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4:3). Jesus answers him by saying that a person’s physical need does not represent the totality of his need — that people live not only by physical food but by “every word that comes from the mouth of God” (Mt. 4:4). Jesus could have turned the stones into bread, but he let the stones remain stones. At the conclusion of one of the first Lenten services at IBC, everyone was invited to take a small white stone home as a reminder that sometimes we are called to let the “stones” in our lives remain stones — stones like unchangeable circumstances that require patience; stones like the needs we feel but choose not meet in order to connect with God in a deeper way. I felt the Lord gently hugging me, saying, “This morning sickness? It’s a stone. Instead of fighting it, let it draw you to me. Let this be your Lenten journey. Let this stone remain a stone.” I took the white quartz and slipped it into my pocket. Instead of chocolate, coffee or TV, I had given up my right to feeling good. I carried my little white stone in the console of my car next to the jar of ginger caplets I would raid after every meal to help keep my food down. When I made Gordon pull off at the 121 Wal-Mart for supplies to make a white-bread-American-cheese sandwich, my stone was there, silently softening my heart. Slowly, I grew to accept this light and momentary affliction that often felt so heavy and permanent. I grew to see it as a trigger, a simple question-and-answer that punctuated every hour: Sick? Seek. Sick again? Seek again. When Easter weekend finally arrived and IBCers were invited to bring their stones back to signify the completion of Lent, I kept mine in my car. I didn’t want to give it back. I still haven’t, six years later. I don’t think it was mere coincidence that Easter of 2007 was when my morning sickness completely lifted. Like fog that burns away at mid-day, my 24-hour, 20-week nausea evaporated into the sunlight and pastels of Easter. A new me had resurrected; a new pregnancy; a new appreciation for who and what I really need — what I needed more than TUMS, more than sandwiches, more than control. Are there stones in your life that need to stay put? Lent might be a good season to practice the art of letting things be what they are.
During one of the first years we really started observing Lent at IBC, I was pregnant with my son Drew. He was the size of a lima bean in February of 2007, but he might as well have been Andre the Giant Baby. I was so, so morning sick. And so, so tired. Every day was an effort in simple math: four steps to the kitchen + three steps back to the couch (bigger strides) = getting a snack without throwing up. Food was the anathema; food was the cure. I hated food, I needed food. People usually associate Lent with giving up foods like coffee, chocolate, or cheese in order to experience their need for Jesus in a deeper, more cellular way. Some people get up earlier or give up TV or find ways to stop leaning on the usual suspects in order to find God to be richer, stronger fare. I wanted to participate, I really did, but I didn’t think I could handle adding any more difficulty to my life. I was already living Lent, and I was living it against my will. As it turns out, managing morning sickness is a full-time job. Or at least a “part-time ministry position.” I would pour whole bottles of TUMS into the interior pockets of my purse. Like an angry, pregnant chipmunk, I would walk around with two tablets in my mouth at all times, one for each cheek. I stored an empty plastic bread bag on the floorboard of my car in case I had to be sick while en route to the doctor’s office. My bedtime routine was worse: slap a ham-and-cheese sandwich together and place it on my bedside table. That way at 3 a.m. when I inevitably woke up ready to retch, I would have an emergency snack waiting to soothe the sick. (Gordon frequently woke up with half of a ham sandwich languishing in his face. I’d switch it up sometimes to PB&J to give him a little variety.) It was all so upsetting. The scale was going crazy, renegade. I was out of control. No medication was working. Nobody understood. And all the while, a little pecan-size seed of bitterness was growing and stretching and gaining momentum right there alongside Baby Drew. The key Lenten passage from that time was Jesus’ temptation in the wilderness by Satan. The devil tempts Jesus with power and praise, but first he tempts him with something simple: bread. Jesus had been fasting, and it’s here we find the most understated verse of Scripture: “After fasting forty days and forty nights, [Jesus] was hungry.” Ya think? Satan says to him, “If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread” (Matthew
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IBC is on a journey committed to life transformation through Jesus Christ. We engage this journey by growing in Christ, connecting in community, and joining the mission. This commitment comes from Jesus’ words in the Great Commandment (Matthew 22:36-39) and Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20).
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Growing in Christ At the heart of the journey is the gospel of Jesus Christ, the story of the Son of God coming into our dark world to bring light, life, hope and transformation. The journey begins when we trust Christ, but it doesn’t end there. God’s desire for each of us is for our hearts and lives to become more like the one who has saved us (Ephesians 4:11-13). Connecting in Community The gospel story draws us into a community of people whose lives have been transformed by Jesus. This journey is not one that we undertake alone. We are designed to do life together as a community of Christ-followers. It is essential that we walk with one another on the journey (John 13:34-35). Joining the Mission The gospel tells us that one day God will take all that is broken in this world and make it whole. Those of us who are on the journey together are called to be people who do what we can to make glimpses of that day show up in our day. We do this by telling the gospel story and demonstrating gospel-shaped love to a needy world (Matthew 28:18-20).
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On Super Bowl Sunday (Feb. 5), IBC’s evening worship service will still be held at its normal time, 5 p.m. Go Cowboys! Wait. No.
ent is a six-week season of reflection, repentance and renewal in the Christian calendar that prepares us for the commemoration of Christ’s passion and resurrection. It is a time where we disrupt our daily routines by choosing to give up something that is a part of our everyday life or take on some new daily practice. This disruption serves to make us more aware of and responsive to God’s presence in and around us.
The season of Lent reminds me of lessons I learned during winter growing up on a Christmas tree farm. Winter weather causes a tree to become lean and dormant — less responsive to the elements of sun and rain that are intended to bring it into full bloom. The only hope for Christmas trees in a situation like this is to trim the edges. Trimming prepares the trees to become responsive again to the growth of spring and forces that growth inward, making the trees full from the inside out. Something similar happens in our souls. We can easily get used to our sin or overlook it altogether. The daily routines of life kick our mind into neutral. The messages sent to us from our culture aim our love away from Jesus and his kingdom and toward a different picture of what the “good life” really is all about. And so our souls harden, becoming dormant to God’s love that is meant to bring our flourishing. We are not as responsive to God when we worship, read Scripture, gather together as a church, or pray. Lent is a season where we trim the edges of our heart, preparing it to become responsive again to the love of God that makes us into fully alive people. It is a time to reflect on the holy love of God, to repent of not loving him as he deserves, and to experience his renewing presence in and through the work of Jesus.
During this season, IBC will be focusing on the cross of Jesus. The cross is the climax of God’s story where humanity’s sin and God’s love collide to bring life. Scot McKnight says that the cross is “God’s act of resolving sin and bringing humans back home in their relationships with God, with self, with others, and with the world.” On the cross, Jesus identifies with us in our human condition — knowing us by uniting himself with us in our sin and death. And identification has a purpose. Jesus identifies with us to incorporate us into his new way of life — restored to right relationship with God, self, others, and the world. Over the season of Lent, we will reflect together on six aspects of what Christ has accomplished for us on the cross. Isaiah 53:4–6 reads: But he lifted up our illnesses, he carried our pain; even though we thought he was being punished, attacked by God, and afflicted for something he had
OUR LENT FOCUS
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Jesus’ cross was most likely constructed of olive wood.
done. He was wounded because of our rebellious deeds, crushed because of our sins; he endured punishment that made us well; because of his wounds we have been healed. All of us had wandered off like sheep; each of us had strayed off on his own path, but the Lord caused the sin of all of us to attack him. The cross was designed by Rome as a symbol of a government’s great power and dominance. God took that symbol and flipped it into a reflection of his great love and kindness. The punishment and wounds Rome inflicted on Jesus to demonstrate their dominance ended up being the very things God used to make us whole and holy. The great hymn writer Charles Wesley once said that he would have given up all his other hymns if he had been able to write the Issac Watts classic “When I Survey the Wondrous Cross.” Watts’s hymn captures the power of the cross to transform our hearts: When I survey the wondrous cross On which the Prince of glory died, My richest gain I count but loss, And pour contempt on all my pride. Romans 2:4 says that it is the kindness of God that leads us to repentance. There is no more profound expression of the kindness of God than the cross of Jesus. It is when we survey the wondrous cross, when we think deeply about what Christ did for us there, that the cross re-arranges our heart’s deepest affections around God, our creator and redeemer. So as we walk through this season of Lent together, let us survey the wondrous cross; let us reflect on the love of God in Jesus in such a way that cultivates a heart of repentance for our sin so that God’s renewal can reach its fulfillment in our lives, and, through us, in others’ lives as well. Were the whole realm of nature mine, That were a present far too small; Love so amazing, so divine, Demands my soul, my life, my all. Mike Reading prides himself in beating ANYONE in “The Andy Griffith Show” trivia. Consider this a challenge.
In preparation for an upcoming church plant, Mike has been studying with IBC as part of his leadership residency.
lent 2013 at ibc
Lent at IBC wouldn’t be complete without Shrove Tuesday and Ash Wednesday celebrations. • Shrove Tuesday— Turn the page for more about this Lenten celebration— its meaning, history, and how small groups are getting involved this year. • Ash Wednesday — Join us for the worship service. February 13, 6:30 p.m.
– KidZone is available for Preschool and under (those born September 2008 and later) with prior registration. Please register for KidZone at irvingbible.org/ kidzone (choose the Wednesday option).
• Season of Lent— For more info and daily Lent devotionals, visit Irvingbible.org/lent.
Emperor Constantine I abolished crucifixion in the year 337 out of reverence for Christ.
The first Christmas Tree farm was established in 1901 near Trenton, New Jersey.
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Steps to a Slammin’ Shrove Tuesday
A leSSON IN GrAmmAr, hIStOry ANd pANCAkeS.
A quick lesson in middle English: “Shrove” is the past tense of “shrive”
which means to obtain absolution for one’s sins by penance. At IBC, we strive not to shrive. We have avoided the practice of earning absolution by penance or purchase for two main reasons: 1. It’s unbiblical and sinful 2. It gets tricky reporting eternal salvation on a tax return But while shriving has gone away, shrove is here to stay. IBC has adopted the old observance of Shrove Tuesday because, unlike shriving, it represents two things that we very much believe in: 1. Friends 2. Food Shrove Tuesday (known to our Cajun brethren as Fat Tuesday) is the day before Ash Wednesday, which begins the season of Lent. As early as 1000 AD, Christians gathered on Shrove Tuesday to encourage one another and to eat perishables. Since the most common Lenten fasts were from foods like milk, butter, eggs and meat, and since those things wouldn’t keep until Easter, those soiree-seeking ancestors of ours saw Shrove Tuesday as an excuse to party and make pancakes. After all, what do you get when you mix milk, butter, eggs and meat? Pancakes! In England, the day is still known as Pancake Day. Many in the IBC family have found the Shrove Tuesday feast to be a rich and enjoyable time with friends and family. Will you join in? Consider a Shrove Tuesday party of your own this year. Invite some people over. Cook up some pancakes, perishables or pineapple. But whatever you do, please, no shriving. Like the good book says in 2 Hesitations: “Cease shriving and know that pancakes are good.”
1. deCIde WhAt tO FeASt ON Pancakes are the traditional fare, but not required. You might try your hand at Crepe Tuesday, Sausage Tuesday, or Filet Mignon Tuesday. Note: if you choose the latter, please remember to invite Chatter staff. 2. GO ShOppING You could just use up your perishable foods but there’s a good chance that means you’ll be feeding guests two cups of milk and the nub of a lettuce head. Better check. 3. INvIte FrIeNdS Like your small group (see Shrove Your Small Group below), or some folks you volunteer with, or that family you’ve been meaning to get together with, but never found the time. Call them. Don’t Evite them. 4. prAy Thank God for the food and friends, and ask him to use the sacrifices of Lent to draw you closer to him. 5. FeASt Heartily.
Ideas to Make Your Shrove Tuesday Even More Slamminer
1. Include non-IBCers or non-churched friends. What better way to introduce someone to the faith than in your home over a steaming stack of flapjacks? 2. Read Ps. 100. Tell your friends how God has shown himself good and faithful to you recently. 3. Discuss your plans for Lent and ask your friends to encourage you and hold you accountable in your fast. 4. Consider using your party to bless someone else. Invite everyone to bring food (possibly a food from which they plan to fast) for donating to a local food bank. Ryan Sanders wants to take shelter from the poison rain where the streets have no name.
Ryan serves on the IBC Lead team overseeing Small Groups at IBC, Stephen Ministry, and the IBC Communications Team.
Shrove Your Small Group
Insert shameless plug here: get your small group together for Shrove Tuesday and bring Chatter along. Snap some shots and send them to email@example.com and you might just see yourself in an upcoming Where’s Chatter: Shrove Your Small Group Edition. Best picture wins IHOP gift cards for your group!
Last fall, Small Groups at IBC were challenged to live more interdependently with Share-A-Like, a two-month contest where groups tallied and reported items or services shared among members. The group with the highest monetary value of shared items won. Congrats to the Wagner/ Rathkamp group, with a grand total of $4,790!
The winning group eats a catered meal and enjoys an evening with Pastor Andy and Alice. The group also won a $750 donation from IBC to the mission of their choice. The group has been involved with organizations to help victims of domestic abuse and human trafficking, but in the end, they decided to contribute their reward to IBC’s Journey-On campaign.
Looking for a place to connect at IBC? Sign up for a spring small group now. Deadline is February 24. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org.
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“Fat Tuesday” would be an awesome race horse name.
The Ancient Greeks made pancakes called τηγανίτης, pronounced, “youaretooskinnyeatsomething!”
IBCers and Their Stuff.
We all have stuff. Stuff describes us. Even defines us. (Or does it?) Whatever our stuff may mean, we each have a little of it. And some of it is kind of interesting. Meet Sindhu Jefferson. An IBCer and Hospitality Team member, Sindhu found her sweet spot serving each Sunday at 10:45 a.m. with her “usher family.” As a member of the IBC Hospitality Team, Sindhu gets to work every week with a smorgasbord of spiritual stuff.
1. Sindhu Jefferson: Champion usherette. 2. Offering basket: Change, dollars, checks, and the
occasional stick of gum. Just kidding.
3. Sugar ‘n’ Spice: One of my favorite homemade javas is
an Indian chai brewed with savory cardamom pods. This delicious dessert-like picker-upper is expertly poured into my favorite Cherry Blossom travel mug and I am then ready to “go ush” (as Bob Gooding, our 10:45 a.m. Team Leader, calls it) for the beautiful people of IBC on Sunday morning. ushering universe.
4. Bread plate: Communion is an essential part of the 5. Tiny cupholder tray: Another communion essential.
Also possible makeup caddy for Joan Rivers.
6. What’s in a Name … Tag? Well let’s just say a story!
When I first decided that I really wanted to plug into IBC by finding a way to serve, I attended Propel where I realized that ushering was something I would really enjoy. I was fresh out of grad school at the time and needing a place to feel useful and belong. I found my family among the 10:45 a.m. Ushering Team. I felt needed and useful. Someone noticed when I didn’t turn up! Then I took a year off to see if I could find other ways to serve at IBC. Instead I ended up meeting my future husband (the love of my life!) and getting married — all before the year was up. It was soon after that I decided to rejoin my usher family. They welcomed me with open arms and a new name tag … with a new last name. It’s special to be able to share seasons of your life with a bunch of Christ followers who love to serve! ushers. Good thing nobody on the Hospitality Team is a pyromaniac — as far as we know.
7. Lighter: Candle-lighting is standard procedure for IBC
8. Flower-power: An absolute must-have in every
usher’s wardrobe is a pair of comfortable shoes, and you get bonus points if it’s a pretty pair like mine. Don’t let the petals fool you because this dainty pair conceals a magnetic sole that serves me well while I greet you with a smile and hand you a Sunday service worship folder. Wanna join the Team? Ush-up and turn to page 18.
She then spent a month focusing on eliminating, simplifying, and changing. For example, during the “food” month, Jen and her husband (the children didn’t participate in two of the months) chose to eat seven simple foods. In the “waste” month, the whole family gave up seven items a day, for a month. That’s 210 items out the door if you are math-challenged like me. During the “stress” month, Jen took on seven sacred pauses, stopping to pray seven times a day, each time with a different focus on God’s work in the world. The majority of the book is written in blog/diary style, with each month comprising a chapter and each chapter broken into her reflections on a handful of days from that month. I am pretty sure Jen and I should be BFFs as it frequently felt like she was inside my head while I was reading. Jen is starkly honest, open about her failures, and wonderfully sarcastic and funny in her writing. By February of 2012, I found myself deciding to do a modified “7” challenge for Lent. For six (long) weeks, I gave up something different each week. I chose my weeks based on a question Jen asks in the book: “What in my life, if taken away, would alter my value or identity?” I did not like the idea one bit of giving up my clothes, or chocolate, or my multiple hair products. I got downright snippy, in fact, when a friend texted me the idea of eliminating seven products for a week. I think I sent her back a text along the lines of, “I hate you” (sorry Amy!), because as soon as she suggested it, I knew it was going to hurt. And I really liked my comfortable (non-frizzy hair and five coats of mascara) life. I launched into Lent knowing it would be hard, but looking forward to what God was going to do in my heart during that time. And I wasn’t disappointed. I saw God work in powerful ways through the items given up, and those weeks changed how I view my place in the world. My takeaway from this book, and from my own “7”-themed Lent, was to recognize first how blessed I am. I am often distracted by the fact that so many people have so much more than me, but I don’t often let myself be broken over the billions who have less. Yes, billions. Also, it helped me to loosen my grasp on things standing in the way of pursuing Christ. I took a step back and identified some serious idolatry going in my life from my possessions to my morning routine, and “7” helped me to begin the process of breaking free. Learning to live on less and to have more room for God to work is a beautiful thing. I have a long way to go, but I have started the journey. This quote from the conclusion of “7” nicely summarizes the book and my thoughts: Love God most. Love your neighbor as yourself. This is everything. If we say we love God, then we will care about the poor. This earth is God’s and everything in it. We should live like we believe this. What we treasure reveals what we love. Money and stuff have the power to ruin us. Act justly, love mercy, walk humbly with God. This is what is required. “As I reduce, He is enough. As I simplify, He is enough. He is my portion where food and clothes and comfort fall woefully short. He can heal me from greed and excess, materialism and pride, selfishness and envy.”
BEST QUOTES My TAKEAWAy My “7” ExPERIENCE
What are you reading these days? Novels? Novellas? Nonsense? Chatter staff has been reading — or meaning to read — a plethora of titles and wanted to share one with you.
REvIEW 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess By Jen Hatmaker Reviewed by Victoria Andrews In time for Lent, IBC’s own communications assistant Victoria Andrews shares her thoughts on “7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess” by Jen Hatmaker. Warning: Do not read “7” if you don’t want to be challenged about what you spend, how you eat, and what you do each and every day. Do not read it if you don’t want to laugh so hard you cry. Do read “7” if you’re looking for a new way to approach Lent this year.
live in an apartment with a roommate and my dog, Gracie. Before “7,” a trip to the grocery store and my morning routine were a lot simpler. When I got “7” in the mail from a good friend, I had no idea that my life would be affected so much. I read it in January of 2012, and identified with the author when she said, “See, I am an extremist. I don’t learn lessons easily, subtly, or delicately. I cannot be trusted with loose boundaries.” “7” is the story of how Jen Hatmaker (along with her family and six of her friends dubbed “The Council”) chooses to remove excess from her life. Jen describes the experiment that became “7” as “an exercise in simplicity with one goal: to create space for God’s kingdom to break through.” She picked seven things: clothes, shopping, waste, food, possessions, media, and stress.
I am a single woman in her twenties. I work for a church (read: not rich). I
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A tip from Sonic car hops: tip your Sonic car hops.
Cicero coined the term “alter ego” in first-century Rome.
“What if all my silly, little individual purchases do matter? What if I joined a different movement, one that was less enticed by luxuries and more interested in justice? What if I believed every dollar spent is vital, a potential soldier in the war on inequality?” “One thing is for sure: my carbon footprint will always lead back to Sonic until some tree-hugging hippie discovers a non-Styrofoam vehicle to deliver the icy perfection that is the Sonic soda. Sorry, planet.” During month five, Jen begins talking about her three “alter egos,” which perfectly sum up a weekly argument I have in my head. Here is a brief snippet: “Sometimes my Organic personality, Sage Moonjava merges; and my top priority is to buy real food with wholesome ingredients…But other times my ‘buy local’ personality Ryvre materializes…however, my third alter ego, Freedom Shakra, is trying to unhook me from the corporate machine… The competing voices confuse me, and I’m not sure which personality should dominate. This leaves me a mess half the time, and I manage to feel guilty one way or another, no matter which purchasing propriety wins the day.” Read the conclusion first. The way Jen concludes her book helped me see her heart and perspective so clearly, and thus to see the book differently. Also, don’t re-read it right before Christmas (like me). Your 3-year old nephew will not understand why he is getting a card saying his present was a chicken donated through Samaritan’s Purse rather than the Tonka truck of which he was dreaming. “7” can be very convicting, so it’s good to remember your life won’t look like Jen Hatmaker’s, and it shouldn’t. Jen speaks to the fact that God is writing your story, not Jen Hatmaker. Consider taking a page from “7” and picking something to remove in your own life to create space for God to speak. Lent is upon us and is a perfect time to fast and reflect on the sacrifice of Christ. You don’t have to clear the calendar for the next 7 months in order to hear God. Pick one or two (or 6) things to strategically remove or add into your life this Lenten season as a way to create space and as a form of worship. “Even now,’ declares the Lord, ‘return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning. Rend your hearts and not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love’” (Joel 2:12-13). Victoria Andrews’ co-workers refer to her as “Great White” due to her having 25 teeth pulled over 3 oral surgeries, and because she is overly dramatic when upset.
Victoria is the IBC Communications Assistant, responsible for information wrangling, cat herding, and, unofficially, baking.
BEST “LOL” MOMENT
BEST “IS JEN HATMAKER IN My HEAd?” MOMENT
Bookworm Victoria getting sassy with “7” .
George Costanza tried to convince his fiancee to name their future child “Seven” in the 123rd episode of Seinfeld, which aired February 1, 1996.
Debuting in 1968, The Toyota 7 was a racing car developed by Toyota Motor Company. It was designed primarily for use in the Japanese Grand Prix.
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dAvId ANd SANdRA HARdIE 49 YEARS
IN THE SPIRIT OF CHOCOLATES ANd CUPId ANd ALL THINgS FEBRUARy, Chatter ASKS LONgTIME COUPLES FOR THEIR BEST MARRIAgE AdvICE.
WAyNE ANd KANdy LAMB 43 YEARS
(As told by Sandra) How we met: David and I met at the University of North Texas. Our first date was to see Ray Charles at the Music Hall at Fair Park on December 10, 1961. Ray Charles was just becoming rather well known, and it was a great first date! We married two years later on December 20, 1963, and it was lightly snowing as we left our Christmas wedding at First Methodist Church in downtown Irving. The Lord has blessed us greatly the last 49 years. He has blessed us with great spiritual leaders, four great daughters, four equally wonderful sons-in-law (which we like to say that we “prayed up”), 7 terrific grandchildren and many wonderful, encouraging friends.
Best marriage advice: Maintain a close relationship with the Lord. Also, have personal visits with each other every single day. And have fun — dancing, laughing and planning joyous things with family and good friends.
(As told by Kandy) How we met: I knew who Wayne was because my family spent most of the summer in Weatherford where he was the big football star. In December of 1968, my dad decided to live at our home in Weatherford since he had been diagnosed with cancer, so I came there to be with my family. Wayne had just gotten out of the Navy during the Vietnam War and was working at Wren’s pharmacy. I purposely went in to see him one day. Finally, after my third visit, he asked me to go out dancing! My dad passed away in April, we were engaged in August, and married on November 28, 1969 — on what would have been my parents’ 35th anniversary.
Best marriage advice: Dr. & Mrs. Toussaint (former IBC senior pastor) gave us the best advice. They said we should not think that we could never fall into unfaithfulness. The enemy would love for us to think we are too good and too in love for that to ever happen. As a result, we have always been aware and alert to never compromise a situation.
AL ANd FLOreNCe JArreLL 50 YEARS
(As told by Florence) How we met: Al and I met on a blind date. Al is from Sherman; I attended Austin College. One of my sorority sisters and her brother from Sherman arranged the date where we played bridge at their parents’ home. We married February 23, 1963. Best marriage advice: Reach out to meet your spouse’s needs. If you hold back waiting for your needs to be met first, it won’t happen. Also, we each came through for each other at critical times in our marriage. And finally, keep God in your life and home.
BOB ANd PAT dOWNey 53 YEARS
dOUg ANd SHIRLEy HOTCHKISS 48 YEARS
(As told by Pat) How we met: Bob and I met at work. I was a secretary for a manufacturing company in Southern California, and Bob was a foreman. He was really bashful when he would come and talk to me — he’d be knocking his heels against the wall and cracking his knuckles. Our first date was to an industry trade show, and we were married 6 months later. God has been so good ever since — all of our 13 great-grandchildren have been born since Bob had his heart transplant surgery. Best marriage advice: We’re best friends. We laugh at a lot of things. Just love each other, and put each other first.
(As told by Shirley) How we met: We met on a blind date arranged by a lady who was in a Bible study with my mom. She knew me through my mom and she knew Doug through his parents. Doug had just graduated from Texas A&M and was coming to Dallas to work for a public accounting firm, and he was going to live with this lady and her husband until he could find an apartment. I was still a student at SMU. Neither of us was very excited about this date, but we honored these matchmaking ladies...and are glad we did! Best marriage advice: Be affectionate every day. And communicate, communicate, communicate — encouraging words, honest hurts and needs —keeping short accounts. Also, keep a mindset that marriage is for life.
Are you a dude with commitment issues? Turn to Idle Chatter, page 19.
There’s an old Hebrew proverb that says cleanliness is next to godliness. There is some debate as to what that old saying really means, but if you’ve ever been really dirty, maybe from a day doing yard work in the Texas heat or spending a few days on a camping trip, there’s nothing like coming home and taking a nice long shower and getting into some clean clothes. It does make you feel more at peace, relaxed and, OK, maybe closer to God. But being clean and having clean clothes is often something we take for granted. Not so for a homeless man in California called T-Bone. When asked what might make a difference in his life, he said, “If I had clean clothes, I wonder if people would treat me as a human being.” Laundry Love was launched from T-Bone’s simple confession. According to the Just One organization, founders of Laundry Love, every single Laundry Love effort around the U.S. is attached to this man, his words, his story, his life. He reminds us that every human being has tremendous worth, and when we share life with another human being, that life could spark an idea that cares for thousands. The spark that ignited years ago in California is now a nationwide initiative that has become more about creating community than cleaning clothes. Laundry Love arrived at IBC about three years ago when Amy Glover and her husband Tim moved to Texas from Arkansas. Amy had been involved in Laundry Love there and was looking for a way to get involved here. Amy was in church one Sunday when she heard about the way IBC supports schools in the Irving area. At the first chance she had, she hopped into her car and started driving around.
Amy admits it was her homesickness that led her to get in her car that day. She was just a lonely mom looking for a way to connect. Sometimes the opportunity you’re looking for is just around the corner. “As soon as I saw the laundromat near Belt Line and Walnut Hill in Irving, I knew it would be the perfect place,” Amy says. “I actually visited three times before I was able to talk to the owner who was all for it and told me he had been looking for a way to get involved in the community.” For a little over two years now, volunteers from IBC — including members of Thrive, students from Zone 6:30, the children’s ministry, and many others — have showed up the first Saturday of every month to do laundry. But something special is happening during the spin cycle. While the clothes are being washed, dried and folded, there’s plenty of time to talk. Tim puts it this way: “Doing laundry provides a vehicle for building relationships with people we otherwise wouldn’t meet. We realize that the Gospel travels the road of relationships. Our goal is finding ways to get involved in lives outside of the laundromat. And laundry is perfect — once the machine has been started, you have a captive audience for thirty minutes!” Tim knows a little about forming relationships. After all, Laundry Love is where he first met Richard. “A few of us had decided to start a Bible study called Life After Laundry that met on Wednesday nights at the laundromat. One Wednesday night in April 2012, we showed up and Richard was there. Richard had never been to a Saturday event; he just saw our poster in the laundromat advertising Life After Laundry and showed up.”
Food + Clothing = 2 great ways to serve
Are you more into linguine than laundry? Love drumsticks more than detergent? An IBC Meal Team might be the place for you. Whether on Wednesday or Sunday nights, you’ll find a place to blend in, stir up some fun, and whip up some better puns.
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Good clean fun at the Laundry Love Christmas Party, Saturday December 1.
“Richard was going through several things in his life and was looking for answers. He had basically no Bible knowledge or church background. We met with Richard for a few weeks but then decided we were going to go a different direction since our Wednesday night turnout was low. I didn’t want to leave Richard with nowhere to go, so I suggested he and I meet every Wednesday night for dinner and go through the book of John together. We are still meeting on Wednesday nights now, and Richard started coming to IBC with me and my wife regularly. Richard’s lease was up on his apartment back in November, and it gave me a lot of joy when he decided against moving because, as Richard put it, ‘I don’t want to be too far away from my church.’” And then there’s Bonnie and Sean, regulars at Laundry Love. Bonnie originally came to Laundry Love on a recommendation from a friend. At first, Bonnie and her husband Sean just came to do their laundry, but after several months, it became something they looked forward to. Bonnie said even though she does not attend IBC, she highly recommends it whenever she meets someone new. As Bonnie explains, “The people from IBC who come here are good people; they genuinely care and we’ve made some great friends.” Sean and Bonnie also were able to help identify people in their community that could be blessed by receiving a Thanksgiving basket from IBC. Two of the volunteers that Bonnie and Sean befriended are Susie and Kaci. A mother-daughter team with a heart for service, Susie and Kaci were two of the first people to sign up with Laundry Love two years ago. Over the months, Susie, Kaci, Bonnie and Sean have become friends outside of the Laundromat, even working together to help grow the ministry.
The stories of friendship and community are abundant. As another volunteer, Leslie, put it, “At first, you may think it’s hard to talk to strangers, but we’re all just people after all. Really, it’s simple. Just start talking and let the Spirit lead you.” Hand-in-hand with the serious business of Spirit-led community is the feeling of fun and camaraderie you sense right when you walk in the doors. Who knew doing laundry could be such a blast? In addition to its Bible study on Saturday mornings, Laundry Love recently hosted a Christmas party at Amigo Laundromat, and plans on providing free family portraits for its clients in the spring. To keep the good times, well, spinning, a second location for Laundry Love is also in the works. Cleanliness may be next to godliness, but Laundry Love is much bigger than cleanliness. It’s about connection. Community. And isn’t that what God desires for all of us? Peggy Norton has a hard time deciding which Valentine’s treat is her favorite... chocolate-covered strawberries or chocolate-covered strawberries.
Peggy Norton is a communications professional with over 20 years of writing experience, primarily in corporate communications. She has been married for 27 years and has one son Brandon who is attending uNT. In addition to writing for Chatter, Peggy is an IBC small group leader.
>19,800 burgers | 6,600 lbs. of beef | 4.7 cows
BuRGER VOLuME SINCE 2008:
Get CraCkIn’. Bless the IBC family and surrounding community this spring on an IBC Meal Team. For Sunday night, contact Pat O’Reilly at pdoreilly@verizon. net. For Wednesday, contact Bob Downey at bdowney@ irvingbible.org.
Groups on Sunday
There’s always something new going on in Bible Communities! Here’s a taste of what’s happening this month:
Synergy 9 a.m. — Middle School Room Couples in their 40s & 50s If you desire to dive into Scripture and deepen your faith, this class is for you. Come join us. The Tree 9 a.m. — West D 20s & 30s, married and young families Join us as we begin a new series, “What God Intends for a Life Well Lived While Living in a Fallen World” by Tommy Nelson. Crossroads 10:45 a.m. — High School Room Married late 20s and 30s Join as we use teaching topics to facilitate group discussion. Our goal is to deepen relationships both in community and individually with Christ. Journey 10:45 a.m. — Middle School Room All Welcome We will be looking at “The Normal Christian Life: A Walk Through Romans 6–8.” on Track 10:45 a.m. West C — Single Parents Join us as Nichole Bentley will be teaching on “hot Topics Related to Single Parenting.” Thrive 10:45 a.m. — West D Singles in their 30s & 40s Join us for a discussion of “Captivating” and “Wild at heart” by Josh and Stasi Eldredge. Legacy Builders 6:45 p.m. — West A All Welcome We will be continuing our study on the book of Genesis.
FAITH AND BELIEF
Events and Resources
Baby Dedications — February 10 Registration runs January 20–February 3 at irvingbible.org/babydedication. Space is limited, so if you have a preference of service times, please register early. Photos of children being dedicated should be sent no later than February 1 to Donna at email@example.com. hard copies are also acceptable. New Parent Orientation: February 3 at 9 a.m. in the Senior high Room. Orientation is not mandatory, but strongly encouraged. We will explore what it means to dedicate your child and answer questions about parenting issues and our children’s ministry at IBC. Membership Class Sunday, February 24, 10:45 a.m. Training Center Join us for this elder-led class that will introduce you to the beliefs and values of Irving Bible Church. See ad, pg. 17.
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Shelter from the Storm A confidential, 16 week small group that focuses on finding hope and healing from sexual abuse. We offer groups for both teens and adults. Contact Michelle at email@example.com or (214)725-0898. Mental Health Grace Alliance Every other Monday, 6:30 p.m. West A and C Family Grace Group For family members, friends, and caregivers who support individuals with serious mental disorders. Contact Buzz Moody at myrabuzz@ gmail.com.
Local and Global
Laundry Love — first Saturday of the month, 9 a.m.–12 p.m. Located at Amigo Laundromat, 3349 Country Club Dr. in Irving (just down from Sam houston Middle School). Please join us as we provide free laundry cycles and detergent, strike up conversations and build relationships. For more info visit llpirving.org or contact info@ llpirving.org. See article pg. 12. ALARM Breakfast for Lawyers Thursday, February 21, 7:15 a.m. West D If you are a lawyer, ALARM would like to invite you to an informational breakfast about helping serve lawyers in Africa. Come hear Celestin Musekura (ALARM founder and President) share about ALARM’s justice work and how African attorneys are working for justice to help the vulnerable in their communities. For questions, or to register, please email Melody at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The Living Grace Group For those who have mental illness. Contact Melissa Clark at email@example.com.
Stephen Ministry at IBC Stephen Ministers provide a listening ear and a caring presence for IBCers going through emotionally difficult times such as the loss of a loved one, loss of a job, illness, injury, divorce or other life events. If you or someone you know could benefit from the care of a Stephen Minister, contact stephenministry@ irvingbible.org.
HoPE & HEALING
GriefShare — Thursdays, 6:30-8:30 p.m. — West C A caring group of people who will walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experiences. KidZone is available with prior registration. To register, contact Sharon at firstname.lastname@example.org. Caregivers of Aging Parents February 2, 9–10:30 a.m. West C Contact email@example.com. Abortion Recovery Mondays, 6:30 p.m. Training Center Contact Kym at firstname.lastname@example.org. Recovery at IBC Thursdays, 6:30–8:30 p.m. West Wing Youth Lounge Do you deal with perfectionism, pride, overeating, inappropriate anger or control? Recovery is confidential and all are welcome. Grace For the Wounded Thursdays, 6:30–8:30 p.m. A confidential small group ministry that explores the wounds we have received and the healing journey God’s prepared for us. Female group currently offered. Starting March 21. Contact email@example.com to register. NAMI Family-to-Family Class Mondays, 6:30–9:30 p.m. West B A 12-week course designed for families and caregivers of those with serious mental illness. Begins February 4. Contact Joey at joey@
Events and Resources
Shop Talk — Sunday, February 24, 10:45 a.m. Join special guest Mary Flo Ridley for “Let’s Talk about Sex!” We will discuss how to talk with your children, how to identify teachable moments, and how to create a positive plan from pre-school to teen years for your kids.
Marriage at IBC Sundays at 6:45 p.m. — West D A small group-based marriage series designed to help couples reconnect in the context of community. Our theme for the spring will be Sunday Night Fight Night, looking at 8 common points of conflict. Visit irvingbible.org/marriage to register. KidZone is available with prior registration.
Visit irvingbible.org/parenting for more info.
For Folks Ages 55+
Please visit page 20 for more Sunday Bible Communities.
Community and Resources
Big Man Party — February 8–9 Join us for our annual retreat. Topic is “Centered.” Register at irvingbible.org/men. First Watch Fridays, 6:22 a.m. The Commons See ad, pg. 16. First Watch Xtra Meets Wednesdays at 6:30 a.m. in the Training Center.
Potluck Lunch and Fellowship February 17 Immediately following the second morning service in the Commons Annex adjoining the haven. Bring a dish to share if you can.
Infants Through 5th Grade
Townsell Book Fair — February 17 See ad, next page. MyZone Wednesdays, 6:30–8:30 p.m. Zone/Zone Jr. A mid-week event for kids that’s great for bringing friends. K-5 grade. Contact Beth at firstname.lastname@example.org. Zone 6:30 — Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. A weekly Bible study for kids K-5th grade. Contact Beth at bhorn@ irvingbible.org.
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Community and Resources
Sit with us on Sunday! Several single-parent families enjoy worshiping together in the 9 a.m. service. Join us in the lowest righthand section, Rows 5 & 6, facing the stage.
Visit irvingbible.org/men for more info.
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SERMoN-BASED SMALL GRoUPS
Community and Resources
Groups are currently in session. The deadline to register for the Spring Small Groups session is Sunday, February 24. Register at irvingbible.org/smallgroups. See article, pg 6.
Community and Resources
oasis Women’s Retreat March 1–3 Join us for our annual Women’s Retreat. See ad, pg. 17. Spring Women’s Bible Study Tuesdays, 9:30 a.m. or 6:30 p.m. Join us as we study the book of Revelation. In this study you will discover how to ready yourself for your heavenly home.
IBC Career Transition Ministry Wednesdays, 6:30–8 p.m. Want to find a job? Come learn how to craft a rock-solid resume, use the Internet and LinkedIn to network, and ace the interview. Contact Anna heil at email@example.com.
Lost and Found have you lost something at IBC? Contact Samara at samara.russ@ gmail.com during the week or ask at the Information Desk on Sunday. IBC Spring Softball, Men’s teams only Now forming teams. Contact Kurt heinemann at kurtheine76@yahoo. com or (972) 765-9912. New Arrivals Congratulations to the following families on the births of their children:
A Little Bit of Everything
Prayer Meeting 2nd and 4th Wednesdays, 6:45–8 p.m. — The Chapel Join us as we pray for IBC and the needs of our people and the world. NICHE (North Irving Christian Home Educators) Monday, February 11, 6:30–9 p.m. The Alcove Join us for a Valentine’s Pot Luck and supply drive for the uSO. Check out texasniche.com for a list of items. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org.
Community and Resources
In His Image Bible Study Wednesdays, 6:30–7:45 p.m. Training Room A small group for adults (18+) with special needs. Contact Shannon at email@example.com. Special Needs Support Group Wednesday nights, 6:30–7:45 p.m. The Conference Room Contact Lori at firstname.lastname@example.org. Respite Care Every fourth Saturday For families that have children with special needs. SonShine Pals and Room Our SonShine Rooms are available during the 10:45 a.m. service for children with special needs. There are also opportunities for children to be matched with a SonShine Pal.
Stephen and Rosa Poetschke and their son Eli Augustus, born December 1 at 7 lbs, 14 oz, and 21 inches. Evan and Courtney Shaver and their daughter Caroline Reese, born December 3 at 9 lbs, 1 oz, and 21.5 inches.
20s and Early 30s
The Gathering Thursdays, 7 p.m. — The Alcove Join us on February 21 as we kick off our new series “Sticks and Stones.” See ad, pg. 17. Small Groups Young adults (marrieds, singles and mixed) meet in small groups during the week and Sundays to connect in community and grow in Christ. To learn more, contact youngadults@ irvingbible.org. Sunday Mornings at the Mo Sundays, 10 a.m. The Mosiac Café Join us for fellowship before the 10:45 a.m. service.
Townsell Book Fair February 17
Middle/high School and College
Middle School Sundays MERGE AM — The Alcove, 10:45 a.m.–12:05 p.m.
Wednesday Nights at IBC
vox Humana Choir Wednesdays, 6:30–8:10 p.m. IBC Worship Center The choral community of IBC is always looking for new singers, beginner or pro. Everyone is welcome and you can join at any time! No auditions necessary. Contact Crystal at email@example.com. ESL: English as a Second Language Wednesdays, 6:30–8:30 p.m. AZ17, 18 and 19 Do you want to learn English? Improve your English? Come practice all four skills: speaking, listening, reading and writing. Contact Corey at firstname.lastname@example.org. FREE Citizenship Class Wednesdays, 6:30–8 p.m. — IBC For those at least 18 years old who have been issued a Permanent Resident Card. We’ll guide you through the N-400 paperwork and prepare you for the main components of the new citizenship test. Contact Michael at email@example.com.
of at-risk kindergarteners at Townsell elementary School do not have a single book of their own.
Life Groups — the Commons, 6:45–8 p.m.
Middle School Wednesdays The “W” — Student Ministry area, 6:30–8 p.m. High School Sundays Life Groups — Student Ministry area, 6:45–8 p.m. High School Wednesdays SWAG (Students Worship and Gathering) — The Alcove, 7:15–8:30 p.m. IBC College Ministry Sundays at 6:45–8 p.m. The Alcove
We can change that.
Through the annual Scholastic Fair Book Drive, IBC collects book donations for children grades K-5 at Townsell Elementary School in Irving. Our goal: to show Jesus’ love in a tangible way by providing a book for every child. Ways to get involved: A. Purchase a book to donate at the book fair in Town Square on Sunday, February 17. Books will be available after each service. B. Purchase a book for personal use. From every purchase, a portion of the profits will be donated to Townsell to buy more books. C. Bring in NEW (not gently used) books. Drop them off in any Children’s Ministry area. Contact Beth with questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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First Watch CharaCter(s) series:
Men at IBC will begin an eight-week journey examining experiences from Moses’ life — what they reveal about his character, God’s character and how we can build our own character. First Watch meets Fridays at 6:22 a.m. in the Commons.
Questions? Contact Kym at email@example.com.
If you’re a woman at IBC, your 2013 just got a lot more relaxing.
march 1-3, 2013 — camp copass, denton, tx Like a stream in the desert, an oasis can refresh your mind, body and soul. Join other women for a weekend like no other that will include challenging teaching, lots of laughs, delicious food, space to think and rest, and a breath of fresh air. Mark your calendars now to join us for this refreshing weekend. Engage with our Special Guest: Nicole Unice, author of “She’s Got Issues” Visit her at www.nicoleunice.com. Worship led by: Jason and Crystal Elwell Cost per person: Angels Hotel room for 4 - $95 Tally Retreat room for 4 or 5 - $130 Tally Retreat room for 3 - $150 Tally Retreat room for 2 - $ 185 For more information about the rooms, visit campcopass.com. Register at irvingbible.org/women/oasis-retreat.
Black & White
February 14, 8 pm-midnight Dallas Contemporary, 161 Glass St., Dallas, TX 75207 Join Young Adults at IBC for Black & White Masquerade, a semi-formal Valentines party complete with dancing and daring. Part masquerade-dance, part assassination-game, the evening is an open invitation for you and all of your friends. (Register in advance and get the insides scoop on the game, plus a cheaper ticket.) Come dressed for intrigue in your best black and white, and don’t forget your masquerade mask for stealthy game play. Register: visit the IBC Young Adults Facebook Page or email firstname.lastname@example.org. Online registration is $10 or pay $15 at the door. Party with a purpose: Please bring a pack of socks or a towel donation for a local homeless ministry.
Questions? Contact email@example.com.
it doesn’t take much to make someone feel at home at irving Bible Church. all you need is a smile. Whether you’ve got time
every Sunday or just once a month, you can help visitors and IBCers alike feel warm and welcome in a few easy ways. Consider being a: • Parking attendant • Greeter • Host/Hostess • Usher So go on. Just say “cheese.”
Hospitality at iBC needs you. To get started or for more info, contact Kelly Haney at firstname.lastname@example.org or (469) 767-5254.
Sticks & Stones
a 4-week series
You said it all the time growing up: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” You also know by now that this just isn’t true. Words just don’t hurt us — they can scar us for life. In fact, most of us carry around wounds from our past that greatly impact the decisions we make in our present. What do we do when we’ve been wounded? how do we move on? And how is God calling us to respond to those who have wounded us? Thursdays, 7 p.m. in the Alcove
Contact email@example.com for more info.
February 24 at 10:45 a.m. in Training Center
If IBC is your church home and you are interested in becoming a member, this two-part event is for you. Come to the first week and get to know elders, learn more about our core beliefs, and discover what membership is all about. If you are ready to take the next step, come the following week (March 3 at 10:45 a.m. in West A) to share your own story of faith and complete the membership process. register at irvingbible.org/connect. Contact Donna O’Reilly at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
M e M be rs h i p at i b C
First Worship Service: 9 a.m.
Children’s Classes (all ages) Synergy (40s & 50s), Middle School Room The Tree (young marrieds and families), West D
HoW Do I GIvE?
my time, talents & Skills
Welcome Center Volunteer Children’s Ministry needs a few smiling faces to welcome and check-in families at IBC events. There are a variety of times you can serve. Complete an application at irvingbible.org/serving/volunteer-applications. Contact Kurtlyn at email@example.com. Personal Shopper for MyZone MyZone is looking for an individual or team to shop for supplies and food once a month. Conact Beth at bhorn@ irvingbible.org if you are interested. Visitor Follow-Up Team (Rex Greenstreet Ministry) Volunteer one Monday evening a month to call people who have recently visited IBC. Training and coaching will be provided. For more info, contact Sherri at ssharp@ irvingbible.org. Meal Team Volunteers Our Sunday and Wednesday teams could use some additional volunteers to serve together. For Sundays contact firstname.lastname@example.org. For Wednesdays, contact email@example.com. See pg. 12 for more. Respite Care Volunteers By giving a few hours of your time to do crafts, play games, and spend time with special needs children, you give their parents a much needed break. Every fourth Saturday evening. Contact Shannon at specialneeds@ irvingbible.org. Wednesday Nights Special Needs Volunteers help care for special needs children while their parents attend a support group. Contact Shannon at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Second Worship Service: 10:45 a.m.
Children’s Classes (all ages) Crossroads (mid 20s-30s couples), high School Room On Track (single parents), West C Journey (all welcome), Middle School Room Merge A.M. (middle school), Alcove Renew (multi-generational), Training Center Thrive (30s & 40s singles), West D
Plastic Bottles for VBS Children’s Ministry is in need of 600+ clean, label-free plastic bottles (12 oz or larger) with the cap for a VBS science experiment. Bottles will be accepted at any Children’s Ministry location until June 1. Breakfast Cereal for Brighter Tommorrows The women’s shelter in Irving has an ongoing need for cereal to feed their women and children. Drop your boxes in the large marked and decorated box in the donation area at IBC. Contact Marjorie at email@example.com. Laundry Soap and Dryer Sheets Laundry Love is collecting laundry soap and dryer sheets for their monthly events in Irving. Please bring these to the Laundry Love box in the donation area by the Training Center. For more info visit llpirving.org or contact firstname.lastname@example.org. See article pg. 12. Online Giving Option If you would find it more convenient to donate to the ministries of Irving Bible Church online, visit irvingbible. org/give.
Third Worship Service: 5 p.m.
Children’s Classes (all ages)
Community Dinner: 6 p.m. Community Events: 6:45 p.m.
Legacy Builders (all welcome), West A Middle School, The Commons high School, Student Ministries Area
SUNDAY CoMMUNITY MEALS
Each Sunday in the Town Square at 6 p.m. Cost is $3/meal or $10 max./family. 2/3 2/10 2/17 2/23 2/30 No Meal. Super Bowl Sunday. Fajita Fiesta ham-burrrrrr-gers and brats. Giant baked potatoes and all the fixings. Steak and lobster.
If you’d like to serve on a Sunday night meal team, contact Pat at email@example.com.
Interested in learning more about IBC’s budget for 2013 or other financial nuts and bolts? Visit irvingbible.org/budget.
WEDNESDAY MIDWEEK MEALS
Each Wednesday night from 5–6:20 p.m. in The Commons. Cost is $3/meal or $10 max./family. 2/6 2/13 2/20 Baked Potatoes with all the fixins, salad, dessert. hosted by Lavern howell’s team. Lasagna, breadsticks, salad, and dessert. hosted by Karen and Bob’s team. Chopped BBQ beef sandwiches, baked beans, pickle spears, cole slaw, chips, and dessert. hosted my Marlene Britton’s team. Grilled chicken breast in alfredo sauce, scalloped potatoes, veggies, salad, rolls, & dessert. hosted by Pat Downey’s team.
new to IBC?
Have questions? We’re here to help.
We’re so glad you’re here. Sometimes it’s hard to know where to begin, but we want to make the process of connecting and feeling at home as easy as possible. Here are some ways to start. The Information Center is a great place to get your questions answered, find help and encouragement for your personal journey, or just have a cup of coffee and settle in. Our team of volunteers would be happy to help you, and our goal is to make you feel at home. The Information Center is open every Sunday after all three worship services. The Newcomer Gathering is an informal get-together for those new to IBC and/or those wanting to learn more about who we are, what we believe and how to get plugged in. Meet other newcomers, ministry leaders and elders. Can’t seem to figure out what IBC is all about or how you fit into the larger picture? Want free breakfast every Sunday for four weeks? Propel is designed to help you figure out how to best plug in to IBC’s culture and calling. We’ll talk about what it means to grow in Christ, connect in community and join the mission — and what that might look like for you. You’ll also learn more about membership at IBC. Small groups exist to cultivate deep relationships that advance the kingdom of God in dark places — dark places in our world, in our relationships and in our hearts. We do this in the context of sermon-based Bible studies that meet in homes. Groups comprise 12 people or fewer and are formed by leaders who have completed small group leader training. To sign up for a group or get more info, contact Ryan Sanders at firstname.lastname@example.org. Spring sign up deadline: February 24.
Learn more about IBC and meet others like you.
Changes to the menu may be made depending on cost, availability or Bob Downey’s whim. If you’d like to serve on a Wednesday night meal team, please contact email@example.com.
THE MoSAIC CAFé (THE Mo)
Café Hours Monday, Tuesday & Thursday: 8 a.m.–5 p.m. Wednesday: 8 a.m.–7 p.m. Friday: 8 a.m.–12 p.m. Saturday: Closed Sunday: 8 a.m.–12:30 p.m. & 4–7 p.m. Phone: (972) 443-3323 New signature drinks! Stop by The Mo and see what we’ve got brewing.
Ready to get plugged in?
Connect with others on the journey.
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“When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one person to dissolve the romantical bands which have connected him with a lady and to assume among the powerful espressos of the megachurch food court, the separate and single station to which the Laws of Attraction and of Attraction’s God (Kanye?) entitle him, a fair-to-middling respect to the opinions of the worship team requires that he should declare the causes which impel him to be a righteous tool and commence separation.” ~Declaration of Independence, Axe Bodyspray Edition
The Saucy McRib of Love
you’re my sister in Christ and I don’t want to complicate things. By this logic, you’ll be forced to disobey 2 Corinthians 6:14. Also, creepy. you’re a little too worldly. I think Jesus should be your boyfriend right now. “It’s not me, it’s you” is always a good play. Nothing like denting the selfesteem of a young woman (I’m assuming she’s iffy on the esteem front if she’s with a schmuck like you) to extricate yourself from a relationship. Oh, and way to take the Lord’s name in vain. Nice. you don’t appear to be a good “rib match” for me. I spit a rather majestic plume of Earl Grey across my office when I read this. The only time this excuse is plausible is when you take your potential ladymate to your favorite barbecue joint and she orders a salad. Otherwise, let me school you on something, kemostupid: There’s no such thing as a “rib match.” Sure, it’s romantic as all get out (yes, all) to think that God lovingly crafted a lone angelic creature from Kevlar-infused gossamer and deposited her within your Young Life class to eventually fall for your “bashful theologian” shtick and become Mrs. Derpwad. But that’s not how it works. Love is a choice and an action. Both of which must be repeated infinitely throughout your time together. So if she’s not the one, fine. But be a man about it and stop blaming the Almighty for a change. And by “Almighty” I do, of course, mean “Chuck Woolery.” Jason Fox wishes to remind the young men to play it just cool enough to not appear creeptacular.
Jason is a writer who used to live in Dallas, but now resides in Omaha because he loves corn and a steady paycheck.
My wife and I have been a couple for over 10 years. Prior to said coupling, I was a lonely, forlorn soul prone to hyperbole and eating Pop Tarts for breakfast, second breakfast, elevenses, luncheon, tea, dinner and supper. (My proclivity for eating like Bilbo Baggins may or may not have contributed to my singleness.) And during those bygone days of pathetic yore, I was not exactly the prototypical male when it came to having a fear of commitment. At least not the prototype as defined by 80s-era sitcoms wherein guys would run screaming away from their supermodel-esque TV girlfriends and the mere mention of going “steady.” Or even to the grocery store. Granted, one needs someone to actually commit to before being able to claim a lack of commitment phobia.
However, it has been brought to my attention that an epidemic of amorous anxiety has befallen many otherwise hale and hardy male youths who consider themselves members of the Lord’s team. (No, not the Cowboys. Seriously?) While space does not permit me to dive into the weeds, drill down or perform any other corporate jargon-based detective work as to the origins of such a malaise, I can offer some “straight dope” to the “kidz” about the “jive malarkey” they’ve been feeding to their “dames.” The following list of excuses was provided to me by someone a decade younger than myself, so I know it’s either valid or part of an elaborate — yet incredibly boring —internet prank. I’m breaking up with you to work on my relationship with god. Congratulations, sir. Your newfound laser focus on the Lord will no doubt result in a lasik-like transformation of your insight, causing you to eventually understand that you just dumped future neuroscientist Mary Jo Kowalski because she didn’t like “Call of Duty” quite enough whereas Billy Graham was married to his wife for 64 years. Idiot. I don’t feel “a peace” about dating you. Guess what, Chachi. God isn’t some sort of cosmic Chuck Woolery making sure you have a love connection with every lass you like. I mean, you know, like. Besides, the last time you felt “a peace” about something, you ended up with a 1993 Plymouth Laser of dubious structural rigidity. Frankly, the fact that she’s at peace with being with you should be miracle enough to inspire a second conversion. I feel god is leading me, like Paul, to a life of singleness. Interesting. Is the Holy Spirit also leading you to spend nearly a decade in obscurity studying his Word before embarking on a decades-long mission that includes imprisonment, torture and ultimately martyrdom? That must’ve been some “road to Starbucks” moment, huh?
The McRib was fathered by Rene Arend, the McDonald’s Executive Chef most famous for bestowing Chicken McNuggets upon the world in 1979.
The original Pop-Tarts mascot was an anthropomorphic toaster named Milton.
As of March 31, 2012 there were 40 million monthly active players across all of the “Call of Duty” titles. Discuss.
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