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HOW TO BE A VERY COLD AND QUIET PERSON Source: Wikihow

1. Be quiet. This doesn’t mean that you should never talk. However, being loud and boisterous is not going to pass you off as emotional and romantic. Romantic Goths are often soft spoken and thoughtful. Think before you speak. Is that comment really necessary? Has that question already been answered? Will that statement actually lead to a proper conversation? Train your mind to ask these questions before you open your mouth and you’ll be surprised at how much quieter you’ll become. 2. Be independent. You must be courteous, but do not bend over backwards to please others. If you do, you may find yourself being taken advantage of in the future. Limit your time and availability and draw boundaries with others so that they are aware of your limits. 3. Keep to yourself. If you have friends, that's fine. It's great to have friends, but you must be prepared to not talk to them as much. Or maybe you're going to be one of those people who is quiet around people you don't know, but talks around your friends.
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If there are things that you would normally say out loud, organize them into thoughts. It is easier said than done. If you are in school, and you normally sit in the middle of a big crowd of people, then sit in the back corner or back row of seats. At lunch, if you sit towards the middle of the table, sit in the corner. If you really have to talk, think about what you are going to say for at least 5 seconds.

4. Be stoic at all times. 5. Try to have a disinterested attitude and indifferent attitude to most things in life. 6. When lining up for class or just hanging out with friends, lean against a wall with your arms crossed or in your pockets, one leg half way up resting on the wall. 7. Definitely don't laugh or smile a lot. If something seems a little bit amusing, you're limit is a mere grin or smirk, as if thinking 'that was dumb'. Laughing makes people think you're an open person, and you don't want that, now, do you? 9. Practice being unpredictable. Think of your typical reactions to things (this is where knowing yourself comes in handy) and decide which reactions you want to keep, and which ones you want to change. Maybe you totally hate watching the footy, but every now and then you sit down with your family and really get into it. This is probably the hardest step, but if you work hard, you can achieve it.

Playing on rafts or using a bar to skate aren't very clever ways to make people think you're all that mysterious. that kid is messed up. simply go around just floating or looking about. and there's no chance you'll get in trouble! Never ever snub anyone. and risk getting in trouble. And if you see your enemy or something then don't let her/him know that you hate them If someone walks up to you and asks why you never talk. If you're going swimming or ice skating. 13. Some people may view you saw "weird". don't use text speak like "LOL". Instead text "That's funny." out loud. Jane Austen.you don't want to give off the impression of being rude! you want to be mysterious which means if you catch a guy's eye." It may be a pain. Warnings     People could start thinking you don't like them anymore and stop bothering you and ignore you and move on even. you can think whatever you want. Don't take this offensively. So be gentle too. look them squarely in the eye and say. Charlotte Brontë and Alexandre Dumas père have all written great books. 12. take it as a compliment. 11. he'll want to chase you! Tips       When texting. Poetry is a great way to let your emotion flow. once you organize what you would normally say into thoughts. If you aren't obvious about your emotions. People may not want to be around you as much. Don't talk a lot about your opinions and feelings. give him a sultry look and look away.10. but it adds to the mystery. Read a great deal. Be silent but speak when spoken to. People may ask why you don't talk. Try not to let expression show on your face. Poets are quite mysterious. but seem friendly at the same time. Go for items with the darker sides. 14. If someone talks to you when you planned to talk to another group. slipping into the shadows. "Why do you never shut up?" Being quiet is all like being gentle. you will seem even more mysterious. except maybe to very close friends and family. Learn to journal and write. Don't act desperate or pathetic in front of people. keep the conversation short and sweet. and people will take it more seriously. Books like these will increase your vocabulary and will impress many people. Just read a book or draw. Man. Don't skip rope or go play football or something like that. If you would normally say "Wow. .

Ask questions that clarify your understanding of what the other person meant.   You may be classed as moody. and don't go overboard. Brash and loud people appear to be ill-tempered and self-centered. HOW TO BE A QUIET PERSON Source: Wikihow Method 1 of 4: Things That Quiet People Do Better 1. 4. Being too mysterious could make people -. Appear more approachable. Their ways will earn them the respect of others and will make them appear more competent. Stop interrupting people. When you're with a quiet person. 3. . Quiet people are easier to approach than people who are too loud and aggressive. Choose to understand other people before you say anything. Method 2 of 4: How to Be Quieter in Conversation 1. 5. 4. Keep it low. 2. It all depends on how you do it (as in: present yourself). Command respect. Observe the body language of other speakers. Earn others' trust. Calm volatile situations. Quiet people work well in situations that require other people to trust them. When you interrupt someone.especially your parents --think that you're up to something not good. Act more cautiously. People who consider their words carefully before they speak tend to speak more wisely. 2. Keep the conversation centered on them instead of on yourself. Ask questions that focus on the other person. you demonstrate a complete lack of respect for their thoughts and feelings. Take the time to hear the meaning behind their words instead of just jumping in with your own opinions or comments. Don't ask questions and then launch into your own invective. 3. Quiet people tend to be less impulsive. You can have a bunch of friends and still be mysterious. Being mysterious doesn't mean you can't have friends. They consider decisions from multiple angles before acting. that person can have a calming effect on the situation and can help others to settle down and think more clearly.

but only when spoken to. Tips    Try to subtly and politely divert attention from yourself. you'll have to change your ways and become more considerate. Don't be impolite or unnecessarily curt — speak politely. When something wrong is happening or when someone needs to make a valid point. 4 Spend time alone. Concise is the goal. Do you tend to have a strident and annoying voice? Soften your delivery and talk just loud enough to be heard. . Quiet is the goal. people will respect what you have to say. 2 Try not to be too quiet when you're meeting a new person. 2 Find a quiet hobby. If you are a loud and constant complainer. work with your therapist to get to the root of your anger.5. Pause when agitated or excited. not impolite or snobby. The person may assume that you are strange or that you are not worth talking to. If you've been more reserved and sensible about when you talk. To make the relationship work. Think before you speak. 6. Method 3 of 4: Lead a Quiet Life 1 Meditate to help quiet your mind for at least a few minutes every day. Learn why they believe that way. Don't speak unnecessarily. Be mindful of interrupting another. it's cowardly. Author Susan Cain says that "Quiet is a catalyst for innovation. Being quiet to avoid confrontation is not helpful. Method 4 of 4: Strike a Balance So That You Speak Up When Appropriate 1 Avoid being quiet just to make other people angry. and where it comes from. 3 Talk to a therapist about why you are so demanding of other people's attention. zen gardening or some other activity that doesn't require extraneous talking. Try knitting. then speak your mind. and answer intelligently and not in an overly forward "yes/no" manner. 3 Speak up at the appropriate time. Instead. find a balance between listening to the other people around you and asking considerate questions. Lower your volume. Make your points during an argument. but make them in a reasonable way without using a loud voice. Do not assume that someone with a different position or opinion is therefore wrong or stupid or malicious. not laconic or brusque." 5 Choose a quiet partner.

If you can't find inspiration. o A good time to begin such a "vow of silence" is after a procedure that causes pain in the mouth or head. Then try three hours. find a good reason to talk less or not at all). Take a "vow of silence" for a short period of time. Warnings  If you suddenly transition from being a loud and boisterous person to being a quiet person. . people will wonder if something is wrong with you.  Having a friend's support is often helpful. Maybe you can be completely silent for an hour. Look for inspiration to become a quiet person. or even a minor bonk on the head. such as braces adjustments. If you can make it to a whole day. you might find yourself observing more around you that you never noticed before because you were too busy talking. Tell them that you are working on being quieter and let them watch and appreciate the positive changes. root canals. especially if they're already the quiet type (or trying to be). create some (though you certainly shouldn't hurt yourself of course — what we mean is.

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