Realize Your Power - Estimating your worth Take a small seed in your hand and look at it.
It appears so lifeless, tiny and almost insignificant. But with some soil, water, sun heat, air and the fusion of cosmic spark - that little seed transforms into something thousands of times bigger than itself. Note the scale and see that there is a large tree hidden in that small seed. Quite similarly, in your almost invisible, quasi-forgotten soul - lies a huge universe that is hidden and inherent like tree in the seed. You are capable to do almost anything you can dream of; you carry the whole universal energy in and around you. Many of the low times in life, we think ourselves worthless, incapacitated, virtually enslaved and at times surprised 'man what am I doing here? what is our mission on this earth etc'. I inform you - You do have an important mission and you are already contributing to the visible world - through your talent, hard work and pool of energy. Never under-estimate yourself nor feel lonely. Your world is created by your work and creativity. You only have to act - the BEST you can, the real DOER is the creator - who like a prompter of theatre delivers you the script. Something that holds your growth? IS IT FEAR? When you get up in the morning - make a point that you get up like a lion - sure of yourself, bold and fearless. Before that you may have to work on the fear. Fear starts from 1st day of life, out of insecurities or of feelings of losing what you have. Fear is NEVER of unknown but the known and what you 'possess'. You fear, of what you already KNOW quite well. Fear resides in deep pockets of mind like a bug - hidden but lively. Fear can be one of the basic reasons of failures of life. Fear creates walls around us, forces us to take incorrect decisions, on the other hand, fearlessness will give you boldness, peace, preserve energy. BUT NEVER run from fear - running from it IS real fear. Stop, think, and follow the track of fear back in your mind's archives. Find it, face it, and deal with it now. You must REMOVE it by surgery of deep meditation, by ceasing all knowledge stored in mind. I Repeat that fear resides in knowledge not in the unknown. Your life will be on the super fast track after this silent process. Should you be waiting for that perfect great moment? How to dis-attach from a conditioned life and get going? While it is important to plan with prudence, wait for the right moment to take the decision for important and not-so-important things of life; many times we forget to enjoy the present, thinking that one fine day when a certain thing happens we will do so. Expecting that a certain thing will happen at a certain moment and then a certain idea will come to mind and then from thereon you will start enjoying life; is nothing but a deception that actually take us far from reality of life. This conditioning of mind in reality makes our life conditioned. Anything that takes us far from reality is unreal and one cannot live waiting for the unreal. How many great works of art are conceived but not created, how many great relationships start but die an immature death, how many great decisions of life are to be made by us but missed and thus are missed great opportunities of life. It is not that opportunities do not return, they do almost every day, but they are not the same. Apparently, Time passes through us, unknowingly we assume we pass through time, although in reality time neither passes nor moves but our own reality does passes and moves to another reality. If you are able to see the big picture of your life and can plan at least certain things as per your
desires, and take the right decisions in their right time, it is fairly good. In this case, even if you miss few opportunities, it won't affect your overall actions. However if you are stuck in one fixed place for long time without moving anywhere and feel that life is nothing but a boring routine, without any joy and a repetitious exercise that never ends, you need to do some introspection and look within carefully that which is holding you from taking important decisions. If nothing is happening in your life and you find it boring, it means that you are not taking your decisions in their right time but keep them suspending in an interminable unknown future that swallows all your good times. Lets make our mind cold, warm our heart up to evaluate this important fact of life. If Earth waited for better and more, it would stop orbiting and soon collide and disintegrate. Each atom all around you and inside is full of life, vibrating at total noiseless speed, enjoying the music of life, living right beside you. You live a conditioned life whereby you say, that one day you will have this and then you will do that. This conditioning of life is in reality self-framing yourself in a box where you put your self and cover with the lid of excuses. The excuse to NOT live your life is a serious denial of life. When we deny the reality of living, we are not living but lying like a vegetable that expects to be eaten or be disintegrated by microorganisms, in other words we are letting nature take our decisions and remember that decisions taken by default or by nature are neither going to be fair nor as per your dreams. If you don't live each moment of life now, you are not living fully as you should be doing. Please be good to yourself, review your life and straighten out all loose ends and define your living. Once you do define then just reverse the course and undo all what you do. This is the precious moment that you have been waiting for. Each impulse of life that makes this moment precious is worthy to appreciate wherever you are, whatever you do, in whichever state of mind. Remove the self-imposed conditioning and start living. Once you change your attitude of will-do-when-that-happens to lets-do-now; the surroundings and ambience around will change instantly. Do not attempt to store this fleeting life. See the essence of life that is pure love. Try dehydrate your resentment, guilt, anger, frustration to failures of past and let them dry and disappear. Water the fruits of love and compassion and see how your life grows wild like a tropical tree. Do not block your present for a beautiful future. It is ok to save some money and resources for future but don't save your love, goodtime, hot foods and your smiles for future. They are only good while they are fresh. Stale love, times and foods make you sick. Reverse your attitude and DO whatever you want to do today. The horrible people will become friendly, dry will become green and bored life will become interesting. Do not wait for the BETTER or MORE. It can't be better than now. Accept the ENOUGH in hand as optimum and stop chasing for more and better. You will start living with joy. Feel the joy in you and everything will be full of joy all around you. Now don't hold life, let it live please. Your real you ? Are you really aware of your genuine personality or you are just living a quarter or half life? Personal Growth � How to really achieve more and grow fully? Every single living human being is an extremely complex yet a complete and perfect creation of this universe. The enormous synchronization of billions of cells constantly keep creating us and giving us new life, renewing us yet how many of us live a total and complete life? I find that in the entire humanity only about 2 or 3% of people really LIVE their life to their fullest potential. Majority of us are in reality living from 5 to 30% of our potential. People give zillion causes like poverty, environment, government, god, religion, education and social conditioning and many other ready made answers to their situation to defend their partial living. If you start thinking NOW you will also find many excuses to justify your situation. The truth is that the majority of humanity is lost in so many self created webs and threads that we become like spiders running around the threads but the tragic thing is that instead of getting out of the comfortable webs, we weave more and more silky threads to create more and more prison like encasing of our soul and our personality. Without getting offended and being as realistic as possible, sit down and think if you are really living a life to your fullest potential? I do know your answer in advance.
Let us find out what exactly happens to us once we are created and why do we volunteer to go to the self created prison and hide ourselves there. The reality is that most of us do not sprout the seed of real self or personality properly and in many cases its growth is hindered by our own mis-actions and lack of understanding the totality. I am not talking success or failure here as those are totally virtual, rather unreal states of mind nor I mean any achievements. Our real personality means our true potential and how do we liberate ourselves from the self created web and RELEASE ourselves from the closet or seed. A personality that is not totally liberated or free is in reality hidden in a secret box. What you exhibit, show or demonstrate to others is only a very limited view of our total sum of personality. Why? Because we inhibit our real self. You may have noticed that we keep the best dresses and personal things in closets self assuring that we will use them on a certain occasion. Likewise we keep the best of our qualities hidden in our seed thinking one fine day we will unlock or manifest those qualities. However the truth is that those beautiful dresses remain most of the time hidden and become part of your private museum and likewise the most beautiful of your qualities remain hidden in your private mind which later on become cumulative guilt and unfulfilled desires and the consequence is that we remain unfulfilled and we live only partially with casual dresses and with 'casual' qualities. A semi-grown or half growing personality is an inhibited and imprisoned personality. The word Inhibit also means choke, constrain, constrict, crimp, curb, diminish, discourage, dissuade, forbid, hamper, hinder, imprison, interdict, oppress, prevent, prohibit, quench, repress, restrain, retard, snub, stifle, stop, suppress, veto, withhold and forbid... Trust me this is exactly we DO to our personality and we lock our true potential and never can really grow. It is like a seed planted in a small pot in a nursery that never actually is re-planted to really start growing on its own. IF you sit down today and observe you will see how many of these verbs with the same meaning apply to you and the sadness and frustration that will engulf you by knowing how you have been restricting your own growth is exactly I want you to feel because if you do realize that we have diagnosed part of the problem and thus we can go ahead and find the right remedy for you to remove those lids and let you grow and let you re-plant in the open skies where you can grow like a wild shrub, unlimited, unhindered and to your fullest potential.Why don't we develop those qualities why don't we wear those dresses? I will unlock the secrets of developing your personality now so please read my message very carefully..... How does it all start? The constrained and repressed personality is inhibited and while it attempts to express itself to be ITSELF - the failure to grow adequately or fully expresses itself as frustration. The frustration is the lost steam and dispersed energy that should have gone into the repressed personality to contribute to build it but the inhibition causes it to evade and get lost. We will review the secrets of the half baked or semi grown personality and try finding some alternatives and solutions so that you can draw the best of your resources from within and grow as a giant that you are. What exactly happens when we inhibit ourselves and our personality. The first of its symptoms are timidity and shyness. From very young age we need encouragement and constant support of our parents, teachers and other adults to express ourselves but the truth is shyness is mainly caused by our self inflicted restraining. Some overly protective parents keep discouraging the child by saying don't do this, don't do that, stop, you will fall, you will fail or you must not do this or that. This excessive negative protection cause inhibition and the child thinks that everything it does is wrong or it is wrong to do anything. Most parents do not realize what they are doing. They want to train their kids instantly and expect them to behave like them. Many kids in place of opening up, start growing inward and start repressing most of their expressive feelings. If you grew up in this environment you do have residuals of these inhibiting remarks.
Its time that you release this timidity, shyness to let your mind be free. Try still your mind and go backward and review what happened in your childhood. Try removing gradually those scars that still make you over protective and enclose you in a shell. Slowly you will learn to be free from those scars and heal. The inhibitive personality also causes hostility, nervousness, irritability, feelings of constant guilt for no apparent reason, an innate fear to speak in public, an unspeakable uneasiness about dealing with others, an insecure feeling of lack of confidence that causes you to miss opportunities and diminish your possibilities to defend yourself in times of crisis etc. If such personality does not get channelized in time it either goes into oblivion or in extreme cases it erupts as a cruel, dictatorial, violent and unsocial individual, thus giving statement to all the unspent energy in its due time. To have a harmonious, peaceful world we need to be complete, fully living and growing individuals whereby it is essential that we untap our personality and let it grow in harmony. The worst and biggest frustration of all is that when you can not really be YOU and yourself but you start pretending, faking, putting different masks and distancing from your ownself. One starts denying one's own personality, the true self and always attempts to BE someone one is really not. This causes invasion of fantasy, creation of unrealistic images and a personality that has nothing to do with your real self. This serious conditioning and masking is repeated so often that one loses the real personality, making us lose precious time, create a zigzag in our regular straight track, alter our destiny to our loss and in reality live times of UNLIVING. Many talented and extremely bright people get lost in delirious creation of an artificial personality and all this in extreme cases causes many apparent psycho-physical problems like sttutering, stammering, failure in studies, failure to maintain significant relationships, hidden depression, lack of confidence, fear to failure and success, a negative behavior and unhappiness in general. Next we will discuss deeper why all this happens and the solutions to unlock your hidden dormant personality.. We now can see that inhibited and semi-grown personality has negative impact on overall life and its total growth, we will first find out the deeper reasons and causes. Simultaneously, we will look into the ways to correct or rectify the inhibition and how to dis-inhibit, untap the personality by opening the closed tin of our talents and to find out means to open up, recognize the faulty areas and start the overall deserving growth, to make you totally successful, fully grown in all dimensions and directions, physically, emotionally and materially. Once we work on these subtle exercises you will be surprised how much weight has been lifted from your mind and with that lighter load you could speed, achieve more and feel more fulfilled. Some of the things may appear to be trivial or overly common knowledge. Your mind however, already has all the secrets yet you may not be aware of them or you may not have given careful attention. When we are born in a life act, we do bring in a carry forward residual of our karmic files to each current life. The identity and your previous life's labels are reset and deleted but the essence of your past lives does remain in the soul that comes to reside in a new personality. The system is so perfect and wonderful that each and every living being is given a fresh chance to grow his or her personality but due to our acquired genetic structure, upbringing,
cultural spices, pseudo-religious drama, ethno-racial groupings, colors, flavors, crazy content of literature and media beams, nationalistic nonsense and the mindset of the parents and family; the personality is completely overpowered and sooner or later we are engrossed and absorbed by the environment around us. We think we are ALL THAT and unconsciously we start identifying with all these distractions and influences. Many times a soul comes prepared and ready to do great actions but while the shape of body is still being formed, mind of the recent born child starts getting noises, influences around finding itself in severe agony and shock. When it finds sincere love, affection and care it opens up and grows very quickly but if it finds hostility and negative vibrations all around it starts inhibiting. A child comes with great awareness as its recent connection with the creator has fresh memories on totally clean slate, immaculate without any bit of fear, anger, guilt or expectation and its mind is fresh like a morning flower. Soul's thinking section called mind is innocent and pure and it manifests in the beauty of smile of the child. A child is just a mirror version of the creator and ignorant adults around it treat it as an idiot, little toy like creature as if it was an extra-terrestrial being, well in a way it is an extra-terrestrial being as the soul enters in the womb only about 90 days before the birth. The soul - is completely aware, full of true and immaculate knowledge but the magical pain of birth and dis-attachment of umbilical cord from the mother with whom it gets attached; does get out to the world to find bewilderment and joy. It is like landing from ethereal world to physical world again. The shock is neutral but fascinating. Imagine you on non-stop flights for 72 hours and how do you feel after landing? You look at you and say oh I am still in one piece & feel relief. The first few days - if it perceives positive and loving vibrations - it feels good to the child. A soul as freshly born child can ONLY perceive through its feelings. There are no emotions grown around it as yet. The child's extra sensory antennas are extremely sensitive and it can feel instantly if someone is evil or noble. Everything looks great but just after few days, the nervousness, fear, anger, guilt or any other negative vibrations around are perceived and the child starts getting tense. Most of our later growth depends on the first few months of our arrival on the planet. The very begining of moulding of our personality.. We understood that our personality starts taking shape when you arrive in this world in this shape and form and not at 25. Once on the planet, every soul born as a child has to go through the process of evolving physio-chemically but each child gets a different environ to grow like each seed that is blown by winds grows in different climates. The personality of soul is unique with its past experience and its vivid karmic acts that has shaped its own evolution but once the soul chooses a new life, it deletes its past lives from conscious mind and everything is buried in the deeper archives of subconscious mind. Once into a new born baby, soul has to adapt a new world, a new culture, a new set of beliefs those followed by its conceiving parents, a fresh life that gradually keeps receiving stamps of different thoughts. Many times the soul has a good plan to continue its destiny as the births are planned or desired by the coming soul; once born it gets to lose much of its vigor and karmic agenda causing it a very deep concern and hurt as it has to adapt and wear a new cap and a new dress to its mind. The conflict does start here. The conflict between the original purpose and mission of soul that it conceived or desired intensely in the past life act and the new shape and many unexpected impressions it gets in the new adapted world.
The little baby that you see as a dove eyed, innocent little toddler in reality is perplexed and a bit worried as how its going to coop with the new realities that are to come. Most babies are in a way in a thinking mode, like a profound philosopher, which to an uninitiated person may seem to be normal; but in reality the baby is attempting to connect to its subconscious mind where all its memories are residing but the noises and distractions and attention by people around it keep alerting its conscious mind and prompting it to be aware of what is going on around the house. The babies until their mind has been polluted by the content fed by the new world; are in the purest mode of consciousness and they can perceive the past, present and future. That's why many times the babies laugh and smile at adults reactions. They are fully aware and in touch with the cosmic connection they just left. But since they can not express themselves like a grown up, they merely look deeply, perceiving the feelings of any type of energy around. The child at this time does not discriminate nor it has any fear, guilt or any other negative aspect of emotions. The possessiveness or attachment insecurity to the mother is due to the bio-chemical reality but otherwise the child is as pure as it gets. It is like a blank slate where there are no messages. Invisible Influences shaping our mind from the start.. We understood that soul as new born baby has an immaculate state of mind yet it can perceive both dimensions through feelings. The positive and negative emotions vibrating and emitting around the child are received by the soul and it starts piling that information that later shapes and forms its mind. Most people think that a child is like a battery-less toy that giggles or cries all the time and it only becomes educated when it is sent to educate to a school. The truth is that just after about a week of landing, after recuperating from its long voyage it opens up its eyes and while its body starts evolving, its mind antennas are up in the air to start perceiving the floating information. It also tries to confirm what it heard while in the womb and it tries to connect with the new life. As you understood the soul's conscious mind or random access memory is reset and deleted once life act is over and upon entering in a new life, it can only feel the deep knowledge base it inherited from the carry forward of past lives. Coming back to our subject in question, the indiscriminate, pure and compassionate mind of child begins to register the floating emissions of energy. The problems start right here. Adults start feeding the infant with fear, frustration, anger, intolerance, selfishness, guilt, greed, cover ups and lies. The purest form of humanity starts getting stained and the personality starts getting inhibited, constrained and thus the growth starts with all good and bad aspects of life that prevails around the contemporary life. Of course the comfortable argument is given that if the child is not aware of the malicious world it wont be able to survive the falsehoods and evil. To comply with that idea the child is fed the same stale content that has been around for thousands of past years. The subconscious part of soul does carry the past information but that�s the karmic data and a sort of logbook of its voyages without emotions that are only felt and perceived while in human life. With hyper life styles today things are worse as children are left in front of televisions for long hours alone and the subliminal beams of much violence emitted from media stations start deforming the child's mind. The excited parents think oh the modern children are very smart but little do they know that all
the violence, frustration and negative vibrations of adults and their treacherous world is fed in capsule to the little kids, most of the time, unconsciously. Just a few hundred years ago before the prevalence of industries and media, life of a new soul took several years of repose, good care by family and perceived a cleaner and more positive outlook of life. But with this instant world, the growth of child is also considered instant. The extra-smart experts and educators start feeding the kids with so much junk information that the spiritual and natural growth of the child is hindered and it becomes like a robot with a great load of negative feedback. Thus starts our first stages of inhibition and suffocation and mutilation of soul in this modern world that we are so proud of today. Your real you ? Are you really aware of your genuine personality or you are just living a quarter or half life? Personal Growth � How to really achieve more and grow fully? After the background analysis on the circumstances and unseen influences when we are born, lets now observe what happens when we grow up. Each individual grows as per the amount of love received. This love includes affection that works as security, faith [nothing to do with religious faith etc.], trust, and support system that works like a natural fertilizer to help us grow unhindered. Formation of the Personality of the person is also molded by soul's original plan and its karmic sequel. Added to all this is contemporary circumstances, events and behavior of others around. That includes influence and shadow of others' destiny, their 'accidents' and life style. Even in the similar circumstances of birth, each person has a different rate of growth due to all these elements. Lets say you give away 6 packets of flower seeds to 100 different people. Each person will react differently. Some will plant them and take care of them and watch them grow. Others may just think of planting them later and few may even eat them or some will abandon the seeds in some kitchen cabinet and forget them altogether or give them away to some friend. Each seed although came from same origin, has a different destiny under different hands. Likewise our personality to much extent depends on our guardians till we have sufficient growth to sustain our own life. To a great degree, it depends how our parents or guardians behave among themselves. We try to simulate and copy their good or bad behavior. We also inherit their emotional and hidden desires, fears and instincts till we are formed fully. This becomes one of the biggest blocks of growth of our personality. We keep those influences and shadows in our subconscious mind as part of OUR personality. It is like a permanent eclipse on our growth. Most people are afraid to recognize their real self as for each and every decision they must think of their parents. You may be one of them. Just think how many times you have to make your mind for taking a decision and you have thought about your parents. The parental influence is recorded for a long time and this invisible umbilical cord keep us connected with them. A decision when taken, with alert mind, can shape and form our own destiny. Each decision is a major turn of event in our life. But if you notice carefully today, you may find that behind every single life turning decision your parents or family stamp is there. You may deny this but the reality is that most people are following someone else's instructions for major part of their lives. Does that mean that we should start a protest march against our parents and exclude from our lives? Should we simply ignore or lie to them and imply that we are now free? No.. That's not the idea. I want you to do some thinking in a careful manner and realize if you are living or planning to live your OWN life or you will continue living a life designed by other people. We don't have to disrespect or disobey all good things taught by our guardians but there has to be a limit and a clear cut line where every body else's influence ENDS and your own life
STARTS. You will be shaping your own destiny. You should be following your own destiny after a certain period of awareness and preparation. If you really want to grow fully - you must practice an exercise of observation of your life and your major decisions. You will be surprised to know the difference when you make the most vital decision of your life and that is to BE on your own and to let your personality grow as it should naturally. This again does not imply that you need to physically leave some place where you are - it is an internal process and you must work on this today. How to really make our personality grow? We now realize that without much realization or knowing we are nothing but a stamped copy of our parents. Despite a certain independence, education or even having your own family, you still depend on SOMEONE else for most decisions. You may not be with your parents or other family but they always remain and reside in your mind. They keep reminding you that you are merely a branch of such and such family and clan or caste or community or religion etc. A great deal of questioning about your role in life, your assumptions, and your overall purpose in life arise. You become acutely aware of the way in which your parents, guardians, uncles, aunties, grandparents and other family members have influenced your life, and how your own lack of selfconfidence or fears have affected your decisions. Now we are not going to put all blame or credit for all failures or hits on all those who made decisions for us. One cant do that. Even if the decisions were taken or were influenced by others, their outcome affects you, your destiny path and your own happiness. By own happiness we don't mean to be self centered at the cost of them but a personal feeling of satisfaction that only can belong to your self. I am neither asking you to be totally selfish or focused on your self without taking THEM into consideration. The idea of taking your own decisions as per your own instinct but considering others Viewpoint will shape your destiny than merely being a passive witness to the shaping of your own life path where OTHERS take your decisions. You will ask what is wrong in relying on others to take your decisions as that makes your life easier, blame free and almost trouble free. You just believe that everything is acceptable to you, because you trust your family and friends. You believe that by NOT taking decisions on your own you don't have to aggravate yourself by seeing the reality face to face. Lets see what exactly is taking a decision. When you choose, select an option or go for a certain way, you make a decision and state to the world that you are someone with a personality and you know who you are. If however you never want to expose your real personality and your true self, you should never take any decisions. Isn't it better to be a fly than being nail of a bull. Yet by taking your own decisions you are not going to be smaller or isolated or broken from your family and friends but on the contrary you are going to be telling them that you do have your own persona and you know how to drive your life on your own. That also shows that you are responsible, trustworthy, reliable and absolutely certain about your worth. If however you want to continue to keep playing safe and UNSEEN you better don't take any decision on your own. Next we discuss what will you achieve by taking charge of your own life and how could you do that to achieve more from life without getting trampled in the process and without altering any other persons' life. .. How to be STRONGER Successful - Reconsidering your total life... Isn't now a time for change... a positive change... Do not wait for more disasters, a reduced life and worsening the grip of your life by letting it go
down the hill, lost in the eternity without realizing your real potential. Get up and go. I will go with you till you need my help. Just hold my hand and let us walk together to change our failures into successes and our bad times into the good times. If anybody abandoned you, you must not abandon your hope. If you have not achieved much so far, its because achievements are to be ACCOMPLISHED and not merely given. Success is always in you but you need to awaken your dormant life..I will not abandon you till you run and get going wherever you want to go.. I will love you and pray for you.. Your brother - maitreya What will you accomplish by taking charge of your own life how could you do that to achieve more from life without getting trampled in the process without altering any other persons' life. It is safe to be passive but then it is not your real self; your mere shadow that is exposed. You start believing in your passive shadow personality which puts a lid on your mind forever, by keeping all your potential growth subdued and controlled. You will be afraid at times; oh no I cant be that bold. I may be an outcast and not be loved and cared. No. You may not do that if you are a minor child and in that case you may keep this knowledge on your sleeves that one day when you grow you are going to take your own decisions to be your real you. However if you are an adult and decide to take your own decisions, initially you will face challenges and scenes because you will be saying ok now onwards I will not accept what you want me to BE but I am going to be what I want to be and what my potential is. It's never late to realize your potential. Once you demonstrate that you mean business by being responsible, mature and a good decision maker; the whole world around you will accept your REAL you. You will be appreciated not despised. You will be respected not thrown out. You will remain you yet you will be different. This absolute clarity of mind and your decision to be yourself will boost your self confidence also known as self-esteem and your REAL personality will shine like a jewel after polishing. If you wish to become stronger, your real YOU, then stop blaming and growing in a nursery. Re-plant yourself in open skies of total confidence and your real self. Have you heard ever, an authority in power to say, if you don't vote for me or don't obey my decisions, I am going to call my Dad or will report it to my mother? The only secret of their being an authority is that they don't bring their family, neighbors or other supporting friends into every decision they take, that shape not only their destiny but many times of a large collective or a country or at times the human world. The very foundation of their success in becoming an authority is for their determination of putting an end to dependence on others for their decisions. It does not however mean that the decision makers don't listen to their families, spouses or friends, they do, probably more than a passive person. A wise decision maker knows how to listen all views, observe the big picture and then THINK on his own and gauge the possible outcome to take an optimum decision. It is a different story that selfish decisions or self serving actions on the cost of severe damage to others are not appropriate. We have to think about OUR decisions that shape our life and destiny and in this process some people may get hurt as you cant please everyone. But if the hurt is merely a protest that you didn't agree to THEIR plan; is ok because that's a temporary turbulence that will bring deeper calm in time to come. If you do not take decisions for you, as you are responsible for your own life; others will do but in that case you cannot complain or protest as by just being passive or non-active; you lost the chance to take your own decisions, as per your destiny and karmic path. At times I see people lamenting and blaming on others to justify a failure. Listen - blaming is accepting your passiveness and lamenting is accepting failure. You must accept all the DONE as done, without wasting time in WHY but probably learning HOW it all happened. If you do
that and take a decision to be decisive and hammer when the metal is red hot; with care that you don't hurt yours or others fingers when hammering; you will be successful. You will be a decision maker and your own destiny will follow you instead of you following your destiny. How Sacrificial self-victim mask can mutilate a personality? We learned that to be our original self we need to recognize our true self and that is only possible if we know how to take proper decisions in the right time in due course. There is never any time or age for changing. Physical age is relative. Our real self never really changes, we grow physically but our mind usually remains the same. The same fears and same inhibition follows us most of our life till we REALIZE one day, that all those fears and excessive overcoats of inhibition were not worth the pain. In other words your real growth only starts when you grow internally and start creating a personality of your own. We now look into other internal blocks that hinder our development as complete persons that will help us introspect our selves and find out how are we doing. One of the biggest joys or rather a sadistic pleasure; when the personality is dependent and inhibited, one receives by feeling intentionally victimized, helpless and totally passive. This habit forming trend starts from early childhood with careless parents when the child learns to create tantrums to get any favor or little things. Self-destruction, victimizing oneself & masochistic behavior becomes norms and one BELIEVES that by posing as a victim the family and the world around will come to rescue and wipe out the false tears. This extremely dangerous tendency can destroy the growth of a person and can even sabotage and destroy relationships of all kinds specially the family and matrimonial relations. When someone decides to blackmail emotionally on a regular basis one actually stops being real. One believes that by actually creating the mask of perpetual sufferer, forever crying victim one can get away with all other possible wrongs, misactions or non-actions and can control everyone around. This appears very 'funny' when children do out of ignorance but if it is encouraged and adults do it, it can destroy any otherwise good relationship folowed by a chain of failures and disasters. The self-sabotage scheme of attracting others by hurting oneself is a dramatic lack of selfesteem, emotional poverty and lack of courage - caused by little or no love from parents. If you stab yourself and expect others to FEEL your pain or a cozy feeling that others are now going to suffer and bleed of guilt, you are wrong. No sane person will support or nurture such nonsense once the reality is exposed. Never use this masked behavior to ALTER other people's attitudes towards you as expectation of such sympathy is a severe block on your growth. The martyr or sacrificial victim complex and ploy have been used in human history for millions of years but the truth is that all such victims of self destruction are eventual losers. Be your self and let the reality take its course. Do not become passive anymore nor waste your time in such ideas. You can achieve much more by being your self than by binding both hands and expect others to feed you. Your real you ? Are you really aware of your genuine personality or you are just living a quarter or half life? Personal Growth � How to really achieve more and grow fully? Seeking perfection and fault finding - Is it an addiction?
At times prudent parents criticize the kid when it makes a mistake twice, seemingly to improve its performance. It's wise to do so at times if they also appreciate the kid when it excels or performs a good job. But there are overly enthusiastic parents who only put down a kid always apparently to expect a better performance. In few cases some kids do take that as a challenge and improve themselves. But in most cases, at the end such constant negative feedback has opposite results. The kid may attempt to do better for the fear of potential ridicule or criticism but at a later stage this habit can become an obstacle to grow its real personality. Excessive criticism without any appreciation in due course, creates total negative programming in mind and one cannot get rid of it even after many decades. This can become a cause for failures in work & relationships. When someone is told constantly that whatever you do is wrong; instead of modifying the course or making it better by altering the mechanism, the mind just gives up thinking it is useless to do anything. This appears unimportant but the subconscious mind gets programmed to such level that such persons can feel failed even though they have all the potential to be successful. They also tend to be perfectionists and destroy much of life's pleasures by never being satisfied with whatever they do. This creates a personality that finds faults in others. This fault finding process can become so intense that without any knowledge some people become obsessed in looking for imperfections and faults wherever they can and unknowingly they isolate themselves from lively process of living and start thinking themselves as superior or perfects. Seeking Perfection in engineering and technology definitely helps us innovate and make our lives better but in general life and work this can actually hinder our performance and overall growth. This creates frustration, short temper ness and sadness as seeking perfection and better performance becomes an obsessive compulsive necessity to survive. This can happen to anyone and you need not put yourself down. To improve this unknown, subconscious obstacle; whenever you feel like finding fault in others and wasting energy in frowning; think about reversing your reaction and ONLY say positive or neutral words of appreciation for whatever good the other person you are trying to make better, performs. This little compassion will produce love and definitely better performance from you and the other. The other aspect of this phenomenon is I AM never good. This is a major problem whereby one feels that whatever one does is incorrect, even though it is all right. Such persons create high standards for them, forever polishing, perfecting and wasting their life in self-depreciation. This creates a lack of fulfillment that one is never good enough despite a great job. The zealot mind tries to get approval but even at total acceptance he says, oh no I am totally useless. I don't deserve this or he will think of approving person as ignorant with no standards for quality. This can happen to anyone at a given time in life. Do not degrade yourself ever. It's ok to be humble but please accept any compliments for your work graciously and if others do not appreciate your work, feel the satisfaction that you have done a good job to the best of your abilities. Feel good and of course a little self critical review from time to time is ok, but do not make it a habit. Raise yourself from self depreciation and avoid drowning in the seas of depression - JUST accept yourself as you are - remember you can never be perfect in everybody's eyes nor you should worry about others. Just be yourself & feel good about yourself. Keep smiling and remember to praise yourself few times a day. It will change your life to come.
What others are saying or WHAT you presume others SAY All our achievements depend on our own decisions. All decisions have an impact on our coming times. Many of our decisions are never taken because we hesitate for to take action for fear of what others might say. Being part of social fabric makes our life more active and meaningful and many times we have to take into consideration other people around us before we take an action. It is ok to be sensitive to your environment and respect all around but If the action is not going to affect anyone in any negative way and it is quite perfect for us to act for our own good, you do not need any approval from any other person but your own conscious mind. Imagine you are driving a truck with 3 others. Will you let co-passengers to help you steer? If you do chances are you will be off the road soon and may end up in a ditch. This is what happens when we let others steer our decisions. Many people become overly concerned about others and constantly think of their reactions, disapproval deviating from their path. When we consciously try to make a great impression on others one ends up making a rather negative impression. Becoming overly careful to make great impressions, getting everybody's approval and thinking of their potential poor feedback can actually take away our energy and any act with this attitude, can restrain our personality. When you are always thinking of what your neighbors, friends or family going to think for any of your acts, you are actually giving your empowerment to other people and thereby you may surrender most of your free will and freedom of action even before you have taken a decision. When that happens we become a roadblock and impediment to our own growth and thus the shifting of our real energy to others become an invisible process. Our acts and decisions are then colored by a potential approval or disapproval of others, who in most cases may not even be concerned about those acts. If we constantly worry for others approval we are repressing our own self as the fear of performing something that may be a cause of ridicule or upsetting others overshadows our energy and thus our acts become either fruitless or neutralized as the sheer fear inside keep repressing us, in consequence we may lose many vital opportunities. You need not worry about others' visa or yes-it-is-ok stamp for your personal decisions and actions. Unless someone is directly involved or affected by our decisions, we should not be affected by any unconscious fear. If you review the past; many of the opportunities may have been lost by fear of what-they-willsay. Focus on your self; without being affected by others; take your decisions as life is yours to steer. Don't take collective decisions for your life. Think of what is the best for you and just take that decision in due time. The High cost of success.. Drive to succeed with a tunnel vision takes away vision Some people are to follow an environment of 'excessive success' in which they have grown. Every body in their family tends to 'succeed', no matter what cost. The kids are given all incentives to be successful and be the best in all fields. The success is a relative term and its misuse and misunderstanding is common. The social pressure to succeed is like an epidemic. Success of what? The end product of success is considered material achievements, social prestige and being the best of the best. Some people actually destroy their good destiny by getting caught in the middle of hurricane of success. After years of struggle they realize that they had taken a road where they wouldn't have gone, if they knew what all that success implied.
I am not telling you not to succeed in life. If you work hard following your nature and instinct you hit success, its great but if you have been pushed by force in a rat race just because some people in your environs wanted you to succeed at any cost, you had better think few times. I am not saying success in itself is wrong but deviating from our natural path, neglecting most other aspects of life and just killing to succeed as a goal to be the best or to keep comparing with others can be fatal to our real personal growth. The compulsive obsessive desire to be the best or to compare with others and follow a rival, creates a trap that can actually generate hostility, violence and a loss of good things of life. Success comes at a very high cost. There is nothing in this world without a cost. By any mode, success by evil means or immoral ways creates a very bad karmic act and the consequences of such achievements are extremely expensive at a later time and are paid with a heart-breaking bill sooner or later. But we are talking about regular worldly success for which many sacrifice their lives or major chunk of the best part of life to later realize that it was all not worth after all. I repeat - I am not telling you to give up, quit and watch birds whole day. We are talking about some people who create the trap of success around them and they have to live up to it at any cost. Idealized images and chasing dreams with a tunnel vision drains the energies as drive to be the best or number one or ten etc. become nightmares and when the person reaches to the desired goal, there is already someone else waiting to challenge and subdue him. They spend incredible amount of time & life in achieving unknown treasures, in conquering the world. Those who conquer the world will be soon replaced by the next conqueror. Conquer your five senses and the 'sixth' sense - the mind and you will have become the greatest person. By the way the biggest treasure in the world is your contentment not the 'world' or crowns of metals and stones. Secret of the Personality growth? While talking of our personal growth and let our personality grow in a natural manner we are looking into extremes of our behavior which we should take as a constructive step. The only way to grow is to not only know our strengths but also our weaknesses. We all go into extremes few times in life but after some learning we try to balance our act as one can never really grow fully when in extremes. When we talk about negative extremes do not be offended nor take it as a criticism but just try to visualize and review if that applies to you. If it does not, think of someone near you on whom does that apply. Try to understand the cause of their weakness and then help them if you can. If it does apply to you, do not be embarrassed, deny or reject it as too-good-to-be-true attitude but just close your eyes to see if we can work on it and attempt to improve our self. There is nothing in this world which we can't fix, we just need to learn about it, its nature and by going deeper into it & introspection we can find a remedy. As I said all locks have their keys but we got to find the key, which is always hidden somewhere inside our own mind. Excessive Control mania can destroy a personality growth Anywhere around you will find someone or the other who insist on controlling everything around them. This happens due to lack of faith, trust, agility and flexibility, the control-all phenomenon can become an obsession and destroy a person's smooth growth and it also impacts very negatively people around the controller. We are not talking about a corporate controller or one who manages potential risk or damage etc. This can happen to almost anyone anywhere but especially at homes and work environments.
In all growing civilized periods of history there has been the factor of control, controlling people, their freedom, spouses, children, workers or anyone who is original and challenging. Humanity has been bulldozed millions of times by 'control' freaks using their powers or pretexts of religion, beliefs, political, management and social orders. Control is a seed which germinates out of lack of security, excess of fear and an extremely focused vision that gets stuck and mind becomes rigid. It's a toxicity that overpowers mind, they start abusing their power, capacity to inhibit their own fears and constrict all others as they manipulate everything and everyone to their tune thus giving birth to dictatorships, wars, broken families, unhappy people and the chained human souls. Just open any history book or your newspaper, on every page you will find such people. Entire civilizations, countries, nations and families have been destroyed by this mental rigidity. Most dictators in variable fancy garbs at the control of a country, organizations or family have a deep need to control and manipulate to sustain their fixedness, their rigid way of thinking. These tyrannosauruses devour great chunk of humanity. Everything must be under control or they lose their temper and sleep. This self torturing masochism in reality becomes sadism and it destroys the harmony of individuals. Do not follow any control freak. On the contrary, when one has faith, trust and compassion, you leave everyone free to their will and never force anyone to do anything, we see people grow, family prospers, individual personality open up to its maximum potential. If you anytime catch this fever, just collect your forces, free yourself of all fears and extract all insecurities, reservations, bad faith, doubts, suspicions from your mind and let everyone live as per they desire. If you are responsible, be strict, disciplined, disciplining but do not punish or impose force & pressure. Give space, trust, compassion & you will be loved, will have more control over self & anyone. If you do not like to be controlled, throw the idea of controlling others. One never wins or gains anything by that. Let others come to you for your suggestion for your good heartedness, you will be always respected, loved and praised. How can excessive worry, grief and suffering become pain in itself? How to lighten the load? All worries and sufferings are like shirts. One cannot wear the same garment forever. Even the modes of worries and sufferings need to be changed periodically or the attachment to them becomes permanent. Excessive worry, too many thoughts and too many pains mean there are no distractions and the wheel is moving but it's stuck in mud. This state of turmoil occurs for excessive greed. Greed not only for material objects but for emotional and potential fears is equally dangerous. We cannot have it all. We cannot have all the pains, all the things, all the people and all of anything. We must set limits or the flood of greed will flatten our life. Greed for all things, all thoughts, and all relationships actually destroy our harmony and we get stuck in the infinite wheel of turmoil, that runs on oil of your joys and good health. Once stuck we lose the richness of life and personality growth virtually stops. Bring about diversity in life. If you are suffering for 12 things, start suffering for one every day, if you are worrying for 20 things, make a list of all worries and keep one hour per worry. If you are enjoying too many things simultaneously, try to reduce the sources of enjoyment and focus on one source of joy at one time. Sounds crazy? Well once you apply it, you will see that your joys are becoming more intense and your worries are diluting. At least a quarter of humanity at any given time is thinking excessively even while trying to sleep, do an important job or in a moment of joy. These anxious people usually are living a continual critical state of mind worrying about things they will never be able to resolve. They think that by spinning wheel, non-stop, 24 hours they will be taken seriously or they will accomplish a lot more than people who stop and rest and play.
Spinning or speeding the wheel of mind will never lead to any solution and only suffocate one by aggravating the grind, as the mind gets so heated up that the process of staying alive becomes staying in a perpetual coma. This happens because we forget that each sentence must have a stop or period [.] and the day must be punctuated frequently for a diversity of activities. We must stop the spin and circling at least at the end of day but ideally every 3 hours of your awakened time. Just stop thinking and try to cool down, put a mental red light and or park your mind for a while and take a rest, look for beauty of nature around you, play, listen to relaxing music, read something light, look at birds, flowers and thank to people who bring joy to your life. Do something other than WORRY Forget about your suffering and grief. Do not swallow pills of . worry all the time or they will become immune to you. Your real you ? Are you really aware of your genuine personality or you are just living a quarter or half life? Personal Growth � How to really achieve more and grow fully?
How can excessive worry, grief and suffering become pain in itself? How to lighten the load? Continuing our exercise on the wheel of thoughts lets find more ways to deal with this difficult process of simplifying and reducing our worries to more manageable size. Without THINKING observe new ways to make your life more entertaining, meaningful and playful. If you think by circling around the clutter, by working nonstop and by grabbing all what you can hold in your mind, stomach or soul - you are going to be feeling great, achieve a great deal, be number-this-or-that or please the whole world - you may be on a dead-end sooner or later. Excess worry is like slowly digging our grave. This whole process is so internal, boiling up quietly in our mind that years go by and we don't realize but this becomes cause of major ailments, disorders and sadness of mind, body and soul. Ok..great..you have an answer and you will say must not I worry to compensate for all the failures, pains and disasters of my life? Why not!. I do agree that all your current worries are consequence of something in past; of this or previous lives, but if you do not become more discriminating with your mental activity and keep spinning your mental wheel at high velocity, you will not be able to accomplish anything except drowning yourself in a sea, the size of a bucket. Yes right... whole day dealing with excessive worries and suffering is like attempting to drown our self in a bathtub. We try but it doesn't work. We make an ocean of few gallons, a little failure as irreparable loss. Magnifying something small at times, not even existing in reality, merely a potential fear & WHAT-IFs can take away big part of our day and life. The impact of this fast spinning on our work, relationships and growth is very deep, without our realization. Diversify your every day and make it more living and delightful without leaving the worries for tomorrow to grow smoothly, to keep your personality evergreen. Do not postpone and keep forwarding the worries. Its like having a bad debt which we keep accumulating and the interest goes exponentially high, likewise worries become unmanageable after a limit. The ideal is to write on a white paper all that worries you and then allocate one or two hours in a day or few hours per week. The worst you can ever do to harm you is to keep denying with oh-no-I-haveno-worries while you are crucified. Recognize, enumerate, enlist, and accept all those infinite worries and work on them. Thinking of past is comforting and easy but its not very productive. Future may seem at times hard & challenging but its more creative to work today to build future. Future is built every day with your little actions, decisions. If you do something new every day in the fields of your interest expect new and interesting future events and if you just spend all day in thinking of that lost person, opportunity or any other loss - future is going to be worse than today. You can
change that. To make your future paintings colorful, work on gray areas today and keep adding colors. Expecting from others! If you thought the friendship means to expect your friend to be on your side in your need, you are looking at the passive side of the definition. The real friendship is expect nothing from your friend but you as a friend fill your friends' expectations and hopes when he least expects it. The expectation less friendship is real act of compassion otherwise it's a business. In a business transaction you expect as a buyer or seller, the explicit expectations as per the written or verbal contract. In a sincere relationship based on pure love, expecting from others become redundant. The education, customs and social, family systems condition us to expect from others to fix our needs and problems. The truth is that gradually this conditioning becomes a great source of disappointment, pain, betrayal, suffering and overpowers our real personality by making us dependent, emotional invalid and let us lose precious opportunities which if we were not-sodependent would have changed our 'destiny'. Yes, when we just expect from others we are not following our own destined path but someone else's. If you really want to grow fully to your potential, gradually, reduce expecting from others and you will see revolutionary changes in your life. A conditioned mind expect us to get resolved the problems, to inherit lifeless properties, to receive love, to get sympathy, compassion and to come to rescue whenever we are stuck. You have to prepare yourself to resolve your own problems to the best of your abilities as in resolving our own puzzles is real growth. Expecting from others is a passive approach to live, where we wait others to come either for who we are, our special relationship with them or simply a hidden thinking that by expecting help we will be more secure and kind of emotionally insured. This may appear very cold and unreal but expecting ANYTHING from others, unless business, is sooner or later going to be a cause and source of grief for us. In any case, the reality is that most of the times when you expect, you are going to be disappointed. If you instead give, do something for others without anything in return you will feel fulfilled and you will never need to expect anything from anyone. You will be supported automatically without any of your calls or silent expectations. Most parents teach kids to expect from others, instead of teaching them on how to rely on own self. Teach, try to give, learn and love without expecting anything in return. Learn to rely on your own self, your own destiny, your own worth, and your own hard work, prepare yourself to give as much as you can. When you least expect but are giving, sacrificing and helping others in their needs and bad times, you will be helped by invisible forces in a very unique way and you will always be rewarded richly. When you do those acts of compassion, you are letting your real persona to grow, become stronger and letting your real destiny to take you to the riches of life. When you expect, you are bound to pile many disappointments, surprises and sadness. Be strong and try to reduce your dependence. Just see what can you give. In giving compassion, we receive love, in giving help, we receive true contentment. Giving enhances life. Expecting creates anxiety and insecurity.
How to know your true worth and how to shine it? In building industry there are experts who value and appraise a property. They check each and every corner of structure, foundation, built-up area, the quality of each installation, detailed contents, facilities and the ground where it stands. Besides they also check some unseen values of the property which include non-building factors like the location, neighborhood or block, the security, the facilities around it, distances, age and how was the property used and
other hidden and unseen factors. On the other hand, an inexpert person will only see the property by comparing like an image and merely from outside facade or the polish, paint or glitter etc. Very similarly MOST of us are like that inexpert person who just values anybody by images or by comparing. The problem is that most of us value our own self from outside without much idea of our real self worth. What is our self worth exactly?
Well it is our real total content and our hidden talents which are usually constrained and suppressed. The total experience of many lives resides in our current life. Due to our foolishly programmed and stupid system we label ourselves as per our parental heritage, cultural or ethnic background, acquired education, religious, class or caste based groupings and other social or self-defined falsehoods that drive us to exhibit a 'type' of personality that has been molded by all above factors added by forces called 'circumstances' and necessities to survive or to just do 'something'. These are fake facades, like facades of incredibly beautiful buildings made for dramatization or movies. This is not your real YOU. If you are assessing or appraising your self as an inexpert from the eyes of the 'world' by comparing, by merely looking at skin, you are not evaluating your true self correctly. You are wasting your time in this life by doing things you hate or dislike. You are merely living for the sake of feeding and getting basics covered. That is also done by any form of life on earth including little bugs and flies. They know how to feed and survive. Your human birth is extremely precious gift of the creator for you to shine and do your real mission and not just merely eat, sleep, dance and box the body for disposal. Please wake up. This is not your real you. Does not matter what you do or your level of satisfaction, if you are unaware of your true worth and your real value you are doing gross injustice to you by deceiving your own self. It is not your degrees, your properties, possessions or your job but it is if you are really doing what you should be doing to make your life more meaningful, to live to your fullest extent possible and to FEEL really fulfilled. Today you are going to ask your self some questions? Today you are going to evaluate and find out your true assets, abilities and qualities. After that we will appraise your true value and worth. Even if in one way or the other you consider yourself satisfied do this exercise to rediscover your self.
You ask these questions and write clear, concise and sincere answers : What are my real qualities besides academic qualifiers? Is my educational background the only apparent asset? Am I undervaluing my real unknown or undiscovered qualities? Am I doing something everyday which really manifests and exposes my real talents? Am I really satisfied with my current work, profession or job? Did I just study whatever I studied to please my parents or to chase a childhood dream? Am I under-educated or under achiever? Am I over-educated and yet unsatisfied with whatever I perform? Am I really HAPPY ? Ask any other relevant questions and write them down. Next we continue on how to really evaluate the real value of self!
Finding Evaluating and assessing our true assets? Imagine you owned a piece of land but there was no water, no vegetation, no living conditions around, only dry desert or barren rocks - when you appraise it you notice that its your property but - practically useless. Now imagine an expert comes to value the land and you are told that the land has large deposits of precious metals or mineral rich liquids. You will possibly not believe but you will leave all aside and work hard to exploit that land and the same useless land will appear to be a rich mine and source of wealth. Very similarly many of us think ourselves as useless, with no value and no potential but please make note of my words. Every single human being has a special talent and very unique qualities which must be appraised and valued properly. Our cruel chaotic system buries and ignores millions of talented jewels rejected as barren desert land but we must not let our qualities go waste. You are here for a purpose. You have to work on your unique and special talents and polish them further. If you have been able to indagate and dig into your mind on what are your true assets besides the very obvious or 'seen' ones; you would have noted that at times we carry on a work, a business or job just because that was the best at the time you were preparing to enter into practical life; but after some time, we find that you may have miscalculated or you were not finding the real satisfaction, what you initially thought you would get or you were content with what you had achieved so far but you found yourself in an invisible 'psychological' shell where your real self was hidden or trapped. Whatever the case, there comes a point after every 7 year cycle where you stop, think, rethink and analyze your progress. Most people just get so trapped that they are afraid to break the pattern in the fear that they will not be able to adapt to changes or to switch to something they would really like to do or where their talents will have more light to shine. Coming back to the appraisal of building and its real hidden valuation, you got to evaluate your self from all possible angles and dimensions and see what are your real abilities, capacities and talents. If you collect all your forces and think of all your hobbies, studies, interests and desires you will find that there are certain things where you are better than many people. These are your real assets. Now we have to look at our possibilities. Do not be afraid and do not reject and undervalue yourself. If you are satisfied and happy, its a good news you should see if you could do a better job and if you could make your work process easier, more interesting and fulfilling. If you are not pleased with your current situation, you need to value your true assets and be aware of your capacities. Whatever you did so far was great but whatever you can do in days to come will change your destiny forever. You can do virtually anything you decide to do. You just have to first find your assets, appraise and value them in the most impartial manner. If you are unable to judge your own self or are overly self-absorbed; engage a friend who can do it for you. You do not have to compare yourself with the superlatives nor popular figures. Do not judge yourself harshly blaming your luck or your harsh circumstances. Just be realistic but leave a space for creative imagination where you can vision, dream and view a future for you. Do not be discouraged what OTHERS may have told you, just ignore anyone who rejected or discouraged you. Look at your weaker points, enlist them and write some practical solutions to fix them. Focus now on your real values. If you have been forced or typified into a track by circumstances or necessities, you need not worry, you can still change your destiny. You must try to focus on your dreams and imagination. With some discipline and practical use of your time you can program your destiny now. Do not just sit back and throw yourself to pessimistic or self-imposed routine. Come out of your shell and start your reviewing process again to know
your true potential. I will go with you as far as you want till you find what you seek.