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1. Be quiet. This doesnt mean that you should never talk. However, being loud and boisterous is not going to pass you off as emotional and romantic. Romantic Goths are often soft spoken and thoughtful. Think before you speak. Is that comment really necessary? Has that question already been answered? Will that statement actually lead to a proper conversation? Train your mind to ask these questions before you open your mouth and youll be surprised at how much quieter youll become. 2. Be independent. You must be courteous, but do not bend over backwards to please others. If you do, you may find yourself being taken advantage of in the future. Limit your time and availability and draw boundaries with others so that they are aware of your limits. 3. Keep to yourself. If you have friends, that's fine. It's great to have friends, but you must be prepared to not talk to them as much. Or maybe you're going to be one of those people who is quiet around people you don't know, but talks around your friends.

If there are things that you would normally say out loud, organize them into thoughts. It is easier said than done. If you are in school, and you normally sit in the middle of a big crowd of people, then sit in the back corner or back row of seats. At lunch, if you sit towards the middle of the table, sit in the corner. If you really have to talk, think about what you are going to say for at least 5 seconds.

4. Be stoic at all times. 5. Try to have a disinterested attitude and indifferent attitude to most things in life. 6. When lining up for class or just hanging out with friends, lean against a wall with your arms crossed or in your pockets, one leg half way up resting on the wall. 7. Definitely don't laugh or smile a lot. If something seems a little bit amusing, you're limit is a mere grin or smirk, as if thinking 'that was dumb'. Laughing makes people think you're an open person, and you don't want that, now, do you? 9. Practice being unpredictable. Think of your typical reactions to things (this is where knowing yourself comes in handy) and decide which reactions you want to keep, and which ones you want to change. Maybe you totally hate watching the footy, but every now and then you sit down with your family and really get into it. This is probably the hardest step, but if you work hard, you can achieve it.

10. Just read a book or draw. Don't skip rope or go play football or something like that. If you're going swimming or ice skating, simply go around just floating or looking about. Playing on rafts or using a bar to skate aren't very clever ways to make people think you're all that mysterious. 11. Don't talk a lot about your opinions and feelings, except maybe to very close friends and family. Try not to let expression show on your face. If you aren't obvious about your emotions, you will seem even more mysterious. 12. Go for items with the darker sides. Learn to journal and write. Poets are quite mysterious. Poetry is a great way to let your emotion flow. 13. Read a great deal. Jane Austen, Charlotte Bront and Alexandre Dumas pre have all written great books. Books like these will increase your vocabulary and will impress many people. 14. Be silent but speak when spoken to, but seem friendly at the same time- you don't want to give off the impression of being rude! you want to be mysterious which means if you catch a guy's eye; give him a sultry look and look away, slipping into the shadows. Man, he'll want to chase you! Tips

When texting, don't use text speak like "LOL". Instead text "That's funny." It may be a pain, but it adds to the mystery, and people will take it more seriously. If you would normally say "Wow, that kid is messed up." out loud, and risk getting in trouble, once you organize what you would normally say into thoughts, you can think whatever you want, and there's no chance you'll get in trouble! Never ever snub anyone. If someone talks to you when you planned to talk to another group, keep the conversation short and sweet. Don't act desperate or pathetic in front of people. And if you see your enemy or something then don't let her/him know that you hate them If someone walks up to you and asks why you never talk, look them squarely in the eye and say, "Why do you never shut up?" Being quiet is all like being gentle. So be gentle too.


People could start thinking you don't like them anymore and stop bothering you and ignore you and move on even. People may ask why you don't talk. Some people may view you saw "weird". Don't take this offensively, take it as a compliment. People may not want to be around you as much.

You may be classed as moody. Being mysterious doesn't mean you can't have friends. You can have a bunch of friends and still be mysterious. It all depends on how you do it (as in: present yourself). Being too mysterious could make people -- especially your parents --think that you're up to something not good. Keep it low, and don't go overboard.


Source: Wikihow Method 1 of 4: Things That Quiet People Do Better 1. Act more cautiously. Quiet people tend to be less impulsive. They consider decisions from multiple angles before acting. 2. Appear more approachable. Quiet people are easier to approach than people who are too loud and aggressive. 3. Calm volatile situations. When you're with a quiet person, that person can have a calming effect on the situation and can help others to settle down and think more clearly. 4. Earn others' trust. Quiet people work well in situations that require other people to trust them. Brash and loud people appear to be ill-tempered and self-centered. 5. Command respect. People who consider their words carefully before they speak tend to speak more wisely. Their ways will earn them the respect of others and will make them appear more competent. Method 2 of 4: How to Be Quieter in Conversation 1. Choose to understand other people before you say anything. Keep the conversation centered on them instead of on yourself. 2. Observe the body language of other speakers. Take the time to hear the meaning behind their words instead of just jumping in with your own opinions or comments. 3. Stop interrupting people. When you interrupt someone, you demonstrate a complete lack of respect for their thoughts and feelings. 4. Ask questions that focus on the other person. Ask questions that clarify your understanding of what the other person meant. Don't ask questions and then launch into your own invective.

5. Lower your volume. Do you tend to have a strident and annoying voice? Soften your delivery and talk just loud enough to be heard. 6. Do not assume that someone with a different position or opinion is therefore wrong or stupid or malicious. Learn why they believe that way, and where it comes from. Method 3 of 4: Lead a Quiet Life 1 Meditate to help quiet your mind for at least a few minutes every day. 2 Find a quiet hobby. Try knitting, zen gardening or some other activity that doesn't require extraneous talking. 3 Talk to a therapist about why you are so demanding of other people's attention. If you are a loud and constant complainer, work with your therapist to get to the root of your anger. 4 Spend time alone. Author Susan Cain says that "Quiet is a catalyst for innovation." 5 Choose a quiet partner. To make the relationship work, you'll have to change your ways and become more considerate. Method 4 of 4: Strike a Balance So That You Speak Up When Appropriate 1 Avoid being quiet just to make other people angry. Being quiet to avoid confrontation is not helpful; it's cowardly. Make your points during an argument, but make them in a reasonable way without using a loud voice. 2 Try not to be too quiet when you're meeting a new person. The person may assume that you are strange or that you are not worth talking to. Instead, find a balance between listening to the other people around you and asking considerate questions. 3 Speak up at the appropriate time. When something wrong is happening or when someone needs to make a valid point, then speak your mind. If you've been more reserved and sensible about when you talk, people will respect what you have to say.


Try to subtly and politely divert attention from yourself. Don't speak unnecessarily. Think before you speak. Pause when agitated or excited. Be mindful of interrupting another. Don't be impolite or unnecessarily curt speak politely, but only when spoken to, and answer intelligently and not in an overly forward "yes/no" manner. Quiet is the goal, not impolite or snobby. Concise is the goal, not laconic or brusque.

Having a friend's support is often helpful, especially if they're already the quiet type (or trying to be). Take a "vow of silence" for a short period of time. Maybe you can be completely silent for an hour. Then try three hours. If you can make it to a whole day, you might find yourself observing more around you that you never noticed before because you were too busy talking. o A good time to begin such a "vow of silence" is after a procedure that causes pain in the mouth or head, such as braces adjustments, root canals, or even a minor bonk on the head. Look for inspiration to become a quiet person. If you can't find inspiration, create some (though you certainly shouldn't hurt yourself of course what we mean is, find a good reason to talk less or not at all).


If you suddenly transition from being a loud and boisterous person to being a quiet person, people will wonder if something is wrong with you. Tell them that you are working on being quieter and let them watch and appreciate the positive changes.