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Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem1

Robert D. Jones
Assistant Professor of Biblical Counseling Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, Wake Forest, NC

Anger… The Bible…

1. What Is Anger?
Anger is a _________-personed response arising from a negative _________ ______________ against perceived _______. An activity, not a thing, a force, or a fluid. Engages the whole person. A response to something. A moral judgment we make. Anger = judgmentalism Arises from our personal _______________ (accurate or inaccurate) of evil. Done before God, who sees and judges

2. Is Your Anger Right or Wrong, and How Do You Know?
Some anger, of course, is righteous anger 1) God’s anger (Deut. 32:41; Ps. 2:4-5; 7:11; Isa. 34:2; Rom. 1:18; John 3:36; etc.) 2) Jesus, the God-man’s anger (Mark 3:1-6; Mark 10:13-16; John 2:13-17)

3) Righteous human anger (Moses in Exodus 32:19-20; Saul in 1 Samuel 11:1-6; Jonathan in 1 Samuel 20:33-34; the Psalmist in Psalm 119)

Three marks to measure righteous human anger: 1) Righteous anger reacts against actual ______.

Condensed from Robert D. Jones, Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem (P & R, 2005) Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem

© 2007 Robert D. Jones

You quarrel and fight. to be quite honest. not on ____ and my kingdom. because you ask with wrong motives. How Do You Deal with Your Sinful Anger? A. You kill and covet. but you cannot have what you want. Eph. and concerns. (James 4:1-3) 1) James describes angry people (3:13-18. 4:22. Jones Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem . Beware of self-deception! (Jonah 4. and expresses itself in godly ways. you do not receive. 3) Righteous anger is accompanied by other ______ qualities. Prov. But. rights and concerns. 3:12-13) 3. Jer.11-12) 2) James addresses the _________ of anger (4:1) 3) James roots the cause in one’s sinful ___________ (4:1-3) © 2007 Robert D. When you ask. 4:1-2. 17:9. that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. Identify its cause within your heart Our culture offers many theories about the _________ of anger: Past mistreatment Present hardships and unmet "needs" Physiological factors Direct Satanic activity Unconscious psychodynamic drives God's diagnosis of the cause of sinful anger and conflict in James 4:1-3: What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it.2 2) Righteous anger focuses on God and God’s kingdom. most human anger – in the Bible and in our lives – is _________. 28:13. You do not have because you do not ask God. esp. rights. Heb.

‖ Journal of Biblical Counseling 24:2 (Spring 2006).3 How do you determine when a desire is sinful? When you desire a __________ object When you desire a good object _____ _______—inordinately–for selfish reasons (4:1-3) What did James’s readers want? What was the problem with their desires? The problem: Good desires  _____ _________ Paul David Tripp2 – How desires take control of your heart: Desire  Demand  Need  Expectation  Disappointment  Punishment ―I want‖ ―I must‖ ―I will‖ ―You should‖ ―You didn’t!‖ ―Because you didn’t. 17-23. Peacemaking for Families: A Biblical Guide to Managing Conflict in Your Home (Tyndale. Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands: People in Need of Change Helping People in Need of Change (CCEF Resources for Changing Lives. 102-109. © 2007 Robert D. 4 Robert D. Jones Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem . P & R. 2002). 42-46. (Baker. 2002). I will…. 2004).‖ Ken Sande3 – The progression of a heart idol: I desire  I demand  I judge  I punish Some criteria to assess if your desire has indeed become inordinate and mastering:  When it consumes you  When you sin to get it  When you sin if you don’t get it Throne Diagram4 A B C D E F G H I J K 2 Paul David Tripp. The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict . also Ken Sande with Tom Raabe. 3 Ken Sande. ―How Good Desires Go Bad. 3rd ed. Jones.

29:11. © 2007 Robert D. 22:24-25. 115-116. 25:28. and Peacemaking for Families. 30.. 18. you shouldn't pray to get parcels or for extra stew. Conclusion: Why Must You Deal with Your Sinful Anger? Ephesians 4:30-31 James 1:19-21 Ivan Denisovich. 29-30. I would be satisfied or content or joyful" B. 16:32. Luke 15:25-30.‖ chap. 15:1. ―X-ray Questions. We must pray about things of the spirit--that the Lord Jesus should remove the scum of anger from our hearts. Eph 4:29-32 Concealed anger: Leviticus 19:16-18. depressed. 19:11. 19. p. Based on God’s grace. 14:16-17. 7 in Seeing With New Eyes (P & R.30-5:2 Commit yourself to active. repent. 6 Alexander Solzhenitsyn’s character ―Alyosha. not for that. and David Powlison. 22. 20. Commands: Prov 12:18. concrete steps of ____________ your angry behavior with Forgiveness Self-control Godly speech Biblical peacemaking and problem-solving Christlike ministry. 154. Things that man puts a high price on are vile in the eyes of Our Lord. 2003). etc. Herod (Matt 2:118).‖ in his novel. change your various forms of revealed and concealed anger behavior: Revealed anger: Case Studies: Potiphar (Gen 39:19-20). Moses (Num 20:6-12). Matt 5:21-26. afraid. A Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich. Humble yourself. Jones Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem . complete the following statements: 5 "I must have ? to live a meaningful life" "What I think I need or desperately want is ? " "You must give me ? or I'll be angry at you or cold toward you" "If only ? would change. 1963. Ephesians 4:26-27. in conflict. and receive God’s ________ (4:4-12) C.4 When you are angry.6 5 See also the questions in the two Sande books above: The Peacemaker.

1989) Anon." 16:1 (Fall 1997). 40-53 #2: "Three Lies About Anger and the Transforming Truth. Series of articles on anger in the Journal of Biblical Counseling: #1: "Understanding Anger. David. Powlison. 1997) © 2007 Robert D. 21-23 Baxter. 2003) Jones.‖ Journal of Biblical Counseling. Soli Deo Gloria. Angry at God? Bring Him Your Doubts and Questions (CCEF RCL Ministry Booklet. Lou. 2000) Powlison.5 Recommended Resources on Anger Arthur. 1990). Robert D. Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem (P & R." 14:1 (Fall 1995). P & R. Jones Uprooting Anger: Biblical Help for a Common Problem . ―But I’m So Angry. David. A Christian Directory: Christian Ethics (reprint. 2005). 32-42 Priolo. Robert D." 14:2 (Winter 1996). Anger: Escaping the Maze. RCL Ministry Booklet (P & R. Heal My Hurts (Multnomah. ―Anger and God’s Grace: A Case Study. 12-21 #3: "Getting to the Heart of Conflict. 14:3 (Spring 1996).‖ chapter in Lord. Richard (1615-91). The Heart of Anger: Practical Help for the Prevention and Cure of Anger in Children (Calvary Press. 283-87 Jones. Kay.