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This is how it started. In the early 1980’s, my friend Hallett, my brother Pelo-head and I were having dinner at the Oyster Bar at the Plaza Hotel. There was a beautiful dark haired woman about 29 years old obviously quite wealthy sitting alone at the bar, real hot. From our table, we noticed several different guys approach her. The first guy, no shit was telling her that he owned half of the Empire State building. He was quickly and rudely shot down by this woman. The second guy approached her, sat down and began to tell her that he was on the Board of Directors of like 12 different companies. FYI so you know under mo conditions with a woman be a seller- always be the buyer, We were now sitting and laughing. I said “watch me go up and break her balls” with my I don’t care what happens attitude. NOTE: with women or business deals if you are if you care too much about losing it –you will appear weak a probably will loose it. My first thought was to sit down next to her and tell her I owned the other half of the Empire State Building. I walked up and sat down next to her and she said “So, what is your story?” Just trying to break her balls a bit, I said…. “I’m a
gigolo and if you want to hear my story you’re going to have to pay” and then I turned away from her. Moments later she poked me with her finger and said how much do I have to pay? I said $2,200 cash, not negotiable. The reason I picked that number was because American Express was calling me non stop about an overdue bill and I figured that would cover it, but at that time I was still just being funny, I didn’t expect her to take me seriously. But she replied “Hi, my name is Tanya. Do you take personal checks?” Now I thought she was breaking my balls and I said sure. Then she asked if making it out to cash would be OK and I said that would be fine. TIP # 1 - CONTROL She was asking for permission already. That’s when I knew I had her. Never forget this. Clients pay you to be in charge for the night or number of hours you‘re together. Once you’ve accepted the payment, the last thing she wants to do is be in charge and make decisions. All decisions have to be fun, but remember, you can’t be bossy or demanding. After spending a wild night with her at the Plaza Hotel which I would have gladly paid for myself, but fortunately worked out the other way around, I left with her check. And with her
of course, I left my phone number.
Here is an important note about giving out your phone number, maybe at the time she thinks you’re a dolt, moron, jerky- what ever: But there will comes a time soon she will have a broken heart, bad day, lack of self esteem booty call, some dumb crisis and she will call, nine out of ten times. Not bad for a loose nothing proposition. When I came back to my house, Hallett and my brother who both lived in separate first floor apartments of my house came to my place for lunch. I told them the story and showed them the check. I was about ready to trash the check thinking it was a joke when Hallett suggested we go to her bank and see if we could cash it. And that’s exactly what we did. No one was more amazed than me that the check was actually good! I still assumed I would get a phone call from this woman screaming why the hell did you cash that check? With considerable insults since I believed that this had to be some sort of a joke. Well, four days later she did call me. However, instead of insults, she invited me to another hotel that she was staying at in the city. I later found out she frequented the city because she
200. The following day. offered to teach me the tricks of the trade. So I sat down at a table. this looks like it could really be something good. I got a phone call from a woman named Barbara. I got paid $2. One woman complained to the management and I was told to please sit down and not bother anyone anymore. the blonde. ordered my usual coke…no ice. dropped her key and walked out. Tips which would become invaluable. you know what I did.was a model from Brazil. Tips that I am going to teach you now. She was actually a very pretty blonde and needless to say. Again. and of course left her my number. So I went back to the Oyster Bar and tried this rap on 5 or 6 different women. walked by my table. I was insulted and told off. when one of the women that I hit on earlier and had rudely dismissed me. Barbara wanted me to spend the night with her and in exchange. 4 . Right then and there I decided to carve a career out of this. She said she was recommended by Lisa.200 cash. spent the night. But how? I only had one client. and she supplies guys like me to high class women for money. came in and she handed me $2. I went up to the door. So I said to myself.
TIP # 2 . have a series of funny stories or experiences to share to keep 5 . You cannot impose in their life or ask them what they are doing or where they are going. special and unique. Karate chop a pencil in half…. To make this possible you can not call or annoy them even to tell them how much you like them. she will never be bothered with bullshit relationship talk.ENTERTAINMENT A gigolo must be their greatest source of entertainment.anything to lighten the mood and make them laugh. It brings out the freedom and kid in everyone. she will never be criticized. And this is what they are paying for and why. They are paying for freedom and enjoyment with no strings attached.Barbara taught me all about exactly what these women wanted and what they would pay for. Always allow them to initiate contact with you and they will call. Do a Frankenstein walk. And. will always feel appreciated. Being with you will build their self-esteem. but not demand more of their time. For whatever time you spend with her. If you are not naturally an entertaining type of guy. FUN AND LAUGHTER Do silly things. You must literally enjoy their company.
.everything light. doing their hair. and much. in gyms. Women.FEELING PROTECTED AND SAFE It’s always about feeling safe for women….all women!!! Not just your clients. clothes. Women need to feel secure and they need it more than most men realize and certainly much more than they care to admit. happy. she’ll feel less inhibited and more comfortable being silly herself. Imagine…. act right. Because she’s paying for your time and by virtue of paying for that 6 . does not have to lie. Why? Because they are so insecure. TIP # 3 . deceive. their actions. say the right things and are always are perceived in the best light. nails. So you can always be your silly crazy self since you are not trying to angle for a second date.. the way people perceive them. and I mean all of them are insecure about their looks. Look around and where do you find women? They are always on the latest diet. much more. cheat.what is it worth to be appreciated just the way you are? A gigolo is there to make a woman happy. They are paying you to create a “safe” environment where they always look great. And if you’re being silly. the list is endless and so is the need to constantly improve themselves. and entertaining.
She can be freely uninhibited and even risk being that bad girl she’s always wanted to be when she is safe with you.never switch midstream. do anything or be any way she’s ever wanted to be without fear of judgment or criticism. Is it because you are so cool? No. You will look weak.. I strongly recommend that you stay on message…. It’s the fact that you never judge her. is it romance? Obviously not. indecisive and ruin any future possibility. just move on . In other words. and the only reason you can be in business and they will happily pay your fee. It is a priceless gift to them. A gigolo must keep his emotions out of the picture because the minute his emotions get in the way it interferes with her freedom. If you strike out. She must be able to be exactly who she is at any given time. 7 .time she can be as crazy as she’d like without ever holding you accountable. HOW TO GET YOUR FIRST CLIENT I can’t stress this enough! Many of the techniques in this book will work equally as well with girls you’d like to date or simply pick-up as well as prospective clients for your gigolo business.either you are looking for a client or you are looking for a date. she is paying for the most important thing on the price list…is it sex.
You can’t go to your “local” bar or your “local” anything to find clients. I started at the Plaza Hotel. As you know. at least not as a general rule. not against you. personal shopper. High end night clubs work. Therefore. they are not interested in emotional complications or hassles. there are numerous places to meet these women. They will pay top dollar for the best pilates instructor. gigolo. That would be like looking for a needle in a haystack. You have to go where these kind of women hang out so the odds are working for. as do wealthy communities. Wealthy people spend a fortune on services. You just need to put 8 .SERVICE WITH A SMILE These women are used to buying services. Remember. if you are going to provide these services. Whether the suburbs or a major city. And. TIP # 4 . psychic. A very high class. expensive NYC Hotel. You may have to do a little research to know where the classy. You’re not going to find them at your local bar or bowling alley. that is what you will be providing . Well. you must go where these women live and hang out. They probably already have that in their lives now. or yes. personal trainer. masseuse.another service. wealthy women you seek are in your area.
He would give any woman the impression that he was an emotional wreck simply by his stride or walk. So when you walk anywhere you are going to be judged within seconds by the way you carry yourself. as well as the personality you project will determine how successful you will be not only in this business. is the day 9 . Take my brother Pelo-Head for example…he had terrible posture. talk. women will be able to afford your services. How you walk. WALK THE WALK You’ve all heard the expression Walk the walk and probably never knew what it meant. Posture in general is the first and maybe your only chance to make a dynamic impression. dress.yourself in a place where most importantly. a woman decides whether she is going to sleep with a man within the first 10 15 seconds of meeting him. TIP # 5 .PERSONAL HYGIENE AND YOUR IMAGE The day you decide to build a gigolo business. Well. I’ll tell you what “walk the walk” means. but in your life. He walked as though the weight of the world was on his shoulders. Old saying but quite true.
TIMING IS EVERYTHING We’ve all heard the expression “being in the right place at the right time.” In this business. no strong offensive colognes. So personal hygiene and grooming is essential. must always “Walk the Walk” as we have just discussed. TIP # 6 . What is not essential is cosmetic surgery. but definitely wear a mild classy cologne because scent is one of the 5 senses and you want to activate all 5. But. male hair removal. It must be obvious and care about yourself before she’ll ever consider caring about you. although I personally recommend it because it’s a good place to meet clients. Only when you take care of yourself. You are your own advertisement and therefore.that you better start looking and dressing the part. once you find the right place that works for you. And please. or even going to the gym. emotionally. it’s not essential. or sexually who care not take care of himself. will women consider paying for you to take care of them. You can’t dress to kill once in a blue moon and walk around like a slob most of the time and expect to be successful in this business. it will always be the right time 10 . No woman will ever take care of a guy financially. What is essential is being comfortable in your own skin. Caring enough to pay for you.
You don’t have to.it makes them feel good about paying you and less like it’s an official transaction. TIP # 7 . her ex-husband gives her a bad day. project a good mood and attitude. that she understands that in addition to your flat fee. she will call. She is a client. Why? Because next time her boyfriend acts like an idiot. It is important from the get go. this is not a date. Tell them your price up front. she pays for everything while you are together. When you’re accepting payment always seem enthusiastic like a little kid who got a new toy…. Food.. She has money and the odds are very good that she has more than you. KIM 11 . and don’t ever pressure a sale. That is the biggest key to getting customers. Your mindset: You’re worth it and she is going to enjoy it. Frankly. Don’t be afraid to give women your first and last real name and phone number. Remember. theatre. Always smile.because most of your business will be future engagements. It actually makes it easier to get paid. etc.MONEY (YOURS OR HERS) Don’t try to impress her with money or any of your other possessions. or she’s having a horribly lonely night. it’s even a good idea to let her know that she has more than you. hotel. and call you again. pay for it.
Here’s an example of how I picked up another client. I was in one of those upscale strip clubs.” I just laughed it off.” This line is a great opener if your name is Gary other wise use your name. It’s not as hard or even as intimidating as you might think. which by the way is a very good place to find clients and this really sexy model walked in. Then she explained to me that she came there because she was a model and to see if she could learn any new poses here. She said Hi I’m Kim. My usual introduction…“Hi. but when you first start out. but she wasn’t learning shit. So I was making light conversation with her because I was curious about why she was there. and she was curious about me because I wasn’t taking any table dances. you will not have that luxury. I figured what the hell. She said “Oh. She sat down and started watching the girls. I’ll go over and start talking to her. Read on and see for yourself. She asked “what the hell I was doing in there“ and I told her that I was a gigolo and that a lot of these strippers pay me to spend time with them. 12 . how ya doing? I’m Gary. you’re full of shit. The majority of my clients over the years came by referral (as will yours).
“Keep annoying me.” Well. you get a free foot massage on the house. and then I checkmated her and she lost the game. we went back to her apartment after a great sushi dinner.” I said “Oh yeah? If you win. I took the chess game from the table to the floor to make sure her shoes came off. but stayed with the chess game and away from being overtly sexual. She said.We kept joking back and forth.” She said I just started playing chess. So I hit her with one of my “all time” famous lines. I was beating her badly in chess and I said to her do you want to concede this game and she said “hell no. we did play chess. will you come back to my apartment and play chess with me? I told her chess is all you’re going to get and that will cost you one sushi dinner.” I let her try to make a come back a bit. No foot massage for you. 13 . and she kept needling me about the fact that she couldn’t believe anyone would pay to spend time with me (which by the way. I’m going to win. and I’ll fuck your lights out and break your heart. Then I used a mind game. and that’s something that you should keep a vague mystery). During the chess game I was using every seductive tactic you could imagine. “Deal. yes. people will question.
I told her if you’re interested in anything further here’s my card. I got back to her house in Manhattan and when I got back to the building. I had laid some pretty good groundwork. call me. he knew who she was and called upstairs. and I didn’t have her phone number with me. she had left me a tape message saying please come back. Again. I get $2200 a night or per session which is roughly 8-12 hours. So I called her. very pretty and fortunately. she said please come back. I went upstairs. I told the doorman “she’s got a 3 floor apartment. When you get this message please call me. she opened the door and just started making out with me. OK chess was done. She handed me $2200. When I got home. This is what I call the preliminary work. less the cost of the sushi dinner with the receipt paper clipped to one of the bills. “Within three minutes after you 14 . All right. We spent a great night together and I made sure to throw in a lot of hugs and caressing moves. Pre-cell phone days. I realized I had no clue what her last name was. I beat her and laid the groundwork for the next meeting. tall.Whereas most men would have let her win so they could have physical contact with her. I told her OK very happily. The next morning. I just took a shot and asked “when did you decide to retain me. Apparently.” And she said.
TIP #20 ACTIVITY LIST OK. patience and baby steps (one small move at a time) is your best bet. you cannot be a good gigolo. is because until I walked out the door. Remember. we discussed that you should decide whether you are picking up a “client” or a “date“.walked out the door. she probably thought I was going to break down and she could seduce and have me anyway. Without exceptional self control. Earlier. And the worst image you can project is one of a guy who has no self control. never switch midstream. Earlier we mentioned dancing. To appear too anxious is always a turn off. You have to feel each situation out. Sometimes. Here is a perfect example of how lack of patience. it’s impossible for anyone to be an expert or an authority on every subject or sport under the sun.” And the reason this is true. I just knew I had to sleep with you. I have just given you a real example of a client relationship of mine that developed over a game of 15 . self control and switching would have lost you a client. and once decided. Going for the kill right away is not always the right approach. making a woman feel safe and protected (also discussed earlier) is a top priority.
the knowledge you have about current events as well as trivia. Information is so readily available now. start an activity list of things you’d like to do. read about. Cruise the internet and educate yourself a little about a lot of different things. What they’d enjoy doing with men. you should keep abreast of things happening in the news. Start with members of your family if you don’t have many female friends. To do so will make you a more interesting person. that there’s no excuse not to widen your scope. Therefore. Watch the history channel. your local community and national trends. even if you don’t pursue this business. etc. your humor. the discovery channel.MISCONCEPTIONS When starting your business. start reading the classics. learn. Talk to women that you know. The wider your scope. 16 . TIP # 8 . activities you enjoy. So. Many women will be relieved that your not some relationship jerk coming on to them who’s going to try bring this “relationship” to the next level. Ask them what they enjoy doing. the easier developing your business will be. Consider taking classes in things that interest you.chess. rent movies. Use this as an opportunity to grow as an individual and you will be a happier person enjoying a much more fulfilling life. don’t worry about telling a woman that you are a gigolo.
She may be a future client or recommend you to others. Most of these women are wealthy and have good looks. THAT FIRST PHONE CALL . Recommendations and referrals will come.Others will be intrigued at this unique profession (whether or not they are interested in or can afford your services) and probably find you fascinating. most of your business will come from other clients. A high end gigolo attracts a clientele that usually is the cream of the crop in reality. Is she nervous? Does she have certain expectations? Who referred her to you. Never get angry or leave a bad taste in her mouth. In fact. you must pay close attention to not only what she says. You are supposed to take charge. after you get started.WHAT DO YOU DO NOW? When you talk to your prospective client the first time on the phone. It is a misconception that clients who pay for gigolo services are losers. In fact. move on pleasantly. but how she says it. many are or have been models. so any clues she gives you about what she expects will help you satisfy her expectations and 17 . If she is not interested.
Even if she’s done this before. You do this by taking control of the conversation. so she’s going to be nervous. tennis. outdoors. Give her choices of where to go or what to do. In most cases. What you must immediately do is re-direct the nervousness into what is called nervous laughter. the prospective client will be more nervous than you could ever expect to be. A prostitute 18 . you’re new. just things that will distract and lighten things up. think of the funny things that have happened to you or others that you know…things she can relate to. You’ve got to be funny. TIP # 9 . If you’re not funny by nature. and require physical activity like horseback riding. not a prostitute.be successful. You have to put her in your hands so to speak. anything that gets her adrenaline going because that stimulates feelings similar to those of sexual attraction and that will create the magnetism to get things off to a great start. don’t ask her what she wants.PROSTITUTE OR GIGOLO? You are learning to be a gigolo. going to the gym. Now you must immediately take control of the phone call. nothing sexual or invasive. For example. Suggest places that are non threatening.
It’s about fun. so you might have to get a little creative. But not every curvaceous prospective client will sense these sparks. SEXUAL CHEMISTRY Sexual chemistry is that powerful and deciding factor surrounded by an aura of mystery. It’s your job to cultivate those subtle sparks and fan them to a roaring flame in record time. gambling and all those other things women become addicted to. You will always be a comfort. It’s not about orgasms. It’s about giving her freedom to be herself. It’s just a piece of the whole package. Believe me women become addicted to gigolos. and willing to listen. While a gigolo in fact usually does have sex with his clients that is often not the thing that these women are really longing for. just like narcotics. They will become hooked on you too . check. Your past conquests might have given you security and confidence. but you never commit to anything more than taking cash. interested. pay pal or credit cards for the time you agree to spend with them. loving. You will never disappoint them because you promise them nothing.why? I'll tell you why. Because you will always be there. play stations.is a “stud” hired for sex. 19 .
is she having fun. mutual personality-based rapport. It is not about you or your 20 . It means that you have more tools at your disposal to get and keep the attention of the lady you have in mind. even if chemistry isn’t immediately evident. it’s all about your client. not every client is going to turn you on either. mutual romantic attraction between two people which results from a mixture of physical attraction and natural. Let’s say you have a particular prospective client in mind. is “a natural.” Simply put.” Fortunately. let’s face it. And if you are going to be a successful gigolo. The scientific definition of sexual chemistry. and is she happy.even if she’s not “feeling it. It’s time to roll up your sleeves and create sexual tension. it is extremely important to remember that no matter where you are. but she isn’t responding with the requisite level of interest. but it’s going to be your job to make sure that she desires you regardless. what you are doing. most women if asked will admit that attraction for them includes more than physical attraction alone and that will give you an edge. Unlike traditional relationships.but even the best can’t guarantee chemistry every time. you need to adapt to her personality and make a few moves that point toward physical attraction -. is she comfortable.
You would like your water glass to have water in it throughout your meal. It’s not a personal thing. Being attentive and receptive to her needs is more attractive than staying one step ahead of her all the time. it’s just the nature of the client relationship. It’s sort of like being in a restaurant. You are there to fulfill her needs. pleasing her by no means. means fawning all over her. there is a mutual give and take (or should be) between partners that you probably will not find with your clients. that can even be annoying. not the other way around. But that shouldn’t stop you. In fact. And. that you are getting paid to please her. It is what she is paying you to do and unless pleasing you is a real need of hers. TIP # 10 .needs. yet you don’t really want a waiter filling your glass each time you take a sip. it is not going to be a priority or on the top of her list….ALWAYS Always return phone calls Always make sure you get paid 21 .in fact it may not be on the list at all. Just remember. In traditional relationships.
Physical touch releases serotonin a chemical in the brain. Most women are starved to be held. but touch…don’t grab. Don’t know how? Learn how to do it right by getting a few of them yourself. but don’t pour it on so thick that it looks phony. Remember. Most women need to be heard. Throw the romance on. build.Always be enthusiastic and express interest Always smile Always come from a position of strength Always look and act your best. Prospective clients can be anywhere. I consider 22 . Wash her hair in the shower. Let her talk. TIP # 12 . Give her a back massage. She will appreciate the small extra things you think of and do for her but only if she thinks that you care.GOING THE EXTRA MILE You’ve got to go the extra mile. be loving. Always go the extra mile. the time she spends with you must always be carefree for her. comforting. willing to listen.FREEBIES In order for you to be there. you must be available to your clients. Don’t demean. TIP # 11 .
reminding her will only serve to personal information is OK) Never risk your reputation to win. Always be happy to take her call and be prepared to spend time on the phone because you have to be her bridge over troubled water. Always keep a misting bottle next to your bed so when they call and you are sleeping hit yourself in the face with 3 or 4 sprays so you can sound more alert than you actually are. TIP # 13 . to get even 23 .phone time spent this way part of the service I provide to all my active clients and I do not charge for this service. to be right. fourth or future visit bring up anything from an earlier meeting that might embarrass her. third.NEVER EVERS (WORTH REPEATING) Never argue Never judge Never appear bossy (but always appear in charge) Never be indecisive (It’s better to be wrong than indecisive) Never lose your temper Never dump your personal shit on them even if they welcome it (sharing a little with any one client Never ever on a second. Most clients do not take advantage of this and prefer to see me in person whenever they can anyway. No matter what she did.
You can not allow these things to be a problem in this business. they are just people. their personalities and minds may have not always have gone through the same rigorous training that their bodies have. Doing so will keep her as a client and more likely than not. the majority of whom are age 28-48. TIP # 14 . However. After all. You’ll meet many different types of women. habits. Find something endearing. making sure everything including their hair and nails are perfect.a big client killer. spoiled. Most of them will probably be quite pretty and of course in good shape given the fact that they have spent most of their entire lives in salons and working out. demanding. character assassins. snobs. focus instead on that and let it shine through.FIND SOMETHING YOU CAN LIKE OR LOVE ABOUT HER There probably will be parts of their character. You have to search and it won’t be a big search to find something that you like about her. you’ll get beyond whatever it was that you didn’t care for. or used to getting 24 . or perhaps aspects of their looks that you may not like. Some clients will be complainers.inhibit her in front of you now….
so don’t let her engage you in negative discussion. so if you absolutely must criticize. #15 . WHEN SHE’S ANGRY Aggression is a strange but powerful aphrodisiac. It’s your job to remain in control even when she is totally out of control. but until you’ve established a fairly solid relationship. remember that she has retained you to be in control. Remember.DO NOT BE CRITICAL OF HER It is said that a little constructive criticism can be positive. This is the case of course for everybody except clients. temper your criticisms with compliments. So I’m 25 . if you want to pull 6 -7 figures a year from this type of work. a distraction. she is paying you for a good time. So. The biggest asset you have is letting her be herself when she is with you. you will be history.their own way. tell her how to dress or generally act as though you know best. she will feel nitpicked and selfconscious. particularly if she asks for them. Always keep it happy and you’ll build one hell of a business. putdowns and unwarranted negative input are best left for her mother. otherwise. Suggestions are generally considered acceptable. If you correct her.
Adding a 26 . It is a juxtaposition that she will find highly confusing -her desire undermines her. The good thing about this is that you are probably a lot stronger than her. by making her want you even more than she normally does. Acting like a sweet puppy will take the fire out of her -. It is a fun way to let it all out. and it often ends in sex because of the close body contact and high energy levels involved. Another good way to let out some pent-up aggression and frustration is to wrestle with each other -. Ever wonder why make-up sex is so good? Being fired up gets her aggressive side going. The best way to take the heat out of her head and rechannel it into her knickers is to be cute and sexy. but she knows if she were to follow through on this desire. which means that she gets to really fight you. and aggressive women love sex. but let you win as well. this can work to your advantage. This will fire her up in no time. she will not only feel weak. of course. you can then take full advantage of her passionate rage.who can be angry and resist a cute little pup? Once you successfully charm her. The trouble with angry sex is that if she’s mad at you she isn’t going to want to let you win by having sex with you.saying that sometimes.fun wrestling.
you should be able to dance. She probably won’t be Ginger Rogers. You may have a client who wants to experience something new. While you can’t be an expert in every sport and activity known to man. Once she becomes less inhibited around you. but a turn on too. it is really because she thinks she doesn’t know how. Put it between you and punch each other's lights out without a single “Ouch!” FULFILLING FANTASIES Not all fantasies are sexual in nature. All women that I’ve known through the years love to do one thing more than anything else. You could be the one person in her life with whom she tries new things. Or maybe there’s a good chance 27 . she will be more comfortable dancing and letting go. And that is dance. but you never know…. a smart investment for your business would be a few dance lessons. It could be as simple as trying a new ethnic food each time you get together. if a woman says she doesn’t like dancing. You don‘t have to be a Fred Astaire. or thinks she isn’t any good at it. It could be a sport like tennis that requires a partner or simply an activity she’s never done before.and besides. dancing is not only fun. but if you have any hangups or reservations.Swiss ball into the equation is even better. Usually.
every word. However. To truly make your rapport with a woman successful. since her body 28 . There is a whole world of things to share and every time you do something new with someone. So watch her body language carefully. and unlike conversation. and respond accordingly. Thankfully. you create a memory. it is much more difficult to conceal true intentions through your physical actions. you need to recognize when she's flirting with you. and every move she throws your way. It takes a lot of practice to execute the subtle signals of interest with perfect timing. Something that they will remember always. there is no shortage of flirting tips for men out there. Always remember that attentiveness is key.all people and that includes your clients too. flirting is only half the battle. Women are masters of subtlety. That is one way to develop lasting relationships and a history with people…. Body language speaks louder than words. so it's your job to remain especially aware of every gesture. FLIRTING AND TRAINING YOURSELF FOR CLIENTS Flirting is almost an art form.she’s never gone bowling or played pool.
and they mean what they say. Believe it or not. they lean toward the man they are trying to 29 . are adept at the art of prevarication. on the other hand. Most men say what they mean. Your job is decoding these signals. For starters. DECODING A WOMAN'S BODY LANGUAGE Women. Women. That's why being able to interpret women's body language is vitally important. even from across the room.language may be more accurate than her spoken words. indicating what they are thinking and feeling at any given time. to the point. even if her lips are mute. especially when it comes to conversation. Check out the physical cues listed below to learn just what her eyes and hips are saying. are just more complex and subtle in general. which is especially useful at the pickup stage when you don't know each other very well. women are constantly giving out very obvious signals through their body language. HOW YOU KNOW YOUR STUFF IS WORKING Women who are trying to get a man's attention are easily spotted. Virtually every aspect of their body language changes drastically when they flirt. loud and clear. Their speech is straightforward.
her actions have just given you the green light for initiating something more. possibly fiddling with their jewelry. which is an unconscious signal that they wish the guy in question was touching them in that way. They laugh more often than usual and smile constantly. or all of the classic flirtatious signs listed above.attract. Their faces are just more animated. you can feel quite confident about your chances and just sail in. and they frequently make eye contact. This is due to nervous excitement because their hearts are beating a little faster than usual. Flirtatious women also tend to fidget more. They chew on their lips. Basically. and they need some sort of outlet for their tension. they look more alert and clearly more alive then usual. They may also play with their hair or place their hands on their bodies in some small but unusual way. twisting rings and tugging at necklaces. regardless of whether what the guy just said was funny or not. LUST Body signals of lust are easily recognized because they are 30 . How you should react? If the woman in your sight is exhibiting most.
and then with more intensity if she doesn't pull away. MORE SPECIFIC SIGNALS THAT SHE IS SEXUALLY TURNED ON 31 . simply ramped up a couple of notches. increasing eye contact. does it seem like she's breathing a little heavier when you're only inches away from each other at the theatre. with hips and chest out. like at a club. this overt behavior usually occurs in private. is a dead giveaway.flirtatious signals. and because she's a little bit turned on too. Naturally. How you should react? She's ready. and you'll get the idea. Eye contact is increased and prolonged. or in a sexually charged environment. Also. notice the heavier breathing. Striking sassy poses. so respond in kind. For example. occasionally brushing each other a bit? That's because she is. which also indicates desire. Ease yourself into more intimacy by reciprocating her actions. She will also try to touch you under any pretext. at first casually. and dilated pupils indicate arousal. Just imagine Beyonce (the singer) in any music video. and making excuses to touch her.
her eyes follow the “triangular formation” . The head toss is not exclusively for women with long hair and can still grab someone's attention when used by women with short hair. soft skin on the inside of her wrists. 32 . informal position. THE INTIMATE GAZE OR SIDEWAYS GLANCE How to spot the 'intimate gaze'? If while she is looking at you. The knee point will be aimed at the person the woman is interested in. she is definitely interested. IT'S ALL IN THE LEGS The pointing knee When sitting down one knee is bent to allow the foot to be tucked under the opposite thigh. then down to your mouth and chin.eye to eye.THE HEAD TOSS Women do this to throw their hair back over their shoulders. attract attention and to show off their neck. EXPOSED WRISTS If a woman is interested she will expose the smooth. down the rest of your body and back up to your eyes again. She will also show the palms of her hand whilst talking. It is a relaxed.
THE SHOE FONDLE If a woman crosses her legs and lets her shoe on the top leg hang off her foot pay attention .if she starts playing with the shoe. successful flirt will use all four stages. Lean forward so that you are nearly touching. combined with the woman placing one hand on her thigh. THE LEG TWINE Apparently many men consider this the most appealing sitting position for women. but the key is to do what you feel comfortable with.“THE COME ON” (MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT) This behavior tells the person that you are interested in them: Turn completely towards the person you are interested in. The professional. With one leg pressed against the other it appears to be extremely toned and. gives a clear call for attention and probable interest. STAGE 1 . 33 . allowing it to slip on and off her foot then she is clearly trying to express interest and keep your attention. THE FOUR STAGES OF FLIRTING There are four stages of flirting.
Your breathing will increase. The Pull-Back Look away Lower your eyelids Use your hand to hide your expression STAGE 3 .Maintain prolonged eye-contact. is responding to your come-on. STAGE 2 . indicating interest: Your voice will become lower. this will make her unsure of your intentions so she will pay closer attention. Sub-consciously you will start to display the following signs.“THE PULL-BACK” (DON'T OVER-DO IT THOUGH) If you are sure that the person you're interested in.“THE BLOCK OFF” (KEEP THEIR ATTENTION) You don't want the person you are flirting with to pull back as well so you need to combine the pull-back with the block off! The purpose of the block off is to ensure that they focus on 34 . If she is interested in you. Your skin will flush. it's time to introduce “The PullBack” Slightly withdraw from the object of your affections.
perhaps she is very nice and friendly to everyone.you and you alone. Change your position so your body blocks the person off from everyone else in the vicinity.you are either picking a woman up for a date or pursuing a prospective client and not to change midstream. Touch your face or put your fingers through your hair A WORD TO THE WISE Remember earlier we discussed staying on message . a good way to tell 35 . Touch her when you pass them something. The lady you're chatting with may be an attention seeking serial flirter with no actual real interest in dating you. not just you. but what you really need to know is that relying on any one positive signal can be deceptive. for example).“THE PROMISE” (AND OFF YOU GO) This is a tiny hint of where things could go from here. If you see her often (at work. Men tend to stretch their legs out to create a barrier between the two of you and the rest of the room. Or. STAGE 4 . Use the person's name in conversation as this tends to focus their attention. There are an untold number of signals that can indicate a woman is interested in you.
is by paying attention to how she reacts to others. In fact. So sharpen your senses and read on. there is no way she can possibly know you are a gigolo. or at work. The following flirting signals can happen in all settings. If you are in a setting where there’s a good chance prospective clients will be present. again…. to let them know right away.it’s best to decide what your intentions are right from the start and if you are looking for clients. You’d feel the same way if you found out you were pursuing a prostitute all evening. Therefore. The only way for her to know that is by referral or if you tell her. then don't get your hopes up. nightclub. Also. whether in a coffee shop. it’s best to keep in mind that if a woman is making the first move or even if she’s responding to your moves. it will make your job easier if they express interest and you know they find you attractive. If it's the same way she behaves with you. most woman will be quite annoyed to find out hours later that they have wasted their evening pursuing a gigolo if they are seeking a date. SHE KEEPS GLANCING OVER AT YOU Are her eyes aimed at you every time you look her way? 36 . restaurant.
consider your job half done.Does she avert her gaze whenever you catch her staring? Then you might have a live one here. then you can deduce that she's enjoying your company. she takes an unnecessary detour through point C (you). but they tend to be fairly obvious about it. SHE INITIATES CONVERSATION 37 . If she doesn't prolong the eye contact. SHE GOES OUT OF HER WAY TO GET YOUR ATTENTION If. she might be trying to get your attention. Why else would she be going so far out of her way? If she smiles at you on her way. and get her talking. Go up to her. she is probably interested. Your job is to keep her smiling by smiling back. then she's probably shy and needs a little coaxing from you. introduce yourself. For instance. SHE SMILES AT YOU The smile is the ultimate sign of openness and friendliness. If she shows her teeth and has that sparkle in her eye. Many people force a smile when trying to be polite. provided it is genuine. but your table is located No where near the restrooms. if she walks by your table "on her way" to the washroom in a coffee shop. on her way from point A to point B.
Other reactions that convey approval include asking "really?". "wow" and opening her mouth in amused disbelief." which begs a response and subsequent conversation. so if she acts captivated by your words. that's a concrete sign. SHE ASKS IF YOU LIKE CERTAIN ACTIVITIES Does she ask you about your hobbies? Is she being more specific. does she throw her head back in riotous laughter or does she just look at you and say. SHE LAUGHS AT YOUR JOKES When you relate a funny story. She might also whisper "secrets" to you.Taking the first step to initiate a connection with you is a huge sign that she's interested. bringing your faces close together. she may further convey her interest by using your name or asking you open-ended questions that require more than one word answers. it's an 38 . and asking you if you like a particular pastime? Although she is not actually asking you for a date. If she tells you something like "You remind me of someone I know. "Is that supposed to be funny?" A big part of flirting involves reactions to the partner. During the conversation. you're in the green. perhaps letting you get a good whiff of her perfume.
you can pat yourself on the back. as this implies that she is attracted to you. SHE TOUCHES YOU When a woman breaks the contact barrier during a 39 . letting you know that you are memorable and establishing a closer. So if she steers the conversation to sexy topics. she could be trying to pull you into a flirting crescendo that might lead to a veritable verbal foreplay. SHE MAKES SEXUAL COMMENTS Some women like to put themselves in the mood by talking about things that turn them on. Another way she may demonstrate her interest is by repeating your name.implied way of doing it. movies or dinner. She could be leading up to asking you out or paving the ground for you to pop the question instead. so you should do the same. It brings out their frisky side. A crass slip-up is a sure-fire way to ruin the rapport. so if she throws one your way. This is especially good if it has to do with your physique. SHE PAYS YOU A COMPLIMENT Women are sparse with compliments. If the activity in question is dancing. Most times they will keep it understated and tasteful. then it is almost certain. more intimate connection with her.
So now you know the theory. In time. she leans in. When you rest your elbows on the table. especially when they're too subtle to be detected by the untrained eye. It can be as obvious as touching your arm or knee while making a point. But you must make sure that she makes the first skin convergence. flirting with you. it is almost a sure sign that she's interested. women's flirtation techniques will become as clear as traffic signals. indeed. If she commits five or more. where you're looking for nothing else but the aforementioned signs.conversation. she does the same. When you lean in. Duplicating your actions is her way of showing you that she's "in-synch" with you. your evening is set. 40 . you should count a minimum of four before you conclude that she is. A less direct way is if she mirrors your body language. Keep cool. and you can go for the kill. relax and enjoy yourself. which is something women do subconsciously. don't get yourself into a state of tense vigilance. FLIRT FREELY Since some of the above signals could just be gestures of friendliness on a woman's part. And though you should constantly be alert. but recognizing her signals on the spot takes time. or as faint as having her knees come into contact with yours under the table.
she is probably not attracted to you.TIPS AND HINTS *Make sure you judge the situation and pace your next moves accordingly. *Don't try any of these too soon. ANGRY? DISINTEREST Physical signs revealing a lack of interest are pretty much the exact opposite of signs of flirtation. If she seems absolutely calm but distracted. and she keeps looking away at other things. even semi-nervous conversation and spastic gestures usually mean attraction. just don't do them and concentrate on the ones you feel comfortable with. If any of these suggestions feel unnatural. if you're chatting with a girl on a double date. and rarely smiles. 41 . either she's not into you or she's just shy. so subdued behavior means the opposite. For example. CONFLICTED. Remember. Sometimes. If you're over zealous it might put them off. animated. IS SHE DISINTERESTED. *Don't go over the top with your flirting. less is more! *Just go with what feels right.
Maybe they'll lean in toward you. by crossing her arms in front of herself. so don't bother putting much effort into this one before throwing in the towel. they give off signs showing that they are feeling conflicted and indecisive. However. their feelings toward you. or maybe just what they should do in a given situation. FEELING CONFLICTED If women are unsure of your intentions. she is strongly indicating that she is physically and mentally closed to your gestures. that is combinations of flirtatious and disinterested signals discussed above. nine times out of 10. it wouldn't hurt to give flirting a couple of tries just to see if she can be de-thawed at all. For example. If you are really interested in her.Other signs of disinterest may include leaning away from you or crossing her arms. first they might stare at you. and then abruptly turn around and look away. How you should react? There's really little point in pursuing this cold fish. To match their inconsistent feelings. but when you move in slightly to match their actions. they'll act as if they've 42 . their bodies give off inconsistent signals too. Obviously. she's just not feeling it.
very. If her hands are placed on her hips. She may also cross her arms. not the pickup (you couldn't possibly have pissed her off already. bad signal. This means that they aren't yet sure what they think of you. How you should react? In these situations. and shyly ease back in their seat. but not too flirtatious or overtly sexual. Be consistently friendly. However. and instead of relaxed. Give her time to warm up to you. but there are different types of rage less obvious than a screaming fit. you may get a taste of it at the early stages if she feels you have not picked up her more subtle 43 . more firm. it is also a very. MORE ON ANGER Most people can usually recognize anger when they see it. You probably have a good shot if you move slowly. which is revealed through the narrowing of the eyes and a tightly-closed mouth.suddenly changed their mind. similar to the disinterested pose. this type of behavior usually occurs during the dating stage. Unlike the types of body language listed above. right?). This can be accompanied by the head tilt and tightlyclenched or closed fists. There’s the icy-cold burn. it's more pronounced. don't force the matter. but when angry.
For example.messages of disinterest. even when they're interested in them romantically. How you should react? An already miffed woman tends to be disinterested and unresponsive. nine times out of 10. However. Remember. At this point. someone or something else that might have just happened to her really doesn‘t matter. if you think it might be you. just pass and move on. If the woman in question is insulting you with her words. wait for time or other people to gradually defuse her rage. she's interested. some women use sarcasm and put-downs to flirt with men. whether it’s about you. DATE OR CLIENT HOW CAN YOU TELL? 44 . despite the opposite messages. but displaying all the physical signs of flirtation. If you know for sure that the problem isn’t you. INTERPRETING MIXED SIGNALS Remember that women's words and body language often give out mixed signals. She's not a prime candidate for the hookup if she is still distracted by the traffic ticket she just got or the argument she just had five minutes ago. body language always speaks louder than words. and then consider going in for the kill.
So. In fact she might not only entertain the idea. before you open your mouth and tell her you’re a gigolo. she is probably not out there shopping for a gigolo. You’ve got her attention. that’s why it’s extremely important that you situate yourself in the right places and target the right women. No big deal. She’s flirting with you. And remember. tell her you’re a gigolo. you are your own advertisement everywhere you go and the idea is to always leave them curious and wanting. So. 45 . make sure you’re really not shopping for a date and vice versa. when she asks you what you do for a living. be sure that you remain charming and always demystify any negative ideas she might have about gigolos in general before you move on. unless she is a referral from a client who has explained everything to her. Then.OK. it doesn’t mean that she wouldn’t consider the idea. Responsive to your advances. Remember. It will increase your odds tremendously. but perhaps has even fantasized about such a relationship. Is she looking for a date or what? Honestly. Even if she is not interested in your services. just like you’d tell her you were a stockbroker or in sales. Why wouldn’t she? Men have been doing it for years. And just because she was not necessarily out looking for a gigolo. flirting is flirting and chemistry is chemistry.
once some rapport and enough common ground has been established. don’t buy into that “opposites attract” baloney. you now can start to express independence by debating the point. observe. It could be anything number of things where you deviate from the “norm”. intellectual or emotional level. When it comes to nailing down sexual attraction and forging those pinpricks of passion. Another words. Once you have established some common ground. You have to listen. If you both have a passion for films for example. familiarity with a twist. and then work toward becoming the second pea in her pod. so don’t just nod your head and emphatically go down the “you’re absolutely right” path without exercising your brain. and establishing common ground will make you feel familiar to her. She needs to feel comfortable around you. something different or unusual to peak her interest. The easiest way to stand out is if you are involved in 46 . It simply will not work. Simply agreeing with everything she says comes across as either patronizing or dismissive. you need to establish a foundation of similarity.ESTABLISHING COMMON GROUND Whether it’s on a moral. it’s a perfect time to introduce something intriguing about yourself . don’t automatically agree that Philadelphia is the greatest movie ever made if you don’t believe it. In fact.
CREATE A LARGER THAN LIFE IMAGE This is essential. You‘ve got to get everyone‘s attention.makes them curious. First and foremost you must remember every potential clients name. He has to create a an image that draws others to him…. You have got to create a larger than life image. inviting while still maintaining the mystery that creates desire. intrigued. So what you’re doing in the gym. So what you’re really doing is showing them a good mood. how’s it going with you“…do a one or two thumbs up and always smile. And this is how it works. you’re happy to see them. You can’t just go to the gym and work out like everyone else. When they ask you “hey. It’s never a good idea to show off. is projecting the image. Always stop by and say hi how’s it going and then move. your smiling. A gigolo. Let’s take the gym for example. but 47 . can’t be a “run of the mill” kind of guy.an activity where you excel. say hello to everybody without being an annoyance. larger than life. You’re friendly. or can be especially helpful to someone else in her presence. We’ll get back to smiling in just a bit. outside of working out of course. she will notice and probably be impressed. and then quickly move on. You’ve got to be friendly to everybody. And you’re friends with the guys there too. but if you are in a position to stand out.
However the point here is to create the mystique without announcing you are a gigolo. it won’t matter. Women are sick to death of everyone being and 48 . curious. you just leave. but you don’t. but you don’t. they will desire you more and be willing to pay whatever the price. Too many guys talk way too much. This creates a mystery adding to attraction because you don’t want to talk too much. By the time you are ready to share that you are a gigolo. just good enough so they want you to talk more. You occasionally flash a smile. Now. BEING POLITICALLY CORRECT Don’t do it. wanting to know more. Sort of enough to just give them a taste of how fun you are. Where ever you go you must stand apart from the crowd. That is why you must always keep them interested. but just a taste. or a wave and when you’re done working out you don’t say goodbye to anyone. Many of these women are going to believe that you are hitting on them and that you will come back and talk to them again. here’s a little secret for all of you. In a lot of cases many guys have actually picked up the woman and then ruined it by continuing to talk.not too good..
don’t go overboard here. The food she orders may not be good or to her liking. but sometimes helps create a private world that belongs to you two alone.RECOVER QUICKLY You have to be able to recover quickly. A joke you tell. you must be able to change the dynamic so she has a terrific time. So. one way to do so. TIP # 16 . But. Whatever the problem. Find one or two things that you feel strongly about and stick to your guns about them. This doesn’t mean creating a scene in a public arena. but showing her that you have a mind of your own. Perhaps she was already in a bad mood when you got together. She may get upset over something. she may not find funny. And getting her to break some rules too can not only be fun. Things will go wrong.WHEN THINGS MESS UP . Distract her. do not allow it 49 . Whether it has anything to do with you or not. you must be able to diffuse any upset quickly and move on. if you must stand apart from the crowd. Then you won’t be for or against a charity or cause she might personally favor or devote a lot of time and money to. is to be politically incorrect.acting the same. Of course it’s a good idea to get to know a bit about her first. Women respect men who have beliefs or certain views and are not afraid to voice their opinion even if it doesn’t always meet with public approval.
it is your job that makes it possible for her to kick back and have fun.to permeate the entire evening with her. the easier your job. sex. ideas. The wider your scope. And since being a gigolo is about 50 . but odds are good that she won’t. rock. fun moment in time. hip hop. Whether it’s conversation. You hopefully are pretty uninhibited. But it isn’t bullshit to her. What you should bring is AM bubble gum oldies because they will either bring her back to her youth or put her in a mindset that is carefree and fun. So you must come equipped with music. MUSIC If she has any favorite music. You cannot say I can’t do this and I won’t do that. whatever. Being a gigolo is hard work. then listen to it. She is paying for the luxury of a carefree. The so-called “relationship” for you maybe mostly bullshit and not real because much of it is orchestrated and choreographed like an affair to be remembered. fine. And the proof will be when you come home totally wiped out and exhausted. the time spent is real and will always be remembered as such if you are doing a good job. For her. be it classical. And what is that job? Your job is to keep the ball rolling. Having a great time is the only job she has while you are together. You have to be open to all possibilities and welcome her suggestions.
being carefree and fun this usually works. I usually come prepared with a few CD’s. They can really set the mood and get things off to a good start.
TIP # 17 - YOUR BODY LANGUAGE Just like you will be watching “their” body language, “they” will be watching yours. On some level, conscious or not, we take these things in. Pay close attention to your own body language when you are out and around other people. Whether in the supermarket, with family, the gym, or stuck in traffic…smile, make eye contact and small talk when appropriate to everyone in your path and see what happens….see how they react to you….how you react to them. Greet people with a smile and a hello, and see if they don’t say hello back. Is your body relaxed or are you tense? When you smile at strangers do they smile back? When you are home alone, try this test. While watching TV, there will be times when what you are watching will make you laugh, make you scared, make you sad, have you riveted. As soon as you realize you are feeling one of these emotions, freeze your facial expression and take a look in the mirror. Does your facial expression match the way you are actually feeling? Sometimes, peoples facial expressions
don’t project what they are really feeling. Maybe you were concentrating, but when you looked in the mirror you actually looked angry. If that’s the case, the next time you are concentrating on something intently, you might want to try relaxing your facial muscles so you don’t look angry. Everyone uses body language and it sends messages out loud and clear to those paying attention. Make sure you are sending the message you want others to receive. TIP # 18 - ENTERTAINING AT YOUR PLACE As a general rule, I would suggest that your home be off limits to your clients for three reasons. First - You always want to be seen in the best light possible. Your home is an extension of you. You are a high end gigolo and have wealthy clients. Unless you are financially independent, more likely than not, your home will not live up to the image you wish to project. Second - Your home should be a place where you relax, and entertain friends and family, not a place where you conduct business. As a high end gigolo, your clients are in a position financially to provide a meeting place be it their home, hotel, apartment or anything else required and they should do so.
Third - While your clients will be curious and interested about your personal life, your whole business should center around them and not you. So keeping them curious is a good thing. Letting it all hang out leaves too much room for criticism and an invasion of your own personal space and privacy. TIP # 19 - GIFTS, BIRTHDAYS, HOLIDAYS OK. This is a sensitive subject in all relationships whether friends, family, lovers, or clients. Should you accept and receive gifts? Always accept gifts from your clients and always accept them with great pleasure, again like a little kid on Christmas morning. As far as giving gifts go, you should only give gifts on their birthdays and I will tell you why. The other standard holidays are days people usually spend with family and friends. Whether or not it is true, you must present yourself as a person with a full life, completely separate from the time you spend with them. So asking or petitioning to see your clients on days like Christmas or New Years only serves to damage the gigolo image you are trying to project and you don’t want to look like you are invading their private family life and time. If you see a client on their birthday, NEVER charge to see them on that day. Birthdays are days when as a general
rule, people receive. It’s a “getting” day. Not a day when they should be required to “give”. Whether conscious or unconscious, spoken or not, charging them, will leave a bad taste in their mouth. But of course, there are exceptions to every rule. Occasionally some circumstance, be it a tragedy, illness, family matter or even some personal emotional upset will cause a client to want to see you immediately. It has been my experience that most will offer right up front and on the spot to even pay extra. It is at times like this that I take the opportunity to occasionally provide free service. With most clients it forges a special bond that says you really do care. And I never had a client take advantage of me in this way. TIP # 20 - JEALOUSY AND COMPETITION BETWEEN YOUR CLIENTS Once your business takes off, jealousy and competition between your clients is inevitable. Since most of your clients will be referrals, many will be from the same town and frequent the same places. Their kids may go to the same schools, husbands belong to the same clubs or gyms etc. In other words, they will know each other. Most of the time, jealousy and competition will serve you well. It will increase your value and raise the bar especially if they are competing
and guilt. This is the time to listen. pain. Each one will want to be your favorite. hang-ups. but I’ll let you have him tomorrow”. Personal information must always remain confidential. You will know about their families. It is the fastest way to ruin your entire business. However.to impress you. marriages. And. take it as a sign that you are doing a good job. TIP # 21 . fantasies. not to direct or take action. Never share confidential information about one client with another. one of my clients once referred another client to me by telling her “He’s really mine. Remember. 55 . you will get to know your clients on a very intimate basis. they are wealthy women with many resources at their disposal and may stop at nothing to outdo one another. It is just a good idea to keep the relationships you have with each of your clients as confidential as possible even though they may be the best of friends. friends. not to mention their disappointments.CONFIDENTIALITY AND DISCRETION Over time. when you see earmarks of jealousy. finances. and always maintain neutrality. In fact. and empathize if necessary. try to avoid commenting about one client to another. So. You must always remember that relationships with your clients require that you maintain a high level of discretion. NEVER takes sides.
If your price is too low. They must feel that they are really paying for quality. Since it worked for me. Since they always want the best. I was also working the most expensive and high end hotels. Of course you have to gauge the area where you live or are working. they will reject you.TIP # 22 . Women will not accept a low price gigolo. assuming your price reflects poor quality and you are not worth much.PRICING As I said earlier in this book. the reason I got $2200 per session started out as a joke. And I do recommend working the more expensive and luxurious Hotels. I was in New York City and $2200 in New York City 56 . Today. I tried it. But that doesn’t mean that is the right price for you. You are more likely to be surrounded by woman who can afford your fees. and feel they are worth it. No one stays at the Plaza Hotel on a budget. So your location will certainly be a determining factor. And that was also over 20 years ago. $2200 would still be considered a very high end fee. I continued to charge that same amount. you must be worth it too. not to mention woman traveling on business and possibly alone.
Obviously. So. somewhere along the line you lost 57 . where you went. who referred her to you.KEEPING RECORDS Always remember all the little things that she likes. continue to smile. but marketing yourself too low is a terrible mistake and hard to correct after the fact. For the very occasional client who makes a habit of canceling.may be the equivalent to less somewhere else. small details about her life. Remain upbeat. That is something you are going to have to figure out yourself. TIP # 23 . Record the dates that you’ve seen her. again. As your business grows a folder for each client is a good idea. how she pays you. her pet peeves. the things she just hates.CANCELLATIONS If she cancels an appointment never sound rejected or upset. her worst enemy. I keep regular records and review them before I see my clients. and most importantly. it is important to be able to remember details you might otherwise forget when you see them again. Like her favorite drink. never judge. You will have regular clients and others that you only see occasionally. if you don’t see them all that often. this problem must be addressed. TIP # 24 .
she has no respect for your privacy or personal time regardless of your attempts to let her know. and lead her to believe this was OK. getting paid is always a problem. Maybe she is so needy. Perhaps. she will not respect you or your time either. if things get to a point where it is necessary to let a client go. that you just can’t get beyond. Not every client will be right for you.control of the situation. You must regain control or you will lose your business.for better or worse. personal habits etc. It could even be a personality conflict. Nicely. She might be so obsessed with you that she has her nose in all of your business. it is inevitable that you will eventually stumble upon a client that is a problem for one reason or other. THE DREADED “WHAT IF THIS OR THAT?” WHAT IF YOU HAVE A PREMATURE EJACULATION? 58 . Whatever the reason.HOW TO GET RID OF BAD CLIENTS AND STILL KEEP YOUR GOOD REPUTATION As you develop your clientele. If you don’t value yourself. but firmly you must tell your client what you expect. you must always remember how you handle yourself will affect your reputation…. TIP # 25 .
WHY WOMEN REALLY DO HIRE GIGOLOS Terri from Levittown. You say very quickly and very contently you just turn me on so much I’m lucky I lasted so long. NY I contacted one of my previous clients and asked her to explain why she retained my services and this is what she wrote back. sophisticated woman and imagine my surprise when I got hit with a spit ball by this guy who happened to be Gary. and she’ll think to herself that she is extra special.Immediately you can use that to your advantage. How you may ask? You don’t go Oops. I walked up to him and said “What 59 . I’d be sitting in front of a computer 10 hours a day living on someone else’s schedule and turning into just the kind of guy that drives you to a guy like me. If I had a normal job. WHY DON”T YOU HAVE A NORMAL JOB? Now my favorite comeback when asked Why don’t you have a normal job is quite simple. I am a wealthy. Sorry. I remember sitting at the Oak Bar at the Plaza Hotel in New York.
but he just kept smiling and laughing so I continued to sit there.the hell is wrong with you?” And Gary said to me. I sat down and because I found him intriguing said “So. I had to laugh. Every guy who was talking to me would occasionally jump as he got hit with a spit ball. but I couldn’t help myself. I did not want to find this guy amusing in any way at all. Eventually. I’ve got one of these” and he showed me a drinking straw. Obviously. this guy is not the platonic type and I thought OK the guys an idiot. how are you?” And he said “the best you ever fuckin had. and as I looked at him and saw this I couldn’t control my laughing. I did not want to laugh. Then when he told me he was a gigolo. I continued looking at him and I asked him “what in the world is wrong with you?” And he said. but now with that spit ball 60 . He didn’t know what happened. “Oh. Especially when this guy who was talking to me go hit with one of Gary’s famous spit balls and this spit ball got stuck on his eye glasses.” Immediately I thought. and I realized he wasn’t joking.” I was surprised to find myself doing just that. stop being so uptight and sit down. I found the guy with the glasses annoying from the start. I got up and went back to the bar. Sitting back at the bar I was continuously being annoyed by guys trying to buy me drinks telling me how much money they had and how successful they were. “Don’t mess with me.
I was intrigued by the fact that ‘I had never met a gigolo before and decided to sit down and have a conversation with him. What ever you might need at the moment. responsibilities. since I genuinely was curious about his job I asked him if I could interview him. and he explained to me that it’s not just sex. a tennis or chess partner if you’re without. and no negotiations. Someone to listen. it’s having the greatest relationship of your life when ever you want it without having any of the normal relationship crap. And he responded by saying I just lay there. now most guys I’ve met tell women how great they are at this or that or get downright gross and disgusting. So. Are you really that good I asked. I walked back over to Gary’s table where he was sitting alone with a straw and 14 napkins. Gary was making this 61 . there was no way I couldn’t take him seriously and I just couldn’t stop laughing now. So. “What will that cost me?” And he said a coke no ice. knowing that he wasn’t going to hit on me until I coughed up money. So my first question was why would anyone pay you for sex.on his glasses. company if you’re lonely. Just good old-fashioned fun. strings. It’s great. She continued. In a sense I was relieved and actually felt safer sitting with him.
I realized why he gets paid that kind of money he gets paid and I knew he was worth every penny. being silly. I said to him. but I don’t want you to know my address. this is free. He was having way too much fun at this. if I hire you. Since I am a woman of means. And. I have to admit it was one of the greatest experiences of my life. don’t you have checks with you? I said yes. This guy could never be a stalker. My relationship with Gary really only ended after 4 years because when I got married. there are probably many reasons that women hire gigolos. we moved to Europe. I asked him where his address was to send a check and he said to me. I figured I would take a chance.sound like it was a lot of fun. can I throw you out any time I want? And he said as soon as you want me to leave I’m outta here. So I took out my checkbook and made a check out to cash in the amount of $2200 which he said was his flat fee for the night. I was laughing having fun listening to music. if you kick me out within the first hour. I was completely relaxed. when you boil it all down. He started laughing and said where the hell am I supposed to send the invoice? That’s when it hit me. and I certainly was intrigued. So. but in my experience I 62 . not the least bit self conscious and that’s when it hit me. When we got back to my hotel room.
the friend. It will increase your business and enhance your life. You really do have to give a lot of yourself and if you do. It‘s not really why I am there. IS THIS BUSINESS REALLY FOR YOU? 63 . the protector. the lover. I would guess that about 40% of the time they might not even want sex. I consider my job providing whatever is needed at the moment and as we have already mentioned fun is right at the top of the list. Sometimes that does include sex. the more interesting you are as a person. the entertainer. the more in demand you will be. And that is what they are paying me for. the wider your scope. it is less about sex which most people actually think. rabbi or psychiatrist . All without judgment.have found that more often than not. Most people equate “gigolo” with “prostitution” which we have already discussed. and that is precisely why most gigolos do not make the kind of money that I charge. priest.whatever they need at any given time. referrals and good friends. the shoulder they need to cry on. And that’s why loving women helps a lot. So. I have to be company when they are lonely. So take the time to develop yourself. The more charming you are. But they also don’t perform the services I do either. you will be rewarded with repeat business.
or acting selfish and self absorbed. but they are totally turned off and have no interest in men who clearly can not take care of themselves. They clearly have no idea how unattractive this has become to women. with the large number of single. complaining. with more women attaining financial independence in their 30’s and 40’s. that they think nothing of exhibiting their insecurities. “Men” have become feminized. In addition to women that don’t want the complications of relationships. emasculated. successful unattached women in the workplace. you have a clear shot at a lot more women than you might think. there are probably more women interested in gigolo services than at any other time in history. and so politically correct. but somewhere along the way they 64 .There couldn’t be a better time for you to be reading this book. who sadly think seduction is talking about their HDL. whining. PSA. Many women may enjoy pampering and taking care of the men in their lives. Given the quality of most available men. many women do not want the threat of losing their assets in possible divorce settlements and are therefore remaining single. Being so needy that they must have a woman run their lives they are overly boastful of their possessions to win a woman’s heart. With the divorce rate as high as it is. what they ate today and how regular they are. heart rate.
Being able to accommodate their schedule. casual.forgot how to have fun. and dress 65 . Creating your own culture with them… inside jokes. favorite places. If you can’t accommodate her needs. OK GARY. and develop intimacy within the parameters of your established gigolo/client relationship. desires and in between her other personal obligations. but still project a together image. she will find someone else who can. In walks the gigolo. who is all man. Always make your clients feel good about themselves. You must have gym. but the ladies as well. THIS BUSINESS IS FOR ME (So what exactly do I do now?) STEP 1 Take an inventory of your wardrobe. In order to do that you really need to be available 24/7. You need to have everyday clothes that are comfortable. She will decide when she’d like to see you based on her needs. can not only take care of himself. You must be prepared to devote the time necessary to make this business work. The most important thing is to be willing and able to care.
etc. If you don’t live in a wealthy community. find the closest one to your home.clothes ready when the occasion arises. The first list is activities that you enjoy and have done before and perhaps are proficient at. a top night club. Find a good barber if you don’t already have one and maintain a good haircut. you will start frequenting restaurants. STEP 3 Make up some business cards. These activities are great because you may be in a position to teach her and 66 . Full (Real) Name Phone Number Escort (Optional) By appointment only STEP 4 Create two lists of fun activities that you can do with your clients. that might be higher end than you are used to. Remember. The best gym in town. STEP 2 Start checking out various locations to meet women in your area. high end hotel restaurant or bar are a few suggestions to get you started. you will be with wealthy women and more likely than not.
Some activities are fine to do with a client for the first time even though neither of you may have ever done it before. For example. Very often. dancing as we have previously mentioned. hot air ballooning. If you don’t dance for whatever reason. You never know when a client might have a wedding or other such function where your services as an escort will include dancing. fun and you both are just there for the ride. The second list is made up of activities you think might be fun. You don’t want to appear to be soliciting in their place of 67 . but would like to try. It’s a good idea to frequent these locations at the same time and day each week. For example. Take it real slow in places like the gym. And that is not the time to run out and find a dance class. it would be well worth the money spent to take a few lessons. people have a regular routine and go to let’s say the gym or club every Thursday or Mondays at 2. require skill and you don’t want to look like an idiot.that is always a good role for a gigolo. you’ve never done before. It’s different. STEP 5 Join or start to frequent your chosen locations regularly. But other activities.
watch the people around and observe their interactions with others. the easier it will be for you to do it yourself.business. you may be a little nervous or uneasy. If you are simply out having a cup of coffee. Workout. accepting and being turned down.discretion. People will recognize you and say hello. but considered a member/regular. You’ll probably get ideas. Once you are no longer a stranger. arguing. you would prefer this knowledge and your business to be a known unspoken fact. The more familiar you become with their social interactions. Hangout. discretion. Unless you feel reasonably certain that you are talking to a perspective client. the easier and more fun all this will become.. discretion. Act laid back. STEP 6 The more experience you have. not the local town gossip. When you first start out since you don’t have actual experience. things you would 68 . laughing. your job will get easier. While a gym is a great place to meet people. It’s a good idea to remember that everywhere you go. And if they already like you. getting picked up. Observe. I wouldn’t boldly advertise that you are a gigolo in a local community establishment. you will be judged less harshly if you decide to tell them you are a gigolo. people are interacting. Remember…. As you become a familiar face. women will be more receptive to you.
this is a numbers game as much as anything 69 . The world is filled with examples everywhere you look or go. approaching and talking to women. so grab a catalog. Get comfortable talking with everyone you meet. remember. If you are nervous. They usually have operators taking orders 24/7.never have thought of on your own. you should be out there looking good. If you do…. telling women you are a gigolo. you can start to talk to strangers. ask questions about items and chat up a storm. Make it a game. If you are too nervous to do it in person. frequenting places where wealthy women hangout. Many of you will already have your first client. call. then start by calling customer service or the order department of your favorite mail order stores. start with sales people. All of you should be advertising yourself.CONGRATULATIONS!!!! For those of you who do not. STEP 7 After you have spent some time observing others. STEP 8 If you have reached Step 6. people who are supposed to help you and see how long you can keep them engaged. so keep your eyes open and take it all in. See how long you can keep their attention.
Not hoping you had them. Mistakes that lead to platonic relationships. Review the beginning of the book again. The first client is always the hardest to get. Pretend you are already a successful gigolo by seeing yourself accepting phone calls. Correct the things you are doing wrong. mistakes that make you seem insecure. The more you do it and the more comfortable you get doing it. If you really want it. the better you will become at not only spotting perspective clients. wishing you had them. Only you know how comfortable you are or are not in the social arena. the law of averages will kick in. out with beautiful women and it shall be. if you talk to enough women. Eventually. but getting them to call.else. and it shall be done unto you. but Acting As if you already DO have them. receiving cash. WHAT IS “ACTING AS IF” If you act as if. stick with it and it will happen for you. When you ACT AS IF. you actually already have every woman in the world. When you act as if you already have her. especially the sections on body language and make sure you are reading her signals correctly. ACT AS IF. Social skills come easier for some than it does for others. it will prevent you from making very common mistakes. believe in your heart she is already 70 .
not telling her what to do. However. nor will you respond “emotionally” to what she says or does because your mindset will be acting as if she is already yours. order. While your married clients will have the same needs as your single ones. No matter what the situation. Remember. You exercise this control by giving her choices. the married ones will have many more responsibilities and 71 . your responses and reactions will be strong. so the key to fireworks will have to lie somewhere else. Precious and Few You will always be the bridge over troubled water for her. and you will appear self assured.yours. she must always feel that it is OK to call you and you will be there for her. being in that “take charge” mode means making decisions for both of you. you will not constantly be looking for reassurance. many eligible bachelors don’t boast either. While it’s common knowledge that women generally tend to gravitate toward money and power. the gigolo recognizes that his prospective client probably already has money and power herself. etc. decisive. Therefore. always puts you in the take charge position and she will sense that. Acing as if she is already yours. think.
You may actually be the only one who is really there for them. Handle them with care and and your business will grow faster than you can keep up with it. but many women out there are starved for affection and caring more than sex. They most certainly are not “losers” as we have touched upon before. let’s review what exactly are they paying you for. more women can not only afford your services. So. This is where you can provide the safety net that is worth it’s price in gold. These women need what I call special handling. The Value of a Gigolo First of all. most of your clients will be as desirable if not more so than most of the women that you have probably dated in the past. I will not say a majority. As the number of women of independent means increases in our society. Why not? Wouldn’t you like someone to keep you company and to stop by with cough medicine or orange juice when you didn’t feel well? Wouldn’t it be terrific to have the perfect companion for as long as you desired. but they have numerous needs that may not be being met. but will desire them as well. The single women not only have more time on their hands. and then say goodbye or goodnight when you had had enough? How about knowing that they will never overstay their welcome 72 .obligations that eat up much of their time.
Statistics indicate that women live about 20 years longer than men and that leaves a huge untapped market of prospective clients. they know exactly what they want and can afford it. We have spent an untold number of hours discussing various aspects of seduction and a great deal of time figuring out and putting to the test why certain things work and others do not. more mature and cultured. but we have been friends. What about knowing you will never be an imposition? Are you getting the picture? Having a gigolo is a luxury more and more women can afford. I’m not a client. No. women who may be alone by choice and not want to marry again. and are great company. Rachel Over the last 20 years or so. They are often better lovers. Gary and I have had a most unusual relationship. 73 . And by the way. lovers. More often than not. don’t overlook women in the over 50 age group.and will be long gone before they get on your nerves? Wouldn’t it be unreal if you could transform your relationships to include nothing but the best things and discard the things you didn‘t care for? How about the luxury of knowing that you would never have to break up or end a relationship again. and even had periods of time with no contact at all.
” There is no question that all of his books are written from his own personal experience. And. a private world of their own. his gigolo experiences were something I really wanted to ignore. And that’s why. Both the gigolo and the client live in the shadows. you have probably made assumptions or been told many things about those relationships and that world that are far from the truth. The reason his books have stood the test of time is because they work and his customers keep coming back for more tips and information which Gary always makes available and loves to share. The world of the gigolo is like a private club. Gary is a master at the “art of seduction. pretend didn’t exist and were no part of his life. And why was that? It was because of my preconceived ideas of what I thought a gigolo was and the kind of women that I thought would even entertain the idea of retaining a gigolo.First and foremost. While Gary and I could pretty much talk about anything (and we did). you all know so little about that world. This is the first time in all these years that Gary has shared his experiences as a gigolo. and include input from the many women who have been a part of his life. 74 .
Those businesses are mostly about money and have little to do with caring or feelings.But the world has changed a lot in the last 25 years and so have the needs of women. if it’s real. But. time. The “stud” is really the gigolo of the past. patience. I am a single woman and have 75 . Why has my perspective changed? Well. women are much more intuitive than men so they’ll will pick that up right away and you will be history. and they need to care no more for their clients than the female prostitute cares for hers. let me repeat. And if you’re the right kind of guy. it will of course require. dedication and desire. I too am older and my needs have changed. the high class gigolo of today must really love women and enjoy their company. Because that is really what you are going to get paid for. you will have regular repeat business and referrals. I suppose that there will always be a market for that service. you can be a very successful gigolo at that. not to mention a dreamlike lifestyle. love to be in their company you will be successful. Never has there been a greater need or a greater time for the gigolo. He pretty much provides one service which is self explanatory. And. On the other hand. remember. Like any other venture or business. but if you really love women. if it’s not real.
pleasure. no hassles. there are at least two women to every one man born in the United States. convenience. no strings. the number of available women continues to increase as women 76 . longer than men. many of their other needs are not being met. You are paying for fun. No guilt. there when you want it. In addition to divorced and never married woman. in walks the gigolo. Now. most of us have not been so fortunate. many who have been unsuccessful in finding compatible male partners for one reason or another.many single female friends. gone when you don’t. no conflict. So. while most of the women I know have no problem finding casual sex if that is what they want. I’m not a idiot. attention. if things don’t work out. Everyone would like to think that they should and could find all of those things in a socalled normal relationship. in the real world. others who are afraid to commit to yet another relationship at this stage of their lives and risk losing their assets. and if that figure is correct. But if you look around you. It’s a relationship of convenience. etc. some who have high power careers and haven’t got the time or desire to devote to a relationship. since women live an average of 10-20 yrs. no arguing. and some people do. Now of course.
the more attractive you will be and the easier it will be for you to connect. etc.’ but the more work you do on yourself to promote your own growth. the more cultured. is that even though she might not be looking for a husband. are shy and introverted. All relationships are based on connections between people. up-to-date on current events.get older. each client will be and have different interests and the more you have in common. the more in demand you will be. Gary has given you tips on recognizing those connections and how to make them with prospective clients. you are. What you have to remember though. trivia. why wouldn’t a woman of means consider a high end gigolo for companionship? It’s a tailor made relationship to meet her needs. Therefore. if you are awkward socially. she is still looking for the same quality male in a gigolo that she would be in any other relationship. So. so just “anyone” will not do. educated. 77 . The better your sense of humor. uncomfortable with women. the more comfortable she will be with you. you are going to really need to do a lot of work on yourself if you are going to be a successful gigolo. charming. After all. It’s the glue that holds them together. trends. if there is a really a shortage of men out there.
It’s worth repeating again here…. they are happy to share you with their friends as they would any other good find. wouldn‘t they want to keep the gigolo for themselves.One of the things I never could understand was why these women would make referrals. And in order to do this you have to put your needs aside and focus on her whether in the bedroom or anywhere else.. Your job when you are with a client is to make each one of them feel like they are the only one in the world and of course. However. but that in fact actually increases your value. Why? Because. You are providing the closest thing to “bottled pleasure” available. it took me a while to get it. you had better be the “best” too. but the fact is that these women are not trying to own you.These women are used to buying services and will spare no expense to hire the best…. you are not focused on her no 78 . marry you. to meet specific needs in their lives and very often.. the most special. yes at times it does cause jealousy. wouldn’t sharing cause jealousy amongst them? Well. if you are focused on your needs.and so. They know exactly why they have hired you. change the relationship into something that it is not. As long as you are there for them when they need you. their lives are quite full otherwise.
matter what you tell yourself. Happy Hunting ************************************************ ***** 79 . she can be totally relaxed in your company. If the women know that she is not expected to do anything that she doesn’t want to do to please you and that includes sexually.
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