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Contents
Note to Reader . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
A Note from Jackie. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
How to Use Tis Journal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13
Week One A Lady of Reckless Abandon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
Video Session 1 Lady of Reckless Abandon. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
Entry One You Are Satised by Your All-Sucient Savior . . . 19
Entry Two You Are Fullled in the Lordship of Jesus . . . . . . . 23
Entry Three You Are Complete in Christ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27
Entry Four Your Alabaster Box Is Reserved for Jesus . . . . . . . . 31
Entry Five You Are Worthy of Friends Who Summon
You to Reckless Abandon. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
Week Two A Lady of Diligence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39
Video Session 2 Lady of Diligence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41
Entry Six You Can Make the Most of Your Singleness . . . . . 43
Entry Seven You Are Not Being Denied!. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47
Entry Eight You Do Not Have to Put the Abundant Life
on Hold . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51
Entry Nine Your Singleness Is Actually Enviable. . . . . . . . . . . . 55
Entry Ten You Have Incredible Outlets for
Impacting Lives . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59
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Week Three A Lady of Faith . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63
Video Session 3 Lady of Faith. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65
Entry Eleven God Moves Beyond Your Logic . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67
Entry Twelve God Is Your Solution for Every
No-Hope Situation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71
Entry Thirteen God Gives Us Faith to Drown Out Our Doubts . . 75
Entry Fourteen God Wants to Set You Up for
Divine Encounters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79
Entry Fifteen God Wants You to Rest in His Faithfulness. . . . . . 83
Week Four A Lady of Virtue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87
Video Session 4 Lady of Virtue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89
Entry Sixteen Discover Your Unique Identity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91
Entry Seventeen Virtue Makes You Irresistible to Boaz. . . . . . . . . . . 95
Entry Eighteen Breaking Out of the Beautiful Body Trap . . . . . . 99
Entry Nineteen Pursue the Fear of the Lord. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103
Entry Twenty Who You Date Is a Reection of Who
You Are . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107
Week Five A Lady of Devotion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111
Video Session 5 Lady of Devotion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113
Entry Twenty-One A Lady of Devotion Pursues God
for Herself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115
Entry Twenty-Two A Lady of Devotion Dethrones Self and Yields
to the Holy Spirit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119
Entry Twenty-Three A Lady of Devotion Knows God Intimately. . . . . 125
Entry Twenty-Four A Lady of Devotion Responds to Gods
Devotion to Her . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129
Entry Twenty-Five A Lady of Devotion Is an Anna in
Gods Presence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133
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Week Six A Lady of Purity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 137
Video Session 6 Lady of Purity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 139
Entry Twenty-Six Purity Is a Most Prized Possession . . . . . . . . . . . . 141
Entry Twenty-Seven Purity Is Power . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145
Entry Twenty-Eight Purity Is Protection. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149
Entry Twenty-Nine Purity Is a Shield from Condemnation,
Fear, and Doubt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 153
Entry Thirty Purity Gives Relationships the
Right Foundation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157
Week Seven A Lady of Security. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 161
Video Session 7 Lady of Security . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 163
Entry Thirty-One A Lady of Security Is Not on a Manhunt. . . . . . . 165
Entry Thirty-Two A Lady of Security Is Filled Up and
Satised by Her Heavenly Father. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 169
Entry Thirty-Three A Lady of Security Is Settled in the Truth
Tat God Is Actually Good. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 173
Entry Thirty-Four A Lady of Security Is Condent in Her
Relationship with Jesus. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 179
Entry Thirty-Five A Lady of Security Surrenders to Gods Plan
without Trying to Help Him Out . . . . . . . . . . . . . 183
Week Eight A Lady of Contentment. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 187
Video Session 8 Lady of Contentment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 189
Entry Thirty-Six A Lady of Contentment Focuses on What
She Has, Not What She Lacks . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 191
Entry Thirty-Seven A Lady of Contentment Does Not See
Waiting as a Bad Ting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 195
Entry Thirty-Eight A Lady of Contentment Is Full of Joy. . . . . . . . . . 199
Entry Thirty-Nine A Lady of Contentment Avoids the Ditches. . . . . 203
Entry Forty A Lady of Contentment Is and Has a Spiritual
Monitor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 207
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Week Nine A Lady of Conviction. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 211
Video Session 9 Lady of Conviction. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 213
Entry Forty-One A Lady of Conviction Guards Her
Choices Carefully . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 215
Entry Forty-Two A Lady of Conviction Rejects the Lie Tat
She is Damaged Goods . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 219
Entry Forty-Three A Lady of Conviction Tinks Higher Tan the
World. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 223
Entry Forty-Four A Lady of Conviction Says No and
Calls Others Up Higher. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 227
Entry Forty-Five A Lady of Conviction Does Not Settle for Anyone
Less Tan a Boaz . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 231
Week Ten Lady of Patience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 237
Video Session 10 Lady of Patience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 239
Entry Forty-Six A Lady of Patience Rejects the Fear Trap. . . . . . . 241
Entry Forty-Seven A Lady of Patience Is Being Set Up
for Gods Best . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 245
Entry Forty-Eight A Lady of Patience Protects Herself from the
Life-Altering Consequences of Impatience . . . . . . 249
Entry Forty-Nine A Lady of Patience Is Not Idle, but Obedient . . . 253
Entry Fifty A Lady of Patience Is Satised in Her Savior. . . . 257
Answer Key. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 261
Endnotes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 267
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Note to Reader
Even though the Lady in Waiting study guide is designed for use
with the Lady in Waiting DVD study, you can go through the daily jour-
nal entries, fill out the questions and interact with the material without
going through the video curriculum.
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A Note from Jackie
Hey girls (You are all Gods girls, no matter how old!)
These next ten weeks are going to be so much more than a Bible
study. If you didnt know that, well here you go. My heart burns for you
to have more than good information. Too many of us have brains filled
with good information, but that information never seems to make it
down into our hearts and, in turn, change our lives.
When you see Lady in Waiting, you might immediately think
Okay, great. A book on purity. Been there, heard that message. Whats
new? In the pages to come we are going to get real, open, and honest
really quickly. I dont have time for games or candy-coating the issues.
We cannot afford to dance around issues when a generation is experi-
encing a non-stop onslaught of deceptive messages.
I believe one of the goals of this study is to produce purity in your
life, but it really focuses on identity. Its called Lady in Waiting, not Lady
Pursuing Purity. Why? In our good-intentioned desires to help people
pursue a pure lifestyle (which is absolutely essential), we have neglected
the foundations. We point our fingers religiously and say Do this! or
Dont do that. The problem is not that we are warning about wrong
things, but we are not providing our girls with the alternative. A woman
pursues purity when she recognizes the precious treasure that purity was
designed to guard and protect.
Listen, the world is after your identity. It wants to define who you
are. Culture and media have a clear agenda that is after your mind,
your heart, your affections, your money, and yes, ultimately your soul.
The one pulling the strings in each of these areas, your enemy, is very
intentional about doing whatever he can to distract you from your true
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identity so that you start taking the bait thrown at you every day. In
this study, we are going to discover who you are in Christ, and when
you know who you are, I am convinced that anything and anyone who is
not proactively calling forth your destiny, your purpose, and your God-
designed identity will not be worth your time.
There is a world waiting for you out therenot to conform to it, but
to transform it. The way you are going to become one who transforms is
by first recognizing who you are, what you have been called to, and in
turn, what it looks like to live out your purpose.
Here is your challenge: For the next 10 weeks (50 days), I would
like you to take 15 to 25 minutes per day and invest in this experience. I
dont have time to give you some lame questions or silly anecdotes. This
journal is me sharing Gods Word and heart with you, and then you, in
turn, sharing your heart with Him. Result? When you open your heart
to the Redeemer of your heart, He will come and do a most profound
and powerful work.
I have great expectations for what our great God is going to do in
your life!
J
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How to Use This Journal
DAILY ENTRIES
These are not devotionals; they are clear words based on Scripture
designed to ground you in your God-defined identity.
Remember, purity is the result of living in alignment with your
identity. If you dont know who you are and how precious you are to
the Father, purity sounds like a burden. When you know who you are,
purity is the only way that makes sense to keep you from living beneath
your identity as the Kings daughter. This is the journey we are going on
together over the next fifty days. Im so excited!
DAILY AFFIRMATION
This is a statement designed for you to think, speak, reflect upon,
and/or pray.
JOURNAL EXERCISES
This is your opportunity to interact with the daily entry. I dont
want you to just get more information; I really want you to apply these
principles to your life and become solid in your identity as Gods pre-
cious one.
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Week One
A Lady of
Reckless Abandon
Reckless abandon is a level of surrender that unlocks
the greatest treasures God has in store for His kids.
In fact, saying yes to Jesus has preceded every miracle
I have ever experienced during the past forty-
ve years as His follower. ]acx:v KvNoaii
It comes the very moment you wake up each morning.
All your wishes and hopes for the day rush at you like
wild animals. And the rst job each morning consists
simply in shoving them all back; in listening to that other
voice, taking that other point of view, letting that other
larger, stronger, quieter life come owing in. And so on,
all day. Standing back from all your natural fussings and
frettings; coming in out of the wind. C.S. Ivw:s'
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Video Session 1
Lady of Reckless Abandon
Tis is what the Lord says: Stand at the crossroads
and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where
the good way is, and walk in it, and you will
nd rest for your souls ( ]vvvx:an 6:16 NIV).
1. A lady of reckless abandon says a lifelong to Jesus.
a. Our reckless abandon positions us to fulfill
our .
b. Our reckless abandon responds to the
of God.
Mary, the Mother of Jesus
She is a perfect example of reckless abandon because she said
to the call of God on her life.
Mary said, I am the Lords servant, and I am willing to do
whatever he wants (Luke 1:38 TLB).
2. A lady of reckless abandon lays her
at Jesus feet.
a. Your alabaster jar contains your .
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3. A lady of reckless abandon is in
Christ.
4. A lady of reckless abandon understands that she becomes a woman
when she becomes who wants her to be.
5. A lady of reckless abandon says yes, even when its
and shapes the rest of her life.
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Ent ry One
You Are Satisfied by Your
All-Sufficient Savior
Hes the only one qualied to be an all
sucient Savior. S.M. Iocxv:ocv
Do you feel like a lady in waiting? Lets be real for a minute. Are your
friends/roommates dating while you are at home alone? Are you enter-
ing that wonderful season where everyone on the planet seems to be
getting engagedexcept for you? Do you feel like you are missing out
on something? Are you dissatised?
Consider this for a moment:
A woman is not born a woman. Nor does she become one
when she marries a man, bears a child and does their dirty
linen, not even when she joins a womens liberation move-
ment. A woman becomes a woman when she becomes what
God wants her to be.
Nothing that this world offers, good or bad, was designed to satisfy
you. It absolutely cannot. Many try to take the world up on its shallow
offers. The results are always the samedissatisfaction with sorrow. Not
only does the world prove to be the opposite of what it claimed to be,
but we look back with regret over the fact that we invested our previous
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time, energy, love, and even parts of our hearts into something that will
only let us down. This includes good things like relationships, and yes,
even a husband.
Your Father in Heaven is the only One capable of satisfying the
longing in your spirit. Why? He actually put it there to begin with. God
created you with a void that only He could fill. Scripture reveals these
truths about God:
You open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing
(Psalms 145:16 NIV).
In Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are plea-
sures forevermore (Psalms 16:11).
What does He satisfy you with? Something that no human being
could ever give you. The Lord spoke to the prophet Jeremiah saying,
Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with lovingkindness
I have drawn you (Jer. 31:3).
As I mentioned at the beginning, this ten week journey is so much
more than a Bible study. I desire you to encounter the everlasting love of
Father God in a fresh, powerful, life-changing way. Gods love ruins you
for anything or anyone who does not love and cherish you in like manner.
So here is my invitation to you: Dont settle for anything less than
Gods everlasting, unchanging, and unconditional love! Jesus was never
meant to simply be words on a page, a church service, or a Bible study.
These are wonderful outlets, for sure, but above all, your Savior is a Liv-
ing Person who burns with love for you.
The question is: How far will you go with Him? This used to be a
popular question concerning physical touch with dating: How far did
you get? There are healthy boundaries in relationships to guard your
heart. However, with pursuing an experience of Gods love, there are
no boundaries. The limits are off! You are as close to God as you want
to be. Let this be an invitation that thrills you beyond belief. You dont
have time to be consumed with what everyone else is doing and who
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they are dating. Let your heart burn because you have tasted and seen
that the Lord is good. You have been ruined for anything less than your
all sufficient Savior!
DAILY AFFIRMATION
I am fully satisfied in Christ and Christ alone! He loves me with
an everlasting love, and I refuse to settle for anything or anyone
who offers less than what has been modeled by my Savior.
JOURNALING EXERCISES
1. Take some time to create a list of things that the world (media,
culture, friends) claims are satisfying. Write these items down, and
then beside them, consider the consequences. Think about where a
lifelong pursuit of these things will steer the course of your life.
2. Open the Bible. Turn to 1 Corinthians 13 and write down how
God, Your Father and Savior, will satisfy you with His love.
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3. Why is it important for you not to settle for anything less than
Gods love being poured into your life?
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Ent ry Two
You Are Fulfilled in the
Lordship of Jesus
Te saddest thing one meets is the
nominal Christian. Axv Cavx:cnavi
I know this topic may not sound completely thrilling o the batthe
Lordship of Jesus Christ. Hang in there with me, though. I believe that
after today, you are going to receive some fresh insight on the fulllment
and joy that yielding to His lordship brings in your life.
Lets start by getting this one out in the open: Gods commandments
are not burdensome (see 1 John 5:3). When we get this, our understand-
ing of His lordship changes radically.
It is so important that you recognize that submitting every area of
your life to Jesusthis includes boys, dating, marriageis for your best.
Gods commandments are not burdensome, because Jesus is not out
to restrain you from enjoying life. In fact, the reason He has command-
ments is because He desires you to maximize the life you have been
given. Religion presents Jesus as the great restrainer of fun or the cosmic
killjoy. This is so far from the Truth. His Lordship protects you. When
we measure the decisions of our lives beside Gods Truth, Gods Word,
and Gods standards, we are not saying No to the awesome things of
the world so we can give God a hesitant Yes. We are saying No to
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things that can steal, kill, and destroy us so that we can step into the
abundant life Jesus died to give us (see John 10:10). This is your inheri-
tance as a daughter of the King!
The great problem is when we try to do life with Jesus without Him
being our Lord. It does not work. This creates nominal Christians. We
read about this kind of believer in Revelation and they are described as
lukewarm (see Rev. 3:16).
A token, stale, complacent relationship with Jesus does not change
Gods love toward you. He loves you hot, cold, whatever state you are
in. The problem is, your allegiance determines your experience. If your
allegiance is to the world and everything it promises, than you will
experience it and, ultimately, come up dissatisfied. Allegiance to King
Jesus opens the door to experiencing the depths and heights of His love
for you. Its in this place of His love that you discover your identity and
purpose. Remember, His love never changes toward youwhat changes
is our experience of that wondrous love.
So, whats the simplest way to demonstrating Jesus lordship over
your life? Shout yes to Him! Making Jesus your lord is the first step to
walking in a lifestyle of obedience that yields extraordinary miracles.
Think of Mary, the teenaged mother of Jesus. Her Yes to God, despite
her inability to fully grasp what was happening to her, ultimately made
it possible for the world to experience salvation. Your unqualified Yes
to this good and faithful God produces significant impact, both in your
life and even in your world. Remember, Jesus lordship does not restrain
you from anything, but instead, it preserves you for everything He has
prepared for your life.
DAILY AFFIRMATION
Jesus is not only my Savior; He is also my Lord. His command-
ments are not a burden. He is not out to restrain me and prevent
me from enjoying my life. Instead, He is preserving me for the
incredible future and blessings He has prepared for me. He has my
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You Are Fulf illed in the Lordship of Jesus
unqualified Yes and complete abandon because He is good, and
because He is worthy!
JOURNALING EXERCISES
1. What have you thought of the topic of Jesus lordship in the past?
Have you ever thought it was a restraint, preventing you from en-
joying your life?
2. How is your view of Jesus lordship changing as you go through
this study?
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3. Consider for a moment how making Jesus your Lord preserves you
for the incredible plans and purposes that God has prepared for
your life. How does keeping Gods commandments and following
Jesus instructions actually protect you?
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Ent ry Three
You Are Complete in Christ
Marriage teaches us that even the most intimate
human companionship cannot satisfy the
deepest places of the heart. Our hearts are lonely
til they rest in Him. Ii:sanv+n Iii:o+
In 1996, there was a popular movie released starring Tom Cruise and
Rene Zellweger called Jerry Maguire. Even though aspects of the lm
are dated and for some of you reading, the movie is completely new, I
am amazed at how one statement has survived the test of time. In a pas-
sionate moment where Jerry (Tom Cruise) is confessing his love, he tells
the girl, You complete me. Wrong! Lie, lie, double lie. Dr. Les Parrot,
responding to Jerry Maguire, noted that, If you believe someone else can
complete you, you are setting yourself up for serious heartache.
Human beings do not and cannot complete one anotheronly God
satisfies the void. The psalmist confirms this, writing that deep calls
unto deep (Ps. 42:7). What does this mean? Lisa Bevere explains, You
long for a deeper love, intimacy, and communion than a man can bring
to you. A guy is simply not deep enough. Nothing is. A career, an
education, being a mom, having the perfect bodynothing is deep
enough to satisfy what is calling out in your spirit. I love how that verse
continues. We read,
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Deep calls to deep in the roar of your waterfalls; all your waves
and breakers have swept over me (Psalms 42:7 NIV).
The deep of your spirit calls out for the deep of God! He is the only
One truly deep enough to fill your deep void and complete you.
Your heart was never meant to be completed by a man, but rather,
eternity. We obsess about relationships, dating, and ultimately marriage
because, God and his Son dont have the place in our hearts that they
should have. Our hearts were shaped to be filled with and consumed
by Him alone! God is eternal, and according to the Bible, God placed
eternity inside of your heart (see Eccles. 3:11). The only conclusion is
that God, the Eternal One, is the only One capable of satisfying the cry
for eternity that He has placed inside of your heart!
In fact, Jesus Himself defines eternal life (not just getting to heaven,
but the kind of life that completes you) as beginning with knowing God:
And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus
Christ whom You have sent (John 17:3). If there is a cry for eternity in
your heart, I guarantee you no natural thing will ever complete you.
Please know that the absence of a husband or boyfriend or fianc
does not mean you are lacking completion. You do not complete a man,
nor does he complete you. Rather, you complement him and likewise he
complements you. Man and woman were put in the Garden of Eden to
have dominiontogether, one complementing the other.
When two incomplete people look to each other for completion, you
end up with an incomplete marriage. It is a lifelong struggle of two
people trying to fill two voids that can never be filled by another human
beingor anything else, for that matter. If as a single woman you enter
into somethingbe it pursuit of a career or a marriagebeing incom-
plete and hoping that this thing or person will bring you completion, you
will end up disillusioned and dissatisfied. These are not bad things. They
are wonderful, actually. They just do not possess the ability to complete
you. Only Christ does. Incompleteness is not the result of being single,
but it is the byproduct of not being full of Jesus.
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You Are Complete in Christ
DAILY AFFIRMATION
I am complete in Christ alone. I do not look to another person or
a career or anything else in the world to fill the void in my spirit.
Only God can truly satisfy it because He put it there to begin
with. Father, You alone complete me.
JOURNAL EXERCISES
1. Read Psalm 42:7 and Ecclesiastes 3:11.
a. How is God the only One able to fill the deep cry of
your spirit?
b. What happens when you look to either a person or thing
to try and fill this deep longing of your spirit?
c. What does it mean for eternity to be inside of your
heart? How does this impact the way you live and how
you care for your heart?
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2. How is it dangerous to believe that another person can actually
complete you?
3. What is the difference between completing and complementing?
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Ent ry Four
Your Alabaster Box Is
Reserved for Jesus
Something magnicent happens when human beings
recognize the gold of the pleasure of this romance and choose
it instead of the sawdust of this world. M:xv B:cxiv
I know the rst three days were pretty in your face. Tat was very
intentional. Rest assured, I am not trying to discourage you from one
day enjoying the biblical covenant of marriage. I could not be happier
with the man God had waiting for me! Likewise, I want you to prepare
yourself for the one God has waiting for you. Tere are so many boys
and men out there who are completely unworthy of you, of your destiny,
of your identity, and of the plans and purposes of God on your life. Tey
are beneath that. It doesnt mean that God does not love them. He does.
Te problem is they are not pursuing God, and therefore are not moving
in the same direction you are.
It is sickening what a man will do to get a woman to surrender the
most precious, valuable areas of her life to him. And for what? His self-
ish, physical pleasure. The man worthy of you is the man who cherishes
you enough to protect your alabaster box.
One day, when Jesus was eating in the house of Simon the leper,
a woman came in and broke an alabaster box and poured the valuable
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ointment on Jesus head (see Mark 14:3-9). The passage in Luke 7 that
refers to this event harshly describes the woman as a woman in the
city who was a sinner (Luke 7:37). This woman found Jesus worthy of
such sacrifice and honor. He was worthy of her everything. In fact, Jesus
memorialized her gesture in Matthew 26:13 (see also Mark 14:9). This
gesture had such meaning, for not only did she anoint Jesus for burial,
she also gave her all to a heavenly Bridegroom. Yes, she was a sinner (but
who isnt, according to Romans 3:23?), but this sinner had dreams and
wisely broke her alabaster box in the presence of the only One who can
make a womans dreams come true.
What is your alabaster box? Dreams? Desires? Ambitions? Goals?
The only One capable of satisfying these and bringing them to pass, and
cherishing them as they deserve to be, is Jesus. When brought before
Him, the offering of your dreams is a sweet fragrance of worship. You
present value before Jesus because of His incomparable value compared
to the rubble of the world. When the time comes and a man honors your
alabaster box with the love of Christ, then you can start talking.
If you have already broken your box at the feet of some boy, man, or
relationship that promised big, but ultimately let you down, King Jesus
is your restorer. He redeems broken dreams and smashed hopes just as
easily as anything else. We simply need to come before Him, not afraid
or timid, but boldly. There is no condemnation in His Presence. Look at
the sinful woman in Luke 7. She still came before Jesus and poured out
her expensive, fragrant oil upon Him. She did not cower in fear of con-
demnation, interestingly enough. Though she bowed low before Him,
washing His feet, she nevertheless entered His Presence and He did not
turn her away. The same Jesus will never turn you away. Regardless of
what you broke, gave away, wastedwhateveryour Savior is the One
who makes all things new (see 2 Cor. 5:17, Rev. 21:5).
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Your Alabaster Box Is Reserved for Jesus
DAILY AFFIRMATION
I will not waste my dreams, my hopes, and my visions on someone
who has no regard for my value. Jesus is the only One worthy of
my everything. I see Him as valuable and, in turn, deserving of
everything valuable in my life. I thank You Jesus that You restore
everything that has been broken and You make all things new.
JOURNAL EXERCISES
1. What is your alabaster box?
2. Why is it so important that you protect everything valuable in your
life (your dreams, your purity, your destiny, your identity, etc.) from
those who would treat such things as common?
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PRAYER FOR RESTORATION
Take this time to pray and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal anything in
your life (past or present) that you have given away to someone else that
you should not have.
NOTE: This is not designed to make you feel bad or guilty; instead, I
want you to bring these things before the Lord Jesus and receive the
healing and restoration that comes from His Presence. Remember, He
makes all things new.
If any thoughts of condemnation, guilt, shame, or unworthiness
come into your mind, immediately address them, reject them, and ver-
bally give them to Jesus. He wants you to experience a new measure of
freedom and a fresh vision of your value to Him.
Finally, ask the Holy Spirit to help you discern and recognize any
person or opportunity that would disregard your valueand avoid these
things at all costs, committing to wholeheartedly following Jesus and
offering your complete devotion to Him.
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