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Leadership Principles of the Warrior - Series Six – Leadership Expressiveness By Randy Gonzalez – Articulation of personality, based on the precepts of experienced personal development, translated into visionary activism, concerns interpersonal communication skills. It is a big dose of selflessness in risk taking and courage of convictions. Additionally, such involves a process of maturity that spans time and place and individuality in the transformation of oneself. Good managers and competent supervisors will not necessarily be great leaders. Interpersonal communication skills are essential to effective and exceptional leadership. Few will have the distinctiveness in persona to assert the superior qualities of leadership as a reflection of warrior ethos. Motivating others is a constant expression of interactivity through positive and productive communication. In order to work toward productive relationships and devotion to service, open and honest interactions are important. That is easier said than eventually accomplished. As people increasingly devolve to more primordial states of emotive reaction, it becomes vital for the leader to communicate in a manner that invites participation. Some will rise to the occasion. Active collaboration and sincere involvement take time to develop for those willing to take part. Expressiveness by the means necessary to accomplish the mission and collaborate positively rests upon the thoughtful scales of a careful balancing process. Coherence of self-expression becomes more effective when the parties involved have a meaningful exchange. This often involves emotions interlaced with attempts at logical deduction. As communication strives to balance cohesiveness in collaborative interactions, feelings have to be tempered by reason. In the complexity of the process, each participant tries to rise above the seduction of immediate gratification. Effective communication interfacing cannot be to a set of rules, checklists or fixed formulas of mathematical calibration. Each person is different and because each of us is different and unique. We communicate in ways not clearly understood by others. There is at least that probability at a fundamental level. Templates or complicated training exercises and guidelines detract from the central focus. The essence of that focus involves being attuned to the levels by which we communicate. It provides the means to inform, encourage, and provide positive solutions for productive actions.

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Leadership in any organization must endeavor to bring a sense of mature balance, experienced skill and ethical devotion to the totality of the interpersonal experience. A sincere devotion to positive, productive and credible communication is important to building relationships. An important aspect is learning to appreciate body language. Verbal articulation is one characteristic, but assessing physical proxemics is very relevant. In so doing, leaders must stimulate people toward action. Effective communication concerns the proper use of the spoken word, as well as the display of appropriate body language. Inappropriate physical mannerisms or annoying habits during a communication exchange devolve the effectiveness of the relationship building process. Good leaders must use eye contact to constructive advantage, standup straight and project an image of competent demeanor. Proactive communication skills relate to eye engagement that is meaningful and empathetic. Physical manifestations of oneself are important to differentiated presence and emotionally controlled engagement. Competent interaction is not sidetracked by unnecessary interruptions or distracting mannerisms. Good facial animation expresses interest and not pretend pacification. In the process, there is proper use of feedback and reflection to ensure clarity from one to another, or many others. Overall, a good leader is a well-differentiated non-anxious presence to every extent possible. Leadership exhibits the kinds of behaviors others willingly accept as that which will motivate them. They are stimulated, fascinated and interested in what you have to say and do. Leading effectively and efficient strengthens the backbone of the organization. Weaved throughout the interpersonal interaction, communication remains the most significant ingredient for a leader. Being a leader is risky business. One must never forget it is more than a two-way process of dealing with others. Multidimensional processes suggest there are levels of conscious and unconscious interactions that defy easy comprehension. The complexity is compounded by the exponential nature of the numbers of people involved in any given communication experience. Success, which does not mean mistakes will not happen, presupposes you want to accomplish your objectives and achieve goals. To do that, you have to interact with others and provide the basis by which they pay attention and get the job done. As such, you set the example, show the way and share the efforts, in both good and bad times.

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Fearlessly honest self-disclosure, with daring straightforward communication, participates in the self-mastery of the leader to engage the process of productive interactions. Say what you mean and mean what you say ought to go without having to be said. Yet, so many people are pretentious. Openly truthful is simply that, being an advocate of the truth and not deception. The so-called subterfuge to being “transparent” is an admonition that often rings hollow. If someone says that in a meeting, what he or she really means is play along, be on the “team”, and say what others want to hear. However, for the authentic leader, candid authenticity is really what expressiveness should be about. Are you courageous enough to speak your mind and risk consequences? Well, that’s what a leader does. If not, then consider your alternatives. As a leader, you express the willingness to actually say what you’re thinking. You have to get to the point and stop saying what people want hear. Likewise, you can’t afford to be overly concerned with making people “feel good” simply so they can “feel good”. To achieve success in any given endeavor, one must be willing to invest the time, effort and learning to master the abilities in the appropriate skillset. A leader understands the example he or she must be so that others will follow. We are mindful of what we say, how we say it, the manner by which it comes across, and the means of expression. By the totality of our presence, the words, the body language and the sound effects, all of it defines our capacity to demonstrate mature capabilities. Each day, leaders are invited to play a role, or maybe several roles, and in the process show others our level of self-evolution for a higher transformation. By whatever means you need to invoke upon yourself, to either compensate for shortcomings or capitalize on advantage, you assert you mature genuineness in your individuality. While personalities vary, we are encouraged to demonstrate our capacity for grownup adulthood in every action we take, and every statement we make. We make choices, sometimes these are not done well. Nonetheless, we still make our moves for our interests in any given interaction. When a miscalculation leads to a problem, or really gets things screwed up, we still made a decision to do something. That something we cannot foolishly call a “mistake”. Unfortunately, all too often, the public figure makes a poor choice and when questioned, defends his or her actions as a “mistake”, or failure of “judgment”. Nope, you still did what you wanted to do.

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Leadership by expressiveness represents a proactive attitude of sincere engagement in the full process of leading. It is more than simplistic platitudes, clever quotes, and superficial metaphors. Such articulation is about personal change in the development of oneself. Yet, self-evolution is a long-term individual process, whereby the complexities of personality must strive to overcome selfishness. Even when the day’s events, or the pending itinerary seems cumbersome, or the crisis of the moment appears daunting, we raise ourselves meet to the occasion. We rise up and invoke the power of our character to ensure the willful energy to prevail. We listen to the wisdom of our self-talk. We can be the milestone, the crossroad or the stairway for others to emulate, because the example they see offers confidence, responsibility and competence. As opposed to being a stumbling block, we courageously remove foolish barriers and avoid foolhardy haughtiness in personal interactions. Flaws, unless recognized and controlled, fuel fears, and fear instigates the adversity of arrogant behaviors. Fear results in the premeditated aims of those who are self-absorbed and bully others for selfish ends. Overconfidence, with its thin façade of brash self-righteousness, can dangerously expose others to calamity. An overblown sense of self does nothing to enhance the organization. It does not matter how many stars you wear on your collar, or how many degrees you hang on your office wall. What matters is a non-anxious mature presence. With that, blend the capability of a self-evolving personality that inspires others. To accomplish missions and goals, and transform thinking processes, requires the stimulating presence of a dynamic mindset. Those who seek to appease by a “politician’s” tactics of superficial charm, only act out a disharmonious deception. The character one expresses exemplifies one’s fitness for leadership, regardless of the level or situation. Your manner and bearing come through loud and clear by virtue of verbal and nonverbal attributes. Authenticity is crucial by means of every form of countenance. Personality must translate into productive actions that demonstrate to others you lead by showing the way. You do not point and say, ‘go through that door’. Instead, you already have a good idea what is on the other side. So, you show the energy, the fortitude and tenacity, to go over open the door if necessary, and go through it with them. You cannot ask others to do what you are not capable of doing yourself. As much as it sounds corny, redundant and cliché, you have to lead by example every day.

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Leadership is not a part-time activity. It is a multifaceted framework, from the dream state, to an awakened sense of intricate consciousness. As a leader, one does not throw a switch and go on autopilot and expect leadership to happen. Nor does a person attend a seminar or take a course and magically somehow become a leader. Leading is a deeply intuitive state of being. Such a conception does not easily translate to others who do not have the capacity to understand it. It comes in many forms, diversities and exists in multiple environments across a range of human interactions. You just have to learn when, where and to what extent you express yourself into any given human equation. Associates, colleagues and coworkers will gravitate around those they perceive are effective leaders. People need to see your personality in action in order to feel confident about what they are doing. By expression of your presence in the character you project, others will decide whether they will follow you. At every moment, you will need to be confident about yourself at every moment your “public face” is in the presence of others. Maturity comes through in verbal and nonverbal ways. Body language is important in every encounter. Are you paying attention, and do you note the details. Most people need a “superhero”, the sage “Jedi master”, or the knight in shining armor, or whatever they think a leader ought to look like. They want an advocate that does not despair, but offers solutions. Regardless of what others may wish for, or fantasize about, you need to exhibit the genuine qualities of a maturely competent individual. Assurance from positive and productive interactions stirs emotional as well as rational thinking processes. Leaders strive to point the way whereby people are encouraged to generate their sense of hopefulness, self-worth and motivation. Take your time, build your subordinates up, cultivate your constituency, and inspire others. You’re on a special mission within a mission. One relates to the ongoing quest for enlightened differentiation and individuality. The other is a matter of existence in the presence of others to bring about productive results. To demonstrate a warrior’s perspective, we are encouraged to exhibit patience with others. Some require more patience than others do. To motivate them, one is called to participate fully in the organization framework, given the nature of the interactivity. Within the scope of personal encounters, patience enlists others to be open, honest and free to offer opposing viewpoints. Clearly and concisely, a leader articulates goals and objectives.

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Regardless of what some might suggest at to a contingent capacity to become a leader, the perspective here takes exception. Some believe that if you follow a checklist, believe in a certain set of rules and a template, and take enough training courses, you could become a leader. But, most people are simply not cut out to be leaders. You see it every day in every aspect of life’s encounters. From the boardroom to the battlefield, very few rise to the point in time whereby they express themselves as the present ability to lead. Leadership is not granted by way of a certificate, anointing or hallowed blessing. A leader changes moment by moment to the betterment of oneself. There is no coat of arms in the family heritage that says you are a leader. One does not hold oneself out to be a leader where that person does not have such a capacity. Experience and competence speaks otherwise. Unfortunately, many think they have inherited some “divine right” to rule over others by way of rank and status. Not to mention of course unreasonable, or illegal, acquisition of wealth that somehow hints of their leadership capacity. Nothing could be further from the truth. Wealth, power and dominion do not equate with “leadership”, and neither does the school attended, the neighborhood of residence, or the country club membership. Sure, that form of social status may serve to excite one’s fixation to dominate others. Yeah, you might be able to enslave an entire organization of people into a form of “feudal servitude”, but that does not grant any semblance of “leadership” capacity. In fact, in today’s world many who call themselves a “leader”, in reality are not leaders. Likewise, for those elected to public office and feel entitled to keep it, or believe it’s “their turn” to run for this or that, never speaks of leadership. Being a leader is a complex matter of one’s personality, perception for reality and selfless devotion to personal transformation. A leader has the willingness to self-evolve based on the inherent complexity of individuality in search of mental freedom. Each has his or her penchant for wanting to learn more and grow in positively productive ways. He or she expresses a special talent for being distinct from others. On the outside, the leader is cool, calm, unshaken and carefully calculating. On the inside, he or she understands his or her limitations. There is present a vision that is dynamic, creative and outside the normal frame of reference. In a sense, a leader is a solitary individual who can remain independent of others, yet at the same time, stay connected.

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Although subservient to a point, adherent to a chain of command, given the institution or organization, a leader knows where to draw the line. No doubt, the pretenses of the powerful and wealthy will demand a particular kind of allegiance in particular circumstances. The leader is not caught up in the unevolved “drama” of immaturity, within the scope of attendant “adolescent’ behaviors. He or she is detached from the emotional processes of frequent organizational “temper tantrums”. In any given organizational structure, the level of self-indulgent, emotionally excessive, and attention getting behaviors reflect different degrees of intensity. For the leader, he or she remains on the outside of such divisive interactivity. The leader simply is not drawn into the “role-play” antics of the workplace. Leaders have an intuitive capability to foster clearly defined principles for getting proactive results. If a leader makes a mistake, there is no problem in owning up and taking responsibility. But it doesn’t stop there. A leader moves quickly to be held accountable and if necessary step down from a leadership position. An authentic leader, when called upon to account for egregiously poor choices, and severely bad decisions, will not hesitate to submit his or her resignation. Such is a matter of honor to do so. Likewise, a leader is willing to risk being vulnerable to criticism, open to ridicule and transparent to showy his or her humanity. Self-analysis takes place every day and invites a significant amount of personally critical assessment. Just because you hold the rank, stature or positional status, doesn’t mean you’re the only one who’s important. You have to adjust and regulate your emotions, beliefs and desires regularly. Reliability calm, consistent and unshaken, the person charge expresses the courage of convictions. Of the politics in the communal constraints of a particular setting, being in charge means you know when enough is enough. At a certain point, to live by an open and flexible belief system, unfettered by mythology, suggests you are receptive to many viewpoints. However, you have your own beliefs, and they evolve over time, testing and circumstances. Of which, you will not sacrifice your integrity for what you believe is the right thing to do. A leader works very hard to avoid being pulled into the many fallacies of conjecture of the sake of stupid perspectives. As mature diplomacy may be practiced when possible, yet sometimes a battle is warranted. In the humility of the moment, you may have to simply disengage from the foolishness of social arrogance.

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Will you express the courage to walk away from the nonsense of adverse political, ideological and socio-economic oppression? What is it about the reach of psychodynamic enslavement do you enjoy? Such are only preliminary questions by which one looks inside and assesses the various aspects of the personal journey. Who is free from the aberrant manifestations of dysfunctional human beings? The exceptional person of mature individual wisdom goes against the status quo. With what joy do you jump up and down with pretended enthusiasm for the pretext of organizational acceptance? Success at any price, including ethical sacrifice, or illegality, for more and more “enrichment”, does not advance true credible, authentic and exemplary leadership. Materiality debases the very essence of believability in any semblance of rational enlightenment for self-evolution. At the end of the day, how much does one truly need to ensure the necessities of daily existence? At any time, you can decide to assert your liberation and simply say, you won’t be a part of the adverse nature of foolish competitiveness. More often than not, the organizational framework does not award the visionary, the independent and the highly motivated. Instead, reactionary devolution enhances the placement of the inept, the selfish, the greedy, the fearful and the least imaginative of the “herd”. Decisively expressive leadership embraces individual independence. There are consequences for standing out against the mainstream. You are noticed and others kindle their fears because of your uniqueness. Nonetheless, you make choices if you have a passion for being different and accepting a leadership calling. As such, self-mastery is a daunting challenge and strenuous process. Transformation to exhibit an extraordinary leadership capacity demands constant scrutiny in self-analysis. In so doing, one who expresses the special characteristics of distinction is one who can accept others where they are. For better or for worse, the leader can avoid emotional engagement with those who remain reactive, as opposed to being dutifully responsive. Personal responsibility in belief and exhibition are essential, and such expression is vital. The leader encourages that in others, in addition to him or her, by leading the way. Positive presence, as reflected in the character of the leader, strives to defuse the unhealthy aspects of anxiousness. Balancing emotion in favor of mature rationality, the leader endeavors to demonstrate a passion for an enlightened expressiveness.

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