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Design web - limits
In order to design how to overcome my personal limiting beliefs & how to replace them with empowering supporting new beliefs I have had to observe them successfully. This has involved creating a table, as seen below. For this I have also used resources about NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP groups Limiting Beliefs into three categories: • Hopelessness: My goal cannot be achieved under any circumstances. • Helplessness: My goal can be achieved, but I lack the ability to achieve it. • Worthlessness: I don’t deserve to achieve this goal, because of something I am/am not or have/have not done. NLP Practicioners recommend these steps to overcome: 1. Become aware & uncover them & their roots 2. Analyize them for their purpose e.g. ask yourself, “How does holding this belief serve my best interest?” With this analysis we can then develop ways of best overcoming them. A number of tools are available including: finding evidence & role models, symbols & rituals, self talk & affirmations & finding behaviours, activities or actions that could strengthen them. Table: Identifying Patterns of Limiting Beliefs Life Area Pattern of Limiting Beliefs Scarcity, negative views of wealth & rich people, frugality is honourable Jobs mean you have sold out on radical roots. All relationships end. Fairytales don’t exist. Only vein people become fitness freaks/have time ‘End up doing everything’. Small group of us are only ones that care or are active. Creative people are ‘airyfairy’ and don’t get things done Showing emotion = weakness Don’t deserve to be happy when the world is so fucked up University is for posh, privelaged kids Attractive people are stupid/ditzy/not taken seriously or super vein/have too much time Succesful people are ‘ruthless’ & are cutthroat to be that way, harming others. Success = selfishness Potential Root Purpose of belief Strategies to Re-design Questions to Identify Limiting Beliefs 1. What rules have I created in my life that could be limiting my ability to get started with my goal? 2. What pessimistic thoughts reoccur in my head ever time I think about pursuing this dream? 3. What unnecessary assumptions do I make about achieving and committing to this goal? 4. What cliches, quotes, aphorisms or other catchy phrases do I entertain in my head that are limiting me? 5. What stereotypical beliefs or cultural myths am I allowing to hold me back? 6. How might my standards about “what” and “how” things should happen, be negatively affecting my ability to go with the flow and to make things happen? 7. Are there any values that I’m holding onto that interfere with me achieving this goal? Do I value something that contradicts what I want to move toward? 8. What self-defeating meanings have I created based on my past failures with important goals? How do these meanings limit me and become barriers to goal setting? 9. What reoccurring stories, narrative, or mental scripts do I play over and over again in my head that disempower me? 10. Do I hold onto any black and white philosophies that keep me frozen in a passive way? Overcoming limiting beliefs requires that find and create new, empowering beliefs.
Money & Prosperity
Work Love & Relationships
Living on benefits, scarcity childhood. Anarchist movement & subculture. Anarchist subculture. Parents divorce, mum’s relationship patterns Body-obsessed culture Campaigns I’ve been involved in/other older activists Interactions with pretentious art students! Mum’s mental health patterns, cultural influences Anarchist subculture, hardcore scene Anarchist subculture Sister is pretty one, I’m ‘smart’ one. Popular girls all mean! Anarchist subculture, view of business men etc
Health Community Organising Creativity
Allows me to blame wrongs in the world on a certain group of people. ‘Hard done by’ serves to keep me with working class solidarity. To maintain radical identity, fit in with subculture To avoid emotionally investing in relationships (wont last anyway mentality) & commiting To avoid dedicating energy to becoming or staying fit! To build self worth/strengthen ego. To cope in hopelessness of social crises To be more ‘on it’ than others/external validation To not appear vulnerable to anyone or to open floodgates To prove depth of feeling felt for ecological/social crises To avoid participating in mainstream career & fit in with subculture & staying that way by default. To avoid unwanted attention & judgements. To appear more feminist to subculture Allows me to rationalise unconventional lifestyle and/or repress inner desires.
Positive affirmations, seek positive examples of wealth & list potentials of more prosperous life (e.g. campaigns I could support). As above. Design with radical politics truly integrated with no compromises. Positive affirmations. Seek successful examples of couples. Talk with partner. Positive affirmations Positive affirmations. Develop self worth & self respect of energy Recognise creativity in work I do already e.g. permaculture design, graphic design. Integrate more creative/rightbrain elements into my design work. Positive affirmationas. Daily journaling Get ‘two for joy’ text tattoed above magpies on chest piece. Write list of things that bring joyfulness out of me & integrate into my life more. Positive affirmations, explore positive examples of radical learning Positive affirmations
Feelings & self expression Happiness & Joy
Learning Body Image
Re-design mental attitudes towards success e.g. what is success in my world? What would it look like?
© Nicole Vosper, Wild Heart Permaculture 2012
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