How to Be Mature Finding yourself acting young or childish? Do you want to make a change to your lifestyle?

If so, this article is for you. Steps Tone down your fashions. First impressions do count. • You can still wear brightly colored clothes, but look at the fit and the style. • Wear more tailored clothing, more put together. Use manners. Try to be courteous without being stuffy or inflexible. When meeting new people, shake their hand. A solid grip, but not too hard, two pumps of the hand and let go. Don't look at your hands; look them in the eye. Repeat their name and make an effort to remember it. • Avoid interrupting people during conversation; people find this irritating. • Don't play with things, look away, or fidget. Have a genuine good attitude and a goodwill towards others. • Goodwill towards others is a sign of maturity because it shows that you have recognized that "we are all in this together." No matter what makes us different, there is more that makes us the same. • Give people the benefit of the doubt. • Be the "bigger person." If someone is rude to you, try not to return the "favor." If you can let it go, don't reply; silence is a good judge. If you can't let it go, simply tell the person that their comment was rude. Have confidence in yourself and speak from your heart. • Voice your thoughts honestly. • Do not apologize for bits of quirkiness, oddities, or weirdness that you may have. They are part of who you are; not everyone can be the same. Think before you speak. If you can't think of anything to say, or don't have anything nice to say, then say nothing. "Be slow to anger". People that lose temper and/or self-control easily may be recognized as insecure or immature. Learn to apologize sincerely for your mistakes, inappropriate words and actions towards others. It might take some practice and courage to overcome your pride, but remember: the best way to act mature is by being truly mature. Listen, slightly nod, and say little things like, "Oh, yes," to let them know you are listening. Make sure you are actually listening. Remember, when you speak, use facial expressions and be funny as usual, but be more serious in conversation. Be helpful. Hold doors, help pick things up, and offer help and assistance when needed. Talk about mature things to people: work, life experiences, and life lessons you have learned, or just about how beautiful it is outside. Notice how they carry themselves, how they dress, and how they speak. Keep in mind, around kids, squat down to their size when you talk to them. Don't act fake when they tell you something that is a big accomplishment to them. Say, "Awesome!" or, "Wow, good job." Kids feel good when you are truly amazed instead of patronizing. Try to use proper grammar and spelling whenever you write, including instant messaging and online games. Keep an open mind. Just because you have never heard of or tried something, doesn't mean you should shut it out or dismiss the possibility. Rather, see it as an opportunity for you to learn about something (or someone) new and different. Learn to control your temper. Above all, if somebody does something you don't agree with, try not to shout or carry on. Instead, let it go if it is a minor matter. If you must say something or disagree with someone, do so tactfully and in a conversational tone of voice. You'll find that people respond more positively, too. Don't swear, or at the very least, save the swearing for times that really warrant it. Swearing mainly demonstrates to others that you have poor control over your temper. Instead, try learning some other words to show your displeasure with something. Something that's not up to your standards could be terrible, lousy, rotten, crummy, no-good, and so on. Many of these terms will help you zero in on what the trouble is, communicate more effectively, and perhaps even move towards a solution. • Try it! You will probably find that people will listen to you better and take you more seriously if you don't swear. Accept compliments gracefully. If somebody has taken the trouble to compliment you, the least you can do is appreciate it. Take criticism gracefully, too. Not all of it is valid, but it is often worth giving some thought to how others see you and what you can improve. Be mature and polite online, too. • Turn off your caps lock key and capitalize proper nouns and the beginnings of sentences. • Think before you post. Have lots of people already said what you're about to say? Does your post make sense? • Read and follow the rules. They're there for a reason. • Proofread before you post. Use complete sentences • Go easy on abbreviations ("ur", "LOL"), slang, and emoticons. A sprinkling of these in an informal setting can add color. Too many can make it incomprehensible. • Avoid speaking 1337 when not necessary . This is an annoying habit most people do without thinking. • Don't blab on about a load of things because people will find this annoying. Tips • Avoid trying to be the center of attention all the time. Θυιτ δρινκινγ χαφφεινε. This includes coffee, soda, tea and most energy drinks. Caffeine makes you hyperactive, which in turn, makes you immature. Try to not drink caffeine, but if you do, take it in small amounts. Sugar can also make you very hyper. Remember, people will enjoy listening to your contributions if you allow them the chance to speak as well. If someone burps or passes gas, do not laugh at it. If laughing is inevitable, try not to be the loudest person laughing at it. If you commit such an offense, say, "Excuse me." Groom yourself neatly. This also means not to wear anything too revealing, such as flip flops to school (without socks) if you are a guy, or tank tops without something over them (such as a jacket) if you are a girl (assuming your school allows these things anyway, but this is true in a movie theater or a shopping mall too). If you're not sure about the proper etiquette for a particular situation, notice what others are doing and follow suit. Then, make a point to look it up in an etiquette guide when you have a chance. By the same token, when you enter a new situation or new community, keep quiet for awhile and notice how others conduct

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themselves. Then, act accordingly. Be in control of what you are doing. If you can not handle talking to a person while doing something, stop what you are doing because it might go wrong. DO NOT go up to people and tell them they have more friends/you have more friends than them. DO NOT go up to people and brag to then about your boyfriend/girlfriend. DO NOT interrupt the teacher when she is talking to the class. When she is talking to the class don't raise your hand and shout out, "Mrs. So-and-So, I have a question..." and do not blurt out your question unless she calls on you. If you are sitting next to someone and they have a headache, try to talk a little bit more quietly so that you don't make their headache worse. Also, be sure not to tap your pencil on the table, especially when someone at the table has a headache.


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Avoid being too mature. Don't take it to the extremes. More specifically, do not mistake maturity and conceitedness, you should read this to improve yourself, not in order to be better than the other guy. Don't pretend to know things you don't; people will always be able to tell, and you'll just look silly. Instead, focus on something you know well. Try reading a newspaper--if nothing else, you'll know what's going on in the world.

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