Raise Your Self Esteem

Twelve Valuable Steps to Raise Your Self Esteem As adults, we can choose the messages we accept or reject. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Building high self esteem is a process, not something you can develop overnight," says !effrey "eller. "#et, $ %elieve every person has the capacity of high self esteem. &he 'uestion is, are you ready to make a commitment to increase your self esteem(" If your answer is yes, here are 12 steps to get you started – Step ne – )top comparing yourself with other people. &here will always %e some people who have more than you and some who have less. $f you play the comparison game, you*ll run into too many "opponents" you can*t defeat. Step Two – )top putting yourself down. #ou can*t develop high self esteem if you repeat negative phrases a%out yourself and your a%ilities. +hether speaking a%out your appearances, your career, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self deprecating comments. Step Three – Accept all compliments with "thank you." Ever received a compliment and replied," ,h, it was nothing." +hen you reject a compliment, the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy of praise. Respond to all compliments with a simple &hank #ou."

+hatever material you allow to dominate mind will eventually take root and affect your %ehavior. card. )imilarly.Step !our – -se affirmations to enhance your self esteem. Again. supportive people. reaching a %usiness goal. +hile reviewing it. Step Si" – Associate with positive. )tart focusing on your positive traits and you*ll stand a much %etter chance of achieving what you wish to achieve. Repeat the statement several times during the day. . graduating from high school. $f you watch negative television programs or read newspaper reports of murders and %usiness rip off0 you will grow cynical and pessimistic. $t can include your "minor victories.perienced when you first attained each success. your self esteem is lowered. when you are accepted and encouraged." or "$ am valua%le.n the %ack of a %usiness card or small inde. you will take on these characteristics. Step !ive – &ake advantage of workshops. . you feel %etter a%out yourself in the %est possi%le environment to raise your self esteem.perience positive feelings a%out your statement. etc. +hen you are surrounded %y negative people who constantly put you and your ideas down.n the other hand. that are positive in nature. especially at night %efore going to %ed and after getting up in the morning. receiving an award or promotion. write out a statement such as "$ like and accept my self. if you read %ooks or listen to programs. Step Seven – 1ake a list of your past successes. close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you e. it*s important to review this list often. Step Eight – 1ake a list of your positive 'ualities. 1ost people dwell on their inade'uacies and then wonder why their life isn*t working out. allow yourself to e." /arry the card with you." like learning to skate. Are you honest( -nselfish( 2elpful( /reative( Be generous with yourself and write down at least 34 positive 'ualities. &his doesn*t necessarily have to consist of monumental accomplishments. lova%le person and deserve the %est in life. %ooks and cassette tape programs on self esteem. . +henever you say the affirmation. Read this list often.

+hen you fail to move forward %ecause of fear and an.tending love to others. which. Step Twelve – &ake action7 #ou won*t develop high self esteem if you sit on the sidelines and %ack away from challenges. &he "real you" is a magnificent. #ou*ll never gain your own respect and feel good a%out yourself if you aren*t leading the life you want to lead.periencing love of yourself and e. Rather. $ mean that you must %egin to give more of yourself to those around your. which you find stimulating and enjoya%le. Even if you can*t e.when you*re alone. As your self esteem grows.plore alternative career options at the present time. +hen you do things for others. you are making a positive contri%ution and you %egin to feel more valua%le. this "real you" emerges. )elf esteem flourishes when you are engaged in work and activities that you enjoy and make you feel valua%le. Step Eleven – Be true to yourself. uni'ue %eing with enormous potential and capacity for e. +hen you take action you*ll %e frustrated and unhappy your self esteem. $t*s hard to feel good a%out yourself if your days are spent in work you despise.Step #ine – )tart giving more. $*m not talking a%out money. you truly appreciate the person you*re with yourself. regardless of the ensuing result you feel %etter a%out yourself. lifts your spirits and raises your own self esteem. 1ost importantly. you aren*t %eing true to yourself and your self esteem is lowered.iety. in turn. 6ive your own life not the life others have decided is %est for you. $f you*re making decisions %ased on getting approval from friends and relatives. high self esteem %rings you peace of mind . #ou %egin to take more risks and not %e afraid of failure0 you aren*t as concerned with getting approval of others0 your relationships are much more rewarding0 you pursue activities that %ring you joy and satisfaction0 and you will make a positive contri%ution to the world. you can still devote leisure time to ho%%ies and activities. Step Ten – 5et involved in work and activities you love. and you will undou%tedly deal a damaging %low to .