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This may come as a surprise... but your attitude is more important than your aptitude in determining your success in life! Just how critical is attitude to achievement? Well, take a look at one of the greatest inventors of the last two hundred years - Thomas Edison. Every time you turn on a light switch, you experience the result of his persistence in the face of continuous failure. Edison tried 10,000 times to get his light bulb invention to work, but failed each time. However, he had this to say about his lack of success. "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." You can learn to have this kind of outlook on life, but it needs to be purposefully installed into your daily living. You probably know it takes about 21 days to break a habit by replacing it with a new one. If you are plagued with persistent negative thoughts toward life, you can replace this mindset with a new positive-attitude habit! Here is a 21-day five-step program to change a negative attitude to a positive one. 1. Take charge of what you're thinking. This is a moment-by-moment decision that doesn't happen overnight. It's a habit that will take some time to build. How can you do this? Choose to think uplifting thoughts instead of discouraging ones. You get to decide what you think, which in turn determines how you feel. Become aware of this and dwell on positive ideas throughout the day. At first you may have to force yourself to find something positive. Consider keeping a journal and write down at least one good thing in your life each day for three weeks. Then think about these blessings instead of discouraging thoughts. 2. Read inspirational material. During this 21-day training period, fill your mind with good thoughts. The best book of all to read is that priceless diamond of world literature - the Bible. You'll never know what wonderful results from reading it are around the corner until you open its covers! 3. Focus on others. For the next 21 days make an extra effort to help other people. Concentrating on assisting others will help you more than you realize. If you succeed in becoming wealthy but are poor in respect to your relationships, you will not be truly prosperous at all!
So make a special effort of focusing on others during your 21 days of building your new positive-attitude habit. This will free you up to allow the butterfly of happiness to land on your shoulder when you least expect it. Take care of your health needs. It's hard to maintain a positive mindset if you've neglected your physical needs. So during the 21 days of your attitude retraining make an extra effort to eat nutritious balanced meals. Not getting enough sleep will also be a tremendous hindrance, so make sure you're getting adequate rest. And don't forget to get enough exercise. When you feel down, try to take a brisk 30-minute walk. You'll feel revived! 5. Learn contentment For the next 21 days focus on what you have and not on what you don't have. Live in the present and enjoy your blessings. Try to forget acquiring stuff for the purpose of keeping up with others. That only leads to more anxiety. Be thankful for what you do have instead. When going through difficult experiences - remember that adversity can be a blessing in disguise. You might learn some important lessons during those tough times - like Thomas Edison did. (I know I have.) These lessons can turn into credentials that will enable you to help others when they're going through tough times. So don't let negativity ruin your present and future. Instead, build a new habit of having a positive attitude. It will take about 21 days to start seeing consistent changes in the way you think, but it will be worth it! Now choose the starting date for your attitude-renewal adventure and go for it! How about today? (c) Copyright 2004 by Patricia Wagner Publishing Guidelines: Feel free to use this article in your newsletter or on your website as long as the author's resource box, bylines and copyright are included. Please make sure links within article and bylines are live and clickable. To request an HTML version just send an email to email@example.com. If you use this article, please send a brief message stating where it appeared. A courtesy copy would also be appreciated
24 Time Management Tips
Where does your time go? We all know we are busy, yet we feel behind and don’t get to do the things we really want to do. Planning is the best time saver there is. At the beginning of the week jot down your goals that you want to accomplish, fun things you want to do, work that needs to be done, and appointments to keep. Then write out a loose schedule for the week ahead, balancing it out between work, family, home, self and your other roles. You can choose to put your action items on daily to do lists or schedule them on a calendar like appointments. How you keep track of your things to do for the week, depends on how much structure you personally like or need. When you plan, it is helpful to schedule things for twice as long as you expect them to take. That gives you extra time for those traffic jams, interruptions, and fun, spontaneous moments. I try to plan on leaving 10 minutes earlier than I have to, for all my appointments, in case of unexpected delays. My weekly planning session usually takes less than thirty minutes. My planning session includes gathering my papers and going through the in-box to find action items as David Allen suggests in his book “Getting Things Done”. I also plan goals, next action items for my projects, plan a two hour time alone, plan family night, and plan a date with my husband. I schedule work, exercise, fun time, time with friends and family, volunteer work, and self-care time. Planning allows the important to take precedent over the urgent for once. But, be flexible with your plan. Remember you are not a slave to your planner. It is there to serve you. If your time management system isn’t working, tweak it. Here are some more time management tips: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Know what's important to you. Figure out your values and your vision. Start delegating to family members, co-workers, professionals, and teenagers needing extra money. Learn to say no to what is not in your mission or your values. Let go of perfectionism. Not everything has to be done perfectly and some things are out of your control. Listen to audio tapes or mp3's during your commute or household tasks. Use a planner or PDA that includes a daily to do list, a weekly calendar, a monthly calendar, a listing of projects, telephone numbers and important information.
Empty out your planner of the clutter and junk. Put the little pieces of paper in an in-box to go through in your weekly planning session.
24 Time Management Tips
8. Keep your planner with you at all times. 9. Do not keep a bunch of calendars around. Use only one so everything is in one place. 10. Keep a master list of all the things you need to do, call, see, write, etc. Don't use post-it notes all over. They seem to get lost. 11. Answer routine letters by answering them on the original. Photocopy your message for your own files then send off the original. 12. Cut down on TV time. Plan your TV time so you only watch the shows you really wanted to see. If you are watching, clean during commercials or sew while viewing. 13. Look at your schedule and lay out all the things you need for the next day, the night before.
14. Tidy your desk before you leave work so it will be clean for the next session. 15. Try to spend time on planning and important things so you are not always "putting out fires." 16. Use a timer to keep you from spending too much time on one thing or to challenge you when you are cleaning. 17. Relax when you are relaxing and work when you are working. 18. Make goals and rewrite goals every few months, so you have a focus. 19. Clear the clutter from your desk. 20. Go through your files once a year to get rid of paper you no longer need. Saves space and time. Or go through a file each time you put something in it, to keep your files current. 21. Get rid of things that don't work, especially pens. Save yourself some frustration. 22. Start with the worst item on your to do list. Everything else will be a piece of cake. You also won't be thinking and dreading it while doing other tasks. Procrastination sucks out your energy. 23. Be sure to bring things to do like reading, writing a letter, paying bills etc., when you know you will have to wait someplace. 24. A couple of times a year, keep a time log. Jot down everything you do for a day or two. Then examine where your time does not match what is important to you. It’s your life. If you don’t manage your time, other people will manage it for you
3 Steps to Defining Success and Defining Your Future
Are you a success? A: Its all in how you define the word! An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican Village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the boat were several large yellow fin tuna. The banker complimented Miguel, the Mexican, on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. Miguel replied that it took only a little while. The banker then asked why he didn't stay out longer and catch more fish. Miguel said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs. The banker then asked, But what do you do with the rest of your time? Miguel said, "I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senor." The banker scoffed, "I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and, with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats. Eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise." Miguel asked, "But senor, how long will this all take?"
To which the banker replied, "15-20 years." But what then, senor? The banker laughed and said "That's the best part. When the time is right you would announce a public listing and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions Millions, senor? Then what?" The banker said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings, where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos." What is your definition of success and how are you getting there? As the story of Miguel so eloquently illustrates, life success is so closely tied to our values and the way that we want to live our lives. We can easily lose direction and what is truly important to us by being drawn to what success means to other people, ideologies, or pop culture. Being clear on what success means to you and how you are working toward it is EVERYTHING! Check Yourself Take a moment to ponder the direction that your current choices are leading you in your life, career, relationships, and health. Now, make sure you are clear that how you are living in relation to each area is how you ought to be living according to your personal values. You may need to first get clear about your values in each area. Hint: grab a pen and paper for this one. Finally, identify one step you could take in each of the four areas that would bring you closer, or more fully into, what is truly successful in these areas. Just as the investment banker believed that Miguel should live by the bankers definition of success, so do we often live our lives by a completely different definition of success than we truly ought. A thoughtful check of your internal map and compass could start small changes that can take you to destinations as different as Wall Street is to a small fishing village in Mexico
A feel of Team work A man was lost while driving through the country. As he tried to read a map, he accidentally drove off the road into a ditch. Though he wasn’t injured his car was stuck deep in the mud. So the man walked to a nearby farm to ask for help. Warwick can get you out of that ditch, said the farmer pointing to an old mule standing in a field. The man looked at the haggardly mule and looked at the farmer who just stood there repeating, Yep, old Warwick can do the job. The man figured he and nothing to lose. The two men and Warwick made their way back to the ditch.
The farmer hitched the mule to the car. With a snap of the reins he shouted, Pull Fred, Jack, Ted! Pull Warwick! And the mule pulled the car from the ditch with very little effort. The man was amazed. He thanked the farmer, patted the mule and asked , Why did you call out all those other names before you called Warwick? The farmer grinned and said, Old Warwick is jus about blind. As long as he believe he's part of a team, he doesn’t mind pulling. So what did u understand from the above story? Let me know your idea. Replies: Posted By: OOPS Really inspirational one Conclusion: TEAM: Together Empowering to Achieve More. If you are working in a team it will always gives you tons of courage & strength. Posted By: Binny Hi Keerthi, From the above story, I understand that we should think that there are many people competing with us. And we should try our level best in every aspect of our life... Posted By: Sowmya571 Hello, NEVER UNDER ESTIMATE OTHERS, analyze perfectly about yours and others completely Posted By: Tan Very nice one, never underestimate yourself Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam’s speech in Hyderabad I HAVE THREE VISIONS FOR INDIA" In 3000 years of our history, people from all over the world have come and invaded us, captured our lands, conquered our minds. From Alexander on-wards, The Greeks, the Turks, the Moguls, the Portuguese, the British, the French, the Dutch, all of them came and looted us, took over what was ours. Yet we have not done this to any other nation. We have not conquered anyone. We have not grabbed their land, their culture, their history and tried to enforce our way of life on them. Why because we respect the freedom of others. That is why my first vision is that of FREEDOM. I believe that India got its first vision of this in 1857, when we started the war of independence. It is this freedom that we must protect and nurture and build on. If we are not free, no one will respect us.
My second vision for India is DEVELOPMENT. For fifty years we have been in a developing nation. It is time we see ourselves as a developed nation. We are among the top 5 nations of the world in terms of GDP. We have 10 percent growth rate in most areas. Our poverty levels are falling. Our achievements are being globally recognized today. Yet we lack the self confidence to see ourselves as a developed nation, self-reliant and self-assured. Isn't this incorrect? I HAVE A THIRD VISION India must stand up to the world. Because I believe that, unless India stands up to the world, no one will respect us. Only STRENGTH respects strength. We must be strong not only as a military power but also as an economics power. Both must go hand-in-hand. My good fortune was to have worked with three great minds. Dr.Vikram Sarabhai of the Dept of Space, Professor Sathish Dhawan, who succeeded him and Dr. Brahm Prakash, father of nuclear material. I was lucky to have worked with all three of them closely and consider this the great opportunity of my life. I SEE FOUR MILESTONES IN MY CAREER: Twenty years I spent in ISRO. I was given the opportunity to be the Project Director for India's first satellite launch vehicle, SLV 3, the one that launched Rohini. These years played a very important role in my life of Scientist. After my ISRO years, I joined DRDO and got a chance to be the part of India's guided missile program. It was my second bliss when Agni met its mission requirements in 1994. The Dept. of Atomic Energy and DRDO had this tremendous partnership in the recent nuclear tests, on May 11 and 13. This was the third bliss. The joy of participating with my team in these nuclear tests and proving to the world that India can make-it, that we are no longer a developing nation but one of them. It makes me feel very proud as an Indian. The fact that we have now developed Agni, a re-entry structure, for which we have made this new material. A very light material called carbon-carbon. One day an orthopedic surgeon from Nizam Institute of Medical Science visited my laboratory. He lifted the material and found it so light that he took me to his hospital and showed me his patients. There were these little girls and boys with heavy metallic calipers weighing over three Kg. each, dragging their feet around. He said to me: Please remove the pain of my patients. In three weeks, we made these Floor reaction Orthosis 300 gram calipers and took them to the orthopedic center. The children didn't believe their eyes. Instead of dragging around a three kg load on their legs, they could now move around! Their parents had tears in the eyes. That was my fourth bliss! Why is the media here so negative? Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stones but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why? We are the first in milk production. We are number one in Remote sensing satellites. We are the second largest producer of wheat. We are the second largest producer of rice. Look at Dr. Sudarshan, he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, selfdriving unit. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.
I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert land into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news. In India we only read about death, sickness terrorism, crime. Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign TVs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology. Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India. For her, you and I will have to build this developed India. You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is highly developed nation. INDIAN MUST READ THIS? Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance. Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours. You say that our government inefficient. You say that our laws are too old. You say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage. You say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke, the airlines are the worst in the world, and mails never reach their destination. You say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is in absolute pits. You say, say and say. What do You do about it? Take a person on his way to Singapore. Give him a name - YOURS. Give him a face - YOURS. You walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. You are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay $5 (approx. Rs.60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Redder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. You come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity. In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? You wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai. You would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah. You would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds (Rs.650) a month to, "see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else". You would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, "Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and son of so and so. Take your two bucks and get lost”. You wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand. Why don’t' you spit Pan on the streets of Tokyo? Why don't You use examination jockeys or but fake certificates in Boston??? We are still talking of the same You. You, who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries, but cannot in your own, You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India? Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay, Mr. Maikar, had a point to make. Rich people's dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place", he said. "And then the same people turn around to criticize
and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dogs feel the pressure in his bowels? In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same is the case in Japan. Will the Indian citizen do that here? "He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility. We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to do everything for us. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms. We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity. This applies even to the staff that is known not pass on the service to the public. When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse is… "It is the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my son's rights to a dowry.”So who's going to change the system? What does a system consist of? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbors, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not Me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr. Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away. Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England. When England experience unemployment, we take the next flight out of the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian Government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money. Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too... I am echoing J.F. Kennedy's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians.... "Ask what we can do for India and do what had to be done to make India what America and other western countries are today". Let’s do what India needs from us. Thank You, DR. ABDUL KALAM (President of India) We take please in spreading the great message of our president who is working and living with a Vision & Mission to build a great India Replies: