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"The problem is not that there are problems.

The problem is expecting otherwise

and thinking that having problems is a problem."
- Theodore Rubin

So, here's the problem (so to speak). Most of us tend to believe that having
problems causes us to remain removed from a better life, one without problems. The
problem is not our problems, but what we believe is a better life.

A life without problems is either death or the slippery slope on the way to it.
Our bodies and our brains are both built to tackle problems, to face down
challenges, to overcome difficulties on the road of life. We are built to

If we do not struggle with problems or some form of challenges, both physical and
mental, on a regular basis, our abilities and our faculties atrophy and degrade
until there isn't enough left of us to maintain our health.

Those who do not work all parts of their bodies regularly become achy, lame and
weak in their old age or before. Those who do not exericse their brain regularly
fall into senility. These are proven facts. For most of us, these failures of our
physical and mental abilities in middle and old ages are preventable.

Our immune systems need a good workout, especially when we are young, to develop
immunities against various diseases. Our immune systems are built t0 withstand
many kinds of illness in childhood and early adulthood so that they will be strong
as we get older. In other words, we are designed to get sick as children and
adolescents. And to recover, building our immune system's defences as we do so.

Our emotional development is likewise designed for hurt as well as for joy. Those
who do not experience much in the way of emotional hurt during their lives do not
develop an equal scope for joy and happiness when it presents itself. Emotions are
like a pendulum, they swing as far one way as the other. If development of
emotions is hampered in one direction, it fails to develop much in the other.
People who experience great tragedy and hurt also have the ability to experience
joy far greater than those who have "sailed through life."

Don't curse your problems. They give you the opportunity to live life to the
fullest, to experience happiness and fulfillment. Without them, your life would be
relatively dull.

No one says you should enjoy your problems. That would be a psychological problem
in itself. But you can face them with some degree of equanimity knowing that they
will pass and happiness will be available to you in the future.

Bill Allin
'Turning It Around: Causes and Cures for Today's Epidemic Social Problems,'
striving to put it all into perspective.
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