SELF MANAGEMENT

Chapter 1
Meaning:
“Self management means to manage your self and mind so that you can take right decision on right time.” Self management must begin from within as we strive to develop a good character and personality. We must work steadily towards our desire for self growth and we would in due course obtain a fulfilling and rewarding life and strength our innate abilities. We must make a serious and honest assessment of ourselves – the way we think and the way we conduct our lives. We all have shortcomings and failures and it is up to us to improve ourselves, but we have to begin from within us. We may not realize what a setback we have been in our own lives until it is late. Oh, how we wish that we could undo much of the foolish things we have done. Well, we cannot change the past, but we can change have some measure of control over the present and insist on self management to shape future. Self management is initiated by you for you. When you make an effort to improve your health, manage your weight, enhance your appearance, upgrade your standard of education and such like, tat is self management. Remember that to be successful you have to make an effort to achieve self management. you can never walk to another place if you keep standing in the same place all the time, you have to put one foot forward then the other, and keep up that pattern until you reach yore destination or you soon will not be able to stand at all and, obviously, will get nowhere. Your self management is your means of transport for your journey to a happy and rewarding life. To attain personal improvement whether physically, mentally, monetarily, spiritually or socially you must equip yourself with the necessary skill or
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knowledge to bring about what you wish to achieve in order to enhance our lifestyle. Music can uplift your spirits tremendously by giving you a delightful feeling of tranquility and peace of mind. if you do not intend to improve yourself, do not expect any great measure of success in life. The way you think or act, the choices you make, all affect you personally. Whatever you do to bring pleasure to your life involves you, and any measure of success begins with your personal improvement. all achievers are well aware of this fact.

Self management helps you to:• • • • • • •

Increase Your Motivation Save Time Improve Your Grades Strengthen Your Relationships Communicate More Effectively Raise Your Self-confidence Increase Positive Feelings, Behaviors, and Thoughts

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Chapter 2
The components of self management
The components of self management are as follows:1. Self concept 2. Self recognition 3. Self definition 4. Self regulation 5. Self awareness 6. Self control 7. Self esteem 8. Self monitoring 9. Self efficacy • Self concept: Self concept is the overall image we have of ourselves. The self concept provides us with our personal identify or sense of who we are. The self concept is our sense of self. Our self concept then helps us to understand ourselves and also to control or regulate our behavior. • Self recognition:Person’s ability to recognize their own physical image is self recognition. The gradual realization that we are beings separate from other people on ourselves and actions.

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• Self definition:External and psychological characteristics by which a person describes himself or herself. It helps to identifying the inner and outer characteristics we consider significant in describing ourselves. • Self regulation:Person’s independent control of behaviour to conform to understood social expectations. Persons begin to regulate and control themselves from childhood itself. • Self awareness:Realization, beginning in infancy, of separateness from other people and things, allowing reflection on one’s own action in relation to social standards.

Self control:Person’s ability to alter or delay an action when the caregiver is not present , on the basis of knowing what behavior is socially acceptable.

Self esteem:Person’s self image is self esteem. It refers to an individual’s attitude about himself or herself involving self evaluation along a positivenegative dimension. It is also defined as an individual degree of liking or disliking of themselves.

Self monitoring:It is defined as the personality trait that measures an individual ability to adjust his or her behaviour to external situation factors. High self monitors are more likely to be successful in management position in which individuals are required to play multiple and even contradicting roles.

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Self efficacy:-

It refers to an individual’s belief that he or she is capable of performing a task. The higher your self efficacy score the more confidence you have in your ability to succeed in a given task. The above given concept will help you to understand your self more clearly.

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Chapter 3
Self management helps you to develop your self through:


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Self-skill Goal Setting - Planning and Achieving Personal Ambitions Planning Skills - How to Plan Complex Tasks Self-Growth Personal Skill Development Overview of Decision Making Time and Schedule Management Problem Solving Depression and Anxiety Dreams and Dreaming Meditation: Try It Out Managing Your Stress and Anxiety Priority Setting: "First Things First" Suggestions Regarding Motivation Personal Stress Management Stress Management How to Stop Worrying and Start Living Controlling Anger Before It Controls You Life Plan - plan and live an excellent life!


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Interpersonal Skills Phone Skills Writing Effectively Interpersonal Skill Development Teamwork Skills Leadership, Communication and Change

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Managing your self through Time management strategies:A. Two activities for better time utilization:1. Segmentation – the process of separating those things over which you have control from those which you do not 2. Concentration: The process of systematically controlling those things that can be controlled  Consists of planning, organizing, and implementing activities to control the time use. B. Planning: The most important step in time management  Important to engage in planning before beginning any task, project, or the day’s activities.  Deciding what should be done first and what should follow sequentially.  Closeness of deadlines and the existing time frame Scheduling activities : Determine how much time gets spent on a specific activity  Establishing to do lists  Keeps one focused on specific activities  Reflects priorities and goals  Revised daily or more frequently Organizing:

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Remove everything from the work surface that does not directly relate to the project at hand. Place the phone out of sight but within reach Remove all personal items that might prove to be distracters Complete concentration on one activity until it is accomplished. Undertake and complete only one activity at a time. Complete the task correctly the first time. Implementing for control:-

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1. Finding “extra” time:• Using commuting time and coffee breaks to relax • Instituting working lunches periodically, such as twice a week • Posing a question to the subconscious prior to sleep • Decreasing the usual sleeping time by one half hour per night to create a whole week of extra time per year 2. Avoiding procrastination:• Identify the tasks that are being put off and ask why • Determine if the task could or should be done by someone else • Set priorities in relation to the task and establish deadlines • Focus on one aspect at a time

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Delegating appropriately:1. Internal barriers to delegation:• Personal preference for how tasks get accomplished • Believing that no one else can complete the task as well • Lack of experience in delegating • Insecurity; fear of being disliked • Poor communication skills 2. External barriers to delegation: Implementation of a management by crises style  Confusion regarding responsibilities and authority  Understaffing  Lack of experience or competence in the delegate  Delegate’s avoidance of responsibility or overdependence on others 3. Steps to facilitate appropriate delegation  Identify exactly what is to be delegated and why  Select the best person for the task  Communicate the assignment in detail
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    G.

Involve the person in establishing objectives and deadlines Give the person the authority for accomplishing the task Provide adequate resources and support as needed Schedule regular meetings for progress reports

Controlling interruptions:-

 Most frequent causes of interruptions: telephone calls, meetings, and visitors  Do not answer calls during time scheduled for other activities  Schedule callbacks for times when productivity level is lower  Be prepared for the conversation with all of the relevant facts readily available H. Continuing to succeed: When feeling overwhelmed, always stop and plan activities  Keep focused on priorities and act accordingly  Avoid favorite forms of procrastination  Maintain a positive attitude about established goals or revise them so they coincide with your value system  Do something for yourself every day  Continue to work on overcoming your fears  Resist doing the easy but unimportant tasks

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Chapter 4
Different ways to manage yourself

Managing Yourself

Make an appointment with yourself

It gives you the sense of being in control of where you are going, and that you are taking the positive steps to get there. You will soon realize the importance of having this quiet time.

 Start your day with a "to do" list This identifies the tasks required to meet your goals. Prioritize your list then do the most important first. Whenever something will take less than five minutes do it now!

 Find the right time management tool This tool will include a calendar, a living To Do list and a contacts section.

Learn how to manage yourself within time.

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In learning how to prioritize you allow yourself more freedom and peace of mind. Do the most important items first then the next ones, any items left may be re-evaluated for urgency for the following day.

Organize your life using one or more of . . . commonly called the "To Do" list.

 Your address book, your calendar, your scheduler, your task list

 Balance the time you spend on your business matters, family, friends,

relaxing and playing. This is so important!
 Confirm appointments the day prior to your visit. You may remember the

date, so be sure the person you are visiting does also. This saves time and it builds good relationships.

Avoid procrastination as early as possible. Tell a friend what projects you have going on...someone who will care enough to know about your progress.

 Schedule a specific time of day to do all of your return phone calls. The best time of day to return and/or make telephone calls is 30 minutes before lunch, and 30 minutes before quitting time.

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Chapter 5

Effectively you can Manage Anger
Warm family relationships can help protect children from acting violently, abusing alcohol and other drugs, or engaging in other high-risk behaviors. But family members—even in the most loving families—get angry at one another from time to time. When families communicate well and work cooperatively, anger can be resolved without a problem. Handled poorly, however, anger gets

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in the way of good communication between parent and child. Anger without control can sometimes be dangerous and may even becomes violent. Many adults are not good at managing anger, and expressing this emotion in a healthy way. Some adults see anger as an emotion that should be suppressed, because it leads to trouble. Some grew up in families in which anger generally led to explosive behavior and even violence. Others were taught that it is not “nice” to be angry. It’s important that parents know how to manage anger successfully in family life, at work, and in the community. And that same knowledge needs to be shared with children, so that they learn this important skill. The best solution to out-of-control anger—whether from a parent or from a teen—is to step back, and identify more positive, healthy ways to deal with strong feelings. We do this when we can calm down and respond in a disciplined and thoughtful way. By maintaining composure, parents can be good role models and open the door to constructive communication with their children. But how do you keep calm when you feel pushed to the limit? Here are some suggestions: Tips for Calming Down

Pick your battles. Sometimes the issue is not worth the anger, or worth arguing about. Take a deep breath; count to ten. Think about the issue before a single word comes out of your mouth. Go for a walk. Use “self-talk” to calm down. That is, say something soothing to yourself such as: “I need to relax and stay calm. I can’t afford to blow up.” Use humor. Humor can sometimes be a good way to calm anger, but be sure not to use sarcasm, which can sometimes be hurtful.

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Resolving Conflict:Resolving conflict constructively may be a huge challenge, but it’s an absolute necessity for the sake of every member of your family.Once you are calm, you are in a better position to address the issues that caused the conflict. Here are some tips:

 Give your point of view. State the problem as you see it; speak

clearly and calmly— don’t yell.
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Ask to hear your teen’s point of view. Pay attention, listen, and carefully consider what your teen is saying. Discuss ways to solve the dispute without a battle. Practice the art of compromise. Find the middle ground you can both live with comfortably. Assert your authority, when appropriate, but in a calm, yet firm manner.

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Tips for Managing Yourself For students:•

Develop new habits/rituals to replace the morning and evening commute. These rituals will help you transition from home to college and back again, thereby helping you to structure your day.

Have a schedule - one that's fairly uniform from day to day. Use your freedom to set college hours that work best, but each day's schedule should not differ radically from the last.

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Control temptations by scheduling them into your day (a roadside stop, a break to water your plants, a conversation with a friend/family member).

Deal positively but decisively with unscheduled interruptions that impact work. Some people will think that, because you're at home, you can't be working. They'll assume you are "available" for other things. Be consistent in refusing to "take the bait" during your scheduled work hours. They'll eventually get the message.

Take your own responsibility for decision-making and problem solving. Learn where to go to get what you need, whether it is information, training or other resources.

Chapter 6
TIME MANAGEMENT

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Personal time Management Personal Time Management is about controlling the use of your most valuable resource.The absence of Personal Time Management is characterized by last minute rushes to meet dead-lines, meetings which are either double booked or achieve nothing, days which seem somehow to slip unproductively by, crises which loom unexpected from nowhere. This sort of environment leads to inordinate stress and degradation of performance: it must be stopped. Poor time management is often a symptom of over confidence: techniques which used to work with small projects and workloads are simply reused with large ones. But inefficiencies which were insignificant in the small role are ludicrous in the large. You can not drive a motor bike like a bicycle, nor can you manage a supermarket-chain like a market stall Personal Time Management is a set of tools which allow you to: eliminate wastage be prepared for meetings refuse excessive workloads Monitor project progress allocate resource (time) appropriate to a task's importance ensure that long term projects are not neglected plan each day efficiently plan each week effectively

Get Aggressive About Managing Time!
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Time and money are both very important in business. Yet, like me, many business people tend to give a lot more specific thought as to how to spend their money. Too often, how we spend our time is only thought of in terms of "What am I going to do today?" or "What should I do next?" Prioritize Your Time: The first step in effective time management is not to develop a schedule, but instead to develop a time strategy. The time strategy should be based on a short list of time priorities. These time priorities may be identical to key parts of your company strategy or they may be different. For example, if your company strategy is based upon excellent customer service, spending lots of your time in customer service may not be the best use of your time if you have a terrific customer-service manager. Narrow Your Focus: Focus is crucial for time management, and the fewer priorities you focus on at once, the more productive you will be. After you have your major time priorities for the year established, you should allocate them by week or by month. Like it or not, a lot of our time each week is going to be eaten up by nonstrategic items that we have no control over; hence it is important to limit the number of strategic time goals we have for each week. So even if you have ten strategic time goals for the year, you may want to focus on no more than one or two of them in any given week. Avoid My Time Traps:  Spending a disproportionately high amount of time in the offices where the most congenial people are, as opposed to where the most important issues are.  Wasting too much time getting daily updates on routine activities as opposed to waiting for a more meaningful weekly summary.  Jumping too eagerly into the routine, more straightforward work and putting off the more complex and difficult work.  Not starting the more important work first thing in the morning.  Not bothering to make up a schedule for each day.

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 Over scheduling--scheduling each day so tightly that it is impossible

to stay on track and the schedule quickly becomes meaningless. Long term Objectives: There are many long term objectives which the good Manager must achieve, particularly with regard to the development, support and motivation of his/her work-team. Long term objectives have the problem of being important but not urgent; they do not have deadlines, they are distant and remote. For this reason, it is all too easy to ignore them in favour of the urgent and immediate. Clearly a balance must be struck. The beauty of Time Management is that the balance can be decided objectively (without influence from immediate deadlines) and self-imposed through the use of the diary. Similarly, time may be allocated to staff development and training. So if one afternoon a month is deemed to be a suitable allocation, then simply designate the second Thursday (say) of each month and delegate the choice of speakers. The actual time spent in managing this sort of long term objective is small, but without that deliberate planning it will not be achieved. Once you have implemented Personal Time Management, it is worth using some of that control to augment your own career. Some quiet weekend, you should sketch out your own long term objectives and plan a route to them. As you would any long term objective, allocate time to the necessary sub-tasks and monitor your progress. If you do not plan where you want to go, you are unlikely to get there.

Tackling the Tasks Make sure you have prioritised your tasks first

Think about what needs to be completed Do you need to attend an important meeting? Do you need to respond to a discussion question? Put timings next to the tasks how much time do I need to budget for each task on my list? Do I need to get somewhere? Add the traveling time it takes to the task. Schedule it. Try to schedule some tasks into "dead" time. Can you
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read a lecture or textbook during your commute? Can you outline an essay while you drive or do chores around the house?

Determine what resources you need Generally the only resource needed is YOU, but you may also need access to a PC or the Internet, or a textbook. Make sure they are accessible. Look at your available time how much time do you, and only you, have available? Remember, there are only 24 hours in the day, and you still have to eat, sleep, and relax Monitor your progress In order to feel your progress you must monitor the completion of tasks. Consider: Did you over or under estimate your time requirements? Do you have even more tasks to complete now?

Chapter 7
Easy ways for Self-Improvement

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Building New Qualities With Old Ones To develop new strengths, draw upon the strengths and abilities you already have. Use them as construction materials for forming new aspects of yourself. Build on the foundation already established inside you. Don't try to change yourself when it comes to who you are. Instead, change the way you see yourself and let it manifest. Costs and Benefits Consider the costs and benefits. Understanding your potential gains and your eventual losses will fuel your endeavors and get your brain to cooperate. What will happen if you do not reach your goal? How will you feel? How will your life change if you do succeed? Make Time Make time to spend on yourself. If you set aside even ten minutes a day to think about your goals, to contemplate, and to practice, you accomplish much more than spending a full day every so often. Prioritize Choose one or two goals at a time. You do not have time to make everything about yourself perfect at once. If you try to tackle everything about yourself you want to change, you will only end up giving up. Set aside a little bit of time every day or every week. If you can make time to watch your favorite show on television every Thursday, you can make time to work on your goal. Practice Did you know that you can change the structure and chemistry of your brain in a specific area by repeatedly using your mind in a certain way? The first implication here is that you can make permanent changes in the way you think and feel, but there is another implication. You have already made permanent changes. Practice not only changes your mind, it changes the structure of your brain. This simple form of learning is one of the most primitive mechanisms in the brain Little Steps Follow a plan. Take little steps. You do not need to make yourself perfect in a week. If you are afraid of the emotional pain that lies ahead, remember that the only thing you ever have to worry about is the next step, not the next ten steps or the next mile, just the next step.

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Monitor Yourself self-awareness is absolutely necessary for making changes in the way you think, feel, or react. Self-awareness is as necessary to changing yourself as a good ear is to playing good music. Listen to your thoughts. You cannot change your thoughts if you are not aware of them throughout the day. Identification Identify your emotions. Emotions can be elusive. Sometimes it is hard to tell exactly what emotion is present. Sometimes no emotions seem to surface. Emotions can be hard to identify for several reasons. Conflicting emotions can pull you in so many directions that you end up stuck in the middle. A pause can help. Reward Reward yourself. If you succeed in any way, a pat on the back is warranted. Give yourself feedback. Remember where you used to be. Often when our efforts succeed, they succeed so gradually that we fail to take notice. You simply need to remember how you used to feel and how you used to see things. When you put your goals into practice, take notice. Think about the fact that you succeeded. Progress Journal Keep a journal. Keep an organizer or record book of your progress, concerns, and exercises. For instance, you could write two sentences every night about how you put your personal goals into practice, or you could write down a number from 1 to 100 indicating how you feel with respect to your goal. You could write down anything that stood in your way or why you found it difficult to implement a new plan. Whatever you choose to write, a journal is a great resource. Not only does it keep you focused on your goals, it gradually becomes your own personal textbook on the subject.

Chapter 8
Tips for Body Language

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Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of dealing with others, especially people we've just met. Maintaining good eye contact shows respect and interest in what they have to say. Here in the UK we tend to keep eye contact around 60-70% of the time. (However, there are wide cultural differences, so be careful in other countries) By doing this you won't make the other people feel self conscious, like they've got a bit of vegetable stuck between their teeth or a dew drop hanging from the nose. . Instead, it will give them a feeling of comfort and genuine warmth in your company, any more eye contact than this and you can be too intense, any less and you give off a signal that you are lacking interest in them or their conversation. Posture is the next thing to master, get your posture right and you'll automatically start feeling better, as it makes you feel good almost instantly. Next time you notice you're feeling a bit down, take a look at how your standing or sitting. Chances are you'll be slouched over with your shoulders drooping down and inward. This collapses the chest and inhibits good breathing, which in turn can help make you feel nervous or uncomfortable. Head position is a great one to play around with, with yourself and others. When you want to feel confident and self assured keep your head level both horizontally and vertically. You can also use this straight head position when you want to be authoritative and what you're saying to be taken seriously. Conversely, when you want to be friendly and in the listening, receptive mode, tilt your head just a little to one side or other. You can shift the tilt from left to right at different points in the conversation. Arms give away the clues as to how open and receptive we are to everyone we meet and interact with, so keep your arms out to the side of your body or behind your back. This shows you are not scared to take on whatever comes your way and you meet things "full frontal Legs are the furthest point away from the brain, consequently they're the hardest bits of our bodies to consciously control. They tend move around a lot more than normal when we are nervous, stressed . So best to keep them as still as possible in most situations, especially at interviews or work meetings Hand gestures are so numerous it's hard to give a brief guide but here goes. Palms slightly up and outward is seen as open and friendly. Palm down
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gestures are generally seen as dominant, emphasizing and possibly aggressive, especially when there is no movement or bending between the wrist and the forearm. This palm up, palm down is very important when it comes to handshaking and where appropriate we suggest you always offer a handshake upright and vertical, which should convey equality. Distance from others is crucial if you want to give off the right signals. Stand too close and you'll be marked as "Pushy" or "In your face". Stand or sit too far away and you'll be "Keeping your distance" or "Stand offish". Neither are what we want, so observe if in a group situation how close are all the other people to each other. Also notice if you move closer to someone and they back away, you're probably just a tiny bit too much in their personal space, their comfort zone. "You've overstepped the mark" and should pull back a little. Ears, yes your ears play a vital role in communication with others, even though general terms most people can't move them much, if at all. However, you've got two ears and only one mouth, so try to use them in that order. If you listen twice as much as you talk you come across as a good communicator who knows how to strike up a balanced a conversation without being me, me, me or the wallflower. Mouth movements can give away all sorts of clues. We purse our lips and sometimes twist them to the side when we're thinking. Another occasion we might use this movement is to hold back an angry comment we don't wish to reveal. Nevertheless, it will probably be spotted by other people and although they may not know the comment, they will get a feeling you were not to pleased. There are also different types of smiles and each gives off a corresponding feeling to its recipient which we'll cover next time.

Chapter 9
Develop Positive Thinking for success

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Complete life changes can occur by simply changing the polarity of your thoughts from the negative to the positive. The one thing that influences every aspect in your life is your Mind. Then desiring to make positive changes in our life, it is valuable to evaluate how we Think, Believe and Behave. If we like our life as it is then we can continue doing what we have always done. If we do not like our life as it is, then we must make changes, and the best place to start is with our thoughts. Positive thinking are incredibly powerful tools for building self esteem and confidence as well as overall personal development and self growth. When we want to make changes in our life, the words and thoughts we say to our self are very important. Positive thinking can be used to create any desired conditions in our life; whether that be more fulfilling personal relationships, more self esteem and confidence, greater prosperity, vibrant health and so on. Tips on making positive affirmations : Write down the affirmation and put it in a prominent place in home where we can see it every day – computer, purse/wallet, bathroom, bedroom; Sing the affirmation in the shower! Write it down 20 – 50 in your diary/journal; Say it to yourself every morning and evening; Draw the affirmations using colorful pencils, paints;

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Record yourself saying these affirmations and play the tape to yourself every morning and evening for at least 21 days; Use self help quotes inspirational and motivational sayings to assist you in your positive thinking activities. To identify your negative thoughts. To replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Develop a healthy attitude towards yourself Think critically and creatively Improve your relationships with others

"Whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve." “So think better”

Chapter 10
Meditation For Relaxation
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Meditation Boosts Happiness and Health:Meditation reduces negative emotions and strengthens the immune system. The purpose of meditation is to make our mind calm and peaceful. If our mind is peaceful, we will be free from worries and mental discomfort, and so we will experience true happiness; but if our mind is not peaceful, we will find it very difficult to be happy, even if we are living in the very best conditions. If we train in meditation, our mind will gradually become more and more peaceful, and we will experience a purer and purer form of happiness. Eventually, we will be able to stay happy all the time, even in the most difficult circumstances. Purpose:With the hectic pace and demands of modern life, many people feel stressed and over-worked. It often feels like there is just not enough time in the day to get everything done. Our stress and tiredness make us unhappy, impatient and frustrated. It can even affect our health. We are often so busy we feel there is no time to stop and meditate! But meditation actually gives you more time by making your mind calmer and more focused. A simple ten or fifteen minute breathing meditation as explained below can help you to overcome your stress and find some inner peace and balance. The ultimate purpose of meditation is not to produce pleasant emotions, experience a supernatural phenomenon, or even to relax. Instead, if there is any purpose at all that one can point to, it is to practice a state of mind or being that is unattached and unmoved by events or thoughts, perceptions or sensations, to

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find inner silence and lose that sense of separateness that adds unnecessary abstractions to our experience of life. Expectation:Some say, when you meditate, you must not have a goal beyond the simple act of meditating. You must not hold in mind any expectation. Any image you form of what meditation will bring you becomes the substance of a false experience. For example, if you imagine a state of oneness, you may feel a sense of union with the world around you, but that experience will simply be a product of your visualization. If we train in meditation systematically, eventually we will be able to eradicate from our mind the delusions that are the causes of all our problems and suffering. In this way, we will come to experience a permanent inner peace, known as "liberation" or "nirvana". Then, day and night in life after life, we will experience only peace and happiness.

Instructions for Meditation:• Find a quite place where you won’t be disturbed for half and hour • Sit comfortably with your back and spine straight and feet flat on the floor

Feel your body relax and become aware of it doing so.

• Let each and every breath you take circulate its energy around your whole being • Allow your mind to slowly clear of the days events • Visualise yourself somewhere that holds pleasant memories for you • Allow your mind to recreate all of the senses activated by this memory, sight, sound, smell ect. • Feel yourself slowly being drawn back to that time and place

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• Now allow yourself to re-experience this memory and enjoy it all over again

Slowly allow yourself to return to where you are now, refreshed, cleansed and clear.

Some easy ways to meditate Breathing practice - take a breath in counts 1, 2, then breathe out counts 3, 4; breathe in counts 1, 2, then breathe out counts 3, 4 and continue for about 5 minutes. Candle gazing - tratak - sit on your cushion facing your little table and do the even breathing while watching the candle flame with half closed eyes; don’t strain. If you feel like it, close your eyes after a few minutes. Out on the street or at work or school - on a moment’s notice when feeling upset begin your even breathing technique and continue a few rounds till you regain your composure.

Chapter 11
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To develop Will Power and Self-Discipline
Will power is the ability to control inner unnecessary and harmful impulses. It is the ability to overcome laziness and procrastination. It is the ability to arrive to a decision and follow it with perseverance until its successful accomplishment. It is the inner power that allows you to refuse to indulge in unnecessary, useless habits and grants you the strength to overcome inner resistances. It is one of the corner stones of success, spiritual and material. Will power and self-discipline help us to choose our behavior and reactions instead of being their slaves. . Don't think that life will become dull and dry in this way. On the contrary, you will feel more powerful, in charge of yourself and your surrounding, and consequently much more happy and satisfied. Will power gets stronger by holding back and not allowing the expression of unimportant, unnecessary and unhealthy thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions. If this saved energy is not allowed expression, it is stored inside you like a battery, and it becomes available at the time of need. By practicing the exercises you develop your powers the same way as someone who engages in bodybuilding builds his muscles. When you exercise your will power you strengthen your self-discipline and gain inner strength. The more you exercise, the stronger you become. Here are some exercises: o You are sitting in a bus or train and an old man or woman, or a pregnant lady walks in. Stand up and give up your seat even if you prefer to stay seated. Do this not just because it is polite, but because you are doing something that you are reluctant to do. In this way you are overcoming the resistance of your body, mind and feelings. o There are dishes in the sink that need washing, and you postpone washing them for latter. Get up and wash them now. Do not let your laziness overcome you. When you know that in this way you are developing your will power, and if you are convinced of the
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importance of will power in your life, it will be easier for you to do whatever you have to do. o You come home tired from work and sit in front of the T.V. because you feel too lazy and tired to go and wash yourself. Do not obey the desire to just sit, but go and have a shower o You may know your body needs some physical exercise, but instead you keep on sitting doing nothing or watching a movie. Get up and walk, run or do some other physical exercise. o Do you like your coffee with sugar? Then for a whole week decide to drink it without sugar. You like to drink three cups of coffee each day? For a week drink only two. o Overcome your laziness and your habits. Convince yourself of the importance of what is to be done. Convince your mind that you become stronger when you do things, even when you are reluctant, too lazy or believe you are too tired to do. o Sometimes, when you want to say something that is not important, decide not to say it. o Don't read some unimportant gossip in the newspaper, even if you want to. Advantages of Possessing Strong Will Power and Self Discipline:You need will power and self-discipline order to rule your thoughts and to be the boss of your mind. The stronger your will power and self discipline are, the more control you have over your thoughts, and consequently your powers of concentration get stronger. They are essential for self growth, spiritual growth and meditation. They are the powers that change your habits, and are the key to any kind of success. Will power and self discipline give you more control over your daily life, help you in the development of all the inner powers and are essential for a spiritual search. They keep you on the right track until you get what you are after.

Chapter 12
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The Power of Repeated Words and Thoughts
Thinking is usually a mixture of words, sentences, mental images and sensations. Thoughts are visitors in the central station of the mind. They come, stay a while and then disappear making space for other thoughts. It is of vital importance to be careful of what goes into the subconscious mind. Words and thoughts that are repeated often get stronger by the repetitions, sink into the subconscious mind and affect the behavior, actions and reactions of the person involved. This means that if you often tell yourself that it is difficult or impossible to acquire money, the subconscious mind will accept you words and put obstacles in your way. If you keep saying that you are rich, it will find ways to bring you opportunities and push you towards taking advantage of these opportunities. The thoughts that you express through your words shape your life. This is often done unconsciously, as few pay attention to their thoughts and the words they use while thinking, and let outside circumstances and situations determine what they think about. In this case there is no freedom. Here the outside world affects the inner world. If you consciously choose the thoughts, phrases and words that you repeat in your mind, your life will start to change. You will begin creating new situations and circumstances. You will be using the power of affirmations. Affirmations are sentences that are repeated often during the day, and which sink into the subconscious mind, thereby releasing its enormous power to materialize the intention of the words and phrases in the outside world. This does not mean that every word has the power to make changes. The words have to be said with attention and with feeling, in order to trigger the subconscious mind into action. Affirmations have to be phrased in positive words in order to be effective. Consider the following two sentences: 1. I am not weak anymore.

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2. I am strong and powerful. Though both sentences seem to say the same thing in different words, the first one is a negative sentence. It creates in the mind a mental image of weakness. This is a wrong wording. The second sentence awakens in the mind a mental image of strength. It is not enough to say an affirmation a few times, and then expect your life to change. More than this is necessary. It is important to affirm with attention, as well as with strong desire, faith and persistence. It is also important to choose the right affirmation for any specific situation. You need to feel comfortable with it; otherwise the affirmation may not work or may bring you something that you do not want. Affirmations can be used to strengthen the process of creative visualization, and they can be used on their own. They are of special importance for people who find it difficult to visualize. In this case they are a substitution to creative visualization. Instead of repeating negative and useless words and phrases in the mind, you can choose positive words and phrases to help you build the life you want. By choosing your thoughts and words you exercise control over your life. Here are a few affirmations:  Day by day I am becoming happier and more satisfied.  With every inhalation I am filling myself with happiness.  Love is filling my life now.  The power of the Cosmos is filling my life with love.  A lot of money is flowing now into my life.  The power of the Universal Mind is now filling my life with wealth.

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 The powerful and vital energy of the Cosmos is flowing and filling my body and mind.  Healing energy is constantly filling every cell of my body.  I always stay calm and in control of myself, in every situation and in all circumstances.  I am having a wonderful, happy and fascinating day.

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Chapter 13
The Power of Imagination
Imagination is the ability to form a mental image of something that is not perceived through the senses. It is the ability of the mind to built mental scenes, objects or events that do not exist, are not present or have happened in the past. Memory is actually a manifestation of imagination. Everyone possesses some imagination ability. In some it may be highly developed and in others it may manifest in a weaker form. It manifests in various degrees in various people. Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the mind. It gives the ability to look at any situation from a different point of view, and enables one to mentally explore the past and the future. Imagination is a creative power that is necessary for inventing an instrument, designing a dress or a building, painting a picture or writing a book. The creative power of imagination has an important role in the achievement of success in any field. What we imagine with faith and feelings comes into being. It is the power beyond creative visualization, positive thinking and affirmations. Imagination is not limited only to seeing pictures in the mind. It includes all the five senses and the feelings. One can imagine a sound, taste, smell, a physical sensation or a feeling or emotion. For some people it is easier to see mental pictures, others find it easier to imagine a feeling, and some are more comfortable imagining the sensation of one of the five senses. Training of the imagination gives the ability to combine all the senses. A developed and strong imagination does not make you a daydreamer and impractical. On the contrary, it strengthens your creative abilities, and is a great tool for recreating and remodeling your world and life. This is a great power that can change your whole life. It is used extensively in magick, creative visualization and affirmations. It is the creator of

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circumstances and events. When you know how to work with it, you can make your hearts' desires come true. Visualizing an object or a situation, and repeating often this mental image, attracts the object or situation into our lives. This opens for us new, vast and fascinating opportunities. This means that we should think only in a positive manner about our desires, otherwise we may create and attract into our lives events, situations and people that we don't really want. This is actually what most of us do, because we don't use the power if imagination correctly. If you do not recognize the importance of the power of the imagination, and let it run riot, your life may not be as happy and successful as you would have wanted it to be. Understanding how to use your imagination correctly, and putting this knowledge into practice, for your own and others' benefit, will put you on the golden path to success, satisfaction and happiness.

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Chapter 14
The Power of Concentration

Concentration can be described as having a one pointed mind, focused attention, or the ability to pay attention to one single thought or subject to the exclusion of everything else. Concentration has many uses. Concentrating on your activities makes you perform them better, faster and successfully. Focusing on work makes work more efficient. A better concentration makes studying easier, understanding faster, and improves the memory. It helps us to focus on our goals and achieve them more easily. When this ability is developed, the mind obeys us readily, and does not engage in useless dissipating thoughts and worries, and we experience true peace of mind. Concentration, which is actually mind mastery, is also a very important tool in practicing meditation. Without it the mind just jumps restlessly from one subject to another.

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The benefits of developing concentration Control of thoughts. Peace of mind. Self-confidence. Inner strength. Will power. The ability to focus your mind. Better memory. The ability to decide and carry on your decisions. Better functioning in daily life, whether at home or at work. The ability to study and comprehend more quickly. Think when you want to, about what you want to think. Inner happiness. Help in developing psychic abilities. More powerful and efficient creative visualization and guided imagination. True meditation. Concentration exercises

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Exercise 1 Count backwards in your mind from one hundred to one. Exercise 2 Count in your mind from one hundred to one, skipping each three numbers, that is 100, 97, 94, etc. Exercise 3 Choose an inspiring word, or just a simple sound, and repeat it silently in your mind for five minutes. When your mind can concentrate more easily, try to reach ten minutes of uninterrupted concentration. Exercise 4 Take a fruit, an apple for example, and look at it from all sides. Concentrate your attention on it and examine it from all sides. Devote the whole session to concentrating on it. Do not be carried away by irrelevant thoughts that arise. Stay with the apple. It could be any other fruit. Look at it and do not think
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about the shop were you bought it, about the way it is grown, its nutritive value etc, only about the object in front of you. Just look at it, see it, smell it and touch it. Exercise 5 Take a small simple object such as a spoon, a fork, or a glass. Concentrate on one of these objects. Watch the object from all sides without any verbalization, that is, with no words in your mind. Just watch the object without thinking with words about it. Exercise 6 Take a book and count the words in any one paragraph. Count them again to be sure that you have counted them correctly. Start with one paragraph and when it becomes easier, count the words in a whole page. Perform the counting mentally and only with your eyes, without pointing you finger at each word. Exercise 7 Try for at least five minutes, to stay without thoughts. This exercise is to be attempted only after all the previous ones have been performed successfully. The previous exercises, if practiced correctly, will endow you with the ability to impose silence on your thoughts. In time it will become easier and easier.

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chapter 15
Ways to develop Self Improvement and Self Growth
Nowadays the terms self-improvement, self-growth and self-help have become popular. We find many books about these subjects and many websites too. It seems that people are turning inside to find the solution to their problems. They seek knowledge, techniques, workshops, lectures and teachers who can show them the way. People begin to understand that self improvement and self growth improve the quality of life. The desire to change, build new habits and improve must be strong enough to resist any laziness, desire to give up and the ridicule or opposition from family, friends or colleagues. The subconscious mind is one of the major keys to self-improvement and selfgrowth. By changing the contents of the subconscious mind you change your habits, behavior and attitudes. This is brought about by thinking, meditation, visualization and affirmations. How can you too take advantage of this technique for self improvement and growth? 1. Look around you and watch how people behave in various circumstances. Watch the people you meet at home, work, at the supermarket, on the bus, train and on the street. Watch and learn also from people interviewed on TV, and also from movies. 2. Watch how people talk, walk, and react, and how they are treated by others. 3. Pay attention to the way people use their voice and how they react to others' voices. Watch how you feel and act when people shout or speak softly. Watch what happens when people get angry, restless and upset and what happens if they are calm and relaxed.

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4. If you do not like what you see, analyze what and why you do not like it, and then analyze your own behavior to find out whether you behave in the same way. Be honest and impartial in your analysis. 5. Play in your mind a mental scene of how you would like to behave. Repeat it several times a day, every day. 6. You can also decide to change some habit and behavior patterns and develop new ones, because you believe they are necessary and beneficial, even without seeing them in others first. 7. Do not be disappointed or frustrated if you do not attain fast results. It does not matter how many times you fail or forget to behave as you desired. 8. Think and visualize over and over again in your mind how you would like to act and behave. Constantly remind yourself of the changes you desire to make, and strive to act according to them. Each time that you find yourself acting according to your old habit, remember your decision to change and improve, and act accordingly.

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Chapter 16
Tips to Tackle Sleep, Thoughts, Worries and Fears
Do you fall asleep immediately after entering bed or do thoughts and worries begin to flow into your mind, keeping your sleep away? Do you find it hard to stop them? If you are not healthy you will probably think about your health. If you have problems at work, then thoughts about these problems will probably flood your mind. A child will have thoughts about his parents, teachers or examinations, and a businessman about his work. Thoughts, worries and fears that are usually repressed during the day surface up and swarm the mind. If you fight these thoughts and try to stop them forcefully they will grow stronger, because you will be giving them more attention. If you want to get rid of a tree growing in your garden and cut it down, it will grow again quite fast, but if you stop watering it, it will gradually wither. You need to treat your thoughts in the same manner. In order to calm them down you have to ignore them, which is equivalent to not watering the tree. How to ignore these nagging thoughts that escort you to bed? Here are few tips:1. Go to bed at a reasonable hour, not too early and not too late. 2. Lie down on your bed and relax your body. 3. For 2-3 minutes pay attention to every muscle in your body from head to toe. If you find any tense muscle, relax it. 4. For about one minute, let thoughts come freely into your mind.

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5. Tell your mind that if it has any important thoughts that require attention, you are willing to discuss them tomorrow. 6. Now try to look at the thoughts with lack of interest. Lack of interest is the magic word when it comes to controlling and silencing thoughts. Do not let your feelings to be aroused and manipulated by your thoughts. If thoughts still come, and they probably will, it is all right. Don't fight them, but just try to ignore them by losing any interest in them. An ignored thought ultimately goes away. Don't worry if you fail at first. Keep on trying and the situation will improve. 7. There is another thing that can be done, and that is to practice meditation every day. 8. Watch the thoughts that enter your mind as if watching a boring movie and they will lose their power

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Techniques to develop skill for success in business & career
Managing People to Motivate

 Building the Winning Team "Everyone wants to feel that they are on a winning team, that the company is moving ahead, and that they are an integral part of the group."

Beyond Hiring Great People Building the winning team requires more than just hiring a bunch of talented people.

⇒ It means hiring people who will work well together. ⇒ It means developing a shared vision and commitment. ⇒ It means physically bringing people together in formal group meetings for open discussion of broad-based issues. ⇒ It means encouraging positive, informal interactions between group members. ⇒ It means instilling a "winning" attitude throughout the organization. ⇒ It means watching for and quickly trying to reverse team-building problems such as jealousy, cynicism, and defensive behavior.

Get them To "Buy In"! To build the winning team, you not only need to show people what direction the company is headed in, but you need to get them to "buy into" this direction. Otherwise, you can't expect people to support a group if they don't agree with where it's headed or, worse, don't even know where it's headed.

⇒ Specifically, you need to show people: ⇒ Your vision for the future.
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⇒ Your strategy for getting there. ⇒ Why this is the best strategy. ⇒ Every achievement that indicates this team is winning. ⇒ This is not a one-time discussion or announcement. ⇒ You need to constantly remind people what the organization stands for and that it does indeed hold a bright future for them!

Meetings Build Teams Part of building the winning team is having some group meetings. Meetings, or even parties or celebrations, with as many people as possible from the entire organization, help build a feeling of solidarity throughout the organization.

⇒ But it is also important to have everyone participate in smaller group meetings where some work is done or some decisions are made. This makes people feel that they aren't just part of some big group, but that they are an active, important part of a team. ⇒ For key managers, or people in your work group, you should have an interactive meeting once per week-not a meeting where you just make announcements and summarize the work that's been done and needs to be done, but a meeting where everyone has an opportunity to give feedback on substantive issues.

Getting People To Work Together Perhaps the most difficult part of building a winning team is encouraging positive, informal interaction between team members when you are not present. Here are some thoughts on this:

⇒ Have team members take part in the hiring process of new team members. ⇒ Assign specific projects for two team members to work on together. ⇒ Try to arrange for close proximity of offices. ⇒ Create an incentive-pay plan based on common goals such as profitability. ⇒ Have a specific part of the salary review dependent upon "interaction with others." ⇒ Take your team off-site for formal meetings as well as casual gettogethers to build a sense of bonding.

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Watch Out For Team Destroyers! Here are some of the problems that can rip the team-building process apart.

⇒ Jealousy. Be on guard for jealousy whenever a new member is hired into the group. Go out of your way to tell other team members how much their work is appreciated. ⇒ Cynicism. Some people are just negative by nature. Others might feel your company can't possibly prosper or they just don't like small companies, big companies, or whatever . . . . Be sure you are emphasizing the company's positive achievements to the group as a whole. And don't hesitate to confront any openly cynical individual and demand their behavior change at once. ⇒ Lack of confidence. Some people lack confidence in themselves and view attacks on their opinions as attacks on themselves, responding with statements like "Are you telling me my fifteen years of experience don't matter?" Stop any discussion like this immediately and, in a private oneon-one meeting, patiently point out the defensive behavior.

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Develop Good Team Member

1. Excellent technical, professional competence Business projects require professional skills. If it is a shorter project (3 months) you should have a lot of task oriented, good technical experts on board; however if the project team is large (more than 8), the duration greater than 6 months then having a few social oriented people on board would reduce the interpersonalcommunications strain from the project team. 2. Good interpersonal skills Effective interpersonal communication is vital to the smooth functioning of any task team. Communication skills --listening, written and oral, telephone, email -- are a must. Conflict handling, negotiating skills are an added advantage. Trusts, supports, and has genuine concern for other team members. Helpful and cooperative with others.
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3. Sharing, giving tendency Shares his knowledge and expertise freely with team members. Shares openly, with honesty and integrity with others regarding personal feelings, opinions, thoughts, and perceptions about problems and conditions. 4. Respects authority Gains the respect of every team member. Respects his boss, the Top Management of the organization and the customers’ managers. Consoles and reasons with other team members and resolves complaints of other team members with patience, understanding and empathy. Understands and is committed to team objectives.. 5. Cares for the customer Polite, courteous to everyone including the customers. Has real concern and thinks of both short term and long term benefits from customer’s viewpoint. Negotiates well with the customer and the company’s Top Management to ensure less stress and strain for the team. 6. Welcomes feedback Encourages feedback on own behavior Takes the necessary corrective and preventive actions to ensure harmony, peace and joyful environment for project execution. 7. Finger on the pulse He has a finger on the pulse of the teams’ feelings and concerns. Helps to fix the conflicts, negotiates between conflicting parties and negotiates a win/win ending. Is aware of what goes on around him, is able to sense danger and steer the team members onto happy solutions faster. 8. Integrity, honesty and trust whatever good qualities a person may possess, they are of no use to him or to anyone else when he does not have integrity of character. Integrity is being true to oneself, honesty is being true to others. He should be trust worthy and trust others with his eyes open.

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To develop Skills for Success
1. Leadership. Is the ability to get people to do what you want them to do? If you are a good leader, people will do what you've asked them to do, whether or not you are there to supervise. Leadership includes the skills of motivation, change facilitation, behavior modification and conflict management. 2. Organization Is the ability to manage time, people and processes in such a way that everything is done in the best order, by the best qualified worker, in the most efficient time frame. A good organizer also insures that all materials involved in the process are available in the right place, at the right time and in sufficient quantity, without excessive reserves. 3. Selling skill Is the ability to get people to buy your ideas, services or products. This skill is the only way you get money for whatever you do. Selling skill is part of the skill category of Influence, which also encompasses Persuasion and Negotiation. 4. Information Acquisition and Management Includes finding the best news, articles, books, tapes, videos, training and other written and multiple media sources that keep you current and "in the know" in your field of expertise, as well as closely related fields. But moreover, having good "information skills" means having access to experts who can help you and having an extensive address book with a great contact network. That's because you need to know how to find out about stuff that you don't know. 5. Current Technologies.

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The number of professionals, executives and managers who are still being dragged kicking and screaming all the way into the 21st century where technology is concerned. Here's the reality: you must know and use all the current technology relevant to business in general and to your field in particular. 6. Persuasion and Negotiation Are the basic abilities to get others to do what you want or give you what you want. They are closely related to selling skills and to motivation.. 7. Good Judgment. Whether you call it good judgment, common sense, it's one of the most valued abilities in any endeavor in virtually all societies. It is the ability to make accurate evaluations and prudent choices, especially in regard to other people. It starts with the development of what is often called "critical thinking skills." 8. Writing. This is the information age. People want to know what you know. They want to have access to what you know even when they can't get access to you. So, they want you to write it down for them. They want you to write it concisely, accurately and in a way that is easy to understand. 9. Speaking. At a minimum, you should be able to effectively run and participate in meetings. Even at the middle management level you must be able to speak up for yourself and your department in meetings; unless you can do so, you not only won't get promoted, you also won't be an effective manager. You should be able to argue for yourself when you want to get a raise in salary, get a budget approved or get a project approved. You should know how to be a good interviewee and a good interviewer. You simply have to learn to speak effectively to get a job. Techniques No.3

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Steps for Faster Promotion:
• Know your roles, responsibilities. Discuss these with your supervisor and with HR too if required. Plan your accomplishments and achievements periodically with your boss. Keep him informed of all activities that you take up. Get his approval and concurrence on the work that you do. A small precaution here is that you should be careful to volunteer for those jobs that will propel you towards your career path and not away from it. Concentrate your energies on high-focus, critical tasks, which are in keeping with your long-term career goals. • Excel at your tasks. In the final analysis, it is the output that you produce that will speak volumes for you. Do the best you can at whatever you undertake. Remember that doing ‘the right thing’ is more important than doing things right. Adopt the maxim 'do the right thing right the first time' as your policy. You should be efficient in the most effective task on hand. Ensure that you have the right mix of stretch/challenging tasks and high focus, high profile tasks in your area of expertise. • Know the whole picture: identify the experts and the decision makers. Knowing your role and responsibility and boundaries is important. However you need to know the whole picture and where your role fits in. Who are the technical experts in your company? What are they experts at? Who are the decision makers in your company and what do they have authority to decide? This knowledge is invaluable and you must ask questions of your boss and the HR till you know the answers. Sometimes you will need to use your Networking friends to get a few hidden answers. • Be generous with your praise: Neither fawning nor indifferent. Be alert to notice good things that happen and be the first to congratulate your peers, your colleagues, your subordinates, the experts and decision makers in the company. Catch them doing something right and let them know that you appreciate. • Plan your self-marketing campaign. Being talented and working hard are often not sufficient to get yourself the promotion and recognition that you desire. You need to be perceived as invaluable in those roles and at those tasks that you wish to grow in. This calls for a good marketing
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plan to promote yourself, your accomplishments and achievements. How and when you communicate to the experts and decision makers, to your boss needs to be planned in a periodic and regular manner. The dissemination of your valuable outputs should look effortless and natural – not forced and aggressive.

How do you use time in effective manner?

Here are some tips to use time in effective manner:

Getting Back To Basics

The most useful "little helper" for business people must surely be the daily To Do list. You have a couple of choices: Write your list in the morning, as the first task at the commencement of your working day. Step back a bit and take the time to do it before you finish up the night before as your final flourish for the day. This helps to free your mind so that you don't take your work home with you. Instead, you just
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leave it there to stew, all by itself, until you arrive next morning to take up the reins. • Write It Down Effective time management means writing things down so you don't waste your time worrying about what you've forgotten. Avoid trying to create a To Do list in your head. It must, must, must be written down. And then left somewhere highly visible, such as your desk top. That's why I suggest writing it in your diary, so you can juggle it with your other commitments. An effective To Do list will almost always be updated during the day. It is not a static document. As your priorities alter with each crisis, your list will be a work in progress. First of all, don't be unrealistic. Steel yourself to list only the achievable projects and activities. If you are unable to complete a task on the designated day, simply transfer it to the next day or another suitable time in your diary. Look at the daily To Do list as the map that keeps you on track. When you have written your list in the diary, go back and number each item in order of importance. Then, you can simply start with No. One and work your way through.

You’re Work Book

In our busy working lives today, we are bombarded with so many different distractions that it is sometimes difficult to keep track of everything that's going on, particularly if you work in an open-plan office. Instead of recording on scraps of paper or sticky notes all the zillion thoughts that pass through your mind during these stressful periods, use an inexpensive spiral note book. Anything of importance that you write down can then be found again at a later date. Use it as an adjunct, or a companion, to your diary and as a great memory jogger. You'll find using a Work Book will help you focus your thoughts, remind yourself of past conversations and save time as you'll no longer have to search for all those "back of envelope" notations.
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• The Final Word Keep your time management systems simple because the simpler they are the more likely you will use them. Doing the basics will help you work smarter, not harder.

How to be an effective speaker?

1. Have a passion for your subject(s). If you don’t care about your topic, who will? Make a list of five topics you love. 2. Speak from your heart. Be authentic. Be vulnerable. Share your mishaps and idiosyncrasies. You won’t be perceived as real until you do this. When you are truthful, your audiences will trust what you are saying. Let your message provide hope for your audience. 3. Connect quickly with your audience. You only have 30 seconds to make your connection. So pay attention to your opening remarks. Don’t use jokes they may offend people in your audience. Do use short quotations, a funny
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story that is relevant to your message, a question or two to get their attention quickly. 4. Speak to the ways people learn; auditory, visual and kinesthetic. Know your audience so that you can offer the right mix. Research suggests 40% are visual, 40% and only 20% are auditory. If you don’t use props or visuals, you will not reach 80% of your audience. Be inclusive and find ways/tools that will speak to 100% of the people in your audience. 5. Support your main points with stories most people delineate their thoughts visually. People learn best from your personal stories. They will also do a better job in retaining your message if you tell them a story. Remember when you were a kid. . .you said to your parents, tell me a story. When an adult hears your story, they are only a step away from their own story. Become a good story teller and watch your referrals and repeat business increase. 6. Make it fun learning is directly proportional to the amount of fun your audience is having laughter is like internal jogging. Inject some humor along the way. The audience wants to lighten up even with serious matters. Reminder---mature adults do not take themselves too seriously.

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How to set goals effectively?
The following broad guidelines will help you to set effective goals:
1. Be precise: Set a precise goal, putting in dates, times and amounts so that

you can measure achievement. If you do this, you will know exactly when you have achieved the goal, and can take complete satisfaction from having achieved it.
2. Set priorities: When you have several goals, give each a priority. This

helps you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by too many goals, and helps to direct your attention to the most important ones.
3. Write goals down: crystallizes them and gives them more force. 4. Keep operational goals small: Keep the low-level goals you are working

towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it. Keeping goals small and incremental gives more opportunities for reward. Derive today's goals from larger ones.
5. Set performance goals, not outcome goals: You should take care to set

goals over which you have as much control as possible. There is nothing more dispiriting than failing to achieve a personal goal for reasons beyond your control. These could be bad business environments, poor judging, bad weather, injury, or just plain bad luck. If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals and draw satisfaction from them.
6. Set realistic goals: It is important to set goals that you can achieve. All

sorts of people (parents, media, society) can set unrealistic goals for you. They will often do this in ignorance of your own desires and ambitions. Alternatively you may be naïve in setting very high goals. You might not appreciate either the obstacles in the way, or understand quite how many skills you must master to achieve a particular level of performance.

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7. Do not set goals too low: Just as it is important not to set goals

unrealistically high, do not set them too low. People tend to do this where they are afraid of failure or where they are lazy! You should set goals so that they are slightly out of your immediate grasp, but not so far that there is no hope of achieving them. No one will put serious effort into achieving a goal that they believe is unrealistic. However, remember that your belief that a goal is unrealistic may be incorrect. If this could be the case, you can to change this belief by using imagery effectively.

How do you identify the strength and weakness of your company?

Basically this company do SWOT Analysis Understanding Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats Why to use this tool? SWOT Analysis is a very effective way of identifying your Strengths and Weaknesses, and of examining the Opportunities and Threats you face. Carrying out an analysis using the SWOT framework helps you to focus your activities into areas where you are strong and where the greatest opportunities lie.

How to use tool: To carry out a SWOT Analysis write down answers to the following questions. Where appropriate, use similar questions: Strengths:
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What advantages do you have? What do you do well? What relevant resources do you have access to?
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What do other people see as your strengths?

Consider this from your own point of view and from the point of view of the people you deal with. Don't be modest. Be realistic. If you are having any difficulty with this, try writing down a list of your characteristics. Some of these will hopefully be strengths!

In looking at your strengths, think about them in relation to your competitors for example, if all your competitors provide high quality products, then a high quality production process is not a strength in the market, it is a necessity. Weaknesses:
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What could you improve? What do you do badly? What should you avoid?

Again, consider this from an internal and external basis: Do other people seem to perceive weaknesses that you do not see? Are your competitors doing any better than you? It is best to be realistic now, and face any unpleasant truths as soon as possible. Opportunities:
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Where are the good opportunities facing you? What are the interesting trends you are aware of?

Useful opportunities can come from such things as:
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Changes in technology and markets on both a broad and narrow scale Changes in government policy related to your field Changes in social patterns, population profiles, lifestyle changes, etc. Local Events

A useful approach to looking at opportunities is to look at your strengths and ask yourself whether these open up any opportunities. Alternatively, look at your weaknesses and ask yourself whether you could open up opportunities by eliminating them.

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Threats:
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What obstacles do you face? What is your competition doing? Are the required specifications for your job, products or services changing? Is changing technology threatening your position? Do you have bad debt or cash-flow problems? Could any of your weaknesses seriously threaten your business?

Carrying out this analysis will often be illuminating - both in terms of pointing out what needs to be done, and in putting problems into perspective. You can also apply SWOT analysis to your competitors. This may produce some interesting insights! This will help you to focus on your strengths, minimize weaknesses, and take the greatest possible advantage of opportunities available

What keys you use for effective public speaking and presentation?

Always keeps this following points in mind while presenting your self:
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Keep the message clear Be prepared Keep the message simple Be vivid when delivering the message Be natural Keep the message concise
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Preparation is underrated. In fact, it is one of the most important factors in determining your communication successes. When possible, set meeting times and speaking and presentation times well in advance, thus allowing yourself the time you need to prepare your communications. By paying close attention to each of these stages and preparing accordingly, you ensure your communications will be more effective and better understood.

Tips

How to prepare yourself before giving presentation:Ask yourself: Who? What? How? When? Where? Why?

Who are you speaking to? What are their interests, presuppositions and values? What do they share in common with others; how are they unique? What do you wish to communicate? One way of answering this question is to ask yourself about the ‘success criteria’. How do you know if and when you have successfully communicated what you have in mind? How can you best convey your message? Language is important here, as are the nonverbal cues discussed earlier. Choose your words and your nonverbal cues with your audience in mind. Plan a beginning, middle and end. If time and place allow, consider and prepare audio-visual aids. When? Timing is important here. Develop a sense of timing, so that your contributions are seen and heard as relevant to the issue or matter at hand. There is a time to speak and a time to be silent. ‘It’s better to be silent than sing a bad tune.’ Where? What is the physical context of the communication in mind? You may have time to visit the room, for example, and rearrange the furniture. Check for availability and visibility if you are using audio or visual aids.

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Why? In order to convert hearers into listeners, you need to know why they should listen to you – and tell them if necessary. What disposes them to listen? That implies that you know yourself why you are seeking to communicate – the value or worth or interest of what you are going to say. Be concise. Be brief. Use short words and sentences. Where appropriate, support these with short, easy-to-understand examples, which help demonstrate your message.

How do you solve the problem of employees in your organization?

The method called:DO IT - A Simple Process for problem solving How to use tool: DO IT is an acronym that stands for: D - Define problem

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O - Open mind and apply creative techniques I - Identify best solution T - Transform These stages are explained in more detail below: 1. Define Problem This section concentrates on analyzing the problem to ensure that the correct question is being asked. The following steps will help you to do this: • Check that you are tackling the problem, not the symptoms of the problem. To do this, ask yourself why the problem exists repeatedly until you get to the root of it. • Lay out the bounds of the problem. Work out the objectives that you must achieve and the constraints that you are operating under. • Where a problem appears to be very large, break it down into smaller parts. Keep on going until each part is achievable in its own right, or needs a precisely defined area of research to be carried out. 2. Open Mind and Apply Creative Techniques Once you know the problem that you want to solve, you are ready to start generating possible solutions. It is very tempting just to accept the first good idea that you come across. If you do this, you will miss many even better solutions. At this stage of DO IT we are not interested in evaluating ideas. Instead, we are trying to generate as many different ideas as possible. Even bad ideas may be the seeds of good ones. Each tool has its particular strengths and benefits, depending on the problems that you want to solve. While you are generating solutions, remember that other people will have different perspectives on the problem, and it will almost certainly be worth asking for the opinions of your colleagues as part of this process. 3. Identify the Best Solution Only at this stage do you select the best of the ideas you have generated. It may be that the best idea is obvious. Alternatively, it may be worth examining and developing a number of ideas in detail before you select one.
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When you are selecting a solution, keep in mind your own or your organization’s goals. Often Decision Making becomes easy once you know these. 4. Transform Having identified the problem and created a solution to it, the final stage is to implement this solution. This involves not only development of a reliable product from your idea, but all the marketing and business side as well. This may take a great deal of time and energy. Many very creative people fail at this stage. They will have fun creating new products and services that may be a year ahead of what is available on the market. They will then fail to develop them, and watch someone else make a fortune out of the idea several years later. The first stage in transforming an idea is to develop an Action Plan for the transformation. This may lead to creation of a Business or Marketing Plan. Once you have done this, the work of implementation begins!

II method for problem solving process:How to use tool: Simplex is an industrial-strength creativity tool. It takes the approach of DO IT to the next level of sophistication. Rather than seeing creativity as a single straight-line process, Simplex sees it as the continuous cycle it should be. Completion and implementation of one cycle of creativity leads straight into the next cycle of creative improvement.

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Simplex uses the following eight stages:

These are explained below: 1. Problem finding Often finding the right problem to solve is the most difficult part of the creative process. When using Simplex, actively seek problems out. Wherever they exist you have opportunities for change and improvement. Problems may be obvious, or can be flushed out using trigger questions like the ones below:
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What would your customers want you to improve? What could they be doing better if we could help them? Who else could we help using our core competences? What small problems do we have which could grow into bigger ones? What slows our work or makes it more difficult? What do we often fail to achieve? How can we improve quality? What are our competitors doing that we could do? What is frustrating and irritating?

These questions deal with problems that exist now. It is also useful to try to look into the future. Think about how you expect markets and customers to
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change over the next few years; the problems you may experience as your organization expands; and social, political and legal changes that may affect it. At this stage you may not have enough information to formulate your problem precisely. Do not worry about this until step 3!

2. Fact finding The next stage is to find out as much information relating to the problem as possible. This gives you the depth of knowledge you need to:
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Use the best ideas your competitors have had Understand customers needs in more detail Know what has already been tried Fully understand any processes, components, services or technologies that you may need to use Ensure that the benefits of solving the problem will be worth the effort you will put into it

This stage also involves assessing the quality of the information that you have. Here it is worth listing your assumptions and checking that they are correct. 3. Problem definition By the time you reach this stage, you should know roughly what the problem is and should have a good understanding of the facts relating to it. From here the thing to do is to crystallize the exact problem or problems you want to solve. It is important to solve a problem at the right level. If you ask questions that are too broad, then you will never have enough resources to answer them effectively. If you ask questions that are too narrow, you may end up fixing symptoms of a problem, rather than the problem itself. 4. Idea finding The next stage is to generate as many ideas as possible. Ways of doing this range from asking other people for their opinions. Do not evaluate ideas during this stage. Instead, concentrate on generating many ideas as possible. Bad ideas often trigger good ones.
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5. Selection&Evaluation Once you have a number of possible solutions to your problem, it is time to select the best one. The best solution may be obvious. If it is not, then it is important to think through the criteria you will use to select the best idea. Once you have selected an idea, develop it as far as possible. It is then essential to evaluate it to see if it is good enough to be considered worth using. It is important not to let your ego get in the way of your common sense. If your idea does not give big enough benefit, then either see if you can generate more ideas, or restart the whole process. You can waste years of your life developing creative ideas that no-one wants.

6. Planning Once you have selected an idea, and are confident that your idea is worthwhile, then it is time to plan its implementation. The best way of doing this is to set this out as an Action Plan, which lays out the who, what, when, where, why and how of making it work. For large projects it may be worth using more formal planning techniques. 7. Sell Idea Up to this stage you may have done all this work on your own or with a small committee. Now you will have to sell the idea to the people who must support it. This might be your boss, a bank manager or other people involved with the project. In selling the project you will have to address not only the practicality of the project, but also things such internal politics, hidden fear of change, etc. 8. Action Finally, after all the creativity and preparation, comes action! This is where all the careful work and planning pays off. Once the action is firmly under way, return to stage 1, Problem Finding, to continue improving your idea.

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How to increase retention of written information?
SQ3R - Increasing Your Retention of Written Information How to Use Tool: SQ3R is a useful technique for fully absorbing written information. It helps to create a good mental framework of a subject, into which you can fit facts correctly. It helps to set study goals. By using SQ3R to actively read a document, you can get the maximum benefit from your reading time. The acronym SQ3R stands for the five sequential techniques you should use to read a book:

Survey: Survey the document: scan the contents, introduction, chapter introductions and chapter summaries to pick up a shallow overview of the text. Form an opinion of whether it will be of any help. If it does not give you the information you want, discard it.

Question: Make a note of any questions on the subject that come to mind, or particularly interest you following your survey. Perhaps scan the document again to see if any stand out. These questions can be considered almost as study goals - understanding the answers can help you to structure the information in your own mind.

Read: Now read the document. Read through useful sections in detail, taking care to understand all the points that are relevant. In the case of some texts this reading may be very slow. This will particularly be the case if there is a lot of dense and complicated information.

Recall: Once you have read appropriate sections of the document, run through it
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in your mind several times. Isolate the core facts or the essential processes behind the subject, and then see how other information fits around them.

Review: Once you have run through the exercise of recalling the information, you can move on to the stage of reviewing it. This review can be by rereading the document, by expanding your notes, or by discussing the material with colleagues. A particularly effective method of reviewing information is to have to teach it to someone else!

Key points: SQ3R is a useful technique for extracting the maximum amount of benefit from your reading time. It helps you to organize the structure of a subject in your mind. It also helps you to set study goals and to separate important information from irrelevant data. If you use SQ3R; you will significantly improve the quality of your study time.

How to remember people’s Names?
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1. Face association Examine a person's face discretely when you are introduced. Try to find an unusual feature, whether ears, hairline, forehead, eyebrows, eyes, nose, mouth, chin, complexion, etc. Create an association between that characteristic, the face, and the name in mind. The association may be to link the person with someone else you know with the same name. Alternatively it may be to associate a rhyme or image of the name with the person's face or defining feature. 2. Repetition when you are introduced, ask for the person to repeat their name. Use the name yourself as often as possible (without overdoing it!). If it is unusual, ask how it is spelled or where it is comes from, and if appropriate, exchange cards. Keep in mind that the more often you hear and see the name, the more likely it is to sink

How to develop self confidence?
People with high self esteem behave confidently. Low self esteem stops all your efforts to be confident. Confidence matters in:
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relationships work parenting life skills - decision making, achieving, improving situations or circumstances you don't like expressing yourself taking up new challenges being open to change self improvement

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Here are some tips which Mr. Gaikwad follows in his life:-

1. Recognize that no one knows everything. Regardless of how harshly someone may criticize your errors, rest assured they've made plenty themselves. You can probably remember a few if you try to. 2. Experiment with presenting ideas about which you are less than 100% confident. See what happens when you express something about which you're only 95% confident. Give yourself a chance to learn that you can be successful without being 100% certain. 3. Have faith in your ability to perform. The success you've achieved thus far is not an accident. You wouldn't be where you are unless you were competent and knowledgeable. 4. Be willing to learn on the job. Successful people do this all the time. Seek input from people unlikely to evaluate you. Remember, we always learn more from failure than from success. 5. Act with confidence even when you're not completely certain. DON'T: *Apologize or ask for permission to speak. Begin with statements such as "You probably thought of this before but..." or " I'm sorry to bother you but..." * Hesitate, repeat yourself, or embroider your statements. DO: * Speak in a convincing, unconditional, authoritative manner. * Be decisive and to the point, make your statements strong and powerful. * Claim authorship of your ideas by saying, "This is what I've come up with" or "I did the research and found..." * Project your voice. 6. The more you stretch yourself and succeed, the more confident you'll feel. Think of risk-taking as a necessary part of your professional training. 7. Remember what you stand to gain from taking a risk: * Your work will not just be excellent but may also be recognized. * You'll have the chance to receive credit for your accomplishments.
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* You'll increase your visibility and therefore your chances of getting good assignments and projects. * You'll probably feel more confident than you did before. Remember what you stand to lose from NOT taking a risk: * You may be right but no one will know it. * Your work may go unnoticed or you may not receive credit for it. * No one will know you're there. * Perhaps worst of all - you may be accused of not having the "necessary confidence." 8. Look for a model (someone who is confident) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act? 9. Focus on your achievements and even if you failed try to work out what you did right and how you could succeed next time 10. Act as if you were confident! 11. Prepare thoroughly for any task so that you can be sure you are ready 12. Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be over trained or over skilled for any challenge in life. 13. Learn relaxation skills 14. Always smile 15. Set reachable goals for yourself 16. Reward yourself when you succeed

(13) How do you develop self esteem? Self esteem is related to your self worth and your value. Building self esteem is a first step towards your happiness and a better life. Self esteem increases your confidence. If you have confidence you will respect yourself. If you respect yourself you can respect others, improve your relationships, your achievements and your happiness....
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Low self esteem causes depression, unhappiness, insecurity and poor confidence. Other's desires may take preference over yours. Inner criticism, that nagging voice of disapproval inside you, causes you to stumble at every challenge and challenges seem impossible. Tips 1. Face your fears - they aren't as bad as you think they are. Facing your fears increases your confidence. 2. Forget your failures - learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don't limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can't succeed this time. Try again, you're wiser and stronger. Don't be trapped in the past! 3. Know what you want and ask for it. You deserve your dreams to come true. 4. Reward yourself when you succeed. No-one else will! Isn't everything easier when you take time to help yourself? 5. Talk - We often make assumptions about a situation or person which are not true. Your attitude and behaviour can be negatively affected so if you have any doubt or question ask and don't assume you know why or how. 6. Don't be defeated! Try something else. You are not going to be defeated by one failed attempt are you? Doesn't everyone fail before they succeed? All you need is a different approach. 7.Feel Good when you want! When you need to boost your self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practice thinking about them and bringing them to mind. Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.

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How do you develop self Image?
Self Image - What is it? Self image is how you see yourself in relation to others. This may be how you see yourself physically or it may be more about the idea you have of yourself which could also be called self concept. It is very important as it affects your self esteem and confidence. Self image includes:
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What you think you look like physically How your personality comes across What kind of person you think you are What you think others think of you How much you like yourself or you think others like you

Connection to Self Esteem If you have poor self opinion your self esteem will be poor. How exactly are they different? Self Esteem focuses on how you feel about yourself. Image is about how you see yourself. They are, as you can see, quite close. Relationships Image is to do with how people perceive you and this will affect how they relate to you. It will affect your relationships either positively or negatively. You may believe how you see yourself is how others see you. This cannot be true. Your view of yourself is shaped by your unique thoughts and beliefs and you will have a distorted view. You will see yourself in a positive or negative way and both will be biased. You may have a negative view of yourself and if so you are probably highly critical of yourself.

How to Improve your Self Image
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List things you like about yourself - include appearance, personality and skills Change negative thoughts to positive thoughts by focusing on the positive ones and trying to forget the negative things that happen to you Take up an exercise program - you will feel better and look better!
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Remember good things people have said about you and note them down if you want Question whether your view of yourself is accurate examine why you see yourself like you do Make any changes you think would help you for example clothes, appearance, hair style, behaviour in certain situations Accept things about yourself that are true and learn to think about them in a positive way Take yourself less seriously and lighten up! Accept criticism in a constructive way so you can improve and develop Don't be limited by your internal image, step outside of it and break free, it doesn't have to control you or keep you down. Acting differently will change how others see you and will also help to change your own attitude towards yourself and your abilities

Do you believe that Self-Image affects our Self Esteem?
Body image affects how you feel about yourself. It's an important factor in self esteem for women, men, adolescents and children. The modern world glorifies the perfect body and if you're a woman it's difficult to be positive if you believe you are fat, ugly, too tall etc.  Image and women Self esteem in women these days seems dependant on how they think they look Image - I'm fat, short, skinny - these are opinions you hold and maybe not true. However, I know people who are fat and happy and others who are slim and unhappy. Guess what? Some men like large, some small, some thin and some tall. You don't have to be thin to be attractive! Someone will like your appearance and if you have a good feeling about yourself even better! Your body is unique, enjoy it and love it. Focus on your good points. If someone likes you they will see the good and not the bad. Make yourself worthy of love and like yourself first.  Image and men

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Poor image of your body can cause you to have very low self esteem and self confidence. Men worry about how tall, strong or big they are. The worst thing for men is probably being short. They believe the tall, dark, handsome myth. Most men will suffer low self esteem if they think they are short or too thin. Like women these men can become obsessed.  Image and adolescents Adolescents worry how they compare and appear to their friends and others. Image and physical appearance are highly important! Teenagers want to look like the stars and pop idols they see on TV. These stars are not average looking people. Adolescents fall into the trap of believing that if they are not like these wonderfully attractive stars they are not worth anything.  Raise your self esteem
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Focus on the parts of your body you like Dress to emphasis what you have and look good Stop comparing yourself to others Start an exercise program Eat healthy food and stay away from diets Play sports as often as you can Walk as much as you can Don't smoke at all or drink too much Write down compliments you receive about how you look Straighten up, smile and look straight ahead - you'll look and feel more confident Challenge positively and surprise yourself!

How to delegate in effective manner?
What to Delegate

Don't delegate what you can eliminate. If you shouldn't be doing an activity, then perhaps you shouldn't be giving the activity away to others. Eliminate it.

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Delegate routine activities, even though you don't want to: o Fact-finding assignments o Preparation of rough drafts of reports o Problem analysis and suggested actions o Collection of data for reports o Photocopying, printing, collating o Data entry Delegate things that aren't part of your core competency. For small businesses, these include accounting, web site design, deliveries, hardware upkeep, software help, graphic design, travel arrangements, patenting, legal issues and even HR functions such as payroll. Some things you can't delegate: performance reviews, discipline, and firing. Create a plan to delegate. Don't give out assignments haphazardly. Invest short term time in training to gain a long term increase in productivity. Others may end up doing a better job than you can or finding new ways to complete a task.

Delegation Instructions Make sure the standards and the outcome are clear. What needs to be done, when should it be finished and to what degree of quality or detail?
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Delegate the objective, not the procedure. Outline the desired results, not the methodology. Ask people to provide progress reports. Set interim deadlines to see how things are going. Delegate to the right person. Don't always give tasks to the strongest, most experienced or first available person. Spread delegation around and give people new experiences as part of their training. Obtain feedback from employees to ensure they feel they're being treated appropriately. A simple "How's it going with that new project?" might be all that's needed. Be sure to delegate the authority along with the responsibility. Don't make people come back to you for too many minor approvals. Trust people to do well and don't look over their shoulders or check up with them along the way, unless they ask.
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Be prepared to trade short term errors for long term results. When you finish giving instructions, the last thing to ask is, "What else do you need to get started?" They'll tell you. Give praise and feedback at the end of the project, and additional responsibilities.

How do you Deal with Telemarketers?
The following points while dealing with telemarketers:o Would you like to avoid telemarketing calls while you’re having dinner? Simple. Don’t answer the phone at dinner time. If it’s someone important, they’ll leave a message or call back. o Auto dialers automatically dial your number from a database. Once you answer the phone, the call is connected to an operator, and information about you (e.g. your name) pops up on his or her screen. This connection results in a short delay, often a second or two after you answer. Because of this, the operator doesn’t hear your first response. When you say “hello” and no one responds, this is a good indication that an auto dialer has dialed you. o To avoid telemarketing calls, be careful about giving out your name and number; don’t sign up for contests, don’t always send in warranty cards, and watch for opt in / opt out features on web sites where you are asked to register. Marketing companies use these techniques to build call lists. o Don’t always say “yes” just to please people. Take control of your life and just say no. When dealing with telemarketers
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If you are interested in an offer, ask telemarketers for their company's name and address and a clear explanation of the offer they are making. Ask about the company's refund policies. Consider asking the caller to send you written material to study before you make a purchase. Don't ever pay for any prize or send any money to improve your chances of winning. It's illegal to make you pay to enter most contests.

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Beware of “free” offers. You may end up having to pay for numerous additional charges such as taxes, handling and shipping that make the deal much less attractive than it seems. Remember the cardinal rule; if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. Trust your gut and say no. Never give out your bank account number. Crafty scam artists can use it to withdraw money from your account without your permission. Sometimes they may sound like bank inspectors or the police, doing a fraud investigation and asking for your help. Investigations are never done this way. Be cautious about giving your credit card number over the phone, unless you know the organization well. If you have doubts, call them back, asking for their customer service manager or the public relations department. If they can’t give you a number, or if you’re not satisfied with the response you get, say no.

How to get cooperation from other department?

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Other departments may appear to slow you down. In dealing with them, begin with an assumption that they are as competent as you are. Everyone

Is doing his or her best, and everyone is busy. Remember that ultimately, you're all on the same team. Your positive attitude will get better results than antagonism. Treat them as you would like to be treated. Handle your special requests of other departments as you would handle a task that you would delegate: 1. Clarify the task to be done and the standards to be met. 2. Establish a timetable. 3. Ask if there is anything else that the person needs to complete the task. 4. Confirm the commitment that they made (don't make it for them). If others let you down; be careful not to react with one of two opposite emotions; aggression and passivity. Aggression is fighting back, yelling, name calling, threatening to go to a higher authority, becoming impatient and being forceful. Passivity is giving in, ignoring an issue, procrastinating, apologizing or running away. Be assertive instead. Use the person's name. Say please and thank you. Ask, don't tell.

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Be straightforward with your request. "Our department needs this delivered to us by tomorrow." Adding an explanation helps to validate the request. Then ask if there's anything else they need, or anything you can do to help the process. Clarify the agreement made. If the person objects, repeat the request, stating it slightly differently each time. "Jillian, I'd like to get a copy of that report by tomorrow." She answers that she's too busy. "I can understand how you've got a big workload. (Avoid the dreaded "but") I do need the report finished by tomorrow so can we find a way to complete it somehow?" Ask "Would it be helpful if I…" Sometimes they can do a better job if you help first. Your offer also displays genuine empathy. Use the phrase, "What would have to happen..." For instance, "I understand most of the staff has left for the day, but what would have to happen for this to be finished by tomorrow morning?" Sometimes the person might suggest a solution that you can help achieve: "Well I'd have to send it over in a taxi and we're not allowed to do that." Maybe they can't authorize a taxi, but you can. Don't appeal to a higher authority. If you say "I need this done, and I can get my boss to speed things up if I have to," you may not be successful. Instead, build a relationship. Take an interest in things that are important to them. If problems persist, keep a log of transactions. Include the date you sent something to another department and the date you got it back. Use this to support process improvement, not to blame someone. Create routines for standard requests from other departments that are repeated. For instance, automate your expense report. This isn't bureaucracy, it's efficiency. On the other hand, remove routines that were created for occasional exceptions that no longer occur. Old routines may be slowing other departments down. Ask what the holdups are. Convene a meeting to outline your concerns. The other department might identify blocks that can be removed.

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How do you handle paperwork?

It is very hectic work but though he has given me some points:
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Reduce your credit cards to one per adult, two if you use one for home and one for work. This reduces statements and bill-paying time. Reduce your bank accounts, if you have several. If you find yourself dealing with multiple bank statements every month, this is a good place to start. Pay bills by automatic deduction. Most utility bills can be handled this way. Put all your receipts in a small envelope. Sort through them every month or every quarter.

In which manner you plan your day?
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Visualize your long term picture of success and put it in writing. Review your goal frequently. Your goal should be specific, measurable, achievable and compatible with where you are now. There should be an end date as well. Try to do your planning at the same time every day. Use this time to review past accomplishments as well as future things to do. Use only one planner to keep track of your appointments. Keeping a separate business and personal planner creates confusion. Write out a To Do list every day. Include items that can be completed, such as "Prepare exhibits for monthly report", rather than just "Work on report." Separate your To Do list into A, B and C priorities. "A" items are important to your long term success, "B" may be urgent but not as important and "C" are those that would be nice to do if you get the time. Start with the A items. Don't work on a C just because it's easy to do. Also, break your A items into small manageable chunks, so they're easy to accomplish. Check off items as you complete them to give yourself a sense of accomplishment. Block off time in your planner for major activities. This might include a block of time for working alone on major tasks. If someone wants to meet you during that time, say "I'm sorry, I already have an appointment." Don't jam your day full of activities. Leave time for emergencies, special opportunities and thinking time. Be your own manager. Ask yourself if you have met your goals, and what changes you plan to make to achieve them.
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Do you do any preparation before meeting?
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Invite those people who are applicable to attend meeting, and accordingly prepare list for invitation. Make a formal invitation, usually in person or by telephone at least two weeks in advance. Send a follow-up confirmation note and agenda after attendance has been confirmed. Try for a reminder. Have an assistant call to remind attendees about the meeting, or mention it to them yourself, in conversation. As the chairman, preparing an agenda in advance helps you to;
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Determine what items you want to cover; Communicate to participants what is to be considered and what is expected of them; Create order and control at the meeting; Establish standards by which the success of the meeting can be measured. Circulate your agenda in advance. If you can't, write it on a flip chart or white board before participants arrive. The agenda should include:

The purpose of the meeting, stated in one succinct sentence; e.g. "To review and agree details of the annual budget";
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The start time and finish time; Meeting location, including street address, floor, room number and map if necessary; A list of who will be attending, and their titles; Individual items to be covered, and action items on each Put simple announcements at the beginning of the meeting, to warm up the group. Start and finish the meeting with positive items. If someone else is preparing the agenda, approach them beforehand to make sure your items are on the list for discussion.

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Is there any tips to prevent interruptions?
• Prevent interruptions from walk-in visitors by isolating yourself. Close your door. Put up a sign. Work in a conference room. If you work in an office, take a day to work on important projects at home if necessary. If you have an assistant, establish clear guidelines as to what kinds of interruptions are appropriate, so they can screen visitors. The assistant should have the authority to schedule a subsequent meeting, or divert the inquiry to someone else. Block off your time for priorities. Handle larger, important projects early in the morning, before you read your e-mail and before interruptions are likely to occur. Schedule a quiet hour to create essential private time. Change the layout of your desk so that you're not facing traffic. Otherwise, you encourage interruptions.

When They Walk In • When someone asks for a few minutes of your time, respond with "Sure, how about if I come by your office at 2 o'clock this afternoon?" This gives you more control.

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Stop people from telling stories. Interrupt them and say, "Can you summarize how I can help you in one sentence?" If they ramble on, say "OK, so how can you sum up what you need from me?" If they're asking for help, ask them what solution they propose? This will save your time! Agree to help them with their request, but schedule a specific time to do it Invent a meeting that you have to go to. Confess that you promised to call someone back about a confidential matter at exactly this time. Go make some photocopies. This will bring a meandering discussion to an end. Set a time limit. Then check the time in an obvious way, and make sure to announce the end of the allotted time when it occurs. Be careful that your tactics aren't counter productive to the organization. What may benefit you as an individual may be detrimental to the team. Isolating yourself might frustrate others, or cause them to waste their own time because you weren't available for help.

How do you “Say No” in effective manner?
According to him it is very tactful job, because while saying no you should have some strong reason. Here he has given some points which we can follow while saying no:-

We say "yes” to others because we want to please them. But when eventually we can't continue, we let them down and we feel guilty. Both parties suffer. Recognize that a desire to please often prevents us from saying no. • Make sure you understand exactly what is being asked of you before you respond. Perhaps the task is more time consuming than you thought. On the other hand, it may not take much effort at all. • Excel at just a few things, rather than being just average at many. Don't try to do everything.

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• You have a right to say no. Remember that others may take you for granted and even lose respect for you if you don't. • Be polite, but firm in saying no. You only build false hopes with wishywashy responses. For instance, the phrase "I'll try to be there" in response to a party invitation is giving yourself an excuse to avoid a commitment. It doesn't do anyone any favors. • When a superior asks you to do a new urgent task;
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Remind her that you are working on other projects that she has already identified as top priorities Point out that you might be able to do everything, but not to the usual high standards that are expected.

• Some experts recommend keeping your answer short. This way, you can say no without feeling the need for a lengthy justification. ("I'm sorry, I'm not available that night.") On the other hand, others say that giving a longer answer with reasons reinforces your credibility. Let the situation decide. • Provide suggestions or alternatives to the person who is asking. ("I can't do that task today, but how about next week," or "How about asking John instead?") • Put a tough condition on your agreement. "If it would only take an hour, I'd be able to help, but I can't give you more than that."

Is there any method to simplify our life?
According to Mr.Gaikwad there are various ways you can apply to simplify your life:• Think about your values and write down those that really matter to you. What is most important? Spending time with family? Accumulating great wealth? Achieving powerful influence? Acquiring possessions? Expressing yourself? Learning new ideas? Experiencing adventure and travel? Maintaining excellent health? Socializing with friends? Contributing to the community? You can't do them all. Cut out activities that aren't consistent with your core values.
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• Write a list of goals you'd like to achieve. Focus on doing a few really well, rather than a lot in a mediocre way. You can't add hours to the day, but you can cut down on activities. • Say no instead of yes. People agree to requests from others because they like to please them. Instead, realize that you have a right to say no. Creating plans or policies makes saying no easier. ("I'm sorry; I already have a financial planner." "I'm sorry; we already have a plan for giving to charities.") • Give away clerical tasks to others who can handle non-priority activities. • Stop spending time to save money. Instead, spend money to save time. Don't drive across town to save a few cents on a grocery item. It's not worth your time. • Cancel subscriptions to magazines you never get around to reading. Only read one newspaper per day. • Cut back on television time. Only watch those shows you decide on beforehand. Circle them in the television-listing magazine. Then turn off the television when the program is over. Cancel extra cable television packages for channels you rarely watch • Clean out your basement or your office. If you're not using something, get rid of it. Put an expiry date on items when you can't decide to keep them or not. Get rid of them when the expiry date arrives. • Automate repetitive, clerical, mechanical tasks. For instance, set up automatic bill payments. Include your automatic savings plan as part of your monthly spending. • Make a plan for the weekend that doesn't involve work. Plan to spend more time with your family or with people who make positive contributions to your life. Stop spending time with people who are a drain on your energy or vitality. • Carry a smaller wallet or purse. Start by cleaning out the one you've got. Get rid of unnecessary credit cards and other clutter that you don't use regularly. • Make time for yourself. Set aside time each day to reflect quietly, go for a walk, plan for your future or meditate. Visit the park instead of the mall. • Cut back on debt. Consolidate your different debts into one and pay it off. Put your credit cards in a spot where you won't be able to use them until you're debt-free. Track your expenses for a month, then cut back your spending on items you don't need. For instance, pack a lunch rather
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than buying one at work. Mix and match your outfits rather than constantly buying new ones.

How to Stop Procrastinating?
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Recognize that procrastination stems from habit. New habits will be needed, and these take time and commitment to develop. Understand the cause for procrastination, then develop strategies to fix it. Recognize the difference between an appropriate decision to delay, and an irrational postponement without justification. Fix procrastination by working on a) tasks and b) your environment:

TASK STRATEGIES Unpleasant tasks
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Unpleasant tasks rarely turn out to be as bad as you think. Complete these tasks first. Schedule them for early in the day. Give yourself a reward for doing them.

Complex Projects

Something looms ahead of you: starting a small business, getting a job, preparing the annual budget. The job is too big or will take too long to do now, so you put it off. Break large jobs into smaller, more manageable tasks. Plan and complete a start-up task, no matter how small.

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People delay because they can't make up their minds. Determine a time for making a decision and the criteria for making it. Share your deadline with someone else.

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Fear of failure (lack of self confidence)
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People don't want to face the consequences of failure, so they delay. (Some people suffer from fear of success too!) Develop a clear mental picture of the completed task and how you will feel at that time. Maintain a focus on the end result, not just the process. Remind yourself how good you'll feel when you're finished.

Lack of interest
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You are tired or lazy. You're just not very interested in the task. Reward yourself for accomplishments. Go out for special lunches when major projects are completed. If you don't earn the reward, don't take it. Schedule the task for when you will be at your peak.

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People delay because they want to get the project perfect. Set deadlines for yourself. Tell other people your deadlines and encourage them to check up on you. Maintain your high standards, but recognize that sometimes 80% for you may well be 100% for someone else. Don't spend hours conducting a detailed cost breakdown when a rough estimate would suffice.

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People delay because they don't like the person who assigned the task. Review with your boss what exactly is needed. Clarify the expectations. Make a game out of unpleasant tasks. Give yourself points, or do a running commentary on yourself as you do the task.

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Sometimes losing concentration causes delays. Create a to-do list with priorities. Block your time for projects. As you get distracted from a work project, make a rule that you are not allowed to move out of your chair, make a call, surf the net, pick up a book etc. until you return to your task. Complete something. Make a very small task for yourself and finish it. Very small. Then, make another one.
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ENVIRONMENT STRATEGIES
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Tailor your environment for work. Close your door, clean up the clutter on your desk. Remove distractions such as water coolers, snacks, in-boxes, coffee machines and magazine racks. If you work at home, treat your office as an office. Don't go out to lunch before lunchtime or watch television before the end of the day. Tell your family that you are not to be disturbed in your home office.

How to Use E-mail Effectively?
Block off times to process your e-mail. Twice per day should be enough. Avoid the temptation to check e-mail more frequently. Check the spelling of your e-mail before sending it. Spelling errors seem generally accepted in e-mail. But go beyond acceptable. Aim for excellence. DON'T TYPE IN ALL CAPS. This is perceived as shouting. Re-read your e-mail before sending it. Writing quickly often results in awkward grammar. Don't copy documents from other programs, such as MS Word. Odd characters such as apostrophes can show up as gibberish. Special formatting will go wonky. Instead, send the original document as an attachment. Use the edit and paste commands as you would in word processing. This is helpful in repeating information or creating a type of form letter to be sent to various participants. Just say no. If you're on a mailing list for which you have no interest, reply by writing "unsubscribe" or "remove" in the comment box. Be careful though. Sometimes mass-mailers use your response to confirm that you have an address, and send you more stuff. Use a filter to prevent mail with features that are repeated from being downloaded.

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Use a stacking tray or file folder labeled "E-MAIL" to store paper items associated with e-mail you plan to send. Then you can batch them more efficiently. Place items in separate e-mail folders as you would with paper items. Don't use your Inbox or Sent Mail as catchall holding tanks. Sort incoming e-mail by subject, key word, or author so you can process related mail together. There is a convention to intersperse someone else's original message with points of your own when you reply. Consequently, it takes a while to figure out what is original and what is new. Avoid wasting people's time. Create a proper response as you would a business letter. Instead of leaving an entire message that you received intact, just make a reference to it. They don't need to read everything they wrote when you respond to them Consider carefully what you write; it's a permanent record and can be easily forwarded to others. Never accuse people, call them names, suggest they aren't being smart or criticize their spelling. Assume their intentions are genuine. Avoid sarcasm. Be polite and assertive if necessary (i.e. to spammers) but not vindictive. Don't attach large files without getting permission from your recipient first. Write descriptive subject lines. Many busy people will only open messages with captivating subject lines. Think creatively. If you must forward a message, put your comments at the top. Learn how to keep an address book to save e-mail addresses, automatically insert them into a new message and maintain groups of contacts. Use autoresponders to offer frequently requested information. These email bots will automatically respond to the sender with a prewritten message. They are often used for brochures, price lists, directions, etc. Delete all unnecessary mail. Old messages congest servers. Delete old, duplicate or reply version copies and free up space for new incoming mail. Do not keep all of your messages in your mail box folder. Create new mail folders with names that categorize your mail and move messages into them. This way new mail is not only easier to find but quicker to load (which is especially true when dialing in remotely). Delete messages with attachments after you have saved them to your hard drive. They take up a lot of space on the server.

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When replying to a message, be sure you reply to just the person you want. Be careful not to accidentally reply to an institute wide message. Be careful with punctuation. A lot of periods can separate thoughts..... but use a lot of exclamation marks and it looks like you're angry!!!!!!!!!! How does a line of question marks look ??????? You might not intend strong emotion, but the other person might think you do. Use the blind carbon copy (bcc) feature for your own mailing lists. You can send out periodic announcements to a list of people. By using the bcc feature, recipients won't be able to copy other people's names and addresses. Do not forward personal e-mail to a discussion group without the author's permission. Don't attach files when posting to discussion groups. Refer participants to a web site where they can find the information. Don't send entire web pages to a discussion group, just post the web address. Don't blatantly promote your business by posting an advertisement to a discussion group, unless it is clearly an accepted use and you have cleared it with the moderator (if there is one) first. Otherwise, you are "spamming." Offering information of value, rather than simply inviting people to your web site. Avoid cyber-speak. Not everyone is familiar with the cute acronyms used in E-mail correspondence, such as IMHO (in my humble opinion) or FWIW (for what it's worth). Performing a mental translation each time slows down the reader. Don't make reading difficult for them.

Can effective Listening ensures Success?

Whether it's our spouse, our children, or with a sales prospect or our boss, one of life's great challenges is to listen well. Often, we are tempted to think about our response rather than listen. Or, we believe we already know what the other person is going to say, so we simply interrupt or wait impatiently for our turn.

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The following 10 "rules" can help. 1. Stop Talking! It is difficult to listen and speak at the same time. 2. Put the other person at ease. Give them space and time and "permission" to speak their peace. How we look at them, how we stand or sit, makes a huge difference. Relax, and let them relax as well. 3. Show the other person that you want to hear them. Look at them. Nod when you can agree, ask them to explain further if you don't understand. Listen to understand them and their words, rather than just for your turn. 4. Remove distractions. Good listening means being willing to turn off the TV, close a door, or stop reading your mail. Give the speaker your full attention, and let them know they are getting your full attention. 5. Empathize with the other person. Especially if they are telling you something personal or painful, or something you intensely disagree with, take a moment to stand in their shoes, to look at the situation from their point of view. 6. Be patient. Some people take longer to find the right word, to make a point or clarify an issue. Give the speaker time to get it all out before you jump in with your reply. 7. Watch your own emotions. If what they are saying creates an emotional response in you, be extra careful to listen carefully, with attention to the intent and full meaning of their words. When we are angry, frightened or upset, we often miss critical parts of what is being said to us. 8. Be very slow to disagree, criticize or argue. Even if you disagree, let them have their point of view. If you respond in a way that makes the other person defensive, even if you "win" the argument, you may lose something far more valuable!
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9. Ask lots of questions. Ask the speaker to clarify, to say more, give an example, or explain further. It will help them speak more precisely and it will help you hear and understand them more accurately. 10. STOP TALKING! This is both the first and the last point, because all other tools depend on it. Nature gave us two ears and only one tongue, which is a gentle hint that we should listen twice as much as we talk.

While going for an interview what important points we should keep in mind …?

* Pay attention to time! An interview for a job is seen as a very important appointment, and showing up too late for your appointment is therefore absolutely unacceptable. Missing the bus or getting stuck in a traffic jam are pretty lame excuses. It's much better to arrive way too early than even a little too late! * Thefirst meeting After you have announced yourself at the reception or to an employee of the company, you will often be asked to take a seat. After a while someone will come to lead you to the interview area. Do not jump up immediately and offer this person a handshake. It's better to let the other person takes the initiative. Shake hands firmly, but not too powerfully and look straight at the other person. After this you will be introduced to the (other) members of the application committee. During this
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introduction it is better to walk around the table to shake hands with the committee members, instead of leaning over the table. With each greeting look directly at the other person, and say your name. Except for an internal application, don't assume that the other people know your name. * Choosing the right seat After the initial introduction you will usually be directed to take a seat. If you are left to choose a place yourself, choose a place from where you can clearly see all the interview participants, and from where they can also see you. If someone is sitting half behind you, and you can't really see him, he may not get such a good impression of you because of this. * Tune your body posture During your job interview try to adopt a posture that shows interest but still comes across as being relaxed. You can do this by sitting up straight in your chair at the beginning of the interview, with your back against the back of the chair. If you hang sideways in your chair, it might give the impression that you are not that interested in the job. However, sitting on the edge of your chair can come across as being a little tense and might give the impression that you feel uncomfortable. You can change your body posture a little during the interview. For example, when someone says something it is good to turn a little with your shoulders towards this person and to lean forward a little. This shows an interest in what the other person is saying. You can emphasize this by tilting your head a little. It is also important to pay attention to the posture of your interview partners. In some cases you can achieve mutual tuning by adopting the same posture as the other person. * What to do with your hands? Just the same as when you are giving a presentation, many people often regard their hands as obstacles during a job interview rather than a useful means of communication. That is why people often ask what to do with their hands. In a difficult situation we are often inclined to fold our arms across our body. This helps to give us a more secure feeling. During a job interview it is better not to do this, because folding your arms can be interpreted as a defensive move. It is better to let your hands lie loosely on your lap or place them on the armrests of your chair. From these
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positions it's also easy to support your words with hand gestures. * Movements: a dynamic interview? Nodding your head while speaking is a good way of supporting your words or adding meaning to them. Hand movements can also help to liven up the interview. The fact that you dare to make movements with your hands during an interview might indicate that you feel at ease quickly. In most cases it is better not to make too many hand movements at the start of the interview but add them slowly throughout the interview. As regards this, pay attention to your interview partners as well: if they use their hands a lot to make things clear, you can definitely do this as well. When they don't make many movements, it is better if you don't either. Just the same as with body posture, it is important to tune your movements to those of the other person. Also pay attention to inadvertent movements that you may make sometimes due to nervousness. For example, shuffling with your feet or kicking against the leg of a table can be very irritating for other people. Drumming with your fingers or clicking with a pen also won't be a great contribution to the interview. * When should you look at whom? During the job interview it is important to look at all the interview partners to an equal extent. By looking directly at the other person we are giving them a sign of trust. By looking directly at people we are also in control of the conversation. Looking directly at somebody or looking away actually serves as the dots and commas in our spoken sentences. When one of the committee members explains something or poses a question, keep looking at this person for as long as he or she is speaking. This shows that you're listening. While he is speaking he may also look at the other people, but every time he wants to emphasize something he will look at you again. You can then nod to encourage him to continue talking. At the end of his question, he will keep looking at you and then tilt his head up a little to invite you to give an answer. When you answer a question, you will look first at the person who posed the question, but while you answer you should take turns looking at the other interview partners as well. You should direct yourself again to the person who posed the question when you want to emphasize something and at the end of your answer.
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* Do not worry too much about tension Knowledge of body language can help you improve the mutual tuning during the interview. You can use this knowledge to hide your nervousness a little, but actually this is something you shouldn't worry about too much. Many applicants are nervous during an interview and of course they would much prefer not to let this nervousness show. However, it's not such a bad thing to be nervous. The committee members will understand this. Your nervousness may even show that you feel this job is important to you.

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Techniques to measure Human skill

Test no.1 Measurement of sensation seeking Motive The sensation seeking scale For each of the below items, circle the choice, A or B the best describes your likes or dislikes, or the way you feel. 1. A. I would like a job that requires a lot of traveling. B. I would prefer a job in one location. 2 A. I am invigorated by a brisk, cold day. B. I can’t wait to get indoors on a cold day. 3. A. I get bored seeing the same old faces. B. I like the comfortable familiarity of everyday friends. 4. A. I would prefer living in an ideal society in which everyone is safe and happy B. I would have preferred living in the unsettled days of our history. 5. A. I sometimes like to do things that are little frightening. B. A sensible person avoids activities that are dangerous. 6. A. I would not like to be hypnotized. B. I would like to have the experience of being hypnotized. 7. A. The most imp. Goal of life is to live it to the fullest and experience as much as possible. B. The most imp. Goal of life is to find peace and happiness. 8. A. I would like to try parachute-jumping.

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B. I would never want to try jumping out of a plane, with or without a parachute. 9. A. I enter cold water gradually, giving myself time to get used to it. B. I like to dive or jump right into the ocean or a cold pool. 10. A. When I go on vacation, I prefer who are emotionally expressive even if they are a bit unstable. B. When I go on vacation, I prefer the change of camping out. 11. A. I prefer people who are emotionally expressive even if they are a bit unstable. B. I prefer people who are clam and even tempered. 12. A. A good painting should shock or jolt the senses. B. A good painting should give one a feeling of peace and security. 13. A. People who ride motorcycle must have some kind of unconscious need to hurt themselves. B. I would like to drive or ride a motorcycle. Direction of scoring the sensation seeking scale Score 1 point for each of the following responses: 1A,2A,3A,4B,5A,6B,7A,8A,9B,10B,11A,12A,13B,

Interpretation.
o o o o o 1-3 very low SS scores. 4-5 Low SS scores 6-9 Average SS scores 10-11 High SS scores 12-13 Very high SS scores.

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TEST 2 How effective is your work group.
YES The atmosphere is relaxed and comfortable. Group discussion is frequent, and it is usually Pertinent to the task at hand. Group member understand what they are trying to accomplish. People listen to each other’s suggestion and ideas. Disagreements are tolerated, and an attempt is made to solve. There is general agreement on most courses of action taken. The group welcomes frank criticism from inside and outside sources. There is a well established, relaxed working relationship among the members. -------------------------------------------------------------------NO

When the group welcomes takes action, clear assignments are made and accepted. ---There is a high degree of trust and confidence among the leader and subordinates. ---The group members strive hard to help the group achieve its goal. Group members feel confident in making decisions. People are kept busy but not overloaded. The leader of the group is well suited for the job. Creativity is stimulated within the group. Suggestions and criticisms are offered and received with a helpful spirit. -------------------

There is cooperation rather than a competitive relationship among group members. ----

SCORING KEY: This test measures the relative effectiveness of a group to which you belong .count the no. of times you answered “mostly yes”. The

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larger the number, the more productive and satisfied the group members should be.

Test no3 MEASURING YOUR OWN SELF MONITIORING INSTRUCTIONS: In an honest self –appraisal, mark each of the following statement as true (T) or false (F), and then consult the scoring key.

I guess I put on a show to impress or entertain others. In a group of people I am rarely the center of attention. In different situation and with different people, I often act like very different persons. I would not change my opinions in order to please someone or win their favor. I have considered being an entertainer. I have trouble changing my behaviour to suit different people and different situations. At a party I let others keep the jokes and stories going. I feel a bit awkward in public and do not show up quite as well as I should. I can look anyone in the eye and tell a lie with a straight face. I may deceive people by being friendly when I really dislike them.

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1.T,2.F,3.T,4.F,5.T,6.F,7.F,8.F,9.T,10.T
1-3 = Low self- monitoring 4-5 = Moderately low self- monitoring 6-7 = Moderately high self- monitoring 8-10 = High self- monitoring

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Test 4 HOW IMPORTANT IS SUCCESS TO YOU? INSTRUCTIONS: This questionnaire asks a series of questions concerning, how you feel personally about several outcomes. For each item listed below, answer as honestly as you can by circling the most appropriate number.

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Strongly Strongly 1 When something good happens to me, I often get the feeling that it won’t last I usually feel good when i win an argument. I tell my friends when I excel at something. When my boss or instructor praises my work, I often feel unworthy. I like competitive sports and games. I have gotten this far in school largely through luck. I like receiving praise for a job well done. I like to stay in the background on group projects. When a project or job is going well, I often feel I will do something to mess things up. I think I have a “winning attitude ” in my approach to new assignments. 1 2 3 4 5

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Scoring key: This exercise looks at your self – perception about success. To score this test, add up your point total. If you received 10-22, you have a fairly strong need for success; you like to win. If you scored 23-35, you have a moderate need for success. If you scored 36-50, you tend to have a “fear of success”. That is, feel unworthy about winning or uncomfortable with public recognition of your accomplishments

Self Esteem Test This self esteem test is extremely quick and simple, just answer TRUE or FALSE to each question (if you cannot answer 100% TRUE then answer FALSE - check below how to score):

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1. Other people are not better off or more fortunate than me 2. I accept myself as I am and am happy with myself 3. I enjoy socializing 4. I deserve love and respect 5. I feel valued and needed 6. I don't need others to tell me I have done a good job 7. Being myself is important 8. I make friends easily 9. I can accept criticism without feeling put down 10. I admit my mistakes openly 11. I never hide my true feelings 12. I always speak up for myself and put my views across 13. I am a happy, carefree person 14. I don't worry what others think of my views 15. I don't need others' approval to feel good 16. I don't feel guilty about doing or saying what I want TEST SCORE: Total number of TRUE answers you gave, EACH ONE POINT: 15-16 POINTS - YOU HAVE A HIGH LEVEL OF SELF ESTEEM. 12-14 POINTS - NOT BAD BUT ROOM FOR YOU TO IMPROVE 8-11 POINTS - LOW SELF ESTEEM - IT'S HOLDING YOU BACK

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BELOW 8 POINTS - YOUR ESTEEM IS DRASTICALLY LOW

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