OMMUNITY AND SOCIAL ISSUES TO CONSIDER FOR AN INTER-FAITH MARRIAGE

In Bangladesh inter-caste marriages are treated with much anxiety and hostile outlook.it is asocial taboo to marry out of your cast or religion.The culture of inter-faith marriages is not yet accepted.We Bangladeshi are not so westernised that we would allow our children to marry whom-so-ever they want. inter-caste marriages dont work or intercaste marriages face problems.intercaste marriage have failure rate as much as 50% higer than same faith marriages. Here I will discuss the issues considering social and practical implications that can generally affect an inter-faith marriage. These issues will include religious compatibility, relationships with non-Muslim relatives, friendships circle, religious celebrations, food, social gatherings, acceptable dress code, cultural awareness and religious tolerance, charity, volunteer activities.

RELIGIOUS COMPATIBILITY: Religion is a way of life.religion shapes everything from life style .In intercaste marriage two people coming from two different religious background and different philosophy of life.there are always moments in inter religious marriage when differences in beliefs probably really irresolvable.Such situation are inevitable.its not easy to think outside the box you have lived in since birth.It’s way more important that you have similar morals and values.in tis type of marriage people trying to change each other and to convert them in their own religion by nagging,forcing giving ultimatums.they have lack of respect for each others heritage.they humiliating with words or action with each others beliefs that they follow, as it will niche a hard impact forever.

its always better to have peace in the "home." The family life will be much worry-free and harmonious if both spouses belong to the same religion and agree on same theology esp. if cultural differences also exist.

Lack of supports from Family,Relatives & Friends:Thus, no matter what region an intercaste couple hails from, the most likely difficulty that the pair is liable to face is a set of obstacles to family acceptance. This problem applies both to the family into which one marries and to the family one comes from. Often the family will feel and communicate a sense of betrayal to the son or daughter for his or her action. the lack of support that inter caste couples might receive from family and friends from the intial period of their relationship.their parents could oppose to marriage and they have

to start a life with out the parents blessings. she is under no obligation to avoid what is allowed to her by her religion. Food and Social gathering: for example. if they have kids then telling them what not eat and whom not to pray to. Otherwise. . the situation may get tense at such a joyful occasion and may leave bitter memories. eating non-halaal foods and consuming alcohol. if he doesn't like them. At such instances. ethics. If the wife is non-Muslim then she is under no obligation to follow a strict Islamic dress code. CULTURAL VALUES:cultural issues are very personal and sensitive. because the couple may well have conflicting views on morality. family traditions. theology. wants. etc. the religious factor can be a particularly major stressor.the opposite sides didn't know about the rituas and systems and cant particepate in the occations in proper way. other religious friends will also invite the family on their religious events and its difficult to participate and take the kids in such celebrations and festivities. when dealing with opposite side relatives and friends may occur certain situations that can lead to unanticipated misunderstandings. But sometimes certain outside non-Muslim influences in the marriage and esp. If the Muslim man is trying to follow his religion then he will obviously prefer his wife and kids to be dressed properly.A non-Muslim woman is not bounded by Islamic values regarding dressing up. Celebrations: In celebrations. and needs.the worst pssible scenario is starting after the honey-and-roses romance is over. world view.t may even lead to community clashes and People may talk ill about these two families. it may be difficult to participate in ceremonies and esp. Many people view these as important parts of their identity. priorities.for example. ACCEPTABLE DRESS evry religion have some special dress codes for man and woman. Of these. on the kids are to be avoided. FRIENDSHIP CIRCLE The family has friends from both faiths and it will be unfair that you have only Muslims friends. These may influence many of their decisions. mixed parties. She MAY avoid all such items voluntarily to make family life pleasant or as a goodwill gesture to please her Muslim husband.

also some intense emotional abuse from family members who contemplate inter-caste marriages. RAISING KIDS:he number one problem is that when the two people eventually have a child/children. both of them are going to want to raise them with their own religion. Let's be real careful about it. These revolve around negative responses from extended family members and friends.in interfaith family. Marriage is a critical decision in not only our life. there are some specific areas of difficulties to cope with.Marriages of the children would be problematic . but for our kids and their and our hereafter. and handling the holidays. raising children interfaith.RELIGIOUS TOLERANCE IN THE FAMILY:Receiving a cold shoulder from family or failing to wholeheartedly adopt new rituals are certainly problems that inter-caste couples must face. While it seems like a good idea to raise them with both religions it will be overwhelming and confusing for them. .

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