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Dont Worry, Be Happy

Dont Worry,

Be Happy
Bo Sanchez
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7 Secrets to Achieve Your Dreams and Enjoy Great Happiness Today

#1 Bestselling Author of How to Live a Life of Miracles


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7 Secrets to Achieve Your Dreams and Enjoy Great Happiness Today

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ISBN- 978-971-007-006-0 Bo Sanchez Philippine Copyright 2009 by Eugenio R. Sanchez, Jr. Requests for information should be addressed to: SHEPHERDS VOICE PuBlICatIONS, INC. #60 Chicago St., Cubao, Quezon City, Philippines 1109 P.O. Box 1331 Quezon City Central Post Office 1153 Quezon City tel. No. (+632) 725-9999, 725-1115, 725-1190, 411-7874 Fax. No. (632) 727-5615, 726-9918 e-mail: sale@shepherdsvoice.com.ph all rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, except for brief quotations, without the prior permission of the publisher. layout and design by Rey de Guzman Photos by Daniel Soriano Preface: Remember Your Greatness and laugh with God today Introduction: Do You Want to Be Extremely Happy? 7 Secrets of Extreme Happiness Secret #1: happy People create Their Destiny Chapter 1. Focus Not on Your Disability; Focus on Your Dreams Chapter 2. Dont aim for Zero Chapter 3. Why Focusing on Your Dream Is Important to Your Happiness Chapter 4. Face Your Monsters Secret # 2: happy People Like Themselves a Lot Chapter 5. life Is a Mirror Chapter 6. Its an Epidemic Chapter 7. Whats Your Default Question? Chapter 8. Write It Down Secret # 3: happy People nurture connections Chapter 9. Water Your Relationships with love Chapter 10. Step One: Create Patterns of Connection Chapter 11. Step two: Be Kind Chapter 12. Step three: Prioritize People over Money Chapter 13. Step Four: Make Others Successful i 1 3 9 11 13 15 17 19 21 23 27 29 31 33 37 39 41 43

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Secret # 4: happy People Find Delight everywhere Chapter 14. Question: are You Wealthy? Chapter 15. Wealth Is Measured by What? Chapter 16. three Kinds of Gratitude Chapter 17. Be an Inverse Paranoid Secret # 5: happy People embrace change Chapter 18. are You Stuck in life? Chapter 19. the Businessman and the Fisherman Whos Happier? Chapter 20. Be Content and Desire Growth at the Same time Chapter 21. What Is Your Path? Secret # 6: happy People Trust Deeply Chapter 22. laugh at Your Worries Now Chapter 23. Expect Good things to Happen Chapter 24. let Go Chapter 25. Expect Blessings Secret # 7: Work Your Life Purpose Daily Chapter 26. let Your Greatness Come Out Chapter 27. Make an Inventory of Your Gifts Chapter 28. Be a Genius! Chapter 29. a Formula for Mediocrity and Success Epilogue: the Happiness of Heroes about the author

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Other Books by Bo Sanchez:


Inspirational How to live a life of Miracles 40 Stories of Passion Personal Finance Series 8 Secrets of the truly Rich Simplify and live the Good life Simplify and Create abundance Kerygma collection How to Be Really, Really, Really Happy (1st Collection) You Can Make Your life Beautiful (2nd Collection) You Have the Power to Create love (3rd Collection) Fill Your life with Miracles (4th Collection) Inner healing Series Your Past Does Not Define Your Future 7 Secrets to Real Freedom Singles & Relationships How to Find Your One true love How to Find Your One true love, Book 2 childrens Book Eagles Dont Fly they soar!

Dedication
God wants to laugh with you more often. How do I know? Ive got two sons I love passionately, Benedict and Francis. I love it especially when we laugh together. And like any father, I desire that they live happy lives of love and abundance. God is a Father, too. Hey, He likes to laugh with you! And like any Father, He also desires that you live a happy life of love and abundance. I dedicate this book to Benedict and Francis, who give me boundless happiness every day. And I dedicate this book to you, my dearest friend. I love you and I pray for your great happiness.

Bos Websites:
Read Bos Blog at www.BoSanchez.ph Watch Bos Videos at www.PreacherInBlueJeans.com Get Daily Spiritual Food at www.KerygmaFamily.com Gain Financial abundance at www.TrulyRichclub.com
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Remember Your Greatness and Laugh with God Today


Going home from the Sagada mountains, we passed by Nueva Vizcaya. after eight hours of traveling in our minivan, my little boys were hungry. So we dropped by a restaurant for lunch. that was when a funny thing happened: all the managers of the store recognized me. In their eyes, I was a big celebrity. It was as though John lloyd1 came into the restaurant. (I must admit, I see a few similarities.2) So they took my photo and asked for my autograph. that wasnt all. One manager told me, Its our 10th anniversary and we have this big raffle. Can you do the honor of picking the grand prize? the Department of trade and Industry representative was there, wearing a nice black coat, looking formal and all. that was when I realized how ridiculous I looked. I was wearing puruntong3 shorts. I was in a crummy t-shirt. I wore muddy sandals.
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I didnt even take a bath that morning because it was freezing in Sagada. and for four days, I didnt shave. Just to let you know, my moustache doesnt look nice. No matter how I try, I cant really have one I have Genghis Khan whiskers that grow in different directions. But here was the thing: they didnt see any of that! all they saw was Bo Sanchez. So there I was, standing beside the DtI guy in a black coat, surrounded by the managers, the staff and a circle of people all the while being photographed in my puruntong shorts. My point? In that restaurant, I had a glimpse of what you and I experience before God. When God looks at you, He doesnt see your external weaknesses. He doesnt see your sins, your failures and your mistakes. He only sees who you really are deep within. He sees your core. He sees your greatness. When you really think about this incredible greatness within you, how can you not be happy? How can you not laugh with God? the reason were not happy is because we forget who we really are. Dear friend, when you really think about it, theres no reason for you not to be happy. and in His eyes, youre awesome.

So decide to be extremely happy. laugh with God today. May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

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INtRODuCtION

Do You Want to Be Extremely Happy?


I know. Filipinos are already a happy bunch of people. and were so funny. Just check out our Only-in-the-Philippines humor Ive picked up in the various emails Ive received: Theres a bakery called Bread Pitt. Theres a store selling banana fritters called Maruya Carey. Theres a water engineering firm called Christopher Plumbing. And a boutique called The Way We Wear. An eatery serving chicken in Cainta called Caintacky Fried Chicken. And a 24-hour eatery called Doris Day and Night. Theres a dressmaker called Elizabeth Tailoring. And a barbershop named Felix the Cut. In Baguio, theres a flower shop called Petal attraction.

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We also easily laugh at our mistakes: Seen in an eatery in Baguio: Wanted: Boy Waitress. In Pampanga, a store has this sign: We Make Modern antique Furniture. Seen in an eatery in Quezon City: Wanted: Waiter, Cashier, Washier. Seen in a house in Jaro, Iloilo: House for Rent, Fully Furnaced. And in Cebu, a store advertises: We Hab SopDrink in Can an in Batol. Filipinos always rank high in surveys of happiness around the world. For example, Survey Research Hong Kong says that 94 percent of Filipinos indicated that they were happy. thats astounding when you compare this to the rest of the world. In the uS, two-thirds say theyre not happy. In Japan, 30 percent claim that theyre miserable, despite the fact that they earn five times more than Filipinos. So why another book on happiness? But friends, this isnt a book on happiness. this is a book on achieving your dreams and enjoying great happiness along the way. this book isnt about settling with OK. this isnt about being mildly contented with life. this is about receiving all that life has to offer, of sucking the bone marrow of life, of dreaming big, living to the max, of reaching for the stars! Is this possible?

7 Secrets of Extreme Happiness


Because of my work, I travel all over the world. last count: 36 countries. Thats a lot of frequent flyer miles, jet lag, lost luggage and a gigantic family of friends from all over the globe. But its not just about the sheer number of people I meet. Because Im a preacher, Ive not only met them, but theyve also opened up their lives to me on a deep level. So I have this distinct advantage of knowing lots and lots of people on an intensity thats beyond superficial. So I asked myself this question: Who are the happiest people I know? I listed them down. after sifting through the hundreds of thousands of people archived in my brain, I asked a more difficult question: What is common among them? I came up with seven great things I see in extremely happy people. I call them the Seven Secrets of Extreme Happiness: 1. Happy people create their destiny. 2. Happy people like themselves a lot. 3. Happy people nurture connections. 4. Happy people find delight everywhere. 5. Happy people embrace change. 6. Happy people trust deeply. 7. Happy people work their purpose daily.

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But before I explain these seven keys of happiness, you need to know the major reason why many people are unhappy today

The enemy of happiness


the enemy of happiness isnt sadness. the enemy of happiness isnt problems. the enemy of happiness isnt loneliness. the enemy of happiness is fear. We run our lives by fear. In Dan Bakers excellent book, What Happy People Know, he explains how our body circuitry is wired to fear. Our brains have three parts. the brain stem, the amygdala and the neocortex. the more primitive parts of our brains, the brain stem (also called the reptilian brain, because reptiles have these for brains) and the amygdala are programmed for fear. Why? Our ancestors needed fear for their physical survival. Imagine yourself living in the wilderness with lions, wolves and cobras around you. Danger lurks behind every tree and shadow. Once their brains register fear, the endocrine glands produce fear hormones called adrenaline and cortisol. It gave them super strength for fight or flight. And in fighting or fleeing, they exhaust the adrenaline and cortisol in their bodies. Well and good. But what about us who usually sit behind desks and work on computers? We still have the same fear mechanism. But this time, were no longer afraid of lions or cobras behind every tree.

We afraid of our rising credit card bills. Were afraid of our boss. Were afraid of losing our jobs. Were afraid for our children what will happen to their future? Were afraid that at 35, well no longer get married. Were afraid well grow lonely. Were afraid well run out of money. Were afraid of social rejection. Were afraid of social shame and losing face. Were afraid of disease. and these fears are so real, our endocrine glands produce adrenaline and cortisol as well. But because were seated behind our desks, pounding on our computers, we really dont use up any of it. adrenaline and cortisol become poison in our bodies, destroying our health bit by bit. thus, very few people are happy. Conclusion: If we want to be happy, we need to overcome our fears. How?

The only antidote to Fear Is


twenty years ago, a friend gave me a book about facing fears. My arrogant response to her was, thanks for the book. But frankly, I dont think I need it. I dont know why, but fear isnt a problem for me. I dont have any fears. ten years later, I ate my words.

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Because after a deep soul search, I realized how my life was run by many fears. Many of the things I was doing I did because of fear! I feared what other people said about me. I feared failure. I feared angry people. I feared about not having enough. I feared about not being enough. In my life, Ive discovered that there is only one thing that can overcome fear. there is only one thing that is more powerful than fear. the only antidote to fear is love. When you fill your life with love, your fears naturally disappear. Im talking about a love for God, a love for others, a love for yourself, and a love for life itself. the Bible says, Perfect love casts out all fear.4 In fact, remember the Seven Secrets of Happiness I listed above? Every single one of them is really a facet of love. and each tool can drive away a specific fear in your life. Once your fears are gone, happiness will flood your soul.

Instead, happiness was a by-product of their search for something else. and what is that something else? at the end of the day, its love in whatever manifestation you seek it. and the Seven Secrets of Happiness? these are really seven manifestations of love. (there are many more, Im sure.) If you have these Seven Secrets in your life, you dont look for happiness. Happiness comes looking for you! You dont find happiness. Happiness finds you.

happiness Is a By-Product, not the Product


So let me share with you my first important discovery: these extremely happy people didnt become happy because they searched for happiness. they never took on a life project entitled, My goal in life is to be happy!
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Secret #1
Happy People Create Their Destiny
Use Your Power to Choose Your Future

Secret # 1: Happy People Create Their Destiny

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Chapter 1

Focus Not on Your Disability; Focus on Your Dreams


Jessica Cox is a happy 25-year-old Filipina-american woman. But she was born with a rare birth defect. She was born without arms. Doctors cannot explain why. Jessica could have just moped at home, angry at God that she was born without arms. She could have sat and watched tV the whole day, wasting her life in misery. She could have just cried and cried, I dont have arms! Instead, she shouted with joy, I have legs! her father, an american retired music teacher, and her mother, a nurse from Samar, gave her all the love she needed to overcome her disability. and overcome, she did. Would you believe? Jessica is a now licensed pilot, flying her airplane with her feet. (Watch her on YouTube. type Jessica Cox and be totally amazed.) She also has two black belts from the american and International tae KwonDo Federation. With her feet, Jessica also plays the piano, drives a car, texts her friends on her cell phone and puts on her contact lenses all by herself. I read her story and realized anew the power of our dreams. Almost anything is possible for those who believe.

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Why? Because we have a God within us who has given us all the resources we need to fulfill the dreams He has planted in our hearts. all of us have disabilities. perhaps you dont like how you look. perhaps you come from a broken family. perhaps you were born poor. perhaps you were molested as a child. perhaps your boyfriend dumped you. perhaps you dont have a job right now. Ive got good news for you. You can be happy. You can overcome! Whatever your disability is, the key to overcome it is by not focusing on it. Dont focus on what you dont have; focus on what you have. Dont focus on your disabilities; focus on your possibilities!

Chapter 2

Dont Aim for Zero


Dan Baker gives a mathematical explanation why focusing on our problems doesnt work. Imagine that because of your problem, youre a -10. In trying to fix your problem, youre trying to move back to 0. From my experience, this is slow. Fixing problems is tiring. perhaps after a few months, youd be able to rise from a -10 to a -8. and then after a few months, youll be able to inch your way to a -7. and so on. heres a better way: Dont focus on your problem. Focus on your dream. When you do, you leapfrog from a -10 to a +10. You bypass 0! Why? Because dreams excite. Big dreams attract more energy, more attention and more resources. as props for my talk, I asked my staff to get me a bunch of old newspapers and divide them into two piles. Based on their headlines, I asked them to separate them into good news and bad news piles. You can guess the outcome. I got a really tall pile of bad news and an almost nonexistent pile of good news. Because media sells bad news. Weve been trained to focus on our bad news. a few weeks ago, I gave a seminar to 200 store managers of a clothing company. I told them to stop reading the newspaper (figuratively). Because all they read about is negative: the financial crisis, companies closing down
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and people losing their jobs. Its so depressing, theyll be opening their stores saying, Oh boy, no one will come in and buy our clothes. and when someone does enter their store, theyll say to themselves, Shes just going to look. She wont buy. When you focus on your problems, you have tunnel vision. Just like a horse with blinders. You miss out on the fantastic opportunities for expansion and blessing outside your narrow vision. heres a business tip for entrepreneurs: Dont just solve problems. Focus on your dreams. Solving your problems becomes part of reaching for your dreams but you do it with passion and excitement!

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Why Focusing on Your Dream Is Important to Your Happiness


Because the act of choosing is oxygen for your soul. Choosing feels good! Ive met countless people who cant choose. they run their lives on fear. Because they fear others and what other people say, they let other people run their lives. their bosses. their families. their friends. that is one miserable way to live. happy people create their future. Its not created for them. they deliberately choose what they want to do and where they want to go. I met a big executive who was so harassed at work, working 16 hours a day. his family was a mess. his health was a mess. I told him to take a month-long leave to pray and reach out to his wife and kids. he said he couldnt do it. My boss will kill me! he said. he was afraid hed lose his job. he was afraid to lose the lifestyle he was accustomed to having. he was afraid of what other people will say if he downgrades his lifestyle. this big, imposing, intimidating man was really a coward, a man run by many fears. In my introduction, I wrote that the only antidote to fear is love. this man had very little love in his life.

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he has to taste the immensity of Gods love for him more. he has to experience genuinely loving himself more. he has to experience loving others from the heart more. he has to experience waking up in the morning loving life itself more. Friend, make a decision to receive more love in your life today. and choose!

Chapter 4

Face Your Monsters


Once upon a time, a family of frogs lived in a brokendown well. they lived in isolation, content with their tiny puddle of water. Sometimes, it got murky and crowded, but no frog dared to leave home. Why? Whenever someone would dare leave, everyone would warn him, there are monsters outside! and so for many generations, these frogs were stuck in their little world. Until one day, a little frog had a dream to live outside the well. In his mind, he saw a big pond of water. Lots of open space. the vision excited him so much. he would tell his friends about his dream but they would tell him, We had a great-great-great grand uncle who went out and never returned! he must have been gobbled up by the monsters! But the little frog didnt see the monsters. he only saw his dream of a big pond. Finally, he made up his mind. Without any warning, the little frog jumped as high as he could. he landed on top of the well. all his friends below shouted, Come back! Youll be eaten alive! But the little frog hopped out. and what he saw blew his mind. almost right beside the well wasnt a big pond. Instead, it was a giant lake a million times bigger than their tiny puddle.

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Friends, face your monsters. Many of us are trapped in our little worlds because of fear. God has bigger blessings in store for you outside your walls. how did the frog jump out of the well? Before he saw the lake with his eyes, he already saw the lake within him. he felt it in his heart. What you see with your heart today, you will see with your eyes tomorrow. Create your destiny today.

Secret #2
Happy People Like Themselves a Lot
Love Yourself Totally

Assignment for Secret #1: Create Your Destiny 1. Start a journal. (Choose a good notebook or a special file in your computer. It really depends on what works best for you.) 2. Think of at least one person you know (or you read about) who has much more problems than you have but is still happy with his or her life. Write about that persons life. Be inspired.

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Chapter 5

Life Is a Mirror
One day, a genie appeared to a woman and said, this is your lucky day! I will give you three wishes. Yeheey! the woman squealed. But on one condition, said the genie. Whatever you ask for, your husband will receive three times more. the woman frowned, What? But I hate my husband! hes a despicable man! the genie shook his head. Im sorry. Im the Love Genie. I repeat: What you ask for, your husband will receive three times more. The woman said, Oh, OK. My first wish: Make me very rich. I want one million dollars. The genie asked, Are you sure? Your husband will have $3 million. She says, Oh, never mind. Whats his is mine and whats mine is his. Very well then! the genie said, and with a wave of his hand, poof! the woman had one million dollars and her husband had $3 million. My second request is that I want to be very beautiful. The genie asked, Are you sure? Your husband will look like piolo pascual and Sam Milby and John Lloyd put together. This is very dangerous. Women will flock to him. the woman said, Just as long as Ill be beautiful. and with the wave of his hand, poof! and she
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became utterly beautiful and the husband three times more handsome. the woman then said, For the third wish, I would like to have a very mild heart attack heres the lesson: Whatever you give to yourself, you give to others more. If you like yourself, youll like others too. If you dislike yourself, youll dislike others too. Because life is a mirror. What you see in others is a reflection of what you see in yourself. Ive met very critical people. Sometimes, I think they feel that they were born to criticize others. Its their life mission. all they do is size up everyone they meet and point out their mistakes. Where does this critical spirit come from? In their heart of hearts, I believe they dont like themselves. and they project this self-criticalness on others. this disliking ourselves is more widespread than we think

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Its an Epidemic
at their inner core, people dont feel good about themselves. Like background music playing 24 hours a day, people inflict upon themselves self-rejection, self-doubt, self-contempt. Its an epidemic in the world today, and its robbing people of much happiness. Where does this sickness of self-hatred come from? Self-hatred comes from fear. after all, hate is fear. We hate what we fear. Specifically, we fear were not enough. Bottom line, we fear were unloved. and when we dont like ourselves, we try to solve it by many common false solutions. For lack of space, let me give you two here. One is having status symbols. the other is religious performance.

Collecting Status Symbols


I know a lot of people who clutch, grab and collect status symbols. I remember the story of the guy with a BMW. after he parked, he stepped out of his car and another car crashed onto it, ripping out his door together with his entire arm. When the police came, they saw the guy looking at his smashed up BMW, crying, My car! My car! Its
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wrecked the police said, excuse me, sir, but dont you realize that your arm is gone? the man looked at where his arm was supposed to be and when he saw nothing, began to cry, Oh my gosh! Wheres my rolex? Some are so attached to their status symbols. You see these people walking in malls. Shirt by Lacoste. Shoes by Bally. Watch by rolex. Waistline by Krispy Kreme. I was talking to a friend who wore a rolex watch. I asked him, Im curious. Why are you wearing a p300,000 watch on your wrist? his answer made me very sad. he said, honestly? to make me feel like somebody. to make me feel good about myself. Wow. If I want to feel good, I breathe. I smile. I pray. I love. Let me give you another false solution to not liking ourselves

Because we project our self-hatred on God. For years, I used to be like this. I prayed, read the Bible and did my religious work because I wanted the approval of an angry God. Not anymore. I do all these because He loved me first.1 So how do you start liking yourself a lot?

We Make God in Our Image


the other false solution is religious performance. When we dont like ourselves, some get into religious practices to appease a God that they believe also doesnt like them. Why? Because life is a mirror. Because we make God in our image and likeness.

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Chapter 7

Whats Your Default Question?


You have a default question that you ask yourself a thousand times a day. Its like your OS or operating system working in the background. For many people, their default question is, Whats wrong? they wake up in the morning and unconsciously ask, Whats wrong with this day? Whats wrong with my life? and throughout the day, they keep asking their default question: Whats wrong with my husband? Whats wrong with my parents? Whats wrong with my kids? Whats wrong with my job? Whats wrong with my friends? And the deadliest default question is Whats wrong with me? Some people ask this question again and again throughout the day, it kills their spirit. Because they find so many things wrong about them. No wonder they dont like themselves!

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The question, Whats wrong? is a very useful question not as a default question but as a question during emergencies. (When theres really something wrong!) What then should be your default question?

Chapter 8

Write It Down
Sit down and write 25 things you like about yourself. I did this the other day and couldnt stop at 25. I ended up writing 67 things I like about myself! and since the list is in my journal, I plan to keep adding onto it until I reach 100. But start with 25. Celebrate who you are. thank God for who you are! this will change you. all of a sudden, you realize how special you are. and slowly, youll start liking yourself a lot.

Key: Appreciation
The default question we should ask is, Whats right? ask it a thousand times a day. Whats right about this day? Whats right about my husband? Whats right about my kids? Whats right about my job? And especially the very healthy question, Whats right about me? If the Bible is right that youre really made in the image of God then, by golly gee, you must be a phenomenal human being. Youve got stuff in you that are fantastic and you need to take time to appreciate them. remember: Only love can defeat fear. and appreciation is love. When Jesus healed the 10 lepers, only one came back to thank him. he asked, Where are the other nine? On that day, 10 were healed physically but only one was healed completely. ten were healed physically but only one was healed physically and spiritually. heal yourself by appreciation. heres one thing you can do

The Most Important Reason


three days ago, I was swamped with work. I had so many articles to write, so many meetings to plan, so many business concerns. But my wife said, please bring Francis to the barbershop. hell be a ring bearer. thats the disadvantage of having a cute son. he gets to be ring bearer a lot. So I put aside all my work in the afternoon and brought him to the barber. after the haircut, I was thinking that we were going back home so I could work. that was when four-year-old Francis said, Daddy, Im hungry. So we marched to Jollibee and he ate chicken and rice at four in the afternoon! again, as we were leaving, I was presuming I could now go back to work. But Francis tugged on my arm again
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and said, Daddy, Im still hungry. My gosh, where does this little guy put all that food? Later on, I realized he was hungry not for food but for love. Specifically, hungry for Daddys love. So we kept on walking, visiting other shops, until he saw a playground. his eyes grew large and said, Daddy, can I play? I believe life is about moments. So I bought myself a cup of coffee, sat on a park bench and enjoyed watching my four-year-old jump from one slide to another. We had the grandest time. Why did I disrupt my whole afternoon for Francis? Because Im his father and hes my son. hes more important than all my work. hes more important than all my ministries. hes more important than all the books I write and all the talks I give. Friend, this is the ultimate reason why you need to like yourself. Because you have a Father that loves you so much. Youre more important than all the stars in the sky. Youre more important than all the galaxies of this universe. In the heart of God, nothing compares with you. If he loves you this much, how can you not like yourself? Assignment for Secret #2: Like Yourself a Lot In your journal, list down 25 things that you like about yourself! Spend time to thank God for each one of them.

Secret #3
Happy People Nurture Connections
Create Loving Relationships

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Chapter 9

Water Your Relationships with Love


My little boy wanted a pet dog. But my wife doesnt like dogs. So we gave him a potted plant instead. I know. We sound cruel but thats not true. We even disinfect the torture chambers in our basement regularly with Lysol. You need to learn responsibility, my wife told my son. If you take care of your potted plant, well know if you can take care of a pet dog. the logic was superb. But for some reason, my son wasnt too happy. My wife pinched me, indicating that it was now my turn to tell my son something. Anything. (Im very adept in the language of pinchywoo. Its an ancient dialect where people speak to each other by pinching.) In pinchywoo language, my wife wanted me to tell my son that he had to accept the fact that hell be the only boy in the entire galaxy thatll have a potted plant for a pet. Isnt that cool? I had to think of something, fast. and eureka, my brilliant mind remembered a profound philosophical insight from an ancient source. I quoted Barney, the purple dinosaur. Just imagine, just imagine! I pointed to the plant and said, Imagine this is a dog. Lets give him a name. I suggest ruff. My sons jaw dropped.
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Ruff is very unique, I went on, He doesnt bark. He doesnt eat. he doesnt poop. he doesnt walk. he doesnt lick your face with saliva... Uh maybe because its not a dog? my son interrupted my creativity. Shhh. Dont say that, I whispered, the plant may hear you I dont get it, my son said. the plant has to think its a dog, too. his eyes rolled up to the ceiling. Son, you only have to do one thing. You have to water it, every day. Sure, Dad, my son intoned with the great excitement and enthusiasm and zest of a potted plant. Soon, he forgot about watering his pet plant. he found it boring. hmm, I wonder why. and in a few weeks, ruff the potted plant died. We didnt bury him. after all, it wasnt really a dog.

I know of husbands and wives who live under one roof but whose hearts are so far apart, youd think one lives in Venus and the other in Mars. (Hmm, why does that sound so familiar?) I know of parents and kids who no longer connect at a deep level because theyre not deliberate in nurturing their relationship. all the happy people I know in this world are fantastic experts in building happy relationships. No exceptions. today, I want to share with you four powerful steps of creating happy relationships in your life: Step 1: Create patterns of connection. Step 2: Be kind. Step 3: prioritize people over money. Step 4: Make others successful. Well go through each step one by one

Key Word: Deliberate


Do you want to have happy relationships? Your relationships are just like plants. You need to water them daily or they die. For relationships, their water is love. If you dont give your relationships enough time, or attention, or respect, or kindness all of which are expressions of love they too will die. happy relationships dont just happen. You make them happen. how do you create happy relationships? here is the secret: Deliberately nurture them. the key word is deliberate.
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Step One: Create Patterns of Connection


Spending time with each other must be a pattern or it wont happen. You cant say, When I have free time, Ill play with my kids or Whenever my schedule lightens up, Ill date my spouse. Believe me, theyll never happen. My wife and I set aside tuesday night for our weekly date night. Nothing touches that sacred time. Unless the pope calls me up to ask for my opinion on some theological issue. Or the President of the United States requests for a videoconference with me on certain world issues he needs clarity on. this is what Create patterns means. I dont accept any speaking engagements or put any of my meetings on Tuesday nights. This isnt easy. I lead nine non-profit organizations, three of which are international. I also run a few small businesses. But for over 10 years now, my wife and I have been faithful to our tuesday nights. and for my kids? On Monday mornings, I have a yummy breakfast with my eldest son Bene. We go out and grab pancakes and omelets together. We talk about life and how to conquer the world.

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For my four-year-old son, we dont have dates. he doesnt appreciate them yet. But what he does appreciate is that we go biking together every morning. Correction: he bikes and I run beside him breathless. patterns dont just happen. I make them happen regularly or they dont happen at all. But creating Patterns of Connection isnt enough. You need to determine the quality of these connections

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I know. Boring, right? Some of you may be asking, Bo, can you be a little bit more sophisticated? Call kindness something else. Invent a big word. OK, I can play that game. If you want to be happy, enlarge your psychoneuralsensitivity and affective-interpersonalization skills Nah. Solutions are simple. Friends, do you want to have happy relationships? Be kind. Oh, if only husbands become kind to their wives and vice versa a lot of marriages will be saved. and if only parents become kind to their kids and vice versa a lot of families will become great again. Yes, Im talking about good old-fashioned kindness! To speak with respect To be courteous To show affection. (Hugs) To give affirmation To be gentle To serve in the little things To smile and delight when you see them To encourage Ive seen many people who are very kind to visitors and friends speaking to them with great gentleness. they smile at them. they make them comfortable. they defer to
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them. and yet these very kind and respectful people will turn around and scream at their own family members! all of a sudden, theyll be rude, selfish and uncommunicative. If you want to create happy relationships, make a decision to be kind to everyone your family members included. how many times do you say I love you to your parents? (Answer? Daily!) How many times do you hug your kids? (Answer: Many times a day!) How many times do you praise your spouse? (Answer: Seven times a day!) Show kindness every day! The next principle is equally important

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Step Three: Prioritize People over Money


One day, two very proud egyptian jewelers were in the street, debating who had the biggest, most beautiful diamonds. Ive got the biggest diamonds! shouted one man. the other said, Well, Ive got the most beautiful diamonds! their voices were loud and angry, just like congressmen in the philippines. a third man approached them and smiled, My name is Ibrahim Matta Zakariya Yunus Al-Yasa Efraim Dawud bin Tariq bin Khalid Al-Fulan. What? the two jewelers asked. Just call me Ibrahim for short. Im also a jeweler. May I tell you a story? Before they could answer, Ibrahim continued, One day, I was going to another city to sell my diamonds. and I had to cross a large desert. But that day, a fierce sandstorm came out of nowhere. It was the biggest and fiercest sandstorm Ive ever experienced in my entire life. and I lost my way in the desert. after many days of wandering, I was dying of starvation Oh no, said the jewelers, what did you do? the two men had totally forgotten their argument and were now mesmerized by Ibrahims story. (That is why I propose that when congressmen are debating uselessly, they should show Korean and Mexican telenovelas during their sessions. There will be less fights.)
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I sat on the sands, giving up all hope, Ibrahim said, but mindlessly, I went through my bags for the hundredth time. Lo and behold, I saw a hidden pocket I didnt see before. I opened it and saw a black pouch! Oh, you can imagine how excited I was. perhaps it was food, I told myself. and so with trembling fingers, I opened it Was it food? one jeweler asked. Water perhaps? the other one said. Neither. With great dismay and utter frustration, I saw that the pouch was filled with nothing else but diamonds. It was just diamonds! Friends, there are some things more important than money. as I write this, there are many rich people who are dying on their death beds, surrounded by their millions, but their hearts are hungry for love and they find none. Question: Does this mean that you cant be wealthy?

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You can aspire to become a millionaire. But theres something more important than becoming a millionaire: To become a millionaire-maker. If people are more important than money, you dont want to be rich alone. You cant. Its against your identity and your core values. So you take others with you in this journey towards true wealth. You take your partners, your employees, your friends and your family. Youre not greedy. You give the people you love the opportunity to make their millions too. You want to share your wealth. this is the greatest success you can ever achieve: When you help others become successful. Go! Assignment for Secret #3: Nurture Loving Relationships In your journal, write down at least 25 people in your life that have blessed you a lot. Write a short individual note of appreciation to at least the top five or 10 names in that list. Give this note to them personally.

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Secret #4
Happy People Find Delight Everywhere
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Question: Are You Wealthy?


Grumpy Grandma Gladys was the crankiest old woman in town. One day, she announced to her family, I want a pet. Its gotta be perfect! Boy, did her family have a hard time looking for a pet for her. a nephew gave her a cat. too clingy, she complained and returned it. a niece gave her a turtle. too slow, she complained and returned it. a granddaughter gave her a parrot. after a few days, she returned it and said, It complains a lot! Finally, they hit a pot of gold when they found a very special dog that was a genius. the pet shop owner even told them, I dont even know how intelligent this dog is! he keeps surprising me every day. the family was so excited, they gave the dog to Grandma Gladys, hoping that it will finally give the old woman a happier disposition in life. the next day, the family saw Grandma Gladys playing chess with the dog! they were amazed. they said, aunt Gladys! that must be the smartest dog in the world! She smirked, Nah Im returning him to you, too. Hes lost three of the last five games. No matter what you do, this grandma will never be happy.
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the choice is ours: to be thankful or complain-full. I believe this choice even affects your wealth...

So Many Are Poor


The story above is pure fiction. Let me now tell you a true story. this lady is a multi-millionaire. But completely and absolutely poor. If youre confused, keep reading. This wealthy woman has five helpers, one gardener and two drivers. Maid #1 is my personal assistant, she explained to me one day. I cant live without her. She holds my cell phone. She budgets for the house. More importantly, she gives me a foot massage every night. Maid #2 cleans the house. Maid #3 does the laundry. Maid #4 cooks. and Maid #5 is the assistant of Maid #1. By chance, I met her one morning and she blurted out, Brother Bo, I feel so stressed! Life is so difficult. Why is God doing this to me? Why? What happened? I asked. I imagined the worst. One of my maids is taking a vacation, she cried, and shes been away for a week now. So instead of five maids, Im down to four. Oh my gosh, I dont know what to do anymore! My life is in such a mess. Wow. poor woman. I mean, having four maids is such a tragedy, right? No human being should ever go through such a trial. I wanted to console her with a few swats on the head. (Of course I didnt do that. But I just wanted to share my violent tendencies.)
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Wealth Is Measured by What?


Im fully convinced now. Wealth isnt money. Wealth isnt the cars you drive or the houses you own. Wealth isnt your jewelry, the stocks, bonds or cash in your bank. I now believe that wealth is an emotion. Wealth is an inner feeling. More precisely, wealth is an outlook, an attitude, a belief. And the most obvious measurement of wealth is gratitude. My friend in the previous story, although a multimillionaire, is very poor because she has very little gratitude. Ungratefulness is focusing on what you dont have; gratitude is focusing on what you have. I learned this lesson a long time ago

Aling Dorings Point-Point


there was a time in my life when I had very little money. Most days, I couldnt afford to eat in Jollibee. So every day, I went to this tiny corner store called point-point. In tagalog, turo-turo. Instead of a chair, it had a rough wooden bench.
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Instead of a table, it had a linoleum-covered plywood. Instead of air-conditioning, it had this large, sweaty lady named Aling Doring who, with a native abanico in her hand, fanned me and swatted the army of flies around me. She also provided us with great entertainment telling us about showbiz gossip from Inday Badiday. (OK, now you know which century this took place.) point-point sold me bottomless soup, a cup of rice, a few strips of ampalaya and three chunks of adobo all for p10 only. that was a long time ago. When I was young and handsome. (Now, Im just handsome.) But every time I ate there, I felt so happy. I felt like a king. I felt so rich! Imagine, I could eat! So many people 30 percent of the world were starving. So I enjoyed the yummy food. I enjoyed Aling Dorings banter. I enjoyed the jeepney drivers who ate with me their smells, their burps and their laughter. It was absolutely lovely. and I always thanked God for everything. today, I have a little bit more money. Most of my business lunches are now in five-star hotels and restaurants. Ive been upgraded. But deep inside, nothing has changed. I still feel like a king. I still feel rich. Oh yes, compared to my billionaire financial mentors, I own crumbs. But in my heart, Im already a billionaire. (I hope you are too.) Remember this powerful truth: Your Wealth equals your Gratitude. And your Gratitude equals your Wealth. But what kind of gratitude do you have? Lets find out

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there are three degrees of gratitude: Superficial Gratitude Simple Gratitude Sacred Gratitude

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this is when youre thankful for big-ticket items only. You win the lotto. You get a new car. You finally pass the board exam after nine tries. Your daughter finally gets married at 45. Your visa is approved after 16 years of waiting. Your adulterous, jobless, alcoholic husband finally changes. Or your adulterous, jobless, alcoholic husband finally dies. Whichever comes first. I mean, how can you not say thanks? Everyone starts with Superficial Gratitude. But I call it superficial because this feeling of gratitude will disappear rather quickly. Superficial Gratitude is great. But if you want to be really happy, you need to graduate to a deeper form of gratitude

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Simple Gratitude

In Simple Gratitude, youre thankful even for the small things in life. For the roof over your head, for the leftover food on your table, for the semi-neurotic family around you. Stuff you take for granted. remember this famous line? I once was sad for I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet. Unknown One day, my friend complained about his decreasing hair. I told him to think positive: his hair wasnt decreasing, it was his forehead that was increasing. he didnt believe me and became more depressed. So I texted him this slightly edited version of the line above: I once was sad for I had no hair until I met a man who had no head. I think that sobered him up. If you were to choose between baldness and beheading, what would you choose? today, he shines his head and calls himself Bruce Willis. But do you know that theres something even more powerful than Simple Gratitude?

Youre thankful that you exist. Youre thankful that you breathe! Youre thankful for the adventure of daily life, with all its ups and downs, highs and lows, and twists and turns. this kind of gratitude doesnt depend on situations anymore. and theres a big difference between knowing you need to be grateful and actually having every cell of your body singing, Thank You! this is Sacred Gratitude. Its one of the sweetest things in the world. Nothing can touch you. Youre at peace. When you have Simple Gratitude and especially Sacred Gratitude you receive so many blessings. Why? Because when you become grateful, you also become

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In Sacred Gratitude, youre thankful for life itself. Youre thankful that youre alive.
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Be an Inverse Paranoid
I read this from Jack Canfield in his book, Success Principles, and quoted by many other authors and I think its fantastic. What is an inverse paranoid? You know what a paranoid is: a fearful person. He thinks that the world is out there to get him. to steal from him. to hurt him. to put him down. Well, an inverse paranoid is a happy person who believes the universe is conspiring to bless him. to serve him. to love him! an inverse paranoid expects the best out of life. an inverse paranoid expects great things will happen. An inverse paranoid expects that hell walk into fields of blessing each day. an inverse paranoid believes that the world is plotting to fulfill his dreams! an inverse paranoid looks at bad things as merely disguised blessings. an inverse paranoid wakes up each morning and says, I expect to be blessed today! Yipee!

Are You a Blessing Expert or a Problem Expert?


Why do grateful people become inverse paranoids? First reason: Gratitude is one of the most powerful forms of love. and you know that love casts out all fear. paranoia is fear. So gratitude casts out fear from your life.
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heres the second reason: Because grateful people focus on blessings in their life, they become blessing experts. What does that mean? they know how a blessing looks like, sounds like, smells like, tastes like and feels like. Because of this, when they open their eyes and look at their life, theyll smell a blessing a mile away! theyll zero in on it and grab it. Ungrateful people are problem experts. When they look around their lives, they cant see the blessings right in front of their eyes because they dont know how they look like. I hope you become an inverse paranoid and a blessing expert very soon. Believe me, its outrageously fun!

Secret #5
Happy People Embrace Change
Keep on Growing Every Day

Assignment for Secret #4: Find Delight Everywhere In your journal, write down 25 of your greatest blessings from God. thank the Lord for each one of them.

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Are You Stuck in Life?


One day, a guy calls up his boss at home but gets the bosss wife instead. She says, Im sorry, but he died last week. the next day, the man calls up again and asks for his boss. She says, I told you, he died last week. the third day, the guy calls up again and asks for his boss. the wife gets mad and shouts, Dont you understand? I already told you twice MY HUSBAND, YOUR BOSS, DIeD LaSt WeeK! Why do you keep on calling? the guy laughs and says, Because I just love hearing it Many people are like this guy: they wait for their boss to die. he clearly hated his boss. So why didnt he do something about it? he could have confronted the boss. he could have changed jobs. Many people are stuck but they wait for things to change on their own. Dont wait for the boss to die on you whatever boss means to you. If you want your life to change, then you have to change.

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In the next chapter, I want to share with you two fascinating stories. The first one is a story that friends have emailed to me about 273 times already. OK, Im exaggerating. But Im sure you have this charming parable in your inbox too. If you know this tale, then skip it and read my brilliant, profound and luminous analysis after the story. (At least, thats what my mother says, and you cant argue with her.) If you havent read it yet, then enjoy. here it goes

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The Businessman and the Fisherman Whos Happier?


One day a fisherman was lying on a beautiful beach with his fishing pole propped up in the sand and his solitary line cast out into the sparkling blue surf. He was enjoying the warmth of the afternoon sun and the prospect of catching a fish. About that time, a businessman came walking down the beach trying to relieve some of the stress of his workday. He noticed the fisherman sitting on the beach and decided to find out why this fisherman was fishing instead of working harder to make a living for himself and his family. You arent going to catch many fish that way, said the businessman to the fisherman, you should be working rather than lying on the beach! The fisherman looked up at the businessman, smiled and replied, And what will my reward be? Well, you can get bigger nets and catch more fish! was the businessmans answer. And then what will my reward be? asked the fisherman, still smiling. The businessman replied, You will make money and youll be able to buy a boat which will then result in larger catches of fish!

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And then what will my reward be? asked the fisherman again. The businessman was beginning to get a little irritated with the fishermans questions. You can buy a bigger boat and hire some people to work for you! he said. And then what will my reward be? repeated the fisherman. The businessman was getting angry. Dont you understand? You can build up a fleet of fishing boats, sail all over the world and let all your employees catch fish for you! Once again the fisherman asked, And then what will my reward be? The businessman was red with rage and shouted at the fisherman, Dont you understand that you can become so rich that you will never have to work for your living again! You can spend the rest of your days sitting on this beach looking at the sunset. You wont have a care in the world! The fisherman, still smiling, simply looked up, nodded and said: And what do you think I am doing now?

The biggest question of life is, Who loved the most? Being content with where you are is fantastic. But growth, if required by love, is fantastic too. at the end of the day, contentment and growth are important, but not the most important values. Love is! this will solve this next problem

The Greatest Joy of Life


Lovely story, right? But may I poke a giant hole in this lovely story? Think with me. If the fisherman decided to expand and complicate his life by setting up a large fishing business, wouldnt he have been able to give jobs, feed his employees families and serve many customers? aha. I believe the biggest question of life isnt, Who had the most fun?
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Be Content and Desire Growth at the Same Time


this is absurd. But this tension in fact is one of the secrets to extreme happiness. You must learn to be content with what you have and say, Thank You often, and take time to celebrate and throw a party. Yet at the next breath, desire for better things, strive for higher summits and embrace change. how is that possible? Love is the answer. Now, let me tell you my second fascinating story. Im sure you havent read this story before. Why? Because I wrote 75 percent of it. haha. OK, read and enjoy!

The Stream and the Wind


One day, the Stream stared at the desert and sighed a deep sigh. he knew he was stuck. how could he cross this giant desert? So the Stream talked to the Wind. Mr. Wind, I need your advice. I want to cross this gigantic desert. But if I throw myself to it, the sand will absorb me and I will be no more that is true, the Wind thought deeply.
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So what should I do? You see, I have a dream. I want to grow. I want more fish to make their home in me. I want more trees to plant their roots on my shoulders. I want happy families to have picnics on my banks. I want to bless the world with great love. the Wind smiled, I can help you. I can absorb you and carry you through this desert. the Stream was stunned. he said, Isnt that terrifying? What does that mean that you will absorb me? that means that youll become a cloud and Ill carry you to the other side of the desert. Once there, youll become rain and you can become a stream again. Ill change my form? Ill no longer be me?

No One Can Resist Change


Mr. Stream, you have three choices. Your first choice is to give up your dream and stay where you are. The Stream said, Out of the question. My dream of love pushes me to grow. Your second choice, said the Wind, is to cross the desert without changing anything. to dream and yet to prevent the dream from changing you. and what is my third choice? to dream and embrace change, the Wind smiled. Carry me, Mr. Wind. Im ready! the Stream laughed.

For a moment, the Stream was gripped by the clutches of fear again. So the Wind shouted through the chaos, Who are you? Youre not a Stream. Youre Water! Your essence is not your form. When you know who you really are, you can be comfortable amidst the chaos. Because deep within you, you know that nothing will ever change. Water said, But I am still afraid! Love who you are and love your dream. Love the fish who will live in you, the trees who will be planted on your shoulders, and the families who will have picnics on your banks. and love will push all your fear away. Finally, at the other side of the desert, the falling rain collected itself into a Stream again. When he was complete, he said, Mr. Wind, I dont know how to thank you. You changed me. the Wind smiled, No, my friend. Only love can change you.

Be Comfortable with Chaos


Immediately, the Wind rushed down and blew hard on the Stream. Bits and pieces of the Stream began to swirl upwards. It was terrifying. Chaos ruled!
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What Is Your Path?


So what is your dream of love? Like the Stream, you, too, have three choices

Choice #1: Play Small


One day, a woman came up to me complaining about her husband. hes not had a job for the past six years. Im earning for the family, she said. What is he doing at home? I asked. praying and reading the Bible. and reading your books! So I talked to him. The first thing he said was, Bo, I love your books. especially on simplicity. Im now living the simple life. Im so content with my life. thats what you wrote about, right? For a moment, I wondered if I indeed wrote about it. He then said something profound. You see, Bo, Im now at this stage in my life where Id rather be poor and close to God than be rich and far from God. touching, right? Makes you want to cry. If only it didnt come from a husband and father who hasnt had a job for six years. For him, life was black and white. If youre poor, youre close to God. If youre rich, youre far from God. It never

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occurred to him that its possible to be rich and close to God at the same time. A poor fisherman fishing enough for his family is lovely. Simple. Comfortable. Peaceful. But heres a question: In the off chance that God gave him the resources to grow and the chance to feed more people, shouldnt he take it? If you play small because love requires you to play small, then fine! But if you play small because of fear, youll never be happy.

Choice #2: Dream Big but Remain Unchanged


there are two types of innovations. Sustaining innovations and disrupting innovations. Lets say you own a skateboard. Your dream is to travel farther and faster. Sustaining innovations means youll improve your skateboard. perhaps youll put more oil. perhaps youll make the board more aerodynamic. perhaps youll transform the material to high-grade flexible plastic. perhaps youll change the wheels to titanium alloy. perhaps youll take skateboarding lessons from the masters of skateboarding. Disrupting innovations are totally different. Here you ask the dangerous question, If I can change anything in my life, what will I change so I can reach my dream? Disrupting innovations means throwing away the skateboard and getting a 2450 cc harley Davidson motorcycle!
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Choice #3: Dream Big and Embrace Big Changes


Ive noticed that people who can embrace big changes are those who know who they are apart from their job titles, positions, reputations and labels. they know the difference between essence and form. My spiritual family, Light of Jesus, is going through a disrupting innovation now. as we approach our 30th anniversary next year, were throwing away the skateboard and building ourselves not a motorcycle but a spaceship! Because of our dream of discipling 100,000 by 2020, were now overhauling our structure, our meetings, our styles almost everything we cherished and held dear to us. Nothing is untouchable. Oh, its unbelievably chaotic! Its like a storm passing through us. But Im so happy that most of our leaders and members are going through the chaos with peace. Because they know their essence: theyre people who love God and love others. that will never change.
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Assignment for Secret #5: Embrace Change Out of the three choices above, what choice have you taken? If you can change anything in your life to reach your dream, what will it be? are there disrupting innovations youve been putting aside? Your answers to these questions will determine your destiny.

Secret #6
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Laugh at Your Worries Now


tell me if Im right. Ninety percent of the things you were so worried about 10 years ago, you laugh about today. am I correct? What were your worries just 10 years ago? You were worried about school projects and exams. You were worried whether your classmates would laugh at your hairstyle. today, you laugh at everyones hairstyle. You were worried that your boyfriend was seeing someone else. Now, you thank God he was seeing someone else. Good riddance! You were worried if your boss liked your reports. You later learned he didnt even read your reports. You were worried whether your son would finish school because his report card had more red numbers than black ones. But today, hes a successful businessman. What does this mean? Ninety percent of the things youre worried today, youll laugh about them tomorrow. So heres my question: Why wait? Can you trust enough that you can laugh at your worries today? Let me tell you a crazy story

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Is Fear Killing You?


One morning, a man saw the angel of Death walking into his town. he was brave enough to ask, May I ask why you are here? the angel of Death said, Im going to kill 10,000 people today. the man stepped back in horror and ran all around town. he warned people, I just saw the angel of Death. he said 10,000 people will die today. But when night time came, 70,000 people died. the next day, the man saw the angel of Death walking out of town. He called after him and said, Wait! You said you were only going to kill 10,000 people. But there were 70,000 who died last night! the angel of Death shook his head, I killed only 10,000. Worry and fear killed the others.

Faith and Fear Are the Same Inside


Let me shock you. Faith and fear seem so different from each other. But if you take a knife and peel the cover off faith and fear, you realize theyre the same inside: theyre both beliefs. Faith believes that good things will happen. and fear believes that bad things will happen. the problem is that because theyre beliefs, theyre powerful. Because beliefs create our reality. the Bible says that what you believe will happen. So when we fear, we create the very thing were afraid of.
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Expect Good Things to Happen


Once upon a time, I was a person of fear. When good things happened to me, Id get scared. Id think, Oh no, too many good things are happening! this wont last. Im sure bad things will now come like a tidal wave Subconsciously, I believed in the balance of the good and the bad. (Yep, I watched Gulong ng Palad starring Marianne de la riva and ronald Corveau. ancient history for some of you.) today, I realize that you cant balance the good and the bad because the good is always a zillion times more than the bad. Because Gods blessings are limitless. today, Ive become a person of faith. When good things happen to me, I say, Im going from glory to glory, going to higher levels of victory and abundance and love. today, I expect that life will get better, become happier and become more abundant. albert einstein said, there are two ways of living life. One is to live as though nothing is a miracle. the other is to live as though everything is a miracle. each day, Im choosing to live as though everything is a miracle.

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Starting today, expect great things to happen to you. Say this every morning: My God shall supply my needs. My God shall prosper the work of my hands. My body shall be healed. My children will be blessed. My marriage will grow better and better every day. Ill soon meet the man (or woman) of my dreams. Friend, do you want to fulfill your dreams? Let me share with you my three steps of faith: Step One: See the Dream Step Two: Sow the Dream Step Three: Surrender the Dream here they are, one by one

Dream in vivid technicolor complete with sounds, smells, tastes and feel. the reason why many people dont receive Gods blessings is because they have a limited capacity to receive those blessings. The problem isnt in the supply. (Its infinite.) the problem is in the receiving of that supply. So how do you increase your capacity to receive? By increasing your vision. When you increase the size of your vision, you increase the size of your blessings. See your dream. Feel it. Once you do that, youre ready for the next step

Step Two: Sow the Dream


actually, you dont sow the dream. You sow the seed of the dream. and that small seed will grow to become your big dream. Whats the seed? Your actions. Nothing happens unless you act. When you plant 100 seeds, not all of those seeds will grow. perhaps 99 will die. But thats OK. Its the one seed that grows that will make your dream come true. So make mistakes! act. and act. and keep on acting. Wake up early. and run towards your dream! even if you feel that you have very little resources

Step One: See the Dream


Do you really know what you want in life? Youve got to know your dream so well that you see it in your mind. In fact, you just dont see it, you feel it in your heart. Because faith and fear are not just beliefs or expectations theyre also feelings. When you see your dream in vivid detail, youll feel the faith rise within you. thats why fearful people cannot dream. heres what you do: Imagine all your dreams are already fulfilled. The more you see it and feel it, the easier it is for your dreams to come true.
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When David fought Goliath, he didnt ask for a M9 bazooka, a machine gun or a bullet-proof vest. he worked with what he had a leather sling and five smooth stones.
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God transformed it into a deadly weapon in his hand. When Moses delivered the Israelites from egypt, he didnt ask for a phalanx of warriors, a naval battleship or a couple of nuclear missiles to defeat egypt. he used what he had an old wooden stick. But through that old wooden stick, God made a snake, turned a river into blood, divided the red Sea and drowned the chariots of pharaoh. So use what you have! I hear this a lot from people who make excuses for their mediocre lives: But I dont have a college diploma. I cant speak English well. I dont have the right connections. Im not good in math. I dont know how to sell. I dont have time. Im not as good-looking as Bo Sanchez. (Have your eyes checked.) Dont look for what you dont have. heres the truth: You have everything you need to reach your dreams. everything. Did you read that? E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G! You have the Holy Spirit. You have friends around you. You have other talents within you. Etcetera. and heres the last crucial step you need to take

Step Three: Surrender Your Dream


Some of you may even be shocked by my third step. Ive asked you to dream, right? to pursue it with so much passion that you see it and feel it in your heart. But in Step three, Ill ask you to do what seems the very opposite: to surrender your dreams to God. In Step three, you say the most perfect prayer of all. Lord, not my will but Yours be done. to trust. to let go. to actually tell God that youre happy now even without this dream. heres one thing I found out about dreams. If Im desperate, needy and frantic I find it so difficult to make that dream come true. But if I surrender to God my dream, and relax, and treat my pursuit of the dream as play I find myself attracting every blessing I ever need in an almost effortless way. this is my experience with money too. When Im desperate for money, very little comes my way. everything I earn is a struggle, like Im pulling teeth from the universe. But when Im relaxed about money trusting that Im swimming in an ocean of money the money will come rolling at my feet, begging that I take it. When I do this, I dont struggle. the right people come to me. the right connections come to me. the right book comes to me. the right opportunities come. almost effortlessly

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Chapter 24

Let Go
recently, I told my wife, God is teaching me to relax more. She was curious. are we going to take more vacations? absolutely, I chuckled. But it means more than that. Im learning to dream and at the same time let go of my dreams. What do you mean? she asked. Im not saying I wont work with passion anymore, I said. I love my work so much. Ill still get up early in the morning and pour myself into my ministries and businesses. But Im letting go of all fear and all anxiety. Why worry when Im swimming in Gods abundance? thats wonderful, she said. Can we go to Sagada? Shhh. I havent finished my explanation yet. To surrender means I trust that everything that happens is for my good. and to trust that everything that doesnt happen is also for my good. thats great. So, is Sagada a good thing? my wife winked. I remember this crazy story

Whats Your Lulu?


One day, in a mental hospital, two doctors were taking their rounds.
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as they visited patients, they saw a man crouched in bed, crying, Lulu, Lulu Who is this man? asked the new doctor. Lulu was his girlfriend. this man wanted to marry Lulu, but Lulu married someone else. Oh, poor guy, the young doctor said, he couldnt take the disappointment and lost his mind. the two doctors walked on. In another room, they saw another patient, crouched in bed, also crying Lulu, Lulu the new doctor was surprised and asked, and who is this man? Why is he also crying Lulu? this was the man Lulu married instead. Let me ask you a question: Whats your Lulu? Your Lulu is a prayer that hasnt been answered yet. I have a simple message: If you dont get Lulu, dont lose your mind. Surrender your Lulu. at the end of the day, God will give you the best version of your dream!

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Expect Blessings
Last week, I surprised my wife by telling her, pack your bags. Were staying in a five-star hotel for two days! She asked me, Isnt that expensive? Ill ask for a discount, I told her. and did you call to reserve? I didnt, I said, well just walk to the front desk and expect to be blessed. She asked, and if you dont get a discount? Or if its fully booked? I placed my wish before Gods generosity, I told her. In other words, I surrendered. If theres no discount or no room available, well just move to another hotel. Itll be an adventure! So we packed our bags and off we went. When I walked to the front desk of my favorite hotel, I asked, Whats your cheapest room? the guy showed me the rate card. I gulped. It was p8000 per night. I asked, Will you give me a discount? I could give you 10 percent he said. I sighed. p7200 was still a lot of money. at that precise moment, a tall man, wearing a nice coat and tie, walked out of the door behind the front desk. Immediately, I recognized him. he was a friend. after greeting each other, he gave me his business card. On the card it said, Front Desk Manager. he was the guy in charge!
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On the spot, from p8000, he brought down my room rate to p3000. Not only that, he upgraded my room two notches higher. So my wife and I stayed in a room worth p12,000++ for only p3000 a night. that was not all. My upgraded life had just begun

So I walked inside the plane and sat down on my economy seat. I pulled out a book and began reading. that was when a steward came up to me and said, Brother Bo, let me bring you up to Business Class. as I sat in Business Class, sipping my orange juice, I relaxed.

God Wants to Upgrade You


From the hotel, I went straight to the airport to fly to Hong Kong. (A very important person in Hong Kong wanted to meet with me to discuss a possible donation. this, too, is an incredible display of attracting blessings because I didnt call him. he called me! But thats another story) at the Manila airport, I walked to the check-in counter. Without my asking, the lady behind the counter said, Mr. Sanchez, Im upgrading you to Business Class. Wow. If you insist, I told her. two hours later, I landed in hong Kong and went straight to my hotel. and just in case you think I get all these crazy breaks because Im famous, the Chinese lady in the front desk who didnt know me from adam said, Mr. Sanchez, were upgrading you to a bigger room. I couldnt believe my ears. this was too much! The next day, after my meetings in Hong Kong (which went very well), I went back to the hong Kong airport. When I checked in, I was half-expecting that I would be upgraded again. But nothing happened. I told myself, Im going to enjoy this plane ride. I was applying the third Step: trust. Surrender. Dont be desperate. Let go.
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Live with expectation. expect God to bless you! When you trust more, youll relax more. and youll realize that what was a struggle before will now become easy. Doors will open. people will call you. Opportunities will come near you. Dear friend, I speak blessings to your life. to your finances. To your family life. And to your health. Receive Gods avalanche of blessings! hey, Im not saying that youll have no more problems. You will. But youll see your problems in a new light

How About When Bad Things Happen?


Let me tell you my last story. One day, a king placed a boulder on the middle of the road. he then hid a pouch behind the boulder and waited in the bushes to see what will people do. Many noble men, knights, priests and soldiers saw the boulder and complained why it was blocking the path. that was all they did complained, complained and complained some more.
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But later in the afternoon, a farmer walked on the road, saw the boulder, put down his stuff and pushed it out of the way. When he did that, he saw the kings purse underneath. He opened it and found it filled with the purest gold, including a note from the king. It said, this is your reward. Because behind every boulder on the road of life is pure gold. Friend, behind every problem in your life is a rich blessing. Behind every trial in your life is a treasure waiting to be discovered. Whenever bad things happen to me, I say, this isnt a problem. this is an opportunity for me to grow by leaps and bounds. this will be one of my biggest blessings in life. Go ahead. See your dream. Sow your dream. and surrender your dream. relax! expect to be blessed.

Secret #7
Work Your Life Purpose Daily
Follow Your Passion and Potential

Assignment for #6: Trust Deeply In your journal, write down your greatest fears. after presenting these to the Lord, write ways by which you can face these fears every day.

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Chapter 26

Let Your Greatness Come Out


Imagine a hammer. a solid, shiny, shimmering hammer. Expensive. Made of high-grade steel and first-class polished wood. Now imagine a primitive tribesman from the mountains who has never seen a hammer in his life. he picks up the hammer, likes it immediately and brings it home. and for the next 50 years, he uses it as a wonderful back scratcher. Scratch. Scratch. Scratch. thats all it did for 50 years. Friends, many people are like that hammer. Because theyre not fulfilling their life purpose, their greatness doesnt come out. I believe there are four kinds of people on planet earth a. extremely unhappy people dont know their life purpose. B. Unhappy people who know their life purpose but dont work on it. C. happy people who know their life purpose, work at it, but not daily. D. extremely happy people who know their purpose and work on it daily!
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Question: Who are you among these four people?

The Two Simple Questions That Will Make You Discover Your Life Purpose
how do you know your purpose in life? So many people think its complicated. No, its not. In fact, all you have to do is ask two very simple questions. here they are: Question #1: What do you love to do? Question #2: Where do you excel? Ive talked about this in my other books, so I wont dwell on it too much. Ive discussed this fully in my free ebook, How to Know If Your Dreams Are Gods Dreams. (Grab it at www.BoSanchez.ph.) But let me cover the main points here. First Question: What do you love to do? Whats the one thing that you do, that when you do it, you feel fire in your belly? Whats your passion? For example, as I write this book for you, I feel whole. Complete. In the zone. I believe I was born to write! However, this first question is only 80 percent accurate. proof: Watch the auditions of American Idol. there are some people who love singing, who sing with passion, who sing like there was no more tomorrow but whose voices can be used to torture terrorists to divulge where Osama Bin Laden is hiding. as John Maxwell says, youd wonder if they have any real friends. Why has no one told them that their singing voice can cause seizures? But more often than not, we excel in what we love to do, because we do it often and with passion.

Thats why the second question is 100 percent accurate in discovering your life purpose: Where do you excel? God has given you a special gift thats indelibly connected to your life purpose.6 this is what I call Gods anointing in your life.

1 peter 4:10 Just as each one has received a gift, use it to serve one another as good stewards of the varied grace of God.

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Chapter 27

Make an Inventory of Your Gifts


to help you discern your life purpose, list down your gifts and rate them from 1 to 10, with 10 being excellent. heres my own inventory of talents: Cooking: 1 Id rather starve or eat raw, than cook. When I heat water, it disappears. Need I say more? Fashion: 1 the only reason why I look presentable when I preach is because of my friend and top couturier, adrian panganiban, who dresses me up. Otherwise, I will wear t-shirts and sandals everywhere I go. Mechanical: 1 When my wife asks me to fix things, I obliterate their existence from the face of the earth. today, Ive learned to fix anything with just one tool: the telephone. Dancing: -10 I tried. We had a concert where I had to take a few dance steps with the singers. But when I danced on stage, I was like a wooden stick suffering from epilepsy.
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Athletics: 3 Do you know what physical education class I chose in high school? Chess. Do you know what pe I chose in college? health Lectures. I remember that class so well. We were required to wear rubber shoes and do some stretching at the start of each class and all we did was sit down and listen to lectures. Spelling: 3 In a spelling exam, I once got two out of 20 items. as a kid, I think I was semi-dyslexic but it was never diagnosed. today, there are so many labels for kids who have a difficult time in school. Hes got a learning disability, or the boy has aDhD, or She has dyslexia. But back in my time, there were no such things. I was simply called stupid. Singing: 5 Yep, I have three music albums of all my original compositions. In total, I sold 6000 copies. But dont be impressed. My mother bought half of them to give away to her friends. Drawing: 5 I love to draw. at least my kids love my drawings. Business: 5 Im a late bloomer here. So far, my businesses are doing very well. But I know Ive got a long way to grow.

Leadership: 7 I love leading people because leadership is all about loving relationships. But Im a 7 because I need to learn so much more. Writing and Preaching: 9 as you can see, this is my anointing. But Im not a 10 because that would mean I have nothing to learn anymore. Would you believe that even if Ive been preaching for 30 years, Im still honing my craft, watching how other great preachers preach?

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Chapter 28

Be a Genius!
Do you know why people are unsuccessful? two reasons: 1. they dont know their anointing. 2. Or they know their anointing but dont work on it. I learned that there are two kinds of geniuses in this world. First are the geniuses that win trivia game shows like Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? thats not what you want to be. this type of genius is good only for, well, trivia game shows. You want to be the second type of genius: These are people who focus their attention, time and energy on one thing. Whats your one thing? In my own life, my one thing is communicating Gods love to others. today, Im probably the highest paid corporate speaker in the country. When companies invite me to speak, I charge them an arm and a leg. I do this in part to raise money for our ministries. Just between you and me, these companies dont know that if they only send their employees to our weekly prayer meetings called the Feast, they can hear me preach for free. (Shhh, dont tell anyone I told you this.) But the reason I can charge an arm and leg is because Ive been speaking to crowds for the past 30 years. Starting at age 13, I was preaching everywhere. all for free. Id preach in schools, prisons, old folks homes, barrios, hospitals and the slums. even while I was studying in
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school, Id preach nightly. Caloocan on Sundays, alabang on Mondays, Cubao on tuesdays, etc. On weekends, Id preach in Laguna, La Union, Ilocos Sur In his book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell talked about how successful people clocked in an average of 10,000 hours to their craft before they hit it big. thats me. and that can be you too if you focus your life on your anointing.

Follow Your Anointing


In the Bible, anointing was done for kings and prophets. they would pour a large amount of oil on the persons head, indicating that he is totally set aside for a specific purpose. today, we associate anointing for religious professions only: for priests or pastors or preachers only. I dont believe in that. I believe God has anointed people to be entrepreneurs, to be bakers, to be chefs, to be beauticians, to be accountants, to be administrators, to be stockbrokers, to be engineers, to be doctors, to be mothers, to be farmers this is how you are to serve others. this is how you are to bless the world.

kept badgering him to become a pastor. they said, When are you going to go into the ministry? You dont live by faith but by sight. at work you hang around sinners, people who drink and smoke. You have a calling on your life. Dont be rebellious. Leave everything and go into the ministry. Yet every time the church needed money, they would go to him! Years later, he left his businesses and became a pastor. In the process, he decreased his income by 30 times. But he was doing it out of obedience to God. Yet after a few years, a powerful revelation came to him. he realized that beneath all the shame was an authentic anointing from God to be a businessman. heres what he learned: that the anointing of a businessman wasnt lower than the anointing of a pastor. Both are necessary in the Kingdom of God. I love that.

Anointed for Business?


ed Silvoso, author of Anointed for Business, wrote about how he was running three businesses and impacting the marketplace with Gods love. Many times, he would be an informal pastor to his business associates, bringing Gods presence in smoke-filled rooms and parties. But church people looked down on his profession. they
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Chapter 29

A Formula for Mediocrity and Success


Let me tell you why many people live mediocre lives. Because they put 80 percent of their attention, time and energy on their weakness, and put 20 percent of their attention, time and energy on developing their strengths. If I take this approach, then Ill enrol in dancing lessons and culinary arts. this is insane. Because no matter how much I study, Ill never become a fantastic dancer or a world-class chef. the formula for success is this: First, forget your weakness. Delegate them. Outsource them. and then focus 80 percent of your attention, time and energy on developing your strengths. Be the very best in this one thing. and put the last 20 percent in developing new strengths. (For me, its running business and creating passive income.) today, I focus almost all my time in writing and preaching. and Ive tasted great success because of this sharp focus. A flashlight and a laser are both made of the same element: light. But a laser is a thousand times more powerful than a flashlight because of its focused light. A flashlight
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is pretty harmless but a laser can cut through the thickest steel. When a person is focused on one thing, he becomes powerful too.

Im a Preacher for the Marketplace


after 30 years of preaching, Ive become even more focused. and you should be, too! today, I dont just have an anointing to preach. thats too general. Ive discovered that I have an anointing to preach to the unchurched. In other words, I have an anointing to communicate Gods love to outsiders. to people who arent religious. to people who dont feel comfortable in church. to people who feel distant from God. to people who wont go to prayer meetings. One day, a woman came up to me and asked, Bo, why dont you preach more about doctrines? Why dont you talk about deeper spiritual truths? I smiled and said, I love doctrines. there are wonderful priests who can explain them better than I do. personally, I dont think its my gift. Im a layman, so I preach about the practical things of life. Like how to build a family, or how to handle money, or how to grow in your relationship with God as a lay person immersed in the world. If you check my blog at www.BoSanchez.ph, youll read thousands of comments from my readers. Some of them say something like this: Im not a religious person but I really like your articles. Wow. When I read that, I know
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Im hitting my gold. this is my anointing: to talk to those who arent religious. Im anointed to preach not in Church in the traditional sense of the word. Instead, Im anointed to preach in the Marketplace. (By the way, I consider our prayer meeting, the Feast, a part of the Marketplace. Because the Feast is totally focused on outsiders, not insiders. We welcome everyone. We welcome all seekers. We welcome unbelievers, non-Christians, addicts, adulterers, alcoholics, prostitutes, and believe it or not, even corrupt government officials. We welcome all those who feel they are far from God.) this focusing on my life purpose has blessed me so much. My prayer for you: May you find your anointing and give your whole life to your anointing. and be very happy.

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The Happiness of Heroes


By now, you know that this book of happiness isnt talking of the cheap happiness that comes from being stuck in mediocrity, content with our small worlds, thinking only of ourselves. Not a chance. Im talking about the happiness of heroes. Im talking about the happiness of champions who leave their comfort zones to live in their courage zones and dare to reach the stars. Im talking of warriors who conquer their fears and fight for love. Im talking of men and women who conquer their mountains How to Climb Your Mountains Im not the athletic type. One reason: Im an only son. It so happened that my five sisters were for some reason all women. Dad? he wasnt also athletic. Oh yes, when I was a kid, he used to ask me to jog with him. But his entire jogging route was inside his garage. he jogged around his parked car. But two weeks ago, I did something absolutely nuts. I went to the mountains of Sagada and I went rock climbing. For those who havent tried it, let me give you a very technical definition of rock climbing: Its when you climb a
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rock. I know my definition is a bit difficult to understand but bear with me. (I sometimes amaze myself with my brilliance.) Seriously, my definition of rock climbing is being insane enough to suspend yourself 100 feet above the air with your fingernails hanging onto tiny cracks and indentions on the flat surface of a rock that ants cant even crawl on and you wonder why you even paid to do this lunacy. But you know what? When I was up there, I felt no fear. None whatsoever. I wish I could be religious and all and say, Because of Jesus. But actually, I felt no fear because I had this thick rope tied around my torso. I knew that whatever happened, that rope would keep me safe. Dont Stay Where You Are Friend, God wants you to go higher. he wants you to keep on growing, to be wiser, to be more loving, to be better and to be even more blessed. Let me ask you: Whats your mountain? What do you need to conquer in your life? What dream does God want you to reach? If your life isnt exciting, it may be because youve not been climbing mountains. hear this: It will be your fears that will keep you from reaching the summit. But God is your rope. No matter what happens, hell hold you tight. even if you slip or make mistakes in climbing the mountain, hell never let go. hell keep you safe in his hands.

But if you think I was excited rock climbing, it was nothing compared to my excitement watching my nineyear-old son climb Your Mountains Make You Grow Believe me, it was incredible just seeing Bene go up! When he was already some 50 feet up on a rocky ledge, all by himself, I heard my wife pray to all the saints in heaven. Including those I never knew existed. She said, please pray for my son, St. Fulgentius, St. hegesippus, St. Ischyrion, St. paphnutius, St. radegundes, St. Wenceslas What was so frustrating was that I couldnt be up there beside my son. he had to climb all by himself. I couldnt pull him, push him, hold him or carry him. But even if I could have done all that, I wouldnt have done it. Or I would have stolen from my son the opportunity to grow. So when he finally rappelled down to the ground wearing a million dollar smile on his face, I realized he didnt only conquer the rocky cliff. He conquered his fears which was the biggest mountain of all. I now realize that God will not remove your mountains. You need them. Because He is using the mountain to make you grow. God will give you all the inspiration and wisdom and power to overcome your mountains, but hell let you do it seemingly alone. But hell cheer you. hell guide you. hell bless you. In your climb, remember that your God is watching you. With pride. I got deeper insights when my son asked me for money two days ago
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God Has Piled Up Your Blessings on the Kitchen Counter Bene was going to an Internet marketing workshop. Before leaving, he asked, Daddy, can you give me p20? there are only pay toilets there. When I turned to him to say, Sure, I saw him already stuffing a P50 bill in his wallet. I left a pile of money on the kitchen counter and he helped himself to it! Man, I loved it. I share with you this little incident because of three key insights: First, God has left all that you need on the kitchen counter. the universe is Gods kitchen counter. he has loaded it to the brim with every blessing and miracle that you need in life to reach your dreams. If you only realize whats available to you, youd be totally overwhelmed. If you need love, its there. If you need wisdom, its there. If you need money, its there. Second, ask for more than what you need. Didnt you notice? My son asked for p20 but got p50. I asked him why. he said, My cousin Nicole is attending the workshop. She goes to the toilet too. Isnt he wise? If youre wise, you should also ask for more blessings because you want to be generous. Life isnt about you. Life is about loving others. So ask big! Third, be confident when you ask. even before my son heard my sure, he already got my money from the kitchen counter. My son assumed that I would meet his needs because he was confident in my love for him. and I believe God would love it, too, when were confident in His love for us.
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Let me tell you about my little mountain two weeks ago When One Door Closes, Another Door Opens I wanted to bring 36 people to Boracay. the top leaders of the Light of Jesus were going on a four-day planning session in tagaytay. But I wanted to hole them up in an island instead so no one could escape. So I spoke to Jill Ramiscal, our finance director, that Id just add to the tagaytay budget with my personal money and bring the whole group to Boracay. In my mind, I calculated that I needed to raise p200,000. I could have just taken it from my bank account but I challenged God to give me fresh money for this need. So for two weeks, I looked at my various small businesses and income streams, checking for unexpected lumps of cash flowing my way. But after two weeks of waiting, there was none. all the income flowing was regular income not what I asked for. But Ive learned a long time ago that God isnt limited to only one door. that in life, there are millions of doors to choose from. to cut the story short, last week, 36 leaders did go to Boracay and we had the most productive four days ever. It was absolutely phenomenal. But how did God answer my prayer? First, Jill ramiscal was very generous with his tagaytay budget. Second, one of the owners of the hotel we stayed in Boracay was a friend and he gave us a huge discount.
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third, instead of eating in restaurants for four days which would easily cost us over p100,000 I brought my brother-in-law abel Victoria to cook for us. abel served us the most delicious (and lavish) meals every day, but by some magic, spent only p21,000 to feed 36 hungry people for four straight days. It was a miracle. So at the end of our trip, I only had to add would you believe p10,000 to the budget? all I had to do was sweep under my bed and gather my change. Dearest friend, I repeat: every blessing you need is already available to you. God has left it on the kitchen counter ready for the taking. May your dreams come true,

ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Bo Sanchez is the author of 14 bestselling books and publisher of seven magazines. Bo also has a weekly tV show, a daily radio program, and a daily Internet show. he travels extensively around the world as a powerful speaker. So far, he has addressed audiences in 14 countries, including 37 cities in North america. his Soulfood blog is read each week by more than a hundred thousand people. You can read his blog at www.BoSanchez.ph and watch his video blog at www.PreacherInBlueJeans.com he founded many organizations, such as anawim, a special home for the abandoned elderly, and Shepherds Voice, a media group that publishes the widest-read inspirational literature in the country. he also founded an international, borderless, virtual, on-line community called www.KerygmaFamily.com that helps people grow in their spiritual life. Bo received the Outstanding Young Men (TOYM) Award for 2006 and the Serviam award, the highest recognition given by CMMa or Catholic Mass Media awards. privately, Bo is also a microentrepreneur. he engages in small business and real estate not only for his familys needs and for his various projects, but also from his firm belief that one of the most important solutions to his countrys economic problems is to
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Dont Worry, Be Happy

raise up more micro-entrepreneurs among his countrymen. He frequently teaches and writes about financial literacy, believing that our poverty is hugely a product of peoples low financial I.Q. on subjects such as debt-management, saving, investing and business. he writes the trulyrich Letter at www.IAmTrulyRich.com to help people grow in their financial life and spiritual life at the same time. In another endeavor hes passionate about, Bo started the Catholic Filipino academy to help parents who want to teach their children at home. For more information, log on to www.CatholicFilipinoAcademy.com But above all these, Bo believes that his first call is to be a loving husband to his wife, Marowe, and a devoted father to his sons, Benedict and Francis. they live in Manila, philippines.

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