Sheikh Faisal Abdul-Razak (may Allah preserve him) Adab Al-Mardiyya notes Taken at the Spiritual Retreat

2007 London

This book has been accepted by the Umma Sheikh Abdul-Rahim said that this book has unique content It is also said the Imam Buzaydi (may Allah be pleased with him) was relating his own states

He was trained by Sheikh Darqawi (may Allah be pleased with him) He had many students including Ibn Ajibah (may Allah be pleased with him)

The root of Tasawwaf is Adab with Allah and if we don’t have this, we don’t have any Adab with anything True Tasawwaf can only grow out The second station of Adab is with the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him)

He was born in the tribe of Bani Salam from the clan of Ghumari. In the middle of the 12th century

We need to reclaim our recitation of the Quran

That is the greatest wird – everyday not occasionally – living by it and teaching it

Imam Buzaydi (may Allah be pleased with him) travelled for many years and spent many years in seclusion

He wished to visit the complete man He found Sheikh Darqawi (may Allah be pleased with him) expected he saw him in a dream

that Imam Buzaydi (may Allah be pleased with him) would visit him as

Sheikh Darqawi (may Allah be pleased with him) wasn’t content with the progress of his students

Imam Buzaydi (may Allah be pleased with him) spent sixteen years of training with the sheikh

Sheikh Darqawi (may Allah be pleased with him) said that Imam unique He died on the 10th of Muharram The journey to Allah (the Exalted) begins with Adab They weren’t distinguished except by their Adab

Buzaydi reached even higher levels than him and that him he was

Adab has infinite levels and stations, we don’t stop there, we keep building

The relationship of the Sheikh and the Murid is like the relationship of a father and child

Its like the sheikh is like washer of the dead body. (If you don’t give yourself to the Sheikh, then how can they be washed.)

There must be total trust, acceptance and positive influence Someone who wants to travel through a jungle and he doesn’t know the tracks, they will try and find out a way by trail and error. They may never reach the other side. If there is a guide, unless you take the hand of a person who knows the way then you’ll find your way easily. The rule of thumb is to take the hand of the sheikh.

Imam Tirmidi said that all the companions thought that they where the special one

The companions have levels, it was because of their Adab with him

Second session.

Sheikh Da’bar was blind but he was able to recognise the Quran, hadith and Qudsi hadith because he used to see light in the words. Imam Buzaydi never had any formal education 1. The Murid should not visit the sheikh unless he has a gift for him. It applies:

* If you haven’t seen him for a long period of time * What you can afford

This may not apply if you are seeing him everyday. The first hadith that a student should hear from his sheikh is the hadith of mercy.

One of the blessings of these times, is to have Sheikh Muhammad (may Allah preserve him) If people can’t see him, then its because they have been veiled form him It’s from the signs that Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala loves you that you are the company of the Sheikh

Most of the kinds of the companionship will lead you to hell It was of the manners of the companions to give charity before asking a question

2. The Murid should not sit too often with the Sheikh, this may diminish his veneration of the Sheikh

Be mindful of that You want to maintain the yearning of the Sheikh and then you’ll think that you are sitting with anyone

3. The Murid should not laugh too much with the Sheikh, this should be kept within reasonable limits

Be mindful you don’t reduce the standing of you and the Sheikh (Good Adab allows for quick progression and vice versa) Everything is journeying to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala, whether they know it or not, Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala is the final destination

We don’t want to meet Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala without progression, we want progression

Be mindful of your progression 4. Do not speak too much in his presence – worse still to raise your voice in his presence

Excessive speech is a low voice is bad manners Some bedions came calling for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) with bad manners. And the Quran was revealed, “don’t raise your voice above the voice of the Prophet.”

When we raise our voice it is because we want to impose our opinion It is a type of tyranny If we think about that person, it’s to honour him – sometimes we take that for granted

Be mindful of other people A little kindness can go a long way He will give you out of kindness Our manners should be internalised People will respond to you, if you treat them well 5. Do not sit on the right or the left of the Sheikh, even if he wishes for you to do so.

If he insists then it is okay Refuse at first then accept on insistence When you enter into the gathering of the Sheikh, you should observe the Adab of the Masjid.

You sit down facing the sheikh, face to face, eye to eye, heart to heart and the last is the highest level

So be there physically and spiritually

The Shammil Al-Tirmidi doesn’t not contain a description by Abu Bakr that he couldn’t look at him but he was with him in the heart It was an act of worship to look at your sheikh Looking is an act of worship Like looking at the Quran, looking at the Ka’aba It is like looking at his door, waiting for it to be open. When it is you come up and stay at the door until you are let in and they are given water then food.

(may Allah be pleased with him) because he was in awe of him, so much

Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala doesn’t get bored of giving until you get bored of taking

It’s an amazing mercy that Allah has given us different types of creation. So we don’t get bored with him – what a mercy! There are angels performing certain tasks Salat, recitation, fast. The Sheikh is the Qibla of the Murid

Foundational principles Consider them as a whole Be mindful of Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala – privately and publicly Be mindful of details Steadfastness The beginner might be good but to continue the intention is harder Following the Sunna in speech and action The Murid goes beyond the Fiqh definition of the Sunna Whatever he does it is for the good for the Sheikh The companions don’t need to know why; the fact he (peace and blessings be upon him) used to do it is enough for him

There was a companion who came to the Prophet (peace and blessings that companion used to wear his shirt like this.

be upon him) with his top button of his shirt open. For the rest of his life

Excellent character
This is the whole reason for the creation of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)

He said that he only sent to perfect character

Third session

This is the beginning of the month of Muharram, a sacred month, may Allah accept our worship

Ahmed ibn Ajibah (may Allah be pleased with him) said that this book was the most specific book at this time Good manners allows us to travel quicker than others All worship is a means to make us better Our knowledge should make us better – if it doesn’t then it’s the fault of the learner

Let him take us by the hand, to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala Maintain a level of love for the Sheikh We can only lose if we show bad manners 6. Do not stare too much at him if he is in front of you. This may decrease your shyness of the Sheikh in his presence – except with a yearning and desire for him

7. Do not hasten or interject the words of the Sheikh when he is speaking

If he hesitates then we could lead the conversation into a different direction

8. Do not sit in the company of the sheikh, in the manner of ordinary people, sitting in an ordinary gathering.

This is the gathering of the king and his subjects.  Consider your conduct  Respect the subjects

Abu Hanifa (may Allah be pleased with him) would not extent his feet in the direction of his Sheikh, even when he was at home Face the Qibla when standing Be mindful of Adab, it can do amazing things for us. Something that may seem pointless to us, may be great in the sight of Allah

9. Do not walk on the right, the left or alongside the Sheikh. You

should walk slightly behind him. He is like the leader of the Prayer and you are the follower, if you go ahead the prayer is broken.

Imam Shafi’s mother looked after him and she would send him to study, with different scholars. She would ensure he would wear the best for knowledge. clothes to the circles of knowledge, this instilled into him a great respect

How was angel Gibril (upon him peace) when he came to be taught? He presented himself well to illustrate this point

Imam Shafi would walk with his mother, slightly behind her, later on in his mother’s life

Strive to subject your Naafs to this kind of training

10.The Murid should not walk in front of the Sheikh in prayer, with the exception of an order.

You wait for the Sheikh to move forward If he orders you to perform the prayer, perform them (Imam)

Foundational principles (cont) As a Murid you are journeying to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala As the Murid of the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) used to do

What is offensive comes out of the Imam Indifference to the acceptance and a rejection of others Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala loves you to come close to him and satan hates that

Where will he be when we turn to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala? It is very difficult to overcome a close rejection Be mindful of the nature of people Some people might want to pull you down to the level by discouraging you, even though he knows its good for you

If we practice Islam according to others, we wouldn’t be able to do anything

If you please people then you are displaced from Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala

If you strive to please Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala, people will become pleased

(principles cont)

Fourth session

It is good to remind yourself of these principles

Fourth Principle Satisfaction with the divine decree, in hardship and in ease
If we are bothered what people say then we may move off He must have satisfaction in all situations Don’t try to pierce the wall of destiny, go with the qadr of Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala

There are aspects of dissatisfaction with Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala Consistent submitting the affair to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala

There are forces against the Muslims and they have a faith unmoved There’s a reason for every Adhkar

Turning to Allah in prosperity and as well as adversity
There’s wisdom in every adversity You are given traits to deal with the difficulty Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala doesn’t place a burden more then we can bear Its good to remember this in a time of difficulty Seek the protection of Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala in times of affliction Truly wonderful if the affair of the believer, whatever good comes to them they are thankful and what every evil comes they are patient Our sickness is forgiveness in this world This is better for us, we are forgiven Use the blessings that Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala has blessed us with and use it in a way that he would be pleased with us

There are more principles

1. Possessing high aspirations 2. Have great aims – we should aim to be the best Murid
We live our lives as though we see Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala (Hadith Gibril)

You can see the power of Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala in creation To be ever conscience of Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala has prescribed excellence in everything Preserve the sanctity of Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala Stay away from doubtful matters The doubtful could lead to the haram Stay away from what is prohibited When we do this our sanctity is preserved If we don’t do this then we put obstacles in our path, we do not time to waste

When we leave the world, this stops The world is the place of actions

The heaven is the place of account There are those who want another chance even they had their chance

What state will we be in? (On the last day) We will be there with nothing to show Should we risk not doing what we should, why are we wasting our time The grave will be a pit or a garden, based on what we do here If we allow ourselves to commit sins, we will be slowed down or set back This has nothing to do with time Some spent a short time and progress and others take years to progress They cannot travel on this path except with the sheikh

3. Excel in service to others
Serving people is one of the most effective ways of progress Imam Shadhali (may Allah show him mercy) said, “There are two to others."

categories of worship. 1. One benefits ourselves. 2. Sending the reward

If there is someone spending their nights in Nafl worship, then the one spending their time in worship is greater than worship

Try to find some way we can participate in our local Masjid Once a week, Hoover, clean the yard

If you serve the scholars then your children will be scholars The people of the raised platform are still producing scholars, they served the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) Service of others doesn’t bring you down Sheikh Ibrahim Al-Yaqoubi (may Allah be pleased with him) used to wash the Masjid and after a while, he saw the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in a dream washing the Masjid like him

What would Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala do to that person who would look after his house?

4. Don’t leave something half way, complete the task, see it through to the end
Don’t leave a project halfway through If you can’t do it don’t start it There should be no difference between life as a Murid and their live in the world world) (Not being two types of people, one as a Murid and one a person of the

All our conduct should reflect that A scholar who was young and before his Islam, met a friend who had changed, no swearing, dignified and then the said to him, “We want scholar was Dr Abdul-hakim Jackson what you got.” The friend said he had accepted Islam in jail. The young

You never know what you conduct will achieve You can arrive to the same speech but in a different tone Fulfil your resolutions 5. To exalt our blessings in what we receive from Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala

We recognise the source of the blessings Treat your provision well and don’t abuse it We should be the best Muslims we can be We have to fulfil the sacred law Do not broadcast your bayat Let your good behaviour speak for itself You cannot lose anything by being good to another person

Fifth and final session

6. The Murid should not sit in the physical position of the sheikh
The protocol of the king dictates that people shouldn’t sit in the place of the sheikh

7. The Murid should not eat with the Sheikh, as a matter of normal practice
Imam Zain Al Abideen (may Allah show him mercy) would refrain from eating with his mother. When he was asked why, he said, “I might reach for some food that my mother may have wanted.”

If this is the Adab of someone who brought you into the world, what about the one who brought you to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala

8. Do not sleep in the same room of the Sheikh, you may disturb him 9. Do not call out to the Sheikh if you are near his home

Some bedions called out, “Ya Muhammad,” and the ayah was revealed, if they were patient, he would’ve come out

Like not having the nickname Abu Qasim during his lifetime (peace and blessings be upon him)

10.Do not sit facing the house of the Sheikh, except with his permission

11.Its important to follow the sheikh even if you might disagree with him
After a while you will get used to the Sheikh and what he likes and be mindful

12.Avoid what he forbids you from doing – even if doing so seem adverse
You must trust your sheikh Once you take someone as a Sheikh you have to obey and there are consequences of disobediences

You disagree with him and start to backbite – some may have had a bad ending

The Murid should honour the sheikh when present as well as absent Wird al-Amm is the king of the wirds, which opens the door to spirituality

Which allows you to enter the room, the realm of Tasawwaf When you enter you keep the key, you don’t throw it away. Like a car it to go back.

key once you arrive somewhere you don’t throw the key away, you need

It’s a general wird for everything

At the end of the wird it is upon you to make Dua for yourself, parents, your sheikh etc.

This maintains the link with the Sheikh Nearness to the Sheikh is not governed by physical distance Its spiritual nearness As you precede on the path There can be two Murids, one in Damascus and one in the UK but the one in the UK is closer to him

13.Fulfilling the rights of the Sheikh to the best of your ability
If you carry out his instructions with sincerity, it becomes enjoyable Ibn Ata’llah (may Allah show him mercy) said, “Actions are lifeless forms but it is the presence of intention that brings it to life.”

14.Abandon ones understanding, knowledge and leadership to that of the Sheikh
It is not changing it but putting it to one side and taking anew Empting the vessel of our body, so we can fill up what the Sheikh gives There should be acceptance not questioning Have companionship with pious people, especially from the Murids

(Sheikh Faisal recommends fishing as it teaches you patience) Spending four hours and not catching anything The Murid should be like a fisherman The worst oppression is upon your family It’s not easy to change your family Sins have consequences Imam Shafi (may Allah show him mercy) said, ”There is not a breath we take, except by the divine decree.”

To know your individual obligation should be in place a Muslim not just for a Murid

The Murid should make up the wird, (if missed) The level of obedience should be raised It is necessary to have a spiritual guide Do not expect to proceed too much, if you don’t take the path All the Murids should make up missed prayers Should you tell your parents about Bayat? Not if it will cause harm. You took Bayat? Are you an extremist? What next? (Joking about the possible parents reaction) (End of notes)

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