The Chalice Lighter
Newsletter for Members & Friends of the South Fraser Unitarian Congregation, Surrey BC
--------------------------- January 2013 --------------------------Sunday Services (10:30 am)
Worship Theme for January - Change
What are TED Talks?
By Mitsu Oishi
“Aspects of Change” ~Bill Jones
One of the most energizing quotations from the 20th century is “We need to be the change we wish to see in the world”. In this service we will explore together some other quotations and so help each other enjoy our ability to inquire and encourage. There is an implicit element of change in this service in that our order of service, our way of proceeding, will be different than usual. Jan 13 “How to Be an Empty Cup” ~Rev. Amanda Aikman
“We we have brought together the world's most fascinating thinkers and doers, who are challenged to give the talk of their lives (in 18 minutes or less)…we're building here a clearinghouse [TED.com] that offers free knowledge and inspiration [for] a community of curious souls to engage with ideas and each other” (from the TED website). For UU’s, this is like Manna from Heaven, and we are bringing the TED Talks to our congregation!! Our Minister, Rev. Amanda Aikman, has chosen some TED Talks which she thinks most provocative and entertaining and which she feels, will engage us mightily. Circle the date. Saturday, January 26th, from 4 to 6 pm Place: Social room of Rosemary Liburd’s condo complex, 15558, 16 A Ave. (Someone will be at the door to greet and direct you to the social room. If nobody is at the door, call Mitsu on her cell at 778-888-6287). Park along 16 A. Ave. Bring your kids. There’s room for them to play along side us! We provide coffee and tea. You bring a snack to share. Discuss earnestly, laugh lots, and go away inspired. See you there. Email (email@example.com) or call Mitsu at 604-943-2032 with questions.
Emptiness – the void – tends to be something we fear and shy away from. But embracing and admitting our emptiness is the first step not only to enlightenment, but the sheer joy of living. We’ll explore emptiness and fullness through the amazing story of Mike May, a blind man who regained his sight – and found surprises that were both distressing and elating. Jan 20 “Love Your Enemies” ~Renie McRae
Many people know Martin Luther King as a civil rights activist, great speaker, Nobel Peace Prize winner, and even as an accomplished dancer. But not everyone is familiar with Dr. King's most profound sermon on Loving Your Enemies. This sermon was the core of Dr. King's mission for life, his credo. Most Unitarians are inspired by Dr. King's goals, but how many of us have set "love your enemies" as a priority? Dr. King's sermon inspires a lot of thought provoking questions. Come ponder a few with me... Jan 27 “The Kaizen Way” ~Rev. Amanda Aikman
Calendar of Events for January ’13
Sun, Jan 20: Annual Budget Meeting Sat, Jan 26: TED Talks Mon, Jan 28: Board Meeting (details page 2) (details page 2) (details page 4)
This 20th-century system of wisdom shows how the tiniest of steps can propel us into a transformed existence. This system seems absurd at first glance, but with a little patience, it can outwit our built-in resistance to change.
South Fraser’s Bulletin Board
January Birthday Greetings to: 4th 6th 7th 24th 25th 26th Erin Dalley Margie Pratt Juan Duran Mary Stewart Patsy Chism Gerald Boyko Trevor Phillips meet once a month, during Rev. Amanda’s “Second Sunday Monthly Theme Discussions,” beginning Jan. 13th. This will allow parents an opportunity to join the discussion group while the kids Sing, Sing, Sing! For further information, contact Sylvia Zeelenberg or Erin Knudsen. This is an open invitation to any musicallyminded folks who would like to join our choir. The Adult Choir meets each Sunday morning at 9:45 am. (Contact Person: Sylvia Zeelenberg) Are there any musicians who would like to join us periodically? (Contact: Sylvia Zeelenberg) ------------------------------------------------------------------NICE POTTED DAY-LILIES: Renie McRae is moving and has some wonderful potted plants she would like to find a happy new home for. She has six pots of Day Lilies, two Smoke Trees and one Spirea. If you would like any of these, please phone Renie McRae at 604.531-9836. ------------------------------------------------------------------G O U R M E T B E D A N D B R E A K FA S T EXPERIENCE FOR SFUC MEMBERS AND FRIENDS: Renie McRae is offering her comfortable master bedroom and attached four piece bath as an SFUC fundraiser Bed and Breakfast experience for SFUC members and for their friends and family. People are welcome to come for visits of up to three days and to contribute to SFUC whatever seems like a fair contribution. Breakfast will be provided...either Renie will make it and will leave out muffins and eggs so guests can be independent or she will prepare a fun and tasty breakfast at a mutually convenient time. She is also willing to provide mini tours of White Rock (like showing guests where the best Starbucks is and other important features of the community). Contact Renie at firstname.lastname@example.org for more info ------------------------------------------------------------------RECYCLING your evergreen arrangement containers, ribbons, cones and baubles will be appreciated. Give them to Carrie. ------------------------------------------------------------------Our ANNUAL BUDGET MEETING will be January 20th after church. Please plan to come and participate in our planning for our programs and budget for 2013.
------------------------------------------------------------------TED TALK: An Opportunity for Provocative Discussion and Community Time. TED Talks are “Talks to stir your curiosity.” Provocative, stimulating, fascinating – there are hundreds of these short videos. Amanda and Mitsu present the first TED Talks event for SFUC on Saturday afternoon, January 26, in White Rock. Future TED Talks will be at other places – please let us know if you would like to host one. We’ll bring four videos, and the group will vote on which two to watch. Discussion, laughter, and conviviality will follow. On Saturday, January 26, from 4 to 6 pm, at Rosemary Liburd’s. Please email Rosemary for directions: email@example.com Light refreshments available; bring kids if you like! Questions? firstname.lastname@example.org ------------------------------------------------------------------The Fundraising Committee is looking for volunteers to make a kettle of homemade soup (a list of the ingredients required) for a SOUPER SUNDAY late in January or early February (to be overseen by Foodsafe certified people). Please inform Regina, Win or Carrie. Thanks you! ------------------------------------------------------------------The service for January 20 will be based on Martin Luther King’s sermon focusing on his credo - LOVE YOUR ENEMIES. Congregation members are invited to share their own personal experiences with Renie McRae at 604-531-9836 on Loving Their Enemies and how it transformed them and their enemies. ------------------------------------------------------------------MUSICAL INVITATIONS: We are forming a Youth Choir! The SFUC Youth Choir (ages 5 and up) will
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can CHANGE the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
- Margaret Mead
A Note from Amanda:
Dear Friends, The shock of the murderous shootings in Newtown, Connecticut shocked us all. I am sorry not to have been with you at the time, to be able to help us process the outrage, sadness, and questions that resulted from this horrible act of violence. Having grown up not 20 miles away from Newtown, the news hit me hard. I didn’t know how hard it would hit Canadians till I started hearing from some of you about it – I thought it was an American tragedy and issue. Thanks to those of you who sent condolences and messages. Only two days after the shooting, I was to preach on “The Hopeful Imagination” at Olympic UU Fellowship in Port Angeles, WA. It seemed utterly impossible. Spirit came to my rescue, and I ended up with a sermon that received a lot of positive feedback. A Canadian minister circulated it online. If you didn’t see it via SFUC’s Facebook page, here is a link to it: https://docs.google.com/document/d/191LVTTDWh6aPyrqodXmgXOcMp4vdllqmEATW2KZ3HRU/edit Having always been a totally passive gun opponent, I have now become more radicalized – and encouraged by the huge upsurge of determined pro-gun-control Americans organizing for change. It’s too bad that awful events like this are often what it takes for us to become active and effective in a cause. But this is the human reality – we so seldom make real change in our lives until we are driven there by pain. As a new year come to South Fraser Unitarian Congregation, and I begin my second year with you (!) – it seems increasingly important that we discern, define, and declare our mission as a congregation. I will be asking you, and I hope you will be asking me, and one another – “Why are we here?” “What gifts do we have to give to a hurting, fragile world?” “Who are we here to serve?” SFUC does a nice job of providing worship and community for a small group of people. What will be the burning coal, the passionate caring, that leads us to turn outwards, to serve the needs of our neighbours, to do our bit to transform our world for the better? Let’s talk about this - a whole lot - for a while. Then let’s recognize when the time for talking has passed, and act boldly and with determination to make a real difference. Are you with me? Blessings and very best wishes for a blissful and meaningful new year. Cheers, Amanda
“Be the CHANGE that you wish to see in the world.”
- Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi
Submitted by Kathleen Zimmerman, Board Secretary Highlights from the Board Meeting held Nov 26, 2012
A Month of Celebrating!
We at Beacon Unitarian Church are excited to be planning a month-long celebration in February, 2013 for our 30th Anniversary. Some highlights are listed below. Come join us! Saturday, February 9, an all-day workshop with Rev. Robert Latham, “How to grow whether you want to or not”, (a conversation about Religious Mission). Registration required - if you are interested, please speak to your minister. Premises: • To define religion is to define its mission. • The mission of religion is not up for grabs. • A commitment to religious mission will effectively address every issue a congregation might face. • If you are doing your mission you can’t stop growing. Process: An interactive event designed to create a definition of religion and its mission that works for every congregation. The process will be grounded in questions that provoke small group conversation and conclusions. Behind all the process questions stand this larger one: “Why did society invent religion and why did they give it that name?” Sunday, February 10 – Worship Service with Rev. Robert Latham, “Frolicking in Mystery” Saturday, February 23 – Anniversary Dinner and Entertainment. Dinner and Entertainment will be at Sapperton Pensioners Hall, in New Westminster, on the evening of Feb 23rd, featuring another edition of "The Beacon Home Companion," with host Don Hauka. Come and enjoy music, laughter and highlights from Beacon's past, present and future as the BHC presents: "The Hitchhiker's Guide to Unitarianism." Music by the prestigious piano prestidigitator David Hamilton, plus the Beacon Choir, and others. For other information please contact email@example.com
Roots and Wings: Religious Education at SFUC
By Kate Coghlan, DRE
Have youNew a goodIstart tothat the holidays treated everybody well, and I’m looking forward to startingthis year. Happy had Year! hope the church year? I have, and I'm really excited about our Spirit Play program our second church term with some fresh thoughts and ideas. I want to tell you a bit about the amazing resource that is available to us. Last year, David Dalley and the Surrey Neighbouring Faiths enjoying some alongside the the Christian blog ministry-to-children.com.of multi-faith kits. We did I’ve recently been group worked articles from Surrey Public Library to put together a set In particular, I’ve been one for Unitarianism, and it was fun to multi-aged classrooms, and I have somediscovery to share. The author of this musing over their article on teaching think of what should go in the box for thougths by curious young people and their caregivers.out the following as success tips for a multi-aged classroom: article points WithEnsure that the lesson plan isspeakers, I thought it was a great opportunity to I’m trying kits in our lesson plans. 1. our new multi-faith series of interactive: I think SpiritPlay excels at this, but use these to bring in even more Each is filled with books toboxes are completely awesome. But, weto explore, activities to try, and even felt stories – it variety. The tactile story read, music to dance to, sacred objects have a well-stocked library, too. There’s nothing fits right with a picture book or even video now and then. wrong in to the Spirit Play format! We had the pleasure of checkingWe do mostly okaykit forthis. monthaof October.the room, we could do a little work with 2. Factor in attention spans: out the Hinduism with the With toddler in I believe each teacher got to better, I it think. and I'm sure some of us learned the format it (I know I did). Timing was perfect as our friends and neighbours once, I’m going to play around with a lot from of our lesson plan so that perhaps the circle & story time at the got ready to celebrate Diwali, just this past week. beginning are shortened somewhat. On aProvide structure they canfrom another faith, this will always try to have the kit for that curriculum, classroom. I 3. day when we have visitors count on: Again, we is a natural strength of the SpiritPlay faith in our and I feel hope that this that we have teachers and volunteers who really buy in to followinglearning together. And if you'd like to really lucky can generate some discussion between children and their parents, this sort of structure. come down to the classroom and take a look at the kit or read through any of the materials, please just let me know. Do ask – these items are on loan through personal library cards, and we need tobig kids areto keep the kit together – withI'd 4. Utilize the older child in a leadership role: This could improve. Our make sure only getting bigger, and but benew babies happy to arrange it for you. gap is going to continue to increase. I’ll be talking to our older kids over the more than on the way for next fall, the coming weeks and coming up with a game plan that they love as much as I do – we’ll keep you posted! Our month of studying Hinduism has come to a close for now, though I look forward to more of it in the future. 5. Set the tone: The author of the article refers to modeling how to get along, work together, and encourage one another. I think that we do a good job of this, and I think we do a good job of it as a congregation, not just in the By David Dalley classroom! “Spirit of Life and Love, we have teamwork: I had to our separateness to know that Theare not alone.” 6. Promote cooperation and gathered again out of really think about this one. we SpiritPlay model is one of individual work. As work-time (post story-time) is not directed, kids choose whatever they want to do for the day. On September 17,the shared resources mean that full of spiritual leaders from diverse faith traditionsalone, and more But you know, Patsi Chism addressed a room people have to cooperate even if they’re working in our community at often than not I find little pockets of children who are workingChurch. Heractivities. I wonder if we can’t bring #4 the annual Interfaith Peace Conference at Northwood United on similar words were carefully chosen, and gently delivered. into our fears, wewellnot alone.aIn our grasping for peace, finding it in fleeting moments, and losing it again to (above) “In play here as are – there’s lot to be said for working with buddies. some turmoil of the mind and heart, we are not alone.” Spirit Play is a natural curriculum for multi-aged classrooms. It’s based on Montessori principles, so it conveniently Later in theforconference, a speaker But even so... WHY does it interfaith organization “United education works well our small congregation! from the international work well? Why does Montessori Religions Initiative” (www.uri.org)classrooms, and surely there’s a limit to it? not something we arrive at, but something that we thrive with multi-aged would elaborate on this idea that peace is must struggle to create and re-create in every moment of our lives. But for now, Patsi held the stage: Another search of blogs brought me to understanding this concept better. Children learn from each by interacting, or “And so we dwell in You,a collaborative approach. It’s really... anothertime - willing to so please stay tuned and I’ll observing. It becomes Spirit of healing and wholeness, for this brief whole article, be held here in an immense and eternal love whose origins we depth. know, whose reality is irresistible.” explore this topic in further do not Before speaking of which... where are ablethe listen to one another. Really listen.out to fuel your New Year reading: And we can have peace, we must be all to Unitarian blogs? Check this link Not beuublogsearch.com we agree or disagree with what is being said. Not be thinking deciding whether about how we are going to respond when it is our turn to talk. We need to just listen; listen because we want to understand, understand because we want to trust, and trust because we want peace.
BOARD HIGHLIGHTS CHANGE the world.”
Submitted by Carrie Phillips, Board Secretary
“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to
- Nelson Mandela
Highlights from the Board Meeting held Oct 6, 2011
PRESENT: Lynne Rhead, Erin Knudsen, Mike Sands, Carrie Phillips, Sandy Chism
REPORTS FROM COMMITTEE LIAISONS: