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The end of a relationship may produce


feelings similar to depression: loss of
appetite, disruptive sleep, reduced energy
levels. It is important to not allow yourself to
dwell on these negative thoughts and
feelings. A way to avoid getting stuck in a
negativity trap is to re-frame your ex-
relationship in positive terms.
Below is a list of common relationship
problems and how you can work to overcome
them.
1. Poor communication
Talking to your partner in an intrusive or
demanding way can cause distress and
tension. Good communication is important
and luckily it is a skill you can learn. Arrange
a time to talk to your partner with no
distractions (TV, Radio, Internet), allow your
partner to speak without any interruptions,
and try to speak in encouraging and positive
ways rather than put your partner down.
Remember to address the positive and
negative aspects of the relationship.

2. Poor problem-solving skills
You can learn to problem solve effectively.
Good problem solving involves identifying the
cause of a relationship issue and then
working on an appropriate solution to resolve
it. You can start by taking a large problem and
separate it down into smaller ones so you can
deal with them each from most to least
important. With your partner discuss all
possible options and strategies before
choosing a solution. It's important to work
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through this process with your partner so you
are sharing the process. Again, focus on
positives and discuss how you worked things
out so you know for next time.

3. Inadequate partner support
This is about giving and receiving. If you have
unrealistic expectations and demands and
you rely on your partner to meet all your
support needs, then your partner may feel
overwhelmed with pressure. To avoid this
situation, try to be realistic about the support
you need. Know what you want and need and
be realistic about whether or not your partner
can provide for all your needs. Remember to
forgive and be patient. Give your partner a
chance and check your partner understands
you and you understand them.

4. Lack of quality time together

Spend time together engaging in activities
you both enjoy and try to think of more things
you can do together that you both enjoy.

Reference: psychology.org.au
The end of a relationship is not necessarily the end of the world. Although a breakup can be
unbearably sad as you are working your way through it, It is important to remember that as one
door closes, another opens.
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