is honestly able to understand them and become and violent (Bancroft. This is true for very often parents are very busy working and have no time to open their child the door to the productive. And there is no secret in the fact that the majority of teachers are women. This issue is not even about women letting men abuse them and turning them to police and not about men believing that the punishment will not hard. Violence against women – is not the fault of men but their misfortune. So this is all basically about the gender violence and primarily violence over women committed by men. sexual harassment. 2003). Therefore violence becomes the way of proving that a man or a boy really belongs to a male gender and therefore women have to “knuckle under” him. fixed aggressive behavior (Kimmel & Michael. too. Male violence against women has different various forms: verbal violence. who were abused or neglected in their childhood (Bancroft. Male violence against women Violence in its very essence is a manifestation of the destructive desire to control and have power over another human being. battered women and others. belong to the female gender. 1989). K-12 education with its ability to teach children to cope with negative feelings in non-destructive positive ways nowadays has turned to the key element in teaching non-violent behavior against women.aggression is a protection and violence is a strong. In other words male violence against women is a characteristic of men. So. non-aggressive life. if a child that is abused or watches his family members or neighbors abuse their relatives get not proper attention at school the boy easily converts into a criminal and his life will be broken because of his broken child’s heart. The main problem concerning children and boys that are being abused is that cannot learn what is empathy for other people and for the pain they are experiencing.

If a boy gets the required attention if not at home. 5. The aim of K-12 education is to fill in the blanks of dysfunctional relationships within the family of the boy and especially in terms of relations with women. K-12 through teaches boys how to speak off their thoughts and emotional conditions. An attentive female teacher.are result to the inability to build normal relationships. Contemporary schools provide a counselor to every child and this person is responsible for observing the child behavior. In cases the behavior becomes not adaptive and abnormal the counselor may feel free to turn for a psychological assistance or speak with the child’s parents. This is achieved through the development of different kind of skills such as physical. The K-12 education can prevent boys and eventually men form being violent towards women by teaching them to solve their problems using word of respect and a wide range of non-violent actions. their female companions are the one that experience violence the most. Violence-prevention through education K-12 education can be rather effective in term of growing up non-violent males. Conclusion Boys learn violence by watching grown ups. Such an approach implies that a boy will never hit a woman though originally women are believed to be weaker than men are. As the majority of men are heterosexuals. but at least at school in terms of emotional attachment and psychical exercises he is not in the “risk group” for becoming violent towards women. cognitive and emotional aspects. being in class learns that there are inappropriate ways of showing his anger and the most productive way to do it is to tell what he is feeling and not physically hurt a human being. Not depending on the fact whether the boy’s family is or is not “healthy” in term of violence school takes the most part of the responsibility of teaching boys how to be not violent. The K-12 education teaches makes boys learn that it is okay to be angry and that each person sometimes does feel angry but the biggest difference is how a person reveals his anger to others. Under the condition of an individual differentiated approach to the each boy the process education can guarantee several ways of preventing violence against women. learning how to build productive relationships. This completely coincides with one of the best steps in the prevention of violence against women. which take away the spare energy that a growing body has and can use in the direction of violent acts. A boy. If a boy established relations that are full of mutual respect and emotional attachment with a female teacher he will learn how to control and monitor his “negative” feelings and therefore will take this pattern for the rest of his life! . This can happen through the establishment of positive interactions between the teachers and the male-student. As it has been mentioned before school is the second most important element in bringing up successful and psychologically healthy men. showing respect and love for a little boy shows him that he is worth of love the way he is and does not have to use his male advantages such as strength to show his dominance over women. The professionalism of teachers should primary reveal the ability to teach the boy to regulate his emotional conditions. The K-12 education provides the attention to a large variety of aspects concerning the child’s life that could lead him to aggression and afterwards – violence. The female teachers become an essential part of K-12 stopping violence against woman. As the K-12 education implies a lot of sport activities. 6. taking into account the person interest of the child. social. .