10 Tips To Create Confidence While Dealing with Workplace Bullying

Some people (most) would rather stick a fork in their eye than address something very difficult such as how to handle a workplace bully. Sometimes it can seem impossible and hope fades. Here's What Happens: • • • • • The bully upsets you. There is increased stress, perhaps loss of productivity and an increase of personal self-doubt causing frustration for you. You start to search out what to do' and it seems difficult, overwhelming or challenging. You feel 'this is too big to handle'. You start to ignore, minimi!e or get distracted about the bullying problem. You feel that 'this is too big to handle' and you start to develop e"cuses as to why you are unable, incapable or not e#uipped to move through the situation.

Procrastination refers to the counterproductive deferment of actions or tasks to a later time. $t s a mechanism for coping with an"iety associated with starting or completing a task or decision. %. The rela"ed type of procrastinators view their responsibilities negatively and avoid them by directing energy into other tasks. $t is a form of denial or cover-up& therefore, typically no help is being sought. 'urthermore, they are also unable to defer gratification. They avoid situations that would cause displeasure, indulging instead in more en(oyable activities. )If you have to swallow two frogs, swallow the biggest one first*) +. Tense-afraid procrastinators usually feel overwhelmed with pressure, unrealistic about time, uncertain about goals, and many other negative feelings. They feel a sense of malaise. 'eeling that they lack the ability or focus to successfully complete a task, they tell themselves "I need to unwind and relax. It's better to take it easy for the afternoon, and start anew later". Their 'relaxing' is often temporary and ineffective, and leads to more stress as time runs out, deadlines approach and the person feels increasingly guilty and apprehensive. This behavior becomes a cycle of failure and delay, as plans and goals are put off and re-scheduled. Since they are uncertain a out their goals, they often feel awkward with people who appear confident and goal-oriented, which can lead to depression. They withdraw from social life, avoiding contact even with close friends. "Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week." ,. -nce you decide the overall task you need to complete, (ie) address the bully, keep a log (page .. in /ully 'ree at 0ork) then, stop thinking about the /$1 task and break it down into step-by-step smaller tasks. /ecoming overwhelmed can be an denial techni#ue. "I'm going to stop putting things off, starting tomorrow!" -Sam 2evenson

and in a ting...<avid 6llen ......). "The stress people feel doesn't ome from having too mu h to do.." 0illiam :ames .3. -nce you agree with yourself. 9eeping your commitment to yourself to deal with this is another step in confidence building..... "We are given one life and the de ision is ours whether to wait for ir umstan es to make up our mind. 4hoose either by priority or by desire.1eneral -mar /radley C. 6. /efore you end..Aearl S." 5. that in itself is a hoi e. /uck B.. ask yourself the same #uestion again and renew another time frame with yourself either at that moment or for a specific time later. don't think that waiting will make it smaller.... 6sk yourself.." " :.. #our mind must know it has got to get down to work.. "When there is a hill to limb.. Try writing them a che#ue and if you do your task...8... or whether to a t... 'orget about everything else other than working hard for this select period of time... 1etting one small achievement under your belt moves you in the right direction.... #ou a omplish nothing if you do that." .. )4an $ work on this task without being distracted for % hour7) (The answer is yes* $n fact try it first for %5 minutes.. tell an accountability (and encouragement) partner." ... you get your che#ue back* "When you have to make a hoi e and don't make it. decide the e"act task you will work on first in the ne"t time period instead of waiting for the feeling to emerge' to start working again....... then . Spender .. to live. "!ever put off tomorrow what you an do today.. It omes from not finishing what they started. "I don't wait for moods... !or "ou This Week • • Yes* $ d like to order #Bully !ree at Work# on <=<* 4lick here to order 1et your '>?? copy of #The Top $% Tips "ou &eed To 'now ( out Workplace Bullying#* 4lick here to download )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) *et's &ot Procrastinate: Back to the Tips+ @.. 1et a stopwatch or an accountability person if it will help....." .... 'ocus on a small component of the task that you know you can achieve. 6t the end of the time period........

and reasons simply don't ount. <elay is the deadliest form of denial.ay To /ain Back Control !ro0 the Bully+ ." . There will always be reasons to wait " The truth is. 0hat one thing could you do in the ne"t hour to move you in the right direction7 "Waiting is a trap.ne-*iners "ou Can .>obert 6nthony De"t week be sure to readE 10 . reasons and results. there are only two things in life.%8.