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Let go of Fear........................................................................................2 A Bold and Fearless Life...................................................................8 Gutsy, A Life of Bold Dreams....................................................................14 elease t$e Biggest Fear of All....................................................2% is!"ta!ing Glory...............................................................2#

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Let go of Fear
When you cant choose between two evenly balanced courses of action to take, choose the bolder. ~ W. . Slim

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Let us be bold. Let us be brave. Let us be together. ~ Brad "enr# $ver#one stru%%les with fear. It is health# to admit when #ou are afraid& worried& or an'ious. To do so re(uires stren%th.

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If #ou are alive #ou have fear. You have two choices. You can den# #our fear and fail to take action. )r #ou can face it and do what it takes to dissolve it. )ne choice *rin%s miser#. The other *rin%s ha++iness. It,s that sim+le. I %rew u+ on an -- acre +roduce farm with nine si*lin%s. We were re(uired to *e%in workin% in the fields when were five #ears old. We worked in *oth %ood and *ad weather& *efore and after school& and on Sunda#s and holida#s. We worked nine months a #ear. )n the da#s we weren,t +lantin%& weedin%& waterin% or harvestin%& our fruits and ve%eta*les& we were at the Farmers .arket sellin% it. .# si*lin%s and I would *e dro++ed off with two trucks of +roduce at /012 a.m. We were told it needed to *e sold *# 3 +.m. when m# father +icked us u+.

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We did what we were told& we succeeded. When I was ver# #oun%& some customers fri%htened me. I would hel+ them *ut not sa# much. )ver time& it *ecame easier and I learned how to *e friendl#& make 4okes and have fun. .# si*lin%s and I *ecame ver# skilled. It wouldn,t *e unusual to find us in char%e& in the fields or at the market *# the a%e of 11. We da# dreamed of runnin% awa# and findin% 4o*s where we %ot +aid *# the hour. We weren,t ha++# with our small allowance. It wasn,t until I was married and on m# own& that I reali5ed how man# rewards I rea+ed from life on the farm. I learned how to %row food and to love nature and all of its %lor#. I learned how to show u+& +ro*lem solve& and work as +art of a team. I knew how to kee+ re+eat customers satisfied. The biggest gift was that I learned how to work hard, overcome fear and do what was required. With this knowled%e& I started m# first successful *usiness when I was 1- #ears old. I,ve alwa#s *een an entre+reneur. Dont delay your dreams
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Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the tra of thinking you have something to lose. ~ Steve o*s 7emem*er our time here is limited& our da#s are num*ered. We are not immortal. It,s time to let %o of our fears and sei5e the da#. It,s time to take res+onsi*ilit# and live full8 out. 9o*od# is comin% to rescue #ou. Go out, take focused action, be busy. Inaction breeds doubt and fear. !ction breeds confidence and courage. If you want to con"uer fear, do not sit home and think about it. #o out and get busy. ~ $leanor 7oosevelt :evelo+ coura%e *# takin% action. :are to make a difference and use #our talent and %ifts to make the world a *etter +lace. Thin%s will %o wron%. So what. You,ll make mistakes. So what. You will *e re4ected. So what. ;ee+ %oin%& ask for hel+& find su++ort& and *e willin% to do what it takes. En oy life $ecurity is mostly a su erstition. It does not e%ist in nature<Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.= ~ "elen ;eller

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:on,t miss #our chance to live life with overflowin% 4o# and wild adventure. "ave fun& travel& and *e s+ontaneous. It doesn,t have to *e e'+ensive. .# dau%hter ;rist# was *orn without a ri%ht hand. She +artici+ates in marathons and triathlons. Turn #our fear into e'citement. There is no e'cuse to sit on the sidelines of life. :o what *rin%s #ou 4o#. !hase your fears. &ot to dream more boldly may turn out to be, in view of resent realities, sim ly irres onsible. ~ >eor%e Leonard Safet# is an illusion. >o after #our fears like #our dreams de+end on them. If #ou want to learn how to s+eak in +u*lic& 4oin Toastmasters. If #ou fear fl#in%& travel. If #ou fear makin% sales calls& +ut them first on #our to8do list. If you want something different, you have to do something different. E"#ect to succeed. 7e+lace dou*t and fear with hard work& focus& and +ersistence. $ever give u#. 'he darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrow.= ~ onathan Lockwood "uie
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Life isn,t eas# and it isn,t fair. :on,t com+are #ourself to others. 7esist whinin% and com+lainin%. Learn to take one da# at a time. ;ee+ #our e#e on the +ri5e. ?oncentrate on it. See it in #our mind,s e#e. See it *enefitin% ever#one. >ive #ourself a *reak *ut never %ive u+. Take a lea# of faith. When I am afraid, I o en my heart and let the love dissolve the fear.= ~ Louise ha# 7elease fear and control and re+lace it with faith and trust. Learn to have faith and trust& in #ourself& in others& and in the world. Trust that you are being taken care of and su++orted on the wa# to #our dream. The more #ou trust in the +rocess of life& the more life will u+hold #ou& %uide #ou& and shower #ou with %oodness. Be committed to e'+ressin% #our %reatness@

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A Bold and Fearless Life


B(on)t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. 'he saddest summary of life contains three descri tions* could have, might have, and should have.B ~ Cnknown

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D+ail harder.= ~ Face*ook head(uarters Too often& we allow fear& worr# and dou*t to dominate and define our lives. We allow them to steal our 4o#& our slee+& and our +recious dreams. I made u+ m# mind& ver# #oun%& that I would +ush forward no matter what. I was 1A and +re%nant when I married m# *o#friend. We were #oun% and foolish& and *ecause our onl# +lan was Dlove&= I %ave *irth to three more dau%hters *# the a%e of !!. .# last +re%nanc# was twins. ;rist#& one of the twins was *orn without a ri%ht hand. .# *i%%est fear& at the time& wasn,t how we would make it financiall#& *ut how would ;rist# make itE "ow would she hold a *ottle or a swin%E In a culture where we worshi+ +h#sical *eaut#& how would she ada+tE ;rist# faced man# stru%%les& *ut she was a fi%hter& and she #ushed back. %ard& She held her *ottle with one hand. Ffter she sucked it down& she would toss it& %ra* her sister,s *ottle& and drink *ottle as well. She learned how to swin% *# +uttin% the ri%ht chain in the cru' of her el*ow. "er *i%%est stru%%les were in school& where she was teased& mocked& and *ullied. It was +ainful to watch& *ut her sisters hel+ed +rotect her.

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'he was determined to kee+ u+ with her sisters. She followed their lead and learned to +la# soccer and *asket*all in elementar# school. She would %o on to +la# s+orts for two #ears at the Cniversit# of ?hica%o. )ne of ;rist#,s *i%%est fears& was that *o#s wouldn,t want to date her. She didn,t date in hi%h school. "owever& I don,t think it was *ecause of her +h#sical challen%e *ut *ecause she challen%e them in s+orts and would *eat them& their e%os were *ruised@ Toda# ;rist# is 1/& she was married last month. I think Hete is a %reat match for her. "e is stron%& has a lot of ener%# and +artici+ates in marathons as well@ If #ou want to know ha++iness and reali5e #our dreams& #ou have to *e willin% to take a lea# of faith des#ite being afraid. Too often& we hold *ack and +la# it safe& in order to avoid *ecomin% successful& feelin% em*arrassed& lookin% sill#& *ein% hurt& and facin% re4ection or +ossi*le failure. We clin% to fear from our childhood& traumatic e'+eriences& and the ne%ative media& like Linus& from the cartoon stri+& Heanuts& clin%s to his securit# *lanket. It,s our res+onsi*ilit# to acknowled%e& face& and dissolve our fear. Fre #ou willin% to *e%in now& to di% for the coura%e to do all the thin%s #ou were meant to do& *ut haven,t #et *e%unE If the answer is #es read on@ The following ti#s will allow you to face fear and #ut it in its #lace. Get comfortable with fear.
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Invite fear into #our life. When #ou fear somethin%& move towards it. Feel it& and *reathe throu%h it. :o the thin%s that fri%hten #ou. Fction *uilds coura%e. Tell #ourself& DThis fear will +ass.= Your world e'+ands as #our coura%e e'+ands. (ake your dominant thoughts #ositive. Fearful thou%hts attract more fear. Hositive thou%hts attract success. Instead of e'+ectin% the worst& train #our mind to e'+ect the *est. .ake +ositive assum+tions a*out #our future. Give no time, attention or energy to fear. "old #ourself accounta*le. Be consistent& *e +re+ared& *e de+enda*le& and focus on solutions. Be innovative& take the initiative& and %o the e'tra mile. If #ou don,t take action des+ite #our fear& o++ortunit# will +ass #ou *#. $ever dwell on scarcity. Learn to think& s+eak& and live as an a*undant +erson. Turn off the news. ?ele*rate what #ou have. Be %enerous.

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Focus #our attention on *ein% read#& willin% and +re+ared for the *eaut#& wonder& connections& %ood fortune& and favora*le circumstances that are #ours if #ou are willin% to work and *e o+en to it. )evisit your victories. Stren%then #our *elief in #ourself *# reflectin% on the last three #ears of #our life and ever# success #ou,ve e'+erienced. ?lose #our e#es and feel the cele*rator# emotion of each one. Brin% the same drive& +ersistence& and talent into now and allow it to ins+ire and motivate #ou. *ive vicariously through the victories of others. Cse the success stories of others. 7ead how the Brookl#n Brid%e was *uilt. Stud# the success of Steve o*s& Walt :isne#& Steven S+iel*er%& and )+rah Winfre#. Take note of the coura%e the# develo+ed and follow their +ath to %reatness. +sk your family and friends for encouragement. .# famil# can see m# stren%th when I for%et I have it. Ft m# re(uest& the# don,t hesitate to remind me of all trials and trium+hs we have come throu%h. The#,re %enerous with +raise and encoura%ement. Fsk #our loved ones to do the same for #ou. !reate a su##ort grou# of friends or colleagues.

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7o*ert Fol%rum said it *est in his *ook& !ll I Really &eeded to ,now I Learned in ,indergarten, DWhen #ou %o out into the world& it is *est to hold hands and stick to%ether.= Stickin% to%ether makes tou%h times easier and easier times more fun@ ,lan to be great. Ste+ into #our +ower and dream *i%. Follow it u+ with calculate risks and deli*erate action ste+s. "ave no dou*t a*out #our success. Your dreams are at stake here@ You have the +ower to do what it takes to *reak throu%h an# o*stacles that stand in the wa# of #ourself& #our dreams& and #our ha++iness.

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A Life of Bold Dreams


-ou have e%actly one life in which to do everything you)ll ever do. !ct accordingly ~ ?ollin Wri%ht

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Why, I)d like nothing better than to achieve some bold adventure, worthy of our tri . ~ Fristo+hanes "ow man# times do we +romise ourselves to chan%e& *e *etter& do *etter& and then failE We +romise ourselves we will sk#dive& learn .andarin ?hinese& find the love of our life& lose the wei%ht or *ecome self8em+lo#ed. But we never seem to %et around to it. Who doesn,t want to chan%e& to %row& and to live life their wa#E Yet too ma# of us fail to kee+ our +romises. 'here is only one thing that is standing between you and the romise youve made. -ear. Fear can *e a tra+& a +rison& a stor#& or an illusion that torments and +aral#5es #ou. It kee+s #ou awake at ni%ht& and #our ha++iness and dreams com+letel# out of reach. If #ou have indeed +romised #ourself chan%e& I would like the o++ortunit# to stand *ehind #ou& to root for #ou& and show #ou the wa#. I want to hel+ #ou with #our *old& wild& and out8of8the8*all +ark vision and lifest#le. )ne of the worst thin%s we can do is dare to dream big and then hold ourselves hosta%e *# clin%in% to our same old routine dou*ts& an'ieties& and fears.
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It,s a wicked c#cle that will kee+ #ou cra5#8di55# and s+innin% out of control like a ricket# old Tilt8a8Whirl at the State Fair. .hats real about fear/ The onl# real as+ects of fear are #our anno#in% and uneas# feelin%s that escort #our terror I the worr#& an'iet#& and irrational thinkin%. The un+leasant +h#sical s#m+toms of fear drain #our ener%# I a sudden %ra*& a racin% heart& #our sweat# +alms& shortness of *reath and slee+less ni%hts. These feelin%s and s#m+toms are un*eara*le #et until the +ain of sta#in% stuck is %reater than the +ain it takes to %row forward& we suffer. )ur su*conscious *eliefs& our addiction to safety& and our +ast e'+erience +revents u+ from takin% the action needed to move out of our fear and into our %reatness. )ead on for 01 ti#s for a bold and fearless life. Dont believe your thoughts. :ro+ #our ne%ative thinkin% and lack of faith in #ourself or it will continue to snow*all. Train #our mind to create +ositive e'+ectations. Learn to e'+ect the *est. 2iew life as a creative and wild adventure.
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Life can *e *rimmin% with eas# times of *eaut# and li%ht or overflowin% with hard times of dark and difficult#. ?hoose to sta# +resent throu%h it all. F++reciate the varied landsca+e and en4o# the ride. Do it for your love of others. Who else in #our life is missin% out *ecause of #our fear of movin% forwardE .ake a list of the +eo+le who will *enefit from #our success. Sta# stron% for them. Ima%ine tellin% them the D%ood news= in advance I I %ot the 4o*& I made a difference& I wrote m# *ook& we,re %oin% on vacation@ *et go of the outcome. We often think we know what is *est for us. We for%et we can,t see the whole +icture. :o what is #ours to do and do it well. Like *lowin% a dandelion in the wind& let the rest %o and remain o+en to infinite +ossi*ilities. 3e authentic. In a world where ever#one is tr#in% to *e someone else& *e *rave enou%h to *e #ou. 9o*od# else has #our thum* +rint& heart +rint& or soul +rint. 9o*od# else can do #our +art. 7evel in #our uni(ueness. Trans+arenc# is ma%netic. !reate s#ace for gratitude.

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Be%in #our da# *# fillin% #our mind with a++reciation. Focus on the love #ou have to %ive and the love #ou can receive. Become aware of o+en hearts& o+en minds& and an unlimited life. This is ener%# well s+ent. 3uild #ositive images of the #ast. Increase #our faith and coura%e *# remem*erin% all of #our +ast successes. Take note of #our stren%ths and determination. F++l# the same traits to #our +resent dream. Build +ositive +ictures of future success in #our mind. +rgue for a #ositive outcome. .ake a list of #our fears. 9e't& +rove each fear wron%. If #ou think #ou can,t& write down all of the reasons wh# #ou actuall# can. 7emind #ourself of #our written +roof when #ou,re heart is +oundin% and #our +alms are sweatin%. 3e comfortable with the uncomfortable. I don,t know an#one who en4o#s *ein% afraid. We want to den# it& run from it& and i%nore it. Fs a +rofessional s+eaker& I,m nervous for the first several minutes. To %et throu%h it& I memori5e the first ten minutes of the s+eech. Learn to %et throu%h the thin%s #ou fear. Dont take it #ersonally. What someone else does is a*out them. "ow #ou react is a*out #ou. This is +erha+s the most difficult ste+ to learn. When #our re(uest is i%nored or turned down& move on. 7e4ection isn,t an e'cuse for failure.
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Fs #ou face #our fears and increase #our freedom and ha++iness *# allowin% #our dreams to *ecome a realit#& the %ood life is inevita*le.

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Weather you believe you can, or you cant, youre right. ~"enr# Ford

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I choose bold. I choose action. I choose what)s right for the eo le. I choose to make a difference. ~ Bill 7ichardson Fear is an illusion that we *u# into and *elieve in& simultaneousl# for%ettin% a*out our stren%ths& *rilliance& and resilience. We %ive fear so much +ower that we forfeit our dreams to avoid the emotional +ain of re4ection& criticism& em*arrassment& and other e'ternal circumstances *e#ond our control. (ost of our fears arent ustified or rational. For e'am+le& m# dau%hter ;ara is a fli%ht attendant. I don,t fear for her safet# *ecause I can,t 4ustif# it. It,s *een +roven that air travel is safer then cars. Fnother one of m# dau%hter,s te'ts and drives. I do fear for her safet#& it is a rational fear *ecause it,s dan%erous. I,ve talked to her a*out it and I +ra# for her. I let m# fear %o *ecause she is an adult. It,s her +ro*lem. I cant ustify holding on to my fear. .hat stands between you and the life that you want are your fears. Fear of re4ection& lookin% stu+id& livin% alone& or %oin% *roke& are common fears that #ou can learn to rise a*ove. )ead the following ti#s on how to overcome fear and live the life you deserve. Do something brand new.

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Be a *e%inner. Be o+en to the different and the difficult. Hush #ourself. Follow someone,s lead. Fsk (uestions. Tr#. Fail. Tr# a%ain. Fail a%ain. Succeed. -ocus on what needs to be done. Take small calculated ste+s to %et to #our end %oal. :on,t %ive #our fear attention or ener%#. Let it die a slow death. Build #our coura%e muscles one action ste+ at a time. *et go of what you dont want and visuali4e what you do. Sto+ runnin% ne%ative ima%es in #our mind of *ad thin%s ha++enin%. ?reate the ima%e of the outcome #ou want and dwell on it. Work towards it. $ach time #ou feel fearful re+lace it with #our ima%e of success. Take your fear to the gym. When #ou are stuck in fear and feel +aral#5ed *# ne%ativit#& %et active. Lift wei%hts& run& or walk off #our fear. .ove +h#sicall#. .otivate #ourself with a +la# list of +ositive son%s 5se affirmations and quotes. I write down +ositive (uotes and affirmations on inde' cards and +ut them in m# car& *athroom& *edroom and kitchen. It onl# takes a few minutes to see thin%s differentl# and chan%e m# calm m# emotions. )elease attack thoughts and negativity.
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We +ro4ect our own ne%ativit# and fear when we %et cau%ht u+ in drama and *ecome envious of the success of others. Some*od# else,s success has nothin% to do with #ours. Focus on takin% action on #our own *ehalf. .hoose to be ha y for eo le who get what you want. Learn to sa# and mean& D>ood for them.= !hange your #erce#tion and change your story. Sto+ dou*tin% #ourself. Become aware of the stories #ou tell #ourself a*out #our self8worth& intelli%ence& stren%ths& and +ossi*ilities. )wn #our %reatness. ?reate stories that resonate with the *eautiful +erson #ou are. 9o one else can do it for #ou. !reate new e"#ectations. $'+ect to succeed. Tell #ourself thin%s are %oin% well. ,now that +eo+le want to hel+ #ou. S+in new stories a*out the future. You have a choice. You can e'+ect the *est or the worst. Wh# wouldn,t #ou choose the *estE )e#lace fear with fun. Fear can lead to a work addiction. When #ou lack *alance in #our life it shows u+ in #our relationshi+s& *usiness& and health. ?arve out time to lau%h and +la#. >et awa# from all electronics and %et #our fun meter runnin%. :ance& hike& *e%in a new ho**#& and lau%h as often as +ossi*le. The alternative to facin% #our fears is that #our fears will control #ou. :on,t miss out on o++ortunities. :on,t cheat the +eo+le who will *enefit from #our %ifts.
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Live is meant to *e lived out loud and in 4o#. This is #our time. This is #ou life. *ive it with gutsy, risk6taking, glory.

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Let us be bold. Let us be brave. Let us be together.= ~Brad "enr#

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$tand u right, s eak thy thoughts, declare the truth thou hast, that all may share/ 0e bold, roclaim it everywhere* 'hey only live who dare.= ~ Voltaire )ne of the *i%%est fears ever#one has is not *ein% loved& as we are and for whom we are. We thrive on love. We would die without it. I think when we consistentl# +ut ourselves in a state of love or when we *ecome love& love will find us. We are either in a fearful state or a lovin% state at all times. These are the onl# two emotions. Fll other emotions are derivatives of love or fear. When I am de+ressed& sad& and an%r# or hurt& I am livin% in fear. If I am feelin% 4o#& +eace& a++reciation or ha++iness& I am livin% in a state of love. I would suggest that if you want to receive more love its a good idea to 7be8 more loving. This doesn,t mean that a lovin% +artner will come into #our life. That ma# *e de+endent u+on #our soul,s +lan for this lifetime. When we are immersed in love& we are livin% our true +ur+ose. We are healed and as we heal we hel+ heal the world.

If we want love& we need to *e more %ivin%. If we want love& we need to o+en our hearts to receive.
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If we want love& we need to *e more lovin%.

Become the love that #ou seek and love will surround #ou& enfold #ou& +rotect #ou& and heal #ou. The followin% statements will hel+ #ou recogni4e which state youre in, love or fear.

.# fearful self envies #ou. .# lovin% self is ama5ed *# #ou. .# fearful self condemns #ou. .# lovin% self *lesses #ou. .# fearful self attacks #ou. .# lovin% self for%ives #ou. .# fearful self *elieves that I,m inade(uate. .# lovin% self knows that I am enou%h. .# fearful self wants it all. .# lovin% self has all it needs. .# fearful self sa#s sta# *us#. .# lovin% self sa#s sit still. .# fearful self is hun%r#. .# lovin% self is full. .# fearful self is unha++#. .# lovin% self knows 4o#. .# fearful self sees se+aration. .# lovin% self sees unit#. .# fearful self is selfish. .# lovin% self is kind. .# fearful self is 4ud%mental. .# lovin% self is acce+tin%. .# fearful self sees the ne%ative. .# lovin% self sees the +ositive.
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.# fearful self is des+erate. .# lovin% self is content. .# fearful self wants to whine. .# lovin% self wants to +raise. .# fearful self wants to condemn #ou. .# lovin% self want to raise #ou u+. .# fearful has an a%enda. .# lovin% self has a mission. .# fearful self wears a mask. .# lovin% self is trans+arent. .# fearful self kee+s score. .# lovin% self kee+s +eace. .# fearful self lives in darkness. .# lovin% self *ecomes the li%ht. .# fearful self is in the future. .# lovin% self is savorin% now. .# fearful self shuts down. .# lovin% self o+ens u+. .# fearful self is an e'+ert. .# lovin% self is doesn,t know. .# fearful self is unworth#. .# lovin% self is deli%htful. .# fearful self is com+licated. .# lovin% self is sim+le. .# fearful self fears the future. .# lovin% self e'+ects the *est.

Each moment is an o##ortunity to choose love over fear. When we make the wron% choice& we can choose a%ain. If #ou want to %ive and receive more love. >ive u+ #our fear. You ha++iness and freedom de+end on it.

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T$e &oment to Be Bold 's (o)


Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. 0oldness has genius, ower, and magic in it. 0egin it now1 ~ >oethe

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$omebody should tell us2right at the start of our lives2that we are dying. 'hen we might live to the limit, every minute of every day. (o it1 I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now1 'here are only so many tomorrows. ~ .ichael Landon You don,t have to wait for a new #ear& a divorce& a retreat& a seminar& an illness or a disaster to create a new *e%innin%. .e always have the o#tion of choosing a fresh start in the #resent moment. We alwa#s have the o+tion to choose a%ain& to *e%in a%ain. 9ow is the *est time to move throu%h #our fear. Dont delay the o##ortunity to act& take a risk& chan%e #our *ehavior or let %o of the outdated *eliefs and fears that are stealin% #our ener%# and cri++lin% #our life. Sto+ 4ustif#in% #our lack of success with e'cuses like& DLife,s too hard. The econom# is terri*le. There is too much com+etition.= 3egin now. In this moment& #ou can refresh #our mind& #our dream& and #our life with +ros+erous ideas and a new realit#. In this moment& #ou can shift #our +erce+tion and res+ond differentl# to +eo+le and situations. In this moment& #ou can learn from #our mistakes, look for the lesson& and welcome the o+tion to %row in wisdom from what arises.
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In this moment& #ou can reduce #our fear *# askin% #ourself& DWhat,s the worst that could ha++en if I failE= and D"ow would I deal with itE= Fn#thin% less will *e easier to handle. In this moment& #ou can find a mentor& a thera+ist or a coach& a +erson to hel+ #ou with a different +ers+ective& a new hei%ht& a fresh vision& and a %rand +lan. In this moment, #ou can claim #our worthiness& own #our *eaut# and use #our %ifts and talents. Stri+ awa# the old and allow the ma%nificent to emer%e. In this moment, #ou can let %o of a *ad ha*it& commit& +ersist& and take *a*# ste+s into a ma%nificent future. In this moment& #ou can %ive in wa#s that #ou have never %iven *efore. >ive a smile& a hu%& a com+liment or do a kind act for the difficult +erson in #our life. In this moment, #ou can ta+ into #our %enius& *e more creative& rise a*ove the old wa#s and *ecome a visionar#. In this moment& #ou can *elieve in +ros+erit#& live #our truth& and ado+t the new currenc# of communit# and love. In this moment& #ou can find reason to *e ha++#, *reathe it in& and take it into #our da#. In this moment, #ou can wake u+ and %et read# for somethin% different and reco%ni5e that #our old +atterns and wa#s of *ein% no lon%er work. In this moment, #ou can let %o of #our fear of the unknown& the +ain of the +ast& #ou,re #our worr# a*out the future.
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In this moment, #ou can choose serenit#, calmness& +eace and focused action. You can re+eat this throu%hout the da#. In this moment, #ou can choose to live in a state of %ratitude and cele*rate the *eautiful +eo+le in #our world. In this moment, #ou can acknowled%e #ourself for #our +ast success and *e thankful in advance for #our future a*undance. In this moment, #ou can reco%ni5e love& release fear, and *e at +eace. In this moment #ou can *e *old and coura%eous and do somethin% that has never *een done *efore. 'here is no lace more owerful than the beauty and the safety of the resent moment.

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&ot to dream more boldly may turn out to be, in view of resent realities, sim ly irres onsible. ~ >eor%e Leonard

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I do wish to run& to sei3e this greatest time in all the history of man to be alive& to stuff my senses with it& to eye it& touch it& listen to it& smell it& taste it& and ho e that others will run with me& ursuing and ursued by ideas.= ~ 7a# Brad*ur# Bold +eo+le think differentl#& s+eak differentl#& and do thin%s differentl#. Think a*out Steve o*s& Walt :isne#& and "enr# :avid Thoreau. The# lived in an unima%ina*le realm. Fnd 9elson .andela& he not onl# survived& he made u+ his mind to thrive. In 1G31 he was sentenced to a life time in +rison for sa*ota%e and other char%es. Ffter *ein% im+risoned for !A #ears he went on to *ecome Hresident of South Ffrica. )ead on for ti#s on bold #eo#le. 3old #eo#le s#end time with #eo#le who contribute to their sense of well6being. Let #our to'ic relationshi+s %o& ever# one of them. Sto+ holdin% #ourself *ack@ Fill u+ #our time and s+ace with +eo+le who want to su++ort #ou& those who can %ive #ou what #ou need. Then return the favor. 3old #eo#le kee# on giving. Hut down #our score card. :ro+ #our e'+ectations. Be %enerous an#wa#. >ive without wantin% somethin% in return.

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"el+ others succeed. ust when #ou feel like +ullin% *ack do the o++osite. >ive more. YouJll never re%ret it. 3old #eo#le dro# their need for a##roval. Focus on #our actions rather than the reactions others have towards #ou. Life is too short to +lease ever#one. So what if someone doesnJt like #ou. So what if someone sa#s& B9o.B So want if #ou %et re4ected. 9e't<= 3old #eo#le make things ha##en. For the ne't five da#s do somethin% that #ouJve never done *efore& somethin% #ou feel is im ossible. .ake the dreaded +hone call. Fsk for what #ou need. >o after what #ou want. ?han%e a ha*it. Fttend FF. ?reate somethin% new. Tell someone that #ou love them. .ake someone lau%h. 3old #eo#le e"#ect good things to ha##en. ?ondition #our mind to *e a *old and +ositive. um+ to ama5in% conclusions. We are rogrammed by the media to e% ect the worst. :o the o++osite. What if ever#thin% works out %reatE What if I %et the 4o*E What if I %et another chanceE Learn to e'+ect the *est. ;ee+ the *i% +icture in mind. ThatJs what counts.
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3old #eo#le love to talk. >et over #our fear of new +eo+le. This week connect with three stran%ers in +erson& ever#da#. In #our favorite coffee sho+& the %rocer# store or the %as station& sa# hello& smile& *e%in with small talk. Soon #ouJll %et %ood at it. Heo+le are lonel# and isolated. Be outra%eous& darin%& and lovin%. 3old #eo#le have a clear vision of the future. $'+ect to succeed. 7e+lace dou*t and fear with hard work and a clear outcome. :onJt *e afraid of detours. Stuff ha++ens and #ou mi%ht have to chan%e #our direction. ItJs all +art of the 4ourne#. Be fle'i*le and remain o+en. 3old #eo#le learn from others. Find a mentor. "ire a coach. Watch +eo+le who are %ood at what the# do. Fttend conferences& we*inars& or teleseminars. Learn& learn& learn. 7eflect on coura%eous +eo+le& their stories and (uotes. Fllow them to ins+ire #ou. Bold +eo+le think& s+eak& and do thin%s differentl#. 3old #eo#le celebrate success.

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7eflect over #our +ast #ear and make a list of #our successes& *i% and small. Be encoura%ed *# #our list. ?ondition #our mind to *e *rave. Think *rave thou%hts and take *old action. 7eward #ourself. ;ee+ movin% forward with #our +lan to make a difference and do %reat thin%s. 3old #eo#le come from a #lace of love and connection. When the# donJt the# correct themselves and start a%ain.

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+bout the 3old *ife 3log I offer +ractical %uidance on +ersonal and s+iritual develo+ment& em*racin% fear& livin% #our dreams& and livin% authenticall# with love and connection. .# +ersonal stories& +rofound lessons& and u+liftin% (uotes +rovoke thou%htful self8 e'amination and ins+iration for *old livin%& delivered free twice a month. .# life e'+eriences and work as a counselor and coach com*ined with m# intuition has led to much wisdom. I share it o+enl# with #ou. Su*scri*e to htt+0KKthe*oldlife.com via reader or via email and sta# connected@ Become a fan on Face*ook and follow me on Twitter to sta# connected and share the love@ $mail0 Tess.arshallLTess.arshall.com Tess .arshall is a wife& mother& entre+reneur& s+eaker& author& s+irituall#8*ased& fear shatterin%& calculated risk taker& o*sessed with *ein% ha++#& coura%eous and *old& witt#& *i%8hearted& lovin%& +assionate& runner& world traveler and F:": h#+er human *ein%. Tess received her masters de%ree in counselin% +s#cholo%# and is author of0 +lying by the $eat of 4y $oul 5eace, Love and .onnection 'ake -our +ear and $hove It
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