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Learn This Five Step Process for Releasing Limiting Beliefs
There isn’t a nifty mechanism in there that carefully sifts through all your assumptions, weighs options, casts out any conflicts, aligns everything with your values and magically presents a stress-free, viable choice that leads directly to inner peace.
Imagine that you are driving down a country road. Suddenly, the road comes to a “T” – a three-way intersection that requires you to turn left or right.
you’ll never encounter a traffic sign like this.You look up and notice the most puzzling road sign. paralyzed. Roads are intended to . stuck. Thankfully. You must not turn right or risk serious injury. fearful. You cannot stay where you are! You MUST not go back! Do something quick! How would you feel? Confused. The sign says: You cannot turn left or you will be in grave danger. yet there are no viable options. frustrated… You feel this way because it is extremely important that you get out of this situation.
take you safely to your destination. can be challenged. Worse. Morgan. . Suddenly. Your mind. This post will show you how to do just that. Go straight direction traffic sign isolatedHere is an example of how that can work: Late one evening. on the other hand. you can free yourself and proceed to your desired destination. is a different animal altogether. our daughter. you do not even need to notice them consciously in order to respond emotionally to these conflicting directions. Subconscious directions are often based on beliefs or assumptions. my wife and I were just settling in to watch a movie. These kinds of bizarre traffic signs appear in your psyche all the time. though. The end result is feeling panic and extreme frustration without knowing why. These assumptions. The trick is to uncover the hidden misdirection. appeared. There is good news. You CAN discover and amend the road signage of your psyche. once understood. When they are properly sorted out.
“Hannah is freaking out.” Kids would get over it if they had that option. Hannah was sitting on her bed. She eventually confessed. I don’t know. Hmm. That would like telling the hapless driver in the above scenario to “just hit the gas. Yet. “Nothing! Well. “What’s going on.” . No rest for the weary parent… When I arrived. Hannah didn’t like feeling so stuck. I sat on the floor near Hannah. clutching a pillow. It can be tempting for parents to selfishly tell children to “just get over it. dad!” The movie was paused downstairs. waiting to suck me into the exciting world of James Bond. Hannah?” I asked. but honestly had no choice. I waited without saying a word.” But this rarely works. “I need to clean my room or I won’t be able to sleep.” she reported. Morgan and Hannah are twins who recently turned 13. So. just…nothing.
HUGE mess. “Oh. kid. Well.“Oh. If you only knew what real stress is! I resisted the lecture with all my might. just go to bed and don’t worry about it. took a deep breath and settled in for the .” Hannah was more than merely agitated now.” “Dad! I already told you I cannot sleep in a messy room! It will bug the crap out of me all night. She was also miffed at me for being so stupid. dad! It’s late and it will take forever and I have school tomorrow.” I looked around the room. Clean it. just pull yourself together and quit being such a drama queen.” I offered. I could feel James Bond slipping away… Please. That’s simple. you don’t get it.” “No. “You can clean your room tomorrow. I have to go to bed now.
It seems like you are currently believing two separate things. You’ll never get to sleep. SUPER important in order for you to even sleep. “On the other hand. casts out any conflicts. you believe you CAN’T clean your room because you are exhausted and it will take all night. I continued.” And this is how the mind works. There isn’t a nifty mechanism in there that carefully sifts through all your assumptions.” Light bulb and gears. that’s it. Perpetuum mobile idea concept.Hannah thought about it.long haul. aligns everything with your values and magically presents a stress-free. “Your mind has set a trap for you and now you’re stuck in it. you believe you HAVE to clean your room. “Ok. you’re toast. One the one hand. And these two beliefs are clashing in your mind and making you panic. like.” “You got it!” I said triumphantly.” “Huh?” “Yeah. . There isn’t a solution and I’m freaking out. weighs options. Either way.” I said. “Yep. right? This is. Hannah.
viable choice that leads directly to inner peace. but that is what you’ll need to do to escape the trap. “Well. you’re going to have to give up one of them. “So. She decided to give herself and break and stop thinking she couldn’t sleep in a messy room for one night. though). you have these two separate beliefs and they don’t work well together. As long as you hold on to both of them. what do I do?” Hannah pressed. we find it very difficult to stay present and think things through while all these conflicting beliefs are causing emotional wreckage. Actually. but she didn’t.” At this point I fully expected Hannah to claim that it would be impossible to give up either belief. you have no options. The problem is. that mechanism would be your conscious mind (it has to be trained. This is why talking to another person is so helpful. I don’t know which one you prefer to let go. Whew. Sorry. ready and aware. . In order to get through the night.
I had a goal to do more than write short articles.com and applied it to one of my own limiting beliefs. but put together my best ideas into a signature work that would help . One of the beliefs in each scenario must be modified or let go in order to move forward. I am not good enough to succeed. This is where a simple and amazing process from positive psychology may be helpful. I can’t do what I must do to lose weight. I’ll never be able to support myself on my own. I actually learned this recently from Lori Deschene of TinyBuddha.Woman Trapped In A JarEach of the following examples is a belief trap: I must leave this relationship or I will never be happy. You’ll need to dig much deeper in order to uproot them. It’s called the A-B-C-D-E process. For 20 years. I have to succeed in life. What do you do when you “can’t” give up a belief? Some beliefs run deep. I recently used it to overcome the belief that I couldn’t write a book. I have to lose weight.
then never finish. I’ll spend months on it. I told myself. Below is an outline of what the process looks like. You can insert your own limiting belief when you do this for yourself. Consequences: 4. I know. It’s too difficult to become an established author.” Not the most helpful thing to chant to myself over and over. It’s just not in me. It will be a huge waste of time and nobody would buy it anyway. with my particular example included. I realized I had been looking at book writing all wrong. something clicked within me. however. Dispute: . And for 20 years I remained overwhelmed at the idea. Once I learned the A-B-C-D-E process. Write down the following words vertically: letter fridge magnets1. “I can’t do it. Adversity: 2. Belief: 3.people even more.
State the Adversity I want to write a book.5. 3. 2. Energize: Then. it was: I can’t do it. I am very discouraged. but in 20 years have never been able to get it done. Identify the Limiting Belief For me. overwhelming project. work through the limiting belief with the following 5 steps: 1. Be Aware of the Consequences: Because of this belief I… • Don’t even try to write a book • Am closed-minded about the whole thing • Have never opened myself up to creative ways to get it done . but still cannot let go of this goal. It will be a huge waste of time because I’ll never finish such a long.
. trying to produce a legendary masterpiece. Dispute the Belief I came to the realization that I was picturing myself writing Moby Dick! I had a very old-school idea in mind – that I would be slaving over my keyboard for months or years. to-the-point book and selling it inexpensively • Never make time in my schedule to work on the project • Always feel bad about myself when considering the idea 4.• Have never asked how I could make the process fun and productive • Have never connected with other authors to learn how they did it • Have not paid attention to the latest trends in independent publishing • Make dozens of assumptions about publishers and marketing – and all of these assumptions lead me to reject the idea of writing a book • Never considered options that suit my writing style. such as producing a short.
with a newly opened mind. Energize Yourself With this small chunk project in mind. it was done! Best of all. writing a short book is just a few steps beyond writing some of the longer articles that I produce regularly. I CAN do that! In fact. I sent it to key editors – colleagues of mine who were more than willing to review it and make suggestions. And I have the A-B-C-D-E process to thank for it. The publishing world has changed dramatically. Then. the book is selling around 100 copies per day on Amazon and the iNLP Center. It will serve as an introduction to the core ideas that I am passionate about. In 30 days. ACHILLES-EEL-COVER-FINAL-thin3d1Now. and do it relatively quickly. I can sell it inexpensively. . I came up with a very creative way to deliver the message that makes this particular book unique.Nonsense. 5. I am now excited to get going! The results of disputing and giving up my old belief and all of the assumptions that went with it were amazing. I can write a short and sweet ebook. I finished my first draft in just three days.
They cut off your imagination and kill your creativity. unnecessarily hanging onto a narrow view of the world. that the consequences of holding on to the belief are truly limiting. Remember. much of the time your mind has set a trap for you. you’ll realize that you had been fooling yourself. blinding you to the real opportunities that you could take advantage of. You’ll probably realize. you can loosen its grip on you.By carefully analyzing any limiting belief with the A-B-C-D-E method. you can! . it is important to take steps in the new and exciting direction that will inevitably emerge. regardless of your personal style or actual limitations. when you get stuck. as I did. Then. Can you identify the trap and free yourself? Yes. By disputing the belief – just by entering that frame of mind.
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