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Shadow Dialogue Information Sheet

How to support your partner Considerations During the practice ensure that you keep your partner in the body (include voice and sounds) ask them to fully embody the aspect. The more your partner is able to stay in the moment embodying, the deeper they will be able to enter into the aspect. Ensure that the aspect is speaking for himself or herself in 1st person. Ensure that your partner always stays in the moment, Encourage your partner to be fully embodied in awareness, feeling and body Make sure that you partner when embodying does not fall into 3rd person explanation. When your partner is embodying, I recommend that your partner work with eyes closed; this will help them in embodiment. To ensure safety, you will need to guide them from space to space. Do this by placing your hand on their shoulders. The process is Short 1) Help partner set up spaces 2) Partner explores image(s) 3) Partner embodies aspect(s) from image 4) Aspect(s) and self dialogue 5) Dialogue comes to a close and partner self reflects Long 1) Partner sets up Reflective space self space Aspect one space Aspect two space 2) Partner explores imagines 3) Partner moves into Aspect space one and embodies (speaking as the aspect) 4) Partner moves into self space and respond to Aspect one 5) Embodied dialogue with Aspect one and self 6) Partner moves into Aspect space two and embodies (speaking as the aspect) 7) Embodied dialogue with Aspect one/two and self 8) Bring dialogue to a close with Aspects and self each making an I statement. 9) Lead Partner back to Reflective space and debrief. 10) Ensure Partner is OK to close and thank them for their work. The Practice Invite your partner to set up four spaces 1. 2. 3. 4. A Reflective space A space for self A space for Aspect one A space for Aspect two

In Reflective space invite your partner to talk about their 2 images. You will need to support your partner by reminding them to not analyse but speak from the feeling mind. As your partner speak about their image(s), allow yourself to bring your full field awareness to them. You may notice an Aspect beginning to be embodied, if this happens. Invite your partner to take one of the Aspect positions, close their eyes and fully embody the Aspect. If not - invite your partner to allow one image Aspect to speak, invite them to take an Aspect space and fully embody the Aspect. When your partner is embodying I recommend that your partner work with eyes closed; this will help them in embodiment. You will need to ensure that you manage Health and Safety as you partner will have their eyes closed during the embodiment dialogue. You role now is to question Aspects and support the dialogue; you will be moving your partner in and out of spaces as each speaks.

You need to help your partner hold a dialogue with the two Aspects and self. At the end of the dialogue ensure that Aspects and self make an I statement, with the self, making the last I statement. Thank the Aspects and self for being present and explain that you now intend to invite (use your partners name) to reflect. Back in the Reflective space debrief you will need to help your partner stay in the witnessing position, bringing the three mind centre online, this will help them make any connecting or realisations. Moving between spaces. (Keeping the dialogue going) Say I think we might need to hear from (Aspect/self) can I ask (aspect/self) to speak. Once you have permission Move your partner into (aspect/self) and invite (aspect/self) to speak. Possible Questions Being Ask what the Aspect looks like Ask what the Aspect feels like Ask if they have a name Beingness What is your job? What do you do for the self What would it be like for the self if you were not around? How do you feel about the self? What do you hold or repress for the self How would you like the self to notice you? How were you created? Dialogue What would like to say to the self/other Aspect? How would like to respond to what you have heard

Closing Can you now create an I statement that defines who you are? Remember You job is to support your partner in their embodiment; to do this all you need to do is be in co-presence with you partner. All the rest will follow naturally. As the facilitator you are developing the skills of reciprocity and co-presence