Healing Through Relationships
By Stacey Mayo, MCC Center for Balanced Living, Inc.
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Life Transformation Tools & More Lesson 10: Healing Through Relationships
Lesson 10: Healing Through Relationships
In lesson 9. “I already know that and shut down”. I see it all the time with spouses. If we let what we hear on the news or from others determine our perspective. And that growth and healing can actually come very quickly with the tool I am going to teach you today. Usually it shows up in a bigger. Here’s a simple one. Whenever we go to a place of. Whenever we get triggered by someone they are acting like a mirror for us. anyone! When we get upset by what someone else does or says. Here is another example. http://www. I was listening to a recording in the car the other day. “I would never brag so much. . They can clearly see that the other one is being stubborn ☺ Or perhaps you are not having any luck getting a spouse or business colleague to do what you asked. we talked about creating a delicious perspective on life. They get in an argument and both take the position that they are right.” In this case.e. bosses. we are being victims. Today we are going to stop and look at what happens when we get triggered by others in our life. I could go on and on. significant others. bolder form in others so that we cannot miss the message. it is an opportunity for growth and healing. I found myself feeling irritated because the speaker was saying stuff I already knew and not covering what I was expecting from the lesson. There is something to clear. I found myself wanting to shut off the recording and not listen anymore. You see them as being disrespectful or irresponsible. Let’s look at some examples. 2) If you cannot find that energy or characteristic within yourself. It pisses you off. Generally. Inc. Continue to create a positive perspective on whatever is happening in your life and things will get better and better and better. This can be co-workers. I already knew that information. If someone shows up and is embodying an energy or characteristic that you find annoying or unpleasant. Ask yourself what is it about this person that bothers me? Then identify that energy within yourself. We are all connected and have the same energy within us.All Rights Reserved. it is a good sign we are in resistance to something. colleagues. . . Frustration and anger mounts. we actually need to embrace this characteristic in order to become
© 2008 Center for Balanced Living. they are showing us one of three things: 1) They may be showing us part of ourselves that we do not like. it is wrong and obnoxious. The speaker on the CD provided an opportunity for me to heal and grow.com Page 3
. then it may be that you have a strong judgment about it such that you would never want to be like that. the person in traffic or in line at the grocery store . friends.LifeTransformationTools. i. This is so important. Links to all previous lessons are at the end of this document.
Total Responsibility advocates that everything exists as a projection from inside the human being. it is with ourselves and to change our reality. It is also based on the principle that peace begins with me. We do not take it personally. http://www. Those memories may be ours or those of our ancestors. discussion. Ho'oponopono is a Hawaiian word defined in the Hawaiian Dictionary as "Mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right through prayer. So if we feel peaceful. but in this instance for example. confession. touch. and mutual restitution and forgiveness. Morrnah Simeona developed what she called an updated and streamlined version of ho'oponopono that is practiced by the individual alone and called Self I-Dentity Ho'oponopono. Her practice continues to be taught by her students in Hawaii. ho'oponopono is a Hawaiian healing process based on the principles of total responsibility. it is an opportunity for healing and personal growth. then everything one would see. I have excerpted part of the definition from Wikipedia. taking responsibility for everyone's actions. Today I am going to teach you a simple tool to use in this type of situation. that energy will also extend out to others. 3) We are aware of a specific energy or characteristic but have no reaction to it other than it is unpleasant and it does not belong here.LifeTransformationTools. According to Morrnah Simeona. To give you some history on it. We can understand it as we have been there before but no longer embody this energy. We do not need to embody it to the extent it is being shown to us.All Rights Reserved. Some practitioners believe it is an ancient Hawaiian practice." The term has been popularized as a form of family or personal therapy. people around us will feel it too.com Page 4
. Ho’oponopono You may have heard of Ho’oponopono. repentance. In the 1980s. . It is not necessary to consciously remember a memory to clear it. who recorded her experiences and observations from her childhood (born 1895) in her 1958 book Mary described it as a practice of extended family members meeting to try to "make right" broken family relations ("making right" is the literal translation of the Hawaiian term).Life Transformation Tools & More Lesson 10: Healing Through Relationships
whole. we might need to take on the ability to speak confidently about what we do and the successes we have had. hear.
© 2008 Center for Balanced Living. we would have to change ourselves. She taught if one would take complete responsibility for one's life. Inc. When you take on healing yourself. Each time a person shows up with an energy that bothers you. The problem isn't with our external reality. And our reaction to them comes from our memories. the earliest documentation of a practice called Ho'oponopono is from Mary Kawena Pukui. Ho’oponopono is based on the belief that we don’t see people how they actually are but we see our own reaction to them. or in any way experience is one's responsibility because it is in one's life. taste. To date.
Say it slowly and deliberately.
© 2008 Center for Balanced Living. Now notice where that place is in your body. Ask yourself the question. that bothers/triggers me?” “Are there times in my life that I have embodied that energy or done something like that – perhaps on a smaller scale”? For example if you are mad at someone who lied to you – ask yourself. thought or feeling. word. “what is it about this person or what this person did. Inc. “when have I lied?” If you are bothered by someone who is angry and you do not let yourself get that angry because you think it is wrong. That is not a healing energy. I chose to focus on relationships. Now you are ready to cleanse. do the eye scan and get centered in your body. For purposes of this lesson.Life Transformation Tools & More Lesson 10: Healing Through Relationships
In our life we are either coming from a place of inspiration or from memories. That doubt comes from memories. get in touch with that part of you that judges anger. . If you cannot sense it. Close your eyes and focus on the dot to the left and then the dot to the right. The two cannot exist simultaneously although we can have inspiration and then after that memories can still get triggered. Once you have found that part of you that is either similar or judgmental of that part in someone else. Important: Please do not do this with the intent to fix others.com Page 5
. Do this 5 or 6 times and then take a breath and fully relax. Just take a deep breath and notice where you feel it in your body. Imagine that it is in your body. http://www. For example let’s say you get inspired to take action and the next day find yourself doubting yourself. the inspiration is still there.All Rights Reserved. see if you can remember being negative about something similar at some point in your life. take a quiet moment to get in touch with the place where that part resides in your body. We can use ho’oponopono on anything. it is time for ho’oponopono. When you clear the memories. Say the following to yourself from an authentic place.LifeTransformationTools. So if you notice a reaction in yourself to another person. A Simple But Powerful Process Ho'oponopono practice involves communicating with the subconscious at the moment you observe a "reaction" by deed. that is okay. If you are bothered by someone who is negative about a situation and you cannot find that part in your now. If you still cannot sense it.
You may have thoughts or feelings or memories or just feel energy moving. Thank you. Or you may choose to cleanse for a while and then come back and cleanse more if it does not feel complete. She did and when she came back the following week. Keep repeating these sentences over and over. There may be emotion that comes up. she no longer felt any angst towards her sister. There may not. At some point. http://www. This is another good place to do some ho’oponopono. Real Life Example: Recently I was talking to a client who had been holding resentment towards her sister for a year because of an unresolved conversation. This may happen in just a few minutes or a few hours. Be in touch with yourself and keep repeating the sentences until you feel complete. When you look inside you may see a lack of self-worth that is keeping you from thinking you can have what they have.Life Transformation Tools & More Lesson 10: Healing Through Relationships
I love you. Suggestion: Do you ever find yourself jealous of other people? Perhaps people that are succeeding faster than you or have something you want. About a month later. You will know you are complete when your feel peaceful and that aspect of the person no longer triggers you. Please forgive me. I am sorry. Notice what you notice. The exact sequence is not important. Just notice what you notice.” Her assignment was to do ho’oponopono on this. She had barely spoken with her during that time and she didn’t want to feel this way anymore.
© 2008 Center for Balanced Living. Short and sweet but powerful. This is what is possible as a result of clearing with ho’oponopono. Inc. Clear that and watch what happens. . you may sigh or take a deep breath.LifeTransformationTools. That’s all there is to it. she picked up the phone and spontaneously called her sister and they talked for over an hour – just catching up.All Rights Reserved.com Page 6
. It will be different each time. We found that place in her that was similar to what her sister did – that part of her that was “selfish.
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4) Consider each time you get triggered by someone.com/watch?v=ac5SGwRPv0o
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1) Notice who bothers you and when 2) Get in touch with that part in yourself 3) Clear by repeating ho’oponopono to yourself until you are at peace and no longer triggered. more quick ways to raise your vibration.. Inc.
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