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Introduction………………………………………………………………………………… 3 Step 1………………………………………………………………………………………. 4 Essentials of Recovery………………………………………………..……………………. .6 Step 2………………………………………………………………………………………...8 Step 3…………………………………………………………………………………….…..9 Step 4……………………………………………………………………………………… 11 Step 5……………………………………………………………………………………… 17 Step 6……………………………………………………………………………………… 19 Step 7……………………………………………………………………………………… 20 Step 8……………………………………………………………………………………… 21 Step 9……………………………………………………………………………………… 22 Step 10……………………………………………………………………………………. 25 Step 11……………………………………………………………………………………. 27 Step 12……………………………………………………………………………………. 29 Summary………………………………………………………………………………….. 30

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Big Book Sponsorship Guide You are going to become a sponsor/teacher. Helping others is the foundation stone of your recovery. A kindly act once in a while isn't enough (AA p. 97). To show other alcoholics (addicts) precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of this book. For them, we hope these pages will prove so convincing that no further authentication will be necessary. (AA p. xiii, 4th ed.) Outline the program of action, explaining how you made a self-appraisal, how you straightened out your past and why you are now endeavoring to be helpful to them. It is important for them to realize that your attempt to pass this on to them plays a vital part in your recovery. Actually, they may be helping you more than you are helping them. Make it plain they are under no obligation to you, that you hope only that they will try to help other alcoholics (addicts) when they escape their own difficulties. Suggest how important it is that they place the welfare of other people ahead of their own. (AA p. 94) This Twelve Step Workbook Guide substitutes terms and phrases related to alcoholism to include ANY obsessive-compulsive addiction patterns such as, cocaine and all mind altering substances, sugar/food, nicotine, gambling, sex/love/pornography, self-harm/mutilation, anorexia, bulimia, over-spending/debting, cluttering/hoarding, emotions, codependency—and anyone can certainly increase this list and all are welcome. Our format quotes from the book, Alcoholics Anonymous, our basic recovery text. Our notes, commentary, and gender-inclusive changes are formatted in italics. For further study, it is suggested that you get a copy of the "Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous. (2001. 4th ed. Alcoholics Anonymous World Services Inc. New York.)

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Therefore. cuts. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death. ) which they see others taking (doing) with impunity. xxviii 4th ed. but such intervals usually brief were inevitably followed by still less control. p.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 1. it is not surprising that our drinking (using.yes-no?) The persistence of this illusion (lie) is astonishing. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol (substances.yes-no?) We know that no real alcoholic (addict) ever recovers control.yes-no?) The sensation is so elusive that. etc.org 4 . (Is this your experience .bigbooksponsorship. 30) We alcoholics (addicts) are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking (using. that our lives had become unmanageable.yes-no?). and the phenomenon of craving develops.yes-no?). acting out) careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink (use. they pass through the well-known stages of a spree. (Is this your experience yes-no?) The idea that somehow. obsessive-complusive behavior) is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker (user.yes-no?) We are convinced to a http://www. unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks--drinks (hits. (Is this your experience .) No person likes to think they are bodily and mentally different from their fellows. They are restless. their alcoholic (addict) life seems the only normal one. Self-Diagnosis Men and women drink (use or act-out) essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol. act-out) like other people. bets. obsessive-compulsive behaviour) (Is this your experience . All of us felt at times that we were regaining control. (substances. emerging remorseful. acting-out behaviour). as so many do (Is this your experience . and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery. they cannot after a time differentiate the true from the false. irritable and discontented. acts. someday they will control and enjoy their drinking (using. while they admit it is injurious (yes-no?). with a firm resolution not to drink (use or act-out) again (Is this your experience . After they have succumbed to the desire again. To them. obsessive-compulsive behaviour). puffs. (Is this you .yes-no?) This is repeated over and over (Is this your experience . bites. (AA p. which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization. (AA. obsessive-compulsive).

using or acting out . (Are you convinced that you are a real alcoholic/addict .Big Book Sponsorship Guide person that alcoholics (addicts) of our type are in the grip of a progressive illness. we believe there is no middle-of-the-road solution. then you have taken step one! There is a solution. (Is this your experience . This we did because we honestly wanted to.yes-no?) http://www. when you honestly want to.yes-no?). when drinking. If you are as seriously alcoholic (addicted) as we were.yes-no? and. blotting out the consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we could. as our behavior patterns vary. or if when drinking (using or acting out). (Are you willing to make the effort . based on your experience. If that be the case. Over any considerable period we get worse.yes-no?) If you answered yes.yes-no?). The delusion (lie) that we are like other people (non-alcoholic/addict). using or acting out . Step 1 Instruction We learned that we had to fully concede (admit) to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics (addicts). We were in a position where life was becoming impossible (Is life becoming impossible? yes-no?). 22). and if we had passed into the region from which there is no return through human aid. But this description should identify them roughly (AA p. or presently may be. 25-26). and were willing to make the effort (AA p. never better. to accept spiritual help (Are you ready to accept spiritual help . 44). you are probably alcoholic (addict) (Do you exhibit little control.yes-no?).. you may be suffering from an illness which only a spiritual experience will conquer (AA p.yes-no?) (AA p. has to be smashed (AA p.org 5 .. we had but two alternatives: One was to go on to the bitter end. 30). have you been able to stay stopped .yes-no?) This is the first step in recovery. and the other. (yes-no?) If.bigbooksponsorship. you have little control over the amount you take. you find you cannot quit entirely (Do you honestly want to stop drinking. (Do you admit it . 30) This is by no means a comprehensive picture of the true alcoholic (addict).

Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program.. (AA p. http://www. who is properly armed with facts about them self. But great numbers of these--about two out of three--began to return as time passed (AA p.A.. Until such an understanding is reached. But we could not. can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic (addict) in a few hours..) Willingness: Are you willing to show-up and do the work? (yes-no?) Honesty: Will you answer questions honestly with a simple yes or no? (yes-no?) Open mindedness: Will you lay aside any prejudices.Big Book Sponsorship Guide The Essentials of Recovery Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. But the ex-problem drinker (addict or obessive-compulsive personality) who has found this solution (our recipe). 50% got sober at once and remained that way. We thought we could find an easier softer way. 568 4th ed. showed improvement. Half measures availed us nothing. xx. meetings and at first decided they didn't want the program. Willingness.A. 25% sobered up after some relapses.org 6 . (AA p. usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves.bigbooksponsorship.. 58-59) Of alcoholics who came to A. 4th ed. experience the program and assess the results for yourself? (yes-no?) Our job is to explain our approach and win their confidence. honesty and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery.). and among the remainder.A. little or nothing can be accomplished. We find that no one need have difficulty with the spirituality of the program. and really tried. Other thousands came to a few A. those who stayed on with A. But these are indispensable.

After such an approach many take up their beds and walk again. (AA p. 90). that their whole deportment shouts at the new prospect that they are a person with a real answer. (AA p. nothing whatever except the sincere desire to be helpful. acting out in a obsessive-compulsive behavior). no lectures to be endured (we don't run your life)—these are the conditions we have found most effective.yes-no?) If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it -. 91) Tell them how baffled you were. cut. 94) (Are you desperate . and experiences to encourage them to speak of themselves. etc. bite. no axes to grind (no windy arguments or frothy debates). the better. that they have no attitude of Holier Than Thou (we are not saints. don't waste time trying to persuade them.Big Book Sponsorship Guide That the person who is making the approach has had the same difficulty (lack of control). 92). hit. care. that there are no fees to pay (big book sponsorship is free) . 58).A. They will be more likely to follow your suggestions. sought the same escape with all the desperation of a drowning person (AA p. in our turn. symptoms. bet.yes-no?) If they say yes. You may spoil a later opportunity. crusaders or mission makers). Ask them (newcomer) if they want to quit for good and if they would go to any extreme to do so.) of the spree. Tell the newcomer your "war story" Tell them enough about your drinking (using or acting-out) habits. 90) We. Show them how the mental twist which leads to the first drink (toke. 18-19) Does your prospect want to quit? If they do not want to stop drinking (using. (AA p. (AA p. (AA p. 28). Give them an account of the struggles you made to stop. no people to please (no "ass-kissing") . (AA p.bigbooksponsorship. act. then their attention should be drawn to you as a person who has recovered (AA p. how you finally learned that you were sick. .org 7 .then you are ready to take certain steps. (Are you willing to thoroughly follow the instructions in the Big Book of A. http://www. puff. The more hopeless they feel. that they obviously know what they are talking about.

by worship of other things.deep down in every man. If our testimony helps sweep away prejudice. The consciousness of your belief is sure to come to you (AA p. Some of us grow into it more slowly. We found the Great Reality deep down within us. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. then. and it had to be a Power greater than ourselves. We finally saw that faith in some kind of God was a part of our make-up. just as much as the feeling we have for a friend. but He was there. or am I even willing to believe. We can only clear the ground a bit. (AA p. woman. 55). In the last analysis it is only there that He may be found. 57) Step 2 Instruction We needed to ask ourselves but one short question.. we emphatically assure them that they are on their way. or is willing to believe.org 8 . enables you to think honestly. (yes-no?) We had to find a power by which we could live. that's exactly what this book is about. if you wish. by pomp. It may be obscured by calamity. But He has come to all who have honestly sought Him. Lack of power.. It has been repeatedly proven among us that upon this simple cornerstone a wonderfully effective spiritual structure can be built. Obviously. that was our dilemma. and miraculous demonstrations of that power in human lives. congratulations you have taken step two and we emphatically assure you are now on your way! http://www. 45) . encourages you to search diligently within yourself. are facts as old as man himself. He was as much a fact as we were. you can join us on the Broad Highway.bigbooksponsorship. and child. For faith in a Power greater than ourselves. It was so with us. Sometimes we had to search fearlessly. But where and how were we to find this Power? Well. With this attitude you cannot fail. but in some form or other it is there. that there is a Power greater than myself?" (yes-no?) As soon as a person can say that they do believe. Its main object is to enable you to find a Power greater than yourself which will solve your problem. is the fundamental idea of God. (AA p. "Do I now believe. When we drew near to Him He disclosed Himself to us! (AA p. 47) If you answered yes.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 2.

Driven by a hundred forms of fear. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection. Above everything. we think. (Are you willing to believe . That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism (addiction). though they usually do not think so. (Are you beyond human aid . So our troubles.yes-no?) b. self-centeredness! That. And there often seems no way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid. and the alcoholic (addict) is an extreme example of self-will run riot.. are basically of our own making. is the root of our troubles.yes-no?) c. we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. (Is this you . 60) Selfishness. but we could not live up to them http://www. we alcoholics (addicts) must be rid of this selfishness. we think. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. Many of us had moral and philosophical convictions galore. self-delusion. seemingly without provocation.yes-no?) Being convinced (of a. They arise out of ourselves. Our description of the alcoholic (addict). (Are you convinced . That God could and would if He were sought. Just what do we mean by that.bigbooksponsorship. or it kills us! God makes that possible. our personal adventure before and after make clear three pertinent ideas: a. which is that we decided to turn our will and our life over to God as we understood Him. We must. self-seeking. and just what do we do? The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success.org 9 .yes-no?) (AA p.. we were at Step Three. but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 3. and self-pity. That we were alcoholics (addicts) and could not manage our own lives. Sometimes they hurt us. b and c).

He provided what we needed. as we became conscious of His presence. More and more we became interested in seeing what we could contribute to life. Established on such a footing we became less and less interested in ourselves. all sorts of remarkable things followed. (yes-no?) (AA p.to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. that I may better do Thy will. 61-62) Step 3 Paycheck When we sincerely took such a position. Many of us said to our Maker. We had a new Employer. Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power. We were reborn. that we could at last abandon ourselves utterly to Him. then let us take this prayer together and we will have taken step three. 63) If you can answer yes. As we felt new power flow in. tomorrow or the hereafter. that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power. http://www. our own little plans and designs. Take away my difficulties. as we discovered we could face life successfully. It didn't work. if we kept close to Him and performed His work well. He is the Principal. we had to quit playing God. First of all. and we are His children. (AA p. 63) Step 3 Instruction We were now at Step Three.org 10 . This is the how and the why of it. Being all powerful. and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed to freedom. I offer myself to Thee -. God was going to be our Director (yes-no?). we began to lose our fear of today. as we enjoyed peace of mind.yes-no?) Next. we decided that hereafter in this drama of life.bigbooksponsorship. Relieve me of the bondage of self.Big Book Sponsorship Guide even though we would have liked to. we are His agents. May I do Thy will always!" We thought well before taking this step making sure we were ready. (AA p. Thy Love. He is the Father. We had to have God's help. Most good ideas are simple. and Thy Way of life. (Would you agree . as we understood Him: "God.

From it stem all forms of spiritual disease. jealousy. Therefore. the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. When we were finished we considered it carefully. the first step of which is a personal housecleaning. selfishness. We listed people. our personal relationships. our ambitions. which many of us had never attempted. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. which had been interfered with? (Column 3) (AA p. we tried to disregard the other http://www. suspicion. we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our failure. anger.) for we have been not only mentally and physically ill. was what had defeated us." On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. it could have little permanent effect unless at once (fast) followed by a strenuous effort to face.bigbooksponsorship. inconsideration. slander. So we had to get down to causes and conditions. we started upon a personal inventory. infidelity. Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action. self-pity. (including sex) were hurt or threatened. we set them on paper. we straighten out mentally and physically.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 4. etc. our ambitions. dishonesty. prejudice. 64-65) We went back through our lives. (pride.yes-no?) When the spiritual malady is overcome. In dealing with resentments. Our liquor (substances. (Column 3) So we were sore.org 11 . self-centeredness. envy. Though our decisionStep 3 was a vital and crucial step. we resolutely looked for our own mistakes (Column 4). we considered its common manifestations. our personal. 65) Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done (Column 2). intolerance. and to be rid of. (AA p. institutions or principles with whom we were angry (Column 1). self-seeking and frightened? (Column 4) Though a situation had not been entirely our fault. We asked ourselves why we were angry (Column 2). It destroys more alcoholics (addicts) than anything else. or sex relations. our pocketbooks. We were "burned up. manifested in various ways. dishonest. our security. Where had we been selfish. (AA p. 63-64) Resentment is the "number one" offender. Being convinced that self. we have been spiritually sick. This was Step Four…We took stock honestly. Was it our self-esteem. self-seeking. fear. First. impatience. acting-out behaviour) was but a symptom. In most cases it was found that our self-esteem. (Would you agree .

70-71) Keep in mind that it is not necessary. you have made a good beginning. even though we had no resentment in connection with them. (AA p. 67) We reviewed our fears thoroughly (5 Columns). what should we have done instead? (Column 5) We got this all down on paper and looked at it. Sometimes it takes only a few incidents to make clear which short-comings have kept the newcomer blocked from an intimate. and an inventoryStep 4 of your grosser handicaps.Big Book Sponsorship Guide person (Column 1) involved entirely. we have written down a lot. dishonest. Where were we to blame? (Column 4) The inventory was ours.org 12 . and are willing to straighten out the past if we can (Column 5)… If you have already made a decisionStep 3. 68) We reviewed our own conduct (All harms to others including sex conduct) over the years past. We have listed and analyzed our resentments (5 Columns). That being so you have swallowed and digested some big chunks of truth about yourself. for newcomers to talk about every resentment or selfish act. not the other person's. (AA p. We admitted our wrongs (Column 4) honestly and were willing to set these matters straight (Column 5). or each person he or she has ever lied to or harmed for the inventory to be thorough. The objective is to get to "causes and conditions". Wasn't it because self-reliance failed us? (AA p. We put them on paper. suspicion or bitterness? (Column 2) Where were we at fault (Column 4). two-way relationship with the "One who has all power. When we saw our faults we listed them (Column 4). We have commenced to see their terrible destructiveness….We have listed the people (Column 1) we have hurt by our conduct (Column 4). or inconsiderate? (Column 4) Whom had we hurt? (Column 1) Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy. 69) Step 4 Instruction If we have been thorough about our personal inventory." http://www. (AA p. We have begun to comprehend their futility and their fatality. Where had we been selfish.bigbooksponsorship. We placed them before us in black and white. We asked ourselves why we had them (Column 2).

relationships (including sex) Column 4 (Blocks) Where am I at fault? Where am I to blame? What are my mistakes? Identify character defects. Love & Forgiveness Honesty Humility Unselfishness Helpfulness to Others Faithfulness to wife Intimacy Trust Faith in God Love & Forgiveness Humility Trust Tolerance Unselfishness Faith in God Love & Forgiveness Humility Honesty & Restitution Generosity Action. liabilities. patience.. greed. security.e. Jones (Resentment) My employer (Resentment) She's a nut -. impatience. 4th Edition) Column 1 People. envy. 65.e. lust. Personal relationships Self-esteem Self-esteem Security Pocket book Ambitions My wife (Resentment) Personal relationships Sex relations Security http://www. He's my friend. Wants house put in her name. Zeal Unselfishness Be Helpful Faith in God Love & Forgivenes Humility Trust Honesty Faithfulness to wife Faith in God Mrs. Mr. etc.Big Book Sponsorship Guide RESENTMENTS: We were usually as definite as this example: (p.org 13 . trust. humility. intimacy. A. Brown may get my job at the office.bigbooksponsorship. blocks i. contentment. Likes Brown.. generosity. ambitions pocket book. zeal. threatens. Brown (Resentment) His attention to my wife. selfishness. forgiveness. fear. unselfishness. Anger False Pride Jealousy & Suspicion Intolerance Selfishness Fear of. sloth. love.she snubbed me. Told my wife of my mistress. Institutions & Principles Towards whom am I angry? Column 2 The Cause Why am I angry? Column 3 This affects. hurts or interferes with my…self-esteem. Anger False Pride Jealousy & Suspicion Dishonesty Infidelity Fear of. dishonesty. She committed her husband for drinking. Unreasonable -Unjust -Overbearing -Threatens to fire me for my drinking and padding my expense account. Misunderstands and nags.A. hate. Sex relations Self-esteem Ambitions? Pocket book? Security? Anger Dishonesty False Pride Selfishness Self-Seeking Infidelity Lust Jealousy Fear of.. honesty.. shortcomings. etc.... false pride.. She's a gossip. Anger False Pride Dishonesty & Stealing Greed Laziness & Sloth Selfishness Self-seeking Fear of. jealousy. Column 5 (Power) What should I have done instead? Identify assets to strive for i.

false pride. intimacy. threatens. lust. greed. honesty.bigbooksponsorship.org 14 . contentment. liabilities.e. love. envy. forgiveness. patience. unselfishness. etc. sloth. security. http://www. Column 5 (Power) What should I have done instead? Identify assets to strive for i. hurts or interferes with my…self-esteem. generosity. zeal. blocks i. ambitions pocket book.Big Book Sponsorship Guide RESENTMENTS: We were usually as definite as this example: Column 1 People. jealousy. impatience.e. Institutions & Principles Towards whom am I angry? Column 2 The Cause Why am I angry? Column 3 This affects. humility. trust. hate. etc. relationships (including sex) Column 4 (Blocks) Where am I at fault? Where am I to blame? What are my mistakes? Identify character defects. fear. selfishness. dishonesty. shortcomings.

patience.org 15 . generosity.e. hate.bigbooksponsorship. Acceptance Be considerate Be kind and courteous Unselfishness Be helpful to others Trust & Faith in God http://www. Column 5 (Power) What should I have done instead? Identify assets to strive for i. humility. security. envy. Institutions & Principles Who or What am I afraid of? What am I afraid of losing or not getting? Column 2 The Cause Why am I fearful? Column 3 This affects. greed. sloth. shortcomings. unselfishness. fear. etc. dishonesty. impatience. honesty. false pride. hurts or interferes with my…self-esteem. lust. relationships (including sex) Column 4 (Blocks) Where am I at fault? Where am I to blame? What are my mistakes? Identify character defects. blocks i. selfishness. Fear of no control Other people make mistakes and are incompetent . contentment. zeal. threatens. forgiveness. love.Big Book Sponsorship Guide FEARS: We were usually as definite as this example: Column 1 People. etc. Suspicion Humility Tolerance. intimacy.if I want anything done right I must do it myself! Self-esteem Security Ambitions Pocket book Personal relationships Arrogance Intolerance Inconsideration Bullying & Abusive Selfishness Self Seeking Jealousy. liabilities. ambitions pocket book. jealousy.e. trust.

humility. honesty. resentment. unselfishness. She felt inadequate. etc. Dishonesty. Stealing Selfishness Self-seeking Slander Resentment. fear. contentment. liabilities. zeal. Pocket book Self-esteem Relationships False Pride Lust Infidelity Dishonesty Selfishness Self Seeking Inconsideration Fear of. love. hurt or interfere with? Self-esteem.bigbooksponsorship.org 16 . Restitution Unselfishness Be helpful to others Speak well of others Forgiveness Generosity Faith in God http://www. Self-esteem Sex relationships My employer Stole products from the store. lust. Institutions & Principles Whom have I hurt? Jealousy? Suspicion? Bitterness? Column 2 How did I harm them? Did I unjustifiably arouse: Column 3 What did I affect. hate. greed. Anger Greed Fear of not having enough Humility Intimacy Faithfulness Honesty Unselfishness Be Helpful to Others Consideration Faith in God Honesty. Slandered his name.e. security. Spouse (Sex Conduct) Had an affair. ambitions pocket book. distrust.e. intimacy. jealousy. threaten. Column 5 (Power) What should I have done instead? Identify assets to strive for i. shortcomings. dishonesty. sloth.. trust. impatience. relationships (including sex)? Column 4 (Blocks) Where am I at fault? Where am I to blame? What are my mistakes? Identify character defects. forgiveness. etc.Big Book Sponsorship Guide HARMFUL CONDUCT (Including SEX): We were usually as definite as this example: Column 1 People. blocks i. selfishness. I aroused jealousy. patience. envy. false pride. generosity..

Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 5. a new relationship with our Creator. and to another human being.yes-no?). Step 5 Instruction . we waste no time.72). that they will not try to change our plan. we may not overcome drinking (using. especially discussing our defects (Column 4) with another person….. This requires action on our part.org 17 . will want to go to the properly appointed authority (for criminal matters—see a lawyer. (AA p. Having made our personal inventory. what shall we do about it? We have been trying to get a new attitude. This is perhaps difficult. This brings us to the Fifth Step in the program of recovery. for mental-emotional issues—see a therapist. Such parts of our story we tell to someone who will understand yet be unaffected (AA p. will mean that we have admitted to God. illuminating every twist of character (Column 4).74). we think well before we choose the person or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential step. Admitted to God. every dark cranny of the past (Are you willing to do this . for medical issues see a doctor) whose duty it is to receive it. acting-out) (AA p. and of course.talk to the right person. when completed. Those of us belonging to a religious denomination which requires confession must. which.. If we skip this vital step. We have admitted certain defects (Column 4). we have ascertained in a rough way what the trouble is. to ourselves. that they understand and approve what we are driving at..bigbooksponsorship.74-75) http://www.. and to discover the obstacles in our path (Column 4). We have a written inventory and we are prepared for a long talk…We pocket our pride and go to it. We must be entirely honest with somebody if we expect to live long or happily in this world. and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. we have put our finger on the weak items in our personal inventory (Column 4). Now these are about to be cast out.. Rightly and naturally. When we decide who is to hear our story. the exact nature of our defects (Column 4). It is important that they may be able to keep a confidence. to ourselves.

The feeling that the drink (substance. Stealing.bigbooksponsorship. Anger. Our fears fall from us..org 18 . Distrust. we are delighted. withholding nothing. blocks. Promptness Patience Love Responsible. We may have had certain spiritual beliefs. Arrogance. Irresponsible. Chaste.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 5 Paycheck Once we have taken this step. character defects…                  The assets I need to strive for…                  False Pride.. Faithfulness Forgiveness Activity. Blaming Others ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ Humility Trust Contentment Unselfishness Helpful to others Honesty. Laziness. Lying Intolerance. walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe. Self-loathing Jealousy. Accountable __________________________ __________________________ __________________________ http://www. We can look the world in the eye. Suspicion Envy Selfishness Self-seeking Dishonesty. Tact Generosity Intimacy. Integrity. Inconsideration Greed Lust. Restitution Tolerance. Procrastination Impatience Fear of. We can be alone at perfect peace and ease. Zeal. but now we begin to have a spiritual experience. (AA p 75) My Moral Inventory Checklist Self-will (Column 4) Step 4 & 5 (NO POWER) God's will (Column 5) Steps 8 & 9 (POWER!) My liabilities. We feel we are on the Broad Highway. Acceptance. acting-out) problem has disappeared will often come strongly. We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator. Infidelity Hate. Resentment Sloth.

yes-no?) If we still cling to something (Column 4) we will not let go. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. (AA p. 75) Is our work solid so far .yes-no? Are the stones (Steps 1-5) properly in place? (yes-no?) Have we skimped on the cement put into the foundation? (yes-no?) Have we tried to make mortar without sand? (yes-no?) If we can answer to our satisfaction. then you will have taken step six. Are we now ready to let God remove from us all the things (Column 4) which we have admitted are objectionable? (AA p. (AA p. http://www.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 6. we ask God to help us be willing. every one? (Are you now ready to have God remove all these defects . Returning home we find a place where we can be quiet for an hour. we then look at Step Six.bigbooksponsorship. 76) Can He now take them all (Column 4).org 19 . 76) When you can answer yes. (AA p. carefully reviewing what we have done (All 5 Columns). 75) Step 6 Instruction We have emphasized willingness as being indispensable.

(AA p. 76) http://www. strengthen my honesty.. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. resentment.. we say something like this: "My Creator. (Column 5 -....") ..list assets to strive for. Step 7 Instruction When ready. to do your bidding.. Amen. for example. please remove my dishonesty. unselfishness and love.. Grant me strength." We have then taken Step Seven.."God.bigbooksponsorship. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character...Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 7..as I go out from here. fear. "God." ) ..which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows.. forgiveness.org 20 . good and bad. I am now willing that you should have all of me. selfishness.list character defects. (Column 4 -..

76).bigbooksponsorship. selfishness. I will spend more time with my spouse and I will practice these principles on an ongoing basis. (Column 3) I aroused bitterness. dishonesty. I stole from this person. honest. I will practice intimacy and be considerate of my spouse's needs and desires. and feelings of inadequacy (Column 2 harm done to others). (Step 8) List Persons and Institutions (Column 1) I have harmed and to whom do I need to make a direct amends? What did my conduct (Column 4) arouse (Column 2)? How did I affect them? (Column 3) (Example) Spouse (Relationship Conduct) (Column 1) Infidelity. resentment. I will forgive. (Column 4) I affected their pocketbook. and became willing to make amends to them all. Now we need more action. I will admit all my wrong doings in person. selfseeking. I slandered their name to others. I will stop slandering their name and speak well of them. relationships and security. (Column 3) I aroused feelings of resentment (Column 2 ." Let's look at Steps Eight and Nine.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 8. (Example) Former employer (Column 1) I was angry and resentful and was verbally abusive. I was dishonest. (Column 4) I affected their self-esteem and sex relationships. jealousy.org 21 . Made a list of all persons we had harmed. I will make restitution on what I stole. We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends.harm done to others). and unselfish and helpful. inconsideration. (Step 9) What I should have done instead (Column 5) What do I need to do to straighten out the past? What behaviour will convince them more than my words? Show appreciation to my spouse by being faithful.(yes-no?) (AA p. http://www. We made it when we took inventory . I will ask the person what more can I do to right the wrong I have done. without which we find that "Faith without works is dead.

. Under no condition do we criticize such a person or argue.Resentments Probably there are still some misgivings (yes-no?)…The question of how to approach the person we hated will arise. (AA p. Nevertheless. like ourselves. and patience (Column 5) that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend.. (yes-no?) Now we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past.We are there to sweep off our side of the street. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible. with a person we dislike. but always considerate of others.. pity. we ask until it comes. How can I be helpful (Column 5) to this person? God save me from being angry. though we may have acquired a better attitude toward them. we are still not too keen about admitting our faults (Column 4). obsessive-compulsive behaviours). (AA p.yes-no?) Though we did not like their symptoms (Column 2) and the way these disturbed us (Column 3). 74) Item 1 . "This is a sick person. they. If we haven't the will to do this. except when to do so would injure them or others. When a person offended we said to ourselves. were sick too. Thy will be done. We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. (AA p. 66-67) . It may be they have done us more harm than we have done them and.Their faults (Column 2) are not discussed. confessing our former ill feeling and expressing our regret (Column 4). 76-78) Anger/Resentment Forgiveness Prayer This was our course: We realized that the people (Column 1) who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick. We stick to our own (Column 4). We go to them in a helpful and forgiving spirit (Column 5).Step 9. 76) The rule is we must be hard on our self.yes-no?) We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance. Remember it was agreed at the beginning we would go to any lengths for victory over alcohol (drugs. (Would you agree . We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal. (Would you agree ." (AA p. we take the bit in our teeth..

This takes us out of ourselves. (AA p. act-out) if we are afraid to face them. no matter what the personal consequences may be. we ask God what we should do about each specific matter. 78) Item 3 . we ask that we be given strength and direction to do the right thing (Column 5).bigbooksponsorship. if we want it…We earnestly pray for the right ideal (Column 5). 68) Item 4 . but we are willing. and for the strength to do the right thing. We have to be. 78-79) Remove Fear Prayer Instead we let Him demonstrate (Column 5). (AA p. we throw ourselves the harder into helping others. Reminding ourselves that we have decided to go to any lengths (follow the recipe) to find a spiritual experience.Money Most alcoholics (addicts) owe money (yes-no?) We do not dodge our creditors…We must lose our fear of creditors no matter how far we have to go. what He can do. for guidance in each questionable situation. through us. We must not shrink at anything. (AA p. At once. for sanity. (AA p. there are some general principles which we find guiding.org 23 . If sex is very troublesome. when to yield would mean heartache.Criminal Offenses Perhaps we have committed a criminal offense which might land us in jail if it were known to the authorities (yes-no?)…Although these reparations take innumerable forms (Column 5). We may lose our position or reputation or face jail. (AA p. The right answer will come. We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would have us be (Column 5). 69-70) http://www. We think of their needs and work for them.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Item 2 . It quiets the imperious urge. we commence to outgrow fear. 80-81) Prayer for Sex Amends We asked God to mold our ideals (Column 5) and help us to live up to them…In meditation. for we are liable to drink (use.Sex Relationships The chances are that we have domestic troubles (yes-no?) Perhaps we are mixed up with women (others) in a fashion we wouldn't care to have advertised.

We don't worry about them if we can honestly say to ourselves that we would right them if we could.we sent them an honest letter. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. we don't crawl before anyone. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. have consulted with others. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. There may be some wrongs we can never fully right. Self-seeking will slip away. We must take the lead. As God's people we stand on our feet. (AA p. We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness (addiction) would make a skeptic out of anyone. Some people cannot be seen . asked God to help and the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. A remorseful mumbling that we are sorry won't fill the bill at all…The spiritual life is not a theory. We should be sensible. there is a long period of reconstruction ahead. No matter how far down the scale we have gone. (AA p. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. We have to live it…Our behavior (Column 5) will convince them more than our words. 83) Step 9 Paycheck If we are painstaking about this phase of our development. tactful. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. If we have obtained permission. (AA p.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 9 Instruction Before taking drastic action which might implicate other people we secure their consent. 83-84) (Do you want this experience in your life .yes-no?) http://www.bigbooksponsorship. we will be amazed before we are half way through. 80) Yes.org 24 . That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. considerate and humble (Column 5) without being servile (grovelling) or scraping (awkward) (Column 4). And there may be a valid reason for postponement in some cases. we will see how our experience can benefit others. But we don't delay if it can be avoided.

neither are we avoiding temptation. We have not even sworn off. dishonesty. and fear. Continue to watch for selfishness. the problem has been removed. 84-85) http://www. we ask God at once to remove them.step 4 When these crop up. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality safe and protected. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. (Are you willing to do this . obsessivecompulsive behaviour). For by this time sanity will have returned.yes-no?) We vigorously commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past.9 as we go along. This is not an overnight matter. It does not exist for us. We will seldom be interested in liquor (using. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid.step 12 Love and tolerance (Column 5) of others is our code. (AA p. It should continue for our lifetime. Step Ten suggests we continue to take personal inventorystep 4 and continue to set right any new mistakes steps 8. Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. We are not fighting it. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 10. Instead.yes-no?) We have entered the world of the Spirit. (Are you willing to do this . We react sanely and normally. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. obsessive-compulsive behaviour) has been given us without any thought or effort on our part.9 quickly if we have harmed anyone.steps 3. even alcohol (substances. acting-out). That is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition. and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor (substances.7 We discuss them with someone immediatelystep 5 and make amendssteps 8. (AA p.bigbooksponsorship. If tempted. 84) Step 10 Paycheck And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone. resentment. we recoil from it as from a hot flame.org 25 .

Humility 3. Trust 5. Intolerance 9. Stealing 6.Big Book Sponsorship Guide My Daily (Step 10) Personal Inventory LIABILITIES to watch for: Check for each day for: SELF-WILL (Column 4) NO POWER 1. Kindness 12. Selfishness. Love. Gossip.. Greed (money) or Gluttony (food) 13. Look For The Good In Others 14. Infidelity 10. Fear of. Purity 11. Sloth. Patience 15. Activity. Faith. Honesty. Suspicion 5. Laziness. Generosity 13. Anger. Spreading Rumors 14. Self-Centeredness 7. Zeal. Unselfishness 7. Hate. Self-loathing 3. Impatience 15. Slander. Forgiveness 2. False Pride.org 26 . Intimacy. Integrity 6. Jealousy. Dishonesty. Wrath. Inconsideration. Chaste 10. Praise Others. Exaggeration. Trust God Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun http://www. Acceptance 9. Tolerance. Boredom 8. Irritability 12. Distrust. Contentment 4.bigbooksponsorship. Vulgar Talk 11. Lying. Arrogance. Immoral Thinking. ASSETS to strive for: Check for each day for: GOD'S WILL (Column 5) POWER 1. Promptness 8. Resentment 2. Envy 4.. Lust. Self-Seeking.

Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him.bigbooksponsorship. selfish. dishonest or afraid?step 10 Do we owe an apology? step 8. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane (Column 5) when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives (Column 4).Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 11. (Column 5) Before we begin. of what we could pack into the stream of life? step 12 But we must be careful not to drift into worry. (AA p. (AA p. 86) Mid-day Focus In thinking about our day we may face indecision. step 12 After making our review we ask God's forgiveness step 7 and inquire what corrective measures steps 8. an intuitive thought or a decision.9 Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once? step 5 Were we kind and loving toward all? What could we have done better? Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or were we thinking of what we could do for others. especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity. We relax and http://www. praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. remorse or morbid reflection (Column 4).yes-no?) Step 11 Instruction PM Focus When we retire at night.org 27 . for after all God gave us brains to use. we constructively review our day. 85) (Are you willing to do this . we ask God to direct our thinking step 3. (AA p. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties with assurance. Step Eleven suggests prayer (talking to God) and meditation (listening to God). Were we resentful. for that would diminish our usefulness to others.9 should be taken. We may not be able to determine which course to take. 86) AM Focus On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. dishonest or self-seeking motives (Column 4) step 10. Here we ask God for inspiration.

or foolish decisions (Column 4). We are then in much less danger of excitement. worry. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show. that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems.it really does. however. 87 . It works . (AA p. and ask for the right thought or action. 86) We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step (Column 5) is to be. anger. (AA p. for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves. humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done" (Column 5). We don't struggle. Many of us have wasted a lot of time doing that and it doesn't work. We ask especially for freedom from self-will (Column 4). fear. We become much more efficient. We may ask for ourselves. self-pity. if others will be helped. when agitated or doubtful. We do not tire so easily. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends. (AA p.org 28 . We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while.Big Book Sponsorship Guide take it easy. and are careful to make no request for ourselves only. 87) Step 11 Paycheck As we go through the day we pause.88) http://www.bigbooksponsorship.

acting out) as intensive work with other alcoholics (addicts). Actually.132) But if you are shaky you had better work with another alcoholic (addict) instead (AA p. one alcoholic (addict) with another. You can secure their confidence when others fail..bigbooksponsorship.yes-no?) You can help when no one else can.. work with another alcoholic (addict) would save the day. (AA p.) We have recovered.) .xvi. This is our twelfth suggestion: Carry this message to other alcoholics (addicts)! (Are you willing to do this . (AA p.. xvi . 4th ed. (AA p. 89) This seemed to prove that one alcoholic (addict) could affect another as no nonalcoholic (nonaddict) could.. and have been given the power to help others.15) . Remember they are very ill.the broker had worked hard with many alcoholics (addicts) on the theory that only an alcoholic (addict) could help an alcoholic (addict). (AA p.org 29 . It works when other activities fail. was vital to permanent recovery. 4th ed. 102). He suddenly realized that in order to save himself he must carry his message to another alcoholic (addict). (p. It also indicated that strenuous work.xvii. we tried to carry this message to alcoholics (addicts). Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps. and to practice these principles in all our affairs. (AA p. Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking (using. they may be helping you more than you are helping them. It is important for them (newcomer) to realize that your attempt to pass this (our recipe) on to them plays a vital part in your recovery.I soon found that when all other measures failed. but he had succeeded only in keeping sober (clean) himself. 94) http://www.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 12.

this is an experience you must not miss. We know what you are thinking. to see a fellowship grow up about you. We can exercise our will power along this line all we wish. There is much more work ahead. Help Others. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. obsessive-compulsive behaviour) is a subtle foe.org 30 . http://www. It is the proper use of the will. patience and labor (AA pp. for alcohol (substances. Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities. (AA p." These are thoughts (Column 5) which must go with us constantly.Big Book Sponsorship Guide Step 12 Paycheck Life will take on new meaning. as directed in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. To watch people recover. And so can you. though you be but one person with this book (A. 85) Thus we grow. Clean House. Remember. (AA p. Thy will (not mine) be done. You forget that you have just now tapped a source of power much greater than yourself. with such backing. Trust God. We are not cured of alcoholism (addiction). "How can I best serve Thee. to watch loneliness vanish. We are headed for trouble if we do. to see them help others.bigbooksponsorship. Big Book) in your hand." But you can. to have a host of friends -. what we have accomplished is only a matter of willingness. You are saying to yourself: "I'm jittery and alone. I couldn't do that. We believe and hope it contains all you will need to begin. 89) Summary It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. To duplicate.A. We know you will not want to miss it. 162-163). Frequent contact with newcomers and with each other is the bright spot of our lives. recovery from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body is possible by working the Twelve Steps. everyday. Remember not to get cocky or lazy. this just the beginning.