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“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.” – Voltaire “We make our world significant by the courage of our questions and by the depth of our answers.” – Carl Sagan “The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” – Ayn Rand As I turn 35 and think of my life so far and what’s to come, I realize how much I’m shaped by the questions I ask. I’ve always been insatiably curious. These are the 35 questions that have made the biggest impact on my life. Self-Awareness What are you pretending not to know? This was perhaps the most powerful question I was ever asked (by my best friend @bengleib). All possibilities open up when we stop deceiving ourselves. Why don’t you do the things you know you should be doing? Life isn’t about figuring out what to do. The real challenge is (not so) simply doing the things we know we should be doing. What are your values and are you being true to them? Write down the 3 most important aspects of each of these areas: family, romantic relationships, friends, work, health, sex and spirituality. These are your values. When we don’t act congruently with what we value, symptoms of discomfort arise. In what ways are you being perceived, that you’re not aware of? Perception is reality. Make sure, for better or worse, you know what people really think of you. (TIP: Watch “How to Persuade People”)
We’re all dying. that you don’t know?It’s always the obstacles that we don’t even see coming that are the biggest challenges in life. Get in the habit of asking people that have been there and done it before for guidance. What did I learn today? Who did I love? What made me laugh? I try and ask myself these 3 questions at the end of each day. loved a good person and got to laugh heartily. looking back on your own life. incremental improvement is the secret to achieving the greatest of feats. But most actions we take are meant to elicit an emotion in the now. And when you get pushback to these questions. it was a day worth having and remembering. you’ll never get there – Lewis Carroll. if you want what you have. What can you do today to improve? Consistent. Life is a balance of knowing when to enjoy the moment vs. (TIP: Read “The Last Lecture” and “Tuesdays with Morrie”) Should you be focused on today or tomorrow? Savor the present but don’t forget your future. Question why something can’t be done. Regardless of anything else that happens. Perspective If you weren’t scared what would you do?Use the rocking chair test. We’re happier striving for our goals when we let ourselves feel that which we want to feel when our outcome is achieved. yet far off enough to achieve almost anything. They’re close enough to grasp for. Business / Entrepreneurship What’s your WHY? If you have a big enough WHY you’ll always figure out the What and the How. . you’ll always use the What and the How as an excuse for not doing that thing you said you were going to do. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves of this to enjoy living. when to plant seeds for tomorrow’s harvest. What would your 90-year-old self. (TIP: Watch “Steve Job’s Vision of the World”) What/Who did you make better today? The way to measure your worth may just be to give more than you take. Influence / Achievement Why not? What would happen if…? Don’t accept that things just are the way they are. Write down 5-year goals. If you don’t have a BIG WHY. What do you want your life to be in 5 years? If you don’t know where you’re going. reframe the negative answers with possibilities. advise you to do in the moment? If you were dying. if you learned something new. Happiness / Peace of Mind Are your “shoulds” getting in the way of your happiness? The desires of our ego are often in conflict with the emotions of our heart. would you worry about this? We so easily lose perspective on what takes up our energy and focus. Asking what/who you made better each day is a simple litmus test we can all measure ourselves by. If you achieved all of your life’s goals how would you feel? How can you feel that along the way? The discipline of delayed gratification is one of the most powerful habits of successful individuals.What don’t you know. and hold yourself accountable for completing this above all other Stuff To Do. (Watch “What’s Your Why”) What’s the one most important thing to get done today/ this week/month? Write this down on a Post-it note at the beginning of each day/week. You’ll always have what you want.
This may be the best interview question I’ve ever heard. when asked in earnest.GetSatisfaction). wisdom and swagger of your role model. do it. Reach out to a person in a position and industry you admire. The most important aspect of business is still to always get it done in person. What will I only know about you after we’ve worked together for a year? This interview question comes from the awesome Wendy Lea (CEO. and you’ll often find even the most unchartered of situations more navigable. (Watch “Fireside Chat with Wendy Lea” and check out my previous 8 Awesome Interview Questions) What would get you interested in our product/service? Selling is the art of asking good questions. and matching your value to people’s needs. almost nobody will turn down. Now share yours. It creates ownership to make sure the goals will be achieved. What are the questions that made the biggest difference in your life? Comments encouraged. Whenever there is an opportunity cost. What’s the potential upside? What’s the effort involved? What’s the likelihood of success? What’s the strategic value? This is the framework I came up with 3 years ago on “How to Make the Right Business Decisions”. etc. If we could wave a magic wand and do anything together. money. we often discover new pathways of possibility. and ask them if you can take them to coffee and hear about how they got there. . How would your role models act and carry themselves? Act as if. (Watch “The 5 Step Sales Process”) Catch-All What else? Such a simple but powerful question with so may applications. talent. Sometimes when answers are difficult to come by. In group settings we too often we find ourselves having completely different conversations. Can you get it done now? If something is important or urgent and you can get it done now. When can we meet? We’re often this one question away from engaging with someone who can open up limitless avenues of possibility. it’s helpful to question if we’re solving for the right problem. listening.) to achieve those goals. what would that look like? I use this question all the time with potential business partners. Act as if you have the experience. Sales is very easy when others explain what they want and need from you.What questions must you consider before starting a business? See my list by watching “The 10 Questions” or reading the document. What are we talking about? What problem are we solving? I try to start off every meeting by putting this on the whiteboard. (TIP: Read “Getting Things Done” from the productivity guru David Allen) What do you need to make it happen? This is one of my favorite questions to ask as a manager. (TIP: Read “Business Development Advice”) Will you be my mentor? It’s one question that. And it creates a shared responsibility to provide the resources required (time. By removing the perceived constraints that bind us and focusing on mutually desired outcomes. I have my team go through this exercise.
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