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I thought I'd share this useful information I found on the subject of attraction . Here we go...

__________________________________________________________________ The COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE TO ATTRACTION BY MR M The question that I hear most frequently from students on bootcamp who want to b etter themselves with women is: how do I get a woman attracted to me?'. I have de cided to write an entire book on Attraction which should be released in a few mo nths. For now, this comprehensive article should help in answering this question . My Background In Attraction I used to have massive problems with attraction. If you have read my bio, you ll know that I had my first kiss at 20 (almost 21 yea rs old), despite trying for at least 5 years to get a girlfriend. I never wanted to be a pick up artist (and I still don't consider myself as one of those weird g roup of guys). I just wanted to get better with women and understand why I was s o terrible with them. Now, I rank amongst the top men in the world in terms of a bility with women. Learning to generate attraction was a big part of this. How I Learned Attraction The way that I learned how to create attraction or be attractive was by 'small c hunking' attraction routines, attraction techniques and the principles of attrac tion into my interactions with women. So yes, I did use attraction routines, but only as training wheels. After a while, I started to be able to generate powerf ul attraction using these techniques and routines. Over time, I was able to deve lop attraction in women quite consistently. I subsequently developed a conceptua l, rather than rote, understanding of Attraction, which soon evolved into an ide ntity based attractiveness. I.e. I got the knowledge, I implemented the actions and then I simply became an attractive person as I repetitively tried to generat e attraction in women... or as we say in the new Inner Game Seminar - KNOW, DO, BE. Attraction Basics As David DeAngelo says, 'Attraction isn t a choice'. A woman's 'reptilian brain', rather than her logical brain, makes the decision o f whether or not she is attracted to you. The reptilian brain bases its decision s on VALUE. VALUE is based on SURVIVAL, REPLICATION AND GOOD EMOTIONS. For those of you who have read Magic Bullets , you will be aware that the key qualities w hich display survival, replication and good emotions are: Health Social Intuition Humor Status Wealth Pre selected Challenging

Confident All of these qualities demonstrate high value and are triggers of attraction. If you can convey that you are a man who possesses these qualities, attraction sho uld follow. Why? Because it is this value that speaks to a woman's reptilian bra in i.e. the part of her mind which generates attraction. The Different Types of Attraction There are generally 5 types of attraction. Full credit to The Don for introducin g me to the basic concept of the different types of attraction. I have expanded upon his 2 categories of Intrigue and Buying Temperature based attraction below, creating further sub categories to aid understanding. 1. Buying Temperature a. Definition: Her state is increased by being around you b. Done by: Teasing , humor , role plays , cocky funny, misinterpretation, games , kino escalation and dominance, Braddock style funny disqualification etc c. Emphasis on: Humor (particularly push pull), pre-selection , dominance d. Characteristically: You don t have to talk about yourself at all the focus is o n fun e. Drawbacks: This type of attraction is transferable and can be easily lost if you lose momentum. You can also become a dancing monkey or come across as reacti on seeking

2. Intrigue a. Definition: She is intrigued by talking to you you have an uncanny understand ing of her and other people around her b. Done by: Cold reading, IVDs (Interactive Value Demonstrations), storytelling c. Emphasis on: Social Intuition and showing dominance over her world d. Characteristically: You talk about her, others and your unique experiences. T he focus is on intriguing her. e. Drawbacks: Can feel contrived as it relies on cold reads, palm reads and ofte n constructed methods of impressing a woman etc. It is often not appropriate or practical in many high energy situations

3. Value Based Attraction a. Definition: She wants to get to know you and be around you because you are hi gh value in her eyes. You are a guy that she could potentially sleep with and ev en have a relationship with b. Done by: Framing, social proof, storytelling , disqualification, leading, neg s, sexual hoops, innuendo c. Emphasis on: Health, leader of men, wealth, pre-selection , challenging, conf idence d. Characteristically: you talk about yourself e. Drawbacks: This causes sexual receptiveness, but seldom causes sexual aggress iveness from the woman. Does not work as immediately as something like buying te mperature attraction. This is because it can take time to create high value fram es

4. Warm and Fuzzy attraction a. Definition: She sees you as an authentic and real person with integrity and a well rounded personality

b. Done by: Storytelling about family, friends, your childhood and vulnerabiliti es. The infamous 'holes in jeans' routine is a good example of this c. Emphasis on: Protector of loved ones, willingness to emote, moving life stori es d. Characteristically: You talk about yourself, your family and your experiences e. Drawbacks: Too much of this and you can become boring or one dimensional

5. Emotional Connection/Qualification (The bridge between Attraction and Qualifi cation and Comfort) a. Definition: She feels that you are on the same wavelength as her. This actual ly amplifies existing attraction. What I am trying to describe here is the overl ap between Qualification and Attraction. Emotional Connection/Qualification is v ital as it helps to normalize the conversation with the girl and consequently SO LIDIFY or CRYSTALLIZE attraction. Attraction can typically be lost very easily. However, if you have qualified her, then Attraction will 'solidify' or 'crystall ize'. Too many guys forget that they need to normalize the conversation and end up wondering why an interaction peters out after they are done with their cocky/ funny personality/material. You will rarely ever be able to seduce a girl withou t having some form of normal conversation with her at some point. Note, however, that building an Emotional Connection is ideally done after you have already es tablished other forms of attraction such as Buying Temperature and High Value b. Done by: Normalization of conversation, finding topics of common interest and starting to talk more deeply about those topics and finding qualities about her that interest you c. Emphasis on: Social intuition, genuinely connecting, qualification d. Characteristically: You and her exchange thoughts about your commonalities an d you validate her about qualities that she possesses that are important to you (note that there is overlap here with the qualification and comfort stages of th e Emotional Progression Model ). On a more advanced level, it can include reward ing any compliance with verbal or physical feedback e. Drawbacks: If you do too much 'emotional connecting' without demonstrating bu ying temperature, intrigue, value based attraction etc, you may fall into the let s just be friends zone, unless she is already attracted to you based on your looks , social status, social proof etc Note that The Don and Braddock teach that there are only two categories - Intrig ue and Buying Temperature. The above list is a slightly expanded method of class ification. However, using their model, Value Based Attraction, 'Warm and Fuzzy' Attraction and Emotional Connection/Qualification Attraction would belong in the category of Intrigue based Attraction. The Don 's / Braddock 's definitions may in fact be more useful to use in-field as it is easier to use quickly.

Practical Applications Focusing on one type of attraction leads to different results. Ideally, you woul d employ a combination of all types, but this is not necessary all the time. For example, let's say that all you are doing is creating Buying Temperature att raction by being cocky and funny. The positive aspect of this is that it may lea d to a SNL (especially if you have decent physical escalation ). However, the di sadvantage is that if for some reason you have to leave her, she may very well h ook up with someone else as Buying Temperature Attraction is transferable. Other types of Attraction have similar drawbacks. For example, if all you are doing i

s creating an emotional connection, there is the danger of going into the friend zone . There are other drawbacks, but I can't cover them all here. Another implication is that if you are having difficulty hooking a set using a p articular type of attraction, you can try building another type of attraction wi th the girl. For example, if the girl is not responding to Buying Temperature, y ou can try using some 'Warm and Fuzzy' Attraction techniques to get her to open up. OK - enough with the theory. Let's have a look at some of the techniques that ar e immediately usable to create attraction. Powerful Techniques That Can Be Used To Generate Attraction Below, I cover around seven powerful techniques that can be used to generate att raction. Often, these techniques occur naturally in normal conversation and gene rate attraction and fun. However, they can be consciously used so that attractio n can be consciously generated. Many more advanced techniques are covered on my bootcamps . 1. Teasing This is simply making fun of the girl in a humorous way based off what she says, what she does or her appearance. Yes, you can see teasing as a way to change yo ur value relative to her value to create attraction, but I prefer to think of it as a fun way to create a good vibe between the two of you. Teasing he girl hat you amps is comes a lot from practice. In particular listen very carefully to what t is saying or carefully observe her mannerisms and base your teases off w hear/see. The 'Trigger Words' exercise Braddock and I teach at our bootc a great exercise to learn teasing .

However, learning teasing can also be done by learning some generic teases and p utting them into practice straight away. Here are some good ones: She acts slightly childish (also can be used in any other occasion when you want to make fun of her): Wow you re like a little kid, I m gonna give you some crayons and a little helmet and put you in the corner so you can draw some pictures or Isn t it past your bedtime? She says something feisty/challenging: Where is your off button? That s cool. I mean like sure. I thought you were a nice girl but that s no way to tal k about a guy whose parents just died last night. [PAUSE] No, actually that is bul lshit but if that was true it could have been awful so stop being naughty [credit to Braddock and 5.0] 2. Role Plays This is a great technique that can be used to create a bubble world between you an d the girl where the two of you act out roles to create a fun and playful atmosp here. It has the effect of the making the girl think she has known you longer th an is actually the case. On a deeper level (which I teach on my bootcamps ), Rol e Plays can be manipulated to create a safe environment for sexual escalation to occur on a sub conscious level. Because it is role-playing, it also rl in a non-threatening because it Rich wife: I m looking for a sugar mummy. Are an drink straight vodka and do coke allows you to become more sexual with the gi is just play-acting . Here are some examples: you rich? Cool because I want a rich wife so I c all day. And of course sex every day. Obviou

sly I want to try in a few new positions once in a while like doggy, reverse cow girl, inverted razor and flying penguin. [Note that this is also an example of se xual framing as used in Role Plays - a powerful technique I teach on my bootcamp s] Any traveling role-play: Lets go to Vegas, get the penthouse suite and spend all our money or We ll go to Gree ce and sell hotdogs on the beach 3. Misinterpretation Misinterpretation is a powerful technique used to 'frame' a conversation in a wa y that is advantageous to you. (I teach framing to great depth in my bootcamps ) . For example, you misinterpret something she says and make out THAT SHE IS THE SEXUAL PREDATOR and is trying to come on to you. Misinterpretation is best used once the set is hooked. Here are some examples: Your cool but I m trying to snag a rich girl tonight OMG, I m not just a sausage with feet you know [credit Swingcat] Whoa, slow down, turbo, I barely know you 4. Future Projections Future Projections are similar to role plays in that they create a playful bubble between you and the girl. However, instead of acting out roles, you describe to her the adventures that the two of you will be doing together sometime in the fu ture. The sillier the adventure is, the better to create attraction (note that y ou can also use Future Projections in Comfort but these tend to have a more seri ous edge). Future Projections are also an opportunity to use imaginative language, creativi ty and sexual innuendo in a non-threatening, humorous way. One other benefit is that it gets the girl picturing you and her doing something together in the futu re and therefore see you as someone she could see again. Here are some examples: You future project/role play that you and the girl going to Vegas and getting ma rried You future project/role play that you and the girl traveling anywhere and doing crazy stuff You future project/role play that you and the girl opening an ice cream stall in New Zealand and living in huts Note that you can even string a bunch of these together. 5. Cold Reads Cold reading is where you tell a girl you have just met something about her char acter and personality which logically only someone who has known her for a while , would know. Cold reads will show her you have strong social intuition. If you can show her that you know her almost better than she knows herself, it establis hes dominance over her world, which is a major attraction switch. Once you ve known enough girls and done enough sets, you should start getting a fe el for cold reading girls (I went through a phase after teaching about 1000 boot camps in a row for various seduction /dating companies when I started having ext remely sharp intuitions about girls), but help start to off, here are some gener ic examples: Good girl face, bad girl mannerisms: You know, you ve got a very good girl face but every now and again, you make these little bad girl mannerisms. I like that. Connection difficulty:

You know you ve got a good energy but I can sense a part of you is closed. Maybe it s your heart charkra or something. Do you ever have difficulty connecting with pe ople? [Girl answers 'yes'] Do you ever feel lonely because you have trouble connec ting? Growing up early: I'm going out on a limb here, but it feels to me like that when you were a kid... .or even a teenager...something happened. Something made you grow up really fast , or become an adult before you were ready. 6. DHV Storytelling DHV storytelling is a very effective attraction tool if done well. You want to b e telling stories about your life and spike them with subtle hints about the key attractive qualities that you possess. It is also important to convey within yo ur storytelling , your passion and purpose in life as well as your identity . Do not bombard the girl with multiple and obvious high value qualities within yo ur stories as you will come across as too try hard . Outwardly, the story should be about X, Y and Z but as you tell it, you drop little hints about things which a re attractive about you (e.g. by casually mentioning an ex-girlfriend or that yo u recently came back traveling). This is one of the main techniques that I used to pick up the Playboy Playmate (see field report here: Picking Up A Celebrity P layboy Playmate (WITH PICTURES)). The problem with most guys is they tell stories about their house and cars... do n t be one of them! 7. Leading Leadership is a huge part of attraction. It is related to dominance, which is cr ucial to attraction as it is the 'feminine polarity' (a concept Braddock and I c over in the Inner Game Seminar). Examples of leading in the context of pick-up i nclude: Using pattern interrupts (an NLP technique taught on bootcamp ) Taking the initiative for topics of conversation (by 'cutting threads' when nece ssary) Physically lead her Importantly, leading well is about building up compliance momentum. In other wor ds you need to first use leading techniques which require only low compliance fr om the girl, before you use other techniques which will require a higher complia nce level. For example, low compliance would be asking a girl to hold your glass or moving her gently (by touching her elbow) a little to the side saying, These people keep bumping into me . A good example of medium compliance would be get her to sit down with you. High compliance includes things like kissing / make out, bouncing locations etc. ---Conclusion This represents basic but foundational information about attraction. It covers s ome of the concepts in my upcoming book on Attraction, which is going to be my ' manifesto' when completed. Keep in mind that this article does not cover aspects of attraction related to v ery important concepts such as sub communication, sexual intent, social dominanc e (click here on a must read article on achieving social dominance) and other fa ctors which are crucial to achieving solid sexual attraction. Nonetheless, I hope that this article has given you a deeper understanding on ho w to convey the different key attractive qualities that women respond to. It sho uld give you a 'kick start' in your attraction game and techniques that you can

use straight away. Hope to see you on one my of bootcamps soon! Mr M P.s. After Attraction, Qualification is the next phase of the Emotional Progress ion Model. ___________________________________________________________________ This one might be worth printing out! - Happy Gaming! - Energetica