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Many times the home is the place we “let go” so to speak.

We are careless with the way we act or with what we say, mainly because we are confident that we will be forgiven anyway. This is not a healthy situation. It is at home that we should practice the social amenities of living. In that way, we will not look awkward in public. It is of paramount importance that we should respect the privacy of each member of the family. An atmosphere of mutual respect, trust and love will emanate from this. Examples of respecting privacy include: knocking before entering the rooms, not opening the mail of others, not looking through another person’s belongings, not taking or “borrowing” articles without asking permission and not snooping or listening in to the conversation of other either over the telephone or when one is entertaining in the house. Where there is life, there should be love – especiallyfamily love. Love makes a house a home. Size, color and location have nothing to do with the spirit that dwells inside. A family and its manners are shaped by the quality of the spirit they share. A spirit based on lovemakes a happy home and always produces good manners. When a child feels loved, understanding and genuinely recognized, many of the problems of delinquency are avoided. Second in importance to love in a family iscommunication. Families need to talk to each other and they need to talk honestly. It is not always easy to be completely honest. Some things might seem embarrassing to us and we would rather not discuss them. It might seem easier, at times, to tell a “white lie” and avoid the truth. Honesty is always the best policy and the best manners, especially at home. Our manners and our character are shaped at home. Actually, there is no such thing as “a little white lie”. Little white lies grow into big black habits. We can be sure that if someone lies to us, they will lie about us. Lying is already a disease that is best healed in the beginning. Good manners are healthy. Honor Thy Parents Fathers and mothers deserve respect. They don’t need to qualify for it. They learned it when they gave us life. How do we honor our parents? We….. Ask for their advice Look at things from their perspective Try to please them Have a good attitude Show respect Thank them Compliment them

Obey them

Parents need our honor. They want to know they have our support, just as we want to know we have theirs. We often spend more time with our sisters and brothers than we do with anyone else. We also may have more problems with them than we have with others. Many of these problems can be avoided if we: Don’t tease Don’t be sarcastic Don’t tattle Show love Help one another Pick up for one another Don’t worry about “favorites” Don’t count chores Don’t mock Stick up for one another

Source: From my own personal opinion and experience with my family (parents, wife & children). Some except of this article were taken from this book which also serves as inspiration to me in writing this article: The Family Book of Manners – by Hermine Hartley Dating Manners Dating Tips for Teens Do teenagers still date today or just hang out? Read what we were taught in school about teens and dating. In the 1950's and early 1960's it was a lot different. If a young person wants to have a good time and be able rate a second date, you should practice Dating Manners. Making a Date There are 2 rules of etiquette for making a date. Let's use the story below for an example. Mark had decided to ask Sally to go with him to the ninthgrade dance which was to be held in the school gymnasium. When he telephoned her several days in advance, he was careful not to embarrass her by asking if she had any plans for that particular evening. Instead, he said, " Sally, will you go with me to the dance on Saturday night?" "My friend Bill is taking Kathy and we'll be going in his car."

he should call for her at her door. A boy and girl can have fun on a blind date if the arrangements have been made by friends who know both of them. and without giving a definite explanation." Together they should decide when to return after the date. If he comes in an automobile. Instead. an adult should always be somewhere in the house. Of course breaking dates should not become a habit. She simply thanked Sam and told him that Mark had already invited her to go. If you are a boy: Do make the date in advance. Double Dating makes an occasion more enjoyable because it gives each couple an opportunity to share their relationship with one another. She may say she has other plans for the evening. 2. If it is necessary. etc. . the girl might ask the boy to get in the car first. Do find out what time the girl must be home. the boy should reach over in front of the girl to open her door. helping her out. didn't embarrass Mark by hesitating while she figured out whether or not she wanted to go with him. The wishes of the parents in this manner must be respected. and make sure the agreement is kept. from the curb side. "Thank you Mark. If you cannot. and get to the dance on time. Do be ready when the boy arrives at your home. This would give him time enough to meet Sally's parents. Mark and Sally agreed that he would pick her up at her home at seven-thirty. Do make sure that you have money enough to carry out the plans for the date. If he has not met her parents. If the boy and girl are using a bus. does not mean that you have to disregard your own code of behavior. the boy gets off first so that he can assist her in getting off. she may invite him in and introduce him to them. " I told you so" give you satisfaction? If you are a good date you can answer "No" to all of these questions. You should be able to decide when to go along and when to use your own judgement as to your actions. chat with them a few minutes. Since Sally had accepted the invitation.Sally. in turn. Your date may be as glad to be invited into your home as your parents are to meet him. he should not blow the horn as a signal for her to join him. Don't be late in arriving at the girl's home Don't fail to show courtesy to the girl by helping her on with her coat. Do's and Don'ts of Dating A boy is expected to arrive at the girl's home at the time set for the date. she should still be courteous and give some reason for the refusal. Do introduce the boy to your parents Don't break a date without a good reason. this is ______. Being a Good Date -Do you insist on having your own way when other members of the group want to do something else? -Do you lose your temper when you can't have your own way? -Are you too critical of other people in the group? -Do you continually find fault with the arrangements for the parties the group plans? -Do you criticize when things go wrong? -Does saying. unless you phone them. In some communities today where traffic is heavy. and follows her to a seat. saying that she is sorry. as it may be. and then slide across the seat to get out after she does. he escorts the girl to the car and opens the door for her before getting in. When leaving. she did not change her mind the next day when Sam asked her to go to the dance. the boy helps the girl on. If the boy has the use of a car for the date. for a girl to break a date. Blind dates should be double dates. but she answered right away. he gets out while she is still seated and opens the door on her side. she should be honest and tell the boy the reason. Don't stay out later than you had agreed with your parents you would. discuss with them when they would like her to be home. because the decision of another person or the crowd is not always the best one. If a girl wishes to refuse a date." however. or whether she had anything to wear. Dating Manners 1. unless the bus is crowded. I'd love to go with you. When young people entertain one or more friends. She should present the boy to her parents." Mark thus followed two of the rules of dating etiquette in inviting Sally to the dance: First. "Mother and Dad. In leaving the car. he told her what the plans were for the date. In heavy traffic also. Don't make a practice of meeting a boy away from home for a date. If you are a girl: Do keep a date after you have made it. your "friendship quotient" is probably below average and needs some improvement. he called her far enough in advance. You may consider double dating for a first date. Being a "good date. second. It is not proper for a girl to invite a boy into the house for any length of time if a parent or another responsible adult is not at home. saying.

you may think you’re so valuable that others should overlook your little peccadilloes. What to Wear on a Date Because it is good manners to arrive on time for a party. his best suit. the girl makes her selection from the menu. school clothes are alright. Demonstrating poor manners on a first date is like answering your cell phone during a job interview.” Hutt says. “Then he let the check sit on the table for a good 10 minutes before saying. atherine Hutt. talking loudly. In leaving the theater. or displaying affection. Refrain from any sort of disturbance in the theater. the girl goes up the aisle ahead of the boy. fussing with their hair. For example teens living in the northern United States wear different clothes than teenagers living in the southern United States. Then the boy should step aside and allow the girl to enter the row first. Slacks. showing no interest in the other person — these are all good means of ensuring no second date. the girl follows the waiter to the table selected. Clothes for dates Clothes for dates will vary according to the activity planned. 7. For getting together after school. For any date. When he leaves. 9. or formal parties. After asking her what she has chosen. provided he asks her for it. Also consider the season and the part of the country you are living in. and scrapped up every morsel on his plate as if he was starving to death. sport shirts. what works in relationships remains surprisingly the same. When walking together on the street. For an informal dance or school party she could wear an afternoon dress or a short evening dress which is not extreme in style. held his fork in his fist like a toddler.D. or the two may go down the aisle together. the boy should lead the way. psychotherapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. 4. to whom the boy has indicated where they would like to sit. Girls too appreciate having boys appropriately dressed. “Although behaving badly seems to be a trend in movies and TV these days. Ph. When entering a restaurant. or the boy may select the table and precede the girl to it. a girl should be sure to be ready when the boy calls for her. she may invite him to come inside for awhile and possibly to have something to eat. of course. 5. split this down the middle. and a boy. Linking arms or walking with arms around each other is not considered in good taste. Boys and girls who are going to a movie at night or to an informal party will probably dress up a little. Tessina. This includes eating noisily. rude and irresponsible behavior is deadly to relationships. If there is no waiter. coughing with an uncovered mouth. and a tie are right for such occasions as church. When a girl wears a dress that is fitted too snugly or cut too low. have her hair combed. and have her make-up on. or combing it frequently in public. When ordering food in a restaurant. A dark suit. 8. This means that she will be dressed appropriately for the occasion. the boy's place is nearest to the curb. but that pile of quirks may be higher than you think — and impossible to ignore. Continuing to see someone who is . Neatness. cleanliness. If her parents are there and it is not too late. the boy may give both orders to the waiter. The girl may give her order directly to the waiter. and helps her to remove her wraps. A girl with two boys walks between them. she should dress up a little. A more formal party or dance gives a girl a chance to wear her best dress. was not having a nice time. Conspicuous dress should be avoided in public by both boys and girls. When walking together. Girls should avoid applying makeup. For a date to go to the movies. for example. he should escort her to the door and help her to open it. He should not take her arm either under ordinary conditions. Barking at waiters. don’t say that you will. soiled rumpled clothing shows carelessness in a boy's grooming. a communications consultant in Vienna. she accompanies him as far as the door and tells him that she has enjoyed the evening. white shirt. and sweaters or jackets are good selections for informal parties or movie dates. the girl follows the usher. “No matter how times change. If you don’t plan ‘I guess we can just to call. He then pulls out her chair. 6. it is correct for him either to walk between them or on the side nearest the curb. Clothing that is not appropriate or suited to the wearer or occasion is in poor taste. When finding seats in a movie. If there is no usher.’ It was our first and last date!” Saying that some people act as if they were raised in a barn is an insult to cows. but not too much. and simplicity are always in good taste. “I had a blind date last week with a guy who did not take off his ball cap in the restaurant. The waiter seats her. dining out. We’re not just talking about not knowing how to use a salad fork. she may embarrass the boy she is dating. When a boy takes a girl home after a date. Also see Table Manners 10. either the girl may lead the way and choose a table. but sometimes he places his hand on her elbow when crossing the street in traffic. seats her.3. When he is with two girls. VA.. a girl does not take a boy's arm unless she needs assistance. Keep your word.” says Tina B. wiping lips on the tablecloth.

look into means of correcting it. in bed — you get the idea. online. and your reputation enhanced. and climbing out the restroom window looks dicey. road rage. thank you and you’re welcome. your own transportation on a first Pedestrians with date. Don’t boast. Think About the Big Picture In the movie Blast from the Past. kleptomaniacal tendencies with the restaurant silverware — all of these could be signs of more ingrained issues. but make apologies and excuse yourself so your date doesn’t have to hear the conversation. you never want to correct anyone’s behavior. you don't have to stay. If you’d like to be treated like an adult. self-absorption. Etiquette works in supermarket checkout lines. people text in the car. If you’re expecting a business call you must take. it’s best to act like one. earplugs seem oblivious to everything. . As Fox says. If it’s just your friend calling to see how the date is going. and yes. Don’t make sarcastic comments that degrade anyone else. when on a date. Troy (played by Dave Foley). But also think about what the root problem might be. What do you do? “Depending on how bad the behavior is. at the dinner table. or narcissistic is simply asking for a relationship problem. too.” says Fox. even if you don’t expect to pay. If you don’t plan to call. But Fox understands that manners are not everything. it can wait. author of the invaluable Etiquette for Dummies. Assuming that’s not the case. See. The point being.” but by far the most votes — 45 percent — went to “Answering the phone or texting during the date. in the bathtub. thoughtless. Always use your best table manners.” My Date Is an Orangutan! Now What? Suppose your manners are just dandy but your date is an irredeemable slob. It’s too late to pretend you’re someone else. “If you experience something really disturbing. I didn’t know that. unless it's a very close friend or relation. at wedding receptions. “If their manners have ‘room for improvement. there is a good time to be connected via the latest technology and a first date is not it. Always have cash or a credit card with you. or the hospital to let you know your new kidney has arrived. you don’t want to correct anyone in front of others. here are some pointers on good dating manners for the hopelessly unmannered. If an unexpected (but important) call comes through — from your babysitter.rude.com polled 2. at family picnics. or for anyone who could use some refreshers. has heard it all: “One of the worst examples I’ve heard is that a person on a date was having dinner at a Chinese restaurant when her date begin to use his chopsticks to scratch his head — with the eating end of the chopsticks! Yipes! (Both ends are unacceptable!)” Fox reminds us that the most important manners are usually the simplest. Brendan Fraser’s character — sealed in a bomb shelter for 35 years — has been brought up with perfect table manners. Here are some of the biggies:             Be on time! Be thoughtful of the other person’s feelings.” If you’re concerned about your behavior.” We seem to be so addicted to our gizmos these days that we don’t even know when we’re letting them interfere with It is always a good idea to have the people around us. an inability to consider the feelings of others. ask questions of the other person. excuse yourself and take the call elsewhere so your date doesn’t appear to be getting snubbed right at the table. If you do correct someone. be discreet. I thought it was just a way of acting all superior. too. Impatience. “Etiquette is your key to surviving every human contact with your sense of humor and your self-esteem intact. Just watch for the red flags! Also. I asked him about that. Say please. at least you can’t blame it on your own carelessness. then sure — but warn your date ahead of time.” It is always a good idea to have your own transportation on a first date.” advises Fox. Never gossip or repeat a rumor. Don’t talk about how much something costs. “What’s the worst mistake a blind date can make?” “Showing up late” got a lot of votes. use your own judgment when deciding whether you should end the date early. “He said that good manners are just a way of showing other people we have respect for them. for example — you probably ought to answer it. When the call comes in. Don’t Forget the Basics Sue Fox.600 members to ask. Be a sincere listener. “You know. on the phone. they’re the ones that they tried to get in our heads as children. as did “Not asking me about myself. just nothing too personal. Create an Electronics-Free Zone Match.” With that in mind. basic etiquette should not be beyond your grasp. Keep your word.” says his newfound friend. company holiday parties. Even if the date doesn’t go particularly well.’ of course give them another chance. space and property. and if possible use some humor. don’t say that you will. Go out of your way to put your date at ease.

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