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A családról angolul Család/Gyermeknevelés Do you come from a large or a small family?

I come from a small family because my parents are divorced and I grew up as an only child. Who do you live together with? What is your relationship with them like? I live with my mum. She is a librarian in a school. I don’t get on very well with her, we often uarrel about unimportant things. She is caring but not very tolerant. !re you in close contact with those members of your immediate family who don’t live with you? I haven’t a close contact with them, for e"ample with my father and grandmother. #ccasionally I have lunch with them. $ow important to you is your e"tended family? I don’t have very strong family ties and I am not in close contact with many of my relatives. I haven’t seen some of my cousins for ages. !t times I bump into %&ss'eakad( them in the street and then we talk about what has happened to us since we last meet. What is your picture of an ideal husband and father like? !n ideal husband should feel responsible for his wife and dependants %eltartottak(. $e should be clever and active as well as practical in his knowledge of affairs and money. $e should be good with his hands and should have a good head for business. !t the same time he should be tall, strong, handsome and brave. Is the mother’s place in the home? )o, I don’t think so. If woman were involved %lefoglal*a vmi( only in domestic affairs %h+'i teend,k(, it would mean their leading separate lives from their husbands. -ut when they too have a *ob, they have more to share %megos't( with their husbands in other ways and can e"pect %elv+r( help from them in the home and with the children. .ou can’t deprive %megfos't( a woman of her right to earn her own living, find pleasure in her work and keep in touch %kapcsolatot tart( with real life. Should housewives be paid in the same way as other people are? /here is no way %nincs r+ m0d( you could pay a housewife now. She is doing about 12 *obs. 3amilies should have a woman %be*+r0n,*e van( in for some hours every day to do the housework. $ow many *obs are women responsible for? If a woman goes out to work %el*+r dolgo'ni(, she is responsible for at least three *obs. Some women hold high positions %magas beos't+sa van( and are good mothers and housewives at the same time. 4an a woman fulfil %tel*es5t( the duty %k&teless6g( of a wife, a mother and a career woman? It all depends on the husband’s attitude %viselked6s(. If he shares the responsibility of bringing up a child and caring for %t&r,dik vele( the family with his wife, which should ideally happen in every family, women will be less e"hausted and more efficient both at work and at home. Who wears the trousers in your family? 7y mother does as my parents are divorced so decisions are always made by her. What *obs are typically the husband’s responsibility? 7en are usually good at decorating the flat and repairing household devices %h+'tart+si es'k&'&k(. ! handyman %e'ermester( can fi" a dripping %cs&p&g,( tap, replace a burnt8 out light bulb, stick on wallpaper, repair a leaking waterpipe %foly0 v5've'et6k(. Who can stay at home on child care leave?

It ruins the child’s self8respect and does more harm than good. In practise. Definitely. It only frightens the child and makes both the child and the parent feel unhappy. It is very solemnly %komolyan( celebrated with ancient customs and traditions.!ccording to an act passed some years ago. which is *ust natural. /hey know that being permissive often does more harm than good. #n the other hand. What is you relationship like with your parents? I am very fond of my mum. Why not let them learn how to manage a certain amount of money and how to spin it out %elh:'( for a week or a month. Is it worth staying at home until the child is three years old? . it is either the mother or the father who can stay at home with the new8born #n what occasions do the member of the wider family meet? /he members of the wider family only meet at weddings. but I don’t always get on very well with her. /here are uite a few parents who try to protect their children from the pitfalls %csapda( of life. It also degrading %megal+'0( for it appeals %fordul( to cruelty. What is the greatest family festival for you? I think in this part of the world 4hristmas is the greatest family festival for everybody. $ow would you behave if you found your child had gone out of control? Dealing with a naughty child is no easy matter. I suppose there are more strict parents than permissive ones. prefer to have a church wedding too. /he guests are dressed in their best clothes and dance to accordion %harmonika( music. $ow does a couple get married in $ungary? . two or sometimes three years. /here can’t be anything more important for a mother than attending to %gondo'( a child during the first few years of its life. however. /he first few years of a child’s life are crucially %l6tfontoss+g:an( important. 7ost people however. She try to control me too much and uite often she treat me like <8year8old child. In fact I would never admit %megenged( them least of all to my parents. Would you give your children everything they want? . !fter the wedding ceremony there is a large reception %fogad+s( where an enormous meal is it is still the mother who goes on maternity leave %s'9let6si s'abads+g( for one. /he amount should not be too much. /hey e"pect me to regard %tekint( them as friends but at the same time they *ust give instructions and hardly ever ask me about my feelings. 7y friends are given much more freedom while I am always told what is right and what is wrong. What is your attitude to corporal punishment? 4orporal punishment is ineffective as beating can hardly make an unmanageable %ke'elhetetlen( child obey his elders. the wedding cake is cut and toasts are drunk in whisky or sherry. In the latter %ut0bbi( case there must be two witnesses. funerals and on christmas. Should children have pocket money? . #ld traditions such as dancing with the bride at midnight and the bride leaving to change clothes after the dance are still kept at most wedding parties. with the bride in white attended %k5s6r( by her bridesmaid and the bridegroom in black attended by his best men. I don’t think so. /his is the time creating contact between parent and child.eople can get married either in a church or in a registry office. !re parents too permissive %enged6keny( to their children nowadays? )o. /he only wise %b&lcs( attitude the parents adopt towards %alkalma'( their children’s behaviour is to sit down with them about their problems and e"plain to them what is right and what is wrong.

/hey should also be taught patriotism %ha'afiass+g( and the need for hard work.s6g( for young people today? )ot very promising. /here are far fewer *obs than even before and the unemployment rate is rising. I am very critical of my mum and the world around me but never of myself. 4an you e"plain why many school leavers with good resulta cannot enter universities? @nfortunately there are fewer university places in $ungary than are needed. /hey must know what is morally right or wrong. It is difficult to youngsters to *oin in this rat race where efficiency %hat6konys+g( has priority over human values. What are the *ob and career prospects !re children overburdened %t:lterhelt( at school? . $ave you or your friends ever had any e"perience of the generation gap? . ! child often has more energy than he knows what to do with. . negligence %hanyags+g( of teacher>etc. !t certain universities there are < or A applicants %*elentke'. I would *ust tell him that he’ll get a bike if he studies hard and this always does the trick. /o tell the truth I don’t know why my mother is against me going steady %*+r vkivel( with a boy at the age of 1?. What are the most important things about educating a child? It’s very important to direct a child’s energy into the right channels. being very much sensitive to social in*ustice %iga's+gtalans+g(. I suppose everybody has. Student are re uired to make an even more intense effort %er. /he young have always reacted against the accepted beliefs of their elders. $ow would you get your children study? . 4hildren. lack of time. Some of these are high pupil8teacher ratios. So parents should try and convince them not to want everything that money can buy. What are some of the problems teenagers have? -y the time they are 1? they almost certainly e"perienced some disillusionment %csal0d+s( with the adult society.fes'5t6s( and give up.ou can always ca*ole %leves' a l+b+r0l( a child into studying. I mostly had a difference of opinion with my mother. which puts a unrelenting %s'9ntelen( pressure on them. which leads them to ignore %semmibe ves'( parental counsel %tan+cs(. =ater. /he generation gap is by no means a modern phenomenon %*elens6g(. must realise that money is earned by hard work. /hey would like to unrestricted freedom at the moment and would like to be told what to do ne"t. Do you think schools are able to meet these re uirements? Schools are obsessed %megs'+llott( with training the child rather than giving him an overall %+ltal+nos( moral education. which it fails to do properly %megfelel.kife*t6s( in the third and fourth years of grammar school so they can get admission to university. /hat’s why they often feel frustrated about their own affairs.( for every place while admission to %felv6tel( others is uite easy to get. however. /hey feel that their parents don’t understand them. I think is *ust natural.It’s only natural for parents to try to do .arents are inclide to %ha*lamos( leave the child’s education up to the school. /eenagers need e"tra attention voth from parents and teachers otherwise they may easily turn to drugs or violence. @nderstandably there is a lot of competition at the entrance e"ams and sometimes even the best students fail to stand the strain %er. in most secondary schools in $ungary students have to cope with an enormous workload. youngsters should be taught respect for other people and the respect for the law. 7any youngsters are reaching maturity without learning the hard lessons of life. /eachers force them to do a lot of homework and take oral tests in class.en( owing to %vmi miatt( many different factors.

#therwise they would not be able to set up their own homes and raise B or < children.re8arranged marriages are very popular in some other cultures. I don’t think that I would be able to live with someone who is not chosen by me. ! century ago it was normal to do so but not anymore. $e should know what he wants to do with. I believe it’s very important to get to know and cohabit %egy9tt 6l( with the person you want to establish a family with. 2. együttélése 4an you imagine having < or A generations living under the same roof? In today’s world it is almost unimaginable to have < or even A generations living under the same roof in $ungary. /hey tend to live in the past and look at the world from an other angle. 3ortunately I and my mum rarely watch tv so it’s not a problem for us and we can talk to each other in the evenings. I cannot imagine living together with my grandparents. )ow there are fewer opportunities for en*oying the company of other people because everybody is busy and they don’t have time for each other.ou have time to decide whether sheGhe is the person you can imagine your whole life .es. Dery few people nowadays care to have such large families.eople used to know all of their neighbours but now people are isolated from each other and.$ow much freedom should children have in the choice of their careers? . /he period of courtship %udvarl+s( before one gets married is vital %alapvet. for e"ample in India. It’s when the parents of the couple agree on the marriage of their children. . What is your opinion about pre8arranged marriages? . !re you against or in favour of large families? Why? It would be nice to have a large family and a lot of children but i am afraid I couldn’t afford it.(. I think I would be too busy because of my *ob and it’s possible that financial things would be problems too. 3. It’s when two people agree to live together in good and bad no matter what will happen. /hey don’t want to admit that the world has Should parents still support their children once they have grown up? .arents should have a say but the final decision should be left up to the child. /oday the gap between the generations is so wide that it would be unbearable %tErhetetlen( to live together. what is even worse. It shows that the groom and the bride don’t trust each other and think about what if something goes wrong. /hat is the time when you get familiar with your girl or boyfriend. and there are different problems to tackle %megold( nowadays. I think marriage is sacred %s'ent(. .Házasság/ álás/!gyüttélési "ormák Do you think a prenuptial agreement should be signed between a man and woman? In my opinion. I think everybody needs some privacy and it cannot be achieved if the older ones always think that they know everything better. they are more e"perienced but everyone should have the possibility to live through whatever they need to go through. #nly with the help of a grandmother or a grandfather can a mother go out to work . /he elderly are always full of adviceF they consider themselves the wisest of all. I think people lived in a happy family and had lots of friends. !lso families used to be much larger. !fter all it is his life. Do you think family life is different today from what it was like <28C2 years ago? . What are the effects of television on family life? I accept that television is part of modern life but it can do a lot of harm if it is not used selectively. from the members of their own family. 7y grandmother was one of C children. a prenuptial agreement ruins %lerombol( the romance of a marriage.Generációk kapcsolata. I think so. #bviously.

It depends on the person. !ll they want is se"ual satisfaction and not a normal relationship. What do you know of polygamy and polyandry? In order to make *udgements %5t6let( about polygamy %t&bbne*Es6g( and polyandry %t&bbf6r*Es6g(. /here are. It can be uite shocking to realise after the honeymoon that your husband snores and his feet smell. )owadays.olygamy may also prove %bi'onyul( attractive to women because it provides a role for women in societies in which there is no accepted social role ascribed %tula*don5t( to unmarried womenF and it means shared child8 rearing %gyereknevel6s( and domestic labour %h+'imunka(. . an ideal period can be after graduating from higher education. !lthough laws prohibit %megtilt( polygamy. 4an you imagine having more spouses? I don’t think I could live with more than one spouse at the same time. as more and more people go to university. let them be good or bad. these people are not mature enough to bring up children and to provide them with the necessary financial background. !s far as the husband is concerned %6rdekelt(. What can be the pros and cons of getting married at an early age? I believe that getting married early is not very fashionable nowadays. It can have several advantages and disadvantages.( who they cheat on their spouse with. hisGher maturity and way of thinking. adultery %h+'ass+gt&r6s( is a very common issue in our world. In a pre8arranged marriage. /he advantage of an early marriage is that the generation gap between the parents and the children would be not so large. plenty of issues to consider %fontol0ra ves'( when founding a familyH !re . .oung people want to go on to higher education instead of starting a family. @nfortunately. What is the ideal age to start a family? I don’t think that there is an ideal age to start a family. $owever. -eing faithful does not mean too much for young people.olygamy is a form of marriage in which a man has more than one wife at the same time. In the @nited States it is also common in some 7ormon communities in @tah. you have no chance to decide about it and it can also happen that a very young girl is given to an elderly man. a lot of people have partners or mistresses %s'eret. thousands of people practise it. /his is the only way you can get familiar with your spouse’s habits. we have to have a clear picture about what the two words derive from %ered(.with. however. and it is still common %gyakori( in 7uslim countries and in some parts of !frica where it is legal under Islamic law. $owever. It is very difficult to make ends meet %ki*&n a fi'et6s6b.eople might think that it is normal as they see it on television all the time. which would probably not happen under normal circumstances. In most cases. I think that cohabitation reduces the risks of a bad marriage and this way the number of divorces will also decrease. . or your wife cannot even prepare the most basic dish for you. /hey think that they should en*oy life until they can and it is enough to find a future husband or wife at the age of <2. Is cohabiting before marriage important? I firmly believe that people should not get married without living together for at least a year. It has been widely practised at various times in many societies throughout the world. most early marriages ends in divorce.l( without the support of the whole family. . polygamy is an attractive form of marriage for several reasonsH it means greate economic contributions %ho''+*+rul+s( from the wives to the household incomeF it provides increased se"ual availability and companionshipF and it attracts greater social status and prestige to be able to afford to look after more than one wife.

If people live together. When children are adolescents the divorce of the parents can damage their soul really badly. /hey need someone they can rely on. whether you are ready to support a family or not is the most important uestion to answer. 3or some reason the $ungarian legal system regards mothers better caregivers than fathers. it is still not the end of their relationship. . /hese can be infidelity %hEtlens6g(. most people got married right after high school. !re divorced parents *udged fairly in $ungary? Divorced parents are not *udged in the same way. !nother important factor was the social status of the young. sheGhe cannot understand what is happening around himGher. If it happened. criminality or insanity %elme'avar(. Why do people get divorced? /here are several reasons why people get divorced. -y the time both the man and the woman have spent an enormous amount of money to pay the divorce lawyers. /o me it is shocking that the number of divorces is much higher in in the developed than in the undeveloped countries. What was the situation a hundred years ago? Iven in the middle of the twentieth century.oung couples struggled %igyeke'ett( together to make end meet and to bring up their children. all the bad habits might come up and then you can decide whether you still want to be bound %&ss'ek&t&tt( to the same person or not. When a couple get divorced. /hey cannot be split %felos't( and it is usually not them who decide which parent will have the right to continue the upbringing. !nother issue is the age difference between the husband and the wife. It sometimes takes years until a final agreement is settled. What do you think a child e"periences when the parents get divorced? In my opinion it is the children who lose the most in a divorce. If you don’t have a good. 3or some of them it is the beginning. !lso. 7ost people don’t know each other at the time of their marriage. Women wanted to avoid remaining spinsters %ha*adon( and they thought it was a shame if no one choose them. It is vital that young couples cohabit before getting married. /he beginning of a very unpleasant relationship. /hat is the only way you get to know your partner. If the child is a baby. It was considered abnormal if a girl who was over B2 was still single. What is the reason for the high number of divorces nowadays? In my opinion there can be several reasons for the high number of divorces. . It was obvious %nyilv+nval0( that two people from different levels of society do not match each other. I think that a big problem is that the parents very often don’t see how much their children suffer and *ust use them for their selfish games. there were usually family feuds %csal+di vis'+ly(. /oday it is a trend among young women to choose a man who has already achieved something in life. someone who would be faithful and a caring husband. It was uite rare for people with different backgrounds to get married. infertility %term6ketlens6g(. young men were sometimes disinherited %kitagadt+k( by their fathers if they dared %mer6s'elt( to marry someone inferior %als0bbrendE( to their ranks %rang(.you ready for a serious relationship or do you want to en*oy life a little more? 7ost people would say that en*oying life a bit is a good choice. well8paid *ob. it is almost impossible for one person to earn the money for the whole family. /hey believe that having a child is a burden %teher( on them. It is usually that the mother who gets the chance to bring up their children. What problems can come up after a divorce? I think that during a divorce it is very difficult to come to an agreement considering common property.