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Seorang wartawan (W) mewawancarai satu orang bernama "Kesuksesan" (S). Berikut a dalah perbicangan yang mereka lakukan.

W: "Kamu begitu dipuja-puja, dicintai dan dikejar banyak orang di dunia ini, tap i kenapa kamu begitu jual mahal?" S: "Saya memang harus jual mahal, kalau tidak semua orang tidak akan mengejarku lagi." W: "Lalu boleh tahu tidak kamu itu orangnya seperti apa?" S: "Intinya saya orangnya jual mahal dan tidak gampang mencintai seseorang." W: "Bisakah dijelaskan lebih detil?" S: "Di saat orang lain mengejarku, aku akan berlari menjauh, aku akan membuat me reka lelah, capek, frustrasi, putus asa, hilang semangat, dan bahkan menyerah. A ku akan mengerahkan pasukan terbaikku yaitu rintangan, tantangan, halangan, masa lah, cobaan dan kegagalan. Aku perintahkan mereka untuk menghadang siapa pun yan g berusaha mendapatkanku." W: "Anda sungguh jahat." S: "Tidak, saya tidak bermaksud seperti itu. Saya hanya ingin mereka belajar ses uatu." W: "Apa itu?" S: "Saya ingin mereka belajar menjadi lebih kuat ketika menghadapi pasukanku. Sa ya ingin agar ketika mereka berhasil mendapatkanku, mereka lebih menghargaiku, a gar mereka sadar betapa berharga dan berartinya diriku bagi hidup mereka. Memang saya jual mahal, tapi jika mereka bisa mendapatkanku, saya pasti akan membuat m ereka bahagia dan bangga. Saya hanya akan menjadi milik orang-orang yang bersung guh-sungguh, serius, berkomitmen dan berani melakukan apa pun untukku. Aku menci ntai orang-orang seperti itu." W: "Terima kasih atas wawancaranya."

1. Do Not Interfere In Others

Business Unless Asked:

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking mus t be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. G od has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God wi thin them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your p eace.

2. Forgive And Forget:

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings in side our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flouris hes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition: This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding fau lts in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sin cerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous: We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know tha t you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get pro motions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not a s successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are sev eral examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember e verybody s life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality . If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming o thers for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment: If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will f ail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and see m congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured: This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond o ur control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up wi th these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself an d you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew: This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more respons ibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worri

es? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation . This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Unclutter ed mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly: Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highe st state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earne stly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during th e remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce bet ter results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant: An empty mind is the devil s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively fo llow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you va lue more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work , may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment a nd achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God s name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret: Do not waste time in protracted wondering Should I or shouldn t I? Days, weeks, mon ths, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time a nd do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back a nd worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood ove r the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that wa y. Why cry over split milk?

A Lesson to Teach Her name was Mrs. Thompson. As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. But that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in hi s seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard. Mrs.Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play w

ell with the other children that his clothes were messy and that he constantly n eeded a bath. And Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs.Thomp son would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, maki ng bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers. At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child' s past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed hi s file, she was in for a surprise. Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around." His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by hi s classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and l ife at home must be a struggle." His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He trie s to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life wi ll soon affect him if some steps aren't taken." Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much in terest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class. " By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She f elt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beau tiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wra pped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracel et was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs.Thomps on, today you smelled just like my Mom used to," After the children left she cri ed for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, and writin g, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mi nd seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of smartest children in the class a nd, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets." A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon gradua te from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she wa s still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. B ut now his name was a little longer -- the letter was signed, Theodore F. Stodda rd, MD. The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson mig ht agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mo ther of the groom. Of course, Mrs.Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing . And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stodd ard whispered in Mrs.Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in m e. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could ma ke a difference." Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you hav e it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't really know how to teach until I met you." Please remember that wherever you go, and whatever you do, you will have the opp ortunity to touch and/or change a person's outlook. Please try to do it in a positive way: "Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remember ing how to fly."

Parable Of A Pencil The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box. "T here are 5 things you need to know", he told the pencil, "before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the b est pencil you can be." ONE: "You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself t o be held in Someone's hand." TWO: "You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll nee d it to become a better pencil." THREE: "You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make." FOUR: "The most important part of you will always be what's inside." AND FIVE: "On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write." The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpo se in its heart.

Now replacing the place of the pencil with you; always remember them and never f orget, and you will become the best person you can be.

The Perfect Boss There were about 70 scientists working on a very hectic project. All of them wer e really frustrated due to the pressure of work and the demands of their boss bu t everyone was loyal to him and did not think of quitting their job. One day, one scientist came to his boss and told him, "Sir, I have promised my c hildren that I will take them to the exhibition going on in our township so I wa nt to leave the office at 5:30 pm." His boss replied, "OK, You're permitted to leave the office early today." The Scientist started working. He continued his work after lunch. As usual, he g ot involved to such an extent that he looked at his watch only when he felt he w as close to completion. The time was 8.30 PM. Suddenly he remembered the promise he had made to his children. He looked for his boss but he was not there. Having told him in the morning hims elf, he closed everything and left for home. Deep within himself, he was feeling guilty for having disappointed his children. He reached home. The children were not there. His wife alone was sitting in the hall and reading magazines. The situation was explosive; any talk would boomerang on him. His wife asked him, "Would you like to have coffee or shall I straight away serve dinner if you are hungry?" The man replied, "If you would like to have coffee, I too will have but what abo ut the children?" Hi wife replied, "You don't know? Your boss came here at 5.15 PM and has taken t he children to the exhibition." What had really happened was ... The boss who granted him permission was observi ng him working seriously at 5.00 PM. He thought to himself, this person will not leave the work, but if he has promised his children they should enjoy the visit to exhibition. So he took the lead in taking them to exhibition. The boss does not have to do it every time. But once it is done, loyalty is esta blished. That is why all the scientists at Thumba continued to work under their boss even though the stress was tremendous. By the way, can you hazard a guess as to who the boss was?

God's Cup of Coffee A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit th eir old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about str

ess in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, cry stal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee. When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behi nd the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best fo r yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress." "Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink." "What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... And then you began eyeing each other's cups." "Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us." God brews the coffee, not the cups... Enjoy your coffee! "The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything." Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God.

Always Follow Your Dreams There were once 2 brothers who lived on the 80th level. On coming home one day, they realized to their dismay that the lifts were not working and that they have to climb the stairs home. After struggling to the heir bags and come back mbed on. When they have to grumble and both of ts of steps, quarreling 20th level, panting and tired, they decided to abandon t for them the next day. They left their bags then and cli struggled to the 40th level, the younger brother started them began to quarrel. They continued to climb the fligh all the way to the 60th floor.

They then realized that they have only 20 levels more to climb and decided to st op quarreling and continue climbing in peace. They silently climbed on and reach ed their home at long last. Each stood calmly before the door and waited for the other to open the door. And they realized that the key was in their bags which was left on the 20th floor. This story is reflecting on our life many of us live under the expectations of our parents, teachers and friends when young. We seldom get to do the things that w e really like and love and are under so much pressure and stress so that by the age of 20, we get tired and decided to dump this load.

Being free of the stress and pressure, we work enthusiastically and dream ambiti ous wishes. But by the time we reach 40 years old, we start to lose our vision a nd dreams. We began to feel unsatisfied and start to complain and criticize. We live life as a misery as we are never satisfied. Reaching 60, we realize that we have little left for complaining anymore, and we began to walk the final episod e in peace and calmness. We think that there is nothing left to disappoint us, only to realize that we co uld not rest in peace because we have an unfulfilled dream a dream we abandoned 6 0 years ago. So what is your dream? Follow your dreams, so that you will not live with regret s.

Do Not Hurt Yourself One night a snake while it was looking for food, entered a carpenter s workshop. The carpenter, who was a rather untidy man, had left several of his tools lying on the floor. One of them was a saw. As the snake went round and round the shop, he climbed over the saw, which gave him a little cut. At once, thinking that the saw was attacking him, he turned around and bit it so hard that his mouth started to bleed. This made him very angry. He attacked again and again until the saw was covered with blood and seemed to be dead. Dying from his own wounds, the snake decided to give one last hard bite then tur ned away. The next morning the carpenter was surprised to find a dead snake on h is doorstep. Lesson to Learn: Sometimes in trying to hurt others, we only hurt ourselves.

Boleh saja mengharapkan yang terbaik, tapi kita juga harus mempersiapkan diri me nghadapi kemungkinan terburuk. Sukses adalah mendapatkan yang diinginkan, bahagia adalah menginginkan apa yang didapatkan. Beranilah ambil resiko, di situlah terdapat pengalaman. Tidak ada guru yang lebi h hebat selain pengalaman. Booooooossssseeeeennnnnn...... Beeeeeeeteeeeeeee..... Boooooooorrrriiiiiiinnnggg g.... Orang yang paling berjiwa besar adalah orang yang sanggup menerima kenyataan dan kebenaran hidup meskipun pahit. Kesulitan dan masalah dalam hidup ini tidak lain adalah ujian untuk menentukan a pakah kita berhak mendapatkan yang terbaik dari Tuhan.

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