Business Communication - 1
Mali Mahalingam
mahalingam_c@yahoo.com
The Agenda!
Fundamentals of Communication Conversations: Transactional Analysis Three Styles of communication Listening Skills / Apprehensions Organizational Communication
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Communication Fundamentals
Why Communication?
Communication is a social need for an individual, but is the lifeblood of an organization If individuals communicate 70% of the waking time, an organization communicates 90% of its working time Business communication helps us prepare for being effective in business situations We need to be good at business communication to create impact, to influence and to get things done! At the end of the day, if we cannot express right, we cannot impress right!
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Anon
Communication is a lot like a love affair! Almost any fool can start it, but to end it well requires considerable skill!
Basic fundas
Comes from Latin communis which means common. Transfer of information & understanding from one person to another. Communication skills include listening, speaking, reading and writing Communication is complete not when the sender has sent but when the receiver has received & understood Good communication is 90% sincerity and 10% skills! You cannot talk yourself out of situations you have behaved yourself into!
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Classifications
Verbal communication Non-verbal communication Pictures, signs, gestures, facial expressions Meta communication
Noise
5
Noise
Noise
Noise
4
Sender has idea
Noise
Noise
Noise
6
Noise
Elements of Communication
Oral
Telephone Face-to-face conversation Company meetings Team meetings
Electronic
E-mail, Instant messaging Voicemail, Videoconferencing Intranet
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Barriers to Communication
Socio-psychological barriers Emotions Selective perception Information overload Loss by transmission Poor retention Goal Conflicts Offensive style Abstracting Interring
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Sender-related barriers
Lack of planning Vagueness about the purpose of the communication Poor choice of words Unshared or incorrect assumptions Wrong choice of channels
Poor listening skills Mistrust Lack of interest Semantic difficulties Biases Attitudinal clash with sender
Seven Cs of Communication
Candidness Clarity Completeness Conciseness Concreteness Correctness Courtesy
Being Concise.
At this point in time.. As regards the fact that. Because of the fact that.. Are in need of.. In due course of time Not very far from here.
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Communication Flow
downward , or enabling, communication that moves
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Conversations
Transactional Analysis
Time Structuring Stroke Analysis Structural Analysis Transaction Analysis Life Position Analysis Game Analysis
Structural Analysis
Eric Berne believed that when we interact with other people, our state of mind affects what happens He believed that there were three states of mind in all humans, no matter how old they were, called ego states
ADULT PARENT
CHILD
Structural Analysis
CP
NP
NC
Parent
Adult
Child
AC LP
Interactions, responses, actions regarded as appropriate and expected from another person. Parallel communication arrows, communication continues.
P A C
P A C
Stimulus: Can we meet for 10 minutes? Response: Sure, how about at 11 am?
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P A C
P A C
Stimulus: You are late again! Response: Sorry please. It wont happen in future
Interactions, responses, actions NOT regarded as appropriate or expected from another person. Crossed communication arrows, communication breakdown.
P A C
P A C
Stimulus: Hi, Good Morning buddy! Response: Cant you see I am busy?
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P A C
P A C
Stimulus at the social level is Adult to Adult, but at the psychological level, it is actually Adult to Child Ulterior transactions are usually a con to play a game
P A C
P A C
Stimulus: That is the latest iPod; and there is a 50% off at the moment, if you are keen! Response: Wow! That is amazing; I will take one right away!
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Psychological Games
Im only trying to help you
Yes, But
Harried
Stupid
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Cornered
Key takeaways
Positions and (b) Unique Ego states We cannot remove what has been recorded; but we do have a choice not to feel compelled to play the recording By focusing on Adult Ego State, we can become capable of what we say and do By watching out cons that get us into psychological games, we can stay out of this; We can also analyze how we transact and understand out own tendencies to play games Healthy interpersonal relations are something we can choose to direct
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Listening
7 levels of listening
Not listening Pretend listening Partial listening Focused listening Interpretive listening Interactive listening Engaged listening
Interrupting often or try to finish the other persons sentences Jumping to conclusions Being overly parental and answer with advice, even when not requested Making up ones mind before receiving all information Being a compulsive note taker and attention is on ones notes Giving no response afterward, but committing to send a response Impatience Losing temper when hearing things that one does not agree with Trying to change the subject to something that relates to ones own experiences Thinking more about reply while the other person is speaking
Keep your mind open Poor listener: Reacts to emotional words Good listener: Does not get hung up on emotional words Thought is faster than speech Poor listener: Tends to daydream with slow speakers Good listener: Listens between the lines to tone & voice
Application
Arthur Miller
It is not what you say; it is how you say it because personality always wins the day!
Aggressive
Passive
Assertive
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Beliefs "Everyone should be like me." "I am never wrong." "I've got rights, but you don't."
Communication Style
Close minded Poor listener Has difficulty seeing the other person's point of view Interrupts Monopolizing
Aggressive Style
Characteristics Achieves goals, often at others' expense Domineering, bullying Patronizing Condescending, sarcastic Behavior Puts others down Doesn't ever think they are wrong Bossy Moves into people's space,
overpowers
Jumps on others, pushes people around Know-it-all attitude Doesn't show appreciation
Aggressive styles
Verbal Cues "You must (should, ought better)." "Don't ask why. Just do it." Verbal abuse Confrontation and
Nonverbal Cues Points, shakes finger Frowns Squints eyes critically Glares Stares Rigid posture Critical, loud, yelling tone of voice
Problem Solving
Aggressive style
Feelings Felt Anger Hostility Frustration Impatience Effects Provokes counteraggression, alienation from others, ill health Wastes time and energy over-supervising others Pays high price in human relationships Fosters resistance, defiance, sabotaging, striking back, forming alliances, lying, covering up Forces compliance with resentment
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Passive Style
Beliefs
"Don't express your true feelings." "Don't make waves." "Don't disagree." "Others have more rights than I do." Indirect Always agrees Doesn't speak up/ Hesitant
Communication Style
Passive Style
Characteristics Apologetic, self-conscious Trusts others, but not self Doesn't express own wants and feelings Allows others to make decisions for self Doesn't get what he or she wants Behaviors Sighs a lot Tries to sit on both sides of the fence to avoid conflict Clams up when feeling treated unfairly Asks permission unnecessarily Complains instead of taking action Lets others make choices Has difficulty implementing plans Self-effacing
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Passive Style
Nonverbal Cues
Fidgets Nods head often; comes across as pleading Lack of facial animation Smiles and nods in agreement Downcast eyes Slumped posture Low volume, meek Up talk Fast, when anxious; slow, hesitant, when doubtful
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Passive Style
Verbal Cues
"You should do it." "You have more experience than I do." "I can't......" "This is probably wrong, but..." "I'll try..." Monotone, low energy
Passive Style
Confrontation and Problem Solving Avoids, ignores, leaves, postpones Withdraws, is sullen and silent Agrees externally, while disagreeing internally Expends energy to avoid conflicts that are anxiety provoking Spends too much time asking for advice, supervision Agrees too often
Passive style
Feelings Felt
Powerlessness Wonders why doesn't receive credit for good work Chalks lack of recognition to others' inabilities Gives up being him or herself Builds dependency relationships Doesn't know where he or she stands Slowly loses self esteem/ Promotes others' causes Is not well-liked
Effects
Believes self and others are valuable Knowing that assertiveness doesn't mean you always win, but that you handled the situation as effectively as possible "I have rights and so do others." Effective, active listener States limits, expectations States observations, no labels or judgments Expresses self directly, honestly, and as soon as possible about feelings and wants Checks on others feelings
Communication Style
Assertive Style
Characteristics Non-judgmental Observes behavior rather than labeling it Trusts self and others Confident Self-aware Open, flexible, versatile Playful, sense of humor Decisive Proactive, initiating
Assertive Style
Behavior Operates from choice Knows what it is needed and develops a plan to get it Action-oriented Firm Realistic in her expectations Fair, just Consistent Takes appropriate action toward getting what she wants without denying rights of others
Assertive Style
Nonverbal Cues
Open, natural gestures Attentive, interested facial expression Direct eye contact Confident or relaxed posture Vocal volume appropriate, expressive Varied rate of speech
Assertive Style
Verbal Cues "I choose to..." "What are my options?" "What alternatives do we have?" Confrontation and Problem Solving Negotiates, bargains, trades off, compromises Confronts problems at the time they happen Doesn't let negative feelings build up
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Assertive style.
Feelings Felt Enthusiasm Well being Even tempered Effects Increased self-esteem and self-confidence Increased self-esteem of others Feels motivated and understood Others know where they stand
in mind that very few people are all one or another style. In fact, the aggressive style is essential at certain times such as: when a decision has to be made quickly; during emergencies; when you know you're right and that fact is crucial; stimulating creativity by designing competitions destined for use in training or to increase productivity
Passiveness also has its critical applications: when an issue is minor; when the problems caused by the conflict are greater
than the conflict itself; when emotions are running high and it makes sense to take a break in order to calm down and regain perspective; when your power is much lower than the other party's; when the other's position is impossible to change for all practical purposes (i.e., government policies, etc.).
Communication Apprehension
Communication Apprehensions
Why apprehension?
Novelty with situation Formality Subordinate status Peer evaluation Dissimilarity with audience Conspicuousness Lack of attention Prior history
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Organizational Communication
Communication framework
Communication framework involves the following:
Manager- employee communication GOC level communication Company-wide communication Policy & Program communication, business update from the Company Employee concerns, views & suggestions for improvement Communication Channels will be both technology-enabled and traditional fact to face Communication objective will determine this
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Communication matrix
Type One-on-One Owner Manager Objectives Periodicity Effectiveness Criteria
Performance Once a month *Regular discussions discussions / *Employee sat on Career Concerns/ these meetings other concerns * Issues tackled Concerns/ Issues Once in Quarter * Regularity Appreciation * Employee Sat
Skip Level
Up-line Mgr
Business & People Once a Quarter * Employee update participation * Employee Sat
HR
Communication matrix
Type GOC Focus Group Pulse Checks Owner Objectives Periodicity Effectiveness Criteria
HR Manager Common Employee Once a Month * Regularity concerns * Issues resolved Employee Relations New employee resolution 30 / 90 days * Issues resolved
Support Group Employee Open House Relations TGIF Employee Relations President
Common Employee Once in 2 concerns months All Hands Biz update/ recognition
* Issues resolved
Round Table
Updates / Employee Once a month * Participation suggestions * Employee sat Employee Suggestions Ongoing * Participation * Implementation
MyVoice
Employee Relations
Communication Matrix
Type Jhankar Owner Employee Relations Objectives Periodicity Effectiveness Criteria * Participation * Employee sat Location-based Annual All Hands/ reward celebration Informal sharing Monthly
Chronicle
Employees
* Readership * Content Quality * Readership * Content Quality * Usage * Content Quality * Participation * Employee Sat * Best employer Status
In-Touch
MySymphony Commn / HR
Ongoing
HR
Once a year
Ownership clarity
People Managers own the one-on-ones and skip levels.
Employee communication forms a key part of their People Management Goals in the Performance Appraisal process GOC Managers own the All Hands meetings. They will include company update from Presidents office plus their own business update for sharing, besides any update on people / HR matters HR function owns the GOC focus groups, Support group open house, TGIF, Jhankar, GPTW surveys, Pulse checks and the like Presidents office owns the Round Table HR facilitates the CEOs update to GOC Managers
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Role of HR
communication vehicles and will ensure their effective functioning HR will also collect feedback on the effectiveness of other channels and share with the channel owners HR agenda for Biz HR managers include monitoring effective practice of these communication channels at the GOC / BU level Automated tools as appropriate will be leveraged for tracking and monitoring the effectiveness
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