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Focus on the positive vibe while conversation. Dont focus on the boredness of her face. Think of yourself as a good conversationalist not a bad one. It is impossible to be too loud. Dont be passive in speak loud but not yell Have dominant vocal tonality: tonal go down at the end of every sentence. People will listen to you more Grounding Knowing your own emotion and telling people something about yourself before you can extract information from them. Using peoples name often Touching physical escalation Touch them but then if you pass the boundary, reset everything and remove touching all together Touch shoulder, elbow right away. With any girl even with all her friends, within 30 seconds! In a group touch every one Always relief the touching first! Hand to arm in arm , arm around, hugging High fives built in attraction test, if she hooks her hand to yours. If she says something you like, say give you a hug, then push her away that was a bad hug. If you make a mistake, just laugh and pretend it didnt happen. And just move on. Dont dwell on it. You should always try to kiss every girl you talk 1 on 1 with or on a date Almost kiss: I really wanna kiss you but I dont think were there yet so this is what were gonna do. We get really close but our lips will not touch. Pink swear? Open -> talk something bout her ( cold read: I have interesting vibe about you) -> qualification ( move from open to attraction phase, escalate conversation) (youre gonna be my girlfriend for the next 5 minutes, can you cook) -> large qualification hoop ( what special about you more than your looks) -> statement of intent

faster you discuss sex the higher chances you gonna get laid. Once you get attraction, turn sexual dont look at me that way or Ill start hitting on you oh woops I got you all wet stop flirting with me Listening well Try to become genuinely interested in lives of others It is your responsibility to find something unique in everyone you meet not their responsibility to show you Make and hold eye contact Nod an affirmation as they speak Make an occasional affirmation: say what they just said back to them , near the end Things to talk about Reactive wait for someone to discuss topic generally often agree with whatevers being said and occasionally share thought of their own. NICE GUY ! DONT DO THIS Proactive- define topic of conversation, control what they want to discuss. Not afraid to disagree or confront o Start conversation on what is important to them Being observant Instant conversation starters everywhere you go Types of observation o Actions and feelings o Items or objects that is the redish dress ive ever seen there are so many clocks in this restaurant that is the biggest purse Ive ever seen o Relationship how do you and her know each other? you two act like youre brother and sister you seem like someone who gave your parents a lot of trouble growing up Questions suck They demand investment out of the receiver w/o contrubiting to anything Questions only good when you are asking them bout something they already want to talk about

They rarely effective when getting to know a stranger Making statements o More engaging, shows that youre paying attention, force you to be pro-active conversationalist o Where do you work? -> you look like someone whos very creative. How do you two meet -> you look like you know each other for a long time Speaking in emotions More engaging in term of emotion, every conversations are always about some outside object Improvising Sustaining conversation is a creative skill more than logical skill. Make connections between two different ideas or objects Use word generator, talk about that word for a minute straight and relate it to something in your own life. Bigger stretch you make between two things the more interesting conversation Storytelling Setting, conflict, resolution/ punch line Always end strong! Ask them have they ever been in that situation Use emotional sensory language in the story, taste, sight, smell, feel, touch Endless storytelling Someone is talking to you, someone is constantly giving you words to talk about. Relating Jump off point of someones story depending on what emotion people are expressing when they tell you something? Eliciting personal story People only feel comfortable sharing something personal about themselves after youve shared it first. Must be pro-active to reactive people As youre speaking with someone and relating to them. Get more personal with your stories. Talka bout how you met your ex-gf and it was causing trouble then they reply with a terrible relationship they had Go deep first

o They tell story bout dog -> tell story how much family dog meant o Tell story bout family vacation -> talk bout how families dont spend enough time together o Talk about how everyone become individualistic-> talk bout how frustatrating it is to create a meaningful relationship sometimes. Getting deep One reason you may not have been able to connect many people up until now is because youve been unaware of many of your own motivations and therefore unable to share them with other The why? game o Ask question why? to an action or thought, then continue asking why to every answer Talk to a woman such a deep level, shell find attractive Meaning Reading other peoples emotion and desire help you connect and relate to them better. Do the why? Game with other people Asking why to every thing she says. It brings up great opportunities to ask people hard and penetrating questions Getting her engaged in conversation. Do it in situations that have confused you or that you havent known how to respond to it. Emotional needs We all have certain emotional needs and desire Once you get good at seeing meaning behind meaning and reading people. You begin to see fundamental emotional motivators that drive people Affirm fears and desires of these people o if someone is insecure about how smart/capable they are -> complimenting them on how clever they were to figure out a problem which means a lot to them o someone insecure and has trouble trusting other -> give them extra verbal reassurance that they can depend on you will mean a lot appreciation for someone

expressing gratitude to someone not just for something theyve done but for something that they are. Form of compliment but doesnt have to: o Ex: you make my night out really fun. Its great Im always happeier when youre around youve always support and understood me, thank you youre so good calling me out on my bullshit. I need it Validate someone around you make the other person feel closer to you. Only worth anything if its genuine and heatfelt. You have to honestly feel appreciation in which youre expressin

What are you passionate about Answer should first come to mind Play why game with your passion, why are you passion, how does it make you feel, what kind of meaning and worth does it give to your life. Passions are contagious, the emotions. Were all drawn to passionate people, we all love hearing someone who Is passionate about what theyre talking bout 1. Using Hooking is Key avoid awkward silences, avoid boring converse, allow enough to build attraction, more confidence to walk up to a woman without anxiety forces engagement, create tension/anticipation/buys you time conversation rule #1 always be creating hooks for later in the conversation o creating in completeness, manufacturing desire to know, forcing her to probe o examples: thats really interesting. youll never guess that reminds me of the time. Trick to hooking o Make statement then shut up. Avoid answering right away Ways to hook o Cast hook then begin talking bout something else

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I can tell youre trouble (pause) .. So I was out with my friends this weekend and we decided. She interrupts. You just interrupted my story can I finish? Cast hook and go silent forcing her to probe I dont know if anyone else have ever noticed this, but I just noticed something really interesting about your eyes. Answer boring questions with stories that hold attention Inject intriguing hooks into ordinary sentences Dont explain everything

Smirk. Then she asks. Nothing .. just amusing myself o Vaguely hint at extraordinary things Last year when I was in.. Man, Ive got a dirty mind After last weekend Thats who you look like.. Did you ever just get a feeling about someone.. 3 steps action plan o throw hook out there: man.. I dont believe this o shut up o force her to pry deeper

baiting continually leading conversation forward open up doors that allow flirtation and attraction to take place get her to give you information she reluctant to or to get her to ask you about thing you want to talk about why baiting is important o allow you to qualify her o gets her to opening up more o can be used for the CLOSE dropping hints about yourself o allow you to bring up topics about your passonate about o dont just say that you play an instrument or brag about o allows you drop hint at your softer side baiting to qualify her

o i bet you have a wild side o what part of town are you from? -> Oh youre one of THOSE girl bait her sexually o if she responds back in sexual frame.. it son o if she ignores comment then she probably isnt ready yet o subtle sexual reference if talking about food Yeah, I really love whipped cream -> haha I bet you do -> I just meant on my hot chocolate.. but apprarently youve got a dirty mind challenge bait

challenge that she has a wild side. If she plys along then shes ready what to practice o practice dropping hints bout things you want her to ask you about o practice challenging women to get them to open up i bet you got a wild side youre totally trouble you totally remind me of this girl o practice using negation to get her to ask you things 12 attraction building conversation topics learn these fast dont tell her your traits, only show her glorified gossip o story of people you know o drama of your friends life o highly charged o opinionated o purpose is to engage/provide hooks o example: my friend been chatting with this girl on the internet early years and childhood memories o stands out vividly in your mind o questions that will get her recounting her childhood experiences o refresh change of pace/playground mentality

o 3 dimensional element o bring up things that you grew up with: pokemon, carebear. future ambition o somehow connects you to her o rare opportunity for her o gives you glimpse of her soul o establishes comfort o introduce this topic by just asking ex: what is she striving for, how will you know when youve found it? observations about her o thats who you remind me of. You remind me of someone. Now I understand where youre coming from o can transition to sexual easily -> thats why im so attracted to you, thats why im so into you. o opens room for state of intent/qualification/reward o ex: talk about certain vibe she gives off, your initial impression of her unsual experiences o mixture of facts and emotion o what were you thinking, how you were processing about what happened. Dont just tell the story, talk about the emotion and how you reacted to the situation passions and interest o gets you out of your boredom trance o passion is highly attractive to women o it usually allows both of you to be your real selves o ex: just ask her what her passion. She is gonna try to shit test bout your passion and she insults your passion. Do not bend and change your mind. Early struggle to get ahead o People loves kind of story o Shows woman the nature of your character o Allows you to brag without focusing the attention on yourself o Sleeping in your car while broke, first time snowboarding. o Ask her current pop culture references

o allows you to bond over a shared history o go to topic o tv show travel o people love to talk about travel o women attracted to men who travel o escapism o LET HER TALK and dig deep into her desire, interest, can easily transition into sexuality o Instead of recounting where you been, tell a unique story that you traveled.

lessons learned o best to tell in humorous way to trigger o boss give hard time before recommending me for promotion.. relate to how women shit test men situational observations o cold read people around you o show off sense of humor o use as way to bait things out of her o turn into a fun story, again to then pry into her life a bit music o bond over shared music o if you have different taste, you can tease her or cold read her. Tell story practice telling it. If something happened to you make a note of it and save it Practice 4 stories which is 4 topics and intertwine them THE QUESTION GAME. 4 rules

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get your attitude spot on. All it matter is your attitude be alpha-male. Realize you are the king of your reality. You are the boss it is your reality act the shit always try to isolate her o if meet her at club, isolate her to a corner common mistakes dont wait til comfortable before trying to attract her. o Always attract her early on Over doing it telling too much joke becomes a try hard o Gotta show her your seductive side Failing shit tests woman wil be looking at your shoes and be like nice shoe where you get it? o Ignore them and plow on, dont let it stuck in your mind or mentality Letting her tool you woman bantering with you but she has an upper hand on you. o Even if she said something that is better than your joke just say something and turn it around on her o Youre such a perv -> youre such a prude I bet youre those goody girl o Youre such a jerk -> you make it so easy Ejecting too early o Never take yourself out of the game. Never make that decision for a woman Meat and potatoes of attraction remember THESE 5 THINGS COMBINATION Teasing Push/pull Escalation Passion/ambition Social intelligence

Teasing Rapport building, displays comfort. You are comfortable around her Creates you and me vibe. Isolate you and her from the world. She feels chosen and it feels great and you like her. It is fun Displays social intelligence and builds sexual tension. She assumes you have value. If you know how to talk to woman then she will find you attractive Caveman teasing - physically o Play fighting, swatting her with something, tickling, pushing her hand into guys butt Competitive teasing o Shit talking beer pong, competition. Exaggerate shit talk o Bantering o Distracting her from what shes trying to do. Never o Making fun of her performance Superiority teasing dont take her seriously o Cocky/funny o If she has a spot on her -> whats the matter with you, you dont know how to do her laundry o She tells story where she did something cool -> wow youre so cool can I be your friend? Reframe teasing o Shes trying to pick you up o Shes using for sex o She has a dirty mind o If a girl compliments you-> just because youre being sweet to me doesnt mean that im going to sleep with you you thought I was THAT easy? Come on o im impressed. Normally women like you are intimidated by my charm and good looks o communicate the very OPPOSITE OF Youre a potential wife or gf -> youre screwing up your chances with me , this relationship isnt going to work what did I tell you about this behavior things to remember

o start teasing right off bat o set frame from beginning o know when to STOP. Make her think oh hes that kind of guy. Example o Create banter or wait for her to speak then create panter o If girl says something say you usually hang out ain library dont you o Youre such a dork o When asked how old are you why , do you want to brag to all your friends about how you met this gorgeous older guy o If get into tiny argument or disagreement you know, we o would fight all of the time.. and Id win I have a boyfriend -> laugh hey I just met you and youre already telling your problems? This isnt gonna work out bar example while casually chatting with girl say -> this place is SUCH a meat market. I hate how the girls look at me here. Its like im a piece of meat -> there youre doing it, youre giving me the look when asked what do you do? -> I do a lot of things, what, you like to stalk me at my work or something? what do YOU do? Other than stalking guys at work

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Push/Pull project as challenge, fun, ignites woman desire to chase, sexual tension, unexpected, allows you to escalate maintain challenge, dont try to oversell or impress. Create competition, inconsistency, self control takeaways I just thought you were cool, but I totally change my mind about you. I really like that shirt.. ahh from this angle it doesnt look that great though. Open loops I just realize something about you, Ill tell you later. Say something, and then say Ill tell you later Leaving ambiguity look at her, say things like youre such a good girl smile then look away. Or body language leaning and then look around later playing with your phone.

Being playfully argumentative woman are more into bantering, easily can change love into hate or hate into love. Never be indifferent towards her. Let her tease you telling her shes hot, but youre such a dork compliment sexual way , then pull back and call her a dork things to remember o sooner the better. Its the first sign of flirting. o Easiest way is to start with qualification Example o Qualification: hold standard that you have a standard how can you sy that, I was just starting to like you

lean back look at her analytically w/o sayin anything. When she says what?? Pause and say Im still trying to figure out if I really like your or not then smile try this next time o you know, youre pretty cool, I could actually get to like you. But dont get any ideas, cause Im not that easy important concepts to understand women love sex. Women DEPENDS on men to make it happen! When shes at peak attraction, dont let moment pass. Attractions changes from moment to moment!! Act on it when it is there! Game killing mistakes Put women on pedestal: you begin to act not yourself Approval seeking: dont agree with everything she says. Woman loves arguing. Dont get her approval. Supplication: never buy her anything. Putting yourself below a woman. Never walk up to a girl and buy her a drink. Only when you were getting a drink that you buy her one anyway Letting interaction plateau never stay at the level, always progress forward Not recognizing signals: if you dont pick up signal then shes gonna get annoy. Escalation : glue that holds attraction together> Escalation is attractive Display confidence, youre capable, sexual tension

Going for the kiss -> displays confidence even if she doesnt want to kiss you. Always escalating because it shows confidence in yourself Escalation feels good mentally and physically. Caress a girls hand while talking to her. Especially secretive in a group of people What is escalation? o Always take the lead, control, initiating physical contact, express your intent. o Tell me something more personal about yourself, something interesting. o Always take the lead Control the flow move conversation forward, begin touching her. You are responsible to lead her, she needs you to get her toward sex Make her decision for her. o Magical word never wanna ask her always say Lets do something. Get her to follow mode physical escalation o works on primal level. Only way you know if a female friend likes you is you go for the kiss o ultimate distinction between friendly and sexual o always physically touching her then go for the kiss the end of the night o initiating physical touch hand shaking arm brushing, light touching while talking, anchoring elbow, high fives, examining bracelet o progression of touch hand fondling grabbing her hand to walk. Very intimate, if you hold her hand then you can go in for the kiss walking arm in arm standing closer with bodies touching. o Objective Holding her while sitting down

 Lightly stroking her face, hair, neck Hand on her lower back pulling her into you Kissing o 2 steps forward 1 step back touching smoothly escalate up the ladder. Touch her then pull back. Linger a little bit longer each time and closer then move back continually establish comfort level o common escalation mistake not begin soon enough, not reading her signal, not escalating enough, missing opportunities to kiss her always be escalating because you dont know where her limit is. o Try this Initiate touch a lot sooner Find out where her comfort threshold is. high five her and grips her hand. If she grips back then shes comfort. Focus on her hand: caress, hold her hand verbal escalation o identify you as sexual man and build up tension o expression of interest compliment/statement that takes you out of friendzone tell a woman that she is sexy. cute, attractive are friend. Beautiful is supplication. JUST SAY SHE IS SEXY example youve got an incredibly sexy smile youre making it really hard for me not to kiss you o sexualized fun sexual framing and sexual teasing bait her say thing that get her misinterpretation exaggeration jokes subtle sexual references

challenge her you totally dont have a wild side, I bet you only kissed like 3 guys. Challenge her to bring out her sexual side role playing two of you playing into a role. Its fun, projects 2 of you doing things o things to remember must calibrate: see where shes at and judge she must already feel some attraction towards you before you go sexual important points about escalation o always be escalating

o learn to read signal o begin physically touching early o dont blow opportunities o you must make expression of interest: you have sexy smile attraction killer combo display passion/amibition o ignites chase o make you challenge more interested in your work the things you do than her. o passion is sexy o makes you 3 dimensional: makes her have a glimpse of stuff you have in your life. More than just that bar guy o show leader/provider o unleashes biological response social intelligence in action o storytelling: always have 3 stories to tell dropping clues of who you are. Commode story Never tell her that youre passionate, never tell her that you want to know. Let her draw her own inclusion Recreate emotional experience, leadership role Amibition for greatness Your love of playing musical instrument

o Manning up: look for situation where you could take control. Standing up for yourself or for her. o Put your foot down. Do something but and stand on your ground and not her shit Social intelligence o Woman wants you to be cooler than her so her friends to like you. o She wants to believe you can offer her things o Displayin social intelligence Always have better comeback. Even if its not better just act like its a better comeback

Slightly cocky/over confident comment Patronizing comments: not in arrogant way Passing shit test Be aware and point out examples of lack of social intelligence around you other guys Accurately cold reading her Examples: IF I give you my number youre not goin to turn into stalker are you? o Shit test Her I need a drink -> ok you go get a drink while youre there can you get me one Girl think she is cooler than you wow youre soo cool, can I be your friend? you know what? You impress me. Youre A-crowd Everything is a test, escalation, anything. Dont strive for pickup perfection, it is messy. Theres always a bump. Always build skills not result. Focus on attraction and escalating

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