A Godly Marriage Is God's Way to Avoid Sex Sin COPYRIGHT © 03/11/09 By L. Tyler, P.O.
Box 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763 All rights reserved.This file, in its entirety, may be posted on or copied off of computer networks like Internet or WWW by anyone so inclined as long as it is not changed. email@example.com, firstname.lastname@example.org, email@example.com I submit that the Greek and Bible context of Titus 2, Prov 5 and 1 Cor 7:2 is as follows: 1Cor 72But because of sexual immorality, each man SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be [SEXUALLY] HAVING/HOLDING/ POSSESSING his own wife, CLOSELY [AND SEXUALLY] ADHERING, CLINGING TO [her], and each woman SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be [FONDLY AND AFFECTIONATELY] HAVING/HOLDING/POSSESSING her own husband CLOSELY [AND AFFECTIONATELY] ADHERING, CLINGING TO [him]. These are the locations where you can find the Bible study resources I used to do this study. Strong's Greek = http://www.tgm.org/bible.htm - - www.biblestudytools.net/Lexicons/Greek/ www.tencommandments.org/concord.html www.blueletterbible.org/search.cfm http://bible.crosswalk.com/Lexicons/NewTestamentGreek/ ******************1 Cor 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch[G680] (5733) a woman. Strong's Greek G680 = attach, touch 5733 = Tense - Present See 5774 = The present tense represents a simple statement of fact or reality viewed as 0CCURRING in actual present time, becoming It is good for a man not to be TOUCHING a woman, not to be ATTACHING himself to a woman. ******************7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let [G0] every man have [G2192] (5720) his own wife, and let [G0] every woman
have [G2192] (5720) her own husband. [G0] = This word is not in the original Greek. It was used to show a command, but not the apparent one, i.e. [You] let/allow every man [to] have his own wife. The subject/actor/agent is NOT "you let/allow", it is "every man have." Every man is commanded to be having his own wife. The Southern Baptist's Holman Christian Standard Bible [HCSB]: "2 But because of sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband." [G2192] = 1) to have, i.e. to hold a) to have (hold) in the hand, in the sense of wearing, to have (hold) possession of the mind (refers to alarm, agitating emotions, etc.), to hold fast keep, to have or comprise or involve, to regard or consider or hold as 2) to have i.e. own, possess b) used of those joined to any one by the bonds of natural blood or marriage or friendship or duty or law etc, of attendance or companionship 4) to hold one's self to a thing, to lay hold of a thing, to adhere or cling to a) to be closely joined to a person or a thing 5720 Tense - Present See 5774 = The present tense represents a simple statement of fact or reality viewed as 0CCURRING in actual present time, becoming [HCSB expanded]: "2 But because of sexual immorality, each man should be HAVING his own wife, and each woman should be HAVING her own husband." 5720 Mood - Imperative See 5794 = The imperative mood corresponds to the English imperative, and expresses a command to the hearer to perform a certain action by the order and authority of the one commanding. . . an absolute command requiring full obedience on the part of all hearers, becoming [HCSB expanded]: "2But because of sexual immorality, each man SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be HAVING his own wife, and each woman SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be HAVING her own husband."
All this yields the following: 2But because of sexual immorality, each man SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be HAVING/HOLDING/POSSESSING his own wife CLOSELY ADHERING, CLINGING TO [her], and each woman SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be HAVING/HOLDING/POSSESSING her own husband CLOSELY ADHERING, CLINGING TO [him]. God's Bible makes it clear that having one's wife is a sexually intimate experience: ***Prov 5: 18 Let your fountain be blessed, 19 and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful fawn— let her breasts always satisfy you; be 18 lost  in her love forever. [HCSB] *** Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. [New King James Version] ***18Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in 19 the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill  you at all times with delight; be intoxicated  always in her love  . [ESV]
Strong's 7301 ravah = make drunk, (take the) fill, satiate, (abundantly) satisfy Strong's 7686 shagah = the idea of intoxication) to reel, (figuratively) be enraptured Strong's 160 'ahabah = affection Strong's definitions yield the following: ***Prov 5:18Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts INTOXICATE/SATIATE/SATISFY you at all times with delight; be INTOXICATED/ENRAPTURED always in her AFFECTION. COUPLE THIS WITH TITUS ***2:3 The aged women likewise, . . . :4 That they may teach the young wives . . . to love their husbands <5362>, . . . , Strong's 5362 - fond affectionate love Yielding: That they may teach the young wives . . . to FONDLY AND AFFECTIONATELY love their husbands Since 1 Cor 6:18-7:5 shows us that the context is sexual, specifically sexual morality, we can
know that all the above yields the following: 1Cor 72But because of sexual immorality, each man SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be [SEXUALLY] HAVING/HOLDING/ POSSESSING his own wife CLOSELY [AND SEXUALLY] ADHERING, CLINGING TO [her], and each woman SHOULD [i.e. is under the absolute command that requires full obedience to] be [FONDLY AND AFFECTIONATELY] HAVING/HOLDING/POSSESSING her own husband CLOSELY [AND AFFECTIONATELY] ADHERING, CLINGING TO [him]. *******************7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due [G3784] (5746) benevolence [G2133]: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. Strong's (3784) = to owe (pecuniarily); figurative to be under obligation (ought, must, should); morally to fail in duty: — behove, be bound, (be) debt (-or), (be) due (- ty), be guilty (indebted), (must) need (-s), ought, owe, should. Strong's 2133 = "kindness; euphemism conjugal duty: — benevolence, good will." ***3 A husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband. [HCSB] ***3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. [NKJV] 3 *** The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. [ESV] All of the above yields the following: The husband should give to his wife the kindness, benevolence and good will in the marital/conjugal rights that he owes to her and is morally bound to give her, and likewise the wife should give to her husband the kindness, benevolence and good will in the marital/conjugal rights that she owes to him and is morally bound to give to her husband. ******************7:4 The wife hath not power [G1850] (5719) of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power [G1850] (5719) of his own body, but the wife. Strong's (1850 fro, 1849) = to control: — exercise authority upon,
bring under the (have) power of. ***Rom 13:1 Everyone must submit to the governing authorities , for there is no authority  except from God, and those that exist are instituted by God. Strong's (1849) = privilege, i.e. (subject) force, capacity, competency, freedom, or (object) mastery (concrete magistrate, superhuman, potentate, token of control), delegated influence: — authority, jurisdiction, liberty, power, right, strength. The power  of 1 Cor 7:4 is derived from the authority  in Romans 13. All of this means that husbands and wives have the same authority over each other's bodies that civil authorities (police, judges, firemen, legislators, governors, presidents) have over those under their authority. That means that the husband's and wife's authority is to be obeyed, as unto the Lord. ***Rom 13:1 Everyone must submit to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except from God, and those that exist are instituted by God. 2 So then, the one who resists the authority is opposing God's command, and those who oppose it will bring judgment on themselves. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do good and you will have its approval. *****************7:5 Defraud [G650] (5720) ye not one the other, except it be with consent [G4859] for a time [G2540], that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come [G4905] (5741) together [G1909] [G846] again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency [G192]. Strong's = (650) (to deprive); to despoil: — defraud, destitute, kept back by fraud. Strong's = (4859) sounding together (alike), i.e. (figurative) accordant (neuter as noun, agreement): — consent. Strong's = (2540) an occasion, i.e. set or proper time: — x always, opportunity, (convenient, due) season, (due, short, while) time, a while. Strong's = (4905) to convene, depart in company with, associate with, or (special) cohabit (conjugally/maritally): — accompany, assemble (with), come (together), come (company, go) with, resort. Strong's = (192) want of self-restraint: — excess, incontinency. = lack of self-control
***5 Do not deprive/defraud one another—except when you agree [both consenting], for a time, to devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together cohabiting again; otherwise, Satan may tempt you because of your lack of self-control. *****************7:97:9 . . . . , let them marry; . . .(KJV, NKJV, Darby) ---"they should get married." (Complete Jewish Bible) ---"they should marry" (NIV, NCV, NAB, NEB, AB) ---"they should go ahead and marry" (NLT) ---"go ahead and get married" (CEV, ---"they should by all means go ahead and get married" (Message ---"get married" (Beck +++So the passage is much more correctly understood as saying "2 but because of cases of immorality every man should be having his own wife, . . . . .3. The husband should be fulfilling his duty towards his wife . . . 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows, It is good for them that they remain even as I. 9. But if they are not exercising selfcontrol, they should marry. . . ." +++The active aorist of the verse nine command to marry really expands the meaning of the command. "The aorist is like the imperfect in that it refers to past time. But the imperfect refers to continuous action in past time (I was loosing), while the aorist is the simple past tense (I loosed). . . . But in past time the distinction is very carefully made; the Greek language shows no tendency whatever to confuse the aorist with the imperfect" (pp.81ff; New Testament Greek; by J. G. Machen; Macmillan Co.). This means that the fuller meaning of the verse is as follows: "9. but if they are not exercising self-control they should already be married. . . . " This means that those unmarried or widows who were not exercising self-control successfully should already have remedied the situation by marrying. The precedent for this in Sinai Law, the Law that Jesus commanded be kept while He was walking on earth (Mat 23:1-3), is found in Deut 22: 28 "If a man find a damsel, a virgin, who is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and [sexually] lie with her, and they be found, 29 then the man that [sexually] lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife, because he has humbled her; he may not put her away all his days." +++This makes 1 Cor 7:8,9 more than just a command for the unmarried or widows who are failing to exercise self-control. This means that not only are they sinning by failing to control themselves, it means that they failed to marry when they failed to exercise selfcontrol, and are continuing in the double sin of failing to exercise selfcontrol as well as failing to marry because of their self-control. Their sin
has two aspects, failure to be self-controlled and failure to have married because of their self-control. We know that the correct response to such failure and sin is to agree with Jesus about the sin and forsake it (1 John 1:7-9; Prov 28:13). We know that forsaking of the sin is to take the form of the godly sorrow of 2 Cor 7:11 "For, behold, this same thing, your being grieved according to God, how much diligence it wrought in *you*, but what excusing of yourselves, but what indignation, but what fear, but what ardent desire, but what zeal, but what vengeance: in every way ye have proved yourselves to be pure in the matter." +++Jesus, by His Spirit in Paul, indicated how He wants us grieve over such sin, so that with diligence, indignation, fear, ardent desire, zeal, vengeance, and on account of and to avoid sexual immorality each man would be having his own wife and each woman would be having her own husband (1 Cor 7:2; 1 Thess 4:3-8). "9. but if they are not exercising self-control they should already be married. . . . ". Jesus solution for avoiding sexual immorality is not cold showers, fasting, exercising and praying alone. Jesus ultimate solution for avoiding sexual immorality is marriage, each man having his own woman and each woman having her own man. So we see that the widows and unmarried of 1 Cor 7:8,9 who are failing to exercise self-control are under command to grieve and repent with diligence, indignation, fear, ardent desire, zeal, and vengeance by finally getting married. The question of who to marry is discussed below. +++What does it mean to not be having self-control, to not be exercising self-control? 9* But if they are not having<5736> control<1467> over themselves, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn. >>>But if they are not having<5736><<<<< [<5736> Tense - Present, Voice - Middle or Passive Deponent, Mood - Indicative, See 5791] ///This signifies an act or condition that is continuing on in the present moment, e.g. she is breathing, she is having fun >>>>>>>control<1467> over themselves<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< 1467 egkrateuomai, middle voice; v 1) to be self-controlled, continent 1a) to exhibit self-government, conduct, one's self temperately 1b) in a figure drawn from athletes, who in preparing themselves for the games abstained from unwholesome food, wine, and sexual indulgence
But if they are not having<5736> control<1467> over themselves, . . . ---------------- being continent . . . . -----------------exhibiting self-government . . . . . ---------------- abstaining from sex . . . . . . ///Having control over oneself is continuing in union with Jesus, keeping on in practicing and living in His will, continuing to act righteously. Not having control over oneself is failing to continue in union with Jesus, failing to keep on practicing and living in His will, failing to continue to act righteously. This is the point where one knows he/she is not having control over oneself, and must call on Jesus (Rm 10:17) to be saved from the sin, agreeing with Jesus about one's sin (1Jn1:9), and yielding oneself to Jesus for Him to work and will Godly sorrow and repentance of the sin (Ph 2:13;4:13;Heb 13:20,21; Prov 28:13; 2 Cor 7). Part of the repentance and godly sorrow (2Cor7) is to obey the command to get married to deal with the problem. Why is such repentance so important? One has lost control of oneself and is snared (2Tim2:22-26) in sin when one habitually falls out of union with Jesus, practicing and living sin. God will not allow His children to knowingly - (knowing that what they are doing is declared to be sin explicitly and specifically in the Bible) - keep on sinning, to continue on in sin, to practice and live in sin (Hebrews 12:1-15; 1 Cor 5:1-11; 11:30ff). 1 John 3:6 No one who continues in union with Him keeps on practicing and living in sin: no one who keeps on living in sin has seen Him or knows Him. 7 Dear children, let no one lead you astray. The man who continues acting righteously, practicing righteousness, is righteous, just as He is righteous. 8 He who is habitually practicing and living in sin is a child of the Devil, . . . . 9 No one who is a child of God habitually practices and lives in sin. A God-given germ of life remains in him, and he cannot habitually sin--because he is a child of God. 10 By this we can distinguish God’s children and the Devil’s children: no one who keeps on failing to act righteously is a child of God, nor he who does not keep on loving his brother man. 1 John 3 WEY+TCNT+DBY 1 John 2: 3And this is how we may discern [daily, by experience] that we are coming to know Him [to perceive, recognize, understand, and become better acquainted with Him]: if we keep (bear in mind, observe, practice) His teachings (precepts, commandments). 4 Whoever says, I know Him [I perceive, recognize, understand, and am acquainted with Him] but fails to keep and obey His commandments (teachings) is a liar, and the Truth [of the Gospel] is not in him. 5But he who keeps (treasures) His Word [who bears in mind His precepts,
who observes His message in its entirety], truly in him has the love of and for God been perfected (completed, reached maturity). By this we may perceive (know, recognize, and be sure) that we are in Him: 6 Whoever says he abides in Him ought [as a personal debt] to walk and conduct himself in the same way in which He walked and conducted Himself. [AB]