Beginnings of a New Social Circle

Beginnings of a New Social Circle

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” Like anything else. work on getting to know the door people first. So while your ultimate goal may be to personally know the owner of every trendy nightclub and bar in town. You’ll find though. if you’re starting from scratch. which get bigger in scope the further you progress.www. so keep your eyes on the prize. Have Fun! It is important to view the process of building your social circle as a fun process. You will be provided with 10 tasks. while incorporating the principles from the Social Circle Mastery Home Study product. Nonetheless. it will take significant work to get to that point. Past a point. depending on where you are.LoveSystems. you want to build upon goals. which gradually get more difficult. However. As we teach with cold-approach. Moreover. your results will suffer. and bettering the lives of those you choose to bring into your social network. One Bite at a Time When tackling a new conquest. It’s good to have large goals.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Introduction Moving to a new city or rebuilding your social life in your current city can seem like a daunting task. some of these tasks may already be accomplished. “the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. That said. Depending on your current social situation. but don’t let them clout the importance of the smaller tasks at hand. keep in mind that the rewards really are worth it. as the saying goes. the tasks serve as a great way to evaluate where you currently stand. building a social circle takes time. That is the goal. high-quality people will naturally seem to flow into your life. Essentially. people often have the urge to take it all down at once. it helps to start small and work your way up. When you take care of the basics. The aims of this document are to aid you in your endeavor of building or re-building your social life from ground zero.com 3 . If all else fails. You should embrace the idea that you are on your path to bettering your life. More than anything though. the second anything seems like a chore. new. Few things are more rewarding than having built a life where you are surrounded by high-caliber people who care about you. and lets get started! By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . and whether you’re moving to a new city or rebuilding life in your current one. you’d be surprised how many of the big goals accomplish themselves. We will explore many of the initial steps you will take if you are moving to a new city or hitting the restart button in your current city. you social life will begin to compound upon itself. as you start to gain momentum. that while it might be difficult in the beginning. to help you pave your way to social circle mastery. it might seem difficult to align yourself into the slipstream of the social flow. when all the foundations are established. Few things are tougher than the prospect of starting from ground zero. while your new city may be busy and seemingly bursting with opportunity.

You’ll be surprised how many cashiers. speaks about the type of person you are and your overall personality. Easy Practice: As we teach in our bootcamps. So when Sam behind the coffee counter asks you how your day is going. the ability to build and sustain normal. By knowing the workers. cold approaching her after receiving recognition for the people that work there will help your cause significantly. So while your relationship with Lou may not seem to be intrinsically “valuable” in itself. Social Proof: If you ever take a girl out somewhere. your night should actually begin in the afternoon. and the friendly reactions from the workers (especially if they know you on a first name basis).Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 1: Get to know the Neighborhood Whether you live in a big city or suburbia. Most of these workers will find it refreshing that someone is actually interacting with them beyond simply replying to boring questions out of social obligation. By having short conversations with the locals.” elaborate and try and build conversation with him. it’s pretty cool to seemingly know everyone you come in contact with. organic rapport is essential to becoming better at meeting women (and people in general).LoveSystems. will transfer over to her reaction towards your approach. much of the creep factor is removed. practice makes perfect. familiarizing yourself with the local businesses does a number of things for you. the fact that you know Lou. you develop your “conversational muscle” and have the opportunity to work on the fine art of rapport building and transitioning. While you may not necessarily be going out on a Friday night with Lou from the neighborhood bakery. and as they say. A large majority of this skill set is universal to all interactions. and everybody else in the neighborhood. Building State: When you’re going out at night. Cold-Approach Opportunity: If you are at one of your regular spots and happen to see a cute girl. So how do you do it? It’s simple: Live your day the way you normally would. store clerks and waitresses are open to conversation. By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . but search for opportunities to meet and interact with others.www. instead of replying with the usual “fine. by the time the evening comes around. Going from not interacting with anyone all day to jumping into a social setting can seem like going from relaxing in a sauna to being thrown in a tub of ice. it is a good idea to familiarize yourself with a group of places near your residence.com 4 . Treat the ones that are colder as yellow lights. if you pepper in interactions throughout your day. you will find yourself in more of a social mood and ready to meet girls you actually care about. and make it a challenge for yourself to see if you can convert them to greens. On he other hand. It’ll serve as a great lesson and practice on how to plow through a cold exterior to open someone up. workers.

A good gauge to measuring the productivity of your day is by how tired you are come bedtime. Do not treat the people you meet in these classes as cold-approach targets. you’d be surprised at how much you can discover to do in your hometown (even if you live in suburbia). In this case. When you’re starting out. you’re not filling your days. sign-up for improv classes. One-Off Opportunities: Explore as many one-off opportunities as you can. not where you lounge around all day “relaxing. but keep yourself open to the possibility of fostering relationships for your social circle mastery purposes. If you are collapsing into your sheets as opposed to going to bed as force of habit. focus on living it. For instance. as everyone tends to be in a festive and happy mood. It still surprises me how many people spend a majority of their free time at home. As you explore. It is much easier to meet people in these environments. In most metropolitan cities.com 5 . no amount of activities in the world will help you if you keep to yourself everywhere you go. By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . Weekly. still remember to play it slow. and we already spend 25% of it sleeping.” With a little effort. your home should primarily be a place of rest. And if you find a girl you’re really attracted to.www. that’s fine. consider trading daily outdoor running with a few cardio classes at your local gym. The beauty of a string of classes is that you know you will see the same people over and over again. L. Realize that life is too short. and if you make an effort to be social whenever possible.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 2: Develop a Social Routine Get involved in your community in terms of living an active lifestyle and seeking out things to do. parades etc… that come through. The New Yorker. Remember to be proactive though. Create an Active Routine: Fuse your personal activities to social settings. Instead of sitting in front of the TV all evenings of the week after work. and focus more on the friends and social circle aspect of the people you meet. Wherever you are.A. Fill Your Days: If you’re spending a majority of your free time at home on the computer. you’d be surprised how friends start to naturally seep into your life. If you choose to day game at these activities. The point is to get familiar with things you can do in your city. carnivals. As you begin to build an active routine. don’t use relaxing as an excuse for laziness and inactivity. some of these publications include The Metro. salsa lessons etc… And while you’re attending these programs. if cardio workouts are an important part of your life. you’ll begin to cultivate locations to take girls on dates as well. While we all need alone time and time to relax. cultivate a good relationship. you probably aren’t doing enough with your day. start looking for opportunities to build a social network. so when we’re not. Instead. food festivals. etc…).LoveSystems. Become a Master of Your Domain: Many people live blindly in the cities they reside in. there is an endless supply of music festivals. there is bound to be a weekly local publication detailing the events and things to do in your city (in the US. time is on your side.

Now if you’re able to find guys that are into game. instead of viewing your social tree as an assault team whose sole purpose is to pick-up women. and typically requires you to develop a relationship with a “gatekeeper.com 6 . The benefits of starting your own social circle is that you have the opportunity to lay ground rules from the start. or a “social tree. Essentially. Joining a Pre-Existing Circle Joining a pre-existing circle is generally tougher. and each person in it is viewed as an equal. you know you’re in. definitely do not treat any of the girls the way you would in a cold-approach setting. Creating a Circle from Ground Zero If you’re starting from ground zero. all the groundwork is done and you instantly link yourself to an entire network of people. and who also mesh well with your personality. your best bet is to find others who have also recently moved into the city.LoveSystems. you’ll likely have to set up ground rules so that your social circle doesn’t turn into a “game den”. In fact.” or someone who will ingratiate you into the group. you want to have the mentality that you’re all friends that are just focused on making the most out of life and on having a good time. Once you start getting regular calls from various people in the social circle to come hang out.www. fun guy that they enjoy hanging out with. When joining a social circle. or others that are in transitionary periods in their lives. but other options you have include finding wingmen through bootcamps and/or the forums. Note that just having an interest in game is not necessarily enough to determine compatibility for someone you’re considering bringing into your social circle. A core social tree of 4-5 people is ideal. if everyone does know about game. By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . it might be easier to start a new social tree fresh instead of attempting to merge your way into an existing one. you will invariably need to find a core group of friends. the benefit of joining a pre-existing social circle is that if it’s good. it is in your best interest to start befriending others within the social circle one by one. then all the better. In fact. it might be a good idea to go a couple months without actively hitting on any particular person in the circle. Game aside. Depending on your situation. You’ll invariably meet people like this if you build an active routine (Task 2). On the other hand. your social tree should include you and a few other like-minded individuals with similar goals and social aspirations. Your goal is to be a cool. That is. and slowly ingratiating yourself within the group as a whole. you’ll want to build your social tree with people you can see yourself meshing with outside of a pick-up environment. Keep in mind it is not necessary for everyone to be studied in game.” that you can call your own. From that point.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 3: Strength in Numbers While your journey to building your social circle may start solo.

sisters. Instead. While game may be a big part of your life. By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . If you all live in an apartment building together. but these are some concepts to help get the ball rolling: Winging: If your social tree includes guys that have not studied game. and positive reinforcement is the best way to keep everyone doing what they do best. The last thing you want is for game to be the one and only discussion point within you social tree. In your discussion.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 4: Setting Ground Rules One of the biggest benefits from starting a social tree from ground zero. That said. it is inevitable that not every girl you go after will be the hottest on the planet. and to push the boundaries on the quality of girls you all typically go after. is having the opportunity to develop a set of ground rules. especially if they can serve as social connectors to a whole another network of hot girls. which limits the amount of game talk you and your friends partake in. it should not be your life. and how not to steal the spotlight upon entering the group. ex’s and whoever else you would not particularly want your friends hooking up with. The most common way for a social tree to implode is when small pet peeves and annoyances build up over time and reach a boiling point. Boundaries: It’s a good idea to quickly go over the things that each of you can’t stand.www. it’ll help tremendously in navigating through your interactions amongst each other. besides being on equal footing with everyone in it. include friends.com 7 . While it may be the dream to pull 10s on a nightly basis. it could easily become the only subject you guys talk about. Non-Judgment: No one likes to be judged. The ground rules and pre-framing that is setup from the start will go a long way in ensuring the sustainability and longevity of your social tree. Each person will invariably have their strengths that benefit the group. there should be a collective effort to push each other outside of your respective comfort zones. explain the idea that he who goes up to the girls gets his first pick. Off-Limits: Have a discussion on which girls are completely off limits. Additionally. Essentially. Here are a few ground rules to consider during your meeting. and explain the general concept of how to wing in a set. the things that annoy you may not be an issue for someone else and vice verse. Setup a frame so that future conversations within your social tree regarding the quality of girls you guys interact with are lighthearted. it might not be the best idea to get in relationships with the girls living down the hall. as well as other small things that annoy you. make some sort of loose rule. setting ground rules also provides a great opportunity to highlight the things you like about the people in your new social tree. Many times. Game: If you and all your friends are aware of game. Others might apply. it is particularly important to go over wing rules (you don’t have to use game terminology to get the points across).LoveSystems. By having a clear understanding of everyone’s likes and dislikes.

Meet-ups: When you go for the meet up in the future. and that she and her friends should come meet you guys. It is important to note that the social connectors do not necessarily have to be girls either. or if you’re out on a cold-approach crusade. Believe it or not. Hence. Keep in mind that social connectors do not necessarily have to be attractive. you’re going to want to spend more time ingratiating the group. While it might be irritating if you have been pursuing a particular girl for a period of time. send invites under the frame that you and your friends are going out. your standards are slightly different than they might be if you were cold-approaching to get laid. that seems to be either the leader or the most social. Social Connectors: Social connectors.LoveSystems. Making Friends vs. Cold-Approaching to Make Friends While it may suck to lose girls to the friend zone (typically a symptom of not enough physical/verbal escalation and sexualization). it is a good idea to go out a few nights a week with the primary goal of cold-approaching to make new friends. you should realize the importance and opportunity that comes with falling into the let’s just be friends (LJBF) zone. there is definitely a possibility that the girls would want to hang out with you all in the future.www. funny and interesting. If you’re actively spending a few nights a week cold-approaching to make friends. but falling into the LJBF zone is not always a bad thing. instead of focusing on just picking out one target. instead of narrowing down and isolating your conversation to the girl you’re most attracted to. when you open the group. Examples of doing this include telling her about you great friend “John” who would be a perfect match for her.com 8 . refocus your attention on the person in the group (guy or girl). make an effort to frame yourself into the friend zone so there is no confusion as to your intentions. most girls do not typically go out with as strong of an agenda as most guys.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 5: Fall into the LJBF Zone a Few Times When you’re starting out. it may not actually be a bad idea. Group Theory: In this context. Framing: If you do get isolated with a social connector. if you and the core group of guys you hang out with come off as cool. since it is many times the case where less attractive guys and girls oftentimes have many hot friends. when you’re in the process of building your social circle. and are open to the idea of meeting new friends. More importantly. In fact. Getting Laid When you’re cold-approaching to make friends. By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . you can easily send out such an invite to at least a couple groups a week. are the best type of people you can meet throughout the night. or individuals who are connected to networks of many others.

You generally want to work your way up the food chain: Door Staff: The door staff is generally the first set of people you’ll get to know.com 9 . these venues will typically include larger bars and clubs. A good way of doing this is to tip very well for your first drink every time you go. Prized Venues to Meet New People Your first focus should be setting up a prized venue at a bar or club where you can regularly meet new people.www. and you will generally want to pick a place that is near your home (for obvious reasons). take the opportunity to practice building rapport and transitioning with the door staff. as your goal is to expand your social circle and meet new friends. aim to find a place that caters to a large volume of people. and another where you bring girls to for dates. The prized venue you use for dates can also be the place where you and the people in your social tree go out to just relax and decompress. Prized venues serve a number of purposes. Unlike the prized venue you use to meet people. especially if the bartenders are hired guns.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 6: Create a Prized Venue As you start going out more. Bartenders: You generally want to get to know the bartenders on a first name basis.LoveSystems. most of your legwork will be in getting to know the various levels of staff. In general. A prized venue is a place where you have been to regularly and know a majority of the working staff. some of which may have a “meatmarket” feel. you will want to setup two types of prized venues. getting to know the people who work the door can be vital towards getting into the venue on a regular basis. you’ll want to take time to invest in building a couple prized venues. When you are in line for the venue. promoters may be the controlling factor in your city’s mainstream nightlife (such is the case in Los Angeles). the place you use for dates should be much more laid-back and typically smaller in size. getting friendly with the promoters can mean easy entrance into the best By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . Prized Venues for Dates The second type of prized venue is one you would use for dates. and in a social circle mastery context. At a high-end location. Ideally. people notice when you’re able to cut the line. It definitely does not need to be somewhere that is trendy and difficult to get into. one where you go to meet new people. Promoters: Depending on the city you live in. Having the bartenders provide you special attention can make all your isolations for shots more impactful. The Food Chain Once you’ve scoped out locations to develop as your prized venues. you and the friends in your social tree should scope out a place that regularly serves the types of people you are interested in dating and becoming friends with. Plus. Regardless of your preference. have the capability of making it much easier to meet new people. In these cities. For the most part.

free access to tables and a consistent entourage of pretty girls to party with. In most cases. extremely difficult to get sticky with. and when you see a particular staff member. and focus on covering as many unique topics as possible. from the door person all the way up to the owner appreciates steady clientele. All you really need to focus on is initially attending the venue on a somewhat consistent basis. and even the hottest bars and night clubs have their pool of “regulars. Developing Prized Venues to Meet New People At the lower levels of the food chain (doorstaff. you are bound to meet and develop friendships with most of the workers. it is typically much easier to get to know all levels of the staff. Then the next time you go to the venue. Knowing the owner provides access too all of the perks above. as well as the general prestige of knowing the guy who runs the show. Owner: The highest level of staff you’re able to befriend is the owner himself.” Being slated as a regular can also make getting into the venue on a consistent basis much easier. you will typically need to bring more value in order to develop a sticky relationship. and in many cases. You will find that having these girls as part of your extended social tree tends to make all levels of social circle mastery significantly easier. Even if you have a great memory.com 10 . they tend to be very flaky. and striking up interesting conversation with as many members of the staff as possible. Manager: Once you’re able to start introducing others to the bar manager (especially at a high-end place). By doing this. It will suddenly become easier to meet others within the venue. review your notes. it’s refreshing when someone remembers them by their first name and can bring a few moments of good conversation.LoveSystems. and you will notice girls eyeing you and your friends more consistently. since promoters are constantly meeting new people (their livelihood depends on their ability to bring the party). The various levels of staff. Initially attending the venue as regularly as possible will also build a significant amount of goodwill with all levels of the food chain. the key to building relationships is being able to build interesting rapport. take notes of the things you talked about with the various staff members. Developing Prized Venues for Dates Developing a prized venue for dates is much less cumbersome. especially for promoters. The higher up the chain you go (and depending on how trendy the venue is). reference something you two spoke about the last time you met. your perceived value in the venue begins to skyrocket.Beginnings of a New Social Circle venues. Most of this level of staff are generally neglected and used only for their services. Since there usually isn’t the concern about getting in. bringing attractive girls from your extended social network to the venue is enough to get you going. This is probably to fastest way to forge a connection with members of the staff. bartenders). However.www. As such. By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems .

if you’re serious about building your social circle to its maximum potential. Invest in a blender and for your hard alcohol and chasers. but as long as at least half of the people over aren’t forced to stand. Having a nice home does not mean you have to be living in a mansion or in a gated community. You don’t necessarily need a 12-speaker sound system. it sure doesn’t hurt. whether you like it or not. you will definitely meet more people. you’re alright. and you’re in for a fun night. hard alcohol and chasers (i. For instance.com 11 . Music: You’ll want to have an updated playlist with party music and laid-back music.). visit the website of your local Top 40’s radio station. you’re in college and live in a frat house). you should have her come up to your place for at least a few minutes so she can visualize where she’ll be going when you go for the pull). and that you have a full stock of toilet paper.LoveSystems. Rather. Redbull). the bare minimum you want to have is beer. consider couches. Alternatively. While chairs work. Your home. and there should be a section with songs that the station regularly plays. Make sure your toilet is clean and unstained. along with futons and possibly even beanbags. and iPod player or a set of decent computer speakers will work just fine. soda. Drinks: For pre-parties. Also make sure the bathtub/shower is clean. Ideally though. Having an awesome home also has spillover effects into your game itself.www. you will eventually want to have your home serve as one of the hubs for your social tree. There are four key elements that go into having a home that is guest-friendly: Seating: Make sure there is enough seating.e. orange juice. To find up to date music. opt for tequila/rum and margarita/pina-colada mixers (with ice cubes and coconut shavings). If your place is the usual pre-party or after-party spot. and the thinslice you get from girls you take on dates is better (side note: whenever you take a girl on a date. which are more laid-back. And while it may not be absolutely necessary to have a decked out home in order to get laid. procure the music however you see fit . The idea is to do something slightly different from the norm. it’s best to make a fun drink for the evening. Few things will gross a girl out more than a disgusting bathroom. Clean Bathrooms: You want to make sure your bathroom is immaculate. with no noticeable mold of gunk growing anywhere – girls look! By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . which will go a surprisingly long way. From there. girls you bring home will feel more comfortable in a well kept home. Most girls would agree that a modest but “cool” apartment is more appealing than a mansion with a sloppy or empty interior. you will inevitably start having friends over. is an extension and reflection of who you are. and that it doesn’t look like a dirty frat house (unless of course. You don’t necessarily need one seat for everyone person that’s coming over.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 7: Setting up your Pad As you develop your social circle. Moreover. it means the interior of your home is well kept. you could create jugs of party drinks such as jungle juice or scorpion bowls.

and to showcase the cool sides of your personality. if someone you and your friends met a week ago tried to get you all to come out to a certain venue on Friday night. this should be an easier job (as you’re all bound to be more fired up about going out). you have to be close enough to enough people in the social tree to ensure success. you will need to make sure that you have the prerequisite stickiness to serve as host. it’s a good idea to start integrating yourself as a focal point in your developing social circle. your aim is to have your home be a regular location for certain events. As such. the probability of flakes increases significantly. there is a good chance meeting up with him wouldn’t be too high on anyone’s priority list.www. Using your Place as a Hub The easier of the two is to use your place as a hub. and then subsequently working to get your friends out. This holds particularly true if you are joining a pre-existing tree instead of starting a new one from ground zero. Moreover. The best way to do this is through hosting events either by using your place as a hub. Initiating Outings If you choose to follow the path of initiating outings amongst your social circle. you are essentially taking on the role of a social connector. If you’re starting your social tree from fresh. In this case. Without the prerequisite stickiness. Again. and will further root you in with the tree itself. Remember. than it would be if you’ve joined a pre-existing tree.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 8: Host Events Once you get the ball rolling on laying the foundations for your social tree. your apartment could be a preparty meeting point. Prerequisite Stickiness In each of the above cases. turning your home into a central meeting point amongst your social tree will significantly increase the stickiness you have amongst your friends. Regardless of the event. or by initiating outings amongst your friends. For instance. The most challenging element of initiating outings is managing everyone’s schedule and motivating everyone to go out. Another option is to host one-off events at your house. or where you and the guys meet up to watch Monday night football. This could range from a laid-back Fourth of July barbeque to a full-blown Friday night pool party.LoveSystems. the social repercussions of a failed or bad outing in a pre-existing tree are greater. a place for after-parties.com 12 . By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . this holds especially true if you are joining a pre-existing social tree. while having the opportunity to be in the spotlight. Essentially. time + shared experiences = relationships. For instance. you will be responsible for figuring out where the good places to go on which nights are. you’re looking to associate yourself with fun times. That is.

you undoubtedly have friends you have parked in your social parking lot over the course of your life. you may still be close with them. and may typically include: Geography: A major transitioning point for social circles takes place when you move away. or perhaps they liked it more when they could square you away as the guy who wasn’t a sexual threat. In other words. there is the concept of a social parking lot.com 13 . As you begin to rebuild your social circle. This can be for a variety of reasons. a new job. and is a natural by-product of being a productive person. Moreover. Perhaps they are uncomfortable with the fact that you now actively seek out interactions with girls. you have to be honest with yourself and identify who is helping your cause. and who is serving as a detriment to your growth. Interests: As you continue to grow and mature. which you might have otherwise seen on a daily basis. this can certainly limit the amount of free time you have to hang with certain friends.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 9: Filling your Social Parking Lot In Social Circle Mastery. By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . nor does it mean that you are no longer close with them. When you change geography. some of your friends may not like the new person you are becoming. because of your new interests and the things you are pursuing. even if your tastes and preferences have changed. it does not mean that they are no longer your friends. but you might not be hanging out with them as much as you used to. you will want to reduce the amount of time around friends who are “bad” influences on you. That is.LoveSystems. Again. your tastes and preferences continue to evolve. In some cases. A social parking lot is the metaphorical space where friends whom you no longer contact as frequently are “parked.www. the idea of “misery loves company” comes into play. if someone is not conducive to your becoming the social person you want to be. and your friends may not like you breaking the silently agreed mold of collective unhappiness. Friends you may have shared everything in common with in the past may have few similarities with you at this point in time. or have significantly less contact. you will most likely lose contact. this is not necessarily unhealthy. you just don’t have as much time to be around them as you once did. It simply means that at this point in your life. it is not the best idea to spend a majority of your time with that person. be it for college. Family: If you for whatever reason need to spend more time at home or with family. or just to try something new. or an illness in the family. work or school may take away time from being with friends that you might have seen more regularly when you had more free time. you will find that as you start accomplishing your social goals.” If you think through your past. Nonetheless. In any case. Work/School: Depending on where you are in your professional trajectory. you will want to start taking a more active role in managing your social parking lot. While you may park these friends into your social parking lot. with your friends back home. Many of the reasons for parking a friend are oftentimes natural. be it an upcoming wedding. helping your sister with her new baby.

outgoing lifestyle. this is primarily done through inviting a loose merger somewhere else. “you guys should come by. a merger is simply friendships between both trees on a multi-dimensional scale. which may have been inaccessible in the past. you will develop a loose affiliation with members within the group.e. As mentioned above.www. Make sure the invites are very causal (i. Loose: A loose merger is typically defined as two social trees.com 14 . By LA2NY & Braddock © Love Systems . which hang out when the opportunity presents itself. At this level.e. In fact. where there is still a party environment. Thus. a mass text.” etc…) as opposed to setting firm times and dates. For instance. there will also be one couple between the tress that has been dating beyond a casual period. you are bound to start meeting various groups of people on a regular basis. Medium: A medium merger is typically either a conversion of a loose merger. And while you may not call upon the group at any given moment to come hang out on a Sunday. You will find that once you have a core group of cool friends. you should manage expectations and be prepared for flakes.Beginnings of a New Social Circle Task 10: Explore Merger Possibilities Once you have made decent headway in establishing your core social tree. Oftentimes. you should begin looking into branching out and making connections with other social trees. Types of Mergers A merger does not necessarily have to be a complete fusion of two social trees. if you and another group of friends frequent the same venue every Tuesday. these trees present opportunities for expansions in the future. a pool party. have suddenly become merger possibilities. a birthday bash. over time. in most cases. That is.LoveSystems. such as a one-off event you and your friends are hosting. most of the “work” you and your social tree will take part in is in converting the loose mergers to medium ones. other trees. As with most conversions of loose affiliations. or a group where at least two people in your core social tree have become close with two people in their social tree. the two trees start to blend. and it becomes a very normal thing for both groups to regularly hang out. Solidifying Mergers A majority of the loose mergers tend to happen naturally as a byproduct of living a social. etc…). Rooted: A rooted merger is when there are close relationships between three or more core members within each of the social trees. various people in each of your trees develop friendships with various people in the other trees. but also opportunity to develop stronger bonds. Conversions from loose mergers typically happen if you invite the group to a one-off event you may be hosting at your house (i. If you’re going out with your social tree on a regular basis and focusing on having fun (and not just on cold-approaching to get laid).

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