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Growing into a complete person. place as a routine, prakÎtithaÒ. This is very important for
every human being. It is another type of growth which does not take A calf will grow into an adult—an adult cow or bull, and after that, there is no further growth. There is only aging; it will age and die. So too, every human being if he or she survives for a few years, undergoes a metamorphosis, ages and dies. He is born, jËyate, and he exists, asti. This sequence given by YËska is very interesting. The one who is born, jËyate, is alive, asti. And if he continues to be, asti cet, he grows, vardhate, and then metamorphoses, vipariÙamate. This change, pariÙËma, is not just a All the cells modification. It is vi-pariÙËma, a metamorphosis.
undergo a change. One becomes a potential mother or father. Then, YËska tells us, he declines, apakÛÌyate, and dies away, vinaÚyati. This is for every living organism. A human being is no exception. Whether I like it or not, I will grow into an adult. All that I need to do is to survive. I just need to survive a few years. If I do, I will become an adult, and, to accomplish that, I need not do anything special. As a routine I will grow into adulthood. In India, not only will you become an adult, you will get married also, immediately. That is why we have the dual number in Sanskrit—I,
Arsha Vidya Gurukulam 17th Anniversary address, October, 2003. Published in the 18th Anniversary Souvenir of the Arsha Vidya Gurukulam.
That initiative is used to conform to a matrix of values which really do not cause any conflict in me. That is But to become a complete being. That I am a person who needs to be free from 2 www. So this growth is routine. Every human being is like a Concorde. I have not even started my life as a human This is very simple. You can have money to sit upon and still be foolish. universal. being. it happens naturally. That takes another firing. We completely lose sight somewhere along the way. It takes ones own initiative. we have so much to offer you. it takes one’s initiative. The completion does not consist in putting on weight or thinning yourself so that you can pass through the eye of the needle. behaving in a way that The values are common. You are not a simple turbo jet. Once you are a complete human being. I need to grow. What can that be? First I am talking of growing into a simple human being. You need to have a second firing. Conformity to values should never cause conflicts. and us. But it is not enough. they are leaves me feeling guilty. After gathering so much wealth you do not know whether the money is for you or you are at the mercy of the money. You need to become a complete person. Nor does it consist in accumulating titles.org . aham. where the spiritual teaching begins. Ëvam and vayam. You can have titles and still be childish. Because there is another growth that you have to undergo.we two. If it does. One needs to grow into a complete person.AVGsatsang. If I go against my values.
I do not want to get hurt. “Please give me the keys. a Harvard scholar. I do not want to be robbed. When somebody comes to rob someone. tell me the truth which key opens the safe.” he wants the truth. is very common. I do not want to be cheated by anybody. in a court of law. But this one form of ignorance does not exist.org 3 . a person in Alaska or a simple aboriginal in the out-back of Australia—the same question or set of questions. and with a knife in hand asks the person at home. I do not want to be lied to. They take care of that. the answer is always the same. Knowing what is to be done and what is not to be done is very simple. Those who might be informants do not get to the police. because when you ask different people—a panditji in Banaras. even though people are ignorant and can be ignorant of the laws. I can never plead ignorance about this. I do not want to be a victim of anybody’s anger. I do not want to be cheated. jealously. Does he not? Nobody wants to be lied to. This I know. By saying that at a particular time somebody came and revealed that these are the things to be done by you and these are the things not to be done by you. Neither. I do not want to be lied to. can one plead ignorance of the law. I do not want to be hurt.AVGsatsang. or hatred.harassment. This is what I expect of others. if not cared for. and others also expect the same thing from me. answer. It is the same And everybody knows that others expect the same thing from him or her. Even a Mafia don does not want to be double-crossed. we have made a mystery of what is www.
is made into a missile because of religious indoctrination. that person has not accepted. person does not conform to your belief system. and we must acknowledge that. But a human being is not programmed in this way. human beings have an inherent. a simple human being who has empathy. do away with that person. He is going to be punished. theologies. What I want to say here is that to be a complete person I should go along with my empathy. who is born with empathy. Some say that God has If you do not mandated certain norms which you should follow. When one has to make choices. Every human being senses All But this This I consider is the most important thing. We must live up to them. God will be pleased.AVGsatsang. A tiger kills when it needs to.org 4 . www. it is a necessary component in the emotional structure of a human being. and therefore. A human being. And. the faithful. Its full manifestation is peculiar to the human heart. then what is the basis of this choice? He or she is someone who has to make choices. because that person is an enemy to God. We create double standards. common value structure. these values. Values are universal.commonly sensed by all and sundry. value structure gets interfered with and disturbed by some peculiar The theologies say that you can hurt a person if that They maintain that what God has mandated. and you will have a special place in paradise. Empathy is a human emotion. that person is already an enemy to God. and if you. This is the worst thing that can happen to a human being. A lion kills when it needs to.
Anybody can win. In tennis. Now they have to win this particular game. boxes the air. I watched his face. this matrix of norms. No value will be universal. ecstatic.org 5 . they will not know what is right and what is wrong. if it has to be taught. wished. Think of this. In fact the whole value structure is very clear to every human heart. Pat Cash. for that moment. Four sets are over and both players have two games each and require a couple of points to have a break.AVGsatsang. It did not take time.follow them. the etiquette is that you should rush to the net and shake hands with the opponent. If the mandates are not known to people. Values are universal. One has to win. We have this innate sense of values. And I consider that this value structure is really safeguarded by a human being only through this one single emotion called ‘empathy’. He kisses the ground. The Australian player. It was a five-setter. After half a minute—the whole drama was only for one minute. Why? Because he Suddenly. I once saw a Wimbledon final. that his opponent had won and that he had www. All the sweating it out during the first four games is nothing. A couple of points and one fellow wins. because they need not be taught. I wanted to see what would happen to him. won. In no time the whole face changed and he looked sad. however. maybe half a minute—he approached the net and everything changed. To give an illustration. When Pat Cash was doing this. he will punish you. that fellow looked sad. This is ridiculous. I remember it He is so well. throws up his racquet and his t-shirt also.
been defeated.AVGsatsang. definitely it was ideal. That’s what it looked like. That is why. Because he knew what it felt like when he was on the other side. defeated him. I grow into a complete person. and therefore. compassion. Embedded in the Hindu culture is the assumption that this growth is a routine job. Whether it was good or not. That is the human heart. He was sad that he No human heart is ever made without empathy. That is called ‘empathy’. the world that needs help enters into And then I come out in the form of sympathy. well. And we need to take the cue from this empathy. help and service. What does it do to a human heart? Pain is known to everybody. professionally. that is One can grow into that person. We never competed originally. a grabber all the time. Compassion towards himself and Compassion to spare. routine job. and he was on the other side many a time. me. That is the window through which the world enters into me. not to yield to my own likes www. Thus.org 6 compassion for every tree. It was ideal for a society which is committed to spiritual growth. Everybody is on the other side many a time. To become compassionate and to conform to what is to be done by me. we are not inclined to compete. . I am not merely a survivor. this empathy is in all our hearts. A complete person is one who has compassion to spare. That should be a compassion to other fellow human beings. compassion. The human heart knows. every plant and every animal.
valuable to oneself. That means it is a privilege to have a desire. and. in all beings. and here. rËgas and dveÛas. “I am desire. Lord Krishna says here that he is the desire that you fulfill conforming to dharma. and he marries the daughter of a priest. We go one step further. You can hurt a person in so many different ways. and to others also. and you do so all the time. BhÍta can be any being.AVGsatsang. that is called dharma.and dislikes. different sorts of hurting. Do not think that there is only one type of hurt. which is unopposed to dharma. you can hurt a person by a word and you can even hurt a person by deliberately entertaining a certain type of thinking. You can hurt a person by a look. To desire is a privilege. Therefore.” dharma-aviruddho bhÍteÛu kËm²’smi (BG 7. We did not have job consultants at the time that this society was flourishing. is the commitment.org 7 . It is fine. the son of a priest is a priest. but he says. What would we do with And to fulfill a desire is That is called a universal also a privilege—as long as one is able to conform to what is www. As long as their fulfillment does not disturb anybody it is O. In the Hindu society we go even further.K. Dharma is not merely not robbing. not yielding to my own likes and dislikes. “I am the desire that is not opposed to dharma. not hurting another person. Everybody has likes and dislikes. on the other hand.” so this is the desire in a human heart. not cheating. value. There are different levels of hurt. etc.11). Lord Krishna says in the GÌtË. conforming to what is right and wrong is the bedrock of our human society.
Not doing what you like. All our Indians have this concept of duty. Hindu culture. or you are a daughter.org 8 In . a puruÛËrtha. what I am supposed to do in a given situation. That is how it is even today in some places. but liking what you are called upon to do. I begin liking to do what I need to do. That takes a new firing on your part. And later I begin liking what I do. nobody says happily that he is doing his duties.AVGsatsang. And to give is your duty. you are called upon to do certain things. perhaps. www. I would say. and enjoy doing it. One has to have a commitment to that. But there is some beauty in it that I want you to understand. but to give. or you are a wife. because. you are a husband. Then you are a complete person. It becomes a In any privilege. And every role has a script to follow. in general. All that I want you to understand is the emphasis.them? There was no problem. A priest is the son of a priest. The emphasis is not to grab. whether you like it or not. only in the Hindu culture is this concept of duty is so well-developed. which is why. In the beginning I do it whether I like it or not. which we call duty. dharma is an end in itself. given situation. That takes growth.” He may not be enthusiastic about it. You are a father. “It is my duty. I can say this because I have been exposed to and studied many cultures. You are a son. You enjoy your duty. You have many hats to wear every day. so I am doing it. If you can follow the script. and I am not asking you to go back to that. or you are a mother. Nobody says with a grumble. For the most part. not to accumulate. that is completeness in growth. those days are gone.
one can be quite alive and fresh. as a husband. by one’s own initiative. Further. If one loves what is to be done. This is the initial growth that one has to gain for oneself. In this there is no negotiation possible. It. as a citizen. When dharma is a puruÛËrtha. A human being means we expect certain behavior. it does not take time to grow out of what you once loved. is an end to be achieved. grow into that person for whom dharma is an accomplished end. as a neighbor. a puruÛËrtha. One has to have that kind of challenge. as a mother. love. One begins loving what one has got to do. even the animals do that. as a wife. because you need to be a grown up person. That is what the challenge is. Theology is an interpretation.org 9 . as a situation. You can very easily grow out of what you Therefore. growth lies only in loving what I do in a given As a father. and not what one loves to do. With that. If there is a theology that goes against this. Is it not so? Our life is full of this. if you go with your own fancy. son. it does not sub-serve your pursuits of security and pleasure. as a daughter.AVGsatsang. there is so much to grow into. and we should change that interpretation if it compromises our universal values.I have tried to understand this dharma as an end in itself. dharma artha kËma mokÛa. in itself. People should www. we should change that theology. We say that there are four types of ends to be pursued. One has to. the growth is complete. artha kËma. If one does what one loves to do that is not an accomplishment at all. There is no retirement here.
and help us grow into them. I say that to be a complete person is within the growth possibility of a human being. If you do not like it. Therefore. do it. and nothing. people should think responsibly.org 10 . theology should conform to those values. because orthodoxy always If people move away. the orthodox people will And therefore. Within saÑsËra there is the possibility of growing into a dhËrmika.just walk away from a theology that does not support our universal values. should confirm them. do not do it. and On the other hand. Every religion has to help us that way. the chases the people. If you like it and it is not to be done. a person who enjoys following dharma. This is the complete person. and we have to understand religion that way. including a theology. And the theology will change. should change that. understand that universal values should be upheld. It should help us grow into that complete person. and if it is to be done.AVGsatsang. www. That is what religion is supposed to do. chase them. Grow into that person who likes what is to be done and does not care for what is not to be done.
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