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EEmpowering You to Change from the Inside Out!

March/ April 2007
March/ April 2007
You to Change from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and
You to Change from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and
You to Change from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and
You to Change from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and

Walking in Royalty

from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the
from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the
from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the
from the Inside Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the

TRANSPARENCY

Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty
Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty
Out! March/ April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty

Seeds and Weeds

April 2007 Walking in Royalty TRANSPARENCY Seeds and Weeds Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty 43 Weapons
Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty 43 Weapons
Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty
43
Weapons
and Weeds Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty 43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied
and Weeds Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty 43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied

Farrah Gray

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the Insider’s Secret Beauty 43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied Single? What Are
the Insider’s Secret Beauty 43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied Single? What Are

Are You a Satisfied

Single?

43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied Single? What Are You Planting in Your
43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied Single? What Are You Planting in Your
43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied Single? What Are You Planting in Your
43 Weapons Farrah Gray 49 Are You a Satisfied Single? What Are You Planting in Your

What Are You Planting in Your Garden?

Perfect Timing

Single? What Are You Planting in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision
Single? What Are You Planting in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision
Single? What Are You Planting in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision
Single? What Are You Planting in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision
Single? What Are You Planting in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision

Fresh Hope for a New Vision

in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life
in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life
in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life
in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life
in Your Garden? Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life

New Hope and New

Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for

Life Are Yours for

Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
the
the

Taking

Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for

Empowering You To Change!

Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Perfect Timing Fresh Hope for a New Vision New Hope and New Life Are Yours for
Table of Con tents The Best SEX of my LIFE a guide to purity AMESSAGE
Table of Con tents The Best SEX of my LIFE a guide to purity AMESSAGE
Table of Con tents The Best SEX of my LIFE a guide to purity AMESSAGE

Table of Contents

Table of Con tents The Best SEX of my LIFE a guide to purity AMESSAGE FROMTHE
Table of Con tents The Best SEX of my LIFE a guide to purity AMESSAGE FROMTHE

The Best

SEX of my LIFE of myLIFE

a guide to purity

of Con tents The Best SEX of my LIFE a guide to purity AMESSAGE FROMTHE EDITOR
of Con tents The Best SEX of my LIFE a guide to purity AMESSAGE FROMTHE EDITOR

AMESSAGE FROMTHE EDITOR

Erica S. Dye, Editor -in- Chief / Publisher

A Cuppa Blessings

4

LETTERS FROM OUR READERS

You Were Saying?

Your letters, opinions and comments

about TBR

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COVER STORY

Heart-to- Heart with TBR Interview with Dr. Lindsay Marsh

27

SPIRIT- LED LIVING

The Truth Will Set You Free Saved to be a Peculiar People

Stacy Hawkins Adams

New Hope and New Life Are Yours for

7

the Taking

23

PURPOSEFULLIVING

Kingdom Wisdom

Stages of Development Part I I- Infill-

ing

Evangelist Celeste Walking in Royalty

8

21

I- Infill - ing Evangelist Celeste Walking in Royalty 8 21 March- April 2007 The Voice
I- Infill - ing Evangelist Celeste Walking in Royalty 8 21 March- April 2007 The Voice

March- April 2007

The Voice of Inspiration

Seeds and Weeds

16

The Freedom Corner Are You a Satisfied Single?

POSITIVE LIVING

17

Straight Talk with L. T. Mason

On the Brink of a Breakthrough? Then

Jump Off!

H. O. P. E. (Helping Other People Everywhere)

8

Transparency

32

CHRISTIAN LITERATURE & POETRY

Disguise Is The Limit!

Morning Prayer

Feon Lavyette Davis For the Lord of God

And the Sister Said Amen!

20

31

Evangelist Celeste

 

22

The Freedom Corner

Already

Alright

18

Let Me Holla at You!

 

Enoch-

First Fruits

19.

Shaunte’ “Godschosenqueen” Smith

Loving in the Red Zone

 

Excerpt: The Defining Process

56

When is Your Next Time?

21

HEALTHAND FITNESS

INSPIRED LIVING

 

Spiritual Words of Encouragement

Belief.Net The 7 Super Foods of the Bible

10

Can You Stand the Rain?

6

 

Karen Sessions

 

Spiritual Words of Encouragement

10

Steps on Improving Your Metabo-

What Are You Planting in Your Gar-

lism

51

den?

14

 

HOMEAND GARDEN

 

FAITHFULLIVING

 

by Patricia R. Barrett

Just for Woman Perfect Timing

24

Guide to Container Gardening

40

Pastor Noel Vaughn Fresh Hope for a New Vision

EMPOWERED LIVING

15

FOODAND FESTIVITIES

Kimberly Powell

18 Steps to a Successful Family Re-

union

41

Jif® Peanut Butter Peanut Butter Bunny Crisp Cake

31

Business Wire Baked Ham with Mojo Sauce

STYLE & BEAUTY

Beauty and Fashion with Jackie O’ Neal Get the Insider’s Secret Beauty Weap-

ons

33

43

Lindsay Banecker Fashion Trends for Spring 2007

PEOPLEAND PLACES

Jennifer W. Miner The Garden House in Cusco, Peru

BUSINESS, CAREER AND FI- NANCES

Farrah Gray with Fran Harris Becoming Rich from the Inside Out!

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48

49

TESTIMONIALS & LIFE STO- RIES

Sandra Gerard Hope and a Future

SEX & LOVE

Kelli Mahoney Top 10 Lies Christian Teens Tell Them-

selves about Sex, Dating, and How Far is

55.

Too Far

53

WITAND WISDOM

Bible Crosswords Sermon on the Mount

59

Gospel Communications International

Reverend Fun Comics

58

FAMILY& PARENTING

Pamela Harris Teaching Your Child to Clean

ENTERTAINMENT, NEWS AND MUSIC

Blaclite Ministries

Blaclite: Evangelist, Producer and Record-

57

ing Artist

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Spiritual Words of Encouragement

Words o f E n c o u r a g e m e n t
Words o f E n c o u r a g e m e n t
Words o f E n c o u r a g e m e n t

Can

Words o f E n c o u r a g e m e n t
Words o f E n c o u r a g e m e n t

you

Words o f E n c o u r a g e m e n t

stand the RAIN?

n c o u r a g e m e n t Can you stand the

Scripture:

Scripture: So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him,
Scripture: So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him,
Scripture: So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him,

So then, just as you received

Scripture: So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him,

Christ Jesus as Lord, continue

to live in him, rooted and built

Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in

up in him, strengthened in the

live in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were

faith as you were taught, and

and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with
and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with
and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with

overflowing with thankfulness. Colossians 2;6,7

Saints, as I rode home from work today, I observed the situ- ation around me. There were acci- dents on the highways, dirt and debris strewn about because of the falling rain, and people running for cover. Saints, I am reminded that rain is a necessary process in the cycle of life. You see, the rain is needed to wash away life’s debris and prepare the ground for the coming planting season. Sometimes though, we can get a little too much rain. The rain may come in torrents, washing away those things that are freshly planted or the old foliage whose roots are no longer strong enough to hold it in place. How strong are your roots? Are you new to the faith and have not yet devel- oped strong enough roots in Christ to hold you in place when the storms of life come along? Or are you so old and set in your spiritual life that you no longer

gain the nourishment from the word that keeps your roots healthy enough to stay firmly planted in the rain? So again Saints, I ask, Can You Stand the Rain?

Be Blessed

Prayer:

Our Father which art in Heaven, Hol- lowed it be thy name. May those things that You have predestined in our lives come to fruition according to thy will and thy tender mercies. Oh Lord, we are weak, but You are strong. Touch us Lord, strengthening us for the com- ing storms in our lives. Lord, some of us are in the midst of our storm even as we pray. Magnify Your presence in our lives that we may gain the for- titude to stand, be strong, and hold on even when it’s seems that we may be washed away at any given moment. Hide us Lord, under the wings of Your protection when it begins to seem like our roots are not strong enough and even one more drop of rain. May we always know when to seek Your guid- ance and protection in the midst of our

personal storms. Now Lord, help us to remember that the rain and the storms

BY JACKIE D. MOORE

don’t last always. But that there is sunshine and joy in the coming morn- ing. Father, continue to touch and bless Your saints today. Extending just a little more grace for those who are in need of extra grace this day. Keep our troops safe and their families wrapped securely in the knowledge that You are with them even in the midst of the des- sert. Father God we give You praise, adoration, and all of our hearts this day. In the name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

Copyright ©2006 by Jacqueline D. Moore. All rights reserved. Jackie Moore is currently pursuing her undergraduate degree in religion and offers spiritual words of encour- agement daily on her website www. virtuousliving.com. She and her two sons, James and Joseph reside in De- troit, Michigan. They are members of New St. Mark Baptist Church under the leadership of Sr. Pastor, Larry Smith Email:JackieMoore@virtuousliving. com

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The Truth Will Set You Free

The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave
The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave
The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave
The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave
The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave

SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE

The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave
The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave
The Truth Will Set You Free SAVED to be a PECULIAR PEOPLE Tts 2:14 Who gave

Tts

2:14

Who

gave

himself

for

us,

that

he

might

redeem

us

from

all

iniq-

uity,

and

purify

unto

himself

a

peculiar

people,

zealous

of

good

works.

I often wondered if the

church foundation was eliminated, how people would come to know about Jesus. Then I remember a time people would be on the highways and byways telling the world about a man named Jesus. He is the man that would save their soul. They would even hand out free Bibles. Where is that John the Baptist zeal today?

Have we sat on the good news about Jesus? Have we sat on it so long while we waited for someone else to tell us their thoughts about God? When is the last time we told somebody about a man named Jesus? I am not talking about the personalized version of sharing our expe- riences about Jesus like when he woke us up this morning, kept me clothed in my right mind, I wouldn’t have gotten my gas turned on if it weren’t for Jesus etc. I am talking about being fully silenced of self to the point only what God has to say is spoken from our lips. Something like there

is beauty in holiness. How about a virtu- ous woman is one to strive to be, there is a peace that passes understanding etc. People have heard about what He had done for us. They want to know what He can do for them. If we are continuing presenting a Jesus that has to answer to our every worldly beckoned call then we are

Have we sat on the good news

about Jesus? Have we sat on it so long while we waited for someone else to tell us their thoughts about God? When is the last time

we told somebody about a man named Jesus?

no longer presenting a Savior but some- one who works constantly on our behalf to ensure we don’t ache or suffer too long. There’s more to Jesus than that. Jesus gave us SALVATION—VICTORY OVER SIN. Can we explain that to the lost? Can we explain to them that we were born into sin therefore we are sinners and we need

help. Can we tell people we have a God who sent His only begotten Son that none should perish but have everlasting life?

Salvation is not just about sooth- ing our sufferings. It is about getting to the source that gave us Jesus. We are saved to learn our place in God’s Will. How are we to be saved and comfortable with no con- cerns about the lost? SAVED is past tense for it is already done. We need REVIVAL. God is looking for a peculiar people to handle His business. There is supposed to be something about us that draw people’s curiosity. We got to get beyond worldly concerns and seek to know spiritual things. SALVATION GAVE US ACCESS FOR MORE KINGDOM BUSINESS. As God’s people become less, He becomes more. That is what salvation is all about , being ves- sels for God’s spirit to touch the spiritless.

Copyright ©2006 by Linda Wattley, author of Daddy’s Little Girl. Contact Linda Wat- tley: universalove26@aol.com.

Visit web page: www.lindawattley.com

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Kingdom Wisdom

life, for we were working against His principles. For example, the Bible says “we live by faith and not by sight”, the world says “I will believe it when I see it”; the Bible says “to forgive those who trespass against me”, the world says “re- venge is sweet”; the Bible says to “ give in order to receive” and the world teaches us “you can’t give what you don’t have”. Can you be- gin to see how you can stop God blessings from manifesting them- selves in your life? Those very prin- ciples are what is keeping the Body of Christ from growing and matur- ing into what God has called us to be, and can stop us from accom- plishing that which God has called us to do. We need an understanding of how the kingdom of God works, and how to obtain that which God has promised to us. Fortunately for us, God’s world is not only differ- ent, but it is better than the world that we know. God’s world is filled with love, joy, peace, etc… and many, many, many promises.

My question for you this week to ponder – what is your cup overflowing with? Is it with what you have learned through the world or what you have learned through the word? And be not con- formed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. Rom 12:2

Copyright ©2006 by Karen Maloy. All rights reserved. Karen Maloy is a Christian freelance writer out of Faith By Love Family Wor- ship Church in Syracuse, NY. To learn more about her novels “Does It pay to Obey?” and “Are You Afraid of the Dark, Too?” visit her webpage:www.karenmaloy.org

Fill your cup of life with the truth

lies

of the world.

Stages of Development Part II

– INFILLING

Fill

1 a : to put into as much as can be held or conveniently contained <fill

a cup with water> b : to supply with

a full complement <the class is al-

ready filled> c (1) : to cause to swell

or billow <wind filled the sails>

Let’s continue with our cup. Our internal cup – once filled with the garbage of the world; anger, bit- terness, unforgiveness, etc….is now being purged, and must be re-filled. Not re-filled with just any knowl- edge, but the knowledge of God. Don’t be deceived into believing that once you have been purged it

of the word vs. the

is the end of the journey. You must

now receive an infilling - an infilling

of the word of God and also of the Holy Spirit. This is the time where you must now study the word and de- velop an understanding of it. Read, meditate, learn scriptures, and allow the Holy Spirit to reveal its meaning to you. You were transformed when you received your new birth but your mind now needs to be renewed. You must now learn how to live your life the way that God intended. Mis- conceptions and deceptions must now be replaced with the truth of the Word. Process what you read, meditate on it, and learn to live by it– for this a new beginning for you.

The problem with many of

us is, that we are trying to live our new life, based on the principles that we had learned while living as

a sinner. That is most unfortunate,

because we were only negating that which God was trying to do in our

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by KAREN MALOY

OFF!

STRAIGHT TALK WITH L.T. MASON

then JUMP
then JUMP

Have you ever felt so close to a blessing you could feel it? Doesn’t it feel like you could just reach out and grab it? The problem is, that many of us don’t. We just sit on the brink of a breakthrough and wait. If this describes you, then you have to read one of my favorite bi- ble stories, at 2 Kings 7:3-8. It tells of four lepers who were ostracized from their communities because of their contagious skin conditions. As they sat waiting at the gate, one of them said, “Why sit here until we die?” He went on to tell the others that if they continued waiting there, they were going to die. If they went back into their communities, they would be stoned. And, if they went forward (to the enemies’ camps) they would be killed. “BUT,” he said, “Who knows? The enemies may let us live.” It is recorded that

just

On the Brink of a BREAK-

THROUGH?

BY LATONYA MASON

me. Going forward, for bigger

and better was also an option, but

even.

But, I mustered up the courage to see what was on the other side.

And, I am proud to announce that I have signed a 2-book deal with Harlequin Books. Be encouraged.

it required risk

rejection

© 2007 Latonya Mason™ All Rights Reserved. LaTonya Mason is an as- sociate minister and full-time writer in Charlotte, NC, where she lives with her children. For information about her novel, Good To Me (Walk Worthy Press, 2005) visit her web- site at www.latonyamason.com.

*Join me and five of your other

favorite Christian authors for the Charlotte Faith and Fiction Fellowship, April 20-21. Go to

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at twilight the lepers went forward to the enemy’s camp, and at twi- light, God caused such a disturbance in the camp that the enemies fled, leaving their possessions behind. By the time the lepers arrived, the land was theirs for the taking. My message to you is that at the VERY moment you decide to move, God will move heaven and earth to make provision for you. You have no need to be afraid of anything or anyone. Everything you need is in front of you. As with the lepers, you’ll die if you stay where you are. Looking back will kill you. But, if you’ll go forward, God will take care of your limitations and opposition. This is true in my own life. I was just sit-

ting with the manuscript I wrote this

summer

I waiting on. I could’ve gone back to Walk Worthy Press, or I could’ve just held on to my manuscript be- lieving God to send a publisher to

waiting. Not sure what

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HEALTH AND FITNESS

The 7 SUPER FOODSof the BIBLE

HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat
HEALTH AND FITNESS The 7 “ SUPER FOODS ” of the BIBLE t rying to eat

trying to eat healthy? Start by opening your Bible to Deuteronomy 8:8, where the Is- raelites are promised “a good land…, a land of wheat and barley, of vines, figs, and pomegranates, a land of olive trees and honey.” The ancients might not have known the word “antioxidant,” but they were onto something with this list of biblical “super-foods.” Explore this gallery to find out exactly how on-target they were.

this gallery to find out exactly how on-target they were. Super Food #1: Wheat This grain,

Super Food #1: Wheat

This grain, which is found in ev- erything from bread to pasta to cakes, is healthier when it is re- fined as little as possible. Whole- wheat products (those that are certified 100% whole wheat) contain 30 percent of your recom- mended daily fiber intake, as well as high levels of manganese and magnesium. A diet rich in whole grains is also thought to increase your energy level and lower your risk of type-2 diabetes, gall- stones, and other health issues.

of type-2 diabetes, gall- stones, and other health issues. Super #2: Barley Food Super Food #4:
of type-2 diabetes, gall- stones, and other health issues. Super #2: Barley Food Super Food #4:

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#2: Barley

Food Super

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Another whole grain, barley can be found in breads and ce- reals, as well as in hearty winter soups. High in fiber, barley is good for intestinal health and can lower cholesterol and reduce your risk of colon cancer and type-2 diabe- tes if eaten regularly. Barley also contains trace amounts of copper, which have been shown to help reduce the symptoms of arthritis.

e sweet fruits, eat- en either dried or fresh, are high in potassium, a mineral that helps control blood pressure. They are also high in di- etary fiber, which may help you lose weight, and they are a fruit source of calcium, which can help preserve bone density. Fig leaves, which are not typically eaten but can be made into an extract, are thought to help lower insulin levels in diabetics.

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are thought to help lower insulin levels in diabetics. e s Super Food #3: Grapes Everyone
are thought to help lower insulin levels in diabetics. e s Super Food #3: Grapes Everyone

Super Food #3: Grapes

Everyone knows that grape juice and red wine are tasty—but healthy? Grapes contain nutritional compounds called flavonoids, which are believed to reduce your risk of blood clots and protect your body from damage by the “free radicals” found in LDL, or “bad,” cholesterol. Rich in antioxidants, grapes may pro- vide protection against cardiovascu- lar disease, particularly in women.

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Super Food #5: Pome- granate

These strange-looking seed fruits are back in vogue as health-giving super-foods, particularly in juice form. The fruits are rich in antioxi- dants, which prevent LDL choles- terol from doing its damage, and it helps prevent blood clots by keep- ing blood platelets from clumping together. Pomegranates may also help reduce the risk of breast cancer and lessen the symptoms of arthritis. Continued on page 12

ENTERTAINMENT, NEWS AND MUSIC

ENTERTAINMENT, NEWS AND MUSIC BLACLITE: EVANGELIST/PRO DUCER/ RECORDING ARTIST Blaclite was born on March 11, 1979

BLACLITE:

EVANGELIST/PRODUCER/

RECORDING ARTIST

AND MUSIC BLACLITE: EVANGELIST/PRO DUCER/ RECORDING ARTIST Blaclite was born on March 11, 1979 in Jacksonville

Blaclite was born on March 11, 1979 in Jacksonville Florida, to a family steeped in al- cohol, drugs and violence. His childhood was filled with harsh life lessons that came from the streets. He learned very early to survive the war he was born into he would have to join the enemies army. The one person who never gave up praying and believing that one day God would “get-a-hold of him” was his mother. Her faith was what was going to be the catalyst for a chain of events that would trans- form not only his life but his soul. In the end Blaclite had burnt ev- ery bridge he had gone over, there was nowhere else to turn but to the cross. In his brokenness he wept with repentance at the foot of that very cross. Everything he had ever heard about Jesus became person- al. He was now truly a new crea- ture in Christ! God has worked in this young mans life to bring a lost generation to the kingdom of God. His music touches their very souls. Giving them hope were there was

none and a vision where there was blindness. Just like Paul, brought the message of salvation to his “beloved Greeks”, Blaclite, takes his mes- sage to the very streets that tries to take his life. He has become a youth specialist, specializing in reaching the youth that no one else knows how to reach. Blaclite has recently expanded to Atlanta Georgia from Jacksonville Florida to expand his ministry and he is looking forward to being apart of your upcoming Youth, Church, and College events/ festivals anywhere in the country. Feel free to link up with us today!!

Blaclite Ministries Hampton, GA Main office: 404-468-4463 www.myspace.com/blaclitemusic

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The Music Lab Recording Studio: 678-489-3609 www.myspace.com/blaclitebeats Blaclite_aap@yahoo.com

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Super Food #6: Olive Oil

Olives, and the extra-virgin oil that is made from a single press- ing of the fruit, contain many of the antioxidants that are thought to pro- tect against the oxidation of LDL cholesterol compounds. They also are high in monounsaturated fatty acids, which are called “the healing fats” because they lower the effects of “bad” cholesterol while raising “good” cholesterol levels. High in vitamin E, olive oil also is thought to protect against colon cancer,

and it is helpful in fighting gastritis

a n d other stomach ailments.

helpful in fighting gastritis a n d other stomach ailments. Super Food #7: H o n

Super Food #7: H o n - ey

Raw honey, in addition to being a natural sweetener, is

replete with antioxidants and is considered to be an anti-viral, anti- bacterial, anti-fungal substance. It is thought to have tumor-fighting properties, and may help prevent colon cancer. The daily consump- tion of a spoonful of honey is said

to increase antioxidant levels in the

blood, and is the healthiest sweet- ener for type-2 diabetics. Honey also may have wound-healing and muscle-regenerating properties.

©2007 Belief.Net. All Rights Re- served.

WRITTEN BY JACKIE D. MOORE

WRITTEN BY JACKIE D. MOORE S i a n t s , w h e t

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ize it or not, spring is fast approaching. As we turn our thoughts towards spring, we start thinking about our yards and our gardens. Many of you have probably already started thinking about what type of seeds you will be planting this year. Some may choose to plant only flowers. Oth- ers may choose to plant only vege- table and still others will plant both.

you

As I reflect back to biblical times, I have noticed that the garden was very important to all. You see the lands in which they resided where often barren and would sometimes lack water. So they had to be very diligent in what they grew be- cause they knew their very lives

depended on their crops. Unlike us, if their gardens failed, they couldn’t just run out to the corner store to get something for dinner.

The same holds true today in our own gardens. What you decide to plant has a distinct bearing on your well-being. You see, I am not talk- ing about your flower garden or your vegetable garden. I am talk- ing about your spiritual garden. Whatever a man soweth, so shall he reap. What seeds are being planted in your spiritual garden? I pray that you plant seeds of love, seeds of hope, seeds of forgive- ness, but most of all, seeds of faith.

You see, when we start our gardens

at just the right time, give them the

love, care, nurturing, and attention that all gardens need, we can grow

a bountiful crop that can and will

gardens need, we can grow a bountiful crop that can and will Spiritual Words of Encouragement
gardens need, we can grow a bountiful crop that can and will Spiritual Words of Encouragement

Spiritual Words of Encouragement

crop that can and will Spiritual Words of Encouragement last until our next planting season. Be

last until our next planting season.

Be Blessed

Prayer:

Oh kind and gracious and merci- ful Father, we come this morning as humbly as we know how. We lift up our eyes unto the heavens from which all of our blessings flow. Fa- ther, we know that we are not worthy of fresh grace, but You give it to us anyhow. We know that somewhere along the way we have sinned, but You forgave us anyway. We know that sometimes we disappoint You, but You love us anyway. Thank You Father that You love and forgive me despite me. Father we come stand- ing in the gap today for our fellow saints, for our family members, and for our friends. So many need so much, but we know that there is nothing too hard for God. Continue to touch, bless, anoint and heal those saints among us who are afflicted. Keep us all just a little closer to You this day and give us the wisdom to choose the right seeds for our gar- dens. Now Lord we pause to praise You. We give thanks to You alone, we magnify and uplift Your most holy name. We ask and pray these things in the name of Jesus. Amen.

Copyright ©2006 by Jacqueline D. Moore. All rights reserved. Jackie Moore is currently pursuing her undergraduate degree in religion and offers spiritual words of encour- agement daily on her website www. virtuousliving.com. She and her two sons, James and Joseph reside in De- troit, Michigan. They are members of New St. Mark Baptist Church under the leadership of Sr. Pastor, Larry Smith Email:JackieMoore@virtuousliving. com

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Pastor Noel Vaughn

Pastor Noel Vaughn FreshHope For ANew Vision This letter is one of the ways God has

FreshHope For ANew Vision

Pastor Noel Vaughn FreshHope For ANew Vision This letter is one of the ways God has

This letter is one of the ways God has pro- vided for me to support & deliver to you God’s Word both online and through print. This letter is designed to increase to your walk of faith in Christ Jesus. May you read it and be blessed!

of faith in Christ Jesus. May you read it and be blessed! Intro: Fresh Hope is

Intro: Fresh Hope is remembering God will bring His expected end to pass ( Is 46:9-11), and having a new vision is simply bringing to mind a renewed truth of the spiritual fore- thought of God; i.e., something God said He would do for you as a believer. (Ez 12:21-28)

God said He would do for you as a believer. (Ez 12:21-28) Objective: To give the

Objective: To give the believer a greater understanding and better perspective of what hope is, how hope works, insights to the func-

tion of hope, and how hope inspires

a new vision. I believe that a fresh

study of hope will increase ones un- derstanding, and cause desire to ob- tain a new vision (the perception of increase through the Word of God). This is brought to pass through hav- ing fresh hope.

God). This is brought to pass through hav- ing fresh hope. Foundational Ro- mans 15:4; For
Foundational
Foundational

Ro-

mans 15:4; For whatsoever thing were written aforetime were writ- ten for our learning, that we through patient and comfort of the scriptures might have hope.

Scripture:

I Peter 3:15; But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear (reverence)

the hope that is in you with meekness and fear (reverence) Point #1 : Understanding What

Point #1: Understanding What Hope Is

and fear (reverence) Point #1 : Understanding What Hope Is Hope in the Greek is the

Hope in the Greek is the Word el- pis taken from the root word elpo; meaning an earnest expectation

from the root word elpo; meaning an earnest expectation with pleasure; a confidence of ful -

with pleasure; a confidence of ful- fillment; a joyful expectation of God’s goodness ; * Hope is an ear- nest expectation of God’s expected end!

* Hope is an ear- nest expectation of God’s expected end! Point #2: Hope & Vision
* Hope is an ear- nest expectation of God’s expected end! Point #2: Hope & Vision
* Hope is an ear- nest expectation of God’s expected end! Point #2: Hope & Vision

Point #2: Hope & Vision Work Hand-In-Hand Heb 11:1; Now faith is the substance of things hoped for ( without hope faith cannot work) 2 Co 4:18; While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the

things which are unseen

is the thing which is unseen in the natural)

Genesis 11:1-7

aged to do ( the imagination deals with the unseen as seen)

Pr 29:18; Without a vision the peo-

ple perish

tion of the vision coming to pass)

( Hope

.nothing they im-

.(Hope is the expecta-

to pass) ( Hope .nothing they im- .(Hope is the expecta- CONCLUSION: The purpose of a

CONCLUSION: The purpose of a having a Fresh Hope for a New Vision is to lead, guide and direct you in expecting God to bring to pass His will for your life spiritually and physically. Remember, a vision gives man a blueprint of instruc- tions, directions or goals God in- tends for us to fulfill with His help; for his purpose and glory. A vision must then be received by faith and acted on through the believer. So then faith gives life to your vision and it’s inspired by hope. Keep hope fresh and walk out your new vision!!

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TBR Magazine

The Voice of Inspiration

Despite your present circum- stances and in case no one has told you lately, you’re a pre- cious and rare flower in God’s garden, being watered by His word and strengthened by His Son. Show His glory and bloom your little petals off!

BY DR. VI VI MONROE CONGRESS

seeds and weeds

i f you’re fortunate

enough to care for a

w e e d s i f you’re fortunate enough to care for a garden or

garden or to partici-

pate in any landscap-

ing activities, the word

“weed” undoubtedly

leaves a less than de- sirable taste in your mouth and conjures up similarly disturb- ing images in your mind. Plainly stated, weeds are not our friends. Not our best friends anyway. Undesirable, unattractive, undisci- plined—and those can be the posi- tive adjectives to describe weeds. The mere presence and sighting of one in an otherwise near-per- fect yard can significantly detract from a property’s value and ap- pearance, not to mention reduce the access of nourishing elements (sunlight and water) to neighbor- ing healthy foliage, which is both vital to development and growth. In life, weeds are those things and people that hold us back from nor- mal growth in our walk with God and His purpose for our lives. A

weed can be that seemingly hopeless situation you might be facing right now that’s trying to choke the life out of you. Or weeds can bear the spit- ting image of someone close to you who chooses to remind you of your few faults and weaknesses instead of the abundance of beauty God has placed within you. Unfortunately, weeds can also be ourselves, replay- ing past mistakes and not believing we can be recipients of God’s best. Romans 12:3 wants us to be hon- est with ourselves not judgmental, but to inspect ourselves fairly and evenly by allowing God’s faith— the faith that he has in each of us and has given to each of us—to serve as the true measuring tool. As Proverbs 18:21 declares, our tongues carry words that possess the power of life and death and that not only includes words spoken but those thoughts we use to assess ourselves as well. God gave clear instructions to us in 1 Thessalo- nians 5:11-14 to be encouragers of one another and to be independent

contractors of sort, building each other up. What’s more, we’re to test every- thing that is said and to only hold onto those good things that are spoken to us as directed in 1 Thessalonians 5: 21. When you’ve got someone speaking negatively into your life or if, God forbid, you are that someone sabotag- ing your own spirit with unforgiving words or undermining and condemn- ing thoughts, I encourage you to uproot those weeds by asking God for that por- tion of faith He has set aside for you and only you. Faith in yourself, faith in Him, faith that, like seedlings planted in rich soil under the right conditions, grows strong and bears much fruit. Despite your present circumstances and in case no one has told you lately, you’re a precious and rare flower in God’s gar- den, being watered by His word and strengthened by His Son. Show His glory and bloom your little petals off!

© February 2007 Vivi Monroe Con- gress, D. Min. Dr. Vivi Monroe Con- gress, author of The Bankrupt Spirit:

Principles for Turning Setbacks into Comebacks and The McMillon Family Cookbook: Something to Shout About! and founder of The Grand Prairie Af- rican American AUTHOR SHOWCASE (Author Showcase Events) is a gradu- ate of Pace University in New York and obtained a Doctor of Ministry degree in Christian Counseling from Vision Uni- versity.

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The Freedom Corner

“Now about the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life.” 1 Cor 7:1 (NLT)

Growing up, you may have

heard the adage, “wait on the Lord”. A

woman recently told me, “I’ve been

waiting so long my cobwebs have cob-

webs. When is that man comin’?” Aside

from laughing, I didn’t have much more to offer except some advice on changing the focus from “when” to “what are you doing in the meantime”. Having been single, married, divorced, and married again, I have had an opportunity to see single life and married life from unique perspectives each go around. I was in my early 20s when I married the first time and my perspective on marriage was a lot different then when I remarried after being a divorced single Mom for nine years. I will tell you honestly that no matter where I found myself in terms of my marital status, I did not find true fulfillment until I started walking in pur- pose. Although there were (and are) mo- ments of fulfillment and accomplishment stemmed from my spiritual and mental growth as an individual, my most fulfill- ing moment was and continues to be my “love affair” with the Lord as I work to do what he has called me to do as a writer. I have received countless awards and ac- colades, I have beamed with pride at the accomplishments of my family, but the light that shines in me when I am doing

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what he has tasked of me is like no other. No man, woman, or child can do that for you, yet from the time we hit puberty and beyond, many of us fantasize about being with or meeting “the One”. We haven’t even begun to maturate through one state and we are already think- ing about the other! It’s a travesty, but it is a reality we most deal with and seek to overcome. The more we allow ourselves to get bogged down with this type of thinking, the more we miss our opportunity to look beyond ourselves to see what God has in store for us. In Corinthians 7:31-34, Paul tells us that a married man’s focus should be on how he can please his wife or family, and a single man looks to see how he can please God. Because we do not come out of the womb mar-

ried to someone, we have the oppor- tunity to live through both states. As a Mom, I talk to my son about the importance of having and maintain- ing a relationship with God. The “adolescent experience” has him thinking more intently about the op- posite sex and how they fit into the equation. Not channeled properly, this could be disastrous, however, our discussions and his reaction to certain situations he encounter tell me he understands where his focus should lie at this point in his life. Does that mean he will always suc- cessfully deny the hormonal and external pressures that has and will continue to plague him through ad- olescence and well into adulthood? No, but it does mean he is aware of the kinds of pressures he will face

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and what he can do to seek support, strength, and guidance to deal with those pressures. My son knows the importance of having a con- tinual relationship with the Father, and how critical it is to arm himself with the Word when dealing with these pressures. Now, if a teenager can grasp it, so can an adult, right? The bottom line is this–if you are single and fantasizing about married life, wake up and shake off the fantasy. Don’t spend your time wondering when (or if) it’s going to “happen” to you, and definitely don’t be discouraged if your rela- tionships don’t work out or lead to marriage. Be encouraged with the knowledge that the Father, who knows all your needs, will provide

current unmarried state. ‘Pick up your plow’ and get into the business of kingdom building! Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Well, we all know it’s not and we all need encouragement to stay steadfast. Start by joining a bible teaching church and get in- volved in the life of that church. See what you can do in your community to help those who are not as fortu- nate as you. Try not to worry about when it’s going to “happen”, and ask God how you can be of assistance to your brother and sister. He’ll take care of the rest. Who knows, while you are making the business of the kingdom your ‘primary concern’, you may find yourself elbow-to-el- bow with your potential mate-to-be.

for you. If that translates into a hus-

Freedom

Reflection

 

Thought

band or wife in your future, it will

of

the

Day:

Am

I

a

“satis-

surely come. In the meantime, stay

fied

single”

being

mindful

of

focused on the Lord and allow Him to rain blessings upon you in your

what

the

Lord

wants

from

me?

Already, Alright

One day as I was taking out the trash,

I noticed some school-

children coming down the oak tree path. Some walking slower than others,

some older than others, all with their mother’s prayer of protection.

I smiled.

Went to work, my usual Monday thru Friday thang.

Even sang some gospel before I got out of my car and into the swing of the job ching-ching. Meetings became con- ferences, many uses of demon- stratives, people want to know what it is that keeps their life afloat. I laughed. Caught dinner at a new gig in town. Told a friend I would check it out, do a re-

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Related Freedom Scripture:

Matt 19:10

1 Cor 7:26-27

1 Cor 7:1

1 Cor 7:7

© 2007 by V. Helena

V. Helena is author of the Chris- tian relationship book entitled, His Love Is Freedom, which is available in stores or online at www.trafford.com and www.ama- zon.com. She lives in the Wash- ington DC Metropolitan area.

zon.com. She lives in the Wash- ington DC Metropolitan area. view, maybe save her and her

view, maybe save her and her husband a buck or two. “Will anyone be joining you?” said the voice of the size

Continued on page 36

Let me holla at you!

Let me holla at you! Enoch-First Fruits He sat up and threw his legs over the
Let me holla at you! Enoch-First Fruits He sat up and threw his legs over the
Let me holla at you! Enoch-First Fruits He sat up and threw his legs over the

Enoch-First Fruits

He sat up and threw his legs over the side of his bed. Kneeling at his bedside he bowed his head to pray.

Malachi ran back to their room to grab his book bag, “Enoch. Yo Enoch.” Malachi whispered. “Here comes mom.”

Their mom’s hard and quick foot- steps thumped against the hard wood flooringoutsidetheirbedroom.“Boy, didn’t I tell you not to pray when you have to be to school.” She swung her hand back and her belt sliced through the air and landed across Enoch’s back. He jumped and fled to the corner of his room to escape her wrath. His seven year old eyes stared at her, but he refused to cry.

Enoch,getup!”Mal- achi snatched the spider man com- forter off his younger brother’s body. “Enoch, mom said to get up and get ready for school before you’re late.”

Enoch ignored his brother and turned towards his bedroom win- dow. From where he lay he could see icicles had formed on the bare tree branches outside. Old man winter had snuck into the city of Camden and set up residence throughout the entire area. Tem- peratures had only reached a high of thirteen and the cold weather vowed to stick around for a spell.

Malachi regretfully looked at Enoch and shuffled behind his mom. Enoch’s back stung from the feel of that belt and he could feel a whelp developing.

He closed his eyes and wished his grandma hadn’t left them. Four months ago she had passed away and since then things hadn’t been the same. Their mom had moved in to take care of them, but she wasn’t like grandma. Mom drank and cursed at them. There was hardly any food in the house and their house had become a haven for drug addicts. Most days he didn’t want to come home from school.

Enoch was already not a lover of mornings and the cold weather wasn’t helping any. The sound of his mom calling his name compelled him to rise for the start of a new day.

“Get up and get dressed. Now!” She screamed then stomped out the room and down the hall, “Malachi, you come on and eat your breakfast be- fore I give you some of this belt too.”

When grandma was living she taught the boys to always put God first. She explained to them that the most important person to talk to first thing in the morning was the Lord. She lived off the belief that

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‘Mornings are reserved for God.’

Enoch was not upset over his beating. He simply got up and did as his mother asked. He then

joined them at the kitchen table. His mom had already fixed him

a bowl of cereal and had it wait-

ing for him in front of his chair.

He sat and bowed his head low. Again thanking the Lord. When he

finished he looked up and saw his mom watching him. She gave him

a mean look and took the cigarette

she was smoking out of her mouth and blew the smoke in his direction.

“What did I tell you about that praying when I’m trying to get you off to school?” Enoch avoided an- swering her by sticking a spoon- ful of cereal in his mouth. “Since you feel the need to talk to God so much why don’t you share with us what you were saying to him.”

Enoch chewed then swal- lowed, “I thanked him for the bowl of cereal I was about to eat.”

Rage ignited in his mother’s eyes. She lifted the cereal bowl from in front of him and threw it across the room. The bowl and its contents splattered against the kitchen wall. “If you thank God for food I buy then you don’t need to eat my food.”

She stormed out the room. Mal- achi got up and handed Enoch his book bag. “Come on. Let’s get go- ing before were late for school.”

They bundled up in coats, hats, scarves and boots for their hike to school.“Imissgrandma!”Enochsaid.

“So do I, but you make mom mad when you pray so much. What’s up

with that? Can’t you pray later?”

“But God says to give him your first fruits? I’m just obeying God’s word.”

“Enoch, I think that means giving a part of your paycheck to God. You don’t have any money to give God.”

“Grandma told me first fruits means giving God the first of anything you get because it all comes from him. I not only give him the first few minutes of my day but I thank him before I take the first bite of any meal I eat.”

“Man, if you keep giving God your first. Mom is going to give you a beating first thing every morning.”

said

I

“I’m

not

scared.

God

should

fear nothing.”

Malachi opened the door for him to enter the school. “That was fine when we were living with grandma but since she died and mom moved in she doesn’t like when you talk about God so much.” They stopped in front of his class- room. “I think you should keep that stuff to yourself. Do it when she’s not around then she won’t get so mad at you.” The ten min- ute buzzer sounded off. “I’ll meet you out front after school.” Mala- chi took off towards his classroom.

“I believe in Matthew 6:33 Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you.” Enoch recited before tak- ing his assigned seat in class.

© 2007 by Dinah Zale, author of

Drama in the Church. Reserved.

All Rights

Disguise Is the Limit!

“Morning Prayer”

Thank you Lord for blessing me to see another day; Lord I thank you for the strength to get up to start me on my way. I might now have gotten up on the right side of bed; But just be- cause You gave me the chance, I’ll make sure I rejoice in it instead. Lord watch over me as I go along on this day; And please forgive me for all of my sins that I’ve committed, I pray. Lord please bless my family, friends, and definitely my enemies; Some may wonder why I pray for them, but I’ll let them find out when they get down on their knees. Lord I love You and I’m resting in Your bosom until the end; Lord I thank You and I believe You’ll do it, in Your holy name I pray AMEN AMEN AMEN!

© 2007 Crystal “Disguise” Simmons

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Evangelist Celeste

Walking into Royalty

How many times have we sat back and waited on God like He’s a magician to just magically make things happen in our lives or change our cir- cumstances? So many times we believe God has left us in the pitfalls of life that have us burdened to the core of our soul and bound in despair. Often times when we encounter abusive and hurtful situations, satan will deceive us into be- lieving we are not worthy of love and leaving us with the question, “Where is God?” However, we are worthy, Sisters! We are Divinely Intended for Victory and Abundance – DIVAs! As royalty, the royal priesthood of our Lord and Savior we must learn how to walk it out!

of our Lord and Savior we must learn how to walk it out! Destructive relationship–walk i
Destructive relationship–walk i t out! Bills are due – walk it out! Baby need a
Destructive
relationship–walk i t out!
Bills are due
– walk it out!
Baby need a new pair of shoes –
it out!
walk
Wayward children
– walk it out!
Friends don’t understand
– walk it out!

Where am I walking to, you may ask? Walk in royalty. God’s chosen gen- eration. Walk in the Word of God. Walk with holy boldness. Walk out of those yokes of bondage that satan has cast upon you. With royalty comes respon- sibility. We are responsible to be obedi- ent to the Word, and in obedience to His Word, He promises that He will bless us (Deuteronomy 28). We must diligently listen to the voice of God and endeav- or to acquaint ourselves with His will

for our lives. We must walk in His ways and keep His commandments.

Ever wonder why batterers try to keep their victims from fel- lowship with other believers?

However as we walk, the thief comes to steal, kill and destroy, but the Lord has come that you may have lifeandhaveitmoreabundantly(John

10:10). The devil seeks

to steal our hearts and affections that we possess for Christ and hurt us spiritually, robbing us of the Word that lies in our hearts. He also seeks to lead us and carry us away from the flock of Christ.

We must understand, however, that clutching what little we have in fear won’t allow us to fulfill God’s plan. In fact, this kind of mindset al- lows the devil to continue to lie to us and cause us to give up on our dreams and God’s plan for our lives. Fear only supplies the characteristics of the idle, lazy and wicked ser- vant. When we listen to the devil, we soon believe we can do nothing.

we listen to the devil, we soon believe we can do nothing. Ever wonder why you

Ever wonder why you don’t feel like attending worship ser- vice to fellowship with other be- lievers when attacked by satan?

In Matthew 25:1—13 there’s a par- able about the five foolish virgins who were totally unprepared to receive the

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bridegroom. The devil uses abuse, which comes in many forms – not

just physically – to get us to a point where we believe there is no use to keep the oil in our lamps or have oil prepared. What if the Lord came to deliver you from your situation right now, are you ready? Or, will you say, “Wait Lord, let me pack this, I need to get that! Let me get my credit straight. Let me save a little money.” We should always be ready for God’s miraculous power to reign supreme. As DIVAs walk- ing in royalty we are to hold up the Lord’s Name and hold onto the praise of the exalted Jesus! Don’t allow your hurts, disappointments and painful experiences to steal those royal qualities away from you and cause you to miss your bride- groom of dreams and promises. Be- ing the emotional creatures we are,

it is often very easy for us to fall into

a shell of complacency in our situa-

tion and develop an acceptance that things will always be as they would appear. Matthew 25:13 (NKJV) says, “Watch therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour in which the Son of Man is com- ing.” If He has given you dreams and visions, the oil won’t magically appear in your lamp – walk in roy- alty and pursue! In spite of what we face, DIVAs are more than con- querors through the Lord who loves us – walk in royalty and pursue!

Store the oil for your lamp of dreams, visions and promises, so that when destiny comes you are ready. In the meantime, my sisters, walk it out – as royalty! And the Sisters said, “Amen!”

© 2007 by Evangelist Celeste, au- thor of “Sister Girl… It’s Not That Serious!”. Visit www.myspace.com/ evangelistceleste, today.

And the Sisters said, “Amen!”

AMEN! I’m walking into my destiny

It’s royalty, you see

AMEN! No more Waiting to Exhale parties, I’m free

From those sister friends that just don’t understand me

AMEN! I’ve lost a few friends along the way

Were

friends if they didn’t want to stay?

they really my

AMEN! My dreams and visions are coming to pass

AMEN!

Peace

in

the

Lord, alas.

AND

THE

SISTERS

SAID, “AMEN!”

by Evangelist Celeste

THE SISTERS SAID, “AMEN!” by Evangelist Celeste © 2007 by Evangelist Celeste, author of “Sister Girl…

© 2007 by Evangelist Celeste, author of “Sister Girl… It’s Not That Serious!”. Visit www.myspace.com/evangelistceleste, today.

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Stacy Hawkins Adams

Stacy Hawkins Adams A sunny day can be a symbol of hope, espe- cially after a

A sunny day can be a symbol of hope, espe- cially after a cold and dreary winter.

New Hope and New Life Are Yours for the Taking

ever we decide to claim and live a life of purpose, it is ours for
ever we decide to claim and live a life
of purpose, it is ours for the shaping.
Just as one’s dreams and desires can
lie dormant or die when they aren’t
nurtured, so can the belief that one’s
circumstances will never improve.
Thank God, however, for spring.
We don’t have to wait until Dec.
31, the mandatory New Year’s
resolution date, to pursue a life of
hope and meaning. The early days
of Spring 2007 are the perfect time
to rededicate ourselves to the goals
and commitments we’ve embraced
in various areas of our lives, from
our faith, our finances and our work
to our relationships and our health.
birds who have returned from winter
hibernation, embrace the things that
bring you peace, contentment and
passion. Utter a prayer of thanks to
the Savior for sacrificing His life
so that yours might stand a chance.
The brighter days, warmer weather
and blossoming plants and flowers
usher in a welcomed cycle of the sea-
sons. Not only does spring symbol-
ize the rebirth of nature, it reminds
us that we, too, can be born again.
Remember that just as spring is mi-
raculously beautiful, so too can be
your life’s journey, even with the
cracks and crevices you’ve collect-
ed along the way. Remember that
nothing is too hard, too grand or too
impractical for God to spring to life.
Spring isn’t just a routine weather cy-
cletobetakenforgranted.Itisaseason
of opportunity, of new beginnings.
© 2007 by Stacy Hawkins Adams
Stacy Hawkins Adams is an In-
This is the season to begin trust-
ing that the desires of our hearts
are authentic, because they are
uniquely ours. This is the season
to heed the whispers of our soul, to
talk less about what we want and
do more to make it come to pass.
pirational
speaker
and
author
of
“Speak
To
My
Heart”
and
In the spring, seeds that were planted
in dark and cold ground nudge their
way through the earth to dance in the
wind as colorful flowers. The dark-
ness of a Savior’s death on a Friday is
overshadowed by the unquenchable
joy of His resurrection three days later.
“Nothing
But
the
Right
Thing”.
As you enjoy the sunshine, the fra-
grant flowers, and the music of song-
These miracles are reminders that when-
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F or as long as can re- m e m b e r I  

F or

as long as can

re-

m e m b e r

I

 

I’ve

heard,

“He

may

not

come

when

you

want

Him,

but

He’s

always

right

on

time.”

Although this truth is revealed throughout the Bible, the ava- lanche of emotional occurrences in our lives causes us to some- times question the timeliness of God’s intervention in our affairs.

However, even facing the tumult of challenges, difficulties and trials, which often comes upon the Chris- tian, I’m learning that women really do hold a special place in the heart of God. He understands everything about us—our personality, how we think, our needs, our concerns, our dreams, our hurts and disappoint- ment—He especially understands our faults and weaknesses. Yet, He is always compassionate toward us. His tenderness of heart is manifest- ed in the lives of women who often struggleemotionallyinstabilitywhen

Perfect Timing

dealing with the challenges of life.

When I consider the passage of scripture recorded in Luke 7:11-16, this level of compassion is demon- strated to highest dimension—res- urrection of a dead son. Wow!

Let’s consider how the death of this son affected the economical and emotional well being of this mother. Luke makes it clear that ‘he was the only son of his mother (v.12). In accordance with the manners and customs of that day, it was the de- sire of both the mother and father to have a boy rather than a girl. Boys were desired to increase the size, wealth, and importance of the fam- ily clan. Since this an only son, the possibility of family increasing was hopeless. And any hopes or dreams for an inheritance died with this son. Consequently, the economical situation of this woman changed.

Luke also states that this woman was a widow—her husband was dead. The father was the supreme authority in the household. When there was a son in the household, the authority which the father had

a son in the household, the authority which the father had Just For Women by Queen

Just For Women

by Queen E. F. Phillips

was handed down to his eldest, who took over the position of leadership upon the death of the father. But now, and the one that had assumed responsibility and leadership for the household was now dead, and he was the only son. Consequent- ly, the weight of her inner turmoil, burdens, grief and pain were mani- fested on her countenance. In mod- ern day, this situation would merit the questions such as, What am I going to do now? How am I go- ing make it? Reading and believing what Jesus did for her encourages us today—Jesus will fix it for you!

How encouraging is this passage of scripture to those of us who face death everyday, whether the physical death of children, parents, loved ones, friends, or dead dreams, hopes, visions, or hopeless situa- tions. We must remember that the Lord Jesus sees our broken hearts, and the same compassion that He had on this mother He has on us. His compassions never fail (Lam. 3:21-22) because He is faithful.

In the case of death, the dead may not be raised physically, but if they belong to Him they will be raised in the last day. And even in our grief, sorrow and brokenness, His touch will revive our spirits so that we continue in His strength in spite of emotional upheaval in our lives. His touch still resurrects dead dreams and makes them reality.

Women, as we embrace this new season of hope and restoration, I ask what’s being carried out of your life because it’s dead? What are you about to bury? Don’t give up;

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don’t bury it yet because God’s tim- ing is inconceivable. Think about it! It was no coincidence that Jesus showed up in the village of Nain just at the time this dead son was being carried out. What perfect timing!

It may seem as though you can’t take anymore disappointments, hurts. He knows your emotional state concerning that son that seems hopelessly lost. He is concerned about your financial situation. He is aware of your needs, and He is available to comfort you like no one else can. You sense His tenderness when you get into His presence; you feel the softness of His touch. When He speaks unsurpassing peace satu- rates your mind to point of no un- derstanding. Today, He is waiting to say arise to whatever is dead in your life. And when He speaks to that dead thing in your life, it has to resurrect because He is the res- urrection and the life (John 11:25). It will be in perfect timing so that God will be glorified, and His name will be exalted in the earth.

As you face your challenging ex- periences, you too will learn that He may come when you think He should, but for certain, He will be right on time—His timing is perfect.

© 2007 by Queen E. F. Phillips. All Rights Reserved.

Queen Phillips is a freelance writer currently residing in Houston, Tex- as. She is a Spirit-led writer with over twenty years devoted to the Christian writing ministry. She is a published author, poet and speaker. For speaking engagements, or to contact her for more information about her ministry, visit her website at www.majesticpublications.com .

more information about her ministry, visit her website at www.majesticpublications.com . TBR Magazine 25 MARCH/ APRIL

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DDR.

LiNDSAY

MARSH

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Dr. Lindsay Marsh is a young, inspiring woman with a heart to see young people: teenagers, college students and singles, experi- ence God’s best, and fulfill their destinies, while keeping their own ‘flavor’ as a sold-out believer, who is not ashamed of the gospel.

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Dr. Lindsay Marsh is a young, inspiring woman with a heart to see young people:
Dr. Lindsay Marsh is a young, inspiring woman with a heart to see young people:
Dr. Lindsay Marsh is a young, inspiring woman with a heart to see young people:

Dr. Lindsay Marsh

is a young, inspiring woman with a heart to see young people: teenag- ers, college students and singles, ex- perience God’s best, and fulfill their destinies, while keeping their own ‘flavor’ as a sold-out believer, who is not ashamed of the gospel. Orig- inally from Shaker Heights, Ohio, Dr. Lindsay attended The George Washington University in Washing- ton, D.C. for undergraduate, medi- cal school, and post-graduate train- ing, specializing in anesthesiology.

Upon moving to Washington, DC at the age of 18, she connected with her awesome Pastors and mentors Drs. Mike and Dee-Dee Freeman of Spirit of Faith Christian Center, in Temple Hills, M.D., where she was ordained at the age of 21. She is greatly humbled and apprecia- tive of God’s blessing and favor on her life and accepts the challenge of being a ‘supermodel’ for the king- dom of God. In this month’s Heart -to- Heart with TBR, Dr. Lindsay tells us about her book “The Best Sex of my Life: A Guide to Purity, and why she’s “Worth the Wait”!

A Guide to Purity, and why she’s “Worth the Wait”! The Life of Your Writer Wait,
A Guide to Purity, and why she’s “Worth the Wait”! The Life of Your Writer Wait,
A Guide to Purity, and why she’s “Worth the Wait”! The Life of Your Writer Wait,

The Life of Your Writer

Wait, LLC. Yes, I want to be mar- ried one day…and yes, I want to have kids as well. But in the mean time, I have made a decision to pur- sue my dreams and do it with flava! I am an anesthesiologist by day and a minister fashionista by night. Orig- inally from Shaker Heights, Ohio, I moved to Washington, DC to at- tend undergraduate pre-med studies at George Washington University. God strategically connected me to my fabulous Pastors and mentors, Drs. Mike and Dee-Dee Freeman of Spirit of Faith Christian Center. At 18 years old, my journey of truly discovering sexual purity began.

TBR: Tell me a little bit about your- self? Who is Dr. Lindsay Marsh? LM:
TBR: Tell me a little bit about your- self? Who is Dr. Lindsay Marsh? LM:

TBR: Tell me a little bit about your- self? Who is Dr. Lindsay Marsh?

me a little bit about your- self? Who is Dr. Lindsay Marsh? LM: I am a

LM: I am a 30 year old doctor, minister, entrepreneur, author and

TBR: Tell me what is your favorite article of clothing?

and TBR: Tell me what is your favorite article of clothing? LM: Worth The Wait jeans,

LM: Worth The Wait jeans, which is part of a new line of denim, sexual purity urban wear, coming soon.

VIRGIN! However, I am not your typical virgin. I have endeavored to

TBR:
TBR:

where

If

in

you

could

go

any-

revolutionize the concept of sexual

the

world

right

now,

where

would

you

go

and

why?

purity and virginity. I have coined myself a ‘supermodel’ for the king- dom of God, because I am set to represent ‘sexual purity with con- temporary style and urban class’! That’s the tag line for my sexual purity clothing label, Worth The

the tag line for my sexual purity clothing label, Worth The LM: A world tour featuring:

LM: A world tour featuring: Lon- don, Paris, South Africa, Italy, Spain, Dubai……for the shop- ping, sites, resorts, food and fun. My world tour is long overdue .

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Your Writer’s Perspective TBR: When and why did you make the decision to write for
Your Writer’s Perspective TBR: When and why did you make the decision to write for
Your Writer’s Perspective TBR: When and why did you make the decision to write for

Your Writer’s Perspective

Your Writer’s Perspective TBR: When and why did you make the decision to write for the

TBR: When and why did you make the decision to write for the Lord?

LM: After I finished medical school After I finished medical school

I just began to write. I didn’t have any chapters or titles. It simply be- gan as ‘my testimony’. I wanted to put my memoirs of 25 years (at the time) into a body of work, almost

in the form of a diary. I wanted to

share intimate parts of my journey with the Lord, to encourage others to pursue him, as well. I truly wanted to embody the scripture in Psalms 37:4, “….Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart…”. I have al- ways wanted to show people that the ‘real’ path to getting the desires of your heart is seeking the Lord!

to getting the desires of your heart is seeking the Lord! TBR: What inspires you to

TBR: What inspires you to write and why?

seeking the Lord! TBR: What inspires you to write and why? LM: This generation is in

LM: This generation is in dire need of ‘examples’. People who make

a

in

quality decision to glorify God

the visible arenas, as well as the

unaccompanied areas of their lives. God has inspired me and charged me to be ‘one’ of those examples. The book has inspired others to ‘join the revolution’ and become a part of the Worth The Wait Revolution!

and become a part of the Worth The Wait Revolution! TBR: What is your favorite book

TBR: What is your favorite book and why?

LM: Understanding Your Po- tential: Dr. Myles Monroe It’s my favorite because it teaches you how to maximize your poten- tial and takes the limits off of your ability. I have made a commitment to God not to leave the earth with- out fulfilling and maximizing my destiny and potential, as a result f this book. According out fulfilling and maximizing my destiny and potential, as a result f this book. According to Myles Monroe, the wealthiest place on earth is the graveyard. People die everyday with dreams, inventions, projects, books, businesses, solu- tions, ministries, musical composi- tions etc.- I refuse to let that be me!

TBR:
TBR:

authors

List

(any

your

three

favorite

why?

genre)

and

TBR: authors List (any your three favorite why? genre) and LM: 1)Myles Monroe: Hewriteswith such authority,

LM: 1)Myles Monroe: Hewriteswith such authority, purpose and poise. 2) Joyce Meyer: She has a refreshingly practical, ev- eryday approach to allowing you to become closer to God. 3) Joshua Harris: He speaks to the needs of this generation, and started it all with “I Kissed

Dating Goodbye” loved it! TBR: What do you think makes a writer successful? LM: A
Dating Goodbye”
loved it!
TBR:
What
do
you
think
makes
a
writer
successful?
LM: A successful writer must
have a clear understanding of
the issues, concerns and life-
style of his/her target audience.
TBR: What is it that makes

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you

successful

as

a

writer?

TBR Magazine 29 MARCH/ APRIL you successful as a writer? LM: My honesty and sensitivity to

LM: My honesty and sensitivity to the ‘real’ needs of people make me a successful writer. Wisdom from God’s Word coupled with the intuition and discernment God has given me, allow me to boldly, yet carefully approach several am- biguous topics in sexual purity.

approach several am- biguous topics in sexual purity. A Writer’s Journey TBR: Tell me about “The
approach several am- biguous topics in sexual purity. A Writer’s Journey TBR: Tell me about “The

A Writer’s Journey

am- biguous topics in sexual purity. A Writer’s Journey TBR: Tell me about “The Best Sex

TBR: Tell me about “The Best Sex of My Life: A Guide to Purity”? In your book you touch on the importance of sexual purity. Why is it imperative that one discovers the importance of remaining abstinent until marriage?

the importance of remaining abstinent until marriage? LM: 1) Sexual purity is the will of God,

LM: 1) Sexual purity is the will of God, plain and simple. Holiness is what He requires. So, if we de- sire ‘the best’ and we want to see our dreams come to pass, we’ll do things His way. Aside from the ri- diculous drama of STD’s, the HIV epidemic, unwanted pregnancies/ abortions, abstinence/sexual purity establishes a track-record of faith- fulness in a relationship. In my

opinion, a man or woman that can

10)

Stop

the

sin

(1Cor.15:34)

Only. I want the Best Sex of M Life

honor God with his/her body and abstain from sexual sin prior to the marriage covenant displays true discipline, integrity and character. This is an individual that will be trustworthy, faithful and honest in a marriage covenant, because they

TBR: Often writers incorporate sev- eral themes into their books. Tell us about one of

TBR: Often writers incorporate sev- eral themes into their books. Tell us about one of the themes from “The Best Sex of My Life: A Guide to Pu- rity” and how you hope readers might connect this idea to their own lives?

Series to speak to the need of teens, college students, adult singles, as well as married couples. Sexual purity is a HUGE topic for mar- ried couples, and God has shown

were found to be ‘trustworthy, faith- ful and honest’ in their single state.

LM: A central theme from my book comes out of chapter four

LM: A central theme from my book comes out of chapter four

TBR:
TBR:

How

do

you

con-

entitled, “Ten Choices To Keep

quer

the

challenges

of

re-

Your Out of Trouble”. The ten

maining

pure

until

marriage?

things I share here are basic, but

LM: Actually, I abide by the ’10 Choice to Keep You Out of Trouble’ which

LM: Actually, I abide by the ’10 Choice to Keep You Out of Trouble’ which I detail in chapter of my book.

they are also life-changing. These ten choices incorporate the ‘how to’ information….telling people ‘how to’ remain sexual pure in the midst of this ‘sexploitative’ society.

1) Guard your heart (Proverbs 4:

21-23)

TBR:
TBR:

Tell

readers

how

your

 

book

is

different

and

why they

2)Honoryourmotherandfather/spiri-

should

read

this

new

arrival?

tualparents/Pastors(Ephesians6:2,3)

 

3) Hang with people who have your answer, and get away from people who have your problem (1Cor.15:33, Proverbs 12:26 and 13:20)

4) Sexual purity (1Thessalonians

LM: Quite frankly, it’s my book and my perspective. It’s my tes- timony. Yes, I’m

LM: Quite frankly, it’s my book and my perspective. It’s my tes- timony. Yes, I’m a virgin….but I have engaged in humping, bump- ing and grinding, petting, other forms of sexual sin that we do not usually label as, SEX or fornica-

5:22,

Romans

8:14,

1Cor

6:12)

tion. Well, I dispute this notion.

 

It’s all sin. I am a virgin because

5)

Build

your

self-esteem

I have never been penetrated, but

around

the

Word

of

God

(1Pe-

I have participated in what I call

ter2:9,

Col.

2:9,

Ps 139:14-16)

“satisfaction without penetration”. People NEED to read this new ar-

6)

Decide

to

come

to

church,

rival so that we can understand sex-

bible

study

and

sessions

that

ual purity from God’s perspective.

promote

spiritual

growth

(Ho-

sea

4:6,

Roman

12:1,

2)

spiritual growth (Ho- sea 4:6, Roman 12:1, 2) TBR: Whatareyourgoalsasawriter? 7) Get a vision: mate,
spiritual growth (Ho- sea 4:6, Roman 12:1, 2) TBR: Whatareyourgoalsasawriter? 7) Get a vision: mate,
spiritual growth (Ho- sea 4:6, Roman 12:1, 2) TBR: Whatareyourgoalsasawriter? 7) Get a vision: mate,

TBR: Whatareyourgoalsasawriter?

7) Get a vision: mate, school, pro- fession, future, ministry (Hab. 2:2-3)

8) Pray (Jeremiah 33:3)

9) Change your attitude: walk in love (1Cor. 13)

33:3) 9) Change your attitude: walk in love (1Cor. 13) LM: I’m so glad you asked!

LM: I’m so glad you asked! I will be publishing the Best Sex of My Life Series. Book #1 of course, is The Best Sex of My Life: a guide to purity. Book #2 will be co-writ- ten by my husband and I, (when he finds me), entitled, the Best Sex of My Life: For Married Couples Continued on page 37

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For The Lord of God

Hold me,

Caress me,

Never let me go,

My hands in yours will remain

As our hearts beat

Our heart and soul join as one

Like the sea it reseeds

Hold me,

Never let me go please,

I am but a rose just blossoming

Sweet as the fragrance,

Yet delicate in beauty

Hold me,

Never let me go,

I am the tidal wave,

Going in and going out,

Yet calm as the sunset over the ho- rizon

Hold me,

Caress me,

Never let me go,

I am yours God,

As you are mine.

Copyright 2007 by Feon Lavyette Davis.

Email: spiritfreewithin@yahoo.com Web site: www.inthearmsofgod.com

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Web site: www.inthearmsofgod.com Food and Festivities 6 tablespoons butter or margarine 2-10oz packages of

6 tablespoons

butter or margarine

2-10oz packages of marsh- mallows

2 cups creamy peanut butter

P e a n u t B u tte r B u n n y
P e a n u t B u tte r B u n n y
C ris p C a k e

Makes 16 servings.

1. In large saucepan, melt butter

over low heat. Add marshmal- lows. Stir until completely melt- ed and remove from heat.

2. Stir in peanut butter and

mix well to incorporate.

3. Add rice crisp cereal and stir

until well coated.

4. Press into two 9-inch pans,

well coated with cooking spray

and allow to cool.

5. Cut ears and bow tie from

one cake. This is done by cut-

ting two football shaped ears from the top and bottom of one cake layer, leaving a bow tie-shaped piece in the middle.

10 cups crisp rice cereal no-stick cooking spray jelly beans, licorice gum drops, or decorative candy Glaze (optional) 1/2 cup butter or margarine

any of

your favorite cake decorations.

rice,

and

gum

drops

or

6. Position two ears at top of

whole round cake and place bow

tie under face.

Approximate nutritional infor- mation per serving: 320 calo- ries, 21g fat, 12mg cholesterol, 339mg sodium, 10g protein, 51g carbohydrates.

Apply optional glaze, if

desired. Decorate with jelly beans, marshmallows, lico-

7.

Jif® Peanut Butter. The kids will surely love this one for Easter!

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H.O.P.E.

H.O.P.E. W hen thinking about the theme for this months magazine, “Restoration, Revival, Resurrec- tion,” I

When thinking about the theme for this months magazine, “Restoration, Revival, Resurrec- tion,” I had to ask myself when does those things actually take place. How does one get restored, how is one revived, how is one resurrect- ed? And then I thought, before all that can take place, we have to deal with those inner issues that plague us. What good is restoration, revival and resurrection, when you are not ready to deal with those issues that have you bound? It is almost like being an alcoholic or a drug addict, you really can’t be restored until you admit what you are. You can not be restored from a problem when you are denying that there is a problem. So many of us have issues that live within us, and we fail to face them. For example, a few weeks ago, I went to a friend of mines church for “Ladies Night Out,” and received something there that I had so desper-

Transparency

BY DEE- DEE WATSON- SMITH

thing to remember is, not all abuse takes place within the home, some abuse can come from friends and from church folk from the pulpit to the pew- any and everyone has the potential of being an abuser. Trust me, our mouths are more lethal than any weapons of mass destruc- tion, and have put more nails in coffins than any hammer ever has.

When I told God yes, and when I said to God purify me, I never imag- ined that I would have to stay out of the mirror for a period of time. Even as I prepare myself for my initial sermon, I can see God still pruning me, molding me, putting me in the fire, and taking me out to remove any pieces of imperfection that He finds along the way. He then places me back in the fire again to continue the purification process. When I think about issues in my life and the things that I have gone through, I have to ask God, “How many people did I kill along the way

in this walk called life?”. I have to ask Him, “How many people did

I hurt, because I was hurting?”. I

have to ask Him, “God, why do you love me so, how can You forgive me when I find it so hard to forgive my- self?”. I also have been asking God to clean me and purify me from the inside out. When I stand before His people and preach His Word, I want to have a clean heart. I want to have the saturation and the anointing of the Holy Spirit through and through.

I have to bear my heart and soul in

ately needed. There was a word spo- ken that made me look deep within myself and examine many feelings that I thought were no longer there. The sermon was entitled “Minister- ing With Issues” and it was such a mighty, mighty word. While I was at home today listening to my mu- sic, the word that was spoken from the ladies night fell on me like a ton of bricks. However, I checked my email and saw a persons name that made me cringe, and that shook me- I normally don’t do that. I also felt something else dwell up in me JEALOUSY. I had no idea that that ugly beast was still hanging out, but there it was, laughing at me. You see, back in November, I went on a period of purification, consecration, and asked God to show me anything in me that could affect my ministry, and to take it away. Recently, I was speaking to someone and a lot of anger poured out of me about things I thought I had gotten over, past hurts and wrongs that were done to me in addition to wrongs that I have done to myself. I thought about past and present abuse (mental). A good

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this “writing” so that others can bear theirs as well. Not to me or neces- sarily anyone else, but to God. Only God can take away the hurts, feelings of inadequacies, loneliness, despair, and the pain from abuse from those you respect and love. One possible reason that there are so many hurt- ing people in the church right now is because no one wants to be real and admit they have issues. No one wants to be transparent or live in a glass house, because no one wants others to see that they do not have it all together. In dealing with the issue, freedom comes. We have to admit who and what we are in order to be healed. I am a sinner, I am as a filthy rag, and I need Jesus to heal and fill me. I need His love and His Spirit to dwell within me. I need Je- sus to search and give me a clean heart, and renew in me a right Spirit. I need Jesus’ love to hold me. I need the blood of Jesus to cover me. More than anything, I need Jesus with me each and every day. Be blessed.

Copyright ©2006 by Denisa Wat- son- Smith, inspirational writer for faithwriters.com with such ar- ticles as DID GOD CALL WOM- EN? and SHACKLED YET FREE.

FOOD AND FESTIVITIES

CALL WOM- EN? and SHACKLED YET FREE. FOOD AND FESTIVITIES New Survey Shows Ham is the
CALL WOM- EN? and SHACKLED YET FREE. FOOD AND FESTIVITIES New Survey Shows Ham is the

New Survey Shows Ham is the Star of Easter

AND FESTIVITIES New Survey Shows Ham is the Star of Easter Easter conjures up images of

Easter conjures up images of baskets, bunnies, egg hunts and

a holiday favorite - ham. A new

survey by the National Pork Board found that ham is the star of the Easter feast for two-thirds of Americans, yet half of cooks admit they need help picking the perfect ham. “The meat case may seem a bit intimidating, but by learning the basic language and knowing what to look for, select- ing the ham that best fits you and your guests’ tastes and preferenc- es is easy,” says Parade food edi- tor and cookbook author, Sheila Lukins. “This holiday, spice up your centerpiece dish with a new flavor twist to a traditional reci- pe.”

For a meal that adds flare to any holiday, Lukins has developed

a ham recipe that will have your

guests raving year round. Baked Ham with Mojo Sauce topped with Papaya Salsa is an elegant,

Baked Ham with Mojo Sauce
Baked Ham with Mojo Sauce

bone-in ham that brings a unique, savory flavor to the table.

-------------------------

4 cups Mojo Sauce (see recipe)

1 bone-in ready-to-eat ham (about 14 to 16 pounds)

About 16 whole cloves

2 to 4 tablespoons Dijon mus- tard

1/4 cup (packed) brown sugar

1 1/2 cups dry white wine

Papaya Salsa, for serving

Prepare Mojo Sauce ahead of time. Set aside 2 cups of sauce for

serving.

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees

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Fahrenheit. Place ham in shal- low

Mojo Sauce

 

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roasting pan; score a diamond pattern about 1/8-inch thick into the

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16

cloves

garlic,

thinly

sliced

 

lengthwise

 

upper surface of the ham. Insert a clove at the crossed points of the

1 cup finely slivered onion

 

1 teaspoon ground cumin

diamonds.

 

1 cup extra-virgin olive oil

 

Brush the ham with the mustard and sprinkle it with the brown sugar.

2 cup fresh orange juice (from 3

- 4 oranges)

 

Pour 1 cup of the Mojo Sauce over the top. Bake in the center of the

1/2 cup fresh lime juice (from 2

-

3 limes)

 

2

tablespoons white wine vinegar

heated oven for 1 1/2 hour or un- til an instant-read thermometer

Salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste

inserted in the thickest portion (not touching bone) registers

In a medium bowl, combine gar- lic, onion, cumin, salt and pepper. Heat

140

degrees Fahrenheit. (about 15- 18 minutes per pound), basting every

the olive oil in a medium sauce- pan over low heat.

20-30 minutes, alternating with 1/4 cup each white wine and re- maining

Add the onion mixture and cook, stirring, until softened, about 10

minutes.

 

Mojo Sauce.

 

Transfer ham to platter. Let stand 15 minutes; slice and serve with

Add the orange juice, lime juice and vinegar; cook another 5 min- utes for the flavors to blend. Cool to room temperature. Makes 4 cups.

 

the reserved 2 cups of Mojo Sauce and Papaya Salsa. Serves 20 to

25.

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So Pharaoh sent for Joseph, and he was quickly brought from the dungeon.… “I cannot

So Pharaoh sent for Joseph, and he was quickly brought from the dungeon.… “I cannot do it,” Joseph replied to Pharaoh, “but God will give Pharaoh the answer he desires.” – Genesis 41:14-16

Even though some say that it’s the first time that’s most significant, I think that when it comes to faith and trust in God, the most impor- tant one is your next time. Are you ready to put your whole hearted faith and trust in God again? I know I myself have said, “this is the last time I’m praying about that.” But I kept praying anyway.

Why is the “next” time more im- portant than the first? Because it is often sincere desperation that

Loving in the Red Zone

When Is Your Next Time?

by Shewanda Riley

So

Pharaoh

sent

for

Joseph,

and

he

was

quick-

ly

brought

from

the

dungeon.…

“I

cannot

do

it,”

Jo-

seph

replied

to

Pharaoh,

“but

God

will

give

Pha-

raoh

the

answer

he

desires.”

Genesis

41:14-16

accompanies that next time faith that puts us in a position to get the much-prayed for breakthrough. Can you put trust in God after years of disappointments, stinging memories of rejection or feel- ing fooled by God to believe in some- thing that has yet to come to pass?

the past. I also wonder if he ever told God that the next time someone came to him with a dream, they’d have to figure it out for themselves. The bible isn’t clear on what Jo- seph said during those two years.

What if Joseph had said when he was summoned to the pharaoh’s court that next time he just wasn’t “feeling it” because of what had happened two years earlier?

Unlike some of us, Joseph put his trust in God again…and his life changed instantly. The scriptures don’t say if it was an easy thing for him to do. They do say that he was quickly taken from the dun- geon and cleaned probably so fast that he didn’t have a chance to even think about refusing the request.

Joseph’s story shows that when God has promised a breakthrough or a blessing, we have to hold onto to it…no matter what. He ul- timately was able to fulfill God’s purpose not because of him be- lieving the first time…but because he made the choice to believe and trust God the “next” time.

Shewanda Riley is the author of the Essence best-seller “Love Hang- over: Moving From Pain to Purpose after a Relationship ends.” She can be reached at lovehangover@juno. com or by visiting www.shewan- dariley.com.

The story of Joseph shows the pow- er of that “next time” faith. Gene- sis 37 describes how in his youth- ful pride, Joseph described dreams to his older brothers that showed him having authority over them.

Out of jealousy and hatred, Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery. Things just seemed to get worse for Joseph who then ended up in jail. While in jail, he correctly interpret- ed dreams for two members of the pharaoh’s court. He sat languish- ing in jail as one’s promise of get- ting him released went unheeded for two years. Overall, thirteen years elapsed between the time of Joseph’s dream and his release from jail.

I wondered just what thoughts ran through his mind as he sat thinking about those who’d betrayed him in

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Poem Continued

Already, Alright

by V. Helena

2,

with the diamond-clad

ring finger and dressed in periwinkle blue.

I moaned.

Sitting across from me, They look as happy as can be. Transfixed on every word

and bat of the lash. Sweet sounds of laughter, that’s all I’m after! But the great “now and forever after” never seems to come my way.

I cried.

Said my prayers

slipped into bed started to bury me

head…

but got indignant and lamented. “Father, have I not been true to you?” “Did what you asked me to do?” “I’m working 3 ministries, and I desire to please.”

“Desire to know you and walk with you… understand and talk to you.” “I’m in church 4 times a week, and in tongues I do speak.”

“So, tell me now!!” “I want to know!” “Is this the rest of my life!” “Is it my heart that I am to sacrifice!” “Tell me why you have forsaken me! Where is MY mate-to- be?” In the stillness of the night, Your breath filled my nostrils with chamomile. Your warmth filled my heart with soothing balm and tranquility. Your touch filled my soul with peace. And as I rested in your

© 2007 by V. Helena

V. Helena is author of the Christian relationship book entitled, His Love Is Freedom, which is available in stores or online at www.trafford.com and www.amazon.com. She lives in the Washington DC Metropolitan area.

at www.trafford.com and www.amazon.com. She lives in the Washington DC Metropolitan area. TBR Magazine 36 MARCH/

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HEART -TO- HEART WITH DR. LINDSAY MARSH

Story Continued

Completing my first book: The Best Sex of My Life: a guide to purity Pursuing my ministry calling, man- ifesting my destiny and having a relationship with the Holy Spirit.

Your Writer’s Response TBR: Please, tell us about the Worth the Wait Clothing Line? Is
Your Writer’s Response
TBR: Please, tell us about the Worth
the Wait Clothing Line? Is there

a message behind the material?

LM: Worth The Wait is an innova- tive clothing label that promotes sexual purity with contemporary style and urban class. Clothing with a message and a mission, Worth The Wait is committed to high fashion trends and styles, yet upholds the standard of godly taste and integrity. Worth The Wait is sexual purity ex- pression urban wear for males and females. Crossing traditional bar- riers, this fashion label serves cus- tomers in faith-based, non-profit, community, public and private sec- tors. This unconventional clothing label caters tomers in faith-based, non-profit, community, public and private sec- tors. This unconventional clothing label caters to those who desire to be sexually pure, while maintain- ing their own finesse and flavor. We endeavor to revolutionize the tradi- tional image of sexual abstinence, through clothing that is attractive, appealing and stylish. Worth The Wait is not a clothing label boast- ing of one’s perfection, but rather a label exhibiting renewal and resto- ration for all. The company’s aim

is to inspire the true virtuous diva

that God has called all young wom- en to be, and to cultivate the 100% man of valor, that God has called

all men to be. All are welcome to join the Worth The Wait Revolution.

be. All are welcome to join the Worth The Wait Revolution. TBR: This is your chance
be. All are welcome to join the Worth The Wait Revolution. TBR: This is your chance

TBR: This is your chance to “Talk- Back” to teens and young adults. What would you like to say to them about why they’re worth the wait?

LM: Simply put, you deserve God’s best. Why settle for average? Why settle for ‘less than’? Jesus died on the cross, to liberate you to BE all settle for ‘less than’? Jesus died on the cross, to liberate you to BE all that He has called you to BE, to DO all that He has called you to DO, and to HAVE all that He has called you to HAVE! Receive that, and stop living a mediocre life. Walk in the fullness of your desti- ny and purpose. Jesus died to in- crease our ‘worth’ and value. You are ‘worth’ the wait because of the price that was paid for your life!

the wait because of the price that was paid for your life! TBR: What’s the one

TBR: What’s the one thing that you want them to know about you and your writing? I am very honest. I am not perfect. I make the distinc- tion between being a ‘virgin’and liv- ing a ‘sexually pure’ life. ‘Virgin’ is a title. ‘Sexual purity’ is a lifestyle.

‘Virgin’ is a title. ‘Sexual purity’ is a lifestyle. TBR: Where can readers find out more

TBR: Where can readers find out more about you and your ministry?

or

www.myspace.com/worththewaitll-

com.

www.iamworththewait.com,

com. www.iamworththewait.com, TBR: Once again Dr. Marsh, thank you for interviewing with T

TBR: Once again Dr. Marsh, thank you for interviewing with T B R Magazine!

© 2007 The Blessed Room, Inc.

Marsh, thank you for interviewing with T B R Magazine! © 2007 The Blessed Room, Inc.

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If you choose clay pots, remem- ber that clay is porous and water is lost

If you choose clay pots, remem- ber that clay is porous and water is lost from the sides of the container. Plants in clay pots should be moni- tored closely for loss of moisture. Growing Mixture

HOME AND GARDEN

for loss of moisture. Growing Mixture HOME AND GARDEN Guide to C ontainer G ardening by

Guide to Container Gardening

by Patricia R. Barret

Even the smallest patio or porch can boast a crop of vegetables or a garden of flowers in contain- ers. Planter boxes, wooden barrels, hanging baskets and large flower- pots are just some of the containers that can be used. The container gar- dener is limited only by his imagina- tion. Consider the following guide- lines when choosing your container.

Avoid containers with narrow open- ings.

Cheap plastic pots may deterio- rate in UV sunlight and terracotta pots dry out rapidly. Glazed ce- ramic pots are excellent choices but require several drainage holes.

Wooden containers are susceptible to rot. Redwood and cedar are rela- tively rot resistant and can be used without staining or painting. Avoid wood treated with creosote, penta or other toxic compounds since

the vapors can damage the plants. One advantage of wooden contain- ers is that they can be built to sizes and shapes that suit the location. Use containers between 15 and 120 quarts capacity. Small pots re- strict the root area and dry out very quickly. The size and number of plants to be grown will determine the size of the container used. Deep rooted vegetables require deep pots.

Make sure your pot has adequate drainage. Holes should be 1/2 inch across. Line the base of the pot with newspaper to prevent soil loss. In hot climates use light-colored containers to lessen heat absorption and discourage uneven root growth.

Set containers on bricks or blocks to allow free drainage.

Line hanging baskets with sphag- num moss for water retention. Keep baskets away from afternoon sun.

Make sure your planting medium drains rapidly but retains enough moisture to keep the roots evenly moist. Your compost will make an excellent potting soil. Check the re- quirements of the plants you grow to determine whether you will need to add sand. If compost is not available, purchase a good quality potting mix- ture or make your own from equal parts of sand, loamy garden soil, and peat moss. Commercial potting mixes are usually slightly acidic, so you may want to add a little lime.

Most container gardeners have found that a “soilless” potting mix works best. In addition to draining quick- ly, “soilless” mixes are lightweight and free from soil- borne diseases and weed seeds. These mixes can be purchased from garden centers.

When you add your soil to your container, leave a 2 inch space be- tween the top of the soil and the top of the container. You will be able to

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add 1/2 inch or so of mulch later.

Sunlight

Your container garden will need at least five hours of direct sunlight each day, and many plants will ben- efit from even more. As a general rule, leafy vegetables such as cab- bage and lettuce can tolerate the most shade, while root crops such as beets and carrots will need more sun. Fruiting vegetables such as to- matoes and cucumbers need the most sun. The amount of sunlight needed by flowers varies depending on the varieties grown. Check the flower guides for sunlight requirements.

Fertilizer

Since potting mixes drain water rap- idly, fertilizer will be washed out of the container as you water. Lighter mixes will require more frequent fertilizing than heavier mixes. It’s a good idea to use a dilute liquid fertil- izer with every other watering. Liq- uid fish emulsion or liquid seaweed are great plant boosters, but remem- ber that you need to provide your plants with a variety of nutrients. Check the labels on the products in you garden center to be sure that they contain a complete, balanced solution that includes trace elements.

Watering

In an exposed location, container plants loose moisture quickly. Some plants will need to be watered daily, especially during hot, dry weather.

What to Grow?

Annuals

especially during hot, dry weather. What to Grow? Annuals Alyssum Begonia Browallia Coleus Geraniums
especially during hot, dry weather. What to Grow? Annuals Alyssum Begonia Browallia Coleus Geraniums

Alyssum

Begonia

Browallia

Coleus

Geraniums

Impatiens

Latana

Lobelia

Marigolds

Periwinkle

Nasturtiums

Pansies

Petunias

Salvia

Sanvitalia

Snapdragons

Thunbergia

Zinnias

Vegetables

Small salad green such as oak leaf lettuce and mustard cress, or veg- etables such as silver beet, which have a quick maturing period are ideal. You may be able to get sev- eral crops of a quick maturing veg- etable from your container. Cherry tomatoes and other fruiting veg- etables, including peppers or egg- plant can be easily grown in con- tainers, as can root vegetables such as baby carrots, radishes or spring onions. Try planting quick-growing small herbs and leaf lettuces around you larger fruiting vegetables.

Copyright © 2007 Patricia R. Bar- rett, The Sacred Garden, 2001. All rights reserved.

Annuals suitable for containers in- clude:

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FOOD AND FESTIVITIES

18Steps to a Successful Family Reunion

by Kimberly Powell

W ith some creativity and ad- vance planning, you can organize ith some creativity and ad- vance planning, you can organize

a memorable family reunion that

everyone will talk about for years. StepstoaSuccessfulFamilyReunion

1) Which family? It may seem obvious, but the first step for any family reunion
1) Which family? It may seem obvious, but the first step for any family reunion
1) Which family? It may seem obvious, but the first step for any family reunion

1) Which family? It may

seem obvious, but the first step for any family reunion is to decide who

is family. Which side of the fam-

ily are you inviting? Do you want to include only close relatives or all descendants of Great Grandpa Jones (or other common ancestor)? Are you inviting only direct-line relatives (parents, grandparents, grandkids) or do you plan to in- clude cousins, second cousins, or third cousins, twice removed? Just remember, every step back on the ancestral tree adds a ton of new po- tential attendees. Know your limits.

2) Create a guest list. Start by assembling a list of
2)
Create
a
guest
list.
Start
by
assembling
a
list
of
family members, including spouses, partners and children. 3) Survey attendees. If
family
members,
including
spouses,
partners
and
children.
3)
Survey
attendees. If

you’re planning to include a lot of people in your family reunion, con- sider sending out a survey (by post- al mail and/or email) to let people know that a reunion is in the works. This will help you gauge interest and preferences, and ask for help with the planning. Include possible dates, proposed reunion type, and a general location (discussing possible costs early on can discourage a pos- itive response), and politely ask for a timely response to your questions. Add the names of interested rela- tives who return the survey to your reunion list for future mailings, and/ or keep them up-to-date on reunion plans via a family reunion Web site.

up-to-date on reunion plans via a family reunion Web site. 4) Form a reunion com- mittee.
up-to-date on reunion plans via a family reunion Web site. 4) Form a reunion com- mittee.
up-to-date on reunion plans via a family reunion Web site. 4) Form a reunion com- mittee.

4) Form a reunion com-

mittee. Unless this is a get-to- gether of five sisters at Aunt Mag- gie’s house, a reunion committee is almost essential to planning a smooth, successful family reunion. Put someone in charge of each ma- jor aspect of the reunion - location, social events, budget, mailings, re- cord-keeping, etc. Why do all the work yourself if you don’t have to?

etc. Why do all the work yourself if you don’t have to? 5) Select the date(s).
etc. Why do all the work yourself if you don’t have to? 5) Select the date(s).
etc. Why do all the work yourself if you don’t have to? 5) Select the date(s).

5) Select the date(s). It’s

not much of a reunion if no one can attend. Whether you plan your fam- ily reunion to coincide with a family milestone or special day, summer vacation, or a holiday, it helps to poll family members (see step 3) to avoid time and date conflicts. Since family reunions can encompass ev- erything from an afternoon barbecue

to a large affair lasting three or more

days, you’ll also need to determine how long you plan to get together.

A good rule of thumb - the farther

people have to travel to reach the reunion location, the longer the re- union should last. Most importantly, remember that you won’t be able to accommodate everyone. Choose your final date(s) based on what’s best for the majority of attendees.

based on what’s best for the majority of attendees. 6) Pick a location. Aim for a
based on what’s best for the majority of attendees. 6) Pick a location. Aim for a
based on what’s best for the majority of attendees. 6) Pick a location. Aim for a

6) Pick a location. Aim for a

family reunion location that is most accessible and affordable to the ma-

jority of people you want to attend.

If family members are clustered in

one area, then select a reunion lo- cation that’s nearby. If everyone’s scattered, then choose a central lo- cation to help cut down on travel expenses for far-flung relatives.

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Feeding a large group of people with different tastes is perhaps one of the trickiest

Feeding a large group of people with different tastes is perhaps one of the trickiest parts of planning a reunion. Make it easy on yourself by selecting a menu that relates to your theme, or perhaps one that celebrates your family’s heritage. Organize a group of family members to prepare the food for the family reunion or, if you have a large group and your budget allows, find a caterer or restaurant to do at least part of the work for you. A tasty menu makes for an unforgettable family reunion.

you. A tasty menu makes for an unforgettable family reunion. 7) Develop a budget. This will
you. A tasty menu makes for an unforgettable family reunion. 7) Develop a budget. This will

7) Develop a budget. This will

determine the scale of the food, deco- rations, accommodations and activi- ties for your family reunion. You can choose to have families pay for their own overnight accommodations, bring a covered dish, etc., but unless you have another source of income, you’ll also need to set a per-family registration fee to help with deco- ration, activity and location costs.

fee to help with deco- ration, activity and location costs. 8) Reserve a reunion site. Once
fee to help with deco- ration, activity and location costs. 8) Reserve a reunion site. Once
fee to help with deco- ration, activity and location costs. 8) Reserve a reunion site. Once

8) Reserve a reunion site.

Once you’ve chosen a location and set a date, it’s time to select a site for the reunion. “Going home” is a big draw for family reunions, so you may want to consider the old fam- ily homestead or other historic site connected to your family’s past. De- pending on the size of the reunion, you may be able to find a family member who will volunteer to have it at their home. For larger reunions, parks, hotels, restaurants and com- munity halls are a good place to start. If you’re planning a multi-day re- union, then consider a resort location where people can combine reunion activities with a family vacation.

can combine reunion activities with a family vacation. 9) What about a theme? Creating a theme
can combine reunion activities with a family vacation. 9) What about a theme? Creating a theme
can combine reunion activities with a family vacation. 9) What about a theme? Creating a theme
can combine reunion activities with a family vacation. 9) What about a theme? Creating a theme

9) What about a theme?

Creating a theme for a family re- union is a great way to interest peo- ple and make them more likely to at- tend. It also makes things more fun when it comes to being imaginative with food, games, activities, invita- tions and just about every other as- pect of the reunion. Family history themes are especially popular, as are reunions which celebrate a very special family member’s birthday or anniversary, or the family’s cul- tural heritage (i.e. Hawaiian luau).

or the family’s cul- tural heritage (i.e. Hawaiian luau). 10) Determine the menu. 11) Plan social
or the family’s cul- tural heritage (i.e. Hawaiian luau). 10) Determine the menu. 11) Plan social
or the family’s cul- tural heritage (i.e. Hawaiian luau). 10) Determine the menu. 11) Plan social
or the family’s cul- tural heritage (i.e. Hawaiian luau). 10) Determine the menu. 11) Plan social

10) Determine the menu.

tural heritage (i.e. Hawaiian luau). 10) Determine the menu. 11) Plan social activities. You don’t need

11) Plan social activities.

You don’t need to occupy everyone allthetime,butplannedactivitiesand ice-breakers at your family reunion will provide an easy way for people who do not know each other well to comfortable spend time together. Include activities that will ap- peal to all ages and further fam- ily knowledge of shared heritage. You may also want to award priz- es for special distinctions such as oldest family member or lon- gest distance traveled to attend.

family member or lon- gest distance traveled to attend. 12) Set the stage. You’ve got a
family member or lon- gest distance traveled to attend. 12) Set the stage. You’ve got a

12) Set the stage. You’ve got

a bunch of people, now what do you plan to do with them? It’s time now to make arrangements for tents (if an outside reunion), chairs, park-

ing decorations, programs, signs, t-

shirts,goodiebagsandotherreunion-

day requirements. This is the time to consult a family reunion checklist!

This is the time to consult a family reunion checklist! 13) Say cheese! While many family
This is the time to consult a family reunion checklist! 13) Say cheese! While many family
This is the time to consult a family reunion checklist! 13) Say cheese! While many family

13) Say cheese! While many

family members will no doubt bring their own cameras, it helps to also make plans to record the overall event. Whether you designate a spe- cific relative as the official reunion photographer, or hire a professional photographer to take photos or vid-

eos, you should prepare a list of the people and events that you want recorded. For spontaneous “mo- ments,” purchase a dozen dispos- able cameras and hand them out to volunteer guests. Don’t forget to collect them at the end of the day!

Don’t forget to collect them at the end of the day! 14) Invite the guests. Once

14) Invite the guests. Once

you have most of your plans in place, it’s time to invite the guests by mail, email and/or phone. You’ll want to do this way in advance to make sure and give everyone time to get it on their calendar. If you’re charging admission fees, mention this in the invitation and set an advance dead- line by which at least a percentage of the ticket price is required (un- less you’re wealthy enough to cov- er all of the costs yourself and can wait until the actual reunion for re- imbursement). Tickets purchased in advance also means people will be less likely to cancel at the last mo- ment! This is also a good opportu- nity to ask people, even if they can’t attend the reunion, to provide family trees, photos, collectibles and stories to share with other family members.

collectibles and stories to share with other family members. 15) Fund the extras. If you don’t

15) Fund the extras. If you

don’t want to charge admission fees for your reunion, then you’ll need to plan for a little fund raising. Even if you do collect admissions, fund raising can provide money for some fancy “extras.” Creative ways for raising money include holding an auction or raffle at the reunion or making and selling family hats, t-shirts, books or reunion videos.

and selling family hats, t-shirts, books or reunion videos. 16) Print up a program. Create a
and selling family hats, t-shirts, books or reunion videos. 16) Print up a program. Create a
and selling family hats, t-shirts, books or reunion videos. 16) Print up a program. Create a

16) Print up a program.

t-shirts, books or reunion videos. 16) Print up a program. Create a program that outlines the

Create a program that outlines the lineup of scheduled reunion events to provide to family members as

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secret

beauty

weapons!

they arrive for the reunion. You may also want to send this out via email or your reunion Web site in advance of the reunion as well. This will help serve as a reminder to people of activities which may require they bring something with them, such as

a
a

photo wall or family tree chart.

with them, such as a photo wall or family tree chart. 17) Decorate for the big
with them, such as a photo wall or family tree chart. 17) Decorate for the big

17) Decorate for the big day.

The big day is almost here and now it’s time to make sure it goes smooth- ly. Create catchy, easy-to-ready

signs to point arriving guests to reg- istration, parking, and important lo- cations such as bathrooms. Purchase or make a guest book to collect sig- natures, addresses, and other impor- tant information, as well as serve as

a permanent record of the reunion.

Purchase pre-made name badges, or print your own, to facilitate mix- ing and mingling between unac- quainted family members. Family tree wall charts are always a big hit as reunion attendees always want to know where they fit in to the family. Framed photos or printed posters of common ancestors or past fam- ily reunions are also popular. And,

if you want to know what everyone

thought of all your reunion plan- ning, print up some evaluation forms for people to fill out as they leave.

some evaluation forms for people to fill out as they leave. 18) Keep the fun going.

18) Keep the fun going. Des-

ignate a volunteer or volunteers to create and send out a post-reunion newsletter with stories, photos and news items from the reunion. If you collected family information, send along an updated genealogy chart as well. This is a great way to get peo- ple excited about the next reunion, as well as include less fortunate family members who were not able to attend

©2007 by Kimberly Powell a pro- fessional genealogist, Internet consultant, Web developer, and proud mother of three children.

BEAUTY AND FASHION with Jackie O’ Neal

of three children. BEAUTY AND FASHION with Jackie O’ Neal Gettheinsider’s Nada Guirgis Man- ley’s book
Gettheinsider’s Nada Guirgis Man- ley’s book Secrets of the Beau- ty Insiders (SourceBooks Inc., 2006),
Gettheinsider’s
Nada Guirgis Man-
ley’s book Secrets of the Beau-
ty Insiders (SourceBooks Inc.,
2006), offers the reader expertise
drawn from the fonts of over 75
renowned beauty experts Manley
worked with as a beauty editor over
a span of twelve years.

The book’s eleven chapters struc- tured in an eye-catching way to get the reader’s attention on several intriguing elements:

•Insider information from the beau- ty bunch: A detailed elaboration on tips, techniques and ideas by over 75 beauty experts. Get ready to rise

high on your beauty learning curve!

•The Buzz from the beauty edi- tor: Manley offers product rec- ommendations and elucidation on several popular beauty issues all women can relate to including the attainment of flawless, glow- ing skin and a manicure to die for!

What the Pros Pick: You’ll be dazzled by an assortment of prod- uct selections by industry experts .

My favorite tip drawn from Na- da’s own expertise and years of practice, related to the use of for a natural look. I consider her advice on the issue, transformational. As a super-busy, on the go, freelance

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writer, college professor, wife, mother and minister, I need to look my best, but I’d
writer, college professor, wife, mother and minister, I need to look my best, but I’d

writer, college professor, wife, mother and minister, I need to look my best, but I’d rather not invest half my day doing so! Nada writes:

“The moment you step out of the shower, while your skin is still moist, apply concealer just where you need it, over your skin care products. By the time you’re ready to tackle your make-up, your concealer will have sunk in and you’ll be left with nothing but natural coverage.”

Thanks, Nada! I’m now a wom- an with flawless skin- and very little foundation as a result of learning some straight out of the shower beauty secrets only the pros in high places are privy to.

Nada’s book is replete with advice on just about everything connected to looking and feeling great and it will save you money and hours of research. The added bonus, of course, is gaining more confidence in make-up application, skin, body, hair care and all around pampering.

up taught me the benefits of and

I have not been without a tube

since!

She

writes:

“I

love them

when I

want

to

seem as

if

I’m

wearing

no

make-up

at

all.”

Nada writes with passion, clarity in

a casual style as if talking to her best friend. You really get the sense Nada

is your own beauty coach with the

reader’s best interests at heart. Stay tuned for a broadcast on NBBTA

Radio featuring an interview with Nada to discuss her book, events and insights on beauty. We were sched- uled to do the interview on Feb. 7th, but due to a death in my family, it was cancelled. We will announce the new date and hope you will join us! For more information, visit: http:// www.nadamanley.com

Jackie

O’

Neal

freelance

writer

is

and

a

Christian

author

of

“Giving Hearts”. Visit her web-

page:http://creativetouchmar-

ket.networkingmothers.com and http://www.bellaonline.com/site/ charity.

Chapter Six, Luscious Lip Make-

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STYLE AND BEAUTY

FASHION

TRENDS

FOR

STYLE AND BEAUTY FASHION TRENDS FOR SPRING 2007 by Lindsay Banecker W ith New York’s Fashion

SPRING 2007

by Lindsay Banecker

With New York’s Fashion Week behind us, it’s time for an over- view of what was put out on the run- way and how to translate high-class fashion into college campus chic.

The starting point this year is hard to find due to the variety of trends being displayed and discussed. This year is borderline anti-trend, but there is a decent list of spring staples.

The most talked about and antici- pated look for the spring is the white dress. Every designer had a version of this clean, ultra-feminine article of clothing and each one was stun- ning. Lengths and styles varied.

Black and white prints are just as sophisticated as the plain white dress. There are no rules to prints and patterns if they stay with- in black and white boundaries.

There was also plenty of color on the runways, with this year’s top favorite being yellow. Before get- ting excited, mustard yellow has not made its comeback. Softer shades of yellow contributed to the overall feminine feel of Fash- ion Week. The second color on

overall feminine feel of Fash- ion Week. The second color on the list is blue and

the list is blue and the shades can range from light to royal to navy.

If neither of these colors work, don’t worry. There is an obvious vari- ety of color trends and designers showed them all off. Bright colors define spring. There are no guide- lines, but wear colors responsibly. There is no excuse for neon green.

Spring dresses may not be the dominate fashion on campus, but do not rule them out. Basic fab- rics can make dresses into casual attire. Shirt dresses with belts are still popular and can be worn with tight-fitting jeans or pants. Again, lengths can vary. To show off legs, go shorter and wear wedges. Going

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below the knee will create a more classic look. A pair of flats will also

As

for

the

shoes,

ballet

flats

help make the look more casual.

and

wedges

made

a

comeback

and

no

one

should

complain.

Floral patterns and prints are an- other spring staple. They are gor- geous in black and white, but also thrive in bright colors. Bold prints give a dress or skirt an edgier feel. Flowers also show up on hems.

With so many options and ideas, there is an opportunity for every- one to make their own fashion statement. Take the basic ideas and form them into what fits best.

Since most students do not show up to class in dresses, the next best trend is one that has been dubbed the name, Sporty Chic. Long, fit- ted hoodies with big pockets are comfortable and cute. This is where colors or patterns are a must. Three quarter sleeves can help with the transition to warmer days.

© 2007 Lindsay Banecker

Layers will also help with the tran- sition. Having survived the past few seasons, they are still going strong. Long tees help lengthen the torso and slim down the figure. They also give you the opportu- nity to wear blazers, hoodies, and jackets that are shorter in length.

The runway fashions that will have a tough time making their way into the real world include bubble skirts, me- tallic fabrics and extra baggy pants. Metallics that were used for futuris- tic looks failed. When used in a more subtle way, metallics can work. Gold and silver sandals can compliment an outfit without being overbearing.

Accessories can’t be forgotten. Bangle bracelets can add a mod- ern touch to most outfits. Cocktail rings with large stones add class. Rose broaches go along with the popular floral trend. Hard head- bands add a sophisticated feel. The idea is to add a simple touch to out- fits. Try not to over accessorize, as simple will always be chic.

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PEOPLE AND PLACES

PEOPLE AND PLACES The Garden House in Cusco, Peru The luxury boutique hotel is a peace-

The Garden House in Cusco, Peru

The luxury boutique hotel is a peace- ful respite from Cusco.
The luxury boutique hotel is a peace-
ful respite from Cusco.

Peru has named Cusco the “Tourist Capital of Peru,” and the ancient city has also been named both the “Cultural Heritage of Humanity” (UNESCO), and the “Cultural Heritage of the World” (7th Convention of Mayors from Great Worldwide Cities). It’s clear, then, that a vacation here will not be remote or off the beaten path. In fact, during high travel season, Cusco is as crowded with tourists as are major metropolitan areas of the world.

Someone who vacations in Peru, likely plans to experi- ence high points of the Inca Empire like Machu Picchu, The Sacred Valley, and other highlights around Cusco. This has meant staying in hotels in the middle of Cus- co, which as a city is crowded, filled with tourists, and noisy. Booking a hotel outside of Cusco used to mean sacrificing luxury and convenience for relative quiet, but no longer. The Garden House is a new contender into the world of luxury class hotels in and around Cusco. It’s a ten minute drive from Cusco: The Garden House is just far enough away from the crowds to feel like a peaceful respite, but close enough to not feel isolated.

The Garden House is not a large hotel; with just 7 rooms, it is a luxury boutique hotel. It’s a great hotel for small groups. The bedrooms all open up a large patio, where manyguestschoosetohavetheirbreakfastseachmorning. The relatively lower elevation just ten minutes away, helps travelers acclimate to Cusco’s thinner air. The elevated library has a sweeping view of Cus

Cusco is a busy tourist town, and the large luxury hotels get crowded and noisy.
Cusco is a busy tourist town, and the large luxury hotels
get crowded and noisy. The Garden House is a small ho-
tel just outside of Cusco, and a perfect, relaxing escape.

BY JENNIFER W. MINER

co, and quiet corners in which to curl up and read. The library also has WiFi. The library, like the rest of the hotel, is serene and peaceful. At The Garden House, there are always people to help with arranging trips, whether they be to Machu Pic- chu, The Sacred Valley, or within Cusco itself. Other possibilities that the staff are happy to plan include hikes, bike tours, horseback rides, and river rafting. Families appreciate the reliable and friendly on- site child care. The level of service and care at this hotel rivals that of any luxury hotel in the world. The hotel isn’t called The Garden House for nothing; it features the largest rose garden in all of Cusco, beau- tifully and lovingly maintained by one of the owners. In Spring, the scent of roses in the air is intoxicating. Cusco is a very popular travel destination for tour- ists interested in Peru’s Inca Empire history. History buffs, adventure travelers and and luxury travel fans all flock to Cusco. The Garden House is the perfect hotel in which to take a break from the tourists and crowds.

© Jennifer W. Miner

JenniferMinerisafreelancetravelandluxurywriterwith an extensive background in psychology and counseling, holding two Masters degrees from Columbia University.

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Business, Career and Finances

Becoming Rich from the Inside Out!

by

Farrah

Gray

with

Fran

Harris

ich from the Inside O ut! by Farrah Gray with Fran Harris S it up straight.

Sit up straight. Brush

your teeth. Don’t talk to strang-

ers. Smile. Do unto others. The list goes on and on. Since we took our first breath people have been telling us what to do, haven’t they? They meant well, but in the grand scheme of things, most of the advice people gave us growing up wasn’t very useful. That’s why I have a saying in my office: “Less is better -- if less is good to begin with.” I don’t pre- tend to have all the answers, but I know what I know. In business you

Farrah Gray talks about the best advice he received on his

way to becoming a millionaire in an excerpt from ‘Reallionaire.’

have to dot your I’s, cross your T’s, admit your mistakes and say thank you if you want to get anywhere. Nobody wants to do business with someone who pays no attention to detail and isn’t appreciative.

Stakeholders invest in people first and the idea second, as I’ve said. This premise is sometimes lost on entrepreneurs seeking seed capi- tal. People invest in people based on their perceived worthiness. I have seen wealthy individuals walk past a homeless person hold- ing out a cup. Why? Because they

felt that nobody should be given anything -- and even more impor- tantly, they didn’t perceive that they’d be getting value in return

Our world is caught up in the “you wash my hands, I’ll wash yours” syndrome. Some people feel it’s foolish to give unless you’re get- ting something in return. That’s not true giving. That’s conditional giving. I learned early in my life that the real gift is in the giving. Mom and Grandma taught me that.

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My extensive travels resulted in many fortuitous meetings with business executives. I was suddenly

thrust into a world known only to the elite. I was picked up by limousines, taken to United Red Carpet, Amer- ican’s Admiralty or Delta’s Crown Room clubs, comfortable private lounges complete with VIP check- in and amenities. I must have been

a sight, walking leisurely to my gate

in a suit and tie and carrying a Wall Street Journal or a Japanese self- help book. I was also interesting fodder for the other first-class pas- sengers. A man once told me on the way to New York, “Can’t say I see many passengers like you up here.”

I remembered wondering what he

meant by that. Was he referring to my age, race or both? Eventually I was somewhat adopted by the flight attendants. They became my sur- rogate airline mothers who would look after me by waiting with me at the gate until the host sponsor rep- resentative met me. They would call the hotel to make sure I was checked in properly. Often, after the plane crew checked into their hotel rooms for their overnight stay, they would appear in my audience in uniform.

Life was good. I was seeing the world, meeting myriad people from all walks of life and more good news was just around the corner. I became

fond of the nightly business report on the local PBS stationsin the hotel rooms. This heightened my inter- est in the stock market, investing, venture capital and technology. But mostly I started studying the meals

I was served on the planes. I got the

strong urge to try my hand at pre- paring some of the unique meals I was served in-flight and in the ho- tel. I made myself feel at home even when I was on the road. Instead of

maid service I wanted to help clean the dishes and take the trash out, and I asked the room service atten- dants about the ingredients in the meals they delivered to me. I also learned the importance of physi- cal and mental fitness on the road, where it can sometimes be lonely. In the span of a few years, my life had done a complete 360. I didn’t real- ize it at the time, but I was becom- ing my mother. I know you’re more

accustomed to hearing women say- ing that about their moms, but it was true. I was becoming Mom. I was spending more time in the air than I was at home with my family. And

if I wasn’t on a plane, I was on the

telephone making a deal. I had be- come accustomed to a certain life- style, but my travels left little time for me to bond with my family, who

were all doing their own things.

Andre was setting up in Las Vegas, which demanded a lot of his time be- cause he had to work within several time zones in the U.K. or Japan. Kiki had started studying to become a cer- tified fitness trainer. My brother Jon- athan had gone to Chicago, and Alex was still in Phoenix with Grandma.

Slowly but surely Mom gained her strength back. I sensed she would never be able to run as hard and

fast as she used to. She was like

a former heavyweight boxer. She

still had that fire in her belly, which meant you always had to keep a watchful eye on her. You just knew that one day she’d walk into the room and announce her comeback, whether it compromised her health

or not. Even on my travels, I called

her several times a day. I was en- joying my newfound freedom and earning power, but I missed my family. What kept me going was a liberal adaptation of an Aesop fable.

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It seems that a fox spotted a rab-

bit and started chasing him around a field. The fox did everything in his power to track the rabbit but could never seem to catch him. The fox barked, thinking he could scare the rabbit into submission. He growled, thinking that maybe the rabbit would surrender. Finally, the rabbit was gone. Two people were watching the entire pursuit. One of

the men shook his head in wonder. Then he said to his friend, “I wonder why the fox didn’t catch him?” His friend looked out into the distance

as the rabbit disappeared from sight.

“The fox,” he said, “was chasing and running for fun. The rabbit was running for his life.” I’m the rab- bit in this fable. I started running to provide for the health and financial

well-being of my family at thirteen years old. I was running for my life.