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The Truth about Obsessive Compulsive Disorders.2 Also by the same author.13 Link to download all the author's previous works.13 The Truth about Obsessive Compulsive Disorders Sam Fryman © 2006
The latest official statistic on mental health tells us that one in five British children are suffering from psychological problems, meaning ones that are judged to fall within the parameters of medical mental health care . That is, one in five of our children are deemed cases to be treated with psychiatric “therapy” or psychotropic drugs or a combination of the two. A recent UK TV documentary showed us the cases of two such children, both diagnosed as having “obsessive compulsive disorder” which we will henceforth – as is officially the practice – refer to as OCD. The first of these children was a very intelligent and sensitive looking fifteen year old adolescent named Jack, who looked like a more than averagely well-adjusted teenager at a quick glance, and in other circumstances and dress might have been taken for a member of a teen boy band. But on closer inspection we found he had all kinds of “obsessive-compulsive” behaviours, such as lining-up all his possessions in his room, and could not bear to let anyone touch his computer or other personal things lest they “contaminate” them somehow, or simply move them “out of position.” He even has some kind of special trolley to move things on which does not leave impressions in the carpet. What’s it all about? Is he crazy? The short answer is yes , he’s “crazy” all right, but not in the way that the doctors and therapists imagine. We will explain in due course. Predictably, as usual, a woman Ph D psychologist soon appeared on the scene to try to cure his problem, and indeed this documentary even claimed that she had done so successfully, though as usual we remain unconvinced, only seeing this edited and likely rather staged potted version of the progress of his therapy and subsequent life over the few months documented by the TV program. For example, let us point out a simple fact. We all tend to improve our behaviour in all kinds of ways when we are given a lot of support and attention and incentive to do so, just as a person who cannot
when the lifebelt or in this case psychological support mechanism temporarily provided by the therapist and the unusual circumstance of being made somewhat a “star” as the subject of a TV documentary is withdrawn. but based on the evidence of our eyes and an imagination and mind free from prejudice or convention. but then if or when the relationship breaks down. But thus we see that the illusion of success of these therapies is maintained. and another case . Once the ball is over. if indeed at all. Page 2 . and this lady therapist with them. The point we are making is the superficiality and non-genuineness and impermanence of therapies that are based on attention and support. that the cause is unknown . including The Feminist Offenders Register . both in the literal and metaphorical senses. it did not appear that the documentary covered this “post-therapy” phase adequately. just imagine a man who was a travelling dentist. Well. That is. is that these psychologists and experts freely admit. http://www. and believed he was a great dentist. that countless modern Western women are psychologically abusive of their children.com/abclit. if they have a rubber ring or lifebelt to stop them sinking. We observe this phenomenon in “love” relationships generally. Thus is the situation with the modern “travelling therapist” or “psychologist” . For the amazing thing about this modern knowledge about OCD. because he made new perfect teeth for his patients that remained gleaming for several days. and because they also feel loved. Many people feel optimistic and marvellous when they are “in love” with the object of their affections who is in love with them. and thus we remain unconvinced about the future of the subject after the cameras had gone. For we alleged in our previous works. However. and only a subject for speculation. butthe travelling dentist had by then moved onto another town. deeming the past one successfully cured.processtext. we may well find that our glittering coach has turned back into a pumpkin. we have all had this experience at least once. and the midnight chimes sound. and we too then fade psychologically when we are in the limelight of attention no more. Again. we will likely find that this illusion of “swimming” can turn back into drowning.html swim can convincingly appear to do so.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. which some of our readers may have found puzzling and indeed unlikely. But imagine further that these wonder-teeth fell out after a few more days or weeks . they “go to pieces.” Surely. This “love” empowers them. The experts involved in the making of this program however argued that the CBT that they were using – this so called Cognitive Behaviour Therapy – did not depend on such long-term and likely permanent support. even though it likely isn’t. whotravels in the sense of moving on to another case. and our white horses into white mice or even rats. if not over and over again. we are going to speculate some more here. Such a dentist would never know that his dentistry was so short-lived and thus ultimately fake. but sought to make the sufferer able to therapise themselves after the supervised period ended.
For instance. So any fool can see that a child who is treated by a parent in one of these two very different ways is Page 3 . That is. or demanding and controlling supervisors or teachers. at least it’s a step forward from ECT. But sadly they don’t probe any further than that. Jack indeed eventually agreed to allow her to do these things he found abhorrent.com/abclit. to which previously nobody was allowed to enter. this psychologist advised that this CBT – “cognitive behaviour therapy” – be used (well. We all seek freedom . Sounds like success doesn’t it? And no doubt the lady doctor went off chuffed with herself. That is. and others will keep their children on a very short leash . http://www.html So here we are going to expand upon and explain that allegation. No mention was made of this by the woman “doctor of psychology”. believing she had achieved “victory. Because what we really need to know is what this anxiety is all about. starting with our parents. Jack reluctantly agreed to this. And our theory is that these kind of obsessive behaviours are about feeling in control. and was shown at the end of the documentary to be even allowing friends in his room. and tried to argue that she could sit at his computer as long as she didn’t switch it on.processtext. what more precisely is the mental or psychological pattern that is hiding behind this omnibus “cover-all”.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. or how else could she truly “go on” it? So under the tactics of bullying and persuasion. naturally parents come in those varieties also. who rather was perceived by him at first in any case as a co-conspirator against him with his mother. and hence frequently “cop out” terms of anxiety or stress .” But let us look at the psychological dynamic of what was going on in Jack’s behaviours. Just as we have experienced easy going supervisors or teachers. she advised that his mother should go on his computer upstairs – something he normally forbade her absolutely from doing – while he did something else downstairs. criticism and commands and demands at them. But from the cradle to the grave our actions are controlled by a long line of others. But his mother insisted – no doubt prompted by the “therapist” – that she must switch it on. always ready to bark orders. by confronting him with his anxiety producing situations. Modern psychology freely admits that the compulsive behaviours are a result of anxiety . you know electro-convulsive-therapy ) in the form of trying to modify his behaviour. which in our opinion was the actuality of the case. this fifteen year old boy suffering from his “OCD” clearly had a problem with his mother. Some parents will let their children on a long leash and not harangue and constantly command and dominate them. and getting him to deal with his responses to that.
The fact is. http://www. love and respect.e. They will carry this state of anxiety. we will get a very different kind of response from the child. Jack forbids anyone to enter his bedroom. of its life. which of course they no longer realise. in the sense of disempowerment. is going to turn out insecure – admittedly yet another “omnibus” term. such a child will feel a lack of control over their environment. He has total control over his environment. So these obsessive compulsive behaviours are in fact. because she has likely had most of the care for it in its most formative years – i.” That child likely responds to such a suggestion from a gentle considerate parent. But if we have parent “B” who adds a lot of negative emotional content and bullying to their handling of Jack. easier to find things.processtext. That is. suppose parent “A” says to Jack occasionally. For example. though obviously sometimes can be a father also.html going to turn out very differently depending which kind of authority the parent is. she has already traumatised it – not even realising she has done so. Tidy that room up at once or else you’ll be for it”. or ever consciously meaning to do so in many if not most cases – and thus by its teens it is in a rebellious state. being always a puppet of this overmastering dominant person – typically a mother. whilst appearing to be out of control behaviours. but out of fear . which obviously is a throwback to some kind of punishment at the hands of his mother if he did not do things as she demanded. it is typically not due to what the father has done. the child that is the product of a parent who is bossy and dominating and so on. and looks nicer. That is the characteristic. But what we mean in this case. and barks orders and makes threats like “Look at your disgusting room. 0 to 7 years old. the traumatised. or bullying session or unfair imposition of rules and regulations or punishments. You are a dirty untidy boy.com/abclit. or perhaps even only once “You should keep your room tidy. but due to what the mother has done to the child. As we have said. Such a child will do things not out of cooperation. It’s safer for you. a means to control their environment. and is more pleasant to be in. He forbids any alteration of the objects. is that the child feels not in control of its environment. It is anxiously awaiting the next order. that when children rebel in their teens against their father. but may merely be shouting at. dominant. So as we have shown. That of course is not necessarily physical punishment. demanding influence of his mother early in his life. In short. roughly handled child feels little or no sense of control in its life. or lack Page 4 . we see in the epidemic of adult men seeking to be abused in such a way by professional sadomasochistic women the proof of men reliving their childhoods in this way. so it’s invariably a mother .Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. No sweets for you today. not being able to recall how their mothers treated them in early childhood. which covers a whole spectrum of situations. He must carry out his regime of behaviour perfectly or else he experiences anxiety. but mothers tend to be more dominant in the lives of young children. Clearly. and of course this again is a kind of mirror reflection back of this controlling.
Only his dog loved him. true and faithful to him. in the sense that it means anything to us. but Butch loves me. his dog was on the stairs.” And Jack said “Yes. And the mother said. Unloved. So those of us who were mostly loved can have little conception of how that must feel. he is using his strange behaviour to try and feel in control in what appears to him an out of control environment. or at least to be in doubt of such love. And yes.” And here is the exciting bit. But he shook his head frowning at that remark. to be unloved by one’s own mother. http://www.html of affection. So as we said.” (Jack was obviously very close to this dog). giving a definite no you don’t. That is. That was his belief. and she flatters and praises and maybe even sexually excites him a little – as this therapist was yet another adequately attractive.e. Jack said not one word. we would guess that a great many readers do know what that is like. he has this one little island of security that he is holding onto like a piece of driftwood that saves a drowning man – i. fashionably dressed and therefore potentially seductive woman – and then it looks like he is “cured. or disapproval. which is possibly even worse than physical punishment in its insecurity creating effect.com/abclit. When he was resisting the idea.” But she has missed the point. Page 5 . in terms of its uncertain feelings about him – we see that the therapist’s technique of dealing with his problem is almost like rape. was straightforward. enter the female therapist. stops him entering his private space – she wants to take away his last island of security and force him to face the anxiety of it. But it seems safe to assume that such routine experience will result in deep and abiding insecurity. and arguing with her.e.processtext. It is very hard if indeed not impossible for us as adults to try to imagine once again what it is like to be a helpless little child about two or three feet tall at the mercy of a big powerful five or six foot tall mother who is constantly displeased with and hostile to us. No doubt about it. his total control over the private space in his room and possessions like his computer – and she wants to take it away from him. but we love you too.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. she can make him do it. That was his inner core belief. And this was well illustrated by a small incident that happened between his mother and Jack when she and the therapist were trying to impose the new behaviour on him. especially when he knows he is the subject of a TV documentary. But on the other hand. She suggests his mother – you know. “Yes. the cause of his original trauma – invades his private space. and now we see into Jack’s world a little better – i. and his mother said “Butch (or Fido or whatever) knows what you are supposed to be doing.
So the act of washing ones hands once created a feeling of emotional security . but because the love in neither case will be genuine. as one was either given approval or avoided punishment or disapproval for carrying out this act. http://www. So both his mother and the therapist might fool his teenage mind for a while. I will get to feel alright . trying to escape from the tormenting thoughts of feeling unloved and valueless and not being able to understand why we are not accepted . the second case shown on this documentary was a rather disturbed eight year old boy. Where on earth is the explanation for this incredible statistic of 1 in 5 children suffering some kind of mental illness. that can no longer truly relieve the anxiety. The particular behaviour we adopt is quite likely accidental. and thus no doubt regarded favourably as cost effective – this false sense of security is not going to last. in the sense of seeing and understanding us for the person we really are . and eventually seek out and beg some woman or girlfriend who will accept him and take over where his mother left off. and allowing us to be that person .com/abclit.html And the result of this absence of a whole lotta love is clearly a whole lot of anxiety. but we hope can at least keep away the hostility. such as the well known fact that mothers are continually asking their male children to wash their hands before meals and so on.processtext. He claimed he had a voice inside his head which he named “Idiota” telling him to do certain self-destructive things. We start tapping on every railing that passes by. They think bossing around and traumatising a little child is just the normal thing to do. even though it actually has become something of a ritual. if he doesn’t get some real therapy. and thus to control his environment. And then when we are anxious. And for once. we start rapping our fingers on the table. Because just let’s stop and think. or else related to some particular incident. Page 6 . he will just go through awful teenage traumas. we wash our hands over and over. convince him they “love” him. of this growing awareness that she doesn’t care about us. and the therapist is not going to stick around – CBT is a short term therapy . even though most boys likely couldn’t care less if they eat with dirty hands or not. If we follow up Jack. is that Jack was using his OCD behaviours to feel secure. or on the other hand I will not be criticised. then likely he may give up some OCD behaviours like hand-washing and exchange them for drug abuse or whatever. such as we have done our best to offer in our various works. So as we were saying. the point that the lady doctor therapist has missed. to displace the feeling he wasn’t loved. Danny.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. it once relieved some anxiety. who had been trying to harm himself. But these mothers think they love their children. Some of us might start even playing tunes on our teeth with a ruler. So then we continue it. or as is more typical with the average male. or have them compulsively run through our heads to blot out the anxiety. as it never ever was in the case of his mother. we actually caught this mother barking orders at this little boy when he was misbehaving. The idea may well be if I do as I am told I will get approval. if it’s not that parents are getting it wrong ? For example.
which really should be a pre-requisite for anyone who would seek to imagine they are a true “psychologist”. and consequently has – unlike Page 7 . Do that or it’s early to bed. and moreover is able to put himself imaginatively into the mind of a child. but we feel that this “autism” diagnosis is far too frequent for that to always be the case). the answer may be congenital brain damage or malformation . we no longer perceive or understand the near total powerlessness of the child. a rather. who by constantly calling him “Idiota” had put this “demon” into his head? For interestingly enough this little boy had two sisters.html which confirmed our theory of prior systematic traumatisation. It tells us how much it loves us. and indeed a parent . It cannot go where it pleases or escape. and of course we want to believe it . Go upstairs now. That’s why he doesn’t need a Ph D in psychology. Do we suspect that perhaps it was his Latin mother (as far as we could see). big and powerful looking woman in comparison to this frail looking little child with glasses. Finish that meal (even if you hate it or aren’t actually hungry at that particular time). Sometimes after handing out all this trauma to us relentlessly it gives us a hug or a treat. Don’t do that or I’ll smack you. And our answer is clear – it is this programming that is in women to obsessively and compulsively dominate the male gender. The typical psychologist or therapist Ph D is him or herself traumatised. So let us speculate on where this “Idiota” voice in his head originated.” And so it goes on. or at least only in a small way. Do that or no dinner and early to bed. who had no such problems it appeared. but based upon observation of women interacting with children and male adults in real life. http://www. Tidy your room now. Stand up. anxiety then nothing will. hate. confusion. Imagine as adults we had to cope with constant barking of orders at us. They make traumatised “ Idiotas” out of their little boys by doing to them quite routinely what if the child were an adult we would describe as bullying or even brainwashing.com/abclit. we want to believe we are loved and accepted and approved despite the evidence of the rest of our lives to date at the hands of that person . But in some women it is very strong . modern psychology has just become a fumbling in the dark. Its every act can be and frequently is controlled by this huge and physically omnipotent female adult which dominates its life. “Sit. because sadly very few Ph Ds in psychology can equal this “feat”. Do that or no sweets. he or she who understands (at least to a good degree) the human mind.processtext. In the absence of such true empathy . As adults. But this abusive parent is a tricky and confusing being. a tinkering around with things that the tinkerer despite however many academic accolades and degrees doesn’t understand. It is not in every woman to do this. Your author is not talking out of his hat. If such a tyrant ruling over us as a child does not cause resentment. Eat up or you won’t be strong. Get dressed. Why is it that so many of these problems of dyslexia and OCD and “autism” and so on only seem to affect the boys ? ( weaccept in some cases. i. Get undressed.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. an escape into abstraction.e.
we can cure everybody. But of course. when he or she has never known sight…well. and thus they never realise that none of them knows what they are talking about. They should start by devoting their lives to every child they have from year 0 to 7. Well.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. he says. nothing will get better. just a somewhat unmasculine feminist puppet type of man. and so on. Idiota says destroy yourself. That is – negligent and abusive parents – mainly mothers – are the cause of this crisis of mental illness in the young. he or she writes books on eye-sight – this fascinating phenomenon about which he or she has heard so much. just how many near countless therapists are we going to need? It is of course ridiculous. let us wait and see.processtext. yes. Thus the near total lack of insight. and is likely to even deny what you tell him or her should you try. Lectures are given on it from one blind person to another. and sometimes the anxiety can get so great. Their efforts to truly understand children are like those of a blind man to describe sight. but not one of them can see .” But with 1 in 5 British children needing therapy. he said “Nothing works. quite regardless of adults. and “act normal” for a while. using the same relentless bullying and seducing tactics. So does your author have any alternative suggestions for curing OCDs ? Well. his mother and the this time male therapist (but really.com/abclit. our main point is prevention is better than cure. women as mothers realise how to care for their children properly . http://www. For in the midst of this “therapy”. and realise that is Page 8 .” He believed the situation was hopeless. of whom we have seen so many) eventually got him to put Idiota aside. Until as we have said. and a wrong. and numerous theories are formulated.html your author – lost touch with his or her own innocent and uncorrupted child self. their answer we suppose would be “Not enough therapists. inadequate. eight year old Daniel refused to talk. of course he or she does not know or understand what you are talking about. He is our fear of being stupid. “I have had enough. And when you try to tell a blind man or woman that he or she can’t see. Eight year old Daniel’s “Idiota” is inside all of us. And so then we ask – why don’t we have this perfect world now full of totally together and secure people? Well. if we can cure anxiety in an eight year old or fifteen year old as these therapists claim. and of which there is so much talk. But nevertheless. More trained therapists needed and more government funds. ” Idiota believes it is the only way out. firstly. he refused to try. fake and hopeless solution. For as we said elsewhere. So he is deemed cured .
or do they just put on a puzzled and apparently caring façade and hand out a few useless and fake hugs in public for show? Do they bark orders at their children. Why? Because overstressed. your author has met personally a good number of them over the decades. or therapist. But these modern mothers. don’t have it. See how relative frequency of appearance of this OCD stacks up. When in most cases. and disbelieve his theories about children’s mental world.html virtually impossible to do while holding down a job. and let us see how they respond. a most difficult and demanding mission to carry out. If it feels good. a tough thing. is getting a very good living and a lot of respect out of this situation. Does the word devotion mean nothing any more? To be devoted is a beautiful thing. gentle. do it. themselves mostly insecure and traumatised. and then when as inevitable they screw up. the motive is denial that they have screwed up. But before doing that just do some thorough statistical research please. or treat them gently and considerately? Put them – the mothers – in some anxiety producing situations. and that children need kind. And the psychiatrist. patient and so on. but is hiding behind the “politically correct” and comparatively shameless concept of “therapist” or “psychologist”. write the author off as an “Idiota”. they don’t know that it is required. understanding and devoted mothers to grow up balanced and without compulsions and obsessions in their lives and minds. http://www. Compare working mothers to devoted non-working ones. So what of the teenager or adult with OCD. Find out whether they are kind.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. Psychologically assess the mothers of all these OCD diagnosed children. security. and anger and impatience are absolutely the two best ways ever invented of destroying the mind. tired people get angry and impatient. no doubt at least a few of whom will sooner or later be reading these words? What have we got to say to them? Our advice is if you have got some OCD type behaviour – hand washing or whatever – don’t treat it as a problem.com/abclit.processtext. They really do. and end up having to drag their child to a what use to be more honestly called a psychiatrist . they are actually an ignorant and abusive mother’s saviour and best friend – certainly not a child’s. patient. So if you like. Devotion is the stuff that heroes and heroines are made of. as a crank. They even get to believe they are good citizens. as we have explained. or psychologist or whatever they want to call themselves. but it is also more often than not a very hard thing. confidence and mental health of a child. Page 9 .
That is why they are the problem and not we. Because we see as in the example of Jack even in the course of his therapy that they won’t give it to us. Be your own person. Let everybody else “but out” of your life – though don’t get violent about it. and an apparent “cure” of one behaviour will simply express itself in some other way. but we don’t think stupefaction is the answer.com/abclit. and neither do we think therapists are or their CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy).e. But if anxiety remains. we were not loved . just as some children commit suicide without the parent or anyone else ever being aware that there was “anything wrong. dehumanisation. But in either case we would say it’s time to read our earlier work How to Meditate . to become aware. That’s how we got our problem in the first place – yes. and reveal in ourselves immense hate for them. rather than denied. Your author cannot say how deep it goes in any particular case. And when we see that. possibly clandestine and unobserved by the patient or therapist. Page 10 . unearth.html Do whatever it takes to get you through the day and night. but rather to become understanding .Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. And that hurts. we likely can’t do our OCD behaviour when stupefied. it was them – and this awareness and confirmation that you are not the problem in itself should be greatly liberating for any OCD sufferer. they now seek to blame and medicalize and brand as mentally ill us for having the problem. then we are in a position to unravel our real problems. which translates psychologically as we were never permitted to be ourselves. as if they were right and we were wrong . but no one is going to criticise us any more if we do it or we don’t. the stealing of one’s identity. once we see we are caught in this behaviour in our own tiny little private world. The answer to this problem is not to control more . how can the OCD behaviour go? The anxiety will demand an outlet. well.processtext. Admittedly that’s unfortunate if one has an OCD of cutting oneself or other kind of self-harming. i. we may feel. http://www. There is depersonalization. If they give us a drug. Just demand rights to your own physical and mental space. i. There is immense pain and anxiety lying behind those behaviours.” So they might give us drugs. And that has to be acknowledged. but learn to not control. It is for the reader to find out for themselves.e. But because parents – usually our mother – cannot admit their failure .
let’s not consider that a defeat. we should make sure the crying is in private. as having problems – but rather these women are seeking to rescue their own sense of rightness . just as both the mothers of the two boys in the documentary made themselves appear to the cameras and therapists . fifteen year old Jack called his mother a bitch in resistance to his therapy. or no doubt if we think she is aware of our suffering. to back off and let it sort out its problems for itself. So that gave us a clue to what was really going on. which is reflected just in how we feel about her. but our advice is realise that . and thus we are already programmed to respond in the same pained and cowering or alternatively angry and defensive way. and telling her to give that child some space . which is to transfer the blame for the child’s problems onto the father. and confronting her with her errors. when it is the mother they should be taking to task.g. and then the boy child is furiously blaming his innocent likely well-intentioned father. It is better we cry in private rather than get angry and vengeful at her in a public way. One might even ask. So as we can now see that our mother is the either deliberate or simply ignorant architect of our problem. that will only make us hate her more. We need to be aware in particular of a standard manoeuvre that countless mothers make. and further humiliate the child. So then the naïve and unwise therapists play along with this game. and they have to extinguish this fear and ego-threat by having the child independently assessed as “faulty” and therefore not their fault. We have seen the puzzled what did I do? look on the faces of numerous fathers who have been tricked into “taking the rap” for the crimes of the mother in this way. So we may have to acknowledge we hate our parent. even though she is the wrong one. and compound its problems. and it is those true feelings which created the “behaviour problem” (really defence mechanism ) in the first place. they seek “treatment” for the child at all? The answer is that they are not truly caring for the child. Page 11 . will discover how easily a girl or woman can open up their old wounds in teenage years or adult life. as likely they dimly realise that the child’s current condition is their own creation. http://www.html e.processtext.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. This is because the girl or woman we meet starts using exactly the same abusive tactics that our mothers once did. but clearly that was only a denial of his obviously true feelings. demonise him to the child. with the kind of genuinely-intended-to-help advice we have offered here. not realising that most likely she was the original cause and therefore mother of his traumas and conflicts. which can often make us look wrong.com/abclit. yet is clever – as are so many women – at making herself look innocent and right and caring to the world . even if we can’t remember details. Boys and men who doubt this explanation. why if the mothers don’t care. If we cry due to realisation of what our own mother did to us. claiming she was lying to and manipulating him. one or other or both of them. Of course he was made to apologise. as taking a child to a therapist or psychiatrist is just about the most awful thing you could do to it anyway – branding it at such a young age as mentally unbalanced or ill . which he has been tricked into doing. but don’t hurt them because of it. don’t take revenge.
and then they take the money and honour and run. http://www. But as long as we stop denying it. and not put one’s faith in some therapist or whoever. They prod us into a little obedience and hope. though when they see and feel the truth of all this. It really is typically about them trying to rescue their sense of identity. But we can’t do that if we paper our true feelings over with some false claim that we love these people. We can be cured of any psychological disease. the very moment that we stop blaming and hating someone else. That won’t happen usually overnight. saints and prophets can do that. So they play at it. our parents don’t much matter any more. transferring the blame onto them. So that again is only self-destructive. as we have above explained. Nobody else really cares that much. as it does parents. he freely confesses. but mainly they are just on their own trip.processtext. including your author. our parents or whomever. if we therefore stop either suppressing or feeding it – which in many cases can amount to the same thing – sooner or later the hate will diminish and gradually wither and disappear. they may have to go for a while through the fires of hell. One can be a wreck or oddity or mad case quite deliberately . when typically they have done nothing whatsoever to deserve it. but our guess is that for many people. and then we blame them instead. unless it is a problem for them. We must feel our hate for what they did to us. We can’t make any promises or guarantees to any reader. A few might. Page 12 . just to punish one’s parents in the eyes of the rest of the world. no therapist in their right mind would truly want to take on the suffering of others. or almost so as in the case of fifteen year old Jack. Only Gods. trying to assure themselves they are good caring people by “therapising” us.Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter. We have to stop blaming the rest of the world for our problems – which principally in the final analysis means our parents.com/abclit. and we have to take full responsibility for it. and let it go.html And we must see – as with “behavioural or psychological problems” generally speaking – that this is a problem the “sufferer” has to cure for themselves . So that’s why we have got to stop blaming anyone. One has to see that now we are an adult. It’s our life now. Or else we play the game of finding a partner who becomes a parent substitute. Therapists don’t generally truly care. For after all. and we are just using them as a punch bag to take out our frustrations upon. the cool refreshing fountains of heavenly peace always await us on the other side. to ensure they will be shamed by us. and not ours. and reflects negatively on them. They go off to “cure ” someoneelse. and lying to ourselves and they. the rest of us it would crush . For that too is a possible strategy some of us may unfortunately resort to. So let’s stop imagining anyone else can cure us.
http://www. and confirms to them that we are the wrong ones and they are right. Also by the same author A Mens Liberation Guide to Women 4th edition An Innocent Woman’s Guide to Men How to Meditate Kundalini . We cannot pretend to “forgive” our abusers. We have to see this response was an error.html Then we won’t feel such an urge to keep scrubbing ourselves clean any more. We can say “I forgive you”. We started out as little children innocent and clean. or straightening all the picture frames or arranging cups in exact rows or whatever. which we cannot do in an instant because it is now a habit . Only as this anger and hate subsides. but it is not that easy to actually do so . Of course what we have written here applies to all those who have any kind of emotional turmoil in them to a significant degree. and is therefore of application to far more people than would be medically categorised as having OCDs . the adult abusers. and in fact is therefore to some degree applicable to all of us. or “I love you”.processtext. regardless of what we have said. Once we get to this level of awareness and acceptance of our own true natures and those of others. because until then we will be obliged to serve the “Idiota” within telling us to be crazy. we developed anger . become objective to it . rebellion as strategies to combat the abuse. That’s why now. above it . we will know when that moment comes. to destroy ourselves. including these so-called OCDs .Generated by ABC Amber LIT Converter.com/abclit. as we have explained in our work How to Meditate in great detail. or rapping on the table top.A Personal Experience Page 13 . will we become truly free of these OCD type behaviours. we will gradually become free of all distressing psychological behaviour patterns. which actually hurts nobody but ourselves.Preventing the Apocalypse A Mens and Womens Liberation Update The Myth of the Teenage Rebellion What Is Intelligence? Kundalini . an ingrained behaviour pattern in our brains. including perhaps even still our own parents or mother can still “push our buttons” and we respond in the same angry. and then not knowing how to react to the abuse of us we internalized the problem. and we have to gradually let go of it. The minute we no longer hate or blame anyone. Our subsequent feelings and behaviour shows that we still distrust and hate them. rebellious way.
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