Thou Shalt Master the Smile

The simplest, most obvious, and most powerful of the body language commandments. Smiling conveys, both instantly and clearly, many wonderful things about yourself. Smiling demonstrates confidence, friendliness, a positive attitude, a good mood, and it gives the impression that you're someone who is most likely, fun to be with. It's also very difficult to ignore. ( !on "uan is never ignored.# Smiling also conveys to women one other very important thing. Smiling tells her that you're probably not dangerous. lways remember, you're usually bigger and stronger than the woman you're talking to. So one thing that's always going to be running through the back of her mind when she's first getting to know you is$ %Is this guy dangerous, violent, or cra&y. 'ould I feel comfortable being alone with this guy( Is he going to hurt me(% Smiling helps to alleviate this fear. nd by simply alleviating this one fear of hers, you automatically increase the probability of her accepting your invitations.

Thou Shalt )e *pen and Inviting

This simply means being %open% and %direct% with your body. The most obvious %closed% body posture is when you have your arms crossed in front of you... effectively providing a barrier to keep other people away and reduce the intimacy in the situation. )eing %closed% also includes such things as holding ob+ects, maybe a drink or even +ust your hands, between yourself and the person you're talking to... again providing a barrier to keep others away. *r an indirect body orientation, such as pointing your shoulders, body, or head in another direction, effectively directing your attention away from the other and toward something else.

SEDUCTIVE BODY LANGUAGE Thou Shalt Master the Smile Thou Shalt Be Open and Inviting Thou Shalt Gaze Into the Eyes Thou Shalt Nod the Head Thou Shalt Get a Little Closer Thou Shalt Learn to Tou h

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,losed body postures are very common because they serve to reduce the level of perceived intimacy in a situation. 'hen you're open, directly facing the other with your hands to the side, and possibly your palms facing up and towards the other, you're e-posing or presenting yourself to them. .resenting yourself to others inherently includes the possibility of getting re+ected. Since people don't like re+ection, they will often %play it safe% by closing themselves up and, essentially, re+ecting the other, with their body language, first / before the other has a chance to re+ect them. 'hile this may reduce your risk in the situation, it's unlikely to be of much assistance in conveying the suave, charismatic image you'd like to portray. To use your body in an %attractive% fashion, and to attract women, you must learn to keep it open.

Thou Shalt 0a&e Into the 1yes

*bvious, powerful, and arousing, eye contact is one of the most potent %weapons% in your arsenal. !irect eye contact shows self/confidence (notice how those with low self/esteem usually (but not always# avoid direct eye contact#. It shows that you're very interested in her and what she may have to say. It's hard to ignore. It boosts physiological arousal, both yours and hers, making you appear %un/boring.% nd, assuming you're talking to a girl you're interested in, it should make you more attractive as your pupils dilate. !on't overdo it though. Too much direct eye contact will make her (or him 2 analy&ing# uncomfortable, and she might wind up thinking you're a weirdo.

Thou Shalt 3od the 4ead

3odding can be a tough one to master. It's one I constantly have to remind myself to do... as I'm not a natural nodder. )ut nodding is a very powerful rein/forcer. 5ou can literally strengthen desirable behavior by nodding your head, and weaken undesirable behavior by %withholding the nod.% 6or e-ample, if the conversation is going in a direction that you like, you can nod your head slightly, and often, to make sure it continues in that direction. If the conversation starts to veer in the wrong direction, you can withdraw your attention, by not nodding your head, and stop it dead in its tracks. Then use your conversational skills to point it in another more desirable direction. She will love you for nodding. She will literally %perk up% and become more enthusiastic when you nod in response

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to what she has to say. 3odding tells her that she is interesting, that what she is saying is interesting, that she has your undivided attention, and that you're someone who knows how to focus his attention on something other than himself. Try a simple e-periment. 7isten to someone without nodding and watch how they sputter along 8uietly and perhaps uncomfortably. Then begin nodding your head while listening to them and observe how they perk up and become more enthusiastic. The power of %the nod% will ama&e you. %7earn to nod, and the women will nod with you. 6orget to nod, and you nod alone.% (getting a little poetic here#

Thou Shalt 0et a 7ittle ,loser

This refers to standing or sitting a little bit closer. 5ou can also do this by %leaning% / if seated, leaning your upper body slightly towards the other person, or if standing slightly leaning your head toward the other. 0etting a little closer reduces both the real and psychological distance between the two of you, helping to create a sense of intimacy or %we/ness.% (In a group or crowd, if you can create the perception that you and she are %we,% you're halfway home, buddy.# )y getting a little closer or leaning slightly toward her, you're telling her that you're more interested in her, and what she has to say, than in whatever else is going on around you. )y giving her your undivided attention, she is almost forced to give you her undivided attention. 0etting a little closer is also obvious (it can't be ignored# and helps to boost her arousal level slightly so you don't seem 8uite so ordinary. The opposite is also true. 9eeping your distance or leaning back or away from someone indicates that you're not really interested in them and would rather be someplace else.

Thou Shalt 7earn to Touch

Touching, if done appropriately, has an immediate, almost magical effect on another person. 18ualed in power only by the smile and, perhaps, eye contact, you must master the art of touching in order to have any hope of becoming the successful and suave lady's man you've always wanted to be. In our modern society, we have become a somewhat cold, impersonal, and standoffish people, especially in the larger cities. Most people in our society are literally %starving% for body contact... %starving% for touch. So starved, in fact, that the occasional brief, friendly touch of another / especially another of the opposite se- / can send chills up and down the spine.

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The key word here, of course, is appropriate. Some women will react very negatively if you touch them too soon or too much. 7ike making your first move, or going in for that first kiss, your first touch has to be done at the appropriate time in an appropriate way / or you may wind up actually doing more harm than good. lways pay attention to the situation and the mood. 3ever force something if the situation or mood isn't right. 5ou +udge the effectiveness of your touch, and how good you are at reading the situation, by how she reacts to it. If she seems to lean into your touch or perk up, you know you've %succeeded% in your touch. If she seems to %tense up% or pull away, this tells you that you've failed to touch appropriately and have a little more work to do. So there they are. The Si- !on "uan ,ommandments of )ody 7anguage. 1asy, simple. Mastering the above techni8ues will make you so charming, so irresistible, so !on "uanish that women will literally fight over you, tear at your clothes, and attack you on the street. by llen Thompson