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Stage 1 Formation
Men’s Weekend I: Knights Tales
CFC Singles for Christ
Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales
Stage 1 Formation About the Weekend
The Knights Tales , SFC Men’s Weekend 1 is the first weekend retreat designed for the men of CFC Singles for Christ. This weekend has 2 basic goals: 1. Help the men understand the true definition of manhood. 2. Challenge the men to live as modern-day knights, ready to offer their lives for the cause of Christ.
The retreat is divided into four sessions. Session 1: Authentic Manhood. This session tackles the definition of true manhood, who bestows it, and what it takes to live out authentic manhood. Session 2: A Vision of Manhood. This session takes a deeper look into the heart of a true man. It examines the three basic desires that God placed in a man’s heart. Session 3: The Code of Conduct. This session explores the purpose for man’s creation and what responsibilities God gave to man. It talks about how Adam, the first man, fails to live out this call and thus brings suffering to all men. It also talks about how Christ, the new Adam, restores man by fulfilling God’s call that Adam failed to follow. Session 4: A Cause to Fight For. The final session talks about the need for men to step up to be modern-day knights. It will call the men to embrace the cause God has given to SFC. It will challenge them to live out the 7 core values, to be committed to their brothers, and to embrace modern-day knighthood in service to Christ and others.
The activities supplementing the sessions include group discussions, personal reflection, meditation, vocal prayers, and some physical activities. The team can make adjustments based on any logistical or pastoral resources available for the retreat.
The team comprises of a Team Leader/Retreat master, Servants, Facilitators, Music Ministry, and Logistics.
The speaker profiles should be all men, preferably top leaders in CFC or SFC. He must study the talk and preferably read the references included in this manual to have a clear grasp of the concepts and points of the talk. He can employ sharers in his talk only if time permits and at the concurrence of the Team Leader.
CFC Singles for Christ Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales
Stage 1 Formation
The Knights Tales Retreat can be given on a 2-day schedule but can also be modified to fit a 1day schedule. Below is the suggested 2-day format: Day 1 Morning 08:00 Arrival and Registration 08:30 Gathering, teaching of songs 09:00 Worship 09:30 Welcome remarks and Orientation 10:00 Session 1: Authentic Manhood 11:00 Group Discussion 11:30 Wrap Up/Lunch
Afternoon 01:00 Gathering, teach song 01:15 Afternoon Praise 01:30 Session 2: A Vision of Manhood 02:15 Personal Reflection 02:45 Break 03:30 Session 3: The Code of Conduct 04:15 Healing Session with Confession 05:15 Mini-praisefest 05:35 Break. Prepare for Mass/Continue with confession 06:00 Mass
07:00 Dinner 08:00 Fellowship 09:00 Activity: Man-to-Man talk or Eucharistic Adoration 10:00 Closing prayer
CFC Singles for Christ
Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales
Morning exercises. End of Retreat.Stage 1 Formation Day 2 Morning 05:00 Wake up. teach songs 09:00 Worship 09:30 Session 4: A Cause to Fight For 10:15 Knighting Ceremony 11:00 Praisefest 11:30 Closing remarks. 06:30 Common Prayer time 07:00 Breakfast 08:00 Gather. CFC Singles for Christ Page 4 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales .
2. 3. Authentic manhood is not necessarily the same as the secular world defines it. Arm wrestling – Find a sturdy table where participants can arm wrestle. the 2’s will be doing sit-ups. Have them do sit-ups for one minute and tally the scores afterward. the 3’s will do arm wrestling. the SFC Brother is called to be the modern day knight. The arm wrestling participants should be equal in number so any odd participant will be added to the push up group. In spite of the many obstacles. sit-ups. All the 1’s will be doing push ups. the brothers will do as many push-ups as they can. Designate a timekeeper. and arm wrestling. Have the brothers clasp their right hands together with their left hand down beside their opponent’s right elbow to prevent it from slipping. Tenor: Alive. Someone who exemplifies what it is to be a true man. Tally the scores after one minute and congratulate the brother who has the highest score. Help the brothers reflect on the people and experiences that have influenced their manhood. exciting Speaker’s Profile: Someone who is a father or is a father-like figure to brothers. 3. Sit-ups . 2.Have a brother assist each contestant by holding down their feet (to prevent it from lifting as they do the sit up) and also to count how many sit ups they can do in a minute. Push-ups – In one minute. • • • Do the event one at a time so the other men can cheer for the contestants. Activity: Proving Grounds – A Test of Manhood There are three events for this activity: push-ups. Have them count off by threes.Stage 1 Formation SFC Men's Weekend 1: KNIGHTS TALES Session 1: Authentic Manhood Objectives: 1. Congratulate the brother who has the highest score. Key Messages: 1. Masculinity is not something a man discovers by himself but is bestowed upon him by other men. Define what constitutes authentic manhood. Begin the match. Count the number of men who are attending the retreat. Give them two • CFC Singles for Christ Page 5 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . Highlight the traits of a modern day knight and how our community prepares us for it.
Stage 1 Formation minutes to arm wrestle. drugs. declare a draw. CFC Singles for Christ Page 6 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . But without a generous heart." 1. selfishness can set in a man's heart causing him to acquire more for himself but never really find any satisfaction. Men can be physically strong but without internal strength and discipline. In other words. and abilities • Power .his influence and authority over others • Prosperity . road rage. He enjoyed an abundance of wealth but all is in vain once death comes knocking at his door. The result could mean battered wives. I. Men who are unable to contain their passions end up getting addicted to vices. • • Men who are unable to contain their anger can be violent. Prosperous men have the ability to bless others with their wealth. If any of the brothers wins the match. • Luke 12:16-21 tells the parable of the rich fool. they are called "half-men. pornography. and stewardship can become corrupt officials. If both are still up after two minutes.his manly looks. and father many children B. Powerful men who do not understand the meaning of justice. the kind of car he drives. they are unable to control their passions and urges.his money. and murder.his ability to attract and seduce women. have both of them shake hands in the spirit of true sportsmanship. Crisis of Manhood While the above qualities of manhood are not intrinsically evil. and illicit sex. it is the lack of other meaningful qualities that actually makes a real man incomplete. fitness. or how big his house is • Prowess . 2. 3. The secular standards of manhood are often gauged by: • Physique . • • Politicians have the opportunity to help the people but corrupt officials just use their power and influence for personal gain. History will never forget the heinous crimes that Hitler committed that caused the lives of millions of innocent people in the death camps. mercy. Worse. A. The Measure of a Man. they can become dictators causing the suffering of millions.
3.g. Enron scandal 2001. hearing him laugh. many do not even have a close relationship with their father. It is defined and bestowed upon him by other men. the Church plays an important role in defining the true identities of men and women as sons and daughters of God. Church . Of that 65 %. CFC Singles for Christ Page 7 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . 1. 65 % of children in the US remain fatherless. II.Stage 1 Formation • Some examples: Greedy businessmen have caused many corporations to go bankrupt because of fraud (e. Bestowing Masculinity A.watching him shave. Community . Family . Churches bear images of the suffering Christ that speak volumes about what authentic manhood is all about. This process was painful and hard but once a boy completes this rite of passage. his tribe publicly welcomes him as a man.Communities in the past bestowed masculinity upon boys through ceremonies. abuse and even rape. • • • Their failure to honor and treat women with respect has led to unwanted pregnancies. 4. society suffers a blow. The priest alone has the distinct privilege of witnessing to all men how God is Father to us all. Homes are broken. Just being around dad . Sons grow up fatherless. And this emotional capital cannot be gained anywhere other than in the presence of a father. African tribal practices require boys to undergo training and bloody initiation. For example. When a boy grows up to be a man without a strong grasp of authentic manhood.invests a son with large doses of male energy. Living Arrangements of Children: 2004 (feb 2008) • This crisis of manhood is borne from man's own struggle with his identity. touching his flesh . Men who judge their masculinity according to their sexual prowess only end up using women. from his book Raising A Modern-Day Knight writes. Wall Street scandal 2008). No self-made man Masculinity is not something a man discovers by himself."* 2.Having been entrusted with Sacred Scripture and with the revelation of authentic manhood found in Christ.Fathers play an important role in defining for his son what a true man should be. "Something about a father's physical and emotional presence gives life to a boy. Author Robert Lewis. Hearts are wounded. Wives have become desperate because their husbands have gone looking for younger women.* (US Census Bureau.
The middle ages were a time of feuding kingdoms and barbaric invasions. Knighthood CFC Community Life In our community. They were also capable of championing the cause of the poor. Despite the shortcomings of some knights and their not so glorious reputation. 3. The Knights of the Order of St. It provided a vision of manhood. a page can be likened to a Kids for Christ (KFC) member. A son of a knight or of a member of the aristocrat. The Knights Hospitalier were know to care for the sick. the women. community. a boy was sent to a nearby castle and was was trained as a page. Young boys are fascinated by the tales of King Arthur and the Knights of the Round table. Consider the similarities we already have in community with that of the process of knighthood. Lazarus took care of lepers. 2. and our transcendent cause. It defined a code of conduct. we will explore the elements that make a modern day knight. It gave man a worthy cause to fight for. It taught a knight to live with honor and to perform his duties towards his king. . • This weekend. he CFC Singles for Christ Page 8 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . Knighthood provided a vision for men that showed them they were made for more than just battle.Knights followed a rule often known as the Code of Chivalry. • Robert Lewis highlights three important elements what knighthood did for a man: 1. . He begins to interact with other members of community. . A Path to Authentic Manhood • With a crested shield. and Church in the formation of men. and his faith. we must look at a model to follow that involves family. battle-worn armor and a long sword. III.Stage 1 Formation If we are to help men discover and live out authentic manhood. He At eight years old. and of the faith. This code shaped a man's behavior and channeled his strength and gifts for the benefit of others. We will talk about the vision for manhood. knighthood offers us a model to follow if we are to help restore authentic manhood in this day and age.Knights often took on a cause that went beyond their own interests. a time when most men were raised as violent warriors. women. knights of the middle ages have often been a symbol of courage and bravery. A most fitting model we can follow is that of knighthood. A famous example are the warrior monks known as the Knights Templar who aided pilgrims to the Holy Land. B. our code of conduct. Raising Modern-Day Knights in SFC Raising modern day knights is not an impossible concept.
He followed the knight to tournaments and assisted his lord on the battlefield. His duties included dressing the knight in the morning. who tapped the squire lightly on each shoulder with his sword and proclaimed him a knight. scripture and the sacraments are strengthened.Stage 1 Formation spent most of his time strengthening his body. is taught how to pray by his older brothers and wrestling and riding horses. a boy became a squire in service to a knight. Soon the dubbing ceremony began. He also studied Latin and French. the person doing the In our community. When dawn came. a squire could become a knight after proving himself worthy. He goes on his first mission trip under the guidance of his Couple Coordinator. and cleaning the knight’s armor and weapons. CFC Singles for Christ Page 9 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . Being a single professional. a Catholic contrition rite. The lady of the castle taught the page to sing and dance and how to behave in the king’s court. he took a bath to show that he was pure. sing. This was symbolic of what occurred in earlier times. He would then fast and pray all night for the purification of his soul. He uses his time and resources to serve God and his SFC brethren. At the age of fifteen or sixteen. serving all of the knight’s meals. caring for the knight’s horse. He learned how to sisters in YFC. He takes up the cause of building the church of the home and the church of the poor. A lord would agree to knight him in a dubbing ceremony. a squire can be likened to a Youth For Christ (YFC) member. He learns how to pray. and worship before the King of Kings. The squire would then eat breakfast. He takes on leadership and goes on mission. Still young in their faith. He brings other singles to Christ. The chaplain would bless the future knight's sword and then lay it on the chapel or church's altar. and he dressed in his best clothes. Before dawn. he is mentored by his older brothers in YFC and SFC. The outdoor ceremony took place in front of family. He was taught dance. more civilized topics like reading and writing. the priest would hear the young man's confession. and nobility. He learns about spiritual warfare as he begins to serve in camps and retreats. The night before the ceremony. the squire would dress in a white tunic and red robes. He undergoes a longer formation process through the CLP. He is respectful and protective towards his SFC sisters. When he was about twenty years of age. he is independent and is mostly mobile. A full fledged knight can be likened to a Singles For Christ (SFC) brother. His foundation in prayer. In the earlier middle ages. The squire knelt in front of the lord. friends. A squire also prepared himself by learning how to handle a sword and lance while wearing forty pounds of armor and riding a horse. fight with a spear and a sword.
morals. Do You Have What It Takes To Be A Man? A. He seeks out the lowly – just as He did when Jesus picked out his 12 disciples. 3. He will become our strength. (Read 2 Corinthians 13:9) 3. we must be available to heed Him. If we are to be real men. Let God have his way with what you can offer at this time. We must be open to the ways on how God can continually fashion us to be real men. Available – When God calls us. * IV. knocking him over. Obedient – The path to knighthood is a path of obedience to God and his Word. Our comfort – We can become too complacent and comfortable in our routine that we are not interested in pursuing growth and development of our values. B. V.Stage 1 Formation dubbing would actually hit the squire forcefully. and principles. The consequences are tragic – from dysfunctional dads to power-hungry presidents. Conclusion The world is in a crisis due to the absence of real men. However this is exactly why we should become knights in the first place! All men are weak and the path to knighthood will help us overcome these weaknesses. What are the obstacles to becoming a modern day knight? 1. 2. Obedience is a tool that God uses to fashion us to become the man we were meant to be. Humility – God doesn’t seek those who think they are something in the eyes of the world. Attitudes we must take on 1. men have lost their true purpose. We need to unlearn all these standards and turn to Christ as the real definition of manhood. By admitting we are weak. a great feast followed with music and dancing. 2. we should not be afraid of the challenge to rise up and become even more holy and dedicated to the Lord. Come as you are. Our pride in our achievements in serving God could blind us from realizing that we are in need of constant transformation by Christ. We must be ready to detach ourselves from this world lest we suffer the same fate of the rich young man who failed to follow Christ because he was concerned about his possessions (Luke 18:18-25). After the dubbing. Our unwillingness – We may find ourselves simply unwilling to embrace this call. Our tendencies – We may feel unworthy of the call to become knights for God because we know we will only fail due to our weakness. We must look at the model of CFC Singles for Christ Page 10 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . The world has defined what manhood means.
5. 2. 3. Growing up. who were the manly influences in my life? What did these men teach me about manhood? What do I think are the qualities of an authentic man? What has my father taught me about manhood? What qualities of a knight do I want to live out in my life? CFC Singles for Christ Page 11 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . Questions for Discussion 1.Stage 1 Formation knighthood as a means to not only live out the Christian ideals but as a step to imitating Christ. 4. VI. Taking on the call of being knights for God will help us to transform into the man that God intends us to be.
rejects passivity. leads courageously. But he’s good. [taps his head] Karate here. seriously] Daniel-san. 2. Activity: The scenes from the movies below are defining moments for the characters in the story. There are four principles that characterize authentic manhood and determines what makes a real man (i. Karate Kid Mr.Stage 1 Formation SFC Men's Weekend 1: KNIGHTS TALES Session 2: A Vision of Manhood Objectives: 1. Key Messages: 1. scenes can be re-enacted via short skit or play. He’s the King. open.e. I tell you. Every man has three core desires in his heart which image God’s own desires for man.. Tenor: Straightforward and frank. and expects greater reward). Prepare video excerpts of these famous movies and ask the participants to guess which movie these are taken from. [points to his belt] Understand? Braveheart Argyle Wallace: First. Define what authentic manhood is for SFC Brothers and inspire them to aim for this. Kesuke Miyagi: In Okinawa. Beaver: “Safe? Who said anything about safe? ‘Course he isn’t safe. accepts responsibility. karate here. Guide the brothers to reflect on and assess their personal state of “manhood”. Speaker’s Profile: A brother who can encourage the brothers to reflect and be open about their manhood. One who can ground the concepts discussed through examples and real-life situations. [taps his heart] Karate never here. Chronicles of Narnia Lucy Pevensie: Is he—quite safe?” Mr. learn to use [taps William's forehead] this. then. 3. 2. Highlight the core desires of man and relate how these affect him up to this day. As an alternative. CFC Singles for Christ Page 12 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . belt mean no need rope to hold up pants. [laughs.
The ultimate sign of this is Jesus’ offering of His life for us. As we begin our journey into modern day knighthood.Stage 1 Formation Argyle Wallace: Then I'll teach you to use [lifts the sword] this. A Desire to Love • God is love (1 John 4:8) and He loves with a self-giving love. Strength from Within A man has three core desires that are deep within his heart. The Man Behind The Armor The strength of a knight does not lie solely on his armor or weapons. Briefly discuss the common points of these movies. II. we must first discover who we are as men of God. and the values that lie deep within his heart. These three desires image God’s own desires for man and in this way man becomes an image of God in the world. to redeem us and give us the promise of eternal life. Marcus Aurelius: Maximus. Star Wars Episode VI Darth Vader: The Force is strong with this one.knowing who he is. Being aware of these desires in our hearts and turning to God before anything and anyone else to fulfill them. that is why it must be you. Gladiator Marcus Aurelius: I want you to become protector of Rome after I die. A. His true stength lies in his identity . gives a man his inner strength. Do you accept this great honour I have offered you? Maximus: With all my heart. to give power back to the people of Rome and end the corruption that has crippled it. Become who you were born to be. • CFC Singles for Christ Page 13 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . whom he represents. Lord of the Rings: Return of The King Elrond: The man who can wield the power of this sword can summon to him an army more deadly than any that walks this earth. a man’s heart is also called to give himself selflessly in love to woman. There really is no greater love than this. I will empower you to one end alone. Just as Christ gives Himself in love to His Bride the Church. no. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I. Neither does it lie on his skill or his wit. Put aside the ranger.
And living out this vocation is what gives man great joy and fulfillment. his vocation becomes clear to him. O Lord. “The Lord is a warrior. St. building a bridge. he realizes that this is his ultimate adventure and that it can only be fulfilled if he has a meaningful relationship with God who gave Him this purpose. splendor. a man longs to accomplish his mission in the world. we mirror God’s image and likeness. Thus. Only God can be the Source of this self-giving love. But in persisting and conquering these risks when he knows that this is where God calls him to be. worthy of his respect. a man reflects God’s own desire to love us His children. of difficult challenges that need to be hurdled.” B. we cannot help but marvel at its beauty. He will put her needs above His own and look after her welfare. painting a masterpiece. God placed man in charge of creation (Genesis 1:28-30) and gave him stewardship over it (Genesis 2:15). of rejection. A Desire for Adventure • Looking at creation. even if it involved the risk of being rejected and denied by them. Agustine expresses this truth in his Confessions: “You have made us for yourself. His heart will seek an adventure because he wants to discover who he is and what he is meant to be. In loving in this way. man will always long to be with God. and our hearts are restless until they rest in you. and Lord is his name!” God fought to liberate the Israelites from slavery from the hands of Pharaoh. In Exodus 15:3 Moses says.Stage 1 Formation o If a man truly loves a woman. he sees her as a beautiful creature of God. and selfless love. In the end. Because of this stewardship. his purpose is his life’s adventure. a man’s heart will always long for a purpose for living. however. CFC Singles for Christ Page 14 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . When a man discovers his gifts and talents. and only in union with Him can man love in this way. is without risk. Like Christ who came to fulfill the purpose for which He was sent by the Father. • • • • • C. God made it that way so it reveals to man his wisdom. and love. Whether he be exploring the wilderness. he takes the risk of failure. adoration. No adventure. Creation itself was a means to draw man closer to God. raising a family or celebrating Mass. whether he is aware of it or not. o • God designed man’s heart to love to so as to draw him to Himself. inventing a cure for a disease. As a man pursues his vocation. A Desire to Do Battle • • A true lover fights for the good and well-being of his beloved.
man images God our Warrior and Liberator. ready to engage in battle. A real man knows how to use his strength properly in the service and welfare of others. Clark "Men have a natural tendency to avod social responsibility. and fight a battle passively. (Cite other relevant examples.Stage 1 Formation • • • • Christ was willing to do battle with sin and Satan. The knights are the first to charge in the battlefield to draw first blood. Thus. neither should that one eat. He was not afraid to shed his blood for us . He is willing to sacrifice himself for the sake of his beloved. Meekness means strength under control. He is response-able. if he is to fulfill his core desires. not the other way around. but choosing to live with their parents for no other reason than comfort. he must reject his passivity. How many of you avoided your leader because you knew they were going to ask you to serve as a household head or give a talk? o Cite other examples that show passivity among SFC brothers or men in general. A Real Man Rejects Passivity • According to sociologist Stephen B. CFC Singles for Christ Page 15 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . He does not pass the blame on to others. Similarly." Because of our fallen nature. We should reject passivity! • Being passive negates man’s three core desires for one cannot love. capable of employment. • A real man is not passive! Christ shows us that true manliness means loving first! "It was not you who chose me. • In a relationship. III." o Or how about the single man who gets his girl pregnant but refuses the responsibility of raising a child? He will even encourage his girlfriend to get an abortion. B. o Look at the brothers in SFC. we tend to shy away from obligation and just hide in our man-caves. o 2 Thes 3:10 says "if anyone was unwilling to work.His Bride the Church. live an adventure.) • A real man will not run away from his responsibility and will even hold himself responsible for the welfare of others. it is a man who pursues the woman. o How many men do we know are irresponsible? It is frustrating and shameful to see grown men. but I chose you" (John 10). Four Principles of Manhood Robert Lewis proposes 4 principles that characterize authentic manhood: A. a man’s heart is courageous and strong. In his courageous and meek heart ready to fight for his beloved and for causes he believes in. A Real Man Accepts Responsibility • A real man takes it upon himself to respond to the needs of others around him.
long term benefits and reward is a challenge. instant soup. and fighting a battle. • Heaven is the greater good that we all aspire for. He is like a farmer. Paul states the headship of a husband over his wife. A Real Man Expects The Greater Reward • In today's world where almost every desire is met with an "instant" solution (e. He does not give up easily. • Not everything in life can be obtained in an instant. it also means that the husband is a servant to his wife. • A leader cannot be passive and irresponsible. expecting the greater. Paul writes "But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man. This allows us to survey the situation and lead others through the path. CFC Singles for Christ Page 16 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . living out one’s vocation (adventure). But true servant-leadership as Jesus exemplifies should be the standard of every man. • A real man is not impatient nor impulsive. instant sex [prostitution]. etc. our first step in our journey to knighthood is to embrace the definition of authentic manhood. Loving.). which is the reason for his loving. We must judge ourselves by the standards of authentic manhood according to the 4 principles. • But leadership without courage is impotent. and fighting a battle all require that a man accept and take responsibility. macro perspective as compared to women. living. "What eye has not seen. • Leadership does not mean dictatorship. he needs to persevere and keep his eyes focused on the greater reward (heaven). Leadership requires vision. D. and the man is the head of a woman. instant coffee. A Real Man Leads Courageously • St. Wimpy men make poor leaders because they easily crumble under pressure. Leadership is naturally opposed by challenges of any given task. and what has not entered the human heart.Stage 1 Formation • A man needs to take responsibility if he is to fulfill his core desires. C. for adventure. ready to shed his blood for her welfare. and for battle." (1 Cor 2:9). A real man perseveres and has faith in things that will give him true satsifaction in the long run.g. Conclusion Brothers. That is why men in general have a broader. • For a man to fulfill his core desires." Men were created to lead by God. toiling and tilling the soil till the seeds that he plants bear fruit. instant information [google]. a knight presses on to battle to lead his troops. We must first understand the deep desires that God placed in the heart of a man: a desire to love. and ear has not heard. God has prepared for those who love him. Even when wounded. This is something we need to reckon with in our hearts today. Whils St. He knows how to wait and he is patient. IV.
"Lord Jesus. 10 meaning most likely true). Thank You for creating me as a man for with it you have etched in my heart. what is the greatest adventure that you dream of pursuing? Who or what are you willing to fight for? How much would you give for this cause? • B. Rate yourself On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 meaning least likely true. Help me to fix my eyes on You. Defining moment [prepare a separate worksheet for each participant] • • Find a place where you can be alone for reflection. I am a man created in the image and likeness of God. money.Stage 1 Formation Activity A. my body. • • • Who or what do you love so deeply? If time. Pray before you reflect. Amen" Reflect on the following questions. Why are they not a 10? What would it take for you to get a 10 in all these 4 principles? CFC Singles for Christ Page 17 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . and my soul a deep mystery that reveals who you are to others. that You may guide me to the path of authentic manhood. and resources were not an issue. Create a journal of your reflections. Jesus. rate yourself against these 4 principles of manhood: I reject passivity 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 10 I accept responsibility 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 10 I lead courageously 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 10 I expect (and can wait) for the greater reward 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 10 Look at your answers. Help me to dive deeper and discover within my heart your design so that I may embrace it.
by men who lived out these high ethical and moral standards. he was also champion of virtue.According to Barbara Tuchman. Man must continue to seek redemption through constant turning away from sin. leading to the desire to seek healing from the Lord Speaker’s Profile: A brother who can encourage the participants to acknowledge their brokenness and lead them in seeking healing from the Lord. meaning the pledged word.Gorges Duby says "The knight owes it to himself to keep nothing in his hands.A knight was to be romantic and chivalrous. Generosity to the Poor . was chivalry's fulcrum. Man’s adherence to God’s desired code of conduct (a will to obey. a woman to love) will lead him to a full and satisfying life. All that comes to him he gives away. 3. "Loyalty. 3.A knight was to conduct himself like a champion on the battlefield as well as in the king's court. the knight stood out among the other warriors of his time. Jesus. Give hope through God’s promise for redemption. 4. Key Messages: 1. What set him apart was his code of conduct. 2.A knight who broke his oath was charged with 'treason' for betraying the order of knighthood" Excellence . 2. Recall how man through Adam broke the code with God. redeemed man by fulfilling the code of conduct. Although the code of conduct was broken initially through Adam and inherited by man. the New Adam. Highlight God’s desired code of conduct for man. a work to fulfill." • • • CFC Singles for Christ Page 18 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . He was more than just an elite soldier in the kingdom. This was brought about by his training as first a page. The four main values of his code of conduct are: • Loyalty .Stage 1 Formation SFC Men's Weekend 1: KNIGHTS TALES Session 3: A Code of Conduct Objectives: 1. Love and Honor of Women . Tenor: Serious and reflective.. I.. A Knight's Code of Conduct During the dark and often chaotic middle ages. Encourage the brothers to seek healing from their brokenness. One who is emotionally and spiritually strong and prayerful. then as a squire. He treated women with respect and would fight for their honor.
For such a person will hardly notice the passing of time. God gave man fundamental codes of conduct to live by. • Jesus gave us the Beatitudes and taught us many other standards by which we ought to live our life in obedience to God. he commanded that he take on stewardship of creation.a work to fulfill. A Will to obey • God is man's creator (Gen 1:26-28). He gave to Moses the 10 commandments which men must obey if they are to be God's people. I will make a suitable partner for him. We need modern day Christian knights to be a light and witness in these dark and chaotic times. Work was a means for man to utilize the gifts and talents God gave him as part of his stewardship of creation. A. C. we live in a society where the moral and ethical standards can be likened to that of a medieval age. To Adam. throughout the life given by God: for this is the lot of humanity. God's Code of Conduct for Men A "code" means a set of rules and standards adhered to by society or individuals. and an activity where he can find fulfillment and joy. • Adam was given a specific work to fulfill . II. Robert Lewis outlines these as as will to obey. Our obedience to him is a response of faith. A Work to fulfill • God did not just create man to passively enjoy what creation had to offer." (Gen 2:18). Work was also a means for man to provie for himself." (2 Thes 3:10).Stage 1 Formation Today. a work to fulfill. so long as God keeps his heart occupied with joy. If he adheres to these standards. this is a gift from God. A Woman to love • "The LORD God said: "It is not good for the man to be alone. "The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to till it and keep it. "So my conclusion is this: true happiness lies in eating and drinking and enjoying whatever has been achieved under the sun. • God made known his will to man. neither should that one eat. he will find a life that is satisfying and full." (Gen 2:15) • Scripture teaches us that work is a blessing from God. B. We then further read that God formed other creatures but none proved to be a suitable partner for man. He gave him a duty . Paul writes about the value of work "If anyone was unwilling to work. CFC Singles for Christ Page 19 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . and love. and a woman to love." (Ecclesiastes 5:17-19) • St. And whenever God gives someone riches and property with the ability to enjoy them and to find contentment in work.to till and keep the garden. hope.
In his book "First Comes Love". "you shall die" appears in some translations to mean "you shall die the death". but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat. and the treee of the knowledge of good and evil. A man is called to love a woman. A husband devotes his life to love.a death of a soul. in the east. saying. it does not make sense by itself.. But something went terribly wrong. "We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden. A man must have a woman to love. author Scott Hahn breaks down for us the events in Genesis. A man called to priesthood devotes his life to love. He exclaims "This one. the tree of life also in the midst of the garden. at last. a most extreme kind of death ." (Gen 2:23). for in the day that you eat of it you shall die. Adam’s failure and its consequences The first man had the opportunity to live out this code of conduct. and honor the bride of Christ . "Husbands. something that might try to get in.Stage 1 Formation • God then creates woman from man's rib. lead."(Gen 2:8-9. And the Lord God commanded the man. but God CFC Singles for Christ Page 20 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . and honor his wife. love your wives. And out of the ground the Lord God made to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight and good for food. 'You shall not eat of the any tree of the garden'?" And the woman said to the serpent. This verse referred to the latter. is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. and a woman to love. Ephesians 5 describes the standard for which a man must love his woman. a work to fulfill in the garden. This one shall be called 'woman. Looking at a man's body. The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to till it and keep it. .' for out of 'her man' this one has been taken. He said to the woman. he gives Adam his commandment. together they make perfect sense. "You may freely eat of every tree of the garden. God's command implied that there was something that must be kept out. A single man is called to love his mother and his sisters. Adam was given a will to obey God. • • • III. just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her" (Eph 5:25). 15-17). But seen in the light of a woman's body. Man was made for woman and woman for man. A Broken Code and the Promise of Redemption A. Important details in the passage: o "to keep" in Hebrew literally means "to guard" as the Israelite priests guarded the sanctuary and kept it from defilement. lead. • After God creates man. and a supernatural death. And the Lord God planted a garden in Eden. and there He put the man whom He had formed. He must be willing to give up his life for her. "Did God say. Eve.the Church. o • Now the serpent was more subtle than any other wild creature that the Lord God had made. Ancient rabbis taught this passage from Genesis implied two kinds of death a natural death.
the serpent was able to enter the garden. CFC Singles for Christ Page 21 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . His fears kept him from defending his wife. e. b. the serpent threatened to kill them if they did not comply to his proposal. knowing good and evil. "And the woman said. Because Adam failed to fulfill his work «to till and keep». For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened . to pride. His fears overcame his ability to trust his Father God to rescue him. neither shall you touch it. f.. upon himself.. "You will not die. lest you die. Original Hebrew translation indicate the serpent speaks not to one person but to the couple. she took of its fruit and ate and she also gave some to her husband. The Old Testament translation of "serpent" is "nahash" denoting a dragon (Is 27:1) or a sea monster (Job 26:13). he was implying that they would die if they refused to eat the fruit. c. and he ate. and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise.'" But the serpent said to the woman. Moreover. He failed to love the woman God gave to be his companion. not just Eve." The serpent was addressing both of them. In other words. Then the eyes of both were opened. Adam feared his own death. Where was the man tasked by God to till and keep/guard the garden? He is silent and allows his wife to succumb to the serpent's proposal. more than the spiritual death that awaited him if he offended God by sin. Why did he not intervene? d. and you will be like God. he feared his physical death at the hand of the serpent. "He said.Stage 1 Formation said. "the serpent" is not your small garden variety snake. 'You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden." a." Who responds to the serpent? Only Eve. Adam had a choice to respond to this threat by intervening or calling out to God for help. The Catechism of the Catholic Church identifies the serpent as Satan (CCC 291) who can physically harm Adam. he choose not to intervene when the serpent addressed the couple. Eve stepped in and was tempted. b. (Gen 3:1-7) a. Crippled with the fear. and that it was a delight to the eyes. Because of his silence. The serpent said "You will not die". It kept him from his duty to guard the garden. even if he loses his life in doing battle with the serpent. His fears threw him back. and they knew that they were naked and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves aprons. Being a murderous beast. • So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food.
remains faithful to his Father's will despite the fear of physical death that awaited him. His pride became his downfall and the consequences were borne by the rest of mankind. just as through one person sin entered the world. • Jesus was obedient to the will of the Father Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the desert to be tempted by the devil. but as you will. Adam cowered in fear in the garden and chose to save his life by disobeying God. and thus death came to all (Rom 5:12) e.Stage 1 Formation c. (Philippians 2). also at the garden. In the end. B. he eventually died and brought death upon mankind. Jesus was also tempted in the desert. Adam failed to obey the will of God. yet. He is risen from death on the third day. the resurrection of the dead came also through a human being. and through sin. (1 Cor 15: 21-22) Despite Adam's failure. He sought to have Jesus disobey God. d. And the way Christ did it was to become man Himself. o Satan's objective was to undermine the relationship of Jesus from the Father by offering Him power and pleasure. let this cup pass from me. (Matthew 26:39) o Jesus. if it is possible. Jesus rebukes Satan and remains faithful to the Father. "My Father. (Matt 4:1) o Just as Adam was tempted by Satan in the garden. Because of that. not as I will. so too in Christ shall all be brought to life. Because of Jesus' obedience even to death on the cross. Jesus fulfills the code of conduct that God gave to man. Unlike Adam. God still loved us. Therefore. Jesus Christ to redeem us and save us. For just as in Adam all die. He sent his own son. Christ’s victory and promise of redemption For since death came through a human being. Failing to live out our basic code of conduct as a man will have its consequences too in our daily lives. o o CFC Singles for Christ Page 22 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . death. o He advanced a little and fell prostrate in prayer. saying. He trusted his own judgment instead of relying on God's power.
the lame walk. (Eph 5:25) o o Jesus. lepers are cleansed. Jesus entrusts his beloved mother to the care of John the apostle. he said to his mother. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved. "Are you the one who is to come. and the poor have the good news proclaimed to them. the dead are raised. This is the only way we can break away from and will CFC Singles for Christ Page 23 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . the bridegroom. An interesting scene in the movie the Passion of the Christ shows Jesus during the agony in the garden. and the poor have the good news proclaimed to them. Adam lets Eve respond.We must die to ourselves and rise anew in Christ. "Woman. He never gave Satan a foothold during his ministry unlike Adam who failed to till and keep the garden. the deaf hear. allowing the serpent to slip past him. the lame walk. with this question. o • Jesus loved the women in his life Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother and his mother's sister. "Behold. This ought to be our model! True love is nothing without SACRIFICE! If we are to become true men. Jesus response however was to take Satan head on by offering his life for the sake of his beloved . Jesus responds and Mary stays silent. Mary the wife of Clopas. and Mary of Magdala." And from that hour the disciple took her into his home.Stage 1 Formation • Jesus fulfilled the work his Father gave him When John heard in prison of the works of the Messiah.his bride the Church In the garden. behold. he sent his disciples to him the blind regain their sight. stepping on and crushing the head of the snake. love your wives. On Calvary. sheds his blood for his bride. we must go through the cross. or should we look for another?" Jesus said to them in reply. the dead are raised. (Matt 11:2-5) o o Jesus fulfills his mission (Luke 4:16) on earth and remains faithful to the end." Then he said to the disciple. lepers are cleansed. your son. (John 19:2527) o Adam was passive in the garden and did not take Satan's threat to the couple head on. the Church. Jesus drives away many demons from the possessed (Mark 5:9). "Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind regain their sight. (Gal 2:20). o o Husbands. even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her. your mother. the deaf hear.
We must ask Christ to heal us from the effects of sin and to deliver us from any vice or addictions we have nurtured in the past. We still bear a strong semblance to Adam. but also showing us men the way to authentic manhood! We must be transformed! The path we must take are the following: • Repentance – We need to be honest with ourselves and stop rationalizing our sins. my fingers for war. let us not waste any more time rationalizing our sin. o God can forgive our sins if we repent.” (Psalm 144:1). Allegiance – We need to re-commit ourselves to Christ as our Lord and King. This helps us also to continue to fight the good fight. and tendency to sin. so stand firm and do not submit again to the yoke of slavery. who trains my hands for battle. the new Adam. which will always be there because of our concupiscence. You can do the following guided prayer as an • • • CFC Singles for Christ Page 24 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . But there is hope! Christ has come as the new Adam. • Healing session [Sacrament of Reconciliation . Deliverance – “For freedom Christ set us free. now would be the best time to encourage the brothers to do so. Our submission to Christ is essential else we will find ourselves submitting to our own will and desires. But the effects of sin remains: hurts. Just as David prayed “Blessed be the Lord my rock. We are weak and our desires are disordered. the first man.” (Gal 5:1). Compliance – We need to grow in discipleship and formation so we can fortify our resolve to live a holy and righteous life. o We must seek the power of the Holy Spirit so that we may “live by the Spirit” (Gal 5:24-25) and not live according to the desires of our flesh. faith. and live in victory with Christ. redeeming us. o We must commit to fight the good fight or persevering and continuing to struggle amidst temptations. we need to relearn the ways of true manhood by living a life of virtue. Surrender. pains.If a priest is available for Confession. The path to redemption Brothers. the first man. and humility are the key to deliverance. IV. are you ready to die? To die to yourself so that you may rise again with Christ? let us then begin our time of healing and restoration. We must seek God’s forgiveness and ask for the grace to be strong. we still CHOSE to indulge them instead of resisting sin. Brothers.Stage 1 Formation overcome the weaknesses we inherited from Adam. Even while our desires may be corrupted.
masturbation. I gave up eternal joy and bliss to be with You and instead feasted over temporary pleasure. I am deeply wounded. Not from the battles in the field. Invite the Holy Spirit to come and open our hearts to His presence. but wounded from the battles from within. Have the music ministry continue to play soft melody of worship as the following session begins: Have the brothers close their eyes and answer the following questions in prayer. I have sinned and continue to sin. Pause frequently as the brothers follow silently. lead the brothers in praying the Wounded Knight’s Prayer.Stage 1 Formation examination of conscience for the brothers prior to confession. You have created me in your image and likeness out of your love for me. vice. and intimidate others? Am I hurting because of the failures of my father to love me and raise me up to be a good man? Have any of my male family members or relatives abused me or failed to witness to me the true meaning of manhood? Has anyone outside my family. “A WOUNDED KNIGHT’S PRAYER” Heavenly Father. I let you down my Father. superiors.] Guided Prayers Lead the brothers in prayer using only slow songs of worship and adoration. I am your son and You have bestowed upon me the rights of an heir to your heavenly Kingdom. After everyone has confessed. coerce. figures of authority (teachers. I chose this world over my place CFC Singles for Christ Page 25 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . I have turned my back on what is genuine and true and contented myself with the counterfeits of this life. • • • • • • • Do I struggle with sexual desires? Do I indulge in pornography. I am a Knight. premarital sex? Am I addicted to gambling. and other risky behaviour? Have I been violent towards others? Have I used my strength to abuse. I have failed You miserably. etc) abused me or failed to witness to me the true meaning of manhood? Have I failed to live out to the fullest the true meaning of manhood? Have I hurt or abused anyone in the process? Lead the brothers to continue praying to the Lord while waiting for the others to finish with their confession. singing in the Spirit. Allow enough time of silence for this. I have chosen my human desires over and above what Your divine will is for me.
and to power. Free me from the bondage of sin which slowly consumes me. I ask for Your healing. I have sinned but You can heal me. I have lived a double life. I have used power to intimidate and to coerce. Deep inside I long for Your love. I have succumbed to the temptations of the flesh. I have struggled with purity.Stage 1 Formation deep in Your heart. and for a battle. Be with me in the battles I will never win alone. I have been addicted to drugs. I have given up but You have not given up on me. putting up a false façade of strength. and masturbation. What I do know is that I still hurt deep inside even. CFC Singles for Christ Page 26 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . Make me realize what Your original plan for me is. I have been lost but You can find me. Make we realize that it is the devil who has distorted what I am and corrupted my heart and distorted my desires. I humbly implore Your Divine Mercy to have pity on me. Show me the light to salvation. to alcohol. premarital sex. I have learned to numb my senses and to hide these feelings. I have fallen but You can help me up. I have kept these pains inside me. Do not let me succumb to temptation once again. Heal me. I know that I am not worthy. Make me worthy once again. indulged in pornography. I ask for forgiveness. Was it my father who physically hurt me as a child? Was it the verbal abuse I was subjected to at home and in school? Was it the violation of my body by people who were supposed to protect me? Was it the effects of the drugs and alcohol I took to make me forget? Was it the love I offered to this girl which was scorned and ridiculed? Was it the absence of anybody who could have comforted me when I was alone in my life? All these years. my Father. I do not know anymore who or what caused my hurt. I have physically and sexually abused other people. Allow me to move on inspite of all the hurts I have been through. Make me realize that my heart was made for love. for adventure. Lead me Lord into Your arms. to materialism. Cover me with Your love. My hurt is deeply-rooted. I ask for Your deliverance.
Amen. CFC Singles for Christ Page 27 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales .Stage 1 Formation Heavenly Father. dear Father. But most of all. thank you for just being our Father. Thank you. Thank you for never failing to listen to the call of Your child. send forth your Most Holy Spirit to be my guide. I am a wounded Knight but I choose to ask for forgiveness in order to be healed. for hearing the plea of Your son. Thank you for your grace to forgive and to heal.
Stage 1 Formation SFC Men's Weekend 1: KNIGHTS TALES Session 4: A Cause to Fight For Objectives: 1. excellence. George took up the cause to slay the dragon. our strength. 3. Solicit the brothers’ commitment to live out the life of a true SFC Knight. to fulfill this cause. CFC Singles for Christ Page 28 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . The cause of the SFC brother should transcend beyond his personal cause. Ideally. Speaker’s Profile: A brother who can challenge the SFC brothers to commit to become a knight and live out the corresponding life. courage. George to help. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I. There's a purpose behind our masculinity. The townsfolk drew lots to determine who among the maidens were to be offered to the dragon to appease it. It is also true for every man. He came upon a town that was besieged by a dragon. the highest SFC brother leader of the area The Tale of St. Tenor: Exciting. initiative. Instill in the SFC brother the transcendent cause he must embrace as his own. The lot fell on the princess and the king begged St. exhorting. He rescues the princess and brings her back to his father. George and the Dragon According to a legend. faith. 3. One who can inspire. and servant leadership. the king. we too as God’s sons need to take up the cause of living like knights in this day and age. He takes up the cause of his King and offers his services. The gallant knight made a sign of the cross. humility. The Cause of A Modern Day Knight A knight does not live for himself. even his life. 2. George was a knight who traveled the countryside. 2. then proceeded to slay the dragon with his lance. Exhort the SFC brothers to uphold the values of the SFC Knight. Just as St. victorious. St. SFC brothers are called to be the modern knights ready to fight the battle and must be ready to commit to the duty of knighthood. and abilities. The SFC brother is called to uphold the values of integrity. Key Messages: 1.
g.g. by his ability to "out-play" and win over others (e. and I stored up more than all others before me in Jerusalem. According to author Robert Lewis. elected as Senator). I amassed for myself silver and gold. how many goals he's achieved in his professional or political career (e. more than all who had been before me in Jerusalem. I became great. but he made a difference in the lives of others.g. I acquired male and female slaves.it contains significance beyond the moment. What is missing is a transcendent cause. This mission transcends time and location. nor did I deprive myself of any joy. This was my share for all my toil.a noble endeavor calling forth bravery and sacrifice. I got for myself male and female singers and all human luxuries. competitiveness. one of the most powerful and wisest man who ever lived. I made gardens and parks.g. has something to say about this matter: "I undertook great works. behold! all was vanity and a chase after wind. Meaningful . "I'm a lawyer". it stretches beyond borders and generations. But the problem with making these standards our goals for living makes our life incomplete. And I constructed for myself reservoirs to water a flourishing woodland. Life without a Cause • Secular manhood judges a man by his position (e. that his life meant something for others. There is nothing wrong with pursuing these standards and being successful. He needs to know. strategic planner).it is supremely filled with meaning and value for others In SFC. But when I turned to all the works that my hands had wrought. King Solomon. big house. and to the toil at which I had taken such pains. and slaves were born in my house. and the wealth of kings and provinces. luxurious life). Timeless . and set out in them fruit trees of all sorts. (Ecc 2:4-11) • Pursuing success is not what life is all about.Stage 1 Formation A. or how he enjoys his personal wealth and affluence (e. Nothing that my eyes desired did I deny them. What is a Transcendent Cause? A meaningful cause is a mission that a man undertakes that adds value to the life of others. a transcendent cause must have these following characteristics: • • • Heroic . I built myself houses and planted vineyards. I also had growing herds of cattle and flocks of sheep. with nothing gained under the sun. CFC Singles for Christ Page 29 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . at the end of his life. made it to CEO. "I'm a doctor"). Man needs to find meaning and purpose for his life. • B. He wants to know that his life was not in vain. too. stayed with me. but my heart rejoiced in the fruit of all my toil. there are two transcendent causes we can embrace as our own. my wisdom.
Through ANCOP.Stage 1 Formation • Building the Church of the Home . Initiate by expressing your intention and feelings first after your discernment. No lip-service. We do the ordinary things extraordinarily well b.We regard others as more important without belittling our own worth and abilities. and creating communities of hope. Building the Church of the Poor . • Now its not enough that we embrace a particular cause.God calls us to evangelize but also to look after the welfare of the poor. We are active witnesses of our faith o Practice what we preach.God calls us to build up and strengthen the family against the evil forces that seek to undermine it. emptied himself and took the form of man (Phil 2) Excellence . • • • CFC Singles for Christ Page 30 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales .We strive to excel in our professional and personal lives and reject mediocrity a. Always give your 100% to everything. II. o If you see a need. building homes for the homeless. o In courtship. that every single man and woman all over the world will experience Christ. Humility . Initiative .We reject passivity. We don't wait for others to move but we initiate first. Be thorough and diligent when you carry out your tasks c.Our words and actions are one. say YES! Mission readiness is a prerequisite of initiative. though he was God. The 7 values of an SFC Knight These are the top seven values that each SFC brother must pledge to uphold. we will fulfill our SFC vision. we are able to help the poor by giving a child the gift of education. Accord everything to God who provided you with all these. o Never boast about your abilities or achievements. then the renewal of marriages and families. Our basic call to evangelize and bring others to Christ is our foremost mission. who. o Take on Christ as your model. If we remain faithful to this cause. o When your leader asks you to serve. • Integrity . you do not keep the lady waiting. We must also uphold within us values that will hone and channel our masculine strength as we pursue our mission. be the first ones to respond. It starts with personal renewal. o You keep your word and your promise. o Never allow your name to be tarnished by scandalous behavior or affairs.
o Your leadership is not your identity.Stage 1 Formation • Courage . Our Loyalty Our loyalty to one another must be without question. as well as admonish and correct.God is our primary source of power and we seek him daily for His grace. Our Patron • We turn to Christ first and foremost. The Order of SFC Knights A knight does not live and fight alone. the patron of the Church and all fathers that we may learn what it means to live in humility. as the new Adam . but a privilege that can be removed and given to others. B. • • III. Our love for Christ is what binds us together. We need to be committed to one another because we need each other to grow in our faith but also to grow in our understanding of authentic masculinity. We surrender our will to His. a. The legendary King Arthur had his Knights of the Round Table.Despite our fears and weakness. C. Joseph. one another so that we can grow even more in our faith and service to God. We too have our fraternal order of brotherhood and that is SFC. Use it wisely. We will challenge one another to bring out the excellence in our actions. committed service. and love for Mary. We commit to love. encourage one another! There is strength in numbers. We stick out for one another and we defend each other. Our Commitment We are committed to live out the true meaning of authentic manhood as defined by Christ. and build up one another. If there are disagreements among us. Faith . we press on and stand up for what is right. A. we must learn to work things out in Christian brotherly love. honor. o Without faith.We lead courageously and use our leadership position to serve others.(Heb 11:6) o Faith is trusting that God will MOVE. o Use your leadership to bring other men and women close to Christ. it is impossible to please God. CFC Singles for Christ Page 31 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . • We look to St.the true model of authentic manhood. Brothers. Do not buckle under pressure but learn to fix your eyes on Jesus b. o Leadership brings us to a position to help many. Do not give up easily but fight the good fight! c. We are our brothers keeper and we will teach. Servant-Leadership .
org/gen/medal. A. in the form of a serpent. George.osb. We have seen how the model of knighthood is relevant to our times and that we must become modern knights ourselves. Jesus. Let us now commit ourselves to the duty of knighthood in SFC. Commitment Prayer [Have the music ministry play a reflection song. We look to St. We are born into a battle. lead courageously. We ask his intercession as we learn about the ways of true manhood. of the power of God to dispel Satan. and seek the greater reward. • This battle continues to rage. the patron of learners and those who suffer from diseases. Help to know your will that I may obey it. We bear the weakness of Adam. that I may not be afraid to engage in battle for what is right. He continues to distract men from their true call as God’s sons. or girlfriend. Benedict. Restore in my heart the desire to love only you above all else. Our perception of true manhood has been warped by the influences of the world. Teach me to become a true man for Christ. Help me to value the work you have given me. Help me to reject passivity. the fist man. pursuing the mission you call me to fulfill. Satan. The book of Revelation illustrates the devil as a dragon who “became angry with the woman and went off to wage war against the rest of her offspring. He does not want us to live up to our full potential. I ask you today to renew my understanding of authentic manhood. Have the brothers take a knee and bow their heads as you go through the prayers] Lord Jesus. sister.html for more information) • IV. And help me to love the women in my life. waged war upon God’s children in the garden when he tempted our first parents Adam and Eve to sin. I forgive • CFC Singles for Christ Page 32 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . we humbly come to you today. those who keep God's commandments and bear witness to Jesus” (Rev 12:14) The enemy continues to lie to us. the patron of soldiers. I forgive the men in my life who have failed to witness true manhood. Benedict's Cross/Medal is a powerful sacramental that reminds whoever that wears it. so that I may live life as an adventure. we look to him as our inspiration to be ready for battle.Stage 1 Formation • We look to St. (See http://www. Ceremony • We have now come to the end our Men's Weekend One. Reveal to me the purpose for which you have created me. accept responsibility. He is also an exemplary model of holiness and spiritual warfare. Fill my heart with virtue and courage. As modern day knights. to defend our sisters from harm. St. my mother.
I put on the armor of God so that I may be able to stand firm against the tactics of the devil. with the evil spirits in the heavens. and love. and colleagues. May I be excellent in everything I do and be courageous in the face of evil or danger. strength.Stage 1 Formation my father. I also forgive all the women in my life that have sought to undermine my masculinity through their rejection or failure to love. correction. and colleagues. which is the word of God. initiative. Grant me your grace to be humble and to be a true servant-leader to others. I ask your forgiveness for my selfish exploitation of women through prostitution. with the world rulers of this present darkness. pornography. Intercession of Patron Saints and Bestowing of a Sacramental CFC Singles for Christ Page 33 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . help me to embrace the cause to build the Church of the home. hep me discover my gifts and talents that I may apply them to the cause you call me to embrace. and humility. and other illicit sexual activity. casual sex. I hold faith as a shield. I now don the armor that St. clothed with righteousness as a breastplate. I will stand fast with my loins girded in truth. Paul speaks about in Ephesians 6. B. Lord. my sisters. to hold my ground. If I have suffered any abuse at the hands of men. C. having done everything. I ask the Holy Spirit to touch these painful moments in my life and pour out waves upon waves of love and healing. cleansed. and build the Church of the poor. masturbation. my brothers. ex-girlfriends. I commit myself to my brothers in this room and they can always count on me to be a source of healing. that all hurts and wounds become submerged. my teachers. I release them from my anger and bitterness but hand them over to you. As an SFC member. with the powers. I forgive my mother. and healed. Help me to be a man of integrity. In all circumstances. I take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit. encouragement. my priest. Therefore. I put on the armor of God. For our struggle is not with flesh and blood but with the principalities. I commit myself to the ideals of knighthood and the brotherhood of Christian knights in SFC. that I may be able to resist on the evil day and. to quench all (the) flaming arrows of the evil one. friends. and my feet shod in readiness for the gospel of peace. Bestowing The Armor Of God and the Sword of The Spirit Lord I need you to equip me as a knight that I may be effective in this spiritual battle that I was born into.
St. Leader: Will you commit to the standards of modern day knighthood. are we now ready? SFC has been around for the past eighteen years. May I imitate his faith and become holy. Joseph that I may be true to my call as a man and as a future father. V. Go.g. are you ready to commit yourself to pursue authentic manhood as modeled by Christ? Participant: I am.g. Are we now ready to bring back the brothers to SFC? Man was made different from woman as God had his plan for man the same way He had His plans for women. The brothers will kneel before the leader as he bestows upon them the sacramental (e. If there are many brothers that will be initiated. Benedict's cross> so that it will be a solemn reminder of your promise today to become a modern day knight for Jesus. I pray to St. that I may find courage to battle and slay my dragons. Man fell along the way. Benedict's cross). For holiness is a potent weapon against spiritual warfare. [The Team Leader now calls the men by name one by one to the front. May I imitate his love and devotion to our Blessed Mother Mary and his humble service to the child Jesus. The situation is not unique to SFC as it involves the general nature of man wherever he is. You are hereby initiated in a deeper brotherhood in SFC. but God is willing to restore man to His CFC Singles for Christ Page 34 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . that I may forever be a diligent learner of the ways of Christ. The phenomenon of the lack of SFC brothers remains a reality not only in the Philippines. Leader: <Name of brother>. have a few leaders station themselves in the room and perform the initiation. St. George. and be a champion of Christ. and to rescue the captive women in my life from Satan's lies. Benedict. pushing yourself to be excellent in your personal and professional life. May I be a champion of women and be a source of affirmation and love. Conclusion and Exhortation of Worship Leader Leading to Praisefest My brother knights. and upholding the values we share in SFC? Participant: I will. I bestow upon you this sacramental <e. When all the brothers have been initiated. I pray to St. Participant: Amen. but around most parts of the world as well. have the worship leader begin the exhortation for the praisefest.] Leader: <Name of brother>.Stage 1 Formation I ask for the blessing and intercession of St.
the evil one will continue to thwart God’s plan. please come up. Are we ready to live out these virtues? Since we are in a battle. courageous and men of integrity. Are we ready to take our service to the next level and be a fulltime worker or a mission volunteer? We have taken this call to a new level by the knighting we all went through. We will constantly be reminded of these traits with the SFC Brother’s crest. If you hear a voice in you asking you to be a full time pastoral worker or a mission volunteer. We need more of the special breed of knights who have fought gallantly beyond the call of duty. Are we ready to fight the battle? As SFC brothers. we need as many knights as we can. We need more men like this. These are our full time pastoral workers and mission volunteers. let us be the real SFC brothers! Praisefest CFC Singles for Christ Page 35 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . at times forsaking the needs of their families. May I ask these people to come up (on stage) with me? My brothers. we are called to be humble. notice how few these men are compared to the battle we need to fight.Stage 1 Formation original plan. But along the way. Let us live the lives of real knights.
New York: Double Day.wikipedia. Wikimedia Foundation. Eldredge.C. Lewis. Theology of Her Body. Captivating. John and Stasi.org/wiki/Knighthood> Scripture Scripture texts in this work are taken from the New American Bible with Revised New Testament and Revised Psalms © 1991. Jason. PA: Ascension Press. Scott.wikipedia. Books Evert. 2009. 1970 Confraternity of Christian Doctrine. Eldredge. Jason. IL: Tyndale House. CFC Singles for Christ Page 36 Men's Weekend 1: Knights Tales . January 15. 1986. January 15. Westchester. The Free Encyclopedia. 2001.Stage 1 Formation References Used. 2001." Wikipedia. 2002. Evert. Websites "Chivalry. Raising A Modern-Day Knight." Wikipedia. <<http://en. John Wild at Heart. D. PA: Ascension Press. Nashville. First Comes Love. Wikimedia Foundation. 2005. 2009. Carol Stream. Hahn. 2001. TN: Thomas Nelson. Westchester. Robert. Inc. Inc. Nashville. <http://en. TN: Thomas Nelson.org/wiki/Chivalry> "Knighthood. The Free Encyclopedia. Theology of His Body. Washington. 2007.
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