Respondent’s Exhibit A is not the Stipulation and Order to Change that I, Autumn Clark, signed February 6, 2012.
When the paperwork was filled out to have shared placement I, Autumn Clark, filled out the papers and sent them to Thomas Clark to fill in his employment information as he would not provide me with this. On page four in the “Modify” section I filled out the part to modify physical placement only. After filling out the rest of the papers I signed them and sent them to Thomas Clark. While filling in the employment section he also took it upon himself to modify legal custody. I was unaware of this change until I received a copy mailed to me after the Stipulation and Order to Change had been signed by Judge Paul Curran on 2/21/2012. At the time I chose to not pursue any further course of action as I was hoping to talk to Thomas Clark and be able to work things out for the best for our children. I realize now that was a mistake. When Thomas and I were divorced I was granted sole custody and placement of Thomas Clark (goes by Tiege) and Macy Clark. In January 2012, after Thomas Clark expressed his desire to be an active parent, I allowed Tiege and Macy to live with Thomas Clark and Karli Kuehl with an agreement of 50/50 shared placement of the children. I did not agree to shared legal custody. July 27, 2012 Thomas Clark and I attended mediation at which time Thomas made his first attempt at sole custody of the children with me having periods of placement only on weekends. After acknowledging the fact he had not been a constant in the children’s life the mediator let Thomas know that it was not in the children’s best interest to be separated from me for long periods of time. She asked then if he had any concerns and Thomas stated he thought I was a good parent just thought that because of his living environment at Karli Kuehl’s home it was a more stable environment. He had no allegations at that time regarding any alleged abuse. Thomas and I were advised to meet and try to do things together for the children’s sake. I have made multiple attempts to get Thomas to meet to discuss any issues or just to spend a short amount of time together for the children’s sake at either Chuck E Cheese or out to dinner as the children have suggested. I am always told no. Thomas has a limited idea of what communication is. Communication between him and I is usually him telling me what I need to do and me informing him I am not doing it. I do realize this is not always the best way to handle disagreements but as his relationship with Karli has progressed I have had less and less ability to contact and speak with him directly. I received a copy of Thomas J. Clark’s affidavit supporting his motion to have sole legal custody and primary placement on August 28, 2012. This was the first time I learned of Thomas Clark’s concerns regarding physical abuse. Thomas Clark has not tried to discuss any concerns with me personally. I was self-admitted to Mayo due to depression and was released the next day. It had nothing to do with any abuse. Tiege and Macy were picked up a night early as they normally would have been picked up early the next morning Sunday July 7th, 2012. On July 8 at 7:55pm Thomas texted stating the kids could stay longer if I needed them to. I responded with telling him thank you I would let him know. July 9th, 2012 at 7:15pm Thomas texted again stating kids could stay a few days or until the end of the week that he had the rest of the week off and would love to spend the time with them. I asked him “Is this going to be something where you hold it against me later?” He responded back with he did not know what was going on and would not hold it against me when it came to him seeing the kids. He asked is everything ok. I let him know I had like a nervous breakdown and everything had kinda hit at once regarding Payten. (My niece who’s babysitter is on trial for her murder) Thomas said he was sorry to hear that and that they would be safe there. This was said as my sister’s best friend was her babysitter and my niece Payten was killed while in her care. I let Thomas know I was worried about him finding a way to use it against me and try to take the kids away from me. He stated “I won’t”. On July 17th Thomas stated I am
On a few occasions since March 2012 the children have informed me that when they get to their dad’s they are questioned about everything they do. There was no answer but the car was in the driveway so I asked him to knock again. Thomas and Karli are upset that I did not help pay for Macy’s dance lessons. I let the officer/dispatch know what was being said. I have helped pay for swimming lessons and baseball when Thomas asked me about placing them in and I was able to because he discussed it with me before signing them up. After receiving the affidavit of Thomas Clark’s I was shocked to read the extent of the accusations as on August 9th it was just that they didn’t feel safe. It had already started. When I asked why he did not respond. It was not in our budget and I could not continue to pay for it. They were not allowed to say Jacob’s name as they would get yelled at and treated as if they were cursing. Upon arrival Jacob Dobbs went up and knocked at the door. Said reports had already been filed and again said I needed to leave without the children. I let him know that both of the kids had told me he had been yelling at them to tell the truth and they had tried to tell him everything was ok here and that they were not scared but he had continued to yell at them to tell the truth. He was loud and seemed very agitated. On July 25th. As I was pulling away Karli stated the kids were not ours they were theirs and we wouldn’t be getting them and we needed to leave.) I called the police. Throughout the past year or so tensions have risen as well as tempers. Since then he has asked if the kids are ok. I always let him know they are fine. He didn’t deny or attempt to explain why he did this. He brought the children down to me. spoke with Jacob and I and then went to speak with Thomas. Both stated no. (Police report enclosed in affidavit marked exhibit c is dated August 9th. Jacob who was in close proximity stated he smelled of beer. Thomas said the kids were scared and I wouldn’t see them again. On the afternoon of August 7th.telling you since you won’t help pay for anything and I’m the main provider that things will be changing. As for the accusations of abuse I was concerned as to what was being said to Thomas as nothing had ever been said to me. They were not there so I proceeded to Thomas Clark’s house as it was my day to pick the kids up and Thomas was not responding to my attempts to reach him. Thomas eventually answered. As I was on the phone with the police he was yelling from the porch that he would make Jacob eat soap. When we were leaving the kids let me know their dad had them hiding in the basement if they heard a car pull in they needed to wake him up. 2012 I drove to the daycare provider’s home where the children were supposed to be. Both children answered yes. A Houston County Sheriff arrived. After this incident I filed for a change of the placement order requesting set days and times. stated we needed to leave that we were never seeing the children again. I asked them if they were afraid of Jacob and if he hit them. Tiege stated his dad had only a couple beers that morning because he was drinking the night before. We were advised to wait at the bottom of the driveway until they arrived. He asked if he could please pick them up the following day. 2012 Thomas stated he worried about the kids being here. On August 9th was the first text I received saying the kids felt unsafe. Tiege asked why I was asking the same questions his dad and Karli asked him. I explained I had been informed he and Macy were afraid to talk to me about being hurt and that I only wanted
. This was not the first time or the last he told me he had things started for court. When I was told they had already signed her up and I needed to pay my portion I said I would try but let them know I never agreed to sign Macy up for dance. I sat down with each Tiege and Macy at separate times and when Jacob was not home and told them I was worried they did not want to be here and asked if they felt safe. I asked to speak to the children he refused. I have asked numerous times why he keeps asking that and he never has an answer. I believe if Thomas was truly trying to communicate with me his concerns for the children these would have been perfect opportunities. He was threatening to beat him up.
2011 my four month old niece was pronounced dead. Why would I do that?” Thomas says in his statement that the kids say I am not mean and Jacob is only mean when I am gone. At the end of October 2011 I decided to move back to Wisconsin as my family. When Thomas informed me that the children had told him they felt unsafe he asked what I would do. Tiege missed school due to this. A small amount of dish soap was put in his mouth which he proceeded to spit out and he said he would never swear again. In Thomas Clark’s affidavit he states that he questions Tiege multiple times concerning a bruise.. By this time he was not living with his sister but with his parents. When it came up the first time I explained it to Thomas and let him know it had never happened again. The children felt he did not care about them so I hoped a move where Jacob’s family wanted to meet and get to know them might help. Wisconsin. We were here to help plan the funeral and left a few days after. and I were still taking it very hard and I felt I needed to
. When I asked him why he let me know he was allowed to because his dad said it was ok and that is what his dad called me. Tiege began to cry and when asked why. Thomas rarely seen them. I am no longer working and due to my depression and anxiety I rarely leave the house. Thomas Clark. Her babysitter is awaiting trial which begins in October 2013. He would call. In the spring of 2011. I let Tiege know that when his dad. drunk asking him how was his wife even though we were no longer together. I would go to court the very second I thought someone was harming my children. While living in Missouri in 2011 I allowed Tiege and Macy to spend time in May here in Wisconsin to see their dad. I tried grounding and timeouts and he kept swearing and saying he hated me. called his mom that name that Thomas got whipped with a belt. Macy has never drank soapy water and when asked she stated “That is disgusting. Although he lived so close to the kids. On the day we were leaving I had to go to Thomas Clark’s parents and ask him if he wanted to say goodbye. he said he had told a lie. As to the amount of moving I have done it has been what I felt was in the best interest of the children. She was murdered. Jacob has never hit me. Thomas has not liked my husband Jacob Dobbs from the moment we began dating. Jacob was asked to come and help out his ailing father who lived in Missouri. His dad and Karli kept telling him he was a liar and he needed to tell the truth so he lied and said Jacob did hit them so that he could just go play. I feel this is personal and not at all about the safety of the children. or Asher. Not wait over a year. Thomas. This was not the only time Tiege has felt he had to give the answer his dad wanted to hear. Thomas at the time was staying with his sister who lived across the hall. On August 19th. I discussed this with the kids and attempted to discuss with Thomas but he was too involved with himself. and at the time he stated it was to hard to see them because we lived with Jacob. He chose not to. Most of their time was spent with my family not actually with Thomas. we were living in Reedsburg. Macy. I brought the kids with me to help my sister as they were very upset and did not want to be away from me. Jacob let him know that when he was a kid he got soap in his mouth for swearing and if he continued to do so Tiege would also get soap in his mouth. When they returned it was with foul language directed solely at me. They were hurt by this in fact one day Tiege came in crying because Thomas had said hi to Robby and said nothing to him. Tiege said he would take the soap. By Tiege I was called many things including fat and lazy and was swore at. I would not let them return. Tiege stated that he and his sister have to lie otherwise Thomas and Karli just keep asking over and over. This was bizarre behavior as Tiege has always been a very well behaved boy. He would not ask how the kids were doing it was just to say what a loser Jacob was. Tiege. We do not live in fear of him.what was best for them. I asked about each of Thomas Clark’s accusations. I gave him options to say goodbye. As far as the portion about eating soap this first became an issue the summer of 2012.
I did not have any wart treatment done that day and told Tiege if he wanted to keep it he could. There are times that Tiege is worried Karli will be mad if he wears anything different so he will make sure he wears even the same underwear. My mom even sent a flowering plant home with Thomas for Macy that day. They had moved out by the time Thomas filed his affidavit. I believe it was because Karli was not around that he was able to acknowledge my presence. At one point my friends did stay with us. My depression and anxiety worsened and I felt I could not be away from my kids. The doctor informed me that warts usually go away on their own and to remove it was purely cosmetic. The moves were made to benefit the whole family. Thomas would not allow me to have children 50% of the time as he did not like that we were living in a motel. Tiege and Macy each have their own room. We work on speaking slowly and deliberately so that it comes out clearer. Asher sleeps in his crib in our room. When the children are with me after school we all work on homework together. Thomas does not notify me of doctor appointments. Mostly Thursday until Monday as they were looking for their own place and looking for jobs in the area. I moved me and the kids to my mom’s house in Sparta. They were moving from Necedah so it was a long drive to look for work. The children mostly shower not take baths at my house and get asked if they have had a bath they reply no because they showered. Jacob did not agree with the move and we broke up for a few weeks. Thomas declined. When I tried to go I was informed the appointment had been rescheduled but there was one open if I wanted to wait. I do have an informational sheet from the chiropractor that shows how a misalignment can cause a nerve to be pinch and depending on the nerve can cause problems throughout the body. Morgan the need to remove the wart because Tiege had told him he didn’t want it removed. When I questioned him after he took Tiege to have a wart removed he let me know when the next appointment was. I waited and discussed with Dr. By Thanksgiving he had also moved back. As I have never been informed of the IEP meetings I have not attended but I have worked with Tiege on his speech since he was learning to talk. I have recently begun to take the kids to see a chiropractor. Throughout the summer I have allowed Tiege and Macy to stay up past their normal 8:00pm bedtime as they do not have school or summer activities. When I told Thomas they were going he asked what for and I told him he was more than welcome to come with so that the doctor could explain the benefits of chiropractic care. There are many proven health benefits from chiropractic care. Thomas is well aware that I also attended Macy’s ballet recital as he came out and spoke with my mom. He is also well aware of all the concerts as I make sure to tell the kids hi if it is his day and to have them or let them tell him hi if it is our day to have them. Since school was starting the past two weeks when I have had them they have had to go to bed earlier. my sister and myself. As far as clean clothes. Because the move back was not well thought out it took a little to get back on our feet. I tried to wash their clothes and was told to not wash them by Thomas. Thomas is well aware of that as he met us there. From that small apartment we moved into the 3 bedroom we are residing in now.be there for them. Tiege had missed some school due to being sad and grieving. He would wake up in the middle of the night and ask if Payten was really dead because he loved her and missed her. At the start of the 2012-2013 school year my friend Ashlee and I took the children to their back to school night. Wisconsin right before Halloween. Thomas has told me over and over that the kids are to wear the clothes they are sent in back to his house. Tiege has books he reads that
. He is very smart and can communicate well but talks quickly and will mispronounce words. In February 2012 we did move into a motel in La Crosse so that we could be closer to the kids. We moved from the motel to an apartment in April 2012. Macy stated that Karli gets mad if I wash them and asked me not to as well. Tiege said his dad must not like the way he looked.
child care or agreed upon neutral location. c) Alternate Saturday nights 2) Award sole legal custody to Mother 3) Transportation: Exchanges to occur by the parent beginning placement to pick up from school. Whenever Thomas has asked to speak to the children they are allowed to call him. As Thomas has told me reception isn’t always the best and since he is unwilling to share his work schedule I do not just let the children call whenever.he finds interesting so I allow him time to read those and we work on his reading assignments at breakfast (mostly) so he doesn’t feel wore out by them. I am requesting that the court: 1) Keep the shared placement agreement with equal times between Mother and Father. a) Mother: Pick up Wednesdays at the school and will have until 5:30 pm Sunday. b) Father: Pick up Sunday at 5:30 and have until Mother picks up on Wednesday. Only told they would have to wait until after 5 as I did not know if Thomas was working or not. 5) Appoint Guardian ad Litem if necessary or Custody Assessment Team if further investigation is required. They have never been grounded for wanting to call. 4) Any activities the children are signed up for will be agreed upon by both parents to split cost or it is the parent’s responsibility to cover cost if they sign children up without consent from other parent.
Because of these false accusations of physical abuse. the inaccuracy of Thomas Clark’s information and the fact that he refuses to attend any additional mediation or meet with me.