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By Ed Kancler, Akron chapter president


Care with Pride
PFLAG wants to remind you about Care with PRIDE, an educational, awareness, and media campaign on the harm of bullying, violence, and discrimination for all youth—LGBT and otherwise.

There really ought to be a law
By the time this is printed the elections may be over. Over. Over!! No more robo calls. No more TV ads. No more relentless insults to our intelligence. Now, we will be able to watch “Dancing with the Stars,” “The Voice” and all the other wonderful, meaningful shows without political interference. What does this have to do with LGBT? Well, except for that last sentence, it is very relevant. I paid a lot of attention to the campaigns in the states where marriage equality was a ballot issue. My read was that the same batches of lies, half truths and fear mongering threats were being made just as in the national presidential campaign. In the Maine campaign, NOM sponsored a TV ad that claimed that because the state of Massachusetts required adoption agencies to let gay couples adopt, that the Boston Catholic Charities Agency stopped its adoption program. Blatantly false!! Massachusetts had a nondiscrimination law, and since the Agency was receiving taxpayer money, it allowed gays to adopt children. More importantly, Catholic Charities did not stop such adoptions because of state law. Instead, the Vatican ordered the halt. The result? Peter Meade, the Chairman of the Board of Boston Catholic Charities said:
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Some last thoughts on the PFLAG Conference
By Sharon Groh-Wargo, Cleveland chapter president Earlier this fall, almost 70 dedicated PFLAG leaders from the PFLAG Great Lakes Region (Ohio, Indiana, Illinois and Michigan) assembled in Cleveland. A few days before the conference, a friend of mine asked, "What do you do at a PFLAG conference?" I had to think...I knew what the agenda entailed, who the speakers were, what we were going to eat, but what were we doing? With a little reflection, I realized we were going to fulfill the mission of PFLAG but with a little twist: we were going to support the supporters! The mission of PFLAG, of course, is Support, Education, and Advocacy. Chapter leaders and members dedicated enough to travel and spend a precious weekend of their time at a PFLAG conference were clearly committed to supporting LGBT people and their families and friends through their personal journeys. What the conference offered them was a chance to meet others at that level, share their stories of leadership and make new friends. This is support— just not the usual support we think of when we speak to others about the mission of PFLAG. The participants had a solid understanding of LGBT issues, so we were able to explore ideas and issues at an advanced level—PFLAG 2.0! We dug deep into trans health
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and wellness and received detailed background on the new Straight for Equality for Faith initiative. We listened to leaders in the political arena discuss issues close to our hearts. Many of us were able to make a permanent record of our personal stories on videotape to continue our advocacy into the future. Lastly, we relaxed and celebrated the richness of our amazing community! We listened to uplifting music, watched thoughtful film, laughed through a PFLAG stand-up comedy routine and shared a beautiful spiritual experience. A heartfelt thanks to all who made the conference possible: Brooke Senter and Jean-Marie Navetta from the national PFLAG office; Dan Tepfer and Michael Ley, our regional and state representatives; the United Church of Christ, especially Cheryl Barthelman, for logistical help; all of the excellent speakers and the extremely hardworking Cleveland team, especially Craig, Marianne and Jes; and including Alan, Art, Bill, Bob, Corey, Dave, Frank, Gail, Jane, Jeanette, Pat, Quentin, Ruth and Tom!

Our Mission
PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender persons, their families and friends through SUPPORT to cope with an adverse society; EDUCATION to enlighten an illinformed public; and ADVOCACY to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights. PFLAG provides opportunity for dialogue about sexual orientation and gender identity and acts to create a society that is healthy and respectful of human diversity.

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“In 2005, and tragically, the Vatican ordered our diocese to stop facilitating adoptions to qualified gay and lesbian households.” The Board of Directors of the Agency “voted unanimously not to exclude gay and lesbian couples,” and Meade and numerous directors resigned in protest. So much for the truth. But, this is but one example. How about claiming, as done in Minnesota, that allowing marriage equality would be part of the “gay agenda” to stifle free speech! Space prohibits further examples, and there are many. So, what’s the solution to all this nonsense? Well, my cousin, whom I love dearly despite his right wing attitude and who also strongly supports LGBT rights, has a solution: Enact a law that requires every political ad to verify its claims. And, if the ad cannot be verified as true, then cancel it and severely fine the perpetrator. Too radical? I don’t think so. Just as a person cannot yell “fire” in a crowded theater and cause panic when there is no fire, liars should be called for what they are and should not be permitted to continue their lying ways. Lies do nothing to help the political process, a process that needs all the help it can get. Free speech is one thing. Lying is something else.


LGBT characters hit record high
GLAAD reports that there are 31 regular characters on scripted broadcast network shows, 35 on cable, and 111 LGBT scripted characters total—a new record. Seven of those characters are African American, an increase from zero last year.

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Executive Board
President-Ed Kancler; VP-Bill Libby; Secretary-Joe Gardner; TreasurerSue Magilavy; At Large-Chris Goldthorpe, Bob and Valerie Hempel, David Horowitz, Marie Libby, Audrey Kancler, Kim and Joe Mosyjowski, Bob Menapace, Joy Watts

Committee Chairs
Membership-Chuck Magilavy, Publicity-Marie Libby; Library-David Greene; Hospitality-Rada Jenkins; Newsletter-Audrey Kancler

Cleveland honors six
LGBT Heritage Day awardees
Cleveland City Council recognized six local leaders for their work in the LGBT community at the 4th annual Heritage Day celebration on October 9. Judy Benson was honored in the civil engagement and neighborhood leadership category. John Farina was recognized for advocacy. Dr. Douglas Van Auken was awarded for his work in health care. Sgt. Deirdre Jones was noted for work in safety. The award for education and social services went to AIDS Taskforce director of prevention programming Miquel Brazil. Rev. Michael Schuenemeyer of the United Church of Christ’s Wider Church Ministries was honored in the faith category.

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Executive Board
President-Sharon Groh-Wargo; VP-Jeanette Nemcek; Treasurer-Art Thomson; Secretary-Marianne Buccini; At Large-Alan Cohen, Bill Franklin, Craig Hoffman; Legislative Coord.-Tom Roese; Newsletter-Pat Brandt; Snacks-Rebecca and Carl Schultz; Technology-Corey Glaze and Quentin Jamieson



Advocate Day in Gay America photo essay
The Advocate is once again soliciting photos on every

Get info on candidates and LGBT issues
The election is looming and the candidates are booming on television ads and robo calls. However, if you are still wondering about the candidates’ views on some of the issues that relate directly to LGBT, there’s still time to obtain more info. The Human Rights Campaign website hrc.org/election lists HRC-endorsed candidates and breaks down ballot issues and the presidential candidates’ support (or lack thereof) for LGBT concerns. Visit lgbtqnation.com for articles on candidates, issues, and a prediction of election results hour-by-hour for November 6. The Washington Blade, a leading site for national news and info for LGBT, offers several pages of articles on candidates LGBT views, out candidates, ballot issues across the country and more on its website at washingtonblade.com. The Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund offers endorsements of candidates it believes are supportive of LGBT issues on its website victoryfund.org. Marriage Equality USA website marriageequality.org is closely following candidates and ballot issues that are pro– or anti-gay marriage. And if you like your information quick and easy, the website 2012election.procon.org provides a side-by-side comparison chart of the presidential candidates on 68 issues including the economy, education, healthcare and LGBT issues. Whatever your views on the issues or the candidates, be sure to do the most important thing this November 6—VOTE!

aspect of LGBT life, from the mundane to the insane, from the glamorous to the gritty, for its annual “A Day in Gay America” photo essay.

On November 9, take a photo of yourself, your friends and/or your family, doing anything that says something about who you are as an LGBT person in the United States. The best

Election 2012 dissection at CWRU

photos will be featured in the essay on Advocate.com.

Check the website for details and instructions on photo submission.

The election is November 6, but what happens on November 7? Come to Case Western Reserve University School of Law, 11075 East Blvd., Cleveland, for a non-partisan discussion of the outcome of the 2012 election and its implications on LGBT rights, national security, reproductive rights, and civil liberties on Wednesday, Nov. 7 at 7:00 p.m. in Room A57.

This event is free and open to the public. Refreshments will be provided and street parking is available near the law school. The Election Discussion is sponsored by the American Constitution Society for Law and Policy, Lambda Law Students Association, National Lawyers Guild, and the ACLU of Ohio. For more info call 216-472-2220.


Bully: An Action Plan, by Lee Hirsch, Cynthia Lowen and Dina Santorelli, is a companion to the acclaimed 2011 documentary and offers parents and teachers a very practical guide to protecting children from cruelty.

The Bible Tells Me So
Film showing
University Circle United Methodist Church, in partnership with HRC, will present “For the Bible Tells Me So” on Tuesday, Nov. 13 from 7:00-9:00 p.m. at the church, 1919 E. 107th St., Cleveland.

LGBT Yoga Classes
De-stress for the Holidays
MetroHealth LGBT Pride Clinic is offering free LGBT yoga classes for the holidays. Classes are Wednesday evenings from November 28 to December 19 from 6:00-7:00 p.m. at the Pride Clinic, 4242 Lorain Ave., 2nd Floor Activity Room.

Step Into My Shoes: Expressions from the LGBT Community, Tonja Dudley Bagwell, ed. An anthology of poems, letters, narratives, essays, quotes and photos from LGBTQ persons and straight allies around the world.

LGBT Comedy Show
Cleveland comedy festival
This year’s Cleveland Comedy Festival (Nov. 14-21) includes a very special LGBT-themed comedy show featuring professional lesbian and gay comedians from Cleveland and Chicago benefitting the LGBT Community Center of Cleveland. Show is Saturday, Nov. 17 from 7:30-10:30 p.m. at Playhouse Square’s Kennedy’s Cabaret, 1501 Euclid Ave. Tickets are $15 advance, $20 door, with $5 benefitting the LGBT Center. Info/Tickets: lgbtcleveland.org.

Classes are on a first-come, first-served basis and space is limited. Parking is free. Mats available. For more info, call Owen at 216-778-5551.

CANAPI Updates
Weekly HIV testing at Adams Street
CANAPI (canapi.org) offers weekly HIV testing on Tuesdays at Adam’s Street Bar, 77 North Adams Street, Akron, from 4:00-6:00 p.m. Walkins welcome. Additional testing days/locations:

Out & Equal at Work: From Closet to Corner Office (release date Feb. 2013), contains personal narratives from LGBT and allied executive trailblazers who have ushered in policies that affirm and support the LGBT community in the workplace.

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Silver Belles

North Coast Men’s Chorus Concert
It’s Christmastime in the city! Join NCMC for the start of its 25th anniversary with its annual holiday concert. “Silver Belles” will be presented at the Hanna Theater at Playhouse Square on December 1 at 3:00 and 8:00 p.m. and December 2 at 3:00 p.m. Filled with traditional and not-so-traditional holiday songs sprinkled with fun and surprises. Info/Tickets: ncmchorus.org.

11/1 – Akron Steam and Sauna 12:00-2:00 p.m. Walk-ins welcome. 11/7 – Kent State University (By appointment. Open to KSU students and faculty/ staff only) 10:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m. 11/9 – Akron Steam and Sauna 12:00-2:00 p.m. Walk-ins welcome. 11/29 – Kent State University (By appointment. Open to KSU students and faculty/ staff only) 10:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m.

Ohio HIV/STD hotline and email
The hotline is free, anonymous and provides confidential answers to questions. Staffed by trained volunteers and AIDS Resource Center Ohio Prevention and Education staff. Operates Monday-Friday from 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Call 1-800-332-2437 or hotline@arcohio.org.



Day of Remembrance
Join in a community memorial for transgender people who have died from an act of violence on Saturday, Nov. 17. Candlelit vigil will gather at 5:30 p.m. at Huntingdon Park, Lakeside Ave. and W. 3rd St. and walk to Cleveland City Hall, 601 Lakeside Ave. The remainder of the vigil will take place inside the rotunda. Will feature speakers, music by North Coast Men’s Chorus and special memorial tribute.

Acclaimed director reveals transgender journey
By Dan Rafter, HRC Online Campaign Manager for HRC.org Lana Wachowski, the critically acclaimed director of the Matrix trilogy and the new movie Cloud Atlas, opened up about her journey as a transgender woman while receiving HRC’s Visibility Award in San Francisco. Wachowski’s emotional speech included heart-wrenching stories about her inability to fit in as a child and her suicide attempt during high school. Wachowski shared her highly personal story with the goal of making conditions easier for other transgender youth to feel confident about their futures. In her remarks, Wachowski touched on the painful isolation that is all too familiar to many LGBT youth: “ without examples, without models, I began to believe voices in my head -that I was a freak, that I am broken, that there is something wrong with me, that I will never be lovable.” Those feelings led her to consider suicide while in high school. Wachowski closed her remarks by stressing that she wants to a beacon of hope for youth struggling with those same feelings of isolation: “I am here because when I was young, I wanted very badly to be a writer, I wanted to be a filmmaker, but I couldn’t find anyone like me in the world and it felt like my dreams were foreclosed simply because my gender was less typical than others.” Wachowski’s new film, Cloud Atlas, opens in theaters this weekend. The film, already garnering high praise, stars Tom Hanks and Halle Berry, and received a 10-minute standing ovation following its premiere at the Toronto International Film Festival. You can view her speech here: http://www.hrc.org/blog/entry/ acclaimed-director-lanawachowski-opens-up-abouther-journey-as-a-transgend/

New treatment offers hope to pre-teen transgenders
Boston Children’s Hospital is now one of only a decide about gender reassignment options. handful of hospitals across the country to offer a However, it does give a child and family time to way for transgender children to delay the start of plan for the future. biological puberty. On Boston Children’s website, the clinic is feaThe Gender Management Service Clinic is the tured through a poignant account about identical first pediatric academic program in twin boys, one of whom identifies as the Western Hemisphere to evalufemale. In addition to the story of the ate and medically treat young child’s treatment, the twins’ father transgender people. wrote a wonderful essay about his journey as a father with a son who Prospective patients undergo a wants to be a daughter. series of stringent psychological tests. Patients who meet the strict You can read his narrative and learn criteria are then given monthly more about the treatment process at injections to delay the start of puhttp://childrenshospitalblog.org/ berty. The process is reversible at childrens-gives-transgender-tweenany point and is not permanent. new-hope/. Eventually the teen will need to

LGBT History Month
October was LGBT History Month, a time to celebrate people who support, educate and advocate for the LGBT community. In case you missed it, the lgbthistorymonth.com website each year hosts a collection of fascinating bios on “icons” of LGBT history, one for each day in October. See featured icons of 2012 and prior years. You might be surprised by who you see.


Transgender veteran to lead gays in the military
In a move that may signal the next step for equality in the armed forces, a transgender graduate of West Point has been chosen to lead a new gay military support network, according to an article in The Huffington Post. Allyson Robinson will lead a new organization formed by the merger of the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network and OutServe, the Huff Post reported. She is an army veteran who commanded a Patriot missile unit in Europe and the Middle East before resigning her commission to become a Christian minister. According to the Huff Post article, Robinson’s selection, more than a year after the end of “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell,” is viewed by many as an indication that activists consider their work unfinished. Along with the lack of inclusion for transgender men and women, the big remaining hurdle for full equality in the military is the federal Defense of Marriage Act, which bars same-sex couples from receiving benefits. Robinson and her wife of 18 years have four children and live in Maryland, where gay marriage is on the November ballot, the Huff Post reported. She most recently served as the deputy director for employee programs at the Human Allyson Robinson rights Campaign Foundation Workplace Project. “We cannot stop until we reach the day when all qualified Americans who wish to wear the uniform of our armed forces have the opportunity to do so with honor and integrity—and without fear of discrimination or harassment—whether they are gay, bisexual or transgender,” Robinson said in the article.

Pro Boxer Comes Out
Fourth-ranked World Boxing Organization featherweight Orlando Cruz has become the first active pro boxer to come out as gay. “I’ve been fighting for more than 24 years,” he told USA Today, “and as I continue my ascendant career, I want to be true to myself. I have been and always will be a proud gay man” Cruz currently holds the North American Boxing Organization title for his weight class.

Pro-gay marriage TV ads feature only straight people
Although there have been many ads in support of gay marriage in states like Minnesota, where the issue appears on the November ballot, most of the ads have lacked one important aspect: gay couples. According to a recent Associated Press article, ads supporting gay marriage did not show gay people speaking for themselves. Of three ads showing in Minnesota, the AP reported, one featured a straight couple wanting fair treatment for their lesbian daughter, another showed a straight couple speaking fondly of a lesbian couple in their neighborhood, and the third featured a pastor supporting gay unions. Six out of seven ads showing in contested states (Maine, Maryland, Minnesota and Washington) have featured only straight people, the AP noted. Only one ad, which aired only in Maine, included a firefighter who talked about being accepted by his colleagues. The decision to keep gays out of the ads has been debated in the gay community, the AP reported. “If we don’t show ourselves, people aren’t going to get comfortable with who we are,” Wayne Besen, director of Vermontbased gay rights group “Truth Wins Out,” told the AP. But other advocates noted in the article that the ads were designed to speak to the comfort levels of heterosexual voters, whose vote will decide the issue.

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Cleveland PFLAG
Oct. 9, Nov. 13 7:30 pm
Trinity Episcopal 2230 Euclid Ave,, 44115

Supreme Court may take up same-sex marriage issue
The legal case of an 83-year-old woman who was forced to pay $363,000 in estate taxes after the death of her wife may finally bring same-sex marriage before the highest court in the land. According to several news sources, the 2nd U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals ruling on Windsor v. USA states that Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional because it violates equal protection under the law. The constitutionality of same-sex marriage could ultimately be decided by the U.S. Supreme Court. The Associated Press reported that the Obama AdminiSpecifically, the court ruled that stration has petitioned the Court DOMA’s classification of sameto hear the appeal of lower court sex spouses was “not substanrulings on DOMA in its next tially related to an important gov- term. If it does so, arguments in ernment interest,” according to the case may be heard as early news reports. as June 2013.

Wooster PFLAG
Oct. 18, Nov. 15 - 7:00 pm
Universalist Fellowship 3186 Burbank Rd.
Please call ahead to confirm.

Youngstown PFLAG
Oct. 9, Nov. 13 - 6:30 pm
St. John’s Episcopal 323 Wick Ave.


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